What makes you bisexual

[@username4419]

I am bi and proud! I have known I'm bi for about 2 years now, and still find that people don't understand that I'm not 50% Straight and 50% Gay... How can I explain that Bisexuality is its own, unique thing, not two things at once?

[@Courtney-Jai]

The weird thing is its such a simple concept yet people act like its thermodynamics

[@matteglossy3405]

Than bisexual people never do crossdressing?

[@matteglossy3405]

Tell please...I want to know

[@wolfgangcloutcapo675]

@@matteglossy3405 bi's never cross dresser well some do but I never do that

[@alixaurousseau4900]

TheTrueClabio you can say that it’s not blue + red but a mix witch is purple :) idk if it makes sens aha but i kinda see it that way

[@birb_Mairead06]

*When people don't like your bisexuality* Well then,... Bi! Bi! Bi!

[@roseviolet_lovesgumball5662]

Oml yasssss!!!

[@roseviolet_lovesgumball5662]

💖💜💙

[@vlatkomacici7528]

Lol

[@douggiefreshhasmr1622]

Yes bi shaquisha

[@deakonanaka2286]

Ha!

[@justink5000]

Honestly I love being bi, I wouldn't wish for anything else

[@avastars3393]

Same

[@kimkk2981]

I'm not bi so I have a question. Since ur bi, so if u r with a guy in a relationship than don't u get a feeling of regrade that u r not with a girl(living with a girl or a boy is different and also it is sexually. because girl have vagina and boys have pennies etc etc.....). Soo how can you be happy only with a guy Or with a girl?🤔🤔🤔🤔🙄 Isn't it difficult for u because u enjoy both sex? (I'm not offending u . I just had this question for really long time😊 )

[@justink5000]

@@kimkk2981 no :) thank you for phrasing that respectfully. But I never feel like I'm missing out. It's like if I were heterosexual, I don't feel like I'm missing out when I can't be with other boys. If I am in love with somebody, I am monogamously committed and loyal :)

[@kimkk2981]

@@justink5000 hey thanks for replying 😊😊 And telling me that

[@vlatkomacici7528]

Me to

[@christianjohann9485]

You are so young and yet so wise and honest. It takes so much courage to be vulnerable in front of millions and expose yourself. You are such a beautiful human being. Thank you!

[@Courtney-Jai]

It takes alot more courage for people to watch me and make that decision to come out

[@XxXx-hj2jq]

Same comments here (gay guy from Hong Kong) I have had some bi friends. I always thought that there is a lot of bi people.

[@cameronclare5084]

Fellow bisexual guy checking in. I already know I am bi, have done since I hit puberty and formally came out about 5 years ago when I was 15.

[@Courtney-Jai]

See this is what I want the social connection its great you guys are here just in case there's a kid out there who feels alone about this they have others to talk to as well

[@cameronclare5084]

k a w a i i ♡ cheers cutie.

[@bionicredneck6976]

cameron clare it is completely normal to be bisexual, I know how it feels

[@Courtney-Jai]

I'll be sure to check it out

[@bionicredneck6976]

Courtney-Jai I will like to ask you a few questions and advice through email on how to deal with homophobic people

[@ladyofthewinds8267]

Proud to bi ;)

[@Courtney-Jai]

You should be 😋

[@avastars3393]

@@Courtney-Jai I am proud to be bi too

[@Courtney-Jai]

@@avastars3393 and you should be

[@JustJRR]

Bi boys taking over 💙💜💓

[@jtc_lix9842]

TheOtherFWord yep

[@Courtney-Jai]

Bi everyone let's not forget about the girls that's half the battle 😋

[@wolfgangcloutcapo675]

Bi's Run It 😘🔥🔥

[@kylegough8198]

I’m bi as well and it feels great only found out recently tho

[@losamigos5511]

Bi girl taking over 💙💜💓

[@nogac6093]

I think im bi, i don't i really know already. I feel so confused

[@Courtney-Jai]

It's a confusing time I guess think of it like a boat Ur in a storm right now but if you get through and find land you could discover something great

[@cristinapopa6815]

noga carmeli yea same, I’m the same way and my friends are telling me I’m not bi but I know what it’s in my head and what I feel when I see girls

[@voidbros1232]

As he said do ur homework in a way

[@loucam7570]

Sometimes I'm so sure I actually am bisexual and some other times I'm hella confused

[@user-bv5sq9dy7w]

Same 🥺

[@bowiespitler55]

Same

[@craigsxchange]

Bisexuality doesn't mean that you're "on" all the time. Interests increase and decrease for many reasons. Don't try to label and simply try to recognize what your interest is in that time. I think that part of the problem is that most of us are not taught how to listen to what our own body and mind is telling us, but just play the social script in our head. Sexuality is so indivdual, forget the label, and learn to listen to what you're telling yourself. Get to know your interests, whatever they may be and whatever level they may be at that time.

