What actually happens when you let go.

Attachment and desire are the root of all suffering. In this video, I want to show you the science of attachment. Join the High Vibe Tribe: aarondoughty.c...
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[@AaronDoughty44]

Hey! have you joined the High Vibe Tribe yet? its my new free community! I go live and do free workshops and meditations in there, join here! aarondoughty.com/highvibetribe

[@magen2525]

Joined

[@agam.5313]

@@AaronDoughty44 i cant

[@Jesusisking235]

My 3 relationship rules: 1. Let go of loved ones. They will come to you. 2. Ignore disrespectful people (keep out of my life). 3. Chase no person. Let them come to you. As a former clingy empath seeking constant validation, I’m amazed that people are now seeking my attention without even trying. It’s because I never give out FREE attention anymore and put 100% energy back to myself.

[@deec411]

@@Jesusisking235 Wonderful!! Happy for you ✨💖✨

[@nusratjahantumpa3579]

My inner child is so hurt & i always looked for validation & finally ended up getting abandoned.

[@louiseelliott6404]

Doing the work. 16 months out. Grieved the so called relationship, grieved the loss of myself too. In order to heal you have to feel. Happy to be alone. Unattached. Independent not codependent. Growing and learning, working on myself. I’m just doing me now. For once in my life.

[@trulystarr4507]

🎉

[@sandrawright8109]

I wish i could do that

[@problemslayer3538]

Keep going Louise I know it's tough. You will see the light again x

[@amandayes1999]

13 months. In the same zone. We are capable of letting go and choosing ourselves.

[@M.M.Mask83]

Well done, it gives me hope

[@richardleetbluesharmonicac7192]

This is probably your best video Remember, God will give you exactly what you want if it was meant for you and quickly

[@ginger96963]

Never does it say quickly

[@RohanRaj-jn4tj]

Lmao always the same shit meant for you , if it was not why it came lol

[@pablovolant13]

Yes! When you let go, you attract more abundance into your life. That's what I've found with my life. The more you detatch, the more you attract. For years, i always wanted to attract a partner out of desperation until i finally let go and didnt 'need' a relationship. I found self-love, i instantly attracted my soul mate. Everything happens for a reason. There is a lot of abundance in the world, all for you to enjoy if you trust the process. Much love 🙌

[@KingaGorski]

I never used to think things happen for a reason, but I've done a full 180 over the years. Everything indeed does happen for a reason and there are no small synchronicities 💫

[@pablovolant13]

​@@KingaGorski100% do you mind elaborating on your situation that made you realise everything happens for a reason

[@LukezyM]

@@KingaGorski No shortcuts..

[@cupidok2768]

Oh my God he's saying we have to let go attachment that means I have to stop watching this guy on KZbin because that's

[@TheRealMartin]

Just sounds like a cruel joke. You can't have what you want or need until you no longer want it. Fuck that shit.

[@sw2860]

This video isn’t even half way over and I’m healing from it, great teachings

[@thequeenmidas]

This is helpful. My take away is be happy now, and all the things that make you happy will come to you.

[@tb1493]

This is such good content. Honestly, spot on. Addiction and attachment is the same thing. Addiction to codependency. Loss of self worth, etc. Once you spend time on your own and detach from the codependency and attachments, you realize your worth. It's like constantly adding clean water to a water glass that still has dirty water in it and then drinking from it. Who wants to drink dirty water from a glass? Not me.

[@LizaLizzaaaa]

I did focused practises for a while. I just affirm or think very generally now. Thanking the universe for solving my long standing troubles and filling my life with miracles. Being grateful for sending me love and happiness. Being happy because I'm blessed. It relieves a lot of overthinking about the details of our manifestations and there isn't as much resistance. And blessings flow in and I get what i want.

[@deec411]

I let go of the want/need for a love relationship after being with the wrong man off and on for +11 emotionally abusive years. 2 weeks later I met Ed and he treats me like gold. Thank you Lord and universe!! ✨✨✨

[@Mbabloo97]

❤

[@ahmedyousef3541]

Hope you’re doing well with your new relationship. Just to let you know that after listening to those videos, I came to a conclusion that if you had been in a long toxic relationship .. you will be attracted to the new nontoxic relationship for awhile than you will feel that something is missing in this relationship which is the toxicity .. so you will leave this partner and find someone that has that a little bit of toxicity to make you feel your life is normal to you. The cycle will go on and this is why girls attracted to the toxic men. Then always will say I made the wrong choice :)

[@winnieamar9368]

So happy for you !

