What is it like having a child with Psychopathy? Ask a Parent

We all know someone with psychopathy.
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But few know the truth about it. We’re helping change that… by helping you know the signs. Know about treatment options and resources. And know you’re not alone.
Lillyth Quillan was the first parent to publicly use her name and her face and say she was the mother of a child with Conduct Disorder. In 2014, she created and founded Parents of Children with Conduct Disorder (PCCD), a Facebook-based support group for parents and other caregivers of these children. Over the last six years, Lillyth has personally spoken or communicated with thousands of families. She remains as dedicated to the cause of including non-intimate partner violence in the national Domestic Violence conversation, early treatment for our children, and political action as the day she started PCCD.
Lillyth joined us on Zoom to discuss what it is like to have a child with Psychopathy.
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[@j3licat]

Good lord this is the best birth control I've ever seen before.

[@jantelopez5626]

lets frikken hope so .. dont have kids if you can't put their emotional needs first .. more than half of adults are not emotionally mature enough to be parents and should not have kids

[@dfabulous]

@@jantelopez5626 the government apparently disagrees 💀😭😭

[@muayboran6111]

Definitely something to think about since about 1% of men are diagnosed with it… that’s still 70 million people world wide on top of those not diagnosed not counting women which would probably be another 50 million+ or so diagnosed.

[@artegentile8365]

This is a very insensitive comment. Ask yourself whether it would have been ok to write this comment about a child with severe and extreme physical disability. Shame on you, frankly.

[@kawashiamcdonald7077]

😂

[@maybememory1]

This is honestly my biggest fear in becoming a parent in the future. I can’t think of a worse situation to be in

[@roynique5218]

am here because my so. is exhibiting so much behaviour. the worst of it all is he stole and also tried to fake cry to manipulate me to avoid being questioned about how mean he was to his brother and also breaking a phone and lying it’s his younger brother. it’s too much much and he only 11. good i wondered just to have a clue. he will end up in ghana 🇬🇭 to get better help with just basic everyday life of our culture.

[@martinhommel3420]

Well then pick a partner that scores low for psychopathy. You can basically reduce the risk to 0.

[@dipakchante3573]

@@roynique5218 well i think you're in the wrong place ! He needs low to hardcore discipline but none

[@Punicia]

Just don’t become a parent there’s too many people in the world already

[@dethbedsmolzwhent.t6498]

Is it possible that mental illness is a hereditary trait. Cause my Grandmother she's bi polar and is a sociopath (well she's in her late 70s so she can't do the crazy stuff she used to do even when she was in her early 70s) my 2 uncles they're bi polar my aunt too my mom seems to be tye only one that's normal. Me I don't know really whenever I see horrible things happen on TV or hear of a tragic crime I don't really feel empathy that much I look at other people and think "how do they feel that way? And why can't I feel that way?"

[@katieandnick4113]

A giant sign that you haven’t abused your child into becoming a psychopath is your self awareness. Most psychopaths are never discovered because their parents literally cannot see what they are. Some people, quite literally, are born without a conscience.

[@mungbean6693]

​@powdergateno, they're actually born this way. They literally have less grey matter in their brain. And it could be a genetic trait passed down from generations

[@martinhommel3420]

@powdergate no it isnt. Its genetic. You cant teach empathy. Its either present or its not. All you can teach is masking.

[@dipakchante3573]

@@mungbean6693 it really can be fixed but no one believes us

[@marjorieprezioso4750]

​@@KingEdwardMD you're wrong. Many children are born with personality disorders. I knew something was up when I was pregnant. Not every child in the family gets the bad gene ... my oldest was fine.

[@martinhommel3420]

@@DoctorEduardo Have you ever thought about flipping that causality assumption? psychopathic children are much more likely to not be genuinly loved, but that doesnt mean this made them into psychopaths. They are much more likely to be rejected by other children, other adults. And that is often instantly, because people instinctivley recognize it. and its very exhausting for their parents to show affection to such a child. But that doesnt mean this is the cause. I have seen mother with two children from two fathers. And i can tell you that the younger, non-psychopathic sibling had a much harder childhood, due to the mother being more stressed out with 2 children and due to having an older psychopathic sibling. yet the younger one is not psychopathic at all. He will become anxious, not psychopathic. Also, its well established that psychopathy is genetic.

[@uyoebyik]

You're not alone. This needs to be talked about more often than it is

[@NorthCitySider]

Initially I wasn’t sure if she was being over dramatic but as I continued watching, I really felt her suffering. She’s carrying a lot on her shoulders.

[@TomikaKelly]

Nah, you can tell just from this one video that she is emotionally drained and on the brink of exhaustion.

[@Mira-gu6we]

We need to talk about kevin

[@dontknow3949]

@@Mira-gu6we such an amazing movie. Truly genius piece of work.

[@BonnieBlue1861]

I’ve been there. I’m a step parent of a narcissistic sociopath. I have been abused by him from age 10 to now 21. Fortunately he longer lives with us, but he still causes trouble. He lies to his father all the time. He tell lies about me to turn other family members against me. This kid has made my life miserable. And now, if I want to have my husband, I have to be around this awful person. It weighs very heavy on people.

[@Archonbuster]

She is not being over dramatic at all. It’s hell and everything she’s saying is accurate

[@zachz699]

I was the kid with psychopathy. I went to talk with a psychologist when I was in my early 20's to get better insight about myself, and he informed me I have very strong primary traits. I am 28 now. I was a very difficult child for sure, my mother never gave up on me though despite all of my misdeeds. I am 28 now, and even though my weak father crumbled under the pressure of it all unable to follow through with what the started when it got hard my Mother has always maintained her love and loyalty for me. And for that I respect her, as successful as I am now I do make her life easier through money. I sent her to Greece last year for a month for example. If it weren't for her strength I would not have been able to get control of myself and get myself to the position I am currently in, I would probably have been homeless at age 18. So thanks Mom

[@gilly_axolotl]

Happy for ya and your mom 😄

[@jackmichaelson8617]

Yeah you're not a psychopath nor were you ever. Happy news(?) Psychopathy doesn't pass away and neither does it come in stages. It's litteral lack of empathy, sympathy, consequence or care for anything but yourself. That part of the brain does not work in people with ASPD. You wouldn't care about your mum, or feel pride. Or even call her. Unless ofc. She continues to give you something you deem essential. Something that gives you powers over others, or her. In which case you're full of shit and a total psychopath.

[@Sarahh_28]

I'm living with anxiety and sometimes I just wish to have born a psychopath-fearless. I wonder do you guys sometime feel proud to be one?

[@phil1522]

@@Sarahh_28 Don't actually ever think about it. But now that I am at this exact moment, I would say no.

[@jasminerosewater3891]

I'm glad you're getting help and seem to be doing better for yourself. Just reading your words I can tell you have empathy and a heart. Keep growing

[@sagebias2251]

If your child expresses callous unemotional traits, DOCUMENT EVERYTHING.

[@reformerx667]

How is that going to help the situation?

[@ehaaron]

CCP?

[@antoinettenovella1630]

@powdergate No, these kids are dark and manipulative. The only way to defend yourself is to keep records. Do you understand such a simple tenet? If not, perhaps you need to do the test since you illustrate such low empathy and understanding.

[@BonnieBlue1861]

I agree with you. My stepson thankfully doesn’t live with us anymore. He made our home so toxic and now I understand that he is a narcissistic sociopath. He is still causing problems away from the home. He is divisive, manipulative, and he lies all the time. His poor father sees it and knows it but won’t accept it. I don’t want to be around him at all. And now, he is living with the sweetest girl and he is controlling her and lying to her. I wish I had documented everything with dates and times. I am going to start doing it now.

