What Are the 16 Personalities' Biggest Regrets in Life?

[@FrankJames]

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[@nick.r9222]

Please make a video on 16 personalities who crushes on who

[@lifefan1]

Can you do a serious video of how 16 personalities should cope with depression please?

[@evelyngarcia8860]

I feel so bad with myself couse I didn't see the live video when you post it and I Just can saw the last part of it 😭😭😭 Im a bad fan, Im sorry 😔 I Love you and I ❤️your videos

[@elises8825]

@@lifefan1 Depression is a serious health condition and treatment completely varies person to person. Lessening depressive symptoms is not related to MBTI - please seek out a mental health professional www.nimh.nih.gov/health/find-help/

[@lifefan1]

@@elises8825 Thank you for your concern, but I think MBTI is kinda related since it is about cognitive functions and how brain works.

[@wouldntyouliketoknowweathe19]

Breathing. -INTJ

[@emanuilgoshev350]

Nice name you have, however not so nice picture

[@jessiewolf3076]

Hello fellow bisexual🌈😁

[@NedAznir]

I know, I'm feeling it too - INTJ

[@nrmlyaroy7135]

Yee

[@laketoya44]

True

[@mariaeddyfuentes4497]

I'm an INFP and my biggest regret was not able to say what you want to say and do what you think really matters just to avoid an argument.

[@nymkea9765]

No because same

[@CaveyMoth]

Yeahh...I've always followed the path of least resistance. So I get stuck in places where I don't want to be. And I get in trouble because I lie just to avoid arguments.

[@patriciarose2342]

INFP tend to have low energy, tired a lot. So keep that in mind as well. I find we choose our battles bc we don't want to die on just any hill.

[@5idi]

ISFP - same story. All those type experts say we should learn to do Te, what works for others, and not just what we want, but in reality, often what we really need is to learn to not be so scared and powerless facing others. I'm 30 and I've been terrified and miserable for half my life, and then tried to Te explain myself and work it out with people for 10 more years until I learnt to ignore others enough and concentrate on my own needs. Still struggling, but at least I feel right with my direction.

[@greatwavefan397]

Same, but as an INTJ-T, I always lose.

[@peppermintmoon9484]

*Me as a INFP currently ignoring text messages and interactions with people and being in my own world planning out goals* “... okay that hit a bit too close to home”

[@footballlover9207]

Fellow INFP here. That hit me hard as well. Lol

[@suly-chan6342]

Me too :(

[@DankerEagle-lr3qj]

I've been ignoring a group chat for months and maybe a year, I don't know if some of them remember me

[@patriciarose2342]

The trouble with Fi is that if you try to involve other people, the other people think you can't handle it and they immediately try to take over. Not my bag.

[@totesmcgotes16]

So lonely and yet so anti social hahaha

[@greenlimabean]

Intp. Biggest regret is sharing my true thoughts with anyone.

[@ams7716]

Yess I regret it the minute I say it out loud

[@applebits8324]

Yup. Every single time I wonder if I should have just kept quiet and went on with life, as I smiled with blood coming out from my eyes (figuratively, of course). Human connection requires opening up, so... not a lot of it.

[@abigail_rhm]

Rookie- intj

[@tsnevtbl]

@@abigail_rhm ...yeah -INTP

[@pieris_]

truee

[@minah6535]

My biggest regrets in life is all the chances I didn't take, for no other reason then being nervous/anxious about it. - Infp

[@-AdityarajPatil]

*THIS CAN'T GET MORE ACCURATE*

[@veronicaloraditch6293]

So true.

[@footballlover9207]

*DID YOU READ MY MIND??*

[@coffeelovesgwanghyun3494]

for real

[@marlo6833]

Saaame

[@notme4790]

As an INTJ : I really hate go outside with friends but i go because I know one day I’ll say i wish i was with them outside but I always regret after going outside, but still I know in future I’ll appreciate that moment

[@applebits8324]

It's almost like we were at the same crossroads and took a different path. I don't know if I regret it because my mind is always saying "you can't connect with anyone heehee, just give up"... This b**ch. You look like you have a healthier mindset though, which is good. Good luck! - INTP

[@greatwavefan397]

Yeah. Why do both options have to be so painful and barely productive? - INTJ

[@kuiperbeIt]

I’m an INTJ too

[@elegante8520]

Same here, I started doing so after realizing how much I missed out on things due my fear

[@ma_kal]

Same like they make plans and i don't wanna go but at the same time, i wanna have fun with them.

[@colin_ur_phone]

"On their own little island somewhere, talking to a coconut" sounds like an amazing life -INFP

[@patriciarose2342]

So true. Castaway would have been an awesome part to play. In the first lockdown I even had my own Wilson. Except he was a clementine.

[@afaz4070]

I mean, thats not bad

[@liamcraddock9539]

I want to know what you and the coconut talk about. I may even get one of my own and not necessarily just for if I'm on an island. - INTP

[@ElffriendYT]

Yessss kzbin.info/www/bejne/aGOllXiYnduKlZY

[@sarahberkner]

You should check out the song Kelly Time by Owl City if you haven't, it's from the perspective of Wilson from Castaway and it's written by an INFP.

[@fuxefuxe]

INFP here: The thing I regret most is killing my dreams and trying to adapt to a "realistic" life. I'm living a life that I hate and I don't have anything to show for it, nor stablility nor anything I love. Now is too late.

[@Dixieland-kj4yu]

INFP here. I was just thinking the same thing

[@freya7799]

It‘s not too late!

[@Multitudes_]

It's never too late. I've been there. You can always take steps to change things.

[@applebits8324]

That sounds like it sucks :\ I'm with the other people in the answers, though. You are still alive, so you can still turn it around. Maybe starting with little steps, like turning what you like into a hobbie and seeing if a bigger step could work - changing jobs moving, being open to other relationships, etc. You got this ☆

[@tracyzimmerman7912]

Yep

[@Hamanfeu]

I feel like INFJ is gonna be "missing out on a lot of stuff" because most often than not, we are inside our head 90% of the times. Idk, maybe it's just me but as I continue to grow older I find myself regretting that "I should've picked up 'this'" or "I should've learned when i can learn" Edit: close enough lol.

[@Sunset553]

hi, I’ve thought back and the closest thing to regret is not show up where there are people. Then I think I don’t regret it case by case. It’s a gap but I had reasons, problems etc. i was whole, i just am not able to do that other stuff.

[@Hamanfeu]

@@Sunset553 Yep there's also that. But really when you think about it, that is also 'missing out'. It's just the constant thinking that you could've pulled more cards up your sleeve or trained yourself to be more presentable to others or something idk. In retrospect it's mostly about our minds thinking about other paths that we've passed and could've taken because the path right now might seem unlikeable, bland, or not what is expected, that the mind starts to practice our Extraverted sensing just so it can get out of the current stale situation. This maybe also ties to the INFJs having this vision in our minds that we are created or we existed for something great, we feel it but we just don't know how. That's maybe why our minds often whisper back at us "I could've done better" or something close. But maybe that's just me 'cuz we all know that every human is different :v

[@daymenpollet4202]

Why this infection with infj's everywhere I go they I see them.

[@imaginarypizookie6472]

Idk my type but that’s my biggest regret too I’ve missed out too much of my life and I’m scared of missing more

[@duglife2230]

As an INFJ, I make expectations too easily. That is why I always end up feeling sad when a holiday is over, because it did not meet my expectations. I need to stop making them all together. Bad expectations will just make you depressed the whole time, and good ones will just let you down when they are not met.

[@katiebell1873]

I'm an INFJ and I absolutely have trouble living in the present. I reminisce about the past and think about great it was then, while forgetting it can be great now, too. And anything out of the ordinary gives me major stress, so going and doing spontaneous things that most people consider fun tend to make me unhappy. And my head is definitely in the clouds. Probably in space by now, if I'm being honest! Thank you for this video. It made me feel seen.

[@crazyimaginations6768]

As a fellow INFJ, I completely agree!

[@thatinfjgirl]

Same☁️☁️😓

[@hayah6583]

OMG yes exactly! I keep thinking about how good the past was and totally lose the present moment. And then in the future, I regret over losing that moment because I was thinking about the past.....

