What Types Are Socially Compatible With INFPs (The Mystic)? | CS Joseph

[@justgween7573]

Something I like about your approaches is that you really tell the types how they are. You don't exclusively praise or denegrate any of the types but clearly outline both their flaws and gifts (but this isn't too surprising because I know how xNTPs can be very "no bullshit" about stuff). You confirm that there is no "perfect" type and also have highlighted in other videos how the types are all useful in their own ways. It's a refreshing thing to hear, especially after wading through all the MBTI cancer I've seen like "INTJ Master Race" or "Sensor Peasants".

[@CSJoseph]

Cringing and Gween sensor peasants lol, I laughed for real. Yeah that is what I am trying to do, and doing it without Se or Fi makes it hard for people to stomach.

[@OpportunisticHunter]

Every one has the capacity (even if minimum) temporarily act as an INTJ to stucturize and organize some very particular "marsterplan" or system.

[@codename-pi]

I know right!!! I feel like if I were gonna do it, I'm gonna sugarcoat most of it...

[@9oh7music63]

Just Gween How would any intuitive call a sensor a peasant? I wish I was a sensor lmfao

[@grimmseti]

@@9oh7music63 Superiority complex, rooted in insecurity. They have grown up with sensors lording their competence in the physical realm over them and viewing them as being like babies for their lack of groundedness. SO they convince themselves that the sensors are just unenlightened plebs or something. Helps create a false sense of compensation for their insecurities over their levels of (in)competence in the physical, material realm.

[@ReeThealien]

THE BEGINNING MADE ME LAUGH SO HARD OMG LOL... INFP and INFP sounds like me talking to myself.

[@allieharmon3926]

SAME

[@seabell475]

I love my infp friends I never heard this before

[@thursdeychild]

Yeayea haha

[@ac-jn1iq]

My longest relationship was with another infp haha the biggest problem was I needed him to take more action and initiative in social situations bc I’m already an introvert so I need help from my partner in that kind of environment. ..especially when I’m around people idk but people he’s very close to. I would say an extrovert would be a better fit ..but that’s just from my experience

[@ac-jn1iq]

Also I found myself making all the plans which was very tiresome for me. Unless I wanted to get dragged along to only things he wanted to do. A partner who gets what you like and will plan based on that instead of letting you do it yourself would be awesome too

[@matthewbouton5121]

Any enfj out there wanna turn my fairy tale dream land a reality?

[@stevenmalham2234]

I'm a dyed-in-the-wool INFP and need the same. A BFF to accept the importance of my Dream Land to me and share in making it happen. I don't know anyone who is even interested in hearing me describe it.

[@FizXify]

I don't think I've ever closely known many ENFJs or INFJs in my life :( (online personalities yes, and they are amazing, but not known many in real life). I hope to meet more ENFJs , INFJs and ESTPs in the future...

[@alisaa3999]

Infp: Why is that so hard to find? 😩

[@poohthetabby664]

@@FizXify I've met a few infjs only and they are the best! You could call them soulmate best friends because they just understand you on a whole different level and vice versa.

[@samanthajane11.11]

I finally found my enfj definitely worth the wait❤

[@littleflower8249]

What I have noticed when interacting with other infps is the akward silense, since we are both used to having people talk about themselves while we listen.

[@TalussAthner]

What’s funny is I’m an infp who generally can’t shut up, but whenever I’m around other infps (especially ones with very similar values to me) we just kinda don’t say anything. Like sometimes it’s a very comfortable lack of saying anything, but at other times it’s hilariously awkward. I have one friend who’s also an infp and we somehow actually agree on almost everything, but we also don’t really have much to say to eachother because of it and will accidentally go very long periods without talking cause neither of us has any idea what to start a conversation with eachother about lol.

[@RanGotPunkd09]

I guess it differs to each person. I am an INFP and I have this INFP bestfriend and when we get together we just wouldn't shut up together. I also have this other INFP acquaintance and we get so much energy when we talk that it was draining afterwards. 😂

[@anthi7378]

Kinda depends. I met a girl last week but i don't know her personality type. She was soooo quiet and it was so hard for me to start a convo. But when I'm with my Infp friend, we dont shut up and we are talking all the time. Maybe depends on how much of an introvert you are. I'm almost 50-50 but leaning more on the introvert.

[@SantanaBanana47]

@@anthi7378 Introversion isn't shyness. If you really want to know your type you should study the cognitive functions and the 4 sides of the mind.

[@anthi7378]

@@SantanaBanana47 I never said introversion is shyness????? And i already know my type.......

[@poriyo]

Thank you. I’m an INFP and I have friends who are ENFJs, and they always make me feel at ease and provide me with just what I need, like I don’t even need to ask for it.

[@gosiaska1]

Similarly ESFJ and ISFj. But INTJ and INFJ are also a piece of pure gold for me

[@Kubis.goreng]

Same (´ヮ`)

[@xnooraxxsnx4537]

I know this is three years late but make sure to tell them that you know they love you. It will make them more happy then you think

[@markushoffman8735]

I’m an INFP and my girlfriend is an ENFJ and it is WEIRD just how well we compliment each other’s personalities. She’s one of the only people I’ve ever met who tries to understand my point of view rather than assume her way is my way. It is truly great :)

[@faysalnoor5059]

Let him be...youre basically getting free lessons from this genius guy

[@CSJoseph]

much appreciated.

[@salaheddinecherrak6386]

a lesson isn't one if mistrusted somewhere, so correcting info is like helping him.

[@smellystinko7191]

49:58 "The INFP can tell the ISTP "hey, you're a bad person," and the ISTP is at risk of telling the INFP that they're stupid." very accurate description of a relationship I had when we were both stressed out!

[@ryanhoffmann4983]

I’m an ESTP and one of my best friends is an INFP, he’s awesome because he understands me better than even I understand myself.

[@antoinettenovella1630]

That's awesome Ryan.

[@IM-uh5tk]

❌ Least compatible: . 11:40 INFP + INFP . 15:30 INFP + ENFP . 21:27 INFP + ISTJ . 22:50 INFP + ESTJ __________________________________ ✔️ Most compatible: . 26:57 INFP + ENFJ (that's a long one :D) . 41:10 INFP + INFJ . 46:27 INFP + ESTP . 49:30 INFP + ISTP

[@timsmusicstuff]

I'm a grateful INFP... my best man at my wedding was an ISTP (friend for nearly 20 years!), my supervisor at an old job that through a lot of creative challenges at me was an ESTP (known him almost 15 years too), and my wife is an INFJ (known each other nearly 5 years). The important thing I've found in each and every relationship is that I have to approach them all with grounded security with who I am (i.e. not worrying what others think/not searching for validation from them for every single little thing/inferior Te). If not, the ISTP can seem like they don't say enough to "show they care", the ESTP can seem to not "get it", and the INFJ can seem too concerned about "the wrong things" (when in fact I'm the one who should be putting the most effort towards "those things" I point out). So even with the highest possible compatibility, maturity is needed. But these relationships are truly wonderful when I'm doing my own, mature part.

[@CSJoseph]

Dope

[@Lois_Unwordy]

You could do a lessons series based on your experience entitled “how to be your best as an INFP” - inspiring and relatable comment

[@rachelleensor3147]

Yep-one word-MATURITY!!! AND our biggest strengths r also some of our biggest weaknesses.

[@joywilliams115]

I'm happy for you.... I'm INFP and my INFJ dumped me...he said I was causing him to much anxiety....I think my dreamy tendencies frustrated him...I was often late....he always thought I was cheating though I wasn't....as you said... maturity is key... I have to work on being reliable and present...but I'm glad that you found and have a good connection with yours. Both INFP and INFJ are beautiful people... your connection is probably a beautiful sight to see

[@timsmusicstuff]

@@joywilliams115 Everyone was crying at our wedding XD Fi users have a big responsibility in making sure that their emotions are not having a net negative impact on others around them. They are the emotional barometer in relationships with Fe users, so if they're not doing their part in managing their emotions/values then they can tear everyone down with them. Sometimes it takes a failure to get a reality check on ourselves, and it's okay. There are more opportunities for you in the future. While decisions are hard for them because of Ni critic, INFPs always have a choice about their future.