[@philcol86]

You speak with a lot of love in your heart. I very much appreciate that. Makes all the difference. Still having some struggles but you made my world so much brighter. Before I watched your vlogs, I would remove any videos related to bi or liking guys from my watch history. Don't feel a need to anymore. Thank you

[@Courtney-Jai]

what should the next video be and what other points could I add to this video to make a part 2 or did I hit the nail on the head

[@Sasha.studios_official]

Courtney-Jai what the heck was that in the beginning of the video also what i love about you is that you are very calm and chill and and sweet

[@the_life1]

Please, could you give us more informations about bissexuality not specific about yourself but in géneral, all around the world or how many are we? How Many suscide themselves...? How to react when people who are attractive and whom we do not know the sexual orientation ask us if we are homosuxual? What when we response no and then nothing. When parents denie that it exists...should we make a coming out to them? Do you think every child can have kind of homosexuals comportement? Would it be better for a bissexual to be with other bisexuals? By the way, are we also more "open" to love people with different physical caracteristics than monosexuals?

[@Courtney-Jai]

the Life I like your ideas I feel that I need to do more research before I can tackle a lot of those subjects so it may be a while because I want to get it right

[@the_life1]

Courtney-Jai You don't have to be 100% right, just say what people aroud you know/think and say how you know what... and if you have some simple website where there is those kind of information, could you just name it, Thank you!

[@naylin84]

You hit the nail on the head :) x

[@user-wo4vo5nz8e]

Im still closeted but I just want you guys to know that when we got outed there are people who will still support and love us the way we are. Many people might dislike us because of it but Let's normalize it so kids in the next generation won't suffer as much as we do. Courtney Jai is here, ready to lend a hand for those who needed help. We will stand together, no one will be ahead nor one will be left behind.

[@NailDit100]

I'm also a bisexual gal woo! However I just came out in February and tbh, I still doubt myself a lot which is really annoying me, I wish I just had some clarity in knowing for sure. Im worried I'm kind of inventing or imagining my attraction to girls, but I don't understand why the hell I would do that. I'm just doing a whole lot of thinking and trying to figure out who the heck I like and who I am! This is a helpful video however when discussing gender, i would say try not to gender genitals, they don't always define gender (yanno transgender and non-binary and all that big old spectrum of gender) Still an awesome video though but just wanted to idk give some advice I suppose x

[@emytheteacher]

Hi girl! I'm bi too and i can understand your frustration, just a piece of advice to help don't really bother about it that much now. It will all make sense when the right person comes :) why are you so on edge about it?

[@peiyigoh7608]

If you’ve come to terms with yourself that you are indeed bisexual, you most likely are! So don’t worry :)

[@arlynesoto250]

NailDit100 same girl....watching this video because I’m questioning today 😅

[@agustusfarnworth3379]

Iam a guy and I want to date this guy but I don’t wanna mess up at the very last moment that matters most that is why I’m here right now to understand make sure.

[@Alex-uz3eu]

Me too girl, me too

[@pandoracatz6922]

I- think I might be Bi- but like I don't know. I've imagined myself plenty of times with guys, and have had plenty of crushed on guys, and guy celebrities. And that's usually what I think first when thinking about stuff like that. But then I think to my friends and my hobbies and then I just imagine how nice and peaceful it would be to be able to live the rest of my life with them. How soft...? Life would be if I were with a girl... And then my love for some of these fictional girls 😳. *Cough* Catra *cough*

[@MrDenwayden]

I'm an 84 year old bisexual. Married for 52 years & kept a lid on it most of that time. Suffered bouts of depression throughout, but dare not come out to a homophobic wife. It did bubble to the surface after 15 years wed. I fell in love with a much younger guy, but a very one sided affair & I went through hell with my feelings for him. I had to tell my wife resulting in her leaving me. After 6 months apart we got back together again but lied through my teeth to do so. However a couple of years after being widowed, I came out to my daughter when she told me she was also bi, also my grand daughter! To all those annalists out there; it appears to be hereditary & locked in our genes. I feel at ease & happy now having come out & to be accepted by all of my friends, but too late in life to start up with any sort of relationship.

[@Courtney-Jai]

My social media Twitter & Instagram @COURTNEY_JAI95

[@rhaspberry7108]

thanks for existing man im not sure this helped alot ❤

[@impactcaresolutions]

Great video Courtney-Jai! Amazing that someone just a year older than my son has helped me with my coming out process as a bi man. 2018 is the year that I decided not to "hide" anymore, and I am all the better for it. At 53, it was about time haha. The important people in my life know (parents, family, best friends) and I've decided to mention it to others if it is relevant to the conversation. Anyway, keep up the good work mate!

[@Courtney-Jai]

By that someone do you mean me because if so that's amazing , that's what makes these videos worth it I am very happy with you

[@bionicredneck6976]

Patrick Gosselin how old is your son

[@Acapella_guykev1]

I’m so glad to see you still making videos after all these years I enjoy to have a KZbinr like you talk about sexuality cause a lot of people don’t

[@Courtney-Jai]

Well I'll keep going till I have said everything I needed to say

[@bionicredneck6976]

Kevonte White I don't mind talkin about sexuality

[@artistatheneko1851]

How i found out (Staring at girls) i can't be lesbian (Staring at boys) i don't like boys (Staring at girls) well that's not bad (Staring at boys) eh.... Hahaha isn't this bad either (Staring at both) oh my oh my (I like both) AAAAAAHHHH

[@jaginaiaelectrizs6341]

I know this is not a new video... *but,* I just wanted to say = I love how you actually acknowledged that you are not required to have sex with someone to still be able to have a totally non-friend relationship with someone! This concept often seems to be considered as strange and poorly understood by people as bisexuality itself, or perhaps even moreso; and, it is so rare to hear someone actually just say it outright like that. THANK YOU💜

[@Courtney-Jai]

Well I think the more I talk about the subject the more I can educate people on it Im happy you liked the video

[@ryanblack3285]

When I "came out", I said I was bi because I thought it would be a softer blow to my family. Ironically enough, they thought that was worse! 😂 I am actually fully gay.

