What to do when a girl looks or smiles at you

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In today's video, we’ll cover how to respond to when a girl smiles your way. 99% of guys think it's about what they're doing wrong- but it's not about what you do, it's about what you DON'T do. Watch the video and let me know in the comments if you learned something new.
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[@alexcosta]

Don't forget to follow me on instagram.com/alexcosta Thank you for watching and have a great week! -AC

[@notazeninanymore]

whenever i smile, it feels like i am sexually harassing someone.. darn it.

[@tesla9665]

Start talking to another girl😂

[@chaimabch3629]

Q😊

[@Steve24527]

Some girls might smile but doesn’t mean they want you to ask her out

[@1castellp]

When a woman smiles at me, I look to see who is standing behind me.....up to 5 miles

[@alejandrop.s.3942]

I just assume she wants to sell me sth.

[@indigo3726]

consequences of being ugly, I do it too brother

[@bmoshareholderappleshareho855]

To pickup a girl at a supermarket, you have to be Mr. Casanova or else forget it.

[@Yoriichi_Tsugikuni___]

Dude I did this one time, there was no one behind me and she kept looking smiling eyes wide open at me, I triple checked, refused to elaborate and went out 🥲

[@HumanBodyMaintenance]

@@bmoshareholderappleshareho855not if she sends a choosing signal

[@Ben86709]

I find not getting attached to your desired results helps maintain confidence. Just put yourself out there and have fun.

[@Mwastalks326]

Sure

[@robbertag808]

That costs me energy I don't like to spend that much energy without getting something in return.

[@DonGivani]

Exactly, this is magic !!!!!

[@jay-pg2ib]

Honestly, I just taught myself no beautiful woman would be interested in me so I started to treat a beautiful woman like a normal person... No hitting on her, no special treatment, no stupid pickup lines I was just myself which allows all my nerves and fears to vanish. Little did I know it makes your confidence look HUGE. This is how I met 3 of my long-term gfs. It actually caused a few of them to ask for my number especially if we had something in common. I was a guitar player so at one point I was asked to give her lessons because she always wanted to learn, found out later she didn't care about the guitar lessons 🤣

[@greyofficial1]

@@jay-pg2ib nah actually thts good

[@Tucker277]

I remember when the thumbnail tweet said "don't smile back"

[@sameeramadusanka4899]

Click bait 😅

[@ScottyScheller]

It's all about being relaxed. Match her energy, build rapport, and then it's all about keeping it interesting. Don't push the conversation if it's ending. You guys are studs 🤜🏼🤛🏼

[@alexcosta]

Great tips Scotty!

[@hruday6579]

This Man posts the right video at the right time for me...

[@Mwastalks326]

His content is just the right one

[@alexcosta]

Happy to help in any way

[@hawk__]

Just.. the thumbnail could also be genuine. That's not nice!

[@ThatStranger]

Relation with girls and understanding girls overall is like learning about some new species everytime to me 😅

[@turkicsayajin2274]

That's the fun part imo

[@adolf_alija]

No matter a girl or whatever person smiles at me, I always just look back with a straight dead face

[@NicoSimonPrincely]

That's a mistake.

[@tomlewis7898]

like someone with a brain injury or a severe mental illness

[@jaseman]

When a girl smiles at you, the best thing to do is leave - quickly.

[@NicoSimonPrincely]

If you want to be alone and an Incel.

[@jameswillett2403]

It's a trap!!!!

[@timc9773]

Not always

[@atreyasaha]

Only if you’re in Thailand 😂

[@kossibwaya]

​@@atreyasaha why?

[@oneofTheRealest]

If a Girl really loves you, she will move a mountain and if she doesn't love you, she'll add a mountain in-between. It's that simple.

[@carol7990mg]

but, she doesn't even know you...

[@RockyVegaTV]

My experience has shown this to be true. They will let you know and make themselves readily available.

[@blastorange2460]

@@RockyVegaTVnot true a women won’t talk to you first.

[@damon2771]

Oh they wont but they will drop hints when started talking to you . But sometimes those hints are just difficult to read​@@blastorange2460

[@od8163]

I think if the person is interested then she will make it known by coming up to you, make conversation, proximity etc. So my advice to any bro out there is to always be in position of strength. You dont show interest if she dont, you dont be friendly if shes not. Treat them as they treat you. Key thing is, for any succes, the person has to find you physically attractive. If she dont then theres no point. Attraction is hair, face, body and cloathes. So make sure your hair and cloathes are stylish and dont be overweight. The only thing you cant control is your face/genetics.

