What's the Most MISUNDERSTOOD of the 16 Personalities?

[@uri4263]

So to sum it up: INFP: "I'm so misunderstood by society..." INFJ: "Dude, I don't even know who I am."

[@pockey_ez7178]

pfft, accurate

[@shikhasuman871]

Damn! I can relate. XD

[@maaiker2977]

That's why the infj likes mbti so much, it explains to us who we are and why. Instead of being mindful of our own feelings (which we suck at) we get to analyse it rationally.👍😃 Bonus: its a tool for us to explain ourselves to the world as well. Even things like our stress response makes sense now. We go into introvert mode...so NT. We try to outsmart our feelings....yeah not happening. So we end up in a loop. But brightside when sh!t hits the fan at work I am your go-to girl. Usually I saw it coming weeks ago and have been in F mode trying to guide everyone and make them feel harmonious. But when sh!t hits the fan. I am no longer worried about everyone's feelings nor my own(I never do that to begin with)....everything goes nice and clear in my head....completely rational. This needs to be done....this way....NOW... either help or get the F out of my way.

[@jumokeogunsola9549]

enneagram type 4 versus 9

[@johnpett1955]

I am an INFPs but I think I can emphasize with the INFJs (not only because we NF personality types tend to be empathetic) but because in the end we really aren't too much different.

[@beingme2855]

INFJ's INFP's INTJ's and INTP's: **sees title** I've been summoned!! Edit: Sending hugs to all the xxTJs feeling misunderstood🤗 Another Edit: And also one of my best friends said there's at least one person who'll understand you. Always. I believe she's right. Maybe you haven't met them yet but they are out there😌. And if you find that hard to believe, there's 1.2k people who has liked this comment as of now. And we are all here for you (Am I the only one who finds 🤗 emoji to be a bit creepy?? Idk from the moment I discovered Annabelle, the possessed doll, was one cute fluffy doll, this is how I imagine her climbing the bed to choke the human)

[@Apeiron242]

No need for the apostrophe's for plural's.

[@beingme2855]

@@Apeiron242 That's true (First time using that emoji!!) sorry😅

[@calebk1841]

absolutely!!!

[@the_pure_poisonrj5487]

oh as an INTJ I'm afraid you're so goddamn right

[@thecovensagainstthethronea4430]

As an infp yea

[@ShowThemUrLove]

As an INFJ I don't blame anyone misunderstanding me. Sometimes I don't unterstand me either.

[@JustineAdlong]

Right?!

[@noeliagutierrez4223]

Yeah I was just going to say INFJ has to be the most misunderstood because even me a perceptive ISFJ can't understand them and my INFJ friend even told me that he doesn't even understand himself after I told him I don't understand him. It's just part of the charm I guess 😂 and it's nice to have a friend where you don't know what they'll say next

[@kelleyjogirl]

I relate as an INFP

[@jackrabbit3472]

Yeah I get ahead of myself but I know everything I say can be understand it's just a bit to much for me and others in this world.

[@rskelli4063]

Same.😀💔

[@jonathantupaj1776]

I think INTPs have a unique type of "misunderstoodness." While very understood scientifically and typically, if an INTP met someone randomly they might be the hardest to understand for the other person.

[@squiddies6896]

I really agree with this.. I think entps/intps probably have the most trouble with being ""misunderstood"", but to be misunderstood and actually care that you're misunderstood is pretty different to that 😅 I just think out of the types, those have the personalities of those people who are going to be eccentric and do their own thing

[@snarkymcsnarkface1863]

oh I don't speak my mind around people I don't know. I just shut up and watch them. even people that have known me for years still end up doing a double take half the time with the. umm could you please clarify/explain look. or my brothers, "you know, we were not privy to the conversation in your head use your outside voice."

[@jonathantupaj1776]

@Josey L my point was that if you study them it makes sense but if you weren't into 16 personalities stuff you'd struggle to understand them, who they are, and how they interact with the world in general.

[@snarkymcsnarkface1863]

@Josey L ya we are literally open books our faces may as well be neon signs. Flashing the thoughts in our heads. But when you don't know how to read the billboard and we open our mouths. It's a train wreck.

[@voltsp288]

Exactly

[@Sofia_Madelén]

I think this video actually proves INTJs are the most misunderstood type. We were immediately dismissed because we "don't care" if we are misunderstood, which is a misconception. We present ourselves as not caring, but that doesn't mean we don't. We actually want people to understand us on a deeper level so when people think we are cold or mean when that's not really our intention, it hurts. We want to be understood but our type is seen as only cold and heartless, our other more hidden sides are dismissed so our intentions are often misunderstood. We are more than what we seem. We are misunderstood. - INTJ

[@Jooney91]

Exactly. I believe it's not just me but most INTJs see showing our emotions and care like getting naked, it's intimate and we feel vulnerable doing so. It doesn't mean we don't feel and don't care, Ni-Fi loop can be actually pretty hard and cause depressions. But because of present Ni and lacking Fe it's very hard for us to connect with other people, we are like some different kind. But we are humans so we need to be accepted, too. (So glad to see another INTJ female here! Sis you are not alone, don't worry ❤️ )

[@suburbohemian]

Yes, exactly. Wo do care when we're misunderstood but as being misunderstood already places us in a place of vulnerability, confessing we are hurt that we are misunderstood is a double hit and then why would we want to expose ourselves further to someone who clearly doesn't get us? Nope, we shield it instead. Which is why I am so grateful to have an INFP gal as one of my bff's cus she is willing to try to get me even when she disagrees with me on something.

[@monito3575]

Intjs were also one of the types I thought of!

[@Sofia_Madelén]

@@Jooney91 Don't I know it, I'm currently in therapy for depression and it's probably the hardest thing I have ever done. Opening up about the things I've hidden even from myself and letting myself feel everything that has built up inside of me. It's terrifying and horrible to feel that vulnerable and not know what to do with all those emotions. Nobody can tell me I feel nothing or that I don't care, because my heart is breaking and I feel every beat, I just don't show it. What I feel is private, nobody shares every thought they think and I don't share every feeling I feel and sometimes (most of the time) I need time to figure out what I'm feeling. I need time to understand it before I share it, if I chose to share it. It's kinda sad that some INTJs have become so good at pushing their feeling aside that they sometimes don't even realize they feel things, when I know how deeply we feel things. I've learned the hard way that sooner or later those feelings catch up to you, no matter how hard you try to hide from them, and when they do 💔 It's good to know I'm not alone, I've never met another INTJ before, let alone a female one. ❤️

[@Jooney91]

@@Sofia_Madelén the bright side of being INTJ is that we don't really know how to give up so I'm sure you'll find yourself a way out of this nightmare. I've never been to therapy, but writing a journal was big help when I was at the same point. Once I made my mental health ultimate priority and a project for my future, things started to get better and I believe that seeing it as project might help you to feel better, too, maybe even let you be okay with being helped. Eventually you will learn to recognize your emotions and that way gain a control of them, ability to process and let go. You already know that it's okay to feel what you are feeling so don't push that thought away by your Te. Te is sometimes terrible, overwhelming and way too "loud" as a function 😄 I trust you will make it ❤️ And about INTJs, I love Frank, but he is an INFJ... so I also follow LiJo and AzuraPsych here on YT, if you don't know their channels already I highly recommend.

[@chaddad4046]

As an INTP, extroverted feelers have told me that they can never “get a read on what I’m feeling.” I’m assuming that’s a complement.

[@YtSab]

Yeah, my mom and my sister says that to me

[@zacfromArkansas]

I’ve heard that so many times in relationships. I always think “well look at my actions”

[@amjthe_paleosquare9399]

INFJ mom knows exactly how I feel almost always. Maybe because of that pesky Ni Fe. But also, I seem to wear my feelings in my sleeve (I believe that's how the phrase goes). If I'm mad I suddenly don't have energy to deal with that one, is I'm sad I'm quiet, if I'm happy I look around and try to take part in the conversation. And I know this partially because my mom tells me what I look like then 😂

[@viktorija4485]

OMG as I write it 😉

[@kittynefarious2293]

I always take it as a compliment 🙂

[@andreas_rr]

as an INFP, i'd definitely say that "INFP" (the type itself) is the least understood type by others, since Fi (especially paired with N(e)) can just have so much variety and can be so much more than "only" being emotional. there are so many INFPs out there who can be just extremely different, and sometimes because of that not seen by others as an INFP, since they compare you to the "typical" INFP

[@KellySandra716]

i agree... i question the infp in me. lol I also think as an infp age, changes much of "typical" behavior

[@trinaq]

Precisely, the introverted, intuitive feeling types have the capacity to be misunderstood the most, since others may fail to understand their complex ways of thinking.

