WHAT I LEARNED | Britney Spears' Book | Real Psychologist Reacts to reading 'THE WOMAN IN ME'

[@Goshen45.10]

You should analyze how Britney was asked awful ridiculous questions during interviews. From a grown man asking a child Britney if he could be her boyfriend, to one talking about her breast, another badgering on about how she hurt justin. Wild stuff. She's endured a lot.

[@alishac5096]

Imagine the shit men have said to her outside of the spotlight. 🤢 She probably thought they were being nice or just played along with the humor of the time, because she was a child. It’s so gross to think of how much her parents exposed her to for money. 💔

[@felixthecat2786]

You know people talk about pretty privilege all the time, but is it really a privilege to have men leer at you, ask you questions about your breasts, and only give you things because they want to sleep with you?

[@court529]

The entire time I was reading this book I wanted to find Britney and apologize profusely for the negative thoughts I'd had about her in the past and for the way she was treated by the media and the public.

[@kellietaylor9913]

Yes i had no idea

[@amandaally7623]

Her story reminds me very much of what Princess Diana’s story would have been had she lived. I really thought she was going to die in a similar way being chased when it was all going down.

[@ryanwardcomedy]

I was always on the right side of history...it was tough for us fans when this was happening to her

[@Michele.Alejandraa]

Yeah, i def sent her a DM bc I hated pop during that time but now I am watching her perform and shocked all she went through 😢

[@ToddMichaelSchultz]

me too. that was definitely on my mind.

[@brendamcentire5723]

Trauma therapst here. Also unable tk diagnose from afar, but sometimes Bipolar Disorder can be misdiagnosed for people sudfering ferom PTSD, or CPTSD. Those reexperiencing flooded feelings can become very powerful, and can overwhelm a nervous system when the sense of safety is intensely compromised. One can imagine how a conservatorship, intense media scrutiny, and loss of children would compromise that safety. I wish her continued healing, and hope she understands that we all, including her, are an ongoing work in progress. Peace to her always.

[@AmandaJohn-k5m]

@ElizabethSanto22BPD stands for borderline personality disorder, not bi polar. Not trying to be rude, just wanted people to know the difference.😘❤️‍🩹

[@losrajvosa0078]

That was amazing.

[@Palomitapalomita]

THIS. For years I was treated for depression, anxiety and diagnosed bipolar 2. Nothing helped. Years later, I learned about CPTSD on KZbin on my own. it was all literally just that. I’ve healed myself just through nervous system regulation: Managing stress, identifying triggers, sleeping and eating well, etc. It’s so frustrating that I went to therapy for years and recounted my incredibly traumatic childhood to all my therapists and none of them caught it. They all just put me on various meds that of course never helped.

[@AmandaJohn-k5m]

@@Palomitapalomita I’ve also been diagnosed with Bi Polar and a lot of what he said regarding drug abuse and manic episodes I can relate to but I know for a fact that I have CPTSD too so I wonder if that could change my diagnoses. Extremely personal question so you don’t have to answer if you wish not to but do you take any medication for your mental health?

[@Palomitapalomita]

@@AmandaJohn-k5m I personally do not use medication. In the past, I was prescribed about 4-5 antidepressants over the years. None worked for me, because what I needed was emotional healing from deep wounds from a traumatic childhood. That said, some people with other issues may benefit from medication. That isn’t my lane though. I highly recommend a book called “CPTSD from surviving to thriving.” I found so many answers there. It covers the causes of cptsd, the symptoms, reviews attachment wounds and trauma responses. It also covers substance abuse (self medication) and strategies to cope with extreme emotions and behaviors. Easy to read, understand and implement change.

[@kelammo]

She was treated horribly.. and used. Then forced into whatever people wanted. I can’t imagine. But she made it through. Through all of those people. Good for her.

[@CCAnne]

She doesn’t seem to be doing well I truly hope she can find peace and happiness and heal

[@stephentaylor5337]

She isn't through with it all...her management..its all connected..

[@LilLingLing6789]

Yet play with her fans minds with cryptic messages and other nonsense like that.. She's had the best life

[@josephensworth7044]

Man, The Woman In Me is a TERRIFIC book! But damn.. The emotional roller coaster ride that I went through while reading it is through the roof! I was laughing, then angry, then crying, then angry again, ughhhh Lord help me.. That part where her father made himself an office in HER house, then sat her down and said "I call the shots now" "I'm Britney Spears now" 😡😡😡 My fists were clenching and my blood was boiling. I literally had to stop reading for a bit.. How is that monster not in jail??!!

[@lizlanman47]

He is definitely a horrible man

[@KevinGonzales-ko8qx]

You have issues!

[@josephensworth7044]

@@KevinGonzales-ko8qx Maybe you do.

[@melaniesheldon8013]

Personally, regardless of diagnosis, her behavior was logical. Considering her life. 💔 ❤

[@WarriorGalVibe]

😵‍💫🤡

[@natashab3412]

Her behavior is indicative. Why does eveyone give her so many passes. Her behavior is obnoxious and entitled. The blame is always on others.

