What To Do If You're In A Rut - Jocko Willink

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Excerpt from JOCKOPODCAST 215

[@W1sconsinite]

You have to be comfortable with feeling uncomfortable until you become happy again

[@Bankzsyy]

Derek McLaughlin I needed this

[@Spectre361]

Derek McLaughlin That approach can easily become nothing more than complacency, which could be equally Detrimental for you long term.

[@W1sconsinite]

Shawn Thomas if you think negatively like this then you will become hopeless. Think more positively and you will see results

[@rabbychan]

YOU DON'T KNOW ME, SON.

[@AlexRodri27]

Needed this today man thank you

[@pranav5788]

Me: Jocko, I think I'm in a rut, what do I do? Jocko: Get out of it.

[@GMan-yg1og]

Shite format .....

[@Janzer_]

Stop being blind and identify the things that you find are an issue, instead of burying your head in other things. Self examination is key to an extent, but changing your behavior based on RECOGNIZING the issues is more important.

[@Janzer_]

@Hunter Hall who said anything about taking control of everything? that's crazy talk. so is the "let god deal with it" mentality. it's too easy of an excuse to allow lazy people to just ride life and let others compensate for their slack. as I said, self examination is key TO AN EXTENT. you can't expect to know everything and account for everything. and you can't sit there and think all the time either. this is why i said, recognizing issues, and reacting to those, is more important. that's how you change behavior and situations. i'm not gonna keep talking in circles here though, because i'm just restating what I stated.

[@John-ys4ll]

Yes..I know..sometimes u can tell ..not much thought was put into the answer.

[@slayer04031974]

@Hunter Hall Let's here your alternative solution or approach..

[@Herbzheal]

If you do whats difficult in life you will have an easy life, if you do whats easy in life you will have a difficult one.

[@nsgambino94]

Herbz Heal true that

[@stevebean1234]

not always true. there are a lot of twisted people who will happily throw you to the wolves to cover themselves. corporate america.

[@rubenspe1]

Having an “easy life” sounds like a wasted one. Embrace the good and the bad!

[@crosses101]

It's funny, I learned that saying 5yrs ago and live by it but I can't help but notice the richest people I know do everything the easiest and simplest way🤔

[@ZekeMan62]

@@crosses101 An ounce of working smart is worth a pound of working hard. Insider info and connections go a long way for them as well.

[@ForTheNerds]

Any successful combat vet that suffers daily with PTS can tell you to do a few things if you're feeling in a rut or depressed. 1. Have you eaten today, a good healthy meal 2. Have you gone outside today? 3. Have you talked to someone supportive of you 4. Have you completed any tasks small or big 5. Have you helped yourself/encouraged yourself

[@travisn346]

Good points. PTSD is an anxiety condition (not a separate condition despite what we are told) and requires daily structure along with use of creative intellect.

[@AudraT]

This is why it's good to seek out other self help sources along with Jocko podcasts. Sometimes you need some extra advice in how to overcome your problem.

[@ratiot1]

I struggled with anxiety for a few years, those 5 points above are key.

[@WayneDmayne]

lmao. thats why you are in a rut. you made a list. good luck

[@otisjones5412]

Did them all. Life sucks. I am ready to jet

[@matthewmartin3190]

I was in a decade long rut. Yeah, a decade. Went through drugs etc and hated life. One day I went to jail which wasn't uncommon and realized why am I doing this?. Getting sober and fixing myself can't be worse than this. So I changed. Started college which I still struggle to stay motivated with but I keep going. Always forward

[@julianmccloud7000]

I am proud of you bro. Life is hard and it tough to believe that something could actually change after being stuck …but keep grinding man you ain’t alone

[@GoldenMushroom64]

You’re already at a massive disadvantage by having been arrested. You don’t need motivation you need luck

[@MrEnomek]

@@GoldenMushroom64 he needs to start his own business. People who have nothing to lose can be succesful at art or trade

[@bry756]

In almost the exact same scenario. Almost graduating as an engineer. You can do it brother!