[@Punicia]

Just keep your legs closed if this is what you have to resort to as a parent

[@privateuser8932]

I would like to know what happened to her son so far

[@cassiebennet4262]

I'm dealing with this. I'm considering taking my child to a neurologist.

[@alonelyshrub]

Great idea to get a diagnosis. Then you can move forward with more confidence. Half the battle is just knowing what you're dealing with

[@arin.000]

idk how old is your kid but i think that a forced diagnosis might do harm to your child , expecially if he doesnt agree to it. it will only help you but it will make his sense of self even more unstable and he will suffer from it

[@s_r1705]

Psychiatrist!!!!

[@arin.000]

@@s_r1705 even better: a psychologiet who wont diagnose him or give him meds but just try to help and support him

[@laraista]

Psychologist! They will run the tests and suggest interventions. The sooner the better, a child's brain is yet hyper malleable.

[@Enoughalready20237]

I finally don’t feel alone. A few minutes and I feel like I got more therapy and validation than I have in years worth of therapy.

[@stellablue7435]

My child is 40 now. Still hurting everyone in the family. I'm thankful beyond measure to have all the resources today that weren't available in 80's. I'm thankful to everyone who shares what they know. Ive been blessed with a lot of help and encouragement on KZbin. But until I heard this video I continued to believe that nobody really understands the cutting pain of it. I know you do! Thank you for sharing your raw heart with us. Buckets of tears! There should be far more extensive help for parents. Blessings of good cheer to you. I have subscribed.

[@Badass_Brains]

Did you understand what was going on when your child was young, or did it take a long time (and more resources) before you realised what you were dealing with?

[@azart686]

I am exactly where you are, the same pain, my son is 39 and the same

[@everythingisalie5320]

What a nightmare for a ‘normal parent’ to do through. The wasted years for this poor woman

[@meyersonfire]

but life is all about experience, and we learn and can choose to grow--nothing is wasted. But we can pray for this woman and even her child to have hope for a better life. We're on this planet together to help each other. I lived with a psychopath for 23 years. People who don't understand don't understand why I didn't just "leave". He would have killed me if I had left. He was intelligent and he would have found me and ended my life--because he didn't care about my life, and had tried to strangle me, suffocate me and threatened me with a gun before. But I finally got out safely when he decided that he wanted to be married to one of his many mistresses instead of me. I understand the tendency to look back and wish you could have done what felt like more accomplished things than babysitting a psychopath, but I've consoled myself that life is about experience, whatever experience, and that earth life is only a blip of our eternal lives, so we'll have a lot of opportunity to heal and make up for things once we're done with this mortal probation, which is a planned part of our lives.

[@everythingisalie5320]

@@meyersonfire I m so sorry for your experience. I experienced childhood sexual abuse which has had its effects into my 60s. I was bullied at school faced racism throughout my life married a narcissistic first husband second husband has his issues. I've got health problems. Life has been one struggle after other. I've watch NDE that have been a great comfort and believing that there is a loving God and angels give great comfort. I live with trying to forgive as much as I can and yes my outlook is much better. I too get the feeling that we are living in a illusion and life is only transitory. Hope is a great thing. She's right you can experience abusive relationships in many ways its how you deal with things that matter. Bless you all

[@sbc4497]

I know a father that is dealing with a very disturbed son. He was caught trying to smother his infant sibling at 14. The dad found out his son also sexually abused two smaller girls. No remorse and 5 years of therapy did nothing to help his son. He has no remorse, remorse and definitely no accountability. Local law enforcement did nothing as a consequence but placed him with family that was without children. He is now 18. The dad is beyond devastated despite all the reports to police and CPS and no agency doing anything to hold him accountable.

[@amandalongman737]

Because they can talk themselves out of anything. It’s as effortless as breathing. Until you’ve seen it yourself. Until the chill runs through your body as they speak what u know is an absolute lie with total disregard for the disgusting things they’ve done…. You’ve never known true terror. True heart break. Helplessness. And fear.

[@tammyhoepner976]

Kudos for very difficult honesty. Bravo!

[@psychopathyis3353]

Yes, we agree!

[@TGIF82]

I feel for this mum! I cannot imagine what’s like having this every day. I used to work as a nanny, experienced and professional over two decades. I got one job with a boy who I thought may have some kind of personality disorder and parents knew something was off since early age. I was feeling constantly manipulated and threathened, i was scared for his sister if I just looked away. Jealousy is nothing unusual but he was vicious with his sister, I was worried he would strungle her one day. I cried every morning before walking through the door that I have to spend time with him because it was my job. I felt guilty even just as a nanny for not wanting his company and also being in constant stress around him, felt like I am just giving orders and threats myself, I consciously had find good things about him other than something shallow as ‘he can be sweet on occasion’ and I could see he struggled a lot. Kids did not like him and those that very emphathetic enough were either bullied by him or parents prefered no afterschool time with him. I felt sorry for him knowing he is just a child but then he sometimes flipped and he did not have a child’s mind, I was scared. We worked on Mindfulness and it helped with some parts but it was emotionally exhausting. This was the end of my career in childcare, never again. The only thing that worked was a reversed psychology but of course, that’s not something to be used lightly. I got really upset with parents, because although they struggled too, they really just waited for a school to do something instead of going private for therapy, I felt they did not even try based on what I knew. I had no support as a nanny as an employee and we are talking few years back only, things have been available. Of course when school started reporting, it went down the hill because he had a massive outbursts, notices etc. I was happy to leave the job but I always felt we failed him because he was just a child, struggling. It’s confusing knowing he is a child but also fearing him as you would adult.

[@jasminerosewater3891]

Super interesting. I've worked in childcare and early educations and had kids exactly like you described. Child body, panther mind. I always wonder how they're coping and how the parents are doing as time passes. Makes me scared to have kids tbh, there seems to be rampant mental illness/ personality disorders now a days and I don't want to birth the next basketcase tbh.

[@christinamartinez8132]

​@jasminerosewater3891 Child body, panther mind sounds very creepy. Goodness. I was really thinking about being a foster mother, but I also think about what children would be like.

[@misshoneynevercame4832]

Bless you for trying to get him help. Unfortunately these types of disorders often cannot be fixed through therapy, regardless of efforts. Sometimes someone is born malignant. Best thing to do is to get as far away from them as possible.

[@AKingInYellow]

After working with troubled youth, and meeting a psychopath in said field. I do not blame the parent. You can literally do everything to the best of your ability and still have them try to kill you for literally no reason.

[@Punicia]

It’s called being cursed their purpose in life was to see if they could withstand their curse by not harming anyone if they fail it’s on them

[@nurselisa40]

Thank you!

[@elizabethf6962]

Hi, I’m a teacher and have started seeing traits of psychopathy in one of my prek students and just started doing research on psychopathy in children. It’s unbelievably exhausting so I can’t imagine doing that full time. My sympathy to you! You mentioned having to do the teachers’ job in regards to your child and I’m curious to what that entailed. We’re so limited in what we can do and have 20-30 other kids to teach and look after. Other than documenting incidents, informing parents, and making sure everyone is safe, what else can teachers do to assist all involved in the situation?

[@DanniBby]

What were the traits you noticed?

[@user1-i5k]

@@DanniBbythey don’t recognize what is wrong after bullying others. can’t find the signs of empathy or attachment from them.

