What Is Complex PTSD? Understanding Symptoms & Patterns

[@chrissyofoldstones3210]

Thank you for this video! It’s like a light bulb went off! I start therapy today, I’m ready to reclaim my life!

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Hi Chrissy, Thanks so much for watching! And I'm glad you found the video helpful. Take care!

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

@Ella Rose how did I miss this comment 🤦‍♀️ I will certainly check into this!!

[@paulward4395]

Powerful no one ever speaks about intrusive thoughts, Thank you for your speaking.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

You're welcome!! Thank you for watching!

[@nepsens6193]

Psychiatrists and other mental health professionals in the United States are paid using diagnosis codes from the DSM-5 that lists each mental health disorder and the criteria to meet them. Currently, complex post-traumatic stress disorder is not in the DSM-5 so mental health professionals are left in a quandary, they cannot diagnose their patients with CPTSD and get paid for treating them. This leaves doctors and therapists no choice but to choose bipolar disorder or some other mental health challenge as their client’s diagnosis.

[@paulward4395]

I agree i was mis diagnosed c-ptsd and i know i am bpd/did, i believe here in uk that bpd did are in many ways responsible for the welfare payments as extreme cases, so they use c-ptsd because it isnt as bad as the others. They are identity disorders c-ptsd is not, if we have an identity disorder we dont know who we are, with complex ptsd we know who we are. Saves millions of pounds in counselling and benefits

[@peachypisces7642]

I feel like complex-PTSD can also manifest after a narcissistic and manipulative relationship.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

+Peachy Pisces Thanks for watching. Yes, it can. If you are in a longterm relationship for a longtime and there is abuse, traumatic bonding, rape, etc. complex PTSD is likely.

[@eetupoikanimi7041]

And the help awalable often are so ignorant that they make things worse. No interest to educate things they dont know or if i ask to, in my case it aplies to my toxic family too. Explains why i found my self in covertly abusive relationship and left aftermath has been the cruellest thing. Thank you society and family and my own need to do the research and realise shit and that you're alone. Took a while to get out of the freeze and anger phase, but rather Handel my emotions alone with youtube etc than be invalidated and traumatized my so called help. People really need to spread the word, cover overt, spying tech what ever and professionals should start admittin mistakes. Psychiatry does not need a single tyrannic doctor, it's bad for the good staff also.

[@eetupoikanimi7041]

You forget aftermath even just after a year, why and how someone is abusive is crucial . Spying and victims own childhood trauma. Huge factors, sorry for pointing out but do research trough sites for victims, sometimes seemingly small is huge

[@user-km3eu3qx3h]

@@TherapistTamaraHill Hi! I really appreciate your post. I’ve honestly been trying to figure out if I have CPTSD. growing up my dad was incredibly uninvolved in my life-didn’t have conversations about my day, or care how I was doing, etc. He also verbally and emotionally abused my older brother. My mom was definitely more involved in my life but she’d dismiss complaints I had about my dad, for example, by saying I could have it worse-that her father was a pedophile. Which honestly floored me. I was sexually assaulted my sophomore year of college and decided to go through Title IX at Baylor university in Waco (they have a terrible history of title IX violations that you can Google). My case took five months when I was told it’d take probably a month and, at max, 3 months. All while seeing my assailant around campus. At the same time, my mom was angry with me bc I didn’t spend the summer with her bc she didn’t help me when I said I was assaulted. She’s be passive aggressive and sometimes flat insulting (I got a tattoo and she told me ppl either livd to regret them or are too stupid to). All of this while going to class, having a job, PTSD, and more. I developed a friendship with someone who helped me process my assault and this year she said her husband was domestically abusive while she cheated on him with inmates (yes-ppl in prison) and called him paranoid for thinking something was happening between her and them when there clearly was. I was scared to call her out on her bullshit and lies to her husband and honestly also scores of other ppl. She would also text me any time an inmate was literally three minutes late to a phone call and my mental health plummeted to the point where I went from an all A student to having B’s and C’s. I eventually told her that I couldn’t hear about her “boyfriends” which she sort of respected. But then she began bombarding me about every other anxious feeling she had not related to men, crossing more boundaries. She treated ppl poorly and I was scared to disagree with her about a lot of things bc I feared being attacked and when I did risk it, I was attacked. When I finally told her how much she’d hurt me without completely sugar coating things, she called me a jerk. Eventually, when she trashed me over a genuine mistake I made with a friend when I meant no harm, I cut her off. A couple weeks later I found out from others who knew her that she wasn’t domestically abused and was actually the one throwing things at her husband, saying cruel things, etc. I know she’s trashing me to other ppl and doesn’t think she did anything wrong. I know now it was narcissistic abuse. Now, I’m struggling to not obsess about her, like wanting to see her lose her law license. I’m experiencing a lot more emotional volatility than I ever have before and I know I’d avoid places we’d both gone to if we had lived in the same place. I also feel so incredibly stupid. Like it was so obvious that i had it coming. I have a fear of being like her or being a victim of more abuse that I didn’t know existed. I feel like CPTSD fits me but I also feel like I maybe I’m just being dramatic. I just feel like she pushed me over the edge and I don’t know what’s true anymore bc of how much she lied or even just how to cope. Sometimes just getting out of bed and watching my online college lectures is too draining.

