What's It Really Like To Get Sober- The No BS Guide

[@PutTheShovelDown]

Inspirational Addiction Recovery Stories: kzbin.info/www/bejne/p6aakJyaoq6Sqac

[@elenn6575]

I am 90 days sober. Everything you say is so true. Its like spiritual awakening for me now . I am seeing my friends who are still drinking and i see how i used to be.. its very sad picture. Thank you so so much for everything you do ❤

[@MelanyGadbois]

I am the alcoholic, and your channel has really helped my other half cope and understand what I am going through. I sincerely appreciate you!

[@terrimoore258]

I hope my husband finds full sobriety one day. He has cut his drinking back which I’m thankful for. However he is bipolar also and says drinking is the only thing that shuts his brain off (along with his meds) He’s had had 45 days sober before and apparently years ago went over 3 years sober. I know he can do it. Amber your videos have helped me so much!! I’ve learned how to help him and myself with positivity.

[@RoseGardner-iv3xv]

Remember whether a person does ANYTHING (good or bad) it is ALWAYS their own decision. Knowledge, logic or practicalities are always secondary to "I WANT."

[@thegoddesswithin8859]

My goodness Anthony. Your courage, humility, insights into yourself and willingness to take responsibility for them are mindblowing. You, sir, have my respect. I see you. Keep going. 🙏🕊

[@PutTheShovelDown]

I second that motion! 🙋🏻‍♀️

[@stephencaudill2422]

Amber you're the best addiction counselor on youtube!

[@PutTheShovelDown]

You're too kind!

[@jodypixley6683]

Anthony I think you are going to save many lives in many ways , Great advice ,great sponsor , coach , I hope you start your own channel ,so many need to hear from you , your a blessing waiting to happen for many , I'm saveing this video to share with others , Thank you for being so real from the heart ! Awesome video ❤️

[@susanschill0524]

Thank you Amber and Anthony for sharing your amazing journey!

[@PutTheShovelDown]

Thanks for watching @susanchill9612!

[@kkl4815]

Girl, I didn't realize what "good sleep" was until I quit drinking. I had the 3 am wake up call for YEARS. I would lie in bed every night and toss and turn w/racing thoughts and a pounding heart. Good sleep came immediately when I quit drinking. Good sleep is better than any drug or drink out there 100%. If I am having a bad day, bc some days are just shitty, I literally go to bed early, even if its 7:00 p.m

[@nikabeautyqueensbag6725]

Hi Anthony it’s so great to see you and see you doing so well. Thank you for sharing your journey, congratulations on how far you’ve come. I’ve read your comments in so many videos and felt I’ve witnessed part of your rebirth too. 🎉😊

[@stellachasteen9451]

You are soooo appreciated!! Laughter/light/love/freedom from the many loads you carry and a wealth of energy to you and yours!

[@PutTheShovelDown]

Awwww, thank you so much Stella. You've made my day 🥰

[@shawna524]

Thank you for sharing your story and for what you're doing to help others. You're a warrior!

[@dianamac2878]

What an inspiration Anthony is, wow he’s a bad ass warrior

[@PutTheShovelDown]

💯

[@lauraparker396]

Thank you, Anthony. Your comments are so helpful. You give me hope for my loved one

[@StacyLeonhardt]

My husband is 4 weeks no alcohol ❤ this video is so helpful for ME to understand him. Thanks!

[@elainedunn2454]

Thanku Anthony keep building that confidence a big well done. 🤗

[@MoneyMattersMo]

Anthony you are awesome!!! I always say that addicts have so much to contribute since they’ve been to hell and back, and God always turns tests into testimony and pain into purpose!! Amazing!!!!!

[@PutTheShovelDown]

💯💯💯💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻

[@jomomma1512]

Thank you for your videos. These videos given me the courage to try! I had tapered down to 5 beers a day, but couldn’t get past that. So I started TSM yesterday. I can’t worry about anyone else’s addictions or problems, I have to be a bit selfish & put myself & getting sober first!!!

[@40ozbeerbellydude]

How has it been going for you? Are you still on the TSM method?

[@lolaapelt8616]

I know this episode is 1 yr old, but my goodness, what a Great one! I thoroughly enjoyed listening to you both! What a difference it made for Anthony to get himself free, then focus on helping others. I even took some notes. 😊So much love and respect for both of you. The time, effort and commitment really do pay off. ❤

[@PutTheShovelDown]

Thanks for listening, Lola. And especially for taking time to leave this nice comment 😀

[@lolaapelt8616]

@@PutTheShovelDown Absolutely Amber! I’ve watched (or listened if I was busy working) to several of your videos now. The info you give out to the families and to people, such as myself, that have had problems with addiction, well it’s just priceless. Gaining more understanding is absolutely key to knowing how the whole process works. I’ll betcha there’s so many people who watch or listen and think “How does she know my story?” That’s how predicable addiction is. But you just don’t know, until you do. So Thank You for enlightening us with your knowledge! 🙏

[@Lacking_something]

Two months sober... Have had constant insomnia (and exhaustion), headaches and anhedonia. It may all be unrelated, but I had been looking forward to starting to feel better by now.

