What Narcissists Do When the Relationship Ends

[@woopiemiddleman8232]

“Let the toxic be toxic. I’m toxic free”

[@treelover1050]

WHEN I WAS DONE AND GAINED KNOWLEDGE I DIDN'T CARE WHAT THEY DO. THEY MADE THEIR CHOICE. NOW THEY NEED TO STAY AWAY. THEY WILL NEVER MEET MY STANDARDS.

[@daviddemars]

Incapable.

[@angelapellino617]

Great point. The will never meet your standards.loved this. Thank you!!

[@dwaynemcinnes5914]

Well fcukin said

[@maried7776]

They are predators, robotic. They have honed their craft way before they met you~ Leave them in the dust & don't look back, you are better off.

[@vintagebabyseventythree6244]

They’re so twisted and delusional that they think by jumping straight into another relationship makes them look like the ‘healthy’ one when everyone around them is actually thinking ‘that’s not right’

[@emmarae4322]

It’s the loss of a future, the loss of the fake person you fell in love with, loss of your innocence regarding trust, etc…it’s never ending.😢 Just get off social media and live your life.❤

[@Emma-ew7bd]

He thinks he is winning by silently hating me and blaming me for everything rather than try to do anything to fix it because in his eyes he did no wrong and I am he toxic one. “Can see the splinter in my eye but not the plank in his”. Oh and yes he is back to being miserable and thinks life is so unfair. They actually lost so much more than we did. Our happiness is what fed this relationship, because they aren’t happy without their supply. Thanks David again for helping us make sense of all this!! 😊

[@daviddemars]

Hi Emma, great breakdown!

[@targetedtyranny4661]

They don't want to fix anything,or get to the bottom of anything,they want to destroy, and tear down so they feel better.

[@DavidS94938]

The petty competitiveness thing is a definite feature (or bug) of narcissistic people.

[@surfshack2]

Ha, I remember I told her i thought her feet were cute and i said something like "we should take a picture of our feet and put it up on facebook" I said it jokingly in the beginning of the relationship because i knew she used and liked facebook a lot. Well, when she went with the new supply...about a month or so into the relationship she put a picture up on facebook of her and the new supplies feet together in a picture. Ohhhhh, i remember that one hurt..they are so evil and vindictive. That's why you go no contact. But even though it hurt I didn't tell her i saw the picture...I would not give her the satisfaction. No way.

[@daviddemars]

I'm sorry, thats awful. Try to not look anymore and just know she has brought you in to her new relationship which is already failing.

[@EricaChavira-on4oz]

They do such petty and vindictive things that normal people would never do. It’s completely insane.

[@surfshack2]

@@EricaChavira-on4oz Yep. That’s why you can’t tell them anything personal.

[@sgtmuffinbadger6147]

Just broke it off with mine. I am wreck of emotions currently. This is hard with zero support system

[@leonasweny1525]

Find the strength within you ,and shine again ❤❤❤❤❤

[@DarkroomMedia007]

Grieving & filling voids makes sense. 😨 Ruminating & regret 😨 Obsessing & competing 🙄 Hovering to conquer & rediscard merry-Go-Round 😕 As always thank you David for doing your deep dive into these explanations and examples. ✍🏽

[@daviddemars]

Hi Tonya, thank you very much. I appreciate your comment and telling me.

[@leal6498]

Same experience. These people are monsters.

[@zr9145]

Mine got engaged the day after I dumped him. Yep..

[@leonasweny1525]

Well ,good rid and feel sorry for the new partner

[@zr9145]

@leonasweny1525 don't, she was originally his girlfriends best freind and they both did her dirty. It's her turn now...

[@loribuonamici1398]

David, been watching you a few years now. Tonights video made me sob. Heart wrenching sobs. I always knew that narcissistic piece of shit was a total piece of shit,, and tonight you drove the point home. Thanks buddy. You did me a solid. Peace and Love.

[@daviddemars]

I'm sorry for your pain Lori, I hope you have people that care about you.