[@Brainiac_420]

My older sister is an infp while I’m an entp. So it hurts having my sister live a superior life even though she’s a piece of whit

[@shade0mirth]

@@Brainiac_420 hurts whom? For all we know, that just puts you on an even playing field...whatever a "piece of whit" is.

[@hmwith]

Yeah my male infp partner acts socially like the istp stereotype but he's def infp

[@marshallgrey2159]

"What is the most ___ type?" me (INFP/INTP): here we go again

[@ivyom4392]

Intj/intp/infp: here we go again

[@moody_flowers2854]

Haha so true 😂

[@jerronng5568]

Tbh I feel like infj is usually in also (Not always but ya)

[@johnpett1955]

Definitely not the most common type.

[@Mayuapril]

Aw s**t here we go again

[@LL-muddy1]

As an INFJ, believing others can fill in the blanks is my pitfall. It doesn't occur to me they aren't able (or don't even try), which leads to most of my miscommunications. As for not understanding myself, I've decided I'm all the things i express, I just turn up or down the volume on certain traits depending on who I'm with. Which I think is why I feel most "myself" when I'm alone🤷🏼‍♀️

[@nininyoko13]

I relate to that so much!

[@Yuanyuanzz]

Haha… yeh it’s horrible cuz sometimes people just don’t understand why I’m upset. I’m sad over what their actions mean in the big picture or the way it has made me feel overtime, so it’s hard for others to get it because they think I’m just upset after the seemingly trivial mistake or argument we have so it seems I’m just over reacting to the small thing that they did when I’m actually upset about a bigger underlying issue.

[@spenster340]

It's always the bigger picture for us. I simply get upset when people don't get the concept I'm thinking or are they even trying to

[@alyseh9539]

Ive watched people completely forget a conversation we are currently having when I call references to something and they are unable to fill in the blank or connect the two things together. I've watched this happening while reusing the same words they've said and somehow I'm the weird one. Then I have to recall the entire conversation and guide them by hand to their own comment to explain what I'm talking about. I try not to look at everyone like they're stupid but it's very hard.

[@alyseh9539]

@@spenster340 I know exactly how you feel then when you end up doing most of it yourself you get the collective "Ooohhhh, wow I had no clue what you were talking about." It's like yeah cause you weren't listening and was trying to "fix" it instead of just doing what was asked of you....😁😁😁😁😁😒😒

[@slosh177]

I am an INFJ, and being misunderstood just kind of becomes par for the course. I'm more shocked when I am understood because I'm so used to not being understood.

[@spenster340]

Yes!!! When that happens I just burst out in joy knowing that someone understands something the way I understand it

[@Eleora1997Msia]

lost in my head is no problem at all...

[@rileysinclair7805]

I have 2 friends at school that understands me decently gonna miss talking to them when they graduate

[@slosh177]

@@rileysinclair7805 awww, make sure to stay in touch with them. Its hard to find people who can understand us.

[@annmoore321]

INTJ: Misunderstood, and okay with that. Yes. I resigned myself to this ages ago. The people who actually care are the ones who will reach back when I reach out, and will ultimately come to understand me. Though, I admit that it gets tiring, constantly reaching out and having so few respond. If you can go through life and find one true friend, count yourself blessed.

[@bunny_0288]

Awwww

[@annmoore321]

@@bunny_0288 Maybe. The ones I am closest to now are my mother (ISFJ), and my husband (ENTJ).

[@kaydenbreak4283]

Yes so true

[@I-luv-sharks]

sadly, by being a pretty accurate stereotype of an intj i can confirm this is really a thing mostly we're misunderstood as "ignorant" or "rough" and most of the times we are not, we're just like "meh :/"

[@WOLFGANG634]

INTJ-A That’s what I’m waiting/praying for. I hope to find just one person who wants to take the time and effort to truly see me the way I’d do for them. I also have been actively working on breaking the people pleaser in me. Which I sometimes feel like comes from seeking validation when you’re already feeling misplaced. INTJ’s don’t feel like they belong, at least in my experience, so I think it’s an important lesson to learn as quickly as possible. We don’t need validation from others in order to be valid. The way we think, process, and feel is all valid. That’s what’s been helping me as of late. I hope this helps any fellow INTJ’s.

[@ambreenali.]

James' words hit me hard. He's so right about INFPs getting misunderstood by society. It's like people kind of have a free pass to tell you how dumb you are to even think in a certain way and how your ideas would never work. They can't see the big picture like us 🤣

[@leonorcrafts9877]

Could other INFPs tell me if they find sense in this: I’m late to arrive early

[@wlwlwlw3908]

My INFP once said, "the vast majority of seahorses will die without ever having seen a real horse" finishing the sentence in a tone like he was genuinely about to cry. You are too precious for this world

[@rynothealbinoryno]

@@wlwlwlw3908 lol i’m sorry but I would never cry over that thought alone, but I can totally see how my fellow INFP brotha or sista would, and I might shed a tear over how tragic a notion that is for them. damn this empathy. Oh and I like how that specifically said “vast majority” as is there are a small handful of lucky seahorses that can cross that off their bucket list.

[@wlwlwlw3908]

@@rynothealbinoryno Guess I'm gonna have to manipulate reality by putting a seahorse tank in front of my stable to ensure his statement is accurate

[@halfinlove]

@@leonorcrafts9877 it means you're on time?

[@bunny_0288]

I completely agree with your conclusion. I'm an INFP and my best friend is an INFJ. We both feel misunderstood by other people, but I do find that she is misunderstood more than I am in a way. She tends to put others needs and feelings above her own, so she downplays a lot of what she feels. Even when terrible things happen to her, many times she lets it slide or acts like it wasn't that big of a deal. She tells me crazy stories about horrible stuff that happens to her and is so nonchalant about it, and I am fuming and completely outraged on her behalf at whatever injustice was done to her. I frequently remind her that her feelings matter, and it's not good to bottle stuff up. And when big bad things happen, it's okay to be upset and let people know you're upset because they can't make things better or fix the problem if they have no idea that you're even upset with them. As an INFP, on the other hand, I'm just quirky and weird, so people don't "get me" or click with me very often. So for me, it's not so much that I'm misunderstood, they get that I'm whimsical and strange. I'm pretty unapologetically myself because authenticity is something I strongly value. So I guess it's not so much that I'm misunderstood... I just think people don't relate to me very easily which can feel like I'm being misunderstood, but it's different than what she experiences. I just have a hard time finding people who really like and click with me and want to be friends with me. But the people who do know and are close to me know me really really well, but she feels like even people who have known her for years don't really know her. I think we are really good and compatible as best friends, and I'm so lucky to have her because she truly gets and clicks with me, and I understand her better than almost anyone :)

[@ForestG]

Having experience with a close INFJ, being an INFP myself, I can definitely understand this observation. Not a hard and fast rule, but it seems like a theme. INFPs feel seen but then rejected, whereas INFJs feel unseen and invisible. I think our most primitive desire is to be seen (and preferably to belong), but INFJs sometimes can't even get the former. As an INFP, out of feeling denied and misunderstood in that people fail to take time to read deeper into who I am, I tend to retreat and hide myself: This further exacerbates the sense of feeling misunderstood. As for the INFJs plight, I believe there is good reason to believe they are generally at the top of the list as being the most misunderstood. I think I'm just speaking in unfair generalizations though--if I'm being honest, I live in a reality where I constantly feel like the most misunderstood human on Earth. Ohhh the vivid extreme emotional experiences as an INFP are all the rage. Is it too late to change types? Jk, I don't want to.... but I do. Thanks.

