What is Contextual Family Therapy? | MFT Models

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This week, we’re deep diving into Contextual Family Therapy! This model is a great transgenerational perspective on family dysfunction. It emphasizes fairness and accountability. Could you see yourself utilizing this model? Let me know your other requests below!
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00:00 - Introduction
01:13 - About Ivan Boszormenyi-Nagy
02:05 - Key Concepts
03:41 - The 4 Dimensions of Relational Realities
08:35 - Legacies & Loyalties
11:14 - Entitlement
14:41 - View of the Problem
15:00 - Goals
15:32 - Interventions and Techniques
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I’m learning more from your videos than I’ve learned from my professors. Studying for my exam and you are truly helping me. Representation matters.

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Thank you for being so authentic and explaining contextual therapy in an easy and direct way.

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I have commented about two years ago on your video about not being able to find an internship site. But now, I graduated and studying for the test. I am so thankful you are making those video. Listening to your video while looking at AATBS study guide!

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I am currently writing my midterm paper for my LMFT program, and this helped A LOT. Thank you SO much for this!

[@Imani0_0]

Hearing you discuss these groundbreaking revelations is insane! My father took away my opportunity to stay home and finish college by continually threatening my security and wellbeing and constantly threatening to kick me out. “You’re 18 now, move out.” He would even go so far as to lock the door on me and lock me out of the house as soon as I turned 18 and I immediately had to stop school to work and survive because he was my immediate caretaker. I am no longer in contact with him (by choice) and I doubt that I’ll ever forgive him because now I’m 25 and STILL haven’t even gotten my associates degree while many of the same girls I graduated with are in their masters or bachelors degree (most likely because their parents let them stay home and finish school) and instead because of my fathers toxicity, I’m so late to completing school. I’ll never forgive him for that, for literally ruining my opportunity to have a good standing on my education.

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[@StephAnya]

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Today is the big day for me!! I needed this refresher

[@jenniferpattersonmua4074]

Wow. I was legitimately struggling with this concept based on the readings in my class, but the way you explain makes so much sense! I shared with my cohort. Thank you!

[@StephAnya]

Thank you for sharing!

[@NancyBasoahScott]

I am so happy I stumbled upon your page! I'm currently in school for MFT & I'm about to start my practicum so I figured now is a great time to start studying for the exam & I absolutely LOVE, LOVE, LOVE the way you explain these theories! It's really making me look at them in a different light! You just made me fall in love with contextual therapy! You just gained a new lifetime follower! Keep doing what you're doing! Words can't describe how hopefully the few videos for yours I've seen so far have been! Thank you so much!🥰

[@angelashelley8184]

I would love to see a video on Collaborative Therapy and possibly even a video on postmodern models in general and how they differ from each other. Thanks! Your content is GREAT! Just so you know... I cited you in one of my papers from last quarter. lol. Of course, I had many other citations in that paper (it was a long one), but you were absolutely one of them!

[@misszellie]

I trained under Dr. Terry Hargrave who trained under Nagy, so he taught us how to say his name! Happy to email you a voice recording of me saying it.

[@truckingwithking3825]

You hit the nail on the head 🎯

[@cfgoodrum]

I really appreciate you explaining Contextual this way. I am motivated to learn more and try it.

[@christinahughes4579]

this was so helpful because it's super briefly discussed in text books but not at this depth. thanks so much!

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Thank you so much for explaining the concept of this model! It makes much more sense now after watching your video!

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Thank you so much for making these guides, they're extremely helpful. I really connect with this model!

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You are so terrific! Thank you. I'm in the midst of STUDYING for this overwhelming exam.

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Hey Steph Anya, I start my undergrad this fall so this is probably something I won’t need for awhile! But I love your channel and I love soaking up knowledge and hearing you speak. You make me so excited for my future!

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Thank you SO much. Your videos have been so helpful in helping me get ready for the National Exam!!

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Thank you for the explanation.

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Thank you so much for your break down of these theories! I am really enjoying your videos!

