I don’t care if I’m repeating myself here, all of you mama bears are STRONG!! Hearing some of yall stories here (in the comment section) and yall STILL decide to have baby #2 or even #3 🤯
@laketac2 ай бұрын
Sometimes you get a lovely bundle of "Ooops!"...and that's ok!🥰 sidenote: My husband told me I was too angry with my 2nd to have a 3rd😂
@missfortune85532 ай бұрын
@@laketac A baby should never be conceived from an oopsy daisy. That’s a whole sentient living being, it’s not something to toy with. But, what I think won’t change anything.
@laketac2 ай бұрын
@@missfortune8553 True, it wont🤗
@Chitownhomestead12 күн бұрын
That lady at 12:06... maybe she should get on birth control and not have anymore kids..7 is enough..especially w all her mental health issues 😢
@deeskez2 ай бұрын
What’s frightening to me is the stuff we women be going during pregnancy and men be cheating and abandoning women while they be going through these issues mentioned . Just realising this I’m in shock.
@BusiswaG2 ай бұрын
You and I both
@iso-didact789Ай бұрын
@@BusiswaG This whole video is comprised of mostly total feminazi bullshit with a small amount of stuff that's only true if you trust the filthy eugenicists and give birth in their Ravensbruck clones. WAKE UP SHEEPLE!!!!!!!!!!😡😡😡😡
@r_girls913Ай бұрын
Not all
@SobrietyandSolaceАй бұрын
And I have to try to explain this shit to men on Tinder I just met because they think I’m being lazy or selfish because I don’t want to go through this shit when I have a fucking connective tissue disorder
@Highpoweredwig24 күн бұрын
@@SobrietyandSolaceu ain’t gotta explain nothing to men on tinder they are random nobodies
@cantsay22052 ай бұрын
Pregnancy and childbirth are taken way too lightly. I don't regret having my daughter at all, but nobody warned me about what would happen during or after pregnancy. If, God willing, my daughter chooses to become a mother one day, I'm going to give her the advice nobody gave me.
@lennanlemonss2 ай бұрын
My family told me it’s going to be hard, but just that. They said I’m not ready and it takes a lot more than I think but didn’t go into any explanation. I’ve gone through hormonal change with my mood and it’s caused tense situations with my partner. Nobody told me this was a normal occurrence and I thought that my bad mood was my fault and I was the one to blame. My actions have consequences but being put down for these swift mood swings caused by hormones and the general uncomfortableness didn’t help me get better but caused me to feel worse. I had to start therapy and get help when I realized I had nobody to help me with my emotions. It’s hard but I couldn’t imagine my life without this precious baby boy growing inside me.
@babyg77962 ай бұрын
Can you PLEASE share your advice/challenges!
@cantsay2205Ай бұрын
@@babyg7796 one of my biggest words of advice is to use one of those shapewear things for pregnant women that supports your back and hips and belly, because your spine naturally curves in order to carry all that weight and it stays messed up. It's been almost 9 years since I gave birth and I still struggle with body image issues and chronic pain because of what pregnancy did to my posture.
@cantsay2205Ай бұрын
@@babyg7796 also, never hesitate to ask people for help, especially after giving birth. There's a reason a lot of cultures have women rest (normally at their parents home) after giving birth, because you need to rest, you need to relax. And if you can have people help you take care of the baby so that you can do basic things like eating or taking a shower, it's amazing.
@johnandpeshyАй бұрын
My mum had me decades ago, and our pregnancy journeys were different. Mine was smooth, and symptomless; unlike my mum's. Let your daughter go through her own journey and offer support, and positivity.
@autumntrenea28822 ай бұрын
Some women out here having babies without marriage or no support from the father and his family is CRAZY.
@AdelTheForsaken2 ай бұрын
Bat ish crazy!!!
@JB-bl6qo2 ай бұрын
Literally it behooves me
@jongiovanna42422 ай бұрын
My coworker is 18 and about 3 months pregnant. Boyfriend is out of the picture! I cannot believe she’s going to have this baby if I’m honest, I feel so bad for her but thankfully she has a large family.
@aspiring...2 ай бұрын
It is beyond my understanding Couldn't and wouldn't be me... I successfully avoided it so far.
@far63112 ай бұрын
Some women will never have children because they can't find a man who loves them. It's sad.
@sheHerTheyThem2 ай бұрын
As someone who has been pregnant 11 times and given birth 5 times, including to one who weighed 10 lbs 14 oz and had a HUGE head&came so quickly,his birth was fully natural...and sadly he died at the age of 24, no one tells you, that you can go through 9 months of bliss, or 9 months of hell, and there is no guarantees that as a mum, you will outlive your children. No matter what you do as a parent, how you raise them, the tools you provide, the privilege, the education... Life and this world, is NEVER in our control. Kindness and compassion matter. Take care y'all 🫶🦋
@youngmaraschino2 ай бұрын
🩵🌠
@sheHerTheyThem2 ай бұрын
@@Sunny-tc3ul my condolences to your aunt and the rest of your family. 🕯️🤍🕯️🕊️. My son had big dreams and we had dreams for him, now his 2 youngest siblings have lived longer than he has. And as a mum my life will NEVER be the same.. even after 7 years of therapy.
@aspiring...2 ай бұрын
This was a sweet and well thought, beautiful comment. I hope you are well.
@sheHerTheyThem2 ай бұрын
@@aspiring... I am, thank you. 7 years of therapy, I have done a lot of healing. So much so,I help others as a grief and loss counselor. I also try and explain to people that people shouldn't manufacture children in the hopes that they will "take care of you when you're older" that's NOT their job! We as parents need to stop burdening adult children with expectations, children don't "owe" parents anything, simply because we,as parents made the CHOICE, to give birth to them. We need to stop holding our children accountable for our choice to birth them,and instead,show up for them, because we chose to make the commitment to give birth to a human,that we don't know WHO ,they will chose to be! 🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️
@scarlettsilo64092 ай бұрын
Wow you might just be the strongest person I know of!!!
@tabithamoore71452 ай бұрын
They should really teach this in schools
@ajax40422 ай бұрын
They won't ever. They want women to be ignorant so they will keep making babies. Nobody woukd do this shit if we knew
@Anenen672 ай бұрын
factsss
@ariesaraya18222 ай бұрын
They don't want to. They want women as ignorant as possible to the reality, so that they keep having babies.
@r_girls913Ай бұрын
School is to help u choose what u want to be in life not that
@Kuneho_ArchivesАй бұрын
@@r_girls913 its still important for the girls who want babies or will get
@hermi1-kenobi4552 ай бұрын
I don’t know how women did this for thousands of years before anaesthesia.
@SprinkledFox2 ай бұрын
Many of them didn't survive
@awsomegirlpower4762 ай бұрын
Positioning helped. Back then, they were standing or squatting and ofc had help from gravity. Now we partially lie down, but it can make things difficult for the mom but easier for the hospital staff. It's controversial, which is why some try to avoid the hospital as a Plan A for when it's time for the baby.
@Enriquez22222 ай бұрын
They mostly had no choice
@elvingearmasterirma72412 ай бұрын
There is a reason why in many older religions, there was a deity or multiple deities around pregnancy, childbirth, the mother and newborns. And why from the get go, contraceptives was sought after and invented. Physical and chemical.
@kingsagendaАй бұрын
By design
@PiNkNeOnz2 ай бұрын
My husband was deployed. I was pregnant with my only child. Thank god all I had to do was Shop, sleep and decorate the nursery. I had to deal with the mental health issues alone. I didn't go back to work until she went to kindergarten and only part time. I wanted a girl, I got a girl. My husband wanted 3. No thank you!
@leila_de_hautjardin2 ай бұрын
It's so easy for men to want a whole football team, they don't have to deal with all this crap. And most of them don't even participate with the extra load of chores.
@michellechair2 ай бұрын
@@leila_de_hautjardin exactly!!! then they have the audacity to whine when they aren't treated like saints for doing those things. like....wow, the bare minimum.
