How do the 16 Personalities Connect with Others?

How do the 16 Myers-Briggs Personalities Connect with others?
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[@CupCake-fw4zr]

alrighty then-

[@chica_webtoonuwu7223]

💖

[@samiyahshaikh]

So we need to wait 11 hours? Yeah that's ok I can wait... My brain: *comes up with own Interpretation of video a thousand times*

[@database2517]

givee me attention.

[@pattog5549]

Gotta love the NFJ! Look at all that effort to make sure you feel comfy! 😊😆💜

[@joyhuebert1219]

INTJ. If you’re not going to discuss theories about why the universe exists, I’m staying home

[@emp9413]

Same - INFJ

[@blackoceancreativeuniverse]

See you @7, then.

[@Daniela3969]

Fuck yeah, come.over to my house and never leave, that is my jam

[@blackoceancreativeuniverse]

@@Daniela3969 can i bring coffee and bacon? theoretical conversation can be exhausting, Cajito Azul.

[@CaveyMoth]

The existence of the universe is only relative to your perception. You are the universe...to yourself. -INFP @@Daniela3969 I prefer blackberry jam.

[@MyselfVlogsPaul]

As an INFP, I will often be giggling like a kid inside my own head at all the little jokes that are happening in conversations around me and it’s wonderful

[@plemongrass]

😂 i often catch myself walking down the street just laughing all by myself... I do wonder then for a moment if ppl may gonna think im crazy or something Thank God that thought just seems then even more funny than the original one!!! lol

[@MoonLight-lc8qg]

@Erza Scarlet oh so true, I feel too awkward to really express anything on the outside, but I know what I enjoy and love.

[@greatwavefan397]

This is why I loved going to school.

[@yannsiee]

TRUE, TRUE

[@sash8099]

Yes, that's why rarely need people

[@pirimi]

INFPs & ENFPs be like "I just wanna be. . . appreciated"

[@Fallograme]

Same I- 💖✨💀👑😍😭💎🍬💪😂

[@kaboomgaming4255]

Yo please I indirectly ask people to validate me waay too much and they always tell me I'm super nice and cool but like I don't quite believe them that I'm fully appreciated as a friend or if I'm too chaotic or something like that for them. I hope I'm not.

[@iricrescent2901]

“I just want to be appreciated! …. While first I’mma deliver this dad joke of a pun I know you hate hearing. Lol”

[@cynthiaholland13]

@@iricrescent2901 but they're funny!!!

[@iricrescent2901]

@@cynthiaholland13 I try to be, lol (I’m an ENFP) but tbh, the groans of despair when dishing out a great pun is the best reaction I could ask for XD chaos for the win!

[@spud1300]

Does he always put INFJ last because he knows we’re all just going to sit there and watch the whole thing being equally interested in each of the other personality types without skipping ahead?? Cause….. he’s right.

[@talilalila6968]

Atleast us INFJs are going to watch the entire video without skipping cause, well... yeah. XD

[@the_nikster1]

I'm pretty sure he knows lol

[@ambikarati1939]

Lol. So relatable

[@JAREDAND19]

Wait I'm INFJ and I skipped-

[@leadladyco]

Of course.

[@johndalenino]

INFP: starts every convo with “do you ever feel like ___?”

[@Chillwave6]

My squad's INFP friend loves to either put memes into the chat, or writes that he "really should start (insert random thing he mentioned like within a month)" or talks about how he feels awfully stereotypical about being a modern hipster. He's a fun guy in the group chat. I'm ISTP, and I either respond mildly to some messages or start a hour-lasting conversation once about two weeks.

[@thefearlessone2649]

Like a plastic bag, drifting through the wind, wanting to start again? Yes.

[@crescenteaa]

@@thefearlessone2649 underrated comment, I love you. Have a great day!

[@nglexuan]

YESSS!! It's our way of trying to find a person who gets us so that we can feel safe around them!

[@janelle_beans]

I usually associate myself more as INFJ, but getting to know so many people I manage at work, I try to keep things spicy! It shows how well they can go with the flow and handle my dark humor. 🤣

[@SoLaRiS123]

Connecting with others? INTJ: Wait. that's illegal.

[@kaylahall1219]

"is it possible to learn this power?" 😂

[@twin-winds3808]

Me an INFJ: I know right

[@gourisree9991]

I am an INTJ . I only connect with people, when I have a gain from them. 😎

[@CaveyMoth]

INFP: "My connection with you is only temporary. But I will never forget you."

[@zerikkstazzi7458]

@@CaveyMoth ohh good god!!! i couldn't agree more. I still literally remember every single person and experience i had with them till now, i just can't seem to forget it(my SI won't freaking let me). ..............uhh....crap..........i just ran out of words.....sorry but i'll abruptly stop here.

[@lydiahitchcock5588]

I am an INFP mom to an INTP son. We connect when he asks me the most off the wall questions and I answer them in the most insane way possible. Questions about hamsters surviving in outer space result in stories about dolphins sleeping with one eye open because they owe huge sums of money to the beluga whale mafia. He leaves the conversations feeling intellectually superior to me. I leave them with the satisfaction of knowing that I have out weirded him yet again. Mother of the year award? It's in the mail.

[@mirenda2754]

That's so wholesome! And those stories sound great! - an ENFP :D

[@whisllaymjunior6616]

as an INFP I'm impressed at the weirdness level... life goals I'm trying to write a nonsense book for 3 years now...

[@IamZeZetheX]

I love this! The INFP/INTP relationship can be so fun/interesting - we both bring something to the table the other enjoys. (INFP)

[@m3nach3m79]

Intp here, lol

[@myfriendjustin8381]

As an INFP I can say with confidence that we can come up with the craziest stories out there!

[@SpikedHairVSGravity]

“The NTP humor is subtle, it might go over your head. Stay on your toes, because if you miss it, they WILL think less of you.” Hey quit exposing our secrets. I like to look down on people’s lack of wit without judgement.

[@apollontheintp3257]

I do it with judgement. Can't help.

[@Bennet_Froggy]

my brother does this all the time and it's just annoying

[@micahroberts8383]

LOL... I had the same thought! No one knows I'm judging them and I'd like to keep it that way, bro! Come on!

[@dab0331]

I fucking died laughing

[@spemka]

Glad we’re all feeling equally called out

[@KnittingandBaking]

INFJ: I'm trying to manipulate you - but it's for your own good!

[@missrobinhoodie]

Yep. And I’m also trying to manipulate myself...

[@SNinjaQK]

@@Sheseasyouthere Muhammad too

[@SimoneEppler]

Why is this so spot on 😭

[@VaniaAjah]

I'm an INFJ and i have an INFJ bf Now i understand why we have so intense unbreakable connection, because we basically _Manipulate each others_ all these times 🥲

[@1chienandalou]

No, it is not. It might make y’all feel better when you look in the mirror. More importantly it’s for your own good to see this. Saying it as it is. If an unexamined life is not worth living, a fakey fakey life is cheating *yourself* out of it. You don’t fool anyone too long after all and it’s your life slipping away… (Socrates/ENTP)

[@fairyfellermasterstroke]

Fe - OMG! 😝 Te - Let's get stuff done 🙂 Se - Wanna bet 😏 Ne - What if... 😮 So, these are the expressions on the thumbnail, but I guess after two years I can try to make introverted expressions too. Fi - ... 😌 Ti - I am human 🙃 Si - What if... we use common sense? 😎 Ni - Mhm, mhm, interesting 🧐

[@fattysl26]

Ne is so hard to reign in as an enfp

[@karthikramayanam9386]

Te is the best

[@SNinjaQK]

you forgot the i's

[@dinner8204]

I feel like "wanna bet" is a combo between Ti, Se, and maybe Ne. So basically every xxTP -intp

[@SNinjaQK]

@INFJ 4w5 knowledge acquired - intj

[@lesil1000]

INFP in the car by myself: “Road work ahead? Yeah, I sure hope it does!”

[@bebelmatson]

I’m the enfp giggling as I hide in the backseat lmao

[@lizl1407]

So what you're saying is INFP = dad jokes

[@Halimatun-ij5gd]

@@lizl1407 oh mah gucci as an infp(I THINK) i really loveeeeeee dad jokes- but its hard for me to make one-

[@lmaohi5098]

Being an infp is just acting like an enfp alone with yourself

[@sristiganguly4858]

PLEASE i quote vines to people who've never watched vines and then chuckle by myself while they stare at me confused 😭

[@sarahbaiocchi]

Another thing about the INTPs and ENTPs is that it's totally okay to compete with us in those intellectual games. Like, if you disagree (or wanna play Devil's Advocate) and we get into a friendly argument, that's fun. Let's butt heads and get to know each other better!

