What I Wish I Knew On the Day My Husband Left Me

[@kairicelestialgoddes]

Thank you for posting this. I have to listen to it every morning because I am so depressed I scream out and cry on the floor. This helps.

[@lisaarends8742]

I am so sorry that you’re suffering so much. Sending thoughts of strength and healing your way.

[@laurenmorgan9946]

I do the same damn things. The mornings are the worse still. Two months in after 13 years. I used to wake up in panic attacks get angry and scream and cry. Ur not alone, I still do it.

[@liljelly391]

Thank you so much for this. It's been almost 2 years since my husband left me for another woman and I still have those days where I get really depressed. Today was one of those days and I'm so happy I came across your video I really needed to hear these words from someone who's gone through the same thing. This video gives me hope for the future. ❤️

[@AG-wb3db]

Your husband is an adulterer. He who marries, and leaves his wife for another woman is an adulterer. This is the law of God and his prophets. Jesus said this. I am a Christian. Divorce is against God's will and divine law. YOU need to tell him.

[@markh4926]

There are plenty of men who would like to meet a woman, but women treat men like shit and I don't understand why. Be pleasant, talk, relax, don't get pushy as to "Now that we've known each other for a month I think we should get married."

[@GetchaaPull]

I can’t express how much this helped me. I’m Going to listen to this every day

[@gypsyislandgurrll6722]

Absolutely....I just said the same thing to myself. I will listen to this EVERYDAY and use it as my courage to become the woman I was 20 years ago, before I let him walk into my life.

[@dawndexter9779]

My husband and I split, and he said I'd never meet anyone else. I never believed him. Had some " single time" . It's all history , my new lovely gorgeous hubby and I have been married 25. You can be happy , and will be happy again, with or without a partner. Many woman have a happy contented and fulfilled life, with or without a man 😊

[@mixedchickULike]

This is so helpful. My husband left me after 34 yrs of marriage. Due to Covid the courts keep postponing the hearings. I keep praying that he'll come to his senses but he ran off to China to teach and I haven't heard from him in 2yrs. He's avoiding me but is still paying for my things in storage. That makes me think maybe he'll come back. Don't know if I want him now though. Who knows what he's been doing over there. Mid-life crisis sucks.

[@evelyncooper2872]

If within you, you still want him back you will get him, he will come back to you I strongly recommend you contact dr Godsent he will restore your lost relationship with his prayers

[@evelyncooper2872]

[phone]

[@intermilan9731]

You mean if hes been jinxed by a juicy young Asian lover

[@evelyncooper2872]

@@intermilan9731 yes

[@intermilan9731]

@@evelyncooper2872 What can I say I don't blame him. Those Asians have unique intoxicating beauty. They just put you in a trance with their soft warm touch. Ugh.

[@hannawatts8368]

Finding this 7 months post discard and you put into words my heart. I’m in the stage right now where I am bucking the injustice of it all. Raging at him getting away with it. Rationally I know I’m in a stage of grief but emotionally I do feel this deep sense of anger that my voice has been stolen. That I got no say and it feels like I continue to get no say. Thank you for your vulnerability and wisdom.

[@EileenHagerman]

Thank you for this. Three months into the breakup of a 9-yr relationship, I'm beginning to see these things as well. I didn't believe I would ever be able to heal, but I'm finally seeing the light at the end of ths tunnel and am even a little excited to be moving on now. I am hopeful. ❤

[@wildog47]

I'm one month from the end of my 9 year relationship. He left me for someone he's only known 3 months. He left me and his kids. Tells me it's better for them. We never fought, never argued. This girl tells him she likes him and he decided to just go.

[@markh4926]

There are good men out there who would like to meet a good woman. I'm a guy and can now spot a narc pretty accurately, however I can't just approach his new victim and say, "Watch out for that asshole!" When a guy or girl charms you it is difficult to comprehend when they turn into a demon.

