What No One Tells You About Pregnancy

[@BusiswaG]

I don’t care if I’m repeating myself here, all of you mama bears are STRONG!! Hearing some of yall stories here (in the comment section) and yall STILL decide to have baby #2 or even #3 🤯

[@laketac]

Sometimes you get a lovely bundle of "Ooops!"...and that's ok!🥰 sidenote: My husband told me I was too angry with my 2nd to have a 3rd😂

[@missfortune8553]

@@laketac A baby should never be conceived from an oopsy daisy. That’s a whole sentient living being, it’s not something to toy with. But, what I think won’t change anything.

[@laketac]

@@missfortune8553 True, it wont🤗

[@Chitownhomestead]

That lady at 12:06... maybe she should get on birth control and not have anymore kids..7 is enough..especially w all her mental health issues 😢

[@deeskez]

What’s frightening to me is the stuff we women be going during pregnancy and men be cheating and abandoning women while they be going through these issues mentioned . Just realising this I’m in shock.

[@BusiswaG]

You and I both

[@iso-didact789]

@@BusiswaG This whole video is comprised of mostly total feminazi bullshit with a small amount of stuff that's only true if you trust the filthy eugenicists and give birth in their Ravensbruck clones. WAKE UP SHEEPLE!!!!!!!!!!😡😡😡😡

[@r_girls913]

Not all

[@SobrietyandSolace]

And I have to try to explain this shit to men on Tinder I just met because they think I’m being lazy or selfish because I don’t want to go through this shit when I have a fucking connective tissue disorder

[@Highpoweredwig]

@@SobrietyandSolaceu ain’t gotta explain nothing to men on tinder they are random nobodies

[@cantsay2205]

Pregnancy and childbirth are taken way too lightly. I don't regret having my daughter at all, but nobody warned me about what would happen during or after pregnancy. If, God willing, my daughter chooses to become a mother one day, I'm going to give her the advice nobody gave me.

[@lennanlemonss]

My family told me it’s going to be hard, but just that. They said I’m not ready and it takes a lot more than I think but didn’t go into any explanation. I’ve gone through hormonal change with my mood and it’s caused tense situations with my partner. Nobody told me this was a normal occurrence and I thought that my bad mood was my fault and I was the one to blame. My actions have consequences but being put down for these swift mood swings caused by hormones and the general uncomfortableness didn’t help me get better but caused me to feel worse. I had to start therapy and get help when I realized I had nobody to help me with my emotions. It’s hard but I couldn’t imagine my life without this precious baby boy growing inside me.

[@babyg7796]

Can you PLEASE share your advice/challenges!

[@cantsay2205]

@@babyg7796 one of my biggest words of advice is to use one of those shapewear things for pregnant women that supports your back and hips and belly, because your spine naturally curves in order to carry all that weight and it stays messed up. It's been almost 9 years since I gave birth and I still struggle with body image issues and chronic pain because of what pregnancy did to my posture.

[@cantsay2205]

@@babyg7796 also, never hesitate to ask people for help, especially after giving birth. There's a reason a lot of cultures have women rest (normally at their parents home) after giving birth, because you need to rest, you need to relax. And if you can have people help you take care of the baby so that you can do basic things like eating or taking a shower, it's amazing.

[@johnandpeshy]

My mum had me decades ago, and our pregnancy journeys were different. Mine was smooth, and symptomless; unlike my mum's. Let your daughter go through her own journey and offer support, and positivity.

[@autumntrenea2882]

Some women out here having babies without marriage or no support from the father and his family is CRAZY.

[@AdelTheForsaken]

Bat ish crazy!!!

[@JB-bl6qo]

Literally it behooves me

[@jongiovanna4242]

My coworker is 18 and about 3 months pregnant. Boyfriend is out of the picture! I cannot believe she’s going to have this baby if I’m honest, I feel so bad for her but thankfully she has a large family.

[@aspiring...]

It is beyond my understanding Couldn't and wouldn't be me... I successfully avoided it so far.

[@far6311]

Some women will never have children because they can't find a man who loves them. It's sad.

[@sheHerTheyThem]

As someone who has been pregnant 11 times and given birth 5 times, including to one who weighed 10 lbs 14 oz and had a HUGE head&came so quickly,his birth was fully natural...and sadly he died at the age of 24, no one tells you, that you can go through 9 months of bliss, or 9 months of hell, and there is no guarantees that as a mum, you will outlive your children. No matter what you do as a parent, how you raise them, the tools you provide, the privilege, the education... Life and this world, is NEVER in our control. Kindness and compassion matter. Take care y'all 🫶🦋

[@youngmaraschino]

🩵🌠

[@sheHerTheyThem]

@@Sunny-tc3ul my condolences to your aunt and the rest of your family. 🕯️🤍🕯️🕊️. My son had big dreams and we had dreams for him, now his 2 youngest siblings have lived longer than he has. And as a mum my life will NEVER be the same.. even after 7 years of therapy.

[@aspiring...]

This was a sweet and well thought, beautiful comment. I hope you are well.

[@sheHerTheyThem]

@@aspiring... I am, thank you. 7 years of therapy, I have done a lot of healing. So much so,I help others as a grief and loss counselor. I also try and explain to people that people shouldn't manufacture children in the hopes that they will "take care of you when you're older" that's NOT their job! We as parents need to stop burdening adult children with expectations, children don't "owe" parents anything, simply because we,as parents made the CHOICE, to give birth to them. We need to stop holding our children accountable for our choice to birth them,and instead,show up for them, because we chose to make the commitment to give birth to a human,that we don't know WHO ,they will chose to be! 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️

[@scarlettsilo6409]

Wow you might just be the strongest person I know of!!!

[@tabithamoore7145]

They should really teach this in schools

[@ajax4042]

They won't ever. They want women to be ignorant so they will keep making babies. Nobody woukd do this shit if we knew

[@Anenen67]

factsss

[@ariesaraya1822]

They don't want to. They want women as ignorant as possible to the reality, so that they keep having babies.

[@r_girls913]

School is to help u choose what u want to be in life not that

[@Kuneho_Archives]

@@r_girls913 its still important for the girls who want babies or will get

[@hermi1-kenobi455]

I don’t know how women did this for thousands of years before anaesthesia.

[@SprinkledFox]

Many of them didn't survive

[@awsomegirlpower476]

Positioning helped. Back then, they were standing or squatting and ofc had help from gravity. Now we partially lie down, but it can make things difficult for the mom but easier for the hospital staff. It's controversial, which is why some try to avoid the hospital as a Plan A for when it's time for the baby.

[@Enriquez2222]

They mostly had no choice

[@elvingearmasterirma7241]

There is a reason why in many older religions, there was a deity or multiple deities around pregnancy, childbirth, the mother and newborns. And why from the get go, contraceptives was sought after and invented. Physical and chemical.

[@kingsagenda]

By design

[@PiNkNeOnz]

My husband was deployed. I was pregnant with my only child. Thank god all I had to do was Shop, sleep and decorate the nursery. I had to deal with the mental health issues alone. I didn't go back to work until she went to kindergarten and only part time. I wanted a girl, I got a girl. My husband wanted 3. No thank you!

[@leila_de_hautjardin]

It's so easy for men to want a whole football team, they don't have to deal with all this crap. And most of them don't even participate with the extra load of chores.

[@michellechair]

​​@@leila_de_hautjardin exactly!!! then they have the audacity to whine when they aren't treated like saints for doing those things. like....wow, the bare minimum.