[@dadcelo]

Obnoxious to YOU @@natashab3412

[@Nina-ur3ld]

Has she only bipolar disorder?

[@chrisevans9688]

​@@natashab3412 Chris Evans good morning so girl friend and night and now we can do it tomorrow night on Saturday night and now we can do it in now this week and did it all and time we go back next is good news

[@TheKrystalFlake]

I was diagnosed with cPTSD 12 years ago. I have since had much therapy that helped me tremendously. When my first trauma therapist told me about the benefits of cutting off toxic family members, it made sense to me, logically, but it really shook me to the core. I desperately wanted to be loved and accepted by my family, especially my parents and older sister. I did not see the victim-blaming, victim-shaming, or, in other words, scapegoating they were putting me through for all the abuse I suffered, often at their hands as a child and as an adult. Once I distanced myself from them, even my husband noticed that I calmed considerably. Then, a second trauma therapist echoed the first therapist's advice to make sure I cut myself off from toxic family members. For some reason, when this second therapist told me to stay away from my toxic family members, even though I already was severely limiting my exposure to them, I started to cry from the realization and the beginning of true acceptance that I will never be loved or accepted by my parents and the sister I hero-worshipped as a child. I finally grieved those relationships. I've also been able to let go of so much of the sense of guilt for making the choice against my family's wishes to cut myself off from a system that doesn't support me and that is detrimental to my well-being. I'm glad Britney made the same choice. I know how hard it is to make that leap to freedom. It could not have been easy for her. However, now, she is free to make her own choices, which will include many mistakes as she finds her bearings. I will not hold that against her. It's part of the process, and I'm so happy for her!

[@angelsunlight]

I’m proud of you❤ I’m in the same boat as you

[@cremecremeleao2522]

Is your family a narcisistic one? It's hard, but zero contatct is always the best way to save yourself.❤

[@TheKrystalFlake]

@@cremecremeleao2522 If they aren't narcissists, they're at least borderline.

[@Michele.Alejandraa]

I was super messed up for several days after reading that book. What is upsetting is how the media did focus on her abortion when it was only a chapter. The book really is on how everyone used her and then dipped out. Ugh. 😢

[@luci-ferre]

Me too! I was so emotional for a few days.

[@Beginnerreadsthebible]

I remember sending Brittany a letter of encouragement after she shaved her head publicly ❤❤❤ so glad she is getting to tell her story now

[@RadicalAngel]

You're sweet ❤

[@cindyfoster1351]

Her dad was evil, the biggest abuser and negative father ever. He was supposed to protect her, be her support, guide her, and encourage a healthy and positive life. He 100% failed her and took 100% advantage of her.

[@thompsoncindy42]

Such a difficult situation for Britney and you have thoughtfully and respectfully presented that information. It's a LOT. Thank you.

[@tscrouseable]

I’m a program manager for a harm reduction clinic in a health department, but previously I was a crisis counselor and worked a few years towards my licensure to be an LPC. My husband is an LPC. I’m saying this to say, thank you. As a fellow clinical person, I appreciate and agree with your assessment here. This book was amazing/heartbreaking/ but also very eye opening. I thought the same thing you did throughout this. Connecting these dots are so much easier after hearing her story. I hate what the media has done to her. It is somewhat hard to attempt a diagnosis overall because I feel deeply that fame throws such a unique factor in the mix. But she clearly had struggled majorly with confidence, building secure relationships, etc. I said the same from the beginning, this conservatorship was a literal joke and such a massive misuse of what these are intended to be. Also, her family can go to hell.

[@marshafsellers1784]

Oh my goodness!!! Finally someone else that thinks there was no reason for the conservatorship. I just kept wondering why Brittany was the only person that had to be under one. Of course, it was all about controlling her money....right into their pockets. I've always felt so sad for her. The conservatorship only fueled the fact that everything she did or said was scrutinized beyond necessity and made her look worse. It truly makes me sad. I pray she will find true happiness.

[@MearnieToon]

😵‍💫🙄

[@Angelface11]

I'm not sure what you mean there's a whole community that doesn't think that most people that are normal don't think that. Haven't you ever heard of free Britney? Have you ever heard of that surprise witness or BJ investigates or all the things that people have done to try and get her released? Plenty of people don't think it's a normal she was human trafficked

[@kirielbranson4843]

@@Angelface11totally agree. And I am not a big fan. When I heard about it, it was quite late. I've read biographies about other people who acted way crazier than what I heard in newspapers and news one put them in conservatorship. Just read the biography of any rockstar.

[@MearnieToon]

They were on drugs not mentally ill. Brittany spears is crazy insane @@kirielbranson4843

[@josephensworth7044]

"Finally someone else thinks there was no reason for the conservatorship" -- You do realize that the Free Britney movement was created because pretty much the whole world realizes there's no reason for the conservatorship, right? The only ones that want her under a c-ship are her abusers for obvious reasons. So outside of team con, people with a good functioning brain would know and realize that she never qualified for it to begin with. So no, it's not shocking at all that you encountered someone else who thinks there's no reason for it.

