What It's Like To Be Intersex

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[@randomcrazynacholove]

I was born intersex and doctors did all kinds of surgeries on me at birth. I almost died on the operating table. The doctors asked my mom if she wanted a daughter or a son and when she said daughter that's what they did surgery for. So now here I am identifying as a trans man and I have female genitalia. No ovaries or anything though. And no record of any of the surgeries. Fun times. I didn't even learn about them until recently when I came out to my dad as trans. You truly never know

[@kharris4453]

TFCoM That's so sad. I wish the doctors would just leave you alone unless you wanted a surgery. I guess you were to young at the time to make a choice like that, but still...

[@jazzg.6771]

That sounds so terrible. I am truly sorry that you had/still have to go through this. I wish you much strength and all the luck for your future!❤️greetings from Germany

[@tomaaalmbark41]

What did your parents tell you when you didn’t have periods?

[@ozpin707]

TFCoM I’m sorry you dealt with that. You were truly a male all along and the doctors should’ve left you be until you could truly decide. I couldn’t imagine that pain.

[@gmy33]

wow !!! thanks for sharing !!! i m happy and sad to know this kind of thing exists .... so young in life a deliberate accident .. thats harsh .. i hope you are blessed with luck love and health now .. fight for it and share .. xxx

[@andybee1381]

I feel so bad for the guy who had his tested removed and was forced to be a girl, especially as a teenager.

[@shayevdh4599]

Welcome to the world of not being Cisgender.

[@xbduf4gb]

S/he may have had androgen insensitivity syndrome which means that the body has XY chromosomes but doesn't respond to testosterone. The body and the genitals develop along default female lines albeit with possible malformations like no ovaries or uterus and a blind vagina or variation on that. If this is the case the person will need ostrogen as they can’t respond to testosterone. Sometimes it is not being forced except by nature.

[@Zeagods-CyberShadow]

I used to think this was only in devianart. But I knew these people exist and am curious to know what it is like to be intersex

[@thechristanapostate5563]

@@shayevdh4599 he is technically cis man as he had male gentalia

[@Tech-cy9yo]

Imagine forced to be a different gender. Tuff

[@camillamccleney6989]

I was born a female but later developed male characteristics like a deep voice facial hair and broad shoulders and not getting my period when I was supposed to and I hated myself so much for not being a normal girl. But now I know I'm perfectly amazing

[@thatguyman6044]

Your supposed to be a dude.

[@stremblay1320]

Ok those comments make me so sad… I just want to tell you I'm proud of you, I'm proud that you're finally feeling amazing about yourself, because you are honey xx Keep being awesome, I don't know if you believe in God but I do, and you're exactly the way he created you to be

[@mochi_4726]

Just be yourself and that's all that matters!

[@gorillaprutt]

@Gary Reid looks like you need some help, go talk to someone, please. 😔 it's clear you don't know what you're talking about so there must be something wrong with you. Get mental help.

[@teagan5101]

@@gorillaprutt How can you say that? She is just being herself, and if you go against it, you are the one who needs mental help. You don’t know what your talking about.

[@Angelinapanda]

Removing someones genitalia when they are a child for no medical reason is a crime.

[@elpo203]

If only they kept to that argument these days

[@danb2450]

It should be treated like FGM - a crime. Let the individual decide when they are older!

[@SqueamishNerd]

Sadly, it's not a crime in many places.

[@vuedanto8576]

This also describes circumcision, which is practiced on almost every male in USA

[@kiranbernard7214]

@@danb2450 trans people all decided to get surgeries themselves, your kids don't suddenly turn trans at 18

[@jamminlovato15]

I had no idea intersex was even a thing before this video, and that terrifies me. I've never been educated on intersex individuals, and I didn't even know situations like this could actually occur. It's sad to know that we aren't educated with this social knowledge, and I'm now going to do some research on intersex individuals so I can have a better understanding. Thanks for this video Buzz Feed. You learn something new every day.

[@Blackvoid2me]

Me too. I felt so ignorant over this subject. I had no idea this existed. At least I"m more informative over the matter now. Buzzfeed did something right!

[@AMBLloyd]

I'm really glad I watched this video; even as a well-educated, young, openly LGBT person in a very accepting region of the UK, I often find that my awareness of Trans* issues is lacking. Although I'd heard the term 'intersex', I thought it was just an alternative name for transgenderism. I really think that we need more education about Trans* (and similar) issues - even within the LGBT community.

[@gomika]

You know what would be an interesting read for you? "I.S." is a manga (Japanese comic book) where every other chapter deals with new characters who are all intersex. Its by Chiyo Rokuhana.

[@xF3arl]

Chelsea Cash I also had no idea. I feel very ignorant and stupid now feeling like there were only 2 genders. I never really considered transgender a 3rd gender because it was just in in-between to what they were comfortable with and they usually identified one way or the other, but this is on a whole other level. I feel like I'm going to get hate for this, but if I do it's just because I'm not educated enough and that's my fault.

[@gomika]

Fearl why would you get hate? Ppl arent born knowinf everything :) Besides, as you can see from this video, the medical community itself makes sure to alienate these individuals and sometimes performs these "corrective surgeries" on newborns without even the consent of the parents (!), so its normal to not know about it. Im so proud of Buzzfeed for doing this video. :)

[@lucyjones3215]

It should be the law to not operate on an intersex person until they are certain and consensual to it. That goes for any medical issues unless they're life threatening and they are a child.

[@tired_jacs]

YES

[@sittingturtleduck]

Same with circumcision

[@elsabienenstock6511]

Yea, I'm actually kinda surprised that it doesn't already exist...

[@Raindr0psssssssss]

It should also apply to circumcision and other medically unnecessary operations

[@chingchanglicker9627]

THIS THIS THIS

[@st3fo204]

who has testes? *person who looks most feminine raises their hand*

[@amandaf7214]

wbtiatt 😊🤷🏼‍♀️✌🏻

[@maloerose4663]

whats that

[@hi.whatsup2194]

grace leaf what’s what

[@maloerose4663]

It’s me Soaren testes m'duh

[@64825]

To all the innocent children here, testies are testicles (male genitals, unless in special circumstances like these).

[@adoringjess]

i really want to understand more about this, goodbye to the rest of my evening as i research my life away.

[@bethclark7787]

Jessica Lee C

[@internetslayer9000]

wow i wish everyone took on these subjects like that

[@maddiedhiya9659]

Jessica Lee IKR lmao

[@angeljensen5990]

I'm google it now

[@chrispeebacon8923]

Study sociology then join antifa

[@blaaarrgggggg]

I was really scared to read the comments on this video but I am pleasantly surprised. Usually commenters on BuzzFeed are cruel... But this time everyone is being so supportive and open minded.

[@CiarradeBritto]

maggie may Everyone in this world is beautiful. Including you, Maggie. Everyone should be treated equally. :)

[@kalajean5307]

Wait for it. It's still really early

[@jabberwocky3269]

Dante Constantine bruh... get educated. your almost there

[@blaaarrgggggg]

Dante Constantine so close...