[@keepinitkawaii]

As an infj i stress about the future to the point to where the present and past no longer exist

[@ihaveseverefrootsnackism]

I can try insanely hard and still get anxiety about things that aren't even going to happen today. Honestly there seems to be some hobbies that distract me from that and some that combat it. Distracting: langauge learning, music, etc. or Combating: Journaling, reading, or anything else that forces me to think about the past/present

[@jasminbutyasmin4900]

As an INTJ, I assume it's true . Because while he was talking about how I should be living in the present , I was planning to go out tomorrow afternoon so I could enjoy "the present" more and not to make my future self feel the regret :D

[@blobblob1074]

ive been planning so much to the point that i already have plans for my whole lifetime. i even have plan Bs lmao

[@xiimipa3_gunawanpratama176]

Yeah I'm like already have path where to go and what kind of possibilities in on future, until I realize I didn't make most of it right know and questioning it if matter to feel like that

[@nurainiarsad7395]

He’s right. - an INTJ in the 4th decade.

[@imaan8223]

Yeah I was spacing thinking about my plans over the next week

[@honeybadger1847]

We lose so much with our incessant planning and organizing, yet we have no way to get out of it-without additional planning and organizing 😫.

[@karimyhre9622]

My 19yr old INFJ is always looking at all the possibilities of her future and planning out every scenario that she takes so little risks in life. It wasn’t until recently that she realized that living her life in such a “safe” way would most likely lead to regret. Now she is determined to take more risks and live life a bit more sporadically, it does led to a lot of anxiety but at the end of the day, she is happy she lived it

[@Diaming787]

INTJ here. So I tried adding a new seasoning for the pasta I eat daily. It was too salty! I'll return to the same seasoning I use all the time.

[@firewren]

Try another new seasoning, with a strategic approach, over time you can determine which spices work best together and how much is too much and then stick to that seasoning for the rest of your life. Also, remember to be kind to your local INFJ, they can develop trust issues too quickly with INTJ. ~INFJ

[@bla9437]

Was it seasoned salt? Try just herbs by themselves. If they are dried, crush them a little first and add them at the beginning so they can kinda rehydrate and add the flavor. Fresh ones go in at the end. Oregano and basil for Italian stuff, thyme or tarragon for random new herby flavor ( I think they taste French), Thai basil, coriander, or chili flakes for East Asian ☺️ I really like to cook and also saves money on eating out 👍

[@MM-te1kk]

I hope your too salty pasta made you have an adventure, learn lots and feel VERY alive! 🌚❤️

[@delaineyjohnson8238]

I tried seasoning on my potatoes today but couldn't even taste it an opted for the habitual salt and pepper. Sticking to the originals and don't have to spend $16 on fancy smancy seasons. -- Also INTJ

[@MsTammy55]

This is one of the few things I struggle with trying new. But, it's because I HATE wasting food. The thought of trying a new seasoning and the food being repulsive...

[@roselylez]

My biggest regret was pretending to not have any regrets...

[@blackoceancreativeuniverse]

Wait.............was that the unceremonious debut of.............."The Ironic Comedy Stylings of Roselyle Zhao"?

[@roselylez]

@@blackoceancreativeuniverse I'm sure history will remember me for that. 😏

[@blackoceancreativeuniverse]

@@roselylez we know.

[@louisejoel]

je ne regrette pas rien

[@CaveyMoth]

Regret is a dull and rusted blade That covers me with scars that never fade These wounds, like a catalog of flaws Serve to remind me of all the pain I've caused

[@francinev3971]

I'm INFP and my biggest regret is actually constantly following other people's advices since I was young. I mean, I knew deep down that I hated them but I didn't have enough courage to go against them. I hate confrontation so I just followed whatever they wanted me to do until I snapped and started being too stubborn that I literally do opposite of what they tell me to do.

[@reetamarts]

Same

[@jarassigray9594]

SAME!!! and its like you're expected to follow advice from people who aren't living the life you want anyway. So its not really the best advice in the first place.

[@ihaveseverefrootsnackism]

even though I'm INFJ I've done that too. For some reason someone telling me to do something (especially if I was already going to do it/doing it) makes me want to do it less. It may make me want to do the opposite too.

[@arthurmaul3284]

@@ihaveseverefrootsnackism OMG SAME I'm an enfp tho, but I always hate when someone knows I'm gonna do something and tell me to do it, just to say they're authority had anything to do with it. I dont act on command chief. You want a chihuahua theres a Petco down the street

[@janeg6759]

Same here. I'm older now and I can't tell you how many times I've been in this cycle of conforming then completely dropping everything and everyone to start over again. I'm just going with the flow. I make no plans. I go where life takes me and make the most of it. Best of luck to you and all other INFPs. The struggle is real.

[@alenanela1743]

As an ENFP I genuinely almost started crying. I NEEDED THAT THANK YOU

[@reiko2022]

Omg i felt like i was the only enfp in the comment box- thank god you commented lmao

[@aldanamartinez.1929]

I felt the same. I'm gonna cry a little and then start with an idea i currently have

[@mel90212m]

Yes do it! I just recently started trying to do the thing sometimes, and it's really very much satisfaction! 😂 And also more energy to do the next thing when you complete smth. But it's so hard sometimes 😂 /ENFP

[@nanlesser8809]

Enfp...I am a master procrastinator! And I wonder if that lends into the reason the brilliant ideas never come to fruition!

[@perrilous9262]

Yeeeess, we're all self sabotagers. That really hurt to hear someone other than myself tell me that.

[@Gintoki881]

I think that INFJ has many regrets, an unhealthy amount of them, mostly unnecessarily. It makes me regret my regrets…

[@dumdum8538]

Geez, any type has a lot of specific regrets.

[@annerittwage1401]

That is way too true... Sometimes I hate myself for thinking "I should have listening to my mom and done xyz when I had the chance, then now my life wouldn't be as fucked". But I had too much anxiety for failure to actually pursue these routes, well she was big reasons why I even doubted myself to that extent.

[@bjrntykhelle2892]

@@dumdum8538 Thank you. People are incorporating regrets into their personality types. No, it's a "you" problem; your personality only changes what *kind of* regrets you have - ENTJ

[@specialthankstoourbiggestv8139]

I regret ruining my new year for me last year....all cuz I didn't score what I expected in my exams......I literally ruined the last normal new year for humanity for myself, all over grades which do not matter now :')

[@firewren]

@@specialthankstoourbiggestv8139 I spent all my time with my fear of failure making sure to be absolutely perfect to get the highest grades possible, but being so stuck in my head it would take ages to get homework done. I didn't want to be rude, so I didn't want to make a big deal of success, but everyone else got tired of me trying to claim that I wasn't any smarter or different than anyone else. Ultimately I ended up so afraid of failure in school and social life that I decided to forgo a social life, but I desperately need human connection. And when I talk I can barely form words, but when I think and wrote, there is an endless supply to gather from. ~INFJ

[@Floridablaze97]

INTJ is spot on. I've been so used to planning and sticking to the next big step that everything around me at times feels meaningless.

[@sophierose.k]

INTP. Same.

[@kaydenbreak4283]

Yes so true 😩

[@JaneDoe-cz5oe]

As an INFP I don't regret not listening to other people since no one ever gave me any advice but I regret not hanging out with my friends when they asked. At some point they stopped asking and I lost all expect one friend who is INTP.

[@p1_h_ices329]

For real😢

[@gerog8765]

INTP here…

[@kay8379]

Same...

[@lyon2061]

Lol same, I only have 2 friend, one INFP that is same as me, and other one is INTP that he don't get mad about I don't go out with him because he also prefer being alone kkjjk

[@kirstenanderson608]

Can totally relate😞

[@Tilnaor]

There is difference between don't wanting people around, and can't having. Willingly doing the first usually lead to the second unwillingly. (INTP)

[@zerikkstazzi7458]

I couldn't agree more. (INFP)

[@sage6024]

Deep and realatable (INTP)

[@WCKD.LY44]

Agreed. And it feels the more I try to help the farther away I become.

[@lourenssianturi4373]

Haaa,,

[@LibraryofAcousticMagic3240]

Do you also have a time problem? Like when I return from school I have about an 2 h of necessities (like homework, showering, eating) to do and then there are only about 3 h left. I need at least 1.5 h alone to stay sane. When am I supposed to talk to my family and friends if my social batteries have run dry from my day at school? Help

[@mariadonzel9571]

I think the 16 personalities need a song. If only there were someone who knew to play the guitar and was an expert in the topic.

