What It's Like to Be ADHD and Black

[@PinkyToeThief]

Before I even watch this video, I just want to say I teared up seeing the thumbnail and title. As a black girl who's been misunderstood for all 20 years of my life, I never thought I'd ever see a video like this in my subscription feed. Thank you.

[@HowtoADHD]

this comment alone makes all the work that went into this worth it

[@saramyles4750]

Right same!!!!! Bruhhhh this is powerful

[@AUnicorn666]

I teared up seeing how much this means to you, I'm glad this helped you so much

[@promethea79]

Same here Sis ...same here. Take care❤🤟🏿

[@elleinad579]

big crunchy You took the words straight from my mouth. I have sought for so long on KZbin for resources like this amplifying black voices in mental health. @HowtoADHD I truly appreciate you using your platform that already helps so many folks with ADHD to amplify these voices that are so fundamentally important and so rarely heard at this volume. 🙏🏽

[@clayb.9766]

I'm a Black man and I've struggled with severe inattentive ADHD my entire life. Before diagnosis, earning my degree felt like crawling over broken glass toward a goal that was seemingly always *just* out of my grasp. I thought I was stupid; I believed I was lazy and incompetent. About two years ago, my therapist, in an attempt to help me better understand what I was up against, emailed me a link to KZbin channel that was dedicated to ADHD and how to live alongside it. I've been watching these videos and attempting to implement these skills and new thinking ever since. Eventually, I earned that degree and even landed a job working for the first Black Mayor of Saint Paul, MN. I cannot overstate how significant and deeply validating it is to see other Black men and women facing what I'm facing. My sincere ask is that you continue to raise up people of color and allow more people to experience what I just did. Representation matters. Thank you for sharing these stories, Jessica.

[@HowtoADHD]

Thank you for sharing yours!

[@nicko1ai427]

Ya adhd feels like your brain is goop sometimes. Also constantly distracting

[@Giancarlo_1997]

I also have struggled with bad undiagnosed or noticed Inattentive ADHD my who life until I was 21. 2 years after high school graduation and 12 years of severe bullying for my differences challenges difficulties etc I’m Latino I also have learning disabilities and a communication disorder never understanding why I had to get bullied all 12 years 1-12 I thought all I was what they called me a slow learner also what my parents had explained to me at young age but no one Especially me knew I had ADHD and Social communication disorder.

[@myaebanks1121]

Black woman with ADHD-C here! Sending you lots of love! I was in the same boat but I’m getting back on track. I was diagnosed at 25 a few months ago (26 now!). I went most of my life thinking that I’m stupid. I still struggle with that. I failed school so many times, thought I couldn’t do anything right. My gpa was so low they had to take me out of my degree program and place me in a certificate program. If I raise my gpa to a 2.5, I can be eligible to be placed back into my degree program. I ended up bringing my gpa to a 3.33. Now I can go back into my degree program! Thanks to my meds and creating my own schedule, I got my shit together lol.

[@vicky266]

Thank you for sharing your story!

[@ahmedoluwa3684]

As a nigerian, the hardest part was that the people doing the labelling were my parents

[@pilgrimressurection]

🇳🇬 ADHD Nigerians will have a voice in this generation

[@princess-yy5gl]

Yep, i'm dealing with that rn as a ADHD nigerian *sighs*

[@jeditalez]

Same for me, but i'm carribean

[@richmadr]

Parents and of course other family members. It’s very hurtful. Constantly hearing the shady comments from everyone.

[@inTuned00]

African parents often use insults as a shaming tactic to motivate their children to do better. They have no clue how detrimental it is especially when you have little control over your circumstances. At least now we have the internet for easy access to solidarity. 🇬🇭

[@lee-sq6ob]

Black girl with ADHD here who would not have survived grad school without this channel. FYI, also, both Solange and SZA have ADHD! So black women with ADHD, we're in great company. Don't underestimate your own brilliance. 💕💕

[@dctrbrass]

I fought through grad school w/ no social life, not knowing I had a problem. I wish I would've known about ADHD sooner.

[@earthtoinez]

Solange and SZA ❤️

[@kendallwashington7009]

i did NOT know Solange and SZA had ADHD and that really validates bc i love them

[@josephwilliams234]

In grad school now with ADHD and it's such a struggle. But patience and self-compassion has taken me far. I'm glad you survived it! ❤️

[@anonymouse7079]

Damnnnnn GRAD SCHHHOOOLLLL!!??? AHHHHHH IM SO PROUD OF YOOOUUUUU!!! I'm trying to finish my bachelors and Im 6 years in and wanna quit and I just realized Im missing the deadline before the requirements for credentialing/registration requirements change and Im gonna need a masters!!! AHHHHHH I CANT IMAGIIIINNNE how hard that coulda been!! Do you have any advice for me? Also now I need to look that up lol I love knowing about famous people/idols/role models/leaders with similar struggles and letting myself or others believe that anything is possible (you are now an official role model of mine too though fyi just cuz.... GRAD SCHOOL OMG!!!!) What did you study? Sorry if I'm pestering cx

[@frequencyreached]

I’m not even 2 minutes into this video and I’m tearing up because I feel less alone dealing with this. I didn’t get diagnosed until I was 30 because Black girls are under diagnosed. This made life so much harder. Ugh I can’t explain the joy it gives me know there are other that look like me and have the same experiences.

[@deeh9563]

With you! I wasn’t diagnosed until after 40. Hang in there!

[@JasmineJohnson]

Same! But I got diagnosed in 2nd grade ( I’m 17)

[@kimifur]

I was diagnosed at 35. It's hard enough without the overcomplication of race... I can't even imagine. Sending you big hugs!

[@kimturner282]

I have been ADHD my whole life I was always labeled as bad. I found out when I was about 36 after speaking with a therapist. Life was hard. Is hard. My job does not respect my disability and I find myself with more depression and anxiety because I’m expected to perform at a level that is beyond my means. I love this channel and Jessica. I completely had the same reaction as you

[@kurogorudo6089]

Your never alone,I with you and you w/me ✊😤

[@AUnicorn666]

Jessica: "I wanted to Include more but it would have honestly been 5 hours long" Me: 5 HOURS OF THIS? GIMME!

[@lyndabethcave3835]

Yes! I would so watch more of this.

[@marissa4603]

I was thinking the same thing!

