What's your one regret from high school that you still think about?

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[@juliaalvessoares]

So basically everyone regrets having studied too hard or not hard enough. Having enjoyed the high school life too much or too little. This is very comforting because I could see that if I didn't have my regrets, I'd have others. So it's all good! We were all doing the best we could with what we knew. High school may seem easy but it's actually a very complex phase because we're forced into a little society and we don't have a strong sense of self yet. Let's just focus on being authentic now and making the best choices we can for our present 🌻

[@jackien404]

beautiful message! We can't always have it perfectly. the present is indeed all we got.

[@SeattleRaindrop206]

@@iamme25yagoThis makes you unique, and special. Math isn’t an easy thing. It doesn’t come “naturally” to a lot of people, and I’d say most don’t enjoy it because it’s so complex and complicated. So, from what you’re saying, I really really hope you’re doing something with it! ….And I’m super curious what you do/want to do?! 🩵👏

[@bnurpainting]

Beautiful comment ❤

[@user-rz5vl5ft3k]

Very well said! I observed the same thing.

[@markbergemann1894]

High school is such shallow water. And we’ve made it so important, this artificial complex little society. I feel bad for the kids I work around. There’s so much out there, and they seem completely unaware.

[@sharonhutchins5784]

I regret that the only thing I can remember from graduation from high school is my mom, looking wistfully at the kids who were honor students, and saying, “I wish you’d been one of those kids.” I just felt so depressed. I was the first of my family to graduate from high school. I was so proud of myself. Until then. I still want to hear her say she’s proud of me. Now, she’s gone and it’s too late. Parents, tell your kids you’re proud of them. That’s what you want them to remember.

[@Lisa-welder1]

She, is proud of you. Best believe! ❤❤

[@SongbirdCollageArts]

Similarly, when i graduated and didn't get honours she said she was never more embarrassed in her life.

[@user-rz5vl5ft3k]

Be proud of yourself. Anyone can be a parent. It doesn't mean they are qualified.

[@sharonhutchins5784]

@@user-rz5vl5ft3k Amen to that!

[@sharonhutchins5784]

@@SongbirdCollageArts I’m sorry I just got notified there were responses! I’m so so sorry this happened. As the other poster replied, be proud of yourself. YOU accomplished it! I’M proud of you! And myself!

[@Sarae89]

The girl that regrets grinding and AP classes that cause her anxiety is so relatable.

[@TlhomphoDitedu]

Yup

[@MargauxNeedler]

Lol thought u meant u regret grinding at a school dance or smthg 🤣

[@belindac1040]

SAME! 😩

[@belindac1040]

​@@MargauxNeedler😂😂

[@bv3635]

I had a friend who I hung out with from grades seven through high school. He was like a soulmate to me. But we were 'just friends'. In grade 11 he asked me to go to a wedding with him and I had just started dating someone else. I wish I had said yes and then seen where that stream of my life would have taken me. He was such a good friend and we shared so much together. We are so short-sighted when we're young. I'm in my sixties now and when I tried to look him up and find out what happened to him, I found out he had died at 38. Regrets! He was a special man even as a boy.

[@FallenAngel9979]

Oh how sad….so young! What happened??

[@ananimity7332]

Hugs

[@barbara8802]

😢

[@bv3635]

​@@FallenAngel9979I am still searching to find out. Ancestry shows his years. I emailed the name overseeing that account twice. No response. I've researched newspapers. Googled his name. Searched funeral home obits too. All the relatives I knew he had are passed. I won't give up until I know. Next I'll go to the Ref librarian to see what they recommend. If all else fails, I'll pay the government service to get his death certificate. Thanks for asking.

[@soccerguy325]

You must be Canadian

[@SpiritualSimon]

when thoraya drops a new video I know its a good day

[@marwanchabili8203]

I just know I'm gonna cry my eyes out

[@kimzw]

For real! Thank you Thoraya!

[@ujadini333]

No really

[@ais3195]

The perfect summary of what her channel is about! Couldn't of phrased it better myself. I hope you all are having an amazing day☺️ Remember that it's completely ok to just exist. We are human beings, not human doings❤

[@rml9629]

I regret not telling anyone when I was assaulted. I feel like I could have processed way sooner in life and things would have been better. Now I am 40 and trying to fix the mess I became.

[@winniedee219]

oh dear,same am 23yrs and ti happened when i was 14. I have had a rough time,i hated people and became so bitter, i know you understand how pitch dark that hole is and how tight that shoe is,,,i moved out two years ago and few days ago my mom found my journal.i used to write about it alot,am sure she isn't in a good place especially now that we haven't talked about it. Unfortunately am not really ready to do it.But emotionally i guess am fine i just wouldn't like digging it up

[@rea9310]

Your timing is perfect. It’s your personal journey and when I spoke out about it the news spread like wild fire and it was like I was the odd one out in my family. I kind of wish I waited but then again it wouldn’t have brought me to where I am today. So be kind to yourself and don’t regret anything because it was never your fault!

