What are the Cognitive Transitions of INFPs? | Four Sides of the Mind INFP | CS Joseph

CS Joseph details the cognitive transitions of INFPs via the Four Sides of the Mind theory.
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[@meretartem]

Cmon, Chase... let me be respectful and successful without doing anything.I don't wanna get out of bed.

[@choco1199]

Wish

[@TheGuyWhoCantPickAName]

Don’t we all

[@peachesandpoets]

Thisss

[@jt_rooster3228]

@@TheGuyWhoCantPickAName No actually.

[@christyrosecalvo6927]

Same here....

[@brysonteel]

I love watching your INFP videos so I can check myself haha. I swear you are one of the only people on KZbin (that I’m aware of) that keeps it very real with our type. I appreciate you!

[@brysonteel]

I think the most affirming thing that you said was regarding an INFP that does their research. I think I’ve used extensive research into what I do as a means to combat the fear of judgement. I definitely reference the opinions of many people to make final decisions about the info that I collect, but that definitely seems to remove a lot of the fear.

[@christyrosecalvo6927]

Dasurv... I have been babied in some.

[@royh4305]

You are extremely blunt and direct. No sugar coating and no BS whatsoever. And I f*cking LOVE IT! I think we INFP's really need this. Thank you!

[@stanleykyree9552]

i dont mean to be so offtopic but does anybody know of a trick to get back into an instagram account..? I stupidly lost the account password. I love any tricks you can offer me

[@peytonmohammed4209]

@Stanley Kyree instablaster :)

[@lucisventusnoctis]

24:35 first gateway for hero-> warrior Fi: learn how to research and weigh decisions such as rules, consequences of possible actions for self *and others* 27:43 second gateway for infant Te -> royalty: do not blindly fear or rely on other's input rather put in time and effort for research and experience for self. if you put in that time, you can stand by you 31:22, 37:41, 41:40 third gateway nemesis/uncertainty/worry "realize that yoru value system is your own" can't expect/burden/force/judge others for yours/their value system and "be certain enough in your own principles to realize that you have the freedom of choice"; also intentions vs results of intentions are both improtant 41:34 fourth gateway solution for ti demon wasn't clear to me. if anyone has input please comment!!

[@zzulm]

@@vizuz thank you

[@anastasiaapop2636]

4th is Ti-Demon engage in humility and accept critique from others instead of setting walls when someone questions our status reputation. Understand that sometimes we act stupid so we need to be willing to change in order to grow. We would get to our Ego in a healthy way in this case instead of the demonic way (repeating stagnant mental routines that don’t let us grow)

[@naamnei]

​@@anastasiaapop2636Ti demon is about internal logic processing. How's that related to humility and what he said here? Trying to understand

[@estevancr6907]

I was kinda disappointed that the class was not 3 hours long, but you said enough to beat me off my bed. Thanks... Now I'm angry with myself (not with you, although I wish I could). If I don't suffer, I'll suffer. I can choose the suffering, a little every day or a unimaginable unbearable ammount later.

[@maxsamofare9054]

Spot on. No one describes INFP better than you do. I am an INFP, that is exactly who we are. Well done.

[@SasukeUchiha-rb1rs]

“You are so afraid of suffering, you are so foolish.” 😂😂😂

[@keretaman]

How apt that you're Sasuke Uchiha 😂 maybe this is why I always drawn to characters like Sasuke...

[@durntortoise8445]

Ouch! This was really good. I had to replay some of the more painful parts to reinforce the importance of the lessons. The parts about Involuntary celibacy and allowing oneself to remain sheltered were a gut punch that I'm quite grateful for. Thanks for informing us of the standard we should hold ourselves to, Chase. May your health continue to improve good sir.

[@ammar9279]

It hurt so bad😭 thank you

[@MrMmatthieu13]

Kinda fun at the same time though

[@Raphael0654]

16:20 Yes... INFPs value authenticity, but can seem inauthentic 'cause they're scared of shame. But being audacious & in-your-face isn't often an advantageous strategy for an INFP to employ, given their affiliative temperament. The flip side of the coin is having the wisdom & self-control to know when to bite your tongue. Don't confuse authenticity & courage with impulsive recklessness. Indiscriminate honesty could be considered infantile compulsion, rather than ballsy courage. INFPs aren't oblivious or indifferent to the consequences of their actions, nor do they tend to cultivate an appreciation for infamy. Again, because they're not anti-social-so they're not likely to be deliberately defiant. Being authentic when you're an idealist means striving to sublimate even your baser proclivities. Some INFPs can be overt misanthropes in their angsty youth, but their inescapable appreciation for meaning/purpose, & life-affirming behavior almost inevitably leads them out of that mindset...to where the typical, healthy INFP will respect the potential consequences levied by the court of public opinion. You can say all of that doesn't matter & hold people in overt contempt, but then you pretty much cease to be affiliative. It doesn't take courage to be brutally honest & open when you come from a default place of not caring what others think about you. On the other hand, there IS wisdom in INFPs learning to be more bold, blunt, & assertive-but they still need to retain a balanced/moderate sense of discretion, & count the cost, since they do ultimately have quite an instinctual perception of others (the more experience they acquire); they can't help but contemplate & integrate an awareness of others' sensibilities, & see the value in not causing needless scandal.

