What’s it like when a nanny is taking care of someone else’s child…

[@sk.n.9302]

I was raised by a nanny my first 5 years. I adored her. I still cry because I miss her. We were torn apart. I am 63.

[@btrigwel]

Your grief is valid. As is your love. I’m sorry that you have spent so much time missing her, but glad you knew that kind of love, very early on. ❤

[@devonhendren8020]

Makes sense because primary attachment is developed from 0-5yo. Praying over your heart.

[@therockbottom5256]

You’re not the only one who weeps for their mammy. Those women are in heaven and know that their babies still cry for them 💔

[@rogertaylor7433]

​@therockbottom5256 .... She used the term nanny....and you used the term mammy. Curious why you assumed her nanny was black?

[@sk.n.9302]

@@rogertaylor7433 My nanny was from pure mexican indian decent. Her name was Teresa Guadalupe. She had beautiful long black hair that she kept neatly braided & though she was poor, she wore beautiful pastel cotton dresses. She would tell me stories every night when the lights were out until I feel asleep. I did this w/ my daughter as well.

[@thebee8415]

Imagine loving the children of the people that hate you. How hard that most have been. These women are Saints. We don’t give them enough praise.

[@terseandtiny1746]

Not all hated and the kids had nothing to do with it.

[@aprilgibson817]

You inherently do have to hate or look down on someone to keep them in the position of servitude and less than in this country. Racism is self hatred against humanity​@@terseandtiny1746

[@vanessarheadart9708]

If not for those children who knew these woman with all their hearts the world may never have changed. ❤️

[@Duckduckobtusegoose]

The children were so innocent and that time you get with them makes a lasting impression on their opinion of black people. It’s hard to teach a child that someone of a certain skin colour is bad when they have years of experience being loved by a person like that, more than they ever felt by their own parents

[@Catalina-Winemixer]

@@Duckduckobtusegoose It’s easy when the parent tells them it’s a black person’s role in life to serve, be subservient. These are the same children who grew up to be teens who hurled racial abuse and rocks at a little black girl trying to attend school for the first time. It takes a lot to unlearn hatred and a caste system based in eugenics.

[@kimbymurakami5592]

It’s crazy these women raised them and were closer to them more than their own mother and they still repeat the cycle of treating them wrong

[@ritawallace-reed7500]

Isn't that amazing? The color of the skin meant more than the love, bonding and care. RACISM IS A DEMON AND A BEAST.

[@ritawallace-reed7500]

​@@master-oppressor Where is this silly question coming from? Don't be ridiculous!

[@ritawallace-reed7500]

​Any one who is an oppressor/ suppresses another human being in order to feel good has low self esteem and is a coward. Race is a social construct. If someone 'white' human being appeared anywhere, people would run for the hills.

[@master-oppressor]

@ritawallace-reed7500 Only an inferior people can be oppressed. Notice she didn't answer. Many things are social constructs. Money is one. Traffic laws are a social construct. Your last sentence proves you're illiterate.

[@kimbymurakami5592]

@@ritawallace-reed7500 thank you someone has manners and isn’t stupid

[@mollycollins498]

I was raised by a "nanny" until I was a teenager. She wasnt an employee, she was my second mom. She was my kid's grandma, even in her mid-80s, she came to help take care of my kid for ~2 weeks after they were born. She was from trinidad and my extremely white, blue eyed, pigtailed self had a *thick* trinidad accent until I was in 1st grade. The absolute best woman I've ever known. She passed last year and I cried so much and so hard at her funeral, I eventually had to pull over on the way home to throw up. I wish I could still talk to her.

[@vannadiaz4259]

I’m sorry for your loss hun , she is watching over you ❤

[@donnaevans5131]

My condolences to you. I know you felt the loss to your heart.😢

[@annepokras551]

I think I can understand your description based on perspective and perception,, and I hope you can understand that she was most likely both your second mom and an employee of your family. Seems like you had a very special and lucky relationship for a long time

[@UrsulaZA]

I lost my “nanny” at 13 to cancer. She phoned everyday on the landline to talk to me and my mum in her last few months of fighting - my mum even tried helping her finish building her house for her daughter (as the cancer onset was unexpected, terminal and quick). I remember the last time she had phoned - she told me she loved me and that I will always be in her heart - just as I assured her she will always be in mine. The phone call thereafter, I remember my mum breaking down and coming to hug me to tell me she had passed. I miss her so much every day and wish I could have given my children the opportunity to have met her, to have felt her presence and warmth.

[@lindavenport9788]

You can talk to those who have passed. And you are heard & remain dearly loved.

