HOW I FINALLY ENDED MY MARRIAGE...

[@annettek4278]

It’s the fact that Dainá started off in black dresses “mourning” the loss and trials/ tribulations but now she’s in white 😍full circle but with new beginnings🙌🏾

[@Londiwe.B]

I was coming to write the same things. Very intentional. Moving on to bigger and better❤

[@NubianPrincessN]

Symbolic 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

[@TunisiaNicole]

i’ve noticed that too! love it ✨

[@Gu1200-]

Literally!!!

[@daniellecampbell8615]

Okkaaaaayyy that’s all I was thinking! Beautiful beyond compare

[@heavenheaven9134]

Girl you have been gaslighted, emotionaly manipulated, enabled, betrayed, lied to and straight up abused for years! And you are still here and alive! You do recognize that you are one in a million humans who have successfully survived this level of toxic behavior ! You are more then strong. It's the resilience for me! And you are still helping others while healing.

[@Karisma187]

Don’t forget about the financial abuse

[@zoraxye4325]

Well said. When you & Karisma list all of the horrendous things she endured in her marriage (and even BEFORE they got together) it’s enough for 10 people. Daina, you rock.

[@shuposh7675]

Absolutely right

[@peacehope614]

I dealt with all of that of that in my relationship of 2 years. The only difference is as soon as he breaks up with me, he immediately sleeps with another woman . And his excuse will be we were not in a relationship. But i know if we ended up being married and as the relationship extends he would have cheated just as described in this story time .The trauma i faced through caused me to have high BP. I was having chest pains because of the trauma he caused me during the relationship. The mental abuse, the false accusation , the ghosting, controlling, manipulation my bp increased to 160/100. That was when i decided to finally end the relationship . Hes still trying to get back with me and wants to marry me as soon as possible, but im so happy to say i no longer have feelings for him. I am free!

[@esemusic8294]

Amen 🎉

[@bladeeshotgf5500]

Sis I screamed when you mentioned his sudden religiosity because control freaks always do that. And I say that as 100% a muslim woman! This guy I was with for two years had no issue with being slimy but the second I disengaged from him he suddenly got so religious and was trying so hard to shame me. Even though he is 10x worse than I’ll ever be. It’s just a way to deflect from their own wickedness.

[@somalibarbie55]

Hello my fellow Muslima.... This was funny reading it the way people will use Allah to shame you 😂 We should learn our religion so nobody can use it against us.

[@gulpari8222]

As a fellow muslim I agree! If a man is really close to God and practising correctly he would never make you feel “less” than him, rather he would try his best to gently guide you as his woman. A quick red flag to see!

[@malaydice7095]

Happy to see this comment thankyou . Time for movements . It’s hard when there 20 years older

[@thebeatmagelive]

I went through the same thing starting to think these men all have a handbook !!!

[@Liitebulb]

Lol my mother. Shat on the church all day and all night then suddenly cherry picks example

[@KushQueen9]

Not the religious narcissistic tactics he went from cheater to preacher 🤣🤣🤣. Some people are straight up crazy. Just remember to choose YOU all the time and you've done exactly that Daina. Lots of love light and healing on your new journey ahead. 💖💖✨✨✨

[@P3n3l0p3M]

Lmao read your comment as that part came up and I said the same thing lol he has lost his mind 😂

[@usernameinsert4679]

Not trying to justify him or anything, but I’m pretty sure the whole obsession with Christ blasphemies and demons is a sign of OCD. I used to react that way, too. I was seeing everything through the lens of religion for some reason, I was obsessed and later came to realise it was a sign of ocd

[@Shegotthajuic3]

@@usernameinsert4679 oooh you know what that makes sense! I know avoidance is also a sign of ocd

[@StatenIslandMensDivorce]

As a divorce lawyer, I can tell you that this is such a common story of sinister behavior by a spouse and extreme betrayal. So many have gone through this. You are helping people wake up and realize what’s happening to them. You’d be surprised at how many women stay. But Sis, pay for the divorce and move on-don’t make this man in control of one more thing!! Cheers🎉

[@sandys7618]

Hello, I am currently seeking a lawyer to help file a motion, regarding a breach of contract of my divorce.

[@AlexandrasGirlyTalk]

Dainá you are so elegant inside and out ..and you’re helping so many women ❤ thank you for sharing your story ❤❤❤

[@elishajorden4457]

Dainá**

[@jakenyajones7268]

Omg! I love your videos!!! 😊♥️😊

[@jayjaytr1849]

A true elegant woman

[@alexiatepila8159]

**Dianá

Thank you babe 🥰

[@suziesmith9076]

This has really taught me there ain’t no such thing as couple goals. No one knows what happens behind closed doors

[@KiraBKADestroyerOfWorlds]

Closed doors, or doors made out of clothing?