@JoaquinAcostaPerez2 ай бұрын
You're so lucky you didn't have to work 😢
@leila_de_hautjardin2 ай бұрын
@@michellechair I just read something terrible on Reddit. A woman who didn't want kids agreed to have one because her husband really wanted children. Now she is the only one taking care of that kid she did not even want. They are still married, he just does nothing around the house and doesn't take care of the kid. (Don't get me wrong: she's still wrong for marrying someone who was not childfree and even worse, compromising on that).
@nnnnom2 ай бұрын
@@leila_de_hautjardin nah both are to blame. She is not deep in the wrong tho. There's no way they didn't discuss kids before marriage. It's most likely that he manipulated her.
@despain87262 ай бұрын
To anyone out there considering having a child, understand it's a traumatic experience, and if you and your partner haven't been through anything traumatic together, both of you need grace. The post partum is real. Waking up in the middle of the night hearing the person you love saying "die die die" over and over again to your newborn, no one prepares you for this. Men- do not have babies with anyone who cannot deal with trauma. And women- same thing. Men need to take mental health seriously for themselves as well.
@sincererr9862 ай бұрын
Also, pregnant women have a higher chance of being cheated on or the man/dad leaving. Women will more likely be the majority or solo parent.
@BusiswaG2 ай бұрын
I need the stats
@leeen77552 ай бұрын
fr those men re disgusting, made me want to just stay single for the rest of my lifeand get in vitro fertilization if I want a baby some day bc you can't trust anyone
@Life_Love_and_a_Lens2 ай бұрын
The amount of men I've seen cheat either during or right after the baby is born is too dang high, 😢
@michellechair2 ай бұрын
@@Life_Love_and_a_Lens this!!! and expecting the mother of your CHILD to instantly bounce back and be looking like a bikini model is so common for men it's really shitty 🙄
@BusiswaG2 ай бұрын
@michellechair oooo that one gets me all the time!! “ her body has changed and I don’t find her attractive “ uhmmm, sir? 🙂!!
@margaret39432 ай бұрын
Happy for all the couples but I could literally never no thank you
@XDeathwingSilenceX2 ай бұрын
Literally me 😂
@ibejak2 ай бұрын
Preach
@Anenen672 ай бұрын
mostly the mom 😭
@snippetsoflife19402 ай бұрын
Right
@SprinkledFox2 ай бұрын
Yup. That's why I got my tubes zapped.
@GabrielaMendoza-bu2tk2 ай бұрын
No one talks about it because no one seriously thinks these things are common. I tried having this conversation with my partner and was dismissed because he thinks that these complications are rare and that bodies are made to give birth therefore you'll be okay 99% of the time when thats just whimsical thinking men have about womans health
@SprinkledFox2 ай бұрын
Leave him.
@cloudfan10101022 ай бұрын
Girl wtf. Please reassess your relationship with this man
@antisocialsocialite50462 ай бұрын
The Greek men came up with the word "hysteria" from their word for uterus. Theyve always diminished our struggles
@sunnyandthechlo2 ай бұрын
Bodies are ‘made to do’ a lot of things, unfortunately complications, conditions, diseases etc are something that exists. I’m pretty sure eyeballs are made to see but mine suck so I need glasses/contacts. Some people are blind and theirs don’t work at all!
@lagopusvulpuz1571Ай бұрын
Humans aren't like other animals, because we have larger skulls and can cause complications during birth. Before modern medicine my history teacher said that birth mortality was high and as common as drinking water.
@Ren.lalinn2 ай бұрын
The amount of men at my job just casual ask when im having kids is ridiculous and I think it’s so disrespectful. The amount of stuff that can and do go wrong is crazy. And doctors are STILL learning….. they have zero sensitivity and respect lol. And they really get offended when I’m like no I could die.
@KagomeYasha0232 ай бұрын
Nobody should be asking at all for many reasons.
@Shay4YourMind812 ай бұрын
Wow… the nerve of them 🤦🏾♀️
@updated_autopsy_report12 ай бұрын
@@gabrielle-d1b men ask that because it's a way to have control over women's bodies, etc since pregnancy makes women very vulnerable. Women ask that because misery needs company. When men get mad at childfree women, it's because they can't control those women's bodies anymore, hence why roe v vade was overturned.
@Momo-po5tn2 ай бұрын
They shouldnt be asking you that period. Tell them its inappropriate.
@Ren.lalinn2 ай бұрын
@@gabrielle-d1b you don’t have to believe my lived experience.
@lillie_08942 ай бұрын
They should really teach us more about our own body in school
@SprinkledFox2 ай бұрын
The plan is to keep the population uneducated. It benefits the elite. They want us to just work, breed, and keep our heads down
@fellicialubisi84612 ай бұрын
Exactly 💯 ❤
@SprinkledFox2 ай бұрын
@@lillie_0894 The plan is to keep the population uneducated. It benefits the elite. They want us to just work, reproduce, and keep our heads down
@RipleysSanatorium2 ай бұрын
@@lillie_0894 why not your own family?
@SprinkledFox2 ай бұрын
@RipleysSanatorium if it's not taught in school then how tf is family supposed to know???
@Justbrowsing20232 ай бұрын
I worked with a woman who had a child in her 40s and she said she ended up losing several teeth because her body was getting robbed of nutrients. I had no idea that could happen.
@kiwanczyk2 ай бұрын
@@Justbrowsing2023 my mom had that. Had me at 42. Lost teeth and all her hair.
@no.63772 ай бұрын
I found out about pregnant people's bones becoming terribly fragile if they have multiple births too close together because of calcium being leeched from their bones by their child each time. That's from a KZbin comment though. But it sent me on a knowledge spiral. And it makes sense --your body's prioritizing the baby over you at every turn because that's biology. And it's terrifying 😭😭
@KagomeYasha023Ай бұрын
@@no.6377that’s why some people call them parasites in utero
@princessmiaxo2 ай бұрын
I've heard of people breaking bones and losing teeth, and after the baby is out? Getting life shattering depression EVERY. SINGLE. TIME. YOU. BREASTFEED. It doesn't happen to everyone but holy shit does that scare me. But I still want to have children. I've seen many of the horrid stories and I still want to go through it to bring a new life into this world.
@venusvicious44462 ай бұрын
Literally me listening to the laundry list of reasons why I shouldn’t wanna have a baby buuuut… I still wanna have a baby lol. 😭❤️
@princessmiaxo2 ай бұрын
@@venusvicious4446 Exactly!! I hope you get to be a mother soon/when the time is right❤
@venusvicious44462 ай бұрын
@@princessmiaxoBlessings beautiful, I am wishing the very same for you 🫶🏾
@pamwalker62842 ай бұрын
I had the waves of depression during breastfeeding. It wasn’t constant, but “waves” is a good descriptor. Once I figured out, on my own, that it was caused by hormone release, I was fine and dealt with it. SO worth it! Don’t be afraid! You can do it!
@hannahgrapes15542 ай бұрын
It happened to me, and I had to stop. I understood it was all I'm my head but it was too much. I had a much more pleasant time after I quit. So like.... if it happens to you, if you want to stop, it's okay, people tried to pressure me to keep going but it was too much.
@Ltlmscrl2 ай бұрын
It’s so important to share this information. A lot of women (and even more men) are uninformed about all the things that happen to the body. Every pregnancy is a unique experience and we need to be sensitive to that fact when interacting with pregnant women.