[@NicoSimonPrincely]

And you've been with how many women? And you're wrong. Personality & Game over rule looks.

[@IssahKamara-ko9rg]

​@@NicoSimonPrincely Looks first before personality or game...She need to find you physically and sexsualy attractive before she can even notice your personality and game...Can you upload you personality and game on dating app?

[@leesmallone3680]

Have you ever heard the word superficial ? Cause you just described it, social media dreamer.?

[@americandream9473]

Cope.Looks are everything.​@@NicoSimonPrincely

[@theawaken5442]

You are right my friend, it starts with attraction. From there you can show them your personality. But if there is no atracción there is nothing.

[@Sachu0369]

This man changed the way of my style thanku so much alex ❤❤

[@alexcosta]

That means a lot thank you

[@choudharysahabmusic3513]

Your emotional state should not shake infront of her. It is that simple. She is just a human being no matter how beautiful she is.

[@DRAGNFLY]

"She is just a human being no matter how beautiful she is." 🔥🔥

[@alastairpartington254]

Don’t forget guys….she also missed her shot.

[@millennium14.]

😂

[@gastarbeiter8384]

And that change anything? Its a missed shot, end of story.

[@jcransome5616]

She has 99 bros left on read Cope harder goof

[@oldscratch3535]

​@@jcransome5616That she doesn't want...

[@its_nikesh]

The confidence we all want🌕🍷

[@phabeondominguez5971]

REMEMBER,.. The thing is, you miss all the shots you don't take.. a friendly smile or hello doesn't mean your hitting on her, and if SHE does take offense at that, TRUST, she is not anyone you want to be with.. jus match the energy.. the bad rap cold approaches get is that 99% of dudes can't read the ZERO INTEREST signs and misinterpret friendliness as flirting.. so jus get out there!!

[@miskopisko8833]

Watching Alex is going from zero to hero, going from Alex Free to Alex Costa

[@Steve24527]

Some girls might smile but doesn’t mean they want you to ask her out

[@theawaken5442]

True but you won’t know until you try.

[@saltgame5823]

question. i feel like girls always smile, but its meaningless. like they do it to everyone, and they are just being polite and would rather not engage in actual talk. is this incorrect?

[@chrizmarkdeasis7761]

Same. Sometimes it means nothing at all to be honest. I had tried once to speak at her first but it seems she don't want to talk. Failed miserably!!! 😂

[@Nick.Brough]

Most men are invisible to women like a background or wallpaper. If you’re being smiled at then you’re halfway there champ.

[@saltgame5823]

@@chrizmarkdeasis7761 after waking up ill have everyone all peppy and saying "good morning how are you". i respond with "good". and thats it lol. so when i finally wanted to up my socializing game i said, "good, how are you" the girl misheard me and though i said only "good". i missheard her and thought she said she was doing "bad" lol. i wish things are clear. people seems cheery and talkative one day. then quiet another day. ill put in work brushing my teeth and using deodorant. then everyone gets quiet. life is confusing and i already dont have enought motivation to deal with this shit. single for life baby, ima live the best life i can i guess lol

[@chrizmarkdeasis7761]

@@saltgame5823 We're on the same boat buddy already!

[@B1inded3agle__]

The fact that I got a reel on ig where girls ask and us guys answer and then literally i got recommended this video 💀🔥🔥

[@memestrous]

Thanks for the advice but I don't think Ana De Armas is ever smiling at me 💀

[@phabeondominguez5971]

Never heard of her, whats her OF so I can research

[@griefer5846]

@@phabeondominguez5971shes an actor bruh, man said OF

[@Charlie092]

​@@phabeondominguez5971if that's the first thing that came to your head you got bigger problems

[@husnainakram1476]

Day by day Alex improve their content quality. Keep it up bro👍🏽

[@taimerlanesadiq9182]

Their/bro

[@SwithinLobo]

I started watching your videos about 2 years ago . It is literally noticable how great the videos turned out to be . Keep it up this is what we call "Quality Content"❤

[@marianosilva1261]

Congratulations! Very clear, no bullshit, and most of all genuine. Thank you for sharing.

[@nuratanzim8561]

The level of these videos are going crazy 🔥🔥

[@Mwastalks326]

Crazy good

[@alexp7274]

3:00 "What do you say?" "Chiti chiti bang bang Ya ba da ba doo"

[@anikatasnim6001]

Hell yah, works for me 🤣

[@SSurfer1]

winner 😂😂😂😂🎉

[@DRAGNFLY]

Hey a 10/10 chad could probably pull that off 😂

[@98167]

thanks Alex, you broke it down really down for me to see where you going at with this. good inserts in the videos!’ 👍🏼

[@1knightero]

OR the girl just being nice, smiling to to you ,not necessary mean anything .

