What one skill = an awesome life? | Dr. Shimi Kang | TEDxKelowna

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@jackiechun99
@jackiechun99 4 жыл бұрын
4:35 Adaptability is the key to a prosperous life. 9:10 On Dolphins 10:28 P. O. D. 10:36 Play [have fun without rules]. 12:17 Others [meaningful connections]; Social connection is a basic of life 13:55 Downtime [sleep] Rest and Relaxation is the basic of life 15:38 Look deeply into nature, and then you will understand everything better If everything works well, you will adapt to your circumstances and prosper.
@sp8978
@sp8978 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you
@terranhealer
@terranhealer 3 жыл бұрын
I thought in order to play rules were necessary. Sure the rules can be played with but it seems as we grow up its the very rules (limitations) that make games interesting. If you're playing chess, its not fun if your opponent breaks the rules. In essence rules give life a sense of meaning.
@sayusayme7729
@sayusayme7729 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you.
@sinamoaf7731
@sinamoaf7731 3 жыл бұрын
what does have fun without rules mean?
@efeitofit3492
@efeitofit3492 2 жыл бұрын
thank you for your description! a read for start my 2022!
@willdrivesu7914
@willdrivesu7914 2 жыл бұрын
As someone who is an introvert, I have to argue with her assessment. Being by myself is my happy place. I can socialize and talk to anyone and get along with everyone. But at the end of the day all I need is a good book, a movie or a video game and I'm perfectly content and happy. Being around people for too long is to me, what isolation is to most people, torture.
@josebonilla4785
@josebonilla4785 2 жыл бұрын
The same here
@TheWordImmanuel
@TheWordImmanuel Жыл бұрын
Couldn't agree with you more.
@williamkreth
@williamkreth Жыл бұрын
I agree. I greatly enjoy my alone time. To the point that people think it's unnatural
@roypressler6548
@roypressler6548 Жыл бұрын
Wouldn't alone time for introverts be DOWNTIME. I always personality test out EXTREMELY INTROVERTED. I would however, agree with her that too little "OTHERS" destroys even healthy extreme introverts. Yet, gimmie lots of alone time. Play too seems more "brain lightening up" to me with "OTHERS" as long as that radical competition balogna gets outlawed. God made one human who can jump the highest, make the highest % of 3 pointers, procreate the most desireable currently beautiful children or be the perfect physician. And only one Son of Man through which Paradise can be ANY body's. ALL that makes competition, even comparisons unneccessary. Even WRONG.. OFFENSIVE to The Creator, Who is incapable of mistakes, incapable of not Loving or incapable of allowing INJUSTICE to endure. Once in Eternal Paradise, each one will know SO MUCH more than those pitiful littles.
@philthyrich1433
@philthyrich1433 Жыл бұрын
It drains my energy. Dont know why but it does
@lailaalfaddil7389
@lailaalfaddil7389 Жыл бұрын
The key to big returns is not big moving stocks. It's managing risk in relationship to reward. Having the correct size on and turning your edge as many times as necessary to reach your goal. That holds true from long term investing to day trading
@lailaalfaddil7389
@lailaalfaddil7389 Жыл бұрын
Would recommend *ROCHELLE DUNGCA-SCHREIBER,* cos she's very proficient in her game I have seen loads of news of
@tpra-co4sg
@tpra-co4sg 4 ай бұрын
😊
@binbinli2412
@binbinli2412 8 жыл бұрын
Our stress does not come solely from a lack of downtime to many people. Most from unable to achieve personal greatness. Lots of people struggle with living, making money to put food on the table and having a roof over their head. The speaker speaks from her own personal view which is helpful for those who shared the same living situation with her. As the Director of youth and Child Life admin, she does not have trouble making enough money to raise her family. And that's where stress come from in life for many people.
@binbinli2412
@binbinli2412 7 жыл бұрын
teresa chase Sorry for your losses. My condolences, Teresa. Social media helped a lot of people to remedy in situations alike and can bring connections to you. Facebook, Twitter, and online communities such as forums and chatrooms.
@Teresahorner
@Teresahorner 7 жыл бұрын
Binbin Li. Thank you. im in several fb forums for greive and some on health. it does help when you start to loose faith in the doctors. have a blessed night
@ilikebeinganonymous8666
@ilikebeinganonymous8666 7 жыл бұрын
Binbin Li Yup.. this talk is meant to solve rich peoples existential problems. The rest of us were too stressed out wondering how to pay next month's rent to pay attention to this video ;-)
@bes1batch1976
@bes1batch1976 7 жыл бұрын
Binbin Li Land, labor, capital, management abilities are the factors of production. too bad that most who are in the labor barely can afford to P.O.D. Or put food/roof on the table/head. Some ideas master/servant, wise/not so wise, set up, hypnotized into doing something, labor is always minding the interest of other 3 factors, and the other 3 is ordering the life of labors!! Worked your way out! Its fun, challenging, pod your way out, its a maze, humans find ways, that makes us humans or not it does not make us less humans!!!