[@itsarali]

This video: 👀👀

[@xXSakuraTearsXx]

You’ve given me an amazing idea for a video, if you don’t mind my borrowing it- we’ll see how long I need to plan it out before I finally, actually, decide to do it- I have so many ideas for videos but it’s hard to add managing a KZbin channel; full time, to my little box. I keep wanting to make sure I have the time & energy to put everything into it, the way that I should- instead of making videos here & there like I have in the past. Just INFJ Things~

[@sutash9043]

Well, the 16 personalities don't, but the 9 enneagram types do! And they're all awesome. Listen to a band called. "Sleeping at last" and thank me later hahaha. "Two" is a masterpiece.

[@valej9387]

YES

[@louisejoel]

Do it

[@marist.]

INFJ - Finished middle school two weeks ago. I can't express how much I regret the fact that I didn't take much more care of myself, in all these years. I didn't live in the present moment. I tried so much to be the perfect student, that I forgot how to enjoy my childhood. And now I'm here, trying to rediscover myself.

[@paolamiranda9215]

it isn't too late to take care of yourself and accepting who you really are! you are still young and its ok to make mistakes. i hope you don't look at it as an "lost chance" of enjoying your childhood but as a passage of your life that will help you bloom into a better version of yourself 🌻 a learning experience of a kind. May God bless you and give you light and love 🤍 you are not alone :)

[@SpicyYams]

Bruh your in middle school you have time, also don’t burn yourself out

[@tristanbaker8198]

You are a very articulate person.

[@AGhere]

Wow, a fellow infj who's in exactly the same state and same situation 🙏

[@thejedigamer3647]

I feel ya currently in the situation you were in when it comes to school. I also realized I never was really there in the moment like when hanging out with friends. Like sure I was there but it was like I was on autopilot. I decided to fix that by allowing myself time to think at certain times. Specifically before I go to bed and then for the rest of the day I do what I planned last night or I change it up a bit.

[@wwuunngg]

My biggest regret so far: not enjoying early teen life much and being forced into pretty much all types of participation while enjoying 0 of it. It would've been better if I atleast got something out from it but no. My entire time was school, participation practice, completing school notes, resting etc no time for anything else. Never made any close friends from all those years of participating in different activities in school and church. Everything was so boring. When kids would run out of school, I'd be stuck in there to practice singing or teach a fricking choir where no one paid attention. Tuitions were there too and so the amount of homeworks overwhelmed me and didn't allow me to enjoy at all

[@jovan-noble-guy749]

I mean, i get everyone mad at me because i often don ' t help them, my advise is balance it out, not me, like one day they might fight me, and in a punchy way, this is some ISTP advise.

[@patriciarose2342]

I don't think it was all for nothing. It stretched you, it added another layer to you, it gave you discipline and now you even know what you don't like. It takes some people decades to learn this. Now do you. Do what you love.

[@wwuunngg]

@@patriciarose2342 only wish I could do this but I'm still forced a lot into these. The pandemic has been a guilty pleasure of mine since it made the gov implement a lockdown due to which I could get a breath of relief

[@patriciarose2342]

@@wwuunngg how are you forced?

[@wwuunngg]

@@patriciarose2342 well, kinda like if I don't this, my parents would be super disappointed and if I don't do that, my teachers would also be super disappointed and if I say no, they'll get really angry

[@KitsuneRonin]

as an infp my biggest, and ongoing, regret is being unable to get past my deeply rooted inferiority complex and crippling low self-esteem. and even when things in my life do happen to start going well (which is not that often), I end up sabotaging myself because I don't believe I deserve to be happy or accepted I don't know how to get out of my dark spiral I don't regret subscribing to FJ though, I appreciate all your videos

[@maiagiurgiu1052]

I thought I'm the only one who thinks like that:/

[@blackholle455]

as a fellow infp, I really recommend you to read the book The Courage to be Disliked.

[@patriciarose2342]

@@blackholle455 sounds like a good book

[@patriciarose2342]

I'm not sure if you really believe that you don't deserve to be happy or if its that happiness is unfamiliar and uncomfortable 🤔 also you're prolly waiting for the other shoe to drop. You just don't want to get your hopes up only to come back down again. Can you trace back to where this complex is deeply rooted? Do you remember when was the first time you realized this self- deprecation. You might need to go back in order to get out of this dark wood 😔

[@kirstenanderson608]

I can totally relate

[@nick.r9222]

As an INTJ- my regret is knowing what will be happening in future and still falling in the trap and thinking of it as an experiment and later regretting why did i do that knowing all the repercussions 😑 Thanks for 50+ likes for the first time!!

[@kaydenbreak4283]

Me too 🤣😏

[@skud79]

Same here 😥

[@silvestremodestia9778]

Banana peel syndrome: watchout, there is a banana peel in the path! Falls for it anyway

[@nick.r9222]

@@silvestremodestia9778 true 😂

[@ZijnShayatanica]

Me: *runs all the projections on what choices will realistically lead to which results* Also me: *chooses impulsively because I get decision fatigue just from existing in my own brain, then resents myself for not making the wisest choice*

[@khushkhan4343]

"The biggest regret in life?" Me: I have no regrets. Also me: Really?? Me: umm yeah! i have but no. Actually i don't wanna spread negativity 😣 ~INFJ

[@Raphsophomes]

Oml stfu… this is why we don’t get along -isfp

[@firewren]

'Everything will turn out alright. Don't worry, you are a beautiful person and you can work through this to better yourself" -infj "Just stfu and do what I asked you to get done!" -my intj father

[@user-xk9cr3mu3k]

I can tell you're expecting others to be infjs since you might be aware you're the mirror of other ppls personalities so you don't want them to mirror your view which could harm them in a way only you'd know. This is very common for infjs. It's no wonder considering you all seek perfection within yourselves which makes enfps attracted to you cuz they seek that. So since you are the mirror and the one seeking perfection you refuse to reflect or even show anything negative, even tho it's very real to you. That's so scary. Imagine how unreal that would cause manny infjs to be in everyday situations

[@dolliexzo]

@@Raphsophomes That's mean and attractive. ~infj

[@hoshiyu4019]

It's not even negative, it's a lesson.

[@ridirih9807]

ISFJ here in my 50’s with no regrets because basically I had to do what I had to do at certain times in my life with the information I had at the time. I’m taking more risks now and doing more new things (fun, fun, fun!), but I honestly don’t think I would have been ready 10-15 years ago for what I do now, and my younger self would have thought my now self was crazy! Don’t twist yourself up inside with regrets-just start from where you are NOW with the NEW information you have just received. 😊. Enjoy your life at every stage.

[@karenk2409]

Very, very good advice. As we traveled through life, we did the best we could given our level of experience and insight + dealing with the circumstances we were in. It makes no sense to spend much time beating ourselves up, although we Js tend to do that. ENFJ here.

[@LeeLynn-vq8yq]

ISFJ in 40s. When I do talk to myself about certain decisions I regret, I always wind up backtracking to why I made those decisions, with the information I had at the time and of myself, and I will often come to the conclusion that I don't actually regret the decision, it's just currently making me feel uncomfortable. However, the information that guided me to make that decision, still stands, and is admittedly correct, and I simply need to move past this point of emotion in my life. My life motto: This too, shall pass.

[@rachelrichey8567]

ENTP- The idea is the experience. The real world is never as great as the idea, and even if it is, I don't enjoy it as much as the idea. I am building my career because I like learning and mastering skills. My career deals a lot with critical thinking and problem solving, which is helpful, but I have found that I've gotten to the point where I am doing more work with excel and finance than I really ever wanted to do. No ragrets!

[@lugo_7776]

"The idea is the experience. The real world is never as great as the idea" - ouch. completely agree

[@Thaydontcry]

Regrets but no regrets

[@allisonscanlan4144]

Yes exactly! Very enneagram 7 feelings. The potential is so much more exciting often enough

[@bananagomm]

Aaaaaaaand this is why I rarely love film adaptations.

[@JGM815]

As an INTJ, I have no regrets, I have accepted (keyword) that all the hardships and mistakes make us who we are. I am a better human being today than I was yesterday and that is all that matters

[@lifefan1]

Good for you?!

[@JGM815]

@@lifefan1 Pretty bad if you ask me

[@justcallmebones]

"Where am I going to park?" is my INFJ catchphrase. I feel personally attacked 😅 I literally have asked this on first dates, new jobs, and going to anywhere new with friends/family. I feel the need to be prepared for all of the smaller details because I'm afraid that otherwise, I'll be caught off-guard and fall apart. I attempt to be more spotaneous, but boy does it always drive my anxiety to max. I guess the best advice is to just take it slow!