[@j01237]

They would start messing around with people you know, people close to you..even trying to sleep with them, etc..just poison toxic naightmare

[@chrispalmer3969]

Love this video Dave👍 got my Ex off to a T. She cost me £200K, lied through its teeth in court, played on her health etc, she tried for 2 yrs to contact before finally going to court. I went no contact and man did she spit her dummy out. Pure evil after that. Now almost 3 yrs on but only 4 months since court, I’ve not heard from it and I sat it as it’s an excuse for a human. To be honest it was a bitter pill to swallow but I did it the man way, no retaliation in any way. No pain no gain. I know that it won’t be getting that life style again. Karma here it comes. Keep your videos coming David, 👍👍👍

[@leonasweny1525]

I hope life is good now.❤❤❤

[@carolovesteven]

I’ve had narcs in my life all of my life. Just waking up. But this last covert put the missing puzzle pieces together. You know them! Awesome! Thank you. ♥️

[@alyajewellery]

Might be wise to switch off all notifications on my birthday.

[@daviddemars]

It is if its to avoid unwanted attention and it raises your self worth.

[@lynneshapley3948]

Mine sent Christmas boxes first 2 years at Christmas. Did not open, threw them out immediately

[@daviddemars]

Manipulators are so thoughtful, aren't they?

[@lynneshapley3948]

Oh yeah....this one was good at it. My story lasted 45 years...was my high school counselor.....I could write a book. They come in all disquises...not just partners. And when the mask drops...its ugly

[@John-jl3ky]

It gets better! Hang on!

[@maried7776]

Yes, it does once you have awareness of what they are. Little children in adult bodies.

[@waterbabe242]

Yes I was thinking I really got the booby prize rhe Narc. He called himself first prize very delusional.

[@daviddemars]

Massive insecurity

[@jessicawestman2130]

After a year and a half with mine I finally gathered the strength to leave. He immediately went online and grabbed a new gf and posted everything immediately on FB.. he took her on our trip to Cabo that we had been planning for months…4 months after our breakup he got engaged.. I’m so devastated. 💔

[@sarahm2973]

Every word of this is true. I broke up with my narcissistic ex last year and he was trying absolutely everything to get my attention and tried so hard to win me back. When that didn't work he was apparently posting photos of a new gf on social media (I've not seen it I don't have social media but I got told about it and even if I did have social media... I don't care I've no interest in looking). For 3 months he stalked me and my home so many times. He was in my garden and someone phoned the police. I'm currently still waiting to appear in court because he was arrested and charged with harassing and stalking me. Get rid of these people in your life and heal. Don't look back. That's the only option. I don't care about him anymore, I couldn't care less. I've healed properly and I'm so happy with myself and where I am in life now.

[@billynothnagel8850]

That was so bang on its incredible she did every one of those things ...every single one 😂.

[@blissbased]

In my case, the relationshit were I enmeshed with a Cluster B was very short, but I still fall into obsession more than a year later and in spite of therapy. I hope this will stop at some point. The pain has become different. He (it) posted the new supply on his birthday (which is also mine) which he always wanted to celebrate with me. He also posted going to a lake we went together to and how he doesn't want to save a princess (lol) .....It's so sad and ridiculous, both of us. Haven't checked his social media ever since. I actually wish I had never met him and he didn't exist, more than anything else. I pity the new supply because I know every move he makes is nothing but social media performance. He never cared about me and he doesn't care about her. I hope and pray she is the bigger narcissist. It's absolutely terrible that I fell in love(?) with a fake persona. It's the worst experience I've made in my life. I wish I was to blame and I've asked my therapist if I'm personally disordered and he explained why I'm not. So I am not to blame. I still feel used and discarded. This persona hurt me on a deep level and gaslit me. Sometimes I think I have found closure, then something reminds of this fake persona again and I go down that black narc-rabbit hole. I was raised by a narcissistic mother in a cold family and my therapist thinks that's why this enmeshment hurt so much. Because I thought it was real. It changed me. I can no longer idealize people but idealization is part of falling in love. I have become "allergic"/even more hypersensitive towards possible fakery/idealization than I was before. I have done a lot of physical detoxing but I always started drinking alcohol again to numb the pain. Now I'm at the point where I'm not drinking alcohol for a few months and doing a liver cleanse. I still have lots of anger towards this thing. I guess that's because I thought he wasn't sick, but damaged. I pitied him. He even has sick in his Artist Name.... I was naive! He/IT performed candle magic on me. ...I have processed the anger towards my mother, I realized early on that she's sick. With that guy, I didn't even care. I saw something was off from the start, but I totally believed the love bomb and my love was real. Nowadays, due to my childhood programming, I think if I like a person (as a friend or partner) they are probably Cluster B. I have lost a lot of friends since the discard. They had nothing to do with THE narcissist, but they either had narcissistic parents and narcissistic fleas, or they had a Borderline diagnosis. I have lost my best friend of 10 years - Borderline diagnosis. I guess I was more on the codependent side and since this super narc traumatized me, I can't stand "them" anymore. I am in a relationship with a man my therapist approves of - sounds weird but he says our relationship sounds completely different than the narcissistic one (mutual interest in each other's needs, cooperative, wanting to understand each other, negotiating instead of devaluation)... I still have problems feeling anything at all. I think it's like food poisoning of the Soul. You can't eat anything for a while afterwards becaude your insides are inflamed. That's how it feels to me. Physically and psychologically. I wish I had never met this thing. All the best, you are not alone on this lonely road. Hi, David, all the best.

