What Almost Separated Us & How To Overcome A Porn Addiction | Finding The One #6

In this week's episode of Finding The One, we continue our journey talking about the internal struggle Jen had when she realized that Danny didn't match the common societal standards of a partner for her. We also go over the issue behind pornography, how men can take steps to heal from the need of watching it, and how women can hold space for that.
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[@Soul_whisperer_]

The thought "He is the one" can cause so much fear in that very moment so that it is easy to get so frightened as if your life was in danger and all you wish is to run away. I understand so deeply what happened to Jen at that very Friday.

[@BlueJustice12]

I love the interactions between you two. I love that you don't edit out the small awkward moments and listening to you. I just feel like two friends are telling me a story and it's like the best story ever 😅

[@emanuelagratiela2739]

The episodes are way too short🥺 on a more positive note, I’m always impressed by the degree of vulnerability and honesty you’re both showing up here and I’m beyond grateful for you two existing as an inspiration🤍 And I’m also having an aha moment related to my struggle to quit smoking. I related it to the question about porn which I also used to consume a lot, and also quite of an addiction to bdsm, which I used to be a pretty big of a fan of, and lately, while I was experiencing some thing that I used to crave, I not only understood, but also felt how this is just not cool for me anymore, they are just not parts of my identity because I’m a totally different person. Without any judgement to the people that like it, I understand their journey, but for me, no, thank you. So my eternal question of ‘what do I need to do to quit smoking?’ just turned into ‘who do I need to become to just not enjoy smoking anymore?’. Because after many trial and errors, I know now that I’m just not the person to force myself into quitting a behaviour. Thank you so much for this!

[@chaony9]

I look forward to this podcast every Monday. Thank you for being so authentic, it is so healing 💖

[@SRTsoulsessions]

Me too!

[@Souhaird]

❤❤❤ I feel humbled and intrigued as to all what you have went through and how you allowed your heart to open to one another … how the Universe brought you together … REALLY EVERYTHING ❤❤

[@aleksandraadamczyk6433]

I admire this raw honesty between you two, love the podcast! ❤

[@xtinauben1652]

When in an aya journey I asked the shaman that I wanted to finally connect to my lost femenine essence. In ceremony, the more I connected with my femenine the more the masculine started sighing loud, purging, creaming all the pain of all this masculine engrained sexual part, I was very hard they also carry a lot of burden. After the ceremony she told me to let the femenine in, the masculine has to go out, it applies to you, the ceremony room, the universe to everything. Thanks for sharing your journey, really an eye opener of how hurt we both are. Lets go hand by hand and change the world into love. THANKS !! Love ya ;)

[@Enherje22]

I’ve really appreciated your podcast. Part of my self discovery journey, this book appeared in my life and it was called, “Calling in The One”. by Katherine Woodward Thomas. The synchronicities around how the book came, I found it was about finding myself and have been on a journey since 2008 to heal myself, my ancestors and change the cycles. Today hearing you both talk about the dishonoring of women with the base sexual needs of men hit me differently and see from a deeper perspective. Like Jen, I just expected that all men were like that but deeply wanted to feel respected. Hearing you talk from a healed version from the males perspective, gives me a deeper realization that I have held a safe space for men in past to heal but they weren’t on their own healing journey to come out of it and it deeply affected my growing journey. I have been single for 2 years and celibate for some time now to heal that part of myself and generationally, and see how I need to feel honored when in that space. Thank for sharing your story, the vulnerability of your conversations. I know I do and will connect with someone on this level, and it will be a matter of time when we are in each other’s lives to go to the next level of ourselves.

[@bearojas2941]

At 4:44 … you can’t made up this things!!! I got tears in my eyes 🥹 the beauty of the 🍄… thank you for sharing ✨🙏🏽✨

[@our.secret1130]

I relate to her story. My bf is 15 years older and no one approves. But we cannot leave each other. We have synergy. He’s my best friend

[@RalucaTopor]

What a beautiful episode! Thank you guys for your hearts 💕 and for openly sharing your journey

[@MissPattyNYC]

I love the dynamic between you two 😂

[@zoemurray8441]

Insane. I just had this moment. And then I found your podcast. Thank you, for creating this.

[@luvbellaaa1]

Love the show! I feel like every time I watch this show it’s been a reflection of my own journey with my relationship almost like a confirmation.

[@vanissapiselli3476]

I appreciate so much the dynamic and struggle you guys share and it makes so much sense. I see the angst and heartache that was necessary, in order to find the clarity and happiness with one another. Thank you for sharing and giving me hope.

[@yazkay9248]

Jen’s North London coming out of her…. Hun!! 🤣🤣🤣 Thank you for sharing your story, has made me realise that meeting someone isn’t always straight forward/ fairy tale ❤

[@theartistfelencia1148]

Such a real open conversation ❤

[@cristinasava9394]

Thank you guys for your vulnerability, lessons and guidance!!!