[@ShallowQuill03]

As an INFJ I relate to the fact that even my closest friends sometimes struggle to understand me, but that is also because it's hard to understand myself and even harder to express my feelings

[@GlitteringMagic]

This is a very interesting insight. This sounds exactly like my sister and myself, however our types are swapped from yours. I, an INFP, relate strongly to how you say your INFJ feels/thinks, and my older sister, an INFJ, is exactly how you describe yourself (INFP). I know that the two types are seen as very similar, but I still find this peculiar and interesting. 😊

[@nunahovy]

Man, i would want a close friend. I'm an amvibert INFJ, and since i was younger i was really sociable, but idk how to talk to the people of my age, i just feel like they don't like me, and that's why i feel misunderstood, i want a social life, but i feel like i'm bothering everyone by just talking whit them. Also, i normally tend to have really controversial opinions, and if you ask me about something i'm gonna talk for hours, except if is a controversial opinion or something that i feel like people aren't going to understand. Is frustrasting

[@shelbygreen8293]

As an INFJ this is scarily accurate. My friend says the same thing!!! Sometimes it's just easier for me as an INFJ to push off my feelings for a while because tbh, I feel like I don't have time for the many mental breakdowns that I need🥲

[@azarishiba2559]

As an ENFP with INFP and INFJ friends, I agree with this video. I think actually any type can be terribly misunderstood when they are with the wrong person. For example, I have been misunderstood and seen as irresponsible, lazy, egoist or even crazy by people. Also I have been misunderstood by INFJ's, especially because of the conflict between Fi-Fe and Ni fixation on an idea about certain person. In other many things we understand each other very well, but the few points we don't understand tend to be critical. I think also the type most likely to understand you is the energy inversed counterpart of you, that is, the extroverted or introverted counterpart, since all cognitive functions are the same with the less different order. For example, I feel understood the most by INFP, and at the same time I think they feel as well understood the most by ENFP. EDIT: ¡La santísima! I never expected this comment to have so many likes, ¡Gracias!

[@andreas_rr]

as an INFP (with an ENFP bff), i can confirm, ENFPs are great bffs for us

[@teddie552]

I agree. I'm an infp and I feel instantly at ease with ENFPs.

[@ory.0ry91]

Personally, I'm INFP and I have an ENFP close friend, but we have really different visions on many things (love and relationships for example). However, my best friend is also INFP, and I think we both understand eachother very well.

[@delaqueenpinkel5229]

I looooovvee ENFP! INFJ here. But maybe it is because my ENFP is 17 years younger than I. So we never feel (as far as I know) misunderstood by each other, since we have tolerate each other a lot. 😁

[@audreyhogancamp1239]

ENFP here, I can confirm ;). Yeah I have a reputation of being crazy, though I try to embrace it 😁, I do get along with almost everyone though. But when I don’t, I DON’T. My best friends are actually an ISTP and an ISFP

[@ceilinh6004]

I think that whether or not we feel understood by those around us can depend on context. I studied Fine Arts at university, and I felt very out of place as an INTP. It was almost as though I didn't share a common language with the other art students.

[@leliavoinea9402]

I find very interesting when a INTP studies something different like arts. I mean for me your personality type has this amazing mind that comes with the most interesting theoretical knowledge and skills that to be honest it is a little hard to follow with my INFP mind. What INTP do have in common with INFP is the fact that both types of personality deslikes very stressing situations, are a little bit prone to both procrastinating and overthinking everything and anything because of the NE that makes us to consider all points of view evan the crazy and unpractical ones, deslikes to be pressured to do what others tell then to do, deslikes rigid rules and mindset, deslikes completely negative feedback, are not fans of people with zero imagination and creativity, and have a inner child like joy in expressing their feelings.😄

[@iannisdezwart]

Hahaha sounds like me (ENFJ) studying computer science. Lots of INTPs, many ENTPs, some INTJs and a couple xSTPs. I met one INFJ and she's my soulmate already (she's into MBTI too, oh my goddd). Being an ENFJ among these kinds of people is really weird but fun; it feels like about 60% of the 500 people in my year know me 😳. Also since basically everyone is an INTP, they all kind of have the same problems and pitfalls and it's really interesting to psycho analyse everyone to the max and make people understand themselves. I am probably gonna do a 180 for my minor and study psychology hehehe 😆. I really do like majoring computer science though, so I'm gonna finish my studies and get into the field :)

[@ajmore]

Oof

[@bbhdd6181]

One of my good friends studied Fine Art and she is also an INTP :) She often expresses that she felt out of place amongst a group of people who adopted the identity of 'artist' and romanticised it in a way she didn't. It's really interesting.

[@leliavoinea9402]

@@bbhdd6181 honestly I genuinely curious what do you exactly mean about adopting the attitude of an artist and romanticized it? Haw exactly would you define artists or people that are into creative arts in general? To me artists are actually not romantic at all. Most of them tend to struggle with many feelings, harsh reality facts such as financial matters, struggle to find a place of their own in the world of creation etc. When I write poems I do that because I feel compelled by a illogical need to express miself in a creative way and I struggle because many times my innermost feelings that tend to be tangled brust out on the surface and is hard to express them even in my own native language Romanian. Also I want to point out that I am definitely not an poet just an amateur woman that writes form my own needs. And a farmer woman with a somehow bohemian mind. After all in my vision profesional poets are the ones that truly have both academically unparalleled poetry talent, originality, creativity, are legitimately published etc.

[@delaqueenpinkel5229]

As an INFJ, I am so used to be misunderstood ... but then I have this thought : why do I need to be understood by other people? Just let me live my life as it is.

[@spenster340]

Becauss we are empathic people. We long for love and acceptance but at the same time, we are difderent on a higher level(like the wah we perveive things) that's why most people can't understand but since we long for acceptance, we want to feel understand but we can't They can but cannot and can but cannot Frik, it's hard to be an INFJ

[@sethvandycke904]

@@spenster340 I agree with both of you that’s why I only let people who wouldn’t intentionally hurt me when I let them understand me

[@amanmeal]

I dare say that as an INTP, I have great difficulty communicating. There are feelings or thoughts that make sense inside my head, but when I try to externalize it, it doesn't come out the way it should.

[@priyanzhu]

i feel ya - INTP

[@xfairfaeriex]

As an INFJ with an INFP sibling, I can confirm that this is so true! We have a really hard time communicating with each other based on the reasons Frank mentioned and both feel really misunderstood by one another, other family members, and in general. I almost feel like we have the "Misunderstood Olympics" going on between us.

[@shivanshilaxmi4850]

The worst is when your friends misunderstand your jokes.

[@trinaq]

Too true, the intuitive feelers tend to feel misunderstood the most, particularly the introverts. This is especially valid if they're constantly surrounded by sensors.

[@coacobird]

I'm an INFP with an INFJ sibling as well. It takes some time to get ideas across but we manage. I think it helps that we're twins and so are a but more in tune with each other.

[@ImmanentizeTheEschaton]

@@coacobird Interesting! Are you fraternal or paternal? I'm guessing fraternal because wouldn't you both have the same type if you were fraternal and raised by the same parents in the same environment?

[@coacobird]

@@ImmanentizeTheEschaton fraternal, although when we were little we looked so much alike you would have though identical. For some reason we still get mixed up even though we look much different now.

[@Meikan_is_here]

Man These sponsored sections are getting funnier, and also more professional the editing is getting cooler as well I'm really happy to see FJ's contents gets even better every time

[@DeathAngelSuki]

INFP here with an INFJ bestie. Surprising enough we actually understand each other pretty well I would think. I've for many years have acted like a mini therapist for my friend(she does the same for me) and so we have both allow each other the ability to express our inner values to each other and have found that we share a lot in common and few misunderstandings. As an INFP I agree that it can be hard to express yourself to others, but it can become a little easier when you're to see where the other person is coming from and how you can bridge the gap between you and them. Such a thing is harder for us as we are Fi dominant and primarily see from only our perspective. I recieved a lot of help in that area from my ENFJ dad and so I'm getting better with my Fe. Just keep working at it fellow INFP's!