[@sabinacroarkin4603]

maggie may Aye I think people come together when someone we're supposed to trust (being doctors on this occasion) completely screws other people over. I think it's awful they are doing surgeries without the consent of the person whose body it is...just leave the poor kids alone until they're old enough to decide which body parts they want to keep or remove! I remember learning about an intersex case study in psychology (they didn't tell us it was called intersex though) and about how they commited suicide from depression from being made to live as someone they weren't. It sucks!

[@BeautyBySilence]

I'm intersexed. I've only ever told my best friends, and I think I should tell more people because I was made to feel ashamed of who I was.

[@MiuXiu]

[@Fleetato]

All support, m8!

[@rachelsant26]

that so cool

[@step_2458]

+Potato Just ignore the troll.

[@metanostalgia]

+Maria Marquez Never be ashamed. I am not Intersex but I fully desire to understand other groups of people and I only desire to accept them and embrace the reality of it. I have nothing against it, it isn't disgusting at all, there is nothing to be ashamed of. It is who you are as a person, simple as that.

[@hm6134]

Intersex woman here and it hurts to know I’ve always been rejected over being born over something I couldn’t control. I’ve always gotten rejected and thrown to the side over it so I try my best to not picture myself in relationships or families but I feel human and I want that so bad 😭

[@ziggykatz12]

Don’t give up. Remember the Internet allows us to connect with so many people, you’re bound to find someone who accepts you for who you are if you just keep pushing forward.

[@danika9411]

You will find someone who loves you just the way you are!!! You're amazing! I wish you the very, very best! You will have a family at one time and you will be happy! Please don't give up your dream!

[@rohanghosh1499]

We're you born with both Male and female genital.. Please answer I am eager to learn

[@justyouraverageweirdo]

If I have an intersex child in the future, I wouldn't have any of those parts removed, I'd let them keep them so they can decide what THEY want to do with them when they're older. :)

[@gugutenberg]

JustYourAverageWeirdo You sound like you're gonna be a great parent!

[@justyouraverageweirdo]

Thanks, I take after my mom. :)

[@yashny]

Me too

[@silloweet]

There is no deciding there is what they are

[@chickenlicker1712]

(this is late) but, same. it honestly angers me that people do that.

[@lipglass]

I'm not even sure I've heard of the term intersex before, which is crazy because I'm so exposed to the gender queer community. All this sweeping under the rug is not right :(

[@potatoO0o]

I think it's pretty much genital ambiguity, or a form of it? I'm not sure. Maybe you have heard of that. Or hermaphrodite? Though I think that word is not used anymore.

[@byeolbitch]

I agree. I identify as bi-sexual and I never heard of intersexual people before. I'm glad that buzzfeed is advising people of what is happening in these peoples lives.

[@samanderson2447]

I hadn't heard of intersex until I saw faking it. Great show btw 😃

[@KolachUchorbi]

***** You should try to educate yourself before jumping to any judgement. Transvestite and intersex aren't the same thing. You would of figured it out if you listened to the people in the video. I don't actually understand why would you skip to comments just to say something hateful without even trying to listen. That's mean and kind of sad for all of us who are trying to give a bit of support to people who are not understood by many. Try to become a better person and take care.

[@tokidokitomato2885]

***** From my understanding it's just another word for hermaphrodite? So honestly they weren't really born completely male or female.

[@mnk199245]

Having your testies removed without your consent, thats a nightmare.

[@laurelc9326]

Munk The Mongol isn't that basically castration

[@sherylbenton9290]

I am a 74 year old straight female, and this is the first time I understood what intersex actually meant. I am accepting of all people what ever their gender identity. I am just learning. It is a shame to have been so ignorant. And to think doctors are as ignorant is appalling. Thank you for this necessary information.

[@RussianSpyNikolai]

I’m intersex! Don’t worry honey, it’s not your fault! It’s the education system’s fault. Thank you for being kind, have a great day/morning/evening/night

[@stevewilson4321]

Anyone willing to learn is willing to grow... Just the fact that you admitted you didnt know and went out and learned the truth means youre an intelligent person who use knowledge for answers instead of propaganda for control

[@streamsan580]

I thought intersex are fictional, not real people 😳

[@dorelmutica2360]

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[@mmgs1148]

​@@RussianSpyNikolaiit is the culture problem. Christianity based cultures have strict binary rules for gender, even cross dressing is a big sin in old testament. Look how cultures not based around christianity like native americans or some tribes in Asia have a 3rd or even 4th gender.

[@imstillbreathing9760]

"We are intersexy"

[@meowpoosaymeow]

Lmao

[@zayn659]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@scnt]

😂😂

[@nicolee1311]

These comments show so much ignorance. I'm trans myself, and yeah yeah I understand making fun of gender identities- "I identify as *insert household object here*" I understand that not all people agree with non-binary genders, and that's fine, that's your choice, your opinion, and I completley respect it. Here's the thing- you didn't watch the video. Being intersex is biological. And since you all seem so obsessed with biology, I would hope you'd know that. It's not an identity, it's something that they're physically born with.

[@ellamichelle4289]

If the comment is about me, and I know a portion of it is, I apologize and I do understand and agree with non-binary genders, my comment came across in the wrong way.

[@hulucthulu8577]

I know intersex is actually something biologically. But you got admit the Apache helicopter meme is hilarious.

[@nicolee1311]

FussionBomb Oh no, it totally is funny xD And I'm one to laugh at myself for sure. I was more reffering to the mentally ill comments. I don't think it fair that people with no control over this are being harassed over something that has nothing to do with them.

[@nicolee1311]

Ella Michelle Oh no no no no hun it's not about you at all! What you said was in no way intentionally hurtful, and I know that. I would never ever make a comment that snide, if I'd had a huge problem with what you'd said I'd have told you. Please don't worry. I was talking about those being intentionally hateful and attacking those in the video, neither of which you did.

[@nicolee1311]

***** Yeah, same here xD I'm not insulted by it, just pretty bored of it.

[@SixelaFaelan]

i dont get why people dont get what intersex means. its not hard guys. seriously.

[@josearguijo7436]

+Faelan L its a Hermaphrodite.

[@cmap1503]

+Jose Arguijo simply put

[@YamiVance]

+Jose Arguijo But that's an outdated and harmful term. You should NOT. use it when referring to someone who's intersex.

[@Olivia-zr6ui]

Stop being rude. Try to be at least a little more patient with those who doesn't know

[@SixelaFaelan]

+Olivia Lind oh girl if you think i'm being rude.. i think you're gonna have a hard time surviving in the real world. also, my comment was not remotely offensive and it wasn't said with bad intentions. if you can't differentiate a lighthearted comment from a genuinely rude one, i think it's about time you learnt how to.

[@extrabacon4834]

It’s sad that schools don’t teach kids about this. Even if the school thinks it’s not the best material for students in grade 6 or 7, it should still be taught to high school students.

[@Whydtheyaddusernames]

Extra Bacon Why?

[@Acalamity]

@@Whydtheyaddusernames Because it is useful.

[@Whydtheyaddusernames]

Acalamity How is it useful? Less than 5% of people are born intersex.

[@jasonrotman8837]

@@Whydtheyaddusernames not even 5% lol. It is 0,018%

[@Whydtheyaddusernames]

Jason Rotman That’s why I said less😂🙃

[@akari707bangtan]

I know someone from my school who is an intersex. She was pretty open about it and she decided to live as a girl when she was about 4th grade. Everyone knew about her and was freaked out about it at first but they eventually warmed up to her since she's like the sweetest person ever! She's way too kind and so angelic.

