What I Wish I Knew Before Going Gray | Career, Traveling, Confidence | 5 Year Gray Hair Transition

[@brookerobertsco]

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[@ShariApel]

I just subscribed. Chemo took my hair, and I never knew what a gorgeous head of hair i had because of all the dye i put on it for 30 years. SO worth it!!! you have beautiful hair i applaud you for doing the transition. You are very wise for doing it younger than me and helping other women on their journeys. You my dear, are an absolute inspiration!!

[@brookerobertsco]

I am so honored to be an inspiration. That's such a beautiful thing to say, thank you! And I’m so sorry about your diagnosis and the chemo - I can’t imagine the stress of worrying for your health and then losing your hair as well. Sending big hugs!

[@joywhitley3141]

Very insightful. I'm 73 and just now allowing myself to go gray. I wish I'd had your confidence when I was your age❣️You're beautiful.

[@brookerobertsco]

Thank you! That means a lot. I have a lot of self doubt like everyone but this choice was one of the best I’ve made!

[@sabinawilliams7580]

I’ve finally decided to go for it. I tried during the lock down and grew it out 5 inches … was pretty proud of myself…. but got a lot of negative comments from people who were seeing me after 2 years. I think it was a shock to the,. To me eternal regret I re dyed my hair. It would have been easier to go grey 30 years ago. I’m 60 and very grey now… but I realize I’m fooling no one by dyeing my hair. I’m so ready now.

[@brookerobertsco]

I know it’s easier said than done…but the only opinion that matters is yours. Do what makes you feel great and empowered and totally yourself! You got this! ❤️

[@Susan.I]

My first grey hair was white and was found at age 14. Started coloring it at 29.,temp color. Permanent color at age 35. Been coloring since then and now 2” of it shows and it’s all white. I wish mine was salt and pepper and not solid white. My white is the same as my colored dk brown.

[@Marj-x7w]

I’m 66 and am just starting my transition. It took me about 2 years to get the courage to do this. I am so tired of dyeing my hair every 5 weeks and the cost of it was getting it done is ridiculous. I have a lot of gray and my hair grows pretty quickly so hopefully it won’t be awful. Wish me luck!

[@brookerobertsco]

Welcome to the club! You've got this. 💪

[@lesliemctavish4300]

It's as though I never experienced PMS, or menopause. Now, I'm aging slowly, but I'm ready to go grey because I'm tired of dying my hair. I'm wondering how I will look?

[@angie5life-is-good]

Your hair cut is really cute, regardless of color ❤

[@brookerobertsco]

Thanks so much! I really love it too. 😊

[@sabrinamerrick1271]

25+ years in the hair coloring game, I tapped out 2 years ago. Best decision - ever. Wish I would have done it sooner.

[@brookerobertsco]

I love this!

[@sabrinamerrick1271]

@@brookerobertsco thanks for providing encouragement for those that may be ambivalent about letting go.

[@stephnewman1357]

There was a big trend in the uk before and around covid lockdowns for going grey and cutting our own hair. I went back to dying about 2 years ago but going lighter to try to get used to my hair being lighter. Ive decided Im going to just let it go natural as I am leaving it longer and longer before doing my grey roots anyway. Im 54 this year and want to just be my natural self. Your hair looks lovely. 💗

[@brookerobertsco]

It's definitely a journey! I recommend getting low lights while you transition (instead of going lighter). When you go lighter, the dye can fade and start to look brassy. Whereas a darker color won't fade so quickly and won't give off such a warm tone. It's something I wish I would have tried. Good luck! I'm sure your hair will look stunning!

[@fhpl7355]

Love this! Thanks for sharing:) it is crazy how much damage hair dye does to our hair. My main reason for going gray is the chemicals being put on my head every 3 weeks. I am 6 mos in and LOVING this transition. And I’m 60 ✌🏼💖

[@brookerobertsco]

It's a great feeling, isn't it? 😉 good luck with the transition! It’s worth it!

[@kimmiemamatomany6226]

Your hair is amazing. The cut, the color, and your pretty face all just shine. Thanks for sharing your journey.