[@katadam2186]

⁠@@user1-i5kHave you discussed this with a professional that’s trained in psychology with experience in psychopathy? Have you mentioned this to the parents… Have you wondered if the child was hugged, kissed, told good job, proud and shown the range of emotions a human can express … either no one is showing that child or they were born that way. The psychiatric profession Still is not sure if they are born are made, because if the child’s environment ( parents) are not expressing love and affection to said child.

[@user1-i5k]

이것을 학부모에게 말해야한다고 학교에 오랫동안 주장해왔으나 학교 측에 받아들여지지 않았고, 괴롭힘을 당하는 아이를 위해 오랜시간 학교에 항의한 끝에 학부모에게 이야기할 수 있었다. 이후 그 아이는 병원에서 치료를 받고있다. 교사가 아무것도 하지 않고 있다고 말하지 마라. 그 아이가 사랑을 받지 못해서 그런 행동을 하는지, 잘못된 방식의 사랑을 너무 많이 받고 정해진 한계 없이 자라서 그런 행동을 하는 것인지는 내가 판단할 수 있는 영역이 아니다. 다만 내가 반드시 해야하는 일은 당장 폭력행동을 멈추는 일이다. 교사로서 내가 판단할 수 있는 것은 괴롭히는 아이의 인권보다 괴롭힘 당하는 아이의 인권이 더 중요하다는 것이고, 생활지도 후에 교사에게 가해지는 욕설, 물리적 위해 등의 교권침해가 심각한 문제라는 것이다.

[@meyersonfire]

@@katadam2186 my SIL is a behavioral psychologist, and informed me a few years ago that psychopath was removed from the DSM, because the traits are a CHOICE. I was actually given a hug by a judge who'd been involved in helping me get away from my psychopathic ex--he saw me in the parking lot after, and gave me a hug and told me he was sorry for what I'd had to deal with and wished me a good life.

[@danielfrederickson4202]

This is a woman at the end of her tether. What a nightmare that would be.

[@AnaSantos-gh4tf]

It' s worst having them as parents. Always is a hell, but, us, the children of these beings, we end highly damaged and web only able to start understand we were not the problem at older ages. Lot of hard work and a high price requires for sure the people around them, trapped by them.

[@onelove8593]

My case, literal demons I mean for real

[@ritaamor283]

@@onelove8593Jesus casts out demons 🙏

[@ellingtonfeint13]

Well other parents can't blame you, but who are they supposed to go to, when your child hurts another child? They have to resolve the situation somehow and prevent it from happening again, of course they are going to talk to the parents of the child eventually.

[@arin.000]

yeah , she acts like a small kid can be blamed for like being violent . if its not her fault the kid is that way is not their fault either

[@TheKaraqi4]

It’s a real problem that bullies are not taken under control at school. Parents and teachers can do only so much about it.

[@Punicia]

Not all bullies are the same. There are jock bullies, nerd bullies and cry bullies to name a few. Almost everyone has had a cycle of getting bullied and then becoming the bully

[@MC-wm1ob]

Doesn't change anything, I was in a juvenile prison at 16 and i can tell you, you just continue your job there like adults. I'm not a criminal today because I decided by myself that I'll find another way to beat the matrix and live like I want legally but that's it.

[@kristakirkland534]

I just broke down listening… I am a single mum of 3 and my son has absolutely broke me to pieces…. So many things our family my sweet girls have had to endure and yet I am always alone and at fault. I research and read and listen as much as I can, therapy, had to remove him from my home in June until I can find common grounds but 2nd time being removed this year. He gave me a black eye and assaulted a police officer that responded due to the fact he was so out of control… sorry to pour. Just needed to I suppose.

[@charlotte5877]

How are you now?

[@bookbeing]

I think it crosses a line when a child injures a parent. I hope you and your daughters are safe now and no longer enduring abuse from your son. 💙

[@reformerx667]

Even if you want him back, think about the safety of your daughters. Injuries don’t have to be just physical.

[@jasminerosewater3891]

Oh no, I'm soooo sorry, how incredibly painful. Sending love and healing to you, him, and your girls.

[@Badass_Brains]

It sounds like you did the right thing. Such a difficult position as a parent! I hope that your son "mellows out" as he gets older.

[@terrionChasing]

Im obsessed with watching these, so interesting. I don’t understand why people in the comments are trying to convince others they’re psychopaths

[@tiasundawn1841]

I know, right?!

[@mealovesyu]

Who is convincing?

[@Badass_Brains]

It's such a fascinating subject.

[@GraceRoberson]

It is crazy how it's completely ignored by mental health "professionals" because they aren't 18 yet

[@louderthanwordsInclusivity]

Everything I see online says essentially that psychopathy in children is caused by bad parenting, cold parenting, abusive parenting, neglect- and maybe that happens often. But I know that I have done everything and anything that I can to be the best parent I can, all I every wanted was to be a good mom and have a good relationship with my babies, researching the best developmentally appropriate practice, practicing positive parenting natural consequences, reinforcement free parenting, following the explosive child like a bible, and yet, my son still wants to kill me. He still draws, obsesses over, and chants all day how he wants to hurt me kill me etc and smiles and laughs. He still tries to stab me, he still says he wants to “shoot police in the head if he ever gets caught” and I’m told there’s no way this comes from the mind of a child, he must be exposed to this, he must see violence, etc. but he doesn’t. We have been in therapy since 3, back when I thought surely this was autism like his brother, or something causing him to just be very overwhelmed and not know how to express it, because young children don’t manipulate, kids do good if they can do good after all right? That was always my motto. But I was wrong. I want to save my baby. And I am so tired of being told at every turn the only way he could be like this is if I’m an awful parent. As if I wasn’t asking doctors before his 1st birthday if it was normal for him to hit and bite and hurt me so much that it was all he had interest in, or normal for him to crack my cheekbone at 3 years old, or give my grandma two black eyes by 5. I have and will continue to give my life to save my baby, who was it seems stolen by this disorder and difference in his brain, but I don’t want to continue seeing what an evil parent I a, in the process because this is all I am anymore, a parent on a mission to help him, and give him the best life safely in the process.

[@saloninegi147]

Oh wow! What pain you must be going through! I hope you save yourself and your family, even if you can't save your some. You are absolutely amazing. ❤️

[@RemziCavdar]

That's bollocks! Psychopathy is all genetic, what they are talking about is sociopathy. But the formal diagnoses is now antisocial personality disorder. But still it can be genetic, it can be caused by trauma or a combination of both.

[@reformerx667]

That is not what is being said about psychopaths. A large contributing factor is genetics. Do you or your husband have any psychopathic traits? How many children do you have? It looks like there is more wrong here than just one psychopathic child.

[@louderthanwordsInclusivity]

@@reformerx667 my sons bio father has traits yes, he kidnapped me and tried to kill me and has had no exposure beyond that. And absolutely YES, as someone who sees professionals every single day, they 100% are saying it is environmental, aside from ONE professional we have that worked closely with kids with this previously, online resources say this, etc. it is a massive occurring incidence of misinformation

[@louderthanwordsInclusivity]

@@reformerx667 I have 2 children, one has no signs of this disorder, he instead has a de novo variant in NIPBL and has Cornelia de Lange syndrome and level 3 autism and IDD. but he is very affectionate and empathetic, and only has classic signs of autism and signs of his genetic syndrome and IDD.

[@ivantamayoromero1668]

This poor poor woman. How did she manage?

[@JavierMartinezUy]

I pitty for this parents. Cant imagine how hard to deal with might be to be manipulated all the time by the person you love the most.

[@reformerx667]

I don’t think any parent of a psychopathic child loves them. They probably do to start with. But evolution has given us the ability to learn and part of that process is to emotionally abandon people that hurt us. When all love is spent you are left with good intentions at best. Possibly a lot of resentment and worse later on. But no love.

