What's it like to be WIDOWED??

[@nickdiaz3737]

It feels like you have no one in the world to share memories with. You go to sleep alone wake up alone eat every meal alone. Go through every day and nite with no one to talk to You stop going out to restaurants When you shop it's like you don't really want anything and you see things that she liked. And the new kind of pain inside you sometimes makes you want to cry....

[@lifewithjackandnicole]

You nailed it, Nick. It's indeed a lonely road we travel now...

[@venessatalbert9232]

Same here for me.... lonely as fuck! 😢​@@lifewithjackandnicole

[@johnkeith2450]

Welcome to the life of the never married

[@Wookinpanub235]

@@venessatalbert9232 Gotta get out there and just talk to people. I made friends with a lady today at home depot who was selling me an appliance. We found out so much about eachother in ten minutes it was hilarious and fun. It all started when an 80’s song came on that she knew but she didnt know the artist and I knew the artist and then the next the next. She found out I was a musician and we talked about our teenage years in the 80’s and how awesome life was back then. She had no rjng on but I still had mine on but I did tell her my wife recently passed when she asked how my week was going. I really left that store feeling like I went out on a date with a lovely lady. I think I might go back and talk to her some more.

[@GeoffOdom-nn4ez]

Yes, I have been a widower for two weeks today. Life has lost its flavor. I dread going back to work, going out anywhere except to visit her at the cemetery. It's the only place I feel connected to her.

[@Wookinpanub235]

I miss my soulmate incredibly but the thing that helped me the most is just accepting the fact that this is my life now and I cant just curl up and die. I got some very encouraging advice from my Son in law who told me that I can finally enjoy my batchelor life, do whatever the heck I want to do and work on some projects I may have not had the time to work on before. I can visit friends I don’t get to see often and I don’t have to answer to anyone. Ive been so busy things are getting kinda fun. The biggest stressor was the red tape…OMG what a 2 month ordeal that was horrible…still alot to do but the big stuff is finally taken care of. My Daughters helped me out alot as their computer skills are a million x better than mine. Mornings arent as bad as when the sun goes down or when rainy days come. I still have my triggers but Im getting alot better.

[@joansteggell5060]

You nailed the subject. After being married for a long time you just miss your husband. My husband left a year ago still very hard each day.

[@thereport4896]

Betty my wife of 39 years passed May 19,2023. She had been through so much with the passing of her grandmother who raised her then her father and brother.I could see the change in her after her dad passed and more so with her brother as they were close.I now know something about what she was going through.I never felt so alive as when we were together.But now just surviving...

[@caroljohnson3011]

Just surviving . . . That’s me. Two words.

[@markmarlow537]

Thank you for this, I lost my wife just last week & I'm devastated nearly 37 years together & I feel like half the person

[@songbird5030]

Im so sorry, it is so hard! It does feel like that, half of us is in heaven and the other half here, so surreal.....and painful! It's so hard to want to keep going. We have to keep going....but its so hard!!

[@kathykohl795]

So right. I lost my husband three and a half years ago. Just last week I said I felt like a piece of me is missing and I don’t know how to fix that.

[@Wookinpanub235]

How are you dojng Brother? Been almost a month for me. I feel the emptiness too but I was out talking to a wonderful lady today and realized I still got it. Gotta get out there and be friendly. Three weeks ago I had no desire but I realized that the magnetism will just flare up when you least expect it.

[@julial1450]

It's really heartbreaking to lose our love one today It was my first wedding anniversary today without my husband who passed away 6 months this year sorry for your loss It's not easy

[@keeplookingup6354]

I feel like I’m on vacation had an ok time but now I’m ready to go home. Then I realize I am home. I’m 72 and it’s been 6 weeks my husband passed.

[@snowyowlz5992]

Making my house into a Man-Cave. You’ve hit a lot of good points.

[@rnich56]

Jack, this was spot on. Like others, I share your views and experiences and I can certainly relate. This month is 2 years since I lost my beautiful wife to cancer and I'm forever heart broken. I'm still not as together as you are, hope to be there someday. Thanks for sharing. Oh, another advantage....I don't have to put the toilet seat down now.