[@yay-cat]

make a series!

[@vicky266]

I would love to watch more of this! Truly fantastic. As a counselor and future counselor educator we need more videos like this! Keep up the fantastic work that you do. It is invaluable!

[@lizl1407]

Yes, please publish all five hours!

[@smrobot1]

Thank you. I am tears. As an African American man I feel alone with these issues. Glad to hear that I am not alone. It’s been real hard these past few months. Thank you

[@HowtoADHD]

*hugs* and tissues. You are seen and loved.

[@smrobot1]

How to ADHD thank you

[@sheriasha18]

As an Afro- Guyanese, I Thought I was alone too.

[@essnjora9904]

😭😭

[@vtecnegro85]

You aren't alone bro!

[@mayanightstar]

"literally forgot I had an ADHD diagnosis" THAT IS SUCH AN ADHD MOOD THOUGH

[@kaylaeubanks9313]

💀💀💀

[@THEPEERPATH]

Same lol

[@indierock79]

I was her. It’s like I lived a parallel life.

[@msbrownsuga]

Right?!? It didn’t resonate until it was urgent, which may sometimes be too late.

[@funicon3689]

i forgot for about a decade 😅

[@lance5271]

I would 100% watch a 5 hour version of this. No question about it.

[@tiffanyhoward127]

Right?? Like that's my whole Sunday right there.

[@2ndbrain909]

I can second that.

[@KNDY_NTWRK]

Please make 5 hour special

[@nonamegirl2.71]

Me too! Please! Make a 5 hour version!

[@ESP4000000]

I would also watch a 5 hour of this, much love out there to everyone, and stay strong

[@AUnicorn666]

Jessica: "we will be donating all proceeds throughout july to organizations that specifically benefit mental health and the black community" Me: proceeds to play her videos all the time for the rest of the month

[@caseyf6]

Right? I made a mental note of which ones would be repeated. Including this one.

[@vasvism]

@ Everyone - don't forget to turn off ad block!

[@renegarza9]

This is really cool. In Latino culture, ADHD and mental illness is not taking seriously. I was told that It’s all just in your head and my experience was never taken seriously of given the attention it deserves. That’s why this channel is so valuable to people who live in cultures like that. Thank you for using your platform to be more inclusive! We need more of this in the world

[@bookhuggah]

I say to folks like that, just because it’s in my head don’t make it less real. Yeah it’s from Dumbledore to Harry Potter, and I don’t like the author much, but it’s an accurate way since it is a brain thing.

[@TheParaxore]

@@bookhuggah if people are having a hard time understanding i like to show them the brain scans of a neurotypical vs ADHD brains. The difference is REAL

[@alejajm1666]

I know! When my brother and I got diagnosed my mum just said "everyone has that these days, it's because of cell phones". However, my psychiatrist thinks it's very likely that both my parents have it.

[@josneaka4866]

100% My siblings and I are 1st gen born in the US, and we're only really learning about mental health now as adults. And honestly the most accessible and comprehensive fountain of information I've found regarding ADHD has been this very channel. Not only has it been incredibly helpful from an informative aspect, but it has taught me to be gentle with myself and that I shouldn't feel shame for having the brain that I have. ❤️

[@bitterbunn1831]

honestly i feel you, if it wasnt for my US boyfriend i would never find out i had adhd (he has it to) and i would have live a never ending depression and rejection/disapproval/disappointment from friends and family

[@RubixPsyche]

The visual of ADHD being "white boys only" hurts those that don't fit that visual. So far we've seen either the gender or age difference preventing people from being diagnosed and recieving help, so I'm incredibly happy that we now have a video addressing how *race* also affects this. Exposure and spreading awareness can only help us, those of us that have been diagnosed, and those that have yet to.

[@alisonbarlow7836]

Very true

[@comingsn2519]

Exactly one reason we didnt pursue diagnosis w me coming up. Plus the whole we dont trust drs or like being labeled. We will get that whole problem child vibe

[@bl8388]

Many in the white community chastise us with ADHD. They call us lazy and immature for having ADHD. Had a teacher who would scream at me when I zoned out. This happened constantly. ADHD is a challenge. Keep finding people who support you. Thanks for your input.

[@heedmydemands]

​@@bl8388that seems crazy that happened to a kid at school, if that happened to me I don't think I would've been back or at least not in a way that involved being healthy in my head

[@Kpop0223]

As someone who just discovered this channel and a possible diagnosis, this couldn't have come at a better time.

[@psluxton]

Welcome to the tribe! As Jessica says. I, myself, was a late discoverer of my Neuro-Diversity. I found out at 38y/o. No diagnosis - doctors just accepted and ignored me, then it disappeared as far as they are concerned and they put it out of mind. I spent 38 years having difficult times and people being dismissive, if not hostile, due to my strange ways. Now I know myself, found myself, and found this channel soon after and my understanding blossomed. Now my life is much simpler if not easier. I've changed my perceptions on interactions with the people who just don't know or understand, so I no longer feel hurt from those moments, just sigh and try again. I have adapted to my capabilities, limits, and adopted new methods to achieve my goals - attainable goals. I hope your path through discovery brings you a little peace of mind and a glimmer of hope to see you through the hardships too. ❤ to u!

[@CoffinKid1]

So were you diagnosed?

[@cg0883]

welcome to the brains

[@Kpop0223]

@@psluxton Thank you! I'm also discovering how my brain works, and it's fascinating. It's also interesting rethinking my relationships with my family members who may have passed it down to me.

[@Kpop0223]

@@CoffinKid1 Not yet, but I have an appointment booked! 😊

[@priyas9751]

I have adhd and aspergers and I'm so happy you're having this conversation with the black community. Maybe one day you can have this talk about neurodiversity in the Asian American community

[@user-ej8bd5fe7o]

i second this!

[@mariecarie1]

And the Hispanic community! I’d love learn more how these issues affect everyone across all ethnicities!

[@bsneed7150]

Absolutely

[@wl415]

Yess

[@insertnamehere3971]

adhd and nvld so basically a similar scenario lol

[@aliyaha8375]

when she said “how many streets am i at the intersection of?” that hit hard man

[@jocelynthomas1620]

Same. I share all the same intersections and it is exhausting.

[@rosalieholder154]

Agreed!

[@DeleLowman]

Same!!