[@acesircombe-jellett1004]

I had a nanny until I was 6. Then we moved countries. I still miss her so much, and I go and visit her when I can. Her fridge has photos of her own daughter, but also photos of me and others kids she has raised. I've never known someone with a bigger heart.

[@MariaOffiong-l5q]

So noble of you to be visiting her. Blessings

[@siegfriedkleinmartins7816]

Viola Davies has such presence in scene you forget everything else. She shines.

[@jenniferbloh-michael8662]

I did not realize it was her 🤗

[@Supalapaaa]

THAT'S VIOLA DAVIS??

[@Latebar7609_]

@@Supalapaaayes

[@katherineskrzynecki3347]

Yupper!

[@aetheriumphysics9166]

In EVERY single role too

[@maricalloway7987]

My granny was a nanny… the woman she raised ended up needing her again after she got diagnosed with cancer… when she died, her husband and children were pissed because she left everything to my granny saying “Bobbie’s the only person in this world who ever TRULY loved me” RIP Trink

[@simply_neuroscience]

W move by her! RIP to the beautiful soul.

[@JimiBegbaaji]

They must have been quite rank for her to make that decision.

[@squid5882]

Yes​@@simply_neuroscience❤

[@sestables]

Bless her, Im so glad she got some that recognition for her love and care❤

[@rogueryder3285]

Imagine being asked who's taking care of your child while you're taking care of somebody else's and how it feels

[@Cookie-mg8im]

It still happens today. Filipino women leave their kids to be raised by their parents or siblings and work as nanny's in rich countries to support everyone back home.

[@haironscreen6512]

@@Cookie-mg8imexactly, this world is too unfair

[@sakurakou2009]

​@@Cookie-mg8imthat their choice they choose to do that, black people back then were forced to do that especially during slavery time, and their children were not just raised by other people they were sold to slavery or used as alligator baits

[@andydietrich3689]

@@sakurakou2009This movie was not set in the era of slavery, which was over 150 years ago. This is during the Jim Crow era/“domestic help” - it was a job, so thus the comparison still stands.

[@sakurakou2009]

@@andydietrich3689 no it's not, better comparison would have been indentured servents and modern day filipinos cux indentured servents were willing people who left their poor home countries to work for rich families abroad, but black people were never free to choose, they were forced by systemic plans to be in the lower class of the society even segregated and prevented from building wealth during those times, so they had no other choice but to work for survival even if it mean to work for people who enslaved then less then decade ago.

[@michael8469]

My grandfather owned over a dozen laundromats in Alabama. He told me that he always felt bad about the way black people had been treated, so he only hired black women. I spent all of my childhood being looked after by these women. The called me chubby jowls, because i was chubby. I asked one of them if her boobies gave out chocolate milk… she just laughed and said only one of them did… lol I miss those women.

[@maxwelll3134]

Only one 😂

[@ilonwest7413]

Why did he not hire black men

[@michael8469]

@@ilonwest7413 He actually did. The video I commented on was about women, so I only commented in that context. His foreman was Old Mr Jenkins who had been married twice and had 26 kids. My grandpa bought him a beautiful old farm with a huge manor house.

[@christopherpericolosi-king4979]

That's hysterical. I grew up white in a predominantly black neighborhood. Made friends with Johnny down the street. His mama made the best damn fried okra I've ever had in my life--I swear I don't know what she put in it but oh my god--and I am still in touch with that woman to this day. Also, they have some of the best church revivals I've ever been to.

[@sierralovat5498]

That made my day

[@sheatetables]

I was a nanny for a very wealthy family. I loved those kids so much but those parents treated me terribly. I had to leave but I miss those kids all the time. I hope they’ll remember me when they grow up. When the oldest goes to college, I’ll try to find her on social media so I can show her all the beautiful pictures I took of her. Her parents only take pictures of the other two (she’s always in the background) so I hope it helps her see how wonderful she’s always been.

[@sk.n.9302]

@@sheatetables Please try to find those kids. I wasn't able to reconnect w/ my nanny & it hurts to this day.

[@kaichoukai]

I'm glad you will try and connect with the oldest, as the oldest of four, after my siblings were born I became an after thought. I'm sure you did an amazing job, but you have to put yourself first even if it's a tough decision to make ❤

[@squid5882]

Feel sorry for her, god bless you and the best of luck to her in life

[@rhondahulett9763]

I hope you find her...and she remembers ❤

[@estherikpeme9078]

Awww.. thus made me tear up

[@elvespresley2282]

I had a nanny from Uganda from 1- 14 yrs old. She was my mom. She tucked me to bed, diciplined me, cooked for me and loved me. Im 27 now and I miss her to this day. Last time I heared from her was when her son graduated Highschool. I wish she would comeback. I need a mama now more than ever.