@akemi35172 ай бұрын
I had an emergency c-section. I wanted a vaginal birth, but she got stuck, and I had pre-eclampsia and was getting worrisome. The second I signed the paper, they whisked me away to the operating room. I was in shock, and when I saw my partner, I asked why everyone had masks on and I didn't have a mask. He said, "we're all wearing it to protect you. you're having surgery." He tried to make me laugh but because you are paralyzed from the chest down from the numbing for the surgery, I couldnt laugh and that was the weirdest feeling I ever had, wanting to laugh but not being able to. He told me weeks later that the surgeons doing the procedure were talking to each other, and he heard, "Who tf put this catheter in?! This is awful" The whole time I had the catheter in I kept telling the nurse it was painful and didn't feel right, there was blood in the urine but they kept dismissing me saying "its not supposed to be comfortable." I also had complications with the epidural. They said it was because my scoliosis made it hard to put it in properly. They had to redo it 3 times, and It was the most painful experience I've ever been through. Once it was in and started working, it was great, but then I had to stay for 4 days for monitoring because they were worried since I was leaking fluid out of the spot they had the epidural. Overall, it was a very traumatic experience, and I want another child, but I'm honestly terrified.
@BusiswaG2 ай бұрын
Oh my goodness 😮😞. First, how are you and the baby doing today? That sounds like an awful experience omg. Also, epidural took three attempts? Definitely sounds painful and careless on their end
@akemi35172 ай бұрын
@BusiswaG We are good today, but I could barely walk for the first 2 weeks after leaving the hospital because of the pain from the surgery. If I didn't have help, I dont know what I would've done. It took me about 8 weeks to heal . My nurse even said "Its such a crazy thing to think that women have a major surgery and are only given over the counter medication like tylenol, any other procedure you'd receive morphine." Just shows how tough women can be.
@akemi35172 ай бұрын
@BusiswaG They said they had troubles getting the epidural in because my spin wasn't straight and it took 3 attempts, but each time was excruciating and I was already in labour pains. They couldn't understand why it wasn't working and I wasn't able to get the words out to explain what I was feeling.
@miracle-pi5ws2 ай бұрын
Just adopt
@meilinmart83062 ай бұрын
@@akemi3517 ITS like u are telling my storry the same thing happend to me the cathether or whatever is called as well the epidural i hate it every minute
@KGR8272 ай бұрын
Thank God I'm childfree, because honestly, I don't think I could handle it! Kudos to all moms, you're truly strong!
@Kiwi-Vogel2 ай бұрын
The thought of having kids scares me😅
@far63112 ай бұрын
Because you're not good enough to have kids? Like you think you'd suck at it? 😢
@amberjasmine23472 ай бұрын
@@far6311 No, it’s because pregnancy reeks havoc on the body. And no one knows how it’ll be for them.
@debbiealcimasrules94182 ай бұрын
@@far6311people should not have children if they're not ready for them.
@eurika9111Ай бұрын
@@debbiealcimasrules9418people should not have children just for the sake of having it.
@TigoooBitties23 күн бұрын
Saaaaame, it's scary 😅
@athenachristinemusic2 ай бұрын
I never want kids but I’m still gonna watch 😂
@BusiswaG2 ай бұрын
😂😂😂
@Giasemi552 ай бұрын
Right, I don’t mind the extra confirmation
@athenachristinemusic2 ай бұрын
@@Giasemi55 exactly. I feel bad for these mothers but I will never
@Chitownhomestead12 күн бұрын
Im 51and believe u me... the freedom is unmatched of not having kids
@Chitownhomestead12 күн бұрын
@@athenachristinemusicI don't feel bad cause most birth control is free...
@ariesaraya18222 ай бұрын
Ppl blaming the fact that she's having a girl on all the worst symptoms of pregnancy tells you how deep misogny runs. Its always a girl's fault even if they are not born yet.
@Devian016Ай бұрын
Lol what? Maybe look up how the hormones and child development of her body having to use that to create a fetus correlates to her condition.
@senselessplace2 ай бұрын
I have seen so many pregnant people. I don't think I have ever seen this 'glow' you speak of. Just tired, and frustration. ... THIS is what we need in health class. The truth.
@no.63772 ай бұрын
To be honest, same. Most of the women I know who've gotten pregnant look exhausted while they're pregnant. But I don't wanna be rude😅 The best pregnancy 'look' I've seen is when they just look...the same. The 'pregnancy glow' feels like a scam 😂😂
@myrandomvidsoy2 ай бұрын
I’m 9 months pregnant and look and feel great. Not everyone has a miserable pregnancy. 🤷🏻♀️
@BloodSweatandFears2 ай бұрын
@@myrandomvidsoySame, also had a very good uncomplicated birth. It’s the scary ones you hear the most about, but that’s not how it’s supposed to be!
@sres42 ай бұрын
@@myrandomvidsoyThats great but unfortunately thats not the reality for every woman
@myrandomvidsoy2 ай бұрын
@@sres4 Obviously but the internet is full of scaremongering new moms. They need to know it’s not just negativity.
@everydaywinning2 ай бұрын
I am currently pregnant (38 weeks 6 days) and this is the worst thing that I have ever done to my body and mental health. I have not had any morning sicknes but everything hurts and no one told me it will be this way. The first 8 weeks was fine but the rest of the pregnancy was a total nightmare with one horrid symptom after another. Heartburn, acid reflux, sciatica, aching muscles and always tired. I feel mentally drained because my body doesn't feel like my own and I cannot do much for myself. I have to ask for help all the time which means nothing gets done when I need it done...it's draining me. I just want this baby out so I can go back to some kind of normal me.
@sadecoco15022 ай бұрын
36 weeks pregnant here. I understand EXACTLY what you’re going through 😢😢😢. I am going through the most with my pregnancy too. Exhausted everyday no matter how many hours I sleep. I just don’t recognise myself in this body. Still can’t believe I am pregnant. My husband and I planned the pregnancy but I am overwhelmed already.
@baronessboomer38652 ай бұрын
💜 Mother of 3 boys *youngest born in 1990. Had a miscarriage very young, before my first. I experienced severe sickness for the first 6 months on all 3. I also dealt with post partum depression with the 2nd & 3rd. I had RH negative blood type, & needed a vital medicine to prevent possibly deadly outcomes to me &/ormy babies. Doctors screen for that, so it's vital to get tested ASAP. Just one big piece of random advice I wish someone would have warned me about. I had my tubes tied right after my 3rd child, while still in the hospital. DON'T DO THAT! 😱 It's the most painful recovery imaginable, as your uterus contracts for weeks/even months to get back to normal after we give birth. Trust me & wait on that procedure. It was totally excruciating & debilitating, especially with a newborn to take care of! God Bless all the mothers, especially the new ones. You've fulfilled a miracle & I salute you! 💜💜💜
@BusiswaG2 ай бұрын
Thank you so much for sharing 💜 I never thought of the whole, getting tubes tied right after, as being a negative but it makes sense.
@baronessboomer38652 ай бұрын
@@BusiswaG I thought I was very smart, getting everything done & over, but oh my Lord, it was so dreadfully painful. There was no social media back then, & getting any kind of real life advice or information was nearly impossible. I love these informative videos that you share with us. I've watched them all, and I really appreciate the depth of your research, including sharing the feedback of your own subscribers. 💜
@jahkingwhite65332 ай бұрын
Yo, when i was younger, I saw a video of a woman breastfeeding, and she was crying so bad she had to bite something just to get through it. that's when I knew even after birth pregnancy still affects women, I'll never forget that video.
@eqrahabibi2 ай бұрын
Happy to be married and childfree 🎉
@sunnyandthechlo2 ай бұрын
Same! I think it’s the best decision we could’ve made.
@jenmar94282 ай бұрын
Me, too. 😂🎉
@babyg77962 ай бұрын
How did you 2 go about this convo? How’d you find a partner that agreed to this?! This sounds lovely! 😊
@sunnyandthechlo2 ай бұрын
@@babyg7796 Before we got married me and my husband decided we'd probably want 1 or 2 kids. But we decided we would not have them until we were financially, mentally and physically stable. As time went on, we realized financial security was getting more and more difficult, plus I have chronic pain issues. We went back and re-evaluated the conversation. We both decided we were very happy the way we were even if we didn't have much money. And changing everything by having a baby didn't seem like the right choice, besides pregnancy would be very difficult on me physically. Communication is super important and re-evaluating things as your life changes is just as important!