[@melaniesheldon8013]

I have bipolar. I raised two kids and fostered one for a little over two years. Brittany deserved better and her parents owe her

[@lorcashine]

Exactly. She's so honest, which is so rare in the entertainment industry. She's very likable. I sure hope she can find real support and peace, but the situation scares me. Even her making up with her mom recently scares me.

[@mommalove5769]

Love your channel and this review especially. Britney says that she stayed in the conservatorship without rocking the boat while she had a solid shared custody agreement with her children. Now that they are grown, she is able to break out. She is incredibly solid in her thinking for having been so wanting of love and guidance for much of her life. I think she is awesome and she can dance with swords or knives or naked if she chooses and I think that is exactly why she does, because she can. Go Britney!

[@dadcelo]

Thank you for this comment

[@jayjaystevens6180]

I never cry in front of people, especially @work(I work @amazon 12 hrs/day on my feet packing orders= a lot of “alone”time surrounded by people!) where I don’t know the people and they don’t know me! I listened to this book on audible at work the week it came out. I found myself standing at my station packing orders while crying my eyes out for a person I don’t know. I couldn’t begin to tell you which parts-ALLLLLL OF IT! A person going through what her FAMILY put her through seems like a suspense movie script in real life. I had NO idea how amazing and strong Britney has been forced to become is admirable and heartbreaking at the same time. -I am so incredibly sorry Britney, no one should be forced to deal with the level of emotional abuse you’ve been put through. I hope you find peace and your creativity again.

[@HeatherAnnDavis]

I really appreciate your assessment of the things Britney shared in her book, and I don’t think you came across as judgmental or mean spirited. That book broke my heart. I could not have survived all those years, and I think she’s a very strong person. I’m glad to hear you say that even if she were struggling with addiction or mental illness, none of that justified her conservatorship. I couldn’t agree more.

[@johnny5640]

I've always felt so sorry for her, just used by everyone who was supposed to love and care for her

[@savage_optimist]

I absolutely agree that she had some erratic behavior during an amount of distress that NONE of us could imagine experiencing. I had post-partum psychosis after my 4th pregnancy and had to be hospitalized for a few weeks. I was DESPERATE for my children while hospitalized, literally banging my head against the door screaming and sobbing for "my babies, my babies!" I had to be manhandled ny multiple security guards and injected with sedatives! I cannot put into words how significantly this changed my perspective changed on others with mental ilness from that point forward. The absolute shock of going from SANE to INSANE with no warning or 'fault' of my own has given me endless empathy for those who suffer with behaviors that are out of their control, the sudden loss of my own mind showed me just how helpless one can be to brain chemistry. I feel for her and I'm grateful you do too! I wish I could afford to go to an invested, empathetic, thoughtful therapist like you. ☮️❤

[@helixmoore7636]

💝

[@gypsytrails8917]

The book was incredible. My heart hurts for her. She seems like such a sweet soul.

[@deatonusaf]

Im psych graduate student and that was possibly the best most simple explanation of attachment theory ive heard. I know obviously there is more to it, but sometimes the info dump can be so overwhelming its hard to have a linear understanding of these theories. Thanks.

[@peacemakers6316]

interesting, i was never a fan but if she is so honest, i can see myself liking her.

[@gemineye1e1even]

Abandonment and anxious attachment issues are sooooo hard to deal with.

[@denaadams6818]

I so agree. I’m not such a big fan. I’m 72 and I like her hit records but nothing really beyond that. But I do love Hollywood gossip stories. I remember from way back how the paparazzi almost savagely went after her. And I watched in horror how they just tore her up. Then there were her parents who were just not loving parents at all. I wish her nothing but the happiness she so deserves. What a talented beautiful lady who has just never has been treated fairly. She’s very strong bc idk how she got through it all. ❤

[@silkenaria]

I am a Britney fan and keep seeing people saying they aren't a Britney fan, so here is my take. Her music was a big part of my growing up, and could always cheer me out of a blue funk. I think she probably would have had mental health struggles regardless, because who doesn't? I think having a stable, loving homelife could have made a monumental difference, but sadly that wasn't what she was given. I am so here for her living free and finally figuring out who she is , not who others tell her she has to be.

[@silkenaria]

@ElizabethSanto22 my intention was not to hate on others, but to give a balanced perspective, since I was only seeing people saying they weren't fans.

[@kamfan80]

Finally got a copy from the library. Read in one 5 hour sitting yesterday. Easy to read, intriguing to hear her recollections, fun reliving her early years being a year older; and yet hard to read at times. Didn't realise I was in tears while reading --- utterly marvelling at Britney's inner strength & tenacity to survive those conservatorship years. I think I would've happily done away with myself for the sheer lack of dignity and self-determination she was denied for so long. We are all the luckier she never gave up & have always been lucky to have a unique light in the world. 💗🇦🇺💗

[@debrabo100]

I now plan to read this book because of this review. I would like to see your review & thoughts of the book I’m Glad My Mom Died by Jennette McCurdy. The things in life these young superstars have endured speak volumes.

