What Dating Is Like When You’re HIV-Positive

[@angileka1987]

you shouldn't be treated badly because you have HIV. that's wrong I agree with you. wither you have HIV or not, if you are worthy of my respect I will respect you. but don't try to make someone seem or feel bad and guilty because they won't date you because you have HIV, I am sorry but no one should be pushed into being in an intimate relationship with you or anyone else while they don't feel comfortable about it just to make you happy.

[@PsychoKern]

Cedric1987 Well sad man....well sad...

[@davidpac4]

Cedric1987 lol. They aren't pushing anyone. They are just saying to be open minded about it. Not that hard to get.

[@senpaitama8778]

open minded to getting a fatal disease?

[@jdogg6900]

Yes!

[@clarissemayne2570]

+Tio Maknae actually if you take medications and you use condoms, the chance to get what you called "a fatal disease" (which is not nowdays) is pretty low

[@issacthekid]

Open your heart ? Why would I need to suffer with you, and not even know if you're worth it ?

[@arinu4306]

That's a question you could ask yourself with any new person

[@issacthekid]

Arina T. If they don't have any disease, yes.

[@AidanLSRP]

absolutely, but that question is emphasised when you're in a relationship with someone who's hiv positive

[@issacthekid]

***** Exactly, tf.

[@jackhappens]

Issacthekid And here your ignorance truly shows. If a person with HIV has developed AIDS, they would most likely be so deathly ill that they'd be bed-ridden and unable to interact with the public. Please, I beg that at the very least you educate yourself on the distinction between HIV and AIDS.

[@reegankay9799]

HIV should not be seen as a punishment for having unprotected sex. Some of the comments on this video are ridiculous.

[@lopj456]

Reegan Kay yeah I agree HIV can be transmitted by blood, noddles, not necessarily sex haah

[@hose2793]

Bruni which CDC? Did you falsify data? Haha

[@210arun]

Reegan Kay well what should it be

[@SmokeGanjaAlways]

Bruni you should know better than to show facts in this circle jerk of a comment section.

[@reegankay9799]

Kevvy Kim when did I say anything about swallowing their cum? There are many ways to contract HIV, not just unprotected sex, that's what I was saying.

[@mugdays]

Sorry, why should I have an "open mind" about dating someone with a contagious, life-changing, potentially fatal disease? No thanks.

[@maaaahike]

its really not fatal or that life-changing anymore, m8.

[@nickh4676]

LifechAnging or not, sorry, plan to be hiv free

[@localscalper9008]

Pattarapol P No it is fatal. it becomes AIDS, which no doubt kills you

[@alinabina]

It's not really about having an open mind. It's about have respect for people regardless of who they are.😊

[@Rehunauris]

"its really not fatal or that life-changing anymore, m8." There are HIV strains what are immune against most common medication. In that case person has to take up to 30 pills each day in order to keep the HIV in check... many pills have bad side effects including diarrhea, liver damage, vomiting and so on. Your attitude is very reckless.

[@fartbutt5940]

I would be to scared to date someone with hiv

[@LetsChatGrace]

fart butt why? if you really look into it,it's very unlikely that you'll get it if you're careful and take precautions!

[@fartbutt5940]

grace l but still I would probably be to paranoid to even get a boner like what if the Condom breaks or they forget to take the medicine or something it's a risk I would rather avoid even if it's a very small chance

[@lucasathus]

Have you never had sex and the condom broke? It's not rare or hard to happen Do you aways do oral sex with condoms? Can't have sex while menstruating, because of the higher risk Woudn't be an easy relation, can't really blame people for not wanting to take a risk

[@lucasathus]

CigarTheShow15 No i don't 'think', i have sex. And i use condoms And they break. Broke with me some times, and one of those really stuck to my memory Maybe they don't break with you because of your micropenis You know, condoms shouldn't be baggy

[@theswordsofgaming2171]

fart butt you have aids

[@CIAagent12]

I mean I can risk my life. So, I'd rather not.

[@libbythesavage4842]

Slob on my knob People do not deserve hiv it's a virus if you judge people and you don't know what it is seriously need to search it because we should not treat others different if there hiv positive they are the same person with a virus that you can't catch by shaking hands or them sneezing on you just be respectful and caring it's not like there suddenly gonna lash out on you because of it and you would like it if others called you names just because you have a virus chicken pox is a virus and it's still in our bodies from when we were little but you don't call names because we have a chicken pox virus do you ?

[@SmokeGanjaAlways]

Slob on my knob a majority or hiv cases are from sexual contact, only a very small percentage was born with it. So to the people who caught it sexually do deserve it because they took the risk. You can exclude blame cause of your feelings.

[@leKuromajin]

Are you replying to the right person? He just rather not risk it.

[@gcitser1527]

+Libby 1853 AGAIN, STOP COPY AND PASTING

[@gcitser1527]

+Libby 1853 AGAIN, STOP COPY AND PASTING

[@mirandamadsen-orr2988]

It's not about stigma. It's just about health, I'm not going to do anything with someone who could give me aids. It sucks but it risks my life

[@wyatrhoades7184]

Miranda Madsen-Orr not when it's undetectable or if you take preventative medicines and have protected intercourse.

