What Do You Actually Want? | With Dr. John Delony

[@unbrokenspine]

I think the highest value I can find is peace of conscience. Jordan mentions this often, and I agree with him. To be able to say that I did my best before I died and I have no regrets. To be able to live without violating my own uniqueness, without violating the uniqueness of others.

[@ransombodeen1415]

I suppose the strength of this idea would depend on the distinction they made in the video with regard to not feeling a certain way after having obtained a desired goal. If the emotion is the byproduct of an accomplishment then it's set to fade, but if it is part of the pursuit, perhaps it can stand the test of time. Peace itself does seem to have a conditional aspect to it, at least partly. Although meditatively we may establish a strong front, nonetheless, it seems to me we're constantly faced with unforeseen tasks which suddenly demand our attention or destabilize the very peace we aim for.

[@elektrotehnik94]

Identify what kind of a person you want to be, and then try to be that kind of a person. You can have "what you want" goals, but make sure "who you want to be" is more important than "what you want". ❤

[@rockon2503]

This! Commenting for reference so I didn't lose this.

[@ericrollings]

I appreciate a man that can calm you when anxious and punch you in the face when you’re out of line. That is you Mr. JP!

[@sollovinlion]

☝️💯💛

[@JessicaFayToday]

"The probability that you'll be happy because you've accomplished something, in any permanent sense, is virtually zero...That isn't what positive emotion is for. Positive emotion is to indicate that you're making progress towards a valued goal...A satiation reward, which would be the accomplishment of something, calms you and stops that program from running...It leaves you without a goal. And it also leaves empty space." -JP Pursuing something = Rush

[@eonryan8491]

7:46 9:01 - most important goal to pursue 10:53 11:15 - flexible with goals 13:01 - who should I be 13:18 - good high order vision 14:52 - highest order goals should be an approach

[@paulsaulpaul]

I want us all to stop thinking we are insignificant in this universe. Because it is used to shirk responsibility for pain caused to others. We are nodes in a network, and the influence we have the potential to have on the entire network is equal among us all and not reserved only for the loudest among us. I weep when I consider how my actions have affected so many tens of thousands of people in some way that no one but God is even aware of. Technically, every breath I exhale affects everyone in the world to some degree, like the "butterfly effect". I'll call it The Flatus Effect. The sense of scale is overwhelming when you realize how significant your potential is, for good or evil, in this universe. This is why Jordan weeps when he is told by you or me of how he has impacted our lives in such an incredible way. The sense of scale in his good works is overwhelming. We all need to realize it works in the evil direction, too.

[@bashful514]

This Comment ^^^

[@elektrotehnik94]

Here fixed it for you ❤ "Because it is used to shirk responsibility for *Not Wanting to Help* others."

[@Razear]

I feel like a lot of the common goals that people impose on themselves aren't things that they truly desire but are rather expectations of what others want for them or what the person thinks success looks like. It's like the kid who spent his entire life chasing a particular careerpath because they thought it would make their parents proud when in reality they walk into work every day being miserable despite thinking that it was what they wanted.

[@dianeavery17]

Mr Peterson. I really enjoy listening to your outlook on many subjects. You sir have an amazing brilliant mind. I want to thank you for letting the public listen to you point of view. God has truly given you an amazing thought provoking mind. God bless you and your family.

[@TheEnergizer94]

My biggest problem is that when I ask myself those questions my mind goes completely blank

[@buttbuttwhat1]

I have the same issue. I wish I had a solution so I could share, but at least we’re not alone in that. I’ve been taught to repress emotions that feel powerful (unless angry, then passively vent that and take it out on those around me). I’m unlearning this, or at least trying to. I really feel like I don’t have a sense of self because of it. I don’t want or need anything. I’m not even convinced on being alive (though I wouldn’t do anything to change that). I just felt an emotion in my stomach, just tonight, that I’m acting on. It was a good emotion, but one that I normally would have tied to being selfish or idealistic. I’m for once running with it. I’ll let you know how it goes (if I remember). Cheers. Good luck and God bless.

[@floresdta]

God allows the devil to rule the minds of those who are empty of his grace

[@456456459]

One way to look at it. Choose a life experience you want and do what you need to have it. Was given that bit of rewording a while ago. It kinda helped.

[@crzxm]

Because you're too soft on youself.

[@floresdta]

@@crzxm i heard thats why ur last girl left u

[@MrJamesC]

The film "soul" shows very well that we are not happy forever when we realize our dream. We have to look for the next mountain and climb it.

[@kevinkelly2162]

Anybody expecting or even looking for 'happy forever' knows nothing about being human.

[@g3nj1]

Have you ever reached a goal like that? Have you ever achieved your dream? I understand that humans need something to work towards, and I completely agree, but life would be a million times better if I could achieve just one of my goals. Not working for someone else. Not having to live in debt paycheck to paycheck. I have no idea what it would be like to achieve such a dream, but I'm sure it would be better than where I am now... That's why people are motivated to achieve goals in the first place. If you keep up with that mindset you could potentially subconsciously be afraid of achieving your dreams for fear of not knowing what to do after. Don't let a dramatic representation of someone else's idea stop you from achieveing your dream...

[@dcbeats168]

Is that the Disney movie? I loved that one I’m sure we all know someone who feels like 22

[@MrJamesC]

@@g3nj1 I didn't say I don't pursue my dreams (if your comment was directed at me)

[@futureselfnow]

i certainly did not get the message from the incredible film “soul” that you need to look for the next mountain to climb. not in the least. that he realizes his dream and isnt fulfilled is true, but he also realizes by 22’s example that by being in constant pursuit of a dream or purpose we usually miss out on where life actually happens which is the present moment. and that there is immense beauty in life right in the present moment. by looking, and using our senses, and truly being present, its a joy to be alive. thats what gets dulled over.

