What Japanese ENVY about foreign Boyfriends and Girlfriends

When Japanese girls and boys look at couples from abroad they see that something is very different to them. In this Tokyo street interview we will find out what makes dating in Japan and dating abroad so different.
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[@PostAtariGeneration]

funny how boys said Japanese girls are not like that, they don't want to show affection in public, yet all the girls before them exactly want that:)

[@user-mt3uf1mc2e]

@T Doran calling other cultures shitty makes yourself a shitty person

[@user-zq7vi8lm4z]

@@user-mt3uf1mc2e but he got a point. When a culture held back the people and causing more problem than giving a merit then its a shitty culture

[@Mari-hb5do]

I Like Food You can have some principles that need to be reformed within a culture. In this case, it has to do more with mentality.

[@vitorh3568]

Actually, some of those girls think it is nice but i bet they (at least most ot them) wouldnt do it.

[@J.Crime123]

Tradition just for the sake of tradition with no benefits needs to be removed

[@SuPeRsKiTtLeStAlKeR]

Videos like these make me realize I'm more affectionate with my friends than Japanese couples are.

[@Balajohn_]

Same

[@roseannpadios452]

Same

[@Balajohn_]

@Tatiana Gust it isnt normal if you think about it

[@SuPeRsKiTtLeStAlKeR]

@Tatiana Gust I mean when I was there a couple days ago, I saw a lot of couples holding hands, but I was mostly in big cities. They may have been tourists. But I did see quite a bit of hand holding haha

[@Balajohn_]

@Tatiana Gust well thats a stupid part of their culture

[@goffymusiclover]

Ok to that one dude hugging, kissing and wanting affection from your partner doesn’t make you any less humble or modest.

[@abbeybarton7281]

Dream Angel Yeah but that’s how it’s represented in Japan. Japanese media typically make the more mischievous girls super touchy and flirty. Also in Japan there is a huge, not demand but, appreciation for the “pure” type that’s not really seen in Western countries. I agree with what you are saying but ultimately cultural differences as well as personal inference and choice is why he attributes PDA to the more promiscuous type.

[@Takaichi666-]

Dream Angel that’s what I was saying I do wish japan was more open to public affection

[@ericx6969]

she should not be that pure outside but at home she can go all out on opposite of pure lol

[@klemensvonmetternich4442]

Silence foreigner

[@cs0345]

It's still tiring and if you can't keep up the act all the time, the girl will think there is something wrong with the relationship for no good reason. Not everyone should have to conform to your standard of a good relationship

[@notjunior]

Boys talking about how they admire the "ladies first" culture but why just admire, why don't just do it?

[@dhenderson319]

not junior that’s what I dont get too.. just do it

[@taytae3697]

Exactly I was so confused as to why they find it cool and unimaginable for them to do it,, and the girls want them to do it but they think that no Japanese girl would want it. To me it sounds like either a major communication block or that the guys are making excuses for their inability to show affection.

[@pepperpig649]

That's simp behaviour Stop SIMPING guys

[@vani1551]

sadly in Japan they grow up thinking that standing out in the slightest bit is bad. they all want to be unnoticeable in a crowd.

[@idontreallyknowagoodname4191]

@@pepperpig649 Bro... are you okay?

[@cold-fire]

I always find it interesting how girls won't wear anything slightly revealing on their upper body, like a camisole, but the shortest shorts imaginable are fine and cute.

[@empawprint]

I like that about Japan. I wish it was the same in Norway. Here its often the opposite. Its ok to be revealing on top, but if you wear the shortest skirt you are considered a hoe and cheap...

[@Mari-hb5do]

I think either way showing off skin shouldn’t be judged, if you want to do it do it and if a person doesn’t like it just don’t look at them or ignore it, because as long as you’re not walking outside stark naked, it’s no one’s business but your own.

[@A-Wa]

a woman should wear whatever she wants without getting judge!

[@serbanandreimarin5988]

Some of the people in this comment section is why Western morality has gone down the drainer

[@HansBjorgman]

I think people should wear appropriate clothes no matter what country they live in. Dress for the weather.

[@Nothing-zw3yd]

"If a girl shows me affection, I get easily bored of her. I am the type that quits the relationship if a girl comes on to me." Wow. I can't even fathom that. Poor guy. Talk about missing out. There's a place and time for it to be sure, but come on. Lighten up, Francis.

[@dreamescence]

Exactly, i dont understand why? We humans have evolved as a social beings for survival we have this built in instinct to want affection and give our attention to who matters to us not just for a lover or companion but for friends family and other living beings, And this guy says that i would leave a girl if she shows me love or affection? Maybe he meant if she shows too much love/affection at inappropriate times or all the time and couldn't put it into sentences , or so i hope. Wow dating in Japan does seem to be such a hassle like some kind of chore no wonder they dont have sex that often and many dont seem to be wanting to get married or have kids at all these days in Japan

[@xAaeiynx]

I can understand what he's saying. If it's nothing but a physical relationship. That is boring. There needs to be something more than just the physical. I'm saying this as an American woman.

[@baniboo]

sounds like he prefers to run after girls lol

[@alfredconqueror4422]

He is probably a virgin so don't listen to him

[@Sherrice]

I totally get where this guy is coming from. Someone being touchy-feely doesn't show me they like me. It's just annoying. There are many different ways to express how you feel about someone. This guy seems to be the type to show his feelings by doing small things for said person. I'm the same way.