[@PatriciaStowasser]

I have just found your you tube channel. I am in a state of schock after my husband told me he’d been seeing a younger woman. We have been together 37 yrs and 35 yrs married. My world has just fallen apart I love this man 😢and thought we would be together until the end. I am heartbroken.

[@roseamey370]

My partner of 8 years ended with me for younger woman 8 weeks ago. How are you getting on now?

[@PatriciaStowasser]

@@roseamey370 I am finding it hard to move on without him. I trusted him 100% and never ever expected him to betray me. I have good days and bad days. My whole life has changed not just in our family but also my social life as we shared a lot of friends. Nothing is how it used to be 🥲

[@rebeccapope3295]

Thank you for this video. It's been almost 6 months since he told me. We've been married for 14 years. He told me a week after our dog passed away. We're still just separated. It's a struggle to even want to wake up everyday and I can't stop crying. The loneliness is hard to deal with. Maybe this video will help me.

[@lisaarends8742]

I am so sorry that you're dealing with this, and right on the heels of such a painful loss. Is there anything that you can do for you right now that helps to bring a little hope into your days?

[@TheTreatBoutique]

Hugs. Was together for 14 years and he suddenly walked out a month ago. It’s been awful.

[@rebeccapope3295]

​@@TheTreatBoutiqueI'm sorry that you are going through this. HUGS back to you.

[@MelancholyRequiem]

This was very well spoken, thank you so much. It reminds me of a poem I wrote a long time ago and I'm putting it here in the hopes it helps anyone else going through a tough time. "Forgot" Once upon a time ago, I used to sit and cry I used to fight the stars at night And pray that you would die I'd listen to those emo songs, And sing for you all day I'd sit and wait for a terrible fate And wish the night away But as I'm reading your last letter, It doesn't seem as long And all those words I thought that hurt Just don't seem quite as strong And all those songs I used to love Now seem so overplayed I can smile, free from denial, Because I forgot you today

[@lisaarends8742]

Powerful

[@markh4926]

Nice job on the poem. My wife tried to come back after running away to another man. I just ignored her.

[@hanamimi5300]

Thank you ! I’m in grief after so many years left me for another woman he cheated on me with 😢

[@lunakat5763]

I'm sorry he did this,I am going through the same thing now.

[@hanamimi5300]

@@lunakat5763 lm sorry ! I wish you strength 🙏

[@lunakat5763]

@@hanamimi5300 Thank you Hana, I wish the same for you. Praying you find love and happiness, and all the best in your life❣

[@intermilan9731]

Lol

[@LaudauteDominum-er2mr]

It's never greener on the other sidewhen they have so much to work on themselves. The way he left you is the way she will leave him. Those 2 are recipe for destruction. I pray for your healing.

[@kjbrocky]

What a horrible coward to bail and a real jerk the way he did it.

[@leftfinned]

I really really needed to hear this today. Thank you. It felt like a lifeline.

[@kaziJohnson]

I needed this today. I need to hear someone understand what I'm going through and tell me I'm going to be ok. I need to focus on our kids and myself. Thank you

[@newyearseve8875]

I can’t believe how accurate you describe these emotional stages we go through. He walked out on me about 5 months. I was a wreck… went from disbelief to anger to bargaining to sadness and not quite acceptance yet but it’s definitely getting easier. The only thing I couldn’t relate to is crying and laying on the floor. Since he left I’ve slept like a baby, and gained my sanity and strength back.

[@voramai6286]

How long until you started feeling better?

[@BDCsSanctuary]

0:09:17 Everyone going through this, listen to this portion over and over.

[@saramccoy3936]

Started this video while laying on the floor crying in my office

[@markh4926]

After 22 years my wife disappeared one morning. "You can love again." I suppose that's possible when you are young but at 68 years old I'm not interested anymore. There are a lot of women looking for a partner but I have turned all of them down. One girl I said ok to. We set up a meeting the next day and she didn't show up. Women, if you do that to a man forget it, you are cruel. I haven't made any attempt in three years to be close to a woman, why put myself through bullshit again.

[@ristonalaimo5048]

Source?

