my 11 biggest wedding day regrets (what i wish i did differently)

These are my top wedding regrets, which hopefully other brides-to-be can learn from! Stay tuned for part 2 where I share the top 20+ best wedding decisions I made!
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Hellloooo! My name is Clancy and I'm originally from Long Island, NY, whch is about 40 minutes from NYC. In 2017, I moved to Ohio to become a TV news reporter, but after waking up at 2 a.m. for 5 years, I decided to leave that job and pursue KZbin full-time.
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[@Kaytka]

My biggest regret was hiring my cousin as photographer. We paid her, she did the photos. But other then a few she posted online, we never got our pictures. No explanation (she claimed she lost them?) really, and it also ruined our relationship. I have learned over the years not to hire friends, family for anything. Then if you have issues, it doesn’t break relationships or make things awkward.

[@bandwido]

We had a friend do ours. He handed us a few pix a couple of months later, in the Kodak folders, not even in a book! He supposedly lost 3 rolls of film. Only one picture with my mother! (BTW, this was our gift too.) I'm still bitter 43 years later. I totally agree with this comment!

[@Kaytka]

@@bandwido I’m sorry. 😔

[@dee_ewell_pierce]

Your Mama looked like a queen...she picked the right dress. My one regret was not hiring a professional protographer. We had a pretty simple wedding but I wish I had good photos!

[@theworkathomemama7148]

Agree!

[@brianaandkyle]

I wish mine took more pics of my guests! Of course I like to have them of myself and family but the other is sot something I had thought about before

[@getittogetherndlife]

My biggest regret was too many unnecessary diy projects, also getting married during mother's day weekend and prom made it hard to find hair/makeup & flowers. Also I would make a rule that if anything goes wrong- don't tell the bride/groom, tell the venue staff, parents, anyone else. Don't stress a couple out.

[@lynne9597]

Everyone looked so nice. The picture with both sets of parents is beautiful. Both moms looked so nice and you looked like a princess. Just stunning. Wishing you both all the best.

[@ClancyBurkeX]

Thank you!!!💞💞

[@meganbrenner91]

My biggest regret was not getting a videographer.

[@nancyhope-landon9185]

Your mother looked so beautiful in the pictures. The blue dress was the right choice. Airfares during the 4th weekend were crazy we flew to Kentucky from Austin for my niece's wedding and the cost of the tickets was mind-blowing. Soon you won't remember your regrets as you will just enjoy married life with Zac.

[@Odiekins]

I remember my regrets six years later 😂

[@MartynaMartyna-nu7it]

In Poland wedding reception is much longer. IT usually starts about 4-5pm at lasts till about 4am(sometimes even longer). Sometimes wedding lasts 2 days-main event on saturday and shorter party on sunday

[@jenniferhooper6471]

I’m only 24 seconds in and I love what you said about regrets! It’s a huge pet peeve for me too. Regrets are a part of life! They can help us grow, learn, or even help us give advice to others!

[@ClancyBurkeX]

Exactly!!! It’s not necessarily a bad thing to regret something as long as you learn from it!

[@Dawn0596]

Kathy looked amazing!!!! After all her dress drama, she chose the right one. At the time of my wedding, I had the same hair issue. My hair never held curls. I don’t know what my hairstylist did that day, but my hair held up perfectly. I will say she used a lot of hair products. 🤣🤣 Does your hair look a little flat in some pictures….yes. Does it take away the beauty of your pictures…no. Your photographer did amazing. I especially loved The Burke Family photo. 💕💕

[@ClancyBurkeX]

Thank you!💞💞💞

[@dakota2902]

My regret -- I paid to get my makeup done but didn't realize lipstick was not included and I was expected to bring my own .. I didn't have any so was completely without lipstick on my wedding day.

[@nleem3361]

Wow, I wouldn't have thought to ask about lipstick. I'd just assume it was part of the "makeup". Your makeup person should have told you ahead of time. But, thanks for sharing so we know to ask.

[@heyMommaToni]

I totally stand by your holiday date feelings. I got married around Cinco de Mayo (which is HUGE in arizona) so it's hard to go have a romantic dinner for our anniversary because everyone is partying. My bday is around Valentines Day so it's hard finding a restaurant that isn't packed with romantic diners. LOL

[@razup2323]

I didn’t do an autopsy of my wedding the days following. I planned it, it was my day. I did what I wanted. I opted out of a videographer and limos, and didn’t miss either. 25 years later, I don’t wish I could watch my wedding. Also, I asked my photographer to do CANDID pics outside of the official photos. I have the best reception photos of everyone having fun!