[@FreeFlow__]

2 weeks after and coming to conclusions? slow down

[@JoshuaAnzalone-zk5ht]

Im trying to teach others this as well,letting go helps you sooooo much and literally does make you magnetic

[@Ish-c1h9v]

I don't know how will I thank you Aaron. You changed my life brother ❤

[@HazelGuestOfficial888]

Oh I needed TO BE TOLD this! Thank you ❤ “Let Go & 🌟TRUST🌟🌌” is exactly my lesson Thank you for sharing as I’m going through this soul lesson right now in general for my entire life roadmap to unfold Divine timing as always with your message 💫

[@Rosethelegend]

Thanks so much for this. I felt like today I needed to hear this, especially what you said about relationships and not having time to heal in between. At the age of 39 I have rarely been on my own since 16 years. Now is the time. Thanks for giving me hope.

[@saadiqcruz]

You dropped this video exactly when i needed it!

[@pamelabrigtte]

My whole wheels were stolen yesterday, and I felt so defeated, I really needed this. I needed to let go of that feeling it was so overwhelming...Thank you Aaron!

[@Clevelandsteamer324]

Pray for those that stole from you. They must really be hurting in order to stoop this low.

[@juliaorpheus]

Hi, Aaron! Great talk about non-attachment 👍. I appreciate the distinction you made between attachment, detachment and non-attachment. It’s like a bicycle riding down a gentle hill on a curved road … pedaling heavily creates too much force risking a crash (attachment), riding the brakes (detachment) creates too much drag and immobility, and gliding keeps you moving forward in balance with the elements. (non-attachment). Happy gliding, everyone!! ❤

[@michael.gianotti]

That’s a great metaphor

[@lynnehendersonfisher]

A great visual anology easy to remember 😊

[@UniversoSpiritualUnido]

Every second you are helping others with these videos thank you 🙏🏾

[@Kookey-hu9cw]

I love your explanation of the difference between non attached and detached. Your work is such an eye opener and Ive learned heaps already. Thank you so much ❤

[@going2dabeach]

Aaron I have listened to your content for several years and it has always been great and engaging but your content this year is above the bar. It totally resonates with me and I hope it’s resonating with many. It’s the next level of information. Thanks so much please don’t stop doing your KZbin videos.

[@kharysmaharris449]

love the empath content as a empath myself

[@LetGoMeditationTimelines]

The content you shared is wonderful. Thank you very much. If we can let go of everything, we will be free.

[@millacolic]

There is something so earnest about you I enjoy and learn because of your sincerity

[@deepar4010]

When you actually let go off your ex, the bliss is unexplainable. It's like embracing God, light-weighted freedom. This is true when one lets go off anything.

[@ReikiMasterCarlie]

I really love your clear teaching on attachment. Very in-depth and inspiring. Make me reflect myself more. Thanks.🙏🏻

[@Whatworksthisworks]

I agree with this 💯 percent. When I was single and I didn’t want to to go out with any guys and just have fun that’s when I met guys. I found my husband 😊

[@babandeeprathore]

What’s for me will be for me. I’m always being guided to what’s good for me

[@afauntleroyafauntleroy]

I can hear the FEELING of your words in this message today. Very, very connected and I thank you more than I can express.

[@Iris11music]

..... this was just mindblowing. Everything I needed to hear. .. Thank you Aaron.

[@katjazaletel7297]

Great Video! Thank you☺🙏

[@sharonw2310]

I bought this book based on your recommendation and so far it's great. I'm only a few chapters in but it's been very helpful so far. I'll need to read it again. Thank you for mentioning it.

[@ascendednightingale2456]

Thank you so much for this. I'm having to let go of a friendship that means a lot to me, and this video is helping me get through the pain.

[@JoshuaAnzalone-zk5ht]

When you start rewiring your mind and emotional processes and let go of the subconscious minds programming you will definitely start to experience change

[@Christinekueblerartist]

It’s like when you have a job and it’s easier to find a job vs. when you don’t. You’re less needy.

[@freshdumpling]

No. My cousin has a very good job but she's looking for another and she never got it. She still had to stay in her toxic job.

[@thequeenmidas]

Yes, that happens a lot.

[@-_pi_-]

@@freshdumplingbecause her toxic job makes her “need” a new one instead of desiring what’s right

[@freshdumpling]

@@-_pi_- what's the difference between that? It's healthy to need a new job than stay in a toxic one. This guy is a long haired guy who is preaching pop woo woo stuff without no evidence and you're a follower of that and you sound sad.