[@blissbased]

Corrections: personality disordered...because ....greetings from Germany.

[@waynewells2944]

Wow I like the food poisoning for the soul but at least you found your soul level and boundaries of the soul. The narcissistic will never get hurt enough or acknowledge the pain to find the soul. If living from soul there is no need to hurt or harm others a narcissistic will never understand true self love or self actualization. But we do and heal .they lose everyday by egoic cycles of self abuse and denial and fakery. I'm sobglad you moved on to a healthy place, God bless

[@katrinaparker1951]

Been through all of this. Keeps sending new loan applications to my house even though she is long gone.

[@weronikanijs950]

Hi David,thanks for understanding ,now i can deal with my pain better,but oh my this really hurts Greetings from the Netherlands

[@daviddemars]

Thank you and I'm sorry Weronika. I hope you are talking to someone.

[@r.bishop1127]

Thank you for mentioning the grief right out of the gate.

[@audreypistor4610]

It is so hard when the narcissist are your own grown adult children..

[@daviddemars]

That is awful, I am very sorry. Even more reason to protect yourself and not allow them to hurt you.

[@chilloften]

Indeed, I initiated break-up but then had second thoughts and he said nope. Within one week was calling and then he came to my town and I was to move back in with him but then he went silent. Upon questioning why I got devalued wickedly and torn to shreds. He kept texting though he met someone new recently. What a weirdo! So painful, to this day, nearly two years out. To top that off, it only lasted total 5 months. But thank god I was seeing red flags but still my heart was in but getting broke.

[@golnazabaee599]

Thanks for another great video. I ended a toxic friendship with a married narcissist who hid the fact that he was married and tried to bring sexual element into friendship. All narc red flags were there from start and I should have paid attention. I have gone no contact with him and he is punishing me with silent treatment and found another female friend new supply he is doing events with and positing it. I have stopped looking because I honestly do not even care anymore and want to reach a total point of indifference to this toxic person.

[@EricaChavira-on4oz]

If you went no contact, how was he punishing you with the silent treatment?

[@Job.Well.Done_01]

Thanks, David. Keep doing the good work you’re doing! Never stop.

[@daviddemars]

Thank you very much!

[@elaineclewley4704]

My question is I'm 5 months nc with an overt narc, I looked on his ex wife fb page and she made a nasty comment about me Why??

[@nicholecornes1915]

Way more space and time then we were ever met to

[@RedButterfly-tk6vo]

I knew he wasn’t the one for me - so I took my time unloving myself from this toxic relationship. - I wasn’t giving too much of my emotional energy but I was supplying him with his grandiose need. I didn’t know he was a Narc till the end. I just knew he was weak.

[@rorywright5692]

Hi David! Sunny Ohio here!

[@daviddemars]

Hi Sunny Ohio!