[@AnonYouMust]

Pay attention, you get back change..... and .... your determination will get you thru the discomfort . TRUTH & gratitude Dr. Peterson, thank you!

[@calebdoner]

Our goal needs to be a personal identity, not a set of external circumstances. I have chased external circumstances more than I would like to admit. It is dominated by a feeling of inadequacy before reaching the goal and lostness and lethargy after. When the goal is an identity of a man who approaches problems with courage, vigor, and truth, then the external circumstances fade in importance.

[@yesenia3816]

I want to live in such a way that honors the Gospel and glorifies Jesus. I want, when I meet Jesus face to face, to have Him look me in the eye and say, "Well done, good and faithful servant."

[@lauralane22]

To be together in loving awareness

[@pamsloan84]

Sometimes it is a fear of unintended consequences that prevents one from choosing. The older you get the harder it is to choose anything at all.

[@danniseliger5172]

Obfuscating your goals and dreams is a really good way to put it. JP makes it sound like this is something conscious though, like it is something you can choose to not do. But you can't. When you're in the fog you're in the fog. He does in the end give a useful suggestion on how you get out - I really really like his suggetion of focusing on the highest goal - making yourself the person who takes on the challenges of life is a superb goal, and one that will make the subordinate goals fall into place much easier. One of the greatest JP clips - and that's saying something. Thank you JP a sub well earned

[@PhilWP]

You should read his book: 12 Rules for Life: An Antidote to Chaos. He delves deeper in to this exact topic.

[@danniseliger5172]

@@PhilWP i might give it a read. I don't like the idea of 12 life rules though. I don't really think anyone can manage much more than 3. I read his firdt book, which was ok, but to be honest I think hus taped lectures are better

[@TheMyrmidon22]

That answered a few lingering questions I have been asking myself. You will figure this out, never give up. I'm proud of you.

[@mariagarced1013]

Pescador de Hombres, thank you so much. I want to save as many lives as possible, by reminding them that they are here because they are loved. I struggle often. But, I am very, very grateful to be alive, and for the people in my life. I'm glad you're alive, now, while I am also. I am very blessed. I want to meet you one day. You are very special, as I am. The Advocate is with us, ALWAYS. The Gates of Hades shall not prevail. Gracias! Te amo!

[@MW-bv3wu]

His socks match his tie. A) Cool! B) I missed the last 5 minutes of content, staring at his socks.

[@Mockduck2020]

Looks kind of like he wrapped himself in the funny pages before he got dressed

[@thegreenphantom4304]

It's all about prioritizing, motivation and set goals there's what you want (positive/negative) , what you need (positive/negative) and what you get based on your priorities, motivation and goals.

[@Nataliaange01]

10:00 - There was one evening my husband and I tried to go on a date. We went to FOUR different restaurants before we finally sat down at one because I couldn't make up my mind. I realized later, it wasn't the restaurants I was having trouble with. It was the date.

[@FEJK82]

After decades of introspection, it seems that what I really want is to be at peace. While I do crave inspiration, love, and something to fight for (or against) - what they have given me (the few brief times I have had those things, what I got from it all was peace... So peace must be what I am actually after. Right? Okay, so how do I get that again, when I seem to avoid everything that will bring me closer to that? I probably need someone who cares enough about me to put a hand on my back, giving me encouragement & reason to take on the struggle... as it seems I can longer do it on my own. Maybe having something to do is not as good as having a reason to do something.

[@crzxm]

The partner you seek may not want the same as you.

[@faboolean7039]

I always ask people what they want every single day… The problem comes when their needs become unreasonable and then I have to politely remind them that they are currently in a Wendy’s

[@bexdahex]

Best comment, no further reading necessary.

[@g3nj1]

Nice one.

[@mrscruff66]

Funyy

[@JessicaFayToday]

🤣🤣🤣

[@l.w.paradis2108]

I can tell you how I felt after I bought the first new car of my life in my forties: FANTASTIC. It was the first time money solved a problem: I bought a Volvo S80 AWD and felt perfectly safe driving, even surrounded by enormous SUVs. Now I know how much money matters -- _and so do you guys._

[@jasmina5566]

Agreed but I think the point is that the feeling is fleeting. It only last a little. Therefore, we need to continually find new mountains to climb in order to keep feeling that feeling.

[@l.w.paradis2108]

@jasmina5566 Not me. I never was afraid to drive again, and I love it. If I knew I would never be destitute in retirement, that would make me intensely happy. I don't have high-class problems. My life doesn't lack for meaning. It sometimes has too much meaning.

[@thedigitalceo]

Perhaps asking everyone “What do you want?” Is not the right question. Vicktor Frankl author of “Man’s Search for Meaning” says it’s not what you want out of life; it’s what life wants out of you.

[@dontrushtohate]

Just finished the book. Wow profound and I totally agree.

[@Nataliaange01]

I loved that book. Thank you for bringing that up. What brings life meaning? Because without meaning, you are meaningless and our pain is meaningless.

[@Victor_Andrei]

The problem is that when people ask themselves what it is that they want, they often don't like the answer and so they replace it with something more acceptable to the mainstream, and then they suffer.