[@jamesadamgleason9471]

​@@GoldenMushroom64horrible info. My Brother is a Senior Manager for a huge corp and has 5 felonies. He simply had to write a letter of intent explaining the situation (extremely nerve-racking). 20 years ago maybe but the world is different and desperate for real leaders. Everyone is afraid of responsibility over people.

[@dilatedvision7014]

If your going through hell, don't stop there, keep going.

[@MrTruckerf]

Yes, bad enough to just visit but you wouldn't want to live there.

[@pauldickinson3961]

Exactly. Why would you stop moving if you’re in hell. Get out of there.

[@el88cucuy]

"Our greatest freedom is the freedom to choose our attitude." Viktor E. Frankl

[@walterjamesanderson]

The GOAT

[@robertc5325]

frankl a true OG

[@JordanBeagle]

Means way more coming from a holocaust survivor

[@tommyninjaturtle]

Powerful.!

[@RaidasEidukaitis]

🔵THE LESSON: “You’re not going to find happiness. You have to make it. So get out there and make some happiness.” - Jocko

[@carlooblomov4255]

Someone said: Happiness is like peanut fudge: when you want some, you make some.

[@Suro_One]

This came at the right time

[@pinkerton1913]

Indeed

[@raidthanfl]

Ditto

[@Curiousnessify]

just like your father

[@dhruvbala111]

Amen

[@24roughing76]

You're not kidding...

[@TylerSmith-go8sy]

Echo and jockos relationship is like yen yang, echo gives a softer aspect to the intensity that jocko spews, also. NOTE TO SELF, do not invite jocko to watch the ufc fight.

[@krishamskorner7009]

That's why they call him Echo

[@johnuphold6243]

Echo believes in many of Jocko's views, and can answer plenty of these questions himself, that makes it all the better to watch the respect of each other's role play out to create such a great podcast.

[@mrigue56]

I was in a rut from the summer of 2018 to about December 2019, felt like I pretty much wasted that year of my life. Moved out of my parents house last month & now pursuing my grad program full force.

[@ryanlxbox7]

Hope youre doing good man

[@24roughing76]

Keep at it!

[@phil5514]

mrigue56 Get some!

[@mrigue56]

Thank you everyone

[@24roughing76]

So...not sure if you have seen it or not, but Jocko has a short excerpt video titled "How to Crush College". I use it to help teach my high school students. It helped me recently during my undergraduate work. It definitely puts the voice 8n your head to stay motivated in any type of school. I highly recommend it!

[@willmosse3684]

Jocko’s last sentence was key here: “take ownership of ‘em [problems], *and look what you can do different.* ” Blaming yourself for your problems won’t fix anything on its own. You then need to work out what you need to do different, and then you need to make yourself do it. I am fine with the first step, okay with the second, and struggle badly with the third. Breaking habits is hard.

[@7Kiddo]

Impeccable timing as usual.

[@therealmfwic9503]

Life is about attitude. It’s 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it

[@Newbport849]

Get off your phone, cut out TV, wake up early, start reading, clean your room, train har and eat healthy.

[@charlesshea4420]

Dont bring phone to bed under almost any circumstances

[@catalyst3713]

...and meditate.

[@travisn346]

I'm going to a flip phone. The only thing that makes this hard is that I enjoy podcasts. Oh well, what's one more sacrifice in order to get after it?

[@charlesshea4420]

@@travisn346 i got a tiny ipod i download podcasts to from my computer once per week so I can avoid internet and youtube at all costs

[@williamthorpe4109]

Travis Noah like someone else said, get a iPod shuffle. Super cheap, download once a week from computer.

[@mercedesw211classic]

Thank you for everything. Men like you save the societies.

[@thelonepainter4760]

Jocko, because of your motivation speeches and your podcasts. I have beaten my stress, anxiety, and fear. Which has put me in a road to success because of discipline. I'm currently in the process with law enforcement. Everytime I run a 5k and want to stop, I just think to myself "what would jocko say". Then I push myself to finish. Honestly, if it wasn't for your advice and wisdom. I most likely would be in a path of failure. Thank you man! Your my inspiration.😊👍😎

[@babyymakerr6690]

It's "you're"....I know I'm a piece of shit LOL

[@Emp6ft10in]

Bottom line, there is nothing more therapeutic than action in my experience.