[@katiegalivan6959]

read a book about a girl who discovered she was intersex called None Of The Above. a really good book, I definitely recommend it.

[@W508]

Thank you so much to both of you for the books recommendations! I'll look it up.

[@kayahsanaahypolite7726]

Thanks

[@graaaah9080]

i didn’t like that book, it said some homophobic stuff

[@blueberry-babe1840]

thanks! i'll read it! i'm studying intersex people

[@galacticboi8752]

katie galivan it is very good i read it just last week

[@asahami]

PIDGEON (?) IS SO GORGEOUS BYE

[@brennahasselmann8075]

IKR

[@leilaniandrade6836]

yeeeeees

[@pidgepagonis]

Why, thank you

[@asahami]

+Pidgeon Pagonis omg no problem

[@vilkas670]

Agree on dat :D. I really can't decide if their parents are crazy or awesome for naming them Pidgeon tho. I'm leaning towards both :D

[@ainsleychadwick8747]

If my child is intersex I wouldn't get rid of whatever part they have until they make the choice themselves. *Oof this was a serious comment in real life I am not a mallard I am a female human being*

[@ainsleychadwick8747]

@@Araya2004 DUCKS DESERVE RIGHTS EXCUSE ME

[@thevampireinyourhallway7570]

@@Araya2004 in real life they're not a duck

[@lem1738]

winter tales oh really

[@thevampireinyourhallway7570]

@@lem1738 yes REALLY 😂🤣

[@lem1738]

winter tales omg really🤣🤣💩👌

[@meto4837]

Saifa's story is terrifying. I can't believe the doctor said he had no regrets. Gives me chills

[@laurelcook9078]

When I'm a surgeon I will not remove someone's genetalia without the person's permission.

[@Ch1naDoll]

good. dont circumcise baby boys either!

[@hspringmp8084]

Not a medical student yet then? abdominal, pelvic or undescended testes are associated with increased risk for testicular cancer. It's the reason why the testes are removed. Undescended testes in a non intersex male, are also either brought down through surgery into the scrotum or removed for the same reason (testicular cancer). I'm sorry Cipher (sp?) wasn't well counseled and perceived his doctor to be condescending.

[@rachelelizabeth1986]

no it's not. there is no medical need for it. i have a son and i very much regret removing his foreskin. it's there to protect and keep supple the glans, there is nothing bad about it, and when it's removed not only is it excruciating but tons of nerves go too. circumcision is utter CRAP. it's CRUEL.

[@hspringmp8084]

I understand not wanting to circumcise your son, but to say there is no medical need for it is a stretch. Uncircumcised males are more likely to contract HIV among other STDs. They also have a risk for this thing called phimosis and even worse, paraphimosis, which uncircumcised men have no risk for. Also, smegma is nasty AF.

[@SoSalty]

I'm gonna cut off my head to eliminate risk of brain tumors.

[@bfallon7076]

The person in that rose shirt is gorgeoussssss

[@eggman9784]

Linnamonroll ikkkk

[@alienillusi0n]

LIN

[@cantfindoutanamesihaam7056]

Linnamonroll 222

[@dicc-chan2970]

Linnamonroll SIKE

[@kiasenbuntrock9095]

Linnamonroll their name is Pidgeon Pagonis.😊 They have a KZbin channel.❤

[@tobymarley1]

I can't believe people still today still have no idea about this. It's horrible to do this to people. It's not our right to do this to our children.

[@martag9128]

That made me cry I would NEVER do that If I have children.

[@MrHankeyy]

You got my support.

[@CiarradeBritto]

MrHankeyy Thanks Mr. Hankey :D

[@secretmilo]

Thanks Mr. Hankey

[@leedaniels617]

MrHankeyy Mine too!.

[@PissedOffBanker]

mr hankey's a troll lol

[@MrHankeyy]

Cheers later Nope.

[@SameSunset]

This is great. Not a lot of people know about intersex people and its nice to see something talking about them in a positive light.

[@CiarradeBritto]

Crystal. YOU are great

[@potatoO0o]

I see them as a perfect example to explain to homophobes that nature sometimes gives a body or reproductive organs that don't "match" your brain and heart. Match as in what society currently thinks matches. I hope I explained it right.

[@SameSunset]

pewpewpew I understand what you tried to say haha. I like to bring it up too just to explain that gender is a human concept, there are no two genders and that people can be whoever they want to be, gender-wise.

[@scarlett6841]

My girlfriend is intersex and she’s the most beautiful woman I’ve ever met. Hope yall love your bodies, because one day you’ll find someone who will love it too xx

[@saffronstuffie434]

My biology teacher said that people who are intersex don't exist, even though I myself am intersex. I was honestly so mad at this, but one of my friends (who is transitioning from female to male) cheered me up by drawing with me. We're really close and I'm glad that open hearted people like him are in this world. 😊

[@poochicuddle]

I can't believe that there is a licensed professional that thinks it is okay to just take body parts from someone without consent. even if it is more difficult to address at a later age I think they should be left as they are at birth and get to make the decision for themselves at a later age.

[@poochicuddle]

+Amaranthia Doster Also... I'm in tears tight now. I wasn't even aware that this can happen to people. Now I feel bad that there is not a light shined on this kind of situation.

[@SinkingUnder]

+Amaranthia Doster Yeah like circumcision.

[@poochicuddle]

+Mitch Rouse Exactly. why is it someone else's decision to circumcise a baby boy. it should be his and only his own choice.

[@SinkingUnder]

+Amaranthia Doster exactly, I don't know if I was clear that I'm against genital mutilation in my first reply but I am

[@poochicuddle]

+Mitch Rouse lol yes you were. I was agreeing with you

[@pharmit24]

Wow i just know this and i'm 20 lol. The more you learn on the internet.

[@cactusarecoool8483]

I already knew about it and I'm 13 so lol

[@iisthetiger694]

I'm 12

[@chuugummy975]

I learned about it at 13, but I'm almost 15 now. It's good that you learned something new. I'm just lucky that I found out earlier, but no worries. :)

[@VikingSingers]

Dude same. I've never come across it before until this video. People, especially fucking doctors, need to stop throwing this kind of information under the bus. Now it makes me wonder if there's other stuff/people that are hiding in the world about what/who they are.

[@rickyd730]

I 12

[@doctor_owl]

I'm a lot like Saifa! I'm an intersex trans guy who was CAFAB. I was raised as a girl, given estrogen and surgeries against my knowledge or consent, but I told my parents at the age of 3 that I was a boy. I felt very confused and upset about my body growing up (what I later discovered was gender dysphoria) but tried very hard to be the pretty little girl my parents wanted, despite hating it. I didn't find out about my condition until I was 25. I have CAH and PAIS. I've been transitioning on testosterone for a year now and much happier to finally be myself!

[@sdfuify]

This literally infuriates me. Who do you think you are operating on my infants genitalia without my consent??! The only person who should be able to make that decision is my child, but seeing as they are not of age to make said decision you need to just leave them the f*c* alone.