[@nepsens6193]

Psychiatrists and other mental health professionals in the United States are paid using diagnosis codes from the DSM-5 that lists each mental health disorder and the criteria to meet them. Currently, complex post-traumatic stress disorder is not in the DSM-5 so mental health professionals are left in a quandary, they cannot diagnose their patients with CPTSD and get paid for treating them. This leaves doctors and therapists no choice but to choose bipolar disorder or some other mental health challenge as their client’s diagnosis.

[@miriammigliacci9427]

Tamara, thank you for these really clear videos. I like your style, the way you make visual pictures with your words. I’m a special Ed teacher at a boy’s PRTF (psychiatric residential treatment facility) for trauma informed care. I have my own issues and I do believe this vocation is adding to them. 30+ years. I’m not getting enough training on this “stuff” so a lot of times my approach to problems they present with is trial and error. I’m in therapy now for severe depression. I’m a Christian which at times can cause guilt and or shame for this. I watched one of your videos on religiosity and I’ve been thinking about this. I want to tease out my thinking errors. I don’t want to type too much as my identity is not hidden. Thank you for your genuine kindness in creating these videos.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

You're welcome!❤And thank you for your kind and heartfelt words. I'm glad you are seeing things differently and possibly healing just by understanding alone. I'm of the belief that God can guide you to the information your heart and soul needs as a means of healing you. It doesn't come as one might expect.

[@miriammigliacci9427]

@@TherapistTamaraHill yes. The Holy Spirit is guiding me because I’ve been praying for a breakthrough for my depression, anxiety and emotional imbalance. He is faithful! My new therapist really helping me. I like that you touched on cognitive dissonance. My head is getting ready to apply what I’m learning but my heart is still defending and making excuses for the way adults behaved in my past. I praise God for stumbling upon you! The journey is going to be great and I’m already feeling the bonds loosen!

[@kimberlydavis5034]

Thank you for sharing this KZbin Video. Finally someone who understands and knows what they are talking about. Someone who knows what their talking about and truly understands it. I'm so sick and tired of trying to explain what C-ptsd is and why I have C-ptsd. I'm tired of explaining to people that I want to live by myself and want some independence. Van life is what I'm going to do for own mental, emotional and physical well being.

[@rockinrver7414]

I did the same thing. Full-time RVing since April

[@ClementineRow]

This video needs more views! Such a comprehensive and clear guideline for symptoms. Can't thank you enough for this

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

😊Thank you

[@fiiredark]

This is one of the best concise videos I’ve seen describing cptsd. Thank you very, VERY much.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

You're welcome! Thanks so much!

[@nepsens6193]

Psychiatrists and other mental health professionals in the United States are paid using diagnosis codes from the DSM-5 that lists each mental health disorder and the criteria to meet them. Currently, complex post-traumatic stress disorder is not in the DSM-5 so mental health professionals are left in a quandary, they cannot diagnose their patients with CPTSD and get paid for treating them. This leaves doctors and therapists no choice but to choose bipolar disorder or some other mental health challenge as their client’s diagnosis.

[@nepsens6193]

Psychiatrists and other mental health professionals in the United States are paid using diagnosis codes from the DSM-5 that lists each mental health disorder and the criteria to meet them. Currently, complex post-traumatic stress disorder is not in the DSM-5 so mental health professionals are left in a quandary, they cannot diagnose their patients with CPTSD and get paid for treating them. This leaves doctors and therapists no choice but to choose bipolar disorder or some other mental health challenge as their client’s diagnosis.