[@Minkses]

@Wyat Rhoades Accidents happen, wouldn't' want to risk event hat 1%

[@robulosity84]

Except the chance of transmission with someone whos undetectable, on medication and uses protection is 0%, remove the condom and its under .5%

[@whyworld1]

Ako but sex period is risky behavior straight, gay, unprotected and protected. Sorry to break it to you but your point of view is just as wrong as being prejudice.

[@cw5854]

Riding in a car on the highway is far more "risky" than having sex with someone who is poz and undetectable. Do you also refuse to ride in cars and buses?

[@billjones7754]

I don't really see the problem :/ Someone who you're potentially going to be in a relationship deserves to know straight away if you are HIV+ - it's a serious disease. People should certainly look into further detail before making an immediate judgement, but there should be no chance of a relationship developing where it's not discussed, so I fail to see the real issue here tbh.

[@oscmag13]

Bill Jones The issue is immediately saying no to hiv pos people when they are already being open about it.

[@SmokeGanjaAlways]

Bill Jones still don't see why it's everyone else's fault no one wants to date an hiv pos person.

[@rowanmayfair9249]

andrew Ccv Please, don't be so quick to say everyone.

[@Amanda-ex4sr]

There are people who don't know if they're positive themselves and have unprotected sex and pass it along.

[@NicaRox15]

THANK YOU - people have the right to say no EVEN AN IMMEDIATE NO once they see you have a disease. People be tripping if they think they're being 'predujiced' against because of their disease.

[@memeyou33]

I kind of disagree, especially on temporary dating sites like grinder and tinder, why should someone risk their life to make you sexually fulfilled?I don't even let my girlfriend kiss me when I have the flu, why would you sleep with someone with HIV or AIDS? 0-4% might be a small figure, but when it means you could have a shortened more troublesome life, why risk it? To the sufferers goes my sympathy, I do think there should be dating apps for people with STIs and what not, but risking healthy people for your sexual pleasure really isn't my definition of what is OK.

[@flowers1013]

NobleTreason thank you

[@sivx17]

This

[@nahhchill]

NobleTreason thank you.

[@nahhchill]

NobleTreason they need to mention that it's okay to not want to date anyone for being HIV positive. It's just protecting yourself.

[@KHtrinity1]

people cannot be certain at any given time that they have not contracted HIV since it takes at least 6 weeks after infection to show up in bloodwork, therefore having sex with a positive person who has an undetectable viral load can be much safer that with someone who doesnt know their status. If the negative partner also takes preventative medication, unprotected sex can be haf with virtually no risk of transmission whatsoever, and thats not even counting condoms

[@no-gw6jd]

Ok jeez stop acting like it's discrimination by categorizing you because people don't want HIV

[@gunjfur8633]

Magical kitty Ben Ben Spheal ftw!

[@adaharrisonn]

Magical kitty Ben Ben there is a HUGE stigma. It is discrimination. You're very ignorant.

[@bastetcat33]

Magical kitty Ben Ben but they also get discriminate. Some hospitals do not serve them.

[@dariohc6898]

Kyuri Shire you are a piece of trash

[@pippoppa8497]

Amen!!! It’s not profiling

[@lathandixon4855]

Yep, missing out... on the slow death from a basically incurable STD...

[@kellybaby151]

Lathan Dixon not untreatable, but incurable

[@lathandixon4855]

you're right...corrected as such

[@noviceprepper5397]

with reasonable precautions the risks are low. If I loved a person I'd take that risk

[@noviceprepper5397]

GI_gamespy nohax I have health issues and other problems of serious proportion. I'd not seek a mate in my situation. thanks for the referral though

[@Dellennickolis95]

Lathan Dixon 😊

[@BlackHatChannel]

You can't blame someone for not wanting to date someone who's HIV+.

[@dariohc6898]

Pathetic

[@MrCheesecake1928]

Do u know about U=U? Undetectable= Untransmittable

[@asumpi34]

@@MrCheesecake1928 Yes, but it's not 100% true. There is always some risk, unfortunately :(

[@muffinpomu]

@@MrCheesecake1928 you know that even -ve person should put up the hard work just not to get infected right? it's kinda unfair

[@ieshaanderson1317]

Exactly! And almost no one have time to keep up with people they're dating to make sure they're keeping up with taking their medicine everyday so they can remain undetectable.

[@elijahidemudia1607]

I'm straight black guy ok but honestly, I would never ever date a girl with hiv I don't care how low the chances are. Why would I risk it? We can just be friends.

[@elijahidemudia1607]

***** Oh my bad lol I forgot

[@DonkeyKong5479]

Lmfaoo any reason you needed to mention that you're black??

[@tonyloreto9225]

Yet your more than likely to go to a bar and find a stranger to hook up with. You justify safe sex by using a condom even though you know nothing about the stranger you will be having sex with.

[@missaefninc9020]

Tony Loreto who said they did thatttt😂😂 who infected you🤣🤣

[@killstreak8]

Missaefn Sounds if he doesn’t have HIV you should be jailed for assuming he does on a public post because he asked a question.

[@ObitoTHEwraith]

Finally a video on something positive for once.

[@fartbutt5940]

ObitoTHEwraith hahahaha lol 😂😂😂😂😂

[@Pantz]

you're terrible and im terrible for sitting here laughing

[@achim2986]

ObitoTHEwraith Lmao

[@abbsterjonesy]

I feel bad for laughing

[@frostcrackle2374]

noooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo

[@TeraKristen]

Even the Buzzfeed audience wasn't ready for this video.