[@valmid5069]

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[@notrealname6397]

1:05 It’s so surprising to see the way culture impacts my mindset, now that I’m back in America I’ve the opportunity to look at this all in abstraction, referring back to what I’ve understood what would be ideal to become. Egypt has treated me so fairly.

[@SoloMotivation]

*_Let's add this to our taught today!_* We should avoid hasty conclusion because of what somebody says about someone else. Don't be fooled by the illusion of wealth. Big houses, fancy cars, and designer clothes are not wealth. It's most likely debt. Wealth is freedom, 0ptions time & health. Appreciate where you’re in your journey. Even if it's not where you want to be. Every season serves a purpose. Never stop doing your best. Just because someone doesn't give you credit. When you’re weak, pray to God. When u re worried, pray 2 God. When you’re stressed, pray to God. When you are hopeless pray to God. God will put you where he wants you. Even if no one thinks you deserve the position. Your positive action combined with positive thinking results in success. .,.,.,.,.,.,

[@ashleygatewood]

Why don’t I know. Because life is never ONE thing at a time. It would be easier to start with a clean slate at this point. The weirdest thing I’m dealing with is a strange awareness that everything I want to do requires ten other things to be done first. My own doing, but it becomes a separate foe after awhile. It’s like being forced to think backwards in order to move forward. It’s unsettling, and it’s why I am focusing on your ‘do one thing that you can and will do’ approach. But some days, it’s like this: move table to other room (easy enough); wait, must first clean off chair in other room so I can move it out of the way for table; no, first have to move shelf in third room to make room for chair; no, can’t until I disassemble shelf first….and it’s like….why is everything an endless pit of backwards? I just want to move one damn table. It’s like a nightmarish tale of the old lady who swallowed a fly. I think I swallowed a nightmarish sadness, that’s what landed me here. A fine string of losses, one after the other for ten years. Still, I’ve also had enormous, outrageous blessings during this time, so let’s not forget the guilt. Sadness is hard to shake off. It’s comfortable and warm, suffocating, but familiar. You breathe its breath long enough and it becomes your own. Eventually, I get myself together and start with disassembling the shelf and have the project done in a couple of hours. I used to go non-stop from 5am to midnight some days, I loved it, but my industriousness flew out the window. I think people just break sometimes. So right, an end goal of success should not be the highest order goal. If I can (and I will) get all this stuff organized around me, and throw off this sadness, then I can at least get back to a book I was writing - that was a pleasure and a purpose for me. And so as not to end up in the belly of a whale, start talking again about what God has put on my heart. That’s a dragon I am not ready for yet. The danger is, the whale will devour me from behind if the dragon doesn’t. Maybe that’s what he’s waiting for…let the dragon flambé me and the whale can finish me off. Tasty. You can understand this: the higher we progress up the ladder, the more intelligent our enemies become. This truth functions in the natural domain and the spiritual domain. As if people aren’t hard enough to deal with, we must also contend with invisible forces at play. And may God help us when we are our own enemies.

[@ashleygatewood]

I was looking through Japanese art illustrations this morning; there were dragons and other creatures, along with a phoenix, and I had a mini revelation. I looked up ‘Japanese dragon and phoenix art’ and there they were, hundreds of them fighting in circles. I thought, the dragon is helpless really. The phoenix can’t die by fire. So, instead of slaying the dragon with my own strength, why not just let the Spirit burn up my current form while in the presence of the dragon. Move forward, stare him right in his face, and let God set me on fire, (sacrifice - begin doing what I don’t really want to do, which will burn off what I don’t want to let go of) thus consume the dragon in the flames during the process. He’s only sealing his own fate if he tries to defeat me with fire, so he’s not so tough or scary. It’s like what Christ did through the Cross to defeat Satan, the devil thought he had won, but he was only sealing his own fate. “…and having spoiled principalities and powers, He made a show of them openly, triumphing over them in [the Cross].” I don’t even have to fight the dragon really. Just allow the fire to consume me and him, rise out of my ashes, and sift through the dragon’s pile of ashes to collect the gold.

[@Alienrun]

I really like the way you think, I see overlap between myself and you (even tho I'm sure we are very different). I've recently been dealing with issues that seem very similar to that "backwards approach" example you gave...it's jarring cause things weren't always this way, I know what's causing it, but I can't fully go back it seems. Also really like your imagination, that dragon pheonix example is defenetly one I'm going to be remembering for a long time...as I should not be afraid to let God set me on fire as often as possible! :D

[@ashleygatewood]

@@Alienrun Thanks for sharing your thoughts Alienrun. That dragon/phoenix rev actually worked for me. I prayed and visualized that scenario over the following days and was emboldened enough to make the sacrifice and move forward in that situation. It’s powerful when God sets us on fire! I’m still working on the backwards progression to move forward trap. ‘Jarring’ is a great word for it. And right, it’s the inability to reach back far enough in order to move forward. Bizarre. Like, how did I get here? I’m ready to throw everything in tubs and put them in storage. But that makes me angry too soooo. I just don’t get why I can’t move all this ’stuff’ out from under me. I’m like an archeologist digging through my own buried life. Interesting tidbit: I looked further into the Phoenix and Dragon duo following that vision. They are actually Chinese symbols of lovers in harmony. Who would have thought? It makes perfect sense because they are perfectly balanced for each other. The Phoenix still has the slight upper hand though…

[@dorei9235]

It's as if you're writing about me. I'm so sad all the time and I need to shake it off and just let go as I know God is really in control but I can't seem to move anything. I don't know if I'm making any sense but your comments have touched me so much. Thank you so very much for sharing. May God continue to bless us all.