[@jacquelinevictoria6372]

This is a fantastic example of how white creators can leverage their platforms to elevate the voices and experiences of POC. Great stuff as always, Jessica!

[@HowtoADHD]

thank you!! We really tried! Everyone in the video was so incredible, too.

[@katiedettman8574]

YES

[@FeelTheRainOnYourSkin]

Please keep it up! I still matters a year later and always.

[@ashleyc5790]

This!!

[@iNelzy]

Agreed 👍🏽 wholeheartedly

[@mr_mykal]

I didn't even think to think I had ADHD my whole life because I always did pretty well in school, until I hit a wall in my third year of college. I didn't even realize all the support systems I had set up before then, and they all came tumbling down because I didn't have any close friends in my classes anymore, didn't have my parents to rely on for reminding me and keeping me accountable either, and I just spiraled because I was too afraid to reach out to help from my counselors or professors. It was then I found Pina's ADHD comics and your videos and went, "uh oh", when I resonated with me, I took a couple (several, really) online evaluations, and I've just been kinding ignoring them all telling "uh, you really should get that checked out" because I'm incredibly afraid I don't have ADHD and I'm just and lazy, flakey, and have no passion. I struggled so hard with this because I've always been incredible insecure about my intelligence and struggled with being "amazing" because it felt like it was the only way to be perceived as valuable as a black person.

[@wnterbird2976]

Isn't it strange how college really pulls it out? I feel like so many people miss it, then in the middle of college learn they have ADHD. Just an observation I've discovered quite a bit.

[@wowledgend]

I had to drop out of college despite breezing through grade school. I feel you on this one.

[@liliespetals19]

Are you familiar with Gifted Child Syndrome? Lots of adults who were successful pre-college identify with it. I've got no tips but awareness is the first step.

[@GLesbihonest]

Damn. I feel like you have typed my life.

[@Yourbreakthroughcoach]

This is me. I’ve held back on going doctor because I feel like it’s just me not doing a good enough job. I’m going to start the process to get diagnosed. I’ve always performed well in school but could never and still don’t do well with any of the time management and attention . I’m just now realizing I’ve been overcompensating my entire life for these issues. No matter how much I try using planners and such, I still cannot attend very long 😭.

[@tbaby9937]

This made me cry, as a black female it’s hard because black culture just doesn’t recognize ADHD

[@CourtneyandHermess]

Or they refuse to believe it

[@CoachCoreyQueen]

Hi Everyone! I just want to publicly tell Jess and her team at How to ADHD for asking me to be apart of this life changing video. I was and am still so flattered, honored and humbled to be apart of this video with these INCREDIBLE and AMAZING people. I also wanted to thank each and everyone of you for your sweet and kind comments to the video (I have been trying to read and like each and every one). I am so glad that this video is helping so many people so we realize that we are NOT alone. One Love.

[@MakaykayLAMB]

The girl who started talking about being loud and when she's passionate about something she just sounds angry... I'm about to burst into tears because this is literally MY LIFE. At one of my jobs i was constantly being picked on for this... "You don't smile enough".

[@TheErikaShow]

I deal with that as well.

[@thechrisnicolas]

This is what being an ally looks like. Using your platform to boost voices in the black community and I'm grateful of the way you handled it! Super proud of you and your team!

[@PinkyShear]

I cannot thank you enough for this video. I work in prison support. The cultural disbelief of ADHD in black and indigenous communities has directly contributed to the amount of children in youth detention centers. Untreated ADHD is a huge factor in the school to prison pipeline.

[@Tigtuohy]

It has been estimated at least 50% of the peeps inside have undiagnosed mental health issues and especially ADHD!

[@heedmydemands]

That is so sad, it's breaking my heart

[@autobotdiva9268]

YESSSSSSSSSSS......THAT PART

[@DivaTKG]

I was diagnosed in 6th grade. My parents allowed my doctor to put me on medication and put me through counseling. My grades improved and so did my behavior. However once I got in 8th grade and we moved from the city to the suburbs, my parents made the decision to take me off the medication and cancel the counseling sessions. It was almost as if someone told them that if my environment changed, I would be ok. Sure enough my grades suffered and for a couple of years, I was put in the low level classes. I was put on punishment for entire semesters because of my low grades and behavior. I struggled academically all through High School and college. It took me 10 years to finish college and that was after I remembered I was diagnosed with ADHD as a child and my doctor put me back on a low dose of the medication. I often resent my parents for making the decision that they did, but I trying to pass that.

[@saramyles4750]

I am literally in TEARS Thank u thank u thank u, for giving them a platform to tell their stories, My Stories, My Families stories. I cant begin to express how much this video means to me. As a black neuro diverse woman I've struggled with finding others in my community who are comfortable with having the conversations. Not only do I feel like I'm not alone but I have a tool I can send to family to start the conversation! We are HERE!

[@veronicaaragon8610]

"Literally forgot about my ADHD diagnosis" the most ADHD thing I've ever heard

[@MBXGill]

Word up

[@lunchtimeliz3699]

Let’s talk about it! I’m in the middle of trying to figure my ADHD out, I feel like an alien most of the time. I’m learning to love all my ADHD flaws. Black people NEVER want to talk about mental health, they just ignore it.

[@olol9084]

I feel you on feeling like an alien. Even having friends and seeming pretty normal,on the inside you are not right,and when young never really know why or how to explain it,and probably avoid thinking about it as much as possible.

[@mariee.5912]

I worked with black American and Hispanic children and many parents were very afraid thst their children would get another label. 😕 As a parent I understand because not even schools administration are educated enough to support really children.

[@AmilRoc]

If need someone to talk to. I'm here because sometimes talk to my friends and family. Its always give it to God. But God also said you have to help yourself, as for me.. I have learned to fight back because I'm special and God put me here for a reason and it wasn't a punching bag!!! PeriodT...

[@girlmetoo6467]

Yessss 😩 this made me feel so good I thought I was the only one !!

[@fanofallaroundaudreyandjus544]

Don’t worry I understand I am also in middle school and have ADHD I do feel like a alien sometimes. Teachers sometimes don’t help me even though I really need it a lot. I have gotten bullied because I acted weird. People stare at me because I am doing stuff with my hands so I understand you it’s ok.

[@m.janski]

"I didn't have to fake that I was okay" that one hit me hard.