[@tonyboy4334]

Sadly yes. Most people still don't understand the truths versus the myths of HIV

[@brentjones456]

Tony Boy How's the weather up there on your high horse m8?

[@tonyboy4334]

brent jones Weather is fine here. How about where you are?

[@brentjones456]

Tony Boy Oh it's going great down here in reality, come join us some time 👌

[@tonyboy4334]

brent jones I'm in reality. I'd invite you but I don't think your inflated ego could handle it

[@SukmyPikachu]

grindr is about hookups. don't complain people block you when they might not want to take that risk. people have a right to choose their sexual partner.

[@NO-yh2sw]

as much as i want to sympathize, but you can't just blame people who don't want to do any business with a person that has aids. you should've been more careful but there it is you can't do anything anymore. i just hope y'all be well.

[@cory4682]

Aids,was a prominent disease,once,Yes,you can get HIV with out safe sex,but people are now living in to their 70,s.I believe most HIV positive people are dating their own,as there is still a large stigma,and prejudices.

[@JohnSmith-py7gb]

I personally feel Hiv+ People should date other positive people. It just makes sense. This new medicine and all that jazz doesnt wipe it away. It is a potentionally fatal disease. I'm not closed minded, ive dated poz guys and wasnt told right away they were poz and I felt betrayed. I'm glad these guys are open and honest.

[@tonyboy4334]

You are indeed being closed minded by not dating poz guys. It sounds like the issue was trust, not his status.

[@tonyboy4334]

Elena Society practically does! Do you approve of the Jewish stamps? There is nothing in my comment that is selfish. And AIDS is NOT the same as HIV!

[@VanaeCavae]

Why don't you date a HIV postitive person. Put your money where your mouth is.

[@martincamprubi7179]

One question, cant be two people with hiv together?

[@TheShaylinVictoria]

Just Martin of course

[@martincamprubi7179]

TheShaylinVictoria I mean, so nobody gets infected

[@horrible_gamer9001]

i know right.. like what would be the worry? That you get more infected i guess?

[@elijahtrent21]

Just Martin It might give you HHIV

[@martincamprubi7179]

Shay Mischief & Music Ah, ok thanks for the answer

[@BloodNote]

It sucks for them. But you can't blame a person for not wanting to date/ have sex with someone positive. I would NEVER willing date someone who has an STD. Especially HIV or AIDS. No amount of protection will make me feel safe.

[@BloodNote]

Courtney Humphreys Nope never had one. And I've been with the same man for over 10 years. Have a nice day. ;)

[@ersadkaya4021]

hiv + guys please say you are positive before sex

[@libbythesavage4842]

Erşad Kaya People do not deserve hiv it's a virus if you judge people and you don't know what it is seriously need to search it because we should not treat others different if there hiv positive they are the same person with a virus that you can't catch by shaking hands or them sneezing on you just be respectful and caring it's not like there suddenly gonna lash out on you because of it and you would like it if others called you names just because you have a virus chicken pox is a virus and it's still in our bodies from when we were little but you don't call names because we have a chicken pox virus do you ?

[@Enel97]

just guys though right?girls dont need to say it. only guys.

[@Smeowtime]

You can sue them if they don't tell you

[@WonkaWorker]

Libby 1853 your an idiot. If you were with a guy/girl, you would NOT want them to tell you?

[@QarthCEO]

+Libby Yeah, cause HIV is just as harmless as chicken pox... oh wait.

[@Gonzalezreview]

Taking nursing major in health science I wouldn't want to take risk with anyone who is HIV positive. That's a risk that many wouldn't take. No matter what the chronic virus is still there

[@DEZeMONSTER]

Because you're ignorant. I don't think nursing is the job for you.

[@Christian-iy4pq]

@@DEZeMONSTER by ignorant you mean smart? Them not wanting a chronic debilitating illness that destroys the immune system is ignorant? I just know you’re an uneducated idiot. Good luck in life 👍

[@muffinpomu]

@@DEZeMONSTER bro wtf. it's okay to not want to date hiv pos person. you shouldn't force people to do something that they don't want to do.

[@MrLo0o0o0o0o0o0o0o0L]

sorry but this is just scary, one of the many reasons why i have avoided sex my entire life is HIV. even this video rises anxiety

[@Justkeeponlaughing21]

Me too. I'm lucky that I'm asexual and don't desire sex because if I did I know I would be too afraid to have it

[@kathrynsue1986]

hi I'm asexual too nice to see another one post I don't get to talk to many asexuals

[@safakfrank3776]

how did you guys became asexuals?

[@kathrynsue1986]

***** I didn't become asexual I just never have had a desire for sex

[@bigrometv]

Christian kathryn Grimes I honestly feel deep deep down you have sexual desire

[@bilbobackhand514]

I feel like this is the same as "Oh, so just because they have the flu, that means you don't want to hug them?" It is not a personally thing, it's a health issue.

[@Sloppy_McFloppy]

Just saying, why would someone choose some who HAS aids when they could just as easily choose someone who DOESNT?

[@mayram1276]

THIS!

[@wyatrhoades7184]

Digital Dirk HIV is not AIDS

[@jomaruy117]

+Benjamin Persson same difference.

[@ryanblack9897]

Digital Dirk maybe they meet them at work and see amazing qualities this person has and decide to date them. at that point HIV status should be made known and then let the bonds of love be tested.