[@sk.n.9302]

@@elvespresley2282 I feel for you, same here. I miss my nanny so much (I am 63). If you can, please try to actively find her. I regret not doing this until much later.

[@Ngt666_]

I know it ain’t much solace, but if you ever need to talk to anyone, though I’m merely 20 and not a mom, I’m willing to listen

[@tobyzgurl]

@@Ngt666_ I read a lot of comments and this one got to me more than any other. Bless your heart for your kindness. Never change!

[@yevgeniyaleshchenko849]

​​@@tobyzgurlHow can you be so naive? It's easy to be so empathetic when you're just 20 and life hasn't broken you yet. It's easy to offer to listen to someone when you are still naive and don't exactly imagine what people are and how much pain they contain. At 20 you think you can handle it but after a while you understand there are limits to your empathy and you can't help everyone, or even noone. Of course they will and should change. More importantly seeing you so impressed is weird, I mean haven't you seen empathy before in your life? P.s. Before calling me harsh, I was also once such girl offering to listen to everyone but after a while I understood that noone actually listened to and helped me. So no, they will and should change.

[@yevgeniyaleshchenko849]

​@@Ngt666_Don't offer something you are not sure you can give.

[@skippershikrapski6583]

My son was cared for at daycare by large, soft Muslim lady that had 11 children of her own by the time she was 36. No one was better qualified to hold my son than she was. She was beautiful to me and always will be. V

[@bnphvt9493]

11...? You serious?

[@rachelfox8108]

​@@bnphvt9493 That's not difficult to believe. My maternal great-grandmother was one of 12 children.

[@macb8675]

@@bnphvt9493idk how long ago that was, but back in the day it wasn’t rare to see big families, after the great depression I mean. Baby boomers and Gen X usually had a lot of siblings, my pawpaw’s mom had 6 kids.

[@UIAL570]

@@macb8675Depends on where it is but it’s common for Muslims to have big families, same way fundamental Jewish and Christian families do. Some places 12 is big but isn’t too crazy, other places maximum of 6 or 7 is seen as a lot. Other places even less is the norm.

[@Souchi-ito]

​@@bnphvt9493 your ancestors had the same.

[@aerynowens4062]

The only positive female role model my dad remembers having was the nanny that cared for him when his family lived in the Philippines. He says he never felt as much affection from his own mother as he did from her. She only stayed with them a few years, but he still remembers. Hes 70 this year

[@sk.n.9302]

@@aerynowens4062 Same here. My nanny truly loved me. My mom was too tough & self directed. I still miss her & I am 63.

[@thomasbernardy4817]

The movie is called The Help a must-see movie

[@DEADPAUL20]

Never seen the movie but I've read the book and it's fantastic

[@jwstevens123]

Thank you movie title😊❤

[@Epic11705]

I plan too; my grandma loved it and I do believe I will too

[@monielpowell6086]

💕🙏💕

[@trakyboy5128]

❤ thank U !!

[@belchbat9955]

When I was born my parents were residence at the hospital and had 0 time for a child, my housekeeper/nanny Mrs Olga raised me. Mrs Olga is family, she’s been with us for 22 years. I’m at college now but she’s still paid to watch my parents dogs everyday. She just hangs out by the pool with them or in the living room watching tv and spoils them like she did me. I think she enjoys getting away from her family but my parents and I are so thankful for her. I’m nearly fluent in Spanish because she taught me since I was a new born. I’m glad my parents treat her so well and didn’t get rid of her when they became doctors and I grew up, they love her as much as I do.

[@subibaig3027]

I'm sure she loves hanging around you guys even if it is just for dogs. She must have made a special bond with your family and family is never always through blood. How lucky of you to have found each other! May God always bless you and keep your hearts kind. ❤

[@sk.n.9302]

@@belchbat9955 Your parents are wonderful. My mom was jealous of my nanny & asked her never to come back. It was such an injustice & I have moved on, though it hurts to this day.

[@mariac4127]

There’s no words to describe the feeling of having to leave a baby you were the primary caregiver for, it’s truly awful. Nannying is not for the weak.

[@Thatricanrose81]

Black and even these times didn’t get enough credit I couldn’t imagine raising children of people that absolutely hated me not because of what I did or who I am because of my skin color. These women were saints ❤❤❤

[@maryhardy6468]

They had to feed and house their children, only available work

[@risitascositas1699]

The cognitive dissonance of hating Black people, thinking they are stupid & dirty, but paying them to clean your house & trusting them to care for & raise your children. 😊

[@ilonwest7413]

Yes

[@tonigreene1951]

​@@maryhardy6468At this time yt women flipped out bc it was after the war and FINALLY Black families could afford to live comfortably on one income, so there were not enough Black women to do their housework, cooking or raise their children for them that a law was passed forbidding Black women to stay home. They were forced by law toaintain a job outside their own home. Don't take my word for it. Look it up.