[@dominikamestrovic7663]

Omg, same. If i go to job interview and there is not enough parking space, it gives me so much anxiety, I subconciously fck up the interview, so I dnt have to go trough that daily. Insane. 🤦‍♀️

[@inxbyinxby7837]

Parking has been a major deterrent in any fantasy/notion/desire to go anywhere new.

[@inxbyinxby7837]

@MeekaDid that one time and then took a wrong turn the next day for the interview. Almost ended up in New Jersey.

[@Dev.85]

I refuse to visit some places when I know that parking will be a shit fight because it also means copious amounts of people.

[@louisejoel]

The secret is not to have a car

[@Psychomech5]

Me, an ISTP. “And INTPs/ISTPs will see this, they’ll be like ‘I’m kind of ticking off everyone else and… I don’t care’. And… they are WRONG.” I always felt SUPER DUPER UNCOMFORTABLE if I was too emotionally vulnerable for a long time. Then I had like, a huge depressive episode that felt like it came out of nowhere but that kinda keeps happening because I’m like… unable to see how I get to that state. I’m great at like… idk, building a playpen for my hamster, but I get no internal warning that I am somehow doing emotions or emotional health wrong.

[@sn00b_dude]

as a intp its kinda different for me i try to have a relationship in everywhere i can but not because im really into them or anything i actually do this because i want to have someone to use in any situation so i can find the solution faster and also with having them i can kinda balance my I and T too

[@emarchannel333]

@@sn00b_dude same

[@equestrianrosie]

As a 34 year old INTJ, I remember very few actual details of my childhood. I was so in my own head, even as an 8 year old that I was barely living in the moment, so I don't remember most things. I've gotten a little better about that as the decades pass but still struggle with memory retention of this kind. It's a shame, cuz from what my siblings tell me, I had an awesome childhood, I just can't remember it lol.

[@noctivagantlibertine]

Yeah my ENFJ sister remembers practically everything, while I have lost a ton of my old memories. But it may also be partially due to my sleep issues (sleep apnea, and then DSPD progressing to Non24), since sleep is when your brain processes things into memory. But yeah I've noticed this a lot with vacations in particular, I schedule myself so hard that when I come back I can't even remember half the vacation a few months later. I've learned I need to try to pace myself slower and enjoy the moment more.

[@nehasaha98]

As an INFP, I honestly want to be alone. I'm like literally avoiding everybody and everyone (including my bestest of friends) at this point because I'm so focused on doing what I feel is the right thing to do. And it's not like I don't miss them or they don't miss me but I just know it in my gut that this is what I need to do right now.

[@edenjamesis2398]

Infp here and I am in the same boat. I just to busy watering my own garden. Living my own life and I enjoy people if I like them or if I do not get anxious or anything. But I need to do my own stuff

[@nehasaha98]

@@edenjamesis2398 I hope we both achieve what we are aiming for🤞🏼

[@edenjamesis2398]

@@nehasaha98 agreed. I am suppose to pay a large some of money for something that can really help in my future. I really dont want to do it anymore. But I am forcing myself cause I know I am going to regret it

[@nehasaha98]

@@edenjamesis2398 Often when we get instincts about something, we turn out to be right. So do what feels right to you.

[@edenjamesis2398]

@@nehasaha98 thank you

[@fortepiano920]

As an ENFP, I regret wasting my time regretting my past. 😅 But honestly, I don't really regret my actions (unless I unknowingly hurt someone ofc.) That's also why I tend to repeat my stupid mistakes like putting my laundry in the trash can and putting the trash in the washing machine. 🤦

[@miftaaulia9377]

As an ENFP I regret things just for a minutes, then I forget about it. But it sometimes it suddenly pop up on my mind randomly (for a few minutes) lol

[@sarthakjain1824]

I think literally everybody regret wasting time in their past

[@chickadddee]

@@sarthakjain1824 I agree, because there are more reasons to waste time than there are types!

[@Sankariel]

As an INFP this hit straight home because I can now see how ignorant I've been towards others' advice & cutting off people passively for a while. I'm in a fatigue phase rn and my mind is blocking every thing

[@omc2563]

INFP - but if listening to other's suggestions means compromising on truth and complexity of the thing you are seeking to express, it's authenticity, it's infinite essence, then would rather not achieve it, if that's the price. Would always choose journey over destination. 'Not all that wander are lost' as Tolkien said....

[@5idi]

ISFP - 100% agree. I really tried otherwise, but it's not worth it.

[@squidlygirl4570]

Right. I do avoid reaching out to others for help, but when it comes to regret, if anything, I’ve regretted listening to other people. Sometimes others just can’t see the vision.

[@FizXify]

I sometimes don't trust other people and don't think they really understand me or have my best interest at heart.... so how can they advise me if they don't want what's best for me?

[@sunshineandrain869]

Exactly.

[@5idi]

@@FizXify I listen, I just don't act on it unless I analyze the idea myself and decide I can and should do it. I'm annoyed when people "advise," but hey, brainstorming isn't my stronger side, so gathering ideas is sometimes useful

[@angiec9599]

For INFJs & INTJs, befriend more extroverted types-especially ENFPs & ESFPs-to help you take more challenges and have fun experiences. The anxiety of doing something new and uncertain will pass. It’s totally worth it! 👍🏼

[@sarahssecret7003]

I'm an INTP and when I was in school I really realized how bad it was to both have and not have social interaction. As a kid, I lived in my own bubble and ignored everyone, until I got to meet someone who was just amazing, and we really understood each other. Yet I still shut everyone out. It wasn't until I moved away and the only contact I had with this friend was through texting that I really realized that I missed them. And when I tried to start opening up to everyone around me, I was really hated just because I never had before and I was just known as being the 'smart girl' and supposedly didn't have a personality.

[@iLikeTrains0372]

You will realize at some point that these inferior life forms don't deserve us. Just keep living in your own world. One day, you will die and this shitshow will be over. Forever. - INTP

[@anime-ye1qs]

I can somewhat relate It's basically due to a certain incident that happened to me for which i can't trust people around me at all (not that i really trusted people much in the first place) - at first, i isolated myself from everyone and when i realised i need to socialize, i tried but didn't know how to People expect something from others - everyone does - and they don't like it when the other person can't fulfil that expectation Thus, atm, i basically try to be the type of person everyone likes (like i act in a way Around a person which the person wants me to be) - and It's exhausting and i wanna stop - but i know i need someone beside me but idk how to accomplish that I hate the method I'm using but i have no idea what else to do

[@GamingCentral901]

As an ISTP there is on so much you can do by yourself before you realise, even if you win you would have no-one to share it with. Keeping people around takes effort and you kind of adopt those struggles of those other people, but what good relationship hasn't seen struggles.

[@Tiara_Princess7]

I'm an ISFJ and I agree that I regret not taking chances. I just wanted to take the safe, secure path even though I dreamed of doing more, but it's too uncertain.

[@geensjc]

Same!!

[@toolovely6744]

I am also an ISFJ and to be honest i have dreamed of many stuff, but got too lazy and was like i will just live a normal life and do the work i am obligated to do (by school)

[@brendaondara9827]

Me too

[@arandomteto]

im not an ISFJ but i am an ISTJ and i agree

[@Tiara_Princess7]

@Quadruple Ban Thank you so much for the advice. I appreciate it. I have always dreamed of going to Scotland as I have a lot of family living there, and I would love to see where my grandma grew up. I just am too afraid of going alone and no one else wants to go.

[@andytheindividual3862]

I regret not trying harder harder when I was in my youth but it shaped who I am today. I hope you all learn from your past. Take courage and keep moving forward 🧡 -infp Happy 4th FJ!!

[@andytheindividual3862]

@Quadruple Ban not anymore!

[@ilveyouful]

As an ISFJ, you are correct- which is why I'm switching my career paths now and going back to school. But also, realizing that I'm neurodivergent and sometimes certain things just dont work with being neurodivergent so I'm grateful for my NE to help me think of other possibilities! Also another regret? Not giving up on people who should have been given up on from the beginning

[@sando_7]

As an INFJ, I'm trying to come out of my shell. I was thinking so much about the future projecting so much, planning so much, trying to control things so much. I used to miss out on living really. Ever since I encountered your advice, I started releasing what had been always going on my mind which never seemed to be perfect or marvelous, if you will. I would've ended up deteriorating myself and doing nothing meaningful because of my overplanning traits such things like getting in shape, learning languages, getting straight A all the time which led me to disconnect myself from people. Sincerely thank you. Keep encouraging people to come out of their shells. I appreciate your passion to help people and make the world better. 🇰🇷From your Korean fan🇰🇷

[@malutrevenzoli2297]

me, enfp, after watching the enfp/entp part of the video: eXcUsE mE, don't talk to me or to my 54 semi book plots I've been accumulating in the past 5 years without really doing something about them EVER AGAIN

[@padgettfarmer]

ENFP here. Yes. If there were a box upstairs (and there are many actually) of story ideas and the beginnings of stories and books and plots and scripts, and then a box of completed stories and books and scripts, guess which box is empty.