[@Fleurr5678]

Not all that glitters is gold

[@deej5608]

TRUTH

[@blueprint0162]

@@KiraBKADestroyerOfWorlds 🙄

[@virginiashynes5295]

@@KiraBKADestroyerOfWorlds 😂😂🫣

[@livelaughlisten14]

The manipulation, the disrespect, the audacity! Daina I am incredibly proud of you for getting out of that situation and sharing your story with us. You are so brave and amazing

[@aferak145]

🎉🎉🎉 very proud of her

[@sg5720]

He is acting like the typical BM that so many women/ BW speak on. He has the nerve. Glad she moved on and looking beautiful doing it. 🙂

[@emefatsipotey6233]

I couldn't agree more.

[@0003-t6x]

The fact that he made sure her money was tied to him, her life completely revolved around him at one point and he made it that way . Honestly the most emotional abuse. Basically entrapped her and made her feel her only happiness is through him, emotionally, financially, and even spiritually. It’s like she was with a demon.

[@JustMe-vs1kj]

why are so many men like this tho... this is insane....

[@adutlueth7040]

31:24 “he’s never viewed women as human” textbook narcissist 😳😳

[@valery5900]

This man sounds exhausting AF!!!! I'M GLAD YOU GOT OUT. I'm exhausted just listening to all his bs.

[@sprinklesofbts]

I came running. One thing you can always do is tell a good storyline while serving looks!

[@Sky_Hiii]

You ain’t neva lie 😅

[@h0n3ybr0wn016]

True

[@tarabrown740]

Same!! 🤣🤣

[@sprinklesofbts]

@@Sky_Hiii The glam with the ambient fireplace in the background and lighting, she be serving in these storytime videos!

[@KingMiHearts]

Right!?! I know her ex big mad!

[@mjt5098]

I need a lot of people on KZbin to watch this video and take tips on how to tell story times- no being extra/waffling/exaggerating. Daina is just so straight to the point, honest and engaging, could listen to her all day 💕

[@jassrenee]

Yessss!!!!

[@jusTOOfresh]

Definitely her lane.

[@pinksandcastles9480]

Honestly because you are so beautiful, girls are going to be tempting your man. If he wanted you around, he would think it, just in case before she leaves. So he thought it, if she leaves oh well. His loss!!!

[@paristhrone2546]

you shouldnt be telling ppl how to explain their stories for your selfish satisfaction.

[@maniinterlude]

@@paristhrone2546 rii, just don’t watch it. Everyone isn’t the same

[@bajantae6798]

He was jealous of you girl and attempted to sabotage your happiness at every turn. Cheers to your freedom glow and getting out of a toxic relationship. 🥂

[@5996dawn]

I so understand that statement

[@easynow7801]

Oh my goodness, I never looked at it this way. Sounds on point. Very sad.

[@ariel7953]

I had a "friend" that treated me the same way. Played on my emotions bc I cared so much like a dumbass. Never again!!! She was toxic then told me the weirdest thing "I'm in love with you Ariel" ... quickly adding platonically I'd give her the same look I'd give these niggas like ok..... weird. Then she turned around and started trying to make me feel like a weirdo for gaf about her kids that she never took care of. It was mad!!! Real life PTSD

[@highQueenJuuJuu]

Here after her batty Bwoy narcissistic Ex husband tried to sabotage her money and growth and guess what... ( Daina accent)... HE COULDNT BIIITTCCHHH!!! Love you Daina we bout to get the algorithm in check for ur videos!!!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@lalareeves1941]

WOW... The fact that I went through a relationship exactly like this is so bizarre. I thought I was the only one who went through this kind of pain and torture. It literally sounds like your describing me and my ex's story. Girl I'm glad you made it out of that marriage!

[@ChendGolden]

Damn, I just wanna give Daina a hug. This is far too much for one woman to take.

[@zam4life879]

@Loved girl doing the most is not even the words I swear he is in his own league

[@princesscfn]

@Loved girl Well she’s left now so good for her

[@Rnb602]

@Loved girl “put up with it” let’s not. We don’t need to find a way place blame on her in this situation. She’s a kind woman who chose to see the best in a person she thought she could trust, that’s not a flaw. She stayed through it all because they were married, and she is was honouring their commitment.

[@abigailblake6337]

@Loved girl unless someone has been married themselves, they will never know the gravity of marriage and how hard it is to leave someone that you have committed to spending the rest of your life with. They were together for 12 years and that was her best friend, you don't just leave a situation like that easily! She shouldn't blame herself for staying and being human. Even the most self-assured and confident people can do things they never thought they would do. I commend her for leaving when she did, she deserves all the respect.

[@sg5720]

@@zam4life879 he does what a lot of men do, just that not every woman has the guts to speak on it publicly. Good for her. 😌

[@tyisha2105]

It's giving mental health emergency. I've been thinking this since the beginning of the series. This episode solidified it. ranting and raving, religiosity, risky sexual behavior, labile mood....it's good that you got out of that situation.

[@GigiTheHomeGirl]

Definitely….maybe NPD or BPD or something because I’m also seeing SYMPTOMS! We saw how he started talking about his depression later also. Either way, she’s FREE!

[@misssoleil2056]

I thought the exact same thing. Mental illness is very real and sad.