[@joycedropoog575]

Start nu seeing yourself not as a mess but a strong survivor. Despite everything you're still standing. Be proud of yourself. You deserve it! ❤

[@fantacyencephalon_jess]

Be gentle with yourself ❤ I know it's hard but imagine yourself as your best friend and how you would comfort your best friend. Your journey is unique to you and you are going to be fine sweetheart ❤

[@giftsisi6124]

I was very young when my brothers best friend did that, I swept it under a rug and now it's a shadow I can't escape.... Sending you hugs from South Africa 🤗💜🌻

[@silje_therese]

I regret not being myself. My depression stole all my confidence. There were so many things I wanted to say, so many outfits I wanted to wear and so many people I wanted to talk to. I wish I could've talked back when I was mistreated, spoken my mind when I felt small and helped out other people who might've needed my help. I've been left feeling like arguments were never concluded because I was never able to say my part, I lost friends because I never told them when I was upset with them and I never went up to someone to try to befriend them. But oh well, I'm already 21 and my school life is over...

[@lucindaneto2612]

I'm sorry about that, i understand you, i also went through a tough time in highschool with mental health. Hope you manage to heal yourself and forgive yourself for all of that

[@silje_therese]

@@lucindaneto2612 Thank you. It's a process; I'm still working on it. But I try not to take life too seriously anymore and live in the present more. Hope you are doing better as well.

[@MargauxNeedler]

I regret it too but I guess I just didn't know how to let the fears & doubts go. Nowadays I'm obviously working every day on doing what I can to not let negative thoughts get in my way.

[@silje_therese]

@@MargauxNeedler It's great that you're working on it. I am too.

[@kidfromhell3327]

you explained my feeling very well. this's also what I feel and going through from high school that I couldn't tell anyone. teenage depressed is so real and now I'm 23

[@kit_the_kat741]

My family was extremely strict growing up, so going out and dating was not a possibility. We had all AP courses, so it kept us busy anyway. Bullying had my sister and I keeping to ourselves most times. Hanging out with newfound friends wasn't a thing either because of trust issues and my parents being protective - honestly though, with future revelations rightly so. Either way, when my twin sister and I were Freshmen, there was a boy named Matt in his Junior year. He was so friendly to us both, handsome and sort of like the sun that starved flowers tend to stretch towards. After him, the bullying stopped because his popularity gave him quite the respect of the teenagers around us, and he used that to look out for my sister and I. He was impossible not to love, platonically or romantically, Matt was someone who made us feel welcome while enduring such a rough transition period in life. For months, Matt introduced us to his friend group and the AP teachers, greeting us both daily with fiercely warm hugs and a ready smile. As the seasons changed and headed towards Christmas, his diligence in asking my sister out only grew stronger, until he'd finally managed to convince her to give it a chance. Matt made plans to talk to my parents and start things off the proper way. I remember our last meeting so vividly. The 3 of us had a class together at the end of the day, it was slightly overcast but the air was wet and cold; strange for a Florida winter. Matt came into class wearing his leather jacket, a freshly shaved bald head, and his signature dimpled smile. He flirted with my sister all period while she desperately tried to take down notes, even got into trouble by the teacher. The thing is, he was just so damn charming that he always got out of trouble. The guy was hilarious, he would get us to laugh and the blame would pass onto us or someone else. Towards the end of the class though, Matt got real serious. He told my sister that he was going all in with this, and that he wasn't going to give up. He kissed her forehead and then gave me a big bear hug. Right before leaving he spun around and told us that he couldn't wait to give us both the gifts he'd gotten, that it had taken forever to think of what to do but that he'd figured it out and we would never forget it. He was excited to speak with my parents too, and told us it would go well, that there was nothing to worry about. After blowing air kisses to us Matt left, dimpled smile and all. Later that evening, my family was all in our living room. My dad was preparing for work, my sisters and I working on getting ready for orchestra practice, and my brother running around the couches. The news was on carrying the perfect background noise. I was putting on my socks when the news anchor mentioned an accident with a student from our school. A drunk driver hit a motorcyclist at a red light. My sister and I both looked up nervous. The woman continued to give small details, never giving much away about the person hurt. It wasn't until Matt's photo popped up that we both broke down. To this day I wish I'd been more bold. I wish I'd have been less afraid of rejection by peers and my family and that we had hung out all the times he asked us to. I wish that we had gone out to eat with him and his friends every time he asked. I wish that we had gotten to see him the next day so that my sister and I could surprise him with our gifts and laugh as he tore through the wrapping. I wish that Matt hadn't had to work that day that had him at the light. I wish that the world got to experience what a wonder of a person he was. There are so many regrets in my soul when it comes to Matt, but the biggest will always be not acting during the moments that seemed insignificant. The ones that would have let Matt know how much I cared for him like a brother.