[@CSJoseph]

Valuing authenticity doesn’t mean they actually are authentic

[@Raphael0654]

Can't disagree there.

[@Raphael0654]

In another of your vids, you said, "If I have to change myself a little bit for the benefit of my fellow man so that we can have a great relationship that actually produces results, that doesn't make me a liar-that makes me somebody that actually cares about them." So I guess it just comes down to the situation & your preference for Ti vs. Fe, at times.

[@sash8099]

Well said! It's funny hearing about authenticity from Fe types when their default mode is to not be their authentic self. Not stirring trouble is an NF thing but he only shits on Infps for it. I've met Infjs and Entps who really won't stand up for others in fear of group think but Infps, Enfps and Esfps more often do. His bias for the Ti-Fe axis is really annoying to be honest. Ti = truth = autheticity but Fi doesn't, get real. But I'll admit the other advice is useful especially for young Infps who haven't experienced life or suffering.

[@hking1009]

I don't understand how INFPs can hate hearing this because in my experience suffering the consequences of depravity, sloth and pride is infinitely more painful than being told what to do about it. Like it's not even close. Your videos are a goldmine of pragmatic wisdom and are providing a lot of much needed clarity in my life, thank you

[@RoseMarieMullins]

🩷🩷🩷

[@caitlin9781]

Thank you CSJ, the impact that you have left on KZbin may not be fully appreciated now, but it will be one day. Also, funny story to tell. I had typed this guy that I was talking to on a dating app as an ESTP. I had used the type grid and there was not a doubt in my mind. When I finally agreed to meet up with him in person, I discovered that he was an obnoxious ISTJ that I had to spend a couple of hours with. But, at least I took the risk.

[@aladdout9454]

I'm not going to comment on what type frank james is but his perception of infps is ridiculous and insulting and so one dimensional. What's hilarious is some of those infp bits are more of infj weaknesses than infp weaknesses.

[@zephdo2971]

i swear this guy is so unapologetic. i love it 😂

[@jesca4855]

Ahhh!! So accurate! I'm so lucky to have an istp brother who puts up with me and keeps me productive even when I don't feel like it. He took me out of my dream land and showed me that my ideals are worthless if there are no actions behind them. :)

[@thelionofthenorth9036]

Right words at the right time. 28 year old infp in the stages of metamorphosis of slaying the weakness that festers in my soul, to redeem the light inside of me from the depravity of the isolation that I have allowed my self to have fallen. So sacred to utter the words on my tung for fear losing my status and my pride or my image of myself. An internal battle of outcomes only to choose the weak route only to damn myself for being a coward for not living authenticity according to my own truth. A dragon eating it's own tail a circle of self denial, loathing and apathy. Should have could have.

[@carolinechiu907]

Seriously, having an ESTJ father, an ISFJ mother and an ENFJ boyfriend helps me TREMENDOUSLY. I’m still kind of lazy and stagnant from time to time (now really but that’s not what I want to fulfill my goals), but it’s crazy how self-disciplined I am compared to my peers. My family got my butt hurt all the time, but they gave me so much confidence.

[@carolinechiu907]

And also, it’s weird how Frank James portrayed INFPs on his channel.

[@stevenprieto87]

“You cant change the world if you haven’t experienced it both the good and the Bad” SO TAKE RISKS

[@Jesusfreak670]

Are INFP's more likely to question their type? Bc I'm an INFP but I always question it. I've looked at every other type there is and watched all of C.S's videos on INFP's, and it sounds just like me but I still question it. Why?

[@MrMmatthieu13]

Maybe because there isn't proof and INFP needs proof ! Keep searching you'll eventually be sure

[@ambercolored3090]

i figure it may because Fi doesn't want to be fit into a box, always looking for something new and gathering different insights to add to their identity maybe

[@Wtf-er7du]

One word: Se trickster

[@indybun64570]

I feel you. I'm pretty sure I'm an INTP at times however I think it may be because I'm using my Te inferior to figure things out about myself by doing an ungodly amount of research and I keep slipping into thinking and feeling modes.

[@luizabuna]

I just wanted to say thank you very much Chase for the information you have put out . It has really helped me to get out of chaotic emotional loops and never ending existential crisis.

[@aayushrandeep1981]

Every time I watch your videos I become a better person. I am greatful for your content. I 'll quote your words to every lazy person, "You gain wisdom only through suffering." A life lesson learnt.

[@JH-ly3qq]

My younger self would have thought 48 laws to be pessimistic and jaded. I take it as a sign of maturity that I can accept his work for speaking the truth and he is exposing these laws so that people can be better in avoiding them and not abusing them.