@2CanadianEhАй бұрын
I had 7 miscarriages Husband and I gave up and are childfree At first I STRUGGLED but now I’m really happy we don’t have kids Leave my body ALONE
@keziahantoine16212 ай бұрын
Noticing my mother have postpartum depression for more than a year was the saddest thing i have ever witnessed in my life every one around her thought she was going crazy and all she wanted was help this type of thing runs in our family and i hope every one gets educated on the after effects of birth .
@BusiswaG2 ай бұрын
If you overthink or have anxiety please do not watch the video!! Respectfully, this isn’t to bring you fear. As mentioned in the video, if there’s anything I DID NOT mention in the video and you have experienced, please leave it in the comment section below. And of course if you want to share your story, feel free ❤️ Another point I didn’t make was, there’s a chance that you could 💀.
@Afrocentric_Exotical_242 ай бұрын
Please also do a video highlighting pmdd and menstrual cycles as well as endometriosis and dysmenorrhea. It's important for a young woman and girls and women and men and young boys to know about these conditions
@Anenen672 ай бұрын
lol hiiiiiiiii
@palomathereptilian2 ай бұрын
@@Afrocentric_Exotical_24 I second this, I have endometriosis and I wish I was able to caught it earlier My quality of life went downhill as I got older (and I'm only 27), I need to take plenty of meds to barely function properly... And this when I'm not having periods, I can get bedridden during periods 😔 I don't really care about the reproductive aspect of it at all, I never wanted kids and I have severe tokophobia... But I know plenty of women who want children and endo can make this extremely hard or even impossible, so I deeply wish we could have better treatment options and earlier diagnosis to avoid worse outcomes (chronic pain, significant impact on quality of life, infertility etc)
@j.elixir60892 ай бұрын
lol too late and I have liver issues haha
@Afrocentric_Exotical_242 ай бұрын
@@palomathereptilian I'm so sorry to hear that, yes I'm glad that there is more awareness about it. Same here, glad you're doing better now. I encourage people to donate to endometriosis research foundation so that they can do more research and bring more awareness to it. I also recommend following: @getsomedays
@kewayne8882 ай бұрын
postpartum is a well kept secret until u loosing your damn mind, an only then is the question asked.... "ARE YOU GOING THROUGH POSTPARTUM"
@janelle4582 ай бұрын
Omg for real!!!!!! Post partum for me was absolutely hell
@amatt-x4u2 ай бұрын
I am one and done! Pregnancy was so draining and traumatic for me. It was then was overshadowed by me discovering my child's father was cheating. Then I had to give birth with him in the room knowing how much I disliked him... which made the process harder and so long, that I ended up needing help with forceps. You cannot give birth easily in a toxic environment
@babyg77962 ай бұрын
You weren’t allowed to not have him in the operating room?
@SprinkledFox2 ай бұрын
The mortality rate of pregnant people in the United States should become common knowledge
@mrshonourable2 ай бұрын
Pregnant women*
@SprinkledFox2 ай бұрын
@@mrshonourable women are people, no? 🥰
@mrshonourable2 ай бұрын
@@SprinkledFox only women give birth not all people 💋
@SprinkledFox2 ай бұрын
@@mrshonourable Unlike you, my heart holds no hatred towards trans and intersex people.
@sibria2 ай бұрын
@@SprinkledFoxwhere’s the hatred? usually it is women who are pregnant.
@leeen77552 ай бұрын
the fact that preeclampsia symptoms are normalized as "just normal pregnancy things" is scary, make me think how how underestimated are women's health problems, how little research there is (just like the menstruation) and how we are always told that being in a scrumptious pain is completely normal, "just womanhood, don't be dramatic" yk
@antisocialsocialite50462 ай бұрын
For real. No wonder women seem to have a much higher pain tolerance. Cause we're always gaslit and dismissed and have to suffer alone in silence and just deal with it
@sunnyandthechlo2 ай бұрын
I was wondering just how freaking bad a ‘scrumptious pain’ must be, then realized you probably meant ‘excruciating.’ 😅
@janelle4582 ай бұрын
I remember having gained significant weight and having swelling in my lower legs and my obgyn didn’t seem concerned at all even though I am a nurse and knew something was off. And then lo and behold I ended up having severe complications because they didn’t listen to their patient. The ignorance is unreal.
@kimberlyskye20242 ай бұрын
Pregnancy is not very enjoyable it’s painful physically a lot of people don’t talk about that. People also saying it’s such a beautiful experience makes it hard for people who struggle through it
@BdazzldNails2 ай бұрын
💜💜 special needs mama here - I read every book I could or I don’t think I’d have known any of this information. There’s so much education that should come before pregnancy- the US still has one of the highest infant/mother death rates for a developed country. I had a planned c-section for my own health reasons, ended up with a baby with a genetic anomaly with feeding issues health issues and later an intolerance to my milk that I’d driven myself crazy trying to pump and save and freeze for him. The focus on breast is best leaves its own scars in mamas who for whatever reason may not be able to feed their babies that way but are made to feel like we’re failures when we can’t 😮💨
@loryndabenson21182 ай бұрын
I was reading this book called "breasts" I forget the author's name. Anyway she was talking about breast cancer and the carcinogens In everyday products and how the build up of heavy metals and toxins stored in our fat cells can come out in our breast milk with our first child if we don't do a detox prior. I wonder if that has anything to do with babies having allergies or intolerance to their mothers breast milk? I'm glad you bought that up cuz I'd like to look more into it.
@janelle4582 ай бұрын
I breastfed until I developed severe food poisoning and had to go to the ER where the medications they gave me dried up my milk supply and I was never able to get it back.
@talkingtochapri2 ай бұрын
I never understood the point of having kids. We live in a messed up dangerous society, if you're broke or middle class, you're kid is most likely going to become a 9-5 slave or fast food worker while blaming you for giving them a struggle life. I don't know why any woman would want that. Most kids don't blame their fathers as much as they blame their mothers for giving them a struggle life. I am never going to push a watermelon size baby out just to give them a struggle miserable life 🤷🏻♀️ if i was a millionaire or billionaire, i would've thought about having kids, each to their own.
@nenelavv26Ай бұрын
It’s 2024 almost a whole new year ppl better come up w or not rely on just one income , it’s so much money you can make in the digital world.
@Chitownhomestead12 күн бұрын
Facts on facts!!!
@KagomeYasha0232 ай бұрын
Why do so many men cheat on and leave their pregnant partners or cheat or leave them right after birth?
@Highpoweredwig24 күн бұрын
They get jealous of the attention the mother and baby is having and the father gets jealous of the baby because the baby is in the way of sexy time with mama. The process of reproduction sounds degrading af
@princessinmittens47832 ай бұрын
One thing I did not expect was for my teeth to fall out, after 15 years I still experience extreme back and nerve pain caused by the epidural and my hair falling out in clumps at my edges. I still have numbness in my c section scar. It's such a deep and dark scar with a bit of a fat flap where it was sewn up.
@jenniferanoliefo9052 ай бұрын
Omg 😲 hope your doing better now 🥺
@vanlifebae2 ай бұрын
Oh god you are scaring me 😮 I'm only 30 weeks and so far my pregnancy has been wonderful but these birth stories are making me worry now lol......
@princessinmittens47832 ай бұрын
@@vanlifebae oh no no sweetie. Don't worry. I pray I does not happen to you, just know no matter the outcome. It's always worth the pain of motherhood. You and your baby will be just fine. You will be okay and baby will be bright and beautiful and healthy.
@princessinmittens47832 ай бұрын
@@jenniferanoliefo905 yes thank you. Some days I can't believe this actually happened. It's strange how we forget the pain we were once in when we help create joy in our lives. If that's is what we choose.
@jenniferanoliefo9052 ай бұрын
@@princessinmittens4783 sooo happy and grateful, your doing better now 😊😁
@Bkid1233212 ай бұрын
Yeah, I never wanted kids to begin with but if I ever did I would have to adopt. I have extreme anxiety and I couldn't do it. I am so proud of the people who do and those who choose to adopt though. Also, thank you so much for making this video and making these people feel seen❤
@Cassie-xx5fbАй бұрын
I'm also probably in the same boat. With a bad history of anxiety and depression, I'm really scared of being pregnant. Also, with health issues, I don't think I'd be able to take care of a newborn.