[@treevis400]

No ones operating on any kids with out their parents consent.

[@peacendpola23]

Are you.... stupid? No medical procedure is done without the patients, or parents consent. EVER. The only exception is when there is no family around and the patient can't make the decision, the doctor is in the obligation to act upon the benefit of that patient's life. Abdominal testicles have a much higher risk to turn cancerous later in life.

[@memos9091]

I'm a physician and I feel like I have to address a point regarding the surgical removal of the testes. Testes are normally located in the scrotum where the temperature is lower. If the testes are located anywhere outside the scrotum (where they are exposed to higher temperatures) it will increase the risk of developing testicular cancer anywhere between 20-50 times more than testes located in the scrotum. I just wanted to clear that up, it's not a myth, it's not something doctors do because it's more convenient.

[@SP-rk9ht]

You should consider that by the time the person decides to remove their internal testes it may be too late. 20-50 times increased risk of cancer is no joke.

[@ddddaaaa7995]

Well. They are not testicles after all. So you cannot make assumptions like that. And even icd(which is really conservative as you know) recommend to leave them until 30s. And being on hrt increases risks of breast cancer. So your argument doesn't make any sense

[@ddddaaaa7995]

Sandra Prusaka pregnancy test once a month-it's not that hard. And you know, people don't usually forget about possibility of cancer

[@SP-rk9ht]

Take a pregnancy test? What does that have to do with cancer? And why are bringing up HRT into this? I'm confused. And they are testes, testes are not designed to be in the body due to high temperature damaging them, so having them in increases the change of them being cancerous up to 50 times. They are removed due to this risk.

[@AndromedaChace]

Do you have anything to add about the same person's following clitoridectomy and vaginaplasty against their will with no medical necessity? How about that the parents weren't even told their child was intersex and had xy chromosomes? Is it right to lie about risks and conditions when parents are making surgical choices?

[@captainzayatc]

The person in a flower printed shirt kinda reminds me of Prince

[@antihero6956]

RIP

[@maglorwilliams5797]

I’m actually writing a fantasy novel and, recently, I changed one of my characters who was a shapeshifter to just being intersex. It freaked out my betas, but it made more logic in the story. Plus, always need more representation to unrepresentative groups.

[@theowlhouseseason3213]

Cool!!

[@leihejun844]

Have you published yet? Where can we read your novel

[@ivandersiley7161]

How isolated must people have felt before the web! Glad you can now form support groups, to share experiences & navigate a positive pathway to fulfillment.

[@chloebailey5847]

The woman in the floral red shirt is really pretty

[@stupidshygirl6151]

+Chloe Bailey I think I saw her on Vice, she did a documentary about the last lesbian bar. Cool girl, yeah

[@stefanoacquasanta6041]

Ikr? I thought the same

[@stupidshygirl6151]

My bad

[@aneleszemog9093]

+Mary M R u trying to be a troll? If someone already hasn't corrected u, the proper term is "she" because she identifies as a woman.

[@ZoeSAkaSkrillexHaircut]

+Rosy Cheese they said they were gender non conforming and even called themself a person rather than a woman.

[@tommie6186]

My friend Robby is intersex, agender identifying. I don't know the extent of what that means for him, but I'm glad he's not alone.

[@kimberlypence2615]

+Thomas Ryan You're an awesome friend :).

[@taylorwright7711]

A bit confused at why you say "him" when "they" identify as agender...? Or do they use he/him pronouns?

[@tommie6186]

Yea, he prefers he/him pronouns.

[@tommie6186]

XxTrumpetCheerxX wow, very creative. Good job, did you think of that all by yourself?

[@kimberlypence2615]

XxTrumpetCheerxX *pats on head*, ahhhh aren't you a cute troll. Try thinking for yourself occasionally, I know its hard.

[@cyber7210]

I am intersex and Im absolutely happy that buzzfeed made this bc I had both genitals when I was born but when I was a year old had one removed I didnt find out until I was 11. When I found out it all made sence bc I felt like a boy but everyone saw me as a girl and I also was on estrogen until I was 8 but just know be yourself and dont let know one try to change you 💝😊

[@juliawhitehouse9361]

Hi, I hope you don't mind me reaching out. I saw your moving story and thought I'd say 'hi'. My name is Julia and I am a Producer at betty, which is a TV production company based in London who have made shows like The Undateables, The Autistic Gardener and the recent BBC documentary Joey Essex: Grief and Me. We are currently casting for an exciting new TV series which is focused on Body Positivity, Education and Awareness for Channel 4. I feel very passionate about raising awareness of intersex people. I was shocked to learn how little education and awareness there is in the media about this. This show aims to highlight that all bodies are different and beautiful and that this is a cause for celebration. I wondered if it might be possible to have a chat with you to give some further information about the project and to see if you, or anybody that you might know of, might be interested in taking part? My email is [e-mail] Here is a link to the show: www.channel4.com/press/news/channel-4-commissions-new-body-positivity-format-betty-tv If there might be a number I can contact you on I'd be super appreciative of your time. Best Wishes, Julia

[@dickiewongtk]

Do you still live/identify as a girl nowadays?

[@IfaKslays]

Beautiful! I’m a nurse... and this def has been around for lifetimes! I love how they came together to do this

[@blacklez]

This makes me sick. I'm going to be a surgeon and I will never change someone without their permission and understanding of the subject. Not the parents, the person. Times are changing, doctors need to catch up.

[@thumbtak123]

The choice is up to the person. If they identify as intersexed and want to change certain aspects, they should be allowed, under full understanding and as long as it is healthy.

[@blacklez]

+Ethan Kunz no I won't.

[@blacklez]

+Tak Ken that's what I'm saying. The person who's intersex needs to understand. Some parents just want the doctors to change them without their permission. I won't stand for that.

[@daisywilliams2779]

how are you planning to get consent of a baby?

[@deelyle5633]

You leave it alone and let the person decide later.

[@Tiktok960]

I was born with hermafroditism. The doctor even removed my clitorus, I didn't knew about this until I was 12. And I got hormone treatmens since I was 8. I do feel female but the chance of being intimate with someone scares me.

[@CiarradeBritto]

Tiktok960 You are beautiful. No matter what. Never forget that, be proud, stay proud. :) Smile. You'll find the perfect match.

[@CiarradeBritto]

beto encinas that sucks for me because i'm gay as hell lol

[@Tiktok960]

+Ciarra deBritto LFM Thank you for kind words. A lot of people find me 'good looking', I was a photo model, but wonder why I don't have a boyfriend. Tbh I don't want to tell them. Because it's not that common and they might think I'm a freak.

[@CiarradeBritto]

Tiktok960 No problem. You're not a freak, you're human like the rest of us. :) beto encinas Alright im on it, lemme go find some fire wood

[@aejlindvall]

I'm so sorry for the way the medical profession has treated you, nobody deserves that. I really hope you can find a way to have sexual relationships (if that if what you want of course). I don't know how old you are, but maybe you could consider seeing a sexologist in order to help you deal with the way you feel about that?

[@rachel_desiree]

So little is known about intersex individuals, despite their numbers being larger than we think. Glad this video exists.

