What Kids Have To Say About Bullying And How To End It | Tina Meier | TEDxBend

[@maddiereed3493]

This is very very upsetting. Rest In Peace Megan. ❤️🙏✝️

[@rylojenner4568]

She came to my school and I legit cried the whole time

[@petgirls]

Rylie Timmons really?

[@hellooldfriend3223]

Rylie Timmons where were you when she was being bullied?

[@jhernandez7838]

Hello Old friend, it was “cyber bullying”, people didn’t know because she didn’t show it. Either way, just because Megan could’ve possible went to their school doesn’t mean that they were “best friends” or even talked to each other.

[@ryliemtaylor655]

SpillingTheTea WithRylie same name spelt the same :)

[@livwhitehead1773]

Hello Old friend they mean the woman speaking, not Megan. And it’s not their responsibility to know what’s going on in someone else’s life, don’t try and blame them for something that would’ve been out of their control.

[@emmacleveland4273]

Diagnosed with depression in 3rd grade! This is so sad, I can't believe children could be so cruel. I was on the edge of tears when she recalled her last words to her. This is also an example of how words are more powerful than people think. RIP Megan, I hope you're doing well.

[@kkstar1297]

Mind Meow I remember when I first heard this awful story. I had just lost my dad to brain cancer like exactly a week before Megan’s suicide. My mom had just heard of this after she’d watched the news. She came downstairs to let us know about this terrifying tragedy. Although I never knew who she was I was outraged and felt horrible for this family. I still remember this, and it still haunts me even to this day. REST IN SWEET HEAVENLY PEACE MEGAN! November 6th, 1992 - October 17th, 2006.

[@kathycourtney350]

Mind Meow Me to

[@jaycharles3121]

I too went through depression from bullies til i got home schooled. The K-12 system has too many problems anymore.

[@timothywait9457]

Emma Cleveland she is

[@timothywait9457]

very well

[@katerina650]

The listening part made me break down in tears. You are so right. All kids need is a listening ear. My parents reacted the same way. Ignore the comments, ignore the bullies. Ok I'll come to your school. I had the same reaction and told my parents stop you're gonna make it worse! I never had a listening ear at school or at home. I had to go through a lot of trauma on my own and I had to be my own therapist which was so tough. I have 2 daughters now and the thought of my daughters being bullied terrifies me so badly. I hope I can be there for them and listen the way they need me to... I never want them to internally suffer the way I did...

[@alyssaj.2659]

At least you saw this video now so if they do end up getting bullied, you’ll have some good insight! You could contact the Megan Meier Foundation too.

[@isatousarr7044]

Bullying is a deeply ingrained issue that affects children across the world, and the voices of kids themselves offer valuable insights into its root causes and potential solutions. While much of the conversation around bullying comes from adults, hearing directly from the children who experience it can help us understand the real impact bullying has on young lives and how we can better address it. Kids often describe bullying as something that makes them feel powerless, isolated, and afraid. They highlight how bullying affects their self-esteem and mental well-being, leading to feelings of sadness, anger, and even depression. Many kids share that bullying doesn’t just occur in isolated incidents but is a persistent problem that affects their daily lives. The emotional toll it takes on them can be severe, affecting their school performance, relationships with peers, and general outlook on life. What children make clear through their accounts is that bullying is not just a phase; it is a form of harm that can leave long-lasting scars. One common theme in the voices of children is the feeling of being alone when they are targeted. Many report that they don’t feel supported by peers or adults, either because the bullying is ignored or the perpetrators are not held accountable. This sense of isolation can exacerbate the problem, as kids may become reluctant to report bullying for fear of being seen as weak, or because they believe that nothing will change. In some cases, they feel that they have no one to turn to, and they internalize the negative messages they receive from bullies. In terms of solutions, kids often emphasize the need for more open communication and greater awareness of bullying among both peers and adults. Many children feel that schools and communities need to take bullying more seriously by actively promoting kindness, inclusivity, and empathy. They suggest creating safe spaces where kids can express their feelings and report bullying without fear of retaliation. They also highlight the importance of teachers and school staff intervening quickly when they witness bullying behavior, as well as fostering an environment where bullying is simply not tolerated. Kids also recognize the role of bystanders in either perpetuating or ending bullying. Many children believe that bystanders have the power to stop bullying by standing up for the victim, speaking out against harmful behavior, or simply offering support to those being targeted. There is a clear call from young people to create a culture where standing up against bullying is the norm and where everyone feels responsible for creating a supportive and respectful environment. This peer support system is crucial in breaking the cycle of bullying, as it empowers kids to act as allies rather than passive observers. Furthermore, children stress the importance of teaching empathy and conflict resolution from a young age. They believe that many instances of bullying arise from a lack of understanding or tolerance of differences. Programs that promote empathy, kindness, and emotional intelligence can help children navigate social dynamics and reduce the likelihood of bullying behaviors. Teaching kids to recognize and respect the feelings of others helps cultivate a culture of compassion and reduces the alienation that often fuels bullying. To truly end bullying, it’s essential that adults listen to what kids have to say and involve them in the solution. Children’s perspectives can inform effective anti-bullying strategies that are not only responsive but also proactive. Schools, communities, and families must work together to foster a climate where bullying is neither accepted nor ignored, where kindness is actively promoted, and where children are empowered to stand up for each other. By creating an inclusive and supportive environment, we can give kids the tools they need to combat bullying and build stronger, healthier relationships with one another. In conclusion, the voices of children offer a critical perspective on bullying and how it can be addressed. Their experiences highlight the need for increased awareness, open communication, peer support, and empathy-building programs to combat bullying at its core. By taking children’s insights seriously and working together to create safer, more inclusive spaces, we can move closer to ending bullying and fostering a society where all kids feel valued and respected.