[@JoaquinAcostaPerez]

You're so lucky you didn't have to work 😢

[@leila_de_hautjardin]

@@michellechair I just read something terrible on Reddit. A woman who didn't want kids agreed to have one because her husband really wanted children. Now she is the only one taking care of that kid she did not even want. They are still married, he just does nothing around the house and doesn't take care of the kid. (Don't get me wrong: she's still wrong for marrying someone who was not childfree and even worse, compromising on that).

[@nnnnom]

​@@leila_de_hautjardin nah both are to blame. She is not deep in the wrong tho. There's no way they didn't discuss kids before marriage. It's most likely that he manipulated her.

[@despain8726]

To anyone out there considering having a child, understand it's a traumatic experience, and if you and your partner haven't been through anything traumatic together, both of you need grace. The post partum is real. Waking up in the middle of the night hearing the person you love saying "die die die" over and over again to your newborn, no one prepares you for this. Men- do not have babies with anyone who cannot deal with trauma. And women- same thing. Men need to take mental health seriously for themselves as well.

[@sincererr986]

Also, pregnant women have a higher chance of being cheated on or the man/dad leaving. Women will more likely be the majority or solo parent.

[@BusiswaG]

I need the stats

[@leeen7755]

fr those men re disgusting, made me want to just stay single for the rest of my lifeand get in vitro fertilization if I want a baby some day bc you can't trust anyone

[@Life_Love_and_a_Lens]

The amount of men I've seen cheat either during or right after the baby is born is too dang high, 😢

[@michellechair]

​@@Life_Love_and_a_Lens this!!! and expecting the mother of your CHILD to instantly bounce back and be looking like a bikini model is so common for men it's really shitty 🙄

[@BusiswaG]

@michellechair oooo that one gets me all the time!! “ her body has changed and I don’t find her attractive “ uhmmm, sir? 🙂!!

[@margaret3943]

Happy for all the couples but I could literally never no thank you

[@XDeathwingSilenceX]

Literally me 😂

[@ibejak]

Preach

[@Anenen67]

mostly the mom 😭

[@snippetsoflife1940]

Right

[@SprinkledFox]

Yup. That's why I got my tubes zapped.

[@GabrielaMendoza-bu2tk]

No one talks about it because no one seriously thinks these things are common. I tried having this conversation with my partner and was dismissed because he thinks that these complications are rare and that bodies are made to give birth therefore you'll be okay 99% of the time when thats just whimsical thinking men have about womans health

[@SprinkledFox]

Leave him.

[@cloudfan1010102]

Girl wtf. Please reassess your relationship with this man

[@antisocialsocialite5046]

The Greek men came up with the word "hysteria" from their word for uterus. Theyve always diminished our struggles

[@sunnyandthechlo]

Bodies are ‘made to do’ a lot of things, unfortunately complications, conditions, diseases etc are something that exists. I’m pretty sure eyeballs are made to see but mine suck so I need glasses/contacts. Some people are blind and theirs don’t work at all!

[@lagopusvulpuz1571]

Humans aren't like other animals, because we have larger skulls and can cause complications during birth. Before modern medicine my history teacher said that birth mortality was high and as common as drinking water.

[@Ren.lalinn]

The amount of men at my job just casual ask when im having kids is ridiculous and I think it’s so disrespectful. The amount of stuff that can and do go wrong is crazy. And doctors are STILL learning….. they have zero sensitivity and respect lol. And they really get offended when I’m like no I could die.

[@KagomeYasha023]

Nobody should be asking at all for many reasons.

[@Shay4YourMind81]

Wow… the nerve of them 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@updated_autopsy_report1]

@@gabrielle-d1b men ask that because it's a way to have control over women's bodies, etc since pregnancy makes women very vulnerable. Women ask that because misery needs company. When men get mad at childfree women, it's because they can't control those women's bodies anymore, hence why roe v vade was overturned.

[@Momo-po5tn]

They shouldnt be asking you that period. Tell them its inappropriate.

[@Ren.lalinn]

@@gabrielle-d1b you don’t have to believe my lived experience.

[@lillie_0894]

They should really teach us more about our own body in school

[@SprinkledFox]

The plan is to keep the population uneducated. It benefits the elite. They want us to just work, breed, and keep our heads down

[@fellicialubisi8461]

Exactly 💯 ❤

[@SprinkledFox]

@@lillie_0894 The plan is to keep the population uneducated. It benefits the elite. They want us to just work, reproduce, and keep our heads down

[@RipleysSanatorium]

@@lillie_0894 why not your own family?

[@SprinkledFox]

@RipleysSanatorium if it's not taught in school then how tf is family supposed to know???

[@Justbrowsing2023]

I worked with a woman who had a child in her 40s and she said she ended up losing several teeth because her body was getting robbed of nutrients. I had no idea that could happen.

[@kiwanczyk]

@@Justbrowsing2023 my mom had that. Had me at 42. Lost teeth and all her hair.

[@no.6377]

I found out about pregnant people's bones becoming terribly fragile if they have multiple births too close together because of calcium being leeched from their bones by their child each time. That's from a KZbin comment though. But it sent me on a knowledge spiral. And it makes sense --your body's prioritizing the baby over you at every turn because that's biology. And it's terrifying 😭😭

[@KagomeYasha023]

@@no.6377that’s why some people call them parasites in utero

[@princessmiaxo]

I've heard of people breaking bones and losing teeth, and after the baby is out? Getting life shattering depression EVERY. SINGLE. TIME. YOU. BREASTFEED. It doesn't happen to everyone but holy shit does that scare me. But I still want to have children. I've seen many of the horrid stories and I still want to go through it to bring a new life into this world.

[@venusvicious4446]

Literally me listening to the laundry list of reasons why I shouldn’t wanna have a baby buuuut… I still wanna have a baby lol. 😭❤️

[@princessmiaxo]

@@venusvicious4446 Exactly!! I hope you get to be a mother soon/when the time is right❤

[@venusvicious4446]

@@princessmiaxoBlessings beautiful, I am wishing the very same for you 🫶🏾

[@pamwalker6284]

I had the waves of depression during breastfeeding. It wasn’t constant, but “waves” is a good descriptor. Once I figured out, on my own, that it was caused by hormone release, I was fine and dealt with it. SO worth it! Don’t be afraid! You can do it!

[@hannahgrapes1554]

It happened to me, and I had to stop. I understood it was all I'm my head but it was too much. I had a much more pleasant time after I quit. So like.... if it happens to you, if you want to stop, it's okay, people tried to pressure me to keep going but it was too much.

[@Ltlmscrl]

It’s so important to share this information. A lot of women (and even more men) are uninformed about all the things that happen to the body. Every pregnancy is a unique experience and we need to be sensitive to that fact when interacting with pregnant women.

[@akemi3517]

I had an emergency c-section. I wanted a vaginal birth, but she got stuck, and I had pre-eclampsia and was getting worrisome. The second I signed the paper, they whisked me away to the operating room. I was in shock, and when I saw my partner, I asked why everyone had masks on and I didn't have a mask. He said, "we're all wearing it to protect you. you're having surgery." He tried to make me laugh but because you are paralyzed from the chest down from the numbing for the surgery, I couldnt laugh and that was the weirdest feeling I ever had, wanting to laugh but not being able to. He told me weeks later that the surgeons doing the procedure were talking to each other, and he heard, "Who tf put this catheter in?! This is awful" The whole time I had the catheter in I kept telling the nurse it was painful and didn't feel right, there was blood in the urine but they kept dismissing me saying "its not supposed to be comfortable." I also had complications with the epidural. They said it was because my scoliosis made it hard to put it in properly. They had to redo it 3 times, and It was the most painful experience I've ever been through. Once it was in and started working, it was great, but then I had to stay for 4 days for monitoring because they were worried since I was leaking fluid out of the spot they had the epidural. Overall, it was a very traumatic experience, and I want another child, but I'm honestly terrified.