[@lalane5023]

“INFP’s are constantly managing other people’s perceptions of them.” SO, so true. I will memorize that one. It will help me work against it.

[@CSJoseph]

This is why they aren’t the most authentic type when people on the internet claim they are.

[@CSJoseph]

This is why they aren’t the most authentic type when people on the internet claim they are.

[@noraflood6482]

@@CSJoseph We are authentic! You don't get us in this regard - maybe you've met the wrong infps. Your example of Ti-authenticity is hilarious. It's like a rebel without a cause trying to prove a point. That's not 'authentic' for us. Ti-authenticity seems to be about locking yourself into a self-consistent system (so no hypocrisy). You spit anywhere everywhere. That's irrelevant for us! It's more authentic not to spit in front of someone you like (bc you like them duh!). For us it's the truth of the developing heart (so even if not logically consistent now, it could be in the future - and is less important anyway that the Fi-truth that is accepted). I think Ti and Fi clash that way sometimes. There's an 'aspirational' element in Fi-authenticity too - so maybe it can be considered 'inauthentic' insofar as we are not always able to live up to the values we judge are important/beautiful. When we're younger maybe we deny this - but most of us are quite capable of recognising this - especially because we always view ourselves from above/external perspective. There is also a 'manipulative' side though as you sort of recognise. Some of us like to lead people's hearts to our Fi-conclusions (for bad self-justification or good moral change) - and we do it by going into their hearts too and carving out Fi-roads for them to follow.

[@Kiseochan]

I agree we constantly manage people's perceptions of us. We are authentic in the sense that we really feel compelled to do what Fi feels right even if it doesn't Te make sense.

[@user-lm4bv1gh7u]

@@noraflood6482 nothing gets more authentic than telling the truth to someone in their face

[@vivekanandgorle3770]

I am an infp. And I don't know about my own principles but it seems like I have some principles. But I never ever enforce principles on others except the principles like freedom of choice, standing up against injustice, empathy towards others etc.. and all my poems comes from what I feel and all those feelings create these principles. And I can not deny those principles because I deeply feel about them with my fi hero. And yes, I used to care a lot about public image when I was student. But then I understand that public image is a burden that I carry.and people are using it for their own advantage. it's almost from 10 years that I didn't care about the public image. But my parents are still concern very much about public image. because my father himself is an activist and politician.

[@vivekanandgorle3770]

@Meade Vlog channel detesting is not good for your mental peace

[@sandradibiaso7316]

Actor James Dean said "Dream as if you'll live forever, live as if you'll die today." The beginning part sounds very INFP but the second part sounds ISFP. I know that actor James Dean from East of Eden, Rebel Without a Cause and Giant lived in the moment and created his art like painting real life and sculpting a head that looked like himself so he must have been an ISFP. He took his acting seriously. His aspiration was all about being in control of his craft like improvising whenever he chose to, his plans for his future and winning every race he could. His aspiration was an ENTJ. By the way, you can tell that Frank James lacks both Ni and Fe in his ego cognitive stack. His Fi and Ne are so noticeable in his videos.

[@Mirka-tq1ji]

Thank you for the great episode! How can you make an INFP family member stop believing they are entitled over your life and how you think and what choices you make and constantly judging you and thinking they are always right? And also....hopefully the kittens are well!

[@diaaeddinalhamad4522]

Thanks Chase for this enlightening lecture about Infp. It actually made me more conscious about my decisions and motivated me even more to become a better person. Thank you with all love

[@tiffany7273]

I really appreciate your videos on the personality types. I was originally types as a INFJ but I later discovered I am an INFP. I definitely resonated with what you said about INFPs fear of failure and of others having a negative opinion of me which has really crippled me in my past. I am trying to grow and mature as an INFP. Thank you so much for your bluntness. I have learned a lot from your videos.

[@Clover501]

This filled me with enthusiasm. Thank you

[@vybie]

Here we go again...

[@Walicia]

Ah shit...

[@Magdalene41]

“Every man dies. Not every man really lives.” Braveheart!

[@ac-jn1iq]

I know I can’t force people to share my ideals, but I have to cut people off when they push me to have their ideals. It’s happened to me more than a few times where someone I was befriending tried to push something they know I’m against onto me, and simply saying, “please stop I don’t agree with that.” wasn’t respected. Example: I used to be addicted to meth. It’s a big part of my story. I’m super against drug use of any kind, although, I’ve experimented with every drug in my past. This guy knew this and proceeded to act extremely interested in my Christianity and spiritual writing. After months of friendship, he starts pushing mushrooms and crap onto me. I explained to him he’s crossing a boundary and disrespecting my beliefs, and he continues to call me stupid and closed minded. How am I closed minded when you are telling me about something I’ve ALREADY done? I’ve learned there comes a point where setting a boundary requires cutting people off. And that’s what’s healthiest for a person like me who leans towards people pleasing.