[@Potatopie_1]

A baby can't communicate what gender they are. Instead of just assuming, I'd wait until they know themselves if they identify as a woman or man to get the appropriate surgery or if they identify as neither I just want them to feel comfortable with whatever they want to do with those parts.

[@xXsoullessabominationXx]

I understand where you are coming from but I don't agree with raising children with no gender. I think it would be much better to raise them normally and refer to them as the gender that they were born with. After repeatedly showing signs of transgenderism, such as denying your birth gender from a young age, I would then take them to a psychologist and ask them for an evaluation.

[@Potatopie_1]

@@xXsoullessabominationXx Dw Im with you there. I wouldnt force gender onto them, but I would use assigned pronouns at birth. And if they would like to change it they should feel open to talk to their parent about it.

[@rosey315]

The girl with the rose shirt has a very beautiful speaking voice. I am envious.

[@humboldtfrog]

They aren't a girl but yes they did have a beautiful voice

[@Sprinklesparkle1259]

Kirsten Cordary well she said she identified as a girl :)

[@PowerpuffZ123]

wackerscrackers "Queer non-conforming intersex person" does not mean Girl

[@jkingkingpin9295]

PowerpuffZ123 Then wtf are you suppose to call her an "it"

[@user-wm1em1rg4p]

Jack Splinter As per the American Grammar conventions, "they" can be used as a gender neutral third person pronoun.

[@barazelenkova2179]

I am a medical student and I feel so ashamed for doctors who think this way. The sad thing is that we have to learn from them 😒.

[@bonniestar4707]

I find it bad that trans men and women have to fight for surgeries they want to fit in, and intersex people are given surgeries when they are born and can't choose and consent for themselves.

[@stevewilson4321]

Gender is not about a surgery. Leaving things like undescended testes in an infant can result in cancers that could have easily been prevented shortly after birth

[@bonniestar4707]

@@stevewilson4321 But what if the baby grows up and identifies as a man and wanted the testes? They can choose to have them removed later if they choose to. But the choice is being taken out of their hands if they are being operated on as a baby.

[@stevewilson4321]

@@bonniestar4707 Your not getting this... Intersex does NOT mean transsexual... 2 different words 2 different meanings.. An intersex human with UN-descended testes runs a serious risk of cancer that can spread and kill them... God I wish they taught genetics in HS so that we would stop listening to MAGA ppl who have NO IDEA of what they are talking about... MDs learn Endocrinology and Genetics to know how to address this... Its not a social issue...

[@bonniestar4707]

@@stevewilson4321 My point is, we don't know whether the baby will want to keep their parts or not. Some intersex people are angry at doctors for the surgery they couldn't consent to. They should at least wait till they are old enough to voice a decision.

[@babitakumar5144]

I wish there was more information available about these topics but I just learned about this today. I had no idea what people go through. I'm going to be prepared with information about all of these when I have children. My children are definitely not having a doctor force a sexual identity on them. Thank you and hope you have more videos on this topic.

[@aziel3312]

I think it would of been so cool if we all were born in neutral gender and when we grew up we could choose our preferred gender(LIKE TELL OUR OWN CHROMOSOMES I WANT TO BE FEMALE/MALE). That would be so cool. On another note, I'm telling my doctors if my child is born as an intersex I don't want them to do anything until I DECIDE otherwise you're gonna be sued. If I was told that their testes were cancerous then I will get the opinion of another doctor/doctors to be sure.

[@aziel3312]

I don't think so, everyone has a different character and so they would probably pick the gender they feel most comfortable with AND the human race is obsessed with reproducing its own kind so there would be females...

[@aziel3312]

True, I don't know how it all would of turned out but I'm sure it would be interesting. Maybe they would see how the different genders affected society and move to change the rules or....yup I don't know how what would happen but it is fun visualizing it and trying to understand it. Don't you agree?

[@pwetty4r4]

i don't think i would be able to decide lol...

[@cameronw6259]

That is biologically impossible (sorry to burst your bubble)

[@LilChuunosuke]

Well, if your child is intersex, you should not decide. You should raise the child in a gender neutral way and let them decide when they are an adult and sure of what they want to be.

[@linhdieu8896]

No matter when u are intersex, trans gender, bisexual...., just remember that we're human. everyone have the power to live happy lifes.

[@terpsik8971]

If only all people were that open minded

[@AlexMint]

Unfortunately it's our doctors who need to learn humanity, given our situation.

[@zinc35yago]

Bisexual isn’t a gender.

[@knottypigeon719]

@@zinc35yago i’m crying lmao

[@psat21]

Amen

[@robertmiller3810]

Yes, at 80 years old in 2023, I was born during WW2. I’m what was known as a hermaphrodite back then. The way I describe myself today, I tell people that my parents couldn’t decide if they wanted a girl OR a boy, so they made me, a girl AND a boy. The doctor saw male genitalia and announced, you have a boy. Sadly, my male parts are just for show because I’m sterile and unable to reproduce any babies. I knew at the age of 4 that it felt like a girl was trapped inside my body. Life was a living hellish nightmare. My teenage years was even worse because I never went thru male puberty. I had more female facial features with a soft feminine voice. I hid in the proverbial closet to save myself from being bullied or worse. Finally, at 72 years old, my brain must have thought, you haven’t been thru puberty yet and decided to put me thru female puberty instead. So over a 6 month period, my body changed completely into a female one. I have an hourglass figure, beautiful breasts, hips, thighs and a nicely padded bottom to sit on. I feel like a teenager again, this time in the correct body, except for a male reminder between my legs. Because of 2 heart birth defects, no doctor will preform surgery on me, to correct that mistake. I am tho, the happiest I’ve ever been and finally as the woman I was born to be.

[@curiousauthor9827]

I love how they said 'intersexy' at the start

[@theowlhouseseason3213]

Haha Btw i love ur pfp

[@kamidox411]

Ok, since a lot of people in the comments aren't getting the point, I'll try to explain this. These people aren't "identifying" as something, being intersex is a biological thing, they were born with already mismatched parts. For example in the video there was a person with a vag and internal testicles, and another one who had testicles and xy chromosomes but also breasts. They were born that way. It's completely biological, not like, say, a person with xx chromosomes and all the lady parts who identifies as a guy. Hope that cleared it up

[@claudiavaldivia5896]

Thank you. I had not idea about intersex and I think the video just confused me a bit more. Your comment cleared everything up.

[@BreneWilson]

Actually transgender can be seen as biological as well. There have been studies that show differences in the brain structure. You might want to do a little research before commenting....it's really not that hard.

[@kamidox411]

Brene Wilson I know, I didn't want to make it look too complicated to people who know nothing about gender

[@dragames]

Brene, that's... somewhat true. Except there's probably a vast majority of 'today's transgenders' who do NOT have any biological reason. Now, this is my bigot self speaking without science on this part, but I believe it's a lot of wannabe's who are seeking desperately to label themself as something 'unique' and so, let's go with being trans! I mean, we're also seeing things like 'born female, identifies male, but does everything to the female binary' and the reverse. these people are I'm almost certain not trans, but attention seekers. and I've done the research, most of the time, it's noticeable in MALE to female transgenders that they have a smaller brain, but less gray matter in their brain and shorter brain and nerve receptors (similar to women) which besides the... 'societal' things like wanting to wear women's clothes, or dress like a woman, also adjusts chemical balances in the body, making them more receptive to estrogen still, problem is they lack the ability to produce enough on their own. I think the whole outpouring of 'trans' people are hurting actual transgenders and furthermore, actual intersex people. This video is not a good one though as they represent science incorrectly and acted like it was a horrible thing that they had the surgery done to them without permission when in all actuality they could be DEAD right now if they hadn't had it done.