@Teresahorner
@Teresahorner 7 жыл бұрын
ilike beinganonymous. lol isnt tht the truth ;)
@jorgeromera3861
@jorgeromera3861 5 жыл бұрын
"It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society" (Jiddu Krishnamurti)
@bircruz555
@bircruz555 5 жыл бұрын
On point. I step out to connect with society from time to time and just as quickly I retreat, like the ground hog: five more months of winter. The problem, it seems to me, is that people have been extremely conditioned to abandon what makes them special as individuals. They see movies, they act out the movies. Individuals have allowed so many agents of conditioning a free reign in their lives, and they come out uninteresting, boring, extremely shallow and a sheer waste of time and emotions. Where is the attraction in that?
@downbntout
@downbntout 5 жыл бұрын
I'm appreciating farming more after reading this quote.
@ElanSunStarPhotographyHawaii
@ElanSunStarPhotographyHawaii 5 жыл бұрын
Wow..I use his quote often I knew J Krishnamurti in the 70's and 80's...he was so authentic....
@miachevaisav2285
@miachevaisav2285 4 жыл бұрын
Adjusted to yourself is the key. Things will never be perfect outside of us.
@ALCRAN2010
@ALCRAN2010 4 жыл бұрын
Good quote. But you look like AthleanX.
@catedoge3206
@catedoge3206 5 жыл бұрын
Best skill to learn is awareness. Everything is connected to that.
@jeanneeber
@jeanneeber 4 жыл бұрын
CateDoge Theres a few types! Self awareness is the most vital to your survival !
@MrBlue-km8qv
@MrBlue-km8qv 4 жыл бұрын
Especially, when on the web.
@abracadabra2337
@abracadabra2337 4 жыл бұрын
Amen
@inspira7576
@inspira7576 2 жыл бұрын
@@jeanneeber pp0⁰0⁰ ⁰
@ishapatel8551
@ishapatel8551 2 жыл бұрын
Can you elaborate on this?
@You_Manos_Tube
@You_Manos_Tube 5 жыл бұрын
"Play is how we adapt"...This is the connection between the game and education which leads to obtaining a skill and then the confidence! Well Done Dr!
@stheday1
@stheday1 4 жыл бұрын
People can drain us too..it's important to find supportive ones.
@lisamuchi8764
@lisamuchi8764 3 жыл бұрын
Absolutely .........Toxic personalities!!!
@ryansturdivant387
@ryansturdivant387 3 ай бұрын
Energy vampires
@DoodleBugLisa
@DoodleBugLisa 5 жыл бұрын
There are gems within this talk, but I’ve never liked Legos, even before they had rules. I have lots of downtime; I think it gives me too much time inside my head. For me the most healing thing is gratitude. Our speaker has so many accomplishments that must feel great to talk about in public. Seems to me this talk is more for the Haves than the Have Nots.
@vilmantasramanauskas728
@vilmantasramanauskas728 8 жыл бұрын
P. O. D. - Play (have fun without rules). Others (meaningful connections). Downtime (sleep). If everything works well, you will adapt to your circumstances and prosper. Good night ;)
@christianlopez1555
@christianlopez1555 6 жыл бұрын
Thank you i was hearing pot hahahaha
@p10091518
@p10091518 6 жыл бұрын
Thank you I was starting to think that maybe Ted talk actually pay these people and by the minute. I'm not sure if they have to feel a specific amount of time every time but after the five minute Mark I was like a dab debility and took you 5 minutes to say adaptability
@wilhelm.reeves
@wilhelm.reeves 6 жыл бұрын
@@christianlopez1555 daily dose of pot XD that's doesn't sound so bad either
@True1-10
@True1-10 5 жыл бұрын
Thank you Vilmantas :) You saved me time so I can go to sleep instead of watching..
@wolfman1000000
@wolfman1000000 5 жыл бұрын
As interesting as that is, many people work more than 40 hours a week and still live in poverty. Many people who live that life cant P.O.D. and put food on the table or raise kids or live in a decent shelter. Instead we struggle til we die. Poor people cant adapt because of a landslide of obstacles that keep us down.
@downbntout
@downbntout 5 жыл бұрын
This is the oxygen I didn't know I needed. No more guilt over basic needs.