@BronxRisen2 ай бұрын
I have never wanted kids… And to those of them who have mistakenly had them, they’ll never admit their quarrel
@cloudfan10101022 ай бұрын
Im saying like!!!! You’ll never catch me lacking! I will never have kids. And of course people will say “My baby wasnt planned but i love them!” Well of course you do! Bc you cant return the child or change your mind at this point. Baby’s here to stay! 🥴
@BusiswaG2 ай бұрын
You’d be surprised how many women have come forward and actually said they regret it. I even made a video about it.
@BloodSweatandFears2 ай бұрын
I’ll admit my first was an accident, I’m pregnant with my second, this one was planned. Best accident ever I must say.
@abba9265Ай бұрын
Even worse, every unwanted child knows they’re unwanted. At least in my experience
@ActonBell1848Ай бұрын
@@abba9265 Yeah I agree a child knows they are unwanted very early on
@gracehayden83972 ай бұрын
WAKE UP GUYS THE QUEEN DROPPED ANOTHER VIDEO
@BusiswaG2 ай бұрын
lol 😂
@ireadbooksandhaveopinions2 ай бұрын
Girl I'm loving your channel 💘💘 The array of subjects and your commentary????? Amazing.
@BusiswaG2 ай бұрын
Thank you ❤️
@leahmerriam2 ай бұрын
Class is in session!! 👩🏽🏫 pay attention 👩🏻💻
@BusiswaG2 ай бұрын
❤️
@stephaniepantalonie2 ай бұрын
It's anti woman that the insanity pleas does not apply to postpartum mental health crises that result in accidental death.
@elvingearmasterirma72412 ай бұрын
Its anti women that its not taken seriously from the get go and research on it is near non existent tbh
@RipleysSanatorium2 ай бұрын
@@stephaniepantalonie "accidental" lol
@xxbeccabrutalityxx78732 ай бұрын
@@elvingearmasterirma7241 for real. I am DX'd with Bipolar 1, and have experienced both mania psychosis and psychotic depression before getting pregnant. My doctor knows this, and now I'm 6 months pregnant, she never mentioned to me that PP-psychosis exists. Like howww would that just slip her mind while we were creating my plan for pregnancy, birth, and post partum?? I'm at a high risk of it and the only thing she ever mentioned about mental health is prenatal anxiety. Thankfully, I found out post partum psychosis exists, and have a plan to go back on antipsychotics the day my son is born. But it's so scary to know that such a huge risk isn't even mentioned. Thankfully, my fiancé is aware of my mental health DX, and we've also made our home plan to make sure our baby won't be at risk. But what if I hadn't heard of pp psychosis? What if I became psychotic after birth, and didn't even know to look for the warning signs?? What if my support system didn't know it could happen, and my baby got hurt?! It's crazy to neglect such a major danger. Edit* sorry this is so long lol but it just amazes me
@asiah20212 ай бұрын
I love that you’re addressing these issues, because many of us are not given this information until we actually experience it ourselves. But also I want to note that pregnancy, birth, and postpartum is not always traumatic. It can be positive, with the grace of God and being knowledgeable about what you’re going through as a women. I experience a difficult pregnancy, birth, and horrible postpartum experience (and add covid stipulations to it) with my first, but I prepared myself so much better with my second. And, it was a was overall a positive experience, a complete 180 from my first. And praying my 3rd is even better. I owe that to the work I did and the guidance from God. Most importantly we have to be our own advocates and though there are hardships in pregnancy there are ways to better your experience through support and many other things. I hope this can encourage others who still want children, but are hesitant.
@jamaicanblackqueen2 ай бұрын
OMG! on my third pregnancy at 6 months i found out i had severe Preclampsia. It was the scariest thing ever ive ever experienced. I stayed in the hospital for a week and my baby was born at 29 weeks and was in the NICU for 55 days. To god be the glory we got through it.
@sonderyt2 ай бұрын
I have 2 kids and never had any complications or negative symptoms during or after pregnancy. My mood was the best it was in my entire life and I was so active and glowing. I healed so well I was back to running after 1 week both times. TURNS out, I have an underlying health condition that makes pregnancy the most heavenly experience on earth for me, and that isn’t a normal thing.
@sunnyandthechlo2 ай бұрын
Wow, that’s insane!
@michellechair2 ай бұрын
what health condition do you have if you don't mind answering? im curious what would cause that and why we've been lied to for so long that this is supposedly and 'ideal' experience for pregnancy
@kittycodding418322 күн бұрын
I have an autoimmune disorder. During my pregnancy, all of my symptoms disappeared. I only had morning sickness for a couple hours at the very beginning. I had a very smooth and relaxing pregnancy except a little itching from acid build up in my liver. We induced early just to be sure it didn't cause complications. I miss the little break I had from my disorder.
@Asher_The_demon2 ай бұрын
My mom, she was kidnapped and r*ped at 16, yet she never terminated her pregnancy, gave birth through C section and never felt Resentful to me, Im so happy for her loving me, and not having to go through more than she already had been, I hope all mothers could have a good pregnancy and birth but sadly that wont happen:(
@LollyMadikiza-xw4okАй бұрын
@asher...💔💔💔
@edoboleynАй бұрын
Asher, your mother sounds like a warrior. I am so sorry she had to endure so much. That is incredible strength. She truly loved and loves you, and I’m sure it means everything to her that you see her courage and return her love. ♥️ Take care, both of you!
@saddiesad58772 ай бұрын
Not me remembering Matt from Matt and Abby telling his wife if she felt like she cheated birth right after she was back to her room after her c-section 🤮
@aurora_skyeАй бұрын
Disgusting of him. Just awful behaviour.
@TameiaHiggins2 ай бұрын
I had a c section but was put to sleep because I didn't have an epidural. I fell asleep mid contraction and woke up to my child by my bedside. I felt like I missed out on the experience of seeing him "fresh out the oven" and also family members said I had it easy, which led to the ppd I had. Did I mention I also had gestational diabetes 😭😭😭😭😭😭 this video described my entire pregnancy but I love my son so much
@poltergeistghostАй бұрын
I will never understand why anyone chooses to give birth. If I just have to have a kid one day I’ll just adopt. Pregnancy is insane and horrible and yet men act like it’s nothing it’s so enraging!
@missyoung75349 минут бұрын
But if nobody gives birth the earth will be without humans including yourself
@Jordè12222 ай бұрын
I had three home births and they were all lovely. I also didnt have baby blues and always "bounced back" after the babies... However, my teeth took a MAJOR hit. I lost all of my back molars from post partum malnutrition. Please do more than take vitamins while pregnant. I was a vegan for my first pregnancy and got extremely depleted from my pregnancies. I have been restoring my levles with codliver oil, green powder, lots of eggs/ milk and lots of healthy fats. There is a lot you can do to have a healthy pregnancy, dont be scared but do take care of yourself and study up. Spiritual midwifery is a must read as well as Nourishing Traditions when considering becoming pregnant. Stay safe ladies ❤
@lexivin342 ай бұрын
That's interesting you explain spiritual midwifery along with nourishing traditions which will have great benefits for a wholesome experience for many mothers
@RipleysSanatorium2 ай бұрын
@Jordè1222 I'm surprised to see a positive comment. Not many on here.
@elvingearmasterirma72412 ай бұрын
My mum's hips were too narrow to do the usual birth method. So she _had_ to get a c-section for me. Then my brother. She never talked about the issues specifically during her pregnancy, but after my brother was born and she was healthy enough for it, she got her tubes tied. She never wanted to experience it ever again. And I do not blame her.
@Dambrielle952 ай бұрын
I literally found out that I was pregnant this morning. My husband and I are in the shock phase.