[@freregregoire2685]

Yeah, for ENTPs it seems like often they even want you to disagree with them... Us INTPs usually want to look at things from several different points of views to really understand them, and bounce ideas to see how they develop, and that's not gonna happen if you are agreeing about everything I say from the get go (even when I'm right).

[@ShaleNinja]

YES. Especially once older and a little softer. A lot of fun and even more respect is gained from someone introducing a new perspective, or from a more educated/experienced position. As an INTP my first thought is "oh lawd, I'm going to get smoked" followed by "but I win, because I exit with more knowledge" and usually have a new person that I deeply respect for it. Challenge me, I enjoy it! One of the best parts of the challenge/compete is being forced to analyse a position. Why do I hold this position? Are there gaps in the scaffolding of my understanding? Have I had this wrong the whole time? Or is the exercise going to introduce someone else to a more structured and diverse understanding of the thing? Realising the what and how of an ENTP has been incredibly invaluable for rounding out this trait. Y'all just wanna tackle things from every angle for the sheer intellectual pleasure, and it feels like a fantastic opportunity to join in the fun and rev the engines for once instead of "Have you tried turning it off and back on again..."

[@einavherman7459]

Yes exactly! As an ENTP I love to hear each others point of views since it helps me understand other people's prespectives Contrary to what many think, ENTP do not seek arguements for the sake of it, we do not wish for you to disagree with anything we say (but nor otherwise as well, we only want your honest opinion). It's just that we enjoy exploring the subject from several opinions, and try to encorage you to do so as well. Since usually there are no right or wrong opinions I see the talk about them as a debate rather than an arguement. But when someone disagree with a fact or says something to others with no experience in the subject I'll start oppose him/her right away. It's crazy how many people don't acknowledge you need to learn about something before you can talk about it.

[@einavherman7459]

@@ShaleNinja same, I truly feel thet I learned a new thing after leaving from a fruitful conversation. )sorry for any misspelings btw(

[@ZijnShayatanica]

I'm an INTJ, my current partner is an INTP. We've been friends for years & a lot of our close bond was built on intellectual games, subtle/niche humour, & the both of us trying to figure out how our feelings work. And oops, we wound up together.

[@Mari-wx2be]

how an INTP connects with others: Online

[@DiscoveryWonders]

Hahaha

[@louisejoel]

What happens when the www is turned off? Anything could happen at this point. I'm considering making an effort locally (OK I'm a type six which is odd for an INTP)

[@bjrntykhelle2892]

Barnum effect

[@hotshots149]

@@louisejoel _Ne at work._

[@shreyathapa5001]

Bruh that’s so true. I’m more close with my online friends than irl ones. 🤧🤧

[@awkwardtortilla6197]

“The ENFP and the INFP…they’re all over the place *nervous chuckles” I have never been summed up in so few words 🙃

[@ritaruggerone4434]

LOL it’s so true 😆🙃🥲 ✨✨ INFP here🙋‍♀️💓

[@Meg_intheclouds]

Haha neither- ENFP. My way of connecting with others is sharing my ideas or like asking them hypothetical questions to get a conversation going and things that I find super interesting, also humour is 100% the way I connect. I had a sleepover with my INTP friend yesterday and we spent like 90% of the time talking about hypotheticals or ideas and analysis of things. The other 10% was ranting (we went from deep to what makes us angry between like 4am and 5. Then at 6 it was back to like hypotheticals, or like analysing structures. Like we spent half an hour analysing the social hierarchy of high school and how even after you leave in any social setting you have the same groups, and like what might make someone popular, and just like thinking about why that was. Super interesting. I have two INTP friends and we can just analyse, debate and discuss hypothetical scenarios and ideas for hours and hours (though fine tend to be a bit more flavourful than theirs) And we bounce off each other with jokes and stuff. My friendship group In general is just great for that (2x INTP, Me-ENFP, ISTJ and an INFJ) though the ISTJ gets tired with our hypotheticals after a bit.

[@shellyballard8316]

We aren’t rambling, we just HAVE to give you the back stories of everything in the situation we are talking about so you can fully immerse yourself into the experience to appreciate the cool idea...guys💁🏼‍♀️

[@Meg_intheclouds]

@@shellyballard8316 haha yes. Some people say I give way too much detail sometimes. And that’s normally sensors who also tend to give so much detail when talking about their day or something. Like my ISTJ mum who tells me I’m just “rambling” or “talking rubbish” when I’m exploring ideas sometimes (though tbf I can imagine some of my ideas appear that way cause they can be out there even though to me they seem exciting) and give too much detail or I’m “overanalysing it”. But yet if someone is telling a story or she’s talking about her day she will explain every detail in what I imagine to her is an organised way that is normally chronological and thought out. I find the communication style differences very interesting. My ENTP dad on the other hand is very much like me 😂

[@shellyballard8316]

@@Meg_intheclouds I feel you on trying to listen to other people’s “grocery list” of a day 🤦🏼‍♀️ My situation is kinda flipped with my closest ENTP...that would be my 18 yr old son who CAN have fascinating, entertaining and connecting conversations with me...unless he feels like debating every word I say for 💩 and giggles😑

[@H.E.L.E.N.A.]

My bf is INFP and I have just realized all those puns are him trying to connect with me more and now I feel more loved 🥺

[@chaitanyajain3127]

Have a good life ,infps are one of the top 3 best types for me - enfp

[@hoshikoakitoro3730]

As an INFJ, I’m constantly questioning if I’m actually feeling the emotions I’m appearing to feel or if I’m faking it so hard that I manage to manipulate myself as well 😅

[@Atlantis.nemo2]

Same gosh 😮😮😮

[@vj.joseph]

It's not manipulation as the youtuber labels it. It's just fitting in with people around, to keep that social connection with them, afloat. There is no manipulation of others and no manipulation of oneself, only just a small change in feelings, to make others feel more comfortable. You very well-know and feel what you actually feel and when you are able to express it as well to others, but many people I have seen MANY times, were faking their expressions as well. Doesn't mean you have to be an INFJ to fake emotions. The when part is important to infj,that is not discussed here, instead it is labelled as manipulation instead, because that's how he has viewed it, doesn't mean that is the truth and reality with many other different types of infjs who are certainly different from him.

[@briaharris183]

"I can speak fine until I turn on the camera" FRANK THATS ALL OF US Edit Whoa 618 likes that's the most I ever got on this channel! And I'm probably the only ISTJ too ☹️

[@emp9413]

Lol yep

[@RosheenQuynh]

Then there's me who can't speak fine unless it's written and I'm not a total zombie

[@brokeneggshell5041]

I just realised...Frank James removed the heart!

[@SymphonyOphelia]

Unimportant but I’m your 600th like

[@briaharris183]

@@brokeneggshell5041 😢 I've exposed him I suppose he probably meant to cut that out in editing 😂

[@roseannehaytham6387]

This is so true for the INFJ, I actually would fake being angry just because someone expects me to. Like if someone is trying to annoy/tease me (in a supposedly funny friendly way of course) and even if it doesn't actually bother me, I would fake being a bit angry/annoyed because I'm afraid if I don't they might think I'm "boring" or something.

[@Kayla-me3ct]

SAME

[@suzyabca7946]

Why? Why do we have to be this way?!!!

[@laurieh3493]

I see it a lot too when I act as if I was surprised (when someone tell me a happy or disappointing story, I don’t know, it’s everytime I feel like I need to)… I feel dumb when I am like « really ???? Wowwwww ??? I didn’t expect that ???? » But in reality I am absolutely not surprised 😭😭 I can’t remember one time I was actually really surprised like I don’t know But I knew FJ was going to say that for INFJ 😭

[@summero-my5in]

I do this as an ENFP

[@tasenova2717]

OMG. This was the problem with one of my girlfriends, we broke up in the end, but she was annoyed that I didn't have much emotion to tease her, or to be annoyed by her when she was being herself, I just laughed off most things, what's so wrong about being with a guy that doesn't flip his pancake every five minutes?