[@Blue_Pumpkin]

I feel you

[@rechiblanco5043]

HEEEELP Okay, I know this, I am 99% sure i'm bi, I'm just scared of telling people, I told one of my friends a year ago that I was stuggling with this and his reaction was like "please don't" and it broke my heart and made me feel super stupid and insecure. BUT like a week ago I told another friend and he was suuuper nice and told me that he was okay with it and that I should be happy with who I am. That totally made me feel better and I know that when I tell people I am going to feel way better. I JUST WANT TO TELL PEOPLE BUT I'M SO SCARED, What are my friends gonna say? What if they stop talking to me? If someone's reading this, please help, a little advice would be nice

[@Courtney-Jai]

Maybe ask your friend who you told to help you come out to your other friends having some one there can help out alot for emotional support

[@rechiblanco5043]

@@Courtney-Jai Yes, I will ask him because I'm still not 100% comfortable by myself, Thank you, It means a lot to me that you actually read my comment and replied. xoxo

[@olliemorgan9735]

Courtney, thanx for this simple, clear, and straightforward analysis! Iunderstand the fear that people have. Still working thru it myself. I am grateful for you.

[@Courtney-Jai]

Just happy to help

[@willneverforgets3341]

Bi and proud... was really confusing at first though... it took me very long to acknowledge and then accept it. But now I'm ok and fine and loving myself...

[@eggsontoast]

I've looked at a bunch of videos like this and yours has been the first one which I've felt has given me something concrete to do to figure out my sexuality, so thank you for that. I've been having inklings that I might be bi for about a year now, but haven't really given it much thought as I was quite busy with school and definitely didn't need that extra mental effort at the time. I was suppressing my feelings for a guy I was attracted to at the same time, so it kind of just followed on. But for the past few months, with school ending and not much else to do, I've been focusing more on my personal identity, and actually trying to figure myself out. As such, I've been watching a lot of videos like 'How to know if you're bi', and while their experiences have certainly helped me become more aware and comfortable with sexuality, and to become more okay with being attracted to people (I always hid when I had a crush on someone because I didn't want to be made fun of, and as such have been a bit stunted in my exploration of sexuality as I constantly repressed it), I didn't really have anything else to go by to check if I'm bi. I'm demisexual (something I've known for years), and as such I don't get attracted to people until I've formed an emotional connection with them (I've so far taken about 3-6 weeks of getting to know people), and I thus haven't really been able to check if I'm attracted to female strangers or not to see if I'm bi. But this idea of whether I could imagine myself in a relationship with people of both sexes, that has helped me immensely. I already did my fair share of imagining with a couple of male crushes I've had, but then I realised that I've done a similar thing with some female friends (who I hope will never see this comment, because that's embarrassing af). While I will wait until I get a proper crush on a girl to come out properly, this video really struck a chord with me and I'm pretty sure now that I'm bi. So thanks, you've helped me with a lot of confusion about my identity and I appreciate that I can be more comfortable in that identity now. I haven't told anyone at this point, and it's been eating at me a lot because I want to work myself out, and I want a bit of help doing that, and I think now that I'm a bit closer to being sure I might tell a friend about it, one who won't make a super big deal out of it (so not my lesbian friend who will take it as a lot more certain than it is, and not my friend who is completely straight and quite naive and innocent when it comes to issues of attraction and sexuality). I feel like I've been writing a lot of comments like this on videos like this in lieu of actual people to talk to. They're very much for myself, but I think I need that. If anyone actually read through my paragraph of confusion, I appreciate that, and any advice you have would be appreciated

[@Courtney-Jai]

I have found that sometimes writing it out is therapeutic and most helpful , this maybe the most though out comment I have ever read and I really hope you do discover yourself just remember you only get one life so make the best of it 😋

[@eggsontoast]

@@Courtney-Jai Thank you for replying haha. I have a lot of thoughts going on atm to do with my sexuality, so I kinda needed to write them all out to work out my overall thoughts. I tend to overthink things, so there's a lot of them. It helped a lot to write them here where someone might see them, as did telling someone irl

[@thomasd1793]

pansexual here. it is the best imo. since i reconciled my identity and embraced just being free. i am truly happy now and are in a beautiful relationship with my trans wife :) ( yes, i am attracted to boys who are boys too. just not overly masculine. i like smooth and fem

[@jamiefordx]

I like what you said & I’m happy you are so willing to express to other people about this. Sexuality is beautifully unique to every person. It’s very fluid. We are always changing, growing, evolving & you never know who you’ll be in the next few years! I’m open to the change. I’m intimately attracted to men and women. Love knows no barriers! Don’t ever let anyone put you in a box. If they do, break it! Forever keep an open heart and mind. ♥️

[@cynm555]

I'm not sure about my sexuality right now that is why I'm seeing this and even though I'm not completely sure that I am bisexual or not this really helped me with some questions I had and made me feel a little bit less confused about it so thanks for making this video

[@Courtney-Jai]

No problem would you think it's would help if I made more updated video of this just wandering

[@thomasbleming678]

I have been bisexual since I was 15 y.o. I came OUT around ten years ago and most of my friends and family members were very supportive. Being bisexual allows me to enjoy the BEST of BOTH worlds and fully enjoy life.

