What Happens When a Father is Absent?

[@Charlie2timez]

Good video! I do believe the mother and father 'she kept you away from me' dynamic could be explained in a different way. I noticed you said she did not tell you who your father was and that's wrong, period. However, you also stated he was waiting on a call from you and he told you the "truth" about things. If he knew he had a son and never attempted to reach out, he is 100% wrong. The fact that you needed to reach out to establish a connection in adulthood is unacceptable. More often than not, fathers who are absent rely on the "she kept you away" argument because it relieves them of guilt and we tend to believe that a woman is emotional and vindictive, etc. We need to hold ourselves accountable. Although alienation does happen, it's wildly over exaggerated. There are men who will do whatever it takes to be in their child's life and there are men who will take the path of least resistance, and be absent because it's "too hard" or too much "drama". We have to hold men in our lives, including ourselves to higher standard.

[@matthewbrenda2719]

Thank you @Charlie2timez So that part I really didn’t go into too many details but my father did search and reach out to find me but all his attempts were unsuccessful. The fact we were in the welfare system prevented him from locating me. He paid child support but they would not divulge info on my whereabouts And she purposefully lied to me as a kid, that he left me. I didn’t even know what he looked like. He also attempted through family members but no one gave him information per my mom. So yeah that’s a whole different video lol oh btw they were married and she left him for an old boyfriend. So it was complete drama.

[@Charlie2timez]

@@matthewbrenda2719 Oh wow, okay this is definitely an exception lol