[@mjinba07]

As an INFJ, I totally agree that I'm reading others and "going along" in order to connect. It's automatic. But it tends to make the other person think I feel the same way they do when in fact I'm just being polite and accommodating. Most people don't ask how I feel about things. Even when they do ask, I can't always tell them right away and then we have to see if they've got the tiny bit of patience it takes to listen. Most don't! Since the other person has no idea what I really think, I eventually start to feel lonely in the relationship. And others tend to develop the expectation that I'll go along, so when it comes to something important and I take a stand, they're blindsided. Yeah, it's not a great way to connect, it's just a shallow way to get along. Real connections take a long time to develop and are pretty exclusive.

[@yashivuvbolshomdomenakholm8274]

Absolutely and us INFJs hate shallow, small talk. I actually recently told an ex that I can see the other side of an issue without agreeing with it. His eyes bugged out thinking of all the times I just allowed him to talk... He never actually knew me. Big surprise why we are not together anymore. I use to get upset all the time and think that ppl were so rude for not asking me questions in reciprocation. Turns out most people are just really self-involved but aren't heartless (except a few like my ex). So, now I'm just quiet and then say something like "oh, you want me respond to you? I thought you were talking *at* me". Just to remind them I'm a person and not a device or their therapist. Another things I like to do is ask someone if they have enough emotional energy before I unload something heavy to them (whether about them or not). I make it a point to point out what I'm asking and sometimes they will reciprocate asking me the same if they get it. It's nice to have the option to say "no thank you. Another time will be best".

[@mjinba07]

@D H I think for the most part I've just accepted this dilemma as one of my quirks. Honesty is "reserved" for long term friends. And I only put quotation marks on that because it isn't intentional, it's just the way I naturally am. Bottom line, in any social situation, however uncomfortable it may turn out to be, I've always got me as a friend and that's pretty good. Yeah, it's lonely sometimes, but never empty.

[@Atlantis.nemo2]

Same though actually I'm not always that good at reading people. Nevertheless, if I am - SAME

[@kowakowa2]

I'm an INFP. I got really amused with everything even if it's a small thing lol. I would often laugh or start giggling at lame jokes. Plus, I love imagining stuff and just space out whenever I can. My friends think I'm not okay at first but once they get to know me better, they're used to it.

[@SugarandSarcasm]

We are whimsical like that

[@WhyYoutubeWhy]

Not me, I can't stand lame jokes.

[@heterosapiens_sapiens]

I am INTJ and I often imagine extremely odd scenarios. One dream I had, I kid you not, was the philoso-raptor with wheels instead of legs rolling up the CN tower. I'm serious

[@haniem1137]

For me infp and enfp are the funniest like effortlessly funny by standing still or saying anything, or even make fun of themselves 😁😁 You guys are just so natural nice and also a bit weird that make me laugh always

[@bonemasked3925]

man I thought I was the only one who intentionally makes fun of themselves (not in a bad way) and laugh at just about any joke someone says, cause I like, know what it feels like when nobody laughs at your joke

[@ikasugami]

oh, man...this perfectly explains how me, an INFJ, and my boyfriend, an INTJ, made a connection! He would come to a topic that he knows a lot about and has a lot of interest in, I'd ask him questions, he'd get really excited and animated in telling me everything he knows about it, and I'd give my "over the top" reactions knowing that I should be excited about it because he is excited about it and I like that he is feeling connected by me being excited. 😂

[@sheennina1234]

very infj 😂

[@airobert8778]

Haha same with my infj friend, I'm an intj.

[@laviniasnow4494]

That's wholesome. 🙂

[@TamamoAi]

I'm INFJ my boyfriend is INTJ LOL

[@ginny3599]

That is so very fake. Thank god there are at least some good observers out there who notice the fakeness. Knowledge and experience are helpful too.

[@delll372]

"they like, hypothetical ideas for fun.. what kind of fun is that???" almost choked my water through my nose. -INTP

[@apollontheintp3257]

I think it is the sweet taste of some escapist freedom from this disappointing world.

[@candyshmandy1887]

As an INTP I often will freak my entire class out at the beginning of the year when we're talking about lockdowns, evacuation, and other disaster procedures when I start voicing hypotheticals. For example, I knew that the classroom windows that look out into the hall arent bulletproof and so I asked when we would do if a shooter climbed through the window to reach us. I legitimately made my teacher cry with that,

[@notus11]

This doesn't sound like something an INTP would say

[@candyshmandy1887]

@@notus11 yeah well i said it in a moment of courage

[@superDpermn]

Such a mad lad

[@candyshmandy1887]

@@superDpermn indeed

[@xpertd1962]

Proud of you dog

[@shayamolimagogoi7950]

Me, an INTJ and my sister, an ENTJ to each other: "You are the only person that gets me."

[@rosy3dao]

I'll be thrilled to find out why would INTJs need to connect with others 🌝

[@gravetiger9333]

It's to help us blend in a little better

[@machimigookbutterfly]

To keep them within the knowledge that they're "right" about everything. And with all that "rightness" someone else has to keep up with the day to day business of life here on Planet Earth.

[@nerysghemor5781]

Sometimes you need people to do your bidding, don’t you? I know you’re not E’s but stuff still needs to happen. 🤪🤣

[@SGaming-cw7vh]

Hint: We don't. Honestly I can take it or leave it. If the interaction will help me reach my end goal, which I've already planned out I'll go for it. Otherwise, I'm happiest alone.

[@violetvisionz7330]

I like connecting with others I find cool or interesting. Especially if they like the same things as me and we can do them together. Or because I'm trying to be polite.

[@mcgil8891]

"They don't care if you laugh or not. As long as it's funny to them, that's the priority there" 👏👏👏👏 As an ENFP I can 💯 confirm that's true 😂😂😂

[@ilou9129]

heck yes oh my gosh

[@kailanGoreng]

i don't mind rolling on th floor laughing alone at my own joke with people around lol

[@user-ez2ez3dd4g]

Man I love enfps -istp

[@mcgil8891]

@@kailanGoreng sameeeeee. And people are like "what's funny about that?"

[@mcgil8891]

@@user-ez2ez3dd4g haha thaaaanks ❤️

[@kargovroom7701]

How different types connect with you The normal ones: STJ: Doing stuff with you STP: Friendly competition SFJ: Take care of you SFP: Finds a middle ground Things start getting weird: NTP: Mentally challenging (because they love you) NTJ: Even more mentally challenging (but because they love you) NFP: They wanna vibe with you NFJ: Manipulation

[@MELEMADE338]

Bro what

[@andreashetterly8415]

I'm an ENFP and my younger sister is an INFP, we're a dangerous match together. If we're in a completely comfortable environment, we can't get through a conversation without making 10-20 references/inside jokes. We will interrupt ourselves to do so and sometimes we say the same reference at the same time. It is hilarious. 😆 Also as children we made a secret language based on how we were feeling kind of. So we have certain phrases that mean, "Excitement". We still reference it from time to time.

[@winryrockbell4361]

My lil sis is INFJ and im ENFP we have the same chemistry as u two we are inseparables !! 🤣🤣❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥 It's HILARIOUS

[@michaelajacobsen3619]

I just have a list of all the stupidest things I've said when me and my brother are together...

[@JadedeaJade]

My ex is an INFJ, we used to quote movies, instead of communicating normally. In some cases, if we were in situation that mimicked a tv show, movie, sometimes anime, we would look at each other, smile, and either start doing dialogue or recreating the scene. I.E. We were on this long road that we could see I think a mile ahead, we looked at each other and we were both thinking about stepping on the gas and taking the car to 88.8mph to go back to the future lmao.

[@phungbili]

INFP here. People actually look at me like, "What? Dude!" whenever I crack a joke. I never realised till this moment that those jokes might come across as inside jokes to other people. Seriously, this is a revelation! And I can't stop laughing! 😂 But Frank, I do care if people find my jokes funny or not. I want to be funny, but I always end up feeling like an alien trying to fit in. I'm always so disappointed that no one laughs at things that I find funny.