@thutosalome332
@thutosalome332 4 жыл бұрын
I love the concept of adoption to me it means not only assimilating the influence of the current environment into your life but also being true to yourself attracting authentic people people who elevate you and make you see things from their perspective thats a profound human connection and adaptation to me
@AceHalford
@AceHalford 2 жыл бұрын
She's right, the environment is changing and we have no control over it, so we must adapt
@allisknu11
@allisknu11 5 жыл бұрын
I completely understand what she's saying about adaptability. I agree with her, 100%. I just don't care to adapt to most of "this world" we have now. The way I have found peace, which may be different for everyone, is to adapt by not going with the flow of globalization. For everyone, it's a different adaptation. I hope everyone finds theirs.
@tlegahiga9200
@tlegahiga9200 5 жыл бұрын
when i am in depression or exiety i frequently listen to music to remind a wondeful period of time
@perrizepeda9638
@perrizepeda9638 3 жыл бұрын
Invest in local community.
@dreamkid4385
@dreamkid4385 2 жыл бұрын
@@perrizepeda9638 i just watch comedy and have funn lolllll
@Fath0m73
@Fath0m73 5 жыл бұрын
1. The one thing: 4:29 2: Supporting evidence 6:17 3. Currrent social diagnosis 8:00 4. The dolphin's way: 10:08
@DrBullockADHDcoaching
@DrBullockADHDcoaching 5 жыл бұрын
So, live a porpoise driven life? Got it. As a physician treating syndromes of ADHD and associated anxiety, depression, this is one of the most salient presentations I’ve heard.
@PULAG
@PULAG 2 жыл бұрын
Go Miami dolphins!
@hvasf7709
@hvasf7709 5 жыл бұрын
With all respect to the fact that people watching this come from diverse situations I found great value in her comments and learning. Society does glorify work, and there are also those who must work many hours just to get by. In either case would it not be ideal to have time to be creative (play), socialize, and have downtime? How we get there is often the more difficult question especially when options seem few. TED talks rarely answer this type of question due to time constraints, but it allows us to exercise our own creativity in solving our own problems.
@josephfernando4867
@josephfernando4867 7 жыл бұрын
Superb...my take away from this video...When I played I found new Passion...When I connected I found new Purpose...When I rested I found new Balance...So true..
@sandraremolina8319
@sandraremolina8319 5 жыл бұрын
I LOVE THIS GIRL FOR SHARING HER KNOWLEDGE ABUOT JOY! THANK YOU!
@Syncere20
@Syncere20 2 жыл бұрын
She's very smart and so beautiful.
@rojin2000
@rojin2000 2 жыл бұрын
As a political prisoner that went through torture physically and at some point emotionally and mentally, the salutary confinement was the worst aspect of being in prison for me but yet my skills in adaptabilities and imagination helped me somehow not to break in pieces or lose my integrity or my believes .
@notadonna5983
@notadonna5983 5 жыл бұрын
Thank you! So true! Some of us have to become ill to learn this. I'm not sorry to have had the chance to wake up, but it cost me a lot of time. I hope to encourage you to take charge by letting go of all the things that don't serve you and humanity. Love your life!💞
@sophietand3240
@sophietand3240 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you Dr. Shimi Kang! One of the best TED talks I’ve ever heard! 👍🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
@meghananton4754
@meghananton4754 8 жыл бұрын
OUTSTANDING! THANK YOU. Everything in balance. We are an unbalanced culture, out of touch with our nature. She is so right. I am a baby boomer and have led a rat race life for too long ... overworking to achieve something is even creeping into my retirement. I need more real play time!
@subiyaamreen3023
@subiyaamreen3023 3 жыл бұрын
She summed it all in a great way, the basics are the key❤️
@yamunawickramasinghe9038
@yamunawickramasinghe9038 Жыл бұрын
Each and every theory related to stress releasing is applicable when we have enough money to pay our bills. Causes for my stress won't go away until I have money.
@chanelnicole0922
@chanelnicole0922 8 жыл бұрын
I love her book " the self motivated kid". She is inspiring and a breath of fresh air
@relebohilezwane6039
@relebohilezwane6039 3 жыл бұрын
Free play (how) , others are important in life; meaningful social bonding (why), downtime
@Funandconsciousness
@Funandconsciousness 10 жыл бұрын
How do we become sufficiently adaptable? Simple: prioritize health and play! Dr. Kang makes a great case for this approach, for those who haven't fully realized its value, yet.