[@lifewithjackandnicole]

Rick, I am so very sorry for the loss of your wife. Not so sure I have it together but I find some days I can be a pretty good actor. At the same time I find comfort knowing we are not alone on this journey. I hope maybe you feel a bit of this as well. I would also encourage you to check out my podcast where I do messages on a more regular basis. You can download "Love Letters to Pam" - The Jack Church Show from all the major podcast providers or simply listen online at this link: anchor.fm/jack-church

[@papag3587]

Jack, It has been almost 20 months since I lost my wife Jean. After 34 years 5 months and 12 days of marriage. To say I was not prepared to face life without Jean is a huge understatement. Much like your Pam my Jean was my Everything. She was a wonderful mother and best friend to our two adult daughters.She was amazing. I naturally turned to therapists for help because much of what I was feeling scared me. But after six sessions I didn’t feel the professional helping me understood loss or specifically the lost of a spouse. That is when I turned to prayer , reading self help books and KZbin videos. Of course there were many from women and a few from widowers but when I found your videos I truly felt a similar connection. You continue to help me make progress in my everyday life. This video was on point and exactly my views and opinions and what I would also advise other widowed people. I have so much more to share with you but this isn’t the platform. I will email . Thank You for your video posts. You are helping many people. And as we both know if you touch one life you have made a difference. Thanks Paul Ferreira

[@lifewithjackandnicole]

Thank you so much for your kind words and I am so very sorry for the loss of your wife Jean. It's a tough road you are on now but hopefully knowing you are not alone will offer some comfort. I would also encourage you to check out my podcast where I do messages on a more regular basis. You can download "Love Letters to Pam" - The Jack Church Show from all the major podcast providers or simply listen online at this link: anchor.fm/jack-church

[@victoriasun6386]

@@lifewithjackandnicole did you keep her wedding dress

[@helmsman3082]

Thanks Jack, good post. I relate to so many of your observations. I miss the friends that have slowly drifted away. It's a drag to hang around a sad person I guess.

[@Macx912]

Thanks Jack I share in many of your experiences and observations. It’s been 8 months for me. Getting ready to take a trip to what was suppose to be our forever place in Florida for our anniversary. Traveling alone is going to be so hard.

[@lifewithjackandnicole]

Hi Michael, I am so very sorry for your loss and appreciate your kind words. I find travel to be somewhat of a comfort and it may surprise you a bit. Keep in mind you can do the things you and your wife enjoyed. It will not be as good but it can provide some comfort. I've actually done a few podcast on this very subject. I would encourage you to check out my podcast where I do messages on a more regular basis. You can download "Love Letters to Pam" - The Jack Church Show from all the major podcast providers or simply listen online at this link: anchor.fm/jack-church

[@karencrecco2922]

You hit the nail right on the head. It seems we had the very same type of marital situation. My husband, best friend and I were married 40 years. He died in his sleep at 61. We were getting ready to retire early. What a loss!

[@caroljohnson3011]

Your video made me feel better. You understand. No one else does. ALONE IS ALONE. WHEREVER YOU ARE.

[@lifewithjackandnicole]

I am so incredibly sorry you are having to live thru this. Not sure if it helps or not but I'm now 5 years in on my grief journey and I can tell you it slowly gets better. Does not mean we forget but we simply learn how to move forward. Take care.

[@margueritemullarkey1866]

My boxer 🐕 dog gets me motivated to get up in the morning! Got apart time job just for something to do and get out! Still waiting for my couple friends to invite me for a meal! What's up with that? These coupled people have no idea what we are going through. Thanks for your post!!😊

[@tragedytrousers1769]

having a pet helps tremendously.

[@margueritemullarkey1866]

@@tragedytrousers1769 thank s! Even though my dog,Molly ,is alot of work sometime,with walks,and feeding,and trying to keep her entertained,it's still worth it. I take it you have a pet companion?

[@lifewithjackandnicole]

I am so very sorry for your loss but it does sound like you are doing some positive things. As for couple friends not understanding, it is so very true. However, I tell people I never understood this type of loss either until it happened to me. It's a long road we are on now but in time it slowly...and I mean very slowly improves. I would also encourage you to check out my podcast where I do messages on a more regular basis. You can download "Love Letters to Pam" - The Jack Church Show from all the major podcast providers or simply listen online at this link: anchor.fm/jack-church

[@tragedytrousers1769]

@@margueritemullarkey1866 2 dogs, A corgi and Papillion. Not coming home to a empty house is a blessing. They know when I am sad and comfort me.

[@margueritemullarkey1866]

@@tragedytrousers1769To tell you the truth, as much as I love Molly, sometimes I just wish it wasn't a 10 min.ritual of attention when I always come home. I really think the boxer breed need alot more attn! I have always had chihuahuas. Any complaints on your end?

