Wendy Fitzwilliam - TEDx Talk with the University of the West Indies

[@stefanwilliams27]

"Lessons in how to win" alike my motto - A man may fail many times, but he isn't a failure until he gives up...it's not very easy to tell of your life with such an open heart...well done

[@hisstarprincess]

saw this live and it was well worth it! even got my loooong awaited picture :D

[@thejompi]

I love the Trinibagobian accent.

[@onikaconstantine8861]

Hi Wendy

[@lexcam6754]

In my mind Wendy is a failure and as a figure of influence, especially for young women, a great disappointment. I say this because in an interview she described her son as a child of this age, she was so right! She fell for that Western developed country, foreign influenced social experiment of the 1970's, continuing towards the end of the century and a little into the 21st century, which hailed certain ideas of feminism and the women's Liberation movement, as the way society should go. Namely, that the educated and sophiscated woman could do it all, head up a single parent household and do so successfully and marriage should be abandoned for all time. This construct destroyed so much and was negative for women and the children of these resulting CASUAL unions. It downgraded the societal support system and status which the marriage provided. Since then prevailing ideas and theories of this experiment has turned 360 degrees because family and psychological studies, along with real life case studies have shown that deliberately designed single parenting, to not be successful. Children's developmental emotional needs requires the stability of the FATHER figure from birth to adult; the entire lifetime! The provision of such a stabilising structure has ALWAYS been found in the TRADITIONAL marriage relationship. It should not be anti-feminist to recognise that men and women do need each other and that, contrary to feminist theories, marriage is a key pillar of stability for both sexes and especially for children. It is the GOLD STANDARD of which successful parenting outcomes are measured and no matter how we rebel against it society will always dictate this is the ideal structure. To go against that family construct, is to be marginalised in many different forms. Lastly in my mind, all Wendy has done is to entrench the view in popular culture, society and community that black women and especially the dark skinned ones, are the least desirable and less likely to be sought after as a marriage partner. In essence and again studies done in the United States have shown, that black women are disproportionately unmarried and less desired for marriage as compared to women of other ethnic groups.