[@anthony_sasquatch8056]

I definitely had a hard time recently at work. I was driving for FEDEX express In California. I arrived at a on call pick up and as I exited my truck I saw a man who had a gun shot wound to the leg and no one was helping him so rand over to him An dragged his body out of the gutter and started working on him to stop the bleeding. I had served in the Marine corps and felt confident in helping this man. I usually carrying a tourniquet in my truck in case I get hurt or someone else however I was able to stop bleeding with out one till LAFD arrived with one I was able to control with shoving my knee into his pelvic area and used a towel as pressure of the wound.I stayed awake all night last Friday wondering how I could have been better and I felt Iike the only thing that beat me up was I felt I was complacent by not having a tourniquet with me so I ordered 3 more that night to carry in my bag from now on including chest seals/gauz/Israeli bandages. But I had the knowledge to fix this guy but I got to comfortable aka complacent in life. But anyways I felt like I owned my mistake by not having equipment that day now having ordered more gear I feel like I can now stop thinking about this and move forward and be better prepared for the next time I hope never happens...btw These podcast really help me think of better ways to understand my faults and how to grow from mistakes past and present so thank you echo and jocko for the effort and hard work you guys put in for us!

[@LegacyFarmandFiber]

Good job, driver.

[@alexa.9871]

Errah brother. I felt complacent and lost after ending my service with the Marines and it slowly took a toll on my psychi. Now im in the Army amongst a lot of other prior service Marines.

[@markchick634]

good job your a Hero.

[@markchick634]

good job your a Hero.

[@BASEDinMaine]

You were more prepared than most -- many would panic or just call 911 and have no ability to assist. Sounds like your nature is to be prepared so the part of your psyche that is criticizing your "errors of complacency" is probably just a *healthy response* reflecting your more aware nature. Don't be so hard on yourself personally, use those voices of judgment to take more action if they are reasonable (prepare your ideal med kit and start carving the habit of bringing it with you -- ironically I've been thinking about this very action for my own car the last few weeks and still haven't done the actual list and assembly). If you're struggling with persistent "guilt", treat the voice of guilt like its a separate member of a council addressing its concerns and just acknowledge it with a simple "yes, I can be more prepared" and take action. If that doesn't help, maybe there is a deeper issue like too much residual stress in the nervous system, in that case turn off the "fight or flight" dominant side thru some exercise followed by deep breathing or breath-focused meditation. Hope this helps in some small way, sounds like a crazy story and I feel minor stress just imagining the adrenal load you must have had staying up that whole night after dealing with that sh*t 😬

[@metalhead9142]

Any time I'm feeling down or lost I always come back to these videos. Jocko has helped me overcome so much with his words of wisdom and has taught me life lessons that my father should have. Thank you Jocko and Echo!

[@ezrider1967]

There is no one on Planet Earth and beyond that I would rather listen to, to hone my leadership skills and/or life skills. Jocko, this country is so lucky and blessed to have had you on our side. You are an absolute wealth of information and there is not a better role model anywhere. All I can do is thank you so much for all you've given our Country, and so many of us, individually. I had a really tough day yesterday and lost my cool at my son and others. All of your videos I've watched have ran through my head on loop, and today I have to implement those lessons of humility and correct my actions as well as apologize. Thank you for the direction, Jocko!

[@lawrenceprice3090]

I think extreme ownership is also comprehensive ownership. You don't just accept responsibility for whats happened, you also have to take ownership of the solution. Always getting up when life knocks you down is good. But it only takes you so far.

[@coreymichael1880]

I’ve just woke up today and realised how much my life is in bits.

[@wpb5876]

Just a huge thank you for these podcasts - for taking the time to film, answer people’s questions, which are often very relatable, and sharing the knowledge for the betterment of ourselves (which will lead to a better collective) It’s just awesome and slowly, day by day, changing my (our) life for better

[@TheWordofYAGA]

This truth is ancient. Always be honest with yourself and willing to see your part and make changes. The truth will set you free. It will free you from yourself.

