Just let them go.. I promise you'll be okay

How to let go of a strong attachment we may have to someone.
#relationships #heartbreak #attachment #love #romance

[@medman6649]

Here's the thing guys. We built this attachment up in our own minds. Thinking "this is the the one". But if it didn't work out, she wasn't the one. Focus on yourself and the Universe will bring you what you need.

[@SliceofHeaven1984]

Men date equal or above them, never below. My ex somehow thought I was below 😞. Oh well, that is all relative fortunately.

[@Sustainablewealth777]

​@@SliceofHeaven1984 it's not a competition

[@JadaGates]

It’s hard after 5 years, a waste of 5 years. But it’s also freeing to no longer be a slave to the abuse…

[@johnnyjackjoe]

"If you love somebody set them free"

[@Sustainablewealth777]

If they come back , don’t take them back , no body wants them 😂😂😂😂

[@JadaGates]

@@Sustainablewealth777 I needed this!!! lol thank you

[@frankiethomas1683]

I think the best advice is mentally going back into the relationship and reviewing everything, you’ll see that yeah maybe they were nice and it was good when it was good but if you look honestly you’ll see fundamentally there was something really wrong

[@SliceofHeaven1984]

But it's hard to put myself out there again, but I'll do what I have to do .

[@SliceofHeaven1984]

For me, it's just the fact that this person let me go for stupid reasons. I waited so long to try and find a good, loving, supportive partner... I'm 40 now and I don't know, the older I get, the more I am beginning to think true real love exists maybe only with parents (or even just yourself), other love is just a farce. If my ex thinks he can find someone prettier, kinder, etc. then so be it, I know my worth. And I know the special qualities I am able to share with someone and that's not something I take lightly, at least not anymore.

[@myselfasevan]

My heart goes out to you and what you went through. I know it’s not easy. Love is a bit of a farce. In my opinion, most humans aren’t evolved enough to truly love another. Most of us haven’t even accepted ourselves fully. That’s why we’re still bouncing around from person to person like apes.

[@SliceofHeaven1984]

@@myselfasevan A lot of people are judgemental these days, including those I sadly got close to. Even people I WASN'T able to get close to. They were not only SELFISH in their ways, but yeah, judge left and right. It's SADLY become the norm (not to mention POPULAR) to do that, and to be a bad person. People have become too much in my (non-humble) opinion. They judge as if they are more perfect than you or better than you. Arrogant!

[@karensinclair4922]

I’m older than you and I completely understand and agree with what you are saying

[@innavision1920]

I think the point is to grow into love through the creation of family which is passed on through parent-child. Romance and s3xual passion aside from this important part are essentially meaningless because it does not fulfill what’s it’s ultimate end is meant to be.

[@innavision1920]

Yeah bro it’s tough. I think especially after conflating your spiritual journey with a relationship be it through concepts of “twin flame” or “soul mates” you get extra attached to this idea that you need them to fulfill your spiritual purpose when that is not the case

[@myselfasevan]

That’s a really good point!

[@indyd9322]

Exactly! I once heard someone ask a spiritual teacher if soulmates were real. He replied "God is your true soulmate". It's so true. People can come and go, but God will never leave you.

[@safelander7811]

I needed this. Was broken up with 2 weeks ago, and have been virtually housebound since, feel like my body is shutting down from the pain. I can't stop thinking about this person, but I know I must let them go in order to be truly free, that there's no going back. I realise this person would never get back together with me anyway, so what's the point in fantasy, but I cling to it anyway. Looking forward to finally being free.

[@myselfasevan]

You will get there. The first few weeks will be the hardest. It gets easier as time goes on.. keep letting it go.

[@Paula-ht1ke]

❤

[@CTHD13]

Be patient with yourself, give it a few months!

[@FranchescaEscotoPrestol]

Thank you ❤ just last night I realized after 4 years of “off and on” that I need to let go, he will never be with me.

[@briechilli4496]

Don’t look back. Keep walking. I wish you all the best

[@LorenaBerrenbaum]

Wow! I felt literally had knife stuck in my heart. Now I'm going strong. I hope he heals too cuz hes not bad person, we have both issues that needs to heal.❤❤❤❤

[@Weeflowerofscotland]

I asked for a sign , and your video popped up. So I know what to do . Painful but true . Much love to all out there going through this ❤

[@sanjeevkumarbagarty3180]

You value that person 10x but but actually they are -x , give time everything will be ok 👍 good work bro love from 🇮🇳 india

[@misson_amission]

If we can attach so easily then we can detach as easily as well.This has always been my mindset and it always works.Thank you for this video 😊

[@pn7134]

I did attach to him easily 7 years ago. Now he is leaving me and no, I must disagree, it is super difficult to detach

[@misson_amission]

​@@pn7134 I empathise with you and I pray you find your way to detach.Grief is inevitable

[@monat_son]

bro, its so hard.