[@markh4926]

@@nomsantsoane3984 Both my wives cheated and filed for divorce.

[@melisalandeteduran8990]

I'm very sorry this happened to you... I'm a woman and i wouldn't think women would abandon their partner. I hope you are moving foward these days... I think you can love again at any age the matter is not the age but the will and the enthusiasm. If you feel you could get hurt again you wouldnt have enthusiasm for finding a new love and that's okay too. Anything thay makes you feel better can be good, but if you decide to keep away from a romantic relationship don't do the same with family and friends cause all of us need care and love from our pairs, it doesn't matters where it comes from. I wish you heal like i'm trying to heal too

[@markh4926]

@@melisalandeteduran8990 Since I wrote the story above, a girl at a meeting gave me a pretty wink and I accepted. I said to myself, "You've stayed away from women for 4 years, give this one a go." I did and after a real pleasant day of talking and laughing and finding coincidences between us, three days later she had come up with the most cruel way to tell me that our meeting was "...an unfortunate encounter." Then she cancelled our next date. There was no reason to do that, neither of us even suggested sex or being tied to a relationship now, it was just a very fun day for both of us. I have gone back into my shell of protection. Why put up with bullshit like that? I have since had other offers from women and turned them down! By the way, winky face has attempted to contact me since then for over a year now. Should I trust her?

[@markh4926]

@Dean Smith In my circle the women seem to be very self centered and "How dare you not sleep with me! Do you know who I am." Two real encounters and too long a story to write here.

[@lisalaw3379]

This really hit home.

[@OliveGreen0516]

My husband of ten years (together for 16) who I had been with since I was 15 years old told me out of the blue he was not happy. I asked him what he wanted and was trying to say, and he said he didn't know. I was on Zoloft for a couple years at that point, but had not been able to get it filled bc of some insurance issue I can't remember. So I was already in a panicky state and didn't feel well bc I had run out of my antidepressant days earlier. I asked him if he wanted a divorce, and he said no. Then he said he was going to the gas station to buy cigarettes, and I got into the shower bc I remember feeling like I was freezing cold. It was completely dark in the bathroom bc I couldn't stand the lights being on, it was like 10 pm. I heard him come home, but then I heard him leave again. When I got out of the shower, he had left a note saying he went to hang out with a friend. For several days he came home for a few minutes, and would leave again for obscure reasons. He couldn't look me in the eye, and I was in a complete panic. I ended up paying out of pocket for a few Zoloft tablets, but it was not much. I think I bought 15, and they were like 1 dollar each out something. I was a stay at home mom at the time, and he screamed at me for wasting money on my meds. He spoke to me in a way he had never spoken to me before and gaslit me for days. Everything was my fault. I even remember my four year old asking why we were talking like that to each other. I remember laying in bed repeating over and over "Dear God, please hold me in your arms" over and over in my head. Watching him move out felt surreal. I would go in my car and scream. I remember laying in my closet screaming his name and crying. 16 days in I found out he met a 21 year old at work, and he moved in with her. Two months in the guy I lost my virginity to in high school came into my life like a knight in shining armor, and we have been together ever since. A few months ago while I was picking my son up from their house, my ex was packing up his car, and they are now separating. Not sure what happened, and I don't care. I have never been happier. I'm off antidepressants, finishing up my nursing degree, and the guy who came back into my life from high school are together now 9 years and getting ready to buy a house. There is a light at the end, guys... and if he left you for another woman, it most likely won't last. If it may not seem like it, but it's for the best.

[@Gotoworkkk]

Why jump into another relationship?

[@fleadoggreen9062]

So how long ? How much time before you woke up , got ready, went to work, and thought, omg I haven’t thought of him once yet?

[@rachey5300]

For me 20 months to start to feel a little normal again

[@theamadorview2733]

Good question.

[@AuntieWanda]

Thank you 🙏🏽

[@jeffchimienti4416]

@@rachey5300that’s exactly where I’m at. Feeling better but STILL in shock that it’s over. Still processing how it all spiraled out of control. She’s moved on, with someone new now, maybe that will kick me into gear but can’t stop thinking about them doing stuff we used to do. I guess it will go away eventually.