[@Courtney-Jai]

That really a great I'm very happy for you

[@Jo-in7dz]

Im a closeted bisexual man😔 I don't know what to do.

[@ryanblack3285]

Find other people who think and feel like you do. I came out and told my family I was bi when I was 16 but everyone is different. You'll know when it's the right time don't do it until you're ready. Or you don't even have to verbally say anything. Just date who you want and let people drawl their own conclusion about it!

[@johnarvinsarno1937]

I just Dont like being Bisexual Before Because im so confused who what i want until I realize This is Exciting. 😅😅

[@carabear1019]

Oh I’m struggling real hard right now I want to tell my mom but I am scared to tell her that I’m bi but I’m afraid that she’ll kick me out I’m only 15

[@benesc4376]

CARABEAR greenaway if I’m honest, I don’t want to sound scary or anything, but if your in a country in lockdown at the moment, it would probably not be best to come out now, not everyone understands at first and can need space to process things, but in lockdown there is no space and stress levels can be high. I would recommend hanging on in there for a bit longer, but it will be ok there are plenty of people in the world who will support and love you if things don’t go to plan 🙂

[@carabear1019]

Thanks for the Advice

[@FloorstheLimit]

Omg we r the same person

[@carabear1019]

samad ya we probably are the same person

[@gustavmahler1466]

I am bisexual my feelings for guys is different than my feelings for women

[@kamilkonak6652]

Me too and I have always thought that it should be the same, but it is quite different... so I have no idea still confused about 😄

[@myrchantkobold8268]

I find my attraction is different for each sex, I find women more physically appealing but I absolutely hate how they judge who they should date. Men I find less physical attraction (i'm pretty playful so it's not really a problem but it's noticeable) but emotional attraction is much, much stronger. Whenever I have dated women the first question is how tall are you if not in person or, what do you do for work how much do you make. I actually said I was unemployed on purpose the last few times and they would drop me immediately. If they would have stayed I would have clarified at the time my Husband had just passed away and I was taking some time to pull myself together because I had enough money to not need to work. I ended up with a guy because he talked to me like a real person and not a job interviewer. When I eventually got a job i'd fly to the Netherlands for a date over the weekend then be back for work that monday morning. My female boss thought it was romantic and said she couldn't find anyone who would do that kind of thing and I thought maybe the person who would is short.

[@OLDS98]

Courtney Jai you changed your opening. I think it is great you are doing this series. I think this series not only helps others, but helps you being able to openly discuss things in your videos. You are open and accepting and informed about your this discussion. I do not use social media. It would be nice to get to know you. Keep doing you and keep smiling.

[@Courtney-Jai]

Yeah I changed the opening also to welcome all different types of people as well

[@bionicredneck6976]

Courtney-Jai is it normal to talk to a straight man about everything as long as he is not homophobic

[@megkrish7568]

I have the signs of being bi but shouldn't we experiment to find out

[@wanmuhammadasyraf6854]

I'm a bi.. and my parents not happy with it..i came out as a bi to my parents when I was 19 y/o..During my came out, they hit me, they abused me physically and mentally, isolated me and they asked me to change my sexual orientation to straight again.. but I just can't.. And they confiscated my phone and texted my ex boyfriend to dumped me.. I was so depressed and wish there can be a cure for this sexual orientation problem....

[@herczegcsanad3941]

I'm so happy that I found a bisexual guy on youtube, I've been looking for a youtube chanel like yours for a very long time and finally I found it😃 I started following you today but you already help me a lot. Can't wait for the new videos.😁😃😃😄

[@Courtney-Jai]

What have you thought of my content so far

[@herczegcsanad3941]

I love it 😍 Helps me a lot.

[@bionicredneck6976]

Courtney-Jai it is helping me out with it and it takes time for me to process it as well

[@rutheino5280]

I'm a woman and I'm bi-sexual and that's okay .😁😁😁😁😁😁😁 not that I would have felt bad being like that before, but listening to you and noticing that we are underwater is a super feeling. we should be proud to be honest with ourselves and to know what makes us happy dear bi-sexual and all other sexualities, we too are proud of ourselves.

[@Evanmnm]

This video was extremely helpful, thanks!

[@gizzykatkat9687]

I'm 45 and have just recently really realized that I am bi sexual. I'm not gay and I'm not "strait" either. Sorry for the spelling. The thing is my non gay friends feel weird when I talk about men and that I love penis. And my gay friends feel weird when I talk about loving women. Why does this have to be so polarizing? Why am I stuck in the middle of these people who profess to be my friend no matter what? I do understand it though, how do they feel looking at me. Where do I fit? Just because I love both means I am marginalized by both groups? This fucking sucks and I feel stupid. Your vid has helped me talk about it. Thank you.