[@LoveFinds]

Yes!

[@gigi4love990]

Yessss, the description around 14 minutes solidified it for me. I was even thinking bipolar with the depression and the manic behaviors as you mentioned above. This is now his issue to sort out and hopefully he does.

[@Veeanna0103]

Or maybe he's just not a very nice person. I get that mental health can play a part in how people behave but he was cheating on her way before he had the depressive episodes

[@simsthre4078]

Okay this series has made me realise how there’s this massive hole in YT atm cause I used to always be able to come on here and watch my fave storytimers reliably while I do chores or sit and chill etc and get excited whenever I saw a new one came out, and there’s a feeling of connection and familiarity. Very few youtubers can do it well but you’re one of them. I appreciate you thanks for what you bring to our lives and thank you for sharing with us. As a creative myself it inspires me to do the same

[@iaintookthatbb6599]

It’ll come back thanks to her watch

[@MaxieTheMenace]

Yesss! Agreed!

[@karmellla]

Same! I could listen to her tell stories for hours. There was a big story time boom on here at one point but they felt so forced and fake. This is so different and her voice is so engaging yet relaxing

[@taliaswiftwhite]

Agreed I’ve become so attached to Dainá during this series. Loving it Xxx♥️

[@yaniie007]

It’s because she’s real, usually a lot of these YT’ers are not very authentic in their content that’s why we don’t get as engaged with them. Hope this makes sense

[@LELE2113-c8q]

Ladies when ur attempting to leave a toxic relationship, Just leave! No notice is required if the person is abusive and mistreating you.

[@SweetUareDesi]

And get LOST - no bread crumbs for them

[@hmull4882]

As an older woman to a younger woman. Honestly this is the start of your future, trust the process of grieving the person you thought he was and remember who he showed you he was. Then remember who you are and what you bring to a relationship. Taking on a child is a huge responsibility and your maturity shines through, a real man will appreciate you in full x

[@ruqayyahaf5431]

THE SCREAM I SCRUMED WHEN I SAW THE FINAL PART UPLOADED 😭 As someone who has been here since 2015, thank you for giving us this closure even though you didn't have to. I am so glad it is going viral so people can stop harassing you and mentioning his name as I'm sure you are ready to move onwards and upwards. I hope you throw a divorce party and we are all invited 🥺🎉

[@victoriasmith2965]

Lol. Scrumbed

[@latoyakumba9391]

I would travel all the way from Canada just for it 😢

[@melaninandaura9713]

Ohhhhh yes! I never support influencers on line parties but I’d support this FOR SURE. Bcz it would be my party too. 🎉❤

[@SmartistaBeauty]

Bravery and freedom looks good on you D! I’m so beyond proud and enamored by your transparency in the face of something no one should endure

[@beebee8183]

I think I speak for everyone that supports you when I say we’re so proud of you for speaking out about this , it must have been so hard to have to relive it , but your finally free and I can’t wait to see you flourish !!!❤❤❤

[@Nicole_Zyon]

🙌🏽💯👏🏽

[@Confuqued]

You are literally saving lives out here! Women, listen and take notes. A man says ANY of the things her ex said to her, to you, RUN! Seriously. It's like all men are wired the same. I've heard exact quotes from these videos and exact behaviors that I've seen in all of my exes. It's crazy. Never again.

[@Ilikefrogs..]

Honestly! Is there an abusers handbook somewhere out there? Why are they all saying the same ish?

[@ItsNessaTho]

​@@Ilikefrogs..Its really weird right? I've always wondered the same thing

[@NieceyWeesey]

Daina you strike me as a deep empath. Unfortunately we tend to attract the worst of the sociopaths. My heart goes out to you

[@omonighoegi1921]

i’m not bb

[@ellmacc]

the vulnerability in this series is nothing we'd get in any other youtuber .. and we dont take it lightly , thank you for allowing us to borrow your lens to get a view into your REAL LIFE .. we love you tootsie girl 🥹💕

[@Vixenallure365]

Cosmeholics anonymous is as vulnerable tho 👀

[@Shernice.b]

You should check out @cosmeholicsanonymous crazy how much goes on beyond the lenses of cameras

[@tee2838]

@@Vixenallure365 she’s underrated too for sure cause her life is hectic I love her

[@michaelbaxter2575]

This story time series has made things over the years make so much more sense. There are two events I’ll never forget. The STD prank and the trip to Japan. It’s insane how someone can hurt you, change your viewpoint on things as far as trust and then have the nerve to be angry at the monster that they created. Forgiveness is a process and trust isn’t something that grows back the way it originally was. It’s literally like gluing back the pieces of a broken mirror, you might just put it back together but those cracks are still there. I am happy that you rediscovered yourself under it all. There are some people that would’ve stayed and would choice misery for the rest of their lives. Convincing themselves that it’s the honorable thing to do and that the purpose is much greater. Honor yourself more than committing to a life of broken promises and unfulfilled wishes. You are the best example for that little one, she’ll know that being happy is an option for her because look at what her auntie did. I feel that everything will work out in your favor and the sun can fully shine on you now that you’ve gotten rid of that dark cloud. I would say the sky is the limit however there are footprints on the moon!! Here’s to you Daina, cheers 🥂. Wishing you prosperity, positivity, happiness, and wellness.