[@olusolaadeoye5269]

Weekends are the absolute worst!!! Hubby passed in a car accident just over a year ago. One day at a time is what I keep telling myself. And getting a list of things to do before this life is over. I have done the restaurant alone thing once and i didn't like it. I will try it again soon. Sleeping alone is horrible, I struggle to sleep every night no matter how tired so I tend to play music or listen to a podcast or youtube. It helps. Not having anyone to share my day with, my highs/lows sucks. Thanks for the tips on birthdays, will try. Love the point on not being paid attention to in church, kept wondering why!! Thanks for this. Quite encouraging to me.

[@edmundpotrzeba6094]

I haven’t started watching your video yet but as a widower of 15 year I’m already overjoyed to come across you. 👍👍👍❤️❤️❤️. Iv just finished watching it and you make me wish I was married to her . My son once said “ I remember when dad laughed “ and that was 5 years after my wife died so I knew I was in trouble. I’m still crying but I’m so happy to be laughing again. . 😂🥲 ps I threw out all her clothes after 5 years in an attempt to try and help me move on but I wish I’d kept her grey cashmere suit which she looked so beautiful in . Keep something 🥲❤️

[@jeannettegrantham5359]

Great video, enjoyed hearing all the information you shared. Seven months now, 56 years married. Each day is getting easier, but like you tears come easy. Wish you joy in your life!

[@sandrajshutter2205]

Thank You Jack, this is one of your best videos because it’s comforting to listen to someone who understands grief.

[@lifewithjackandnicole]

Thank you Sandra for your kind words. I truly appreciate it.

[@MegaPontoon]

Fantastic video jack your so right in everything you say. For me I have a lot of fear now my Dawn has gone to heaven. They always say a problem shared is a problem solved. I always see negatively and think what if this happens how am I going to solve the problem. I find mornings are the worst for me jack. I can never imagine meeting or being with anyone else. Dawn was totally unique my whole world

[@drfalcon4102]

8 months for me, and I still miss her everyday, but I try to keep busy, Ive gone on a few trips, and am gonna go on another one before summer is over, Ive found , for me that I just have to keep busy, so , now Im redoing our home, while she was sick she ofent said it was due for a make over, so new paint, new furniture, windows etc. keeps the mind busy,, good video,, thanks

[@lifewithjackandnicole]

Thank you for your kind words. So sorry you for the loss of your wife too. Indeed, staying busy does help but of course we also need time to grieve. I still can work up a good cry a few times a week and find it healing to some extent. Doing work on your home sounds like a great idea! I would also encourage you to check out my podcast where I do messages on a more regular basis. You can download "Love Letters to Pam" - The Jack Church Show from all the major podcast providers or simply listen online at this link: anchor.fm/jack-church

[@tragedytrousers1769]

Best thing has been taking my dogs to dog park. met really wonderful people there. many in the same situation. plus it helps getting out of the house

[@darrylclark2318]

Lost my wife of 34 years after a 13 month battle with cancer. Some of your points here are nail on the head. I got a long road of change ahead.

[@lifewithjackandnicole]

I am so very sorry to hear about the loss of your wife. Indeed, it is long and sometimes very bumpy road you are on now but hopefully you find a little comfort knowing you are not alone. I find by sharing with others it seems to help a little. Take care.

[@tinajackson5450]

I lost my husband 1 year ago and I just found this channel. I’ll be tuning in for info .

[@edmundpotrzeba6094]

She never gets older , made me cry 🥲

[@mzzbevcreates]

I teared up throughout this video because I related to so much! You mentioned about being lonely, and yes it is lonely but I'm lonely for him and him only. I miss my hubby (Don) so so much. We shared our day to day life together, morning through night. Our days were planned around each other. I loved serving him dinner and eating together. It's like I've lost my purpose. He was sick the last couple of years before he passed away but his last year was when he started to go downhill fast. It was a year this passed Thursday since he went to be with Jesus. My kids came down to spend the day and weekend with me which is what we all needed. Don did a very good job in making sure I was taken care but this past year was obviously tough. Learning to do everything by myself without his input has been tough. I also live in Lynchburg and I attend TRBC where they have a wonderful Widow Life ministry. My Sunday night Bible study is also for single women (divorced, widowed, never married) and they have been wonderful too. I keep busy with my side business and I like you have NO desire or interest in hooking up with someone. I do get up early every morning and work in my art studio. My Corgi (Dexter) keeps me busy too. My grandkids live in town and come over at least once a week which is wonderful. Some of my friends and I have bought Football season tickets for Liberty so am really looking forward to that!! I worked at Liberty in the Football dept. for 13 years and that's where my love for college football began, of course Don was thrilled that I worked there and he ended up becoming the driver for the football equipment truck for 13 years and he absolutely loved it! Needless to say Liberty sports was very special for he and I. I watched a video of yours last year and you just popped up in my feed and just watched this video. The first one I watched was where you were walking along and talking about Pam and life as a widower. Thanks for sharing. I have a feeling your channel will continue to grow! Take care and God bless!