[@danielmuresan6779]

I'm glad you mentioned neuroplasticity. If the brain is able to rewire based on the circumstances and the implied demands (ex. be more focused because you are doing a surgery!), why wouldn't it be able to rewrite its top favorite cognitive functions? For instance, would programming make me a Ti user because I use Ti a lot? Thank you for the lecture, btw!

[@CSJoseph]

we cant rewrite being right handed or left handed... not without extreme difficulty

[@fjbz3737]

31:35 Everyone has that one INFP aunt

[@meredith18352]

Not me, I had an ENTJ aunt, she was so bossy! My other 2 were ESTJs, they were both a lot of fun believe it or not.

[@zinasantana]

Holy shit you might be right.. Either that or ISFP

[@briangonsalez2173]

I’m an INFP auntie 😆

[@erinmichelle2620]

Thank you for sharing your knowledge.

[@anarita1233]

That thing about being depraved and overvaluing myself is so right. I am indeed a very interest based and only recently I got aware of that. Because I was trying to feed my ego I ended up hurting someone I liked without noticing. Deep down I know I had perverse intentions but I didn't know the impact of my behaviour until this person pointed out after analising me. Thank god they are very empathetic and non judgemental, otherwise they won't talk to me anymore. How could I be so shameless and ignore all the physicall non verbal clues? I have my own personal reasons to sometimes get out of touch with things outside of me, but that doesn't excuse the fact that i acted inapropriate. Now I think more of what others can get out of a situation. But I have to force myself to do it so, cause I naturally am a airhead.

[@pooja350]

I'm so glad to be watching this at 20. I have much reinventing to do. Can't be stuck in a rut forever

[@jakeemdawes-upshaw5358]

I am apparently an INFP. Been used to the blunt truths about life told from different viewpoints. Yet still your delivery and message got through to me haha. Though I'm still new to all these MBTI related things and try not to give it too much credence I have to thank you for inspiring me to take a deep dive into Robert Greene's work. For those who want to attain, observe, or defend against power. Great haha.

[@leelee1782]

Notes to self: 22:30 First gateway: Responsibility vs Irresponsibility - responsibility weighing out decisions; do your research! - don't avoid making decisions (do the day, don't have the day do you); if you avoid making them --> people think less of you, since inaction/stagnation is often worse than risking a bad decision 27:13 Second gateway: Fear of what other people think (Te inferior) - Understand the value of other things/people and realize you shouldn't be as entitled to certain things, then seek to make your opinions/thoughts as valuable as they should be - if you're well-researched, then it doesn't matter what other people think because your opinions/ideas will be inherently valuable - you'll have the confidence to ignore what other people and be able to take control and handle the situation yourself 29:19 Third Gateway: Worry/Uncertainty About Other People's Value Systems - often prejudiced against others' values --> can come off as being insensitive/selfish to others OR have a tendency to force own values onto other people/shun people for not sharing those values (often causes additional stagnation) - use other people's opinions as an opportunity to question/experiment with your own beliefs and values (back this up with additional research) rather than an obstacle - even if you have good intentions, doesn't necessarily mean the results of your actions (fueled by those intentions) will also be good --> bc of Se trickster, might have a difficult time finding out how your actions affect others - realize that you have the freedom of choice to choose your principles; try confronting Ni critic to take the risk to adopt different value systems - how do you know? you've never even tried it before. why are you so judgmental? 41:30 Fourth Gateway: Get out of your comfort zone? transition properly? accept criticism? not too sure - go experience life and stop avoiding suffering --> gain wisdom

[@sunset4ever29]

You ghosted a ghoster? I hope your aunt is going to be ok. If we all spit because we didn't care about what everyone thought, then we would all just be stepping on everyone else's spit. I have recently come to the place that I don't think we need to suffer to learn depth and we don't need polarity to evolve. Experiencing and then trusting that a neutrality will eventually result is what I'm feeling right now. You made some good points.

[@CSJoseph]

much appreciated

[@nailachoudhury3795]

I've always thought only suffering brings depth, what changed your mind?

[@sunset4ever29]

@@nailachoudhury3795 It seems to waste a lot of time that can be spent raising your vibration and that then can help to raise the vibration of others in the collective consciousness. Suffering can help one to see that they have to go in another direction as you spend time ruminating over your wounds and not looking outward to others, so in that respect it's a lesson. My suffering is not going to alleviate anyone else's situation as I'm concentrating on myself and my pain. God didn't send us here to suffer.

[@jennifersims8484]

I agree with a lot of this,really insightful,it took me putting myself in horrible positions to make the choice to kill the victim mentality I had,and stand up on my own. Only thing that differs with me is my entitlement,my pet peeve is people who feel entitled,dont take responsibility for their own shit,and are lazy! But I had to,again put myself in positions,to push myself,and very early on,had to understand, peoples points of views,from all different walks of life,therefore,stopped the one-sidedness very early on. I believe its a choice to see your own issues,and either change,or stagnate. I am still learning,and am 38. Hopefully I will never stop learning.