[@benmarxxshow]

I'm an INFP, and my brother is an ESTJ. Since birth, we have been polar opposites to the point that we joke that one of us is adopted. I always wondered how he and I could be so different, and this explains it. The funny thing is that our mom is also an ESTJ. If we weren't related, we would have nothing to do with each other. Thankfully we do love each other and support one another, but it really is oil and water. Always has been. Always will be. But now I can *try to* adapt my style when I'm around them, so that our interactions are less awkward.

[@saranguyen2788]

I can relate to this. I’m a INFP too and One of my sisters and my father are both ESTJs. We are very very different lol

[@Mildly_Unsuccessful_Individual]

Samee, I have a sister that is an ESTJ. Just.. Oil and water haha

[@antoinettenovella1630]

Treating each other like a science project ;-p How do you adapt your style - what do you adjust to accomodate for them? Curious from another infp who works with ESTJs where there is a complete disconnect.

[@Needletalk]

I'm an INFP and my best friend is also an INFP, honestly we look comfort for each other but for us really work, therefore we have nice time together, we have a really intimate, meaningful friendship, but I can see how this is not common. Also we both talk about this and we conclude that it's our first time having a true best friendship. We spent time together but we also take care of our friendship on the distance which i never do before with other friends, and by the way I don't have a lot of friends. I be guilty of ghosting, I have to admit it, but it's because im difficult to get know, lol. Love your videos and how helpful there are.

[@soggyRATUwU]

Im an infp and my best friend is an infp also. I haven’t gotten along with the majority of infps or enfps I’ve met but I’ve never had a closer relationship with anyone than the one I have with my infp friend. The relationship can be a little harder to manage because we both struggle to initiate conversation but we’ve been best friends for years and have managed to create an absolutely amazing friendship

[@mombius9505]

Im an infp and my best friend is also an infp, also when i meet other infps i tend to like them but idk good meme tho

[@antoinettenovella1630]

@@soggyRATUwU I also have a solid friendship with a colleague that has retired. We have never fought, we worked together for many years, commuted to and from work for a long time - we were incredibly compatible. It's like we can read each other like a book.

[@KonkelVonk]

This guy is in a way better mood today!

[@taekwondoista3697]

Lauritz Mussmann I like when he is in a good mood 🙂

[@xxSusiESxx]

I’m an infp in a relationship with an estp for three years, what you said about them wanting to make people stronger is so accurate, at the beginning of our relationship he was so direct with his criticism that it was hard to not let it affect me at first, when we would talk about it he said he was trying to make me stronger 😂 meanwhile I’m always trying to make him soften up a bit with his words. I love being with him as well cause he takes charge in social situations and I don’t have to talk so much 😆

[@polishmeow8298]

I'm an INFP. I really admire extraverted people on how they handle social situations. They're charming but I find myself getting confused and tend to get jealous. I end up questioning their loyalty or honesty. I don't understand if they're being friendly or flirty.

[@CandyApples4ever]

Polish Meow Suggestion: You need to deal with that insecurity about yourself in regards to extroverts. I used to get jealous of them, think they were fake and it would effect my relationships with them. (Some people are fake so that thought is somewhat reasonable but this is more about making assumptions of fake than seeing it). I realised at some point: I don’t mind being the introverted guru and it’s tiring being something I’m not. People can come to me if they need or want me. (I only dislike extroverts when they talk over me or clearly being assholes to me purposely now). I realised there is a lot I can learn from an estp in my family. (Especially with my low si and her high se. I like her natural unfiltered open attitude). Don’t know if she’s learning anything from me, she probably is though. I use to be so jealous of her. But there was nothing wrong with her. The issue was me. We are both different people with different skill sets and that’s great. (I’m infp).

[@minimunk7]

@@CandyApples4ever if her behavior with regards to others, especially when she criticizes them is better in your eyes than before. You've helped her. If her code of conduct, in your eyes has improved she's learning fron you. With ESTPs we often don't realize we're being assholes, and hurt your feelings when we criticize you. If we did, most of us would feel remorse. We're literally incapable of understanding this aspect of us if we're not self aware and immature. Me, for example, didn't realize I often did all of this to my best friend who's an INFP, I'm an ESTP. But now that I know, my remorse is killing me and fueling me to make it up to her. I literally cried when I first realized this aspect of myself and her aspect of not speaking up, directly about her sadness. I legitimately spent over 1 hour crying because I'd been treating her like shit without knowing it.

[@ac-jn1iq]

@@minimunk7 that’s so sweet you cared that deeply tho 🥲 all we need to know is you care deeply about us

[@Sundertalesz]

As an INFP in a happy relationship with another INFP, i have to respectfully disagree. We get along very well and agree on most things, there is bickering here and there and in the past there has been insecurities and arguments (as all relationships have) but I have never felt so understood and respected and cherished by another person. Though, we do work hard on personal growth and stepping out of our comfort zone because our introverted nature can be limiting and we share many similar interests.

[@neiosier9662]

OMG, I am INFP and never met an ENFJ but..oh boy, I fell in love just by listening to the description! + great video! :)

[@CSJoseph]

you are most welcome.

[@MimiDahhling30]

As an INFP that's been with an ESTP for over a year -- you're exactly right! I always thought the socionics "conflicting relationship" stuff was bullshit... while we do have a lot of disagreements, I enjoy my partners company immensely!

[@CSJoseph]

Dope!

[@spannycat2]

That's interesting. I have an INFP who asked if INFPs and ESTPs are compatible.

[@wolfhowlex]

As an INFP, my absolute best friend for many many years is an ENFP and it's a really deep and great relationship

[@Tanner0]

Most Compatible: ENFJ - 26:55 INFJ - 41:00 ESTP - 46:00 ISTP - 49:00 Least Compatible: INFP - 11:00 ENFP: 15:00 ISTJ: 21:00 ESTJ - 22:00

[@Dylan-bl7xl]

No ESFP and ISFP??

[@theprettygoodgatsby]

ENTJ?

[@Tanner0]

For those mentioning different types, trying not to get too upset. I’m sure there are other aspects that are compatible, they are just outside the model he is presenting here. Based on the model, they might require more effort. Take care.

[@sherifgalal4788]

Gotta say...Chase Joseph...you are UNBELIEVABLY VALUABLE...insanely informative...i am an INFP...and made a lot of sense out of these relations...as my sister is an ENFJ...and brother is ISTP...Wonderfully SCIENTIFIC rather than just discrete bunch of unrelated info...like anybody else does...you say things in a NEUROSCIENCE kinda of a way....thank you brother

[@katlauren9161]

I think I am an INFP but I get super annoyed by SJW's. In fact I stay far away from them.

[@danielfisher898]

Kat Lauren thank god we need more like you.

[@lemon_tea.1138]

Yes exactly lol. I can get along with them to a point, then it just becomes to much

[@TheTheode]

They're either isfps that adopted a mouthpiece's philosophy because it's the thing people around them are doing. Or they're a true infp who has become very lazy and taken short cuts within their own reasoning. Infps need to read books that aren't politically charged, at least not until later, once they've developed their own philosophy and honed their critical thinking skills then they can flip through books like the communist manifesto and the wealth of nations all they want.

[@nocando89]

Same here. -Infp.

[@iman1002]

Same here. SJWs are super annoying.

[@user-vm1pe2yz4x]

yeah my parents are mom infp x dad istp they are together for almost 25 years. they even run the business together and it works super great. it just seems like their love for each other grows more and more as the years go by... it is very fascinating to see how two completely different people can make weird harmonization

[@imnaz-_-]

SAN KIM Oh really? I'm dating with ISTP now he's nice but not good of expressing feelings and understand my feelings it makes me frustrated sometimes but he always want to make it work, ahh but it feels like not natural working like I'm not connected with him naturally. But he really nice actually, I'm confused whether to stay with him or not because I often feel frustrated

[@Shannyrulz4eva]

I'am Naz if he tries he cares. Remember your strengths are his weaknesses and vice versa.