[@lassandrasmith8655]

Yea that comment is the part that choked me up.

[@heedmydemands]

I had that feeling sort of in a homeless shelter because the people there don't put as much effort into putting on the show of being fine, it was a relief to feel there's nothing to fear by just seeming however I felt

[@Travieso8]

It’s crazy how much overlap there is between the black community and my experience as a Mexican-American.

[@lucymendoza6339]

I was just thinking that.

[@kaylynn6394]

I'm hispanic and absolutely feel the same way. Mental health is so stigmatized and shunned in hispanic communities as well.

[@kimmontenegro2258]

I basically misled my father when I needed him to complete a questionnaire for my diagnosis. Sad thing is that I believe that he too has ADHD. My thought to is even if he did get diagnosed, where would he go for for help since his insurance has limited options for Spanish speaking mental health providers.

[@MBXGill]

Yeah, out communities approach to mental health are very similar

[@kasaijinloe8524]

we're always more alike than we know !!

[@amandadiamond7147]

Hearing him say his first thought was "my wife and kids know that I love them" literally broke my heart and filled me with rage at the same time.

[@youtubingbabs]

Me too. Been there as a woman jogging being followed by men in cars. Never an on duty cop. You text your friend or sister your route and if you don't hear from me by this time.... The threateniing leer. I say this to point out common ground not as a competition. My pain isn't the same but It's real. And that's how I can say I know his is too. It's disgusting to be stalked like prey. Unacceptable by anyone to anyone. It's sickening tp be used to feeling afraid!!! And realize there's others who don't have to live that way. But there's freedom in realizing it too!

[@eleaseroberson4243]

@@youtubingbabs That's a perfect example in my opinion. The pit in your stomach that happens when a random guy is following you and you're alone, is what I feel every time I see a cop following me. It doesn't matter if I did anything wrong, if I anything bad happens to me, the narative portrayed will be that I asked for it or did something to deserve it.

[@rileyluver16]

I just want all these people to know that you have been heard, and your are loved, and you are beautiful. Your struggles are valid, and you are all rockstars for making it through. You got this.

[@TwinMama828]

Thank you so much

[@JuneStay]

Mental health is really something that is hushed within the black community. I’m seeing a psychologist next week for an assessment for inattentive adhd. The older I get the harder life becomes. So I’m looking forward to getting my life into order! 🙋🏽☺️ thank you so much for making this video! I really appreciate how you’ve used your platform so well! You’re incredible! 🙏🏽😆💖✨✨✨

[@kittycat3638]

Same, I just kept trying medicine and ignoring it bc I was too young to know that there was another option. Now I'm signed up for executive functioning tutoring.

[@PercivalBlakeney]

Hiya June. I'm going to go out on a limb by saying this but... M. Scott Peck says something very simple; if you can't afford traditional therapy you can, the very least, go along to meetings of AA. Speaking from experience, I can only advise you to investigate this further. It's cheaper than a movie and there's free coffee. Seriously.

[@goodpleasant460]

@@kittycat3638 How/where did you find executive function tutoring?

[@rcche3778]

@@kittycat3638 tell me more. My working memory is my single biggest disabler. Planning and attention, I found workarounds at a young age, but I have never overcome having the working memory function of a goldfish. Would love a workaround

[@rosiemichell5781]

I live in Australia and I am a 23 year old white woman with ADHD. This is such an incredibly educational video and I’m so glad it’s here. Even though I don’t live in America, I’m sure these exact same things apply to people of colour here in Australia, I just didn’t know anything about the experiences. There’s so much racism here and it’s absolutely disgusting. Racial diversity and neurodiversity should be celebrated and discussed in open and welcoming conversations. Thank you for making this video and thank you to the wonderful people who shared their experiences to make his video possible, to help educate people like me :)

[@thumper8684]

Seeing you cover this was a real heart warming moment in a real cold time.

[@oliviawebster199]

thank you so much. as a biracial (half Black) girl, being diagnosed led to a very quick withdrawl of support from my family, because we couldn’t have mental health problems. we werent built like that. so seeing this video, seeing other Black people with the same problems as me, it makes me feel so hopeful. like i can be the way that i am, and that i’m not broken or a mistake, and that i’m not alone. thank you so much. ❤️❤️❤️

[@kittycat3638]

Aww I rlly hope she keeps making vids like this

[@peterm.2385]

This seems to be one of Jessica's most important Videos. Giving Black ADHD brains - and their specific experiences more visibility is a very strong support for those affected and for the whole #BLM movement. Thanks fort that good work @Jessica! Credits to René & ADHD Alien as well.

[@athenarocks7657]

I’m a black girl who was just diagnosed at the age of 22. It was so validating to hear other black ADHDers talk about their experiences. Fantastic video! Thank you for using your platform to elevate other voices and make sure everyone is included in the community. 🖤

[@sckilham]

Wow this is so powerful. I'm white and have ADHD, but my husband is black so there is a good chance that our biracial children will have ADHD as well. I honestly had never thought about the effect their race might have on their experience and how that would be different from mine. I had no idea how to begin any of these conversations, but watching this video gave me hope that I can learn. Thank you to everyone who shared their experiences, I know I'll be able to better help my future children because of what you shared in this video 💕

[@bumblebee_0112]

Your gonna be a great mom! Just the awareness you have and care is enough💓💓.

[@messiahmoose]

As a teacher, I can say that Black ADHDers are met with MUCH more discipline than their white counterparts. In some cases, their race was seen as the cause of their “problems” and the reason they were seen as difficult. 😑

[@mariee.5912]

Totally agree. The children often internalize that they are bad, and get used to be disciplined for things th as t are not even their fault. Many parents tell my "oh, my mom just hsd to give me that look" 😣

[@sandywright-leonard5238]

Wow!! This is deep-and it makes me so sad.

[@warriorqueen8285]

Breaks my heart

[@lillypop4895]

My brother was almost put in special education in grade school for his anger management issues because he was seen as "emotionally impaired." Turns out, his ADHD (which he was JUST diagnosed with after almost failing out of college) was giving him troubles. If it werent for my mother's advocating on his behalf who knows how our white school district would have stifled his potential. And while there is NO shame in needing such support, it simply wasn't what my brother needed from his teachers.

[@quickgirl80]

Especially when the symptoms of ADHD support the stereotypes some people have of POC.