[@ndzalln]

Wonderful message & the broken mirror analogy is spot on 👌🏾

[@NubianPrincessN]

Yess that Japan trip has come to my mind alot recently.... I havent watched this video yet just reading the comments, does she bring it up here? Because I been wondering wtf happened on that trip!

[@breonnacannon]

@@NubianPrincessN they made a video telling what happened awhile back

[@elisa9470]

This is such a spot on comment. Thanks for sharing

[@JustTheRichardsons]

@@NubianPrincessN what happened on the Japan trip?

[@CP-gq7en]

In a way Aliyah saved you, like you saved her

[@erykahleigh9139]

Definitely!!

[@jaycaspian2137]

So wholesome

[@Rodrasroom]

This was terrible. I’m still at the time where he was working, not contributing to bills AND cheating. He was basically laughing in your face and exploiting you emotionally while also trying to profit off you. That’s an enemy stabbing you in the back. Not even a friend let alone a husband who is supposed to lead and guide, and not to weaponize GOD as a means to control. As a husband, he was supposed to love you as Christ loved the church. Not abuse and exploit. Even to use your niece to control you! So gross. So glad you’re DONE. I hope you can get some good therapy to heal!

[@kyranagra5573]

I rarely ever comment on videos and I’m a silent supporter but I just have to say, your strength and courage to leave such a toxic situation is honestly so inspiring Daina. Aaliyah has such an amazing role model to look up to - peace, happiness and healing looks so good on you. Couldn’t be more happy for you 🙏🏽🤍✨

[@moodymargaret2033]

Who’s Aaliyah?

[@brookeb2674]

@@moodymargaret2033her niece who she takes care of

[@jadebrown6499]

The white dress,the bun, the blue lighttt come through Danià. Closing this chapter and moving on to better only hoping the best for you and Aaliyah 💘

[@flomasan4053]

The way you were able to share such a frustrating and unfair story whilst maintaining grace, humour and clarity I applaud you sis !! Just shocked and disgusted at that sorry excuse of a man. You’ve done such a service to women in similar positions and we’re really all rooting for ya !!!

[@PreciousPlaylist]

Ahmet had really started tripping and never stopped. Losing you was one of the biggest mistakes for him but one of the biggest blessings for you “D” , with many more blessings to come, QUEEN DAINÁ.

[@ye23.]

Whats her ex doing nowadays I wonder. Whats his response to these videos hes prob shitting himself

[@heartlacies]

I can’t with Armpit. He did the same shit as my father before he went to back to Jamaica after years of cheating on women and scamming them; he turned to god and started preaching. I hate that narcissistic and hypocritical shit. You can’t repent and preach when you’ve hurt so many. Armpit didn’t like you, you can still keke with someone you dislike as long as it benefits them. Glad you’re out of there, sis!

[@mi3helle707]

Not Armpit

[@kerrianpryce]

The level of patience you had with this man is immaculate! So many of us lose ourselves while being with these narc. I’m so proud of you for leaving and just know that you have inspired so many of us to leave our toxic relationships!!! Thank you thank you ❤

[@imn0tavampir3]

girl let me tell u something, i have *the shortest attention span EVER* but somehow i have no problem watching you talk for hours!!!! you are literally the most interesting story teller i have ever seen. i just found your channel a few days ago and i've been binging since then! lots of love to you, you deserve the world ❤

[@ohemmaAna]

Didn’t even realize this was an hour long till it ended 👌🏾

[@StraightZzzStudent]

I’ve been withholding comments because I didn’t know what to say, but I think what sums it up is that I am so proud of you. Proud of you for leaving him, exposing him, putting yourself first, and understanding that it was never you that caused this. Here’s to bigger and better things 🎉

[@Pschool1]

Daina is very good at story times , it’s very cathartic, relaxing but interesting. It may be the lyricist in her , but you can tell there is an art to how she recounts & vocalises her journey in these recent vlogs. Thank you …

[@yanikeonpurpose]

… & to keep your attention for a whole HOUR without no one bag of bells & whistles is saying something. Just simply talking. Now that is art. 🤌🏾

[@SafBash23]

Agree!!!! I keep coming back and actually look forward to the long videos because she is a great storyteller!

[@stephelizabeth]

Omg yes! I don’t realise how long these videos are because she’s just so good at telling stories and recounting past events in a way that makes you feel like you’re right there experiencing it. It’s actually a talent.

[@jakeylawallace2748]

He literally sounds like he was having a psychotic episode

[@booluv2012]

He sounds like he has bipolar disorder. The severe mood swings, religiosity, all these big ideas to make money, & excessive sexual activity. Then the depression? Sounds like high highs & low lows… I wonder if this was due to the injury that he had? Not an excuse but it’s very interesting 🤔

[@Marmalade_on_toast]

Your channel just got randomly recommended to me and I’m so glad that it did! Really respect your vulnerability and honesty about the decisions you made, it can be really hard to do that - particularly when you feel like you could have done things differently. He’s an absolute fool for losing such a well spoken, intelligent, beautiful woman. We accept the love that we think we deserve and I’m very glad that you saw that you deserve so much better.