[@cristalina9040]

@@imnaz-_- I am not sure if I should write this comment since I don't know if that relationship is still going. But I have to tell you, trust you, your own judgment and intuition, after all you are an Infp and you are good at that, don't let your insecurities lead. Istp don't know how to talk about feelings many times they don't even know what they are feeling but the important part is that they show you through their actions, in the small details... As an example, I don't remember last time my dad, a istp, told me "I love you" if ever really, but just today he send me a photograph of a meal that i used to cook for him without no text at all, I know he meant "I miss you sweetheart", just the way he looks at me or hugs me I feel what he is incapable of telling. Also istp learn fast, they resolve problems and find solucions in an amazing way, so just communicate to them whats wrong and what you need from them, they avoid conflict as we infp, and they are going to fix things. Be patient you would need it definitely but it's so worth it! I admire istp so much, they add another layer and dimension to my life that I am going to be forever grateful.

[@cristalina9040]

@@imnaz-_- oh and about the frustration, I know what you are talking, feel the same sometimes 😅 my recommendation if you allow me, well just let it go or use it for personal grow. Maybe istp can't fully understand somethings about us infp but they will be your rock, always trying to make things better how ever they can and very worthy of trust. Consider finding some support with friends after all isn't to much to ask for a parter to be everything and meet all of our necessities in just one person? And of course make the decision that feels right for you, we talk generic but in the end you are two individuals.

[@imnaz-_-]

@@cristalina9040 I smile reading your comment, that's all true. Anyway I'm still with him just to inform haha, yeah he's not easy to give up that's what I like from him and even I complain many times that he's insensitive he often show through his action trying to understand me. He's so logical person but all what he did are always right and make sense. He's not the one I expected before, but he's the one who never give up. So I'm trying to look at all the good things what he did and also trying to look my flaws too. No ones perfect right. Anyway thanks I knowing him more now ☺

[@Emily.J.]

When you're an infp but your mom is also an infp and you hear: "I don't recommend this relationship" 😅 but at least I understand why I was always so annoyed by her relentless complaining and laziness while ignoring my own critical dialog and laziness. My biggest fear growing up was to end up like my mom, but I finally realized that we've always had the same exact function stack and always will 😆😅😭

[@seanrice5532]

This hit close to home. It really helped me mature once I realised that, despite me being resentful towards my mother, im more like her than anyone else. She's also an infp.

[@elpolloesfuego]

Your mother sounds like a more unhealthy and immature infp

[@4thNebula]

I agree that INFP and ENFJ are very compatible. Ideal romantic and professional possibilies!

[@shah5182]

INFP here, I found this hilarious and very educational. Love how your mind works, I'm in awe Subbed

[@aura7153]

Exactly I feel that ESTJs know how to walk on me without even feeling that they did anything wrong 😅 they are horrible to me!

[@stickerlady1774]

Aseel Abukhader ESTP are the devil!

[@CSJoseph]

Karen lol

[@kelleysueofthemountians]

Karen couldn’t agree more.

[@Lois_Unwordy]

Matthew Bouton how is that going now?

[@antoinettenovella1630]

@@matthewbouton5121 Hope it works out well Matthew.

[@RoseyCreations]

So on point! I had an ESTJ coworker call me disgusting because I dropped lettuce on my shirt. I didn't even say anything I was so shocked someone would actually say that lol My ENFJ boss is so amazing though. She asks me how I feel about the company all the time and I enjoy expressing my feelings!

[@squali1930]

Crack a joke on the ESTJ and they will warm up to you like hot cakes ;).

[@bethreth5151]

Mr. Joseph, I love the conversations you have with yourself! They're not just hilarious, but the concrete examples are indispensable for this content to click for me. Thanks!!!

[@seerenita]

I’m an ENFJ and my eldest daughter (12yrs old) is an INFP. This resonates so much. The only thing I disagree is that ENFJs are forgetful because I don’t ever forget anything. I’m a walking time capsule lol.

[@CSJoseph]

why not ESFJ?

[@heather7440]

Yes Marina! Same!

[@heatherbelletete7980]

Speaking from experience...I am an INFP my husband is an ESTJ and we have been together for 18 years. It's mostly been hell and neither one of us can really remember what we saw in each other to begin with. We mostly just practice mutual verbal abuse with neither one of us willing to let the other win because we know we're right. Yeah...total hell all of the time.

[@kssgpv]

wow i;m sorry

[@FlawlesZMa]

all relationships can work be filled with love and not as you describe ..but you have to seek Jesus and let him fill you with his love first. then it will change your relationship..we need God we cant do these things alone it wasnt meant to be that way..God wants to heal you and both of you and bring you close to him and each other!

[@oliviathatcher1459]

@@FlawlesZMa I'm very interested to hear more. Are you an INFP? Are you in an incompatible relationship? Has love overcome all?

[@MeliMeli66]

If you don't like the life you have, make the one you want. Move on. You might lose some things like a higher standard of living but you will gain inner and external peace without the arguments. You have to choose the life you want and make it happen.

[@jerusalem4492]

INTJ here jealous of the ESTPs who get to marry INFPs :( LOL

[@geriatricward]

You need to find an ESFJ. They are super hot usually.

[@ac-jn1iq]

@@geriatricward yuck,.,my dad is esfj 😂😂

[@titanking5956]

@@ac-jn1iq good 😳👍

[@Blossom835]

Hello did you get to marry your infp yet? I'm infp and big fan of intjs

[@jerusalem4492]

lol! I have not yet. Too many SPs in my way! ;)@@Blossom835

[@angeliqueroux3017]

My best most comfortable friends are INFPs and INFJs (I’m an INFP), but I suppose that’s because we have similar value systems.

[@skadi6750]

I love your lessons. Everyone else is so freaking asskissing about this topic. You are probably the only one who seriously and unapologetically digs into the dark side.

[@kdaquino4341]

As an INFP, I can definitely confirm ENFJ and ESTP being highly compatible with my type through personal experience. I don't think I personally know any ENFJ in real life but I follow this ENFJ artist/motivator on KZbin who I just IDOLIZE. Literally my no.1 favorite person in the world. Watching/hearing his podcast brings out the very best in me and keeps me going like nothing else could. ESTPs sound bad on paper for me when I first knew of MBTI but I realized that I've been surrounded by ESTP friends all my life. Throughout school I've been in ESTP groups, even though I feel VERY different from them (sometimes superior in a way?), yet they still insist I'm part of their clique. They would always treat me like a little brother, protecting me, teaching me stuffs, bringing me back to reality and have fun, be more active, assertive or whatever. I don't know what they gain from me but I definitely do appreciate them and their influences to me a lot.

[@marianocastro3430]

What is the enfj podcast?

[@yaqarianfanashira]

As an INFP I disagree completely with him on the way he described INFP-INFP friendships. Two of my closest friends are INFP'S I think what he described would have been literally just INFP'S in a really bad mood. Or really emotionally unhealthy. Like whaaaaa

[@CSJoseph]

okay so, please watch the episode titled "How Do INFJs Compare To INFPs." so that you can gain understanding over this INFP crisis.

[@shahrazade26]

I've never been with another INFP. I can't help but think that he/she would get me. Conversation would be awesome. We would read the same books. Some aspects would definitely work out weird, though. For example, both of us would wait for the other to initiate or finish. Nobody would lead. Our flaws would be doubled.

[@XavierGuillaume]

You would think, but join an INFP group on Facebook. There is so much arguing and misunderstanding. Yes we can all relate to art and beautiful nature photographs, but talk about values and there is a lot of anger and bitterness towards people with different beliefs.

[@wilhelmneovius]

​@@shahrazade26 I've had a few INFP friends, and yes, the conversations flow naturally. It's real communication, not just two people talking to/with each other, and at best you're completing each other's sentences. One INFP woman had a crush on me, and I guess it was largely because it was so easy for her to talk to me and she felt understood. But in regards to a romantic relationship, an INFP woman would in the end probably be better of with an ENFJ/ENTJ man, because the doubling of the flaws etc.

[@shahrazade26]

@@wilhelmneovius Oh, so when someone completes my sentences chances are they're an INFP? Cool. Btw, I get along the best with ENFJs. I feel as if we are soul mates.