[@lilianaj.1108]

what a story this is! i hope you find peace. it must be extremely tough, but i'm sure Matt knew exactly how much you cared for him. 🤍 stay strong!

[@mercedesbee6582]

Some people are put in this world to bring such light to others. Please,. don't feel guilty you were acting like many other teenagers. I'm sure you both brought joy and purpose and dreams to him.

[@Geo_Storm]

Didn’t read 😂

[@lilianaj.1108]

@@Geo_Storm was this really necessary to let us know? 🤦‍♀️

[@Geo_Storm]

@@lilianaj.1108 No 😔

[@melissadavis4981]

The guy at the end is THE advice I was thinking the entire time. I tell the same thing to my niece all the time and remind her that the friends she's so worried about right now will most likely not be there for her when she's older.

[@user-tt1lv6ci9q]

When you're young you don't think so. They seem extremely important. Please don't say such things to young people, they won't understand anyways and it would only make them think that their feelings and problems are not important to you. Let them go through it, they'll understand later. And for now - just be there for them and support them, it's the best thing you can do:)

[@melissadavis4981]

@@user-tt1lv6ci9q I disagree, I get what you're saying but I wish I would have had someone say this to me. All the adults around me made me feel like those times of my life were so important, like they were the highlight of my life and if it didn't go perfect then the rest of my life would be terrible or suck. High school is not everything. It's a big part of our lives but it's definitely, most certainly not everything. And the people we meet in high school may or may not be there the rest of our lives so focusing so much of our time and energy on those people isn't worth it. While I don't regret the relationships that I formed in high school, I wish I would have focused more on learning and not worrying so much about what my peers thought of me. The clothes I wore, the way my hair fell out of place, the days I woke up late and didn't have time to do my makeup making the rest of my day miserable and I just tried to hide all day... nobody cared and I wish I had someone tell me that.

[@MargauxNeedler]

I wish someone would have said the same advice u just said to me about my older sister

[@skylargreen7156]

“Take the risk or lose your chance” This has been my credo since high school. So I have no regrets. Thanks Thoraya 😊

[@ananimity7332]

I was abused horribly by my father and a member of my family. Because of my homelife my father forbid me to make friends or bring anyone around the house or to give out our telephone number. So, I kept myself distant from people because I knew it would be dangerous to be social. I regret not telling someone about the abuse and making friends.

[@caitlinirwin8434]

you did the best you could with what you were experiencing. remember that

[@Vismay_K]

It’s really like one person’s tragedy is another person’s treasure.

[@Brandy_j5]

At first I would say, I have no regrets in high school because I did my work, I had a few good friends and I was respectful. But when I think about it, my only regret was giving up on fluently learning Spanish. I allowed teachers and Latinos to discourage me. The Latinos and the African Americans would tell me that I am trying to be Latina because I want to become fluent in the language so I gave up. I finally got the balls to re-learn the language and become fluent three years ago. Now I will be getting my masters in Spanish Next year

[@scrambledeggs9631]

congratulations!

[@elorysepulveda]

Felicidades, tú puedes!!!

[@chrismm6886]

🎉🎉😅

[@timdertroll8368]

I love how for everything the opposite was was said at least once

[@18mg43ad]

I had a classmate in highschool who always had good grades and who I found annoying. There were a few moments where I said hurtful things to her, simply out of jealousy. It is not only my biggest highschool regret (more middle school, I was 10-12 years old or so), but my biggest life regret. I wish I could tell her how sorry I am.

[@christiana7424]

I've always wanted people who bullied me to apologize, but I've accepted that will never happen. ❤

[@KP-hi1om]

I regret no being more involved in school activities - sports, clubs, music etc. I also regret not being friends with people of diffrent races. However, the best thing about high school is that I have been married to my high school sweetheart for 31 years. Starting going out with her when we were 16 and 17. Been together every since. Our daughter just graduated high school. We supported every activity she wanted to indulge in. Now she is in college and we encourage her to spread he wings and meet interesting people. and travel.

[@camh1149]

I would have never thought that I would enjoy this channel so much, but I do. I learned a lot about myself watching this channel. I still have a hard time hugging people and saying ''I love you'', but, baby steps !!!...