@rosadele97152 ай бұрын
Congratulations , may the lord help you through your pregnancy ❤
@BusiswaG2 ай бұрын
Aww congratulations 🎈
@missfortune85532 ай бұрын
Idk if I should congratulate you or give you my condolences. Best of luck either way.
@updated_autopsy_report12 ай бұрын
I agree with the comment above. I don't know what to say except good luck and I wish you a smooth journey.
@zooweellama2 ай бұрын
I’m gonna take an alternative path instead of congratulating. If you have ANY doubt about if you would be able to take care of the child all by yourself (cuz anything can happen to your husband) GET AN AB**TION. He can pass away, get into a severe accident etc (so not just leave) and the child rearing will be all on you. If you wouldn’t be able to handle that, I wouldn’t recommend going through with the pregnancy. Don’t let him try to convince you otherwise. Learn from other women’s mistakes and make the best decision FOR YOU.
@babyg77962 ай бұрын
I had an inviable pregnancy (abortion) and being pregnant for only 5 weeks was enough to drive me insane. My partner also checked out so it was very lonely. I don’t see how women continue through pregnancy knowing they’re going to be single-moms/alone. Just having to manage the fatigue & sickness alone was enough to send me into a mild depression…I hate how pregnancy is ALWAYS celebrated like it’s easy, but women who choose to exercise their rights because they physically cannot handle it are shamed…Praying for these ladies 🙏🏾
@Chitownhomestead12 күн бұрын
Sorry 4 ur loss... but I feel u 100% why do that journey solo...
@ashleyhanna4052 ай бұрын
That poor mama who has gone through that not once but twice my heart goes out of her because I feel her pain. I had it with my daughter the first pregnancy and I was so sick that they didn’t think I was gonna be able to maintain the pregnancy because I was losing so much weight Did not end until I was eight months alone, but somehow God gave me a 8 lbs. 3 oz. baby how she got that big I have no clue because I sure didn’t eat 3 ounces worth of food and not whole months but she was healthy when I got pregnant again with her sister I was scared to death. It was gonna happen again, but thank the Lord it did not butjust want to tell that mama stay strong you got this mommy. Ain’t nobody ever gonna be stronger than a mama and us mamas who go through this to bring our beautiful babies to this world or just strongest
@gwlad15752 ай бұрын
I never wanted to be the "princess" type while pregnant and even hated to think people will think I'm made of coton . Unfortunately, I had "morning" (all day ) sickness during my entire pregnancy, had pregnancy diabete (had to check my blood 6 to 8 times a day) and was bedridden from month 2 until the end of my pregnancy while my husband was working 4 hours away. My son was born small and lost weight at the hospital so we had to stay there. We didn't know at the time but I'm Bipolar type 2, my post partum made me full manic , I wouldn't sleep, eat or do anything than focus on my son. I'm extremely happy to have him but not again. I'll only have one child.
@KagomeYasha023Ай бұрын
Did they also tell you bipolar can be passed on to your children and so on ? My father had it and my mom didn’t find out til after our births and lo and behold me and my brother both have it. My dad has type I and we have type II. Not always though but I just thought to mention it when I read your comment. It made me afraid to have kids, my brother has kids and I can see signs already that one of his kids might have it as well.
@gwlad157528 күн бұрын
@KagomeYasha023 There is indeed a risk , but they can not really estimate for sure. We know that if one parent has Bipolar it increases the risk of 25% (might need to check the precise %) My father has Bipokar 1. I have Bipolar 2 , his only other child, my younger brother, doesn't have Bipolar. I had more risk, but my life events made me Bipolar. My son might be the same, and I'm guessing the risk is therefore more important. I know the importance of mental health and that he should see professionals starting at a young age. Not necessarily because he is going to have Bipolar for sure, but because his mom has it and he has a risk of developing a mental illness, therefore he should be emotionally intelligent, and therapy, even when everything seems great, is a great way to do so.
@gwlad157528 күн бұрын
@KagomeYasha023 I would also add on the fact that you already see signs in your nieces/ nephews . Bipolar in children can exist, yes, BUT it is quite rare (knowing that contrary to beliefs bipolar only affects 1% of adults so imagine children), and the symptoms tend to be different from bipolar seen with adults. I know how we can over analyse because we have a fear of what we have. But if you suspect something, don't over analyse it and take time to figure out what is going on calmly
@camvin5752 ай бұрын
I dont think people realise that when somebody has a C-section, they pull a lot of organs out and place them to the side to get to the womb....to me that is not the easy way out. Your muscles are cut, so you have to wait until the mend back together naturally.....this is somebody who has been pregnant a few times but never had the chance to bring life into this world. Each way of birthing should be respected, in my opinion. I think it's more the old school way of thinking. "She had a C-section, so she had it easy." Where nowadays i think we have learnt more.
@BornAgainFarmGirl2 ай бұрын
When giving birth and the doctor or nurse says don’t push they should say if you give in to the urge you will tear your vagina in all sorts of ways 😮. I tore in three directions ❤.
@antisocialsocialite50462 ай бұрын
Wait I thought you were supposed to push? Do you mean only push when they tell you to?
@BornAgainFarmGirl2 ай бұрын
@@antisocialsocialite5046 when the baby needs to be adjusted slightly they need to the mother to not push so they can stretch the skin manually.
@far63112 ай бұрын
@@antisocialsocialite5046your body naturally starts pushing. I couldn't stop it
@far63112 ай бұрын
@@antisocialsocialite5046 your body naturally starts pushing. I couldn't stop it.
@toritame2 ай бұрын
Me and my husband have two children and it’s a lot, at the moment, because one is a toddler and the other is newborn. I don’t really want to mention much of what’s happening in my life at the moment, but I trust that God will guide us and help us through this season of our lives. 🙏🏾
@lanaaugustine81172 ай бұрын
Good luck momma, you got this 💕💕💕💕
@toritame2 ай бұрын
@@lanaaugustine8117 ❤️ thank you
@maki93962 ай бұрын
I hope people trying to get pregnant see this. It wint change theur minds, as it wouldn't hsve changed mine, but at least they'd know more.
@s.tiaira90812 ай бұрын
2:26 I had a miscarriage but when I was pregnant for two months I had this it was awful. I had NO ENERGY! I feel asleep standing up and almost while driving.
@Long_May_They_Raine2 ай бұрын
I nearly DIED from a hyperemesis syndrome- wouldn’t wish that on my worst enemy
@LollyMadikiza-xw4okАй бұрын
@long...😳😳(South Africa)
@IllyrianPrinces00Ай бұрын
Mom of 3. Pregnancy and breastfeeding is extremely hard on the body. 1st preg. Excessive bleeding since 5 weeks preg. From the very start. Gestational diabetes. And at 32 weeks i went into pre term labor. 30 weeks my placenta started to abrupt from and my body, LUCKY FOR ME, realized what was happening and sent me to pre term labor. We both survived with 30 days of NICU. it was hellish. 1 month after this happened to me, my friends placenta abrupted all at once and she almost lost her life and her baby. Her baby was a micro preemie in one of the best hospitals in the USA and he is doing well. Extremely traumatized. Second preg. Healthy, thank god, but had weekly apts due to first preg conllications. Third preg: healthy and at 28 weeks they found something on the brain of my baby. We almost lost our minds. Tests after tests. Prayers. Crying. Depressed. Extremely invasive testing. Thank God baby was healthy and I am okay. I've had 1 miscarriage and have friends with infertility, stillbirths. Debilitating vomiting. Hospitalization due to dehydration. Friend with severe genetic issues with 7 miscarriages and 3 stillbirths. All of these things my friends and I have gone through has left scars on us. Pregnancy is not a joke. Having a support system and a partner through it is crucial. After baby is born, another story. Baby needs a solid family unit PERIOD.
@user-jb8jh2iw8f2 ай бұрын
completely unrelated to the video content but ! the sleeves on your shirt look lovely.