[@therodriguezs781]

One thing that took me a loong time to develop was not suffering from cognitive dissonance. It really opens my mind up to the perspective of others, and if you find that rare moment I'm not in the clouds or something, I can really pay attention to sources that don't inherently come from within. Of course, this also means that with new information, I may form an even bigger picture or change my viewpoint entirely. Things constantly shift I'm really getting into these cognitive shifts and I find that even though I'm a Te user, I can also comfortably think in introversion as well. These videos help. I'm not perfect by any means, but I really like learning from you. :)

[@BrewerArts]

The description of being stuck or stagnant nails me. There are two general directions which often seem valid at the same time; to move towards self comfort and return into that inner-world that we are familiar with and have cultivated to provide everything we need or to lean into discomfort and expose ourselves. Many people advise INFPs to embrace their natural tendencies and to defend their boundaries and to make space for themselves, but this is a problem. While we may be the Zen masters of our own domain the more time we spend there the more we are estranged from reality, and that is the real bigger picture. The tough stuff is part of it. It does make me curious how many INFPs are actually successful in learning how to truly not give a fuck what other people think of them. Can such a core trait be overcome? I suspect even when we seem to be doing it well on the outside we will always be stressed below the surface.

[@UnspeakMyMind]

15:14 it's ridiculous to constantly be afraid of what others are thinking about me. I loved the comparison of a healthy INFP vs a hiding INFP, but never felt so accurately read when he said, "You think bc you're an Fi user that you're authentic? LOL. nope. INFPs have this thing where they manage other people's perceptions of them-" 😂 This is why I love CS Joseph. It's like he's reading my life out of a book. And yeah, the truth hurts, but it's meant to serve me. I now have an idea of what a mature INFP looks like. If only I could get there the "meaningful" way

[@KnightB97]

I needed this, thanks man. I think alot of INFPs undervalue tough love.

[@genericbotface]

Thank you for going into so much more detail about what cognitive transitions are! Super helpful.

[@littlepriests]

infp moment is simultaneously wanting you as a life coach but then also getting my feelings hurt thruout your vids and getting mad about it

[@littlepriests]

Ok that said I laughed so hard throughout this video. Thank you

[@kalinjax]

I’ve spent well over a decade of doing some serious personal growth work and I think I will always care what people think. It’s baked in the cake at this point. But I learned a long time ago that I can care and still do what I do. Like I hope that you won’t think less of me for this but I’m going to do it, regardless. I think it’s important for INFP’s to figure this out. I don’t want to look stupid but I’m compelled to speak, anyways. I am terrified to speak up in front of this crowd but I’m going to do it. You can care and still put one foot in front of the other. You can be scared and still do the thing.

[@loisrabies8713]

I can’t follow this with my small brain.

[@darkrebel123]

As a 34 year old INFP, the best thing I've ever done for my personal growth was to spend 6 or 7 years completely dedicated to educating myself, both through college and grad school, and through reading tons of books. My explicit intention was to tear down my entire existing worldview and rebuild a new one that is solidly grounded in objective reality.

[@skxjxhxh]

Yeaaaaah, this video's full of harsh truths as usual----no sugar coating at all----but I know what you're saying. I was a toxic priviledged INFP ten years ago. Now I'm just hell bent on growing and experiencing life from different perspectives so I can continuously reconstruct myself

[@cinthyacihendra497]

As an INFP. The hardest thing to do is owning my fault and take responsiblity for it, thanks for the spot on. We all learn to be a better person everyday. Im so grateful that i had a chance to found ur video maybe it hurts to hear it, but that is the truth!

[@wisdomseeker3132]

An "Infp" Male here. I just want to say Thanks Joseph! For the Light. And Thanks God that give you the Knowledge And Wisdom. 👌👍🎯

[@madeleinehermes6837]

one comment about infp’s being or not being authentic. choosing to not talk or share opinion does not have to be a sense of trying to fit in, honestly in my experience i find it authentic because i am aware others have their own opinions and they like to hear their own opinions from others. when i know i dont share their opinion i have a choice to share mine and hope they listen as to why it is my opinion(try doing that with out making someone else upset(not that infp’s wouldnt be as well)) on the other hand choosing to listen to the opinion of someone else(maybe asking detail(if its personally interesting)) then remain silent to the topic and allow the other person to have or change their opinion on their own. (no one can really change the opinion of others, individuals need to make that choice) and yeah in the end infp’s create an atmosphere where the other person understands their opinion does not resinate with the infp, the person feels attacked by this feeling and the infp remains authentic by staying true and genuine to themselves by doing something socially unnatural. infps are not know for having lots of friends. i am enjoying this video and interested in your take of what ive said.