[@PopPsych]

I read Jeanette’s book a while ago. loved it. I thought her discussion of grief was exceptional.

[@debrabo100]

@@PopPsych I just completed her book and her story is incredible. My kids grew up watching & loving her on icarly and we just have no clue what real life is for some people.

[@ArtistCreek]

​@PopPsych An indeph on that book would be so great. Her story is amazing. SHE is amazing and she still stands tall and says what is right is right and what is wrong is wrong and can't be BOUGHT like so many others have been.

[@Rye_Toast]

@ElizabethSanto22 My gosh me too, when I saw the title of her book I froze because my own mother had recently died and I was feeling relief. I will definitely read it one day, I'm still healing.

[@janicepacheco6826]

What an incredible job you did of explaining the book With the psychological spin. I read this book and have urged every person. I know to read this book. Because I think it is such an outstanding peace for anyone who has a toxic family to understand what people will do to manipulate you. she is a strong woman. And I have no doubt that she's building a network of support right now. I hope that she stays away from her family because every single member of them seemed to be toxic. I hope she gets some real counseling and is able to find peace within herself. She doesn't need a man she doesn't need anyone but herself

[@amaracrow0501]

I remember i had a time when i had shaved my head and kind of lost it..I think a lot of women can relate. Rich or poor, her experience was relatable on a human level.

[@sunstarsmoon]

The abortion just broke my heart. In one interview she says “I want to be a young mom”. She wanted that baby and she will probably never get over that. Excellent review.

[@bethcarter5804]

David, LOVE you and your sweet wife’s input! My son is bipolar and it’s so hard on us, as parents, when they won’t get help and won’t acknowledge they are sick. Thank you for taking the time to explain how things really work and doing it without judgement and with such grace. Merry Christmas!!❤️

[@lmorfin3679]

After finishing the book it made me think about the episode that South Park (Britney's New Look Season 12, Episode) They talked about the media harassing Britney & how cruel they all were to her. I truly hope Britney finds her true happiness.

[@RadicalAngel]

She was pimped out when she should have been cared for. God bless Brittany. ❤

[@sithpanda]

Thank you for reading Britney's memoir and speaking about her. I believe that positive public acknowledgement, especially from those who are seen to know what they are talking about, like a real psychologist, are important to bring some balance to the scrutiny on Britney's life and how she lives it. One of the things that I find most concerning are the general media and social media negative commentary about her current life. Whenever something is reported that Britney did x in public, an iG post blows up or she makes a decision that someone decides to make a narrative of, someone starts in with a dialogue that includes her needing a conservatorship, that her fans made a mistake and her family obviously knows better or some other type of abusive language that infantilizes Britney, making it seem that she isn't capable of being in control of her life and finances. One example of this was the 'dances with knives video.' Britney made a video dancing with knives that was an obvious nod to another musician/dancer, Shakira. While no one blinked when Shakira did it, Britney's homage video was seen as mentally ill and dangerous and people were, once again, calling the police to check in and make sure she was safe. I worry that the amount of negativity continuing to be thrown at her will make it difficult for her to believe in her self and her decisions. I especially worry that she will become afraid to make mistakes because of the perfection that people expect from her, as any mistake is cited as proof that she isn't capable. If this topic is interesting to your viewers, I would be interested in hearing more from you about the constant media attention and your feelings of how and why people are so adamant of being judgement and the potential repercussions to that. Thank you.

[@Trumpisasociopath]

Someone recommended I read this book I’m in mental healthcare with children so they found it interesting. I certainly was never a huge Brittany fan. I am too old for that but I found this very hard to read. I feel so bad that this was happening right in front of everybody’s eyes. Even if only part of the story is accurate because it’s told from her perspective, it’s unforgivable,her family owes her more than an apology. They owe her years of her life back.

[@MsTriangle]

it's BRITNEY, respect her name for the love of god

[@jennevermore6937]

So you can only like certain music if you’re a certain age? Grow up.

[@KZ20292]

When at your most vulnerable, a supportive community of family & friends is essential for your wellbeing and mental health. Her family’s chosen response of betrayal and abuse caused great damage. Brittney needed and deserved respect, kindness and compassion. Having access to her children was used as a weapon to gain power and control. How is a mother separated from her young children supposed to act? The natural instinct of a loving mother is to form a maternal bond with her children. That was taken from Brittney and her sons which is tragic. Imagine how different her life as a woman and mother would have been if she received appropriate postpartum medical and mental health treatment. Her family’s actions were horrendous and cruel. To add constant surveillance & monitoring while isolating her from communicating with people who truly cared about her was tortuous. How can you act on your own behalf in that situation? She choose compliance in order to see her children. Brittney was held hostage and blamed for it with the help of all of us who were bystanders. Judging and shaming her with every juicy headline. I am so very sorry this happened to Brittney and her sons. She deserves our respect and admiration for not only surviving, but having the courage to share her story.