[@AKATSUKIROBES]

Seems a bit weird to want your girl to be distant from you in public lmao

[@user-wk2uf5yo7x]

It's called respect

[@edLogo]

its called bullshit

[@IamINERT]

@@user-wk2uf5yo7x your such a beta 🙄

[@user-wk2uf5yo7x]

@@IamINERT how can I be a beta when I'm a woman dumbass

[@PagChomp190]

@@user-wk2uf5yo7x imaging beeing this brainwashed lmao

[@Aja-Christian]

Is it just me or does there seem to be a distinct disconnection between Japanese men and women?? Like...it explains so much now. Men want one thing, women want the exact opposite, and neither side is willing to compromise or at least be upfront about their wants, desires, etc. On the surface they're so conservative when it comes to sex, romance and relationships...but then they're the leaders of creating spaces that replace real human interaction with artificial relationships, dating simulations, host clubs, etc.

[@patrickmendoza3210]

To generalise the two genders into moulds of your own making, is quite hypocritical, don't you think? Each individual is a spark of life; each spark of life have their own nuance. Just because in our current present, there exists a difference of perceived traits between the genders, does not mean these apparently 'common' traits, aren't actually common to both genders. I believe there is a sort of equality between the genders that in the end, if someone understood how to do the calculation, will result in an equal sum with very slight variation.

[@athavavalisio9585]

In regards to PDA I can give a chart of the general reactions you'd get in the USA Holding hands- no one cares Linking arms- people will find it cute Hugging- acceptable Being on the others lap- acceptable Kissing on the hand- adorable Kissing on the cheek- Fine Kissing on the forehead- Fine Kissing on the mouth- 50~50 might get some stares Kissing on the Neck- uncomfortable looks Biting their ear- get some weird looks Making-out- disgusted faces and glares Groping- full on death glares Licking them- shook/appalled everyone wants to leave immediately (yes this has happened more than once.) -Just go home at this point-

[@ayoayo1044]

I agree to this list

[@bellicapelli8155]

agree, kinda the same for italy (it also depends on the age tho, if it's teenagers, people tend to be more understanding; basically the older yout get, the more considerate you have to be).

[@axiomh5805]

Yeah, that's quite accurate for Brazil too, at least where I live (or for me, idk). I feel like that's the right amount of acceptance. It's fine to give your partner a peck and the other stuff listed, but when it starts to get too close and touchy, then it's not ok, that stuff should be reserved for when you're alone. Though it happens quite a bit around here, I feel like it's disrespectful.

[@jeffreywitty3088]

have you even been to the usa buddy? cause your wrong.. "Kissing on the mouth- 50~50 might get some stares" MAYBE IN 1920... these days you see men making out with other men at the beach and ppl be like "what ever"

[@chickinnuggit2615]

Athava Valisio Groping????????????

[@FUBAR956]

Those guys need to see your footage of the girls. They could learn a lot.

[@onemillionpercent]

yes!!!

[@natsukimomoi334]

In my country it's the reverse it's if a girl isn't affectionate enough that the guy lose interest in her.

[@user-do2dd2fg3p]

You mean she has to be clingy, needy and girly as hell? Yucks..

[@natsukimomoi334]

@@user-do2dd2fg3p kind of if she doesn't initiate kiss, hug or anything else like that then they leave her cause they don't feel loved. I'm not an affectionate person (I feel uncomfortable with pda and such and people always take it the wrong ways). That's extremely annoying. I don't understand the need of people to always want to kiss, hug, etc...(even while in public).

[@pepperdayjackpac4521]

ᮝᮤᮝᮤᮔ᮪ ᮝᮤᮓᮤᮃᮔᮤᮀᮞᮤᮂ do you have something against girls that u felt the need to use such negative connoted words?

[@mafazchan6817]

Im a girl...but i dont like physical affection.. only up to holding hands in public because duh i thought that was the logic because other than that its WAAAY too embarrassing

[@natsukimomoi334]

@@mafazchan6817 I feel the same

[@armartin0003]

"I'm surprised how much the men care about their girlfriends." And I'm surprised you can get a girlfriend after saying that.

[@marcalvarez4890]

Lol!

[@thisisthebadplace2596]

Fr like with the “I get easily bored if she shows affection” lmao wth

[@Nobodyfornow9669]

As an American who is outgoing and loud I think I would scare a lot of people in Japan :(

[@baniboo]

Well I think some people might enjoy it though, as long as you're not screaming in a train. I'm more shy as well so when I have someone cheerful around me it lightens the air a little

[@vani1551]

same! I'm from Europe but I'm really outgoing, I like talking with other people and while I absolutely love Japan, I kinda dislike the society. it's so sad to think that they don't want to stand out, that they do what others do, that expressing emotions is "odd", and that different body types are considered "weird". I've watched other videos about this topic and while I'm really healthy, I have lower curves that I just can't change. I'd probably be considered fat in Japan because of this ^^` I really hope this changes in the future, as unlikely as it is. :/

[@kenranseishunka]

I’m quiet but I think I’d still scare the shit out of people

[@tekken.universal2343]

I think Japanese people would be more suprised from your stupidity

[@klimentinipoulou5204]

Well I am Greek (that means I am loud and outgoing) and Japanese ppl were shocked especially when me as a woman gave orders

[@mihaz1193]

So, Japanese are basically cats... "Hug me...but with your eyes! “

[@RemyIssa]

😂😂

[@kwisty7554]

Sadly I do love me some cats

[@f6cks]

cute >

[@Birginio420]

Japanese girls: "I envy foreigners cause they are more touchy" Japanese guys: "Japanese girls don't want to be touched" I'm confused.

[@michaelm.1947]

No, the Japanese guys are confused. That's why the Japanese gals aren't satisfied with their men. Plummeting birth rate... hmm, correlation?

[@issyd2366]

Individuals are different from each other as well.