[@fintanwatson8137]

The growing association of INFP with SJWs is something I find very annoying - I have pretty much always opposed them and detest the idea of being grouped with them. However, it makes sense, since despite my dislike for their attitudes I find myself understanding and having an odd concern for those with 'Social Justice Afflictions'; they seem greatly delusioned or even mentally unstable in ways that could greatly hinder their happiness, and quite often they do have positive intentions and a good (if warped) sense of morality. I have been thinking recently that it would be greatly beneficial for the 'anti-SJW/far left' people to have more MBTI feelers on their side. Maybe they could strike a balance, enabling more SJWs to see the moral side of their opponents' beliefs and console them that despite their disagreement, they do personally understand their point of view. Of course, this wouldn't always work to lessen their radical ways (does that sound nefarious?), but I think it could certainly help.

[@CSJoseph]

Good thought. I agree, it definitely does.

[@fearinshadow2886]

Yep. I've been trying to think back to a time where I even knew what an SJW was before I got labeled with something I had never even heard of before. I'm also not really a feminist. Edit: Nevermind. I just don't really wanna be here.

[@ethanbehee3942]

I'm INFP and agree with you - even though I side with a lot of the positions SJWs take, I think they're too antagonistic and force their opinions on people in a way that doesn't allow for two-way conversations. They seem to push others away more than bringing them to their side, so their efforts end up being ineffective and annoying.

[@shahrazade26]

Who do you see as the radicals, the left or the SJWs? I'd take a radical over a mainstream person any day of the week.

[@antoinettenovella1630]

@@CSJoseph Don't associate SJWs with INFPs as a premise. It is erroneous on a 'not so pucker' level.

[@user-gb8pi7jv9v]

One of my cousins is an INFP and his dad is an ENFJ, mom INFJ and his brother is an ESTP. He said he gets along the best with his brother the next is with his mom and the last is his dad.

[@angelajoseph6644]

Hello, I am an ISTP female. The 4 closest people to me are all INFPs. They all flock to me... There is an INFP male chasing after me as well.... I used to dislike INFPs, but after developing my INFP superego, I have a deep appreciation for them. Just sharing my life experience.

[@seddmefree]

Two of my closest friends are xNFJs and everything you said about INFP's relationships with them is absolutely true. As an INFP, I feel much more productive and confident about myself whenever I'm around them. My ENFJ friend is DEFINITELY the reason why I fixed my fashion sense at least a little. They also make me feel so comfortable all the time; they always listen to what I have to say and my deepest thoughts, they always check on me to see if I'm having a good time or if I'm feeling okay and while they're making all of that effort, they constantly tell me that *I* am actually the one who is a better friend than them. It's always a constant back and forth of "no, you're the best / no, YOU are the best" between me and each of them and I don't know what I would do without them. Their absence is affecting me in a very bad way during this pandemic because I've become very stagnant without them around me. I've been quarantining with my family since March and I am absolutely done with my ISTP father and INTP sister. Because like you say in the video, my father and I *could* get along if we JUST had that communication problem solved, but... yeah. That's not going to happen while he keeps treating me like I'm not an adult and tells me that I act stupid or that I'm a useless person.

[@daffling]

Sorry to hear that thing about your relation with father. But, I am so happy to hear you have that good friends. It makes me hopefull in living till the day that I find my ENFJ 😅

[@crydunkey5982]

I'm an INFP, my sister's also an INFP... She's my best friend and we get along great, I hang out with her almost every day and we are very understanding of each other. I can't even remember the last time we had a fight, I don't know how but it just seems to work out perfectly.

[@georginacooke5973]

My sister and I are also INFPs. We have been best friends since forever, never a bad word, or we are aware of a sensitive topic so we are able to talk it out. I'm INFP am married to an INFJ. We became toxic after 17 years together. We aren't together anymore. :(

[@carlymestep9001]

Edited to add: thank you for this video! You probably already knew from the wording of my comments, but it seems I’m an infp (not infj as tests said. In fact I’m ABSOLUTELY infp by your type grid). What you describe about the relationship with estp’s is exactly how it is with my husband. He tries to make me stronger and I try to keep him from crushing people. He makes me feel smart and encourages me to stand up for myself and I help him with the finer points of social interaction. Most people don’t see the caring side and the artistic side of ESTPs, but INFPs do.

[@CSJoseph]

you are most welcome

[@squali1930]

because you are INFJ. That's why it works with your husband. If you were INFP it wouldn't work well.

[@danezammit]

You are so spot on about how compatible INFPs are with ENFJs. An ENFJ woman joined my office seven years ago. By the first day, she had approached me to say hi, and within five minutes she had already figured out my tendencies, standard INFP stuff that you cover elsewhere. We quickly became fast friends, and the bond still remains strong to this day. She has a way of encouraging me, having belief in my abilities even when I've lost faith in mine, or even criticizing me without pissing me off when it's needed. I can't stress how rare that is for an INFP to hear negative talk about them and not flip out. I'm mature enough at this point in my life to go over what was said later, but I can't help but immediately feel the rage in the moment for most people. It's pretty amazing considering that she's 14 years older than me, and I'm a man. There's something about her energy that brings me out of my shell, and I open up when I'm normally very guarded. It's also not a one-way street because I'm one of her most trusted friends. Thank you for doing what you do. Other MBTI channels are funny and memey, but your videos are much deeper and informative. They've already helped me tremendously in figuring myself out, and I've only scratched the surface.

[@RnRnR]

As an INFP my favs are ENFP, ENTJ, and ISFP I think!

[@HodsBroo]

ENFJ just casually learning more about INFPs haha

[@manuelengel3680]

As an INFP, I have one INFJ in particular who makes me feel so much understood...this mystical synergy is really a thing.

[@mieralunarlunishion]

Quite funny how it's true: my best friend is an ISTP and my gf is INFJ, while I'm an INFP. :p It truely amazes me how different yet complementary we are. Thanks for your content btw. You helped me understand (and even get) my gf ^^

[@we_are_all_the_same]

INTP - I kindly offered an ESTJ in college help with her statistics and she was so secretly offended because she couldn't pass the class 3 times. She then held a hatred crusade against me for a couple years, using me for my "reliability" like a dog. I didn't know she hated me until she blew up on me like a crazy twitter person. She would judge the hell out of me under her breath. I thought she was insecure and needed a friend. Lesson learned.

[@stickerlady1774]

Yes I’ve known these narc types. Glad I’m homebound with devastating life altering chronic disease so don’t have to go out deal with these criminals!

[@rachelleensor3147]

Dont forget that infp's can see beyond what u say & or do sometimes so somewhere in the story u forgot how u were either rude behind her back or maybe even to her face in a previuos situation or time. Otherwise, immaturity really got the best of both of u!

[@Persianbookworm]

my best friend of 6 years is an infp (im an infp too) ive never been more in harmony with someone. we just understand each other's world views and convictions, both when we're old souls discussing the world as we know it and when we are 5 year olds laughing like hyenas at things only we would find funny. she doesn't judge me and i don't judge her, we get each other's passion for art and literature and she's one of the only people who gets my desire to live outside of the guidelines society has framed for us to live by,so we each choose our own weird path and encourage each other a little bit from time to time, but we never rush each other or judge each other if any of us is in a slump. idk what your're talking about when it comes to your first explanation about infp-infp friendships. it's actually a dream for infps to have a friend of their own kind.

[@igabcruz5038]

The INFP and ESTJ comparing different philosopy in life is so real! I have co worker who is ESTJ and i must say that it is really painful for me. He basically throw bomb of negative words like what you said and dont give a fuck. I questioned my personality because of him. Thats why i discover this MBTI personality test. He thinks that i’m immature because of my behavior buy i find him more immature in his decisions. He constantly see the bad or always hate something or someone and i cant stand with it but in contrary when he is healthy, he helps me to get out of my comfort zone and strive more.

[@allieharmon3926]

Can I just say I love your videos and admire you sooooo much for calling us INFP's on our bullshit! You are the second ENTP that I am made uncomfortable by yet I admire and respect deeply.

[@mandalovescatspandas1781]

As an INFP, I've been screwed over by more infj's than ANY other type, period. It always steams from the fact that I am unwilling to give more than I am giving. I've been thrown under the bus and dragged through the mud, publically, by more than one of them. However, they couldnt social engineer me. It's hard to change me from me :) I DO have one good INFJ in my life, and I sincerely love that person. They are an example of a INFP/INFJ relationship that works well and I am happy to call them my parent. Give me a kindhearted ENFJ or cool headed INTP anyday

[@orchidsrising7910]

I keep running into women in my area, and they happen to be the kindest, warmest, most gentle women (and men) that I connect with, and they turn out to be INFPs... this has been a common theme in my life. I don’t get the dramatic tone or your personal perspectives on INFPs, personally. I can connect with anyone by tuning in to who they are, if they are doing the same thing. There is so much more that type ~Julia (INFP)

[@CSJoseph]

You sure you are an INFP? I had an INFJ tell me that verbatim. Please watch my lecture: 'How Do INFJs Compare To INFPs."