[@rorywright5692]

@@daviddemars 😎

[@thesecrettragedyclothingco7194]

Hello David. Thought id share the fact that ive seen my son recently. Nine months without him. Every bit of smear campaign didnt work. Still waiting for final hearing but ive got contact and ive nothing to be ashamed of and nothing to answer to in court. Its being dragged out to waste my money but its the only way to even attempt to get a toxic person to behave. They wont...they cant its just not in them but she has been forced to let him come home and my son is smart enough to know the differences between me and her. To think i started my channel because of someone else. My life has been in limbo for too long. Every single box has been ticked many times by more people than id like. With your advise and some others i made it through. These nutters are relentless tho. My channel will be running properly soon enough. Still knee deep in wasted legal fees and bullshit. Final hearing the end of Nov. To anyone in the same boat....STAY CALM. Time seems to go slow but being patient and precise with no reactions to the BS is the only way. Good luck to good people. Thanks David. Ive got the knowledge but still listen to your channel and a few others. Got to stay on the ball at all times when dealing with snakes and witches.

[@daviddemars]

Hello and thank you for sharing and supporting the channel. Good luck and pick your battles wisely.

[@Greeneyedlady923]

I am to the point of no return , been dealing with a narcissist and the discarding for ten years now and I am tired of the games . They took everything I had to give and there is nothing left . It will break my heart but have to go no contact no matter how bad it hurts . I cannot keep allowing this person in and out of my life .

[@stephlet2001]

Great video. Great information. I'm going to contact u for coaching

[@daviddemars]

Thank you very much. www.daviddemars.com/

[@skylersky11]

It is amazing the amount of crap I been going through. I can't even believe it. I need prayers and strength because I'm practically completely alone with lots of obstacles to cross.

[@rorywright5692]

So many years of space and time he took up! So many hours of thinking what could I do better, or a different way, what Changes I could make so every day wouldn’t feel this bad. Adult chat rooms on the old computer, looking for anything! He never had a cell phone. No to little contact the last two years in Nursing Facility. He would call me at home and accuse me of doing what he was doing. I had to do damage control all the time for the 8 years he was there. He bragged to our adult granddaughter that he was talking to a Cosmo Model. She was so embarrassed! I lost friends! Never thought of it as a design for winning.He had so many belongings, collections. I’m still getting rid of it. I just threw away a notebook of poems or prayers he had written, I refused to read them. A religious dig at me. Overwhelmed by all of it. Not sure about the photo albums or scrap books. Becuz my life is in them too. Thanks David! Great video. Hope you are doing well!:)

[@daviddemars]

Hi Rory, thank you, I am. What a mess his life is and so much you had to manage. You sound like you are making good choices.

[@rorywright5692]

@@daviddemars His life was a mess! Now I’m digging myself out of it! It takes time! Thank you so much!

[@daviddemars]

@@rorywright5692 Dont stop and take your time. I think one of the most difficult things to practice is going at the speed we feel comfortable and not feeling guilty about it.

[@rorywright5692]

@@daviddemars Guilt is a funny thing! It’s on everything of his I touch.

[@waynewells2944]

I really needed to hear this and I found exactly what I needed to hear she is so lost and full of ego and vanity i feel sorry for her soul. If she ever finds her soul? Deep dive.

[@lisagardiner6014]

I am going through this as a Favorite Person with a " friend", went no contact after she threatened me.

[@emilytaylor1001]

Hello David! Thank you so much for making this video! He did not like his last name and we planned it to change to his grandparents last name. He did not change it during 12 years of abuse, as soon as I went no contact, he changed his last name. 😎

[@skylersky11]

I'm in the middle of leaving a covert narcissist I was with over 7 years.

[@michaelbateson8636]

I do feel mourning, and grief somedays. I feel like the woman I loved and did everything for died. I still see her because we try to co parent. But I just see an empty shell of a woman trying to get one over me in competition. Her new supply, her new clothes, her new stuff in the house that we used to share. She even offered me the old bed that was still warm when the new supply climbed in it. How fucked up is that? I feel she's dead. The woman I knew and loved is no more. And I miss that. I see her face, but not her heart. That's dead now.

[@rorywright5692]

You described it so well! Thank you for sharing!

[@michaelbateson8636]

@@rorywright5692 thanks mate, it's taken me a long time to reach some sort of conclusion. With us raising kids together there's going to be some things that never conclude, but I have to accept that someday. I'm not there yet. Glad you appreciated it though if it helps other people visualise how I feel and it helps them then that's great.