[@lifewithjackandnicole]

Thank you Bev for your kind words and for sharing a little bit of your life with us. You and your husband Don sound very much like Pam and I. Needless to say it is so very difficult traveling the road we are on now, but with God's help we can learn to keep moving forward. Funny you mention Liberty and Lynchburg. Our son graduated form Liberty a couple of years ago and I was just there on business. In fact if you look thru my travel videos here I did one on Lynchburg. In case you have never checked out my podcast I wanted to share with you the link where you can listen online or download from your favorite podcast provider. There are over 150 messages to listen and choose from. anchor.fm/jack-church

[@edgrossman8929]

Agree. There is nothing life can throw at me that could be worse than losing my spouse. So I don’t worry about anything

[@janetwilson4290]

5 months that my husband passed away from my being his caregiver for over 8 years. As time went on we were able to do less as his dementia took over. We all need to just keep moving on.

[@user-ig3vy4dd5d]

Happened upon your video really good i mean exceptional and this is coming from a 30year hospice bereavement coordinator and social worker but more importantly a widow of the loss of my husband one year ago...helping support the bereaved for all those years such a totally different perspective with my loss im 58 I must say i have watched quite a few widow video's this was the most articulate and helpful from the very beginning when you said it sucks i wanted to hear what you had to say thank you and your wife and the love you share is beautiful keep sharing the message of hope. Gods blessings Lisa

[@lifewithjackandnicole]

Thank you so much for your kind comments. Needless to say I am so very sorry for the loss of your husband.

[@bryniarskifamily]

Hi there, I've watched your videos and think they're very inspiring. Your story is very similar to my husband and I. we were best friends and extremely in love and loved to travel and have adventure together. We had 17 years together. he passed away on April 21, 2022 from a heart attack at age 41. I am 40 and our three kids are 11. 10, and 7 next week. it has been so difficult and so hard especially raising the young kids to know how I'm going to move forward without him I miss him so much every day and feel lonely and like most people don’t know how to react to me. I enjoy your positivity, thanks for the videos

[@lifewithjackandnicole]

Needless to say I am so very sorry for the loss of your husband. I know it is incredibly difficult and add on the fact your kids are still young you have a lot on your plate. Hopefully it helps a little sharing here where there are so many of us going thru this grief journey. In case you have never checked out my podcast I wanted to share with you the link where you can listen online or download from your favorite podcast provider. There are over 150 messages to listen and choose from. anchor.fm/jack-church

[@loriekerekgyarto3339]

My husband died April 12, 2019, Jack. We had nine children together in our 43 years we were married. I miss him everyday.

[@carolynhiscock9457]

I’m a widow of almost 6 months ,a lot of what you say is so true for me .

[@silverdale3207]

Best channel I've found for widowers, I've found everything the same. I bought a motorbike after she died to get out and get out of my head for a bit , normally ride alone and it's amazing how many people, men, women and kids just come up to me and start asking where I'm going what I'm doing. It's a great way for a solo male to socialize and I treasure those brief conversations, traveling in a car you're just one of the crowd and you get ignored. The motorbike has been a great help coping with the void, even eating alone at a restaurant people say high etc. You're never alone when you ride , highly recommend it to widowers.

[@arthursaxton4091]

I just lost my wife almost 2 months ago and found this video to be very helpful.

[@alexdewuk]

Great video, excellent to find a channel from a male ' widower' perspective, a big thanks from the UK. I lost my love 5 weeks ago on my birthday ( not that's important and I feel perhaps it proves we are forever connected in the circle of life) . She was 41 and it was sudden, there were health problems before so definitely an element of pre grieving, a certain knowing! I had 2 choices : crumble into a dark alcoholic pit of despair, or... Workout multiple times a day, throw myself into work and get ' real David Goggins", cut out booze, study the science of grief ( Hubermans grief video is amazing, I study it daily on my spin bike) and most importantly allow the grief!! I chose the latter!! My thinking is stabilise the physiology and it supports the pshycology and spirituality... Exhausting workouts and hard focused work plus organising all that needs organising ( plenty of that with my loves passing) ..is that saying I think one needs to be careful of " be kind to yourself" agreed but it can't be interpreted as a pass to wallow in self pity, I have to be strong for her parents, my grief comes second to their loss, the loss of their only child! ... I know I come across as a bit " hardcore" in a way, my daily regime is most definitely militant and disciplined, but I chose this approach as I am a very emotionally driven person( a creative songwriter by trade), a super empath, whose battled alcoholism and crippling anxiety since I was a child, so I go against myself daily, and it works, I use my inner moral guide to guide me in the right direction and in life the right things are a lot of the time the hardest things to do, that's the path I've chosen and I feel stronger daily... I don't mute the pain I face it but I do not indulge it. Thanks again and I've just subscribed and look forward to your other videos I will check out. All the best Alex 😃