[@Србомбоница86]

​@lavanda_school_of_lifeno ,many don't love their psychopath children nor they should

[@HospitalForSouls.X]

I was born a psychopath, but my traits don't really match up perfectly to what I've learned about my condition. In a way I'm like a hybrid between a factor 1 and factor 2 psychopath, and the factor 2 traits began showing in my teens. When I was maybe three years old, I was vicious. I was tormenting animals, brutalizing other children and lying like it was my job. I recall my parents confronting me with this stuff over and over again until I was like ten years old and it never made me care. It was just annoying for me to have to keep hearing about it, and for them to be so bothered by my choices. I wanted to be left alone. One trait that followed me throughout my life was being highly antisocial, but I'm not completely devoid of emotions like most people think born-psychopaths are. I have emotions, yet the only ones I really feel intensely are anger and excitement. When I'm angry, boy I'm angry. People have cut me off before for scaring them half to death. Now here's the part that doesn't fit in with my diagnoses...I experience some empathy. It usually pertains to losses. I can empathize with someone who has lost a loved one or a job or a house, whatever. But that empathy is not enough to stop me from taking something from them if I want it...does that make sense? It's like it has an override function in my head. I guess others don't have that. In my eyes I'm just different from other people. They don't seem to get that.

[@daisyburett9967]

Wow this is really interesting!

[@reformerx667]

We get that you are different. But we also get that you are evil (will do us harm if it amuses you or it is useful to you). That is what we don’t want to be around. That is why people leave you. Can you control that part of you?

[@HospitalForSouls.X]

@powdergate Man, you're really invested in this comment, huh?

[@HospitalForSouls.X]

@@reformerx667 I'm not evil, I just don't see other people the way you might see them. To me, people are more like resources. That's the only comparison I'd think to make, since you still need resources but there's really no emotional attachment or sentiment with them. Yes, sometimes I hurt people to get what I want. Like pretending to be someone's friend in order to get their money, and then leaving when that resource runs dry. It's not always about being completely toxic or abusive to people, like selling their location out to a hitman for money. Or taking their life to get access to their spouse. That's what people think I'm out here doing every day.

[@HospitalForSouls.X]

@@reformerx667 PS, I don't get amusement from hurting people. I don't really even think about it much, aside from the fact that I've done it. I can't speak for other psychopaths but for me specifically, it's more like a business transaction than a sadistic endeavor.

[@-cMc-]

Some parents have to worry about there own kid killing them and no officer or law enforcement will help you

[@Psychletts]

I was left homeless for one year because law enforcement ignored me with a child of psychopathy. I’m still in the mist of my crisis living in my vehicle. My adopted son, the true perpetrator planned my exile from home and plotted to kill me. I’m trying to seek help and not ONE HUMAN BEING ON PLANET EARTH IN THE JUSTICE SYSTEM, CPS OR TEXAS CHILDREN HOSPITAL HELPED ME.

[@philspencer6299]

I was the kid, and i got over it like a big boy. As a diagnosed psychopath, who almost killed my brother, I think that any psychopath has a choice as to whether they are like that or not. I was horrible to my family until i was saved by Jesus Christ (not Catholic, Baptist, Catholics are more abusive than this womans kid)). I learned my morals straight from the source, and when i manipulate somebody, or am mean to them in any way, I can realize, and know that this has ramifications, and it is in my best interest to be a good person. I, a psychopath who used to have murderous thoughts, have had many people tell me that i am the nicest person they have ever met.

[@philspencer6299]

I struggle with emotional support, and I sometimes manipulate people, but I have a conviction from God in the form of logical thinking. I think if all psychopaths learned the gospel, it would help them considerably

[@christinamartinez8132]

My daughter was sixteen years old when she and I got into an argument. She attacked me with a knife, stabbing me six times. I didn't press charges and I wouldn't talk to the detective. We got into a bad and very heated argument because she had met an older high school boy that she wanted to move in with us.

[@Badass_Brains]

That's intense! Would you say her psychopathic traits have eased up since then? Lots of children with these traits grow out of it, as it is considered a neurodevelopmental disorder. I hope that is the case for your situation.

[@Tetradepodmelontea]

Lucky it ended differently than in case of Erin Caffey. Teenage aspds are very dsngerous to their parents, but they beed them more to not yo do stupid things.

[@christinetraxler2122]

Totally been there. My daughter tormented me until she decided to leave the home at 15. She is now 42. Nothing has changed and now she says I was a narcissistic mother - something no one, including my other child, can corroborate. It is so lonely. The guilt will probably always be there for me.

[@trudy-annsmall9600]

You are not alone....find your peace and make you happy because sociopaths wont

[@XplusX12345678]

My daughter is showing signs of this and it’s scary to me. What can I do? Can bring my daughter to a psychologist?

[@martinam7806]

If you think it could potentially be psychopathy than psychologist is not enough. You need psychiatrist. They can more precisely evaluate your child’s behavior and rule out potential narcissistic disorder or so. Sometimes it is hard to tell whether it is really psychopathy or other dissociative disorder.

[@sagebias2251]

Document everything.

[@phil1522]

@lavanda_school_of_life TBH-rewarding your son for good behavior (what you want him to be doing) is an effective way to manage early anti-social behavior (conduct disorder) in children with the characteristics. Other than that there really is not much that can be done. But keep trying, good luck.

[@grandmastermario3695]

Growing up being abused definitely makes me have a deep hatred for those who are a born a psychopath, so thank god ill probably never have kids.

[@spring7643]

Same, not having them..

[@meyersonfire]

I guess it's good that the courts gave my psychopathic ex custody of my pscyhopathic daughter after all. Now what to do. My new husband doesn't want her around, because he's seen what I've already been through with her dad, and the patterns of her behavior. She's now an adult, having had a child of her own at age 17. Her baby was the most sweet, amazing, giving, loving, intelligent child I've ever known, but now being raised with her, the child has learned to lie and manipulate. It has been remarkably heartbreaking, to say the least, and now that child has suffered the abuse of the psychopath mother and grandfather.

[@nicolii7321]

I'm in the same boat. My son is turning 11 soon. I've done the best I can with therapies. My poor daughters are absolutely done with my son. I'm done with my son trying to either kill me or my twins or break my house for 3 hours everyday after school. He is always bored and dissatisfied. He is only interested in harming ppl or exciting himself with something extreme. If I tell the school he tries to kill me they laugh thinking I'm being a drama queen karen. Ppl assume that his poor behaviour and swearing at gathering has to do with me feeding him too much junk or me not disciplining him or that we have a dysfunctional home that makes him unhappy. None of this is true. My son only behaves better around my husband because my husband is stronger and he will scream or fight back. In a few years I don't know what I'll do but I'll probably be dead in 10 years from all the stress.

[@oceanhayes1649]

I met a man who I knew was a high functioning psychopath ... And he told me that his own birth mother was very cruel and abandoned him at 15 years old. I don't know what was true and what wasn't... However after witnessing his eruption, and hunting me... After a very small argument. ... I couldn't imagine having a son, who you love...behave that way. The scariest part was that this person knew that I did care about him. I had no idea he was going to randomly turn on me...absolutely no idea.

[@Fabian6980]

It's Interesting how psychopaths develop differently than other psychopaths. Some are very friendly others are violent and bullies and others live in their own world

[@ThePathOfLeastResistanc]

Wow someone who understands…

[@thomashumphrey7395]

I certainly empathize and feel for this woman. It would be an exhausting nightmare to have to wear all those hats and constantly be on the defensive and vigilant at the same time. Such a shitty luck of the draw and effin' scary as hell that this Omen scenario can really happen.