[@BusiswaG]

Oh my goodness 😮😞. First, how are you and the baby doing today? That sounds like an awful experience omg. Also, epidural took three attempts? Definitely sounds painful and careless on their end

[@akemi3517]

@BusiswaG We are good today, but I could barely walk for the first 2 weeks after leaving the hospital because of the pain from the surgery. If I didn't have help, I dont know what I would've done. It took me about 8 weeks to heal . My nurse even said "Its such a crazy thing to think that women have a major surgery and are only given over the counter medication like tylenol, any other procedure you'd receive morphine." Just shows how tough women can be.

[@akemi3517]

@BusiswaG They said they had troubles getting the epidural in because my spin wasn't straight and it took 3 attempts, but each time was excruciating and I was already in labour pains. They couldn't understand why it wasn't working and I wasn't able to get the words out to explain what I was feeling.

[@miracle-pi5ws]

Just adopt

[@meilinmart8306]

@@akemi3517 ITS like u are telling my storry the same thing happend to me the cathether or whatever is called as well the epidural i hate it every minute

[@KGR827]

Thank God I'm childfree, because honestly, I don't think I could handle it! Kudos to all moms, you're truly strong!

[@Kiwi-Vogel]

The thought of having kids scares me😅

[@far6311]

Because you're not good enough to have kids? Like you think you'd suck at it? 😢

[@amberjasmine2347]

@@far6311 No, it’s because pregnancy reeks havoc on the body. And no one knows how it’ll be for them.

[@debbiealcimasrules9418]

​@@far6311people should not have children if they're not ready for them.

[@eurika9111]

​@@debbiealcimasrules9418people should not have children just for the sake of having it.

[@TigoooBitties]

Saaaaame, it's scary 😅

[@athenachristinemusic]

I never want kids but I’m still gonna watch 😂

[@BusiswaG]

😂😂😂

[@Giasemi55]

Right, I don’t mind the extra confirmation

[@athenachristinemusic]

@@Giasemi55 exactly. I feel bad for these mothers but I will never

[@Chitownhomestead]

Im 51and believe u me... the freedom is unmatched of not having kids

[@Chitownhomestead]

​@@athenachristinemusicI don't feel bad cause most birth control is free...

[@ariesaraya1822]

Ppl blaming the fact that she's having a girl on all the worst symptoms of pregnancy tells you how deep misogny runs. Its always a girl's fault even if they are not born yet.

[@Devian016]

Lol what? Maybe look up how the hormones and child development of her body having to use that to create a fetus correlates to her condition.

[@senselessplace]

I have seen so many pregnant people. I don't think I have ever seen this 'glow' you speak of. Just tired, and frustration. ... THIS is what we need in health class. The truth.

[@no.6377]

To be honest, same. Most of the women I know who've gotten pregnant look exhausted while they're pregnant. But I don't wanna be rude😅 The best pregnancy 'look' I've seen is when they just look...the same. The 'pregnancy glow' feels like a scam 😂😂

[@myrandomvidsoy]

I’m 9 months pregnant and look and feel great. Not everyone has a miserable pregnancy. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@BloodSweatandFears]

@@myrandomvidsoySame, also had a very good uncomplicated birth. It’s the scary ones you hear the most about, but that’s not how it’s supposed to be!

[@sres4]

@@myrandomvidsoyThats great but unfortunately thats not the reality for every woman

[@myrandomvidsoy]

@@sres4 Obviously but the internet is full of scaremongering new moms. They need to know it’s not just negativity.

[@everydaywinning]

I am currently pregnant (38 weeks 6 days) and this is the worst thing that I have ever done to my body and mental health. I have not had any morning sicknes but everything hurts and no one told me it will be this way. The first 8 weeks was fine but the rest of the pregnancy was a total nightmare with one horrid symptom after another. Heartburn, acid reflux, sciatica, aching muscles and always tired. I feel mentally drained because my body doesn't feel like my own and I cannot do much for myself. I have to ask for help all the time which means nothing gets done when I need it done...it's draining me. I just want this baby out so I can go back to some kind of normal me.

[@sadecoco1502]

36 weeks pregnant here. I understand EXACTLY what you’re going through 😢😢😢. I am going through the most with my pregnancy too. Exhausted everyday no matter how many hours I sleep. I just don’t recognise myself in this body. Still can’t believe I am pregnant. My husband and I planned the pregnancy but I am overwhelmed already.

[@baronessboomer3865]

💜 Mother of 3 boys *youngest born in 1990. Had a miscarriage very young, before my first. I experienced severe sickness for the first 6 months on all 3. I also dealt with post partum depression with the 2nd & 3rd. I had RH negative blood type, & needed a vital medicine to prevent possibly deadly outcomes to me &/ormy babies. Doctors screen for that, so it's vital to get tested ASAP. Just one big piece of random advice I wish someone would have warned me about. I had my tubes tied right after my 3rd child, while still in the hospital. DON'T DO THAT! 😱 It's the most painful recovery imaginable, as your uterus contracts for weeks/even months to get back to normal after we give birth. Trust me & wait on that procedure. It was totally excruciating & debilitating, especially with a newborn to take care of! God Bless all the mothers, especially the new ones. You've fulfilled a miracle & I salute you! 💜💜💜

[@BusiswaG]

Thank you so much for sharing 💜 I never thought of the whole, getting tubes tied right after, as being a negative but it makes sense.

[@baronessboomer3865]

@@BusiswaG I thought I was very smart, getting everything done & over, but oh my Lord, it was so dreadfully painful. There was no social media back then, & getting any kind of real life advice or information was nearly impossible. I love these informative videos that you share with us. I've watched them all, and I really appreciate the depth of your research, including sharing the feedback of your own subscribers. 💜

[@jahkingwhite6533]

Yo, when i was younger, I saw a video of a woman breastfeeding, and she was crying so bad she had to bite something just to get through it. that's when I knew even after birth pregnancy still affects women, I'll never forget that video.

[@eqrahabibi]

Happy to be married and childfree 🎉

[@sunnyandthechlo]

Same! I think it’s the best decision we could’ve made.

[@jenmar9428]

Me, too. 😂🎉

[@babyg7796]

How did you 2 go about this convo? How’d you find a partner that agreed to this?! This sounds lovely! 😊

[@sunnyandthechlo]

@@babyg7796 Before we got married me and my husband decided we'd probably want 1 or 2 kids. But we decided we would not have them until we were financially, mentally and physically stable. As time went on, we realized financial security was getting more and more difficult, plus I have chronic pain issues. We went back and re-evaluated the conversation. We both decided we were very happy the way we were even if we didn't have much money. And changing everything by having a baby didn't seem like the right choice, besides pregnancy would be very difficult on me physically. Communication is super important and re-evaluating things as your life changes is just as important!

[@2CanadianEh]

I had 7 miscarriages Husband and I gave up and are childfree At first I STRUGGLED but now I’m really happy we don’t have kids Leave my body ALONE

[@keziahantoine1621]

Noticing my mother have postpartum depression for more than a year was the saddest thing i have ever witnessed in my life every one around her thought she was going crazy and all she wanted was help this type of thing runs in our family and i hope every one gets educated on the after effects of birth .