[@bionic_bat]

This is the most relatable thing ive ever watched. I was born in 1992. I was a emo kid in 2007. I was bullied from elementary school till college. I have PTSD from bullying. Ive almost taken my life 4 times. Severe bullying is real. You kids need to learn to not ignore it. THEY NEED TO FIGHT!

[@alyssaj.2659]

I hope you’re doing alright now! There’s so much life to be lived beyond school. In just a year, everything could be totally different, and you may even be better off. I know I’ve been much happier since I’ve been out of school. I’m 31 now and it was completely worth the wait.

[@bionic_bat]

@alyssaj.2659 I just turned 32 yesterday and I still deal with extreme depression and anxiety. I don't think I will ever come out of it. But thank you for commenting. I just wish people know that bullying effects people in horrific ways.

[@beryl319]

Her last words were so heart breaking💔

[@timothywait9457]

Beryl P she had such a hard life thank god its over and she away from the earth plane for a while she may be a fellow hybrid like me

[@timothywait9457]

and the women pretending to be the boy will get very very very bad karma for upsetting so meany people causing a girl to hang her body the body is your temple

[@kkstar1297]

@@timothywait9457 How can you be so cruel?!😡😡😡

[@alyssaj.2659]

I love her speech. If compliments feel good, why shouldn’t insults hurt? I hate when people say “it’s just words” when you’re insulted repeatedly, it builds up and hurts!

[@nonyuh]

Omg she has me in tears everything that she's saying is so true this is what I need from my parents... Every parent out there who is reading this take everything she said in this video to heart I'm 13 years old and if my parents actually cared and listened it would make a huge difference listen to your kids love them care for them

[@lorenaahg5773]

I used to self harm in 6th grade but I’m a lot better now

[@josiahsmallwood1413]

God bless you

[@timothywait9457]

Loreana Ah g its good to here your not Punishing your self anymore

[@werewulf2484]

I hope you’re still doing well. You are loved

[@GEMINDIGO]

This woman is incredibly brave to share this traumatic story with us so openly and honestly.Losing a child must be one of the most heart breaking experiences possible.

[@eliakimjosephsophia4542]

The thing is that when we were children we had grandparents that listened. With neighbours children I always said to them if you would ever like to talk about anything, even about your parents, my door is always open to help you, through what you are working through. The children appreciated that opportunity being offered to them, that they had a bouncing board other than their parents and their partners. Sometimes children will listen more to another adult that they respect, more than they will listen to their parents, especially in teenage years. I agree that it is about validation, but most of all it is about listening to what they would like to share in the way that they would like to share it. Some cases are very serious, and sometimes their peers at school are not trained or mature enough to support those children, although children like to think that they have friends, and they like to feel that they belong. It is a very sad fact indeed, that over 70% of Americans, are 'bullied' in school, relationships and or the workplace during their lifetimes. That % is incredibly high, so although 'bullying' happens in most schools, its a much bigger issue than that in the USA. America has been a 'bully culture', and we have seen that in the rest of the world with their foreign policy and 'hostile takeovers' of companies. The culture has to change, and as we know the 'bullying' began with the 'bullying' of the native Americans, that still goes on today. That is what the USA was built upon, the destruction of 'men, women and children'.