[@curiouscitizen4098]

Can you imagine if our families got fixed? That is THE #1 problem in our society. This breakdown then makes these children, as adults become especially vulnerable to the evil of the world. It is amazing that Britney survived. Plus, know that the music industry is predatory by design and I have no doubt that her managers would have been just fine with her going off the deep end and robbing her of everything she had.

[@staceystrukel1917]

I agree with you and people don’t want to talk about it. We will sweep the shame under the rug and carry it in to the next generation. Any family member who tries to address the dynamics and abuse will be punished and scapegoated.

[@GabyPivet]

I was literally diagnosisd with psychosis (later bipolar) and hospitalised a couple of years or maybe just before Britney and we are the same age.. At the time when everyone was making fun of her mental breakdown it had a reverberating affect on people’s mental health around the world. It certainly made me feel really bad and ashamed for myself and everyone who had my condition. Stigma, especially the stigma the media createted about mental illness takes a lifetime to overcome and that is a battle I have still not won at 42. But fortunately enough for me, my family came together to understand my condition. Also given that I live in Australia, my family were really educated by some medical professionals (not all) and by the grace of God I didn't go through what she did. Not that my life has been easy either. But being gaslifhtesd by the world and seeing yourself as a crazy person and having people question your experience all the time, as well as dealing with people’s negative attitudes about mental health and people like me everyday,is fucken hard work! I actually always wished Brithey would share her story, because I knew her story would help so many people and while I haven’t gotten around to reading it yet it already sounds like it will be very inspiring for so many of us. Btw, I just discovered your channel and I really love it. Obviously given my experience with bipolar and psychology and as a former peer support worker, I am very fascinated by people’s stories, so to hear a psychologist’s point of view on people’s books is really great 👍

[@wildchook745]

I'm not a Britney fan but her memoir. is fantastic.

[@wildchook745]

@ElizabethSanto22 Don't get your knickers in a twist. Saying not a fan, meaning not into her music and blah. However, her story is different, I cheer for her when she finally got free.

[@jenniferrobertson1317]

I’m curious to hear your take on Kathy Hilton! People love her for her quirky one liners but others hate her and call her a narcissist. From what I read she had a horrific childhood. Her behavior and interactions with Paris on Paris’s show fascinate me!

[@jenniferrobertson1317]

@ElizabethSanto22 Totally agree. It’s nuanced. I think there is so much going on there I’d love to hear his take.

[@4craycray]

@@jenniferrobertson1317Me too. I see her toxic side and would guess NPD as well. I feel sorry for those who have to deal with her emotionally. Paris and Kyle have been treated badly on film by her. I also thought Lisa Rinna was gaslit terribly by Kathy.

[@santosezso]

Hearing your input on her memoir puts into perspective that she still has a long way to go especially since she's struggled with this attachment to the people who were supposed to protect her and have her best interest in mind but instead took advantage of her vulnerability. She may even feel some sort of identity crisis because the "Britney" portrayed by the media is a far cry from the actual "Britney" herself. I hope in this interim she will be able to focus on healing mentally, emotionally and physically and find solace in creating the life she truly wants.

[@JessicaC.]

I agree. Im a huge Britney fan too. She wrote beautifully andive always been in her corner. Her memoir was amazing! It is the best memoir I have read yet.

[@aleigha9141]

I am just a bit older (in my 50s) so I never really listened to Britney’s music but I do know just how gifted and talented a singer she is. I also know she was thrust in the spotlight at such a young age and so much was expected of her. She wasn’t protected. She was just expected to perform and bring in the money. I haven’t read the memoir, but I am now wanting to after hearing your thoughts and opinions about Britney and why she may have done and said the things she did. I followed when all the stuff was happening and even when she went after the paparazzi I completely understood her! I would’ve went nuts on them too. I couldn’t imagine someone taking my kids from me either! As a person with Bipolar Disorder who grew up in an alcoholic abusive household, I can understand unhealthy attachments, distrust, and doing things to get that “feel good” manic high. It really is a high 😕 I never saw a reason for the conservatorship at all. It only benefited her parents and others around her. I also agree that her emotional self is probably stunted at 19 or 20 years old. She was in survival mode for 14 years. Doing what she HAD to do to get by and be able to be a mother to her boys. Probably afraid any misstep would cost her custody or visitation. I’m so happy for her that she was finally able to break the conservatorship and be free! I pray for her continued healing journey and all the happiness in the world ❤️🙏 I think cutting her family out of her life was necessary to be able to move forward and stay healthy. She deserves nothing but the best. Thank you, David, for breaking this down for us in such a thoughtful way. You can tell you are a big fan of hers. I hope you and Allison and the family have a very happy holiday season ❤️🎁🎄

[@phoebeyuu4525]

I work as a counselor and what you said was what my conclusion also from reading her memoir. She's so transparent and I can see the pattern, and I can also see why people would call her wild. But one thing I'm curious about is that she actually never mentioned she got any talk therapy from mental health professional. It seems like she's just get diagnosed, got some meds, and done. It's probably due to the nature of her illness, but this question keeps wandering in my head. I read Jeannette McCurdy's memoir before this one and in there she talked extensively about her process with mental health professional, the good and the bad, but Britney didn't do that. And I feel sad to read the implication that there are no mental health professional who was able to see and acknowledge her struggles up to this day.