[@BusiswaG]

If you overthink or have anxiety please do not watch the video!! Respectfully, this isn’t to bring you fear. As mentioned in the video, if there’s anything I DID NOT mention in the video and you have experienced, please leave it in the comment section below. And of course if you want to share your story, feel free ❤️ Another point I didn’t make was, there’s a chance that you could 💀.

[@Afrocentric_Exotical_24]

Please also do a video highlighting pmdd and menstrual cycles as well as endometriosis and dysmenorrhea. It's important for a young woman and girls and women and men and young boys to know about these conditions

[@Anenen67]

lol hiiiiiiiii

[@palomathereptilian]

​@@Afrocentric_Exotical_24 I second this, I have endometriosis and I wish I was able to caught it earlier My quality of life went downhill as I got older (and I'm only 27), I need to take plenty of meds to barely function properly... And this when I'm not having periods, I can get bedridden during periods 😔 I don't really care about the reproductive aspect of it at all, I never wanted kids and I have severe tokophobia... But I know plenty of women who want children and endo can make this extremely hard or even impossible, so I deeply wish we could have better treatment options and earlier diagnosis to avoid worse outcomes (chronic pain, significant impact on quality of life, infertility etc)

[@j.elixir6089]

lol too late and I have liver issues haha

[@Afrocentric_Exotical_24]

@@palomathereptilian I'm so sorry to hear that, yes I'm glad that there is more awareness about it. Same here, glad you're doing better now. I encourage people to donate to endometriosis research foundation so that they can do more research and bring more awareness to it. I also recommend following: @getsomedays

[@kewayne888]

postpartum is a well kept secret until u loosing your damn mind, an only then is the question asked.... "ARE YOU GOING THROUGH POSTPARTUM"

[@janelle458]

Omg for real!!!!!! Post partum for me was absolutely hell

[@amatt-x4u]

I am one and done! Pregnancy was so draining and traumatic for me. It was then was overshadowed by me discovering my child's father was cheating. Then I had to give birth with him in the room knowing how much I disliked him... which made the process harder and so long, that I ended up needing help with forceps. You cannot give birth easily in a toxic environment

[@babyg7796]

You weren’t allowed to not have him in the operating room?

[@SprinkledFox]

The mortality rate of pregnant people in the United States should become common knowledge

[@mrshonourable]

Pregnant women*

[@SprinkledFox]

@@mrshonourable women are people, no? 🥰

[@mrshonourable]

@@SprinkledFox only women give birth not all people 💋

[@SprinkledFox]

@@mrshonourable Unlike you, my heart holds no hatred towards trans and intersex people.

[@sibria]

@@SprinkledFoxwhere’s the hatred? usually it is women who are pregnant.

[@leeen7755]

the fact that preeclampsia symptoms are normalized as "just normal pregnancy things" is scary, make me think how how underestimated are women's health problems, how little research there is (just like the menstruation) and how we are always told that being in a scrumptious pain is completely normal, "just womanhood, don't be dramatic" yk

[@antisocialsocialite5046]

For real. No wonder women seem to have a much higher pain tolerance. Cause we're always gaslit and dismissed and have to suffer alone in silence and just deal with it

[@sunnyandthechlo]

I was wondering just how freaking bad a ‘scrumptious pain’ must be, then realized you probably meant ‘excruciating.’ 😅

[@janelle458]

I remember having gained significant weight and having swelling in my lower legs and my obgyn didn’t seem concerned at all even though I am a nurse and knew something was off. And then lo and behold I ended up having severe complications because they didn’t listen to their patient. The ignorance is unreal.

[@kimberlyskye2024]

Pregnancy is not very enjoyable it’s painful physically a lot of people don’t talk about that. People also saying it’s such a beautiful experience makes it hard for people who struggle through it

[@BdazzldNails]

💜💜 special needs mama here - I read every book I could or I don’t think I’d have known any of this information. There’s so much education that should come before pregnancy- the US still has one of the highest infant/mother death rates for a developed country. I had a planned c-section for my own health reasons, ended up with a baby with a genetic anomaly with feeding issues health issues and later an intolerance to my milk that I’d driven myself crazy trying to pump and save and freeze for him. The focus on breast is best leaves its own scars in mamas who for whatever reason may not be able to feed their babies that way but are made to feel like we’re failures when we can’t 😮‍💨

[@loryndabenson2118]

I was reading this book called "breasts" I forget the author's name. Anyway she was talking about breast cancer and the carcinogens In everyday products and how the build up of heavy metals and toxins stored in our fat cells can come out in our breast milk with our first child if we don't do a detox prior. I wonder if that has anything to do with babies having allergies or intolerance to their mothers breast milk? I'm glad you bought that up cuz I'd like to look more into it.

[@janelle458]

I breastfed until I developed severe food poisoning and had to go to the ER where the medications they gave me dried up my milk supply and I was never able to get it back.

[@talkingtochapri]

I never understood the point of having kids. We live in a messed up dangerous society, if you're broke or middle class, you're kid is most likely going to become a 9-5 slave or fast food worker while blaming you for giving them a struggle life. I don't know why any woman would want that. Most kids don't blame their fathers as much as they blame their mothers for giving them a struggle life. I am never going to push a watermelon size baby out just to give them a struggle miserable life 🤷🏻‍♀️ if i was a millionaire or billionaire, i would've thought about having kids, each to their own.

[@nenelavv26]

It’s 2024 almost a whole new year ppl better come up w or not rely on just one income , it’s so much money you can make in the digital world.

[@Chitownhomestead]

Facts on facts!!!

[@KagomeYasha023]

Why do so many men cheat on and leave their pregnant partners or cheat or leave them right after birth?

[@Highpoweredwig]

They get jealous of the attention the mother and baby is having and the father gets jealous of the baby because the baby is in the way of sexy time with mama. The process of reproduction sounds degrading af

[@princessinmittens4783]

One thing I did not expect was for my teeth to fall out, after 15 years I still experience extreme back and nerve pain caused by the epidural and my hair falling out in clumps at my edges. I still have numbness in my c section scar. It's such a deep and dark scar with a bit of a fat flap where it was sewn up.

[@jenniferanoliefo905]

Omg 😲 hope your doing better now 🥺

[@vanlifebae]

Oh god you are scaring me 😮 I'm only 30 weeks and so far my pregnancy has been wonderful but these birth stories are making me worry now lol......

[@princessinmittens4783]

@@vanlifebae oh no no sweetie. Don't worry. I pray I does not happen to you, just know no matter the outcome. It's always worth the pain of motherhood. You and your baby will be just fine. You will be okay and baby will be bright and beautiful and healthy.

[@princessinmittens4783]

@@jenniferanoliefo905 yes thank you. Some days I can't believe this actually happened. It's strange how we forget the pain we were once in when we help create joy in our lives. If that's is what we choose.

[@jenniferanoliefo905]

@@princessinmittens4783 sooo happy and grateful, your doing better now 😊😁

[@Bkid123321]

Yeah, I never wanted kids to begin with but if I ever did I would have to adopt. I have extreme anxiety and I couldn't do it. I am so proud of the people who do and those who choose to adopt though. Also, thank you so much for making this video and making these people feel seen❤

[@Cassie-xx5fb]

I'm also probably in the same boat. With a bad history of anxiety and depression, I'm really scared of being pregnant. Also, with health issues, I don't think I'd be able to take care of a newborn.