[@brandeshasworld]

every time you say "yammin' front" I literally laugh out loud 😂 this series has been a real one! You're on to bigger and better things!

[@georgia8592]

Was passing the kitchen as she said that and my mom was like 👀

[@hisfavvv]

🤣🤣🤣 me too

[@neosomaliana]

What does that mean though

[@lolita960]

@@neosomaliana It means eating out

[@brandeshasworld]

@@neosomaliana he’s been snacking on vajayjay

[@sally4711]

Sis pulled out a dress 🙌 she pulled out the drinky drink and I was like oh shiit , it’s about to go down 🤸🏼‍♂️ singing all the single ladies you go sis

🤭

[@pheeuh]

I think it’s so crazy how a lot of us have different situations, but all of our stories are so similar. It’s almost as if cheaters have a secret cult where they say, gaslight, and torture you with the same things and tactics. I couldn’t believe how similar your story sounded to my last relationship. It’s really scary, and I’m glad you’re out of it now.

[@GeorgiaPeachAYEEE]

Sis said I'm getting back every dollar I put into this marriage. You go girl !!!

[@kayemay]

I’m so glad you’re at a point where you can share your experiences with us. Idk why everytime you say “nnyyammming front” has me dying 😭😂 he really had the audacity. Disgusting.

[@mscocopops732]

😂🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@mi3helle707]

😭😭 nyaming front means giving head right

[@照TERU]

Same here, first time hearing it as an American😭😂

[@queenkreviews1999]

That part has me weak every time she says it 😂

[@Shedho_]

Me too. Am so dead! 💀💀

[@KC_90]

it’s amazing how narcissists seem to all use the same playbook. It’s almost like they have conventions where they all meet up to plan and agree on the foolishness they’re going to act out 🫠 When you’re in the midst of it you don’t recognize it for what it is. Sending you healing vibes 💓 & hope that none of us have to ever experience these type of people again!

[@2stayweird]

I came across your channel bc of this series, and man, I hate that you had to go through this too... My first boyfriend (who I fortunately didn't marry) had almost the same behavior: did not work (while I paid all the bills on minimum wage) and used depression as an excuse, accusing ME of being the cheater (when he was the one who did), threatening suicide, etc. The suicide threat was the last straw bc my autistic brain flipped a switch and I completely stopped caring. I said "fine, do it then." Of course he didn't... bc people who actually hurt themselves don't use the threat of self-harm to manipulate. I think he thought he could do whatever he wanted and I'd never leave.

[@TwoPeasInAPod]

*him admitting that he doest feel anything while cheating, and that he views women as objects plus all the manipulation, all points to sociopathic TRAITS. and the way you are "SPECIAL" is because you put with all of this and he knows what to say to get what he wants* I AM GLAD YOU GOT OUT!

[@shaunak6961]

So happy for you Daina. You are glowing different since you’ve left the toxicity behind. I can only imagine the amount of women that needed to hear this story to walk away from theirs.

[@akajazzy12300]

This is evident that, when a person shows you who they are the first time, BELIEVE THEM!So sorry you had to go through this. Thank you for being so transparent and sharing your story - you’re definitely helping the next ❤️🙏🏼

[@EdwinaLondon]

I’d really want a video of how those closest to you felt about your marriage. Jamal in particular. So happy you’re free Daina!!🙏🏾

[@mariatudoran1970]

there's common for abusive men to "turn to God" in order to further manipulate their victims; my father is like that; you can't imagine how helpful your storytimes are!

[@sheashea8465]

OMG this is literally my story 😢. I was 19 he was 30, married at 22, 10 years of hell, domestic violence. When I finally decided I’m done he did not want to leave for months, I eventually had to call the police to get him out. It took me 10 years to see this man for who he was, it took the police officers 30 minutes, I cried when the officer told me she can see he is very abusive, I knew then I made the right choice. Thanks for sharing your story hun 💗💗💗💗

[@Heyitschy03]

me, being 19 (turning 20) & this 29yr old man keep getting in touch with me through dating apps. idk.. he’s attractive but it’s a reason why he’s single.

[@sheashea8465]

@@Heyitschy03 What I would say is know your worth and know your boundaries, set them so you know what you want in a relationship and if he can’t meet them it’s a no. There are men out here looking specifically for young inexperienced women to manipulate, you’re your own person no one can control you as an adult. And yes there is probably a reason his single 😂 . If his not where he wants to be in life as in financially stable and has his own place ( not a room) leave it alone.

[@tanesharak8606]

@@Heyitschy03 don’t do it, there is plenty other men out there. It’s a bad sign that he’s going for women younger and no one his age.