[@jenniferhizzy6591]

Some times you can tell the wrong person that you have ADHD and they begin to treat you like you are dumb especially when I am advocating for myself during group projects .

[@AnnieManul1]

Just think what it must like be for people who are assumed to be stupid and lazy as soon as their skin tone is seen. I can't remember not hearing that Black people are lazy from people who have no clue that I have Afro-Carribbean ancestry. Think what it must be like in the classroom for a child with ADHD on their first ever day of school and their teacher already sees a "problem".

[@youtubingbabs]

Yup. I don't say it anymore until I really really know someone.

[@melon3173]

People knowing you have ADHD can lead to getting made fun of or treated even worse because of it.

[@tiner8414]

Or when you try to help people understand that you think and communicate differently, but are told not to use it as an excuse. Like f off, I dont need to excuse myself, you just need to stop expecting everyone to be exactly like your neurotypical self...

[@boystown1955]

@@youtubingbabs Me too. I'm the same way. I have to play it safe.

[@BarbaraBrown_Esperanto]

Thanks so much for this video, Jessica! PLEASE also do one interviewing Asian (American) people with ADHD. I have a close friend who is part Chinese and got diagnosed with ADHD in college. I love the idea of him sharing his unique experience coping with his high-pressure upbringing coupled with undiagnosed ADHD!

[@HowtoADHD]

have him email me! [e-mail]

[@BarbaraBrown_Esperanto]

How to ADHD I sent him a screenshot and your email address in text form!

[@kittycat3638]

Great idea!

[@emilysha418]

I totally second this.

[@adhya3114]

I need that!

[@GoodGrief101]

I was diagnosed in my thirties and I started taking medication at 40 (my doctor didn’t want to prescribe anything other than Wellbutrin, which didn’t work for me). I know that ADHD/ADD is common, but I often feel alone. Thank you for bringing awareness and I appreciate this video so much. ADHD/ADD doesn’t discriminate. I wish that there were support groups in my area. The more support the better. Thank you again. Please stay safe everyone.

[@zebra44-k4p]

The year of 2020 has been a very interesting one. This video literally made me cry within the first 2 minutes. As someone reclaiming my ADHD, I've learned so much in these past few weeks between my therapist and KZbin alone. Between the hyper sensitivitY to rejection, being a little more on the childish side, and so much..I never equated these to be symptoms of ADHD. BUT NOW IT ALL MAKES SENSE AND I AM SO GRATEFUL. Suddenly, it all makes since. I took meds when I was younger, but belived that since I wasn't hyperactive and was "smart enough" I didn't need the pills. Throughout college I noticed that it was a lot harder to complete assignments but it all was a blur. If I didn't get it, I just didn't get it. So I passed most of my classes...but not with the GPA I desired. It was easy to coast by, because I had the fun times to distract me. Once outside of college , each year became harder and harder, and looking back on it now it all makes since. People called me stupid, slow, lazy, etc. But I knew deep down I wasn't. I had to realize that I am actually a freaking genius, and that it just takes me a lot of time or specific structures to accomplish tasks and thats okay. I'm learning everyday and I feel that I can breathe. Thank you for validating my experience. Thank you for using your platform to share our stories. Thank you so much

[@phillip2169]

I hope you ate learning to be kind to yourself. You aren't childish. There is no script that adults have to be. Are you taking care of yourself? Then anyone calling you childish is telling you only that they think that you're supposed to be something to them. It's an indictment of their character not yours

[@zebra44-k4p]

Phillip w thank you for your words I really appreciate them! And you are right! I’m having to learn time and time again that what people do and say to me says more about them than me ,. Starts with self love and realizing self worth and I’ve been working on it

[@leon10tjeLH]

thank you for sharing! it was nice reading about your experience :) I'm in university right now, and I'm struggling as well (but constantly improving!) so I feel you :) *sends comforting vibes your way *

[@paulidin]

I'm about 17 minutes in and just realized I was so swept up in the content I hadn't posted a comment in support yet. This is a fantastic video. I'm always glad to see allying like this. I am always glad to see more Black people getting to speak about their own experiences on the internet. Thank you to all who participated!

[@tretucker8004]

Oh snap! My people! I didnt know more of us existed! Thanks lol

[@js8303]

Same lol hii fellow ADHD person

[@UdoADHD]

Hell ya, we are here! I post updates every month.

[@mahalaleelyahawadah658]

As a Black male with adhd I have learned a lot from this channel. This channel also help me to go get treatment by helping me identify my symptoms. Rick's videos has helped me a lot too.

[@mariee.5912]

Jessica, wow. I'm in tears. My son is mixed and I had to really fight for his services. Thank you.

[@JeeYaoKuneDo]

This is the most uplifting comment section I've seen on KZbin in a long time. Being Asian and adopted, I can relate. I feel the need for a community that gets me and that I can identify with.

[@thecandidframe]

Thank you so much for this. I've been dealing with ADHD for a little more than a year and as a person of color this video was both helpful and heartening. Kudos.

[@katw.9338]

I was tired but heard bits of this. I'm a woman... white..middle aged ADHD . What an eye opening video. I dont know why I never even considered black people with ADHD. Silly but true.. That's even more of a struggle to face. The first person...Corey. pulled my heart strings and I think just by sharing his feelings has helped a lot of people... i will listen to this again tomorrow.. Very insightful ..thought provoking vid. Thx. ❤

[@joeycolalovesyou]

Because you’re racist 😊

[@MelissaTheButterfly]

My son has Autism and I just found out in March I have ADHD😇👍🏋️‍♀️ My who life I have struggled with bullying from school, family and had depression and anxiety! I have been though alot and I'm only 30. I Love videos like this!! Its so good!!!!

[@mariee.5912]

You got this. 💙

[@Giancarlo_1997]

I have inattentive type ADHD I’m sorry if it sounds ignorant but it’s a real question is there any risk of my son or daughter having autism?

[@JdaPhoeniX9]

Melissa Autism Mom1- you are beautiful, courageous and will continue to succeed! Well done 👍🏾

[@JdaPhoeniX9]

Giancarlo Orsini - Giancarlo Orsini- Thank you for sharing! You are brave and marvellous! I am not sure if of the outcome of autism with your child, but perhaps if you contact your local Autistic Authority/ Center they should be able to help! Good luck 👍🏾

[@Call-me-Al]

@@Giancarlo_1997 it's more likely your child will get autism if you have autism. Autism isn't only hereditary, perfectly neurotypical parents can get autistic children too, but it is important you don't forget the range of autism severity is huge. There are a lot of people who others never realize are autists. For me, my ADHD is far worse than my autism. My mother has autism too, but she didn't know until her 60s.