[@BronxRisen]

I have never wanted kids… And to those of them who have mistakenly had them, they’ll never admit their quarrel

[@cloudfan1010102]

Im saying like!!!! You’ll never catch me lacking! I will never have kids. And of course people will say “My baby wasnt planned but i love them!” Well of course you do! Bc you cant return the child or change your mind at this point. Baby’s here to stay! 🥴

[@BusiswaG]

You’d be surprised how many women have come forward and actually said they regret it. I even made a video about it.

[@BloodSweatandFears]

I’ll admit my first was an accident, I’m pregnant with my second, this one was planned. Best accident ever I must say.

[@abba9265]

Even worse, every unwanted child knows they’re unwanted. At least in my experience

[@ActonBell1848]

@@abba9265 Yeah I agree a child knows they are unwanted very early on

[@gracehayden8397]

WAKE UP GUYS THE QUEEN DROPPED ANOTHER VIDEO

[@BusiswaG]

lol 😂

[@ireadbooksandhaveopinions]

Girl I'm loving your channel 💘💘 The array of subjects and your commentary????? Amazing.

[@BusiswaG]

Thank you ❤️

[@leahmerriam]

Class is in session!! 👩🏽‍🏫 pay attention 👩🏻‍💻

[@BusiswaG]

❤️

[@stephaniepantalonie]

It's anti woman that the insanity pleas does not apply to postpartum mental health crises that result in accidental death.

[@elvingearmasterirma7241]

Its anti women that its not taken seriously from the get go and research on it is near non existent tbh

[@RipleysSanatorium]

@@stephaniepantalonie "accidental" lol

[@xxbeccabrutalityxx7873]

​​@@elvingearmasterirma7241 for real. I am DX'd with Bipolar 1, and have experienced both mania psychosis and psychotic depression before getting pregnant. My doctor knows this, and now I'm 6 months pregnant, she never mentioned to me that PP-psychosis exists. Like howww would that just slip her mind while we were creating my plan for pregnancy, birth, and post partum?? I'm at a high risk of it and the only thing she ever mentioned about mental health is prenatal anxiety. Thankfully, I found out post partum psychosis exists, and have a plan to go back on antipsychotics the day my son is born. But it's so scary to know that such a huge risk isn't even mentioned. Thankfully, my fiancé is aware of my mental health DX, and we've also made our home plan to make sure our baby won't be at risk. But what if I hadn't heard of pp psychosis? What if I became psychotic after birth, and didn't even know to look for the warning signs?? What if my support system didn't know it could happen, and my baby got hurt?! It's crazy to neglect such a major danger. Edit* sorry this is so long lol but it just amazes me

[@asiah2021]

I love that you’re addressing these issues, because many of us are not given this information until we actually experience it ourselves. But also I want to note that pregnancy, birth, and postpartum is not always traumatic. It can be positive, with the grace of God and being knowledgeable about what you’re going through as a women. I experience a difficult pregnancy, birth, and horrible postpartum experience (and add covid stipulations to it) with my first, but I prepared myself so much better with my second. And, it was a was overall a positive experience, a complete 180 from my first. And praying my 3rd is even better. I owe that to the work I did and the guidance from God. Most importantly we have to be our own advocates and though there are hardships in pregnancy there are ways to better your experience through support and many other things. I hope this can encourage others who still want children, but are hesitant.

[@jamaicanblackqueen]

OMG! on my third pregnancy at 6 months i found out i had severe Preclampsia. It was the scariest thing ever ive ever experienced. I stayed in the hospital for a week and my baby was born at 29 weeks and was in the NICU for 55 days. To god be the glory we got through it.

[@sonderyt]

I have 2 kids and never had any complications or negative symptoms during or after pregnancy. My mood was the best it was in my entire life and I was so active and glowing. I healed so well I was back to running after 1 week both times. TURNS out, I have an underlying health condition that makes pregnancy the most heavenly experience on earth for me, and that isn’t a normal thing.

[@sunnyandthechlo]

Wow, that’s insane!

[@michellechair]

what health condition do you have if you don't mind answering? im curious what would cause that and why we've been lied to for so long that this is supposedly and 'ideal' experience for pregnancy

[@kittycodding4183]

I have an autoimmune disorder. During my pregnancy, all of my symptoms disappeared. I only had morning sickness for a couple hours at the very beginning. I had a very smooth and relaxing pregnancy except a little itching from acid build up in my liver. We induced early just to be sure it didn't cause complications. I miss the little break I had from my disorder.

[@Asher_The_demon]

My mom, she was kidnapped and r*ped at 16, yet she never terminated her pregnancy, gave birth through C section and never felt Resentful to me, Im so happy for her loving me, and not having to go through more than she already had been, I hope all mothers could have a good pregnancy and birth but sadly that wont happen:(

[@LollyMadikiza-xw4ok]

@asher...💔💔💔

[@edoboleyn]

Asher, your mother sounds like a warrior. I am so sorry she had to endure so much. That is incredible strength. She truly loved and loves you, and I’m sure it means everything to her that you see her courage and return her love. ♥️ Take care, both of you!

[@saddiesad5877]

Not me remembering Matt from Matt and Abby telling his wife if she felt like she cheated birth right after she was back to her room after her c-section 🤮

[@aurora_skye]

Disgusting of him. Just awful behaviour.

[@TameiaHiggins]

I had a c section but was put to sleep because I didn't have an epidural. I fell asleep mid contraction and woke up to my child by my bedside. I felt like I missed out on the experience of seeing him "fresh out the oven" and also family members said I had it easy, which led to the ppd I had. Did I mention I also had gestational diabetes 😭😭😭😭😭😭 this video described my entire pregnancy but I love my son so much

[@poltergeistghost]

I will never understand why anyone chooses to give birth. If I just have to have a kid one day I’ll just adopt. Pregnancy is insane and horrible and yet men act like it’s nothing it’s so enraging!

[@missyoung7534]

But if nobody gives birth the earth will be without humans including yourself

[@Jordè1222]

I had three home births and they were all lovely. I also didnt have baby blues and always "bounced back" after the babies... However, my teeth took a MAJOR hit. I lost all of my back molars from post partum malnutrition. Please do more than take vitamins while pregnant. I was a vegan for my first pregnancy and got extremely depleted from my pregnancies. I have been restoring my levles with codliver oil, green powder, lots of eggs/ milk and lots of healthy fats. There is a lot you can do to have a healthy pregnancy, dont be scared but do take care of yourself and study up. Spiritual midwifery is a must read as well as Nourishing Traditions when considering becoming pregnant. Stay safe ladies ❤

[@lexivin34]

That's interesting you explain spiritual midwifery along with nourishing traditions which will have great benefits for a wholesome experience for many mothers

[@RipleysSanatorium]

@Jordè1222 I'm surprised to see a positive comment. Not many on here.

[@elvingearmasterirma7241]

My mum's hips were too narrow to do the usual birth method. So she _had_ to get a c-section for me. Then my brother. She never talked about the issues specifically during her pregnancy, but after my brother was born and she was healthy enough for it, she got her tubes tied. She never wanted to experience it ever again. And I do not blame her.

[@Dambrielle95]

I literally found out that I was pregnant this morning. My husband and I are in the shock phase.

[@rosadele9715]

Congratulations , may the lord help you through your pregnancy ❤

[@BusiswaG]

Aww congratulations 🎈

[@missfortune8553]

Idk if I should congratulate you or give you my condolences. Best of luck either way.

[@updated_autopsy_report1]

I agree with the comment above. I don't know what to say except good luck and I wish you a smooth journey.