[@love2learnmitchell329]

@@CSJoseph : I could be wrong, because I often am. I realize that you take pride in the fact that you are brutally honest with all personality types and I can appreciate your honesty. However, there does seem to be an extra layer of brutal honesty reserved for INFPs in your videos. I have found myself wondering what is the core issue you have with that particular group. And yes, I am definitely INFP, not INFJ. A friend of mine once said that if one person says something and you don't agree, forget about it. If a second person says the same thing, it's still okay to dismiss it, but at least give the matter some thought. If a third person says the exact same thing, then as Tom Hanks in the movie Apollo 13 "Houston, we have a problem!"

[@Persianbookworm]

@@love2learnmitchell329 he's mentioned a few times that he has dated infps and to me the way he gets defensive about his brutal judgments on infps comes from a place of personal distaste tbh a lot of his comments on the type are inaccurate and come directly from personal experience and so many people speak up about it in the comments, people who are most definitely sure of their type but his only response is to check his video about infp vs. infj and check to see if they might be infjs hee seems quite sure that if the hundreds of infps don't fall under his negative stereotypes he has his in his head of infps then they're not infps all together instead of going over all the comments and drawing a more logical conclusion so most likely it's a personal issue

[@love2learnmitchell329]

@@Persianbookworm : Thank you for understanding. I appreciate that.

[@tier786]

I love how you sometimes giggle while explaining the relations😁

[@someonerandom713]

When you think about the stereotypes, it really sounds off to assume that INFPs and ESTPs would go together. But they do. I know a duo of friends of these two types and they add to each other perfectly. Adding to it is that it's an INFP with a well developed ESTJ subconscious. So when there's projects being worked on, the INFP will have the overview, flip into ESTJ mode (while remaining super kind) and order everyone around to accomplish something, in a gentle way. And it just works out perfectly all the time and the ESTP is super happy, too.

[@squali5995]

The ESTP creates chaos. This doesn't go well with an INFP or an INFPs ESTJ subconscious. I have tried to work with an ESTP and literally everything I build up they ter down, and for God knows why. ESTP needs novelty and they sort of destroy consistency. INFP crave consistency. ESTP is annoying to work with, always chaning the idea of the project on the fly for the latest and greates thing to the point where it is a completely different project. Idk what this guy is talking about this whole INFP ESTP thing. ESTP literally thinks "INFPs are weak pussies." and INFPs think ESTPs are "savage brutes."

[@someonerandom713]

It depends on the individual person, still. From my personal experience, ESTPs _can be_ relentless dicks with no respect for anyone, where it's not just INFPs that they don't get along with. But they can also be respectful, responsible people, well aware and well intentioned with their Fe child towards the INFPs independently minded Fi Hero. I know 'em both. And for both kinds of ESTPs, you might find different INFPs to match them well. The most important thing for any relationship to work is to share an eye level. If that is the honest case, these two work out surprisingly fantastic.

[@squali1930]

@@someonerandom713 I'm not even talking about relentles dicks. I'm talking about good well intentioned ESTPs. I get along with them but WORKING with them, good God no. Like I said, INFP tries to establish SOME structure and ESTP only sees structure as shackles and chains, they feel trapped and wanna be free to do whateeeeeeever. It don't work trust. Any type can be friends because friends aren't obligated to provide you anything. But close relations or relations where you MUST rely on the other person, this one doesn't work well for that, it works against it. And you would think they work fantastic because their strenghts are the other's weakness, but their desires and habits and process is just 2 different.

[@HinaAjmal-]

Im an INFP .My sister is an INFP too and I think no one understands me better than her. So easy to talk to her :)

[@midnightsun5711]

As an INFP with a sister whom is a ENFP, we aren't like that at all. We aren't out manipulating others, actually the complete opposite. We actually try to help others without anything needed in return. Maybe it's because our mother was an INFP as well l, it's not how we were raised. What we as sisters DO do, is talk about philosophical & psychological things. We like to talk about controversy light heartedly. We are very close sister's. I do enjoy listening to you, so don't take this as a bad comment. I just wanted to give you an example of an INFP & ENFP sibling relationship 😁 Also, I don't believe in religion, but as a mother to 2 little girls, my husband & I feel they should have the right to make their own decision on this topic. Our oldest goes to church every Sunday, & we don't shun or bad mouth what she's experiencing in religion. Yes she knows we as her parents don't believe, but she is allowed to have her own mind.

[@richa9428]

as an INFP talking to another INFP is the most awkward thing to do . more uncomfortable than talking to an ESTJ which I honestly wouldn't have expected . But it would not even in hell go on like that . I would be walking on eggshells ,so I don't hurt her feelings or make her uncomfortable or anything. It would be an awful experience overall

[@eejaypea]

One of my friends is also an INFP, and it is only after listening to your videos for a week that I finally understand why she behaves the way she does and why we are actually so incompatible. (I always found it strange that she does things I can't understand, given that we're the same type). She is very much the immature INFP, and I constantly avoid conflict, which has led to a pattern of very unhealthy behaviours from her that I have enabled. Now I can't tolerate those behaviours any longer. All your INFP-bashing has resonated hard with me, both with my own past behaviours and continous impulses and with those of my friend. Thanks for giving it to us straight; it has truly been so useful.

[@hellen3675]

me and my now husband are both infps. weve been friends since we were 12, read each other minds everyday, coming up with story ideas and taking care of our animals together. i honestly feel like hes the only one that understands me lol were both feelers and understand each others emotions really well. He was my bestest friend that i learned from while we were growing up. im pretty sure we learned off each other in terms of different aspects of areas we wanted to improve in that the other has improved in. weve been talking about dream worlds and ideas for the longest time as a hobby, still do! i love my other infp to death

[@FlorangelRamirez]

With my ESTP mom, we have so much conflict because she is super judgements of people and disregards how people feel. I’m surprised our compatibility was so high up.

[@squali1930]

because it's not high up, CS Joseph has got it completely backwards. Look at Socionics.

[@eminemstrash2021]

@Squali I'm slow to believe that opposites don't have the most to offer eachother, the problem often lies in a balance between love and truth, humility and respect. Opposites have a very difficult time bridging this gap: it requires humility, respect, love, and truth all working together to bring understanding. As fallible people, when we lack these attributes (and we all do), it causes conflict, pain, and misunderstanding. I think CS Joseph is making comparisons of compatability based on the ideal if these attributes are active, and socionics is looking through the lens of highest harmony. Harmony can bring entitlement, pride, and arrogance just as much as Opposites can bring conflict, pain, and anger. Opposites who work on harmony, or harmony that works on understanding, can bring a better balance to both.