[@ashleygatewood]

@@dorei9235 Hang in there Do Rei, we're going to get through this~

[@Jamy528]

Don't make the finish line the goal. Enjoy the journey. 💜

[@kevinkelly2162]

A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush.

[@anonbattler]

He's basically saying you should be a warrior and follow the way of the warrior, with "warrior" meaning someone who faces up to the challenges and battles of life as well as seeks those out in their absence, especially where you are needed.

[@jaughnekow]

to be of value to the people around me and myself...to try and live a good life

[@cabayern9416]

I can answer this question... But I relocated to a small village in Germany 15 years ago.... Did so much good for my overall health.

[@KEW-pd1jn]

I want… to begin to want again.

[@hokuponopono4415]

My deepest want is my cruel mean old abusive dad to stop breathing. I caretake him and hes killing me. He needs to be dead so I can live. Trust I've tried all alternatives. Leaving him to fend for hisself is my only option. And deep down I don't see me doing that with out a lifelong guilt. So I am stuck in full on hate.

[@floydmacallan3970]

😢

[@hokuponopono4415]

@@floydmacallan3970 thank you Floyd. I'm endlessly sad.

[@Dialogos1989]

This exactly. I feel as though my “wanting” circuits are completely broken. Nothing really satisfies me or gives me meaning. Even when I’m doing everything right, I just can’t really engage with the reality in front of me. The honest answer to “what do I want?” Is… I don’t want. I want to stop… everything.

[@thedoremaq]

- (00:00) People struggle to articulate what they truly want, often filling the void with distractions like addictions, hobbies, or dopamine-driven activities, as society lacks a shared vision of where it is heading. - (01:04) When driven by what you *don’t* want, it leads to negative emotions like anxiety and depression, whereas positive emotions come from pursuing a positive, visionary goal. - (03:06) Asking micro-level questions like, "What kind of job or friendships do you want?" helps people articulate their desires and develop a clearer vision for their lives. - (07:54) Achieving a goal doesn't lead to lasting happiness; positive emotion comes from making progress towards a valued goal, not from the goal’s accomplishment. - (12:00) High-order goals, such as being a person who confronts life's challenges voluntarily, provide a deeper sense of purpose and ongoing fulfillment than specific, concrete goals.

[@Cinderella227]

Thank you Jordan. Luv ya to pieces. God bless. Helping others is the greatest feeling along with loving others more than yourself. ✝️❤️

[@Nah_Bohdi]

To crush your enemies, to see them driven before you, and to hear the lamentations of their women.

[@Huckleberry04]

What I would want. I would want to experience all the natural phenomena of the earth with my family and friends. I want to explore the planet and never feel tired and scared. I would want to feel joy and hope all the time instead of the fleeting glimpses I get occasionally. I would want this for everyone

[@Huckleberry04]

@NEP84 you have no idea what I am saying so that's ok that your opinion is not relevant to me.

[@lisawitts2609]

That is exactly what the Creator intended for us and He has not changed his purpose! We are on a temporary detour but His Kingdom will soon correct the world’s course!

[@bevanPT]

How do you know your want is true to you and not just taught/imposed on you by external sources. This is where knowing your feelings/boundaries/values is important. Unfortunately many are programmed at an early age and may never know their truth. There's also the issue that if your society/culture has unhealthy values , what then? Many teachings suggest that humans ultimate goal is self actualization/realisation, soul embodiment. This is human evolution and Maslow was on to it with his work on Hierarchy of Needs.

[@Saltandstarsxvanessa]

Jordan P’s outfit is one of the best outfits I’ve ever seen a man wear.

[@andiXD1990]

damn jordan is always dressed so sharp. definetly appreciate his sense of detail with the sock/tie combo

[@he_is_gone5203]

Don't you think its weird to decide what you want? "Wanting" lies in domain of feelings and emotions, not in intellectual domain.

[@g06o1]

Do you think you're going to get what you want by accident then ?

[@he_is_gone5203]

@@g06o1 Well, not really by accident. If you want to do it my way - you need to constantly check if you are moving in right direction. In general. And if you feel like you dont - correct yourself. Somewhere along this general direction i hope to find what i want.

[@Nataliaange01]

Maybe it's supposed to be more like saying "what do you want your life to look like" or "what direction do you want your life to go."

[@kamilkollodi2060]

for excess evil in form of global/occultists to vanish right now or become good (in true objective meaning of the word)

[@coleyod]

The only goal worth pursuing is finding God. After that everything else will fall into place. You have God, you have everything.

[@vghulehoct5256]

"How are you going to feel 5 days after you got this car that you had to have?" Uhhh, a lot fucking better then when i didnt have a car.

[@Bigdrdog]

Identify mode not a concrete end point. Thanks JBP!

[@keithjohnsonYT]

“What do you want?” (Matter desires…) “Every woman I want, only wants herself…There’s gotta be a better world somewhere” - BB King 🐖🐍🐓

[@daedric1387]

Contentment is idleness, desire inspires action, nurture all desires.

[@Nonplused]

This is good stuff. I find it interesting how so many of our current social phenomena come back to "the death of God" (lack of a higher order structure, or idealized objectives). It is in many ways unfolding exactly as Nietzsche envisioned, although I think Nietzsche's proposed solution of substituting the worship of the self for the worship of God (i.e. the collective subconscious) was whacked. Jung had a better solution, but because Jung spoke of frameworks like architypes and other structures that mostly exist in the mind as interpretive tools, he's fallen out of favor in the popular pseudoscience of postmodernism that currently dominates our society.