[@Tailsbeth]

Hey, cool video! More discussion on bisexuality is always needed :) So there were just a couple of things I wanted to point out. You were talking about emotional and physical connections and there are actually labels for just these! So while bisexual can just be a general term, you could use it to just mean the physical connection. Then if its to show you're not into the physical connection but are into emotional connection, you are biromantic. For example an asexual person could also be biromantic, heteromantic etc and an aromantic person could be bisexual, gay or heterosexual. The other thing that irked me a little was how you mentioned pansexuality and how it was connected to non-binary people. I totally get what you were intending but I'm bisexual and have been attracted to non-binary people. It's a confusing thing and everyone has different definitions of their labels but there's a bi vs pan thing that comes up a lot, bisexual sometimes gets called a transphobic label when its in fact not. When I look at the definitions I probably come under pan more but I honestly use bi more because people understand it instantly where as they don't so much with pan. If you're going to go into the subject more, there's tons of resources online that are worth looking in to. :D Oh! The other thing, maybe don't apply certain genitals to certain genders. While vaginas for women and penises for men might be the case for cis people, it's not always gonna be for transgender people. Sorry about this ramble, I hope this is somewhat useful :) x

[@Courtney-Jai]

No that's perfectly fine thank you for being so insightful there so many terms and labels within the LGBT that it starts to become hard to not insult someone because that term excludes part of them, I still have alot to learn but I try my best if you could send me some links I would be happy to read up on the subject

[@Tailsbeth]

Courtney-Jai I didn't see your reply, sorry! I'd actually check out at Ash Hardell's channel. I've learned tons from them, they started a series called the ABCs of LGBT which eventually turned into a book. I like that when she's talking about an experience that she hasn't had, she brings in guests who have. Super informative and fun channel in general, their videos are straight forward to understand and also great if you're relatively new to any terms beyond gay, straight, bi. :D

[@MrRetri8]

Tailsbeth these labels and scientific words to describe a something which can be told in a sentence sometimes easier to everyday people, at least that worked for me;)

[@Courtney-Jai]

I have seen her channel before I actually think she's subscribed to me , she asked about the topic of bisexuality once but nothing really ever came of it , I'd love to be on her channel she's very creative.

[@Courtney-Jai]

I actually think that's the only reason we have labels to help people understand the problem is everything is alot more fluid in life there are men and women who go through life everyday this king they are straight and all it takes is one experience and it changes their whole outlook on life

[@Alex-uz3eu]

I need help, I think I am bi or bi curious but I am not sure ... I realized this last night at 12 am so.... Any help would be great

[@semschop3056]

yeah this pretty much covers it, just the realization that both is also an option was en is to this day one of the best thins of my life

[@jamesmcdaid1260]

Hey dude! Being a Bi guy myself I'm just interested in what sort of reactions have you had from friends, particulary your male friends? I'm sort of in this fuzzy stage of coming out, some people know but its an open secret.

[@Courtney-Jai]

Generally pretty good the odd joke about being greedy but nothing bad , I think because I have a small close friend circle and among them one is gay and another is bi also it's alot easier for them to accept and be happy for me

[@Courtney-Jai]

I'm not trying to promote or anything but there is a video with my friend Jordan it (he's straight) and he explains how he felt about me being bi so that might help aswell it's called coming out FEAT Jordan

[@jamesmcdaid1260]

Courtney-Jai Thats cool matey, I have a few Bi friends, there are more of us than you'd think haha. They're not exactly "out" just yet, but who knows, maybe time will tell. Keep up tge good work pal!

[@Courtney-Jai]

Thanks man I will

[@rutheino5280]

dear cover travelers who are already so far away that you dare to say yes I am different and those who need time. It is normal to feel fear but you are not alone we should be proud not to lie to ourselves about who or what we are, we are not those who should be ashamed. Those who hate do not understand, they may be ashamed that they do not try to understand. But it's also okay because they are afraid and can't react. But we are the ones who are, a little more courageous, who explain to them that there is nothing crazy about it if everything is not as ordinary as the world wants it to be. the most important thing is to love and trust yourself

[@oneuppedb4429]

To me bisexuality isn't like I like women more or I like men more like no...... Its just that GENDER DOSENT MATTER, I fall in love with who I fall in love with😪😒 and I can date both genders the same way because GENDER DOSENR MATTER if I date a man I date one, if I date a women I date one, ohh bisexuality isn't a sexuality, exsuse me but just because we don't date one gender doesn't mean it isn't a sexuality an ways grow up its 2018

[@Courtney-Jai]

I can see your point , we don't date on gender but on love itself

[@hrithik1114]

that 2 minutes of the outro to extend the video to 10-minute mark tho 😂👌

[@Courtney-Jai]

Haha it's has to be done KZbin has some stupid new algerithm but at least it's a decent song to listen to

[@kimkk2981]

I'm gay but I like bi guys more Does that make sense 🥴🥴 🥴😊😂😂💙💛💙 I feel this is so weird I want a bi boyfriend n shout out loud Finally I have a bi boyfriend n we love each other yaaaaa....😂😂😂😂😂 I'm weird weird weird...