[@kbg12ila]

I've lived and been around xNFJs my entire life and I can't stand them. Although the xSTP makes so much sense. I used to think because of how much it's seen to be a big mismatch it wouldn't work but I love being around them. I honestly think ENFPs are my favourite match though. I feel like how much ENFPs want to know about the other person, an INFP wants to be known. I guess in a romantic sense being with an ENFP it would be like comraderie and I think that's what I would want in a way. Someone who comes along with me on my journey through life. Me and an ENFP friend have often discussed the fact that if we went on an everlasting journey through space it would only need to be us two. We are perfect companions. If I were to put them in order from my own life experience it would be: NP SP NJ SJ I mean you hear these stories of NFPs getting together and pulling off these amazing cons together. All I hear is that they worked well together. The objective can easily be positive, especially when both people are actually good and healthy. Okay and now for the ESTJ INFP relationship. Yes the INFP is about how THEY feel but they do not need that from the other person. It's a personal attachment to their feelings and it doesn't really work in the way you said it. I still think INFP and ESTJ is a pretty good match. My favourite teacher/personal tutor was ESTJ and it was such an amazing experience. The thing with ENFJs is that it seems like Dom Fe would match perfectly with Fi but do you not understand how terrible it can be? Fe takes on the feeling the Fi has and it becomes a huge pressure for the INFP in which they are having to be controlled by the ENFJ and we all know how that ends. It ends with the INFP having to be inauthentic to their true feelings and it becomes a relationship based on lies. I think a lot of how you described INFPs was extremely accurate but the way you've made this list of compatibilities is not actually well thought out because the examples you use for the scenarios are more about immature people Vs mature people. Two mature INFPs will NEVER get into a competitive argument like you described, but two immature ones would. The way you described the examples for INFPs and ENFJs sounds like magical saints, extremely healthy people. Where in reality you find some examples of toxic ass relationships between those two types. I don't even need to mention too much of the INFP and INFJ and how terrible it can be. The INFJ is extremely sensitive to their idea being wrong and the INFPs dreamworld and their expression of what can be a fact will not be accepted easily and so it just blows up and ends. But what you said about self fulfilling prophecy is so true. I can't stand being around someone always accusing me when I've done nothing. That's one of the worst possible situations I want to be in. Overall I think this proves that compatibility doesn't necessarily make sense. It is probably more useful for much younger people and by that I'm talking mid teens. It's also about being self aware. Two self aware INFPs together would be better than a self aware ENFJ and INFP. Great video. Thanks.

[@justinandroxide]

I agree with your point about enfj s. One of my closest friends is an enfj and it started out brilliantly. I had never met anyone who made me so comfortable to be myself. She would always have praise for me and understood why I did the things I did. However a year later, I realize that she might not stick around forever like I had hoped. She keeps doubting me and insists I won't be around. If I'm upset about something she shuts down, won't say a word. She needs me to constantly agree that what she's doing is right, she can't take any criticism. If one of her other friends does something that hurts her she cuts me off completely and reaches out to friends she hardly talks to. I can't figure out what I'm doing wrong and it's been months of me trying and trying to prove I'm loyal. It's very hurtful because one moment she's doing so much for me and the next she's cut me off because she can't trust anyone. My next attempt was going to be me pretending to be happy when I'm around her even though that's going to be extremely exhausting. I have a feeling I bring her down but again I can't pinpoint what it is that I do.

[@bbjudyfit]

I agree with your entire statement.... & My favorite is definitely enfp. .

[@love2learnmitchell329]

@@justinandroxide : Have you watched any videos about narcissistic abuse lately?

[@codename-pi]

I somewhat agree in some of your statements that it is all about the maturity of the relationship that affects how the relationship goes on. But I did not sit well with the last strong statement about two self aware INFPs together would be better than a self aware ENFJ and INFP... because I do think at emotional maturity most relationships would actually be pretty good at an incomparable level, so the hierarchy would only play when the relationship is in a pinch.

[@nocando89]

Old comment but I agree with it all. Unfortunately, I have a hard time enjoying myself in the company of INFJs over time. The infj and their hidden motives and silent agendas, and how they are very self serving. I enjoy other perceiving type friendships and camaraderie the most, such as with INTPs, istps, enfp, esfps, and even estp. J types tend to be harder for me.. they insult me with unsolicited advice or assuming so much about who I am. Its all about NFPS, SFP, and STPs for me. I think romantically I probably could be involved with a sensor but they have to easy going, caring and loving. I could not handle enfjs or infjs as best friends although I seem to attract a lot from those groups. They are too controlling for me.

[@erinjk123]

Save the best for last.

[@CSJoseph]

:D true, I did tell people on the discord today that I have met INFPs that I believed were smarter than me.

[@pietjepukt6]

Thanks so much for this useful information. It’s not easy to be a male INFP. It’s yet a bit painful to have this information now I’m in my mid thirties, and not earlier. Really appreciate it.

[@fishingkahuna6755]

Dude i love your style. Im an INFP and you just drove a true fact home. And, I am not offended. I am very manipulative because I can see how pretty much incapable I am of normal social interaction. You are absolutely correct on that point. I feel called out and chastized at the same time. I guess its proper treatment for having my head up in fantasy land all the time. Its a disease.

[@martenw8341]

Interesting! Although one of my best friends is also an INFP so it CAN work. I think it's mostly because we have enough similar values and we've been friends since like 5 years old or something. I have experienced the issues you speak about interacting with other INFP's though.

[@PoliticalNomads]

Marten W Totally! I’m ENFP (INFP and ENFP are probably the most similar of all the personalities in my opinion) and I absolutely love my INFP and ENFP friends!! I feel like maybe in a relationship it would be different though since you live together and we tend to struggle with follow through and such which our partners can really help us with!!! :) I think ENFP and INFP are very compatible with lots of personalities though!

[@martenw8341]

@@PoliticalNomads Great to hear! 😊 Yes precisely, I think so too that in relationships when you're spending full time together it might arouse difficulties since the many shared weaknesses and traits!

[@grimmseti]

As an INFP, let me just say... I DO NOT need mentoring in the realm of fashion LOL Me ENFJ friend on the other hand has NO fashion sense :P

[@roy.shrestha]

Omg same

[@antoinettenovella1630]

Fashion is subjective to me. I love the idea of it and appreciate it but don't practice it as comfort is more important. Also our heritages are different although both European. My ENFJ best friend is eight years younger (we are in our forties and thirties - age differences become less obvious as you get older) and has her own sense of style but always looks fabulous, it is important to her in a way that doesn't matter to me but I do admire her efforts . She has her nails and hair done every six weeks, this is important to her to feel good about herself and she looks amazing and she is spending her own money to do it (she has great accountability, integrity, loyalty, financially independent although in a seventeen year relationship with the same man who earns a similar income)

[@Ncoherent369]

You know me and my girlfriend have been living together for over a year now, and we are both INFP. Sometimes we will have conflicts, and we're each so loyal to our slightly varying philosophies and modes of thinking that, it makes it difficult to get past the conflict. Especially since we're both so emotionally intense or heavy i guess. We always end up patching it up and compromising one way or another. Other than that, we understand each other on a very deep level, and our morals are aligned so well, it just works. Crazy that the chart says we're the least compatible.

[@lintuindochine9458]

Same! Actually my partner is another INFP and we get along pretty well. It's the same as you said! And many of my friends are XNFP as well. Actually the worst experience with someone I ever had was with an ENFJ... So I don't know, maybe it's just because I'm an inmature INFP, I don't know... hahahha

[@thursdeychild]

I'm an INFP but actually I don't really do good with my INFJ friend... I really adore him tho, but still he don't really care much of me even though I care much of him so... I shy away from him a lot, but even after I still find him really cool... My INFJ friends never really show what he felts tho, that's why it sucks that he's really unpredictable for me sometimes ;-;

[@iqbalfebri4082]

LOL INFP x INFP , so trueee , i just can't stop laugh 😂

[@david_oliveira71]

INFP - INFJ relationship 41:08

[@gosiaska1]

one of my favourites

[@swanben11]

What's your input on INTJ-INFP compatibility? I've generally found that once you iron out how to communicate with each other, which has to happen on an individual basis, it can be a very rich, rewarding relationship.

[@kristinmeeow8984]

I’m an INFP, my boyfriend is an ENTJ but our relationship is exactly as CSJ describes the relationship of INFPs and ENFJs. Magical.

[@antoinettenovella1630]

I am married to an INTJ, have been together for 15 years. It can be rich and rewarding, it is also a relationship that needs to be worked on in terms of communication. It's a constant work in progress.

[@antoinettenovella1630]

I have been with my INTJ husband for seventeen years. We also have a seventeen year age gap. I am a second wife - we have no biological children together however his now adult son from his first marriage lives with us. He lived with us historically from age 9-16 (I loved that - we got on so well and had so much fun. Not such a fan of him having returned as he seems like a different person and my husband agrees however he is my husband's kin and I understand that he has obligations to his son) We have so many other challenges. We are still together. He is from Europe, my parents are from a different country of Europe. Honestly, it is not easy. It's navigating the space that you have together. It can be incredibly rewarding but also very frustrating.

[@CamzCritiques]

i've always really admired and was fascinated with ESTPs. once you get past the stereotypes, they're super fun and likable. i'm so grateful to have my ESTP little sis and uncle

[@sunset.orange]

Well that explains why having a fellow INFP as a roommate ended in disaster. We were both always competing for the attention and comfort of our 3rd INFJ roommate who got totally overwhelmed and one of us INFPs was always storming out of the room for some “alone time” while wondering why it was us who had to leave and the other one got to stay with INFJ.