[@tragedytrousers1769]

anyone else feel like the welcome mat gets pulled after several months? all the invites and good intentions of some people initially seems to wane after awhile.

[@rositahuff4858]

…today….I one year , I lost my jim….boy I miss him, every minute of every day! …he is with me, right here in my ❤️ heart…and I talk to him. One thing is true…love is never lost! love you jim…wherever you are!

[@michaelmcintyre4585]

Jack, This was one of your best videos. It's been 3 months and being a widower SUX

[@npenick66]

Unexpectedly lost my wife of 20 years just over 4 weeks ago on 1/5/24. She was a little tired and went to take a nap, she didn't wake up. Not a lot of resources out there for guys. I see dozens and dozens of vids for the ladies and very little for the guys. There's even less for guys with kids, we have a semi verbal autistic teen. Very much not enjoying this experience, you summed it up perfectly, it just sucks. I'm just coming out of the initial numbness, shock and brain fog. I was a little wild in my youth, I've broken many bones, had several surgeries, hundreds of stiches in my life but I've never been wounded before. Hate the word widow or widower, all I can think of is that nasty little spider.

[@gracie5554]

Lonely, my sweet husband passed April 3, 2023 and my life will never be the same again.

[@TQuinn456123]

I’m not a widow but your video crossed my path today (the 12 year anniversary of my grandmother leaving for Heaven) and I am so grateful. Thank you for the words of encouragement. I am so sorry for your loss … Pam sounds like she was so special just as my grandmother was to me. Thank you for sharing and please keep posting these uplifting videos!

[@lifewithjackandnicole]

Thank you Tom for your kind words. Grandmothers can be very special and sounds like you were blessed. In case you have never checked out my podcast I wanted to share with you the link where you can listen online or download from your favorite podcast provider. There are over 150 messages to listen and choose from. anchor.fm/jack-church

[@kathypolomcak7760]

First time I went into a restaurant alone I ran out crying I'll never do that again

[@silverdale3207]

Give it another try but be prepared, take a book or something, it's damn hard and feels weird the first few times but gets easier. We deserve and need to treat ourselves as well, plus it brings back happy memories of the two of us sharing a meal together.

[@tonythomas5207]

Hi Jack Im Tony from Warwick uk im a widower my wife died suddenly with heart failure after 49 years one thing i have found out that in England there are no widower groups so i have started one in Warwick

[@lifewithjackandnicole]

Hi Tony, I am so very sorry for the loss of your wife. The depth of this kind of pain cannot be measured but hopefully you get a little comfort from others knowing you are not alone on this journey. Bravo for starting a group. I'm sure thee are many that will be grateful you did this! I would also encourage you to check out my podcast where I do messages on a more regular basis. You can download "Love Letters to Pam" - The Jack Church Show from all the major podcast providers or simply listen online at this link: anchor.fm/jack-church

[@heathera8856]

Hi Jack, I'm not in the habit of writing comments but I felt compelled to do so after watching your video. First of all, congratulations on your channel. It's so refreshing to see people from generations other than my own adding their entertaining and interesting perspectives to this platform. I'm 26, so probably not your typical demographic, and I came to KZbin this evening in the hope of better understanding what my Nana is going through. She lost her husband 4 years ago and sometimes I feel a bit useless when we talk because I have no idea what she's going through. You cracked me up with some of your comments, playing the "widow card" in restaurants to get better service for example 😂, and really helped me to feel less pressure. As you say, being a widow sucks, but we can't change it no matter how much we want to and we can still find fun and joy and laugh in the face of the difficulties life throws us. Thank you for your video and for sharing your experience.

[@lifewithjackandnicole]

Heather, thank you so much for watching and thank you for your kind words. You might be surprised how many folks under 30 watch our content. While we have lots of travel and other videos the grief videos cross all demographics as loss can happen at any stage in life. One thing I have learned and is probably the case with your Nana is the person left behind still likes to share memories of the one they lost. Often times people try to avoid mentioning the person that passed away when in fact you should not do that. There will always be a whole in their heart but there is still room to share and love with others.

