What I Learned When My Grown Child Came Out

[@MavonEast]

You give them a hug and ask if they're hungry just like any other conversation. Or at least that is what I did. 😂

[@thecatladychronicles4873]

Hugs and food, the perfect combo for any conversation!

[@MavonEast]

@@thecatladychronicles4873 I figured I gave them their lives but it's just that, theirs. If I could see my kids happy and safe I would. I don't care if they want to marry a tree. 😂

[@thecatladychronicles4873]

@MavonEast exactly! My heart is full just hearing her voice and seeing how happy she is, who am I to stand in the way?

[@MavonEast]

@@thecatladychronicles4873 When my daughter came out in highschool my ex husband was like, "Did you hear?" I nodded and we both just said, "Gay." then high fived. He was actively delighted that she didn't want a boyfriend. 😂

[@thecatladychronicles4873]

I was a little relieved, after going through some abuse and violence in relationships, I was relieved she would never know hurt at the hands of some crazy ass man.

[@KyT.-qx1sk]

There are your children. You should support him in every way you can it doesn't matter. Boy or girl, you should support a no matter what. Unconditionally.

[@thecatladychronicles4873]

Absolutely, supporting your children unconditionally is so important!

[@dorothydavis6276]

Just love your child .The sad thing is a lot don't come out .

[@thecatladychronicles4873]

So true! Or they come out, but are forced to remain single so the family can maintain appearance 😔

[@juliemachin737]

Unfortunately, there is way too much judgement in this world today. You are a great Momma for supporting your beautiful girl. You and her keep living your best lives. ❤

[@thecatladychronicles4873]

I was so happy making this video with her! She's my baby, and we believe in unconditional love. It's good to see so much support out there! You are appreciated!

[@juliemachin737]

@@thecatladychronicles4873 Thank You!! Look forward to watching more of your videos. We need more happiness & positivity in this world. 😊

[@thecatladychronicles4873]

I'm glad you enjoyed the video! Positivity is key in today's world.

[@angiedeans6410]

It's your child to love unconditionally forever, not because we are parents do we decide what our own child becomes when they are born, it's in their own minds and hearts what they become as anyone else does as they discover who they are as children to grow to healthy adults. Love them just they way you made them no matter what. Because they deserve true 1000% unconditional love.

[@thecatladychronicles4873]

Yes! Yes! Hell yes!

[@triciareed4965]

What a beautiful young lady,, I know it had to be scary for her to come out to you, It was for my daughter. God bless you for loving and accepting her as she is. What an amazing mama you are!

[@thecatladychronicles4873]

I'm so glad I got myself together so I could be the Mom she needed me to be! Thank you so much for watching!

[@redmoss24]

Supp0ort them always!!! Never shame them. Shame belongs to satan.

[@thecatladychronicles4873]

Thanks so much for watching! What was your favorite part?

[@AdrianBotero]

Amazing video! You are a great mother

[@thecatladychronicles4873]

Thank you! 🤗 She is an amazing daughter!

[@peaceshepherding529]

Hi. ~Couple thoughts. Your point about the tragedy both you & your daughter (& earlier your son, I would guess, felt in other aspects) experienced yet will also continue healing wounds from, these seem to be plenty of reasons the people who know your daughter Could choose to make as a priority, to put their love at the forefront of their relationships with you both. We don’t control that in others, clearly. Maybe that’s growing in them currently, even as they may find it challenging to what they may have been raised to view as good. I hope it grows. Regarding biology, which includes more than we know: I think of the magnetic shavings some schools provided in grade school for students to observe & move in experiments: The shavings all looked the same. Yet some were magnetically drawn to others and some were repelled by others. You could try to push the latter together, yet they’d separate as reliably as those that would link. This is their chemical make-up, not their choice. As I think it is with gender aspects of sexuality & of identity. Just as I also think we don’t choose the shape of our ears … & so much about the biology we discover we have. Though I appreciate your use of the word “choice” in the context I consider you may have meant it: Essentially that we need to respect that biology develops over its own time & throughout our lives. So we need to respect that individuals realize what’s true about their own biology in their own time. It may seem someone is “choosing” their nature, but (I believe), the role of choice is in how much a person decides to live with others knowing what’s true for that person. Lastly, good luck with your channel. It’s brave of you to share your truths & what you call your failures in a forum that can be callous. Thankfully it’s also good to remember “social media” is not essential to life or happiness. :) Also, thanks for reminding me that some who heavily focus on themselves (as you noted elsewhere) may also be blaming themselves inordinately. We’re all works in progress. ‘Kind sharing’ - & ‘kind response’ - is a great builder ~

[@thecatladychronicles4873]

Thanks so much for joining the conversation! Slowly but surely the family hold out is starting to open up. Now we try to heal but without pushing, easier said than done! Thanks for watching! Keep coming back! I love uncomfortable conversations!

[@peaceshepherding529]

@ Haha, I guess the uncomfortable ones have as much chance of moving us forward, to shared peace, as the simpler joyful ones! Happy Autumn :)

[@keithwills7126]

She’s a pretty kid

[@thecatladychronicles4873]

She is!

[@brendayarber8819]

OK, I have 2 opinions about this video. If one of mine were gay I would be supportive of them just like I support them in every other phase of their adult lives. As far as your critics of other family members. You could have left that out. I feel like most of this was more about critizing them than truly telling about accepting your child's gender preference, especially. BTW, I suspect one of mine may be. If they are, I will support them unconditionally.

[@thecatladychronicles4873]

No criticism, she hasn't been back here for over a year because of the cold shoulders. This has become part of our life now. This is something I still deal with every time I talk to certain family members, and why I have blocked them on social media so they cannot twist anything I post into something nasty, like they have done in the past. One in particular drove a wedge between my Mom and I and she still doesn't accept my daughter. She still believes my baby will suffer for eternity in damnation because she loves another woman.

[@Shingmunroad-xd8116]

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[@thecatladychronicles4873]

Thanks for watching!