@tuanlenguyenminh4461
@tuanlenguyenminh4461 2 жыл бұрын
Bruce Lee has a quot that goes "if you put water in a tea pot the water become a tea pot, if you put water in a cup the water become a cup , be water my friend" this TED talk really help me connect with this quote
@donfields1234
@donfields1234 5 жыл бұрын
I have been saying something similar for decades, of all the courses we teach and learn, of all the things we know and master, the one thing we arent taught is how to be "happy". And imho it should be taught every year of school, and if wise we should continue this "study" throughout our lives. For now, if your not "happy" as much as you would like, then you can try focusing on this....do what you love, or love what you do. If you have an interest, a calling, anything your drawn to then GO TO IT, you only have one life, we must use it wisely if we want to be wise, and life fullfilled lives. If you dont have any interest currently, then focus on learning to love whatever it is you are doing, even a job you hate can be turned into one you love i assure you, and imagine the power you gain when you achieve that ability, nothing stands in your way after that, then your/ we are, truly free. 😜😊✌👍👋🙏😀
@orosmarc6697
@orosmarc6697 5 жыл бұрын
In my opinion the reason why nobody teach how to be happy, is because the happiness is coming from INSIDE ! Or at least should be... if not you are unhappy what ever you do with your life, like carrier , families, wealth, etc...
@lloydyearwood6158
@lloydyearwood6158 5 жыл бұрын
My dad use to say "rest is not idleness" boy was he right. R.I.P dad. Your wisdom is so needed today.
@ajeetkang8188
@ajeetkang8188 10 жыл бұрын
We all want the best of life for ourselves and loved ones.Watching this I was forced to reconsider what I should strive for and how! Profound presentation but then so obvious- this is a must watch for anyone who wants an awesome life!! Fantastic!
@EuropeanQoheleth
@EuropeanQoheleth 8 жыл бұрын
= doesn't mean something is something; it means 2 things have equal value and I wish people would get it right already.
@jamesgrummitt1049
@jamesgrummitt1049 3 жыл бұрын
What a wondrful talk. Thank you so much Dr. Shimi Kang. Everything I have been thinking about for years have been very concisely related to your talk. I am so impressed with your delivery. Respect! x
@TommyFamous
@TommyFamous 5 жыл бұрын
POD = Play, Others, & Downtime 💜 it’s all about Balance! We can Adapt to Thrive
@bircruz555
@bircruz555 5 жыл бұрын
The "Others" part is toxic and a mirage.
@davidrivers7667
@davidrivers7667 5 жыл бұрын
I Love This Speaker, "The Dolphin Way" A Perfect Thought
@superfluityme
@superfluityme 5 жыл бұрын
If you have to pick one thing it's not adaptability it is understanding; adaptability comes after understanding. Without understanding what you need for you, what do you adapt to? And really if you break it down further it is love, love is far more important than anything for us, but love for all is not realistic but understanding is as it only requires you to understand you and once you understand you you can give love.
@nataliemarieburns2913
@nataliemarieburns2913 2 жыл бұрын
It’s heart
@hendrayahya3303
@hendrayahya3303 4 жыл бұрын
Breaks are the moment of breakthroughs, that looking inward gives us innovation and inspiration - nice.
@ahmadqadeibalban3776
@ahmadqadeibalban3776 Жыл бұрын
"We are as humans built and meant to thrive, each one of us can have an awesome life".
@heffthehecked
@heffthehecked 5 жыл бұрын
“Dolphins never compromise the basics of life”
@mfat3690
@mfat3690 2 жыл бұрын
We are living in the world where everybody wants to be productive. But deep inside productivity as simple as we think. Play, work and rest these things are the essence of our life.
@scovila
@scovila 5 жыл бұрын
The whole talk was filled with amazing points. I loved it! Thank you, Dr. Kang.
@artistanilbkrishna7552
@artistanilbkrishna7552 4 жыл бұрын
thanks
@percypunto
@percypunto 5 жыл бұрын
Apologies for all the ranting and negativity in the comments below - I think this was one of the best TED talks I’ve seen in a while, well constructed, delivered with authenticity and left me feeling more compassionate for myself and those around me. Thank you for all your hard work in this area and for sharing your story. You should be very proud :)
@vivianboone4794
@vivianboone4794 5 жыл бұрын
Love the LEGO analogy - I’ve thought about how it’s changed and never liked it
@lisamuir4261
@lisamuir4261 10 сағат бұрын
Common sense, play, downtime is very important. Im still having difficulty with the 'others' part even with my family. Good luck , right? Thankfully i have everyone in the tech field and platforms that are relatable. Very well put together.
@lisamuir4261
@lisamuir4261 10 сағат бұрын
Oh yeah, adaptability and compatibility are running close together.
@yourrighthands
@yourrighthands 5 жыл бұрын
Personal Development is key to finding your true self!