[@-_pi_-]

@@freshdumpling I didn’t say I believe anything. Just playing devils advocate from that perspective

[@whiskeythrottle8680]

Seems like whenever I don’t watch these videos and forget about them for a minute then my life falls to peace’s and here I am again just listening is calming 🤙🏼

[@cdemreys]

Literally needed everything about this right now. Super helpful to truly heal from recent life events that shouldn’t have affected me so much in the first place. I just have to let go of her and especially the “story” of her that got convoluted in my head.

[@courtneytaylor333]

Been watching your old videos this morning!! I needed a review and a reminder😁 0:33

[@Babe.Ruth.In.Beirut]

Thank you, man. Needed to hear this. 🙏

[@KingaGorski]

Whenever we become attached and then find ourselves in the position where we must let go of something-all that energy that we've poured into the attachment we must then pour into ourselves, from a place of deepest self-love and self-respect. In my yoga teacher training, the yogic philosophy of *Aparigraha* really impacted me, meaning non-clinging or non-grasping. We all can hold on so tightly to things/people/identity/circumstances, especially those that ultimately aren't meant for us. It's not always easy to do, therefore why it's a continual *practice* of non-attaching, and often detaching 🙏

[@amandafisher7967]

A lot of the things that you talk about in your videos resonate with me and how I think. I feel attachments to friendships that have failed as well as romantic relationships! It is hard to let go of things that do not serve me well because of the memories that we had while we were together. Thank you for your personal stories on your videos! We all go through similar thought processes because of how we have always been taught and have been programmed! Have a wonderful Saturday! ❤

[@ieva8158]

WOW, so much truth and value in these 20 minutes!!

[@AzriRich88]

Good video, being able to let go and believe is an amazing journey of believe.

[@ClaudiaSacredBeauty]

Glad you mentioned Tony de Mello! he was one of my first mentors when my awakening started. Blessings your way dear Aaron! ✨💛🌙

[@alisonfriedman5288]

Wonderful explanation!! I definitely needed to hear this today. I’m also a bit curious about how you can tell when you’re being pushed away by another person, because THEY are in that “wanting” energy and attached to a certain outcome. 🙏💫

[@taylorwheeler8152]

Aaron, thank you for sharing your story and journey and all you have learned. Its made a huge difference for me. The first video I ever watched was about letting go. I was researching to understand what a friend was going through and I ended up realizing so much and have been learning from you ever since and even attended one of your live events. Been following about 2-2 1/2 years now. Thank you.

[@youssefhamidi8152]

Video came at the right time for me as Ive been stuck for too long. Ill have to listen to it more and more in order for it to really have it stick for me.

[@ElizabethRori]

Aaron!! This is an awesome video! I loved it so much! THANK YOU! I’m a member of High Vibe Tribe and I’m forever and ever grateful ❤

[@reciprocalhealing]

This was really well articulated and useful. Letting go… Thank you 🦋

[@angelinpdx2297]

💥💜💥 Powerful points! Thank you for the breakthroughs! 💥💜💥

[@Enderman-_-]

This was very helpful thank you.

[@violetcountry]

I need to listen to this daily!!! Helpful video and am aware but I get into this victim mentality...

[@NerdAlert66]

I enjoy this video. I have so many attatchment issues and have really bad history or dating and avoidant attatchment issues. This video is inspiring and gives me ideas to work on in therapy with my therapist

[@andreab.1943]

In this context, it would be interesting to take a look at the concept of "sunken costs". If you have already invested a lot in a person or project (time, energy, attention, money) or have given up something else that was also important to you, then it automatically becomes more difficult to let go of. The unhealthy belief pattern, which is also pushed in society, says that the more you have to fight for something, the more valuable it is. I am currently in the process of freeing myself from this pattern.

[@angelash9156]

This video is a timely one!Thank you so much for your wisdom,Aaron!❤️❤️🙏🏻🙏🏻

[@1artistvocalist]

You rock, Aaron!! This was excellent..I know it's true..Actually applying it is the challenge, at times..