[@francoburrows4166]

You two are fantastic guys. Powerful stuff ❤

[@Geertrui9880]

These are such beautiful moments. Feeling connected through the heart ✨energy and allowing myself to feel hear it. Thank you for sharing 🫶🏽

[@auroramirante127]

thanks for sharing! Just never stop to do that podcast! I’m so happy to ear your conversation p! Can’t wait for the next episode already ❤

[@leozlatkovic]

Thank you so much Danny & Jen🙏 This whole podcast series is so touching, inspiring and helpfull. Coming just at the right time and confirming many things I have been feeling and thinking about. Very grateful for everything you're offering🙏❤

[@vuongthi]

can't wait till next ep

[@Julie-pd2jn]

Unbelievable! You took the words right out of my heart. ❤

[@user-os5vv4fb7t]

awesome!! Thank for the courage and leadership with what real love looks like

[@nahalmashiah8047]

Thank you !!! So happy to listen to you 🙏🙏🙏

[@danielledaniels6749]

I have been waiting all week. I'm in growth, happy place 🌸💖

[@zingisamalusi5032]

Thank you 😊 for this episode

[@ChristinaKM]

As usual a fantastic episode

[@lenaashley]

I love all of your podcasts. Thank you for being so open and honest through it all. You both are amazing! ❤ I am on the same spiritual path, so I relate alot to what you both are talking about! 🙏

[@theblissfulknowing]

This is such a wonderful podcast! Thank you both so much for being incredible inspirations to so many! 🙏💞

[@krutigs4416]

Love the podcast and listening to real conversations about getting clear about what you truly want in a relationship you guys are cute❤

[@noushnrz2818]

These podcasts are just getting more & more magical ✨️ Thank you guys sincerely for sharing your truth, I cried my eyes out when you bring the deep feminine hurt to light at the end of the Q&A ✨️ #sograteful 🤍🙏

[@astridniels4314]

Thank you for this series. It is beyond soothing and inspiring at the same time. So much insights and wisdom is covered. You both are a #dreamteam, also for us. ☀️🍊

[@trakalosabby]

This love is deep. Spiritually and metaphysically deep!!! Vibrating the 5D love💗

[@Sarra-fm5wf]

I thank you enormously for sharing this, it's of a huge value to me

[@merlininti]

Could you guys share more about your experience and knowledge about the aliens please. Also what I found interesting was trying to explain how to know if you are getting messages from source or your mind. Something I'm struggling with. Would love to know more about that too. Sending you 💕 and excited to see more of you two.

[@AlgoDeAlondra]

Love you two! ❤ But waiting a whole week for another episode is insanity 🫠😂 please do more of them, or make them longer 🙏🏻

[@anniemay09]

Just so good, thank you!!❤

[@katherineortiz7287]

Yesss because ego can only be overcome when it has faced itself.

[@nba543]

"Here was this guy who is thisbperfect guy, and then you have Danny........ Lmaooooooo

[@gnicoleg8888]

Beautiful episode ❤️

[@Livelife87875]

Thank you for story, sending love from Dubai

[@mohammed.bkhalil]

Great & Authentic Podcast✨️

[@angelamccold1104]

Man, I just love you guys so so much ❤

[@amandakizilkaya5547]

Is there somewhere in Turkey that I can get hold of any kind of "medicine "? I want to try so much. I think you both are amazing 👌xxx

[@elinabek2373]

Great episode

[@amsalrahim7430]

But then isn’t why he chose her a lot of “surface level” stuff too? Cuz clearly him & her didn’t align romantically. A lot of the relationship feels like he’s convincing her to see his value

[@eleonorarusso3481]

But guys hold on!!! I need to know what happened AFTER Jen’s meeting with the handsome dude! Did she call and apologised? There seem to be a gap between this date Jen had and you inviting her to go to Italy. I mean, she told you you weren’t the one. So why and how did you invite her to go to Italy? Can’t leave people hanging like that 😂😂😂

[@carmencolonhome]

I loved this episode!

[@moncyliu99]

You guys should start a dating app for the people who follow you and your students so that we can meet like-minded people that are on the same page with your teachings. This would save us soooo much time😅

[@lukasgisler]

I love this podcast.

[@TheWilDOn31]

I receive answers and guidance from God without any medicine. If I just take a few moments to myself to relax and just be, words actually come to me. For example yesterday morning as I just woke up, not feeling well, before getting out of bed, I received the question "do you think you're different from others?" and I immediately answered "no", realising that before I would have answered "yes" - my own answer positively surprised me. I understood right then that we all have our struggles, problems, no one is better or worse, not to judge and not to feel separate. It may not mean much to others, but to me it was a huge deal for what I have been dealing with. So I got up and went on with my day as hard as it was - which actually ended up being an amazing day in so many ways, like a pillar for my life.