[@jenniferdana5665]

The lesson is: Do what I AM ABLE TO DO to help make things better in whatever situation I'm in that I HATE and STAY 150% on doing whatever I can and am able to. Move forward from there. Do my best to make things enjoyable for myself, have fun and laugh about things. Embrace the fun side. Make things to do fun for myself.

[@duhitstime]

How do you push yourself through the uncomfortable times when it’s so easy to just sit back and let life happen to you. I used to be extremely motivated and driven and in the past year or two that fire within me has really dwindled. I am a veterinary medicine student, and the amount of information we are given to learn is really overwhelming. So much so that I feel I have began to lose sight of why I worked hard to get here in the first place. It’s so difficult to keep pushing through the workload each day. I know that being a veterinarian is what I want for my career, but it’s difficult to keep my goal in sight when dealing with the daily overwhelming volume of information and to also keep other aspects of my life balanced simultaneously.

[@jeromegriffiths8522]

You gotta keep pushing. Don't forget how far you have come, to stumble now will keep pushing the finish line further away. I am in a similar situation and have been stagnant for 3 years, I can see how this will go if I don't take the reins. Nobody will lose sleep if you drop out or fail. Your failures will be used by feeble minded people to make themselves feel better and to put you in your place. Take a short break as soon as you reasonably can and use it to regather your focus and energy. And remember the reality that you are where you chose to be and also the fact that if it was easy then everyone would do it! So don't aim for passing grades, a great career will be easier to attain if you are recruited before you leave because you are part of the top tier. Good luck, be at peace with your decisions, it's on your head nobody else's

[@joshuabaru2908]

To the brothers who are going through a rut. It will come, or is currently happening. Just to remind us that it's part of the journey. A rut is what it is, a time where it feels overwhelming or just plain sucks. Powering through do work at times, but the rut will overwhelm it eventually. I personally have no explanation for this. Embrace the rut. Own it. Acknowledge it and learn from it. You are here because of what you did somewhere along the journey. And the variable varies from a person to the other. These are those days where introspection and retrospection is greatly needed. Don't break yourself taking it all at once. I've done this too many times to not learn my lesson. One block at a time. One matter at a time. You want this right? I can see that you are handling things alright, but the rut is here to help you sort out what works and acknowledge your work/play rhythm. I really wish you both get what you want and score it big in all areas that matters to you both. As Jocko once said, "Success and Failure is a slow process." If we ain't building, it's the latter.

[@PreppinShootinLivin]

Just know that this is a couple years out of your life(finishing school)...you push through these couple years and it sets up the next 70 years for you. If you drop out now or veer off your path, you'll spend the next 70 years regretting your decision to not push through a measly couple years.

[@RagnarOdinson]

@duhitstime I do not doubt your sincerity regarding the Difficulty of the workload, or your feelings of being a bit Overwhelmed by it all. All I can tell you is this: Be *Thankful* You have a Goal. That goal is your proverbial "Light at the End of the Tunnel", it is Not some endless corridor, and however daunting the volume of knowledge currently Seems or Is... It will not remain that way. You Can push through, and You will Achieve Your Goal. You have Purpose, be *Thankful* of that. SO Many others would give away Everything they posses, just to have Purpose. You got this, my friend. 👊💥!! Cheers🍻!

[@ginaprespare1316]

I don't have your level of education, but when I was in college I kept a mental picture of my degree foremost in my mind and challenged myself to graduate with honors. In my personal life I parsed my absolute tasks to 3 things and everything else could wait. School is full of deadlines and I work well under deadlines. Good luck and God bless.

[@RodwayRod]

This guy saved me simple as that .

[@thaticelandicguy]

Thank you Jocco! Big ups from Iceland!

[@tenminutetokyo2643]

Don’t try to get out of it. Enjoy failure. “You got to lose, you can’t win all the time” - George Thorogood.