[@CaptainWillard830]

Don’t reciprocate. She’s smiling at a lot of dudes. Men are in love, women are in business. If she truly wants to get to know you, she will circle back. Trust me on this. I’ve been there done that and succeeded getting to know women that matter. Signed, Lieutenant Colonel, United States Marine Corps (Retired) and wiseman

[@RandomUser25122]

Women just want to have fun, so just have fun. Keep it playful, a little funny or cheeky and JUST HAVE FUN with it.

[@Sharvil18-45]

I'm assuring that I'll definitely forget each and every step at that point

[@wavygoods877]

The whole “we live in a simulation thing” y’all ever think something bigger is controlling media? I know some people may think this is harmless situation but the core problem of influencers all doing the same videos around the same time is alarming. Why/how do TMF/Alex and other influencers roll out the same video on the same time and no it’s not part of a trend.

[@DRAGNFLY]

It's not that deep lol, it's a strategy many KZbinrs use. Copy the idea/title of a popular video but put your spin on it

[@jwcwyoutube]

*Smile back and nod head up and down, yes thinking "lets do it baby.* 🙂

[@irenepapathanasiou2697]

thank you Alex for teaching men, you will create more and healthy relationships out there ❤❤❤

[@deepanshusharma4191]

Great video Man , Absolutely love your content!!

[@memestrous]

what 😭

[@judah2427]

What if she's recorded for her tiktok and you don't know?!

[@jay-pg2ib]

The honest truth about the friendzone is.... If she puts you in the friendzone and you're being yourself, honest, you feel things have gone well and she still puts you in the friendzone... She's not for you. A mature woman who is genuinely into you won't put you in the friend zone they ACTUALLY communicate. Theyll make sure you're not interested before assuming based on your scew ups because women know we are human and we mess up. Like he eaid they can sense fear, confidence and nerves. The intelligent ones can also sense when you are full of crap or you are being real. If you're being real, your chances of getting her are much higher. It's the materialistic, high standard woman who put their value on the outside that put you in the friendzone and assume without communicating. You don't want that! They want that alpha male take control b.s. and lemme tell you that can get the girl but years down the road it'll get old and you'll get tired of it unless thats your genuine personality.

[@niro6492]

Girls never look at me. Or smile at me.

[@americandream9473]

The same happens to me.

[@americandream9473]

Its all about looks dont stress to much 😉😉

[@heisenberg313]

your editing skills are improving day by day 🎉

[@jamesowen4938]

IDK. It's never happened to me, ever.

[@arnabghoshdastider5562]

Trust me Alex costa is the only person Marvel's should contact if anyone in the world deserves the place for the next Iron man role (He almost looks like the RDJ from 2012 ❤)

[@journeyoflife9159]

Best way to get over the anxiety is to not expect anything just talk to her as you wanna be friends

[@tumishomagagula2.035]

the conversation should be true or rather genuine which then leads to that polarity

[@pablosanhueza5290]

Just use eye contact to your advantage and just smile back. And pay attention to her body language. If she looks away, could be she is also nervous. Just think she is looking at you for a reason. If you weren't even in the picture, her eyes wouldn't lock on to yours in the first place. They love sending signals. So play the game and play a game of your own. The results are pretty staggering when I treated them like they were equal to me and not above me in anyway. Even if you fail the shot with conversation, it still sends signals that are positive. So just practice your art and delivery. Then things start getting easier. It takes practice guys. So get out there with conviction and have some fun.

[@ioan_jivan]

Probably the best guide in such a short time. Asking for too much here though, how do you do this when you are having a bad day? Or even worse, if you have not gone out with friends in 2 weeks and are not 'warmed up' socially?

[@hellomadetScuffed]

What to do when a girl looks or smiles at you? RUN!!!

[@deeprathod03]

Alex sir! I and my friend just had conversation on this topic and you uploaded this video... Helpful for us we both watched your video also I got some positive energy from your speech... Thank you... Btw i changed my dressing sense by watching you .... Love from India🇮🇳

[@Markovka137]

This is really hard when your on the mild of the autism spectrum.