[@wandasewell4501]

Thanks for posting this video.

[@HenryJohnK]

Thank you for this video. My beautiful Kathy died 6 weeks ago. This helps.

[@lifewithjackandnicole]

I am so very sorry for your loss. I'm now going on almost 5 years and while I still miss her every day, I can honestly say it does slowly get better. But, it does take a lot of time and patience as you make your way thru the grief process. Take care.

[@jpowell2603]

One day at a time for me. My 4 kids keep me on my toes and thats keep me happy.

[@jeanettebranco1910]

Great video,as always, so true everything you are talking about, you do help me alot,my boyfriend and soulmate passed 8 months ago and I will never be the same again.

[@lifewithjackandnicole]

Jeanette, thank you for watching and sharing your story. Others gain strength hearing from you, me and so many others knowing they are not alone on this joureny.

[@jeanettebranco1910]

@@lifewithjackandnicole Thank you Jack, I will always keep watching you, you give me hope and strength, peace be with you,

[@tragedytrousers1769]

Up to 2nd season of afterlife. some episodes are hard to get through since they are so accurate.

[@BobbyWitcher]

Hi Jack, I’m just under 1.5 months since losing my husband and your channel popped up yesterday after I watched some ted talks on here. I had a 20 year relationship but I’ve been doing some of the things you’ve talked about and have learned some new ones here. I just subscribed and will be watching a lot more of your videos. You’re so right about the lack of male perspective and I love yours so thanks!

[@lifewithjackandnicole]

Thank you so much for your kind comments. I am so very sorry for the loss of your husband. No sugarcoating it...one of the most if not most difficult thing we will face in this life. I would also encourage you to check out my podcast where I do messages on a more regular basis. You can download "Love Letters to Pam" - The Jack Church Show from all the major podcast providers or simply listen online at this link: anchor.fm/jack-church

[@edgrossman8929]

Getting out of bed is the first step, make the bed and ready for the day. If you’re retired these volunteer opportunities plus work around the house

[@minimcewen]

Jack. Thank you.

[@lifewithjackandnicole]

You are very welcome.

[@tessymccall9271]

Died on my birthday, that sucks....

[@papag3587]

My wife Jean died on Thanksgiving. It seemed like the worst day . But now I give thanks on Thanksgiving that I had her in my life for almost forty years . We were high school sweethearts and married for over 34 years. It also was her favorite holiday.

[@marieeckert1070]

I felt like you after my husband died after 51 years. I felt nothing could ever hurt me again. Not true! Just 3 years later My youngest daughter, 45 died in her sleep. No cause of death. She was my rock after my husband was gone. I can accept my husband dying. He lived a long good life. Not a child in her prime. Totally different pain. I feel cheated. I know she is in heaven with her dad. 9 months and it still hurts every minute.

[@lifewithjackandnicole]

Marie, I am so very sorry for your losses. Husband and then a daughter...there are no words. Hopefully when you see these videos and read comments it offers a little comfort knowing you are not alone on this journey. I would also encourage you to check out my podcast where I do messages on a more regular basis. You can download "Love Letters to Pam" - The Jack Church Show from all the major podcast providers or simply listen online at this link: anchor.fm/jack-church

[@highwayhobo1275]

6 lonley months have passed after 49 years with my best friend just a huge adjustment to walking thru life without that loved one but keep yourself and your mind busy helps get you thru each day. Just get out and do something wallowing in your sorrow will eat you up.

[@rachelwesterman1223]

Im finding it very hard since my partner died. He was the love of my life. We were so happy with each other. He died at 41 and at 40, Im also suffering with a lot of jealousy of older couples. I could live 40 more years and it's extremely lonely.

[@karenmartin842]