[@tiablasangoriti8347]

@@nepsens6193 I would be wonderful if the American therapist could use the ICD (International Classification of Diseases) in order to treat CPTSD like the rest of Europe.

[@nepsens6193]

@@tiablasangoriti8347 I got this from another post i made . "My therapist billed my insurance as me having "PTSD - chronic", thats the closest he could get since he couldnt do it as CPTSD."

[@soniarodriguez1462]

I've never heard of traumatic bonding until now but it makes since. I loved my step mom and she became emotionaly abusive. I didn't say anything because my dad was happy so I just felt with it to make him happy. Then one day we got in a big fight and he picked her over me and I broke everything came falling in. All the pain I felt was for nothing and now I hear people argue loudly I always think it's my fault( my step mom would always blame me for there problems) and I have to leave or go to the bathroom because I just start to break down. Sometimes my stepdad( love him) will say something so simple but I "look off into space" as he puts it and then I get angry then I just cry because I don't want to think about her. Idk what's wrong with me and I don't want to self diagnose but I also don't want to go to a therapist because I don't trust people. But if I do this in a comment no one knows who I am so I feel fine. Also my step mom has been like this for 4 years now. Idk how to get her out of my head. I don't want her there

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

SI R, thank you for sharing your story. Mt heart breaks for you. It sounds as if you have never fully been understood and your search for "safety" has been a difficult task. When you are being "tossed around" emotionally, psychologically, and within a family life can seem way too confusing. That's when we need outside help. I do hope you are in (or have been) in therapy. It can be liberating when you find the right one. I wish you well

[@soniarodriguez1462]

@@TherapistTamaraHill I will be going to therapy, and you're right, I've never been fully understood. Thank you for making these videos, they are very helpful!

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

You're welcome! I hope things get better. And thanks for watching!

[@gothickitten1852]

Same i haven't hered of traumatic bonding eather.. until i relise how things affected me .my dad.. always trys fighting with my mom on the phone..then he goes talks crap about my mom to me he pressures me so much i brake down need to be away form him.. i understand how hard it is to just think clearly on a daily basis when you really cant its just every single word being said that has hurt you , it replays in your head... you should go to thapry i do

[@nepsens6193]

Psychiatrists and other mental health professionals in the United States are paid using diagnosis codes from the DSM-5 that lists each mental health disorder and the criteria to meet them. Currently, complex post-traumatic stress disorder is not in the DSM-5 so mental health professionals are left in a quandary, they cannot diagnose their patients with CPTSD and get paid for treating them. This leaves doctors and therapists no choice but to choose bipolar disorder or some other mental health challenge as their client’s diagnosis.

[@mel0c0t0n8]

THANK YOU, VERY GRATEFUL FOR YOUR KNOWLEDGE AND EXPLANATION 🙏🏽 You hit so many points but explained how verbal abuse on top of innumerable traumatic experiences as an adult.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

You're welcome! Thank you for watching!

[@tmadero79]

Loved the braking down, i am a CPTSD victim, this it helped me a lot to understand my life long struggle

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

That's great!! Thank you.

[@EmmaWilliamson3]

I've been trying to find a video to describe my cptsd to friends who don't fully understand/believe when I try to explain. This video is the best so far and I've tried like 10 already but they all just describe the cause and don't go as in depth about symptoms as you have. Thankyou for putting in the effort to create a clear picture of the whole subject.

[@dianelewis9458]

Thank you so much for a great video. I needed to hear this today. I’ve figured out a lot of this, but you have helped me sort out the final pieces of the puzzle. Also working on how to start healing while my Mom is still alive. Thanks so much.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Hi Diane, You're welcome. Thanks for watching! And I am really glad you found the video helpful.

[@user-no6dp9bv7s]

Thank you so so much for these videos! This is the first time I'm finally understanding all the trauma I have gone through. Can you do a video on selective mutism? Or the behavioral/psychological effects of CPTSD?

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

You're welcome Amy!! Thank you for watching. I will certainly aim to include selective mutism in our topic on trauma. Here's a video I previously recorded on CPTSD: kzbin.info/www/bejne/h3iUiHmemtGSjac

[@paulweitz6636]

Considering how much you covered, I don't think the video was long at all. I have a girlfriend with C-PTSD. This is the beginning of a deep dive of understanding. She is insecurely attached. I am avoidant. I am reading some material that is as much as saying there's no hope for me, but I don't believe that. Thank you for your work

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Thank you! I appreciate that. I think we certainly have to be careful with the things we read in some books or "digest" from the Internet because it isn't always true or well balanced. And sometimes the material is only one side of the entire puzzle. Pop psychology has a lot to do with the inaccurate labels and beliefs that we obtain from books, the Internet, and other forms of social media. Getting in contact with a good therapist who is knowledgeable may give you a bit more hope. Sometimes you just need to sit down with someone professional, face to face, to get the real facts -- facts you may not get through an article or book.