[@zooweellama]

I’m gonna take an alternative path instead of congratulating. If you have ANY doubt about if you would be able to take care of the child all by yourself (cuz anything can happen to your husband) GET AN AB**TION. He can pass away, get into a severe accident etc (so not just leave) and the child rearing will be all on you. If you wouldn’t be able to handle that, I wouldn’t recommend going through with the pregnancy. Don’t let him try to convince you otherwise. Learn from other women’s mistakes and make the best decision FOR YOU.

[@babyg7796]

I had an inviable pregnancy (abortion) and being pregnant for only 5 weeks was enough to drive me insane. My partner also checked out so it was very lonely. I don’t see how women continue through pregnancy knowing they’re going to be single-moms/alone. Just having to manage the fatigue & sickness alone was enough to send me into a mild depression…I hate how pregnancy is ALWAYS celebrated like it’s easy, but women who choose to exercise their rights because they physically cannot handle it are shamed…Praying for these ladies 🙏🏾

[@Chitownhomestead]

Sorry 4 ur loss... but I feel u 100% why do that journey solo...

[@ashleyhanna405]

That poor mama who has gone through that not once but twice my heart goes out of her because I feel her pain. I had it with my daughter the first pregnancy and I was so sick that they didn’t think I was gonna be able to maintain the pregnancy because I was losing so much weight Did not end until I was eight months alone, but somehow God gave me a 8 lbs. 3 oz. baby how she got that big I have no clue because I sure didn’t eat 3 ounces worth of food and not whole months but she was healthy when I got pregnant again with her sister I was scared to death. It was gonna happen again, but thank the Lord it did not butjust want to tell that mama stay strong you got this mommy. Ain’t nobody ever gonna be stronger than a mama and us mamas who go through this to bring our beautiful babies to this world or just strongest

[@gwlad1575]

I never wanted to be the "princess" type while pregnant and even hated to think people will think I'm made of coton . Unfortunately, I had "morning" (all day ) sickness during my entire pregnancy, had pregnancy diabete (had to check my blood 6 to 8 times a day) and was bedridden from month 2 until the end of my pregnancy while my husband was working 4 hours away. My son was born small and lost weight at the hospital so we had to stay there. We didn't know at the time but I'm Bipolar type 2, my post partum made me full manic , I wouldn't sleep, eat or do anything than focus on my son. I'm extremely happy to have him but not again. I'll only have one child.

[@KagomeYasha023]

Did they also tell you bipolar can be passed on to your children and so on ? My father had it and my mom didn’t find out til after our births and lo and behold me and my brother both have it. My dad has type I and we have type II. Not always though but I just thought to mention it when I read your comment. It made me afraid to have kids, my brother has kids and I can see signs already that one of his kids might have it as well.

[@gwlad1575]

@KagomeYasha023 There is indeed a risk , but they can not really estimate for sure. We know that if one parent has Bipolar it increases the risk of 25% (might need to check the precise %) My father has Bipokar 1. I have Bipolar 2 , his only other child, my younger brother, doesn't have Bipolar. I had more risk, but my life events made me Bipolar. My son might be the same, and I'm guessing the risk is therefore more important. I know the importance of mental health and that he should see professionals starting at a young age. Not necessarily because he is going to have Bipolar for sure, but because his mom has it and he has a risk of developing a mental illness, therefore he should be emotionally intelligent, and therapy, even when everything seems great, is a great way to do so.

[@gwlad1575]

@KagomeYasha023 I would also add on the fact that you already see signs in your nieces/ nephews . Bipolar in children can exist, yes, BUT it is quite rare (knowing that contrary to beliefs bipolar only affects 1% of adults so imagine children), and the symptoms tend to be different from bipolar seen with adults. I know how we can over analyse because we have a fear of what we have. But if you suspect something, don't over analyse it and take time to figure out what is going on calmly

[@camvin575]

I dont think people realise that when somebody has a C-section, they pull a lot of organs out and place them to the side to get to the womb....to me that is not the easy way out. Your muscles are cut, so you have to wait until the mend back together naturally.....this is somebody who has been pregnant a few times but never had the chance to bring life into this world. Each way of birthing should be respected, in my opinion. I think it's more the old school way of thinking. "She had a C-section, so she had it easy." Where nowadays i think we have learnt more.

[@BornAgainFarmGirl]

When giving birth and the doctor or nurse says don’t push they should say if you give in to the urge you will tear your vagina in all sorts of ways 😮. I tore in three directions ❤.

[@antisocialsocialite5046]

Wait I thought you were supposed to push? Do you mean only push when they tell you to?

[@BornAgainFarmGirl]

@@antisocialsocialite5046 when the baby needs to be adjusted slightly they need to the mother to not push so they can stretch the skin manually.

[@far6311]

​@@antisocialsocialite5046your body naturally starts pushing. I couldn't stop it

[@far6311]

​@@antisocialsocialite5046 your body naturally starts pushing. I couldn't stop it.

[@toritame]

Me and my husband have two children and it’s a lot, at the moment, because one is a toddler and the other is newborn. I don’t really want to mention much of what’s happening in my life at the moment, but I trust that God will guide us and help us through this season of our lives. 🙏🏾

[@lanaaugustine8117]

Good luck momma, you got this 💕💕💕💕

[@toritame]

@@lanaaugustine8117 ❤️ thank you

[@maki9396]

I hope people trying to get pregnant see this. It wint change theur minds, as it wouldn't hsve changed mine, but at least they'd know more.

[@s.tiaira9081]

2:26 I had a miscarriage but when I was pregnant for two months I had this it was awful. I had NO ENERGY! I feel asleep standing up and almost while driving.

[@Long_May_They_Raine]

I nearly DIED from a hyperemesis syndrome- wouldn’t wish that on my worst enemy

[@LollyMadikiza-xw4ok]

@long...😳😳(South Africa)

[@IllyrianPrinces00]

Mom of 3. Pregnancy and breastfeeding is extremely hard on the body. 1st preg. Excessive bleeding since 5 weeks preg. From the very start. Gestational diabetes. And at 32 weeks i went into pre term labor. 30 weeks my placenta started to abrupt from and my body, LUCKY FOR ME, realized what was happening and sent me to pre term labor. We both survived with 30 days of NICU. it was hellish. 1 month after this happened to me, my friends placenta abrupted all at once and she almost lost her life and her baby. Her baby was a micro preemie in one of the best hospitals in the USA and he is doing well. Extremely traumatized. Second preg. Healthy, thank god, but had weekly apts due to first preg conllications. Third preg: healthy and at 28 weeks they found something on the brain of my baby. We almost lost our minds. Tests after tests. Prayers. Crying. Depressed. Extremely invasive testing. Thank God baby was healthy and I am okay. I've had 1 miscarriage and have friends with infertility, stillbirths. Debilitating vomiting. Hospitalization due to dehydration. Friend with severe genetic issues with 7 miscarriages and 3 stillbirths. All of these things my friends and I have gone through has left scars on us. Pregnancy is not a joke. Having a support system and a partner through it is crucial. After baby is born, another story. Baby needs a solid family unit PERIOD.

[@user-jb8jh2iw8f]

completely unrelated to the video content but ! the sleeves on your shirt look lovely.

[@Randolocal]

There is a lot of things that most people do not talk about when it comes to things that happen to woman only the basics are mentioned and I do agree that it is because sadly the female body is not very researched and discovered I’ve also heard that if a woman was to push to hard while on the toilet your uterus or intestine could come out and you just have to shove it back up there I really found this shocking. Proud of you pregnant moms and widows with kids you’re amazing and appreciated! 😘

[@ayeteebby23]

GIRL! I just gasped so loudly on the train just now! Noooo 😭🤯😱😳

[@sunnyandthechlo]

It’s true they can come out but don’t just shove it back up there! There are surgeries that can fix that!