[@shyboy599]

Ive been listening to Jocko for a month, and I decoded to change my life little by little. I decided to start exercising and get the goal I want. Thank you @Jocko for showing me a new perspective

[@plutonium120]

*in these cases, when things are truly out of your control, what you take ownership of is how you respond.*

[@pacsmacks7142]

By the way one of the best advice I’ve gotten was from this clip, look at what’s going wrong and take responsibility opens up the mind to where now you gotta figure things out and hopefully fix it. Changed my life I’m gonna practice this till the day I die. I also am more easy to let go of mistakes cause now I’ve learnt from them and it wasn’t just another mistake, thank you for that

[@donald2649]

"I" statements are the key to growth.

[@SortingYourselfOut]

Loved this! Jocko is the living embodiment of the ancient Stoics!

[@kennethbrugonone2359]

Damn Jocko even coughs like a monster of a man. 6:50

[@Renault07]

Coronavirus? 😬

[@kennethbrugonone2359]

@@Renault07 Coronavirus picked the wrong guy. He will probably choke it out.

[@prodigalheresy7570]

Lmao I read this right as it happened.

[@lostboi3974]

The Corona virus got infected by Jocko and needed to be quarantined

[@abhimanyukarnawat7441]

Thanks jocko,needed this ass kicking today.

[@timothyreuscher8511]

Thank you Jocko, I really needed this. 8-31-2020.

[@FosterScott]

"I am stuck in a prolonged period..." It was a dreary rainy night rolling through St Louis when it finally clicked. Was listening to Robbins explain his concept of asking our brain questions, which no matter the question, he boiled it down to HOW we evaluate situations determines the nature of the question we ask. It became so clear at that point and I immediately began to see just HOW I was self sabotaging myself. Ask the wrong question and get access to certain chemistry associated with the question. Chemistry that leads to certain emotions, and three distinct physical patterns: body language, thoughts/focus, speech. Basically a loop/neuro pathway/ belief. Love how Jocko gets hyper aggressive in the beginning. He sees the question being asked.

[@daviddeornellis1384]

I like how Jocko wasn’t familiar and doesn’t practice stoicism. The ideas and ideals he teaches or talks about in his videos he’s a stoic without even realizing it. Control and own what you can control, and don’t worry and stress about what’s out of your control. You can’t control other people you can only control your own actions.

[@juliasjepson3691]

This is really good. Thanks for this amazing video. 🙏

[@nflmixo9357]

Jocko always tells me answers I already know but need to hear

[@victorcarvalho9789]

Another great stoicism class 😁

[@danielopher9594]

This video helped me because it made me look at recent situations that were out of my control and dig deep to find what I could have done differently and also how to handle it going forward. Thanks.

[@TheProdigy260592]

My experience with this was not getting a new job, motivation and the fire was burning low. My girlfriends fire however was red hot and passed some over in which I now have a job I love and back on track. Sometimes it just takes someone who can support you while you’re in the rut.

[@UnknownPlayer-eg4tc]

We need more Q&A like this.

[@jshabadoo]

Walked away from my job in corporate America last year to get control of my life and be a dad. Thanks for the content, great lessons can be found here.

[@OrDuneStudios]

That hmm okay at the start is the exact same one my dad give me before a lecture.

[@gregprince2523]

Good stuff Jocko, the struggle will always be real only if you allow it. The choice comes from within.

[@splinterbyrd]

Thanks Jocko. You're right; taking responsibility for the problem is the first step, but in itself doesn't get you anywhere

[@JarredG1]

"The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. Attitude, to me, is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, than education, than money, than circumstances, than failures, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill. It will make or break a company...a church....a home. The remarkable thing is we have a choice every day regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change our past...we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude...I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% how I react to it. And so it is with you...we are in charge of our attitudes." - Charles Swindoll

[@irisgonzalez-caulder4817]

Jocko Willink enjoying your book I bought on 2 -13 and your comical humor 3:34 - 39 and it wasn't 390 The Beverly Hills Polo broken sunglasses and towel on ground near American flag is what dawned on me. Jocko and Echo God bless your podcast

[@daveyt4802]

Really working on this. How to respond to difficult situations. Respond the right way to them!