[@Shamini26]

A whole cupboard of notebooks that are not getting turned into best sellers here😂

[@coolbeans6895]

I’m an INTP and trying to convince myself I need people around me is something I struggle with everyday. I’ve tried hard to keep a few people in my life because I have felt the tinge of some loneliness that might happen if I was alone long enough. But it’s definitely a struggle to remind myself why I need people

[@lianakamat4321]

Frank, your advice for ENTP is exactly what I needed to hear right now. Get started!

[@Lizzzi86]

Me too. Thank you! -34 years old ENTP

[@justabalrogwithinterenetac2602]

Same 14 - year old ENTP

[@phoenix5054]

I would say same, but that would be too conformist. - ENTP, 30 yrs old

[@naginiriddle7091]

I actually had a huge problem growing up of NOT burning bridges and cutting people out of my life, especially since the people I should have cut out had already cut me out. I was an overattached, loyal, needy person who didn't want to let go. As I have gotten older, I have gotten better at it. I still struggle with letting go, but I am better than I was. And I really do need to cut those people out and let it go, because not doing so is actually causing me emotional strain and anxiety problems. I need friends, yes, but I need people who actually want to be there for me, and not those who just used me for a little bit and then proceeded to cut me out entirely. The hard thing, though, is as an INFP, fantasy is SO powerful that you just lead yourself to believe those people who cut you off actually didn't and they do love you and still want you and if you just try hard enough, they will take you back. Reality is really something I need to ground myself in more. *sigh*

[@doreenkalolela2195]

I have the same issues always getting attached to people and not letting go of things in the past but now i've gotten to know that not everyone will be around me forever .so i'm trying to let go of things and make myself happy as always since i always thought of others before myself but i'm learning to put myself first always in everything i do now.

[@lulumoon6942]

Curious as to your type, OP?

[@naginiriddle7091]

@@lulumoon6942 if you reread the post, I mentioned my type 😅

[@lulumoon6942]

@@naginiriddle7091 I read it quickly twice but that didn't jump out, thanks, and I presumed you were INTP or INFP 😊

[@DiscoveryWonders]

That fantasy part you described sounds exactly like anxious attachment style / codependency.

[@eleriamirayse6859]

"I don't have regrets" - ENTJ

[@crazylifeofmine293]

I WAS LITERALLY JUST COMMENTING ON YOUR REGRETS POLL!!!!!💀💀💀💀💀💀💀

[@enricogolfen]

I can totally agree with human connections but I struggle to show emotion without cringing at myself. I guess ill keep the maintenance in mind since I do tend to distance myself from people when I'm solving problems. So far the only regrets is that I've started too late with what im doing. I could've cashed in on that accelerated learning from my early teens but at the end it's best to even start than do nothing.

[@shadowyou3737]

I'm an INFP and something that I got used to do is explaining to people that I don't hate them, I just like to take time for myself (a lot) somehow that actually helped me to maintain my relationships

[@BigFanOfCocks]

“Talking to a coconut” I’m sorry but I went fucking ballistic.. wait... I just did that yesterday.... Edit: also, as an INFP, I am very glad I have blunt ass friends and a mom friend (guess what type they are) since they would give me advice- either butter me up or force-feed me, and it will work. I upped my grades since they made em realize I might regret uh.... getting kicked out. But yeah. Just get friends who will keep you in check.

[@elfy7547]

your blunt friends are xNTP im almost 100% sure. hi im an ENTP and im the blunt friend ✌

[@footballlover9207]

My mom is probably an ENTP. Sometimes she'll gently tell me, other times... well, you get the idea lol🤣 but that's why I love her. I lay resent and argue against the advice at first, but then I come back later and we talk about it and try to compromise on the problem. I have no idea what my dad would be. But he's pretty blunt and practical. Again I may resent it at times, but my parents are almost always right. When it comes to advice, grown up me will sometimes act like a kid and think I know better lol Edit. Forgot to add I'm an INFP

[@BigFanOfCocks]

@@elfy7547 h a h. You fool. Well maybe they’re mistyped but one of them’s INTJ. Also, thank you blunt friend for your services o7 you are always appreciated in friend groups.

[@BigFanOfCocks]

@@footballlover9207 that sounds... very exhausting. But also useful. Personally my parents are similar to me- passive people. Mom’s INFJ and dad’s ISTP. Introverted pieces of shit.

[@emmabornier3223]

@@BigFanOfCocks I may be mistyped too, but a most of the few friends i have are INFP. And basically, i'm their awkward mom taking initiaves and pushing them to achieve their goals haha (i particulary feel this when we are outside)

[@itzzucakey4787]

FJ just flexing his guitar skills. *nice*

[@affinity266]

Actually playing on the guitar strings was very meaningful that I can't even give it a fairly representative words!

[@bla9437]

Once upon a time he was doing casual lives on YT and took requests

[@greatwavefan397]

Me: An INTJ who sucks at musical expression but dabbles with odd time signatures, stacked major chords, and weird soundwaves.

[@nateq]

INTJ here. I've already been thinking about how I will regret not living my life in the future. Yep, I saw that coming, Frank.

[@MIZZKIE]

You are spot-on about ISTJs regretting that they stick to their usual routines. In fact, I actually do imagine all the different possibilities out there very often, but the more I think about it, the more I realise that I can't do all of the stuff (so much to do, so little time), so I end up sticking to what I usually do. XD I was just about to break myself out of my ISTJ shell to try something different (and only because I am certain that I will succeed at it), and then the virus ruined all my plans. Now I'm back to the stick-to-usual-routine phase again. Ugh! (rolls eyes)

[@AeroRain]

For me (INFP) it was actually listening too much to other people's advice. I gave up a lot of things that made me happy because I was taught that feelings didn't matter. I was set up to be this overachiever, taking courses 1-2 grades above my grade level and any rejection to this was met with a "don't be stupid". My family didn't see anything wrong with it. The entirety of my teenage years were spent under stress with no goals, friends, or anything to look forward to. I graduated high school 5 months late because I lost so much motivation. I'm in college now and still don't know what to do. Sometimes I wonder if I truly am this personality type because the Fi is barely there. I wish I hadn't repressed it and ignored it so much. In an attempt to please those around me, I lost myself in the process and nothing good came of it

[@vs9400]

Exactly. I think most of us don't listen to advices anymore because we've learned not to. I'd rather make a wrong choice by myself than by listening to bad advices. People think they know what's best for you and speak with confidence even about subjects they have no clue of. You must be careful.

[@youngcrone456]

I think that's something that we INFPs are very likely to do. We are given very bad advice, almost always by people who mean well and think they are being helpful, because we are often so misunderstood. But if you're in university now, it's not too late. Think about what you would do if anything were possible, and if you didn't have people telling you that you can't/shouldn't do what you're passionate about. You've tried the things that don't work and that you don't love, now you can start to focus on what you do love.

[@FalconWindblader]

As an 34yo INFP who had similar regrets & have repressed my emotions A LOT, let me just tell you that it ain't too late for you to figure things out just yet. i graduated college feeling lost & it ain't until my 30s that i got my shit gradually sorted out after all. now the way ahead for me feels like a brightly-lit runway & all that's left is just me walking it, one step at a time. based on purely personal experience, try to talk someone who KNOWS emotions if possible, maybe even get a therapist. for us INFPs, we won't get to know ourselves until we know our emotions after all.

[@hikembroidery8482]

I feel like someone explaining me

[@Momothemonk1]

As an INFP, I actually agree to what was said because I tend to be very stubborn

[@DeeDeifiesGayo]

27 years old INTP girl here: omgg it was such a black pill... I feel indifferent to 99% people. Sometimes I'm sad that I don't have a huge group of friends, but then when I'm meeting someone new I feel so tired with her/his sh.t and prefer to be alone xD sorry for my potato English :c

[@ams7716]

Same girl

[@bakodiamond3266]

Sometimes I feel the same

[@firewren]

I wish my dad (intj) would realise this, he doesn't give the time of day and expects praise and obedience, and sometimes I'm sick of his bs, but I can't say anything because I don't want to spread negativity. ~INFJ

[@TheYamiJK]

I hear ya, it is pretty solitary and sometimes it does get a bit sad when you don't have some one else to share the joys of an achievement with but It is equally amazing how quickly some one can become annoying and you just want out.