@chuotoshiya
@chuotoshiya 3 жыл бұрын
She spoke slowly about presentation,It's helpful for me.I think Keeping balance is not easy.
@jahenders
@jahenders 8 жыл бұрын
I definitely like her view on the one skill being adaptability. Looking at today, or at ancient history, that seems pretty evident. After that, she's basically promoting her mental treatment/development theories about the importance of taking it easy.
@spread3602
@spread3602 7 жыл бұрын
jahenders nop
@carypt
@carypt 8 жыл бұрын
Thank you Dr Kang. I enjoyed your presentation. Adaptability and POD... I'm "all in"!! .
@enochbrown8178
@enochbrown8178 3 жыл бұрын
I heartily agree with Dr. Kang. God bless this lady.
@ryangallagher364
@ryangallagher364 4 жыл бұрын
Great talk. I am going to start taking a daily dose of POD everyday. Really liked the comparison to dolphins! So true and makes sense.
@francotedaldi10
@francotedaldi10 3 жыл бұрын
Listening to this TED I feel confortable: play, other, downtime. I would say: connection. And I like that you don't insist with the sentence: "we are rewarded". Because we're grown up watching out for punishments, hence for guilt and shame, and looking for prizes. Freedom, authonomy and connection grow with free playing, with unconditional love experience, experiencing how our life gets enriched, how we can help the other have a marvellous life, as Marshall Rosenberg says.
@skssarath361
@skssarath361 2 жыл бұрын
Excellent presentation and thought provoking topic. Appreciate the efforts of Dr Shimi. A humble suggestion- I feel like audience can get the best out of all presenters if TEDx can allow them some buffer time rather than asking them to stick to exact time frame. This allows them to dedicate 100% of their talent in delivering the presentation than being equally concerned about the timer running.
@salehristov
@salehristov 2 жыл бұрын
Congratulations...soo smart.. and thanks a lot for P.O.D.... 👏 👏 👏 👏 👏 👏 👏 👏 👏
@sergiocapossio2779
@sergiocapossio2779 6 жыл бұрын
Spectacular talk. Shimi made me organize POD. Thanks a lot!
@richardlongues4695
@richardlongues4695 4 жыл бұрын
Neurosciences have excellent pieces of advice to improve everydays' life. Each time l listen to a neuroscientist he's full of very useful knowledge and common sense to better people's existance.
@judahroyal9879
@judahroyal9879 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing this wonderful truth and wisdom, I really needed to hear this and will set out to practice it!
@arturotorres6437
@arturotorres6437 4 жыл бұрын
14:19 "Stress is the #1 health epidemic of the 21st century" - World Health Organization Coronavirus Covaid-19 : Hold my beer 12:18 Others, this explains perfectly why a lot of Americans are having a challenging time being quarantine during the stay at home. That lack of social connection is some people nuts! This was a very worthwhile TedTalk, especially during these pandemic times.
@MDutchery47
@MDutchery47 10 жыл бұрын
Very good, very simple to understand, and, as a dolphin admirer (I spent 8 - 10 weeks studying whales and dolphins 1975 with a class of 4 - 5 year olds and I learned so much about dolphins, and from my class), I love the advice here.
@OreAlan
@OreAlan 10 жыл бұрын
Beautiful! No wonder I feel so much better when POD is part of my life! Thanks for passing this on! I'll be doing the same.
@shawnpa
@shawnpa 6 жыл бұрын
I think discipline and knowing the best course of action are the two biggest factors is in achieving success.
@edi9892
@edi9892 9 жыл бұрын
Isn't it funny? We got washing machines, can reach any point in the world within 48h, got internet (imagine communication before electricity) and numerous machines working for us. Yet, we have less time than before.
@edi9892
@edi9892 9 жыл бұрын
qacwnfq q Growth without limits never ends well...
@abumohammedhmm2449
@abumohammedhmm2449 8 жыл бұрын
edi
@siarheipilat8152
@siarheipilat8152 7 жыл бұрын
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@HKashaf
@HKashaf 5 жыл бұрын
The answer to that is very simple: devaluing of human labor and interest based society, taxation is close third on this list.
@asefb9864
@asefb9864 5 жыл бұрын
you have a flying washing machines O_o ?