[@Neo_metallum]

I am INFP and I have a very good INFP friend. I understand her very well, I support her and give her and advice her and she appreciates it a lot. She's quite immature I don't think of that at all when I talk to her, or at least I don't underestimate her because of that

[@CSJoseph]

Neo_metallum1618 how do you know they are an INFP? Are you trusting a test for that judgment?

[@swampy2008]

22:47 ESTJ-INFP 26:55 ENFJ-INFP

[@pinchofsalt4566]

My mum is ESTJ. While I appreciate her strengths, we both feel like we are walking on egg shells around each other.

[@Christie1127]

My INFP boyfriend says never give anyone who has screwed you over any power over you despite compatibility.

[@ChaoticallyMe]

...so...any advice on where an INFP might stumble across an ENFJ in the world? Also, thank you for justifying my over the top reading addiction (dude, how could any hermit NOT read? what are they doing with their time?). I found the INFP - ESTP connection really interesting. Having raised an ESTP son to 17 has been the hardest thing I've ever done in my life (most willful and difficult human I have ever come across...at 2 years old he took it upon himself in the early hours of the morning to leave his bedroom whilst I was asleep, 'feed' the cat, unlatch the back door, wander out of the house, climb over the back fence and enter a neighbours house to watch cartoons with their son :-O). As he's matured and I've become less responsible for him (and him finally mature enough to make a lot of his own choices without me needing to have an input/opinion on everything) I can see how our relationship is growing and our personalities could be complimentary. I've learned to trust my ESTP son when he tells me he's sure his younger brothers are up to no good (and then goes on to give me his reasons for coming to that conclusion). Thanks for another really interesting video. I already knew my INFJ bestie and I were meant to be :) Sometimes I wanna get defensive about the things you point out about INFP's but then again it's usually character flaws that I already feel crap about, so it's not a huge leap to take them on board as things I need to change.

[@CSJoseph]

Thank you for your comment. I recommend finding ENFJs at discussion groups or at places where there is volunteer work. Go to meetup.com and get with a group and you will find them, or they will find you.

[@ChaoticallyMe]

Thank you for your answer :) I appreciate it.

[@nikkiburns8129]

"I already knew my INFJ bestie and I were meant to be" Yep you're stuck with me now :D Love this story about 'ESTP child', one of my faves :P xxxxx

[@christinehaworth7446]

Jen - Chaotically Minimal a

[@bbjudyfit]

Go to social gatherings... and get to know whoever is the one arranging them.

[@Kalanicoe]

Ok after watching this I’m sure I’m an infp so sad I’m not logical what so ever thinking I was an intp for about a year made me feel smart..

[@omegawhite6943]

INFPs are the best out there in manipulation. Seriously....its our strongest trait. Something to be proud of.

[@ahajer7015]

I like it when you said we should be reading all the time ^_^ that's how we break that site your sources complex by getting how we can always have a new belief based on different philosophies. Ps: infps are attracted by estps but having a social context for them to meet can be really problematic and the estp should give infp some time to be comfortable and open up

[@Mly_aaa]

As an infp w numerous infj and enfj relatives, i can confirm that they have a ‘self-fulfilling prophecy’ vice. It works like this: The xnfj is paranoid over something that either 1. Has happened but not to the extent they are concerned about or 2. Has not happened at all-not even close. Then, I (infp) tend to make note of said xnfj irritant BECAUSE they have a habit of talking about allllll the time (as well as detailing it). I am not so concerned because of either of the two reasons above: it’s not that serious/easy fix or that sh-t hasn’t happened💁🏽‍♀️. Eventually, after some time(of them repeating themselves) I get annoyed w all the parroting and want an out. So… I do 1 of 2 things: 1. do EXACTly that thing they keep talking about to get their attention to tell them to shut up (bc I know exactly what they’re worried about bc they wont shut up) or 2. Wait for someone else to do that thing and point out to them that the whole time they were running their mouth, that sh-t didnt happen and they really didn’t have to be worried for sh-t… but they ended up psyching themselves out and spent so much time worrying that it accumulated and they blew up xxtra big when it finally happened. That is exactly the cycle of the xnfj paranoia (at least in my household)🎭

[@KTYewTube]

INFPs actually value others' well-being and autonomy in a genuine way and do not want to impose themselves on others, so I find your examples of infp getting together with an enfp to manipulate people pretty damn off base. I also find the infp infp relationship example extremely off base because you describe them as insulting each other or saying they're better than the other and that is the last thing they would do because they value the well being of others so highly and have an ability to be understanding towards others which would not let such a petty destructive interchange happen in the first place. I really suggest getting to know real INFP s better. They are very kind souls and this video does not do them justice. Additionally, you say all interaction is manipulation. Read the dictionary, and don't redefine words. Manipulation is defined as affecting someone in an unscrupulous way. And in common speech we see that as meaning in such a way which means that they are trying to do it in such a way which disregards what is best for that person. Again, INFPs have a high regard for what is in the best interest of others, to a point where they need a lot of growth to make good leaders because they have such a difficult time doing anything that could go against another person's personal desires. While they might make good manipulators, they don't allow themselves to be. Again we're taking about the negative connotation which is in line with the examples you have about two girls cheating guys out of dinner.

[@astonish_injurer5598]

Puh lease. Every type has a dark side and INFP is no exception. Especially with Fi hero and Se trickster, they can be quite self absorbed (while accusing you of being self absorbsed).

[@RoseyCreations]

Nah, he's pretty on point. Depravity is something NFPs need to constantly work themselves out of. Me, an INFP, included.

[@salaheddinecherrak6386]

Infp could want other people's pleasure met but if they had a bad experience they can become back-stabbers infp is always searching for others happiness when s/he's confortable, and isn't stressing about making things right in the background- infp wants things to be done right (estj subconscious) so when shit hits the fan they'll try to clean it when no one's watching (because they don't need the grand appreciation) but when they do that on their own and see that no one notices their good morals for wanting to make things right - and not for the fame may I add- they'll feel down. Infps need the appreciation of their mindsets: someone saying they think well/ for the better of others However when that isn't happenning and they keep trying on their own, in the end infps would get bitter and whenever someone becomes just slightly more concrete they'll scoff internally judging the person as shallow and as someone who doesn't want to understand others which is terrible because everyone should be a good person and think of others by the end they'll have new opinions on people around them. Opinions which include making others bad people. This could reach an extend where the infp convinces themselves that they have to change it: make an action to bite the bad person, maybe they'll think over it and see that they need to get better... nalh blah nlah blah However when infps have JUST one person to praise their morals they'll have remorce about performing any manipulation because no matter what, as long as that person makes them comfy and loved, and they clean the shit off the fan, things are harmonious even if not in the grand scheme, they're still okay and so there's no need to change it. infps are very protective of the minimum harmony when THEY have to take actions in a place they don't like, but when there's nothing to like then there's nothing to protect thus they backstab the triggers of the "bad" blah nlah blah nlah

[@SS-bu8ez]

NTs in general seem to distrust emotions and seem to think of it as manipulation. They seem very skeptical of believing that a person can be nice without any ulterior motives. Perhaps because they themselves don't feel emotions much so they can't comprehend it. I knew an Entj and he always acted as though I was out to get him. It was a very strange experience. Before learning about mbti I used to think NTs were autistic or sociopathic. Now I understand them slightly better. This guy is an Entp with low Fe and Fi polar. He has no clue about how an Infp actually feels or is and so doesn't trust them.

[@noraflood6482]

@@salaheddinecherrak6386 It's true that when we are hurt we can hurt back. Fi likes that kind of 'balance'. But we don't 'backstab'....it's just that we read people so well it's so easy to strike deep where it really hurts. it's weird to us how others don't see this....(to us it's pretty much out there in the 'open'...not 'backstabbing'.) But it's true as you say we avoid doing this because Fi-morals also hold us back. Had to deal with some INTJs and ENTJs in my life who chose to trample on me to get on ahead with life. They can disappoint....And when you hit back just a tiny bit they get so surprised and hurt it's almost tedious...