[@scholasticbookfair.]

Maybe because...a human being is a human being and capable of being loving and healthy, hiv+ or not...just throwing ideas out there 😑

[@DamnDaimen]

The hard truth is that dating someone with hiv is a headache. Plenty of hiv free people out there, why bother with positive? I am sure these guys are great people. But lots of people are great. And most of them don't have hiv.

[@henniewise]

But don't these people deserve love and happiness as well?

[@TastyLovedOne1]

Ashley Nicxole Honestly, what kind of love and happiness can a person like the one who wrote the main comment provide?

[@henniewise]

TastyLovedOne1 I agree. Someone with that much ignorance probably wouldn't know healthy love and happiness if it hit them in the face.

[@snaily1230]

ashley and tastlovedone please wake up. would you guys have an intimate relationship a hiv positive person who already told you they where positive before dating? answer that question...

[@henniewise]

snaily12 If I were interested primarily in men, yes i would, because i would take the necessary precautions to keep me and my partner safe.

[@lilflanges]

These guys need to find people who are also HIV Positive instead of looking for people who aren't. It's just the way it works. People don't want to get it.

[@DamnDaimen]

Hiv positives can infect each other with their strains of the virus. Double dose.

[@TastyLovedOne1]

Evan Brosnan And that's why you guys have the president you have. :)

[@lilflanges]

TastyLovedOne1 is this saying that i am the reason Donald trump was elected? I actually have very liberal values and think he's an idiot.

[@TastyLovedOne1]

You sound exactly the same way he does in his speeches right now. Bigoted, ignorant, segregative, feeling like only you behold the truth of the matter and nobody else wants to accept it, because you're so above the rest of us, right? Not so different after all, if you ask me.

[@lilflanges]

TastyLovedOne1 i do not think that i am above anyone...you aren't worth my time. If you knew me in person you would completely change your perspective

[@Indigodrought]

Deadly buzzfeed it's deadly.

[@Frieza24esf]

life itself is deadly.

[@613Sarah]

DaiMAo24 edgy

[@13eaewe7m3thso]

not since the 80s it isn't

[@LoboMendez1]

so are cars, cigarettes, fatty foods and religiously motivated white men. #justsayin

[@stterneherz]

Natalie M not anymore

[@jenetbenny750]

you can't blame people who don't want to date someone with HIV

[@msimpson4078]

Thats racist as so many people say.

[@williamsbiden756]

@@msimpson4078 Dr Abiola has the cure, 💗 my friends are proud of me because I recommend Dr Abiola on KZbin to them and they are all HIV negative now

[@ryanl5922]

Obviously it is cruel to be hateful towards someone just because he is HIV+, especially considering how difficult a diagnosis that is. But this video seems to suggest in a few places that it's also wrong to not want to date someone who is HIV+, which really makes no sense at all. I look down on the people who would send the messages that these guys mentioned, but if someone refuses to date you because you are HIV+, and they aren't cruel about it, can you really blame them?

[@ryanl5922]

Ok. I just finished the video and I guess it actually explicitly says that it's wrong to not want to date someone who is HIV+. To compare it to not wanting to date someone of another race is ridiculous, and even thought someone who is undetectable may be extremely unlikely to pass on the virus, you cannot blame someone for not wanting to take that chance.

[@mahima000r]

that's sad...:-( ...why don't two HIV positive or infected with AIDS people date each other and live happily!

[@MultiJosh071]

mahima raul then death comes next

[@mahima000r]

Joshua Santos but they already have the virus in them so how will it affect?

[@elijahtrent21]

mahima raul You might get double AIDS

[@beautifulbri523]

Because there are multiple strains of the virus. If two HIV+ were to have unprotective sex, the virus in their bodies could mutate into a much more aggressive HIV strain.

[@PsychoKern]

Koiyo True.....that really fuckin sucks..

[@veronicah7735]

I can understand being worried about having sexual contact with a person who's HIV+, but there is definitely a stigma about HIV+ people. It makes a lot of people afraid or disgusted to even associate (non-sexually) with someone who has HIV, as though they are "dirty", and as if their HIV is contagious by just being around them. That stigma, in my opinion, is what needs to go.

[@AidanLSRP]

the stigma is a result of the lack of medical options years ago. it was viewed as a dirty disease due to it being speculated as a disease transmitted through gay sex. obviously the stigma has remained

[@veronicah7735]

+яαιивσω ღ You do realize that you can't contract HIV unless you either share blood, genital fluids/secretions, or breast milk, right? You're not going to get HIV from them pretty much unless you're using the same needle as them or having sex with them. Breathing the same air or being around/touching someone with HIV will not cause you to catch their disease. Acting as though they're "dirty" or "contagious" just from being around them makes you seem very uneducated.

[@Nyctosuba]

It's only logical to want to avoid those who are "sick". Even if you can only get it through blood, milk, or whatever, most people wouldn't want to be around someone with a possibly lethal disease, especially if they can get it themselves. Not to mention the other diseases they could transmit due to having a weak immune system. I'm sure they're great people and all, but if you have a possibility, no matter how slim, of giving me a disease that'll change my life forever and destroy my immunity to disease, I wouldn't want to stick around either.