[@michellechair]

vaginal prolapse can occur for a lot of reasons, but usually it's something that happens later in life after decades of straining on the toilet. it can happen to young women too ofc but that's typically due to another health problem or genetic predisposition

[@dynogamergurl]

One thing I heard is, that if calcium is lacking in the mother’s body that the baby will take it all. Or rather the baby will cause your teeth to fall out because of the lack of calcium 🥶

[@BusiswaG]

Yep. That’s what I mentioned in the video. It’s scary.

[@drlimkitty5670]

Wow, you hit the nail on the head with the portion of the C-section.. you touched on so many points that I experienced during my second pregnancy that I didn’t share when I commented on your community post, but thank you for touching on so many valid points and being a voice for us

[@BusiswaG]

Yea the c-section part was needed. It just puzzles me how many people see it as an “easy procedure” 🤦‍♀️

[@marianntallent8452]

I had hypermesis. It was the worst experience ever. I lived 9 month on boost shakes and a few bite of food at a time if I could handle it, only once a week. I think more women should know that it does happen. I was so weak. My doctor just told me "oh the baby will be fine, he will suck all the nutrients he needs from you. We just have to worry about you suffering malnutrition". That was scary to hear. Edit to add in here, i had to have a C-section and that was also just as traumatic. Something not talked about is the fact that it can go wrong. I felt them cut me open. It was horrible and they had to stop and try to knock me out. And even then i just kept waking up. A C-section isnt always easy. After all of that i lost my son at 3 weeks dye to SIDS. And that is the worst thing for any mama to ever have to go through. It should be more normal to talk about how easy it is for it all to go wrong.

[@missyoung7534]

I cried reading ur comment

[@everydaywinning]

I have so much respect for a anyone who has multiple children....that could never be me. I am never abusing my body like that ever again...not in this lifetime

[@Princess_224]

This makes me not want to have kids anymore. I feel like it’s not worth the risk

[@bananabagel2]

It’s such a rewarding thing tho 🫶🏽

[@Princess_224]

@@bananabagel2 ik but the risks!!

[@Chitownhomestead]

And look at how crazy the world is?!? Good 4 u❤..my life is fine without kids🎉🎉🎉freedom is unmatched

[@bananabagel2]

@@Chitownhomestead freedom unmatched I definitely can’t argue with that 😂😂

[@hellasp1cy]

First pregnancy at 19, no issues whatsoever, natural birth. Second pregnancy at 29, had a HG pregnancy. Thought I would die (and tbh some days I just wanted to die) a few times because of the continuous throwing up, even when there is nothing to throw up anymore your body still tries to. Slept in the bathroom most of the time to be close to the toilet and the tiles had a cooling effect. Had to go to the hospital a few times. Now 2 years after birth I still don’t feel like myself. In the first postpartum year my uterus dropped, had to get physical therapy for that. Had a natural birth with the second one also, and my back hurts every day since august 5th 2022. 2 girls btw and two completely different pregnancies. Love them girls to the ends of the earth but NEVER EVER EVER AGAIN!!

[@kayc421]

My pregnancy was HORRIBLE! I never want to do it again.

[@whalesaurus2698]

My mother had post eclampsia when I was born and was also 47 when she had me. The main doctor on her case didn't even think anything was wrong and it took my dad screaming at him and demanding him to help my mother for him to realise that she was about to die. Through some insane luck my mother recovered with no long lasting issues but could've very easily died or gone blind, whats insane is that theres still a lot of doctors who like to deny the existence of post eclampsia, at least in Australia.

[@eqrahabibi]

My heart is breaking for the young woman at 4:00 😢 I wish I could take her pain away 😢

[@kikicocoa1387]

With my second son I had hyperemesis gravidarum, and it was the worst thing I’ve ever gone through! I was bed ridden for 6 months because it was so severe I couldn’t even pick up my head or open my eyes because it would feel like the room was spinning. I’m so happy they finally figured out what causes it, and now newly pregnant mothers can have it helped. But just a word of warning, I still get these insane nausea spells that take me out for the entire day and night. It’s random, and you never know when it’s going to happen. So please get help if it’s early and the help is available.

[@2grateful]

Busiswa, ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ on the content selection! What I would have given to have seen this video when I was pregnant 8 yrs ago?!! Thank you

[@BusiswaG]

Awww thank you! I wish more people spoke on the bad side of pregnancy. Not to discourage it but to inform.

[@sizzlekitten4441]

The amount of people who have offered unsolicited comments about my desire to not have children is unreal. I’m bipolar, meaning I would have to be off my medication for a year in order to get pregnant. So I’m going to be an unhinged pregnant woman for around a year, just to have a kid? Also, I don’t want to pass this disorder down to my future child, but I’m selfish for not wanting children…

[@Karlae86]

How about stillbirths . Those are more common than we think. ❤

[@HelloKittySiims]

These are GREAT birth control ads😅😅

[@CalebAchsah]

QBusiswa - Excellent video. You did a really good job on a fascinating subject!

[@BlissfulMartini]

40:35 I’m more bewildered that we have to tell people that it’s okay to NOT post EVERYTHING that happens to them on the internet.

[@Videosrigolo]

Let me tell you I was pregnant once!! Buuuuut I dont want to be again, pregnacy ruins the brain, it can beautiful yes but no one thinks about the future mother, I was lucky for not geting sick all the time, but my psychological state got destroyed, I love my son, but I wouldn't get pregnant again. I hated, I was so big, couldn't get up on the morning well, couldn't sleep on my favourite position (on my belly) a lot of pain, worrying if the baby was well, worrying if I would make a good mother, crying all day, like, it was awfull really hard. My first and last.

[@YoutubeIsTV]

Jesus thank you. I’m 13 weeks and I’ve had the best experience so far. No symptoms just growth 😩

[@loryndabenson2118]

Havnt finished the video yet but in school my holistic nutrition teacher taught us about how influential diet is on pregnancy. Before you ever become pregnant both parents ideally should be eating a specific diet as this is common practice for indigenous groups. Some people try to start six months prior. However if we're talking about the US i suggest a year in advance because our food supply is so contaminated/poor. Women are going in to pregnancy already severly malnourished because our food sucks. Thats why so many women also have other reproductive issues and autoimmune diseases that we didnt have prior to highly processed foods. Our death rates are also high, partly because of racism and men ignoring women, but also because doctors arent educated on why its important for women to give birth in other positions besides lying on their back. They say its so the doctor can see but if it leads to more tearing, and bleeding and more stress on the baby because they're fighting gravity to get out, then you don't need to see, learn to use your hands to guide the baby out or find another way for you to see so that the mother can give birth in a position that is less painful and traumatic for the baby. Anyway theres a great book by Weston A Price called nutrition and physical degeneration. He was a dentist but he went around studying indigenous groups and their diets, and how their health drastically changed once colonizers introduced processed foods. The effects on pregnancy is also studied. It literally just takes one generation to see the deterioration of the next persons health when the parents werent fed properly. Anyway I'm also aware you can do everything in your power to have a healthy pregnancy and sometimes it still sucks or doesn't go as planned. But that shouldn't stop us as a whole from demanding better and more comprehensive care/education around pregnancy and we should be taught these things in school. I grew up in the south and in school they just told is domt have sex or you'll get an std or become pregnant. Churches dont teach you anything either but they'll gladly have purity ceremony for girls. A lot of our education around pregnancy and nutrition in general was tied to our cultural practices but, we already know at this point what happened especially if youre in America.