[@NatalieTewa]

Thank you for always dropping gems. This has been really helpful

[@sachinbharti9634]

It is what it is . We can't change

[@maci792]

This is very useful information now pls excuse me I’ma go cry now while desperately reading and researching.

[@aidenparca]

I wish they could just hear this without hating the fact that these are true

[@rachels3928]

INFP here… Yeah. Hiding/self isolating to protect myself used to be my coping mechanism. But through your videos and talking things over with the NFJs in my life, I’ve been able to pull myself out of that mentality and change my viewpoint. Scared of running the show… I had that a lot when I was younger. Once again, outgrew it. I always make sure my opinion is factually accurate before I give my opinion, but I’m getting better at sharing it without fear. Ohhhhhh noooo I literally never feel entitled… in fact I always feel the exact opposite 😅 I tell myself I don’t deserve any of it. I… undervalue myself… swung to the opposite side of the pendulum… I love knowing I’ve put the time and effort into the things I’m passionate about so I can teach other people it. I’ve been teaching my ENFJ and INFJ friends type recently and they are always in awe of the knowledge I can impart to them in a way they can understand it. My ENFP friend recently praised me for being the most accepting person in her life, despite having my own morality system that disagrees with some of her choices. I don’t understand not caring what other people are going through or finding a “to each their own” in every situation. I wouldn’t want to be forced to change my values, so why would I force others to? I used the excuse that I was sheltered for a long time. But I took the time to unshelter myself and expand my worldview and I’ve been told I’m “wise beyond my years” ever since I adopted that mentality.

[@ANoteToSelf]

I could have written this lol.

[@paulkickling7828]

Frank James definitely an INFP. I know that Fi hero "gay" quality INFP guys have. And Im an INFP male btw.

[@aladdout9454]

really?? i feel infj guys have it worse in gayness...infp guys just seem more in touch with their emotions

[@aladdout9454]

@@dasein9980 haven't met any... just pewdiepie in his early days... and guys complaining on infj subreddit.Also FJ doesn't seem gayish ...he seems more like a emo wierdo... but in a charming way

[@tomazs8380]

i also think he is an INFP even tho he thinks he is an INFJ

[@aladdout9454]

@Meade Vlog channel lmao can you suggest some interviews i wanna see

[@jbrendel98]

@@dasein9980he taught me how to calculate the cognitive functions but I sort of lost respect for him when he called the shadow functions meaningless and nonexistent and he said he was confused by the difference between the inferior and trickster functions. The shadow self or the subconscious is just as powerful, if not even more powerful than the conscious mind.

[@victoriamarfina9819]

Before watching this lecture I kind of thought to myself "so, will it be another one about the fact infps have to read books?" But I probably didn't really understand what that "read books" meant exactly. It is not when you casually read a book and pick up probably 1-2 interesting ideas from it, but more like a preparation for an exam that you can't fail type of reading. Like, "who is that idiot that gave me 95 points instead of 100?!! how dare you do that, you have no idea how much I studied!!", that type of thing. Most likely I won't even start doing or saying something if I am not sure for 100% it's the right thing, so I probably need more things that I am 100 % sure in. (sorry for taking your time)

[@ANoteToSelf]

Thanks for the tough love, Chase. Also, you got me hooked on Robert Greene 😂 Congratulations.

[@omar.22.]

this man is eye opening for infps a true gem. thank you C.S Joseph.

[@diegov.2624]

Wow, rarely felt deeply touched by a video. The fierce words, the tone, the harsh reality. As an INFP, I get it, I get your words. It's true that the "prophecy" could be fulfilled easily, by staying in the same path over and over. The egotism is a trait, and the "what others think" also. I have been working on being a more open/relaxed/adventurous INFP, to gain maturity and to embrace a better life. From what I've seen in the video, some INFPs really seem like douches. Sorry for saying that. One is not above the other. I value humility, thoughtfulness and respect. Create, experience, live, help others and yourself, be open to the world fellow INFPs :). C.S. Joseph, thank you for your impactful video.

[@ijustneedanamex7153]

i'm only about half way through the video and this is hella insightful; i can relate a lot (as an infp male) It's also given me insight (said the word again) on how I'm failing in life because I care too much about what others think and I often manipulate how others perceive me by withholding things I know / information

[@marianocastro3430]

Suffering is not the only way to gain wisdom. Proverbs 13:20 He who walks with wise men will be wise, But the companion of fools will suffer harm.

[@CSJoseph]

Yeah but those other men still had to suffer to get wise. Se learning from others mistakes vs. Si learning from their own mistakes.

[@rikasalvador]

Lmfao dude this video and the last about infp had be rolling 🤣🤣 thank you for keeping it real. And for the sass too. I truly needed to be called out like this!!!! Much love and respect ✊🏽 ❤️❤️❤️

[@Nyalloyd]

I think you just told me I’m a piece of shit but if I learn how to not be like myself then I can be amazing. I mean, you’re not wrong but I typically only expect that kind of asshattery from ESTJs and my bank. In all seriousness, loopholes are a definite skill of mine and has kept me as an important employee when I fail on other things. I work in social services-not profit and am driven and successful in finding help for people when everyone else didn’t give a shit or failed. So your comment on that was validating.