@MrBlue-km8qv
@MrBlue-km8qv 4 жыл бұрын
i don't have the neuro chemicals of happiness and positivity. Everyone and their mother make me feel bad about myself because i don't believe in the power of positive thinking. One friend told me 'Too much happiness is being broken like too much sorrow. Balance is necessary. '
@kristopherscott634
@kristopherscott634 7 жыл бұрын
Adaptability is a great way to survive, but not great if you wish to thrive. Napoleon wasn't a great general because he could adapt to his setting. If you want to get up from the table never having lost any money, but also not winning any either, than do everything you can to make sure no one notices you were even there. Just adapt. If you don't want anyone to hate you than adapt socially. No one will hate you. In fact, they'll likely forget you were ever there. Adapt. If you never want to get fired, then adapt. You never will. You'll also never know what it is that you could have been in life other than a guy who was never fired. To be the person you are, you must stand firm in who you are when the temptation is greatest to adapt to something else.
@En8el
@En8el 6 жыл бұрын
Good observation. My synopsis of your objection is: Adapting to WHAT? Kang offers her adapting with the POD solution to address going overboard on goal-setting & stress. (War is the most complete justification of goals & stress, so choosing Napoleon was the most extreme example of being notable that you could choose, but I get your point.) Perhaps an apt continuing question might be, "What *IS* the "person we are"? Are humans merely a product of their culture and ways children are raised? Or can we adapt (by using POD play, others & downtime) to CHOOSE what values and convictions we "are," might want to "sponsor" or "represent," (and hopefully embody and demonstrate in inventive, practical ways) despite our original conditioning? Hopefully, a person would not get too focused on the "OTHER" section of Dr. Kang's POD idea, sacrificing what we discover is true for ourselves during the "PLAY" feature of POD. Experiencing the effects of how we act and responding to balance our efforts in real time *is* adapting. In a perfect world, this usually generates prioritizing convictions and goals that come from experience, without abandoning any advantageous features. However, I have experienced those limitations you outlined above in being "too" adaptable by not really being deliberate enough at arranging my priorities. For awhile instead, I made "Adapting" THE priority and suffered the effects you describe! But I was able to recognize what was happening and hit the "refresh" button. I'm hoping you are still able to respond...!
@muddyshoes4517
@muddyshoes4517 6 жыл бұрын
Kristopher Scott all things in moderation, dear. Also, one must use common sense to know when to apply particular concepts. She's refering to the epidemic of stress, anxiety and other emotional/ mental disorders that have developed as a result of people not thinking for themselves when it comes to life in modern society. She's not referring to EVERY SINGLE aspect of living life and obviously not war
@averymelanie2650
@averymelanie2650 2 жыл бұрын
This works if you are working in a meritocratic environment. It doesn’t work if you are working in a dysfunctional environment where you expected to adapt to inefficiencies.
@khsimagesdotcom856
@khsimagesdotcom856 2 жыл бұрын
@@muddyshoes4517 Dr. Shimi Kang referred to bacteria, plants, animals (particularly dolphins), large and small businesses, corporations, humans, governments, empires, raising kids. That sounds like nearly all of life to me. In my experience, a great deal of stress is born out of struggling to conform. It is often as simple as being empowered to be great the way we are. As I said, if you get good at adapting, it is a great way to survive (nearly anywhere). But if you go where you are appreciated instead of just tolerated, you will benefit much more.
@khsimagesdotcom856
@khsimagesdotcom856 2 жыл бұрын
@@En8el Adaptation has its place but cannot be 'THE priority' as Dr. Shimi Kang emphasizes. Instead, prioritize your goals and you will naturally adapt accordingly. Without YOUR true goals, you can have all the play, interaction and rest you want (as many of us already do these things to some degree already), but without a prominent focus on what we want (our goals), we are left with stress and little to show for it. Do you have goals and the dedication to follow them is more the question. Think of it this way: What if we'll have stress anyways? What if eliminating stressors from our lives with all kinds of made up new skills (packaged as acronyms) do little more than serve as a temporary break from the stress? What if the stress isn't going anywhere no matter what and this is simply as good as it gets? If that's true then maybe it's more about finding the thing(s) that make the stress worth it. A specialist selling a book on KZbin isn't likely to tell us what that thing is. We'll have to answer that for ourselves and when we find it, instead of compromising in order to adapt and survive, we see these things through for better or for worst. A great man once said, a person with nothing to die for also has nothing to live for (MLK Jr.).
@smrtztt8685
@smrtztt8685 3 жыл бұрын
I was struck by your amazing presentation .
@jeffhodge7333
@jeffhodge7333 5 жыл бұрын
I love how people say, "I turned out OK." That's a red flag.
@SuperBartles
@SuperBartles 5 жыл бұрын
wins the comment section. Well done sir
@MikePinargote
@MikePinargote 4 жыл бұрын
Someone else is using Tedx to learn English? I was using Tedx to learn English however I'm wacthing this because is incredible like I can to learn diferents and usefull things.