[@whyme3772]

I feel like with many Asians (not all) it’s kind of self hatred. They seem to like white guys over their own.

[@anadd6195]

They are lacking dialogue

[@Sully9549]

If it weren't for the animal irresistibly of sex, we would have gone extinct long ago

[@tetsuky]

this interview was such a facepalm moment to watch since both genders thinks so opposite. makes me wonder if japanese people will become exotic species in the future if they keep being so distant

[@creepykels]

Their population and birth rates are sadly in a lot of trouble.

[@LeneChibi]

Yeah if they don't even talk about things like this to each other and can't express their desires...where does this lead them :D

[@knexfan100]

@Pieces109 I dunno, man... I think we have the reverse problem due to the sheer number of accidents we have....

[@crazyMRRL]

They are very Shy so shy and sensitive

[@adityarodrigues2266]

Jay Kyu well here in India we have a booming population

[@bieipio_baby]

Interesting, I come from Italy which is known to have loud and touchy people, it's very weird for me to think my boyfriend wouldn't want to touch me or give me a little kiss on the streets, I would feel unwanted more than feeling that he'sbeing polite to me. That's a real cultural shock

[@bieipio_baby]

@grey momo I know that people are different, and I myself don't like people who make out and touch inappropriately in pubblic, what I'm saying is that I find weird not wanting any physical contact at all. I'm not judging, it just comes weird to me because we generally are more touchy 😊

[@blackdeku4785]

Italian here, I felt the cultural shock too, in Italy every couple I see don't miss any occasion to be together,they hug, give little kiss and sit on the lap of their lover, and things like that and I always thought this was a normal harmless way to express love ( obviously there're limits, french kissing in public is not normal even in Italy). The thing that shocked me the most was the last guy who says that he lose interest in girls that aren't cold with him, wtf!? It makes me think that Japanese girls need to act all humble, cold and elegant because most men prefer that kind of woman in Japan. It's a bit sad

[@blackdeku4785]

@grey momo beh, non esattamente, perché sono un ragazzo.

[@blackdeku4785]

@grey momo Si lo so non c'è bisogno di scusarti :)

[@branphloe-mixes]

Black Deku that’s really bad, Japan needs to fix that.

[@emr5459]

No wonder its an ageing population if young guys are so turned off by even low levels of intimacy. And yet they have things that foreigners raise an eyebrow at like super sexualised waifu pillows, hentai and love hotels... super interesting!

[@mce3620]

Em R I don't think this has something to do with aging population, considering the fact countries like Italy or Spain have almost same birth rate as Japan. To be honest I think most european countries woule have lower birth rate than Japan without immigration. White people in Europe rarely reproduce.

[@mce3620]

ⵟⴰⵏⵉⵔⵉ yes, almost. The data says life expectancy in Japan is 85, in Italy and Spain its 84.

[@marcello7781]

@@mce3620 it's not exactly just a "white people" thing, more a "modern middle class" thing. There are many factors including the decision of various European families to not have too many kids due to the high cost of life. www.nber.org/digest/jul09/w14820.html

[@ungeimpfterrusslandtroll7155]

Strange comment considering we have the same problem in the west and going back in time we had also a more decent culture in that respect but at the same time much higher birthrate's. There is obviously no correlation between these thing's at all.

[@Aja-Christian]

Right??! I'm fascinated by how Japanese culture has so many contradictions when it comes to sex, romance, intimacy, etc. They're shy when it comes to being assertive about wanting affection but behind closed doors they have entire industries dedicated to their secret perverted fantasies.

[@vouneful]

Personally, I had to "teach" my japanese boyfriend (now husband) to be affectionate even in public! xD but now, almost 9 years together hugging and even kissing in public is not a problem! And I think if I stopped the morning/leaving the house/come back home/good night kisses, he would definitely miss it!

[@NyuAkiyama]

Same here! 😂 Haha. But it took me just a year to make him understand the affection style from my country and he is really OK with it 😎

[@vouneful]

Nyu Akiyama haha! it didn't take me 9 years to make him more demonstrative! ^^' (hopefully! xD)

[@Darkstander]

That is adorable. Just really adorable.

[@Deadmaxter]

Reading this I'm so glad that my boyfriend hadn't problems with that. It only took three months, but he kiss me in public from time to time, and I'm the embarrased one XD

[@vani1551]

now that is relationship goals. I think in Japan the communication is missing, as much as the will to speak up about these topics.

[@kishi204]

The "Lady's First" thing has always bothered me. For us it's just being considerate to the people around you. For example, as a Canadian woman I would hold the door for any gender person including strangers like ???

[@thetiredworm2100]

kishi204 same for me in America it’s not about gender really, it’s just being polite

[@SumayaHarare]

Agreed. But they do it too. I just got back from Japan (I'm Australian) and they also hold the doors open and stuff. But funny enough it's more elderly men that do it and the more you go to rural areas the more people tend to hold doors open for strangers and stuff like that.

[@anastasia-fr1gn]

kishi204 I think they mean holding car doors open for women, getting seats to women, stuff like that. It used to be even more noticeable when men used to take off their hats for women, hold their arms when walking (which I guess couples still do).

[@kaguth]

I'm a guy and I personally hate when people try to hold the door for me. I have anxiety about people in my space, so usually I just stop and wait for them to stop holding it.

[@Tenchy]

@@kaguth I suffer from social anxiety as well but it just seems kinda rude to do that. Just walk past them, you don't have to interact with them or anything. They're taking time out of their day to just be polite so it's not very nice to waste even more of their time by just standing there. I kinda just keep looking forward, say thanks and then I never see them again so I can go on with my day. If you can't do that them just kinda gesture that they can go first or something.