[@kellywhitneytime]

I loved this book! I grew up listening and watching her! I thought the book was so well written thru her perspective. She is and always has been a sweet spirit. I wish her healing and a happy life.

[@loriAMinnesota]

Incredible analysis. I can say from watching you over the year, you are excellent at what you do. I hope you continue to make videos on KZbin.

[@srarisa3362]

I relate to Britney because of abuse from my family. I think she suffers CPTSD and the extrem episodes were a fighting reaction to abuse. Reactive abuse: the inherent instinct to abuse is to react and fight back. This can result in anything from screaming and shouting to hitting, punching, kicking, slamming, and more. Something that abusers can use to manipulate their victims into believing that they are to blame for the situation. And, in this case, the father ended up with all control "for her safety". Lots of love to her.

[@Miss80five]

I really think her experience is more similar to BPD and C-PTSD. With her parents situation, this is the kind of pathway that typically leads to BPD and its symptoms, but it would need to be self-reported since BPD is more trauma-related and BP is more chemically-based in the brain.

[@amandaally7623]

Britney has actually been reconnecting with her family lately. Time will tell if that’s a good thing for her or not I suppose. I love hearing your take on this. Thanks for sharing.

[@TheKrystalFlake]

I vacillated between being cut off from my family and trying to make amends once I made the decision to cut them off for not being a healthy support system. I learned that if the other party doesn't want to change, wants to keep breaking through your boundaries and abusing you, it's just better to abandon the relationship. I can see how she might build a relationship with her sister, and maybe her mom, but not her dad. She is likely going to come to the point where she will be ready to grieve those relationships and move on if she hasn't done this already. I haven't read her book, nor am I an avid follower of hers, so I don't know all the particulars of this case. From the limited knowledge I have of her situation, I feel she may find that trying to build new relationships with those who abused and used you is a mistake, which is a normal one to make in this situation. I feel she'll come to understand where to set up boundaries when it comes to her family as long as she has good therapists to guide her through those treacherous waters.

[@jbear3478]

I know it’s parasocial, but her fans love her unconditionally because she is that honest, kind person you have described. I relate so much to her personal struggles with motherhood, addiction and mental health. She is a beacon of hope for me and so many like me. We love you Britney, even if it’s weird 😂

[@Ginger-g8j]

Even the father of her sons is constantly trying to figure out ways to make her continue to pay him even though they’re turning 18 they see the gravy train is ending and they’re trying to figure out a way to get it running again. She should stay as far away from them and she can assist to they’ve gone up to learn to use her everybody wants to use her

[@cheekysaver]

I think you articulated yourself well. I am not a serious fan of Brittanys....i mean her music is great. It just is not my genre. That being said...I was livid when she was in the conserativeship. Nobody deserves to have someone use the law to abuse them. Since she was freed from it....I have not kept up. I really hope she is doing better now and has found peace and happiness.

[@PrayerfullyBlessedMama]

I had good parents- no abuse and no neglect. But I relate to the strong desire to be a wife and mother from a young age and wanting the guy to be THE guy so I didn’t have to date a lot- and instead it ended with me “dating” intensely a lot and thinking sex would lead to a husband. Instead it lead to being used, hidden and abandoned by several men before finally realizing I was an anxious mess of a person and needed to get my mind and spirit in check before dating again. Very soon after that thought, I found my high school sweetheart who had also spent the last 8 years thinking about me. I know my family loved him and praised God that Dallas came when he did. But his family was very stressed- they liked me but thought we were rushing. We were engaged within 3 months and married within the year. Now, together 13 years, 4 kids and our marriage has only continued to get better and better. I pray Brittany heals and finds her peace.

[@32mybelle]

You gave a very empathetic review and I appreciate it!

[@frankmancini]

Britney sounds like she may have CPTSD/BPD, not bipolar disorder, probably the most common misdiagnosis by lay people and clinicians, and is sometimes treated with lithium, and runs in families. I need to pick up the book, great video!

[@losrajvosa0078]

Almost like they dont wont you healthy. I have been in psyc hospital and I sow people walking like a zombies on thise chill pills. What a hell is the point of all of those pills if people can walk straight or talk ? I have ask those doctors and they only sad that is the way they treat people 😒 makes no sense what so ever.

[@kim8919]

First, I haven’t read the book but appreciate your review. Heartbreaking, is all I can say. As an adoptive mom, with one anxiously attached adult child and one diagnosed with RAD when he was 9 yrs old, what you describe regarding attachment theory is so spot on. My kids and the therapy we did highlighted my own childhood attachment trauma. That therapy is probably the only reason why I was able to build a healthy attachment with three of my four children. I hope Ms. Spears is finding a healthy place with her kids and sharing her story brings her peace.

[@BarbaraTahir]

I have never been a fan of Britney but recently read the book. I was just totally confused as to what to think about this poor girl. I have watched a number of your pieces and I must say your review of this book is just wonderful - one of your very best! You gave us all such a clear picture of her and her book. Thank you!