[@brookerobertsco]

That's so sweet! Thank you!

[@creativemanifestation4871]

I Love your hair! I am 49 and almost done my gray hair transition. I don’t feel old! 😊

[@brookerobertsco]

Yay, thank you! And congrats!!!

[@kristalaugust6376]

I am happy to hear that. I am going to the salon in 2 days to get grey blending and I am starting to get nervous. (I am 51 yo) tired of having to do my roots of my medium brown every 2 weeks!

[@LalitasCreations]

Looks so cool how it’s a lighter colour on the top layer like highlights. Love the matching nails. Rocking it 😊❤ thanks for the advice and inspo❤

[@brookerobertsco]

Yeah the back and bottom are still quite dark brown. But I like the dimension. At this point I don’t think of it as my gray hair. It’s just my hair. When people do say something about I’m always like “oh yeah I have gray hair. Totally forgot!” 🤣🤣🤣

[@kc8127]

You have pretty hair. Love the mix of your natural dark with the silver. Your natural color is awesome

[@brookerobertsco]

Thank you so much! There are still days when I think "ugh I look so old!" lol But overall I'm happy with my hair. :)

[@artismyheart4886]

I was getting tired of dying my hair and noticing my roots popping up 3 weeks later. It was getting tougher to cover and I couldn’t keep paying Salon prices or find the time to do it. I was mid 40’s at the time. It was my son who suggested I just stop dying it and let it grow out. My husband was on board with it too. Best decision I ever made, the freedom is awesome. I was a medium brunette color before and now I actually look like a Silvery blonde. In photos it looks blonde. I have had women ask me where I had it done, that’s the best compliment. It’s been 10 years now and I have even influenced friends and family to embrace their natural color. If I see a beautiful shade of grey on a stranger, I always make sure I tell them how beautiful their hair is.

[@brookerobertsco]

It sounds like you've made a really positive change, and it's wonderful that you've inspired others to embrace their natural hair color! The best is when a 20 something woman asks where I get my hair done…I feel so cool! 🤣🤣🤣

[@shirleyharris2251]

75 and starting my journey. Wish I had years ago.

[@brookerobertsco]

You’re doing it at the right time for you. Don’t be so hard on yourself. You got this!

[@sunchyme]

I am at the beginning of transitioning to grey as I feel hair dye is ruining my hair. What I’m finding handy is wearing a thick head band to cover my grey growing out.

[@brookerobertsco]

Great idea!

[@ProRiverSong]

The reason you didn't get any negative comments about your hair being grey is because you have healthy beautiful young looking eventoned skin. People don't care about color (other than fashion statement and self expression which is still typically positive/subjective). People complement others when they look healthy.

[@BlueBird8925]

I think that’s partly it as well. I’m in my mid sixties. If I grew my hair out it would be mostly white and it’s frizzy, coarse and wavy. It wouldn’t look half as nice as hers. Also, a lot of people won’t tell you what they really think if it’s negative. That being said, it’s sad that more women don’t just grow it out. I wish I had the guts to do it. Her hair looks beautiful.

[@brookerobertsco]

I see your points. I know when I go out with a messy and no makeup (which is often) I definitely feel more self conscious and don’t get any comments. So there you go! 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@kerriesaephanh]

I just love listening to you talk, this was a fun video to watch

[@brookerobertsco]

Oh wow! That’s so sweet. Thank you!

[@aaradhanamahlawat6942]

You look lovely Thanx for the tips I greyed since 19 n m stl colouringgggg... This is inspiring... Gutsy too... U r right society too matters... But as u said it's about time to be natural n embrace... Cheers to u

[@brookerobertsco]

Thank you! And you just have to do it when you’re ready…or NEVER go fully grey if you don’t want to. All roads are great!

[@FreshGrey-pm4vw]

Even tho I was in my 60's when I went all grey a few yrs ago, I didnt know some much ugly brown would be mixed in and that the texture would never be bouncy and shiny again. I tried every clarifying, conditioning product on the market it seemed. Grey just didnt work on me- But I loved the color! This summer I thought to lighten everything and tone it with T18. Its not what I originally planned but my hair is looking so much better, more life, more fun. Some women just get lucky and their silvers are so great, texture works too but not me.