[@Mrchern-io8nu]

18 yo INTP here. I get that sense of heavy loneliness at times, though it goes away pretty quickly. But with this video and your comment I began wondering, does it get any worse with time? To be honest it get's pretty annoying when that happens, so if it does get worse then maybe I should... I don't know, get a cat or something.

[@dyltan]

My biggest regret yet, I'm an INTP, is that people thought I was cold hearted and hard worker when people asked me if I was interested in a girl that I loved, so I know she liked me back, but because of these people who think they knew me, I was just paralised when they asked me and I couldn't say that YES I was f*cking interested, I hate social anxiety.

[@dyltan]

Because I just shut the f*ck up and wasn't caring enough about people...

[@julo_ghost]

Skill issue

[@dyltan]

@@julo_ghost bro stfu that's not skill issue that's a life issues moment there

[@julo_ghost]

@@dyltan I'm joking :/

[@dyltan]

@@julo_ghost I'm so pathetic right 🤣🤣🤣

[@justbaz7471]

It’s weird but as an ISTP I don’t shut people out totally and I don’t shut them out bc I think they’re stupid or wrong but bc I want them to not worry about me like I don’t understand why someone would care about me

[@claytonpayne2408]

(Istp here) Ya same. It seems that istps are more sociable then intps. I know two intps and they're really self centered. I don't get them.

[@applebits8324]

Yeah. I just see people and think "well, they seem to be doing fine without me. Back to the cave", then I spend two weeks more with no contact to other people. I guess that way of thinking came from gaslighting a family member did to me, tho. And self-hatred. And the thinking that "no matter what they did, they wouldn't be able to help me so I'd rather suffer by my own miserable existence haha" - INTP

[@gantomoranar7030]

Ikr

[@audreyhowler]

I understand that others need attention from us, even if we don't need it from them. So I do try to keep in contact, but... sometimes it opens floodgates of communication I'd rather keep closed. And then I do end up shutting some people out because the neediness exhausts me.

[@alvaniakartika6933]

@@jwhite-1471 agree

[@ilovecats264]

Just reading the title I'm already feeling sad 😶

[@meowhahaha]

Me too 😭

[@PatriceBoivin]

Your cat understands. In a calm sort of way.

[@suzannax]

Here's a cup of virtual tea ☕

[@BigFanOfCocks]

When he started talking about the INTPs and ISTPs it hit me hard man. I had an INTP friend once who decided to quit discord since she had a lot of mental health issues to deal with, which I understood. But what I realized from this video is that: that may have not been the first time she cut connections to solve things on her own. I still want her to come back as well as the rest of the friend group, but I’m worried what she’s doing may hurt her. Though I will trust her decisions, and she promised to us she might come back if everything was alright now... I just miss my friend :[ Edit: she’s BACK! But she’s in med school now, and it’s very hard to talk to her considering our timezones and school... not to mention it’s slightly awkward now.

[@theadultsaretalking2582]

bruh I'm ISTP and i did exactly the same thing as your friend some time ago, i dropped out of discord and isolated myself from the group even tho i loved them and now I've distanced myself so much that I'm finding hard to come back.. idk your friend situation but i hope yall managed to bring her back

[@BigFanOfCocks]

@@theadultsaretalking2582 yeah she’s back- it’s slightly awkward talking to her now haha. i forgot about this comment so I couldn’t update it.

[@BigFanOfCocks]

@@theadultsaretalking2582 hope your situation gets better though!

[@iLikeTrains0372]

Yeah. You inferior life forms most probably don't deserve her. That's why she did the right thing to cut you off. But I see in her the belief that a miracle might happen and a human can appear in the discord.

[@quarepercutisproximum9582]

@@theadultsaretalking2582 I'm an INTP, and I've never stayed in the same group for longer than three years. How have you gone about navigating your social life, as a fellow social nomad?

[@musigalglo]

INTJ - I most strongly regret not considering or recognizing the reality of the feelings of others in consequence of my actions when I was younger.

[@GQ-tf6pd]

i love intjs but just a week ago my younger cousin bestie called me ignorant for not taking her advice. i tried my very best to stay calm and careful during our conversation but she just kept on saying whatever was on her mind without minding my feelings. i didn't want that so i ghosted her. i don't want to judge her, but i don't think she needs me either. it feels like she never respected my decisions. i think keeping a distance from her won't bother her much. what do you think? shall i still reconcile with her? but yeah as for now, we're giving each other a space for growth and clarity.

[@greatwavefan397]

Same here, but the opposite. - INTJ-T

[@icingcake]

Agree.

[@edennis8578]

@@greatwavefan397 Omg, me, too! Also INTJ-T. It's our curse.

[@solviviflores2904]

My biggest regret would be: *_NOT_*_ taking advantage of the opportunities that life gave me for fear of being wrong and that other people will judge me._ -INFP

[@mariaf9547]

Lol this is so true😂

[@ria8465]

I got an INFP friend and I swear this annoys me to the core. I literally force her into things I know she wants to get into but just hesitates for god knows what reason and then she gets so glad because eventually she realises I was right. *sigh

[@mr.wicksnamelessdog3202]

Omo!! So true

[@minah6535]

SAME

[@minah6535]

@@ria8465 my best friend does that for me and I really appreciate it. I think your infp friend feel the same I do. Edit: can I ask what your mbti is?

[@BuizelCream]

As an INTJ, learning how to live in the present, and continuing to allow at least some room to leave some uncertainty in the hands of other capable trusted loved ones has been really helpful. Although the present can suck, and humans can be disappointing creatures, but we just have to know our limits. There are some things we just can't control, and there are times we simply have to endure the bs that's going around us. At least this way, this prevents me from snowballing into the overthinking plague, and missing out some good things that are happening in the present that I habitually often miss 😅

[@smurfrise]

This is like the only comment section on KZbin where something weird happens in the video and I scroll down and no one has commented on it (within reason, scrolling down both top and recent comments for a while) 20:43 there’s like two FJs talking at the same time … ? I believe ghost FJ says “ooo I hit my light” - I think it’s funny, if this is an edit, that the comment was auditory and not text. All around odd!

[@constanceackerman7763]

Yeah I noticed that but didn't bother commenting on it

[@AmiraLala99]

omg yes i thought i was the only one. i had to check if i opened any other tabs/windows that was playing audio

[@Carol_65]

Frank mentioned in during the live chat. He is using different software and is not totally familiar with it. We‘re to pretend it was the cameraman.😉😆

[@whitneyd6827]

I'm an ENFJ and came so close to having this exact problem several times. I'm so thankful that I've learned through experience how to stick to my guns and find what I want. Don't neglect your Ti, my fellow Fe doms. When I started college, people pressured me to do marketing because I'd be good at it but I went with my gut and committed to psychology. After graduating, people pressured me to go straight into the workforce but I decided to continue school. People tried to talk me out of taking a gap year because I needed to make a living, but I knew I needed to think. Then people tried to talk me into going into the first applied psych field I became interested in, but I knew it wasn't quite right. Finally I found a career that truly called to me. I never knew it existed, it's a stable job, pays well, I can work anywhere in the country, and it's one of the fastest growing careers in psych. I start school this August and couldn't be more excited if I tried :) I'm so glad I listened to myself, I'll never doubt my decisions like I used to.

[@karenk2409]

Congratulations, fellow ENFJ! You are the role model I should have had!

[@ria8465]

My ENFP self trying to think of any regrets. Doesn’t come up with any. And then all the 2020 cancelled plans come into the picture. And 2021 not playing any good either. WHEN WILL THIS END! I wanna get outtt!

[@miftaaulia9377]

Yeah we don't really have wide attention span and memory of negatife experience. I casually forget about all the sad moments in life

[@ria8465]

@@miftaaulia9377 True man, true.

[@mcgil8891]

@@miftaaulia9377 sameee 😂😂😂

[@ceilinh6004]

"INTPs and ISTPs will regret that they didn't make more human connections." Me, an INTP, feeling smug because I am happily married (to another INTP) AND I also have a good group of friends who get me. MWAH HA HA! IDK. The supervillain laugh seemed necessary for some reason.