[@tabithalandon4793]

I was literally searching for videos about why INFJs feel the need to understand everything and be understood by everyone! I came to this conclusion last night after months of feeling lost. I graduated last year with my bachelor's degree in social work and still haven't found a job. I feel lost and without the one person who ever understood me when I lived on campus, I feel like I will never be that happy and understood again. This was what I needed 😊

[@kindredspiritt]

Then this whole channel is for you!

[@tabithalandon4793]

@@kindredspiritt thanks! I love this channel!

[@spenster340]

Your exactly like me! I'm 17 years old and I'm glad that I'm aware of this since I was 15 I have this thirst to understand everything that I can so that I can share it with people for betterment of the society, but when I do, they can't understand it and that makes me question why they can't understand it and that drives me to me not understanding myself. It's a hard life until I realized that we simply are different, we see things in a wider and different view and the reason why others can't percieve it is because they are simply different snd unique

[@xenias5618]

Feeling misunderstood has become a natural status in my life. But I have a twin sister (ENFJ) I can talk to, and she understands me. Without her I would feel really lonely.

[@NastassiaEvans]

As an INFJ, I admire my INFP daughter’s ability to know and be who she is without apologies. I am more myself than I have ever been because of her and watching other INFPs. Being a social chameleon for me led to a nervous breakdown. I had betrayed who I was trying to be what I thought everyone else wanted and expected of me. I want to be understood the most by someone that loves me. I feel like the more vulnerable I am and open to letting other people see my inner most thoughts, which at first was extremely uncomfortable for me, the more people understand me. Sometimes they accept it. Sometimes they don’t. And, I’m ok with that. Not everyone is going to agree with who I am and where I’m coming from. But, most people I’ve encountered that are truly INFJs get where I’m coming from whether or not that is the path they themselves would take. I think because they themselves have considered that path and are more open to all of the possibilities. I can tell when someone is an INFJ from a mile away. I find them like needles in haystacks. And, I don’t find them often.

[@candlelanternnight1299]

I'm a INFJ as well, and over the past two years I've started to show my real personality to all people, my family, friends and acquaintances, but the ones who were the least accepting about who I was as a person. That really worsened my experience and I, for about two months, tried again to be who they wanted me to be, but it just wasn't me so I stopped, after having a panic attack and terrible mental health. Now I'm building myself up and am letting people know me as much as I feel comfortable with, though most of my family has continued disliking it, my sister has really started to be one of my best friends since she noticed I was a lot more relaxed and less tense and fake feeling as I had been since as long as I could remember. (I'm the youngest of three sisters and I was always left out by my sister's, and started about two and a half years ago, legitimately forgot, like I mean left in the car while they went in and started to eat.)My sadness subsided and turned to me being down right pissed. Family issues aside, opening up was and is the best thing I can do for myself and my friends. I didn't mean to lay out my life's story but yeah I agree opening up and being yourself even just for a bit can help tremendously :)

[@Aditya_1244]

@@candlelanternnight1299 😢 its ok to open up and say what's inside you know there is always someone to listen you. Nobody in this universe is alone. Ok . Like today I a random person met you like this , tomorrow again you're gonna see someone new coming. And this chain will continue. And about your family its a bit depressing but if you let me suggest, I must say you should talk to them and state your griefs, because however it is they might have some love inside their hearts for you. And the magic is that" LOVE can be GROWN. "😊 Hope we meet again. Have a good day. And remember YOU ARE NOT ALONE. ~ENFP

[@cfiocco]

I’m curious to find out how harmonious your relationship with your daughter is? I am an INFP mother to 4 and on the daily, it’s pretty hard to be the mom I need to be for our household to thrive and be peaceful. I somehow resent FE because I have to use it all.the.damn.time 😂 . Like I appreciate people appreciating authenticity but I feel kind of cheated that it is so unpractical. Do you find mothering hard as an FE user??

[@NastassiaEvans]

@Christine Fiocco I find mothering easier as an FE user. You’re always considering everyone else and their needs, emotionally and physically. My INFP daughter’s mothering skills do not come naturally. She is not very family oriented. She functions mostly separately, as is her preference, from the rest of the family. I am naturally a caretaker where she is not and admits so much. We get along swimmingly as long as she has plenty of space to be alone. My INFP daughter has asserted that she doesn’t like children, and I find that this is evident. I used to also say that I didn’t like children, but children and animals love me and come up to me on their own. It’s hard not to love something so naive, innocent, and trusting and want to protect it. I would think mothering would be harder with Fi, but I can’t speak for Fi users as I am an Fe user. I love being a mother. Children and animals are one of the only ways we can experience unconditional love.

[@iofb.hulder]

Wow, I 100% agree with all of this. And our children continue to teach us 😌💗

[@purplepeopleeater1009]

I remember having to survey my INTJ ex once for an assignment and I had to go back and clarify his answers three times for the recording as they got so deep and existential. I could see his eyes burning a hole into the atmosphere while he was thinking! I loved that about him. As much as I wanted the relationship to work, it was the lack of mutual emotional understanding (I'm an INFP) that caused us to break up.

[@error7681]

I am an INTP, and I think I am a humorous one, I think, but most of the time, everytime I joke about something, everyone would take it for real. For example, there was this one time when my friend just got out from a classroom on 4th floor and she wondered how would it feel to fall from such height, which I responded with a joke by saying "why don't you try it yourself" and after I said it, everyone was silent. When I asked "why? That's a joke", they said that my expression doesn't look like someone joking would have.

[@Thenonchalantmf1]

Hey sorry for bothering but can you please tell me where do I take the mbti test?? I'm confused 😭

[@sarahberkner]

I relate to this so much, I joke around a lot and accidentally assume people can detect my sarcasm. Some people have a dry sense of humor so they're really funny but only if you know they're kidding.

[@letternumbereight]

@@Thenonchalantmf1there’s a bunch out there, the most accurate has been shown to be keys2cognition

[@Thenonchalantmf1]

@@letternumbereight yesss now I know

[@wrexocane]

I'm an INTP, and the first time in my life that I felt deeply understood was this year (I'm 24) reading comments under INTP memes on instagram.

[@sarahberkner]

Comedian Tim Hawkins is an INTP, he has a good podcast, he mentioned he gets energy from ideas not from people. He says he's not super friendly and also that he wasn't able to do a regular job well. But he's a great comedian because he thinks of clever ideas and concepts and writes parodies and has a lot of musical talent.

[@Hootowlsonly]

This is so true! My sister’s an INFJ and whenever I ask her what she wants she’ll just shrug and say “whatever” or “I don’t know, what do you want?” Whenever her friends ask if she wants to do something with them she’ll say yes even if she really wants to stay home. When it comes to others, the word no almost doesn’t exist in her vocabulary. I’m an INFP and I find her behaviour so intriguing. I’m pretty much always unapologetically myself and on the rare occasion that I try to fit in with the crowd, it’s incredibly draining.

[@mostcreativenickname]

I’m an ISFJ and the first time I felt misunderstood by society was when I went to primary school, knowing my best online friend suffers from depression, self harm and suicidal thoughts while the biggest problems of my classmates were brand clothes. They’d bully others and laugh while I’ve completely shut myself down withdrawing from everyone, feeling resentful towards our superficial world. People always thought I’m anxious and shy but actually I didn’t ever see any point in talking to others most of my life.

[@MeliMeli66]

Are you ISFP?

[@ColawithSase]

Gosh I felt like this so much in secondary school, I am an ISFJ as well.

[@athysuperb3244]

As an infp..I'm always being misunderstood..my words..always only stuck in my head..sometime its hard to finish your word when talking🙂

[@7sevyn664]

As An INFP When Frank Mentioned How We Tend To Take Being Misunderstood As A Part Of Us, It Hit Way Too Close To Home, Like Passed The Doorstep Close That Encouraged Me To Somewhat Open Up ❤

[@anon6187]

@Modern575 Emphasizing, Cuz We are Empaths :3 INFP Tooo

[@candlelanternnight1299]

"Who am I?" Is a question I ask myself a lot as a INFJ and then I just go back to blending in, even with my family. This then leads me to the question "does anyone know me?" And that has one very difficult answer to swallow. Also my mom is a INFP and I can agree with both of these conclusions on our types having observed her.