[@riesayoung5250]

Recently, I wrote out a Facebook post talking about a bit of my experiences with ignorant people and how it affects me (as a black, bisexual woman in a predominantly white area). At first, I was really scared of what people would think knowing that a lot of people would see it (most of my friends are white). Wondering if I would be bashed and making people hate me for what I say, even though I truly didn’t offend anyone or try to since names weren’t mentioned. With a little push from my ISFP friend, I posted it and got a majorly positive response. The only negative response I got in return was from that was my ESFJ boyfriend asking if that really was the best decision. A part of me practically said “I did it already, so I might as well go with it.” The true question is if I’ll be able to say what I want to say with at least a little bit of confidence again lol. ~ a shy INFP who honestly read this about five times before commenting lol *Edit:* Looking back on this, I'm glad that I did it and after that made me realize who I should truly value as my friends. I play on the game Among Us and make an effort to be more open and I ended up making friends across the world (my closest friend from Among Us is from Australia) and learn more ideas from them. No matter what age they are since everyone has different ideas that I'm willing to listen to and learn from. Even now, I really want to travel the world so I don't become a hermit and meet all of my friends, no matter where they are. With what happened within the last few months, I can say now that I have more confidence in myself compared to when I first posted this lol. I need to grow more still and that's okay, it is life.

[@za_warudo6615]

The phrase 'I've done it already so might as well go with it' is my mantra. Literally how I force myself out of my comfort zone 😂 good on you for going with your gut and sharing your experience 🙌🏾❤

[@webnovelsatu1455]

Entp so scary, i wonder if an infp can also store so many accurate information thats not going to help themselves

[@za_warudo6615]

'Just get in the dumpster where you belong' 😂😂😂 also thank you for your videos. They're a good kick up the arse. (Also, where you were walking was soooo beautiful)

[@Leneah99]

Thank you so much for all the time and effort you put in to doing your channels. I hope you continue in your sincerity, being true to yourself and honest with others. There are so many takeaways from your lectures, but the most impactful change, to the way I approach life, is this: 1. I’ve had to accept that I will be disliked by some people, because it’s impossible to please everyone, And 2. I’d rather be disliked for who I am, than disliked for who I pretend to be. Thank you again :)

[@oof649]

This was great! I stopped the video half way through and accepted the teaching position I was offered. Thank you Chase

[@theWater763]

how has it been going? :)

[@adriane.wenceslao]

it’s taken me a few months to fully digest all of this wisdom.. eager to apply and change

[@tomatoeggs48]

Here are my notes from the video (the comments also helped me). English is not my first language so I'm not sure whether everything I wrote makes sense the way I intended, or that I've understood everything correctly. So feel free to correct me! 1st gateway (unlocking responsibility) - Refocus your attention from personal status to objective outcomes. Make decisions about your principles and take a risk with your actions. 2nd gateway (unlocking courage) - When developing a well-researched, valuable belief system, as long as you’re putting the time and effort, don’t be afraid to live up to the truth (even publicly). 3rd gateway (unlocking certainty) - Experiment with new, or even opposing principles. Specifically, research the consequences of your actions on yourself and others. 4th gateway (unlocking true love and compassion for oneself and others) - Engage in humility and accept failure and critique from others. These work in a loop fashion (they're not an isolated activity).

[@nurbul5487]

thank you for the input Celine

[@zzulm]

Feelings can be overwhelming and we can shut down as a coping mechanism. This affects empathy, the solution is to practice feeling your feelings, even negative ones. Shame, fear for example are part of being human.

[@Subtlepicklee]

I am 25 and still young and i made a lot of mistakes in my life. Your content is really good, i dont get butthurt. I am just so happy that i am with ppl that truly wants the best for me and helps me build me up through the bad.

[@teachingai8735]

Thank you so much. You give the realist information on personality types on KZbin. I'm an INFP-T and I approve this message lol. Love your content.

[@KClark]

INFP here. LMFAO. I love you, fucking great content. I like your mix of tearing down the type and lifting up the type. Keep it coming.

[@cherrymarriedindiscord1404]

Just ... For the first gateway : talk about your opinion expecting another and discuss Humility is important, one's opinion is good but we have to prove it

[@ioanageorgia5799]

My mum is INFP and I am ENFP. She manipulated me my whole life. Like you said she forced her faith on me . I still am not confident to take decisions on my own because she will criticise me and explain that may way it's not the right way. My husband is INFJ and realised that she manipulates me to be against him. She preaches heaven and hell but her actions are the opposite of what she preaches. The way she manipulates us is she starts crying , inducing us pitty for her and we will act the way she acts. I don't know what my real potential is cas I'm just a sad copy of a broken INFP.