[@Astrongaverage]

I feel like the whole knock and get what you want or whatever translation was more about if you go looking for something you're gonna find it... usually negative. So its about keeping an open heart to an "infinite possibility, mindset of God like magic" take it how you feel. I could be way off cuz i like to party

[@autoskineti]

"If you don't know what you want, then you're driven by negative emotion." JBP But even if a person knows what he/she wants, and then they're driven by the positive emotion, isn't there some sort of extrinsic reward required to induce that positive emotion? Have I got it right?

[@chrisrubio8212]

When did we have a shared vision that wasn’t war?

[@tylernewcomb2052]

What humans really want (at least at their most core level even if they don't realize it) is not just real specific items or even scenarios necessarily. What we really want is to fully belong to a loving God and be fully intertwined into a a loving people who shine the radiance of that God. We want community and to be fulfilled by the One Who actually Created us. He made it to where our deepest longing and need is actually Him. But He also designed us for community and to belong so deeply to it, to a people who love each other with the same astonishing love they have from God meaning they would lay their lives down for one another. The specifics can vary from there but would flow from that ultimate foundation.

[@flawed1]

“ We’ve got to circle the wagon on a shared division moving forward”….. Isn’t that just more finger pointing? Isn’t that saying I need other people to get on board with a shared vision so I can be happy and have purpose?

[@antihero1484]

I don't believe in a God, or a afterlife, but I agree with Christian values.

[@dontrushtohate]

Me too, I don’t believe in apple trees but I like apples.

[@paraSocialParadox]

I don’t understand how anyone couldn’t

[@heatherwoods5703]

Those principles came from somewhere and not the figment of the imagination of sinful men. Keep seeking. Eternity is a long time to be wrong 😬

[@nicholassorg1134]

I want someone to care about me, actually me and not what I can do for them.

[@schroederscurrentevents3844]

I don’t believe joy comes from outward success. I believe it comes from within. We must make a choice to be joyful, in highs and lows, in happy times and sad.

[@fernandosouzasoares734]

Thank you🙏

[@MusicMenaceInHD-nt9od]

I would recommend “Let Your Life Speak” by Parker J. Palmer as a constructive counterpoint to this dialogue.

[@Factfullness2000]

What do I want ? is a bad question. It creates depression because I can’t have what I want . What do I want within the confines of my reality ? it is more realistic and actionable question .

[@davidfarrall]

So, you have to subconsciously identify what you really want and strive hard to get/achieve it. Perhaps multiple things, but don’t overload yourself. Thanks, guys.

[@elektrotehnik94]

Yes, but no. Identify what kind of a person you want to be, and then try to be that kind of a person. You can have "what you want" goals, but make sure "who you want to be" is more important than "what you want". ❤

[@hk_200k]

I can answer in no time. I want to learn Python, and some its libraries for data analysis and machine learning, so that I can provide insight, prediction, and facilitate decision making for the company. If I could have one more wish I want to learn SQL database. I'm taking a one small step every day, and I will achieve my goal very very soon.

[@davidfarrall]

We’re all in the same boat in a way. With different ambitions and desires. It’s not so much greed with me because I’ve largely got what I want already. Except for the woman, which is a minefield for me. I’m a workaholic and “my sacrifice” has chosen me. If I add women to the mix, it’s too complicated. Yes, I should back off on the work front now, but women are still a high maintenance minefield if you have competence and good abilities. So it’s a different Dragron now, actually crouching tigresses………. And you are the “hidden dragon” in plain sight!

[@paraSocialParadox]

I just want the freedom to be responsibly creative and perhaps put chaotic things into order when the opportunity arises

[@SchaelTeer]

Thx, that actually helped! Had the same issue like Dr. Delony... now I know how to deal with it...

[@TheHouseOffice]

4:09 why we dont trust ourselves to know what we want

[@snappppedginger2014]

Peace, privacy & adventure... thats all I want. However, my husband becomes a coward when it comes to his narcissistic mother.

[@chichoquesada]

It’s really hard to live a good life without knowing who you are? Where are you going? Why? And how to get there!… that’s a lifeless life.

[@eagleusa]

It’s a tough one, thank you JP!!

[@benstanway3238]

It's just sad that we can't seem to find people who don't wear the black ring to discuss moral and life lessons.

[@daltonclifford5106]

I want to research and experiment with buildings that improve mental health, collaboration and social interaction, and minimize the use of energy sources for heating, cooling, etc or utilizes local natural sources for energy production. Regenerative architecture, both physically and metaphysically Then I’d like to build a model of a future society based on these findings. Perhaps small village of sorts, with central building likened to a community center that’s purpose is to facilitate collaborative between residents, encourage debate and evolution of the understanding of the world, and revolutionize education back towards 3-4 hours in the classroom each day and the other 3-4 experience various real life scenarios helping their village, applying what they learned in the classroom in order to do so The next day in “class” the first period or last period would be like that of philosophy or sociology class. “What did you learn yesterday? Are there any areas that are still confusing? What questions do you have? What have you learned about yourself in the process? Did anything you experience feel more in line with your natural strengths and desires than others?

[@AnthonyBrogie-gg6ig]

I just want to learn more and I am asking, not for me for my family,I have a good job and career but I lack the knowledge that I see necessary to succeed in their upbringing, my career provides, but it can't provide and provide me the knowledge that I know I need

[@coletonxd]

13:18 JP’s Vision

[@FiddeDutten]

So someone answers the question of what they want and the answer is not good enough for you. So what do you want to hear, that would be a better question then.