[@AK-fu8ij]

Feeling smug because your life is better than others who dont have friends. Covid destroyed my friend circle... fuck you

[@lifefan1]

INTP married with INTP? How is it?

[@ceilinh6004]

@@AK-fu8ij I was definitely fortunate to be in my current stage of life during the pandemic. If it had happened during my early/mid-twenties, for instance, I don't think I would have coped well at all. As it is, the most frustrating things I had to deal with were being unable to visit family, and the struggle of occasionally having to homeschool my children (one of whom is extremely extraverted, and did not adjust well.)

[@ceilinh6004]

@@lifefan1 It's good! We could definitely both stand to be more organized, but I can live with that.

[@lulumoon6942]

Sounds like an ISTP married to INTP

[@dingusdeduck2621]

Me as an ENFP we also tend to over think things which drags us down

[@footballlover9207]

"They're gonna have problems with other people" Sums up exactly who I am ~INFP

[@uncommonsense7476]

I felt a great disturbance in the force, when the phrases "Everyday life....Real world" came up in this video... as if millions of intuitive types cried out in terror and were suddenly silenced.

[@mistermuso2734]

Yeah - everyday life and the real world are overrated. (INFP)

[@aiijn]

OK the intp one was so accurate and relatable it's spooking me out like how do you know

[@obsessedwithart231]

The INFJ one made me really scared because that seems like it could be me.

[@northernlight84]

ISTP- when I was in college I'm thankful that I'm an ISTP... I often get into a group project where people doesn't get serious with schoolwork... I remember one time we had a mock product implementation program and we need to think of company jingle, I told my groupmates many times that we need to have a jingle and they were like "yeah let's do it later" then I told them that I'll just write a short jingle so we can practice it later (it's few hours before the program) and again they said "yeah sure" so I made a jingle and I told them to practice it now (it's about an hour before the program) and they AGAIN said "yeah sure" (but they were busy doing make up and hair style (w/c was not important because it was only held on the classroom and the products are the main focus) so I gave them few minutes but still they're not ready to practice and it brought me to the edge and I burst out my anger to them telling them that the jingle is more important than what they're doing and I went to a sit far from them 'coz I know I might say something so harsh when I continue to talk to them and my friend told my groupmates to leave me alone until I cool down... When I calmed down, finally we started to practice (10 minutes before the program) fortunately it went well... But when I went home our group's leader messaged me that he was so disappointed to me because he didn't expect that I can do that to them... And I thought "wow so he was disappointed in ME and not THEM? I did that for the group and I appeared like I did something wrong by telling them to do what is important?" Then I replied to him asking if did I do something wrong?Is it wrong to tell them what to do?... And after that I avoided being in group with them and fortunately the next year we're not in the same class hahaha

[@vikavika5636]

I feel for you. That was brutal.

[@shakiraafifi257]

Where’s your group leader again?😂

[@Whiteswanj]

#ESTJ i'm doing this and it feels like i'm the only estj i've ever seen who's trying to balenced myself it easy to shut those feeling down but i've done this whole my life i accomplished so much i don't like having regrets one day so i'm gonna figure this emotion/feelings out...thanks frank...i adore how u undrestant us as an infj💚🙏🏻

[@brigittasoos9965]

Thank you, FJ. ❤️ Even though I am an eloquent ENFJ, I cannot describe how much I appreciate your presence on KZbin. I am just so grateful for you. I hope you are doing great and you enjoy the summer time! 🌞

[@bla9437]

Intj. This is why I'm a Zen Buddhist and practice mindfulness the best I can. Otherwise I'm an over analytical wreck that doesn't know how to take my boss hat off. So hopefully I don't regret too much since I caught it early

[@noone8253]

As an INTP, it just seems like I am unable to engage into social activities, everyone seems to be on their own thing and shut me down (or straight up forget I exist), which is kind of ironic considering that should be one of our main traits, what I regret the most is looking back and realizing that there was a bunch of "normal stuff" everyone seems to do but I didn't... and I am afraid that could keep happening considering I am not that old 💀

[@quarepercutisproximum9582]

What kinds of things were they? I highly relate to your comment, and I might be able to avoid unending social ineptitude if you say what the "normal stuff" is

[@felipe122a]

​@@quarepercutisproximum9582 Depends, but I assume it's probably common things, like watching series/movies, going out to places, dates, trips, cooking, etc.

[@wilbeugre]

Thanks for listening to our suggestion (from two weeks ago)! As an ENFJ... you got it right That feeling of regret hit me at least 3 times already and they're not just some moments (as they may last even weeks...or months) and it's a really painful experience But it helps knowing myself better...the hard way 😅 Thanks again Frank!

[@charlotte-adams]

my ne is so crazy that it makes me worry about my future, its almost completely out of control. I see all my possible future careers, and all their pros and cons, and find so much difficulty deciding and implementing these ideas. makes me kinda sad lmao - entp

[@janalunadottir]

ENFP here. I deal with that by trying to think of the smallest possible step towards a direction I like. Like this, I don't get caught up in the big and great and also actually do stuff. For example I try to change my career at the moment. Everything is possible. I know I need several different (project based/part time) jobs to keep my need for the new and changing stuff in check. So I have a check list, where I do one thing from the organizational topic and then one thing from the creative one and balance those two. I decide what I do by narrowing down "what is possible right NOW". Sometimes we have ideas about a work place, but they don't really align with reality. By actually walking towards one possibility, you can then decide if it is the thing you want or if you want to change directions. But if you do like it you can actually start doing it right then, because you are already there. If that makes sense... :D Best wishes to you! ♥

[@charlotte-adams]

@@janalunadottir thank you for your reply, it helps :) I can tell that you have developed your te, very admirable. I think I have a possibility in mind now that I think I might act upon, which is changing careers. the thing is, its not easy to come back to my current position as a means of escape if it doesn't work. thank you for the encouragement :))

[@atthecore4560]

As an ENTJ, I'm very in touch with my emotions and inner-turmoil. I learned to practice self-awareness. It's a good thing too, because I was an unyielding and arrogant ass in my youth. I gained a new issue by being connected with my emotions though. I began to realize I wanted people to be aware of my emotions and ask for my clarification. It almost never happens and so it leaves me feeling isolated and unimportant enough by my loved ones, who have no interest in how I'm impacted by and effected by my life experience. I don't want to be told how I should feel. I need to be asked how I feel. It's no wonder I see people as shadows until they actually care about my existence. On the upside; I've found a way to escape this. It's not easy, but I will never quit trying to find ways to gain my own serenity of being.

[@awkwardhuman6314]

I fear this man. As an INFJ his comments on how we live in the future too much and never really getting to live the life now make me emotional. Now I'm going to imagine my future self regretting regretting how much I could've done.

[@elsieshrivnauth3107]

Find yourself Know yourself Grow yourself Be yourself ~ ~ ~

[@alexeysaranchev6118]

And finally, K...

[@elisa4620]

I love that :)

[@Chigger]

I'm an ENFP who was sulking about this exact thing just yesterday evening. I don't know the true worth of any of my ideas.

[@sexyskittles6822]

Enfp here I feel ya

[@padgettfarmer]

ENFP also and I understand. What is this feeling of accomplishment people get when they take an idea to completion. What a concept.

[@chocolatefrenzieya]

Holy smokes you're amazing. Totally called out, here. As an asocial, not antisocial, island, I'm not YET regretting the whole island thing, but definitely starting to worry about being eaten by my cat when the time comes lol!

[@ruddypereira]

As an ISTP I can say that the part about us, at least for me, was spot on. I kinda am there at that point where I've burned almost all bridges possible but I don't feel so much regret because I don't even see what I could've done differently. I mostly just try to focus on something else when the sadness from not being able to connect to anyone takes over.

[@ruddypereira]

​@@jwhite-1471 To be honest it's more like a frustration from making people sad because of my inability to connect. I end up burning the bridges just because it's more convenient than going through the trouble of actually trying to connect and keep a relation with anyone, even if they are important to me.

[@kaska456]

Nah fuck living, my only regret is not discovering chess as a child.

[@louisejoel]

My biggest regret is not learning to win Monopoly or caring to

[@brokeneggshell5041]

My regret is not taking any free macarons when people were giving out free macarons. I think about it all the time.

[@helenryan5217]

INTJ?

[@aya-yk8iq]

@@brokeneggshell5041 enfp

[@annmowatt7547]

Newly widowed INFJ, this made me cry as you are so right and here I am regretting all the things I now wish I had done while we had the chance, instead of my fretting over everything. Thanks for pointing this out and I hope others will realise this before it is too late. Carpe diem.