[@Lacking_something]

Headaches now eased and slept well last night. Patience is a virtue!

[@Bonnie55317-w]

This was a great episode with Anthony. He speaks truth about the struggles, but he also gives ideas and strategies on how to stay sober. He talks about grounding techniques, and distraction techniques to keep you on the right path. He also talks about wins and how great it is to be on the opposite side of addiction. This information and his valuable testimony are invaluable. I would like to that you both for this particular video today. It was outstanding !

[@outsidethewall8488]

My partner is on day 13 without drinking and while he wasn't that bad today, the last several days have been hellish with his mood. Made me start questioning the relationship. But I've been telling myself that he's in withdrawal and this is temporary. Watching this video renewed that hope for me and was very validating!

[@PutTheShovelDown]

❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@tinaandfam4751]

Amber, I truly appreciate all the REAL LIFE advice you give! Thanks so much!!

[@hell478]

Hello, I'm currently fighting drug and alcohol addiction. The thing about it is it isn't my addiction, it's my girlfriend's. I say I'm fighting because I feel more at war with it than her but she is putting in a tremendous amount of work to fight also. She hasn't worked a job in over 4-5 years but she is currently working now and has been for 2 months. She's been sober from meth since about June. From meth she was substituting with coke/ crack. She relapsed on that a week and half ago after a month off. Her drinking addiction is actually worse than the drugs were. She just cannot stop. Doesn't matter the hangovers or sickness she goes rite back. I'm at a very close point of being done with the fight but what keeps me goin is her children. Even though she doesn't have custody of them and it's been years I know they would all benefit from being with each other. Her children deserve the great woman she is and one of them communicates with her now giving her hope. We fight a lot about her drinking because I have family trauma from alcohol and substance abuse. We fight because I can see how desperate she gets from not using and it makes me think of all the sacrifices she made to get what she wanted when she didn't have money. She gets really naive and friendly making it easy for anyone to take advantage of her. She doesn't care about what problems arise from her when's she drunk and with it all she lies alot. I've dealt with everything and I'm pretty done dealing with it. I also try to hold on tight because I know if I give up on her there's no getting her back, she'll go down the drain. I know I have to worry about myself more first but she's not just a girlfriend she's my friend and I have a hard time putting myself first when I know she needs my help. Reality for me is that I can't keep up with the help needed because I'm so drained from the road already. Shes had a break in relapse and then tries again. I haven't had any break just fighting fighting fighting and dealing with the lies. I'm introducing her to your videos tonight and try to watch one every morning. Thank you for helping me understand what I didn't.

[@jenb9274]

Praying that you receive whatever it is you need for a complete healing.

[@lynnet8274]

Thank you for sharing your story Anthony - it helps give me hope for my son. You remind me a lot of him.

[@trollsnotwelcome7805]

Anthony explained all so well and his contribution to this video is so helpful and i admire his courage and honesty. Well done 👍✅ to him and continued good health and happiness wished for him and his family ❤️

[@hollyanderson2185]

Question: My husband has been sober for 7 months after 15 years of alcohol. During that time he hurt and traumatized me. I see amazing growth in him, making it much easier to be patient with him. He has empathy, he is thoughtful and loving. But he shuts down any time I visibly feel my pain. Is our history something we can one day talk about, or do I need to lock up my pain around him forever?

[@PutTheShovelDown]

It will get better. It's still really fresh. I'm sure he has a lot of shame about it too. The longer he's sober, the more ego strength he will build.

[@brannels]

Walking around with my ear bud for hours to re-wire my sass😉 Thank you, Amber🙏

[@PutTheShovelDown]

Rock on! 💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻

[@krrevel]

Thank you Anthony and Amber!

[@stellachasteen9451]

I appreciate your honesty and courage to battle the demons🙏🙏🙏. Thank you SIR!

[@carolsage4325]

Forced sobriety? Our son ( age 42) had 2 strokes due to untreated blood pressure and an alcoholic. Now, 7 mos. later without alcohol, been through hospital stays to inpatient rehab for medical and physical therapy’s, to outpatient intense therapies (OT, PT, speech for aphasia). Could our son still feel urge to drink? Does not talk about alcohol or express any desire. Has been warned not to have any alcohol for at least a year or ever by doctors. Not sure what his memories are of his life before stroke . Praying the sobriety lasts forever as he continues to make progress with all his therapies.