[@AstralMarmot]

I was the first person in my family to seek and openly admit to my disorder. My parents still brush it off. But my sisters told me they felt able to go seek their own diagnoses because I did that. I love my parents. They worked so hard to keep us fed, clothed, educated, and to help us grow up to be compassionate people we are. And they did it the way they knew best. But they come from a different generation. I'd bet my life my mother has ADHD. But she found church as her structure - and it makes her happy, so I'm happy for her. Mostly I just feel sad for her; sad that she was taught she couldn't look at herself honestly and love herself for who she is. Fun(?) Fact: the opiod crisis in America was devastating for suburban white America far more than black America. The reason is that black people are not believed by doctors when we tell them we're in pain, and therefore are less likely to be prescribed pain pills. Look it up. It's crazy to see the ways bias impacts all of us. ALL of us.

[@TexasRob28]

I'm so glad that this topic is being brought to the surface, as a black man who is ADHD/LD . I'm glad that this is being talked about.

[@angelacarpentergildner6583]

Thank you. This is so important for doctors, psychologist, clinical social workers, teachers and everyone else to hear. Racism effects how BIPOC are not diagnosed, diagnosed differently, and/or stigmatized for being neurodiverse. Additionally, there is a disproportionate population in prison of people with learning differences like dyslexia. We have to do better. Period. (I am a white, cisgender female, diagnosed with ADHD earlier this year at age 51. I am parent to an Autistic son with ADHD, and a daughter who will be tested soon for ADHD. I am studying to be a social worker and promise to do my part to make others in my field aware of the disparities in diagnoses and care of BIPOC persons.

[@kacidillaaa]

As a child I was put on ADHD meds by a teacher because I couldn't sit still, due to bullying, a "professional" then said that I didn't have ADHD that I was just bored and not challenged. I was constantly asking in high school if I had ADHD but alluded to what was told to me as a child. I was diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder in my teens and now I'm in my 20s, after being properly screened and tested I've also been diagnosed as having ADD. Being black and ADD is extremely hard not just for the stigma we face but personally because it's like I feel like I'm less than even when I'm trying my hardest. I've even had to explain to my doctors why I need treatment for ADD as well as my Bipolar Disorder and it's exhausting. To see other black people talk about their experiences it's theraputic and gives me hope that maybe I can deal with my ADD instead of feeling broken.

[@amy1852]

I think it's curious how you were recently diagnosed with ADD, when that label is no longer in use anymore by professionals? The "ADD" label has been absorbed into just ADHD, similar to how Asperger's was absorbed into Autism (Spectrum Disorder).

[@CrazedDreamer]

amy my friend was also just diagnosed with ADD in Hawaii. I told them the same thing. Wonder if some psychiatrists are just not up to date?

[@caseyf6]

You are not broken. You have systems around you that are not working for you and some that desperately need fixing - but YOU are not broken.

[@ThisIsNotADramaChannelFR]

I love you for covering this!!! I have ADHD, Asperger's, and I suffer from mental illness also. So I'm happy you've covered this instead of avoiding it. And it really speaks on what we struggle with as a community. I'm so happy and thank you so much! ❤️

[@Soluble_Siren]

Thank you so much for posting this. I discovered I have ADHD very recently and am still fighting while also being mix race. Going into college for healthcare I have learned so much about cultural differences and health disparities which prevented me from getting the right diagnosis as well. This channel is seriously a god sent.

[@mj6400]

Before I even watch this, thank you. ADHD is prevalent in the black community, but it's not taken seriously. Therefore, it feels like we can't talk to anyone. Thank you.

[@roriestill6231]

This post is a necessity. One thing though, it’s not people not being White, it is systematic racism and anti-Blackness on top of dealing with an ablest/anti-neurodiverse systems and people. It’s not the people themselves.

[@gammarayburst5]

This!!!!!

[@elleinad579]

12:03 spoke so directly to my experience I had to play it back 3 times

[@dc345601]

I’m right there with you, this is exactly what my parents taught me.

[@shannenlibres2365]

This is why my relatives won't let me get a test when I needed them to come with me for the diagnosis

[@jessicamitchell-stoddard8121]

There are moments in this video where these amazing voices are holding back tears...this is a clear example of how much each and every one of these wonderful people have had to work so hard to assimilate in order to simply survive. I want to thank them from the bottom of my heart for participating in this piece...this is the level of human understanding that society needs. Jessica and the How to ADHD team-- Thank you soooo much for bringing this piece into the world. This is an experience that I will never forget. ❤

[@keestewart6928]

This video just makes me want to cry. It’s so easy to feel isolated when there is no one like you around you. It’s a little more comforting knowing that there are people just like in the world. Really inspiring me to share my own experiences

[@EJay8906]

I literally just got ended my teletherapy session with my counselor and we pretty much spent the entire session discussing how being Black impacts my mental health and my expectations of myself. It was something that I never really considered. It was mind blowing to see this video when I logged in. Thank you so much for using your platform for this video. It means so much.

[@tammygant4216]

As a middle aged black woman diagnosed later in life, this resonated so much with me. I didn't want the diagnosis because it added another potential layer of discrimination (black, female, ADHD). I also resonated with the cultural dismissal of mental health issues ("just straighten up and act right!" was the mantra in my home) and the pressure to be on your best behaviour around white people (especially to be smart in school) in order to negate the stereotypes about black people. I didn't know how exhausted I was until the forced short down caused by the corona virus. The timing of this video is perfect. And I can't wait for the next installment in the series. "We're all just walking each other home" and the more we know about each other, the more we can walk together.

[@HowtoADHD]

This is such a beautiful way of putting it! "We're all just walking each other home."

[@HedlesChikN7th]

Thank you to the brains featured in this video for sharing your story and teaching others about your experiences being neurodiverse and black! Also thank you Jessica so much for using your platform to amplify these wonderful brains. I've been taking a lot of time to try and learn more about the black American experience but never connected it to ADHD! I feel foolish but also grateful that content creators like the ones featured here are around to point it out! Also, if this were a mini-series with all 5 hours you speak of, I'd be so down to watch it!