[@NicoleAman]

I love this! One time I told my mom “why do you eat so much chocolate?” And she said “girl, how you think I keep my color?” I love my mom so much. 😢

[@Allttlelam]

The only people I felt like loved me in my life were the staff. It broke my little heart to grow up and realize none of them would ever come back because they had lives and families of their own. Thank you to those women who gave me that bit of love. I still sing your songs 🧡

[@Isaidwhatisaiddear]

I had a plump white lesbian nanny called Kate. She was the most beautiful person and very eccentric. My ma was very conservative but Kate opened her up so much. She really helped my ma after my daddy died. I’ve trying to find her for years but to no avail. I’m 30 now and I haven’t seen her in 20 years. My ma was trying to find her too before she passed away. I’ll keep looking for her 😢🤦🏾‍♀️🫶🏾

[@averycheesypotato]

I hope you find her. Maybe with social media used so much more now, you’ll hear about each other somehow

[@sandyclements7183]

She’s such a good actress I’ve seen her in several things she’s so sincere acting

[@Picachki]

I was raised by an daycare sitter. I still remember the colored red dye she had in her curled hair and the softness of her vermilion shagged carpet that we’d play blocks on. I remember the cots she gingerly set out for us during nap time and the scent of freshly printed paper her husband had in his hands every morning before he set off to work. I remember the kids growing out of going but since my dad was a schizophrenic I needed to stay. She raised me till I was 10. She’d write notecards of my daily activities to my parents. My color card was pink. I miss her. I hope she knows how much she meant to me. I don’t even know if she’s alive anymore… If not I hope to see her in Heaven.

[@deborahbee7122]

I had a nanny growing up. My momma worked and was a single mom, some of my first memories are with my nanny. I remember going to the rodeo, eating snow, and then I grew up. When I a bit older I got to see her again when she was a barista and she taught me how to do latte art. I was a flower girl at her wedding and was there when she was pregnant with her baby and I got to see him after he was born. She was never my mom, my mom was always there to tuck me in and wake me up and cook me dinner, but she was like my auntie. I’ll never forget her.

[@tonywiesse766]

Only an evil person can hate another human being form the color of their skin. Blood is red

[@the_empath_etc]

It's actually purplish blue

[@r.c.3263]

Considering everyone hates white people who had nothing to do with slavery, that's ironic

[@r.c.3263]

Considering everyone hates white people who had nothing to do with slavery, that's ironic

[@queersoapybar]

​@@the_empath_etcthat's when it's unoxygenated. When it has oxygen, it turns a bit more red

[@birgip.m.1236]

​@@the_empath_etcDepends on iron levels. Mine is dark red. My dad's is bright red.

[@monnieholmes7113]

I had a nanny. I loved being carried by her, nuturing, loving as she paid attention when my mama was caring for the baby...I felt special. ❤❤😊😊

[@DragonSlayer-ii3ww]

Such a profound movie! The writer's words & the cast brought the characters to life. 💕

[@Badakhsxx]

Viola is a QUEEN

[@reneerichburg8023]

YES SHE IS I LOVE HER 🌹❤️❣️❣️❣️ SHE'S AN AWESOME ACTOR👍❣️❣️✝️✝️

[@ritawallace-reed7500]

Indeed!!

[@luna84_]

Oooh, i thought she was a king

[@goodintentions1302]

I spent time in Kenya with a black family that had livein help. Cynthia did everything. The first Saturday evening came & she left to go home. That's when I found out she had two of her own young children at home. 😢 When she came back Monday morning everything was left for her to catch up on. Dishes, laundry, cleaning. When I tried to do the dishes I was stopped. That was a few years ago & I still keep her, & the family in my prayers. I'll never understand how they could treat her that way tho.

[@progressnyikayaramba4118]

As someone in South Africa who's also a nanny... that's how most people are, it's actually the standard here

[@skeletonking4119]

“Because I drank too much coffee” that’s my neighbor who I happily called her aunts says the same thing!!! God bless her! Hahaha Edit : Goodness! 5K likes?! Thank you truly!

[@applesantos467]

We have a friend who is so dark, not typical Filipino brown color. When we ask him why he doesnt want to eat /drink chocolates, coke, coffee and anything with soy sauce he says, it stains his skin!😅

[@AprilArmstead]

I love that answer it was funny😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊

[@LMCorvinus]

a woman told my daughter she had too many mocha cappuccinos 😂

[@DavidByrd-r3d]

@@applesantos467 soy will actually brighten the skin

[@jdangel5109]

P😊😊😊😊😊😂😂😂😂

[@rookthehuman]

When i was little and my momma got insecure about herself i told her that mommas are supposed to be squishy so they can hug you better. i still think so.