[@hrose7269]

Thank you so much Lisa for those encouraging and healing words. Your work is truly wonderful and helping many people , including me . I always watch your videos with great attention and hopeful to get some new insights. Sending you love from France ❤️

[@gbc9423]

Thank you for this. My husband of 14yrs left me and our three kids for a woman he met at his job. He's moved in with her over a month ago. He's told me that he's about to file for divorce from me. I found out about them four months ago. It's been hell. Some days I feel like I'm going to shatter, but I'm fighting to heal because I refuse to let this take me out. Everything you've said has been exactly what I've been going through. I've been lying to myself for years.

[@ladyvirgo013]

People are losing their damn minds. I'm going through this now, my husband abandoned me brutally for the secretary from his work. The level of betrayal is devastating. I wish you wellness 🙏 12 years of marriage, for what??

[@gbc9423]

@@ladyvirgo013 Thank you! Same to you! This is just horrible, but we're going to overcome this!

[@ladyvirgo013]

@gbc9423 it's so heavy right now

[@jaclynsmith6233]

Thank you for making this. Are there any support groups out there to help us through this?

[@MPR57]

Superb. Thank you so much for these inspirational words. God Bless you

[@HaleyKristen]

You are an amazing, strong, and intelligent woman!! Thank you for sharing your story to help others. You’re such a treasure to the world.❤️

[@andreaowens9267]

Thank you so much for this video! It was exactly what I needed to hear. I have been married for almost 30 years. My husband is going thru a midlife crisis I think. He’s become obsessed with sailing and adventure. I feel like I have been abandoned. You are so right! I am enough and some day I will smile again.

[@melisalandeteduran8990]

Thank you very much for your words i feel them cause my husband leftme around a week ago over a text while he is having an stressing reuniting with his family in a country that is in war. He's planning to come back to my country again though not with me. I've started experiencing most if not all of the things you mention and i feel so bad sometimes i can't even be withmyself, i dont eat, i don't get hydrated and everything is a burden. I still have the pressure that when he comes back he will be back home for sometime until he can find a place and i am trying to change all of those things which help in his desicion to leave me (i'm trying to loose, weigth, excercise, work, study, dress better, look better, hang out more with my friends, clean the uncleaneable house, etc) and i feel pressure because i feel it is so difficult for me to cope with that while knowing he has left me and knowing he is destroyed too and the reason that he took that desicion is because he has not grown mature enough, he is psychologically sick, emtionally sick, he is addicted to marihuana, mushrooms etc i don't know how i'm going to cope with all that together

[@lisaarends8742]

I am so sorry that you are going through this. Take it one sip of water, one walk, one outing with friends at a time.

[@linad9811]

Amen ~ I'm so thkful tht I came across this video In this moment this has helped me feel better a hve a hope tht this to shall pass 🙏🏾

[@cassidythompson5606]

Thank you for this. I will be re-listening often to help me through my current divorce with the person I thought was my second half, my favorite person... it hurts a lot. This hit very hard. But we are still here, and that must mean something. Thank you.

[@ceecee6378]

My x took 2 of our 3 kids and alienated them from me on top of it all. He blew up the family to smithereens. Totally split us up and brought them into the middle of everything. They’re lying for him too. I’m disgusted he’s manipulating them and of course, is such a coward that he can’t speak to me and refuses to get along for our 3 kids and their future life events.

[@ElephantInTheRoom777]

I'm going through the same thing with my ex wife. Trust God's Word. Can God lie? He said it He will do it. In the meantime, heal. Go to the gym, eat healthy, learn to play an instrument, a dance, an art, a sport. You can come out of this better than ever. God bless you.

[@randu2u]

My fiance recently left me. I came home from work and there was a note on the table. He was gone. 9 years we were together. It's only day 3 and everything seems so very bleak and hopeless. But seeing this video, and other comments, gives me a moment of respite. We survive and eventually - thrive again. God I hope it happens soon.