[@36minutesago7]

I say don’t have children, if you and your partner are happy then count your blessings and don’t bother.

[@stellablue7435]

And it never ends for the parent. It is till death do you part. You can't run, hide. They will find you, flush you out.

[@jamespenn5788]

As a parent of a child that had to endure bullying at a private "Christian" school by a child who (had some kind of violent tendencies, BPD) was held back and was much older than his peers. This Bully had been kicked out of public school. This kid who was much older and bigger than his classmates, (the other kids were 10 and he was 13 in the 5th grade) broke a little girl's arm in 2 places who was in 2nd grade. The bully was given 3 days suspension. He pushed my son down so hard I had to take my son to the doctor for x-rays of his tailbone because he couldn't walk or sit down. I called the police and put in a complaint because the school refused to do anything. The school resolved itself from any responsibility for injuries sustained by students onto other students. There were 2 other incidents of violence on my son by this bully to the point a parent told me to get my son out of the school before my son might end up dead. The Bully's mother would actually turn her back and allowed her son to beat up other very small kids and pretend she didn't see it. I had to be the teacher, principal, physiatrist, police, nurse, court recorder, etc... A child with violent mental disorders affects everyone around them NOT just their guardians. Public schools do not discipline mentally violent children that bully others and integrates them with normal healthy children causing great anxiety for otherwise normal healthy children. There needs to be a return back to separate accommodations in schools for mentally violent children and more help with parents of these children. Right now, I and other people where I live are dealing with a mentally violent child who is displaying Psychopathy. The problem in this case and like the one above is that the guardians know and are VERY verbal about the child's antisocial behavior but lie and cover up the 7-year-old child's crimes. This family's behavior affects everyone for blocks in a small town. There is BPD in the parents and grandparents' history. Retaliation is a likely possibility. So once again I have to record everything because a family struggling with mental illness affects the WHOLE community Not just the immediate family.

[@azart686]

I really appreciate what you said because it has been my concern last 39 years . The most difficult situation in life is dealing with a psychopath child. The worst part is parents do ten times more than what you do for normal child and result is nothing.

[@duckzncatz]

...Boys schools, Military school...donate them to Scientology...

[@evaschroeder4020]

The law needs to change! Because what if the teen or child puts the parents at serious risk? If it's severe enough couldn't that be looked at as a disability special needs and the child if the parents can't handle it should be placed with people trained to work with them?

[@oceanhayes1649]

There should be an extra set of hands to help. That's for sure. Like a social worker or a big sister, big brother buddy system type of thing.

[@Cade805]

My younger brother was definitely sociopathic, and he TORMENTED my parents and myself EVERY DAY. And I never really thought about how my parents might have felt about it until just now, because of this video. Wow

[@kaylajoyella7667]

WOW! I never thought of it like that before! Thankyou for that perspective!

[@jacquelinea3358]

I recently watched the movie "We Need to Talk About Kevin." It is a brutal but great fictional illustration of a mother dealing with a psychopathic child. The thing about this boy was he was hateful toward his mom from the time he was a baby. But part of his psychopathy was he would pretend to be "nice" to the father. He also could successfully hide his rotten behavior from doctors. In short, this kid was a nightmare because he was smart, deceitful and SELECTIVELY dangerous. I sympathize with any parent trying to raise an anti social child because there is no escape. You ARE responsible for his/her well-being and behavior. You can't throw up your hands and say "I cant deal with this child." And there are very few effective ways to deal with the situation. What do you do when your child won't stop hitting, lying, yelling, hurting siblings or animals? Punishment doesn't work. I'm sure lots of parents are downright afraid of these children. From what I have read, the most promising treatment is a system of rewards, as opposed to spankings or taking privileges away. But it's hard to see how offering a reward to an 8 year old for NOT punching his sister is a good way to raise a child.

[@phil1522]

A system of rewards is the best way. Anything from an authority stand point fails because by nature anti-social children are driven towards conflict.

[@Badass_Brains]

'the most promising treatment is a system of reward'

[@jacquelinea3358]

@@Badass_Brains Thank you so much for your follow up. You provided some very interesting info. 👍

[@jacquelinea3358]

@lavanda_school_of_life I'm glad you are having some success with your little one.

[@elainemackenzie9651]

My youngest child has extreme anti social type behaviours. He was supposed to go into a six week program to asses him but they deemed it too unsafe. For years I have been trying to get him help. He was finally seen by a forensic psychologist who could not diagnose him with psychopathy because of his age but he did the test on him and he said there were many red flags for the diagnosis in the future. I did not smoke, drink or take drugs whilst pregnant. My child was and is very much wanted since the day I found out I was pregnant. It is weird loving someone so much that you question whether they give one dot of love for you or anyone.

[@hollyharte7831]

This is spot on. I commend you for your bravery in speaking out about this. Thank you 👏

[@Sandra-w5u]

Thank you for the video. I live with my 12 year old autist kid and here in France there is no real help but ignorance. The church said she was demon possesed when she loves rhe Lord a lot! But cannot stand the loud volume they put and the lights. So sas! Now we have to meet at home and online. We are a family home xhurch of 3 menbers: my oldest don, le and my orecious Esther

[@adiabozman9635]

If my kid had psychopathy I'd probably put them up for adoption! As someone with BPD who has an overload of empathy and love I'm not going to take care of a child who abuses me and likes to hurt ppl and animals. I have no kindness for cold hearted or evil people. I hate psychopaths, sociopaths, and narcasists. I'm sorry but I can't ever be around a person like that!

[@thefaultinourstars8729]

Psychopaths are born like that, some are not violent. Sociopaths are made through traumatic events, some can change. Narcissism is a disorder, therapy can help. How dare you despise individuals for things out of their control? Especially the ones who're actively making themselves a better person. If you were overloaded with empathy, you would know that there are good ones out there. Put yourselves in their shoes for once.

[@adiabozman9635]

@@thefaultinourstars8729 someone without empathy or compassion is a very dangerous person! And why would I want to take care of a child that doesn't love me? Better put them up for adoption than hate my child.

[@saumyavig8964]

@@thefaultinourstars8729 psychopaths and sociopaths are not trying to make themselves a better person when they dont feel like the need to do so. Thats literally the whole point of psychopathy, bitches dont care they are selfish lmao. You cant tell people to not stay away from psychopathic individuals, and honestly if someone shames people like these why do you care? I bet they dont give a horses ass to someone else's perception of them as they say lol. The only thing they might feel is anger, why walk on eggshells around these types of people?? Its better to safeguard yourself anyway, your point is a fallacy in itself

[@reformerx667]

@@thefaultinourstars8729 You sound very harsh in your criticism. Everyone has a right to an opinion and this person has clearly expressed her reasons for it, which are perfectly valid. Whatever this comment triggered in you, you need to work on it.

[@Србомбоница86]

You don't have true empathy

[@-cMc-]

The law blames victims

[@MC-wm1ob]

What people don't get is society is made for psychopaths, not normal people. That's why most of them are rich and powerful. The ones in prison are the one who failed.

[@Broody-cq2yl]

Wish my boss’s parents had watched such educative videos decades ago.

[@reformerx667]

Me too :-)

[@BlogofTheW3st]

Jesus! What an exhausting video! It strikes me that the cacophony of experts/personnel who are enlisted to deal with your child are AT LEAST as much of a problem here as your child is. How much thought do you give to getting rid of the lion share of this standing army and just dealing with your child directly?