[@danielleknoetze2210]

Love you twooooo!!! ❤️

[@angelssurround444]

A little confusing..Danny, you said Jen was the one and you knew knew and said it took a tremendous amount of trust to know if you truly love the person you have to let them go, no matter how painful.. but then you said you set up 8 dates right after she said you weren’t the one. Do you see how what you just said prior then doesn’t make any sense? That you knew your worth, but setting up 8 dates in your pain? It’s naturally human, I’ve been there but what the truth really seems like in that moment was that it was a true mirror with Jen. To me, you were showing same unsureness mirroring Jen. So what was happening in the moment truly was a perfect mirror of what was going on in both of you? ❤

[@lraejo]

You guys are fucking epic!

[@alovespecialist]

To the point about people in porn: being able to hold space for people and how they express sexuality is important. We are all on our own journey and shame is not the way to evolution, only love empowers. Creating a sense of separation by saying a group of people are “wrong” is an egoic judgement. A more compassionate perspective is to honour the feminine there as well by respecting and giving kindness in a space that so easily can be labelled “wrong”. Light because we don’t need to shame others to validate our wellbeing. It’s so easy to call the dark something wrong but the dark is yin. You can’t honour the feminine and say it’s holy one way and unholy the other. It simply is and so, a clear dialogue is one that is grounded in speaking the truth without judgement. Feminine is the darkness and this is an example where she isn’t given the grace for the fact that its existence allows stars to shine and twinkle for the world. Addiction comes from shame. Respect and honour to all the people in the industry for holding us all as we navigate our sexuality. Courage to be compassionate and grateful for all the people in the industry for teaching us how to honour of sexually. I trust that all is well and nothing is wrong, we are all on our path of becoming. We can be sacred and joyful at the fact we’re all alive and exercising our lives! Love comes in all ways.

[@kw2300]

Question, relating to the conscious porn discussion, what about sex education? ... could there not be a space where one could be taught how to make love, how to please yourself, please your partner, without the dark origins of porn?

[@afaffa4841]

Thanks ❤❤❤❤

[@mermigas6]

I so much agree with everything you say and the way you are communicating spirituality ✨️❣️ when it comes to p○rn...the thing is that most of men out there don't even consider it as an addiction or something that they have to work through! They think that it is sooooo normal that we have to "do something " and see it in a different way/don't get upset/and maybe even don't be so modest or "old-times" !! They are not even aware of what they are doing..... 🙄 ?.....

[@lisalahm4745]

True and even women accept it like it’s „normal“ or better to say a healthy behaviour. But what i don’t really understand in this episode is that even after his spiritual awakening they had an issue in their relationship about it. That doesnt really make sense for me why would anyone that truly loves himself and his partner want to watch porn?

[@mermigas6]

@lisalahm4745 maybe because "awakening" is a path... They are not saints ! None is 😉 🙏🏻

[@lisalahm4745]

@@mermigas6 of course not and its not about being perfect or doing the right thing we are all on our own paths but i just don’t understand why would someone that has felt true & intense love got attracted to it. I can understand that Jen was wondering about the Why

[@mermigas6]

@lisalahm4745 of course she would wonder about it!! Who wouldn't?! ... but the reason is probably his personal path and wounding 😉🙏🏻🩷

[@callmetheduc]

Hello there, Danny, Jen and the world. Loving so far watching and listening to you guys. From France 😊 Lots of your words resonate in me, and kinda aligned with how my perspective goes these past years. I don’t know if anyone will happen to read this comment however I will throw the bait nonetheless: would love to hear some thoughts about dealing with homosexuality through the healing process of the « masculine » and « feminine ». Do you still believe that in that case the gender roles co exist? somehow one of the two women will provide as the « masculine » whereas the other one receive as the « feminine » for instance? If anyone of you have some articles, podcasts to share about this, will love to receive. Hopefully, I made my point clear enough 😅 cheers to everyone, good day to y’all 💛

[@traudelpauly-kurz6850]

Where can I send my question too?

[@user-ut6cb7mq3n]

Whew. The porn part and the dishonoring of women was so triggering for me.

[@Moon_Dancers]

Curious to know what is the age gap between you two?

[@michellecampos7455]

Beautiful

[@mexzacatecana]

Love them ❤❤❤❤

[@naw147]

Lol. I love you guys. Noor

[@truditrulove]

🔥🔥🔥🔥

[@r0semary812]

How many grams of 🍄 did you take during ceremony and how much would you suggest for a spiritual experience? Thanks

[@Cari0326]

Wait.. did I hear her say she took mushrooms?

[@carolcharlton9256]

❤

[@user-mt1nm4kr6g]

4:25 Jen stop talking 😂

[@yildizpirgali9275]

❤❤

[@KingJulian_111]

❤️🦋

[@MindfulOverMatters]

Loved the 4:44 synchronicity 🤍 I’ve been seeing that specific sequence EVERYWHERE 🌟

[@dietante494]

This is so amazing! 🤍✨ thank you so much..🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

[@nataliakmiecik7254]

❤❤