[@Fuyuzuki168]

that explained why holding hand in anime count as progress lmao XD

[@usoppr8169]

Ah yeah.. i remember always screaming why they are so embarrassed to hold HANDS

[@sugarrico2264]

2:46 "holding hands and stuff" then u see people in the background holding eachother XD

[@Snowlily01]

this vid is like when the whole class copies the same answer book during a test lmao

[@Likian5]

I thought I was hearing an echo or something lol

[@jeffreywitty3088]

yea... their asians...duh

[@ourvashidomun6928]

Literally 😂🤣

[@demoniakira]

I envy that they have a girlfriend.

[@barbaritapuca]

🤭

[@mafazchan6817]

Same

[@batuhancokmar7330]

Amusing part is all girls say they are envious about the public display of affection. 4/5 of the boys also envy PDA (yet only 1 say he would do it)... Then why don't YOU do it yourselves?? I mean even with these ratios, there has to be some Japanese couples matched where both partners are OK with kissing in public.... I don't get having "envy" about something that they can replicate themselves easily...

[@hayaMLa]

because they're too busy trying to be that specific image their society wants them to be

[@LethalShadow]

Realize how many of the boys said Japanese women are too delicate for PDA. Most of them literally share the same opinions as the other gender, but think the other does not. It's more sad than amusing, really. The women want more PDA, but think their men are too shy for it. The men want more PDA (except that one dude), but think their women would be offended by it.

[@gabem6863]

Its always hard to overcome the limits society puts on people. If they know they are going to get looked down at or called out for it, they won't do it

[@oldiebutgoldie7093]

I guess that's really their culture but it sounds really cold. Like tbh, I feel like I won't like dating a Japanese if they're that against PDA...

[@OllamhDrab]

Well, being shy/reserved and being 'cold' are two different things. I mean, I'm American and ...well, I'm hardly *against* PDAs but they're generally outside my personal comfort zone to *do* much of em myself. :) (Hardly a delicate flower, myself. )

[@oldiebutgoldie7093]

OllamhDrab I think you misinterpreted what I meant. I meant that it sounds really cold like distant, in my personal opinion. You don’t have to defend them to me because I have my own opinion and personal reference when I mentioned about dating Japanese people.

[@esther6664]

tbh Dating in Japan seem to be nothing more than a pain no wonder the dating rate is so low

[@vani1551]

right?? even friends in Europe are more affectionate with each other.

[@mustang3429]

@@vani1551 I mean Europe is literally the capital of public affection lmao

[@kwisty7554]

Fr.... no thanks. Everyone is distant. Like come on. Its not even whether the girl is clingy anymore, the guys jus think EVERYTHING is bothersome.

[@driftdepalio416]

@@mustang3429 have you ever visited Latin America?

[@PenitentHollow]

A lot of people seem hung up on the whole "guy walks on the traffic side" thing but it actually predates cars. It goes back to when buildings were built with a second storey overhang and there was open sewage in the middle of the road. Men walked so that their lady would be covered by the buildings and be less likely to get poop on her. I guess it's still a nice gesture (less likely to get splashed by a car?) But I don't really make a fuss about this anymore.

[@IchbinX]

All that comes 2nd nature, and I never really thought of it as this manly gesture. I really like Japanese culture, but its sad that they make look every other man look like an alpha, without trying.

[@Rebotified]

I just always walk o the left side.... australian

[@momudmerchant1770]

With my little sisters I would definitely have them on the inside of the sidewalk. They’re so little so it just feels more safe that way. But I never really thought about why, now that I think about it I’m not sure it actually does much. Though even with guys I don’t like being on the inside, just feels wrong.

[@Tanerion]

@@aninani8294 Makes sense. I'm a European man and I try not to let women notice when I do that. Guess that's also why most men (me at least) feel more comfortable facing the bedroom door while we sleep; so we're more prepared in case anyone should come in. And I say that despite living in one of the safest countries in the world. BTW: walking as close to the road as possible also has the benefit of making most cars try and steer a bit more clear of you which means they're less likely to hit the puddles that are usually on the side of the street so you don't get splashed.

[@Tanerion]

@@aninani8294 No, I'm Faroese, my English might be better if I were British. I correctly assumed from your name that you were German. I happen to understand German perfectly though I'm not good at speaking it. Men sometimes start off doing things like these consciously but then end up doing them out of habit. Hard to say for sure though because there are a lot of things we do subconsciously like for example the way we nod to greet other men; we tilt our head forward if it's someone we don't know that well or don't know at all but don't see as a threat and tilt it backwards if it's someone we know well. I don't know how that became the rule but we all do it.

[@KrAUSerMike]

I remember once when I was working in Japan, we had a big company meeting. All the teachers (native and Japanese) were to attend, and the company would rent out a convention centre. Me, being 19, and the new employee, I opened the glass door and let the female teachers in first. Each would kind of stop and bow to me as if asking if it was alright, and I would say "Osaki ni douzo" and they would scurry past quickly while bowing. What started as a few turned into a lot, and I ended up standing there holding the door for most of the female teachers, including my supervisor, as well as a couple native teachers, so I was standing there for about 7 or 8 minutes. At the time, I didn't really think about it, but at the after party I noticed a LOT of the teachers were doing that thing where they would glance at you quickly then turn to their friend and whisper and giggle. One of the older native teachers (old guy from UK) drunkenly told me that a LOT of the teachers were talking about me to each other, and they were surprised that I had such manners for such a young guy. He also told me to 'be careful' around a few of them.

[@moonshinershonor202]

I'd get tired after 5 seconds of holding the door, good for you for going the distance.