[@alylopez3721]

I regret letting my parents own fears and isolating behavior rule me. In my eyes they weren’t just overprotective and strict, they were toxic and controlling and I felt like I had no control over my own life, I had no agency no will to love that was my own. They never hit me or kicked me out that type of cruelty, but i lived in intense and constant fear that making my own choices would result in their disappointment and disapproval and I would be punished emotionally. My parents told me not to trust people. They wouldn’t let me do things like hang out with friends And when I’d ask why they would say “because I said so”. That messed me up, because when I finally got to start making my own choices in college I was overwhelmed and was consumed by the anxiety that I didn’t know myself or my own body. My dad was toxic and controlling and my mom was just an extension of his ego. I know HS is such a small part of your life but I feel like I missed out on so much, and if I had felt alive for myself during those years I wouldn’t be so lost and struggling rn. And also I have so much anger and rage now because I never got to really experience those emotions then. I was the obedient and docile little doll creature my parents wanted me to be. Random anecdote about that time: when I was a junior I had to get my wisdom teeth out. It was the era where all those funny videos of kids after their wisdom teeth removal were all loopy and saying silly and dumb shit. I was so terrified of my parents that I was scared in my loopiness that I would accidentally admit I liked girls or something that big, I was scared that I would reveal my true self and be punished.

[@MargauxNeedler]

Ever think u might prefer girls b/c ur dad's ego was so overpowering? I figured out that that was my case. Didn't know if I liked men or women or y I liked them or not.

[@charmainephasoana6850]

I wanted to type this My parents were like this to me and my twin sister. They still are. I'm struggling so much with my identity becoz of it I'm constantly being made fun of at work for not knowing certain things I was supposed to know at my big age (I'm 24). I hardly go out bcoz of it It's affecting me. But I'm trying to change that

[@DanielSelk]

I regret not admitting my homosexuality at that time. I was terrified of what people would think. My circles were all evangelical christian conservatives so while I might have been in danger I feel I would have maybe even met someone who could have loved me at that time instead of waiting till my late 20s to start coming out.

[@iamwinningrightnow]

Nothing before its time. High school years can be tough. I think you saved yourself a life time of pain by not coming out is high school. Take care.

[@R0L0s]

I've gone thru many friends, and they always made me feel awkward if I ever talked about it. Until I met knew friends who, some r gay and others arent but they aren't afraid to joke about it, it's all normalised between us. Hope u find ur own supporters :)

[@sophielesher8002]

as a conservative christian, I am so sorry if you actually really felt like your community endangered you. that is not how we are called to treat same-sex attracted people. I hope your encounters since with people like me have not been so hostile. take care

[@DanielSelk]

@@iamwinningrightnow I may have saved myself that but unlike everybody else I didn’t get a chance to know how to have a romantic relationship. It didn’t help me in the long run.

[@johnlilly8519]

Same. ❤

[@BlackwolfllArt-zc9vq]

My regret from school is that i never stood up for myself... Had i done that, my bullies wouldn't have caused me to get brain-damage.

[@sansthedrummer]

I regret letting my trauma get to me at that time. I couldn't study properly, had no real friends, and the faculty thought I was a lost cause. Thankfully I'm able to correct the academic mistakes now

[@DrProgNerd]

I think that high school is one of the most highly concentrated collection of cruel people that we will encounter in our lives. There are too many socially unevolved people fighting their way through the pecking-order. I experienced both sides. The first couple of years, I had no friends. Junior and senior year, I was popular and it went to my head. In retrospect, I was running so desperately away from the pain of not being accepted that I became a sh**ty person. I wish that I had been a better person. The takeaway for me was how insidiously ego can poison your character when you're not paying attention. I am more careful with people now.

[@sierrakipp]

There's nothing wrong with working at Walmart, y'all ❤

[@Munromad]

yep, and anyone referring to themselves as a Boss B!tch is not a person you ever want to emulate.

[@YELLOW08Z06]

That girl is so ratchet !!!

[@belindac1040]

I was looking for this comment!! I agree, don't want anyone feeling bad for themselves if they work at Walmart, a JOB is a JOB!! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@huntergoss330]

I agree it's not a bad job, I work there now and the only thing I don't like is the customers. Everything else is great except a few couches and team leads. But I honestly love my job it just gets boring and other people's attitudes

[@giftsisi6124]

I regret not studying hard so I get can have a better grades and have a better career in life. Now I'm just..

[@whatthewindblewin]

I wish to god it would have sunk into my brain in high school that it wasn't going to last forever because it always felt like hell for me. Just knowing that the world was so much bigger than my small little school would have saved me so much hardship.