[@Tdtdtosyodpdydpypx]

dragames it's true there are literally cliques in my high school who claim to be nonbinary or asexual or demisexual but actually aren't at all, and will contradict what it means to be these things constantly

[@bookcrazy001]

If my child was born intersex I wouldn't let them remove the testes. Instead i would wait for him/her to decide what they want when they are older.

[@haileyduncan2522]

bookcrazy001 I 110% agree with you

[@lovelife-dt4tq]

höw u would raise it?

[@haileyduncan2522]

The good One me personally, I would raise them whichever parts they had more of, but I wouldn’t do any surgeries. I would let THEM decide what to do when as they got older.

[@rains5]

Deen Al Haqq raise the the way you should raise any child, let them decide their toys clothes and see who they really are.

[@conorgarrett5893]

I agree ☝️

[@piss7610]

Why is this disliked???

[@rainb5987]

Coz there are more stupid people than intersex.

[@KrisPheonixvlogs]

I was Born Intersex, my mother was supposed to have fraternal twins boy and girl. Before the two embryos could form into two babies. The chromosomes fused together and made me. When I was born into this world I was born with a vagina an enlarged clitoris, fallopian tubes, a uterus, and testicles. I have menstrual cycles. I'm a man on the outside and a woman on the inside. #krispheonix

[@juliawhitehouse9361]

Hi, I hope you don't mind me reaching out. I saw your story and admire your openness and honesty! My name is Julia and I am a Producer at betty, which is a TV production company based in London who have made shows like The Undateables, The Autistic Gardener and the recent BBC documentary Joey Essex: Grief and Me. We are currently casting for an exciting new TV series which is focused on Body Positivity, Education and Awareness for Channel 4. I feel very passionate about raising awareness of intersex people. I was shocked to learn how little education and awareness there is in the media about this. This show aims to highlight that all bodies are different and beautiful and that this is a cause for celebration. I wondered if it might be possible to have a chat with you to give some further information about the project and to see if you, or anybody that you might know of, might be interested in taking part? My email is [e-mail] Here is a link to the show: www.channel4.com/press/news/channel-4-commissions-new-body-positivity-format-betty-tv If there might be a number I can contact you on I'd be super appreciative of your time. Best Wishes, Julia

[@putrioktaviani8642]

Lalu apakh operasi?

[@TheCrosshare]

Testes or not, she's still out of my league :p

[@SingerFailure]

TheCrosshare Well considering they are not a she, I'd say they definitely are because I'm sure they want their identity recognized!

[@TheCrosshare]

Bells Broad Internet, only place where saying someone looks good is an insult :p I used she because i need to use something,to mean an individual, not "them"(which was a racial slur back in the day fyi), and saying ((s)he(ish)) is kind of a mouthfull. So calm your panties.

[@zannahschorer874]

Bells Broad Umm did you watch the video? she started by saying "I'm a girl who has testes"

[@trippplefive]

TheCrosshare the girl in the red? yeah she's pretty hawt.

[@johnsmith2875]

TheCrosshare I found you again!

[@niki8005]

"I identify as..." but intersex isn't a choice, it's a physical condition.

[@rachellejacksongaya]

still, they can identify as a certain gender and still be intersex

[@elise5397]

I could be wrong but I think it's because they have both male/female genitalia. So they're saying what gender they are despite they biology. Idk dude,mi could be wrong but that's what I'm picking up.

[@elise5397]

+Elise Parreira wow. gr8 spelling, go me!1!1!1

[@starrevilla9157]

its body vs mind. intersex people are born with both genitalia, some in or out...it depends and its different for each person. but a person who is intersex can also have gender specific DNA and a Gender specific brain. so lets say a person with visible male genitals and inside female genitals, identifies as a female via brain and DNA but not between the legs. simple. but society says whats between your legs matters more than what your mind and DNA says.

[@halimamohammed3997]

I would not necessarily call it a "condition"

[@rhymeswiththirsty19]

Yay!! More dialogue is such a good start...thanks again for making it happen!

[@GwenCossin]

These videos are so informative. Thank u for reaching out in this way.

[@deoccultist]

I'm intersex, specifically XXY or Klinefelter's. I came into the world with male genitalia, but I've never felt like a boy/guy/man. It never made sense to me. I lived my life in that charade for most of my life, though, because I didn't know anything about transitioning until my late 20s. I'm 35 now, two years on HRT, and I finally feel normal and sane. Biology and neurology just aren't as simple as people think they are. Humans are a highly diverse species, with the highest rate of genetic anomaly (and I don't mean that negatively). We have so many different mental and developmental conditions, and yet being intersex or transgender is wrong or impossible? People can deny it all they want, but we exist, and we're not freaks, predators, or deviants. We're just people who came into the world a little different than everyone else, and all that negative bias and naysaying makes life difficult for us. Our suicide rate wouldn't be so high if we were treated like anyone else; but thanks to science and medicine we have a better chance of being ourselves authentically and optimistically. Some of us are gay, some are straight, some are bisexual, pansexual, asexual, etc. There's no standard mold. In fact, we break the mold set upon us quite regularly. Human diversity should be celebrated, not condemned. The biggest obstacle right now is the social/political situation where our rights are being squandered due to such unnecessary fear and hate. All we want to do is live our lives in peace and in love. We don't want to impose or cause distress, and we don't want to diddle anyone's kids in the public bathrooms. Being intersex and trans isn't a curse, it's just what Nature gave us. It's society that tries to tear us down, threatens us, and tries to intimidate us into self-destruction. If you're someone who does these things you must be miserable, because only a miserable person would want to evoke misery out of others. Unlike many, I don't hate you for it. In fact, I hope you find your peace. We all deserve that. We all deserve love. If there's no peace and love in you, that breaks my heart. Something or someone in your life has darkened your soul, and that's a shame; but you can redeem yourself. You can always choose to be a better person. No matter how much anyone has treated me poorly for who I am I would never turn away if they genuinely wanted to change for the better. That's what we should always do for each other - heal each other - even after the worst damage.

[@YeetusTheFetus]

Thank you for sharing. We learned about intersex in biology class, but biology class doesn’t teach you about the real life experiences of intersex people so I appreciate this

[@iziahwilliams-collier1969]

River Laurie I don't identify as male or Female but my genetix distinction is XXY also I have a mixture of male and female traits both internally and externally. It is great to hear from othera

[@didi_9661]

You go girl! Nothing but respect for you. You're perfectly fine :)

[@commess1]

River Laurie Being intersection is a biological state. It is something that has existed for years. It can indeed be a difficult situation because it's not what people see as "normal" but it is what it is. These videos help people to understand this naturally biological condition. Transgender is not a biological condition.

[@Estradial]

I wish all the trolls could actually process your comment.