[@stacyrensburgoliver]

When I call out guys my age that they date younger women to manipulate and abuse them they call us bitter, old and jealous. This is why women their own age don’t want them. As young women be careful of these older guys, most of them are immature and have issues. I’m glad you are free from him and safe ❤️

[@mweusimrembo890]

@@Heyitschy03 let him go date women his age. You continue growing, human brain doesn’t stop growing until age 25.

[@KennedyWord]

I feel like I’m watching the Harry Potter movies with how she has this series running.. like a 3 part conclusion piece. ❤

[@georgia8592]

Mad thing is JK Rowling the Author has her own insane stories of a controlling husband.

[@mi3helle707]

😭

[@RuvaDoll]

I ran into him on the tube about a year ago and now I’m mad I was nice to him 🤣 Man even said he’d say Hi to Daina for me, gaslighting prick 😭😭😭

[@berfinguzel1542]

😂

[@ryaa24]

😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@browndupree]

😭😭

[@mi3helle707]

I AM CRYING 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@victoriagrullon2620]

At a small bar watching this video and waiting for my wings to come out. Thank you for your vulnerability and I’m really sorry that you went through the is for soo long. Wishing you nothing but the best, now that you are leaning into your light. You deserve it! ❤

[@susannahall9650]

Narcissistic!!!!!!! He do not know that God will not let a liar like him, tarry in His eyesight!!! He likes to call out other bad wrongs, but not address his, like lying, being double minded, not treating his wife as the Bible says!!! Thank God you got out!!!! Keep running from this man that God has blessed you to get rid of!!! I loved how you told this story, that captured my heart, and articulated ever so well! Sorry for sending so many comments, but I just wanted to encourage you that real lovers of Christ and Our Father would not use God to benefit his selfishness! God have mercies on whomever He pleases and look like His tender mercies are blessing you now!

[@chidochemoyom763]

32:09 it’s terrifying to me how men view women as subhuman and objectify women! It’s no wonder a lot of them abuse and disrespect the women they’re with. I’m so relieved that women are empowering one another, being vulnerable, honest and sharing their stories! We deserve full, happy lives and healthy relationships with or without men ❤

[@fionagallagherapologist5968]

it's so insane !! they do not see us as humans

[@MiSBUBBZ]

I don’t think I have ever cried this much for someone I didn’t know. This took a very dark turn I never saw coming this man abused you financially, mentally and emotionally. He used KZbin(your passions), suicide, God, and AALIYAH as form of control over you and I am so glad you’re finally free! I hope many women will find inspiration from your experience the way I have. Thank you ❤

[@moniquej369]

That’s what a narcissist does.🤷🏽‍♀️ They’re very manipulative and they always make it seem like you’re the problem.

[@anotherperson3308]

The dress, the updo, the moet - yesssss queen 👑

[@belleallurex]

the amount of PROJECTION OMG... he would literally shame you for every/anything because HE FELT ASHAMED ABOUT/WITHIN HIMSELF with what he was doing behind your back and ultimately... because it's who he IS. i'm so sorry you went through this.

[@Littlemizzanna]

I’m so glad you got out of that draining relationship and are able to speak your truth. Ngl these stories kind of terrify me because you can be so in love with someone and they have no problem being WICKED like this, and you never really know if they’ll turn sour or not.

[@katherinabambina7759]

I usually don't comment on KZbin, but I stumbled upon your first video of these cheating-series, and... oh my God. I feel such indescribable compassion and sympathy for you, but above all, I look up to your strength and your determination. You did it. You walked out of this toxic sandstorm that clouded your vision and had you in a chokehold. You are such an inspiration and the fact that you have decided to share your pain, your story here with us, it is off immeasurable value. I even realised a lot about my own ex through listening to you. Again, congratulations and making it out of it, on being open and vulnerable about it and most of all, CONGRATS on RISING above it. Wishing you nothing but the best for the future.

[@MsGetemboi]

Just for the record I have ALWAYS been a Tootsie Time fan. The music was a bonus. I always enjoyed your content even when your just hanging around in a vlog. I hope you know that your fans are here for you not because your on here with other people. You are enough!! Stay strong 💪.

[@dineo2885]

Your story is so similar to so many women who have been with narcissists and emotionally abusive partners. Wishing you and Aaliyah all the best and I’m glad you got out of that toxic situation. ✨

[@metamorphosis_x]

You know it's about to be a good video when Daina opens up the good good Champagne. I AM HERE FOR IT!!!!!!

[@tiarachiffon8131]

innit?!

[@ajoseph495]

You see this dress???! *eats popcorn*

[@sandrakzdi]

I had to pause because this is a lot.. the fact that you survived from all of this emotional abuse. I applaud you for being so strong and at the same time I hate that you were strong. I wish you left earlier but I understand you wanted to safe your marriage. Whew girl this is a lot, sending you my love & support!