[@spenster340]

And my answer for that self auestion is that we are simply chamelions We view things differently and not everyone can and we can't articulate how we view it so we just basically try to mirror anyone in order to not lose them There's no "one you" you are what you want, you are what you love

[@barbaratyhe2955]

as INTJ I'm not quite sure I'm even interested in being understood (on personal level) that much; keeping my distance is natural and comfortable

[@UC_Fran]

yes, and so much of what I understand to be true I gathered from intuition, which is hard to "prove."

[@anonnnymousthegreat]

I’m an INTJ as well. It used to bother me as a kid being misunderstood. But i got to my teen years, i pretty much started to not gaf. And now as an adult, i just don’t think about if i care that I’m misunderstood or not.

[@ryanunslavd1656]

Same

[@iofb.hulder]

I dig that "checkmate" attitude 😎

[@fireeye33]

agree, INTJ female here, don't want to waste my energy seeking for everyone's approval just to be understood

[@Nos7algiK]

As an INFP I pretty much gave up trying to have others understand me. Not because I feel so different than others to the point I can't be understood. But, rather no matter how well I know myself and how well I can actually express how I feel and why I feel that way in extreme depth/detail. People will almost always filter my expression through their own biased lens and project their own inner essence onto what I am saying completely warping my words. It turns into a struggle of me repeatedly explaining myself in different ways to see if I can get past their bias. I honestly just don't care anymore and only will express my feelings if someone asks in most cases.

[@MinecraftPony155]

Intuitive Thinker problem: Sensors think you're crazy/dumb and Feelers think you're heartless.

[@soldierofgod4210]

I'm glad to be heartless, and i may be crazy, possibly slightly dumb, i think they may be right......

[@zeppark]

@@soldierofgod4210 lmaooo

[@anonnnymousthegreat]

As an INTJ, the tree example is pretty true. And people would get confused on my thought processes on many things. And the more i try to explain, the more people get confused. But i never really cared about being understood or not.

[@kuohero1817]

I always felt weird how no one gets the point or connect the dots of how i think…but now im used to it for not being understood…

[@krisb3417]

I've just stopped trying to explain anything to anyone 🥲

[@flowerfabuki4783]

I was looking for this comment 😂 that tree example called me out as an INTJ lol as far as being misunderstood, I don’t really care if people do understand, because most of the time their inability to comes from their own short comings or experiences, however it is nice when someone tries to. My best friend is a very extroverted feeler, so we are very opposite but I find it endearing when she tries to understand how concepts can affect me or how the principle behind an experience can be more impactful than what actually happened. She also respects my bluntness and actually relies on my more solution driven approach to solve her relationship and communication issues. I think true empathy is impossible but you don’t have to understand something to appreciate it and accept that it is valid

[@jessica1lopez]

You just reminded me that I used a tree as an example for a project and got personal about it. However, I forget to say how it connected to what I was saying, but oh well.

[@user-pk5pl7ox1e]

@@flowerfabuki4783 ais your friend ENFP by any chance?

[@claracatlady9844]

I think INTJ are the most misunderstood. They maybe aren’t the ones that are most bothered by that but still. I..J + tertiary FI + bad social skills = hard for others to accept and understand.

[@riri7207]

@@itz_normallyodd1424 you are right. Fi is the third function of INTJ

[@karumine98]

INTJs are misunderstood at their core, their essence. But most misunderstood I highly doubt it given INTJs having Te as a strong cognitive function will be recognized by society. Society is mostly made up by Fe and Te users, those two cognitive functions basically keep the world running. So while INTJs may not feel understood as people, they're probably going to blend in a bit better. Types like ISFP, INFP, INTP or ISTP are probably going to feel misunderstood not only at their core but in their entirety. Everything they think or do is usually a byproduct of research/thinking/philosophy centered on what they want as individuals or what they think is true or feels right. These types care the least about peer pressure and society so as a direct consequence they also are disliked the most.

[@claracatlady9844]

@@itz_normallyodd1424 sorry I corrected it

[@dougchristian45]

As an INFP and older, I've accepted other types of people misunderstanding me. Yes, I am alone and yes, I consider everyone acquaintances. Most of the time I don't care. Sometimes it's really frustrating. I communicate across the board. I have trouble being direct. Deep feelings come out in writings, music or videos that I may share with others.Mostly, I've just given up on being understood. It's just not happening. I'll walk my own path and that's ok. I don't think I'm smarter or better than anyone else. Actually, it's often the reverse but i don't usually compare myself like that. I just see and feel things differently. I don't need justification, validation or permission from others to live.

[@badabingbadaboom7968]

Period!

[@weepwomp2091]

Hello fellow infp

[@weepwomp2091]

I feel your pain and I know what it’s like, but things will get better for us so keep ur head up high :D

[@badabingbadaboom7968]

@@weepwomp2091 Hello there.

[@weepwomp2091]

@@badabingbadaboom7968 greetings

[@babysroundhead]

We all need a Frank James in our lives. Thank you Frank. Honestly. I never knew, until today, how it really feels to be understood. You are a powerful expressor.

[@nikkid7963]

The sponsor video part was great!!! I’ve been following for 2 years. It’s insane to see how much this channel progressed! My husband and I laughed over the tree explanation. When we both saw the angel oak in South Carolina. He leads with sensing, he saw a big tree. When I saw it I was overcome with thinking if the tree could talk. What has it seen in 1,000 years, I swear I could sense an energy about it. Side note I was also waiting for faeries to come out. I was so into the tree, and he was like, yeap it’s a big tree. I also see all trees as representing life, because they look just like the nerves in our bodies. It’s amazing how things in nature connect to us. As someone who leads with Ni, I’ve heard my whole life. That people don’t understand me, or I’m weird. In my 40’s I no longer care. But, as a kid and teenager it was rather difficult. It caused me so much anxiety.

[@MelodicQuest]

As an INFP, I grew up pretty fortunate to have peers that accepted me as I was, even when most of my spoken thoughts and feelings didn't always make sense to them. I was never the life of the conversation, but they loved that I would hang on to every word despite whatever the topic might be.

[@Svartr.HrafnSvartr]

My INFP self is going to share this with my INFJ husband, so we can feel misunderstood together.

[@HrafnNordhri]

-FIVE days later-

[@likefriday472]

The quality of your videos, your editing and humour/jokes have improved a lot! It’s really fun and can catch my ADHD-brain’s attention very well! Loved the sponsor-part, very creative! ☺️👌🏻

[@trinaq]

Likewise, I love how creative and informative Frank's videos are!

[@MrOoof]

Speaking of ADHD, I think there should be special schools that teach ADHD students with such entertaining, attractive theme and swift pace, so they can catch their attention. I know people that have ADHD irl and they do not deserve the harsh environments of traditional classes. In fact, their flaw can turn into a superpower if guided properly

[@RubyTerrarian]

@@MrOoof my school is like that and my brother’s ADHD is the reason he’s even there. I eventually went there since it seemed like an interesting school. As someone with ADHD symptoms, i can say that a school with attractive themes and swift paced learning is definitely good for ADHD people

[@dama5334]

Ok I'll just say it his humour was elite and still almost from the starting of this channel till today he never failed to amuse even with the new guidelines pressure to keep it limited now and the quality is so very good since the 2 years ago tbh but i agree with the editing part tho every other day there's something new to Impress

[@end4567]

I need someone with ADHD in my life to compensate for the fact that I literally do nothing all day.

[@emperorlelouch5696]

I'm an INTP and I feel like we're also pretty misunderstood because of our wild ideas and the way we talk about logic and theories. Only other intuitives will get the gist of what we're talking about most of the time.

[@vennneziano]

As an INTP, i agree. Btw nice Lelouche pfp, code geass is such a great serie 😭

[@swiftmk5480]

I like this video a lot! INTJs are often hailed as “most misunderstood” by virtue of our stereotype, so I appreciate that this video has a different take.