[@grandmanancy4719]

I remember this story because I live in the same area as Megan. I was made fun of in school because I was very shy. Later in life, I was diagnosed with Bi-Polar. My parents didn't know how to help me. Thank you for teaching parents to take depression and bullying seriously. My school days still haunt me decades later. So sad this little girl went through such cruelty.

[@TLOVE-zl4yd]

Thank you for this. My daughter is dealing with something similar right now...She has been a victim of bullying since elementary and faces it now in Junior High. I do a lot of praying. I wish we could have you come and speak at her school. God bless you for creating something like this foundation and touring around to help other children that have to deal with bullying. I am so sorry for your loss. R.I.P. Meagan.

[@grandmanancy4719]

I have been bullied my whole life and hated school because I could not cope with it. My parents thought I was just very shy and allowed me to quit school at the age of 15. Your daughter will thank you someday. Don't stop praying for her. One person can make all difference.

[@Mykidsaresmarterthanyours]

Don't pray. Homeschool her. She needs to be out of that environment.

[@alyssaj.2659]

Don’t pray. Take action. Be the answer to your own prayer. She needs her mom more than ever.

[@izzillidizzilli6188]

Very powerful message and the story is really moving!! But the thing is, even though my parents talked to me when i was being bullied last year, they would blame me to talk to these kids on social media. They didn't protect me at all, they only sent me who a psychologist when it was already too late.. Guys! If you are being bullied, TALK to someone! Don't hide your feelings! I know its hard but believe me, you will feel better when you have shared your problems with somebody! I wish you all the best❤️

[@v.dargain1678]

I agree . Talk to somebody . A paid psychologist who doesn't know anybody involved is a perfect person to unload it all on .

[@petitesweets1418]

Also finding the power within you to fix the problem by putting those monsters in their place! Let them know you cannot be touched.

[@Catkid]

@@petitesweets1418 Finding the power to not clam up and fix the problem so you can get on with it . That is a very hard thing for a teen to do .

[@izzillidizzilli6188]

I'm sorry for answering so late, but I have changed school a year ago and things are still going downhill..

[@helene8712]

@@izzillidizzilli6188 I pray things have changed for you. I hope you are well.

[@prllysra]

who came from musically and had to watch this

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Me

[@mr.harrypotter3226]

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[@melanyyywhoa1787]

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[@Janynerochaoficial]

Bullying destroy lives. I had to deal with Bullying since 4y/o and got worse in middle and high school. I will fight against Bullying until i die. Very powerfull,and strong video. I am 38y/o now and i cried the entire video,because the pain still here,and feel like she was telling all the horrible things I've been through all my life. Thank you so much. No words to describe the gratitude and love for this cause.

[@MrMissplaced]

This was so moving, so emotional and so god damn true. thank you for shining this light on such a dark matter

[@melissaolsen649]

My 14 year old daughter has been through almost identical situations and has said she wants to die. I'm beside myself in sadness and I am doing everything in my power to help her. This video is so insightful. I can't thank you enough for your message and there aren't words to express for the pain you must have felt after losing your daughter. I Thank you with every ounce of my being. I am going to start an anti-bullying movement in our town. Megan's story is an inspiration toward stopping this epidemic.

[@cassiepaschen6197]

I have been having very hard troubles and now I go to the Megan Meier foundation in saint Louis and it honestly has been helping

[@tessa.p_78_editzzz18]

I’m a 13 year old and I really enjoyed this. I’m going to show my mum! She really enjoys these types of talks

[@v.dargain1678]

Your mom is smart . You are not going to be the next one overwhelmed by cyber bullying .

[@marylau6813]

Kids can be so mean! End to bullies. They must be held accountable.