[@jaimec3159]

Yes!!! I don’t regret no videographer either 22 years later!

[@madisonwallace4429]

I loved spending the night before away from my husband, my friend stayed with me so I wasn’t alone and saying goodbye to him felt so exciting

[@ParkorPlays]

This video is making me so excited for my wedding next summer! I love hearing about all the details of your big day. Looking forward to the 20 things you wouldn’t change video 😊

[@Amyjwashere]

your wedding looked GREAT! the fireworks added a fun touch. I also understand about breaking "tradition" and not being separate from your significant other before the wedding...I think that should be an individual decision FOR SURE. my mom planned my sister's wedding and stressed about EVERYTHING...she still complains to this day (6 years later). I threw up during the whole thing (heatstroke lol).

[@TheKerryBerry01]

Lol my ceremony was at 2pm 🤣 (at a church) and then reception was 4-10 because we had a 2 hour cocktail “hour”. So glad we added that extra hour! We took photos during the first half and could enjoy the second half. One regret I have is that my photographer didn’t get photos of our cigar bar or dog biscuit bar lol. I don’t think any guests did either 😢 A silly regret but I spent so much time making everything.

[@ClancyBurkeX]

That’s sooo smart to have a 2 hour cocktail hour!!!!

[@TheKerryBerry01]

@@ClancyBurkeX 100%!! Especially because a lot of people usually say that’s the best part of a wedding.

[@kruddy908]

Your mom and dad looked amazing! Moms dress was perfect! Zac’s mom and dad too! Gorgeous photos!

[@ClancyBurkeX]

You are so sweet!❤️❤️

[@kiwistars]

your dad was so proud of you in that video at the tin roof!lol awww also your mom looked so good,you looked like an absolute princess, your smile in the photos radiates love and happiness

[@ClancyBurkeX]

You’re so sweet! Thank you!!💞

[@samanthasmith1209]

My biggest regret was not having enough money. I wanted to do some things but couldn’t because we didn’t have the money

[@averygaming8707]

I love your honesty Clancy

[@Sarahxxxxxxx]

Clancy, you wedding photos are so gorgeous! Wow you and Zac both looked so good. I personally loved the white suit.

[@ClancyBurkeX]

Thank you!!💞

[@user-oy6th5qz3l]

Congratulations on the wedding! The venue is my fave! Everything looks amazing and you were so beautiful! The only thing that shook me is how a wedding ends at 11pm 😮In my country it typically ends around 4 5am and it starts at 3-4 pm 😀

[@ClancyBurkeX]

Oh wow, that’s crazy!! I think that’s actually how it was for my cousin’s wedding in Ireland - but I was so tired I ended up going back to the hotel around midnight while everyone partied for hours 😂

[@Dumballa]

It looked like everyone had a great time 😊 The fireworks were super cool in the background too

[@Notable2Nikki]

Your mom's dress ended up so beautiful!

[@DP-xz7pm]

Congratulations Clancy on your wedding. Your mom and dad look amazing, mom gorgeous!

[@ClancyBurkeX]

Thank you so much!💞

[@skyehampton1559]

This was amazing thank you !!! Getting married in October in New Zealand. Love the tip about staying in the same room the night before, didn't even think about this but I definitely think it suits us as a couple and will probably relax us both more than being apart

[@kellyjean3973]

Been married for 11 years in November but I’m still watching because I watch all of your videos even if they don’t really apply to me ❤

[@ClancyBurkeX]

Awww thank you! 🥹💞

[@alonalyons8685]

I have been married for 10 years. And still watched everything because I can give my daughter advise for her wedding in the future. (My princess is 7))))

[@michellearseneau8119]

Finally someone who talks about regrets. Yes I have regrets and even on my wedding. I forgot to get someone to record the wedding. Oh we have pictures but didn’t get to see everyone walk down the isle be fore me or at reception.

[@kristenleep2977]

Everyone looked so beautiful! Your mom is smokin’! Also, I love this lipstick color on you!

[@ClancyBurkeX]

Thank you so much!!❤️❤️

[@brigittanemeth9316]

Your mom looked STUNNING!!! Also your make up + white shirt + hairstyle in this video suits you so much!

[@ClancyBurkeX]

Thank you so much!!🥰

[@amypennebacker4941]

I love your makeup in this video. You look so glowy and pretty 😊

[@ClancyBurkeX]

Thank you so much 🙂

[@ci1011]

You looked beautiful!💗 Your Mom looked beautiful!💗 Loved all the photos you inserted! Another great video!