[@tiaanroux7561]

Since i started listening and taking to heart the lessons you guys teach and the way you view life i haven't become more successful or better in what i do, but god knows I've gotten off my ass and stopped feeling sorry for myself in the event that life isn't going my way. Young people desperately need to hear these truths. Thank you

[@trotts1885]

Wise Jocko delivering the goods

[@carreroarts9735]

Jocko, Seriously man, you should run for president.

[@petethebastard]

...true. Thanks...

[@rickamc3521]

I needed that

[@docgillygun9531]

IT is usually easy to answer the questions of who, when, when, and where. It is really the why and how of things that can be challenging. Always ask the why and how and be real intentional and brutally honest with the how and why of fixing it. The rest that you truly can not control you have to let go. And in reality, there are an infinite number of things in this world for which an individual has absolutely no control over. But yes, you can learn to control your response and teach yourself not to react.

[@phililpb]

failure is always an option. and often it is the easiest option

[@ZiggyLu-og3zp]

We can’t take responsibility for many things that happen to us-however we must accept it and let go and learn from it. Also, when we live according to our purpose and truth then we will be in the flow of blessing.

[@lakjax]

When you invite Jocko to your house , you are the guest!

[@joshuasmith3891]

Lol

[@davidduff9871]

When you take ownership of an issue, you take responsibility for fixing it and finding a solution. When you do resolve the item, you get all of the satisfaction and glory that comes with it. You don’t have to share that with anyone. You need to thank those who helped you along the way but you get all of the honor. And no one can ever take that from you.

[@Skatelifefool]

I'm in a rut where things go my way. I'm living too comfortably.

[@kellyannearcher968]

Me too. Well with the comfortable part anyways.

[@dmitrykeeper4812]

I swear!!. I just think about a rut a minute ago and KZbin give to me this in the top of recommendation

[@thetriode]

What's interesting to me about this is that he talks about a dimension of where he's not stuck. Time management is certainly a place that you can get stuck but it's far from the only one. Social limits and technical limitations come to mind immediately. Trying to highlight strengths is great but where you really need to look is weaknesses.

[@gooneegoogoo123]

Good reply but can you give me some examples of both social and technical limitations?

[@tomdoepker]

Jocko is a national treasure

[@dis_iskyle2404]

Thank you things are out of are control but we can control the outcome

[@jbossnack]

My last 18 years have been spent keeping alive network equipment. It's always my fault, I always have ownership, and you must fix it asap. I love what you say Jocko because it's all true. Really enjoying your content.

[@oliviamoore5328]

I’m so sick of the life I’m living and constantly feeling like I fall back in it. I want more out of life

[@kylerogers1522]

I feel like I’ve been in a rut for a while. Mostly in the gym. I loved the gym and pushed so hard for about a year straight, I’m still going hard but not as hard, in the last 4 months or so I haven’t made much progress, feel like I’m in a rut and don’t know how to get that love back for the gym

[@matthawksworth]

Yes this correct. Youre in a rut bc you have a few problems to solve to get back into a winning position. Life does suck when youre in a rut bc of real reasons. Probably, high stress and deficient is time, space, money, fun, play. These things take problem solving to achieve. Have to set your mind up to be able to work again by putting yourself in a good position. Gut it out, make some money, get ahead of bills, have some solid fun, enjoy life your way, then your mind will be at peace again.

[@360health7]

thanks for the video! everyone gets stuck in ruts, this is why you must be aware and realize you're just victimizing yourself and to get out of the rut you must take ownership like jocko says and keep pushing forward!!

[@bhollow711]

Has Jocko ever mentioned Stephen Coveys 7 Habits of highly effective people? His points on taking ownership on how you respond/react to things you have no control over is mentioned in that book. Good stuff.

[@justinroberts2158]

Alternate title: Jocko explains the first stoic doctrine effortlessly

[@mjolninja9358]

Been in rut for 50+ years

[@diegonayalazo]

Thanks

[@dr.brianjudedelimaphd743]

Embrace failure because it’s a spandrel for cultivating success ...

[@kevinarsenault1686]

Hell yeah I've been in a rut. For the past year..