[@KatErina-ii6ru]

Just find another INFP ISFP or INFJ .. you’ll laugh a lot. Especially INFJ you’ll have similar humor. ESFP is also fun …

[@KatErina-ii6ru]

I forgot also find an ENFP… you’ll get each other 😂

[@senroillust4114]

Sometimes my cousins looked so pissed whenever i cracked a joke, their expression is funny lol

[@brumbybailey6599]

Yeah, our sense of humour is...odd

[@junebug115]

@@brumbybailey6599 lol

[@SnowKat-mn9qh]

INFJ here, this is exactly why people think I’m good at talking to others. It’s because I know how people want me to respond, and I do that. I know that I’m supposed to laugh at their joke, I read in their tone that I should ask about that thing they just mentioned casually, I know to nod my head and smile to communicate that I’m interested and paying attention. I just follow the pattern and the signals, and give them what they want.

[@metametodo]

My perception is that the so called manipulative aspect of it enters when, for example, we intentionally ignore these cues that others are clearly putting out there, and I can choose what to do with that. But that's the thing, I think every type occasionally or frequently ignore specific circumstances because they simply don't want to follow an undesired path. That's not that different from INFJ "manipulation". I think the difference resides in efficiency and frequency INFJs explore and want to understand how these small social things work. Thus maybe having a greater potential to use that knowledge in effective ways.

[@millennialsmusicmix]

We have Listening Skills, that is all. :)

[@itchyanklez5045]

Precisely. I’ve been told I’m good at listening to others for the same reasons. But having the ability to read them and give them what they want all the time can be both incredibly useful, and incredibly manipulative, (not to mention mentally draining). When you want to connect, you use your abilities to show you are listening and you care. If you are trying to manipulate the conversation, you can easily get it done with incredible subtlety and apparent innocence. It’s scary, but low key kinda fun. Like holding a gun- a lot of power, and it’s fun to use, but also frighteningly destructive.

[@AlexTheFox2001]

Exactly...and when I tell them I have social anxiety, they're always like : "What?! That can't be with your people and talkiing skills!" 😅

[@pirelli2869]

Its also very exhaustive, when you talk to somebody and you dont really care about the topic, but you force yourself to act like you are excited or sad or whatever you think they want you to feel.

[@AsymmetricalAce]

As an ENTP who appreciates subtle humor I tend to repeat jokes I find really funny like 5 times throughout a conversation and people never get them and think I’m just repeating it for no reason. I really like it when people get subtle jokes and it makes me feel like they are actually paying attention to the conversation

[@lizzie3724]

Others: let's connect INTJ: No.*death stares*

[@jessica1lopez]

You have no idea how many times I have stopped talking to people when they have said I'm the only one that keeps talking to them. Makes me feel bad, but at the same time, they shouldn't assume I'm a talking person. I only talk to them for some time and then don't, so people who do that are the ones I like to talk to.

[@SM-hl6hh]

So BASICALLY.... if someone seems like they're being really random and making the weirdest connections out there.....it's an XNXP 😂

[@Chigger]

Yes. There was this one time at work when these two customers looked at some peach wine and said that you can make wine out of anything these days, so my ENFP brain immediately thought, "What about meat?" After doing some research, it actually seems to be possible. After the research is finished, I'll need a license to manufacture alcohol or find someone who's already licensed.

[@naono9715]

@@Chigger or just do it... Illegally.

[@Chigger]

@@naono9715 If I get caught, the fines and possible jail sentence are a much higher cost than a valid license. I checked with someone who knows both sides of the law.

[@sash8099]

It's because of Ne - transconstexual thinking according to Dario Nardi.

[@Bravo-Tango-7274]

Yup that's me

[@camillegodwin6398]

“You know how the ISFJ is the stereotypical nurse”? Why yes, I do know. My mom is an ISFJ and she is a nurse. How stereotypical of her.

[@maryrichards4517]

I’m an ISFJ and a nurse. So yes, I do know.

[@bluebellbell3725]

My mum too:)

[@AnaCarolina-io5vr]

same here

[@jessica9043]

my friends ISFJ and going into medical field too

[@azanuan9185]

My ISFJ friend works as guard and cook

[@christianbh]

I agree with the xNTJ one. It’s fun to hypothesize random theoretical problems, come up with potential solutions, and then examine how good of a solution it is. And I can see how feelers would not like that style of conversation because they tend to take you scrutinizing their idea as you scrutinizing them personally and in a hostile manner.

[@azukib2230]

I actually love talking with xNTJ about concepts and theories as an INFP. I can sort of go into an extroverted thinking - extraverted intuition loop and it’s really fun

[@YumYumXd290]

I also agree as an Infp and I have an intj twin brother xD I'm so used to my brother questioning me when we talk certain topics that I don't get hurt easily from it. I just see it as a freakin challenge sometimes.

[@lucasmoreno4412]

Yes, sometimes we like to hang with feelers but "every move we do is to kill them". It doesn't work like that, sometimes I'm just cutting the pizza. 🍕

[@lucasmoreno4412]

Metaphor

[@elisa4620]

Actually, healthy feelers could be interested in that kind of conversations. So lo'g as both parties are being respectful. It is an opportunity for growth and opening one's perspectives.

[@claytonanderson692]

He’s right about INTP/ENTP a lot of our humor is extremely subtle, the best is when you’re in a group and you and one or two other people are on the same page having some witty banter but everyone else in the group doesn’t get the jokes. And yea we 100% will think less of you if you don’t get the jokes.

[@pawa7714]

and I disagree

[@IdonthaveatwittersoFoff.]

Nope...they’re correct.

[@pawa7714]

@@IdonthaveatwittersoFoff. well now I think less of you

[@blackqatanani7300]

@@pawa7714 then u agreed

[@pawa7714]

@@blackqatanani7300 or did I? Did I really do that?

[@FaronGA]

As an NT, Sometimes I want friends, but then I remember all crimes are committed by humans.

[@1chienandalou]

So are all “good” things. Also define “crime” and why it’s supposed to be a “bad” thing. Define good and bad while you’re at it. Justify your reasoning. 10000 words on my desk by Monday! Sincerely, another NT ;))

[@noemita494]

Well, not all humans are criminals.

[@FaronGA]

@@1chienandalou Ive actually done this one before. Lemme see if I can find it.

[@FaronGA]

​@@1chienandalou So i'm not the best writer, Crime can be defined as breaking the law, which is essentially the rules for living within a society. But they're just that. Rules. Rules aren't inherently good or bad, but in the context of the law (a set of rules that govern individuals within a society for continued function, the opposite being anarchy) you can define what a good or bad rule is by a criteria of fairness, or what protects someone from being hurt unfairly by another. Take someone who decides to drive home after drinking at a party as an example. Someone may or may not get hit, he may or may not crash, he may or may not make it home. Is it fair to other people on the road, who are following the rules that ensure the safety of operating a motor vehicle, that the driver has affected his ability to be less than optimal for operating a system, and thus risen his chances of hurting someone? By breaking these rules he puts other people at risk, who are not breaking these rules. So it can be observed that rules tend to come from a place of protecting those who live in a society, from unfair treatment. It may offer perspective to consider "an eye for an eye" being the most primitive form of law, fairness, whatever. So boiling it down it can be like Good = what's for the greater good, for all. Bad = things that can be put on the far end of selfishness if it were a spectrum. TL;DR en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Culpability

[@navyal7237]

But then again , the concept of crime was invented by us too .

[@writingthug]

I am an INFP and laugh at my own jokes constantly. It makes me so happy when other people recognize how funny I am. I need new material for home, though, as my husband is getting tired of the same jokes. 🤭 🤨 I don't understand why. 🤷🏻

[@illegalsubstance953]

What’s your husband’s personality type if I may ask?

[@writingthug]

@@illegalsubstance953 He's an INTJ. Pretty spot on ... Ultra logical. He told me a couple of decades ago that the thing he loves most about me is my humor. I hold on to that. 🤣😊

[@illegalsubstance953]

@@writingthug Haha I’m an INTJ too. Even if we don’t act like it we always appreciate the little things

[@writingthug]

@@illegalsubstance953 😍

[@jessica9043]

As an INFP with an ENFP bestie, we have so many inside jokes. Theres one where we pretend to be middle aged moms, so we call each other Pam and Marge lmaoo. Some friends dont get, it oh well! 😂

[@zimkeli2491]

I'm an INFP and so is my 14 year old daughter. I appreciated your comment so much because my daughter and I do a similar thing! We talk like crazy old ladies and have a whole little story going about our lives. At any random time we start talking in character. We laugh more about random things than things that are "supposed to be funny."