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I definitely appreciate how you break down each theory. You are so clear and concise! Thank you

[@StephAnya]

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This has been crazy helpful. Thank you for making these vids

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[@nadiaelk9891]

This video is so great! My mothers close friend is Ivan’s widow. I grew up with him and never really understood what he did. This is the best and most comprehensive explanation I’ve heard

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Wow. That is amazing!

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Congrats! I hear MFT! No longer associate. You’re an inspiration!

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Another super interesting and informative video! Thank you so much!

[@StephAnya]

Thank you!!

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[@Tirakisu]

You helped me study for a psychology exam, thanks :3 Btw I'm surprised at how academic and precise your videos are on family therapy (I watched a few models). You basically gave all the informations my university teacher gave in 25mins rather than 2-4 hours, you are very effective and as far as my notes go, you mentionned every important aspect and made them understandable and all, really a great job ! Keep going queen

[@StephAnya]

I’m so glad that it’s been helpful!

[@eloraway5490]

Thank you! Even my professor was daunted by describing this model. Your video helped a lot! I'd love to see a video on Object Relations Family Therapy when you have a chance.

[@StephAnya]

Noted! Thank you 😊

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I'm a second year grad student and taking a marriage and family class. We are learning about the different theories and I will be using your videos to supplement my learning especially since our class is asynchronous. I loved this video. Very interesting and a nice breakdown. I will check out your other videos! Thank you for sharing your knowledge.

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Excellent break down . Please keep up the great work, more theories for future videos .

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[@StephAnya]

So glad to know that. Let me know anything else that would be helpful!

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You are giving a great job. I am using your videos in addition to my other trainings.

[@user-nq5lw1pv4o]

Hi, could you please provide more details about your work? How could we make more experts in this field? What are your and other experts experience on how people take it? How can we improve participation and willingness of people to participate?

[@melissagalush9750]

This was wonderfully explained! We're studying this theory right now in my MFT program and I struggled to grasp the key concepts. Thanks so much for all of your videos.. it really helps me understand the theories in ways our texts cannot.

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[@StephAnya]

I’m so glad that you’re finding them helpful!

[@ericayao7823]

I recently came across your videos and they have been so helpful for me to understand the family system. I think this model can also be used to understand certain immigration related transnational trauma or historic trauma that people may ignore as the background of a family. But I think these are crucial when shaping people’s behaviors, beliefs, and interactions with the previous and next generation.

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[@StephAnya]

Glad it was helpful!

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Currently doing my Signature Assignment for my Multicultural class in my MFT graduate program. Thank you!

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Thank you! I love contextual.

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How you ever considered showing us how to create treatment plans for the models you discuss? It would really help me out in my current classes

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Thank you so much for clarifying difficult concepts! Can you please make a video explaining self psychology and treatment techniques?

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I am so thankful to have found you!! You are such a blessing and make things so easy for me to understand as I study for this exam…is it possible for you to discuss constructivist therapy and Milan Systemic approach?

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Thank you so much for explaining this model my online reading confused me thanks again

[@jeaninetaylor8953]

Hi , are you planning to do a video on collaborative therapy ? I would love to see one! Thanks.

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[@Dollyxolove]

Wow 07:01 really spoke volumes for me. It made me reflect back to my personal relationship with my mom and dad. My dad was an alcoholic and I rarely remember him being present but the memories of being with him when I was younger are engraved in my memory because it was so special to me. But unfortunately his alcoholism lead him to commit IPV against my mom which later caused the separation of my parents when I was 5. I never received treatment when I was exposed to IPV which consequently left me having unresolved problems and emotions. Something that also contributed to my unrealistic expectations were being in an invalidating household. There was no room to express my emotions which lead me to crave that emotional attention from my mom even more. Fast forward to my relationships I realized that no matter what my partner does it doesn’t seem quite enough or this feeling of being unsatisfied and wanting more of it. Unfortunately, this leads me to overlook all the efforts that my partner is putting into keeping me happy. I don’t hold any resentment towards my parents because I have come to learn that they are working with what they were taught based on their own phenomena so I don’t blame either of my parents just sad that a lot of my dad’s unresolved issues manifested in many areas of his life. At the end of the day I will always love my parents unconditionally because if it wasn’t for them I wouldn’t be where I am now. Thank you for giving me that perspective I can now move on to reshaping my thought process and recognizing when my conflicting inner thoughts get in the way of my relationship. ♥️

[@jeaninetaylor8953]

Hi, are you considering doing a video on collaborative therapy? I would love to see one. It would be very helpful. Thanks.