[@turtlebs1948]

Tbh same, always read that we are most misunderstood but like I don't event talk to people to know if that'd true

[@JustineAdlong]

INTJs are pretty misunderstood, but they're lucky to have extroverted thinking which people (I've met) seem to understand and value more than some other cognitive functions. At least in the US

[@jessicamahan8166]

The first couple minutes of this video was the most INFP thing I ever seen. 1. Cuter than he dresses. 2. Walks through nature... giggles. 3. The whole musical interlude. 4. All in support of mental health therapy. As an INFP, I'm cracking up 😂 LOVE IT!

[@etherfromheaven]

I've never seen a KZbinr put that much effort into the sponsorship part of the video

[@Rainjojo]

As an INTJ I’ve often been vilified by bullies for not being readable so became misunderstood to the point I just took it, and although I don’t understand myself a lot I enjoy being away from fakes to learn more about me

[@amin_muaddib]

I actually think INTJ is the most misunderstood as they cant really express any emotions (Express themselves correctly) so they are banished from society Totaly unbiased opinion though

[@newstartyt3700]

dude that is so true, I constantly have problems with expressing myself, even with things that I easily know (this is as an INTJ ofc)

[@johnlemon5227]

When I tell you I don't even know what emotions I'm feeling either, it took me 2 years to realize I like someone🗿

[@hyejusleftlung]

y’all aren’t misunderstood, y’all are holding on to that mentality even tho y’all are some of the most understood ones 🤣

[@ellehcim2779]

@@hyejusleftlung who's "y'all"

[@hyejusleftlung]

@@ellehcim2779 intjs, obviously

[@EricMcLovin13]

as an ENTP, i might be good in expressing my thoughts to others, but goddammit, while it's fun to joke around and see people confused on either you're serious or not, it seems that people always get it backwards because it's easier to assume the worst of other people. i pretty much became a serious person after some emotional damage(inserts meme here) and people still can't figure out when i'm being serious(which is most of the time) i wouldn't mind if i didn't live in a small town with people gossiping around. especially cause that made people who i cared a lot leave me(along with some mistakes, of course, it never comes out of nowhere, but my fault is understood and fixed, but people still talk shit) then again, my intrapersonal growth spiked a lot by being alone, so i don't actually mind but, everyone assumed the worst and no one ever asked me what i had to say. and that hurts a lot cause it's pretty obvious that being misunderstood is caused by a lack of interest by other people in clearing their own doubts about me and also never sharing what they think about it(the few times people did i grew up a lot, self-awareness isn't my forte). well, fuck it, i can do it on my own

[@asvegas777]

I would’ve thought we’d be one of the most misunderstood types. Maybe FJ doesn’t understand us and our predicament so well ;)

[@asvegas777]

Also hang in there. In my experience eventually it gets easier as we get older to have smoother interactions with people. Still misunderstood, sometimes for us effortful, but it at least gets smoother. I also need so much time alone i sometimes think I must be an introverts (but no I am ENTP, maybe somewhat ambivert but not quite an INTP)

[@loveloveaii]

Same, sort of, but it’s sad because I do the exact same thing, except I assume the worse no matter what irl. Man :’)

[@haziqfawwad3490]

There's 2 things I'm happy about 1. You addressed this 2. You had the patience to write such a long thing while being an ENTP.

[@yagirlbae]

as an entp, i totally agree. people do notice and listen to what we have to say, yet we aren't take seriously most times. even with this heck of a strong personality, constant ignorance from others leads us to be more 'full of ourselves'

[@Ash_03]

Frank I'm an INFJ and I worked on myself, I tried to express myself but trust me the more I explained the worse it got, because people around me didn't really try to understand nor were they patient.

[@trinaq]

I'm an INFJ in a family of sensors, and my ENFP pal is the only extrovert in our friend group, so we both feel misunderstood at times!

[@delaqueenpinkel5229]

Hi! I kinda having the same condition as yours. My parents are sensing types. It was soooo hard for me during my teenage years. Lukely I have an ENTP little bro and ENFP adopted son. To me, hey are a source of entertainment.

[@RubyTerrarian]

My entire family are extroverted and i’m an ISFP. And yeah they sometimes take me out of my comfort zone so yeah i feel misunderstood too

[@LBailey-np3eb]

yes thats true infp is very misunderstood..... (im infp lol) see ig i can see why tho js look at our thought process 🤣🤣 "ooo that sounded like the line from a song starts singing song in head and aloud** thinks abt the story that the songs r telling and wonders what the hidden meaning is** feels bad for the person in the song whos best friend died thinks abt my best friend and how she STILL cant remember smth that ive told her over and over again** wonders why and if my mom was right is dreading having to leave the house and wake up early in a few days** is thinking abt how im gonna fall asleep at church if i stay up too late and remembering that happening last week** realizes that ive been staring at the wall and thinking for five minutes**

[@sanninlegends1843]

As an INFP I really do feel that I am very misunderstood by others. This is why, when I first took the 16 personalities test, I was flabbergasted at how accurately they were describing my personality. I was mindblown at how much I could relate to whatever they were saying and even thought "Omg, why do they know so much?! Am I being spied on or stalked?! Omg! How do you know what goes on in my mind?? This is crazy! I can't belive how much they understand me!!!!" and I freaked out. The end.

[@ForestG]

Yep. (I'm an INFP) - The End.

[@jammydoughnuts]

This is how I felt when I first took the test too! It felt as if someone had written out my entire life story, summarised into a few pages. It was wonderful to finally understand why I had always felt so misunderstood my whole life.

[@tinaperez7393]

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[@inblack585]

I absolutely agree with this but I felt the urge to respond on an individual level as an INFP :D ironically I don't care about whether I'm misunderstood or not anymore- I got used to it at some point but I progressively started to value my personal logic a lot, thanks to inputs from my ISTP dad as well- almost to the point I thought I was an INTP! Even if people didn't understand my ideas, I didn't bother to explain unless it was important to me, and since I've been getting in touch with my Si, I've made it a point to organize and solidify my information before presenting it. The only people who follow most of my base level ideas is my favorite brainstorming ENFP best friend and my closest cousin who's an INTJ

[@inblack585]

Somehow it took me a lot of courage to post a comment so I hope someone acknowledges my efforts 😔😔

[@beautyintakes]

What's even worse is when you try to explain ourselves , we try to go in depth but people just want a shallow explanation ... And when it comes to giving shallow explanation we couldn't because we are not the sensors type ..and what happens is people call us as wierd but it's their lack of understanding . Especially if they are ×STJ types .

[@Elodie_N_INTJ_Analyzes]

I appreciate the time and energy you spend, to do the shadow of the letters, on the whiteboard. I though It was us INTJ, because of the Se inferior/4th : detached from the reality & Fe polar/7th : detached from people emotions. "So our boy, Carl, believed that the world should have empathy for these types because it's difficult for them to express their perceptions." I agree, be kind with us, we have to spend time and energy to deconstruct our mind, to give you details.

[@ros.an.]

that symbolic tree analogy... i'm an enfp and when i finished high school (age 16 in the UK) i literally stood at the school gates at the end of the last day looking at all the trees and how the roots come together to form the trunk which then splits into branches and how this can symbolically represent the way my friends and i all happened to come together for a small portion of our lives and will now go off into our inevitably separate ways, just like a tree,,, FJ really caught me off guard with the accuracy of that 💀

[@Aditya_1244]

So deep 😢 But I be like at last days of our school I am trying to let my friends wait for a little more time, they keep on talking , I am telling them something , we are planning for some another thing suddenly a bus passes by our street and we can feel the breeze and that symbolizes of the time I spent with my friends that was from kindergarten till class 10 and now its all gonna end .😥 But we'll keep on meeting each other .🥲 Story of an ~enfp

[@ros.an.]

@@Aditya_1244 honestly the smallest aspects of life suddenly hit me out of nowhere and make me see everyone around me in a new light, I relate 🤧

[@bunny_0288]

Hahahaha, I don't know why, but reading this reminded me of something similar I used to think as a kid. Any time we were stuck in a traffic jam, I used to look around at all the cars around me and think how each car was filled with people and they all were living their own lives, but for this hour or two, we were all stuck together. And I imagined different stories for the people in the other cars and came up with all sorts of fanciful ideas about where they could be going. I'm an INFP for reference lol

[@ros.an.]