[@veronicah7735]

+baregrills I hope you're not talking to me because I wasn't even addressing you

[@AidanLSRP]

Veronica Hackenberg you said "dirty", I used the same word

[@RJandPAULA]

*Props to the the people that speak up! Thank you for being courageous and inspiring to speak up on this issue.*

[@paulinejade8019]

RJ and PAULA 👏👏👏

[@flurpurr]

RJ and PAULA did u just clapped yoursekf

[@theroanes]

Katsue ø and RJ clapped for paula? XD

[@RJandPAULA]

Kevvy Kim you should try to speak up in public and air your laundry out. 😊

[@milesarroyo8404]

nah

[@asarehenry5405]

I wouldn't mind dating someone with hiv. At least you know he got hiv and u will always protect yourself. Unlike dating someone who is clean and unfaithful. I think love is all that matters...

[@Watefekk]

And then the condom broke and you're fucked too.

[@CourageDaDog5]

***** ?

[@srcs23]

unless the person is undetectable, then like they said in the video is almost impossible

[@AidanLSRP]

refreshing to see somebody with such a positive outlook on life

[@asarehenry5405]

Gifted Gamer if I love the person. And I'm in a relationship with the person....why not? I wouldn't do it for casual sex. But I will do it for love.

[@bleachdrinker632]

But I don't want to get HIV or AIDS, I'm also not gay

[@jacky79322]

bleach drinker yet you wanna drink bleach lol 😂

[@baldmetalhead7068]

bleach drinker HIV is virus that causes AIDS

[@kyon8565]

But bleach is the cure to HIV!

[@tedcomet3121]

jacky79322 sssshhhhh dont tell them the cure

[@ryanblack9897]

being gay has nothing to do with it. women, children, and straight men of all ages have HIV.

[@abbyx557]

But can you really blame someone for not wanting to be intimate with an HIV + person

[@pendingdeletionduetocopyri4634]

abby x true. there is a hiv+ dating site maybe they havent seen it

[@thememoryguardians]

My heart breaks for them honestly because it sounds really lonely but I would not want to date someone who was HIV positive.

[@gaycausesoneisparentalnegl309]

BeingErin CDC reports'lots of gay caused syphilis going around too.

[@learnlanguages3899]

BeingErin we all want to stay healthy

[@tonyloreto9225]

Educate yourself. You sound so ignorant.

[@gaycausesoneisparentalnegl309]

If you mean me. I have facts backing me up. See my channel.

[@esthermeya7090]

BeingErin being HIV has nothing to do with being black. I'm so offended by that last guys comment. The ignorance. Wow.

[@Knkn8]

Clean usually means disease-free, no one is calling you dirty. People have every right not to want to have sex with any of you because they don't want to take a pill everyday for the rest of their lives. I just don't see how that's discriminatory. And no, being HIV + is not the same as being black or asian. That doesn't even make any sense.

[@Nikitarat08]

"The chances of an Undetectable individual infecting someone are very low, BETWEEN 4% AND 0%".. So, still possible.

[@kinglseyabrokwah4682]

I was with till you started you to guilt people into dating. It sucks that you're positive and I feel for you, but I'll be damned if you expect someone to put their life on the line just to make you feel better.

[@adaharrisonn]

Kinglsey Abrokwah I wonder what you would do if something happened to you that made literally nobody ever want anything to do with you ever again. Would you still be saying the same thing? I mean, never having a relationship again. Because everyone sees you as a disease with legs. Sees you as disgusting.

[@AlienAndHisCat]

@@adaharrisonn I would feel bad, of course. But feelings don't change the fact that it is an incurable disease that will kill you or make you dependent on medicines for rest of your life. Making decision about this matter based on feelings is not only impragmatic, but also life-altering in a bad way.

[@kojack635]

@Casston Day Lmao damn you got her

[@jacksonkonty3535]

HIV is dangerous, the guys who won't date you aren't trying to be mean they are trying to be safe.

[@emilioknittel]

Ya something tells me that dating someone with AIDS isn't the most positive thing i could do with my life

[@PhaenyBirb]

Ayyyyyyyyy

[@jamesgrier4079]

Hiv isnt aids. Hiv HOWEVER does turn into aids the longer you're not treated so say you went a few years wothout treatment. You might end up with aids then. Thats why its promoted to get tested every 3 to 6 months

[@DEZeMONSTER]

Its because you're ignorant.

[@GENDERMESSProductions]

In effect, its safer to sleep with someone who is HIV+ and Undetectable, than someone who doesn't even know their HIV status. Eye opener! Thanks for this video

[@LipoMaae94]

to the guy that said he was undetectable, you sound entitled. No one owes you sex, and you can't just expect it because you're in a relationship.

[@terrydawson1153]

Entitled? I don't think he was making the suggestion that he is owed any sex. He is dealing with the constant rejection which is a completely different thing.

[@InfiniteIzzy]

The one who said he had been single since the 80s actually made me want to cry he just seems so nice and there is little to no chance of him passing it on anyway :(

[@Quepiid]

How can you be mad that people see you have hiv and don't want to date/sleep with you? Just because you can play it safe don't mean accidents don't happen.

[@fayeknayme6126]

“You are truly missing out…” Yes, on HIV.

[@missychelle33]

Good message. Opened my ignorant eyes a bit. I'm a straight female who basically knows nothing about HIV- nor do I know up to date info about it. My brain goes back to things I used to know. This helped. I can't say I wouldn't be terrified to be w someone even if they were undetectable...but I do a lot of things when I'm in love.