[@cinderellie9583]

If you want to go to college go to college!!!! Yheres no age restriction and you can chose whatever you want to learn. Learn cooking or a language or touch up you math or whatever. Just go. Make it happin

[@piolo1023]

It is always fascinating how many people regret not taking their education more serious i know i do as well it just feels like theres so many doors out of reach because of the lack of trying when we had the chance

[@deidracornelius3633]

the content is just as beautiful as the lighting. their eyes❤ artist on all levels

[@Vinyl_mp4]

As someone who’s in high school rn, I already regret caring so much about what other people think of me and not giving a damn about everything else that was/is more important

[@hindmahdiyameliani9938]

But high school is your present so you can change that

[@aoifefegan]

I never usually comment but this video sparked something in me, thank you Thoraya!

[@patriciaobrien6600]

I regret not having the confidence to go out for the boys soccer team (because there was no girls team) when the boys coach had requested me to. I think that would have been a blast!

[@faithzibuyilekhanyile3693]

I love the contrast in stories, what others regret, others don't. I feel like when you realise what could have been, one should be accepting of their past and present and love their younger self and embrace that they were young or they didn't know how not to be . I have no regrets

[@amber76OH]

I love the juxtaposition in this video, and the ending just wrapped it all up in a neat, comforting bow. Thoraya, youre so talented. Much love 💛💛💛✨️

[@anjalisrivastava9144]

You really bring smile to my traumatic past self. Thank you like really for doing this. You don't know how much good you bring to your viewers.

[@lucindaneto2612]

I regret not ending a toxic friendship sooner. I barely enjoyed high school because of that friendship. I was with them all the time instead of being with people that genuinely cared about my mental health and well-being. I'm still angry at myself for that and creating so much trauma. I hope someday i will be able to forgive myself.

[@ryanjenson9786]

I was born deaf and have a pair of hearing aids. So I was judged and that made me very quiet and a big introvert. So I regret not being a little more outgoing and finding more friends.

[@maryog9437]

I regret not standing up for myself, so now at 21 years old I’m working (slowly but still) on improving my confidence, trying to detach all the bad things bullies said about me and getting to know that I’m not that at all. So maybe in 5 or 10 years ahead I can say that I don’t really regret things in my early 20’s that everything was part of the learning and be so proud of how much I’ve worked to become who I really want to become. I want to be a person who my younger self would look with admiration and comfort

[@AthenaIsabella]

I CAN NOT WAIT TO SHOW THIS TO MY HIGH SCHOOL KIDS ❤ they love your videos! Thank you!

[@Thorayaa]

Thank you so much for sharing with them!

[@shaunbryan3421]

I regret that I missed the love of my life. I was a shy and introverted young man and she was a beautiful outgoing young woman and I wonder what my life would have turned out like had i realized that her love was real.

[@privatename8228]

One of the things I love about your videos is all the beautiful faces. We are all so different. Everyone is beautiful.

[@shirin9808]

I love how you create this contrast about topics, for example in this video by first showing someone who felt they didn't study hard enough and after that someone who suffered from anxiety etc because they studied too hard.

[@rollierollout]

I had my daughter when I was a senior in high school and she is my world. I regret nothing because everything I did, the good and the bad, led me to having her. ❤

[@c.i.demann3069]

I'm glad I discovered this channel. These videos are really powerful.

[@jamiesciortino]

This video makes me feel better and also makes me relive my anxieties

[@bubba283]

Me too, I just regret not studying much, I was one of the guys always hanging out with the guys, I never had gf, I just liked the guys company

[@jamiesciortino]

There is nothing wrong with hanging out with your friends! We are too young in high school to even understand what those feelings are 😅 I personally wish I picked different friends and concentrated on more sports and school instead of seeking out love and being liked lol

[@bubba283]

@@jamiesciortino oh yes, I was in my early 20s before I realized why I liked being with them. I didn't see it really before, or I was in denial.

[@karenhillblom7131]

Thank you again for posting.

[@astilounlewise9784]

My heart goes out to the man that squared up with what seems to be his childhood 'one that got away'. Regrettably, I really truly can relate.

[@GiGiGGenerations]

Great question and answers! Amazing what time and perspective can change.

[@valentinasamperio5382]

I love Thoraya, love what you do.

[@tova1412]

I've thought about this one a lot, and even though there are things like I wish I socialised more, or I wish I could have put some more effort into my final exams or whatever, the only thing I actually wish I could have changed is that I wish I had that lunch with my friend just before Christmas break, during which he passed. I was on my way over to him in the cafeteria because it had been a while since we ate together or spent time together just the two of us, but then two of my other friends who I usually had lunch with waved me over before I got to him. I hesitated for like 3 seconds before deciding to go over to them, and then I never got a chance to speak to him again. 2-3 weeks later, on the first day back in school after Christmas break when I got the news of him having died, that moment in the cafeteria was the first thing that came to my mind. I could have had one final conversation with him, got to spend some more time with him, but I didn't.