[@loryndabenson2118]

That's just the portion of pregnancy, we don't have proper post natal care/education/practices either. Some women are left chronically ill or even disabled post pregnancy because they don't have, one proper nourishing diet ,and someone or a community to help them thru those first few months. Physical therapy should be a part of post natal care. There's so many elements missing from pregnancy and post pregnancy care In the US. And you can't have it unless you have a lot of money because our health care is for profit or you're one of the lucky people who has a community around you to help you out. Moms are supposed to be resting and healing as much as possible not up doing chores and housework right after giving birth. Men and boys need to be properly educated too. Ive heard crazy stories of a mom coming home with a newborn and the husband is waiting for her to start dinner and clean the house. TF?! Or even a husband with a snoring problem not allowing the mom and baby to sleep because he refused to sleep in another room. That's actually really dangerous for the mom and baby to not be sleeping because you can't have some courtesy and common sense for them.

[@KagomeYasha023]

Also there’s alot of medications that are dangerous and should be stopped after talking with your dr about 6 months to a year before planning to get pregnant

[@loryndabenson2118]

@@KagomeYasha023 absolutely! 🙏🏾💓

[@BoujeeGrapes]

As a woman that has had 2 children, naturally....the one thing nobody told me about 1. An episiotomy 2. How long it takes to heal from the episiotomy. I had a big ass baby 9lbs 6 ounces and 22 inches long. Which contributed to my postpartum. My baby is now 15. I still remember it all.

[@hyder-0]

Years ago I was in the psych ward in my hospital for addiction issues (small town they put everyone in one spot unfortunately) and I remember this 20 year old young mother that was up there. We got to talking about why we were in there and she told me that she was so excited to have the baby and it was very much wanted but as soon as she had it, every time she looked at it she felt she was going to kill him/her and she was afraid of herself so it was decided she would go into the psych ward. She had just some of the many issues that can follow after you have a baby. I hope shes doing ok. That was back 2010ish.

[@angelamack5300]

That morning sickness is no joke. I had it with both my children and had to be on medication.

[@lisandrac4001]

My husband went through postpartum depression, it was so bad that he told me later that sometimes he would go for a ride because he was having thoughts that we would be better off without him. It was a lot but he did start therapy and things got better when he was able to sleep more and we were fortunate enough to hire a nanny because we do not have family that is near us to help, and we own a business we cannot step away from.

[@sidology1.0]

From what ive seen on comment sections in youtube and Instagram, a lot of the issues begin with the medical interventions. Inducing causes so much trauma and issues. Doctors are in a rush and push c sections and inductions

[@BeccaBoo3666]

I got the worst PUPPS rash that any doctor had seen. The photos on the internet don’t even compare 10% of the rash I suffered from. Pregnancy was hard enough but the pupps was the worst pregnancy symptom I could have ever imagined…i wish I could post the photos on here I think people should know more about this condition and how horrible it can get. I felt so alone because the internet showed minimal cases compared to mine.

[@auggiedoggiesmommy1734]

My sister went through 28 hours of labor and she had an emergency c-section. They told her the baby must be too big. She was 6lbs. The cord was actually way too short to come out naturally. She was exhausted and then her husband was useless …he just didn’t do ANYTHING for her so she ended up with a hernia from lifting her own baby.

[@El_Ophelia]

I dunno, gurl. The last time the medical community wanted to prescribe something to prevent morning sickness, nausea and vomiting, they gave us Thalidomide and look at how that turned out. ⛔ 👎

[@sunnyandthechlo]

They actually still use it, just not while you are or could become pregnant. My grandma was prescribed it but she was far past menopause.

[@share.theworld]

Girl the way I hear people saying I dreamed of my wedding day my whole life or wishing to have kids because they enjoy raising them to be good people I get confused because I thought I grew up to hate that I didn't realise these things weren't ever a dream of mine

[@chennellaguilar3626]

Just had my last baby (baby number 5) 2 weeks ago, i had cholestasis and gestational diabetes. When i say i felt like a big back girl who rolled around in fiberglass I'm so serious!! One thing nobody talks about is knowing it's your last pregnancy and feeling sad that you won't feel the pressure of tiny feet pushing out like a scene from the Alien movies, or feeling baby move in a moment of random panic where you haven't felt baby move in a couple hours. Also, the miscarriage feeling is different for everyone, i miscarried at almost 11 weeks and it was so painful, for days i could barely walk and for months i suffered from severe anxiety and depression. I've had friends that only felt slight cramps and some that didn't even spot during a miscarriage but just know you're never alone...❤ I buried my baby with my grandparents, the people that made me feel safest. I pray so hard for parents who have felt a loss and parents who suffer from PPD, its all such a hard battle but just know someone knows the struggle and has so much love for you!!

[@rncine]

Unfortunately for my first child, I had HG and gestational diabetes but that wasn’t all the problem. I felt uncomfortable with the OB asking me questions about my sexual relationship with my husband, I was young so I thought it was normal questions. At 16 wks, I was getting short of breath and I told the OB, he said that’s normal your pregnant ( I was still vomiting) I had also asked him, how will I know when it’s time to go to the hospital, real snotty, he goes, oh you will know! My mother said, that’s enough, you’re going to another doctor. I was almost 20 wks and another doctor wouldn’t take me until I started crying. To make a long story short, this 2nd doctor saved my life. I had a problem with my heart and to this day I still take heart medicine. I had to have a Caesarian because while sleeping I was leaking a little at a time and I thought it was urine so I just went back to bed. When morning came, I told my mother and she started screaming to call the Gyn. I was leaking amniotic fluid and came down with a septic infection( bacteria in the blood) also pneumonia, was in the hospital 1 month. My daughter was also running a temp, didn’t get to see her for 3 wks she was also 2 months premature. I am telling this because some doctors can be jerks, if you feel uncomfortable with your doctor don’t wait like I did, get another one. This should be your greatest experience and joy, don’t let some burnt out physician ruin it, it can also mean life and death for you or your baby.

[@Princessfrmalmighty]

Watching taking notes because i dont have kids but because im not married thats why.

[@anotherloser2858]

I wanted to mention that psychosis is something some women go through after birth (I think it's somehow related to PPD?). A friend of mine was so terrified of her newborn baby girl being raped that she held her for 3 days straight with no sleep and wouldn't let anyone take her baby for any reason. Not her mother, the baby's father or friends she trusted for decades. Even the doctors had to constantly argue with her to take the baby for checks and she wouldn't let them leave the room.

[@melina.killls]

I found your channel at 6k not even that long ago. Your channel is growinggggg. Very happy for you girl! I never miss a video. Also the lipstick looks pretty on you!. Much love ❤️ 🎉🎉

[@BusiswaG]

Aww thank you ❤️

[@MoreSand12]

Here's one you didn't mention: my cervix is very short and won't close so i have to get a circlage (stitches to hold cervix shut. It didn't work well for me so i ended up hospitalized for 3 months with my pelvis elevated and constantly having my urine and fluid around baby monitored. I also had to take shots in my butt and progesterone pills. Unrelated, but I also had GD and had an emotional breakdown because they wouldn't let me add mustard to my sandwich 😭. Also my teeth felt loose, like if i were to bite down hard enough they'd slip out. i also saw my organs on the table when i got a C-section 😬. My whole body was violently shaking because it causes your body temperature to drop