[@Jiho333]

Thank you for discussing this topic👌💕

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Thank you Jiju! Thank you for watching.

[@carriewedding2985]

thanks for this video...this is what i have...you've explained it so well!

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Thank you for watching Carrie! I'm glad this was helpful.

[@x2ile]

Hi Tamara, appreciate your sharing about the knowledge that could enable for personal development. Could watch out for signs if happens to me, thank you and I learn lots from you. Stay safe & stay blessed

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Hi BG, Thank you!! 😊 You're welcome. Glad this channel is helpful to you. And blessing to you too!

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Understanding Traumatic Stress: kzbin.info/www/bejne/rWOulmqamLh8pbc

[@matthewcallaghan1512]

The best video on this topic so far. You are awesome

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Thank you so much! Glad this is helpful.

[@matthewcallaghan1512]

@@TherapistTamaraHill thank you from Australia. May I ask if you do counseling via Skype or facetime?

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

You're welcome! I do offer short-term consultations (2-3), but would only be able to offer private pay (i.e. accept major credit cards) as I am not a provider under health insurance companies in Australia....yet! lol. Maybe one day.

[@matthewcallaghan1512]

@@TherapistTamaraHill that is fine. I can pay by credit

[@matthewcallaghan1512]

@@TherapistTamaraHill [e-mail]. That is my email

[@tammyhabiger3281]

Good info on C ptsd, esp expanding to adults.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Thank you!

[@alijane6675]

Delivered with clarity and highly informative. I have a couple of questions. What of the child who, rather than trauma bonding with the abuser, rejects them? And is it possible to have C-PTSD and respond with anger rather than internalizing? Assuming the other symptoms are present, of course. I get that you're a real working therapist, so I don't expect answers here in the comments, but is you could address these in other videos at some point it would be interesting to me. Really enjoying your channel, Tamara. 🙂

[@milkandblue]

I definitely rejected mine but the trauma bond was still there and there were still parts of me that were traumatized even though I thought I'd rejected her and knew she was abusive, I still have all of the symptoms, I think even if you reject them and recognise their abuse as a child, you're still reliant on them for things which is what causes the trauma bond because you can't just leave them and you still have to survive the environment and ongoing abuse. Just my take on it, hope you're doing well!

[@russellstone6390]

At 18 yrs old, my mother left the household, at 19 yrs old, my father passed away, in my 20s, my brother was in a fatal accident, in my 30s, my mother passed, in my 40s my sister. Now I'm 55 and only now seeking help, I thought I was normal !

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Hi Russell, I'm very sorry to hear this. This is a lifelong pattern of trauma that may need to be worked through. What a trooper! This is hard for anyone to live with. I would like to bring this up during my live event tomorrow evening. Join us if you can.

[@russellstone6390]

@@TherapistTamaraHill thank you, I'll be there, right now I have a hard time sleeping. 😨😰🤪🤕. I don't go outside alot, because when I see anything remotely as a father and son, mother and son, a pair of brothers, sister and brother, just anything family, well I can/will have an episode of crying bitterly. My concentration level is very bad, I can black out as a person is talking to me or in the middle of my sentence, I can instantly forget what I was talking about, thus I stop talking, I'm lucky if I say 100 words a week!

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

I'm sorry to hear this. Very difficult to live with.

[@russellstone6390]

@@TherapistTamaraHill thank you for your time!

[@robertross7112]

Thanks for hte description of this. I'll likely share this with my clients as well.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

You're welcome!!

[@truth4utoda]

Very helpful, thank you! I previously went through burn out. Is this the same thing as Traumatic Stress?

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

You're welcome! Thanks for watching!

[@carrielw831]

Thankyou so much for all your help ❤

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

You're welcome!! Thank you for watching 😊

[@clairehooley157]

i was diagnosed with cptsd a few months ago the same day as i was discharged from the mental health sevices,i feel alone in this,im having to research it myself,i feel lost,thank you for this video x

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Hi Claire, This can certainly be a lonely position to be in. So I wish you the best in your search. I do have a video on CPTSD which may be helpful as well.