[@daviddemars]

She does not understand people and the importance of relationships, only how they serve her. Im sorry for your pain and I hope you fully recover.

[@michaelbateson8636]

@@daviddemars oh I'll get there. It's been a tough 5 months, but mark my words I'm getting back up. Thank you for all you do on this channel. Your insight has helped so much.

[@sgtmuffinbadger6147]

You just described mine

[@ois-jy9kl]

Don't look their social media and don't post anyhing about your life or close your account and block. Left him/her unread

[@Happy-Me.]

Excellent video. Many thanks David!

[@daviddemars]

Thank you!

[@MsPeppersmom]

Oddly enough he doesn't use Facebook. He knows I use it. I feel like if he had someone he would blast it. Excellent video.

[@alenagoddess2400]

You want to feel sorry for their next victim. One can only hope that they put them in their place. They would have to get married quickly before the person finds out who they really are..

[@nicholecornes1915]

The gang stalking by him and his dad was creepy as hell !!! 😳

[@paulsenzig9097]

Hello David 👋

[@daviddemars]

Hi Paul!

[@rose-ke6gg]

Learnt a lot and lived with it yrs now but after years I'm not sure that he has ever mentioned me to work colleagues but is very happy to talk forever with their private lives and give advice and oh so helpful sings his own praises in conversation but I'm hidden why

[@daviddemars]

Its not you he hides, its his feelings and insecurities he tries to hide from others. He is a child.

[@gho5t504]

Remember how people say their accusations are their confessions? She tried to hoover me in April by blocking and unblocking me. Once I confronted her, she was playing stupid how she had no idea how the block went down and accused me of being obsessed. Like, whatever. Blocked her not long after. Extremely stupid and shallow. So yes, they obsess over the ones that got away.

[@davidcoppotelli3957]

Hey DAVE, I Walked Away from my Ex Toxic Narcissist Girlfriend because it be came a very unhealthy place to be. 15 years just dating no kids together. She has A Live in 29 year old Son with Autism. Plus the ever lurking Ex Husband whom never dated anyone in all the time I was in the Relationshit with my now EX Narc. When she divorced him. I'm 7 months NC Sorry I just went complete Radio Silence since I got her discard and the no Closure. Treated like Garbage over the Past 2 years Used and Taken for Granted. Why you ask. Well because she is and always has been a COWARD. Besides being one of the most Selfish people I know along with her Jealousy, and the Insecurities, and the Anxicity Issues. No Empathy for anyone but her Poor Victim Self. Daily Mood Swings. She Future Faked like a Pro. While taking what ever she could get because she knew that I always had her back, while she never really had mine at all because she is a taker never a giver. I had to Grieve her like she died on me. 7 months NC. TRICKED by the DEVILS DAUGHTER.I wake up Mad sometimes always ruminating over and over again. She cared more about getting my PENSION then she ever cared about me. Thoughts about what went wrong what could I have done better. Then I have stop myself and say What the Hell could she have done what did she bring to the Table besides her Mess of a life and all her Bull Shit. Always the Poor Victim. Trying to get my POWER BACK and Feeling better each day. Of the No Contact. Sometimes I feel like calling her and telling off. And that's when I go right into my routine of Walking almost Daily Working Out 4 to 5 time a week I have Options. I'm in very good position No Debt No Bills don't smoke not a Drinker very Good Health Benefits I make Good $$$$ without even having to get out of Bed. And I still work 2 part time jobs just to stay busy. With all that said I refuse to break my no contact. Not Bragging at all just explaining the situation. I get comments about Money isn't going to make you happy. My answer I rather be comfortable with it then to be unhappy without it. I work hard all my Life. And I won't be jumping off any BRIDGES Calling out her Name. Or jumping in front of any on coming Trains either. This women has lived in KARMA since the day I met her. Trying to be a good guy to her always with LOVE and KINDNESS and then they stab you in the Back like a piece Shit that she needed to get rid of. I don't need to see her get more KARMA, I just know she will and it will be delivered to her like FedEx package at her Door Step. Its normal for her. I have never been hoovered or Contacted I would have to say that is a Blessing from Above Because I Walk in the Light of the HOLY SPIRIT. While she walks in the DARKNESS. Your Much Appreciated GREAT VIDEOS is what has really Help Me Out. GREAT WORK YOU BRING TO THR TABLE.MY HAT IS OFF TO YOU SIR,