[@susansherman9929]

Great video. Your explanation is so clear. It makes sense. Thanks man! ❤

[@BigBandLittleClub777]

Now I am interested in your drawings, you should share them, I think your grandmother and mother would love that! My mother passed away as well in 2019, she had an massive aneurysm in 2003 and lived for 16 years after however with a brain injury. Your videos are so insightful, this video hit home big time. I want to do the 6 month thing that you have coming up for sure, trying to find the funds everyday. Thanks again for all the insight, its true what you are saying here for sure. I joined high vibe tribe too.😊

[@Lisa-rn1tn]

I think there's a difference for men and women. No matter what happens in this life I'm living, I will forever be attached with my daughter. She grew inside of me, lived inside of me and came into this world from my body. I feel when something is not right with her because of the energy we share. That being said, I have found the middle so I'm not on either side of the extreme.

[@celest1alsphere816]

Thank you so much for this, I needed this advice so much!

[@jankeizer407]

This actually happened to me the past few years, after a sudden break. And is now again internally actual as an overview and detach the last strings to this trauma. At 13 my mother emotionally detached from me to protect me from fear of her illnes (cancer). Out of love. But I feit it and I lost the warm contact I always had with my mother. My dad has always been emotionally unavailable. Now 46 and healing from the fear of people leaving me. I've became highly aware of the real me. People see that awareness shining outward. I always inspired in my appearance. Now I start enjoying.

[@sarahf4612]

So sad to hear your story 😢

[@1ReikiFloW]

My dad used to read De Mello over 25 years ago, ha ha ha, you got a good eye for great stuff. Well said!

[@FelisaPagaran]

You are brilliant!! Thank you for helping the 🌎 world❤

[@carlinvicera]

The “12 dudes” caption got me 😂

[@EverythingTechTime]

Bro same 😂😂

[@Regina25655]

That was incredible

[@lindadelgadoturcerova3705]

Stories… now i understand… thank You. ❤️

[@Koora-sy4pd]

I have watched your video over 5 times thank you Aaron 🙏🏻❤

[@Tim3is]

Great explanation as always. Thank you 👍🏻

[@annettenaugler8177]

I am the cool kid in the leather jacket 😉

[@anweshaP14]

My ex did something unforgivable and now I just want revenge. That's a whole different energy and a whole different level of pain and a whole different can of worms. I am angry AND I WILL GET JUSTICE.

[@mattpuchniak5092]

Don’t do it brother, let go. Best revenge is becoming a better person. If she had it in her to do something unforgivable she was not the one you want to spend any more time then you did with. Be grateful she showed you what she is willing and capable of doing when she did, because it could have gone on years longer and you would have wasted more time on someone not worth it. It is so awful to accept that the person you loved so deeply and unconditionally is not the person you thought they were, it happened to me. Still accepting it. But living your life for yourself is the only way to heal, if you are constantly trying to live and do things to get revenge you will never heal because you will never get revenge in a way that matters. Become the person she regrets leaving, and you will find once you are that person you won’t want to take her back, no matter how perfect you think she is. Her external qualities and personality might have been perfect, but her internal qualities and behavioral characteristics clearly aren’t. Learn lessons, it’s hard to accept but nobody does bad things unprovoked, you could have been better just as I could have. The best part is that once a woman comes into your life that is WORTH IT, you will know from experience what to do and not to do. Easy to read, hard to accept. I’m still in the process 4 months in. It gets better and time heals, but only if you spend that time choosing to heal rather than dwell on her. Be stronger.

[@MassilAoudj]

This video healed me , thank you .

[@arpitasensharma4545]

Thank you Aaron🙏🕉♥️ I will surely buy those books on Letting go.. Thank you Shiv Baba Universe Angels ❤🕉🙏

[@magen2525]

Your awesome ❤ thxs for all the free knowledge you share friend. Keep it up 🎉

[@alexia0813]

It has actually happen to me my ex sold my dog, to this day I still don’t know where she is. Besides what he did, I just want to say thank you @aarondoughty for this wonderful journey and see you evolve and helping me in so many different ways - Thank you, much love, peace and namaste 🙏🏼💜

[@Clevelandsteamer324]

Horrible.

[@Clevelandsteamer324]

17:12 covert contacts are part of nice

[@avikchatterjee1945]

Really. I am all in seriously to be in Kafka-mode. His magnificent story The Hunger Artist is all about non-attachment.

[@Axito2]

Today I listened to Neville goddard, later in the library I read Joe Dispenza and it all is so true and empowering! Then I took some Osho 😂 I read one Sentence...it was something like " the unknown is aliveness and the known is dead" Straight, my heart started to jump & shine, happiness blubbles up and there I AM . Always funny when the "try to get somewhere in my life" gets totally outshone by this simple aliveness 🎉 Nothing to get, nothing to lose ... like in a dream ❤️

[@EranMesilati]

i LOVE YOUR VIDEOS ! AMAZING CONTENT

[@travishedge7244]

I love your videos ! Thanks Aaron !