[@dawncarson2279]

I just recommended this movie to a friend yesterday. I've watched it many times and cry and laugh every single time. Still hard to believe this was a way of life.

[@valeriewilliams1103]

What's the name of this movie?

[@cal205]

@@valeriewilliams1103Thé Help

[@bobbiharwell]

I have been a Nanny for 25 years, my kids were in school by then. My kids went to college debt free and the kids I raised (some of them still reach out to me).

[@katherineskrzynecki3347]

That is so cool! That they remember and love you!

[@anitadossett4905]

One thing for sure thoses innocent babies loved her not like their parents.

[@jennifersmith3671]

It’s so sad that she did so good in this performance and she literally said it was for white sympathy watching people, and it broke my heart. I thought that this movie was a breakthrough and she hated the role.

[@dianejennings50]

She was a great actress not good great amen

[@kathypiazza7228]

Viola Davis IS a great actress. She’s still very much alive & acting today!

[@Gumbier_Than]

​@@kathypiazza7228 still loved her in "Fences". 🤩

[@Taylor-tries...]

Sorry but this wasn't her breakthrough role. She played a lot of memorable roles before this. 😊

[@Mayakran]

Sorry for my ignorance, but what is “white sympathy?”

[@arkadashi]

Up to these days I remember Clotilde, my nanny, and grandma ,one of the most beautiful, sweetest and loving, black women ever!!!❤❤❤

[@branwenf.3761]

My parents hired a housekeeper/nanny when I was 9 yrs old and my sister's were born.. she was a terrible housekeeper but a great nanny..she was illegal , came from St Thomas. was married and had 4 kids back home with her husband. She came over to P.R. looking for work.. She stayed with us for 5 yrs.. Veronica was her name ,she made the best Pound Cake , I still have the recipe she gave me and I still remember her and miss talking to her. That was 50 yrs ago..

[@PaulCozad]

I was raised by a wonderful step mother. I can feel the love with these beautiful characters. Movie moved me. My step mother had 2 sons after she took me in... My little brothers. I am very blessed to be raised by wonderful people. I miss my momma.❤ This scene always gets me ❤

[@alexandrahartvigsen]

my helper is a literal ray of sunshine and i don’t think i’ve ever seen her cry. seeing her after school is now of the best parts of my day

[@brrrrrrrrino]

The end when the baby’s just crying for her 😭 can’t imagine that pain of leaving the baby who needs you because she has no one else, but having to move on for YOU….im glad she chose herself though.

[@Toniwatwin]

Hate and racism is killing our world,and some truly believe they will see hod after a cruel and evil way of living!!

[@CRuM770]

Hate and racism have always been a part of our world. The only way we can get rid of them is to recognize the roles that religion and nationalism play in them.

[@SOUTHERN_LADY]

Yeah, those dummycrats just won't let it die out, they just have some diabolical need to keep telling people they are SO oppressed and jeep stirring up hatred every chance they get, and every excuse they can find to pull out racism cards😢

[@birgip.m.1236]

What's "hod"?

[@CRuM770]

​@@birgip.m.1236god.

[@Toniwatwin]

@@birgip.m.1236 l meant God😂🫤

[@wendymonterroso2476]

One of the few movies that made me cry. My mom was a maid and took care of a baby from a rich family when i was a toddler.

[@catherineboehm9558]

I was so blessed and loved by my grandma and grandpa. In the dictionary under unconventional love is their pictures I’m sure! Mom was so busy getting more degrees all the time. There was always something cooked as a treat for after school. They owned the grocery store in town. Under 1000 pop. But they never missed a second of being with us. 5 kids. Lord I loved them. And I was broken when they passed. Wonderful people!!! Still miss them but the memories are what gets me by in a sad situation or a bad. I couldn’t stay with anyone who wanted drama in a relationship. Just love and peace. Hard to find. Thank you grandma and grandpa.

[@skyes7369]

I was a nanny when I was in my early 20s. I lived with the family & went everywhere with them. Four kids aged 6 weeks, 11 months, 2 years, & 3 years. I was on duty 24/6 (Sundays off while the family attended church then went to visit his mother for the afternoon). They paid very well & treated me like gold because I was the holy grail. White, English speaking, from a middle class family so I spoke well & had a decent education. Ultra rich People who hire a nanny these days are often quite prejudiced (though would never admit it) so they look for a very narrow set of criteria. Their nanny will be white & speak English as a first language (or as a second language as long as they are incredibly fluent & their accent is not very thick), their outdoor maintenance staff will be Hispanic but the head of maintenance will be an older white man, their housekeeping staff will be POC but the head housekeeper or butler will be an older white woman or man & have English as a first language, often from England. If they have a driver he will be either a mid 30s white male or an older black gentleman. I don’t make the rules, I just observe the trend & this is it.