Thanks Jack, for your touching openness, and honesty. I lost my beloved Ben on Mother’s Day 2021 after knowing him for 38 years, married for 27+. Like you, we had a wonderful earthly marriage despite great challenges, have four children….one in Heaven with Ben, and he was my soulmate, teammate, and collaborator in everything, especially music. A few weeks after he died, I was sitting in the driveway after being at my church music job, crying, asking the Lord why he took Ben after only 27 years. Immediately, I felt him remind me, “Remember, I gave you the desires of your heart.” So true! I had desired a Godly man, a great father, a musician, a gentle yet passionate lover, a best friend, and I received it all in spades! I don’t think their are words to express how much I miss him, and I have absolutely no interest in finding another life partner! We used to joke that the Lord HAD to put us together because no one else could stand being married to either of us! I love how you call Pam your heavenly wife, show people her picture, and tell restaurant staff that she had to go to Heaven. I, too, am open about being widowed. I’ve also felt abandoned by people, especially in church, so connecting with new people, even if I never see them again, has become important. And sometimes, I share that they could watch his funeral/concert on KZbin if they want, and many say they will. Thank you also for your list of positives, and suggestions for living. Part of my job is being the organist at my church. Now, I can practice for hours on end, and during that time, I feel especially close to him, and shed very few tears, till it’s time to drive home anyway! The Lord gave me the strength to play for church the Sunday after Ben died, and at his funeral. I’m so grateful for my music and theater work, something we shared. I feel, like you, continuing to do the things we spent our life doing together, honors our beloveds. I also treasure my memories, and am grateful when they come to mind, even if they bring tears. Some people find they need to avoid grief triggers. If I did that, I’d have to live in a cave! I find joy thru my tears, especially when I hear music we once performed together. So, thank you for sharing your life and experiences on these videos. They ARE making a difference! I will pray for you in your ongoing grief journey. Yes, it never ends, but this doesn’t mean we cannot experience joy and fulfillment as we travel this path, lonely as it may be at times. L

[@kimberleeskwieralski767]

This week last year was the beginning of my husband and myself being sick. My husband didn't survive. He passed away October 6th, 2021. You sure are right..Life will never be the same. I appreciate your youtube videos. They're very real, down to earth, easy to listen too, and helpful too. Thank you!

[@angelosanchez7866]

My beloved wife SONIA went home to be with the lord on November 10th 2021. We were both sick also at the time. We were together for 34 years. You are right, life will never be the same. Sorry for your loss🙏🏼

[@kimberleeskwieralski767]

@@angelosanchez7866 We were together 27 years. Sorry for your loss also.

[@elmer1712]

Thank You, so much Jack for this..I am in my second year of losing my beloved Sweetheart, your words are really encouraging to me,,again Thank You.

[@lifewithjackandnicole]

Thank you for your kind words. Needless to say I am so very sorry you are also on this grief journey. It has plenty of downs and a few ups. Hopefully you find a little comfort knowing you are not alone on this journey.

[@Julian.Castro]

From one guy to another, thank you. Your videos have been very helpful.

[@jeanoneill7595]

Thank you early months for me my husband Stephen was diagnosed just months after we got married in 2017 with MSA C Multiple System Atrophy Cerebellar lost him the week before Christmas 2023. I'm trying!

[@jeromeburdine966]

Our neighbor is a widow of 10 years who is still devastated and has no interest in finding a replacement. We enjoy taking her out to dinner, mowing her lawn, etc. I bet you have gotten the "Well, you have your kids to take your mind off your loss!" We very recently lost a cat tragically and although we have other cats, my gf was still devastated because she realized "You always yearn for the one you don't have". It was a hard way for her to learn that.

[@pjlee2053]

Hello Jack, Please keep doing these kinds of videos even if not live......thank you!

[@lifewithjackandnicole]

Thank you for your kind comments. I thought this "live" video was probably a bit too long but once I get going I find it hard to stop. Either way, thank you for supporting our channel. In case you have never checked out my podcast I wanted to share with you the link where you can listen online or download from your favorite podcast provider. There are over 150 messages to listen and choose from. anchor.fm/jack-church

[@misstbikini]

Its hell, its a nightmare, i lost him on Tuesday

[@kathykohl795]

💔😢

[@linda6838]

Jack, pLease do a live question segment. You help us so much.

[@lifewithjackandnicole]

Thanks, I will look into doing something. I really appreciate you following our channel and podcast.

[@deemarch2089]

Best video u have done. Big thank you

[@lifewithjackandnicole]

Thank you very much.

[@pjones7012]

your best video. thank you.

[@CarnivoreSeventyOne]

Yes!

[@keithwepking9988]

Jack, this is the second video of yours I have seen now. I lost my wife (Karla) only 1 month ago. I'm on the same journey as you, albeit just 1 month in. I share the same feelings as you. Thanks for your videos and sharing with us, as they will help me learn to live with the loss of my wife. I never got to talk to my wife about the angels taking her before she slipped away. So many things I wished we talked about.