[@polarbearsrus6980]

Not "more better"... just "better". Thanks for sharing.

[@TheNmv2728]

You give me hope Anthony

[@Bonnie55317-w]

Same here.

[@edwardduarte7393]

9 years sober buried my family took care of a dad with dementia DID NOT drink. rob Lowe said it best it is a full time job.

[@tinaandfam4751]

Thank you!! I appreciate what you do!

[@PutTheShovelDown]

I appreciate your support and encouragement!

[@kingneptune8120]

I’m ready to ditch alcohol. Weekends are difficult. I’m mostly sober m-f come 2pm on a Saturday it’s on till it’s gone. Tired of the 3 day hangovers.

[@PutTheShovelDown]

Good for you! I can feel your determination 🤩🤩🤩💯

[@kingneptune8120]

@@PutTheShovelDown 50 days sober today

[@dogmom3736]

Everywhere you go, there you are

[@PutTheShovelDown]

So true!

[@The_Professor26]

Thank you so much for making this video ❤. I'm on day 5 and feeling really uncomfortable 🙁 Sleep is rubbish and I just don't know what to do with myself. I'm constantly tired and feel mildly hungover some mornings. Why is that? Please reply. I hope things will get better like you say. I was never an everyday drinker. More like 3-4 times a week, but each time was a major binge 😢.

[@PutTheShovelDown]

You got this, Professor 26. You're almost through the worst of the physical part! Next week, might be emotional. Maybe taok to doctor about something for sleep or get some sort of natural sleep aide. Getting a little sleep will help you build more willpower. .

[@The_Professor26]

@@PutTheShovelDown Thank you. I will summon the strength for next week and look into some sleep aides.

[@elainedunn2454]

16:39 my son's life is awful so when he isn't using his life is horrible and he doesn't want to do normal family things. He has never got so far away from it that his friends so his addict life has always been there. He has no girlfriend or kids. What can I do to help fill the void mind you we have a long way to go but I believe he will manage it. Thanks again for all your support.

[@ProAdsSkipper]

Thank you Amber, you were a light when I needed and I love your channel, I'm super grateful and still working to get there. In my experience everything you say happens and I know people treat you worst when you're sober than when you're addicted haha (happens a lot with everything) especially the close to the addiction circle, also, I got to understand I'm doing this for me not for others also it is abpriority to get myself peace and rest not more drama, so, I'm getting myself some peace, thank you.

[@PutTheShovelDown]

You've got your head on straight! I like it 💟

[@Michelleskiff1987]

Yes peace and no drama and energized every day

[@margaretg8202]

Thank you for sharing your story Anthony! It's great to hear about recovery success and I wish you many years of fulfillment. Amber.... How do I get notified the next time you do a live show?

[@PutTheShovelDown]

Thanks Margaretg8202! I go live every Thursday at 1pm (eastern). Sometimes I also do random live videos so it's good to make sure you have your notifications on. If you normally watch from your phone, you may have to go into settings and make sure you have notifications turned on for KZbin.

[@danshowbizz]

I love your videos, watched a ton in a short amount of time… but the bit about people getting excited about the little things meaning they’re staying sober… well the people suffering from a SUD in my life has hobbies and is learning new skills, excited about a new pet and laughing every day. If he listened to only that bit I’m pretty sure he’d say “see, I don’t have an addiction problem!”…

[@lucypinkz00]

Thank u for your videos. I really appreciated

[@PutTheShovelDown]

You are so welcome, Lucy

[@dawidczerniak5177]

I’ve had many periods of sobriety 11 months 9 months 6 months but recently I’m stuck and can’t seem to be able to get past the 3 months mark. There’s always something I have no idea what to do… I had psychologist working with me for 2 years I joined NA and still go to the meetings done a therapy but for some reason this demon is haunting me and it seems to be getting worse and worse every time I relapse. I started having thoughts that maybe I didn’t reach my bottom yet but bloody hell where is it? I’m pretty functional in all of this… I’m a father and husband I run a small business bought a house and a nice car… but I realise where I’m heading and I’m scared to death that I’m going loose everything that I worked for all my life. I’m really confused and I’m loosing hope

[@pamkgs]