[@lisaarends8742]

I am so sorry that 9 years ended with the receipt of a cowardly note. If you're breathing on day 3, it's a testament to your strength. Grab those moments of respite when you can. Grab on to those thoughts of hope and thriving when they're within reach. You will have hard days ahead and I believe -- and have personally found -- that even better days can follow.

[@ejacobs1975free]

Wow! This is spot on! I’ve felt, thought, and experienced so much of this. God is good though so I’m definitely doing so much better! 🙏🏽♥️

[@lisaarends8742]

So glad you’re doing better ❤️

[@deelindsey8342]

I’m so glad I found this video ! Thank you so much !!!!

[@gloriaballard]

Thank you so much for creating this video. I am going to watch this daily.

[@istvanbartha7985]

This applies to both men and women.....well spoken

[@carljohnson6264]

Love you Lisa ☺️ Thanks for pouring out your heart every video.

[@nanat9178]

Thank you so much 🙏 you're such an inspiration ❤️ you gave me so much strength. I have so much respect for you 🙏 god bless your kind heart. Thank you for all your words. Thank you 🙏

[@ShanaJahsintaWalters]

My boyfriend of 14 years walked out on me for his pregnant mistress. And had the fu%king nerves to say to me tat he feels sorry for me. I thank God that I got over it 5 minutes after he walked out the door. No I'm not making that up.

[@lovelymix8056]

A boyfriend can’t have a mistress 😂😂😂

[@ShanaJahsintaWalters]

@@lovelymix8056 Do you listen to yourself talk?

[@lovelymix8056]

@@ShanaJahsintaWalters do you dummy?!! No wonder he left you lol 😂 he probably wanted someone who know the definition of a mistress. A boyfriend is not the same as a husband! You weren’t married to that man and he was fair game. 😘

[@Gotoworkkk]

Ouch!

[@craftinggoodvibes4182]

💕needed this right now only 5 days ago my everything left. I can barely function

[@HEARTCHECKAURA]

I hope you are better

[@andreagoodrich3568]

❤ I really needed to hear that!

[@buzzyhardwood2949]

Thank you so much for sharing your heart. A young woman is going through this very thing, and she feels shattered. You are amazing for sharing your experience and your heart.

[@strawberryfarm859]

Been 1 months since 20years husband left for other woman. No explain nothing. Came home suddenly packed the back and left. Devastated. Still like dream. All those years if our work just gone. Trying to move on now but very hard...

[@lisaarends8742]

It’s such a disorienting feeling, isn’t it? I’m so sorry.

[@Anna-vl4ju]

Believe one thing and that is what happened is all about his failures and his inadequacies. It is nothing about you. You are the strong one. He is the pathetic, weak , shallow loser. Love and best wishes to you ❤️

[@strawberryfarm859]

@@Anna-vl4ju thank you for your kind words. :)

[@strawberryfarm859]

@@lisaarends8742 yes its very hard. My heart is broken..

[@alicebunt5453]

I felt the same way. My husband left me for a co worker. I grew up with her so she knew he was married.We were married for 28 years. It took me five years to realize I didn’t need him to have a good life. I have thrived.He finally married her and seven years into their marriage he cheated on her with his brothers wife.The grass isn’t always greener on the other side.I’ve never dated or even wanted to.I’m happy by myself

[@natashawheeler4620]

This is such a beautiful video! I find it so comforting. Thank you so much for posting this.

[@itsmia824]

Thank you for this. 🥺💗

[@shoes718ify]

Omg I loved this I’m going through my husband is leaving me. This is like so me at this time. You are amazing this lifted me in ways you I cant explain. Thank you

[@lisaarends8742]

I am so sorry that you're going through this.

[@theamadorview2733]

I got the same text message. It was my work-Monday. 2 hours until my shift. Iva erase to spend the last 5 days faking it at work. All the while, husband left the state to "start over."

[@lisaarends8742]

How horrifying.