[@nepsens6193]

Psychiatrists and other mental health professionals in the United States are paid using diagnosis codes from the DSM-5 that lists each mental health disorder and the criteria to meet them. Currently, complex post-traumatic stress disorder is not in the DSM-5 so mental health professionals are left in a quandary, they cannot diagnose their patients with CPTSD and get paid for treating them. This leaves doctors and therapists no choice but to choose bipolar disorder or some other mental health challenge as their client’s diagnosis.

[@sk_abstract_art]

Thank you!💖

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

You're welcome! Thanks for watching.

[@jeanhills2074]

great explanation . sharing.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Thanks for watching!!

[@victoriapapesh6892]

You explained it beautifully... Thank you so much 💝

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Thanks Victoria! Glad this was helpful. 😊

[@beyondtawhito]

Thanks again lady beautiful work I must say so myself

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

You're welcome welcome! Thank you.🙂

[@yvonnelewis8754]

I have recently discovered Brainspotting (BSP) and been trained in this technique. You have spoken a lot about trauma and I wonder if you might be interested in exploring BSP. There is a Native American woman who is teaching "Generational Brainspotting" in May of 2020. Thanks for your work. Your heart is a gift to the field.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Thank you so much Yvonne! 💖 Glad this was helpful. I've heard of brainspotting but dont know a lot about it. I will certainly check it out. Thanks!

[@isabellyshelly8276]

What's brain spotting?

[@isabellyshelly8276]

I have fibro! I knew it had something to do with my trauma!Ha! You are a wealth of resources and knowledge!

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Thank you Isabelly. 💖😊 I just read too much. Lol

[@erinm3567]

Something I don't hear mentioned with cptsd is examples like electrocution type accidents/injuries, sudden death of mother, having the same health disorder that mother died from complications of, angry and extremely emotionally distant father etc. Cptsd can occur from multiple traumas, not just long lengths of time with one type of trauma.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Very good points Erin M. I agree and I also don't believe I mentioned that either. There are other incidents in life that could lead to complex PTSD for sure.

[@BBFCCO733]

What about avoiding places or not attaching to people related to your trauma?

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

That is avoidance and not necessarily healing. The best way to heal is to face, little by little, the things that bring you pain so they won't intimidate you any more.

[@butterfly-sky]

Thank you 🙏 amazing quality

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Thank you!! Glad this was helpful.

[@janethomas78]

How can I recover from this-- Please Please Please... I can't talk about the years of covert Abuse that has gone on. There in no end to the financial abuse and the emotional pain I live with. Any thing?

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

I'm sorry to hear this. I will touch on this topic this week. Hang in there.

[@mendingmandy869]

My parents died and I had a quite malignant narcissist take me in. I think I have CPTSD. I've been in talk therapy for 4 years. I just realized that I think I may have CPTSD. My husband said the symptoms sound like I do but that I'm functioning so it can't be that bad. I'm anxious and angry most of the time but I try to hide these emotions. Can you be functional and have CPTSD?

[@ellenkeach]

I have PTSD...my Dad, my older sister and my dead ex-husband brutaly physically hit me. Slapped my face, stranggled me, beat me with a carpenter belt, spit at my face and more. I detest them very much, they should be punished for that. My older sister, I do not speak to her bec. she is not even remorseful. Oh I hate them so much

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

I'm so sorry Elle. That's terrible. I hope you are getting outside support and are able to find some peace. They needed a lot of help. A lot of help they most likely didn't get.

[@sandieem1]

Thank you

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

You're welcome 😊

[@Wisdomseeker5]

Hugs from Norway desde Noruega🇳🇴

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

+25johis Thank you! Thank you for watching! 🤗💖

[@nepsens6193]

Psychiatrists and other mental health professionals in the United States are paid using diagnosis codes from the DSM-5 that lists each mental health disorder and the criteria to meet them. Currently, complex post-traumatic stress disorder is not in the DSM-5 so mental health professionals are left in a quandary, they cannot diagnose their patients with CPTSD and get paid for treating them. This leaves doctors and therapists no choice but to choose bipolar disorder or some other mental health challenge as their client’s diagnosis.