[@itmustbelove08]

missychelle33 well kudos for willing to admit that your eyes have been widen. These things may not change your feelings overnight but a little empathy and education go a long way.

[@missychelle33]

craig doss very true. I'm never afraid to learn something new :)

[@XxMusclecarsxX]

It's not just a checklist. Of course you're going to be categorized

[@holyghost_963]

I don't get why you're complaining about someone not being with you on dating websites. If you have unprotected sex once, or a condom breaks they have HIV to. If they break up with you which happens in a lot of dating website matches they will then have to carry that around with them. Find someone who wants to spend the rest of their life with you before having sex because it wont really matter if you are both HIV positive

[@holyghost_963]

***** Yes, but thats 1% that you might have a potentially life ending virus

[@seogoratjk]

The only on who can make that dicision is the one responding to the romantic interest, and they have every right to say no.

[@pokemonbro2]

Are you seriously saying that it's wrong for someone to be reluctant to dating someone if they have a serious venereal disease?! It's not a 'stigma' to want to keep yourself from contracting that despite the steps you can take to avoid it. It's not the same as race or faith so don't treat it like it is

[@HarryWessex]

I just don't want aids... what's so wrong with that?

[@junpeitendo1076]

HarryWessex exactly! I wouldn't screw someone with a std, that simple, and if I'm dating, I'm dating with the thoughts" I want to know if I'm going to marry her one day" and if I marry her, we are going to have sex, not a moment before marriage though, so I. Not dating someone with a std, if I know I'm not going to marry them one of the reasons being I wouldn't screw someone with a std. I don't care if other people do, Idc if other people gay or lesbian or trans, just don't tell me i have to screw a trans or someone with std!

[@adaharrisonn]

HarryWessex so don't have sex with them lmfao

[@Emabarista]

Ada Harrison didn't you just write a comment on how we are bigoted and ignorant for not wanting to date people with STD'S?

[@Adamant_AF]

Ridiculous. Refusing to date someone who has a deadly and contagious virus is not discrimination, it is common sense.

[@justsayJeany]

I would never discriminate somone for being hiv positive . I had a friend growing up who was HIV postive and I adored her but when it comes to dating, thats a more sensitive topic.

[@williamsbiden756]

Dr Abiola has the cure, 💗 my friends are proud of me because I recommend Dr Abiola on KZbin to them and they are all HIV negative now

[@tomzborovsky8378]

It's true that people need to be more open minded, and more educated, as well as stop shutting people out just because of HIV.. But if they don't want to be with you, that's their right, and choice. HIV-positive or not.

[@koolhitman1]

0-4% chance is too high for me

[@augustpearson3916]

"You never know what a person has inside them" Like an STD with no medical cure that could possibly kill you.. BUT loves all that matters, right?

[@joet8862]

this kids, is why you practice safe sex

[@joet8862]

Sarahnewks but it would help greatly if you wrap up right? if the condom doesn't split then you should be fine. it's transmissible through blood isn't it

[@kaylutz5824]

Or from someone that was birthed to having it

[@biggsydaboss3410]

"Safe sex" As a concept in the healthcare profession is seen as utter nonsense. There is only "safer sex". All sex, even when using barrier methods like condoms, carry a risk.

[@joet8862]

Biggsy DaBoss fine, safer sex

[@joet8862]

Biggsy DaBoss no it's fine

[@jeuryveloz6011]

Correct me if I'm wrong, but isn't Grindr just like tinder, a place where people hook up? If that's the case, people are viewed as sexual objects on their anyway, so that fact that you're HIV+ is pretty important.

[@pippoppa8497]

I’m so glad to see people in the comments not falling for this BS as a gay black man. It’s not your job to risk your life just to make someone else happy

[@WonkaWorker]

Excuse them for not wanting HIV

[@noodles1291]

I understand people who don't want to date HIV positive people because they don't want to risk getting the virus and I don't think that you should be shamed for looking out for your own safety

[@amirhobson325]

Interesting how this video attracted so many ignorant and scared people....facts>myths people...

[@killstreak8]

Amir Hobson shocked as well

[@williamsbiden756]

Dr Abiola has the cure, 💗 my friends are proud of me because I recommend Dr Abiola on KZbin to them and they are all HIV negative now

[@pbfloyd13]

You seem like nice guys but... naaaaw fam. sorry.

[@ttwistertt6452]

So im a bad person if i avoid a 4% chance of my death? Oh thanks, this is the stage of civilization we got on. Perfect.

[@HrothgarXII]

HIV does not equal death, but good job anyway buddy

[@eelwahd]

Mate, no one want HIV/AIDS you dont have to go out of your way to find a man with HIV and date him. Cause i wouldn't. Do you.

[@avalonaiii7177]

nobody wants to take medications to live stfu

[@gigipeedee]

@@avalonaiii7177 thats kinda transphobic

[@avalonaiii7177]

@@gigipeedee ?? how

[@guitarman64100]

I don't think it's fair for them to equate being poz with being black, asian, etc. I apologize that I don't want HIV, but we as humans have that survival instinct and these men should understand that

[@slypancake]

Can't get mad at people who don't want to date someone with HIV... I wouldn't feel comfortable to date someone with an STD, I don't want to risk contracting it. It's nothing against the person, I want to protect myself. In a nonsexual relationship, sure. I would totally be fine with it. But seriously, you can't be upset when someone who wants to have a sexual relationship doesn't want to be with someone who has something so serious (that's contractible)

[@freakishtrees]

I genuinely can't believe people agree with this video. My uncle died because he slept with someone who was HIV positive and didn't tell him. This kind of thing isn't a joke, and it isn't selfish to not want to risk your life to spare someone's feelings. I lost a loved one to this desease and while I know it's not their fault entirely that they have it, it still isn't right for them to try and make you feel bad for not wanting to be sexual or date them. Sorry.