[@cherylstickney8690]

Thank you so much for this message. 💗

[@AviahF]

My life feels over

[@DDBAMBAM87]

Mine too💔

[@honeybeesknees2400]

Same here. I feel so empty and hopeless.

[@gbc9423]

Me too

[@BDCsSanctuary]

100-% true here. It took me over a year.

[@ednalara967]

On my 60th birthday my husband told me he feels he doesn't want to be with me anymore??!! I WAS DEVASTATED A HURT I CAN'T FIND WORDS FOR!!!😢 HE CONTROLLED THE $MONEY EVERYTHING HE HAD THE NEW CAR AND I HAD THE OLD CAR!? HE @TOPED KISS ING ME OR MAKING LOVE TO ME IT WAS A SLOW AND PAINFUL BEHAVIOR!? WHAT DO I DO???😢

[@Gotoworkkk]

Why didn’t you have a banking account for yourself most marriages don’t last.

[@mandisa8429]

Thank you so much for this

[@modikiramaisa4619]

I have a friend currently going through this husband divorced her without her knowledge she didn’t work even he would push her to stop working and stay home ... how do I becomes supportive ? I feel like I have been but maybe there are additional things

[@nomsantsoane3984]

Help her get a job

[@modikiramaisa4619]

@@nomsantsoane3984 I did try she got an interview praying for the best

[@nomsantsoane3984]

God bless you. And continue to support her and show her love. She will heal

[@irishsakura1]

Thank you for making this video. You explained everything I need to know. Thank you!

[@fleadoggreen9062]

How long before you wake up , are fine for 2 seconds then see his face and ur stomach gets a little sick

[@gbc9423]

I hate that feeling. Or some thought of him with the other women comes to mind, and I feel like I could just die.

[@randallwalker5581]

Thank you so much. You are amazing.

[@kendra3329]

Thank you for this 🤍

[@moonshine-n1r]

Thumbs-up. Thanks for sharing@

[@voramai6286]

My husband of 25 years walked out on me and our 3 boys last night. Didn't even tell it to our faces, got a damn text instead.

[@Gotoworkkk]

What did you do wrong that made them want to leave?

[@ednalara967]

WHY? WHY DO MEN GET MARRIED AND DO THIS TO US WIFES???😢

[@TheReneer1706]

THANK YOU!!! THANK YOU!!!

[@phlyist]

Thank you.

[@AG-wb3db]

Your husband is an adulterer. He who marries, and leaves his wife for another woman is an adulterer. This is the law of God and his prophets. Jesus said this. I am a Christian. Divorce is against God's will and divine law.

[@JeniinIL]

Thank you 😢

[@JamesWright-yw4lv]

Oh behalf of sensible men everywhere, you are a godsend, a wonderful woman and he is a coward. Thank you for all that you do.

[@marisawoods]

My husband of 23 years divorced me for a 29 year old woman named Ilvyna, that he met online in a game called Adventure Quest 3D.

[@kriskspecial594]

Thank you. 😢

[@hearme4581]

This is sooo familiar!

[@christinagurrola5335]

Mine left me on my 39h birthday.

[@lisaarends8742]

Ouch. What a crappy thing for him to do.

[@sharmilasingh4427]

Thank You

[@lizaham1185]

THANK YOU

[@danijayne7470]

Thank you ❤️

[@tezenis3435]

Nowadays is better to don’t married. Romantic time will end up after some years

[@alisanina]

5 years later…

[@DinaRuiz-f9g]

Today it’s been one month he walked out on are 34 year’s marriage I can’t take it am so miserable

[@HEARTCHECKAURA]

It’s been 8 months and she’s right. I use to hate when people said “it would get better” I was in so much pain.

[@hopedaye2280]

Wow

[@sujatanaidup5108]

❤️

[@kjbrocky]

What a horrible coward to bail and a real jerk the way he did it.

[@empressweet7745]

Thank you so much for this

[@jayneharris3888]

Thank you.

[@mommyedwin7362]

Thank you