My 35 year old son is has been an alcoholic since he was 15 and most often I can never tell if he's sober or not. Now he drinks a half gal of vodka a day. He can still walk and talk slurring his speech a little and blow a .419. Last Feb he was caught by police for wrecking his vehicle into a tree exclaiming "I'm drunk as s***t" to the police (according the the public record). He tells me all these great things he's doing but I know he's still lying. Court date is Jan 17th and it's DWI #3 IF the prosecutor looks at all records. He can't stay sober for more than 2 days and has been in ICU detoxes more than 20 times in the past 10 years, 4 since August. Every detox he seems so "ready" to be sober. Nothing has worked so far so I took him an hour away (he said he wanted to get some rehab services but the next day he called and said they denied him due to no availability) and he's now homeless. I have not heard from him in 24 hours so I hope he's OK. I feel bad because he wanted me to come get him as I have been doing but I encouraged him to keep trying to get some help. When I let him stay with me he figures out how to drink and then he gets in trouble with police (has DTs and does dumb things) so I can't let him stay anymore. I'm learning a lot from your videos how I have ruined everything by being angry with him over the years. I'm going to start being a great chess player from now on and use some of your strategies! I'm also taking care of myself more and refusing to give him a dime.

[@ObiWan-fj9qc]

Thank you fot your guidance

[@PutTheShovelDown]

You are so welcome

[@aubraehersel7720]

My alcoholic doesn't feel joy. We've been friends for about 15 years. The last 7 romantically involved. He stopped laughing or have any happiness about 4 years ago. All joy just disappeared, even when he's drunk. It's incredibly sad. It's really hard to love and live with a person who doesn't laugh or feel joy. When I show my joy outwardly he acts like I'm mentally unstable. It's just a other way he attempts to gaslight me. Fyi, it's normal to feel joy for the simple pleasure of walking in the sun on a fresh spring day. It's normal to talk with your friends and laugh from a humorous conversation. It's normal to dance a little in your kitchen when a song you love comes on. It's normal that when you sing a song you love to feel happy about it. What isn't normal is just staring ahead blank, feeling you are to superior to relax and have fun, or flashing to anger over every single thing.

[@JuanG-xh3tr]

Hi my name is Juan from kenosha Wisconsin I been sober for 2 years from drugs. And alcohol

[@MelanyGadbois]

Ty very much for what you do!

[@sarahmvivet]

@PutTheShovelDown @Amber Could you please recommend some of your videos that would be good to watch together with your addicted loved one? I think this one may be a good one. Thank you !

[@Jameskenomis3]

Im so addicted to Kratom. On and off for 7 years. The psychological withdrawal symptoms and PAWS is worse than opiates TO ME. I am so lost on what to do.

[@SAMEntalhealth]

Amber, I'm at the end of a relapse. But something is telling me the opiate powder im taking is fake. For multiple reasons, 1, I'm not constipated at all. 2, my brain doesn't feel like it's on an opiate. When you're taking hard stuff, there's this feeling us addicts have in our brains where we can almost feel that there's opiates in our brains. I don't get that feeling with this stuff. I don't feel fear when i run out, it tastes like rotten orange peel lol, and it's the same consistency, the powder. Almost like it's just the same cutting agent. I don't feel any brain changes when i take it, i actually feel sober. I know it sounds crazy, but the guy i get from is known for selling fake stuff witch is why i chose to relapse on his stuff, not my old dealers who i know have hard stuff. I can sleep 10 hours wake up normal. No cold sweating no extreme cravings, nothing. BUT the ritual is what im not shaking right now and it's killing me 😢. I make videos, check them out if you can, helping people get off opiates and benzos just by using their drug. I call it black book advice lol, i get hundreds of emails from people saying I saved their lives. And yet here i am, stuck and I'm literally on the edge of being clean. I just don't have the motivation amber 😢😢 help me lol

[@alexboogam]

Thankyou to you and your guest. Great show.

[@PutTheShovelDown]

Thanks back at ya 😊

[@paula3406]

Merry Christmas and Happy New Years Amber🎁🎄☃️☃️😁❤️

[@paula3406]

I am still trying to get clean.do you know ways I can do that without going to rehab? please let me know and thank you for helping me.🌲☃️🎄💘💐🐨🌈🌷🌺😇

[@paula3406]

I wonder if I will have a better life too after I get clean and sober!i will find out.i won't give up.i feel like the only way I can do it is by going to drug rehab though.

[@Bonnie55317-w]

@@paula3406 6 months 2 times a week... out patient. Helped me tremendously.

[@emilyc9380]

I prey my love figure things out. With or without me. Watching him speed towards rock bottom hurts so much.

[@PutTheShovelDown]

Sending my prayers too!