@chaduvulahemanth3974
@chaduvulahemanth3974 4 жыл бұрын
Thank you ma'am. I enjoyed it and I will implement this technique.
@vladislav_artyukhov
@vladislav_artyukhov 4 жыл бұрын
I am in a uncertaintly about my future life, but i write my thoughts in the diary, my reasoning about different themes. I worry about that i don't make money now, but want start to share my thoughts in RU and EU language. They are deep in understanding this world. I think, that i many time to relax and rest, but all this time i studying and thinking. May be what i don't spend my time for preparing to exams in the university is consequence of the fact that the traditional method of studying isn't my. I live for my pleasure, but my pleasure is a science, calithenics, improving in social communications, psychology, shearing knowledge, ect. Really, may be other forget how to be a human...
@ashishnigam900
@ashishnigam900 8 жыл бұрын
she carried herself elegantly...BTW , nice research....perspective shifted :) !!
@DileepKumar-ln3ug
@DileepKumar-ln3ug 4 жыл бұрын
Excellent. We are going away from natural things and re using old concepts as invention ...
@morethannerd1196
@morethannerd1196 4 жыл бұрын
I love staying by myself and reading. It really depends.
@hafsaryuzaki3295
@hafsaryuzaki3295 4 жыл бұрын
Me too but don’t over do it
@이명자-o2h9o
@이명자-o2h9o 3 жыл бұрын
Speaking speed is awesome.. Assuredly suitable for English language learners
@TheDavidlloydjones
@TheDavidlloydjones 7 жыл бұрын
The one skill is "social connection." 12:50 ~ 13:03. That's it.
@singhexploring5640
@singhexploring5640 4 жыл бұрын
Thanku
@manuelalvarez25
@manuelalvarez25 4 жыл бұрын
IN my opinion, the best TED ever!
@MikeGScott-kn4rq
@MikeGScott-kn4rq 4 жыл бұрын
I totally agree WITH you.
@idan7989
@idan7989 5 жыл бұрын
My greatest ideas come to my head when im relaxing by myself in nature
@emlillthings7914
@emlillthings7914 5 жыл бұрын
or at the moment a turd is squeezed out. Incidentally, I become a genius when squeezing one in nature.
@Odin2LC
@Odin2LC 6 жыл бұрын
Dr. Kang is incredibility beautiful and intelligent. Fantastic talk!
@brittp.5916
@brittp.5916 7 жыл бұрын
Christ people are petty. She is a beautiful speaker sharing her knowledge and wisdom. What the hell have the rest of you done lately.
@tonyrossi3151
@tonyrossi3151 5 жыл бұрын
Busy working. Lol
@francismausley7239
@francismausley7239 4 жыл бұрын
Passion is often in your chosen profession. "This is worship: to serve mankind and to minister to the needs of the people. Service is prayer. A physician ministering to the sick, gently, tenderly, free from prejudice and believing in the solidarity of the human race, he is giving praise." ~ Paris Talks, Baha'i Faith
@felipevalente8968
@felipevalente8968 5 жыл бұрын
This was really amazing. Thank you for this TED talk!
@becomewhoyouwant7656
@becomewhoyouwant7656 6 жыл бұрын
Great speech. Full of new contents. I don't know why so many people have had negative views. I think most of them are programmed in a way not to see excellence in a colored human.
@ashvarma1
@ashvarma1 6 жыл бұрын
Very well said. Agree wholeheartedly
@lowzhao
@lowzhao 5 жыл бұрын
"Well, grit is great but we all know, hard-working gritty people who have no joy or meaning in their lives." damn this hurts me.
@arlinegeorge6967
@arlinegeorge6967 3 жыл бұрын
So rightly said survival of the fittest. Thank you, bless you n All your dreams come true.
@markothwriter
@markothwriter 7 жыл бұрын
People do wear overwork as a badge of honor
@abhiraj5646
@abhiraj5646 5 жыл бұрын
Your comment made me sad :(
@yt-sh
@yt-sh 5 жыл бұрын
I didnt have a full length sleep for >36 hours Dont worry I slept for 4 hrs in interval though
@powerhour4602
@powerhour4602 5 жыл бұрын
How else are you supposed to wear that badge?
@elainestewart7188
@elainestewart7188 5 жыл бұрын
Workaholics love showing this badge... In the meanwhile these workaholics are bitter, disconnected from others because they feel so superior. It's total denial as they are ineffective & inefficient without soft skills and a sense of humanity. They are completely unaware that they are denying themselves and others the love that makes everything it touches flourish.
@crisj7704
@crisj7704 4 жыл бұрын
That and being busy, how many times you hear I'm so busy... lol, look at me so important and busy.