[@debs9469]

8 years of school, 4 years of high school and 7 years of higher school gives you Complex PTSD. No jokes this is my life

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

🙈🙉🙊

[@soumiamoujane3695]

Hi I have suffered from being jealous and envious around the women my age. And I stopped going to social events where I felt small and like a child around them. I realised I have panic attacks, nightmares, bad dreams and feel sweaty and hyperventilating and flashbacks. When I was around them. As I was mollicoddled by my family as a child. And they weren't. Now in my adulthood I can't stop reliving my childhood as I was mollicoddled and my family didn't have any belief that I can do anything and they use to call me horrible names associated with my health. And my family say I can't do things for myself. And I avoid places and the women my age that bring on memories and flashbacks and nightmares and trembling. And my family didn't let me grow up. And every time I go to a social event where the women my age are I end up having a panic attack at nights after the event when I am a sleep. And I isolate myself to.Hi I have suffered from being jealous and envious around the women my age. And I stopped going to social events where I felt small and like a child around them. I realised I have panic attacks, nightmares, bad dreams and feel sweaty and hyperventilating and flashbacks. When I was around them. As I was mollicoddled by my family as a child. And they weren't. Now in my adulthood I can't stop reliving my childhood as I was mollicoddled and my family didn't have any belief that I can do anything and they use to call me horrible names associated with my health. And my family say I can't do things for myself. And I avoid places and the women my age that bring on memories and flashbacks and nightmares and trembling. And my family didn't let me grow up. And every time I go to a social event where the women my age are I end up having a panic attack at nights after the event when I am a sleep. And I isolate myself to. The Women my age are my trigger ( Because they were growing up with me at the time and I feel like a child around them and still do ) 2. Seeing photos of when I was a child and my teenage years. 3. Talking about my childhood my teenage years. 4. Remembering my childhood and teenage years. 5. Talking about my life. 6. Seeing my mum treating me differently without her noticing it. ( eventhough she was protecting me ) 7. Everytime I want to do something my mum use to put me down by saying no you can't because she doesn't see me as a adult.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

This sounds like a very dramatic situation and I'm sorry that you have had to go through that. There are a lot of families in your shoes and sadly they are traumatized for a lifetime. I do hope that you have had a therapist or would be open to pursuing one as it sounds like you would benefit from being heard and given support. When a family backstabs you and hurts you it's just the worst feeling in the world. These are the people you're supposed to trust and who are supposed to be honest and when they're not it's traumatizing. I wish you well

[@Geeya6]

💔

[@eetupoikanimi7041]

What happens to patient who lands into invalidating and ignorant mental healt team, that seems to just make things worse and do not evaluate the big picture just see your hypwevigilancw as psychotic feed meds that dont help (been depressed anxious to dangerous levlels and never the meds helped) i loat sleep gained weight and stopped eating meds and got out telling i need validation not more trauma

[@Jess-ew3tm]

Why does no one ever talk about how to go about healing in detail though 😭😭😭

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

I think that's because it's the harder piece of the puzzle.

[@Jess-ew3tm]

@@TherapistTamaraHill but thats literally the MAIN piece we need 😭

[@ThinkShink]

@@Jess-ew3tm I just want to say something that's sort of a basic principle that still manages to bring you a plan of approach. Therapists approach this first by ensuring your safety and stability in life. That has to do with your attachments and entanglements as well as financial independence, etc. Then they have you work through the trauma, and teach you skills to approach life anew. The main key is that we have to start living the reverse of the dynamic that created our condition. So the opposite of C-PTSD/Developmental Trauma Disorder? That would mean stability, engagement with the present (it's a dissociative disorder), awareness of and expression of our emotions (and those of others), courageous APPROACH toward things we may otherwise excessively fear, calming of the fight/flight/freeze/fawn response by way of voluntary exposure (in a measured increase in intensity as chosen by us) to the types of things that trigger the same, meaningful and continuous connection with others in various settings (which rests on emotional work, handling triggers, and gaining boundaries and learning to negotiate and self-soothe/motivate). This is a kind of arrested development, sad to say. We had some of our trajectory and development stunted by others, so it's kind of a matter of consciously redoing the developmental steps that a healthier/more supported child undergoes over time. Since that all looks overwhelming, just understand the principle, take small steps toward gaining skill and practice with each area little by little. Build a TRAJECTORY of improvement, however long it is to take. Self-love, agency, connectedness, growth, courage. THOSE are what we must pursue. 💪

[@Jess-ew3tm]

@@ThinkShink this kinda helped. Thank you

[@ThinkShink]

@@Jess-ew3tm Glad to be helpful! I want this world that much better.

[@RobertfSullivan]

RFS

[@Shainito]