[@seanbrown7112]

You are an exceptional narrator the way you describe every emotion and scenario as if your experiencing it for the first time is amazing the way you describe your emotional state as it transitions is accurate and transparent you we’re honest about your low moments and the desperation to save your marriage and then described the strength you later found and depicted how fed up you were is amazing usually when people narrate their experiences it’s from the point of view of their most recent emotions but you were so honest and vulnerable about your lows and how it transitioned to your high moments you we’re so honest about how insecure and desperate you were and later described how you rose above the bs and had the gumption to walk away I know your just telling your story but most people describe things with their current emotions and point of view in mind where as you have been honest with your emotions and behaviors throughout this experience and i solute you for your honesty and transparency

[@alyssiathompson1334]

Girl get your money off these story times...proud that you get to finally tell your story...p.s I'm 5 months pregnant and baby girl has been kicking the whole time listening to your voice

[@Heyitschy03]

What’s her name going to be?

[@mi3helle707]

🥰

[@karmellla]

He said he doesn’t view women as humans? Crikey 😭

[@Chi-jh6zr]

Not crikey 😂😂😭

[@ellahayfield5698]

The epitome of a true queen. You stood by your husband in hardship, you stood by your family in hardship but most importantly, stood by yourself through hardship. I really like you Daina, you're a wonderful and inspiring woman to watch. You truly deserve it ALL ❤...your time to smell the flowers.

[@moniquej369]

Honestly, a lot of men aren’t worth standing by. They only make you regret it in the long run. Women need to start putting themselves first.

[@erykahleigh9139]

💯💯💯🙌🏾 well said

[@MelissaMiller95]

Lord have mercy, this story had my stomach in knots 😔 you Dainá, are a strong woman (Jamaicans are built differently I swear). That man has multiple demons that I don't even think a therapist can save. I'm so happy you got out, a lot of people don't. Loving the white dress love, new blessings and beginnings 🎉🎈🙌🏽

[@balanceis_key]

I think your point about how he argued you down until you just stopped doing those things is such an important point, because people don't perceive that as abuse. I'm glad you chose yourself and your niece, and I pray that legal guardianship comes quick as well as those papers. To brighter and better horizons

[@wickedmouthedsims6897]

The insecure man to religous hotep pipeline is so freaking real. It sucks but most men I've known to be super religious are literally using it to give self rightousnous versus actually healing and getting that spiritual connection. They just want a new pedal stool to put themselves on.

[@pumkinspiceallthingsnice4051]

Insecure man to religious hotep pipeline lmfao

[@mi3helle707]

🤣💯💀😭🥴

[@TheBridgeAffect]

From someone who has been following you since Don’t Tell the Bride/Tootsie Time, I am extremely proud of you and the woman you’ve become. Here’s to new levels! Cheers 🥂

[@dianerichards5135]

You are a Superwoman little sis. I have to say your stories have been a rollercoaster, I’ve laughed, cringed, shouted at the screen and been close to tears for you but more than anything I have empathised. We’ve all been there to some degree at some point in life. You are an empath but you survived this toxic abuse and have triumphed. Drink your Moet girl, you earned it and yes! You will be the best role model for your adorable little neice going forward. You’ve inspired me to build on my strength since leaving my deceptive partner. And I got some years on you lol! Thank you for sharing 🙏🏾

[@Nikuna2011]

Listen, this series is giving EVERYTHING it’s suppose to give!!! From the 1st episode to now!!! I love this shit!!!

[@sc84ldn]

I knew he was using being born again as another form of manipulation. Again, I am so glad you are free of him and his narcissistic, controlling ways. You look so good too 🥰

[@afsarosette]

Why was I crying at the end 🥹. As someone who has been through the exact same situation. It’s beautiful seeing how happy and free yo look now. Well done for leaving & choosing you & your niece’s happiness. Thank you so much for sharing your story and don’t be embarrassed at all. You’re helping so many other women that are going through similar situations. Wishing you all the best. Onwards & upwards from here. Sending you lots of love ❤

[@raejae5565]

The wedding dress style GOWN to discuss your divorce, I am living for the prosperity ✨

[@SD-wf9xq]

Let me tell you Daina, the fact you don’t have him as a legal guardian of your niece as well was a blessing from God. As much as it seemed like it would’ve made the process easier back then, imagine the level of control and leverage he would have had if that had been followed through. Blessings to you and your little one, you overcame this! ♥️

[@rumademedoit]

girl this series has been giving me life. i love that you are able to share all this with us. I admire you girl- keep it up!! ❤️

[@theresab8846]

Nothing compares to the feeling when all of a sudden you genuinely don't care anymore. So happy you reached that point ❤

[@nener5441]

I can’t wait until I reach this point!!! To suddenly don’t care anymore. One day at a time!

[@anniechristie9693]

@@nener5441I’m right there with you. It feels good to not be alone but I totally sympathize. I walked away once but went back - now I’m trying to actually leave.

[@ryaa24]

searching ‘girls twerking’ on KZbin at his fossil age… my jaw is on the floor😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@KiraBKADestroyerOfWorlds]

He just proved that if he had really wanted to do right, he could have at any time; so the fact that he didn't, means he *chose* to mistreat you at every turn.