[@melissalopez3823]

My best friend is an INFP and I’m an ENFP and we always joke around about being each other’s wives 😂 we’ll also “flirt” with each other by making comments or winking

[@thainadaterra]

I had a very close friend that is an infp (I'm enfp) and we also did a bunch of roleplays, our favorite was aunt(him) and nephew(me)

[@andreashetterly8415]

I'm an ENFP and my sister is an INFP, we invented Toni and Nicki every time we make spaghetti we do a bit about who's stirring the sauce, but in loud Italian American jersey style dialects. I'm glad we're not the only ones.

[@JadedeaJade]

@@andreashetterly8415 OMG I DO THE SAME THING!!!!! The New Jersey heavy smoker, Italian or Jewish dialect!!! I'm not even from the east coast! I'm from Cali! HAHAHAHHAHAHAHHA. I have a valley girl accent, I'm black, but I can sound Jewish or Italian. I never been to New York or New Jersey. I don't know where it comes from. I can do some more accents but their horrible, and it's random. One night I did a perfect east london accent.

[@alliegyuh1984]

* Timestamps. *This is copy pasted from the description but ig you didn't read it* *- (A grammarly ad was edited out from the video, correct timestamps in replies) 0:00 Intro 0:51 I change my shirt 1:05 Grammarly 2:27 ISTJ & ESTJ 3:43 ISTP & ESTP 4:44 ISFJ & ESFJ 5:58 ISFP & ESFP 7:40 INTP & ENTP 9:13 INTJ & ENTJ 11:14 INFP & ENFP 12:32 INFJ & ENFJ

[@definitelyreal.]

You're right, I didn't.

[@mimomafu]

i love you

[@alliegyuh1984]

@@mimomafu kzbin.info/www/bejne/gJm1pYZ-qtWJhKs

[@sofiapereira6127]

True 🤦‍♀️🙄 Thanks

[@ancarps]

I feel like someone has already read me xD, INFJ🧡

[@1MysteryLover1969]

I do love a good "inside joke", and it's a pretty good indicator of whether someone is going to "get me" or not. -- INFP

[@ritaruggerone4434]

AHHH but when they don’t understand the inside joke 🥲🥲🥲 THE PAIN

[@isolated.wallflower]

@@ritaruggerone4434 same 😓😓

[@LaciRae]

others rarely get it. but when they do, they get instant like points.

[@isolated.wallflower]

@@LaciRae yes infact this could be game changer for us, as soon I think she got my idea. I instantly start liking her😂😅

[@CaveyMoth]

Are INFPs the inventors of memes?

[@yashivuvbolshomdomenakholm8274]

That's so INFJ! 😂 I recently reconnected with an old friend. In our first conversation, we talked for 3 hours about some rough times he had in the past decade... 3 hours! I was supportive and even asked questions and went "over the top" in some things to show that I still care... He did *not* ask me *one* time anything about my life... Even though I threw some instances that have happened to me to give him a hint to ask. After, I felt like my entire soul was sucked dry in a counseling session I had just given free of charge... Then I remembered why we weren't friends anymore: he was an energy vampire. This INFJ bounced hard the next time he tried to talk to me.

[@AA123TD]

I'm an INFJ with 5 kids. I've learned to look like I'm listening to conserve my emotional energy. 😆 If it is extremely important then I'm all ears. But if you're just whining, I could care less.

[@yashivuvbolshomdomenakholm8274]

@@AA123TD yes, I've worked with children for about 15 years and I do the same. It really is an art form 😂

[@Sandipan_Naskar]

@@yashivuvbolshomdomenakholm8274 I always try to avoid energy vampires now, to keep my mental peace intact...!

[@yashivuvbolshomdomenakholm8274]

@@Sandipan_Naskar yes, lesson learned. No thank you 😂

[@yashivuvbolshomdomenakholm8274]

@Deborah Kirchner why it is unsettling? Do you feel uncomfortable being vulnerable and opening up?

[@AEPhotography2011]

As an INFJ, when I'm feeling emotionally drained its so hard to "react the way they want me to" and then I sometimes feel guilt for that. Which is silly. But it's hard to just let myself have a genuine response. When, like you said, just trying to help the person I'm talking to feel heard!

[@AA123TD]

recognize what they're telling you. If they're venting, nod every now and then but don't absorb it. If it is extremely serious be all ears. I have 5 kids and I've learned to be protective of my emotional energy through them.

[@brandonmorss9314]

Today my ISTJ dad called leveling the lawn with a roller "family bonding" time. It's kinda scary how on-point Frank's yard-work / lawn-mowing example was in applying to him, not gonna lie.

[@carissahill3414]

My Dad would clearly be an ISTJ too based off this connection style. When my Dad comes over to my house, I can't get him to stop fixing things and making me join in on helping him fix things even though I am totally inept at it and just frustrate him... But I do crack jokes the entire time! Frank called me out and I didn't even realize it that is how I try to bond with others! Even when I go over to my Dad's house it's the same thing really. He is in the process of doing something and suddenly now I am part of it. If I am talking to him on the phone, he is constantly asking me what I am fixing or going to fix and I just think to myself ...uhhh ... You mean break right? This totally helps to realize he is BONDING with me. Though my Dad does take me out on adventures too. What is your bonding type?

[@geaster3122]

I know NFJs can get a lot of grief for trying to "manipulate" people, but honestly it's not that we're intentionally trying to be malicious, it's like an instinctual compulsion to make others feel good even at the expense of our own personal feelings. As an ENFJ, it's like it's physically impossible for me not to step up to accommodate a social interaction if it seems other people are feeling awkward, left out, down about themselves, etc (Fe dom). I try to be as authentic as I can when encouraging or reacting to someone by searching for even the tiniest positive in the situation and hyping that up to the moon and back.

[@gizemdinler7649]

EXACTLY

[@metametodo]

My authenticity when I try to make things better socially doesn't reside that much within my expressions or mood. Instead, my authenticity resides in the genuine desire to make things better for us, and prevent unnecessary suffering that I can avoid through somewhat faking my mood and superficial opinions. They're less important than our relationship, wellbeing and growth. INFJ here.

[@oliviamohtady3515]

Agreed. And when I'm in the moment socially, I actually do feel happy or amused or saddened by the story I'm being told, even if I wouldn't feel that way on my own! So it's not even fake.

[@geaster3122]

@@oliviamohtady3515 Yes! As NFs, we tend to be very sensitive to others' emotions to a point of even adopting then as our own. So in our own way, we *are* being real, because in that moment we really are "feeling" your emotions, oftentimes unintentionally.

[@apollontheintp3257]

It's not manipulation, but modification what you are doing.

[@rajunaidu7751]

Personality types: connecting w/people INTJ: you guys still talk to the humans 😄

[@carolinanq10]

😂

[@JDMimeTHEFIRST]

I only connect with other aliens. Humans bore me.

[@dtcruz8953]

No -ISTP

[@dannyhodson2525]

As an intp, I can say, I like to have very hypothetical conversations or just talk about science stuff to people, and I can get easily bored if the conversation isn't mentally stimulating, so this is pretty accurate

[@Naoko1875]

For me as a type with the “head in the clouds” (INTJ) I naturally connect more with other cloud people. ☁️☁️☁️🤔☁️☁️☁️

[@candacedavis403]

I find that the cloud people are others with NT. You're welcome.

[@apollontheintp3257]

The cloud is the future!

[@kauffrau6764]

Life in the cloud is Glorious!

[@peaceglory5973]

@@candacedavis403 INFs also

[@bimafebriyanto8680]

"these types is something else" when you explaining about INTP & ENTP, somehow it sounds funny and also annoyed me at the same time. 🙏🤣

[@Charlotte8591]

ENFJ is spot on. I would feel bad about myself if someone was telling a joke and I didn't laugh. So I always try to make sure someone feels seen and heard and comfortable. One of my biggest fears is being perceived as mean, cold or insensitive.

[@grelm1322]

I wish I could meet an ENFJ. Yall sound so pleasant

[@p1glep]

I'm the same! ENFJ squad!

[@p1glep]

@@grelm1322 Apparently we're the 2nd rarest of types, do you know how much I have to scroll in the comments section just to find another ENFJ? LOL

[@Charlotte8591]

@@p1glep Maybe we're just not the biggest fans of this channel? I mean I am, but maybe not other ENFJ's. I have a couple of ENFJ friends.