[@Angell_Lee]

You look like a famous actor :)

[@georgbaur4841]

You are an real help....💪

[@davidcoppotelli3957]

My Ex may have a New Supply Wouldn't Doubt it. I was her A 1 Golden Supply DO BOY. So he must think he's got the GRAND PRIZE he doesn't even have the Door Prize. I'm not on Social Media, I don't go looking for anything because if your doing anything like that Your not in No Contact. Your still under the rotten Spell of the Shitty NARCISSIST. Not a Good place to be if you want Peace and Happiness in your life.

[@daviddemars]

Good David, self worth is rising!

[@davidcoppotelli3957]

@@daviddemars Dave, we have no Choice what's do we have if we don't have what the NARCISSIST didn't See our worth. And most certainly there Loss as well. When Someone wants to leave it Hurts. But they have to Go. Because we are not begging someone to stay. Not happening here. Have a Good my Friend.

[@daviddemars]

@@davidcoppotelli3957 I hope you are taking to someone Dave

[@Bella-lx1xl]

I don't do any social media so that won't work! Calling, texting showing up here won't do him any good either! Oh he's got monkeys but they don't fly!! Bottom feeders His ending this was a total blessing too me, I'm good and doing just fine now!😅

[@grikmyr]

I'm about to generalise here and make a blanket statement... The closest definition of evil we have is cluster b personality disorders.... Now I don't mean everyone with cluster b personality disorders.... But a good element of them are.... Any of you with me?

[@matilda4406]

what can be damaging? I don't remember what I wrote on that other video

[@emma5404]

One thing he did was to lurn the kids a swedish song they played for me. The lyrics were about "you are a psykopat who have sex with everyone, and i'm glad you are gone" don't take this things personal, they only talk about them selfs. A good parent NEVER EVER make the kids do or say something to hurt the other parent. 🙏🏼

[@ohio7738]

Thank you David 😊

[@daviddemars]

Thank you!

[@becca7038]

Mine kept "butt dialing" me post discard. Seemed to always come out of the blue. He wld text and let me know how he changed and was over the moon happy. Oh yeah and how he prayed for me because he attends church now and had a miraculous healing.... I eventually changed my number. Went off social media. He still slanders me... I don't think that will ever end... It's been 15 mos since he discarded me. 8 mos NC.

[@jendowd6910]

Great video- awesome advice. David, you have taught me so much and saved me. Thank you ❤️

[@matthias-1977]

Hey, David! Thank you for your videos. I just have the question: is that obsession/competition-thing also happen with a borderline? My BPD-girlfriend left me after four years and now marries a guy six month after our end. I don‘t believe that this relationship will be happy or last for long, but my question is just, if this is still because she wants to „win“? Btw: her smear-campaign works „fine“…

[@nessauk2786]

A guy I was seeing casually that I'd known a little for some time kept blocking and unblocking then ghosted then showed up randomly I felt unstable with this and so I asked him to block me ....I dont feel this was wrong as he took his time then blocked me.It felt empowering to let him block me.I gambled on his pride.Ive not heard from him since june.Back to me I'm still healing I'm still on this journey and still growing.It feels better to feel safe in yourself than idiolising a non entirety and as long as I'm safe and growing this person has no power over me.Am I wrong? Thankyou David your videos always come when i need your advise. Never ending lighthouse my safe haven my friend.ive completed a liver cleanse Andreus Moristz method perfect for physical and mental detox...I recommend this method to self heal.

[@daviddemars]

Hi Nessa, great to see you and thank you very much. You are not wrong if it feels right. Im sorry for this and you must know you deserve better. Hubris will ruin every relationship.

[@nessauk2786]

@@daviddemars what is hubris David ?