[@brookerobertsco]

Glad you found something you love!

[@PeaceIsJesusChrist]

Once my grays came in, even with coloring, I now have to blow dry my hair with a brush and heat protector/blow out cream to get it to look smooth and shiny. ❤

[@joannebreault8517]

I am 70 ..l recently decided to embrace my grays ❤

[@brookerobertsco]

Welcome to the club! 😊

[@kd2533]

It looks sooooo good on you😊 I'm 19 months into my grow out at nearly 42 years old. Salt & pepper ❤

[@brookerobertsco]

Love it!! Hang in there! You're so close to the end. :)

[@kd2533]

As an Australian who's only seen California, I found this 'Day in a Life' really interesting. Cultural differences are so cool 😊

[@brookerobertsco]

Thanks for watching.

[@davienajoseph7011]

It looks great😊

[@brookerobertsco]

Thank you! 😊

[@pippinschupbach8918]

Do you have a video on care for gray hair?

[@brookerobertsco]

Sorry! I don’t. I don’t do anything special except use a purple/blue shampoo once a week. Honestly, I don’t know if it makes a difference. 🤣

[@woogies37]

I went full grey in my early 40's and embraced it with grey dreadlock so felt like I was unique and rocked it whatever people thought but it wasn't great for my scalp so when the dreads went I had moved to a more conservative city than funky Melbourne so I started dying my hair again. I am turning 50 this year and am going to embrace my grey hair again. I am thinking of getting low lights and highlights as I don't think I can handle the skunk line....I have dark brown died hair....having gone through it would you only do low lights? I think you said you tried to get your hair coloured to match your grey....do you not think you would do that again if you had your time over

[@brookerobertsco]

I went to two different hair stylists to attempt to dye my hair gray or at least add gray highlights. Unfortunately, neither attempt worked - my hair actually turned green! If I were to do it all over again, I'd go in for regular low lights to disguise the skunk line and have them tone my dark/brown hair so it didn't look brassy. I have no idea if that would work - I'm not a hair stylist but that's my best guess on what might work to make the growing out stage less tedious. Good luck!

[@lynwhittle542]

I've just turned 50 and my hair is not dyed and about 20 % GREY, at hairdressers last week I was asked if I've dyed my hair and then advise my hair would look lovely chocolate brown. My mum keeps telling me to dye my hair And I read comments constantly of other women telling women they look old because their hair is grey I do wish it wasn't such a slow processes my hair turning grey

[@brookerobertsco]

I totally understand. Maybe try a silver or purple shampoo to really make your grays pop!

[@marycamilleri447]

I want to stop dyeing my hair, I am 65 and have very thin, straight, flat hair with no volume, so cutting it short I feel is not an option for me, unless someone has any suggestions.

[@brookerobertsco]

I feel like my hair looks thicker when it’s shorter like just above my shoulders. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@oxfordnoi5609]

I would love to grow out my grey hair; wished I didn't dyed them black..beacause now once colour fades, brown start to appear. Do you have any tips for addressing those browns so I can grow out the grays?xx

[@brookerobertsco]

I’m not sure. You could try low lights as your color fades. I’m not a hair professional sadly. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@breeal-rashid1185]

You can also switch to a demi-permanent to ease the transition. I also have very dark hair and my permanent color fades very red/orange. I had a pro put in a few highlights and I do my own demi as everything grows out. I’ve been increasing the level of color every few months to make that line and the permanent lengths softer. It will take me longer to truly go all gray but the demi will fade much more gracefully than just quitting the dye altogether. I’m okay with the trade-off. I’m thinking of it as growing out the permanent color first and (meanwhile) transitioning away from the pigment.

[@annabetty]

Grazie!

[@brookerobertsco]

Prego!