[@p1glep]

@@Charlotte8591 I get that- Like sometimes in skits he only shows Enfj once but shows other ones more than once. I'm not complaining, I still love his videos. It's just something I noticed!

[@nakoda787]

I always think: “What if I’m not an INTJ?” and then I watch your videos and every time it’s scarily accurate.

[@shiran4204]

I agree that XNFP types are so random. As an infp myself, I always say random things and jokes that only I get, idc if the other person don't know where it's from lol. I also make dark humor jokes with ppl I try to be friends with(rare) . If they get me, I vibe with them 😝

[@loisrabies8713]

Agree. 90% of the time I just get blank stares.

[@ritaruggerone4434]

As a fellow INFP, I relate to what you have said on a spiritual level 😌✨✨

[@shiran4204]

@@loisrabies8713 dude SAME. I just laugh and walk away lol

[@kasiako355]

I am also an INFP, and I have ENFP friend, we totally get each other's sense of humour and laugh together a lot :D I also love my ISTJ hubby's sarcastic sense of humour, I guess it played a big role why I've fallen for him xD We also get each other's jokes, and love our subtle word games :D

[@annettewilkinson5750]

As an INFP I actually find it even funnier when people don’t get the joke.

[@Gintoki881]

Frank: “and I want you to feel good and I want you to like me and I’m trying to manipulate you” - my favourite quote from this video 👏

[@skf2658]

My best friend is INTJ and we sit, drink coffee, lots of it, and discuss religion and politics. In fact, whenever something big politically happens, she calls me and says, I have to get your insight on this. She’s so awesome! ~ ENFJ

[@girl_from_everywhere]

Yes. We are always trying to bring people into "THE FOLD" - an INFP

[@Multitudes_]

As an INFP, I save most of my joking for the people I already know can appreciate my type of humor - or for my writing. I often find I connect best with people when they need my help or support. In many cases, once that need dissipates, I find there's not much of a basis for a connection left, as we don't really have much in common, and I just don't enjoy most people's company in a 'just for fun' context. The most authentic and lasting connections tend to be with people who feel similarly about a lot of things and share my basic values - and also those who click really well with my Ne.

[@eval4495]

That second paragraph really resonated with me. 👀 I realized that after my friendship with my "best friend" wasn't going anywhere. She only needed me for emotional support.

[@scoutboo]

I'm an INFP and I've always wanted to have an ENFP friend, they seem so funny and genuine

[@kaylahall1219]

I am ENFP. I will be your friend. 😁👍

[@kaylahall1219]

Who is your favorite writer, band/song, and dog breed?

[@ritaruggerone4434]

@@kaylahall1219 Can you be mine too? 🥺💖💖💖

[@Hallelujur]

I'm an ENFP and my favorite people are INFP's! We just vibe so well!! 😍

[@isolated.wallflower]

@@kaylahall1219 I like these but not like favourite. Writer is William Wordsworth song is Aarambh and all dog's breed are fav but Lebra is most fav. Now will you be my friend?

[@nicolemusic02]

ENFP girl here! This is literally me! I love talking about random stuff and making inside jokes. And I love connecting with people through humour! I met my ex bf by talking about random movies. Speaking of, he was an INTJ (so completely the opposite personality type) and every time we spoke about smth, we’d got into a deep conversation about it and he’d want to test different stuff out

[@KarolinaLewczukk]

As an ENFP I so agree with it. I mean, I love joking around and yeah that's true, even if nobody's gonna laugh (which happens really rarely lol) I still having fun at all BUT if someone tells me that they like my sense of humor, it's literally the best feeling ever.

[@cynthiaholland13]

So true! I remember when my high school teacher realized I was funny. That was almost 30 years ago! 😳 well time flies. But it was the biggest compliment to me

[@RahulKumar-ct4pj]

Fellow ENFP here *virtual hugs*

[@VeryTori]

ENFP here! *joins and makes it a group hug* Literally same. I love making jokes, and most of the time people don’t get it, or only my family gets it, but I like the cleverness of it! It’s an amazing feeling though and really means a lot when someone acknowledges the joke, finds it funny, and tells me I’m clever or witty!

[@sams_enfp]

me, an INFJ with a sense of humor to rival ENFPs:

[@Loulizabeth]

As an INFJ this makes so much sense and is maybe why during lectures and sermons I feel like the person speaking ends up talking directly to me quite a bit of the time, as I tend to be just naturally an active listener. It can become especially the case of everyone else in the group don't tend to look like they're very engaged at all. This can become incredibly unnerving, because it makes you feel the centre of attention, which is just in no way what you're wanting. Yet because you do it naturally it's really hard to stop it, and the whole time you just wish loads of others in the room would be actively listening too. Do any other INFJ's relate to this?

[@Kayla-me3ct]

yep, like so you nod when the teacher makes points or you agree with something, and smile or chuckle if they say something meant to be funny? I’ve noticed myself doing this a lot and like you’re saying it’s frustrating being the only one doing it

[@matthewyang7893]

I guess we just listen well eh

[@regina8710]

Yep, my years at the uni were basically like this. Most of my fellow students didn’t really bother listening to the lecturers, so I was the only one doing the job with the never-ending mantra of “don’t screw this up, listen actively, keep eye contact, look interested”. On the plus side, exams were easier because of it 😂

[@Loulizabeth]

@@regina8710 very much so. Also really interested to know if others INFJ's relate to this too. Wherever the lecturer asked a question and I waited to see if anyone else would answer and nobody did, so I ended up answering the question. I tried to wait longer and longer, as it just started to feel weird. But others hardly ever seemed to answer and it just felt incredibly frustrating. It's this just a Scottish thing re people not answering in lectures or or is it more a personality styles thing worldwide.

[@regina8710]

@@Loulizabeth I think it’s something akin to the bystander effect. Why bother if somebody else is going to do it. Or maybe shyness in general

[@thatoneguy1520]

NT types: argues with you or goes through multiple conspiracy rabbit holes....sometimes philosophical pondering.

[@SNinjaQK]

@@Sheseasyouthere metaethics too

[@1chienandalou]

Not always. When we get older we learn to step away from discussing things with people who can’t logic and sit back and try to learn something from the absurdity. We would cry, but with all the robot parts not a good idea to add too much moisture.

[@thatoneguy1520]

@@Rumplegirlskin you xNTP?

[@keostar7501]

@@Rumplegirlskin I agree with this -intp

[@polestarc]

Purely debate, no emotions in every rebuttal. If purely emotional, NT combines learning while feeling/suffering. Everything has a reason.

[@redmagi5283]

As an INTP, This is absolutely a call out post 😂 (And absolutely why I love other INTPs and ENTPs)

[@kristiannehassman5547]

As an INFJ myself, what you said about giving the other person the reaction they want is so true!! I never really thought of it as manipulating, but I guess it kind of is . . .

[@elisa4620]

It might be seen as lying. Or maybe being fake (to some extent it is). But I don't think it is manipulative. Fellow INFJ

[@kristiannehassman5547]

@@elisa4620 True! I think it's more about not wanting to disappoint the other person than trying to manipulate them.

[@tillygirl7450]

@@kristiannehassman5547 Yes!

[@isolated.wallflower]

We INFPs never make connections intentionally infact most of my friends are the one who initiated talks and I just replied but still after some time our bond is good.

[@viktorija4485]

Same here! And they shoud be willing to wait, I need a looot of time/space to answer 😉

[@isolated.wallflower]

@@viktorija4485 even after taking too.much time what I say is Ok, Good and then wait to initate another topic from my friend 😅😅

[@olkrai]

Yea!

[@persian338]

That's why i don't have many friends, i hate starting conversations with random people, and i always worry people would find me too weird and don't wanna talk with me

[@isolated.wallflower]

@@persian338 that's really same, even I think same but one of my friend said that that I just overthink in reality I am good in making interactions but the thing is I don't make. You should also start making interactions infact trust me you are good at making but your self confidence is low like mine. By the way if I want to be your friend. Will you be?

[@stella_313]

Title: How do the 16 personalities connect with others? IxTJ me: I don't.

[@gravetiger9333]

Yup - intj

[@samiyahshaikh]

Yeah-intj

[@btslittlemixarmixer1654]

Same

[@NoOne-qy2yf]

Same- INTJ

[@theorityx4981]

Intps - Minecraft works

[@hans5259]

"So things are gonna get weird. That's just what happens when we start talking about intuitives." I love that part 😂

[@currentlysleeping3366]

It’s so true that when I’m in a conversation with my INTP friend we always get onto a deep and thoughtful subject.