[@kathibudrock4746]

Viola davis moved my heart sooo much in this film. I still cry when I see clips from it, can't watch it again. Too darn real

[@avariereiner8563]

My family did foster care, I know the feeling of loving someone unconditionally but also knowing that someone could take them from you at any hour of the day if they wanted. It’s a type of love and pain that’s in its own division. It’s like the onset of grief.

[@UrsulaZA]

Johanna. You will FOREVER be in my heart. You’ve raised me, you’ve taught me Dumela and to be friendly with strangers. I’m in awe of you and will forever be.

[@LondonBlue6894]

This movie, with the actors selected, was the greatest! Sad, funny and enlightening. Hard to believe that prejudice and ignorance was and still is in existence....just imagine if it weren't.

[@donnatate458]

I've not seen this movie. I read the book and loved it. I don't know why I missed it, but I shall remedy that oversight. Every clip I've seen touches my heart. That may be the reason I didn't go to the movie. Sometimes seeing the reality of the South in which I was raised is just too heartbreaking.

[@Kathe255]

I read the book first, too. And I really enjoyed the movie. One of my favorites.

[@donnatate458]

@@Kathe255 I'm definitely going to see this movie.

[@Nayyyyyy-do4ou]

May i know the title?

[@Kathe255]

@@Nayyyyyy-do4ou the help

[@Auggie1949]

I’ve wanted to see this movie for a long, long time but just couldn’t bring myself to. I feel things so deeply, so strongly and for so long. My heart literally hurts and I really cry. A lot. But I’m going to watch this movie, finally. I’ll start with the book first, maybe that will be easier on my emotions.

[@EveyCakesUK]

Looking at the comments, it shows how unbelievably important nanny's are to their kids. And how many times they were more loved by the nanny than the parent. It must be so heartbreaking to be separated, it isn't just a job, it's the most important job in the world raising babies.

[@alexandratungstedt4385]

This movie is a gem

[@MariaSilva-xl2kq]

Man. The luck of having a good nanny. If my kids (when I have them) have a nanny this good, I promisse to help her and care for her.

[@erasedcorpseface6913]

My mom's best friend's little girl went up to a gentleman & was like, "I know why's you brown. You ate too much chocolate." Mind you, she was 3. This mortified my mom & her best friend. The gentleman just laughed & patted her on the head with a, "You is right, baby."

[@birgip.m.1236]

And white people were bleached.

[@andreamarksberry345]

This movie made me bawl.❤ Bless all the women who experienced this! I can’t imagine!

[@selickundisa2944]

This drama makes remember that am just like this black ladies in this show. I left my son's when they were really young it's been almost 15 years I always wish I could be with them but counting the responsibility I carry and due to poverty I have to stop myself from thinking.

[@her8923]

Not fucking drama...it's our reality..damm ass

[@DrOmoFe]

Imagine people not raising their own children and treat their own children’s caregivers with unfairness and disrespect.

[@taeko3508]

I'll remember my nanny forever She was an old lady , she used to watch me every Wednesday and during vacations sometimes and every week day as a baby. While she wasn't a very fun person, her cooking was the tastiest thing ever

[@nceguerra]

She's a smart nanny. I'd be lucky to have her. People like her doesn't come be easy.

[@evillemons0228]

I was raised by a single mom in a third world country so she had to work all day, for my first 9 years of life I spent most of my time with my nanny she was basically like a second mom but sometimes it felt more like she was my actual mom, once I moved to the US it was really difficult for me and my mom to find similarities and even get along, now many years later we still aren’t as close as how I was with my nanny and reading all of these comments of people who have had similar experiences makes my feelings feel so validated.