[@hadesartemis6603]

Its not just that we dont know. Its more that we dont want to... we know what comes after. Most men nowadays prefer to end alone

[@iDanceMyButtOff]

researched a whole bunch about how to talk to women or what to say on dates and also spoke with a a lot of my guy friends and family members, they all said one thing in common - "Get out of your head, be yourself and be present with her" I did just that and we've been seeing each other for the past month now. If I have one thing to say it's to not put anyone on a pedestal, especially women who hear the same compliments all the time. Treat them like a normal human being or like a regular person/friend. That's the best advise I can offer, this will allow you to relax and not be so tensed, makes the whole interaction so much smoother. Don't try to plan what to say next, you're going to fumble and stumble and it's just going to put you in an awkward position. You wont be everyone's cup of tea and not everyone will be yours, give yourself some grace and just go with the flow and have fun with it. Good luck and cheers!

[@leonelcortes5094]

Huge clickbait with the "don't smile back" thumbnail

[@SauravMedhi10]

😂

[@pleazvre]

If a girl looks at you and smiles, look at her and ask, will I become a dentist now?

[@DonJam-m7f]

Does this work for brown guys?

[@Ketankumargothi]

The Background Score is OP🔥

[@anthonypc-248]

Nice non-toxic advice! 😄

[@jaguaresed]

Because they later say.....what are you looking at CREEP

[@nsovomabasa5014]

Me: i see a very stunning women look and blush's at me. My brain: Run as fast as possible, and don't look back.

[@evilherojoseph]

''What to do when a girl smiles at you'' Lol jokes on you, women never smile at me 😅

[@DRFESTERPUS69]

Remeber guys, you have to be attractive first.

[@faizanmehr]

My Future dream couple in the thumbnail🥺❣️

[@instantbeansoup]

Tks. I’ve been barking at girls for 5 years and had no clue what was wrong

[@kossibwaya]

Lmao😂😂

[@meat_loves_wasabi]

For Ages 13 to 16

[@jovith77]

Go and study

[@bharali3863]

😂​@@jovith77

[@HerzeleidRMMSTN]

One time there was a new girl in my gym: We crossed sights for the first time and she smiled at me, I'm not used to that so i just looked away quick without showing emotions. I tought to myself: maybe???? Same girl, we cross sights for a second time, she smiles at me again, i fucking look awayyyyyyy. I tought to myself: Ok, i will return the next smile and maybe go and talk to her. Same girl, we cross sights, i smile at her, she looks away and keeps going her way.

[@truereality84]

The trick, is forgetting everything he said in the video, and just being open, honest, and yourself (don’t put on an act, show her immediately the real you, take it or leave it). Go in with an attitude of “I find you attractive, but if you are not into me right now, that is fine, there are literally billions of attractive women out there”. When you care too much about the outcome, you mess up, if you don’t care at all about the outcome, you might be too distant and seem unmotivated, BUT when you care + you have the courage to be rejected + the self respect to not be needy or let a woman walk all over you.. you have a winning formula. In the end, it doesn’t really matter, there is literally millions of women besides the one you are approaching, many of them might be more beautiful, or of better character, or a better fit for you.. so just chill man, take it easy, and the right women will always reveal herself in the end. (I recommend you look for a good woman to marry, don’t just fuck around with casual sex. Even if one women is not enough for you, get multiple women in long term relationships, take care of the women you are with, don’t just treat them as sex dolls).

[@marktureaud4094]

Women CHOOSE the guy - that is the way it always has been - we just need to respond - have fun - and escalate. Woo Hooooo. Yeeeaaaahh.

[@asantesimmons4077]

Good video! Mostly too, you have to be ready , when your ready for the opportunity, they’ll fall in your lap

[@Jose-gc3xt]

Does it still mean attraction if you smile first? I work retail and during my breaks and after work (When not in uniform) its very common (Multiple times a day) that I lock eyes with a female and smile, then they give me a smile back. Is that still a sign of attraction or a common courtesy? I just couldn't imagine locking eyes with a girl and NOT smiling, it just seems so cold and serial killer like....

[@rakshitarora3125]

Hi Alex, I am from India love ur content. Got the insight of the lives in NYC by ur videos.

[@BilalAhmed-g8i]

WHAT IS THE PROCEDURE for the visa and how many days will

[@honeelordcomia7100]

I've been in that same kind of situation I just don't know what I'm going to do so I just looked in different directions and try to get out in that situation as fast as possible.

[@xealzy944]

How do I talk to a girl who’s in her friend group? I have my eyes on someone atm but she’s always with someone.

[@AminAlpha1.]

Start befriending all her friend

[@alexbhuti3276]

just imagine how much research alex put into this.

[@daynightlifebright]

Hey Alex, I wanted to buy the Forte Pomade, but its sold out everywhere and its not on the main site no more?