[@angiebaby8870]

I'm sorry but it is not discriminatory to not want to have sex with someone with a deadly virus!

[@ImAyeGuest]

It's one thing to discriminate against gays and lesbians, but it's another to discriminate against HIV positives. Most cases of HIV are gotten during someone's lifetime, not as soon as they were born with it. In my opinion, I see it as totally okay to discriminate against those with STDs such as HIV. Most of the time, its the person with the virus' fault for not keeping it in his/her pants. And judging by the people in this video, they all didn't get it when they were born.

[@ImAyeGuest]

***** And some make fatal mistakes. Our world is an unforgiving place.

[@HerenciaMadre]

It's not even discrimination, since you just want to contract a mortal virus, apart from that, they had their chance to be "clean", and even if they were born with it it's not their fault it's from their parents for not saving them from HIV.

[@Nyctosuba]

I wouldn't even call it discrimination, it's just being safe. It's no more discrimination than not wanting to date someone with The Plague.

[@iampagliacci8923]

Discrimination against HIV+ people is still horrible, but here's the deal: not wanting to date someone is NOT discrimination.

[@NeutralNinetails]

okay so there's nothing wrong with having HiV and wanting love, but also don't shame people who don't wanna date you. it's a choice and people should be allowed to make it.

[@MsMadKim]

lol I have a 15 pg HIV essay due and I'm procrastinating by watching this video 😂

[@libbythesavage4842]

MsMadKim People do not deserve hiv it's a virus if you judge people and you don't know what it is seriously need to search it because we should not treat others different if there hiv positive they are the same person with a virus that you can't catch by shaking hands or them sneezing on you just be respectful and caring it's not like there suddenly gonna lash out on you because of it and you would like it if others called you names just because you have a virus chicken pox is a virus and it's still in our bodies from when we were little but you don't call names because we have a chicken pox virus do you ?

[@behappy5869]

Libby 1853 noone is saying that, what these people are arguing is that they wont be in a relationship with them, (sex) just like i wont date or have sex with a gay person but ill be friends with them.

[@gcitser1527]

Libby 1853 This doesn't even make sense.

[@MsMadKim]

Libby 1853 what? I wasn't judging anyone. I think you replied to the wrong comment

[@DarkennedFlower]

as liberal as i am...i dont think you can compare being HIV to be black or asian or feminine. its not the same. as much as i want to be compeltely ooen and do believe people with HIV need to be heard and not stereotyped or someone to be afraid. ita not the same.

[@raptorrochester]

You are a liberal so all of what you said is wrong

[@Not_kaila]

I'm glad that Buzzfeed made this video about this issue. So many people associated such distasteful and incorrect stigmas to people who are HIV-positive. We need to educate ourselves before we are so quick to act or judge because the vast majority of people have no idea what it actually means to be HIV positive or how an HIV infection works. I'm not HIV positive, but I've done a lot of research and essays about it and it means a lot that people are bringing attention to it and educating people about it.

[@Not_kaila]

Corrupt xEcho9M Honestly, if you actually read my comment you wouldn't have posted what you just said because it was completely irrelevant and the complete opposite of what I was saying. I was just congratulating Buzzfeed for educating people on a mass scale about something that people (like you) seem to only have a microscopic viewpoint on. So thank you for your contribution to an already known fact and maybe think before you comment next time.

[@GijsTheDog]

Sorry I don't want an incurable disease, and that this offends you.

[@andrescarrillo5201]

"I've been single since the 80s" And I thought I was lonely

[@ZsethB52]

Yes, condoms are important but, nobody deserves a disease nobody "deserves" to have any type of std.

[@sivx17]

If missing out means avoiding the risk of contracting hiv so be it. No offense, a healthy individual has the right to not date a person with hiv. No amount of guilt trip gonna change that.

[@E-raticWarrior]

What is buzzfeed trying to achieve exactly?

[@E-raticWarrior]

Death Otter couldn't have wrote it better myself

[@hexmaniacgabby5160]

king pin race wars and the spread of disease

[@Ketchme17]

I mean when it comes to dating specifically...your potential partner should definitely be aware that you is HIV positive and have the chance to make a decision about whether or not to pursue a relationship with you. I mean people do the same kinds of things with other diseases or conditions, because who would want to be with someone who can't handle their illness? They shouldn't be stigmatized because of their condition but they also shouldn't be surprised or offended if people will choose not to pursue relationships with them because of it.

[@bradent5008]

I think that it's fair for people to not want to date someone who's HIV positive, but it's not fair that people attack someone for being HIV positive.

[@saragould2010]

I wouldn’t want to get HIV so I wouldn’t have sex with anyone HIV positive. That doesn’t mean you’re a bad person or you’re dirty. But people have died from HIV and I’d have a panic attack.