[@shawna1117]

A dream fulfilled is the tree 🌳 of life. 🎊 🎉 Hope and the per suit of happiness is a great adventure and achievement 🔑🖼️🔬🧱💎🔧🧰💰🕯️💡🧭⏱️🚜🚗🛩️🚁🛶🛳️🥇🏆

[@heatherguess518]

I only know what I want because I've studied myself for years.

[@jaceknowaczyk1179]

It's all logical, but what if our goal is out of our reach? Is it always good? Like there is 5% chances to get it and 95% to waste life.

[@rileywiess7895]

I want to become a nobody, Like doctor who. I want to be immortal, Voluntarily celibate, I want this to save the world, I want to unite the world, To watch everyone I love be happy and grow old knowing that death, though it's the one thing I want, is the one thing I don't get. I want to dedicate that life to shepherding the human race into a better future for everyone without people fighting and killing and murdering people. I want to prevent nuclear war so we as a species don't die on a rapidly dying planet. I want to cure diseases that the world is struggling to figure out. I want to use Artifical intelligence as a tool to sequence my dna to cure my diseases so my brain stops melting. I want to save my family and that family is the world, and every single person on it. And I understand that sometimes, that means saving the world from itself. The 7 virtues and the 7 sins that reside within the heart of human kind. I want to understand the biological motivators for revenge. I want to show people who have no hope or are possed by revenge or ideologies that there is a better way. To save the world from it's self, Even if that means dying while trying. Standing up to the bully to save the species.

[@sebastiaanstok]

So, you wanna be a God? I don't wanna be an angel I wanna be god Mine the key to hell and heaven I wanna be god He said - I wanna be god

[@rileywiess7895]

@@sebastiaanstok Not god. Definitely not god. A scared, traumatized and ridiculously sad young man just trying to make the world a better place without getting assassinated or dieing in a freak accident or some drug overdose. God, in my opinion, always thought he was better than everyone. To appoint himself as divine judge. As people say "be teachable". It's very self absorbed to think of ones self as a god but l really quite like the quote that Nietzsche once said, "all the heavens and all the hells reside within me.". I don't think I'm better than everyone. I just have this thing where if I see a problem, I want to fix it. Help it, understand it. Get engrossed and obsessed with it. Wrestle with it. If I was immortal, it would give a human like the the time needed to fix all my mistakes and fix others mistakes and potentially even heal the world. But if I was immortal, and the news that immortality was indeed a real thing, Then evenvody would be trying to become immortal to preserve their life and feed their selfish self interests, The seven holy virtues are as much a threat because of "thinking like Tesla, the current or channel of narcissism or rather, ego would become so inflated." That the horrors they would bring about would be potentially even more horrendous than the threats or the 7 deadly sins.

[@rileywiess7895]

@@sebastiaanstok forgive the typos, My brain is literally melting as we speak. I'd get help but I've read of mice and men.

[@rileywiess7895]

@@sebastiaanstok "the road to hell is paved with good intentions." I understand this very deeply. In such a way that I struggle to put into words. I really need a guardian angel right now. And I just dont trust anybody. Abraxas. "Why'd the chicken cross the road? To get to the other side." Not with the knowledge I posses. Not with my life. I'm a loose end that needs cleaning up and I'm scared that if I leave my house, I will most certainly die. But I'm also scared that if I don't, They're going to blow up my house and kill my dogs. I want to save humanity, Not feed off of it for my own selfish self interests and gain. Carrying the weight of the world on my shoulders is very psychophysiologically intensive and I'm so damn tired. So damn tired. But as Peterson one said, Pick up a load, Carry the weight. So I decided to carry the weight of the world, Like Atlas. God of compasses and maps. I hope people will stop fighting but I doubt that. I think "god" or someone who likes to think of themselves as "god" made a judgment call. And they were wrong. Like a child with an ant farm and a magnifying glass. They wanted to milk me like a golden calf, or some golden goose. A false idol for financial gain. A sacrificial lamb. For insurance, they put a virus in my brain. And set somone I cared about very deeply up, then made her go away. I can feel my body slowly dying. I want to die so bad, But I know I can do a lot more for humanity if I lived and had access to better resources, books, medicine, materials and knowledge. So here's a really, Really bad idea and a horrible gamble. I know you should NEVER talk to strangers online and you should NEVER give out your personal information. Ever. If you're reading this, Never do this. Ever. But I'm desperate, So damn desperate. And scared for the first time in a long time. My name is Riley Weiss-Williams. I am 23 years old. I live at 9419 west adler street, Milwauke, Wisconsin. I dont want to be assassinated or killed in a freak accident. I don't do drugs, I've stoped smoking weed, I don't drive. I don't do risky behaviors usually that will result in my death and I'm trying to save the literal world. I don't know where is safe but I need to be taken somewhere safe. Somewhere secret. But not to become like little grace. I have thought deeply about becoming a freemason but not even I trust them with the secrets I understand about jungian and freudian psychoanalysis and how they tie into physics and the secrets of the universe. But they might be my only hope at surviving this ordeal. I love you, mom. I love you, dad. I love you, sister. I love you, brother. Forgive me. I hope The Grand architect of the universe is watching and keeping an eye out for me. Please protect my family, Please protect this house. Please protect my dogs. I want to save the world but if you feel you need to kill me, I understand. Just let them be.