@@bunny_0288 i love that, i always watch other cars for all the different types of people you see in them too, it makes busy cities and busy roads into hubs of humanity rather than just loads of cars and vehicles and machine overload, almost definitely gonna end up thinking of your comment every time i'm in a traffic jam now ahaha, enfp and infp fantasising for the win

[@juliemay9295]

Thanks!

[@FrankJames]

thank you!

[@aranismartinez2293]

I used to misunderstood myself 😋 until I started to learn about the personality types. I feel normal and laugh with these videos, from an INFP 👍 🤗 thanks Frank.

[@LandofOzOfficial]

Frank, ur way of explaining seeing a tree is 1 of the easiest ways for me to understand CF. Do some more that style please!

[@nuca9087]

this was the first time i've set through the ENTIRE sponsored ad. you really managed to make it entertaining 😭

[@edi0157]

at the beginning I was even confused if that was an ad given the effort that went into it lol

[@coacobird]

The ad was lovely lol and the band even had galaxathor in it!

[@AlexanderGieg]

I would gladly watch ads if they were entertaining. Alas, 99.99999% of them aren't.

[@schneeeule0212]

I also have the feeling that ENTJs are often getting misunderstood. For example when I'm trying to explain that I actually have feelings that can be hurt or a moral compass that doesn't lead to the authorian right evil guy everyone seems to see in us

[@MirthCap]

Yoo, my INFJ twin conclude that ENTJ are the most misunderstood. There's a reason why ENTJ are the rarest currently. In context, with TE dom have to navigate throughout the world with most of systems are really flawed now more than ever. Don't get me started with Ne critic and Si blindspot. Perhaps at one point they're optimistic with their big dreams and want to make it happen with their Ni aux. That's where the Te Se loop kicks in. I typed too much, but yeah we agree with you. -Infp

[@yohanesbobbysanjaya3541]

as INTJ i just wanna say that both INTJ and ENTJ have bad habit of testing people, doing sarcasm, and using overly complicated words by choice. i think the reason is very simple, INTJ and ENTJ are extremely selective people so rather being misunderstood, we just dont want bothersome people to understand us... i mean more people understand our plan the riskier it is lmao. this is what leads people to think INTJ and ENTJ as evil, not because they misunderstood but rather because they see dont fully understand us, they can see a glimpse of something but never the whole picture of our plan lmao

[@sootycat2740]

Thoughts from an INFP… I think one reason why I end up feeling misunderstoodness is that I struggle to express myself with words that make sense. I think the abstract thing is quite accurate. Also anxiety so I fail to speak at all although that’s not exactly type specific…

[@fatchicken9497]

Sponsor part make me smiley I needed that thank you Frank James - misunderstood, but attractive ENTP

[@HimanshiKaravadra2201]

me as an INFP : I'll date a psychiatrist because no one else can actually understand me

[@D20AttackRolls]

Intp/Intj - I've never really cared if people like me because I'm usually just wanting to focus on what I am working on, but what confuses me is that people get mad at me for not caring if they like me. I've had so many people REALLY trying to just hammer me with "You look mad. People don't really like you because you act like you're better than everyone because you don't talk to anyone. Sure, you're polite but you don't really talk to people and that makes everyone uncomfortable and when you do you don't mince your words and you need to think about how that makes other people feel. You're too direct." There has been an absurd amount of people who say such rude things to me and then are stumped when I respond with, "Everyone who has thoughts about me can actually talk to me themselves. If they don't, nothing I can do. I can't change my face and I don't read thoughts." I just don't understand the entitled mindset of, "You're not doing anything wrong, I just don't like the way you are. So change to fit what I like."

[@jackcolson4745]

Just gonna claim my number 1 spot as an INFP real quick. Oh Frank you are a funny one.

[@hiiamperson3573]

As and INFJ, the what you said about the tree sounds like something I would say lol But, it's odd, because I have a deep knowing of who I am, and I understand myself very well. I think this is because if I don't socialize, I don't have to blend in. And, because I'm an introvert, I don't socialize! Just a guess tho lol

[@MarianahsTrenchGal1]

It's interesting you brought up both infj and infp at the end and then said they're really different, because every single time i take the mbti test it's always like "we can't tell if you're an infp or an infj because your percentage between j and p is exactly 50/50" so i always tell people im both and even when i watch your skits, most of the time i can relate to both the infj and infp 😅 (although there's the odd time i only relate to 1 and not the other)

[@LilacSnowBun]

If you have Fe shooting out of your eyeballs, you’re INFJ. XD How do you experience your feelings?

[@alymaple8936]

Lol I thoroughly enjoyed the Better Help pitch portion of the video. Appreciate cha, Frank. And other small parts with Luls.

[@firalia]

I'm an INFP, and people always tell me I'm quite hard to make sense of personality-wise. A lot of my personality is internalised, and I have very complex thoughts, but what people actually see tends to be very cherry-picked and exaggerated for a certain situation. I'm great at making fun of people, but no one ever knows how to make fun of me 😂

[@lindseyhargrave122]

I’m an INFP and quit my job today because my boss wouldn’t listen to me. I told him what I thought was wrong. And that did not go over well, at all. Instead of crying like I normally do I took it as a loss cause. Sorry I tried!

[@QuotesArticles]

As an INFP this video makes me feel understood that I often feel misunderstood!!! 😂

[@8888-9]

I never expect a response and A OKay about that. I find F James totally brilliant!! I like that Carl Jung is referred to as CJ

[@noshamey1495]

Intj female here. I dig the example of the tree. I quite litterally laughed out loud because I love the tree of life. Nice.

[@cslingphotos84]

Guess what this INFJ wrote about trees a few months ago. "Wow.... Such amazing beings with majestic strength+tenacity and natural beauty+grace. I wanna dance with the wind, reach high for the skies, while stay deeply rooted to Earth, just like these trees." I thought. I truly admire them so much... ❤️ As a wildlife photographer, I used to thank them in my heart in every country I go. At times, I feel more connected to the trees than the wildlife I was photographing. 📷 You've really inspired me today. 🌴🌲🌳 Thank you so much for being such a gift that keeps on giving." As an INFJ, i write like this all the time. Reality seems to hit me a few secs to a min late in real life. Tends to space out during face-to-face conversation but would write long walls of text after conversation was long over. I feel bad for my friends sometimes... haha...

[@bostoneventlighting794]

I think a lot of subjectivism and being “in your feelings” is so accepted today that INFJs are actually less misunderstood because they can still be seen as human, and not robotic. Their feelings are more justifiably misunderstood, whereas today’s misunderstanding of INTJs is often only misunderstanding abstractly explained logical concepts because most people aren’t on their level intellectually.

[@Elodie_N_INTJ_Analyzes]

I agree. INFJ have Fe 2nd, they are better in social situations than INTJ, Fe is their worst function. INTJ we can tell, we are happy, not well or angry, with the same neutral facial expression.

[@homosapien9526]

As an INFP I understand INTJs, however will disagree with them in 5% of things they do or decide.

[@robboss3301]

FJ changed up his editing style a little and finally my adhd brain can handle a video longer than ten minutes thank you so much my goddd

[@Oushiro17]

As an INFJ I’ve had to really work on my communication skills with others in order to better convey things. It doesn’t always work, but I find being willing to go back to the drawing board and trying again is usually met with positivity. The key is keeping communication lines open.

[@Inkycreatures]

Communication is hard when you forget the names of real things constantly and try to describe them to other people calling everything “that thingy”. It’s also tough when everyone around you needs evidence they can see or experience to believe you or get you.

[@sarahberkner]

Believing you is different than understanding you, I can think you're being honest without being able to relate. It's the golden rule- treating people like you'd want them to be treated. I'd want someone to let me be myself so long as I'm not doing anything wrong, they don't necessarily have to understand what I'm like in order to do that.