[@jamiegilbert6201]

As a future doctor, we are learning in our lectures about intersex and the fact that yes, testes that have not dropped etc. have a higher change of infection, cancer but I hope to perpetuate knowledge with my patients and tell parents that they should leave children as they are at birth and let them decide their gender in the future.

[@akpokemon]

It's kind of vague as to whether or not you agree with what you've learned in lectures

[@spaceace946]

i’ve never even heard of intersexuality until now. i was watching an anime called astra lost in space (i highly recommend it btw) and they have beautiful representation of it. i am educating myself on this because it’s rarely talked about. i wish they taught this in schools and was more represented in the media because it’s a real thing that should be talked about more.

[@andreacs]

I'm a simple normal naturale female. So many things just really new for me to hear, I mean you hear sometimes something here and there but nothing in the schools for example. I have to say, that is a shame in 2020 that the society was hiding so many existed things about us humans, treating as non-existent! We are all people, all humans, we all have the right to know, that the nature creates different people, not only 100% man or a woman. I can't even imagine how complicated can be a life for many people who didn't fill in this female/male based society... I'm sending love to everyone! 😊💗 Thanks for the video, very important to have a voice of you guys.

[@taehyung9210]

Yeah. I'm also first time hear about it.

[@erauprcwa]

This was actually informative, I didn't know what the "I" meant in LGBTQ*I*A. I'm gay, myself, but I didn't know the other elements of the rainbow. Great video Buzzfeed.

[@thumbtak123]

Yeah. It is Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, Questioning, Intersexed, Allies.

[@theleafyground5793]

Tak Ken Where's Feminist there? There should be a LGBTQIFAS (and you forgot the S from Sympathizers) And C for Cisgender? no place for C?

[@lazyperfectionist3978]

+miamicutie1996 - Don't forget Agender, that's another A!

[@erauprcwa]

theleafyground A is for asexual and there isn't an "F". There isn't a "C"

[@lazyperfectionist3978]

theleafyground - since when did feminism become part of the LGBTQIA+ group??? Even I know they aren't, what with me being a feminist and all. Plus, sympathisers are called "allies" which is still not what the A stands for

[@Pizza____God]

I think to be intersex means you're Divergent.

[@i.wikkeld]

😂😂😂

[@MagizardInternet]

C'mon, don't.

[@liyahjhane]

😮😮😮😮 I thought i was the only one who was thinking that......

[@J2000Ray]

Ratty Ratious You have to admit...it's a clever comment...even though its kinda insensitive..

[@marinao4412]

Pizza God of course. It's means that that you tend to be cooler and hotter than others. Think about it, have any of you ever met an intersex person who isn't both cool and hot? same goes with Divergents.

[@djvelocity]

This is dope. I practiced as a nurse for many years and I think it’s good that these people are bringing this to the attention of others as most people outside of healthcare have never heard the term “intersex”

[@philiphanan1493]

I didn't show signs of being Intersex until I hit puberty. Sure, I had body hair at age 9 and facial hair at age 11, but stopped growing at age 12, never developed an Adam's Apple, never developed abdominal muscles, and was even weaker than some girls. I've had periods since I was in middle school and at age 37 I grew breasts, wide hips, a curvy soft bum, thin skin, soft skin, soft body hair, and have way more regular periods with blood. Even before I turned 37, I have lactated, had night sweats, and hot flashes as well.

[@anissaridzuana]

what's floral shirt person's instagram? i need it.... for science.......

[@anissaridzuana]

+Michelle Le Music BLESS YOU

[@madeupincolour]

thank you for asking!!! I also need it. for science as well. haha.

[@pidgepagonis]

omg lol. I changed it recently to @pidgeo_n btw ;)

[@aurorafurias1743]

lol btw i love you :(

[@T3hSquishy]

+Pidgeon Pagonis 😍 you are so beautiful and your voice is wonderful

[@natescott2793]

If you think about it gender is a social construct. There is nothing necessarily "Male" about muscles of "female" about boobs. We just decided to create these labels. People do not fit into boxes as many like to think and our society has heavily implemented gender roles but I think its time we all accept one another and realize there is nothing weird or strange about this.

[@brewerskyler18]

YES this is exactly the way I feel!!! Like i can keep my penis and want to get breast implants and still call myself male, many people don't understand that concept.

[@superduperfreakyDj]

+skyler brewer But why would you want breasts? You are male but they serve no purpose then :D

[@eartheclipse8]

+Piemelon Trump Well breasts also serve no purpose in infertile women but they still like/want them. And maybe they just like the way they look

[@superduperfreakyDj]

Craazy0ne That can be solved by simple hormone treatment though, but boobs look good on awoman (most of the time) and look awful on men.

[@iluvkyomeow]

+Piemelon Trump way to enforce your opinions on others.

[@popmusicmedicine]

this video has been around for 5 years and i’m still obsessed / in love w pigeons voice

[@cinnamonroll7150]

"I just hope you can find us" such a powerful and meaning sentence

[@roorooroo368]

I would love to have more information on intersex in schools and in health classes because it took until my sophomore year of college to truly find out what intersex is as well as the correct terms to use. Please do more videos about intersex!

[@COCOILAN]

Rachel Kyes same.

[@guilhermecastro9893]

you dont get that information becouse its on eof the rarest genetic malformaties in the world.

[@jae4308]

Same. I'm always interested in this kind of topics

[@oreo_6206]

Use they.

[@Jack-bz3xn]

@@guilhermecastro9893 its about the same as red hair actually!! but we're still taught about that

[@raebooker5452]

i recently came out publicly about my intersexed status. it has been very, very freeing.

[@kavedahodge1089]

🙌🏾🙌🏾Congrats🙌🏾🙌🏾

[@dfeb94]

Congratulations! That's awesome!

[@carolina9938]

congrats 💗💗

[@Decruzed]

Congrats!

[@oldenoughtorun6439]

Congrats! Best of luck for the future :)

[@tatyana9945]

I'm dating an intersex girl and I just wanted to get more info

[@athb4hu]

Thanks for this, it is very moving.

[@davidstiles9743]

I'm loving the open mindedness in the comments.

[@zyerrawalton5812]

Ikr I actually pretty shocked myself cause usually you'd have the usually ignorant asshats with hate comments but it makes me really happy people r being mature about this

[@EyeconicLaura]

David Stiles I also like how a lot of people are asking questions to try and better educate themselves, because that's exactly what we should be doing, becoming more informed.

[@agatha4812]

I read a book about an intersex girl, it was amazing. It's called none of the above, and really got me to understand what it is. Also it was a really good book and I would recommend it to anyone.

[@tradgothmiku]

hai pham! >•

[@j6shu]

tHANK YOU IVE BBEEN WANTING TO READ MORE BOOKS BUT DIDNT KNOW WHAT TO GET

[@imdun8355]

I read that and met the author. Super cool book.

[@purplehaze121416]

What's the name? I would like to be more informed :)

[@ankcc03]

+Purple Haze it's called "None Of the Above"

[@violetgreer2443]

2:35 In another interview Emily stated that she has a few intersex family members and that her mother knew this and was prepared for the possibility of having an intersex child.

[@ziplocbaggy]

Thank you for this video, I’ve been wanting to learn more about intersex people for a while now!