[@rolleendasilva163]

How timely is this message 🙌🏼🥺

[@FelisaPagaran]

Thank you so much for this video! It makes sense and it works!!

[@gseanlake9765]

Awesome Aaron, thanks. Another great video.

[@jessicapattison4734]

I love the Grandma connection with the marker. So funny😅

[@inspirationflows]

😂

[@MadaTangdilallo]

Thank You Aaron This is the mentel body understending of what what the l Believe Of love Jesus in my life more.

[@jdegrulo]

This guy is a freakin true

[@anweshaP14]

THIS is wonderful

[@trulystarr4507]

💯🏆 Thank you so much, Aaron. I needed this refresher today! What perfect timing

[@v77scorpio41]

Believe attachment is apart the human path. It’s our job to use like a tool, balance it out, and not rid it completely. Or how else can one enjoy life? Desire at some point is innate if someone’s hungry needs to eat, to live. Desire for good health forces egotism to workout. Normal. Attachment to healthy concepts is balancing its embedded nature.

[@heartlightmagic]

Great wisdom, thanks for sharing.

[@user-zj7cb3ku6u]

I really love your music in the background. Is it possible getting the Sound? Thank you for your beeing. Thank you for your words. Thank you for supporting our journeys.

[@dijanaboskovic]

You are AWESOME!

[@Economist999]

First video watched from you and deserved a sub

[@Enasaltahir]

It reminds me of when I was doing my masters degree, there’s this one semester that I was super busy at work and also at home, and my exams were coming up I couldn’t keep track of my studying schedule which is something that is important to me. Then I was like I’ll just do my best every day and try to pass my tests,, Guess what!! I got 3.95 out of 4 which was my best result during my masters 🎉 I wasn’t attracted to the outcome 🎉❤

[@zanryoshin]

I mean, we have to take this things with a grain of salt. I've never shown interest at all on searching love, and all that I got was being 25 and not even had one relationship. Its for sure that if we look maniatic trying to make things happen, nothing will happen, maybe even get worse, but, we can't stay being on the ''im attracting people'' vibe since its not gonna last forever, people lose interest in you if you don't do anything, and that's how I ended.

[@TheRealMartin]

This just feels like a real cruel joke by the universe.

[@MotivateInspireRepeat]

Excellent video thank you so much sending you highest love and light 🤍

[@CleanSweetHome]

Thank you best video on KZbin 😚

[@MoaGus]

Needed to hear this❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥

[@kylegold5345]

I was rejected by a girl who I started to like a lot at college. It's been a year and I still get thoughts of her and the multiple moments/interactions I've had with her. After graduating recently and saying goodbye to her, what I am struggling with is letting go of the thoughts of "I could've/should've done better" even though I know deep down I did everything I could. When she rejected me, she told me she wasn't looking to be in a relationship anytime soon and wanted her focus on school and the other things she had going on in her life. I've been fortunate to be able to still put myself out there to other people but when the times come when I'm by myself, and not occupied, the thoughts of her creep in.

[@babatjietiro]

U told yourself everything u told yourself about her...when ever the thoughts come answer itt

[@Annanhunny]

Your hair and facial hair look great dark brown like this.

[@basuta-dshrara]

I really needed this thank you!

[@krobbins8395]

This is the mental body understanding of what the Buddha was trying to teach but there is two other things to consider and that is the emotion and physical bodies. A great book is the Body Keeps the Score.Just like you said you are not looking and building the love within yourself and oh boy you attract many people that want to fill their cup from yours and another relationship ends like the one before. The Buddha and Christ built their energy so much they radiated it. Attachments that one makes to another that ends up causing trauma is will always needing healing but filled cups make more energy. There is a alchemy to love, brain chemicals like that old movie Chocolat with Depp lol. Once you create love bonds and not let it turn into trauma bonds which might mean being very selective and perhaps having none which is often confused with having less love lol.

[@youarethecreator]

About that ex: Admiring ex is a totally different feeling, than the best option which is always unconditional love. If you truly love your ex , you can create "happy divorce" easily. We do NOT have to and we should not judge our ex-partners. Nobody is ever guilty, we are always creating all tragedies we experience by ourselves. When we feel pure compassion the "wrong" partners automatically disappear from our llife, because in the mental state of pure love we attract only experiences, which we truly want.