[@IReadBooksForFun]

I'm so glad you did this, I've been watching your videos for about a year now and when I saw you were doing a collab with Rene Brooks it made me so happy!!!! Thank you! Being black with ADHD has been a trial but I'm better for it.

[@Kaiebiru]

I'm just commenting for the algorithm. This is such an important video. I'm always happy to hear about people's experiences and learn from them.

[@Caramel1806]

I don't have words right now. I have NEVER seen anything like this & I BEYOND appreciate this. I will have to watch this several more times to have the words to write the comment that I want to write. You could turn that 5 hrs of content into a series.

[@LaStarra]

Thank you for this video. You get it when we say #AmplifyBlackVoices Our voices matter, our experiences are unique. This video is helping to annotate and CELEBRATE our existence. So proud to be a brain right now! 🥳

[@mj6400]

"It's another thing to be screaming your head off, and no one hears you." Powerful.

[@wnterbird2976]

I was so excited to see this video. The moment I saw the title I felt such relief. However, I put off watching it. And now as i just hit play, within the first few seconds seeing black people openly talk about having ADHD is making me tear up. It'a hard enough getting people to take my depression seriously. I was only admitted into a psychiatry hospital bc someone at school found out I was extremely suicidal and told the counselor (my mom was not happy to have to "deal" with that. Now believing very strongly I have ADHD, I find I think more of why there is "no way i have ADHD" than do, bc i think deep down i know that's easier then saying "hey, Im a black woman presenting person, and i think you missed a diagnosis" when no one really wanted to see the first one being a little girl and black with depression. I'm saying all this to say just making this video and watching it is very bittersweet. It so great to see people like us. It is so great to see people care and see us. But the fact that this is needed. Is so very sad. Welp, i guess here comes a flood. Sorry I'm all over the place. Im trying to say: I'm happy and sad but ultimately very grateful for you and the work you do. Much love

[@JasperHoogland]

WOW! very impressed with your ability to make this amazing piece during this crisis

[@HowtoADHD]

yayyy ADHD hyperfocus haha. Thank you, it was a ton of work but these comments make it worth it. I now need a nap.

[@m.maclellan7147]

@@HowtoADHD Have a nap, then a snack ! ;)

[@jawansb]

Thank you for everything you do, Jessica. Your work here is touching as always. Thank you for amplifying these voices as well as your own. I hope this reaches the people who need it.

[@shykeracoats4942]

Jessica, thank you so much for this video. I cried so hard as I watched this video. Thank you for posting this. Thank you for being comfortable presenting an uncomfortable topic.

[@HowtoADHD]

Thank you for watching! It’s not an easy topic for sure but it’s an important one. I want everyone to feel heard and included and understood in this community. Our experiences may differ but we’re all in this together 💕

[@payita009]

I’m white and my boyfriend is Hispanic, as is his son (who I feel like is my own son) and he has severe ADHD. We are trying to figure out the best ways to help and raise him and I really appreciate this eye opening, validating and inclusive video. Thank you to everyone in the video and to you too Jessica, y’all are awesome, don’t ever stop making this great content!

[@coreyslater2801]

drums... its a good instrument for kids with ADHD.

[@tmjmjmama]

This was the best video yet. I was a behavioral therapist for autistic children for 7 yrs and now I am a special education teacher. i have yet to meet an African American student diagnosed with Autism, though it does seem like the few African American students we have in the special education program are mostly labeled as having behavioral disabilities. I have often wondered why. This video is honestly the first time i have gotten any possible answers. Thank you for making it.

[@ness0388]

This channel has been life saving to me since I found it a few years ago.

[@TheApdancer]

Thank you for making this. He says it best at 18:49. So many times I've asked for help before things get bad, while things are spiraling, at the worst point, and after I've been struggling for a lengthy amount of time, only for someone to say I just don't have confidence in myself or to get yelled at for making a random mistake minuscule in comparison to the problem that caused it, that I'm usually still trying to get help for! It shouldn't have to come to physical harm or danger in order for pain to be believed.

[@bEAuTiful_Selah13]

Thank you for using your platform to support the movement. If it wasn’t for you & Rene from BlackGirlLostKeys, I would’ve never finished grad school to become a School Counselor who helps little people like us learn to thrive!

[@UdoADHD]

@9:05 YES! I remember my mother being incredibly concerned about me having a label on me. I didn’t understand why. As I got older, I got it. And then it happened with my brother. I told him “If you really need help, get it. Just understand that now you may have a label” he asked “so what?” And I said “there are people in this world that won’t want you to succeed because of the things of yourself you can not control...”

[@eleaseroberson4243]

How do you deal with the label? I haven't gotten help because I'm genuinely afraid that it will ruin my future and any chance of ever being taken seriously.

[@zachmmusic]

Thank you for this great video! It never occurred to me how much race and mental health could affect each other and I am glad to have a better understanding now

[@Moegpie]

I have struggled with undiagnosed ADHD since grade school, and only got my diagnosis sometime in 2018. I remember having a friend (he was white) who was diagnosed, and publicly known as “The kid with ADHD”. He constantly received help with his condition while I was labeled as just “lazy”. Its strange to think about the differences.

[@ADHDcutieonduty]

Hey, I am watching you...thank God for you!!! I am so GLAD TO SEE OTHER CHOCOLATE WOMAN WITH ADHD ONKZbin!!!! I am over fifty and had never even heard of ADHD until my son was diagnosed with at age 4 (he is now 17), when he first entered kindergarten!!! The more I had to fight with the school system trying to get help for him and the older he got, the more I started seeing things in myself that I had been seeing in him over the years...OMG!!! When I learned that ADHD is usually hereditary, a light went off...I am talking an opening of the pearly gates kind of light:)....WOW!!! I have always felt so alone, misunderstood, judged, taken advantage of, etc by both friends and family, and of course outsiders, but knowing there are other sisters out there going thru the same thing makes all the difference in the world!!! I would definitely love to start attending the conferences and seminars, etc that address this issue, but as you have already pointed out, there is noone one the panel that looks even remotely like us. I actually found you, by watching Jessica McAbe's KZbin channel, "How To ADHD"...I too love her content, but I still need to be able to connect with a sister or two or ten:) Please keep doing what you are doing in sharing as much information possible, for us black barbie dolls !!