@Randolocal2 ай бұрын
There is a lot of things that most people do not talk about when it comes to things that happen to woman only the basics are mentioned and I do agree that it is because sadly the female body is not very researched and discovered I’ve also heard that if a woman was to push to hard while on the toilet your uterus or intestine could come out and you just have to shove it back up there I really found this shocking. Proud of you pregnant moms and widows with kids you’re amazing and appreciated! 😘
@ayeteebby232 ай бұрын
GIRL! I just gasped so loudly on the train just now! Noooo 😭🤯😱😳
@sunnyandthechlo2 ай бұрын
It’s true they can come out but don’t just shove it back up there! There are surgeries that can fix that!
@michellechair2 ай бұрын
vaginal prolapse can occur for a lot of reasons, but usually it's something that happens later in life after decades of straining on the toilet. it can happen to young women too ofc but that's typically due to another health problem or genetic predisposition
@dynogamergurl2 ай бұрын
One thing I heard is, that if calcium is lacking in the mother’s body that the baby will take it all. Or rather the baby will cause your teeth to fall out because of the lack of calcium 🥶
@BusiswaG2 ай бұрын
Yep. That’s what I mentioned in the video. It’s scary.
@drlimkitty56702 ай бұрын
Wow, you hit the nail on the head with the portion of the C-section.. you touched on so many points that I experienced during my second pregnancy that I didn’t share when I commented on your community post, but thank you for touching on so many valid points and being a voice for us
@BusiswaG2 ай бұрын
Yea the c-section part was needed. It just puzzles me how many people see it as an “easy procedure” 🤦♀️
@marianntallent84522 ай бұрын
I had hypermesis. It was the worst experience ever. I lived 9 month on boost shakes and a few bite of food at a time if I could handle it, only once a week. I think more women should know that it does happen. I was so weak. My doctor just told me "oh the baby will be fine, he will suck all the nutrients he needs from you. We just have to worry about you suffering malnutrition". That was scary to hear. Edit to add in here, i had to have a C-section and that was also just as traumatic. Something not talked about is the fact that it can go wrong. I felt them cut me open. It was horrible and they had to stop and try to knock me out. And even then i just kept waking up. A C-section isnt always easy. After all of that i lost my son at 3 weeks dye to SIDS. And that is the worst thing for any mama to ever have to go through. It should be more normal to talk about how easy it is for it all to go wrong.
@missyoung75343 минут бұрын
I cried reading ur comment
@everydaywinning2 ай бұрын
I have so much respect for a anyone who has multiple children....that could never be me. I am never abusing my body like that ever again...not in this lifetime
@Princess_2242 ай бұрын
This makes me not want to have kids anymore. I feel like it’s not worth the risk
@bananabagel2Ай бұрын
It’s such a rewarding thing tho 🫶🏽
@Princess_22428 күн бұрын
@@bananabagel2 ik but the risks!!
@Chitownhomestead12 күн бұрын
And look at how crazy the world is?!? Good 4 u❤..my life is fine without kids🎉🎉🎉freedom is unmatched
@bananabagel212 күн бұрын
@@Chitownhomestead freedom unmatched I definitely can’t argue with that 😂😂
@hellasp1cy2 ай бұрын
First pregnancy at 19, no issues whatsoever, natural birth. Second pregnancy at 29, had a HG pregnancy. Thought I would die (and tbh some days I just wanted to die) a few times because of the continuous throwing up, even when there is nothing to throw up anymore your body still tries to. Slept in the bathroom most of the time to be close to the toilet and the tiles had a cooling effect. Had to go to the hospital a few times. Now 2 years after birth I still don’t feel like myself. In the first postpartum year my uterus dropped, had to get physical therapy for that. Had a natural birth with the second one also, and my back hurts every day since august 5th 2022. 2 girls btw and two completely different pregnancies. Love them girls to the ends of the earth but NEVER EVER EVER AGAIN!!
@kayc4212 ай бұрын
My pregnancy was HORRIBLE! I never want to do it again.
@whalesaurus26982 ай бұрын
My mother had post eclampsia when I was born and was also 47 when she had me. The main doctor on her case didn't even think anything was wrong and it took my dad screaming at him and demanding him to help my mother for him to realise that she was about to die. Through some insane luck my mother recovered with no long lasting issues but could've very easily died or gone blind, whats insane is that theres still a lot of doctors who like to deny the existence of post eclampsia, at least in Australia.
@eqrahabibi2 ай бұрын
My heart is breaking for the young woman at 4:00 😢 I wish I could take her pain away 😢
@kikicocoa13872 ай бұрын
With my second son I had hyperemesis gravidarum, and it was the worst thing I’ve ever gone through! I was bed ridden for 6 months because it was so severe I couldn’t even pick up my head or open my eyes because it would feel like the room was spinning. I’m so happy they finally figured out what causes it, and now newly pregnant mothers can have it helped. But just a word of warning, I still get these insane nausea spells that take me out for the entire day and night. It’s random, and you never know when it’s going to happen. So please get help if it’s early and the help is available.
@2grateful2 ай бұрын
Busiswa, ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ on the content selection! What I would have given to have seen this video when I was pregnant 8 yrs ago?!! Thank you
@BusiswaG2 ай бұрын
Awww thank you! I wish more people spoke on the bad side of pregnancy. Not to discourage it but to inform.
@sizzlekitten4441Ай бұрын
The amount of people who have offered unsolicited comments about my desire to not have children is unreal. I’m bipolar, meaning I would have to be off my medication for a year in order to get pregnant. So I’m going to be an unhinged pregnant woman for around a year, just to have a kid? Also, I don’t want to pass this disorder down to my future child, but I’m selfish for not wanting children…
@Karlae862 ай бұрын
How about stillbirths . Those are more common than we think. ❤
@HelloKittySiims2 ай бұрын
These are GREAT birth control ads😅😅
@CalebAchsah2 ай бұрын
QBusiswa - Excellent video. You did a really good job on a fascinating subject!
@BlissfulMartini2 ай бұрын
40:35 I’m more bewildered that we have to tell people that it’s okay to NOT post EVERYTHING that happens to them on the internet.
@Videosrigolo2 ай бұрын
Let me tell you I was pregnant once!! Buuuuut I dont want to be again, pregnacy ruins the brain, it can beautiful yes but no one thinks about the future mother, I was lucky for not geting sick all the time, but my psychological state got destroyed, I love my son, but I wouldn't get pregnant again. I hated, I was so big, couldn't get up on the morning well, couldn't sleep on my favourite position (on my belly) a lot of pain, worrying if the baby was well, worrying if I would make a good mother, crying all day, like, it was awfull really hard. My first and last.
@YoutubeIsTVАй бұрын
Jesus thank you. I’m 13 weeks and I’ve had the best experience so far. No symptoms just growth 😩
@loryndabenson21182 ай бұрын
Havnt finished the video yet but in school my holistic nutrition teacher taught us about how influential diet is on pregnancy. Before you ever become pregnant both parents ideally should be eating a specific diet as this is common practice for indigenous groups. Some people try to start six months prior. However if we're talking about the US i suggest a year in advance because our food supply is so contaminated/poor. Women are going in to pregnancy already severly malnourished because our food sucks. Thats why so many women also have other reproductive issues and autoimmune diseases that we didnt have prior to highly processed foods. Our death rates are also high, partly because of racism and men ignoring women, but also because doctors arent educated on why its important for women to give birth in other positions besides lying on their back. They say its so the doctor can see but if it leads to more tearing, and bleeding and more stress on the baby because they're fighting gravity to get out, then you don't need to see, learn to use your hands to guide the baby out or find another way for you to see so that the mother can give birth in a position that is less painful and traumatic for the baby. Anyway theres a great book by Weston A Price called nutrition and physical degeneration. He was a dentist but he went around studying indigenous groups and their diets, and how their health drastically changed once colonizers introduced processed foods. The effects on pregnancy is also studied. It literally just takes one generation to see the deterioration of the next persons health when the parents werent fed properly. Anyway I'm also aware you can do everything in your power to have a healthy pregnancy and sometimes it still sucks or doesn't go as planned. But that shouldn't stop us as a whole from demanding better and more comprehensive care/education around pregnancy and we should be taught these things in school. I grew up in the south and in school they just told is domt have sex or you'll get an std or become pregnant. Churches dont teach you anything either but they'll gladly have purity ceremony for girls. A lot of our education around pregnancy and nutrition in general was tied to our cultural practices but, we already know at this point what happened especially if youre in America.