[@BarbaraTahir]

I have never been a fan of hers -- just because I am too old. Not because I thought she was "no good" at what she does.

[@highhopeshomestead2678]

How could ANYONE ever not be on her side? She’s NEVER done ANYTHING to warrant any kind of negative feed back. So many entertainers rely on stimulates to cope. That she seems to be stuck in a teenager mind set is what is troubling. I just hope she realizes that the world loves her and only wants the best for her.

[@jillrose5558]

This was great. I agree, she is struggling but never developed the tools to handle things like someone normally would. I loved the book! I think you presented a very supportive yet objective view.

[@Susan-nm3sx]

Hi, new subscriber here, the overall sense I got was how sad she always was, it was a damn shame for her. 😖 she was literally like a person drowning, no wonder she had attachment issues, poor woman. I had a neglectful childhood and suffer from an inferior complex and have adhd. It’s been a struggle and I’m not in the limelight. I wish her all the love and peace, I wish she could get her lost years back. 🙏🤍🕊️

[@laurenhowell1347]

I watch most of your videos, this may have been my favorite video from you. I think I’ve learned the most from you on this one. The breakdown of her childhood attachment was great. As a fierce momma bear, I can see why she made every single choice regarding her boys. My heartbroke for her during this entire book.

[@tiffanym1108]

Unfortunately she went back to her mom. And I completely understand why. My personality is a lot like Britney's in the fact i grew up in an entirely abusive home and all i ever wanted and needed was love and acceptance. I am the same age as her but I also had more freedom to leave and come back. Leave and come back before i finally cut contact for good 5 years ago. She hasnt had that freedom so its going to be a long road to figure out who her mom is and finally decide to let go of the love that never existed.

[@angelsunlight]

Let go of the love that never existed. I needed to hear this

[@cqbarnieify]

This was an excellent commentary on Britney and her book. Thank you.

[@nancyforwand7726]

As a former psych evaluator who worked with Baker Act criteria, I agree with you ... Leaning toward bipolar Dis 1, with secondary drug/alcohol addictions. It can be controlled through her life with Rx...but often those ppl stop taking the Rx, thinking they feel so much better and no longer need the Rx. Then it becomes a cycle again.

[@idaborgelt8751]

You are such a lovely guy. Thanx for the review, I knew she must have had a hellish life behind the scenes but it sounds so much more complicated and sad. I wish her a great life and that she can stand strong and be happy. 🤗🙏

[@melicat6652]

Out of all of the psychologist channels on KZbin, yours is the only one I will watch. You manage to be compassionate and human and gentle while still getting to the point. You remember that behind every story there is a real person. I appreciate that.

[@milliehaagen7526]

I haven't read her book, and I didn't know about her childhood, but I was recently diagnosed with borderline personality disorder and a lot of what you've said in this video resonates with me.

[@ConsterL]

I think this compassionate review is exactly what she needs in her life…not money grubbing opportunists

[@elyse-cathrinebisson2787]

Totally agree. She’s a sweet woman trying to put the pieces together. It’s like always having someone around to tell you: I know how, I have the answer, you need to this in this way. Now she knows and now she is powerful.

[@starlingswallow]

6:59 This mindset has been my own mindset my entire life: second guessed how valuable I was and over-inflated the value of everyone around me, especially those who were hurting me but were _supposed_ to love me and protect me. 😢 I just purchased her book. I'm expecting to do a lot of crying.

[@allthatandabagofChips777]

I think you are spot on. Great analysis.I have always felt she was used terribly by her family and exes .I hope nothing but the best for her.❤

[@Angelface11]

Yep you hit the nail on the head and that happens to a lot of us especially more so women where we want the stability we want somebody to be with us for life and not reject or abandon us and just be happy you know but unfortunately sometimes those of us who really want that don't get it right away and then we end up with the worst people so be careful out there there's a lot of psychopaths but that's very true I've been through it. Watch out for narcissists everybody they'll seem like the best people at first and love bomb you that's why you shouldn't fall in love right away and get to know somebody in their lifestyle and how they treat others and how they treat people in their past especially exes and their family and know the dynamics before you get into a relationship with anybody

[@sherryvera2639]

So glad you are reviewing this book

[@lorysipel6823]

I just finished the book. She said her family is out of her life, I really hope they aren't still using her and her money. Horrible family. She's such a strong woman. This was a good podcast, explained a lot.

[@michelewithonel70]

I thought this was a very thoughtful analysis of her book and her life. Thank you.

[@dl7562]

I'm glad you did this one!

[@sashayo9474]

Love this video. Thank you for posting. I work in mental health in Canada. And I have often said developmentally she is stuck and of course she would be. I’m not a Brittany music fan but my heart always broke for her. I really appreciate your videos.

[@marleyd.3003]

As a Britney fan I love this video and would love a part 2. I’ve been trying to understand her for years. Why was she glassy eyed during the VMAs? She looked how I feel when I’m out of adderall. Also the conservatorshio cited dementia… how is that possible? Please give us more insights!