[@bigschnozer576]

Be careful around some of them 😂😂 there’s no harm with couple of cougar bites 😂

[@scarypumpkin5716]

lol cute XD

[@willpower8061]

Hmm..im starting to understand why the birth rate is dropping, one cant start a family if your not affectionate with each other.

[@vani1551]

@Pieces109 true, but in Japan sex is getting really rare, and most couples don't even have that Intimate moment.

[@realasaster]

It's dropping everywhere lol. Italy is lower than Japan for example. It's a global problem but probably for different reasons. Here its more about the fact that women aren't interested in child bearing no more.

[@daharrisfam4576]

Same I not in Japan and not Japanese but this one is true like my parents don't really love each other that much.

[@Asaspecimenyesimextraoddinary]

I don’t mind lmao

[@whyme3772]

It’s really all over the world. Many women aren’t interested in having kids. Which I guess could kind of be a good thing. The world is already overpopulated. But still surprising.

[@elizaandreadaki9942]

In my country Greece displays of affection not just between lovers but also between family, friends etc is sth that is never doubted. Like I literally hug my friends I don't see in class every time we have a break for instance And even our greeting gestures(as a country) include a handshake and two kisses, one on each cheek. In relationships I'll have to say that PDA is unquestionable. Ofc there are cases where it becomes too much but that's the case for every country. Seriously I can not imagine being in a relationship in Japan. The girls seem like they want all that affection and love and care but guys still force those weird old fashioned ideals of Japanese women being like porcelain dolls or something. I feel so bad for this country as it is never going to redeem itself when it comes to birth rates. Young people don't like relationships. Guys mostly. I've been watching the Ask Japanese videos about relationships all day today and I keep finding out that guys don't like dating like normal people. They pursue the girl and after they get her they just have her as an accessory and request she contact them only once or twice a day. I've also seen a video where Cathy was asking about a popular term in Japan "Herbivore men" which is basically guys never pursuing girls!!! And soooo many of them said that most guys are like that nowadays. This is a serious social problem! Like how is there going to be a future for the Japanese if less and less people ever get into relationships??????? Also I'm not trying to say that it is entirely the Japanese men's fault but they do play a huge part in enforcing so many old fashioned and pointless rules onto women that lead to this mess. It is also the women's fault for not expressing themselves, their wants their beliefs and need for change. Yes, it is in their culture that they don't express what they feel, being indirect and all that I know but how do they expect change if they do nothing. This is all so shocking to me and I feel really bad about this cuz I love Japan so much as a country...

[@veronique_ts]

I am from Greece too and I completely understand what you're saying...It's so much different...

[@realasaster]

Well Greece has a birth rate of 1,38 and Japan 1,43 so generally I agree with you since I'm European too and find this kinda shy behavior weird but it apparently isn't the reason for childlessness.

[@elizaandreadaki9942]

@@realasaster our birthrate is lower because most young people move away from the country in order to find jobs. Most of Greece's population currently are elders since there aren't many young people in comparison

[@realasaster]

@@elizaandreadaki9942 greek elders, Albanians, turks and Bulgarians. Not a good future I believe. Yet there are many young greeks in Greece all I was saying is Europe has similar issues even if the reasons are different

[@joyouknow5385]

Wow! And I thought western couples had issues. There is a massive communication failure. 🤔 This Explains a lot of romance anime plots 😅

[@shadesinsertlastname1631]

lol true

[@stephanclemens2348]

@only Kine Well, we get conditioned to be very demanding little users who need their lifes to be a perfectly individually adapted consumer experience.

[@karnage9685]

Lmao

[@youcansoften]

And this is why I choosed a foreigner partner. I tried dating jp and kr guys but I got bored very easily. I'm a woman with attitude I can't stand when a guy tries to tell me what to do or what to say, wear, etc.

[@user-zi4do1hd2q]

Not allowing anyone to tell you what to do/say/wear/etc. is not just having an attitude - it's a *human right* for allowing noone to control you I myself live in a countrey where guys have certain expectations of girls, my own mother and some of my classmates told me ,you're never going to find a guy' or even ,you''ll die alone with a bunch of cats''... I just *can't wait* until I've got enough money to move out in another countrey P.s. I apologize if that comment was long/annyoing

[@konpeitosart]

LMAO OMG that’s so me xD I chose to date a Japanese dude (I’m a foreigner from USA) and I’m Latina. I couldn’t stand the dudes from here (USA) trying to tell me what to do xD I’m a super feisty woman haha

[@vani1551]

@@konpeitosart whoaa you found a Japanese who can deal with our confidence??? I'm so happy for you! let's hope you two stay together :D

[@sheyaannn9118]

do your thing girl!! ayee

[@konpeitosart]

c h e r r y g e m s It’s been over a year so far and he and I are planning on having a kid together in the future ❤️

[@revyflores]

when i lived in japan it was really hard for me to spot out when people were a couple, my friends often pointed at someone and would say “they’re dating!” And when I asked how they knew they pointed out that the girls would hold a string from a boys backpack, the fact that they’re standing together, etc. global dating standards are sooo each to their own and unique, it’s so fascinating to see the way others display their affection.

[@sidneylock5667]

The lasy guy is a wimp. I wil be amazed if he is able to get any GF

[@mafazchan6817]

Hes decent in my opinion lol

[@DreamingHearts]

@@mafazchan6817 same. seems like he'd really like the RBF women. xD I barely show any emotion and also dislike showing affection in public. To me, that's no one's business, but holding hands is fine.

[@mafazchan6817]

@@DreamingHearts i relatee.. Holding hands is my limit too..

