What if self harm is for... Attention? | Selfharmerproblems

[@jeffisawesomer]

sometimes sh is for attention, but not in the “oh, please help me, im so frail” way, in the “i need people to see i’m hurting but i don’t have any words to tell them” way.

[@cloudkittii]

I told a doctor and he tried to get me into religion.. This is great

[@moss7837]

Ooof.

[@chaoticgood1977]

A doctor who trust in religion?that literally anti-climatic lmao

[@izabellaspeed9055]

I self harm as a coping mechanism and a cry for help I know I have to stop but.... I don't want to

[@alschmerz8218]

the only thought that's been going through my head lately is "am I doing this for attention?" like, I don't think I'm depressed or anything, but I felt a certain pleasure in cutting myself, it relieved me in a strange way, u know? I am constantly looking for reasons for my self-mutilation to feel less bad, to feel that I did it because I have "real problems" my life is good! then why? why do i feel so guilty for things that are not my fault? why do i feel so frustrated? why do I feel so angry and irritated by the smallest things? why when i look in the mirror i can't like what i see? why do I feel like crying all the time? i have so many questions but no answer!

[@chaoticgood1977]

Bordeline?

[@Axe5294]

I feel like I’m doing it for attention but I don’t show anyone. It doesnt make much sense to me

[@INFPIlovethebigbangtheory]

Yes, I feel similarly.

[@devilhorndoodles9487]

Nobody knows so it cant be for attention can it?

[@snekkyboi]

hm- i have only actually cut once, before that i would just scratch myself. at first i scratched myself because i wanted to see my blood, but i couldn't make myself bleed, and i saw how pretty the scratches looked so i just kept scratching myself because it was pretty. i was too scared of pain to try cutting at first. then, yesterday, i finally did it and i really liked the way it looked. i dont think i will get another chance to cut myself anytime soon, so dw im safe rn- the reasons im doing it im not completely sure of, i think its because i just wanted to try it and see how much it hurt, i wanted to make myself bleed, and i think it looks pretty. idk if its like attention seeking or not- i did it on my thighs, where i can pretty much hide it, and i am terrified of anyone finding out (especially my parents, since my reasons for doing it arent 'smart' or 'valid' and they'll say its for attention), i dont want to think its for attention, but sometimes i kinda want some people to know- but i dont wanna tell anyone because it would be attention-seeking. idk, im at a loss- i dunno if i am doing it for attention or not, i dont think my reasons for doing it are valid, i could probably stop without any problems but i don't really wanna stop- uh, any opinions? advices? inputs?

[@snekkyboi]

@@fancythat2874 thanks for offering to let me talk to you ówò normally i would be able to talk about it to my friend, but their great grandmother is going to pass soon so i don't wanna bother them with my problems. i probably still won't talk to anyone, but im pretty motivated to not cut anymore, since i wanna be able to wear my cute skirts without worrying too much lol again, thanks for the offer, but i don't think i need to talk to anyone rn :3 i hope you can get help and stop cutting soon ówò sorry, i am *really* bad at expressing my thoughts with words lol-

[@snekkyboi]

@@fancythat2874 btw i love that username lol-

[@Kelly-li8pw]

I had started self injuring myself a few years ago for the sight of my own blood so I had proof I was still human and not a robot without any emotions. I don't know if that could be a reason why you thought of cutting as an option? To feel something different? I'm not sure but regardless, I'd recommend stopping before it becomes a routine for you. And there's always other ways of seeing something pretty on your body, like drawing on your skin instead. I used to do that to help me all the time. Plus tattoos later on perhaps ^^

[@snekkyboi]

@@Kelly-li8pw yeah, i really enjoy drawing on myself, it does help (except sometimes i draw on myself too much and get in trouble lol)

[@kritee]

Omg this could have been written by me! Thats literally me rn like i scratch myself until the skin comes off and it becomes a scab after a few days and i think its kinda satisfying- is that bad? I totally agree with you tho

[@zoharhusrabi7079]

Thank you very much!!! For everything you do! I wish I could explain myself, but I can not express myself in English. You can be an amazing therapist .. You've heard about "peer support", "consumer providers", "peer experts" I do not know if there is anything in your country but I hope ..

[@Selfharmerproblems]

Thank you so much

[@bucket6487]

I am genuinely concerned about my little (10 year old) sister. She seems to be unhealthily desparate for attention and I'm not sure why. She is very clearly scratching her arms (only her arms) on purpose. She also seems to be trying her hardest to get people to notice it. She's wearing short sleeves on cold very days despite previously never taking her jumpers off (even during the summer). Based on her behaviour this is being done for attention or as some sort of cry for help. Either way it isn't good. In the past (when she was 9) she has made statements such as "I wish I had anxiety or depression like you" and when I asked her "why" she said "because it makes you cool". She is a trend follower, everything she does seems to be because other people are doing it. My hobbies became her hobbies, she copied my outfit choices for years, her outfits now mimic her friends outfits, she's determined to get a mullet just months after her friend got one, she directly copies other people's artwork, she follows tiktok trends/dances almost religiously, ect. This isn't nessisarily a bad thing, I just believe that it may play in to this somehow. I lean more towards the theory of attention seeking, but I don't know the purpose. Attention seeking is always played off as a thing "naughty" children do. But, as someone who spends hours upon hours of their time reading papers on psycology, I struggle to believe that this is true. There must be more to it. I myself have self-harmed, although I did it for different reasons most people do. It provided relief when my thoughts of self Loathing became too much. It is a sort of punishment for being a disgusting failure. Resolving my self loathing would almost definitely prevent me from hurting myself again, but self love isn't easy when you've hated yourself since you were a kid (I'm currently 18). However I have never shared this with anyone in my real life (only I know). I don't even share this information online, I am more than a little bit paranoid. I have hidden the cuts on the tops of my thighs and hips. When I go swimming I wear extremely long shorts that cling to my body a little too tightly as to not allert people of my problem. I give this information to explain why I don't understand what my sister is doing. I feel great shame and fear when confronted with the idea of other people knowing I've purposefully hurt myself. I don't really understand why would someone go out of their way to show it off. I don't want to confront her until I understand what she's doing and why, I don't want to somehow make it worse. I have told her how to clean wounds before so I'm relatively sure she's at least being safe. I don't understand how or why she's struggling because (no matter how often she copied me growing up) we are very different from one another. If you believe you can explain this to me please do, I want to help my sister.

[@bucket6487]

I would like to add that I don't believe self harming for attention is bad, I just have no idea how to navigate the issue.

[@notacommunistorganization5108]

I appreciate every video you make and I hope you can continue to spread more awareness about these issues so we can all get through it together

[@wyattwatson9848]

Love your accent

[@natashamcneill2876]

Have you managed to get your insta back??

[@Selfharmerproblems]

Yes!!!

[@starcat811]

So true