[@rileywiess7895]

@@sebastiaanstok A way I heard it put was by Tencious D. "..We be not Angels. We are men." Pick of destiny. Mk ultra pro. I'm gonna try and save the world. Dyslexia and genetic psychopathy might be the demon turned angel that you, That the world, needs. The capacity to think in the light and shadows of 7 virtues and 7 sins. That equals 28. A beautiful number. Even if you want to string me up by my boots and beat me to death with a baseball bat till my piss turns red, good sir, You know I'm right. And I hate being right. And my destiny is to wake up certain people in the world up, to save them, To trust them with certain divine knowledge. I can't quite do this yet with how sick I am but people want me dead and I'm going to walk to where I need to if it's the last thing I do. I hope uncle Sam Is keeping an eye on me so I dont get horribly assassinated. My car is dead in the water. And I'm losing time. I can feel cellular death and my literal iq drop. I know, I know. I hate the Beatles too. Come Together - The Beatles.

[@Dethian666]

Everytime Ive started to grow and have something good going for me it's been infiltrated and destroyed by unnecessary parasites that has personal information

[@johndoe-is2fw]

You want to be the potential not the sum.

[@rafaelgonzalez4175]

I want to live on/in a world of intelligent people.

[@rafaelgonzalez4175]

Is that basic enough of a direct answer. The best thing about the internet is you actually get to ask that many more people in a single second than in person.

[@gentile-for-Jesus_Messiah]

I am truly confused about all the negative comments that are directed towards Dr. Peterson on here,, and by the same people... Common sense would tell me,,, that if I don't like what I hear or see,, then maybe it's time for me to stop watching and listening to Dr. Peterson,, and move on... If you believe that your sole purpose is to affect the algorithm on KZbin,, then I can only think that you are all being deceived by your own hatred.... All youtubers score points on comments,, regardless of the negativity... Can I hear a big "Ooops", as your comments keep coming?...

[@gutsandgrittv5076]

Bots

[@theodoreniekras9622]

There’s some controversy especially around the male space and its relation to the current feminist polarity. Also he’s said some things that I think are pretty spurious in nature. But I also think he makes very salient points. He’s an excellent speaker, although I’ve analyzed some of his debates in a media criticism class I taught and he tends to fall into patterns he criticizes quite often.

[@remingtonsalvatore9204]

I'll get a lot of flack for this, but because of Delony's talkshow, it's hard to trust or take anything seriously from him. Used to watch his show daily and it honestly saddens me

[@aagemini707]

"What do I want" IDK☺

[@Virtual-realityISold]

The paperwork to add up. Because if mine isn't correct I will be seen as an idiot

[@oldschoolwaverider]

I have known since I was 12 (28 years ago) what I want. Doesn’t mean I have those things yet.😂

[@ariansimonmusic]

And what was that?

[@foxflower9560]

Anyone else replaying The Notebook in their head as they listen to this?

[@bradleybohus4097]

Jordan you never cease to say so little with so many word. Truly impressive

[@MegaMetinMetin]

All this seems like so much effort

[@Alienrun]

life is more simple than we make it out to be but its not easy...we want it to be easy for obvious reasons but it never is unfortunately...

[@metalneandertal26]

Dustin Poirier asking the right questions.

[@gentile-for-Jesus_Messiah]

"Ask, and you shall receive" I was told, is a 'man made statement' that you will not find anywhere in the Bible?... Can anyone correct me on this, if they can find it somewhere in the the Holy Bible"??... Or is this statement simply a 'sound good' statement that may have been created from the adversary, to trip us up???...

[@gentile-for-Jesus_Messiah]

I would Love to possess the Gift of Miracles,,, and fill my day up performing Miracles on those afflicted with the darkness on this earth,, and to provide Hope to those who lack Faith in their day to day,,, including myself...

[@lailaalkassabi3933]

There’s a verse in the Qura’an in chapter 40 verse 60 translated to “And your Lord says: Call upon Me, I will answer you”, but the Arabic meaning also means “ask me and I will give you” or “invite me into your life and I will respond” ,,, Arabic is more rich so it entails lots of meanings from the same word ,,, hope that helps

[@paulsaulpaul]

Ask and you will receive if what you ask for is truly righteous and of benefit to everyone, regardless of any self-deception. All sin is a lie and all lies start within the self. Temptation, for example, is giving into the self-deception that you need the dopamine dump from it without sacrificing anything for it. When people pray for things that they do not get, I wonder if they are honest to themselves about how truly self-serving their prayer is and how what they are asking for effects every single individual and atom in the universe, let alone every person's life. To be self-centered in this regard is why people fail to see that their prayer requests are unreasonable. I have many prayers answered daily often of insignificant things, because at this stage in my spiritual development I can more easily comprehend the impact, and they are reasonable for God to answer them. LIke this container I have in front of me was perfect for a task the other day. I need it to be as small as possible to hold something I was going to soak to use as little liquid as possible. Totally insignificant. Plenty of other containers, and this is isopropyl alcohol. Not exactly liquid gold. I find it and it looks too small by like maybe a few millimeters. It was the first random thing I found. I said to God it would be pretty cool to testify that you bent time and space to make this container work for this task! That was the prayer. Seconds later, I walked to the other room and the object fit perfectly like to less than a millimeter tollerance. Prayer was answered, and this is the first time I testify about it. Everything I wanted, because it was righteous and had the side effect of benefiting me in my task. Consider, like the concept in the "butterfly effect" movie series, how many things on the level of intercontencdenss through time and space did he get all the things to correlate, designers, factories, supply chains, stuff that occurred decades ago. I don't even know when or how I got this plastic square junk container. Someone no longer in my life bought it. And why did they choose this one then? But he did all this, in what we comphened as "the past", just to answer my prayer that I would have something to testify to. But this happens literally daily for things big and small. I thank him, and I spend my entire day with him and we talk all day. I have hyper-salience tendencies (which makes it difficult for me to communicate with others) and I'm able to work alone and at home and independently without a boss, so I have this luxury of mind and situation to make this easier. But it is possible for everyone. Thank you for reading.