@loryndabenson21182 ай бұрын
That's just the portion of pregnancy, we don't have proper post natal care/education/practices either. Some women are left chronically ill or even disabled post pregnancy because they don't have, one proper nourishing diet ,and someone or a community to help them thru those first few months. Physical therapy should be a part of post natal care. There's so many elements missing from pregnancy and post pregnancy care In the US. And you can't have it unless you have a lot of money because our health care is for profit or you're one of the lucky people who has a community around you to help you out. Moms are supposed to be resting and healing as much as possible not up doing chores and housework right after giving birth. Men and boys need to be properly educated too. Ive heard crazy stories of a mom coming home with a newborn and the husband is waiting for her to start dinner and clean the house. TF?! Or even a husband with a snoring problem not allowing the mom and baby to sleep because he refused to sleep in another room. That's actually really dangerous for the mom and baby to not be sleeping because you can't have some courtesy and common sense for them.
@KagomeYasha0232 ай бұрын
Also there’s alot of medications that are dangerous and should be stopped after talking with your dr about 6 months to a year before planning to get pregnant
@loryndabenson21182 ай бұрын
@@KagomeYasha023 absolutely! 🙏🏾💓
@BoujeeGrapes2 ай бұрын
As a woman that has had 2 children, naturally....the one thing nobody told me about 1. An episiotomy 2. How long it takes to heal from the episiotomy. I had a big ass baby 9lbs 6 ounces and 22 inches long. Which contributed to my postpartum. My baby is now 15. I still remember it all.
@hyder-02 ай бұрын
Years ago I was in the psych ward in my hospital for addiction issues (small town they put everyone in one spot unfortunately) and I remember this 20 year old young mother that was up there. We got to talking about why we were in there and she told me that she was so excited to have the baby and it was very much wanted but as soon as she had it, every time she looked at it she felt she was going to kill him/her and she was afraid of herself so it was decided she would go into the psych ward. She had just some of the many issues that can follow after you have a baby. I hope shes doing ok. That was back 2010ish.
@angelamack53002 ай бұрын
That morning sickness is no joke. I had it with both my children and had to be on medication.
@lisandrac400116 күн бұрын
My husband went through postpartum depression, it was so bad that he told me later that sometimes he would go for a ride because he was having thoughts that we would be better off without him. It was a lot but he did start therapy and things got better when he was able to sleep more and we were fortunate enough to hire a nanny because we do not have family that is near us to help, and we own a business we cannot step away from.
@sidology1.02 ай бұрын
From what ive seen on comment sections in youtube and Instagram, a lot of the issues begin with the medical interventions. Inducing causes so much trauma and issues. Doctors are in a rush and push c sections and inductions
@BeccaBoo36662 ай бұрын
I got the worst PUPPS rash that any doctor had seen. The photos on the internet don’t even compare 10% of the rash I suffered from. Pregnancy was hard enough but the pupps was the worst pregnancy symptom I could have ever imagined…i wish I could post the photos on here I think people should know more about this condition and how horrible it can get. I felt so alone because the internet showed minimal cases compared to mine.
@auggiedoggiesmommy17342 ай бұрын
My sister went through 28 hours of labor and she had an emergency c-section. They told her the baby must be too big. She was 6lbs. The cord was actually way too short to come out naturally. She was exhausted and then her husband was useless …he just didn’t do ANYTHING for her so she ended up with a hernia from lifting her own baby.
@El_Ophelia2 ай бұрын
I dunno, gurl. The last time the medical community wanted to prescribe something to prevent morning sickness, nausea and vomiting, they gave us Thalidomide and look at how that turned out. ⛔ 👎
@sunnyandthechlo2 ай бұрын
They actually still use it, just not while you are or could become pregnant. My grandma was prescribed it but she was far past menopause.
@share.theworld2 ай бұрын
Girl the way I hear people saying I dreamed of my wedding day my whole life or wishing to have kids because they enjoy raising them to be good people I get confused because I thought I grew up to hate that I didn't realise these things weren't ever a dream of mine
@chennellaguilar36262 ай бұрын
Just had my last baby (baby number 5) 2 weeks ago, i had cholestasis and gestational diabetes. When i say i felt like a big back girl who rolled around in fiberglass I'm so serious!! One thing nobody talks about is knowing it's your last pregnancy and feeling sad that you won't feel the pressure of tiny feet pushing out like a scene from the Alien movies, or feeling baby move in a moment of random panic where you haven't felt baby move in a couple hours. Also, the miscarriage feeling is different for everyone, i miscarried at almost 11 weeks and it was so painful, for days i could barely walk and for months i suffered from severe anxiety and depression. I've had friends that only felt slight cramps and some that didn't even spot during a miscarriage but just know you're never alone...❤ I buried my baby with my grandparents, the people that made me feel safest. I pray so hard for parents who have felt a loss and parents who suffer from PPD, its all such a hard battle but just know someone knows the struggle and has so much love for you!!
@rncine2 ай бұрын
Unfortunately for my first child, I had HG and gestational diabetes but that wasn’t all the problem. I felt uncomfortable with the OB asking me questions about my sexual relationship with my husband, I was young so I thought it was normal questions. At 16 wks, I was getting short of breath and I told the OB, he said that’s normal your pregnant ( I was still vomiting) I had also asked him, how will I know when it’s time to go to the hospital, real snotty, he goes, oh you will know! My mother said, that’s enough, you’re going to another doctor. I was almost 20 wks and another doctor wouldn’t take me until I started crying. To make a long story short, this 2nd doctor saved my life. I had a problem with my heart and to this day I still take heart medicine. I had to have a Caesarian because while sleeping I was leaking a little at a time and I thought it was urine so I just went back to bed. When morning came, I told my mother and she started screaming to call the Gyn. I was leaking amniotic fluid and came down with a septic infection( bacteria in the blood) also pneumonia, was in the hospital 1 month. My daughter was also running a temp, didn’t get to see her for 3 wks she was also 2 months premature. I am telling this because some doctors can be jerks, if you feel uncomfortable with your doctor don’t wait like I did, get another one. This should be your greatest experience and joy, don’t let some burnt out physician ruin it, it can also mean life and death for you or your baby.
@Princessfrmalmighty2 ай бұрын
Watching taking notes because i dont have kids but because im not married thats why.
@anotherloser2858Ай бұрын
I wanted to mention that psychosis is something some women go through after birth (I think it's somehow related to PPD?). A friend of mine was so terrified of her newborn baby girl being raped that she held her for 3 days straight with no sleep and wouldn't let anyone take her baby for any reason. Not her mother, the baby's father or friends she trusted for decades. Even the doctors had to constantly argue with her to take the baby for checks and she wouldn't let them leave the room.
@melina.killls2 ай бұрын
I found your channel at 6k not even that long ago. Your channel is growinggggg. Very happy for you girl! I never miss a video. Also the lipstick looks pretty on you!. Much love ❤️ 🎉🎉
@BusiswaG2 ай бұрын
Aww thank you ❤️
@MoreSand122 ай бұрын
Here's one you didn't mention: my cervix is very short and won't close so i have to get a circlage (stitches to hold cervix shut. It didn't work well for me so i ended up hospitalized for 3 months with my pelvis elevated and constantly having my urine and fluid around baby monitored. I also had to take shots in my butt and progesterone pills. Unrelated, but I also had GD and had an emotional breakdown because they wouldn't let me add mustard to my sandwich 😭. Also my teeth felt loose, like if i were to bite down hard enough they'd slip out. i also saw my organs on the table when i got a C-section 😬. My whole body was violently shaking because it causes your body temperature to drop