[@elizabethpeck4413]

I did do the transaction too gray hair and my husband and family send when are you dying your hair brown so I did but now I want my gray back it is really showing now but what do I do so light brown is gone

[@brookerobertsco]

Ask your stylist about adding some low lights to your hair so your gray and brown blends better. Keep in mind, I'm not a stylist at all so take my advice with a grain of salt. :)

[@lindaglick6825]

Your hair looks amazing! I have a grey hair question: I Stopped dying my hair a year ago, I have lots of silver streamers. (Yay!) but I notice that the top layer of my hair automatically turns brassy. It's very stubborn, and purple shampoo does nothing. I have thin hair and don't want to damage it. I'd really appreciate any advice!

[@brookerobertsco]

It can be tricky! Maybe try a color depositing conditioner with violet tones? Honestly, I have no! I'm not a hairdresser. Definitely ask the person you see regularly for some advice!

[@deborahhadden8129]

I'm in my 9th year of going grey and it's not grey so much as silver/white shoulder length. Much like Emmylou Harris. I've had many positive comments. The one comment that hurt was from my older sister who said, "I liked your hair when it was brown". I said, those days are gone I can never be a brunette again. I would have grey/white coming through in 2 weeks. I went through a period of highlighting my hair so it was more blonde to cover the grey. I think it actually looks better grey than it did blonde. Really didn't want to put dye on my head anymore nor spend all that time & money on colouring. Very freeing actually.....

[@brookerobertsco]

Rolling my eyes at your sister. 🙄 glad you didn’t let it sway you away from what YOU like and want. 🩵

[@prabjotkaur4770]

You mentioned you started the transition at 38. Aren’t you just 38 now!!! I’m so confused lol you look so young. Just gorgeous

[@brookerobertsco]

This video is 5 years old, so yeah, I'm a little older now. 😅 Time flies!

[@Star-dj1kw]

✅ good video

[@brookerobertsco]

Glad you enjoyed it!

[@kylasbibi]

Just starting my gray hair journey at 69. I had to make a plan as my hair is totally white so that line of demarcation is just awful.

[@brookerobertsco]

Welcome to the gray hair club! You've got this.

[@accountonline1]

Men are lucky. Anything goes. Privileged.

[@brookerobertsco]

I would say that losing their hair is the equivalent for men. Still a challenge and something they get judged for.

[@andreamuro8074]

I got so close to the entire length of my hair being gray and then I went to walgreens and the lady gave me the senior discount, you can tell from my picture she was just being a bitch lol. and the hair stylist told me I was brave and I guess she is selling dye jobs. so I am deciding regionally here people are just being silly and afraid. I don't want a bunch of yucky dye on my hair and I love gray hair on everyone who has it including myself although those rude and silly comments drove me to dye my hair. I am in the south and southern bells mostly think you're a homeless person if you don't wear makeup, jewelry etc just to attend the grocery store.

[@brookerobertsco]

Senior discount! Take it if you can get it! Her snark is your gain!

[@auroracharming5531]

I get stared at. No one has commented in 3years, you must know nicer people 😊

[@brookerobertsco]

Maybe they are staring because they love your hair. :)

[@auroracharming5531]

@@brookerobertsco I ll start telling myself that 😂

[@PeaceIsJesusChrist]

@@auroracharming5531 Do you look young still? I’m late 40s but look young for my age, so I’m sure I’ll get some stares of confusion once mine grows out! It’ll be an interesting experiment. 😂

[@auroracharming5531]

@@PeaceIsJesusChrist youngish I think 🤔🤣

[@PeaceIsJesusChrist]

@@auroracharming5531 Hehe! Well that’s probably why people are staring-they’re not used to seeing gray hair on someone your age. I love that!! 😊🎉🎉

[@angie5life-is-good]

You look pretty. How old are you? Just wondering

[@brookerobertsco]

Thanks. I'm 42.

[@sabrinamerrick1271]

Def do not need permission or validation. Just Do It.

[@brookerobertsco]

Yesss!

[@sabrinamerrick1271]

@@brookerobertsco it's not my job or business to care what other ppl say about me. Whether in my presence or not.

[@Denturehempcleanser]

Ya, no, not for me. I look like a washed out mouse. Awful. Yours is fine with a younger face. I don’t want to be old grandmother yet. I look like a witch

[@brookerobertsco]

It’s definitely not prescriptive. Everyone should do what feels best!