[@purplegal597]

parents not listening to what they're child is going through and focusing too much on the behavior is the main reason why bullying and cyber bullying is such a big problem today still!! like Tina said , parents like to think that they're a good listener and everything but they're not , they either will say " just ignore it" or i'm going to fix it" my mom was one of those moms who wouldn't let me handle anything on my own cause of my LD but now that I'm in my 30s she has backed of from that tremendously and now trusts me to handle certain situations on my own with no help and now we can talk about most anything . Like she said it can be done if parents learn to slow down , put they're own thoughts and feelings aside and just be there to listen and most importantly validating what we're going through then we will in turn open up more.

[@rodeogirl1291]

Omg im crying rest in peace Magen

[@slushiie9674]

I used to be bullied, and sadly, not everyone survives. I'm hurt and shocked by the way this girl was treated. Stop bullying; It's taking lives, one by one.

[@mariaszigety376]

Listening your children in silence and open the door to them, do not try to fix the problem for them, just listen and validate their feelings and listen. The children should process their emotional pain by talking to their parents and become stronger in this way.

[@cheyennadc1731]

you are an amazing lady so sorry for you lose and schools around the world should show this video.

[@edric01prim77]

thank you for sharing this...

[@PandasKarate]

I love your story and love how you pushed for parents to listen more. This is the biggest thing a kid/ teen needs on a daily basis. We advocate for kids all over the world who commit “Bullycide”. Thank you again for sharing it.

[@morganferris7992]

I’ve had these issues it went on from grade 7-8 and I dealt with it for a year and it came to the point I went to my school and showed everything, more people hate me now but now I’m not being cyber bullied

[@Xylina_Xj]

She’s beautiful and truly gorgeous! U can’t even tell she had any problems (not how it sounds) she’s so amazing!

[@zamarajoyce7055]

This reminds me of the movie cyber bully.

[@brooklynndelatorre9358]

I was thinking that too it sounds like the story line

[@1sabxllaxp331]

Zamara Booker that's because the movie is based on this story

[@timothywait9457]

Zamara Joyce i will look it up

[@МавзунаЗарифбекова]

I think, this woman is so brave and powerful and had a great patience. And a poor girl also hadn't a blame. It is right that bullying affects a lot of teenagers nowadays. Every of us must struggle with bullying.

[@madiburr5118]

Love you Tina and once again thanks for helping all of us around the world with what many don't talk about.

[@lee-annegovender9584]

This is such a beautiful thing you are doing! Even though you are hurt you still feel for others' kids, still have the strength to help them! Selfless! Love you so much for doing this. This afternoon I'm holding a little get together with the neighbors boys and a friends little boy and my two little sons. They've all been bullied, some traumatic. And so I thought I need to do something. I need to talk to them about bullying and how to handle it. Thank you for the information you've shared, atleast I can be more prepared. ♥️

[@cmo9203]

I am so sorry. May she Rest In Peace wherever she is. Praying for you.💕

[@alexaayala8919]

Rest In Peace Megan This is an inspirational speech I cannot truly express how sad I feel about this! I hope the best for you💗

[@moniqueperez6743]

I feel so bad for Megan

[@macyallen6456]

Omg that is sooooo sad I’m so sorry! Bullying needs to stop, I’m trying to make a project to stop bullying

[@randomcontent7558]

I was diagnosed with depression I 7th grade due to finding out that I had stage 3 thyroid cancer. Knowing I was dying made me want to die more. It’s been 3 years since then I Am obviously alive. I can’t imagine taking my own life. By doing so you are causing pain to other people and your family and no one can ever bring u back. Don’t commet suicide your hurting everyone around you

[@dr.thumbtzen6464]

She was not only a victim of cyber bullying, she was a victim of mental boundaries

[@rachelmarissa7700]

At my old school the teachers never listened and always said stop being a tattle tale when I would tell the teacher what would happen. Lucky I moved

[@13waystolivewithchronicpai15]

I understand how it feels not to be listened to. I send my sympathies to you and your family. I sent this video to my cousin who had a baby eight months ago. Hoping she can learn from it.

[@reyanbakht1203]

Oh my Goodness! This is horrible! I'm sorry!