[@eluherlu]

Watching your videos is like made me live lots of other people's life for a moment there.. It's refreshing

[@beansprout_apg886]

For me, being weak and let them bully me. We are poor but my parents tried to provide us an education. I don’t want to let them down so I opt to be a good student. My group of friends always skip school and I didn’t join them since I do not want to have failing grades. Whenever they are at school they will not talk to me so I was left alone, but whenever they need to copy my homework, I always give them a hand. I regret to not stand on my own and there are other classmates that willing to be my friend but I chose to please my friends. I suffered the 2 years of my high school but when I transferred in other section, I do find real friends. But it left a scar in my heart.

[@Bexinmo]

My biggest regret is not pushing through. I gave up, I quite when I was 14. I missed all the traditional High School things (and all the High School bullying). I never had a prom, I never earned any credits, I never walked the stage. I homes schooled, got my GED and said goodbye to school forever. Now, at 45, I sometimes think about going back to learn to be something better, but it's too late. I am the breadwinner now, and have no choice but to keep plodding away at work.

[@heerathapa1225]

I didn’t know that I needed to see this video today!! It was a very healing experience THANK GOD 😮❤️‍🩹

[@Better-na-better]

Great video as always, and topic too. You are so awesome Thoraya🌷

[@Yolocheese]

Yeaaaaaa I’m definitely signing up for that patreon soon , keep up the good work Thoraya ❤

[@SteveMcKenzie]

Thank you so much for what you do. The world needs more human contact and understanding and you are facilitating that. Thank you!

[@whitterbug3357]

The Farmville guy... 😂 much relate

[@austincde]

😭😭😭 I spent real money on restaurant city

[@whitterbug3357]

@@austincde oh nooooo 😭

[@galeriestrasbourg2527]

Thanks for this video. Thoraya, you never disappoint your viewers and interviewees. I like when you ask more questions after the original stories. I can relate to most of those stories, except for enjoying high school life too much. I wish I had had someone to push me toward sports, especially running and martial arts, because I knew I loved running and that I had a fighter in me. I know now that it would have helped me to be better equiped mentally to stand up for myself. I got to do those things later in life and it was great and it still is at 52, but I still feel that I really had some potential physically and mentally at a young age. Just needed a strong push.

[@reemawad9652]

Thank you so much thourya for such amazing content as usual

[@sina892]

I love these videos so much ❤

[@kathydavenport4422]

She dose have the best I’ve ever seen. I love her and all the people she interviews. The very best.

[@Geo_Storm]

My biggest regret was me bullying this one kid in high school that was quiet and nerdy. I used to bully him in PE class. He didn’t have any friends and I used to be a di@k to him for no reason. I think about it almost everyday because fast forward to present day my teenage son is autistic and has social anxiety and has no friends and I fear him getting bullied because I know from personal experience little kids like myself can be azzholes. I think about that kid a lot and I asked God to forgive me for it almost everyday and hope his doing good now 😔

[@ronbartyzel6266]

Look him up and tell him this

[@Geo_Storm]

@@ronbartyzel6266 my wife told me the same thing. Maybe I will soon.

[@TheCanadianBubba]

Thank you Thoraya !

[@Nuffsaid22]

Love this video❤ so relatable

[@alitloff]

Wow-no regrets in HS; very few after-thanks for highlighting how blessed I’ve been!

[@TheVloggingPhaseJM]

Oh how I long for the day I’ll bump into you Thoraya!!!

[@cloudilemons]

This is a really nice video!

[@bubba283]

This one I can really relate to, it makes me regret not dating a guy in high school I liked, but no one knew I liked him, since I'm a guy too I kept it secret

[@mommalou64]

I need more Thoraya it’s been a month!

[@VideoTalesV]

I regret hanging with the wrong crowds, falling into a world of hard drugs and self harm etc. Those were the most painful years of my life. But at the same time, the only way through was through, I kind of "needed" to experience all this in order to get over it. I took a break from studying afterwards and just travelled (my parents supported me, that's my biggest chance). Went back to studying at 24 and even got a masters!

[@sugarrushctlat.6805]

You might never read this , u might never see this but I hope my feelings are reaching you Thoraya , I lost nearly everything in this year including myself the love of my life and even my family. There are so many things that I regret and I will never have the chance to make up for all those things. I wanted to take my life because I lost my vision my purpose of living. I wanna thank you so much you helped me in a way i can not rly discribe, I felt seen watching your videos what you are doing is far more important then u might realize you are saving lifes and i am so thankfull for that maybe one day i have the chance to be a part of one of ur videos i thank you so much feel hugged and loved and yeah just great u are a HERO

[@Vicinfi]

I regret not sneaking to raves even though my mom won’t let me, they don’t do those raves anymore, never going to be the same. I wish I was brave enough to be wilder.