[@ClancyBurkeX]

Thank you so much!!❤️

[@Rise2392]

Thanks for being YOU clancy❤ Such a genuine and real person😊 also, you look like you could be in the bold and the beautiful!!

[@ClancyBurkeX]

Aww! Thank you!! ❤️❤️

[@Rise2392]

@@ClancyBurkeX ❤️

[@emjardine8878]

Makeup and hair in this video is spot on. Suits you so well

[@ClancyBurkeX]

Aw thank you!!💞

[@jaymeebarra5454]

I like when you mix it up between vlogs and more curated content! Do you have any plans to do more videos like "what I spend in a day"/budgeting tips? Also, do you plan on sharing your full wedding video when you get it back?

[@ClancyBurkeX]

Yes I absolutely can!! :)

[@u140550]

Whoo next video with Clancy’s and Zach’s positives!! I’m hoping to see it soon!!

[@ClancyBurkeX]

Next Wednesday!! Thank you for watching! ❤️

[@PerversaBeleza]

Your wedding dress (the first one) was perfection!! You looked gorgeous!!

[@ClancyBurkeX]

Thank you so much!!💞

[@itsjadesteph]

LIVE for your vlogs!!! Love from Indy!!

[@ClancyBurkeX]

Aww thank you!!💞

[@maggiekeppeler3290]

My husband and i spent the night before our wedding together. We needed the time to connect since we were both pulled up n so many directions up to the ceremony

[@suzannadannaTARDIS]

I love the dress your mom went with - jewel tones with fair skin seems to make the eyes stand out. And Tom, he looks like he's about to make some mischief in that picture of the three of you. Stunning. (would love to see a picture of you three with Neil - hope you got one!)

[@bfoz]

Yesss, do a try-on haul!

[@ashleymattsen3557]

Your Mom and Dad looked so good! 🥹

[@wendyb2304]

You all looked amazing!! Your mom picked the right one!

[@ClancyBurkeX]

Thank you!!❤️

[@tuninginwithleslie]

Happy Wednesday! Thanks for sharing! For future brides they can keep this in mind! Hope you all are having a good Wednesday ❤️

[@ClancyBurkeX]

I hope it can be helpful!! Thank you! ❤️

[@hippychick_peace]

Your dress is amazing! You looked absolutely perfect! ❤

[@ClancyBurkeX]

Aww thank you!!💞💞

[@shelbychocolate]

My biggest regret was not getting a videographer. Tbh me and my husband were so ready to go so I didn’t care that it “ended early”. I was so exhausted but we also did a brunch with friends the next day which helped the feeling of not spending enough time with friends on my wedding night. I wish I didn’t talk to so many people, but I felt like I didn’t get to enjoy my wedding..I just met new people all night long 😢

[@ClancyBurkeX]

It’s sooo hard to talk to everyone! That’s awesome that you did a brunch the next day though - the wedding day is not enough!!

[@kazfraz6411]

Just moved into my college dorm as a freshman and finishing the night off w Clancy to feel more at home ☺️

[@ClancyBurkeX]

Aww that’s so exciting!!! Good luck on your freshman year!!! ❤️❤️

[@ritabarnes2440]

Love the pictures. As you said, everyone has regrets about many things. Overall the wedding day was perfect! You looked great as did Zac and all the parents!

[@ClancyBurkeX]

Thank you!!💞💞

[@jax3320]

And her brother did too :)

[@jessicameyer3875]

Love a Zac and Clancy Wednesday ❤ sending you happy vibes ✨️ up thumb for you and Zac

[@ClancyBurkeX]

Thank you!!:)

[@carmenosorio2532]

Your mom looks absolutely stunning!

[@daisycali24]

Love your vids Clancy!

[@ClancyBurkeX]

Thank you!! ❤️

[@rieleypaterson1743]

Your mom looked amazing!!!

[@elizabethcheung6207]

Good morning Clancy, 🙏 thank you for always sharing 😘 have a wonderful week.

[@ClancyBurkeX]

Thank you for watching!!

[@savannahrobb986]

My biggest regret was not saying NO when people offered to do things for us. Ie, I'll do your hair and makeup , I'll be your videographer. It always turns out bad. My cousins husband was going to be our videographer and they cancelled 2 weeks before the wedding.

[@safaira1]

I liked that you didn't have bridesmaids just family ❤

[@katiedesciose466]

This was awesome!

[@Marieq]

Loving your makeup in this video, can you do a tutorial? Also love the random roll of toilet paper 🧻 on your nightstand 😄.