[@hannewouters6119]

I have a master degree psychology but want to learn how to cut people's hair. But I was like: no I don't gonna follow an evening course because all the people gonna be stupid and shallow. But I enrolled in an evening course hairdressing and I love to engage and learn from those people and their different views on life!

[@princessleai]

The bluntness be hitting me hard, and I need it

[@arthurhiroa4238]

18:02 seems very true to me. I'm not sure if I 'am' an INFP, but I can relate to this being-stuck-in-a-rut. I always wanted to become a teacher but never felt ready for it, so I'm 27 with two diploma's and still feel that I'm not qualified to be a teacher. I think I failed to see that you don't become a good teacher by staying in university and get more diploma's. So recently (because teachers in the field of religious education are in demand) I got the opportunity to teach as a substitute teacher and I recalled this video and just decided to try it (even if I don't have the right qualifications and don't have a teacher's certificate - which I'm also working on now) and I'm glad I finally managed to say 'yes' instead of worrying about my qualifications and falling flat on my face. And the part about outsourcing and being afraid of having + sharing an opinion at 20:13 is scarily accurate to me.

[@m.s9146]

We also are not judging, we exist in the metaphysical and so see into people’s souls. We then love them, despite what we see. ❤

[@johannahmarie7143]

This is awesome! I used to consider myself a mature infp and you've made me realize that I've still got much to learn, thanks!

[@cherrymarriedindiscord1404]

In the old age spitting was authentic, now we've all gotten used to it😂😂😂😂😂

[@cherrymarriedindiscord1404]

@aftonology101 I vote corrong for that pun 😂😂😂

[@dianadias3]

I know I am not a mature INFP because I still hide.. And I care about other people`s opinions of me.. When I won`t do that, I woud.have grown.. I will try and practice authenticity everyday..

[@shehrazadehedna3302]

Thank you Chase for your burning words that we defenitly need. That changes from the comforting ones we're always looking after, not realizing that they are often maintaining us in mediocrity... Wish you to keep that flame burning!

[@ankaschannel]

if you think frank james is an infp - fine, but why do you make it sound like an insult when you call him an infp?

[@CSJoseph]

Why are you taking it that way?

[@sp00g37]

because he might be acting like an infp haha

[@zajaiva5]

Frank James videos are just surface level and bad. But smart because he is milking the views out of self-absorbed INFPs, and I say this as an INFP hahaha

[@m.s9146]

Using anger to confront fear is still allowing the opinions of others to control you. However absorbing their negative opinions and moving away from those opinions into a different realm is an alternative way of doing battle. I think this way of doing battle is known as Aikido. Maybe some/many INFPs haven’t learned to use their super power which allows them to move into the metaphysical world and wage their wars from that realm. I can give you a list of people who died, came down with incurable diseases or simply were forced to move to another part of the world after harming me. This without my wishing them any ill.

[@lilredheaded1]

Thank you for creating and sharing!

[@Inkspells]

I'm an infp got my degrees in teaching and theatre and married young at 21 while in uni. Helps to have traditional parents. 😂 I enjoy these videos because they challenge me and I can see that C.S. says these things because he wants us to be better

[@ac-jn1iq]

Speaking the truth IS humility ! People who lie to keep the peace are exhibiting pride, not humility ! Ppl have an incorrect/superficial perception of what humility is and falsely base it on outward things like tone of voice.

[@CSJoseph]

Can you explain this more to me? msg me on IG for FB messenger

[@sturdytheegg1221]

What the hells that extraterrestrial...thing in your ears?

[@ninaivana1106]

that (un)shelter scenario is real.. right before watching the video I talked to my mum and was annoyed that she "can´t let go". I have way more autonomy which I only have to choose!

[@Jasmyne0413]

I am a 56 year old INFP woman who has experienced all these things you have mentioned. It really hit me hard. I am wondering if at this stage of my life do you think a coaching session could help or is it too late for me?

[@CSJoseph]

Too late for what? I'd say It's never too late to get answers to improve yourself or your relationships.

[@nethercords]

i have successfully started taking charge as an infp in the workplace there were so many unconscious signals from others that i was ready, but i was doubting myself based on my perceptions of others

[@SasukeUchiha-rb1rs]

Nah seriously though this video is super dope, was unsure if I was ISFP or infp but the hit my ego took from this video gave me the answer ahahaha

[@lisamagee9789]

C.S. Joseph I have a point to make about the education that your talking about. I completely understand where you're going with it not being of important, but I think it is. The reason why is you statistically will get paid less without one. I also think that credentials on an application is a must when trying for job's that require a batchelor degree. It's like more proof that you're capable and with trigger words on resume will allow you to be pulled from other candidates. I do think you could manipulate the resume to get in the pool, but I think that would look very dishonest.

[@CSJoseph]

That statistic is outdated

[@nebatabduyusuf9496]

Oh my god is there any you tube useful for humanity more than you. 🙏