[@TranscendingNobody]

This was great to hear your view point on! great video man!

[@Courtney-Jai]

I'm happy u liked it

[@DR-yc7mp]

I dont understand bisexuality and wish someone could help me really understand it.

[@charityhicks7946]

I'm bi and I have been dating my gf for about 2 months and I love her and ppl don't understand it so we just don't rally tell anyone

[@abg0007]

I’m only 12 and I think I’m bisexual, because for me there is no problem in love, imagine that « normally » girls had to be with girls and boys with boys, people would say it’s weird if a girl is with a boy! So for me everything is okay, it’s just that our society thinks that if your bisexual (and a girl for me) it means your lesbian (so it’s hard to have a boy friend). I only said that I’m bisexual to a close friend but not to my family, I’m scared about what they are gonna say (I know they don’t have any problem at all with it but I’m still scared) and I’m stressed about how I’m gonna say it.. Hope someone helps me here, Thank you👍🏼

[@laylagarcia3365]

😂😂😂😂😂 THE INTROOO I love you man 😂😂😂❤💜💙✨

[@jamesuk5784]

I’m Bisexual but it’s so hard finding other bisexuals out there. Am I only the who can’t find other bisexuals ?

[@Courtney-Jai]

Guess you just have to look in the right places

[@lily-Rose14]

I know im late but idk if im bisexual since i dont know if i have a crush or just think theyre good looking!Im so confused.Love ur vids been bingeing them all🥰

[@Courtney-Jai]

@lily-Rose14 well a good way to think about it is could you see yourself having a girlfriend or a boyfriend in the future and how does that make you feel.

[@twinkincarnate]

no i’m just gay :’)

[@Courtney-Jai]

Zoella Caylen and that's still awesome

[@agustusfarnworth3379]

That’s kind of funny i’m in the sea of people who are saying their bi in these comments and then I just see one comment that says they’re gay

[@shinobintrovert]

Sometimes I have a feeling but sometimes I don't have the feeling and I did test like and sometimes I force myself but sometimes I have a little feeling of gay porn but sometimes I got really really confused and I don't know if I'm straight or bisexual like all did a test and if o saw gay porn my feeling is gone😔😓

[@anasiver976]

I'm Pure Gay, my boyfriend is Bi.. till now, i still can't get how a person can love/attract to both gender..

[@Courtney-Jai]

Pretty much the same as how your attracted one gender we are attracted to two genders

[@husky4481]

I'm bi but I can't find anyone in my area that's bi... I'm sad now 😿

[@ryanblack3285]

I feel your pain! A lot of ppl think that in America it's easy to find a large LGBT community and as that may be true in places like LA SF or NYC, it's much different in other parts of the country. It could always be worse though I guess haha

[@sabrinajolly3485]

I was lucky that even in 2000 when i came out so to speak in high school i lived in New Orleans and most of the kids in my school were not straight. I guess growing up blocks from Bourbon Street we all knew about the fluidity of sexuality. I didn't actually know of any homophobic trends until the death of a boy in Texas ( Matthew Shepard). It shocked me and my school to the core. I never had any issues telling people because it was never a thing. But i am learning how hard it can be, my 14 year old daughter thinks she is lesbian. I told her no labels and to just be happy and healthy. No labels no box..... Enjoy the exploration and the journey. Its harder for her now that we live in farm land Texas. But she seems happy😏. I joke with her that at least she wont be a teen pregnancy statistic. lol

[@The94zach94]

❤💜💙 yay for bi videos!!

[@Courtney-Jai]

I'm glad u like them

[@The94zach94]

@@Courtney-Jai I love being validated and feeling very proud to be bisexual ever since I came out last year! ❤💜💙

[@trashcollector6184]

I just want to say that you are so handsome and I appreciate your videos on bisexuality so much because w couple of months ago I realized that I’m bi and your vids helped me so much

[@mrgrapestudios1852]

Love the music

[@jasminemuschara2940]

I'm such a child. I laughed when he said penis. I am immature.

[@done8682]

Pls help. I am a girl and definitely into guys. But I am also attracted to girls that are on the manly side aka butch (I am sure not into girly girls example those with long hair). Do you think I am considered a bisexual? Or I am just straight and deceived by the looks of butch women as they looks like a man appearance wise?

[@Courtney-Jai]

I'd say your bi if your attracted to both men a women doesn't matter how someone looks

[@experimentalaccount2418]

Well I'd say you're still straight... Tbh you don't got much to worry about.

[@alondrabekind5179]

I wish I had seen this when I was younger, it would’ve helped a lot , thank you for making this!