[@reformerx667]

You have my sympathy. I have personal experience of psychopathic children and they cannot be described as anything other than evil. No amount of love can change them because they don’t have the capability to understand or recognise love. They understand it as weakness and will only attack whoever wants to give them love. So, how can parents help these children? I would like to see more work being done on understanding these conditions in children and giving some guidance on how to parent them.

[@phil1522]

Hey :) Reward and avoid punishment. Punishment has no useful impact, but directing their behavior is the best way towards making it through until they're 18. I'd say there is no 100% successful way to change them early on although I have heard one story of success, "Interview with an evil child" I think? TBH the whole childhood up until their 30's will be one gigantic wrecking ball.

[@reformerx667]

@@phil1522 I believe you are right. It makes me wonder how many children, that were not full blown psychopaths, were through understanding and intelligent parenting developed out of it and went on to lead normal useful lives? We probably never find out that they could have become psychopaths. Whilst others, perhaps difficult cases where parents simply run out of steam and ideas, are destroyed by their own actions. Unfortunately the psychopaths I know have all self-combusted and had destroyed themselves and everyone around them they could reach. Ps I think you are absolutely right about punishment. But how does one make other children in the family safe from them if the psychopathic child is a full blown case?

[@alexvilla5277]

Crazy situation. Feel sorry for her. Psychopaths are completely unloveable as well. Like how is it possible to love someone who is not human and does not feel empathy for people?

[@martinhommel3420]

I have a lot of respect for her seeing things so clearly and not detaching from reality. Parents of psychopathic children often will do anything they can to deny. I have seen it, they will forget about things the children do, they will find explanations that excuse the behaviour. And they will stress how much the child loves its sibling that it abuses. completely detached from reality because it hurts too much. Especially in children that are also autistic, because thats a nice excuse, diagnostic shadow. Like "he doesnt understand what hes doing" as if that makes it any better.

[@grandioso3507]

i think the videos should be longer

[@mz.c.3729]

This is very real. My partners kid has been abusing us for years. He is 15 now and it's getting worse. I have no idea how we will survive another 3 years of this.

[@davidnix1590]

Well, fuck. My elderly parents took in my nephew after my brother died. My parents are his legal guardians. After four months, they couldn't handle him so we took him in. It's been a year and a half of getting nowhere and we've progressed into physical threats, etc.

[@romancetips365]

My brother is a psychopath, I'm pretty sure. Before we used to moderately get along. I used to drive him to the store to get things a few times a week for a couple years because he didn't drive and it was always late at night because that's what he wanted, even though I had to work at 5am. Later on, my brother and I were forced to live together, as we both had no jobs and my parents let him move into their other house a year after I did. During that time they gave us $40 grocery money which we had to spend together and split fairly. One week the grocery money didn't go as far, and my mom said over the phone that we weren't getting any more and that's it. I was doing a workout in my room and when I came out he was cooking all of the food that was left and I thanked him saying I was just about to come up and cook and that was nice of him. In response, he told me I couldn't have any, because he was teaching me a lesson. (His words not mine.) I tried taking some anyway since I was starving after my workout and it all ended up on the floor. Before I knew it, he had me in a headlock and sat on my arms and legs and started strangling me and I couldn't breathe. That went on for about 2 minutes since I couldn't move, and I also couldn't breathe for that long. In a last ditch attempt to survive I managed to free one of my hands and punch him in the temple so he jumped off me to get away from it. But I almost died. And when I called my parents and told them I felt unsafe in the house after that, they dismissed everything and blamed me for trying to take some of the food which I was entitled to. They still to this day dismiss it and tell me that I need to get over it, but since then he has done a lot more to me. He even killed my mom's cats twice by starving them to death after I said to him that I liked one of them. He put a flea bomb in the house when my husband and newborn baby who had breathing issues were sleeping. He told my mom he "didn't know" it would come into our room when it clearly says on the box you need to vacate the house. We woke up in the toxic smog and had to run out of the house as we were in pajamas and with no baby stuff. We couldn't return home for hours and had to buy things like shoes, diapers and food etc. When we barely had any money left, it cost us everything we had. After this I lost my voice and we were really ill for a few days, and my mom spent the day defending it but eventually told him that he should not do that and that it was toxic. Two weeks later he did it again when we were sleeping. He also made sure to run the washer which was above where we slept. Every night he would wash several loads of laundry at random times like 2am, 4am and so on so that we would not be able to sleep. He would also drop small marbles and roll loud things around when we were sleeping. He would stomp and be as loud as possible every few hours, he would also tease the dogs and set them off so they would bark every 20 minutes or so. The only time it was possible to sleep for more than an hour uninterrupted was when he was asleep or away which wasn't much because he only sleeps 4-5 hours a night and doesn't leave the house much. We became sleep deprived because of him and never got a full night sleep for the 2 years we had to live there. My parents said it was ok because he isn't doing it on purpose but he definitely was. Even after being asked to not wash in the middle of the night, he always still would. I had to resort to turning off the breaker so it didn't sound like a helicopter was overhead at 3 in the morning when the washer was spinning over my bed while I was trying to sleep. He put draino down the kitchen sink when he knew it was leaking into my room and when he thought I was asleep. It spilled all over my jewelry and valuables so I had to stay up for hours cleaning them when I was about to sleep for the night. He would hide food items he knew were mine (After I started buying my own food) or take them out of the fridge and put them back in when they went moldy. And I knew because I would thoroughly search the entire fridge and something I needed wouldn't be in there and weeks later it would reappear on a shelf, rotten. Repeatedly. At least several items a week after mentioning them to him or him overhearing me mention them to anyone as being good. I had loaned him my bike and he left it out in the rain for a year after I asked him not to. He also attacked my husband one day right in front of my mom and my son and got him in a headlock and was bending his head back really far and said he was going to snap his neck. My mom says my husband deserved it because he is messy and supposedly said something to my brother to provoke him. And it goes on and on. We even moved out and he came to my house with my parents to bring expired food when he knew because my mom told him I didn't have trash service yet. So he brings me expired food from the fridge most of which isn't even mine, and throws my toothbrush on the floor when he came in to use the bathroom. After this, he keeps going in my room because it's taking me a long time to move my stuff out, and he is doing good knows what to my belongings. He put my stuff in garbage bags and made my mom bring it to my house. Clean things mixed with dirty, laundry mixed with breakables etc and she just dumped this on me and I can't trust that he hasn't thrown away my valuables. He even threw out a bunch of my mom's expensive furniture and people picked it up from the curb last year but she insists he wouldn't do that to my things. When he hates me and is always trying to impress her and gain her favor. Literally nothing stopping him from doing that. I feel violated and what can I do about it? He somehow managed to torment me even after moving out. My mom even acknowledged that he probably killed her cats and she doesn't think it's significant in any way. She still acts like he is some kind of saint. There is a girl he works with who is supposedly getting abused by her family and he wants to move her into my old room, this is the reason he keeps going through my things that are still there. I told my mom that he would not be doing all of that if he didn't want to have sex with her and she got really angry at me and yelled at me saying it's not like that, he's just a good person trying to help. He's always trying to help in her eyes no matter what he does. She gets angry at me any time I try to tell her what he is doing. She just refuses to acknowledge that he is a terrible person.

[@simplyk6965]

Why are you still in contact with your mum and brother? Move far far away before your brother actually manages to….. why on Earth would you allow him around your child?

[@romancetips365]

I do live far away from him now. Far enough that coming to my house would be a waste of his time. As for the girl, they ended up having sex, then getting married and she is pregnant and due in November. I find this worrying to be honest.