[@DONNACEDOHIOK12]

This is so tragic we are all responsible as a society Bullying is a prehistoric epidemic conducive with predatorial public school environments .

[@DoubleRainbows-fp6ih]

& if you're Mother is the bully? The bully who never, ever leaves you alone...All your life. I'm a Survivor & not a victim But it is such a trial. She has trampled on me ANYTIME I got happy/ succeeded She literally hated it.

[@misteriouscupcake]

I cant stop crying. This talk is so powerful.

[@sharonbeckett9501]

What bravery to be able to communicate this really critical message. Thank you. Your daughter would be so proud.

[@witchysam4273]

As a parent this breaks my heart. Fortunately I did know what to do. I speak to my children, I've had them both see councillors, they've had hypnotherapy for self esteem, we've gone through so much as a family and neither of my kids are perfect. I can see this mama has done everything she possibly could. Cyber bullying is something I worry about but I'll have to deal with it of it ever comes around :(

[@rol407]

Good for them. Decades later my self esteem below lowest possible. sometimes I just pray for my life to end. What a waste. I don't live. I just exist.

[@nothingnessmeditationchann2115]

Thk you may Meagan rest in eternal peace. Sorry for your lost you are a strong mother 💪

[@ObiWanGinobiliTopFan]

Love is the cure all. Love the bullies, not just the bullied.

[@alyssascott98]

She came to my town (which is Megan’s home town and school) and it was extra emotional because it was local

[@michaellovely6601]

O'Fallon or Dardenne Prairie?

[@samanthatoweel-moore4593]

I'm so sorry for your loss. Great help

[@techbotgamerzs4104]

* REST IN PEACE Megan. So upsetting :(*

[@christophermcnamara6550]

My daughter is bigger and is in 6th grade and is being bullied. I’m very worried. She asked me 2 nights ago what would happen if she hurt herself.

[@raspberrie3]

I hope everything is okay.

[@aubreykeith7310]

she came to my school and talked to us about her 😕 she had the whole school crying

[@tayloreliza]

okay i’m here from a school assignment I had but I also find it really ironic that the girl’s name was megan and the guy’s name was josh because those are literally the names in Megan Is Missing (a movie that recently went viral on tik tok)

[@christiepeck1996]

Im so sorry for your loss😥😥😥

[@DONNACEDOHIOK12]

I so sorry for your loss. Megan .

[@fadalerabrasool4540]

what really upsets me was how tina couldnt forgive herself for getting mad at megan for not getting off at social media when megan came to her about the cyberbullying. i cant imagine how her words could have influenced her daughter to take her own life.

[@drakekay6577]

The ONLY way to end bullying is to TEACH the bully that their behavior is WRONG! The only way to do that is to HELP the bully recover from their own personal issues. TO keep the bullying from returning, DO NOT ABUSE THE BULLY FOR THEIR PAST MISTAKES once they HAVE changed their behavior...

[@kaleyroach4134]

This reminds me of the movie Cyber bully

[@Olivia-oq9ru]

Kaley Roach that’s exactly what I was thinking

[@Squishy9318]

Same

[@xoxogossipgirlts]

Oh man.. I bawled like a baby at that movie

[@1sabxllaxp331]

Because the movie was based of this story and megan

[@inamoore4527]

Who else came her from musically?

[@vaehentz3063]

Meeeee

[@aytt1429]

Me

[@sesshomaru5657]

Me

[@teehee1981]

Me

[@arianalanayy]

Me

[@ngwekhant7383]

Bullying is a power struggling from strong(abuser) and weak(victim) so abuser must not do such kinds of their own emotional problems on weak one and also weak one(victim) also get out from that power struggling process with self-defence and love to own self. And also people around him or her should not neglect these kinds of situation that can make our surroundings to toxic environment.

[@DONNACEDOHIOK12]

They can’t record it if they can’t trust a very system who has ignored it for decades

[@ChauAnhTranHuynh]

interesting speech, I wish i can be like her one day

[@camrynsvlog]

rest in peace meg

[@ashleighscorner3756]

My mom never listens to me and I don’t know who to tell because I have nobody in my life I can trust. No friends or anything. I am 12.

[@v.dargain1678]

You're a loner . So am I . Bullies love to pick out loners to harass Find an online support blog or support chat . Then type away about what's bugging you .