[@DayanaJfr]

I still remember the maid i had for most of my childhood until i was 7. She got deported from my country and was never allowed to return all because she wanted to bring in some souvenirs my mum requested her to bring back from her trip home. Its been 20 years since then. I remember her till this day. I remember the songs she’d sing me when i couldnt sleep or how she’d calm me down when i was upset or crying. I knew i could count on her for anything, even more than my own parents. When she left, i felt neglected and unloved at home. My parents couldnt juggle the 4 kids without a maid. Up till this day i can picture her face in my mind. Helpers/maids are truly heroes. Leaving their own family to raise someone else’s… i have nothing but respect for them

[@shivanidumas6607]

We’ve all had our journeys. The movie script was awesome, and the actress superb. Reading and writing was not allowed for some who served ‘White (EuroAmerican) families. Many had to be schooled in biblical-lessons that did not encompass everyday speech. In real life, @ times, it was a tough role that women who served as Nannies played, leaving their own families to tend for themselves, or looked after by a kind neighbor or relative. Some few were fortunate. Gratitude to those who expressed their love & wholesome memories of their Nanny. ❣️💛

[@BrighterDayPrayerAway]

Bless these womans, if only we all could have had this kind of love.

[@shane8744]

"aint you tired"

[@darkphoenix199408]

My parents worked a lot when I was young. I had my grandma D she took care of me from the time I was 3 months old. She was a church member from our ward we may not have shared blood but to me she was grandma. Until i was 12 i was always at her house. She passed just before covid i miss her everyday. She always introduced me as her grand baby. I dont know who cried more my mom or me when she passed. She treated all of us like family. She treated me way better than my blood grandmother. I miss her very much. For someone to have a big impact on your life as a child they dont have to be blood. Just someone who cares lot about you.

[@jojokeane]

Asking someone in the South to not say "Ma'am" isn't going to work. It comes out naturally.

[@LeiliMana]

That movie made me cry like a child. Incredible acting, Viola Davis is top notch and deserves 10 Oscars

[@AdrienneMoore-rr9xi]

My grandmother was the "Help" who died at 45 yrs old scrubbing floors on her knees 😢 massive stroke from the horrible oppression from raising lazy ww kids who in turn ended up hating her bc she was blk. I hate this movie and cannot stomach it 😫

[@jessicav931]

In the book the white main character is annoyed when the nanny ask for write her stories herself, because she imagined that the nanny's work was going to be full of mistakes. To her surprise the text was brilliant, the nanny had to drop school but her teacher beg her to never stop writing.

[@travishunterbrown]

This is such a good question! I really need to see this movie, all of these scenes have me so invested. My “nanny” of sorts was a Mexican woman that helped watch me while my Mom worked but she raised me with her kids as well so she didn’t miss out on anything.

[@berlinmendez3021]

Viola Davis is such a great actress👏🏻

[@joelewis8770]

emma stone is so young and beautiful here. good thing she smiles a lot now that she's older.

[@dreamingunderwater3531]

One of the best movies I’ve ever watched.

[@michellelunnbeazley5700]

I just finished watching this movie again last night. Such a great movie. Great book too.

[@Kagenoaki]

I love this movie so much, the emotions and the random golden cracks that appear like the "I drank too much Coffee" line, every time I hear it I start giggling.

[@WillowEtain]

I had a black nanny when I was a baby. I was born with a club foot. My mom said she took very good care of me. It was only for a year or two. I wish I could meet her now ❤ and thank her.

[@rachels.9984]

I had a wonderful nanny, Etta, when I was growing up. The color of her skin didn’t matter, neither did mine. What was important was I was getting a good upbringing all around, from those who loved me and whom I loved. I still remember us sitting at the kitchen table playing Dizzy Dizzy Dinosaur… I always cheated 😂 I just liked playing with the dinosaur hahaha. Precious memories; how they linger. ❤

[@robertawallace9817]

I am Scottish working class and we call our mothers mammy ,as do the Irish There is no racial connotation to it. Though I understand in America there most certainly is. One thing they couldn't do though was to stop those children loving their mammys. The parent's in my view really missed out. They delegated the care and consequentially the love.

[@SOUTHERN_LADY]

Similarly, the English call their mothers "Mummy"❤ Wonder how the Egyptians feel about a group of people who lovingly call their mothers "thousands-of- years-old, dead, dehydrated and salted ancient ancestors wrapped in strips of linen cloth"😂??

[@dmx5439]

My grandmother is 104 ...some of her friends had these kind of jobs .....it was so degrading and sad and so hard ...but a sense of humour ALWAYS got them through.....we always lead with our heart 💗

[@eclipses1003]

This reminds me that when I was a little kid, we had our own help in my family. She was from a different country. She would show me the pictures of her family and told me how much she missed them. She was really nice to me and I loved her too. She would teach me all these origami and it was fun. Too bad I can’t remember how to make them anymore. They deserve so much respect and I wish everyone could understand that.

[@geekchick4859]

I was “technically” raised by my parents. My dad went OS for 2 years, my mum was never around and she was abusive when she was. Bloody narcissist. And she wouldn’t accept that I’m ADHD and refused meds. My Nana and Pa, great aunt and great uncle and auntie (who was a teenager then) were the ones who truly loved and raised me. My folks just paid the bills and abused me. 😢 I’ve barely spoken to them in two years, since Nana died.