[@Lindz2817]

He hit the nail on the head for me as an ISFJ. I am constantly thinking about switching my career path (I'm currently on the track to become an elementary school teacher and am getting my master's degree) and wondering if this is the right thing for me to be pursuing. I have a whole list of other possible careers and have already started thinking about what else might be out there for me. I can't act on it just yet as I still have another year to go in my master's. Initially, I thought a lot of the concern I had about the issue may just be a lot of stress bogging down on me and imposter syndrome that I may not succeed. However, FJ pointing out that not thinking about the other possibilities is an ISxJ's biggest regret made me think that maybe this isn't just a lapse in time--maybe this will actually become a regret of mine later on in life if I don't consider everything.

[@briaharris183]

As an ISTJ, man u r spot on! I found a career path I believe I wanted to go don but covid hit and I had to hit pause. Then other things got in the way as well, I had to stop and be like maybe there is something else I could do, instead of enwanting to be this one thing for many years of my life blocking out other options, why don't I look around just to b sure or even ....try something new....WHICH IS WEIRD AS FUCK

[@iyuna1189]

My biggest regret is talking badly to people

[@DiscoveryWonders]

Do You mean like being mean, or losing it, or just hurting someone's feelings because of being honest but in a not so mean way?

[@pamelaboswell9715]

Frank, if you read these comments, I wonder if you'd consider doing a poll of your audience; I'm curious to see which the types are over/under represented.

[@flutenanyidk1806]

The IJ types seem to be the most common here, and INFPs. Meanwhile, I'm seeing more ENFJs in the comment section! 😄 There weren't many for a while.

[@applebits8324]

There are many INTP too, but we either show up together or don't show up at all lmao

[@louisejoel]

He already has. INs dominate

[@INTP564]

@@applebits8324 Yeah that explains that INTPs don't talk much but when it's the topic of their interest they are invested.

[@lesil1000]

Mostly INFPs. And some people who think they’re an INTJ or INFJ, but are also INFPs…

[@noname8354]

ENTP here. Honestly, I'm pretty content with how things turned out and I'm cutting myself slack because I was mentally ill for most of my teenage years. But the biggest regrets I can think of are: 1)taking calculus 3 with a horrible Professor 2)not hanging out with people in my club in college until the end of the second semester (I'm a rising Sophomore). Those people are incredible but I become a fucking workaholic when stressed out, which is what happened. I didn't even let myself take a day off until the last 2-3 weeks of school the second semester (except for when I took off 3 days because my dog died). This one is a bigger regret because I was so lonely, even talking to someone for a couple of minutes was a great social interaction for me. I went a week without having a proper conversation too many times, and I missed out on a LOT.

[@lulumoon6942]

That is a total ENTP wall of text LOL (I/ENTP Ambivert here)

[@somewhatblankpaper1423]

19 yo male. I haven't taken an official MBTI test, but I might have INTP tendency according to some free online MBTI tests: Anyways, after watching this video, I came up with a way to reduce my regret whenever I need. So, I've written down the following ideas, each with justification, word by word and stuck to the wall behind my computer screen so that I can have some glances and reflect on those words everyday. Those are the ideas I have so far (maybe I'd add more): ------------------------------------------------------ -"Reflect on the goals" Vaguely speaking, everyone has some goals that guide himself/herself throughout his/her life. It is a mental projection towards the future, and we don't know how and why they are generated (maybe neuroscientists would be able to explain in the future?). However, we can reflect and be aware of some goals so that we can adjust ourselves to achieve them. -"Time is irreversible, so focus on the future" Well, so far, we can take the first idea as granted according to science. So, from that, because regretting usually doesn't help us solving future problems and we can't go back in time to re-solve the problem, it seems to make sense to focus on the future. But in case regretting helps with some problems, maybe we can consider it. -"Every problem/goal has at least one way to achieve it until proven otherwise." This idea is not scientifically demonstrated, and it might sound absurd. However, that idea is not absolutely bogus if we look at the inventors, scientists, philosophers... throughout the history around the world. Also, we acknowledge that our knowledge about this world is currently very limited, so if we want to deal with the uncertainties, it makes sense to perhaps loosen a bit and try to keep a mindset that drives us to figure out some way to achieve our goals whether concrete or abstract or both. Also, sometimes, we always tell ourselves that a problem is impossible to solve, but we haven't even, at least, demonstrated that it's impossible. In that sense, this statement makes us aware of that irrationality. -"We are not alone; we are in a society." Well, sometimes, we tend to forget that we live in a society, and we can discuss our problems with others. As we see, our knowledge is limited, so regardless of how clever or smart we are, there's surely someone has more knowledge or ideas in some aspects than us that can help us solving our problems. But for introverts, it does take some effort to talk to others. However, being aware that a society exists could be useful in this situation. -"Commit, don't overthink." (for concrete goals usually) This is a super vague statement, but sometimes, we do realize that just imagining and stalling makes us stray further away from our concrete goals. So, this idea becomes clearer the more a person relates it to his/her own experience. This has been a struggle for me, but it has gotten better this year since I'm aware of it. ------------------------------------------------------------------------ (Summary) So, if we puzzle those 5 ideas together, from a goal-oriented perspective, we should reflect and write down our own goals and be ready to commit after finding at least one solution to achieve goal or to demonstrate the goal is not possible. Then, from that, we see it is usually pointless to regret because it doesn't help us achieving our goal or showing that our goal is not possible. Also, it clogs our thoughts. Moreover, there are other people who can help us, but we just need to put a bit more effort. (Extra) Maybe those ideas can also be applied to deal with other emotion outbursts or whatever.

[@tsilue]

It's a really good explanation, i should read it again. With respect and thanks, Intp.

[@CK-wv9pp]

INFJ here. I regret not pausing to deeply appreciate my 20s and teenage years - the higher energy, better mobility and eyesight, faster recovery rate, more alert mind, radiance of youthful skin, bountiful hair, and all good and bad experiences. I took many things for granted. Now that I am in my mid-40s, I try to appreciate where I am neurologically, psychologically and physically in the present moment, since I cannot control or stop time, aging and loss. I do not want my 50-year-old self to regret missing out on my 40s. And I would like to do the same favour for my 60-year-old self, if I get to that milestone.

[@adalovelace7678]

I feel this too! INFJ in my mid-forties. I went back to school last year to become a teacher and have since been diagnosed with a degenerative genetic disease. I regret not taking advantage of my youth. I will be too sick to teach full-time so now I have to rethink my calling.

[@dubuyajay9964]

@@adalovelace7678 Mood.

[@beautifulday1665]

INTP here and I fuckin don't give a flying FUCK about emotions in a world where we need to use our minds... not to say that emotions are not good or something but I believe that I should ONLY use emotions WHEN NEEDED, not all the time like some people think... Emotional interaction gets me uncomfortable every time I make one with my family, cuz they make shit awkward when I am trying to enjoy my time with them in a family gathering, my dad be like: WHO ARE YOU..😲😲 he can speak people..!!

[@hoshiyu4019]

It's not like we can control emotions the way we want anyways, we are humans after all

[@agot7fan855]

As an Infp it’s hilarious when my intp dad says that to my intp brother 😂 and they both criticise each other on the same stuff it’s hilarious. They hate each other.

[@emp9413]

Just because it makes you uncomfortable doesn't mean you shouldn't do it. Just means you don't have practice with it. Balance is everything, and emotions guide us to safety. Better listen.

[@Anuyushi]

Infp here, and I find emotions annoying a lot. Not that they can't be great, emotions are awesome, but I often see people around me are controlled by emotions, the world falling apart because people are letting themselves embrace blind rage until it's almost so out of touch with reality that there's no talking to them. Sometimes I wish I could feel emotions better, but other times, I'm just glad I'm not the guy screaming about gluten.

[@zerikkstazzi7458]

Sorry to say this; but this kinda flying offended me somehow but yet i appreciate your perspective viewpoint though. Cheers. (INFP)

[@evastover70]

I love that Frank James announces his commercial breaks ❤️❤️

[@tenthousanddaysofgratitude]

Aww I like it when you play (and sing). Stick with us ENFP’s and we’ll show you experiences. But could you help us with our business plan? I hope you’ve been camping or kayaking or something and that’s where you got bit and scraped. I hope there was a fun experience to go with your bumps and bruises. 💖