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These videos have been super helpful while studying for the exam. Could you cover the experiential models as well?

[@StephAnya]

Got it! Thanks for the suggestion

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Steph you're so great at explaining these theories. Can you do one on Object relations?

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Also feminist theory would be great to go over.

[@StephAnya]

Thank you! I need to get back to making these.

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I'm a counseling student. I love these videos! I also have been doing couples therapy with my wife for a bit. Our counselor practices the developmental model of couples therapy. I'd like to know more about that one.

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Hi Steph, as a visual learner, your videos are very clear and helpful for me preparing the exam!!! It makes the process fun and easier. One little thing: can your face and eyes level with the camera? It feels tired for audience ( maybe only me) when you tilt your face. I wish I could sent you a private message, but I couldn't figure it out.

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I really love your videos. I feel so much intelligence and compassion in them. I have a question about exoneration: do you think this can come too soon? If there is a parentified child they may have exonerated the parents and be unable to express or even feel their anger.

[@mariamaligawesa5848]

Thank you Steph you are getting me through my family therapy training final year... please could you do a video on sculpting online with a family or individual please

[@hazelcurls1099]

I feel like I need to work backwards from a lot of these family therapy processes. My family has intergenerational trauma from poverty, sexism, queerphobia, ablism and family/sexual/domestic abuse. I have a lot of mental illness that has caused physical illness but I was put into therapy from a youngish age (15 now 20) and my mother has been a neuroscientist my whole life and went back to uni (college for you Americans) and has become a psychotherapist. The point I am trying to make is that we are both quite knowledgeable on mental health and therapy. For as long as I can remember I have seen the things I was lacking on my ledger as a product of what my mum and our family has gone through and so therefore not allowed myself to be mad at her (I don't just mean expressing it I mean any thoughts around being angry). I'm at a point where I want to be able to just think about myself and what I missed out on without being constantly caught up in being understanding of other people's reasons for this happening. Obviously I don't just decide that everyone is horrible and I hate the world but it is so incredibly freeing to say "I understand why you did this and I don't give a flying fuck. I hate you for putting me through this and transferring your disfuntions to me." in a controlled and self-aware way (Just to myself, not to my mum). Hopefully we will be able to do some family therapy because I'm so tired of just focussing on how I can help myself when I am trapped in an environment that is detrimental to my mental health. I don't know if anyone else feels this way but my dream is to not have any intimate social relationships with humans. I want to simplify my ledgers after being so pressed by it for so long. I enjoy social relationships but more in a casual sense. People who I hang out with that tied to places, times and activities and that I know are not long term. My hope is to be able to move out at some point and live by myself with a dog (preferably service animal) because extended human contact exacerbates my conditions. My mum also thinks this would be a great idea but money is our biggest barrier. I have therapy in like 1/2 hr so I'm gonna talk about the stuff I've seen in your vids, thank you for the help.

[@shybf3341]

I really like your videos, please could you do a video on CMM?

[@jesseniasoto9975]

Hi Stephanie! I am currently studying for the MFT exam and want to know more about MRI. Will you be able to make a video on it? I find your videos very helpful and would love more help! Thank you!

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Could you make a video on case conceptualizing in theories?

[@yolandadiaz9354]

Can you please do a video on interpreting Structural Family mapping. Thank you.

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Yes! Thank you because the book 🤷‍♀️🤦‍♀️ 😂

[@ritachitwa4947]

Hallo this is Rita from Kenya and just to ask . Could you use this to assess between siblings who are having a challenge that has resulted in conflict and a split up. Thank you for your presentations

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Will you do structural and strategic models

[@StephAnya]

Both already done. Check the models playlist!

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