[@romancetips365]

I don't know, I love my mom. I try to keep contact with my ex brother as little as possible.

[@romancetips365]

Also it turns out that the girl, I'll call her "Jane" has quite a lot of money that she is letting my brother "manage". My dad told me about that one he said my brother let it slip. And he has been saying he doesn't have any money for ages. My mom is staying quiet about it even when I bring it up. However my mom told me that "Jane" wets the bed occasionally just like he does. She seemed ok so far but who knows maybe she is a psychopath too.

[@rosa9251]

What you must have been trying to say was that “the law” such as CPS will remove siblings because they would be considered “at risk” of harm by the sibling with psychopathy. Also, if anything happened to them, the parents would be charged with “negligence” or “failure to protect”.

[@JJDigitalartStudio]

My daughter is a sociopath. Has been since she was little. She learned how to speak and then to lie in one week. She is very good at lying. She knows what hurts and does it twice. She has kept my youngest grandchild from me since 2-19. She was 9 then and a teen now. She was a beautiful girl with big brown eyes and sweet smile and now she wants to be a boy. She calls herself Max. My daughter probably encouraged this behavior. My oldest granddaughter is schizophrenic. That was inherited but not from us. From the father. My daughter had 3 girls by 3 different fathers and she raised them mostly away from us. She has moved so many times I never knew where she was. She ghosted me for years. Last year my husband, her dad, had a heart attack. She called him once. I text her. But she only texts her dad when she wants more money. We must have given her over 50K over the years to keep her and my grandchildren in a place to live. For a while she lived with us. Her second child got pregnant at 17 and my daughter made her keep the baby but never took her to any prenatal visits. She ended up with preeclampsia and had to have a C section. She wanted to give the baby to her MIL. She never married the father. She never did anything around the house. The did not do wash or cook or clean. She hated the child and she looks just like me. Thank God I get to be in her life. Her mother, my granddaughter abandoned her in 2022. The baby dad got a new woman. Sam left her clothes and her daughter and sold the trailer we bought them so they would have a place to live. She kept all the money for herself even though I begged her to give the dad some child support money. She sold her rights of parenthood to him for a VR headset. This is the person my daughter raised. Really bad genes from the father of the middle one. A mental case. Sam never had a chance to be normal. Truth is they do not know what causes this. Was it my fault? Did I do anything wrong while gestating? Did I do something wrong after? How do these "bad seeds" happen. My husband says it is just her. But I saw disturbing things while she was growing up. My husband passed them off as a phase. NOT A PHASE. She was better during her first pregnancy. Maybe the hormones changed her. There is no deep study into sociopathy. She is not violent but she is cunning and cold and cruel. The dad of my great granddaughter will not allow her to see the little one. She showed her true colors the first month after the baby was born. They learned not to trust anything she said or did. Thank God I have that one in my life. Family is everything. We raised them in the church and in Christian school. She was what she was.

[@nessybessy2531]

I’m so thankful for this video because I feel seen 😢

[@lemonsock68]

Holy crap I've never had another human being describe in such detail everything that we have just gone through with our daughter to whom is now 24 years old and pregnant herself. Oh my God this is exactly to the t what we went through every word is true every word is exact

[@legalizefreedom4014]

And when they became adults, I left. I couldn’t take the abuse anymore and they weren’t finished heaping it in. So I saved myself.

[@jessebelanger9753]

I've never considered this before. My heart goes out to people in this situation. God speed.

[@ReneKaplowitz]

I'm pretty sure one of my 5 year kindergarten students is a psychopath. I absolutely do not blame the parent. I see her other children who are sweet and well behaved and they come the same home.

[@MC-wm1ob]

People forget that psychopathy is not the worse and doesn't mean evil. Real thing to be afraid of is someone who have feelings and all but has been so destroyed that it only seeks revenge on humanity. Why is it worse? Because it knows how to strike hard and it knows suffering. That's true evil, you embrace it.

[@LizSmith-cp5nt]

I felt that in my soul

[@Julie-si3hi]

This is very insightful, I have a friend whose child is very much like this,I've often wondered if this is the case🤔

[@Badass_Brains]

Is your friend concerned by the behaviour as well? I think a lot of parents make excuses for it and often don't want to admit to themselves that their child is showing disturbing behaviour.

[@tablescissors]

Tyvm for sharing this brutally honest confession (although it still exhibited empathy).

[@celestebowen5648]

I feel this deeply. I am in the midst of this with my 14 yr old right now, and you know what the CPS head of department told me yesterday? "Good luck. I hope you find some help." I literally am desperate to find ANY help before something terrible happens.

[@arin.000]

if my mom ever said something like that i wouldnt forgive her. how dare she blame her kid for thr way they are? its not their fault either because it is nobody's fault , thats just the status quo and whether you interpret it as negative or positive it doesnt mean someone is to blame.

[@RowenaSnow-px3jg]

I cant imagine mych worse than being a parent of a psychopathic child.

[@MyRedCarrot]

This is a difficult topic... I was in the understanding that psychopaths are not born, they are made. Or how did the child just turn into a psychopath? Just born that way? I have hard time believing that a child raised in a loving and healthy home would just "be a psycho" by nature. Maybe it happens in some rare occasions, I don't know... But if a child starts to show "questionable" behavior (hurting other children etc.) the reason (most often) are the parents/upbringing. To be frank, not all parents are good at parenting but we don't want to admit that. Some parents are actually horrible. But if the parents are in denial (which happens usually if the parents are narcissistic) it is easier to blame the child than look into yourself and take responsibility. Having lived with a psycho dad and (covert) narc mom they were constantly blaming their children and projecting their own problems onto us. Therefore watching videos like this makes me go "hmm..." and wonder what's behind all this.

[@w1o8n6]

Psychopaths are born that way, they don't have real life fun. They don't feel life

[@Truth-4-Humanity]

Agree. This woman is playing victim for sympathy. It's all about her and how she has been affected. Absolutely no inward reflection or searching if there were things she did that may have contributed to her child's development, and if there is another approach she could take that works (there is...rewarding positive behavior instead of harsh punishment for negative behavior, loving them and reflecting back to them their positive traits and helping them to love themselves and feel worthy, and not labeling them as all bad). No concern for how to help her child. Yes it would be exhausting trying to help a child like this, but if you love them, you leave no stone unturned, including looking inward which she is not willing to do (narcissistic).

[@booooo1881]

As someone who has a dad who tortured animals as a kid. A mom diagnosed with NPD and a sister with ASPD. I pray my child with be empathic

[@spring7643]

Expect the worst and plan for the worst

[@loganoga6170]

But you are responsible.

[@carmabirch8451]

I am sorry for your pain and suffering. I wish there was an easy answer to solve this to everyone’s benefit . To wake up everyday and wonder what fresh new hell awaits you is soul destroying. God Bless You.

[@AndreeaCe]

1. The law steps in, after they turn the legal age, until then, juvenile prison. 2. In some cases the parents are the enablers, are also psychopaths or a combination of psychopaths and narcissists. Had a classmate in middle school that would beat his mother, his mother could bearly do something about it, they had an older son also. The abuziv behaviour was due to at least one parent being abuziv towards another, in this case their father beating their mother.