[@RagnarOdinson]

@ 4:08 Goddamn. AS You said Those words... I was literally thinking about My own, nearly *Identical* , experience. She battled Depression and Bi-polar Disorder all her life, she died from an opiate overdose, and so on. Everything you said after that is 100% True. It IS how we respond to the Tragedy. I *wish* I could say that I've *Responded* as I should have. I *WISH* I could tell ya that at the time I had the wisdom and fortitude to React in a healthy manner that would benefit My own life moving forward. I am fully aware that no one else is to Blame for My Failure to respond accordingly. So understand I do Not offer this up as any kind of legitimate Excuse for my many missteps since. I'm *still* here. I'm only say'n... It IS Really Fuck'n Hard.

[@kellyannearcher968]

Dramatic isn’t a good look on anyone. Cheers mate!

[@SapientEudaimonia]

Thanks, Epictet...I mean Jocko!

[@LiquidfirePUA]

With constant self blame, people can talk themselves into depression too. i love your message, but its dangerous to apply this to everything. Ive seen several cases lf this through my life, people blame themselves for everything and are totally inmotivated after and depressed

[@grantarmbruster6591]

Not self-blame but self responsibility. Identify the problem and your roll in it. And then formulate a plan to fix it.

[@frontdeskstaff9359]

Wallowing in self pity is not taking ownership. Choosing to be a victim of yourself is no different than choosing to be a victim of someone else. As Grant said, it really is about self responsibility, not self blame.

[@kevinharing766]

I completely agree with you. Without getting too deep in the weeds, I'm less than satisfied with where I am in life. My issue is knowing what must be done to remedy the problem. I am 100% cognizant of the fact that I'm here because of bad decisions that I made, but unsure of what the right decision is in my instance. As a result, I've made myself depressed.

[@jordanvargas6860]

Well the problem is that someone might misinterpret it as self blame. That is not the message he's sending but it's easy for somebody to apply it in that way. If you have depression you're gonna want to take ownership and responsibility for very small things. You might need to take much smaller steps than what you see other people doing and thats perfectly fine. The problem comes from trying to meet expectations that aren't quite within your reach yet.

[@grantarmbruster6591]

@@kevinharing766 the right decision would be to find yourself a mentor a father figure so to speak that you were willing to be obedient to a commander to fall under. One of the best things I ever did was join the Army give me the discipline I was sorely lacking in my teens

[@user-pf4px2cn9e]

Jocko, the key here is patience...perseverance, chill...somerimes, i think, we have to recognize that not everything IS in our control, patience, like they say in hebrew....הכל יהיה בסדר

[@Dr.Pepperdave]

Can you translate that message?

[@makina2022]

the uncomfortable doesnt stop and i dont know when it will, i might aswell be wearing an anchor at this point.

[@omniXenderman]

So Im going to start trying, right now I'm planning to get a set sleep schedule, basic exercise, and enriching my diet. I'm planning a 10pm to 6am routine, exercise for 15 minutes when I get up and 15 just before 11am. I'm going to eat at least two entrees a day(I have no appetite at all, I'll go DAYS barely eating) once I can keep those things up consistently I'll amp it up. I'm not ready to give up alcohol cigarettes weed or masturbating excessively yet, but Im gonna at least get a foothold on my momentum. I already set my alarms to do these things and I wake up at 6 tomorrow morning. Im putting it in writing here so there are witnesses and so I'm even more accountable

[@richardprice9730]