[@simplysaifskits3847]

Frank :" gramerly helps you CONNECT with others " I see what you did there 😂

[@angkim3111]

LMAO

[@dianatorralbo7690]

We never forget someone with whom we had inside jokes. ENFP

[@fridgeonion]

INFP/ENFP 💯 spot on haha. So factual. My bro is an ENFP and I’m an INFP and although we are almost polar opposite, humour we’re both weirdos but my bro has no shame and filter where my filter is hit or miss and I’m more introverted and handle humour rejection terribly haha

[@floraszeredi1345]

As an ENFP I always try to connect through questions, which I ask like all the time. It might seems weird to others, if I ask for example that "What do you think about vacuum cleaners, are you team brooms or team vacuum cleaners, which one do you prefer?" And tbh I'm not saying I'm not trying to be funny while asking random stuff, but I am truly curious about their opinion and it really annoys me if they only laugh at it without sharing their thoughts on it

[@MLELELELEL]

While reading your comment, my brain automatically answered: 'Team brooms! .... Wait but I would also like to have a vacuum cleaner cause it sucks the dust and little bits, which brooms typically miss'

[@orrhousecreative]

Fellow ENFP, I vibe with that; I guess it relates back to how we want people to be genuine and honest with us, ja feel?

[@killbill9847]

I just now realised that I also do these things and I think it's 1) to know their opinion but 2) to also be able to "categorise" and understand their personalities better. I hate small talk so mostly I'll ask people random questions to break the ice and to actually get to know them better. I like to ask questions like "Which MCU character do you relate the most and which one would you like to be?" or "What would your pirate name be?" or "Do you think you would survive a zombie apocalypse and what would your "function" be if you did?" Idk I'm never really aware of asking these type of questions, they're just so much fun, entertaining and it inspires a lot of curiosity in me. But I also think that we ask these questions, subconsciously, to determine ones character much better. By the way, I think I would be team brooms 'cus vacuum cleaners are so damn loud and they also blow a lot of warm air and Idk why but that warm air really makes me dizzy so yeah and also with brooms you can sit on them and pretend you're a wizard/witch playing Quidditch if you're a bit bored of all the cleaning!

[@saihajmangat2995]

@@orrhousecreative lmfao, yes I feel you :))

[@saihajmangat2995]

@@killbill9847 yes! I also use random questions to break the ice and figure out if they’re a person I’d like. Also I’d answer the questions but I’m not sure I’m feeling up to typing so much rn

[@PaperParade]

I honestly had no idea what was going to be said about us INFPs, especially when I could see myself doing the things of the two before it. But when you got there, I realized-holy shit, that is EXACTLY what I do. I even realized somewhat recently that the reason I have so many different sorts of friends who I may have very little actually in common with-we are friends because of a shared, oddball sense of humor. Spot on!

[@janalunadottir]

Yeah, I can never invite all my friends to a party together, it would be a desaster!😂😂😂 They are SO different.🙃 (ENFP)

[@PaperParade]

@@janalunadottir I’ve had some weird encounters where I brought my friends together. At first it’s awkward but by the end everyone loves each other and has inside jokes together lol

[@sylvia470]

You are exactly right about INFJ. My INFJ ex-boyfriend is like that. This sort of behaviour is very obvious for INTP, we see right through it. My other friend, female INFJ tends to manipulate a lot, I see it right away and kind of let her do whatever, it feels like she needs this 'feeling of control'. As long as she does not hurt me or touch my freedom I don't really care.

[@QweAsd-tc8qt]

As an ENFP I can say that this is accurate af. I met an INFJ and I was trying to be “normal” but my chaotic (broken) sense of humor slipped at some point and the first time he made an inside joke (replying to my stupid comment) was that I realized he was the one. We've met two weeks ago but I already want to marry him.

[@yeppieyay8906]

So how's your relationship going?

[@yurie.channel]

You are totally right about INFJ. The way that we connect with people is by listening carefully to their conversation and be excited, angry or whatever responses they expected us to give(intended or not). We just want them to feel good and knows that we appreciate them opening conversation with us. By them feeling good, it makes us feel good as well^^

[@MarzoAlive]

Me as an INFJ, already in late twenties. I just noticed me doing that. I mean, I really care of what *I think* what other people will think of me Again, what *I THINK*, not really what other people think of me, is the thought process I have in my head, what I IMAGINE, other people think of me. I hope I make sense xD If I'm talking with someone, I hope they're thinking nice of me while I'm listening; "Do I have a good expression?", "I hope they don't think I don't care what they're saying", "Should I give feedback? What if they don't want it and think I'm annoying?" And after our talk, if we don't end up our conversation right, I think the rest of the day of why it felt weird, did I do something wrong? Do they hate me now? Are they bored of me?"

[@Nick-tz3ke]

If an INFJ did failed a conversation, they'll regret and overthink it until the next week, if not the thought of it will randomly appear when doing nothing or showering and it will effect their sanity for the rest of the day :') -A Fellow INFJ.

[@Skazoonit]

What Nick said! Also all the overthinking causes extreme lack of sleep! What a neurotic hell.

[@Nick-tz3ke]

@@Skazoonit Stop overthinking they said". It's true, overthink is the cause of all our messes, but sometimes the thought doesn't simply vanish. It could blind our reality and engulf us with constant question loop that in order to get out of it we need sudden distraction, like a tap in the shoulder or people calling our name.

[@alaskanoodle6457]

The commercial thing was perfect 👌 As an INFP, It's common for me to laugh when I'm with people I enjoy, or get along with. If I'm around no one I know, and trying to strike a conversation (which the other person normally strikes first) with a stranger, I don't show much emotion on the outside. In my mind I'm like, "smile and nod, smile and nod!"

[@persian338]

That's why some people might think i am cold or something, but the fact is, i am not comfortable until i know you better. This happens expecially when someone is talking about something i don't care about and i just don't know what to say

[@Bennet_Froggy]

i have an ad blocker so it's even better

[@Interestking]

@@persian338 It took me 18 years of life to start to realize that I could come across as cold/scary when I don't know someone. I thought everyone just saw me as a target/pushover/weakling, and so I always had my shields up.

[@tk-bs3cd]

this is actually so accurate. im an intp, and me and this intj tried to connect by discussing hypothetical situations, scenarios, problems, all that.. and he, the intj, would often remind me to stay on one topic and not stray too far away from the original subject. we had a great conversation nonetheless.

[@Seniormints7]

As an ENFJ I just had to take a pause after saying “they go over the top to make sure that YOU KNOW that they are feeling the way you want them to be feeling” I feel so called out rn. This is so true.

[@stephanieadavison]

The ISFP was so accurate, it is so hard to have conversations with people I have nothing in common with. 😂😂😂

[@hyunjinnie_320]

Yes, fellow ISFP here and I absolutely agree!

[@user-sh9yv4jz9q]

So true

[@whitneyaltenbern7822]

Yup! ISFP too and I really have no interest in talking to people that don’t share similar interests! I’m not into small talk at all unless it’s with people that I like (nice coworkers, family events..) and even then the small talk is to create a positive atmosphere or lead into closer bonding rather than something I enjoy. I like to dig deep in conversations too and get to the heart of matters... like what are you traumatized by? XD maybe that’s the Scorpio in my chart. If we don’t jive, I walk away pretty quickly.. quietly and casually... I’d rather hang out with the pets at a function and sneak off to have alone time than have awkward conversations

[@keylis_1547]

He estado buscando este comentario!

[@shadowboxing7029]

I'm quite possibly the only friend my ISFP partner has. I think he gave up years ago on people having commonality with him, he has his family and that's enough for him. Even our conversations aren't what you'd call extensive, we can go hours without saying anything to each other, which suits me fine as an ISTP. It works lol.

[@skzstay8]

As an INFP, I very often find myself laughing / giggling out loud because of some random joke that I made up for myself and it's funny to me. My friends & family can't understand me, but I'm okay with that as long as the jokes are funny to me. So let's say that this thing is SO true about INFPs.

[@aggravatedbookworm]

INTP: lol hypothetical things are how my husband stole my heart on the first date 😂 Also no one gets my jokes (my husband says because no one sees the connection that I do and they don’t know I’m joking 🥲) and so I feel validated. Thank you!