[@jimcunningham-p2s]

Thank you my daughter is 26 I can't begin to describe what I went through She took over my entire life I was left friendless at 11 they put a tracking bracelet on her I had to meet with 5 people a week while trying to raise her brother and sister EVERYONE BLAMES ME STILL! She is dangerous BUT IT GET BETTER!!! She has above average IQ Oh yes!!!! Yup so at age 49 now I'm broke I couldn't work She was such a strain it spit my marriage What is my daughter now doing? Oh she's highly intelligent so she manipulates and she flys through college classes at community college She mimics being a that would leave her own kid to die if she could get away with now that she's fine with their dad I know her Her siblings are not capable of seeing what I see She puts on and ACT She takes lots of perfect pictures for face book She spits everyone apart she wants everyone spilt DEVIDE AND CONQUER I wish to God I didn't get pregnant that month I love my kids unconditionally my son's and other daughter Doesn't matter if they do this or that I still love them But my oldest is not human in many ways

[@StephiBauduhin]

so sorry you’ve been through so much. I hope the tides turn for you.

[@Ajesen]

Differs from a person to person, this is just how it is in her case. I have the diagnosis but i have a great relationship with my mother. Appareantly as a kid the only thing that was negative was lying and manipulation, but wasnt a pain in the ass like the child mentioned in this video. I think for most psychopaths, just be nice to them and dont pose as a problem. Most of us arent violent and out to harm people, our thinking is mostly rational and logical. Have a good day

[@MMAengineer]

u r not a psychopath, believe me

[@MMAengineer]

my neighbour has a young, little child and just last week, a tiny dog approached her to play and she straight up murdered the dog and continued playing with him right after. she showed 0 reactions to her parents screams

[@soupperson280]

@@MMAengineer most psychopaths aren't violent

[@Peanuts76]

@@MMAengineer many psycho are not violent

[@bassaddict1988]

@@MMAengineer reminds me of a movie with McCauley Culkin.

[@TwiceTheASMR]

My oldest son scares me. He’s only 7 and I’ve done everything I can but he just smiles about it like he’s not doing anything wrong

[@spawnwear301]

Hope your kid doesn’t see this when they get older. Gonna have a target on your back.

[@tobee_go_brrr]

i'm pretty certain my 14 year old brother is a psychopath. he's got zero remorse for anybody or anything, and prior to being removed from the house, he was beating the crap out of me and my mom for years. he was stealing large sums of money and items to sell. he sold important family items that we all used just because he could. like you said, the cops never did anything. neither did cps. well, actually, cps said, "oh, well, maybe you should consider removing the other kids from the house" instead of looking at my brother and recognizing that he needed to be removed or just. anything. my mom has exhausted herself in researching about psychopathy and trying to find treatment for him, but she's really come up with nothing. it's been 3 years since my little brother got removed from the house to live with my dad instead, and we recently got told that he's going to get sent back to us. i'm 18 now, so i have more options when it comes to taking care of myself, but i'm *freshly* 18. i don't have a job, a driver's license, or my highschool diploma quite yet (but i graduate on the 7th of june) and i'm terrified because of how limited my options are without any of those things. i have severe ptsd from the things he would put me through and i've been falling apart at the thought of having to see him again. i empathize with you to the highest degree. i'm so sorry you've had to go through the things you've had to.

[@kristalcampbell3650]

In terms of support, strategies and resources, what do you recommend those caring for your child do better?

[@lilaozean8652]

This is something I am currently dealing with and I also described it as being in a bad relationship only worse because you can leave. It is truly awful. As you mentioned the law won't do anything the courts won't do anything and you are made to feel like you are the problem... Even with plenty of documentation and the cops being called several times and her therapist trying to help and be like something needs to be done here I'm still looked at like I'm the problem and told there is nothing they can do. I've been physically attacked several times a week, she threatens to kill me almost daily and tells me how she is going to do it and laughs in my face as says it it me.. And there is literally nothing that I can do about it. I am so sorry for the others going through this as well my heart goes out to you all

[@oceanhayes1649]

Strange... I've met a child with psychopathy and I didn't witness any of this behaviour... Then again, his father is quite a scary fellow so... Maybe he has more discipline than others?

[@kittygirl0872]

Give up the child to cps

[@christinabingham1477]

Fairly certain it can happen because of a neurodivergent issue so it needs more medical awareness of this issue as well.

[@JoyFay]

Psychopaths are not neurodivergent

[@sarahlamb2333]

Be careful whom you have a child with is one of the ways to try to avoid this.. lack of empathy can be passed on which quite often is anti social personality or other cluster b,but beyond that other relatives genetics can have an impact too ie grandparents etc

[@LMCEK]

You don't have a child with psychopathy because that diagnosis is not given to children. Maybe you have a child with ODD. I think these parents need to adopt the adult-child label if the person is age 18+

[@phil1522]

Conduct Disorder is the correct diagnosis under 18.

[@laylatang6081]

Your point is true, technically. However, to receive the diagnosis at 18, those behaviors and other problems typically have had to be present for many years. How is it fair to say a 17-year-old has ODD, but months later, upgrade the diagnosis to psychopathy? That means it was ALWAYS psychopathy all along. “Experts” are simply afraid to give that label to kids and teens, and that leads to a lack of early-intervention measures that could have been life-changing. It also leads to so much unnecessary suffering for parents like the mother in this video - and me as well. My struggle is similar to what she’s describing and trust me when I say it is taking years off our lives.

[@LB-uo7xy]

Any attempted murders yet towards you, the parents and/or siblings? Just curious.

[@ach4049]

how about sign relinquishment of paternity? You actually can get awwy with your kid legally.

[@iamonline3221]

I love this mom, I feel so sorry for here, it's not her fault, she's a true sweetheart but I can feel the f pain.

[@praveenpakianthan363]

Did you check if you are having NPD?

[@realalexesparza]

Yup yup! It's tough! Just got to move forward one minute at a time. Good luck to all of us stuck in this shitty boat. Hugs extended to anyone that needs one.

[@matilda6621]

Even a psychopath wouldn’t actively abuse someone they love, obviously YOU as the parent treated said child with unfairness to make the child want revenge.

[@paraynikisku]

She is an aware parent. She realises the difficulties with her child. So, it is somehow manageable on her side, well, to some extent it is. But imagine the parents who encourage this behaviour and i have seen so many parents laughing it off thinking this menacing behaviour of the child is funny. I guess, sometimes a blame is directed to them in general but sadly because of the population of such parents being more, sadly parents like her also have to face the wrath and unfortunately there is no control over it. Only thing that can be done is to talk openly about these issues during Parent-teacher meetings!

[@amycalifornia3615]

I’m going through this right now my son killed our cat the cops put him in the mental hospital for only 3 days and are demanding I pick him up or I can go to jail……. I don’t know what to do

[@acatonceattackedmeandscrat6302]

You can do it girl!

[@mathildaflower2388]

Parents are responsible

[@Axvuif3r]

How? Psychopaths are born not made

[@mathildaflower2388]

​@@Axvuif3rwe can debate weather they are born or made, but it's more than likely that both genetics AND environment play a role. By keep on playing the victim, we are not doing anything to change the child's behaviour. We shouldn't just say they are that way and there's nothing we can do about it. Parents and society have a responsibility to help that child, we also have to protect other children and siblings and such from that child. They are still a child which means they still have hope. Put that child into therapy, seek help, there are plenty of child therapists and behavioural psychologists that are willing to help. It's not about blaming. It's about tackling the issue rather than ignoring it, or just putting it down to a child's genetic make up

[@a.bielski]

This is a older video and im not sure you wull see this comment. My eldest daughter, needs to be in jail for the crap shes put me through. I was 7 weeks pregnant, and she threw me on the tiled floor while arguing, i lost the baby😢 she thinks she done me a favour as i was 45 at the time. I never got over it, but she made sure id never want to bring it up to anyone. No remorse at all, its been painful and so lonely 🥺