[@jacquiedeshazo1840]

I’ve only had a crush on a guy irl once, and it lasted a year. It was because of his personality. However I’ve had tons of celebrity crushes on guys, which has set my standards pretty high lol. I could see myself dating a guy, but I was never boy crazy, or had much of a thing for abs.. but when it comes to girls I can definitely see myself dating a girl, marrying a girl, everything. Same with a guy, but I don’t think that much about the s*xual bit. I think I’m bi, and I think a huge sign is since I was little I thought it was so cool to be bi. That I even WANTED to be bi. I also have a lot of friends who are bisexual, and I think that hearing them come out has helped me really think about my own sexuality. But I’m still not sure. :((

[@ronmelrubi9472]

i dont think im bi because i’ve always liked girls and love girls but i think some guys look good looking but i’ve never been attracted to them so wtf am i? 😂

[@MrRetri8]

i was 15 when i started to realise that i am different, but i didn't really cared, i did not really know that bisexuality is a thing. but after a while i realised that i started to have crushes on girls in films/tv shows. and i was like no way... i watch a lot of series and read books, and last summer i have read the book Half Bad by Sally Green. That story made me realise that i could not be more bi and that i am mostly attrected to also bi guys and girls. so yeah there are a lot of different ways to realise who you are.

[@shadown5757]

I know that I am bisexual but I am still assimilating the idea (romantic and physical attraction to women but physical attraction to guys )

[@itssumey7371]

Courtney-jai, or anyone else. I’m confused because I know I’m heterosexual, but my mind keeps saying LGBT+, and I don’t know why. I’ve never had sexual thoughts or feelings for a girl?Please help me.

[@rhaspberry7108]

so i keep tellin myself im nit bi and i dont really like men i just pretend to and i cant shake the self doubt, help please

[@ax3lsantana897]

Can a person who is homosexual and heteroromatic identify as bisexual ??

[@Courtney-Jai]

I think if you identify as homosexual you've already decided who you are , I feel relationships need more then just emotional connections to be truly long lasting

[@ax3lsantana897]

Courtney-Jai (I am female btw) and Exactly that’s my problem because I am only attracted to the same sex sexually and only attracted to the opposite sex emotionally. I’ve tried forcing myself into having emotional feelings for women and getting sexually turned on by men but for some reason I just can’t. Then I came across the term cross-orientated and I feel like a freak:( and just like you said relationships need more than sex to function.. so I will never be truly happy with anyone. I’ll look at a women and not know how to love her. I will look at a man but never have sexual intimacy with him.

[@ax3lsantana897]

Courtney-Jai Also, when I say homosexual I mean I am only sexually attracted to people of the same sex. But I am not emotionally attracted to them.

[@Courtney-Jai]

@@ax3lsantana897 I know what you said and my point still stand s relationship is complex there has to be more then just or just sexual attraction.

[@Onelis.Rosario]

3:38 that makes so much more sense now

[@potatolife7480]

I just told my best friend that I am bi and I am so happy cuz she still is my best friends and she Is proud of me

[@thedailyshaver1171]

Same here to my male friend who is also bi. We're both males. Ps he is well fit

[@bobby1970]

That is so cool, young lady.

[@hwilliams275]

I think your so very cute! Is it strange that I'm attracted to bisexual guys? And curious what sign are you because you seem comparable in general 😊thanks

[@Courtney-Jai]

I'm a Pisces ♓

[@cristiandavidmera795]

I like your video I feel very identified with what you said, I think you explained it very well. And you solved some doubts that I had thanks for making this kind of videos. you just earned a new subscriber

[@AarmOZ84]

For me, there were lots of times where I would be talking to a guy and I would suddenly be wishing we would kiss which freaked me out. Then I realized that there were lots of times I felt a connection with a guy and I wished it had gone deeper (past mere friendship). I think another clue was when I saw a video about professional cuddlers and I actually caught myself wishing I could hire a male professional cuddler because there was this need to cuddle with men (I didn't feel deprived of cuddling with women because I had lots of relationships with women and enjoyed the intimacy in those relationships). So it was a realization that I needed those kinds of connections with men that I only got through women that made me realize I was bisexual. It was an extremely long journey to get to this point and I am still getting use to the label.

[@cmental359]

What if I'm a biological male but am attracted to FEMALES and TRANS FEMALES (girls with a...) but NOT attracted to guys?!?!

[@Courtney-Jai]

I'm guessing that's pansexuality

[@jaja-qt4gm]

Hello I consider myself straight I have aesthetic attraction towards men will that devlop into romantic and sexual

[@jaja-qt4gm]

Aesthetic attraction is mostly towards their face

[@jaja-qt4gm]

I also tried fantasising about men but it did not feel good Am I suppressing my feelings I think I have HOCD

[@najeebirfani]

YUP BUDDY COURTNEY , AM TOO LIKE YOU BI, EVEN PHYSICALLY AND EMOTIONALY TOO,

[@uttut3063]

i just thought that i’m bi now HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHA LOL

[@adriandc9761]

Another great video Courtney-jai

[@alecaypersonal]

Hey, awesome video 😁 I did a lot of similar stuff when coming to terms with my sexuality and it's cool to hear a bi guys perspective on the matter. I think there are some things you could improve on though, if you wanted to 😅🤷‍♂️ I'm not sure how educated you are on trans stuff, and it's cool if you're not too knowledgeable I don't expect everyone to be an expert, I'm not even an expert and I identify as trans. However I think it would be awesome if you tried to use more trans inclusive language when giving advice about sexuality. It would help those of us who do identify as trans and or non binary feel a bit more comfy. But as I said it's up to you I know it can be a big and confusing undertaking, so don't feel like you have to, I just think it would make your videos even better 😋 Have an awesome day, I can't wait to hear more of your experience as a bi guy. 😁