I hear my Dad , but with my dad he couldn't walk his talk but you can , on an existential level you are an incredible human being, the problem for me is superego stuff God do I beat myself up , olecranon recovering and at aged 60 in June, competition isn't a good idea, comparison either but there is something so down to earth so real going on, owning up YES HOW? Yes, the accident was my fault ., she broke up with me, i didn't get to the second year and have been out of work 10 + years but just been successful, no control! YES I know that one, I am trying Jocko so be patient please good start to the day freestyle dance movement, cold shower, egg for b fast fewer carbs and flat still f..cluttered disorder no floor covering, saved some money though a few pounds I mean, how to respond, what to do what is the priority I come back to God's will please god HELP "me"!Just had housing scheme manager round ranted at her for the first two weeks after the serious accident no support nothing was virtually crippled and in pain, that's life i guess, the world and housing .....God bless R PS at least and this sounds horrible she is dead mine just abandoned finished with me and for 15-20 years have wondered and tried to contact her and no, she meanwhile in the bosom of her family and surrounded by her kids went onto, f, loads of other guys and forget about our incredible love , me I just got hung up , then 10 years victimized in a council ghetto, then crown metal poisoning and on and on I am obviously doing something very wrong and still cannot see nor really put it right i.e. change, but yes you are RIGHT ON take ownership of yourself and your response.

[@kevinharing766]

I just heard of this guy and watched his pod with Joe Rogan from a little over 4 years ago. His demeanor and disposition in that discussion were far more appealing than in this one.

[@GorVala]

Epic video, much respect and appreciation.. there has to be a course made in university so professor Jocko W. may help folks learn to live morally honest.

[@juanduplays]

Jocko, sometimes bosses are just irrational punks who listen to no reason and there is little that you can do to avoid getting caught up in their BS

[@michalvalta5231]

Disappointment is the result of our expectations.

[@kellyannearcher968]

Deal.🤙🏻

[@kellyannearcher968]

Cynical. How refreshing

[@tombear2489]

I’ve noticed some people taking issue with Jocko’s philosophy. The key takeaway for me about ownership isn’t that you indulge in guilt and blame for screwing up its that when you blame forces outside of yourself on some level you are internalizing the idea that you have no control - and that you’ve been dominated by the situation in front of you. The more you think of a situation as your responsibility - the more you’re telling yourself that you’re the aggressor. You’re the one making things happen - EVEN if those things are negative. Therefore if you have the AGENCY to screw up - then that same agency can be used to get you out of the rut.

[@eaglegrip6879]

Any time I'm in a rut, I simply rub my antlers against a tree and wait for a foxy fawn to stroll by. 😂

[@kellyannearcher968]

I don’t get it.

[@eaglegrip6879]

@@kellyannearcher968 It's a deer hunter's joke. lol

[@dewknow1315]

I was in a running rut so I signed up for a 100 mile race that is in October so I have time but if I want to get that belt buckle I better get the fuck after it.

[@kizombeiro8130]

Gday mate, Off topic question.. How many pull ups do you do abd how often? I do them 5-6 days per week, 3 sets of 8 in the morning (with other exercises) then same again in the arvo. Is that too often? Cheers mate

[@artiew8718]

"good" - Jocko

[@andyd916]

SOG man Nick Brokhausen has a couple good books out. Any chance of getting him on your podcast?

[@jenniferdana5665]

One of my PD nurses called me this morning she told me that my sodium level has dropped too low. She explained to me that by drinking Gatorade Zero that will help bring my sodium level up. I'm leaving to go to the supermarket to buy that for myself shortly. I got extremely sick with nausea and vomiting this morning. I had to take a sodium chloride tablet and eat dry cereal I have that's higher in sodium. Because if I don't I will get very ill, really sick and have to the hospital. Last time this happened to me is because the other PD nurse didn't tell me my sodium had dropped. So now I've asked that the dialysis treatment center I go to checks my sodium level more frequently. I'd rather deal with the uncomfortable needle stick to check my sodium level Eve though it hurts a lot when it gets done than deal with getting sick and not treating my low sodium level.

[@intothefuture1.618]

People often forget that action is all you can do to make any situation change. The longer you point fingers, the longer you stay miserable, period. The faster you accept all that is, as all that is, the quicker everything in your life falls into a miraculous flow. You can only do what you can do, but most people won't do it until someone else does it first, and even then, they might have more excuses up their sleeves. I don't know much but that's what I've experienced making my way out of my bottom and my life has become an ecstatic expression of what's important to me, love.

[@gregrawlins5477]

Jocko = Marcus Aurelius 2.0/Stocisim 2.0. That's a big compliment of which I am taking ownership.

[@theodorhonkanen1048]

I take mental notes