[@nessauk2786]

@@daviddemars Happy Xmas bestie xxx I'm gonna meet one day xx I tried so hard to meet up when you had that catastrophe in Mexico remember it's so long ago now you were so suspicious afterwards hey I hung in there so did you x your still my friend x I'm your long distance friend who you've helped me through...I wish you the best time of the year and to stay thankful ❤ love you loads David x my best friend

[@nessauk2786]

@@daviddemars Happy Xmas David thank you for being my honest best friend x your in my heart ❤

[@nessauk2786]

@@daviddemars when my ex stole all my savings I was meant to meet you with Kim it was not meant to be but you stayed with me all these years.Got me through those angry times...you used to be a bit angry yourself...how we evolved x how you've helped so many my friend.im always gonna be here for you x have a good holiday my friend.

[@emilemerten6535]

from south africa Hi David Can you please do a nother video on why anxiety develops and ocd. Also depersonalization and derealization and why sometimes at night you feel far away from yourself like you are watching a movie and can’t stop watching and snap out of it.

[@rorywright5692]

Great questions! I can remember while watching a movie, my mind would be watching a different one, my own movie of what went on that day, month, year! A couple of years ago my sister brought up a movie we had both went to see and I said no we didn’t! A few weeks later I did remember going but only the part about driving there, getting tickets, sitting down, talking, then nothing! Just the movie playing in my head.

[@emilemerten6535]

@@rorywright5692 yes, also watching yourself from outside of yourself and having a panic attack.

[@rorywright5692]

@@emilemerten6535 Yes! Makes me wonder what else me missed! Maybe a way out of it all!

[@daviddemars]

I sure will, thank you

[@grahamsmith3536]

My toxic ex changed her image to what I wanted to see when I was with her but she refused to at the time

[@emilemerten6535]

Hi David Which time do you usually check for comments ( your time ) ?

[@daviddemars]

No particular time Emile. Mostly around 10:00 am

[@helenlee6300]

So he breaks up with me , tells me I have plenty of time to pack and move. Also told me he would help me move my stuff , always wants to stay in touch he said maybe we would get back together in 3 YEARS............ I see 😮you like my Sister ! 🤢 I will always be here for you ... blah 3 weeks before this ,give or take , his Groomed new supply Dropped by our house . WITH HER OLDEST CHILD 😢 she really picked a bad time 🤣 His Family was there . So now the gig is up and they all know what kind Train wreck she is . INSTANT karrrrrma 🎤

[@srischwab5722]

Thank you! 🙏

[@rturtle5795]

They don’t care if they get a lot of supply easily. You are not important..

[@nicholecornes1915]

I was the new supply and got married to him i didn't know!

[@rmg2419]

So when they want to just be 'friends', its a way to get back together or keep you in their life?

[@daviddemars]

To use you without commitment.

[@rmg2419]

​@@daviddemarsWell, my ex husband said this to me when we were separated. That's why I asked. Why would he want to be 'friends' if we were separated? It makes no sense to me.

[@EricaChavira-on4oz]

My ex told me he wanted to be friends too, so we started hanging out and we would go have dinner together and get drinks sometimes and I thought “this is ok, we can be friends and hang out and everything is ok….”that was a huge mistake though, he told me he didn’t want to date me and that he didn’t love me in that way anymore and he apologized for ever being jealous and said that he had no right to act the way he did while we were together and so I thought it was ok and I accepted that he didnt want to be with me anymore…but maybe 2 weeks after we said we were Gona be friends, he started trying to control me again, he didn’t want me to see my friends, he asked me if I was seeing other guys, accusing me of sleeping around with everyone, one night he grabbed my phone from me and locked himself in his bathroom and went through it, he saw that I had been talking to another guy when me and him had broke up and he totally flipped out on me, he pushed me down to the ground and was calling me names, he was as so angry and he actually took pics of the messages me and the other guy had sent each other (racy pictures and some mild sexting) he sent them to himself and threatened to post them on social media and send them to my family if I didn’t delete and block him, he told me not to ever talk to that guy again. At first I tried to talk him out of it and asked him not to do that, then it seemed like he had calmed down, he told me he wouldn’t do that to me, I was nervous but I thought I had smoothed everything over, the next day tho, I got a bunch of messages from people showing me his social media, he had posted everything and sent the messages and pictures to members of my family. I was so upset, I was crying and stressed out. This is the same person who told me that he didn’t want to be with me, he just wanted to be friends, he was sorry for how he had acted when we’re dating, etc, etc, etc….and in that one moment I let my guard down, he takes my phone and does this to me!?!? The point is, don’t ever trust them, or believe them when they say they want to be friends or they have changed or whatever else, people like that always have an agenda and they want to hurt you and control you, even when you were good to them and cared for them. It’s horrible and I wish I could go back in time and do everything differently. I regret meeting him, he was honestly the worst thing to ever happen to me. I’ve never met someone so manipulative, jealous, delusional, cruel, hateful and just plain evil in my life and I hope I never meet someone like him ever again. “I lost someone who never cared about me, you lost someone who would have done anything for you.”