[@lydiarwoods1753]

Jessica, I was introduced to your channel about 8 months ago. I'm a Black woman about to turn 60 and I've only just begun to learn about my ADHD. Your channel has been a tremendous help and this episode focusing on the Black + ADHD is process! Thank you!

[@THEBOUJEECOIN]

10 seconds in and I’m balling my eyes out. Your channel has been a safe haven, but this video has helped in a different way.

[@AlidaRiemer]

I'm applauding so hard I'm breaking my hands. I teared. I'm really moved, and tbh don't have in my opinion good enough words that weren't said in other comments - im posting this for the sake of the donations and popularity of this precious, gold, important, done so well piece of voice giving. I love it that you exist and put your ADHD amazing hyperfocus and this was produced and seen and heard and felt 🙌 ❤ Sending virtual hugs all around 🤗

[@rockswe]

Jessica, you are absolutely amazing for using your platform to get all these voice heard.

[@mdiva79]

Loved this! It was your Tedtalk video that finally gave me the courage to seek help and get a diagnosis of Inattentive ADHD at the age of 39. I only wish I would’ve gotten it sooner but in the black community it was just not done and since I was a girl with good grades, quiet, and fairly ambitious(Military background, two college degrees working on my BSN with a minor in Psychology) my needs were often overlooked. I was told to focus, stop being lazy, and living in my head while the hyper active males were treated. I really hope this video reaches out to more black girls, women and quiet boys and men to seek help and know you are not alone. You rock!

[@eyreaus2736]

As a Black person finally diagnosed with ADHD, needed this! Good looking out!

[@kellyturner7561]

I don’t have the hyper activity. But I can relate to everything that’s being said. I got diagnosed at 34 after I got my degree. It made since that I did horribly in high school.

[@kimturner282]

That was me too. My gpa would have been way higher but I was too scared to get the accommodations I needed. My family made it seem like I was doing something wrong and it was largely due to my disability.

[@tiffanyhoward127]

Me too, I did terrible in school although I knew I was smart.

[@MuzerlinaV]

I think that many of us who have the inattentive types of ADHD (not hyperactive) get missed, especially if your a woman, and especially if you are bright enough to get by. Add being a bit of an introvert on top of that? I ended up reading and diagnosing myself as an adult after going graduating from college and being a teacher for several years. I was so grateful to go to a professional and get an official diagnosis that I cried with relief.

[@wjamice123]

Thank you, as someone who lives in a household where mental health is something you go to God to. I don’t feel alone no more. Thank you! It’s feels like a weight have been lifted. Also let the negativity in the comment section be a pebble against the boulders of compliments you get❤️

[@splash2849]

It’s almost as if black parents think mental health doesn’t exist. I’ve literally had my aunt say “why would anyone in our family be depressed? that’s white ppl issues”

[@gullydwarf6748]

Perhaps, and that's just my white mans hunch, this could be a result of centuries of oppression where black people have learned that they need to be sharp all the time or get burned. Intelligent people can live a whole fine life without finding out or accepting that they may have issues because they are so good in compensating.

[@shannenlibres2365]

WOW

[@dominicclark3774]

“Strength” via ignorance. Basically denial.

[@krAZyKreativeMERA]

It's so sad....because they don't realize the toxic Coping mechanisms that are being adopted just to survive. What does it mean to be alive?... is the question she should answer. If it sounds like JUST surviving, then that gives you a clue of her perception. If you want to thrive....you seek professional help and quick! Good luck bro 🙏

[@TaKenyahMayana]

Yesssss!!!

[@ashabi13]

Thank you for taking the time to do this. As a black woman with ADHD it’s always been hard to self-advocate and navigate life from every angle. And under diagnosis, misdiagnosis and the stigmatization of mental health of and in the black community make living with ADHD that much more difficult. It is so nice to see that we’re represented not only in this community, but in the larger ADHD community. I really appreciate you giving time and space to this conversation. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.

[@BohemianKitsch]

i've been carrying such a heavy heart this month. somehow this video felt like sweet relief. thank you so much for this gift. this made me feel seen and valued, and it demonstrates what your audience already knows, which is what a truly beautiful person you are. it's very obvious that you didn't just throw this together, and not a single thing about this feels false or self-serving. you did this with a high amount of integrity. i already loved you for your genuine openness and for everything you've taught me about myself. now i love you even more. thank you so much for this.

[@deeh9563]

Agreed!!!

[@HowtoADHD]

Thank you so much!! I'm glad it lifted your spirits. We spent a lot of time on this video, it's an important topic and one we want to make space for moving forward as well. I appreciate you seeing the effort and intentions behind it

[@AuthorMorganLee]

This video made me cry. Thank you for putting this together Jessica and everyone who shared their stories. I’m autistic and have adhd and both of those are very new realities and diagnosis for me and I can’t even talk to my family about it because they’ll just dismiss me.

[@MaxRamos8]

Thank you Jessica for giving a platform for these voices, we need to mend the world with love not negativity or hate

[@dfoster4001]

Thank you for doing the work to bring attention to these special brains. New to the community and already feeling underrepresented. This helps a lot. And now I have a new task to seek these folks out and connect and support each other. Thank you.

[@layarnesudborough378]

Thank you Thank you Thank you! I really appreciated hearing black perspectives of living with ADHD and neuro-diversity. We may all be one tribe, but depending on our circumstances in life we can have rather different experiences that need to be known, understood and supported. Thank you to all of you!

[@tayriobravo6204]

How am I just seeing this 2 years after!! I’ve managed my ADHD to a certain extent, but my struggles with lateness, and just feeling like I couldn’t get myself together has been so difficult in office settings. Hyper focus isn’t looked at the same way hyperactivity is. I work hard but literally neglect my health for the sake of getting the job done. I have severe depression, ptsd, along with adhd like many of the voices you’ve featured in your video. My family didn’t believe in mental illness or the medications involved, I had no clue I was severely depressed until I was 25. I didn’t get ADHD diagnosis until I was 38. Being heard is so vital!

[@MattSaysHello]

Thank you for doing this Jess. As a black man living in the UK it is great to see more people who look like going through this.

[@frequencyreached]

my jaw dropped when I saw this. This is so needed💚