[@1903chrisholden]

so powerful and emotive

[@JohnLeslie4]

I saw this on web of lies! I was appalled. How could a grown woman orchestrate that

[@ningyoh3490]

Listening is the key correct !!!

[@corinnekemperman3317]

Thank you for sharing. Wishing you lots of strength in the future

[@ningyoh3490]

Very true words do impact other , thank you for this insightful talk 👍

[@emmaescamilla4401]

Hey I’m a child and...preach. *rip Megan* ❣️

[@voxtemporis4503]

Considering anti-bullying efforts (in a very rough quote from a non-remembered source) "Oh, there aren't strong and there aren't weak [and] isn't it [a good idea] that the bullied person find out which group he/she is in and what to do about it." Sad but true. However, some victims of bullying decide to use violence against the perpetrators. Just sayin'

[@christinamcilwaine8235]

Rest In Peace Megan never forgotten god bless 💖

[@FalcomHeartZero]

Megan Meier she is very pretty picture. I’m sad. Never trusted them to be bullied reason.

[@merrillschoolcounselor9249]

Thank You.

[@v.dargain1678]

Ditto .

[@DONNACEDOHIOK12]

They learn it and they’ve retaught it. But the truth is is they protect district predators and bullying is a symptom of it.

[@taelormason434]

She would've been 16 this year😥

[@rosegoogins8304]

Taelor Mason no because she was born in 92 so she would be 26

[@user-ul3hu5wp9w]

lmao no she wouldnt

[@ashleyduffy9899]

This kinda reminds me of cyber bully movie

[@andrewskinner8560]

I love this. She makes a lot of sense.

[@carlaburton3970]

So how does this get fixed. The bully needs to stop.what when students dknt stand up

[@naaeeskiii4044]

This is messed up R.I.P Megan we all love you your in a better place now we love you😇😭😭😭💔💔

[@larkynemma3792]

0:48 Tik Tok users

[@petitesweets1418]

Larkyn Emma by the words of the labyrinth “You have no power over me!”

[@LilliHoward111]

Jay Grande yasssss

[@addisondenman5835]

3:50 But then again! 6:43 Megan hanging in they clozet!

[@waxwaine]

Letting kids social networks it's like let them drive cars, they can go on the road and they can Crush anytime

[@DONNACEDOHIOK12]

They have been groomed to hurt those who are good. They have no regard For selected human lives. There are a bunch of punks who learn from their past communities. The adults are the worst car parts

[@DONNACEDOHIOK12]

Not car parts. They are the culprits groomed and conditioned from all of history. It’s time to end stigma. Because that would expose their cultures. That’s how they protect their own is projecting those who speak the truth to pathology. The only people who should be institutionalized at the office is an allowed her to do harm to our public school students

[@mea8176]

Rip Megan 💖

[@Dandanjavier]

The problem is the schools, simple to solve, complex to change

[@jpuc5568]

yeah you litterally cant stop bullying its part of human nature

[@greatgirl6013]

We need to correct the definition of beauty

[@no5051]

R.I.P Megan ❤️❤️

[@sofialyons74]

People are so cruel. This is America?

[@DaNinjaLin]

Yes unfortunately I live in America :(

[@chrishanna56]

Also if theres any videos about if your child is the bully...could someone direct me are son has always been great kid last couple months going down hill with teasing others and bullying were a pretty open family and we arnt getting awnsers from him... mother belives it fitting in with new friends... but i am worried there could be more to it ...do people think id be crazy to let my son watch this he is 8... i just want him to understand the impact of what bullying can cause a person to do i just get worried about the suicid topic and him thinking if others do it it could be ok to do someday if he felt that way

[@petitesweets1418]

Don’t ever let him feel powerless. Help him find the strength to rise above them. Let him know he’s not alone either. Good luck.

[@keyanskinnyboy1697]

RIP Megan

[@bricalderon198]

I want her to come to my school

[@Punkboi17]

That's sad

[@alanahhoxie5971]

This was posted on my birthday...

[@chrishanna56]

I like this good for u to share your story it sounds like such common sense but the world is rele about indaviduals wanting what they want and asap even if its childs behavior we demand it to stop or be better and really we gotta all open up amd chat and walk a mile in thier shoes