[@keithandes2804]

My wife is Japanese and is very affectionate and loves it when I kiss and hug her in public, even in Japan. I guess it depends on the person!!

[@TBustah]

Did anyone notice how the “escort” guy started to say “gaijin”, but then corrected himself? XD

[@soulextracter]

So is gaijin a bad word then? I thought it just meant foreigner.

[@cedricletherisien4363]

@@soulextracter I would say there's a slight negative nuance, but that also depends on the tone of voice and relation with the person of course. But gaikokujin is more "proper" I think. I'm not Japanese though so I could be wrong of course.

[@TBustah]

The horrible story of a man that was forced to connect his youtube account to google+ It’s considered somewhat rude. It literally means “outsider”, and thus carries the connotation that the foreigner doesn’t belong or should go home. “Gaikokujin” simply means “foreigner”, and is generally considered the polite word to use

[@DFNR]

@@soulextracter lmao ur name 😂😂

[@soulextracter]

@@DFNR ^^

[@fakytup]

only thing I took away from that last interview is that those three boys have a serious case of fragile male ego.

[@TSPH1992]

It's like they don't want to face their fears

[@haruyanto8085]

Considering how judgemental their culture and society is on them, there's a reason why suicide rates are high in Japan

[@fakytup]

Hara Yanto no wonder Asia makes up 60% of the world’s suicide rate.

[@Emma-dh7by]

@@fakytup Asia also makes up 60% of the world's population so I don't really see your point...

[@mike-0451]

KIᗩᖇᗩ maybe you should stop wearing makeup since your ego is so scarcely shaken.

[@thicclasagna287]

japan being mysteriously introverted for 9 minutes straight

[@michaelfairchild]

You got to love how the guy not only speeded up, but also stopped before using the word "Gaijin". Many japanese still think we get offended by it. Im guessing most of us doesnt care if its "Gaijin" or "gaikokujin". You're a gaijin in any country youre not from.

[@erikarussell7939]

Okay, but I care. Lol It's just more polite to say "gaikujin"

[@esther6664]

lol you would care if you came to live in japan and ppl bullied you calling you gaijin and stuff. Japanese perception of citizenship is different to other country for them as long as you aren't completely from japanese descent you aren't japanese even someone who's born there but have foreign parents will be a foreigner and not a japanese and lol of young ppl struggle with that actualy

[@michaelfairchild]

@@esther6664 People called me worse. It also depends, if you take everything people tell you to yourself. Been to many countries and there are also people who will not like you being there and we are talking countries where majority is caucasians. Word is a word, it depends how You as a recipient take it as. I actually would love to go to Japan to see the culture and their history and no gaijin word destroy my trip. I would even buy a ticket using "One adult gaijin ticket please".

[@kuronoroux8864]

@@michaelfairchild heh

[@erikarussell7939]

@@michaelfairchild This isn't about taking things personally. It's about "which would you prefer" lol you are so preachy. I assume you haven't lived in Japan long term, because this isn't about a trip being ruined. It's about people's quality if life.

[@Onnarashi]

I can see how public displays of affection can be annoying. There's definitely a middle ground between sucking each other's face off and pretending like your other half doesn't exist. As long as you're not up in other people's faces and being bothersome, I don't think some (within reason) public affection should be a problem. Then again, what's bothersome is a matter of opinion and differs from person to person.

[@michalturlik7309]

I still remember when I was in Kyoto with my girlfriend. After the launch at the restaurant she wanted to make a nap as she was so tired so then she gave me a hug and layed down on me. A group of students (boys and girls) just passed by at that moment and their reaction was amazing - they all started to say: "soo cute" - smiles and claps followed their reaction. I am almost sure Japanse really want to be able to externate their feelings and emotions but they are blocked by their culture and they are afraid to be judged by others. Almost every country which have had too few imigration is experiencing similar deficiency.

[@lovelove-55s]

I never thought anything about boyfriends putting their girlfriends first until this interview bc its so normal for men to be manly and assertive I didn’t think i was taking it for granted until now

[@mkznan5963]

I like PDA but not overly the top PDA

[@yaomomo6881]

I like watching it

[@mustang3429]

My man said " if my girl gives me emotion I get bored of her " damn explains alot about these romance mangas and anime I've watched lmaoo

[@enkelikarkki]

i just like someone who i can hold hands with, insult them without them getting offended and they insult me back, that's affection right there

[@TimpossibleOne]

The girls at 4:18 seem to be a very close couple themselves

[@inkheart2007]

Yea

[@TimpossibleOne]

If the boys don't show their affection in public someone looking on might think they aren't together and try to make a move on their girl.

[@kevins6285]

"They are rather steamy around each other." I got a chuckle out of that remark.

[@TheRociprincess]

My boyfriend and I are living in Japan since September, we both are from the same country and we used to do what couples usually do in our country in front of Japanese just to see their reaction, some Japanese were just staring at us, some other just stopped whatever they were doing just to look at us and that was funny UNTIL! one time we were so sad outside of our house, we hugged to support each other and some kid and his little sister were passing by with notebooks in front of their faces to avoid seeing us. I felt so ashamed, we don't that anymore :(

[@hydratheorganism9639]

Wow that sucks. Feeling unwanted just to be “graceful” and “elegant”. Well guys, you can be elegant and loved at the same time, you know.

[@getcake8680]

Out of personal experience girls Japanese girls will say they want to see affection in public but when you actually do it they will get to nervous and act like they don't know you by turning around or ignoring you. Then everyone thinks you're hentai lol. Yeah this happend to me too much :(

[@wachumeqimeqi]

well. hmm relate?