[@JessRDH]

I'm almost 6 months sober this month. I have very mixed feelings. Up until now it's up and down. Feel good physically but mentally and emotionally kinda suck. Irritable a lot of the time. People suck almost all of the time.

[@rowan1739]

It took me 8 to 10 months to feel better

[@Ziminy13131]

Sleep a lot through the first few weeks. It helps a lot.

[@BeegirlsHoneyHouse]

👍🏽🌎🇺🇸😇Thank you Anthony‼️Thank you Amber‼️👍🏽🫶🏼🦋

[@cynthiamschaffnit2494]

My question is while going thru stopping alcohol how do you fight cravings routines Cindi

[@paula3406]

Me too.

[@paula3406]

For drugs though not alcohol.

[@Jack-il3qv]

I don't know what is going to happen to anybody. I don't even know if they or I, will be alive tomorrow. There is not always a cure for an illness but the best medicine is Hope.

[@Free-flyBE]

My 32 year old son is an alcoholic; but won't try AA because he says it's too religious:/

[@annaberg1200]

How to stop zolpidem??? I'm dying!! Got on Recipes, but get no help to get me out of this hell!! PLEASE HELP ME!!! 🙏🏻

[@PutTheShovelDown]

I had to look up, zolpidem. I see that you're talking about Ambien. That is a tough drug that can cause serious problems. Because it's a sedative, it's important to consult your doctor about how to stop. Depending on how much and how long, some people need help detoxing.

[@annaberg1200]

@@PutTheShovelDown There is no help to be had here in Sweden. It kills me slowly..

[@dannyj7618]

Penal system is so broken - its depressing. And you dont know about it, until you either made a bad decision - or what is more often the case, addiction and mental illness leads people there. Also 60% + of our jails are for probation/parole violations. They use to extend probation to convicts - so when they get out - they get 1 year probation, if they pissed dirty - not only were they send to jail for 30+ days - their 1 year probation, over time and violations, turned into 5-10 years of probation. The who for profit jail system is DISGRACE to say the least.

[@trollsnotwelcome7805]

Not only about cost regarding prison but going to prison certainly wouldn't help anyones mental health

[@shaneross7428]

Amber you're a beautiful human being.

[@abdihassan3637]

How can I get your phone

[@PutTheShovelDown]

We do offer coaching/consultation. Here's a link to learn more: www.familyrecoveryacademy.online/consultations

[@laurieriek6444]

So grateful for all up our videos. Always seem to come up at the right time.

[@PutTheShovelDown]

Thanks Laurie!

[@alisonhollands1122]

I was to laid back, and felt flat for 4 months

[@radakirichenko2007]

10 would love to share my story

[@PutTheShovelDown]

That would be great. We go Live on Thursdays at 1pm eastern and usually bring someone on the show.

[@debstanbra369]

👍👍👍

[@gelleh.5456]

Almost entertained a ex alcoholic (6 months) he was a angry verbally abuse lunatic.. never again

[@PutTheShovelDown]

Sounds like you made the right call, gelleh!

[@KWilliams-y2g]

👍

[@JessRDH]

You have never been an addict yourself, you can tell

[@Ziminy13131]

god shit again. Can we offer something to people who dont live in a fantasy world?

[@nhloniphogumede]

Dear Amber I hope you are doing well. Thanks a lot for your videos, they truly go a long way in helping. Would you mind sharing your insights on pornography addiction... Keep well Thank you.

[@PutTheShovelDown]

Thank you for your kind words, @thabogumede1835! I'll put that on my list of topics.

[@vickistclaie862]

Funny how obviously you are not talking about methamphetamines because all you want to do is sleep.

[@NaStashaLeBlanc]

I’m going into treatment this week for the 6th time I have never been 30 days in three years and I’m preying I have the strength to achieve this goal this time I am weak about the two weeks in and my depression has set in my pain I run from is a weakness I need to stop running from the overwhelming feeling of doom and anxiety the feeling of my life will never feel any better I give into my addiction and use again I need to learn to push through this and believe it will get better here in my town we only have 5 day medical detox only we have no rehabilitation centres that I can afford so I’m preying I overcome this problem with myself staying clean ❤🙏 I just want to be clean it’s hard to get to the good part but I need to fight through the crappie part I prey to god I have a better outcome this time 🙏🪶🤍

[@Bonnie55317-w]

Stay with the process. With time.. you will feel so much better. Keep fighting the good fight. It is so worth it on the other side. Best wishes for you. !

[@tracyhouston]

Just starting this but I want to see if this lady is going to talk about Subutex or Suboxone and what that really does and how the detox from that is the worst.. because I promise you guys it.def is.....😊 coming from non textbook peer support specialist...