[@claytonhardin2175]

She did all that to me . I was trying to leave on good terms , lol no such things wit them . Long story short she beat me up and she went to jail and when she got out she broke up wit me on Facebook lol I was all easy done before I left . It’s like she had to try to get a reaction , then she posted in a relationship after two weeks . Tore me up . Not because I thought he was better cause he’s not . He’s younger and draws a check every month . I make over a 100k a year . She took the first person she could get and is promoting him all on Facebook lol it’s funny . Cause she’s mad I’m not chasing her . I love her , wish I didn’t , I love the her 2 year old. I got close with her . It’s like I hurt twice

[@daviddemars]

That is really sad, I am sorry Clayton. Acceot your pain and make it feel better. Such an important lesson is to take things really slow to not attach to people before we know who they are.

[@claytonhardin2175]

@@daviddemars yea I miss the 2 year old . I think she wanted me to get close to the baby . Idk but all I can do is keep moving forward with out them . And I know I’ll wake up and won’t love her anymore someday . I’m just hope it’s soon

[@baldersn4474]

Im.blocked on her scial media tbf...She prib got new supply..She put all the nkame on the breakup on me not looking at her own behaviour...i been trauma bonded for last 4 weeks since split..She just moved on she said she doesnt have anyone new but who knows, she blocked me, unblocked me , ignired me , thrn we had row in messanger then 3 days later she blocked me again..Im seeing someone new now....Hope she finds out lol.

[@EricaChavira-on4oz]

Love your videos but I disagree with you here, I feel like when the relationship ends, the narc will block you completely out like you aren’t alive anymore and forget you, like you never existed in the first place, I don’t think that they feel “a loss” at all, not in the slightest. I’d be surprised if their ex ever crossed their minds after the breakup or discard. I’ve read so much and have researched this topic for awhile now and from everything I’ve seen, they don’t feel or do anything like what you’re saying….does anyone agree? Just curious, also, I wanted to ask your opinion when it comes to cheating… do you think that every single narcissist cheats? No matter what? From everything I’ve seen, they ALL cheat, just wondering where you stand on that….i find your videos so helpful and I know you are helping a lot of people out there, including me! Sending love from Colorado. 👊🏼🙂

[@alicerayne9461]

well they hiss the flying monkeys after you mostly their toxic family members, than they will stalk you to make sure you see them with the new supply, they move the new supply into the house that you too got together, all I can say is bekind and love your self you will feel better and know that the new supply was a down grade the Narc had to have someone they could control and abuse so feel good to know that the someone just was not you, : )

[@rorywright5692]

Love this!!

[@alicerayne9461]

@@rorywright5692 Been there XD

[@daviddemars]

They can never be content

[@rorywright5692]

@@daviddemars So true David. One weekend I went out of town with my sister. While I was away he got online looking for the next big thing! An alert from the FBI (fake alert) stated he had been on that sight too long and he owed money. When I got home he told me about it, starting with telling me his addiction came back. I said, you really don’t think I know? He explained about the FBI and I said please tell me you didn’t pay up with credit cards or check! He said no, and he had called FBI in our town!

[@emilytaylor1001]

Thank you 💚

[@claytonhardin2175]

This should be against the law !! If u could make a law out of it . I’m a strong dude and would never hurt myself . But I can now understand why her ex from 6 years ago overdosed . He killed his self cause of her games , and the fact that her step mom works wit mental health patients u would think they would talk to her . There just setting back and not even trying to help and she destroys them all .

[@nicholecornes1915]

No it doesn't matter what you do

[@janethomas78]

2 kinds of people

[@jlmadd]

Don’t you have to know that you are competing?

[@nicholecornes1915]

This divorce is going to be fun!