[@williamsbiden756]

Dr Abiola has the cure, 💗 my friends are proud of me because I recommend Dr Abiola on KZbin to them and they are all HIV negative now

[@callumgreen7669]

Hello random person scrolling down the comments:D Hoping that you're having the best day:D From a much smallerrr youtuberr x

[@callumgreen7669]

:D

[@dominicc5914]

Callum Green thanks !!!!!

[@Shrdndjddj]

Callum Green thanks

[@benstone8819]

Callum Green I hope ur having a great day too

[@adijoseph8645]

Thx u too

[@bewwybabe8045]

HIV+ people can have "safer" sex if they 1. Know they have HIV 2. Are taking the pill which significantly lowers their chances of passing it on to others. One of the main reasons that many people are becoming HIV+ is because the person that they have sex with doesn't know that they are HIV+ themselves. I can get why being HIV+ affects your chances at a sexual relationship, but having HIV shouldn't be a reason that these people can't be loved. Get tested, be aware, and stand up for those being discriminated.

[@ziggy217]

[@DirtyReaper]

That one guy has been single since the 80s! He wins the Single for Life Award!

[@lindale3567]

idk it's not worth it to have sex with someone who's positive even if there are contraceptives involved

[@emilyslaton2100]

It makes me so happy that there are medications out there that help people with HIV become undetectable and live full, happy lives. It used to not be the case and that in itself is something to be thankful for :)

[@arteweston979]

Even with the undetectable status, there is still the possibility of passing it to someone else. We shouldn't same people for being HIV positive but we shouldn't shame people for not wanting to expose themselves to HIV either. They are thinking of their own health. You can't be upset about that.

[@arteweston979]

shame*

[@oyleday0195]

if someone doesn't want to date someone with a life threatening disease, that's their right. it's harsh but it can just be too scary for some people and they should respect that.

[@decafcj]

the comment section is depressing.

[@killstreak8]

KpopHunkTech very lmaooo I cant believe it was 2 years ago

[@vacvacd43]

Maybe this sounds insensitive but why would I date someone that is HIV-positive when I can date someone that isn't? Im actually wondering.

[@sierrasasmartass7755]

I don't care if the *chances* are low. If you have HIV or AIDS sex between me and you isn't happening. I don't care if I love you with all my heart. I listen to my brain and my heart will just have to get over it.

[@junpeitendo1076]

Sierra's A Smartass I wish i could honestly say that, though I could make a decision of my brain and just push my heart aside, i wouldn't be able to get over it.

[@Erase_your_head99]

Finally a positive video from Buzzfeed

[@libbythesavage4842]

EraseYour Head People do not deserve hiv it's a virus if you judge people and you don't know what it is seriously need to search it because we should not treat others different if there hiv positive they are the same person with a virus that you can't catch by shaking hands or them sneezing on you just be respectful and caring it's not like there suddenly gonna lash out on you because of it and you would like it if others called you names just because you have a virus chicken pox is a virus and it's still in our bodies from when we were little but you don't call names because we have a chicken pox virus do you ?

[@Erase_your_head99]

Libby 1853 I know that I am sorry I did not mean my comment as a joke

[@PsychoKern]

EraseYour Head He copies and pastes that comment all over the comment section so don't worry :) You're all good man

[@Erase_your_head99]

Psycho Kern thanks bro :'D

[@Adamtgr8]

4%!!! So you're telling me there is a chance!

[@raptorzlolko27]

it is unfortunate for them kids to be born with hiv or aids. but for adults, it is your fault getting the hiv curse, and don't ever think to share it with someone else

[@speckledsweetie2725]

3:03 missing out on what? Destroying my immune system? Having to see my life waste away just cause I don’t wanna hurt your feelings?

[@THEEPLUGTV]

Sadly you can’t tell anyone you hiv positive of you will never find love that’s the reality

[@purplelocs5411]

Congrats to those men for being honest and moving on with their lives. They shouldn't be treated so badly about their status but by their character. Tbh that 4% to 0% should also apply to the chances of anyone not affected to actually date someone who is positive. I'm sorry guys you maybe single for the rest of your lives but hope that space can be replaced by ever lasting friendships.

[@CommentsRage]

Milkywaycrasher Let me put it to you this way. If you have sex with somebody who's hiv positive or aids positive more than 25 times, you have a 100% chance at aids or hiv.

[@purplelocs5411]

Comment's Rage I know I just didn't want to hurt anyones feelings. I know this condition is scary but, I hope they find happiness in other places if dating isn't working for them.

[@Doalizb]

it's a big factor to me because I want to have kids without risking me or them. its just as important as a genetic problem that could be passed down. I just wouldn't risk it. I mean I don't hate anyone positive I would gladly by your friend but I wouldn't want a romantic relationship for my future kids and myself

[@MrCheesecake1928]

Hiv postive people can have hiv neggative kids. They just give medication to the baby the first 2 or 3 months of its life and that is it. An Hiv- baby

[@jacquelbussia1905]

@@MrCheesecake1928 why put a baby through all that when it can be avoided if hiv people stopped having children they wont be passing a deadly virus to innocent babies am one and it sucks living and paying for a sin i didnt commit

[@jacquelbussia1905]

@@MrCheesecake1928 also the meds taste disgusting bruh u know nothing

[@MrCheesecake1928]

@@jacquelbussia1905 there are treatments to destroy the virus even before birth when the embryon hasnt developed their nervous system just so you know.

[@t.s5806]

😂what would you rather date, a short guy or an HIV positive guy?