[@hannahthehandstandgirl8799]

As an Isfp I totally agree sometimes when I’m having a conversation and I am not interested in the topic /subject I’ll space out and start thinking of something completely random and then my freind is like um hello were you even listening too me? Lol that’s probably why I say really random things in the middle of my family’s conversation 😁

[@iamnotuta2658]

ISTP and ESTP: we're gamers *INTP shows up* ESTP: RUN!

[@apollontheintp3257]

One of the best comments here!

[@alvargd6771]

the ISTP (istp here) doesnt run

[@lwolfstar7618]

But but but we like games too

[@iamnotuta2658]

The ISTP who didn't run: Hey. Wanna play?

[@lilijagaming]

INFJ here. My mother-in-law is ESFJ. She keeps giving me stuff and wants to talk to me and come to visit. And for me it's like "what are you doing in my space?" :P P.S. Trying to connect to people as an INFJ is exhausting. I mean they don't get you anyway... Tho it's still worth it for those little snippets of connection.

[@Katleral]

I'm an ISFP and I think I've just met another ISFP. It's so incredibly comfortable talking with someone who connects the same way. We sort of "test" if the other person wants to talk about something. Sometimes it goes like "I don't like X", "I like X, it's great" ..... "I like Y", "I don't like Y". And then procede in silence till one of us tries again. lol. And the best part: it doesn't feel awkward.

[@jakestephens9883]

I am an INTJ but I have learned to display laughter and joy very well. When I was young I was very monotone. Now I only get like tha when I'm bored, mad, stressed, or sad. When I'm trying to connect I will find myself searching for deeper conversation, especially when I'm educated on whatever is being discussed. However I normally just stick to my friends and let people come to me. When they start talking I just wait until something strikes my interest.

[@dacksonflux]

It feels like searching for something to sink your teeth into. Business ventures seems to be a common one for INTJs but everyone seems to think we're always talking about science. We definitely do that, we also like to talk about improving our lives and planning toward goals.

[@heterosapiens_sapiens]

I am intj with some intp aspects that resonates with me too, but I think I over time developed some aspects of i/enfp, and infj. I think I actually may be a mistyped Infj or have really strong/balanced Fi/Fe Ti/Te

[@carolinemasson7172]

Flex your mental muscles to get along with NTPs

[@rabeataleb95]

Whenever Frank describes INFJ, I feel bad for him, but then, I remember I'm an INFP...

[@ami..7414]

Me who is an INFJ-

[@infobroinfotainment3780]

ENTP here. Absolutely correct about the intellectual games. Many can't relate that we find ideas fun, but these games give us intellectual stimulation and when you debate rationally with us, friends for life people.

[@claramercier7924]

"they don't care if you laugh or not. As long as it's funny to them, that's the priority there" that's some truth there. And most of the time the joke is nonsense

[@leoleon4030]

I already now the "what if..." In the thumbnail is the ENTP

[@a.a.a1324]

INTPs tooo

[@nightwing-scp4268]

@Lavanya Krishnan yeah true lol

[@definitely-the]

Pretty much any NP

[@marytonye1698]

I think it's all NP's

[@coloraturaElise]

SPOT ON with the ENTJ/INTJ using conversations that test you as a connecting device. Sorry for all the bruised, beaten up folks out there. Frank's "Oh, jeez" when he mentions our types says it all....LOL!

[@DDizzleBig]

INTJ - At work whenever someone ask me for feedback on a plan or project I am obligated to start with "As we have this conversation keep in mind that I am in support of your idea, but I am going to pick it apart now so that you are prepared for the push back you will get from leadership and the challenges that I can foresee."

[@darth_santos1137]

Interesting. I am wondering if I am ISFP or INTJ (the online test all say INTJ) but we all know about cognitive Biases. INTJ 4w5, tritype 458, ILI However, I do enjoy my personal space, don't like my belongings being touched and don't like being disturbed. But prolonged social interaction can be draining even when I am the one explaining but that's how I understand a topic better by teaching it to another person.🤔 And I don't think I know what the INTJ "vision" works like but I do know that I have constant internal monologue that weight pros and cons of my activities, what way will get me to where I am going faster and I take my time to prepare for things. I can't really say I know what inferior Se is like because I can't work on anecdotal evidence but I have always had this passion of wanting to have a better memory because I forget things even my keys and glasses easily, I remember faces but not names, remember memories sometimes as something else. To me it was a flaw which affected my efficiency who wouldn't like to be a moving encyclopedia, right? When I learn things, I have to be able to relate them to something I know already or I have to picture/imagine it's motion. This is actually fun for me because I am a Med student so visuals and picturing how the body operates makes it good. One of my fear is not being competent enough and compliments don't really have effects on me, things like dreaming about eradicating a disease from the face of the earth but wanting not to take credit for it. When I was going through some emotional trauma, I wanted to block the emotions they were strangling me and I kept on looking for reasons why a person would do what they did, I kept on reviewing the "why". It was an issue I wanted to get rid of. I used to like drawing mostly free hand but I never had to visualize it in my head I just drew but it wasn't ever as a form of self expression of emotions like happiness or sadness just something based on something fascinating. Sigh, I have gone on full blast mode. I am typing this to know if you have could relate with my descriptions. It might not give me my right type but it can at least evict INTJ from my list

[@dacksonflux]

"I agree with you but you may benefit from my foresight. You might want to consider a few safety nets." I also enjoy learning from people in this way. I'm extremely inquisitive toward people that interest me for whatever reason.

[@dacksonflux]

@@darth_santos1137 so INTJs are a strange lot. We are uniquely useful and useless. This "vision" which sets us apart, does so because we rely very heavily on it. Unfortunately, it's frequently wrong. Too often do we try to give our intuition a tangible presence, to quantify it for validity and shared usage (Te wants it to work for everyone). However, it's here where our weakness becomes glaringly obvious. We cannot collect the data (in an effective/meaningful way) we need to test our own systems. This is Se demon. We believe what "should" be the case but the reality might elude us turning us into those self defense "Experts" you see selling their classes. Look up Objective Personality "So you want to be lead Ni huh?"

[@darth_santos1137]

@@dacksonflux Been busy for a bit. So any extra tip on how I can know my actual type?

[@lenamafalda]

I feel you've nailed down the ISFP/ESFP pretty well and, as an ISFP, I've had first-hand experience with people that used to be friends with me because of common stuff but changes made me drift away from them. In the last case I would feel that they would not respect my preferences (while I would put up with their preferences and was too patient with them) and the friendship would end up being toxic due to lack of mutual respect, so in a case I was really weak and didn't get support from them I snapped and cut off ties with them.

[@Queezbo]

As usual, you peg this INFP perfectly.

[@tulaimes]

I wanna get pegged

[@CaveyMoth]

@@tulaimes It's hard to peg an INFP.

[@HansHammertime]

INTJ is right. On the one hand I desperately want to point out mistakes people make to help them improve, but I know it will come across as arrogant

[@ridirih9807]

An ISFJ is extremely valuable in a work group setting! At a church work day, I’m the one who plugs the vacuum cord back in after you pull it out and finds an extension cord, leaves a bottle of water at the base of your ladder, organizes the ten little kids running around wild into teams to comb the church parking lot for trash, turns down the burner under the chili pot and gives it a stir just before it boils over, thus saving lunch, and then goes back to work taking care of all the little corners that everyone else forgets, such as touching up paint, dusting light fixtures, or getting the annoying trash out of the hymnal racks. We don’t distract anyone else from his work, and we quietly make things run more smoothly. You’re welcome ☺️

[@Interestking]

Thank you! I don't have any experience with churches, but I'm terrible with remembering small things, and even worse at doing them. People like you are the reason I'm not overflowing with stress, and although it's easy for me to forget, I do appreciate you.

[@ridirih9807]

@@Interestking Ty! So nice of you to say so 😊

[@no_name2136]

That part about the INFPs are so true. Im an INFP and when I’m laughing about with people I literally cannot stop myself from saying anything, and I sound so stupid 😂. But people laugh with it anyway and seem to appreciate the randomness - but it gets to the point where they’re literally like ‘what are you even saying to us’????????😂

[@Interestking]

"What if instead of suckers, octopi had human mouths on their tentacles that chomp onto whatever they're trying to grab, and would a lightsaber be an effective weapon against it?"