[@lifewithjackandnicole]

Keith, I am so very sorry for the loss of your sweet wife Karia. Being just one month in you will have some very tough, dark days ahead. But, hopefully sharing here will provide some comfort knowing you are not alone on this journey. I totally relate on not getting to talk about certain things near the end. I often tell folks it's not like the movies where the music comes up and beautiful words flow from our mouths just as our loved one drifts off to eternity. Wish it did but of course our lives are not a movie and we don't get to write a script...God takes care of that for us. In case you have never checked out my podcast I wanted to share with you the link where you can listen online or download from your favorite podcast provider. There are over 150 messages to listen and choose from. anchor.fm/jack-church

[@edgrossman8929]

My spouse would not what me to give up so I am creating a new normal as my grief support group would say

[@jodipirelli8480]

How do you deal with all of the personal belongings? My husband and I company and we worked together for 30 years we were together for 36 years he died on March 9 of 2022 unexpectedly from a reaction to the Covid antibody infusion the thing that was supposed to help him ultimately killed him so I have a lot of anger a lot of anger a lot of depression! But how do you deal with like his fancy shirts that still have price tags on low suits in his shoe collection his cologne collection stuff like that how did you decide what to do with that

[@tragedytrousers1769]

donate to charities. they will be thankful

[@jodipirelli8480]

Thank you for the reply I did hear that I've had some pillows made of his shirts and some teddy bears made of his regular every day works for me to bring the great peace

[@lifewithjackandnicole]

Jodi, I am so very sorry for the loss of your husband. Needless to say I do understand. Hopefully, you will find some comfort knowing you are not alone on this journey. I do have a suggestion for some of his clothes. Look online and see if you find an organization in your area called "Dress for Success". They are nationwide and provide dress clothes for low income individuals needing dress clothes for work or job interviews. It's a really good non profit doing some good work. In case you have never checked out my podcast I wanted to share with you the link where you can listen online or download from your favorite podcast provider. There are over 150 messages to listen and choose from. anchor.fm/jack-church

[@jodipirelli8480]

@@lifewithjackandnicole that you! I listen to you every day when I go for my walk. And, I follow you on your Facebook. Page. I hope to meet you someday’ honestly, it’s been five months yesterday and it is NOT getting any easier

[@jodipirelli8480]

@@ImranKhan-tj3dr lol

[@carolmusselman8859]

I like your videos, it is my Mom that passed away on 5/1/22, it doesn't seem real sometimes

[@lifewithjackandnicole]

Carol, I am so very sorry for the loss of your Mom. I really think the first year we are in shock and that's why it does not feel real. Sadly, often times year two is when it can hit a bit harder as we realize this is indeed real. However, I do hope you find some comfort knowing you are not alone on this journey. I would also encourage you to check out my podcast where I do messages on a more regular basis. You can download "Love Letters to Pam" - The Jack Church Show from all the major podcast providers or simply listen online at this link: anchor.fm/jack-church

[@carolmusselman8859]

@@lifewithjackandnicole do you still have your parents?

[@tessymccall9271]

Had to watch this again, here in Sept.27....

[@edfrankowski7508]

Awesome sums it up perfectly

[@lifewithjackandnicole]

Thank you!

[@kathypolomcak7760]

So true

[@jodipirelli8480]

Jack I wish that you could answer a couple questions for me the first one is what did you do with Pam's belongings my husband's only been gone for months it's been five months since he's been in the house it wasn't expected there's a missed diagnosis after Covid reaction to a vaccine and antibody regardless what did you do with Pam's belongies her shoes her purses things like that I still struggle and get rid of some of the every day comments T-shirts and things that should've gone anyways but the dress shirts and the fancy Italian shoes that my husband had the cologne jewelry all that stuff and how do you get up and go we adopted a 14-year-old in 2019 I'm 14 years younger than my husband was 71 when he passed in March but how do you get up and go when it's only thing that you've ever done with that person for 36 years how do you just get up and go and not be sad

[@lifewithjackandnicole]

Jodi, I am so very sorry for your loss. It is the most difficult thing we will ever face in this life on earth. You may have heard in my video I gave a lot of Pam's clothes to one of the anchors I worked with in television. I also gave a few items to friends but the fact she was 5-4 115 pound narrowed the field as she wore size 0 and 2. Always had a great figure. The rest of the items I donated but if you heard I kept a few intimate items a cocktail dress and pair of dreams for myself. My kids also took several of her favorite tee shirts and had a quilt made for me. Hope this helps. I would also encourage you to check out my podcast where I do messages on a more regular basis. You can download "Love Letters to Pam" - The Jack Church Show from all the major podcast providers or simply listen online at this link: anchor.fm/jack-church

[@garys1167]

hello all

[@CarnivoreSeventyOne]

Stay busy

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