[@gentile-for-Jesus_Messiah]

@@lailaalkassabi3933 Thank you so much for your kind reply... I do believe that Jesus simply ask us to pray in His name,,, but I don't remember anything in the Holy Bible suggesting that God will provide for us by simply asking for it... Otherwise us sinful and selfish humans would never stop with our wants... And I heard it said best, one time,, 'God only gives us what we need,,, and not what we want'.... Also not in the Bible...

[@gentile-for-Jesus_Messiah]

@@paulsaulpaul ,,,wow, what a mouthful... Unfortunately has nothing to do with the question I asked... Let me know if you can find anywhere in the Bible where God implies ,,, "Ask, and you shall receive"?... Let me know when you find it?...

[@lawrencevandenberg7725]

The three, maybe four was it? times I was on the cusp of the threshold of accomplishment, the WORLD DID END--as we all knew it. International substrates shifted, and the gig was up. The economy contracted, the breeze died, the moon phased out. Was it the 3rd, or the 4th time, the dawn of the next day let me see--I'd been, very expensively, rescued. The higher order is, in some real, genuine, Divine purposeful sense, looking for a bag of cheetos companion. Whooda thunk?

[@pitfighter871]

I want to go back in time to 2003 and save my friend and live life from there so I can enjoy everyone like I should have. That's what I WANT Sure I'll take what you got. But it's not what I want because that is what I WANT I want life to end like in Titanic (1997) Where you get to be alive with the people you suffered with in the way you KNOW it should of went.. Basically I want to live again and appreciate what I was toi immature to see. And marry the girl who loved me.

[@pirds102010]

Yeah you need a non specific north star

[@joolz5747]

This is where you blew it a little bit Jordan. There should be more Jesus in this one. All of what you’re saying is biblical. And the most important thing that we should one is the one that God wants and that is to have union with him. So you can’t have union with him without getting to know him and reaching out for him and hearing him and praying etc. So this is a very secular segment and I don’t like it sorry

[@adaptercrash]

Parking Lotz always empty at the church

[@adaptercrash]

Parking Lotz always empty at the church

[@tanjaovsenik81]

I don't know what you want.

[@EmilMToft]

When you, Jordan, at the beginning state that the reason people don't know what they want is because the absence of God, I find that really sad! - how little autonomy do you possess if you need God to know what you want. That's putting all your shortcomings in the hand on everyone else which is a shame.

[@James_36]

it seems people need something to believe in, if its not God then they fill it with "social justice" instead

[@faphayakkoub5456]

Vision is negative emotion,think about it more

[@attilacooper5837]

I hate to say it but the death of God has nothing to do with our purpose, at least in my case. I can't bring myself to believe in God anymore, although I was brought up in a baptist family, and I have to say, since then I've been much happier. No more feeling guilty for no reason, no more shame. With no God I feel more at peace. I was also freed to think more clearly and not bound by dogma, doctrine and all that religion comes with. I also found a more meaningful purpose in life.

[@attilacooper5837]

​@@Huckleberry04 If that makes you happy then by all means practice it. I just don't buy into the idea that we are all Gods children. Because if we were, then God is a sadistic 'parent'. Cancer in children, famine, plagues, war, rape, murder etc. These are all things that our so called 'father' just keeps on giving it to us. Take covid for example, it wasn't God that saved us, scientists did. God didn't give us a cure, we created it. We created fertilizers to help end famine, God didn't. Second, if you are a parent, would you allow your 'own children' to slaughter each other? When Cain killed Abel, God was still very much roaming the earth. This omnipresent and omniscient god did nothing to stop 'his children' from killing each other. Would you also not communicate with 'your children' other than just through a book that btw was also put together by humans? Could you imagine having children, abandoning them on a different planet and then then trying to raise them through letters that you don't even send to them directly but through other people? and at the end if they don't follow your rules then condemn them to eternal torture. Would you still call this god a 'loving father'?

[@attilacooper5837]

@@Huckleberry04 and to answer your questions: I am my parents child. I popped into existence because my parents chose to. I wish there was more, but there is no evidence there is more after death, which makes life more precious. That I means I have to live life to the fullest because there isn't another. I choose to make my life satisfying. I work harder to achieve more. I explore more, I'm curious about the world around me, I absorb as much as I can. If we fool ourselves that there is a better life somewhere else then we have no incentive to live life here.

[@Alienrun]

@@attilacooper5837 but where is here... You see how complicated perception is? Made up purpose will not satisfy you completely forever. Did it ever occur to you that you felt more "free" because you subconciously told yourself that religion was restricting you? religion frees us to love while still being rooted in truth...that is why its meaningful and nessesary if you think about it hard enough

[@attilacooper5837]

@@Alienrun I can't say I ever told myself that religion was restricting me. I grew up in it. That is all I knew to be true. During my teenage years I used to pray 3 times before going to bed. And you know what? After I spent all my youth devoting myself to god, I never felt that "presence" that everyone is thinking about. Never heard a voice, a whisper, never seen anything godly. But which religion is the truth? Look at the christian bible. The bible we know, didn't exist until some churches in the 5th century made it in the format we know. Even after that it was still modified.