[@tiarachiffon8131]

Most definitely!

[@basedadri]

Exactly ! Daina was trying to keep the relationship together and he wasn’t

[@emmanuellakanga-dean4394]

I agree 100! He fed off of her and still wanted to eat wherever he could. Accepting Christ is one thing but changing your lifestyle vs actually wanting to live differently and glorify God takes a grace that we can’t fake

[@lashanew.1969]

After learning about all the "cheatations", What was his logic to actually playing cheating pranks on you. I remember a STD prank in the "big house" & a cheating prank in the car that involved your little sister. Like Why would you do that to your wife with your infidelity issues?! Happy you're in a better place Daina. I know it feels like a ton of bricks have been lifted off.

[@CCCMom_]

And everyone said sfe was overreacting little did we know

[@faceless.chronicles]

Omg i was thinking the same thing. I think she put all these videos back for us to watch again if we wanted to. She is free now, happy for her!

[@tiarachiffon8131]

Faccctss!!!

[@kenderellaaaxo]

Probably so the public wouldn’t believe her if she decided to come out about their issues sooner. He was planting small seeds of doubt so he wouldn’t look like the bad guy when the truth finally came out.

[@rinal1315]

Were these pranks after 2017 when he cheated first??

[@glamazontay]

it was the "if you aint gonna cover up fro me cover up fro Jesus" lmaoooo

[@Counting.sheepASMR]

Hearing all the crazy things one person can do to another person without feeling like crap is unbelievable to me. I will never be able to understand how some peoples brains work and how they get away with being completely trash. Im so glad you left him in the past and that you have become this strong woman I see before me. Your story is sad yet inspiring because sadly many of us go through this for way too long.

[@JaydeEmEff2]

Thank you so much for this series. I really hope you get all the coinss for it because you really deserve it. The part at 10:00 when you said you started to believe they’re not here for me they’re here for him. Broke my heart because he really affected your self esteem at that point and I’m so happy you’re able to break free and inspire other women. I just wish you the best on your healing journey ❤❤

[@TheLateBloomChronicles]

Giiiirl I am sooooo glad that you finally released it. I remember you were bothered and kept telling people to stop asking cause you weren’t gonna share. Thank you for SHARING. I hope it was freeing for you now that it’s out. Over 1k comments in 7hrs!!! 🎉👏🏽 You’ve helped so many women!!

[@SimplyQuietta]

He sound like a narcissist… I’m glad you are in a better space and able to talk about your past. Good job Daina’! I’ve been watching you for years now and never comment. But I’ve been going through a similar situation and hope to overcome it just like you. ❤❤ 🍾

[@danielle9635]

This is so raw. You definitely have a strong mental to be this open and vocalize. Anyone who’s been married can relate even if not at this capacity i know i did

[@PagingDr.O_]

A narcissist finding different avenues to manipulate and control you for his own benefit. He seriously needs therapy. Whew.

[@Amanda_T24]

Also you starting off this series in black dresses, the lights being red, drinking wine, then ending it off in a white dress, blue angelic lights, drinking champagne, kinda symbolising that you’re finally free. Its kinda giving Lemonade but your happy ending was you leaving. I LOOOOOVE IT!

[@lolita960]

Omg i didn’t even notice!!!! Wow

[@laureyworey]

Ain't nobody that can grip me with their story telling like Dainá! You are incredible and I hope you feel heard and valid. Ladies let's stop suffering in silence and instead keep putting our foot down and outing these cheating, manipulative men please!!!

[@colb7798]

7 minutes in and Ahmet's giving love bombing/narcissitic control hmmmmm let me not jump to conclusions. The wisdom and awareness you've grown from the situations shows! thank you for bravely sharing x

[@susannahall9650]

Daina' always remember this, when people come as confused as your ex was about when they will incorporate God, back and forth in your life when it convenient to do so...the scriptures lets us know God is not the author of any confusion! Your ex is all over the place!!! Even when we are faced with trials and tribulations, God offers us peace to withstand all of our burdens! God will not allow us to Mock Him by throwing Him in our life when it benefits our needs! I have walked with my Lord for a long time and I have a gift of discernment to see the fake liars who come pretending to know God! His discombobulated behaviour has obscured his ability to connect with God in the proper way! I hate when confused people, mess with the beauty of getting to know God for themselves, before they try to preach to others in this case to you!

[@WhatHowWhoTV]

This was a good story time and I’m happy for you and your decision to get out of that toxic marriage. You don’t have to put up with cheating and emotional abuse, not all men are like that and eventually someone with a pure heart will find you.

[@missylibra6416]

I honestly had to re-run FIN after watching these story times and it hits sooo different. We're here to support and wish you well Daina. Proud you had the strength to put yourself, your mental and niece first.

[@deej5608]

I had a feeling that once Aaliyah came into the picture it probably solidified you walking away INDEFINITELY. Children bring out another level in us GOOD AND BAD. THANK YOU FOR SHARING THIS STORY OF TRIUMPH WITH US ALL. U will inspire MANY❤‍🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