[@ClancyBurkeX]

Thank you! Yes, I can! And that’s what Zac used for tissues 😂😂

[@Mayyccaa]

Great advise! I’m having my wedding in 6 months! 😊

[@michellealcala4929]

You all look good, but damn your mom looks so amazing in that dress. It's worth all the dress struggles. 👗 🤌

[@ClancyBurkeX]

YESS!!👏🏻

[@jeanenep33]

What a beautiful couple and wedding … and omg your mothers were so stunning! Wow !! ❤

[@ClancyBurkeX]

Aww! Thank you!!❤️❤️

[@thepageandstage]

The photos are amazing! Your mom’s look turned out stunning 🤩 Love the hot pink in your bouquet too!

[@ClancyBurkeX]

Thank you so much!!🥰

[@Touranjo20]

Love her moms look omg!!

[@ln8267]

Our wedding was 5-11pm and honestly I was exhausted by 1030 😂 dancing was from 8-11pm and then we had an after party at our hotel - I think I got unbelievably lucky, but I cannot think of one thing that I would’ve changed about the wedding day 😅 like literally between my wedding planner setting the schedule making sure the day ran smoothly and my bridal party handling everything from feeding me to bustling my dress for me we were set - I didn’t do any touch ups either by 930 I looked a hot mess from dancing lol

[@mansoor3159]

Wonderful sharing my friend Clancy and your wedding pictures are looking too too beautiful you are my inspiration and I wish you have a amazing day 😃💫💖

[@ClancyBurkeX]

Thank you!!❤️

[@allisonavila3580]

Dam girl, can’t lie, those are some pretty big regrets 😮 thanks for sharing

[@babo2oshka3]

Im dying laughing at the day by day decision of whether regret is present or not

[@mmwhitede]

I’m recommending two different descriptions of this (helpful) video : “lessons learned” or “after action review”. Both capture all the things you want to share with us, yet put it into a things to learn position. Regret is such a strong word anymore. Your last point is key - don’t worry. You will be married regardless of what happens ( unless you forget to get a marriage license. 😅)

[@joykish7342]

Thanks for the advice Clancy.

[@ClancyBurkeX]

Thanks for watching!:)

[@sonja9032]

Nice pictures. Looks like a beautiful day🎉

[@ClancyBurkeX]

Thank you!! ❤️

[@michellesunshinestar]

I should have included my sister more. I was so confused though. With the temple ceremony where my family couldn't attend, and then the reception. We got lucky they built the Temple right next to the church building where we had the reception.

[@blinkspacestudio8892]

Weddings are so funny - a million things can go right just at the same time a million tiny things can also go wrong. You just have to shrug it off and just make sure you get the entire thing recorded for when you are both old and want to relive the moment. I absolutely dont understand why people dont put the money in for really good photos and footage of the entire day. You only get it once. I will be spending well over 3000 for mine. Got a really good band and so much more that I never panned in the start but I know guests will never forget it and neither will I.

[@moragmckie693]

This is really helpful, thank you ❤

[@ClancyBurkeX]

You're so welcome!💞

[@lalilandadventures]

I legit went through a LOT of the same 'regrets' back in 2012 when I got married. (except the drinking and 2nd dress lol) But I don't remember looking in the mirror to touch up once! What the heck? lol Your wedding looked SO lovely!

[@ClancyBurkeX]

I guess it’s a good sign we were having too much fun to care about what we looked like!!!

[@lalilandadventures]

@@ClancyBurkeX absolutely!!! Although I have some regrets when I look at pics 😭🤣🤣

[@elliebluebell9908]

Personally, I don't think it was "too much vodka" but may be some vodka+really stresfull day made you feel more relaxed at the after party..))

[@laurencarpenter7097]

Your mom looks amazing!

[@u140550]

I’d love for Zach’s perspectives, because though there is many people that say it’s the brides day; and they make the event. Although to me it shouldn’t be just her day, and her event; but their event. I feel sometimes men or the significant other is left out of the decisions made, and if I was to have a wedding in the future, I don’t want to be left out of it; and enjoy our day. Glad to see your thoughts are well of course, and hope your week is well 1:33

[@ClancyBurkeX]

Watch through the end of the video!! Zac gives his take haha

[@u140550]

@@ClancyBurkeXI’m seeing it now, I’m happy to see it!!!

[@taylorl1214]

I loves your moms dress!