@formosangirl
@formosangirl 4 жыл бұрын
Thank you! Some of my observation: “P”-when I am not crafting, I don’t feel as joyful; O”-despite my fear of interacting with coworkers (especially toxic people), I find overall that I enjoy interacting with my coworkers; “D”-I feel guilty for my downtime, including 2 week staycation, but I am recouperating from so much stress and being under the weather. However, when I am at work, I am the least sick person. What she says makes sense.
@MM-mq9xj
@MM-mq9xj 5 жыл бұрын
Idk if what we go through today counts as real stress. I’d much rather live in this century than any previous ones.
@attonapz6081
@attonapz6081 2 жыл бұрын
"to change with change is the changeless state" B. Lee
@tonyd6853
@tonyd6853 5 жыл бұрын
key= volunteering
@ibiyemifabanwo9201
@ibiyemifabanwo9201 5 жыл бұрын
Tony D it’s a great example of the O In POD
@Jaydeepbaluvuri
@Jaydeepbaluvuri 10 жыл бұрын
Some times we may not realize the small things which can change the life. But Dr.Shimi Kang revealed it very well with her research. Much Appreciated. Thanks you!!
@thomasajah9730
@thomasajah9730 8 жыл бұрын
solitary confinement is involuntary! setting oneself apart and having full control over oneself has no deleterious effects on the human. instead it can be a source of strength. being alone not same as being lonely!
@nkechiajakor1183
@nkechiajakor1183 8 жыл бұрын
Not true, we are naturally social. Hormones release she talked about is true. U isolate, u lose everyday social skills which is d bedrock of our society.
@udaysanker7039
@udaysanker7039 6 жыл бұрын
Thomas Ajah
@MJ-vf1im
@MJ-vf1im 4 жыл бұрын
Exactly!
@MJ-vf1im
@MJ-vf1im 4 жыл бұрын
Being alone is not the same as being lonely!
@d.w952
@d.w952 4 жыл бұрын
> being alone not same as being lonely! Yeah and solitary confinement is not the same as setting some time aside for yourself. Absolutely ridiculous comparison. I love how many people in these comments seem to think they are so different from others because they like time alone. Newsflash: EVERYONE DOES. Just not for prolonged amounts of time
@anuragshah5146
@anuragshah5146 2 жыл бұрын
Thoroughly enjoyed listening to your speech. So wonderfully simple and practical and achievable advice!
@oqba
@oqba 5 жыл бұрын
Emotional intelligence ➡️ adaptability
@lbrowning2543
@lbrowning2543 5 ай бұрын
You have to live and observe a wide range of circumstances before being qualified to assess “the one thing” that works for everybody.
@mhdhillon
@mhdhillon 9 жыл бұрын
Excellent. I would love to have a coffee with Dr. Kang one day and learn more about your journey. All the best
@jaskarandhindsa122
@jaskarandhindsa122 4 жыл бұрын
Jarur dhillon saab 😀😀 ☕☕
@chulangaaverilhettiarachch3267
@chulangaaverilhettiarachch3267 4 жыл бұрын
"Look deeply into nature and then you will understand everything better"
@maxczapski2239
@maxczapski2239 8 жыл бұрын
I was listening to this as I fell asleep and thought it was a great speech. I had to shake off my sleepiness when I heard she was giving prescriptions for pot (which really disappointed me). I'm so relieved and amused to find out it wasn't pot...
@nkechiajakor1183
@nkechiajakor1183 8 жыл бұрын
Pot very funny. d POD thing is very true
@andreacapozzi4539
@andreacapozzi4539 8 жыл бұрын
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@kahele808
@kahele808 6 жыл бұрын
Hahaha me too!
@karynadevice8034
@karynadevice8034 4 жыл бұрын
The key feature is adaptivity leading to the POD System Play = free Play Others= others to socialize with Downtime = sleep, yoga, etc
@redfoxes5153
@redfoxes5153 8 жыл бұрын
oh i'm so glad she said that about modern day lego!
@AnymMusic
@AnymMusic 4 жыл бұрын
communication is the best skill to have in life
@kk-fz4rj
@kk-fz4rj 5 жыл бұрын
Ted talks:" ideas worth sharing" means actually ideas worth selling , everybody is always selling something.
@CarmenElRose
@CarmenElRose 4 жыл бұрын
Not always but this talk sucks
@jamesron5625
@jamesron5625 4 жыл бұрын
Can’t sell if you don’t buy
@user-onyoutube868
@user-onyoutube868 6 жыл бұрын
Dr. Kang's mom successfully raised 5 children without even a first grade education. I found her puzzlement over why anyone needs to be taught "play, others, downtime" very refreshing.
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