[@futureplanet6910]

🍀 I have met my ENFJ in 2022. Thank you very much 💚 - an INFP.

[@nicolegulino]

I'm an infp and I have a lot of close friends who are also infps. I have one who annoys me because she gets easily offended by everything but I do love her and she's a good friend. Another one was my friend for a while and then ditched me because she had her own issues she had to work out, but she came back and now we are closer than ever. Another one I just befriended within the past few months is great and we've gotten super close really fast. I think the issues aren't really seeing each other as bad people most of the time, but rather just that we have so much in common that we understand each other really well in ways others don't. This can be an issue because we can be so alike that we can't really help each other with our issues because we're all so similar, but I think we're drawn to each other because we feel like no one else in our lives understands us or can be too critical at times. Its easy to get stuck though when you can't really challenge each other, but it helps to have other people to commiserate with. My mom is an entj and my boyfriend is an estp so I feel like there's more balance and challenging each other there. My boyfriend and I have been together a really long time and sometimes I wonder why he even likes me because of how different we are, but my mom always says it would drive me crazy if I was with someone who was just like me. I think I believe her due to personal experiences and this video of course.

[@david_oliveira71]

INFP-INFP friendships like you explained were soo hilarious honestly. Well, No Fe in the "conscious" cognitive stack. Thanks for this, really insightful.

[@allieharmon3926]

OMG 😂😂😂 the INFP INFP conflict is EXACTLY what me and my male friend went thru. We liked eachother as friends and spent a lot of time together but we didn't agree on some important social issues. We have a 3rd friend (Also a male infp) who couldn't even deal with him bc he constantly offended the other male INFP. Me and the other male INFP are very much into being "SJW's" and we thought he was homophobic and misogynistic. We all still get along, although I am closer with the friend that caused friction. Bc I had a good impression of him initially (and he usually kept up that impression until he started talking about social issues) I stuck around and I ended up being correct about his good character. Fast forward 2 years later. Deep down, he said that he felt that he used to hold homophobic and misogynistic beliefs bc they were pushed onto him by his father and SOME of his friends. He said that looking inward through meditation and being influenced by me (I am his closest and only female friend) has changed him for the better. His words not mine. Now even though we disagree at times we don't get to a point where we are talking at eachother and not listening. Bc he definitely isn't an SJW and we get along swimmingly. I think SJW's get a bad rap bc the most vocal ones are the most irritating to a lot of ppl. But people that are super into their own beliefs are also very likely to criticize others for being super into their own beliefs😂😂😂 so then no one listens to the other.

[@blowingskyify]

omgg.. my best-friend is infp and we're often do project together. that exactly what happened! but as we knew that we're both lazy, we just laughed it off and always.. ALWAYS procrastinating until day-2 or day-1. college was crazy and hard on us, there was a time when we both depressed and play some games all day long xD but every time i need someone to listen, to chill, to talk about random stuff or some deep topics, nobody can match her understanding.

[@salaheddinecherrak6386]

I've gotten so used to recieve critisism only that when Joseph started his speech about how infp are good contributors I just ... felt unconfortable.... it's weird since I thought I would feel better if told that "I'm good person" or "you have good capacities" but I feel overrated instead. And honestly, I respect entps just as much as you do jo, you lads are constantly starting new things and pushing others out of their confort zone and I know that it always come from a good place, plus it's nice to feel all the contradictions you guys can hold within yourselves and watch you as you defend them, although I wouldn't like to have arguments on any subject with you since I'm very in control and need time to think through everything you said before answering this would put me to disadventage =.=

[@CSJoseph]

which contradictions? I hope you are thinking in dynamics not statics.

[@salaheddinecherrak6386]

C.S. Joseph contradictions as in: you act like you hate the person but all what you do is out of love (like with the wayfers lecture) also some of the thought process of your Ti kinda blows my mind out of its natural proportions I guess that's dynamics contradictions?

[@ernestogamez9300]

Wow he is back from the distant planets with goodies for everyone!😁

[@taekwondoista3697]

Ernesto Gamez he’s definitely 👽 . He is out of this world 🌎

[@_Scotchie]

I'm an INFP woman who at one point was engaged to an ISTJ man. The relationship was toxic from beginning to end. We broke up and made up often because he was so guarded and full of distrust. I often felt belittled, controlled and misunderstood to the point that my confidence was broken and I felt like I always had to prove myself and my loyalty to him. It was exhausting! He broke up with me a year into our engagement due to his deep seated trust issues and desire for me to conform to his way of doing things. 9 months later we reconciled after doing our own indvidual healing/self development and with the support of a few friends. The relationship seemed better at first but it was still toxic. However this time around I had a different level confidence and I finally had the balls to walk away for good. In another video you said, "never push a loyal person to the point that they dont give a damn." That was my whole mood in a nutshell! Ending that relationship was the best decision I've ever made in my life and I'm now the most content and self aware I've ever been in my life. If he and I ever had a chance of making it to the alter, our marriage would've been a complete trainwreck ending in divorce and devastation. I'm glad to have your videos as a resource to help me become a better person and develop better personal standards to prepare me for my next and, hopefully, final romantic relationship.

[@rosaliemcg2979]

I am an INFP and my ESTJ sister is my best friend. I really appreciate how honest she is with me regardless of how I feel about what she says. My ESTP sister and I do not get along unless I give her full control of the conversation, activity, whatever we are doing. I don't want to be always verified though, I would rather disagree and get a persons honest opinion than have someone validate me constantly. Without some amount of conflict there is no growth.

[@missanythingfunny]

As an INFP I can get along with any type aslong as they respect my individuality and let me have time to myself. I tend to prefer to be around NT types the most, I love their straight forward-ness and because authenticity as well as intuitiveness is my highest requirement in a friendship we always tend to mesh really well. However there bluntness can be mean and the friendship will tend to fizzle out after a few years once a value I hold dear to my heart is hurt. I find ESFJ/ INFJ the least compatible because there need to fit in and not be authentic at times annoys me the most out of all personality types but I do like being around them when it comes to organizing things as they are pretty straight forward about plans and sympathizing with the greater good. ENFJ can be controlling, and that for me is a big no, no. If I could choose I would have an NT partner (there bluntness and direct approach is very attractive) and a INFP friend or family member as they compliment and fulfil a part of my personality. SJ I will keep for group situations only because they are usually quite kind and offer a nice dynamic when healthy but one-on-one friendship is not good

[@shalaylaw7933]

Lmao the point in which you say to read for the rest of my life was hilarious and sounds like what my brain tells me. I adore reading ^_^ Edit* I absolutely can't stand ESTJ's, they drain my energy and leave me feeling bitter and nearly on the brink of physically confrontational. I can't recall ever meeting an ENFJ though, I'd really like one in my life though lol

[@IvanIvanov-uw4yx]

Im infp and i have a enfp friend, most of the things u said are true, but you cannot turn us against each other because somehow we can both agree that im good in some things, hes good in other things, and even if something like that happens i will step back, i wont argue how im better bla bla bla because i know already that my life sucks, and he is way better at taking care of himself. The first impression "manipulation" part was so god damn true. About the manipulation in general, he usually says something (criticizing someone or decision) and i agree with him, so that could be what youre talking about.

[@ddg5578]

socialize < watch videos about what would happen if hypothetically decided to socialize

[@nauticaladventurer4460]

I think alot of INFPs are attracted to stp types because they want something different than the same ol people pleaser type. I can attest to the fact that i myself dont like social butterflies. Especially people who like structure in life. That just seems boring. I want to be stimulated by new experiences and thats where STPs shine. I have had an ENFJ friend in my life but she always expected me to do something for society and i got turned off really quick. I believe an STP balances the INFP very well and is a good complimentary counterpart.

[@jennmari7425]

Oh boy, I'm an INFP and not in a dreamworld at all... I'm very reality based, and sometimes brutaly honest, definately manipulating, but my best guy friends are ENTPs and INTPs..haha...ENTPs are fun to make diabolical plans with...Weird I guess.. but I do find your vids informative in many ways. Definitely think that an individuals maturity and life experiences have a whole lot to do with this...2 Nfps are definitely a bad mix though after a disagreement, I cut a few out recently.. nfp ghosting "good times" Lol ... Good stuff ;)

[@julychani]

Sounds more like isfp