[@xkristixx]

I wish I would have had a videographer. We had an epic EDM dance party segment at our reception with glow sticks and I have just one 8 second video from my maid of honor. 😅 Luckily my sister-in-law got a few videos of the first kiss, introductions, pie cutting, first dances, and garter grab/toss so I'm very grateful for that. Also I'm so glad my bridesmaid is a seamstress' daughter because NO ONE told me anything about pinning the train up. Hahaha. I had no drinks at my wedding (apple juice for champagne because I dont like it) and I was very happy with that choice.

[@rachelloola]

I need to know your lipstick situation in this vid 👀 I love that color!!! 😍💄

[@ClancyBurkeX]

I’m using the too faced melted matte liquid lipstick in the shade “suck it” with “faux” lipstick by MAC on top!!

[@susanhouston5501]

Clancy, you’re hair looks great longer!

[@ClancyBurkeX]

Thank you!!💞

[@Iboughtthumbs]

I love how I’m still watching this - already married and chose not to have a wedding 😂

[@1xoxolovexoxo3]

It’s so funny how sassy Zac can become 😂

[@rainsuess317]

Everything looks beautiful.

[@ClancyBurkeX]

Thank you!!💞💞

[@imurhuckleberry5793]

A tip about the Bride drinking a bit too much. The wedding planner was gracious to keep your drink full, but should have alternated alcohol and water. Especially when drink of choice was vodka, would have been an easy accommodation. Every other should have be H2O to keep the Bride hydrated and alert. This is always a good idea when drinking hard liquor, by the way. For my daughter’s wedding, I was the self-appointed makeup touch-up person. I kept at my table a clutch with lipstick, etc and would just hit her up throughout the night-right there in the open, just a quick second of application. She had no mirror to gauge when she needed to reapply and I knew when the next “event”, example cake cutting, etc was to be, so I could plan ahead to catch her a bit off to the side and keep her fresh all night. Just a few thoughts for Brides-to-be for options. Clancy, your wedding was stunning, as were you, and we had hiccups ourself, inevitability.

[@Gisellej80]

👀👀 lovely pictures your parents an zac look great. Clancy you look beautiful. Ps love the bedroom. It was your wedding day life isnt perfect ❤

[@ClancyBurkeX]

Thank you so much!!❤️

[@jkclaver]

Your wedding photos are BEAUTIFUL!!

[@ClancyBurkeX]

Thank you so much!!❤️

[@debrafirestone861]

I woukd not get married on a holiday weekend

[@maureenjeffries3007]

My biggest regret was my groom, lol. I'm happily divorced now. 😜

[@CameronRozier]

YOUR MOM LOOKS AMAZING

[@laurenbayless7944]

Lol. The toilet paper roll 😂

[@smgdley]

I can’t stop noticing. Last vlog too 👀

[@dylansousa5571]

Clancy your mom and dad looked amazing

[@mrsdls]

I wish I had done a videographer. My father in law filmed but it was rough. I do appreciate he got footage though. I hired a wedding coordinator that I met through a venue and wholeheartedly regretted her because she was a mess.

[@pukkuncheekin4370]

I do plan on staying in separate rooms from my Fiance the night before my wedding, but my bridesmaids will be staying with so it will be just like a slumber party with my girls 😍

[@Jac-Jay]

As you probably know, weddings here in Ireland kick off about 1pm and continue for two days, my only regret was the open bar on the second day because our bank balance took a serious knock 😂😂, it was actually worth every cent though, we all talk about it all the time as one of our best weekends ever.

[@mashrefawadhalrajab]

Fr ur look very beautiful 😻

[@branditiller9923]

Mother was stunning 🤩

[@melissaechalar2603]

As a wedding planner it pains me your coordinator didn't catch the pins when you got ready nor cue the band or DJ in some way to continue the song or not change it yet until you were ready ☹😣Unless she was just a coordinator for the venue obviously I don't know all the details. Overall you all looked STUNNING and you all looked like you had a blast. Congratulations and wishing you the best happy life! ❤

[@feelosophy1921]

See, he did come through with another regret. I put it on the list to make sure providers restrict access to the area.

[@fashionface409]

Your wedding looked beautiful! I just got engaged (I'm in NKY) and have been thinking about Drees Pavillion because of you. Do you recommend it?

[@ClancyBurkeX]

Yes, I am so happy we chose this venue!!! I talk more about this in my next wedding video

[@VeggiesbyEos]

Sent this to my sister, as she's getting married in October!

[@Odiekins]

Mine too! 10/20

[@VeggiesbyEos]

@@Odiekins omg mines is 10/21!

[@bratt485]

Love it thank you

[@monicamcgahan]

There should’ve been a note with the dress from company you picked it up