[@Courtney-Jai]

Alec Groseclose I will try I actually changed my intro for that exact reason I used to say hello boys and girls now I say hi everyone to be more open to all audiences its something I'm working on but sometimes its due to old habits that I refer to a lot of people as guys (girls included ) I use more as term of a group rather then specifying gender but thank you for your constructive criticism and I will try and improve with each video :p

[@alecaypersonal]

Courtney-Jai thanks for responding 😁 I hadn't noticed you changed your intro 😅, it's awesome to see that you've already been working towards being more inclusive of everyone. It can be super hard to break out of those habits, even I still slip into them occasionally, it just takes time. Keep being awesome 😋

[@honey_bear5099]

I don’t know who I am anymore do you have to only be a boy to be bi I am so confused🥺🥺🥺

[@Courtney-Jai]

No you can class yourself as any gender you like and still be bi

[@Vic_NuRom]

Love your confidence.

[@Courtney-Jai]

It comes and goes haha

[@runnyegg5738]

Thank you!!

[@hwilliams275]

I meant compatible with me which is why I thought you were awesome😀

[@Courtney-Jai]

Haha unfortunately I'm very much taken but I'm sure there someone out there for you

[@hwilliams275]

@@Courtney-Jai I didn't mean it that way 😀but I found out by asking my cousin already thanks Courtney I'm just interested in alot of what you have to say because it's interesting that's all I still like your videos😀 your okay Courtney I m just dumb when it comes to social media thanks again Courtney 😊 bye

[@hwilliams275]

@@Courtney-Jai I know why you are thought that now because I said compatible I meant astrologically which is why I had asked you about your sign because according to the astrological books we would make good friends that's why I said I that previously 😀 but it's okay just a misunde rstanding your cute anyway bye Courtney 😊and thanks for responding I really did appreciate it very much bye and thanks 😀

[@Courtney-Jai]

@@hwilliams275 haha cool cool have a lovely day 😊

[@hwilliams275]

@@Courtney-Jai thanks Courtney😊

[@voidbros1232]

I know it sounds weird but in 5th grade I got called gay and stuff turns out they aren’t wrong in a way I’m bi so i basically believed it so I forced myself then I stopped in 6th grade heh lol now in 7th gonna keep getting better

[@aleesha8859]

Okay so I’m kinda confused... I don’t wanna be Bi (I’m not against it tho please don’t get me wrong!) and I’m pretty sure I’m straight. I’m not sexually attracted to the same gender. But when you mentioned “emotional relationship” I kinda felt like that if I did have an “emotional relationship” with the same gender I wouldn’t be weirded out with it? Is it me just not being judgmental? I’m worried because I just want to be straight but I’m not against anyone who likes the same gender, I wanna make that clear.

[@Courtney-Jai]

You can have an emotional relationship without it being romantic and by what you've said I'm pretty sure your not bisexual

[@Courtney-Jai]

So don't worry about it 😋

[@aleesha8859]

@@Courtney-Jai Wow, thank you so much. I feel a lot less confused after watching this video!

[@aleesha8859]

@@Courtney-Jai U won't you helped! thank you!

[@Courtney-Jai]

@@aleesha8859 good to hear and merry Christmas

[@robstar2gaming424]

I m from india can bisexual man so masculine ?? Can gays be so manly and handsome ??

[@Courtney-Jai]

I gay person can be any person regardless of traits

[@robstar2gaming424]

@@Courtney-Jai no as mostly gays are feminine na

[@Courtney-Jai]

@@robstar2gaming424 not true two of my best friends are gay and engaged and they have hardly any feminine qualities that my friend is a stereotype so yes you can be very much masculine and gay masculine and bi

[@g1anah]

I am bi

[@Courtney-Jai]

Well your not the only one 😋

[@bella7613]

I find guys and girls attractive sexually and physically but I've never been in a relationship other than friendship with a girl. I have kissed a couple girls but it still makes me wonder if I could fall in love with a girl and either way am I Bi.

[@cr-lc8fg]

finally some homework i don't mind doing lmao

[@claytonmaclean7165]

I am not romantically attracted to guys but I am sexually. does that make me bi?

[@Courtney-Jai]

Only if you think it does u decide the label you want to put on the package that is you

[@samsmith2327]

No. Being bi means that your sexually attracted to BOTH genders. You might be homosexual aromatic

[@claytonmaclean7165]

forgot to add I am sexually attracted to cis females and trans ladies

[@amonic1861]

AF I am Search Wrong Content

[@richiepremier194]

My question is can you deny the fact that you are bi??

[@Courtney-Jai]

Ofcourse it's actually a big part of thr coming out process for alot of people look up my video 5 stages of bisexuality

[@lilianem6310]

i’m basically a confused middle schooler lmao. I cant tell if i’m bi, gay, pan, i have no i d e a. I’m pretty sure i’m bi but i still find my feelings confused. I’m glad i watched this video though it helped me a lot, thank you

[@Courtney-Jai]

No problem and don't worry life is a journey labels don't have to exist there only there to make you feel comfortable

[@lilianem6310]

Courtney-Jai thanks, i hope you have a good day today

[@Courtney-Jai]

You to 😋