[@tomtombombable]

Wow! I didn't even know this was a thing :o

[@monicajuliana]

Me too! But, yeah. I would treat them just like regular people. Intersex people are just like you, we all fit in.

[@lunad27]

Jose T Neither did I. Guess that's why Buzzfeed made this video.

[@AntiGravityC9]

Luna D "Let's educate this person in particular."

[@Agel1ic]

probably you did hear about it just, but a different name, a few years back people used to call hermafrodite to intersex people, later its was change because the term "hermafrodite" it's consider offensive.

[@Alanitoo]

Where have you been living? Under a rock?

[@roofoochoo]

If someone is gender queer, what pronouns do I use for that person without offending them..?

[@AussiePlatyify123]

Just use "they/their/theirs" until you know what their prefered pronouns are. :)

[@roofoochoo]

Ok :D thanks !

[@AussiePlatyify123]

beto encinas Don't do that, that's really closed minded and it's best not to assume when you can just use gender neutral pronouns instead.

[@AussiePlatyify123]

beto encinas Exactly, just like you can't tell if someone is trans or intersex you can't tell if they're cis either. It's better to play it safe than just assume anyways.

[@secretmilo]

depends on what they prefer. don't be afraid to ask them. (see other buzzfeed video)

[@niceboots3279]

Okay, I'm freaking out. When I was like 14 my doctor tell me that I have high levels of testosterone, she also was my dermatologist and tell me that if I take pills was going to help me with the acne, and I already was taking medication for that so idk I don't wanted to do it. I don't know if I had many manly things, my back is big and I had a little of hair under my chin. I ended doing it bc my mom insisted. That makes me intersex? Plot twist, I'm trans and in hormones. I loved the hair under my chin, and now is bigger. Ps: Horrible english, not first language

[@AmberTwyne]

Wow, very helpful, I'd never heard of this outside of the derogatory term. I appreciate this video!

[@nkwari]

Doctors are so quick to try to "fix" things. Maybe they are afraid of being sued later if they don't "fix" the patient. Buzzfeed, great video.

[@andromeda1903]

+Centennial i *love* the part where the doctor tells him he doesn't know what is best for his body. UH HELLO? doctors always think they are God and they know more about you than you do. so wrong.

[@SorchaVR]

+palehoney79 Well they kind of go to school to learn the human body, so in a way they do know more. It's just depending on the situation. I'm sure it was more along the line that the doctor wanted to make sure he wasn't teased, because children can be huge assholes like worse then adults sometimes. But they should have asked for his opinion and should be his choice if it's a non-life threatening thing.

[@svellah4388]

+palehoney79 Well, they do.

[@willdg4581]

+palehoney79 they think they know more about you then you. that is because they do

[@auntlynnie]

+Germanysgirl7 Doctors don't know everything, though. They have been educated about standard anatomy, and anything that differs from the standard is considered "wrong" and "to be corrected." Like you say, they should wait and consult the person living in the body before cutting. Let the PERSON have a say in such an important decision.

[@skyquill4329]

I love these kind of videos because it helps me understand people who are different from me and also understand a bit more about people who are like me.

[@ShaniaDeville]

I also love these kind as they help me understand too :)

[@dragames]

But, you need to realize this is also buzzfeed and they misrepresent science. There is a strong risk of cancer and other infections as they've had cases from leaving intersex babies alone. What generally happens is one set of genitals turns dominant and the other shrivels and dies, often leaving them with things like bladder infections, and yes... cancer. The body still recognizes it as a 'wound' that needs to heal and keeps trying to replicate over and over. Now this doesn't happen to every intersex person, but it happens enough that they do it less risk the child's physical health later. Now we're focusing and pretending mental health and SJW advocacy > science and physical health. I know, shame you couldn't choose for yourself if you wanted to be a boy or a girl The only thing that would have helped this yet they ignored was that USUALLY the doctors will resort to making them women rather than men. It's seen as easier to make intersex babies change to female than it is to change them male.

[@rottenhooliganz]

Ngl this opened up my eyes a little about intersex, and gender identity

[@egg.on.the.internet]

I met Pidgeon when they gave a presentation at my school this week and they're such an awesome person. I hope I get to meet them again someday.

[@dragonbane001]

I'm going through the comments amazed about how many people didn't even realize this happens at points.

[@alieninthecaribbean]

Sheltered and religious upbringings. Lack of sex education and sexuality education in schools.

[@chrisc.7414]

I heard the word hermaphrodite when I was in my teens. I thought about it, but never really put thought into it till now.

[@sparkknight7618]

alieninthecaribbean Sad but true.

[@reinaandrews4591]

I just didn't know the term was different now.

[@rkat]

GrowUpIdiot I wouldn't have known this if I hadn't taken a women's studies class in university... no one really talks about it so most people don't know.

[@janelleblack6053]

I love the persons voice at 0:44 😘😍😍

[@lochlannkingz5279]

I like 0:29

[@pidgepagonis]

thanks, my voice loves you back ;)

[@irisalejandria5637]

I was about to say that! It reminds me the voice of my grandmother, no because of how it sounds, but her voice relax me and give me peace 😇

[@byenelly]

when you see someone with the same name as you😮😮😮😮😮😮😮

[@dicc-chan2970]

Janelle Black SIKE

[@demonicentity5640]

Omg I love this video so much, intersex people are rarely ever the topic of conversation when it comes to LGBTQA+ matters and this video dove deep. I have so much love for this ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@nitrocatofficial6939]

Honestly I have been wondering about this for awhile, my mom told me that I had surgery when I was a baby but when I asked her about it, she just seemed dismissive. She said “it for a cyst or something “ and kept the conversation moving like she didn’t want me to inquire more. I’ve always felt like a stranger looking back at myself in the mirror and my hormones have always been wack. I feel like I need to revisit this convo with her but I don’t know if she will tell me, and if the video is true, the doctors might not either. My head and heart are swimming

[@Arlothed1no]

I wanna be a surgeon someday and if someone tells me to remove their parts(?) without their consent (even if it's the parents saying it) I wouldn't unless they were currently posing a threat to the patient.

[@lilbihxxx1234]

same...if there is nothing wrong with them, I wouldn't operate unless I have the consent of the patient to remove them

[@thefloralbrunette]

That's not how it works with a child. Medically the parent is in charge legally of all choices that can be for their child. You can not just decide to ignore their choice even if it isn't what you believe. Obviously you do not know much about how being a doctor/surgeon/nurse works

[@itsiz5461]

I thought that the doctor doesn't have to do it. They can refuse but then the parents would probably go to a different doctor. That only applies in a life or death situation.

[@zeehee1231]

Obviously you aren't smart enough to become a doctor.

[@kokilavaradarajan9917]

Aren't you supposed to get the patient's or the guardian of the patient's consent either way?

[@KRUDDYMUSICIAN]

Who else thought the one person in the video looks like Sam Pepper?

[@IfTheApocalypseComes]

Yes! lol

[@iisthetiger694]

Me

[@hugogonzalez6148]

I'm really glad u guys made this video

[@jeremyknight5878]

This is so cool! I love this video. I just found out about intersex people, and they are really cool! I love them!