[@myselfasevan]

I know brother.. i know. Stay strong.

[@coolbaj]

I can only hope it feels better. It's been 10 years and my ex still plays over in my head, I'm messed up- and no therapy has fixed me. I just accept I may always be this way. I let them go awhile ago. Some people rebound in a week. Try ten years. I am free. I am good. I am love- this is my philosophy now. I'm grateful for a lot in my life. I'm grateful for my body and its patience.

[@hbk2akajoker]

sending much love to you in your journey currently letting go of the one i love the most and what hurts about it is they love me back we just do not know how to be together peacefully. ❤️‍🩹

[@coolbaj]

@@hbk2akajoker I felt that. My partner and I are similar- we love each other but our lives do not match and neither of us did good trying to do better. Thank you we will heal🙏✨ much love to you

[@reciprocalhealing]

This is very good advice. You have to decide 100 per cent it is not them and let them go, mourn. It can be hard to face the truth when the other person has constructed themself as a lie that they’ve presented as truth but once you see it, keep hold of that and don’t go back! You are worthy of being free and better will come once the blockage from that old energy is removed. Thank you for sharing your wisdom ❤

[@rahulrao567]

I’m going through the same emotion, I feel betrayed, and want to be the one to dump her. But at the end of the day, she was toxic. I feel sometimes getting her back would be the last thing that I want; but other times, it just feels like why couldn’t this work! It’s so frustrating when it takes a chunk of your energy, focus & time!

[@COLOFIDUTI]

man...i needed to hear this.Thank you

[@mermaidlu5125]

Let go of family and toxic friends too .

[@erikas9945]

Yup

[@LoveFaithLive]

Wish the _Someone Else/Better Will Come Along_ was always true.

[@user-yl3kc4fh8g]

Thanks so much! Especially if the person is still married but separated. He was never emotionally available. Life is short, it's time and it's just a matter of time to feel better. Happiness can only be found inside yourself, not in other people.

[@gralbr]

For me, I realized that she left me know other path. My dignity was at stake here. I needed to preserve my dignity. In my case though, it was a case of my ex’s binge drinking, alcoholic son interfering with her mother’s relationship with me. Respect for self is critical for your dignity. Shame on the alcoholic son, who could not accept her mother’s sober boyfriend. Truth, I will never be an enabler for a man that I saw drink a 12 pack and then put my girlfriends grand daughters into his car for a 100 mile ride home. I also witnessed her son, who was a Police Officer, dink a 6 pack of beer, while in his Police Uniform, the hour before he got in his truck and drove to work. The mother could not see wrong in her son under any circumstances. The son knew I was a strong personality, and would never be an enabler to his drinking. I was left with no alternative than to separate from her. We had such a great connection and enjoyed each other so much. Such a shame the mother let the alcoholic son manipulate her away from me.

[@carolmartin4413]

Painful yes...but reattach successfully can occur.

[@Superconsciouscreations]

I resonate with this message. Thank you ❤

[@phyliciaboyd541]

I love this. Thank you.💜

[@HankMcCoy888]

I had moved on from people by dating others. It helps to move on.

[@simonthewatchguy6073]

Thanks for the video. Just out of a very difficult breakup. Long story short: we dated for 2 years, she said she had some of the best times of her life with me and was going to move from the USA to UK to live with me (we'd met up several times for weeks at a time, talked for 2 years every single day, saved up, made plans) ..... only for me to get really very ill during the two years - and she didn't care whatsoever. She then revealed she was a dismissive avoidant due to childhood trauma and she told me after 2 years and being engaged that she didn't want to move away from her sister (who she lives with in the USA). All my dreams, hopes....all shattered into a million pieces. 2 years gone. I'm in the process of letting her go and trying to learn lessons of things I did right and wrong during the relationship so I am a better partner for someone else in future.

[@myselfasevan]

Thank you for sharing. I am sorry to hear about this. But you are definitely doing all of the right things.

[@mariadoyle1973]

Very well stated, it's illusionary

[@rene7620]

Damn bro another banger video💥

[@msmanager2775]

It’s the most difficult when the people you want to let go is your mother and brother. If it’s intimate partner you don’t have to see that person ever again if choose not to. But it if it’s your family it’s doubly hard.