[@juliacornejo7802]

Funny how this video comes to me after I isolated myself from people for a couple of days because I felt I needed space for myself without telling anyone about it and not giving any explanations - Me, and INFP

[@Inug4mi]

Me as an INFJ: NOONE IS TAKING AWAY MY MISUNDERSTOOD CROWN, OKAY?? I EARNED IT! IT’S MINE!

[@Elodie_N_INTJ_Analyzes]

Until INTJ plan to steal the crown. XD

[@canyoufeelzeschadenfreude2363]

Haha

[@Chillipep]

@@Elodie_N_INTJ_Analyzes Lol 😄

[@NanulSavage]

Feeling misunderstood and being misunderstood are very different things. With my observations the INTJ seems the most misunderstood by people. INTJ doesn’t care, so no feelings, but people don’t understand the INTJ more than the types you mentioned. INTP’s are hard to understand as well, but mainly because they do not really open up. They have a unique way of not answering questions directly. I do agree INFP’s are “feeling” misunderstood types. INFJ’s aren’t misunderstood by others really. They’re good communicators, they often change into fitting the situation so people don’t walk away not understanding the INFJ. Maybe they don’t get to know them very well, but they don’t misunderstand what was presented. I’d say “feeling” misunderstood = INFP, “being” misunderstood by people, even after explanation = INTJ

[@amjthe_paleosquare9399]

Ahhh, so you're telling this INTP that the reason I don't usually give direct answers is because of my functions and tough times opening up to others, and not because I'm somewhat used to mild disappointment when my requests can't be fulfilled. Or a combination of both. Not answering things in family because of the usual pattern, not answering things in public because I don't know you and why the heck am I feeling awkward whenIdon'tknowyou! It's a weird thing.

[@spenster340]

If you're an INFJ, you'd also feel how bugging the feeling of being misunderstood You do get and don't the point and I get and don't get it too

[@sarahberkner]

You're right that some types care more than others, personally I think all types are misunderstood by other types. I'm an ESTJ and I hardly understand my own type, it doesn't seem normal to get energy from working with people and organizing things but it's true. And we get called narcissists online whereas INTJs have been called evil (maybe as a joke I'm not sure), and both of those are unfair.

[@benlechner6352]

INTPs are in the thumbnail but they didn't go in. I was a bit offended that we aren't misunderstood

[@alyseh9539]

As an INFJ I've given up on explaining myself to people, now when people get it wrong or "Are you trying to say" me I just agree with them and just allow them to believe whatever they've made up because they chose not to listen. Then over time I just slowly remove myself out of their life. I've realized that these same people don't notice when I do this because none of them check in on me. The ones who do are the ones that get me, understand and accept me for the amazing person I am.🤷🏼‍♀️🥰

[@shelbygreen8293]

As another INFJ, I find this very accurate. Sad, but accurate. Having a really good friend definitely helps with everything tho

[@alyseh9539]

@@shelbygreen8293 it is sad and can be quite painful honestly because INFJ are so tuned in to everyone and everything around us we're often left confused because it's like how do you not see me when I'm standing right in front of you? How do you misinterpret my actions which were genuine and why are you twisting my words when I'm being very straightforward? It's almost like everyone over compensates and over complicates a situation because they don't know how to function outside of chaos.

[@shelbygreen8293]

@@alyseh9539 Oh my goodness, YES. This is so true. It happens with my dad all the time, and because I overthink everything, I wonder if he's doing it on purpose or not. And though a lot of the time I don't mind being invisible (less social interaction😂), it's nice to be seen sometimes.

[@annamanansala2773]

Yes

[@sarahberkner]

I like this quote from Secret Life of Walter Mitty, "Beautiful things don't ask for attention". If you have to tell people you're amazing, do you actually believe it? And you can stop communicating with people all you want imo but I hope you're not offended if they do the same. Why would they communicate with someone who wants nothing to do with them? I'm with you on being annoyed at people twisting your words though.

[@MissSirenita]

I’m an INFP and my bestie an INFJ and we just click ^_^ hurray

[@CineMairon]

INFPs would be my personal first guess too. I feel though that most of the types can be misunderstood in a way...different way for each. People tend to judge others based on their image of their own selves and what the norm is in their society. XNTJs are often labelled as cruel, or ISFJs as pushovers for choosing willingly to step back when they need for the greater good, only because people don't understand the motifs behind their actions and choices. Thinkers call the Feelers oversensitive and Feelers call Thinkers robotic. The Ps call the Js uptight and Js find Ps chaotic. MBTI helps in my opinion on understanding others because it can give you a first guide into the pattern of each personality. I always got frustrated with my dad being unable to follow a schedule while we are so similar, but in this part we are polar opposites (ISFP dad) and I was fighting with my brother all the time because he would argue even if we agreed (ENTP bro). But when I figured their type I realized it's a part of their nature. It's something only they can work on improving but can't really change and in a way it makes them unique and works for them. And our relationships improved. So, having in mind people are more than types as human individuals, knowing their type and cognitive functions gives you a better view so you can understand and embrace them in some extend. (ISFJ)

[@ory.0ry91]

I have nothing too add, I just love your comment and wanted you to know

[@CineMairon]

@@ory.0ry91 Thank you dearly! It means a lot to me, truly.🌷

[@clddouglas]

THE BEST baked in advertisement for Betterhelp that I’ve ever seen!! Top marks. Great video FJ!

[@Elena.J]

Best. Commercial. Ever! I just can't stop rewatching it, lol. Creativity 10/10! 😎

[@kayjones3520]

I have become a lot more practical and have tapped into my senses more- especially since my partner is an ISFJ. When I see things in the reality around me, I do play that “movie” in my mind, and it can be difficult because in a social setting I may try to express something so I fit in, but I don’t think people understand me, and it seems I never even have the chance to explain my ideas. It CAN get lonely. I am a social introvert, and with one on one Interaction people usually say I’m a great communicator. In a group setting it’s so much more difficult for me. -INFP

[@heidi1651]

😄This was a really well done video. I especially like the therapy ad, the girl under the tree, and all the perfect timing interjects. Great details making a very clean overall hold.

[@coloraturaElise]

OMG....the 'Better Help FJ Band'.....KILLING IT!

[@boredGrinch]

the first time I heard about INTJ personality there was a list of negative stuff.. I saw the messages and took the test because I was bored. turned out the list was about me

[@quirogatnonerrat3214]

Oh my! Frank James is singing!!!! I love it! 🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳

[@peanutbutter9831]

I feel misunderstood as an INFP but I try to stop worrying about it and just do my thing

[@delaqueenpinkel5229]

good. I am doing the same thing too. I am an INFJ. Nice to meet you.

[@peanutbutter9831]

@@delaqueenpinkel5229 Nice to meet you too ^^ We can do it!

[@UC_Fran]

You are so right about intuitives, people ask me what I think about things and I am very cryptic usually because I want them to figure it out for themselves if they haven't already.

[@rimo10]

I believe the difference between the two are that INFPs are misunderstood where as INFJs aren't understood.

[@Chillipep]

Lol. Yarp.

[@whatisthat1585]

My dear so you just use now to mis understood the INFJ in your comment😊

[@PeppermintBlues]

I love all of the personalities! I’m a ESTP AND I’M SO PUMPED FOR THIS VIDEO. It probably won’t be my type. But I’m super duper excited to see which it is!

[@ceilinh6004]

My INFP sister-in-law seems to think that because we are both artistically inclined, that we will be interested in/inspired by the same sorts of things. This is a false assumption that occasionally leads to me stealthily listening to an audiobook (usually sci-fi) or podcast while drawing, and only lending about 25% of my attention to the "inspirational" or "based on a true story" movie that she thinks I should enjoy. -INTP

[@sarahssecret7003]

I feel like there's a large difference on the fact that misunderstood by society and misunderstood by themselves. I feel like you have to take in the fact that although being misunderstood by society can apply, we have to find the people who more misunderstand themselves as not understanding yourself can lead to others not understanding you. I feel like certain types that are up in their head constantly thinking about the word around them, can sometimes forget to think about themselves and not end up figuring out who they are as a person.