[@marveldcextinctionwrestler7773]

I still think about my Middle School Experience especially June 6, 2019, Worst Day of My Life

[@thevaccinator666]

What happened? ❤

[@peacefulone4461]

Through your content I've learned that we really are more a like than different ✨️

[@Kinochan28]

Not having enough fun, being too worried about the future and then abandoned my dream to go to college after the first bump. Now I kinda hate my life and regret what could´ve been.

[@octovia8901]

I regret not participating with anything, i was just there quietly watching everyone and I regret not letting myself experience all the things my friends/classmates/peers were experiencing because of the guilt I was feeling towards my grandparents living /working in a foreign country just to provide for us, despite their old age.... and I was too shy and was never confident... and now I ended up being an adult that is still shy, feeling inferior to everyone, and full of so much regrets, frustrations and unhappiness

[@yahainHotPink]

Love your videos

[@sunmarsh]

I regret going to an IB school and taking 7 APs on top of that. It was the most difficult experience of my life and it was completely unnecessary. I graduated with more college credits than any college would accept (about 90). I ended up graduating from college with a degree I don’t intend to ever use because I didn’t know what I wanted to do and just picked something. 🙃

[@gabriellameattray9778]

Man I'm sorry, that sucks. I go to an IB school too and it's tough. I can't imagine taking AP's on top of that. What do you do now may I ask?

[@sunmarsh]

@@gabriellameattray9778 I'm currently unemployed. 🤣💀I started making abstract art a couple months ago. Not sure whether I want to try and continue pursuing that. I enjoy it but I don't think that it will be easy to make a living doing it. 7APs was the minimum we were allowed to take. I took AP European History, AP Language, AP Literature, AP US History, AP Biology, AP French and AP Psychology. In some classes we were being taught two tests (AP & IB) at the same time (e.g. French).

[@electricisnthereatthemomen6535]

@@sunmarshwait, do you mean maximum or minimum?

[@sunmarsh]

Minimum. We were required to take 7APs.@@electricisnthereatthemomen6535

[@soupaplayer5012]

@@sunmarshI also did full IB and though I wasn’t as successful as you seemed to get outta IB, it’s definitely made me want to pursue my dream of game dev instead of pursuing something I’m not that into. Like after grinding high school for everything I was like “nah am chill ima grind what I like” for college. Who knows, maybe you can pull up to some game jams too and incorporate some of your abstract art, random thought.

[@ChaiTogether]

We love you too! Beautiful hoodie 😊

[@liz.the.libra8]

This was awesome!

[@kiki121471]

I am almost 52 and I too was so eager to fall in love and grow up. I wish I could have a do over!

[@FullMetalMassacre]

So many regrets are based around the way we treat other people. “I wish I said this to my mom” or “I wish I didn’t let this get in between me and this friend”. As I see it that is a beautiful opportunity for others to learn, grow, and develop kindness towards the people in our lives. Regret hurts. Being kind doesn’t hurt. Tell people you love them, and don’t let small stuff get between you and people you care about.

[@TheBorderRyker]

Hmmm. I suppose the only thing that I regret from high school was creating a cloud of chlorine gas in chemistry class. The classroom had to be evacuated and I ended up being removed from that class and put in a class that was only teaching chemistry theory and no practical experiments!

[@littlewolf6435]

I was hung up on the feeling of being lonely not realizing just how many people I had in my life that cared for me at the time i learned to appreciate all my friends since then and am much happier :D

[@motiveperson143]

I regret it. I wish I could finish my high school.

[@prettygranola]

Have you made a book yet of all the questions you ask? These would make for a really good journaling workbook!

[@bh3wna]

i wish i were more extroverted. though in school, i was quite sociable, good academically and used to participate in various activities. i was comfortable on stage, except for dancing, which inexplicably scared me. despite initially loving dance and participating in groups solos until grade 4th-5th, i eventually quit, and i regret it. not because i wished to become dancer but because i really love how easy dancing moving comes to people now but it's not same case for me. and even though i have improved a lot, it still scares me.

[@fantacyencephalon_jess]

Try little steps. Join a group, or a class and get comfortable with an audience watching you. And if you are not ready it is okay ❤ make little progress daily and when you feel ready, it will come to you. I'm 33 and am starting to shuffle dance, I've never had dance experience but I'm learning a new move weekly and practicing daily even if it's 15 min. I want to be able to do it freely when I am in a music festival ❤. I hope you get the courage to do what you want to in this life. We can dance just to make our heart content. Don't lose the little hobbies that make you smile ❤ sending love ❤

[@newenergymagic5271]

Always a great video Thoraya! 🌸✨

[@savesoil3133]

Very insightful videos #SaveSoil

[@161patox]

I had a group of friends in high school. We spent all the time together, inside and outside of school, we hang out, played games online, I don't think I even did a lot of things without them. Then we finished high school and I never talked to them again (not just me, the whole group broke each on their own), but it was almost immediate, the week we finished, we stopped playing, hanging out, it was like we were never friends to begin with.