[@thomas5585]

"If a girl shows me affection, I get easily bored of her" Same guy: Yes, I am 30 and have no kids, why do you ask?

[@RomaCHEIMS]

I'd love to see these kind of interviews in different prefectures, makes you wonder if its like this in all the country or just tokyo

[@sarahisunrelatable]

Damn this lowkey made me sad, like the girls just want a lil more romance in their life.

[@93mlo]

My Lord you're gorgeous , my dream girl 😍😘😋

[@aviralsinghal1274]

Ikr. And guys are like they would breakup if girl wants more affection.

[@IchbinX]

It's kinda sad that I take all the manly things I do for granted. Stuff I don't think about when I'm out with my gf. I never thought it was something strange. Are Japanese men really that weak?

[@martindaman5280]

That’s a big reason why they have low birthrates… Flirtation is the beginning of the sexual process

[@rajasbhise2642]

2:46 there's a japanese couple holding hands right in the background while she is talking abt holding hands.....

[@missjazz913]

In Russia, people are not ashamed to kiss and hug in public. But my husband is Japanese, so he does not kiss me and does not hug me on the street. It's normal for me. Sometimes I want to kiss him, but he removes his face, is shy and his face is red. It's so cute XDDD

[@bgone4265]

Hopefully, the youth will change that in time, show your partner love, affection, and respect is always, not just timed behind closed doors, to me, it's like being ashamed of the other person not to show your affection when you are with them. Question, Do Japanese men hold a lady's chair for her when sitting down out in public?

[@kairukun9484]

As a Filipino, this is tough😅 people here are very affectionate, if the boy/girl is too stiff then the other one might think they're not interested. Also, holding a door for someone and walking where the cars go doesn't make you a simp, it means that you're raised well. I hope there's a video where they can watch the opposite's opinions of dating😊❤️

[@alvinsmith3894]

Exactly. I don't understand why simple etiquette is considered simping nowadays. It's probably influenced by porn culture tbqh. They don't want to see women as people. Just objects that they can dehumanize and disrespect.

[@goffymusiclover]

I find it interesting and confusing. Like the girls want the complete opposite of what the guys are saying. Also what’s so bad about at least hugging? Kissing I understand if some people are shy about that. And the distant thing is a just... like why?

[@mononoaware1960]

I really love hearing Japanese people’s opinions on things but I also use these videos for Japanese listen practice. Many thanks for your work.

[@cardsfan5100]

Yes, this is one of the things that made dating in Japan as a foreign guy so much fun.

[@DreamBelief]

How they behave in public sounds pretty similar to my husband's culture (Saudi). Although, that is changing rapidly. I do see more and more affection in public, and more and more young people being extremely forward with each other (even what would be considered very forward where I live in Australia eg marching up to a complete stranger and giving them your phone number).

[@MrDboydeluxe]

KZbin legalese question....I was wondering behind the scenes does "Director san" have to get a signed disclaimer of everyone interviewed to air their comments?

[@mohamedhossam3645]

I like how this channel shows an interesting side of the japanese locals we can't see by other japan content channels...Plus the CC have an arabic option ! ... definitely one my favorite channels now !

[@nikaswords17]

If my boyfriend thought of kissing me in public as embarrassing, I wouldn’t be with him. Obviously it’s just a cultural difference and here in Germany where I’m from, people would also feel uncomfortable if couples had crazy make out sessions in public - but couples kissing to greet each other or if it’s just a nice moment is perfectly normal to us and a sign of ‘we belong together and we’re comfortable with other people knowing that we love each other’ 😊

[@EnslaveBrownMan]

The younger generation of Japanese seem like they want to be more liberal with PDA. I think the main problem is the older generation is judgmental. The boys are too conservative due to their upbringing and girls too timid to initiate any form of affection. Maybe a little more PDA would do Japan's dwindling population wonders.

[@bluexwings]

This makes me ever so embarassed to reflect on when my Japanese class had a group of Japanese students visit our school, and I gave the girls I'd been talking all afternoon to a friendly goodbye hug, and when I caught some guys staring offered to hug them. (>///

[@lasian_mami]

I really understand your feelings... that’s why it’s difficult that foreign people get along with japanese people as a couple... more if you are from south america where the people is sooooo romantic, sweet, cuddly, passionate... it’s thought!!!

[@Sannypowa]

Do you know what an Italian guy like me doesn't like in other people? The dislike for affection or care. If a person I was close to showed constant disgust and dislike for my affection and caring I would feel quite pissed off and leave for someone else. It's a waste of time being friend or in a relationship with someone unable or too embarrassed to open up and behave like a human being. The first step to adulthood is understanding emotions and be brave enough not to repress them. Be brave

[@WillardWright1986]

1:46 There it is

[@Fabian080690]

Those guys seem like immature men children who want submissive women who don't challenge them intellectually, while the girls clearly want to liberate their sexuality and affectionate feelings.

[@davidhead5943]

I lived in Japan for about 5 years and I dated a Japanese girl !! We were always showing affection to each other on the street in public ....I see that the Japanese guys didn't like it

[@jericoba]

The way Cathy always manage to end with the superfast, superpitch Bye, is cute and impressive. I always wait for it and in a blink of an eye, the moment is over.

[@xxwallzxx4509]

Just listen to your girlfriends. Try to be more open at times. There is nothing wrong with hugging them and stuff. The girls has spoken about that in the vid. Just go for it men. Give them a hug or something. Give them a kiss on the cheek or something like that. Display and show them off. The girls seem to be ok with it men in Japan. Some have said it already. 😉

[@shiro5229]

Yeah a lot of them (not all obviously) wont tell you what they want. You need to figure it out somehow. And if you try to take initative that can end up pretty shitty for a guy. Even ruining his whole life for wanting to hug his gf. In todays age guys can get some serious punishment for wrong reasons so no wonder some of them are legit scared of doing anything. Not all places are like this but this feminist regime is spreading like wildfire. I mean the feminist extremist not your regular feminist.