[@theresachadwick3158]

I have yet to read the book but from the videos I have watched of her life I can clearly see she has abandonment issues due to her family not giving the love she craves...you can clearly see that britney has such a sweet & loving nature...it breaks my heart how she was treated...I really wish I could hug her...cause I love britney....she's a amazing woman...💜

[@christinabradshaw7079]

I think the way you have looked and explained everything was perfect! You hit the nail on the head in my opinion and you did it with respect, grace and dignity. You were by no means judgmental or harsh by any means. Wonderful review, wonderful job! Thanks a lot.

[@DebraBeck3964]

Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this! I totally agree with your intelligent observations.

[@SAlxdr]

Thank you. Your perspective is illuminating.

[@janelleyharris5042]

Thank you for your review! I haven't read her book, probably won't... I'm glad I can come to your channel for a review of her book!

[@jomassey4207]

Brittany is an extremely strong and talented woman. The way she was treated is appalling, especially from her own father. How could she trust anyone? She held her own grace and such determind self control, nevermind what was happening. Its so hypocritical that the father of her children could get away with smoking pot and living free, off her money. Her father doping her as punishment is just disgraceful. He is a narcissist who only loves power and money. She made it through because of her talent and love of performing. The only stable love was from her fans, and her children of course.....in a distant way. I wish her only the best for her future and so much more peace and the ability to trust some good people. You go girl!!!❤

[@nikk3251]

Sending hugs and 💜💜💜 to Britney! Always ☺ Thank you for being on her side. Love to Alison 😊

[@stacyjacks3157]

Very good review! ❤ totally agree with everything you said! She seems like such a sweet, good person. She got taken advantage of, horribly, in every direction.

[@kimberlyelliott7933]

For me, being manic is the scariest thing EVER and I will do ANYTHING to avoid it, being in my 50's and knowing exactly what can trigger it.

[@charismalorelye4516]

David I love your channel. You’re a solid dude! Your wife is pretty damn awesome too. Please keep the content coming. I selfishly ask for longer videos 🙏🙏 please please pretty please 😂. Thanks for all you do!

[@hilarypotter3334]

This analysis was incredibly eye-opening for me. I have not read the book yet but fully intend to.

[@rachelg3417]

Fascinating. Thanks for the clarity! This actually made me see myself regarding the family part. Now I love Brittany even more! I’m proud of her knowing that walking away from toxic people and embracing the good people is a brave choice she made! Especially when all she’s ever wanted is reliable and deep love!

[@alexandrabrill4060]

I would love it you could analyze Streisand’s new autobiography! Lots to unpack there!

[@DP_Hall]

This is a very compassionate and informative review. Appreciated it!

[@onmylastnerve282]

A thoughtful review of her book & the devastating experiences she had over the years. I hope she's able to find some peace & happiness.

[@MattyDee24601]

Really good video! I was having my own ‘manic’ episode and then i watched this vid! Calmed me down! Very eloquent and insightful for people who cant understand that people suck and thats why Brit is Brit.

[@metalmavin]

I have always seen Brittney as a deeply damaged human. I am also. I understand her reactions to much of what has happened to her. The conservatorship seemed so reasonable at first, but as time dragged on, it became, to me, unreasonable. I hope that someday, her children can find the grace to understand her challenges and find a healthy relationship with her. I hope that she can accept that she probably needs some level of help to be the person she wants to be.

[@krlady4703]

I just read her book in one day because I couldn’t put it down. My heart hurts for her and I’m sickened that her father took advantage of her and profited off of her. Her family stood by and allowed it to happen which is horrible. I wish the paparazzi had legal boundaries that protects all people in the public eye and allows them some privacy. There should be a legal no-go zone. I want nothing but the best for her and on her own terms! 🙏🏼❤️

[@aazappa]

Men in Hollywood are held to a completely different standard, Shia LaBeouf.

[@FrostyDufour]

Ezra Miller 👀

[@jessicad2268]

Kanye

[@ArtistCreek]

Joaquin phoenix

[@Angelface11]

Not exactly true they've tried to put a few men under conservatorships and they have over many of them just because it's not in the news doesn't mean it's not happened or not in news that you've seen.

[@stefaroopinkie]

I enjoyed this video thank you.

[@caroljuliano6684]

Totally agree with all that you say, her instagram posts were her finally speaking out for herself. After being forced for years to live and take drugs that maybe she didn’t need. My heart bleeds for her KFed should have to pay her back every cent he received from her. Shameful! I think her children were fed bs about her. Her story is just so sad. A Beautiful talented woman who was made to feel so small. Sad

[@SandraHertel-u3b]

I think her kids need to get over themselves and saying they are embarrassed by her racy instagram photos. It’s just a body. You don’t see KKs kids freaking about her nude pics. It’s just an excuse and her ex brainwashed the sons.

[@ThePhilotherianist]

@@SandraHertel-u3b It’s 100% something their family has coached them to say. They’ve grown up in a wealthy, beach city, and now they’re in Hawaii. There’s no way a woman wearing bikinis and crop tops is unusual for them.