[@kattej837]

6:52- honestly i felt like we all needed to hear that

[@Falloutlover1000]

I was in high school when it happened, but this is not directly associated with high school itself. My sister had been bugging me and teasing me one night and out of anger/annoyance I told her “You make me wish I were an only child” She was older than me and out of the house and she left to see a friend right after. She passed away that night and those were the last words I ever said to her.

[@zicozico9792]

I think we all end up having regrets in some way or the other..is what I learn from this video , I'm still in high school next year will be my last year of High school..well i know there are things i may regret but the thing is that's what i find the most appropriate atm..Just like the experienced people in the video,some regret not having a boyfriend while other regret having them ,some regret studying really hard and getting into more activities while other regret not trying hard..i saw how each one of them regret not doing something while other regret doing it... still I'm really enjoying my life as a student and i am sure I'm making some real fun memories

[@bolinhoparodias]

4:09 What does his accent come from? I've never heard it before. It's attractive, but I struggle understanding what he was saying 😅

[@eskii2]

I have so much regrets i wouldnt even know where to start. Most having to do with getting appriciation from girls. I just want to cry thinking about it.

[@robertserna9020]

That’s beautiful

[@selamawitgebregziabher5917]

Hey Thoraya, I love your videos and everyone of your contents feels home and captivating. Keep posting:)

[@tweetybird4347]

Thoraya.....you are AWESOME! ❤❤❤

[@psilly_cybin2151]

I love ALL of your videos. Please keep this going. I am curious though if you have any recordings of people not wanting to do the prompts? Like what are their reasons to not answer the questions? Whats the ratio of people who honestly answer vs, well, not...

[@thesunreport]

I allways feel a bit worried by someone with the 'boss b***h' attitude. Partly becasue I don't like the cursing language, but also because I think it shows the opposite of 'being a boss', like there are some underlying insecurities there that are being masked by the bravado which accompanies the cursing. i feel like if that Lady was a real 'boss' she would be looking at ways of employing those people who she feels got left behind, and giving them an opportunity at her company instead of mocking them.

[@aparna5532]

Yeah I got such toxic vibes from that woman. You can tell her life's not going the way she hoped it would just by the fact that she was self-gaslighting and repeating "I'm a boss bitch" over and over again. Screams insecurity and low self-esteem. I bet her classmates are actually doing better in life than what she made it seem like lol

[@austincde]

For real! You sound like my mom, who cares if shes cursing??? Stop policing black womens language.

[@thesunreport]

@@austincde Thanks for telling me what to do, but I'm going to ignore you if that's ok?? Also, if you had used your noggin before replying you would see that someone does care if she's cursing (me), and you wouldn't have had to ask about it.

[@LizzieHunterPaul]

Everyone essentially said the same thing about wishing they had stood up for themselves including the woman at 10:25 so the other woman’s doesn’t seem weird.

[@thesunreport]

@@LizzieHunterPaul Not to you maybe, but as we can see in the comment from austincde, some people believe they have to speak like a 'boss b***h' if they are 'a black woman' apparently. That is weird to me because it comes across as a very sinister form of racism in this particular case. In that some elements of society are encouraged to believe their 'culture' involves degrading themselves and others with the use of that kind of language, when in fact it only serves to make them anti-social and self-limiting in their vocabulary, which I think can have knock-on effects. One argument against that could be - 'Yeah but you're saying for her to limit her language', which is why I believe this form of racism is so sinister, because it tricks you into causing yourself a kind of harm, by making you anti-social and more prone to explosive/frustrated behaviour because you have limited your language to expletives and then can't express yourself fully, and that can maybe cause frustration and limited courses of action socially, i.e. violence etc. I don't think that kind of language is limited to only one group of people however, and it is also promoted in the media, which I don't think is healthy either. I say curse words myself in casual conversation sometimes, and it never makes me feel good when I do, because as often as not the people I am talking to don't use that language as casually as me. Lastly these people in the video have all agreed to be posted on the internet, and inevitably that creates and includes a platform for discussion and opinion, which is what my comment was. I hope everyone in the video has a happy and fulfilling life, including the Lady who I have apparently 'Policed'.

[@maddybrown2320]

It truly did feel like forever. I graduated 5 years ago and life has gotten so much better since.

[@ALouisae]

currently in highschool, i regret not doing my work. it’s building up like hell and i don’t know if i’m gonna graduate. gonna be hell!!!!