[@xuaudreyyyy]

Me being touchy and naturally loud watching these japanese etiquette videos: 👁👄👁💧

[@niiyon4852]

Lol can't relate as an introvert who is so depressed 😆

[@MJfanFoever]

I agree with not kissing part, but everything else like not holding hands, touching back and hugging is culture shock for me :o

[@mr.osclasses5054]

I have seen a few of these types of videos lately as I have been diving into Japanese culture more, and without a doubt, the most common thing said by Japanese girls on the street when asked about foreign couples or foreign men is how they wish Japanese men were more romantic and not as easily embarrassed about it in public. I have heard very, very few women say the prefer the distance, only Japanese men seem to think women want that more. They really need to catch up and actually speak to the women around them. Don't just say "I don't think it's right". Leave your ideas out of it and straight up ask the woman what she thinks about that stuff. The only thing I would worry about is if one of the women here, or in the other videos I've seen, say the opposite because they are doing the math in their head about it being a Japanese male and it might make him reconsider dating her. You never get anywhere if people don't actually say things honestly to each other.

[@Molhedim]

The japanese seem emotionally suppressed.

[@gdon12987]

Don't you hate it when Japanese kids point at you and say "Gaikoku no kata da!"

[@Kaizoushin]

At least that's polite Japanese.

[@LucasHenrique-it2io]

why do you hate it? i think its cute... maybe, becasue i'm not from America or Europe, I was not Heavly influenced by political correctenes?

[@UmboMoioli]

@@LucasHenrique-it2io I'm from europe and I fucking HATE political correctness. fuck that shit

[@msbluejayway]

You would think that being courteous to their girlfriends (holding doors, etc.) is not something that should be difficult to start doing. What also amazes me, is how most of the girls interviewed talk about how they would like boys to be more affectionate, and the boys talk about how the Japanese girls don't want that.

[@Sam-bd8bl]

These are like the questions I've never thought about but want the answers to

[@evolutionkakumei]

0:36 these girls are super cute 😍

[@DOVM6336]

They’re fugly are you blind or something?

[@richardgray1890]

Gerry6336 Someone doesn’t know people have different taste 🧐

[@fturla___156]

Displaying affection in public is a form of marking your territory as to relationship bonding for both the men and the women. A lack of representation of this type of social display hides the connection of trust and bonding between couples or any type of relationship and usually can be a sign of a weak bond that can be interpreted as being not as strong.

[@den2k885]

I actually learn to walk on the street side from my parents - they always placed me in the inner part of the walkway and explained to me why, so I naturally do that with my wife (and friends, and any woman I happen to walk with). I also automatically raise an arm to the side when approaching a road crossing if I see a car incoming, once I did it instinctively when I was alone and saw in my corner vision a woman going straight for the crossing without watching. I've never been thanked that much as in that day.

[@rinkoshirokane8263]

4:46 HER TALKING SOUNDS SO FAST OML IT SEEMS LIKE A TONGUE TWISTER FOR SOME REASON ..

[@Serjohn]

yeah i remember a girl that said i want a foreign guy to take me out and show me around, and i was like, show you around your town? what you smoking girl?

[@roulis640]

So the Japanese need to be more open and less conservative? I think everyone agreed in this video

[@Maerubi]

I really like your videos. Thank you. Your English are Japanese are so smooth to listen. I envy you talking these two language that way

[@isaiahbalahadia3880]

2:46 Girl talks about how Japanese couples won’t hands in public *In the background, you can see a Japanese couple holding hands*

[@Amanda-kh1ed]

When I went to Japan I was surprised because there were people here and there kissing and hugging but I guess Tokyo doesn't have that type of love, best place for me :'D (So lOneLy)

[@IamINERT]

Its ok bro

[@cxplorerv3]

I envy guys that has a affectionate girlfriend and not treating them well. I always liked when a woman was super affectionate with me in public. I don't like woman that are not into giving affection.

[@dominiku168]

Many Japanese men care about the other person's feeling and emotion first before they do. They think showing affection in public is a little offensive to women. But I've seen newly wed JP couple are holding hands occasionally, other than that kissing and hugging are pretty much prohibited. One thing I could think of many JP women do wear makeup, kissing may ruin their appearance. Tokyo is populated metropolitan and Japanese do concern their personal hygiene especially during the flu season.

[@GenetiiXKiLLZ]

Lol @4:26 the girl on the right had a kermit plush I want it 😂

[@prabhumass3513]

Japanese Girls jealous about not being able to kiss out side of the house??... Girls wait, most of us don't even have one(girlfriend/boyfriend) including me.

[@mooncat5681]

Me, too! Jeez, I need a partner.

[@bjulianlm]

To all you japanese women out there: I am sorry your japanese men won't touch you, hug you, or even kiss you in public! Don't worry, I will make my way to Japan one of these days. I got you 😉

[@ejsvegas5724]

What I've learned from this video is that I really need to learn Japanese other than just small phrases I catch from watching too much sub titled anime. I caught maybe 10 words or phrases out of this whole thing lol

[@FloraSora]

Interesting, the perspectives in these videos help me understand the comedy and vibes in anime a little bit better. Affection is uncommon in public, so that explains some of the "accidentally lucky" and other romantic slapstick a but more. Also gives it more weight and meaning too, which is heartwarming when it comes to romantic anime.