[@elenarotestan5823]

I love ❤️ Viola Davies, she's one amazing actress ❤️

[@benlanter4718]

I had a nanny for a few years when I was little. She was like a second mother to me. She was from Colombia and always made me such good food, she even taught little me Spanish, funny enough one of the first things I said was “La luz” (light). Even though I don’t remember too much I still remember the feeling I got when I ate her food and I think that’s why I enjoy that type of food so much. She still sends me letters here and there for my birthday or just to say hi

[@zmcerlane217]

This whole scene, aibeleen, Skeeter and Minny all talking about the crazy white folk and all smoking drinking and cooking laughing together was the best scene in the film IMO

[@hjt5894]

I had a nanny who lived in our house. I now take my son to visit her because she's his extra grandma. I feel sorry for my mum and dad that they didn't have the same bond with their children as the nanny did - they missed out on a lot.

[@IELTSPrepPRO-OfficialChannel]

These people have genuine souls who loved more than they were hated❤❤...you have to be a saint to carry that pain and still give love in return...🙏

[@Barbara-sn5gz]

Viola Davis is by far the best black actress out there!!!

[@Khaleesi_Of_Kittens]

But not the best actress?

[@vicvice7081]

@@Khaleesi_Of_Kittens!

[@rachelfox8108]

She is Black, *and* she's the best actress. No need for qualifiers here.

[@jenniferknight2010]

Racist much, Barbara?

[@sanqopearl]

i loved my nanny so much, she was the sweetest woman in the world. i wish i knew where she was now so that i could thank her for looking after me when my mom was working to feed us

[@angelicasundqvist704]

This movie is one of my favorites ❤

[@virginiabrinkley9694]

Being a nanny for 4 years now and reading all these comments rly made my heart happy!

[@DarleneHarris-s6h]

I absolutely love this wonderful movie 💖💕 “The Help “

[@23rdpresidentoftheunitedst64]

Both me and my brother had a nanny,we used to call her our grandma. We went to her house when our parents were working and in the summers to play with her grandkids. She passed away few years ago, we both miss her.

[@Whistlesonthewind]

The comments saying how they miss their nanny and cry(some even said mammy… yes mammy) are so tone deaf, it’s not even cute. In all of your self pity, do you ever consider how much their actual children missed out because their mother had to take care of you to be able to feed them? SMH

[@Black_and_Green]

These comments under the Help are always out of touch.

[@haseulibae7083]

I love that Skeeter DID find what Abelieen said amusing, but there was still a nervous edge in her laugh. Like she wasn't sure if she SHOULD laugh or not. What an incredible movie.

[@CatMommaJ]

Loved this movie so much!❤

[@ArianeGabriellaUmutoni]

These two are very good actors!! I like them a lot

[@hana3703]

I've watched this movie last night. I want to say that her character is so strong and brave. I really liked this and I really like the ending

[@Khaleesi_Of_Kittens]

She is good. She is kind. She is important.

[@aishatjenmi9320]

Title please

[@Mer1912]

I will never forget the woman who helped raise my brother and I. I think about her everyday.

[@user-kev-k5v]

We are all born equal under Gods eyes I always show my deepest respects for everyone it does not matter what the colour of your skin is or where you were born, it is being civil to everyone and civility cost nothing any where in this world ❤

[@jenniferknight2010]

Good, that means you're NOT voting for Trump, eh?😊

[@pinkstarlight]

​@@jenniferknight2010 shut up with that stupid stuff like as if the Dems are so holy 🤣

[@maddisonb4258]

Imagine growing up being loved by this amazing person and somehow not loving and respecting them and seeing the way they’ve been treated as wrong. How many children were raised by oppressed black women back then and grew up no different than their absent parents?

[@bimbam9603]

I'm from the Philippines and we have help, they were sent to us underage, they were 14 and 16. My mom wouldn't want a child raising her children but they are dying from hunger at their province and if we dont accept them as help, they be on the streets selling sex at last option. I treat them as equal or a cousin, one of them want a different channel on the TV, she wouldn't let me change the channel its so funny how she wouldn't put down the remote haha. One time, as we are playing hide and seek, she accidentally destroy a big mirror we had, and I take the blame cause she cried of fear for what its worth. She is also crafty, she made a recycled pillow from chips cover and we sell it for her extra money to send back to her parents.

[@LLight4]

My sister's been a nanny for a few years and basically raised the younger sibling herself. Now, the little girls attended her wedding as guests. We all know it was more than a job and the bond will stay.