[@thorpe1178]

I'm telling you bro i know a handful of people who never experience heartbreak in their life they don't know anything about how to detach, they met 1 person & stay with that person until death, buddy of mine has been married to the 1st woman he met for 27 years now Having said that, nowadays with these current generations it's becoming more rare

[@marcisanchez5781]

Thank you so much!

[@thepxshmagazine6002]

This actually works you gotta give it time

[@diddydarn1872]

Really good video thank you!

[@marydellgeorge2425]

Needed this Needed this So very much❤

[@user-vk2yc8cq8w]

yes good advice

[@marydellgeorge2425]

Had to listen again You are a Great Teacher

[@myselfasevan]

Thanks :)

[@ryanjackson3777]

Great Video, broke up from a relationship 2 weeks ago, I will use this learned knowledge to understand I need to let them go, and if I think about them, learn that its not meant to be, and if I romanticise about them Its limerence and just fantasy, I will practise this and try to be present when I feel these emotions and find peace, I understand this will takes months may even take years but I'm heading in a good direction. Thankyou. Also I really like the necklace you are wearing where did you get it from?

[@DermotHynes]

Thank you Godbless

[@lucasforsey7329]

I feel like I'm still getting over the attachment and the grief of losing my best friend and the woman I was with last year this time around we were best friends for about 5 years previously, started a year-long relationship moved in together then a year later she tells me she wants a break and to move out to give her space so I did that we were still hanging out a bit on the side so I thought maybe we could work on it or maybe be friends. Still, she ended up ghosting me and never talking to me again it devastated me cause I did everything I could to be the best person I could to her and be there for her then she did that to me ... I know I have to move on cause it's hurting me. Still, my self-confidence, and my own struggles I deal with just made me feel 100 times worse about life It's been a rough year of moving on I know I'm only 28 and I have more life to live .. I just don't understand why in the past i was able to move on from past relationships but then here its an ongoing struggle to move on and try to forget I just thought me and her would go far ... Thanks for this video I appreciate the advice Evan

[@SeigoSaiga]

Thanks man

[@shadowsofyou]

Thank you

[@communitychannel6188]

Excellent video.

[@myselfasevan]

Thanks for watching 🙏

[@Lunarrproject]

I need it for real

[@marydellgeorge2425]

Glad Thankful I found You❤ Hope you can Help me let GO

[@Anastasia-oy2zp]

Love u

[@ChloexPrice]

Thank you! I am in an awful situation at the moment.. We met online and talked the whoooole day for like 3 weeks. We had a really great bonding already and were planning to meet each other. She asked me if I want to date her and I told her that I want to meet her first. She was getting so angry and is not talking to me anymore. Since we've talked SO much every day, I feel like I lost someone really important. I tried to talk to her again yesterday and she was getting so angry! I received voice messages saying that I'm annoying and a waste of time since I don't want to already date her :( It's bad.. (Sorry for my english!)

[@myselfasevan]

She did you a favor. That already sounds like a nightmare and you guys didn’t even date yet lol.

[@ChloexPrice]

@@myselfasevan Yeah, it was very creepy actually! Why would I date someone I have never met before?? But she was SO good in giving me a lot of beautiful emotions.. Awful! I kinda hope she will not text me again, but at the same time I would like to know why she was in a rush :D Thanks for your answer!! :)

[@antonhanzel7232]

I'm just going through it. but it's the other way around, the woman wants to stay, but I'm afraid that I'll lose my freedom on the spiritual path. it is hard.

[@myselfasevan]

Yes. I struggle with that as well. I actually have a video idea lined up speaking about dating on the spiritual path.

[@antonhanzel7232]

@@myselfasevan yes, make a video on this topic. I'm interested in your thoughts, mate

[@tela2171]

By the end of the video, i cried. We think they are perfect. No. I AM perfect. Who ever chooses me is perfect! Btw, do you wear lipstic? 😂

[@myselfasevan]

No but maybe I’ll start 💋

[@rolloff1218]

👍👍👍

[@IWearACrown]

Are we supposed to detach from loved ones that have passed away? Such as a parent or a child?

[@myselfasevan]

You can, yes. But I was mostly speaking from the perspective of romantic attachments.

[@LondonBridge99]

I hope you’re doing okay. You may want to find other videos about grief and moving on from passed loved ones. Those would probably help more. Much love

[@mcostilla7603]

Well my husband let me go so fast just got separated now he’s with someone else . While I’m broken hearted and trying to move on .

[@myselfasevan]

Hope you heal soon.

[@TK-xw5db]

I’m done with relationships

[@dougbenton8767]

Grow up

[@ryanschock5619]

Thank you for sharing this 🫶 practice = progress