[@clarissaabigailbraza2631]

FYI not all girls like that ,when a girl looks or smile to a guy doesnt mean she likes him.

[@V_2077]

She aint gonna do that to anybody, she will at least accept your approach

[@sVsWR24]

Just keep walking!

[@najibamara0]

Amazing , keep it up Alex costa ❤

[@alexcosta]

Thank you, will do!

[@Ghostrider-ul7xn]

I have a question, what if a girl rejects/shuts you off in the rudest way possible? How do you respond to that kind of comment? Like, they say something like "I'm not interested in guys from X country/ethnicity" or "stay away from me you creep" and turns her head sideways? Ofcourse you said approaching only those girls that give you inviting signals but many guys still misinterpret signs..

[@leesmallone3680]

Her attitude is not your problem.

[@Ghostrider-ul7xn]

@@leesmallone3680 You're delusional if you think how people treat others don't affect them.

[@Simba88242]

This speaks to me

[@greglavers]

First 15 seconds of this video "You lost your shot". Didn't she also miss HER shot with me? I see females at my work place looking at me all the time. Not one has ever tried to speak to me. Not one. I don't want a female who thinks that I missed out on her.

[@Kale-mj8mz]

I just want a friend thats a girl (ive never had one)

[@AkssatChoudhary]

Buddy please make a video on what if she shows attitude

[@zwelakhentsizwame6245]

Please 🙏🏽

[@Chahal1999]

Show her level😂

[@Diego-Designs]

If she shows attitude, don't waste your time and walk away.

[@alexcosta]

either match her banter levels or just gracefully end the conversation

[@AminAlpha1.]

​@@alexcostamake a video about it

[@Itsreload]

If she smiles. DO the checks. Check your zipper. Check your wallet. Look behind you.

[@MathiasAmling]

why does the thumbnail say don‘t smile back when in the video you say smile back? You realize that‘s a pretty messed up way to get views, right?

[@Tap_in_rn]

exactly what i thought

[@giorgiavazashvili4116]

relax bruv that’s pretty normal for a modern youtube employee

[@MathiasAmling]

@@giorgiavazashvili4116 doesnt mean its not fucked up bro 😄

[@V_2077]

Thats how they got me ro click, they aren't stupid

[@LoFiSpotUSA]

Guys, I will give you another perspective on this. If you approach someone, you're in a lower status. Same in business. If you write a job application, you're in need of money. Same with girls. If you approach out-of-context somewhere on the street, just by a "signal", it's a weird situation. Imagine you get that "signal", you walk up to her and she gives you permission to talk to you by smiling or looking away to distract herself from this situation. You're begging for her attention lol. Also, signals can be easily misinterpreted. Best situation: You're attractive/good looking or you have something (some value/wealth) women will come up to you. If they're not approaching you, you're in low demand. Improve your looks and career. Also, if the relationship is over, she can't blame you for approaching her first. Mixed solution: If you get approached by her for something you offer for sale or in a better context, in school or university, you can start small talk and exchange contact information without being in a lower status. You're equal. In a sales context, you're higher (because she came to you). Another option: You see her trying to do something but failing at it (could be anywhere). Help her, build trust. Walk away. If she stops you or asks question to stop you from walking away, she might be interested to talk and get to know you better. Onlinedating: Best thing you can do -> Buy premium and just react to likes. Never donate likes. If you don't get likes, well... you need to upgrade your profile which means not only better pictures but also better life. That being said online dating sucks. You most likely get people who are in need of those apps (non-established social circle, weird people, mental...). Good luck! Edit: As an average guy, you can start with was is being said in the video. But you have to take risks to become exceptional. In long term you want to maintain power over situations.

[@amansinha4882]

Most of the times when girl stares it feels expressionless(just eye lock),what to do then?

[@pamelabautista6576]

do another morning routine!!

[@alexcosta]

Soon! I just posted a night time routine last week did you see that?

[@pamelabautista6576]

@@alexcostaYup it was really helpful and i can’t wait to see your next morning routine!!

[@markgamble568]

I think if Ana De Armas smiled at me I’d just faint! 😂

[@pauldrozdowski3710]

for real, bro

[@DonJam-m7f]

What if you are just average financially?

[@frankkennedy6388]

What bugs me about this is after highschool most smiles I see are from women who I can't even tell if they're in my age range. I'm in that weird position where the girl could be my age, but also looks like she could be 5 or 10 years older. Plus most smiles are unclear if they are "approachable" ones.

[@smoketrees7044]

Sometimes u got to fuck around and find out, just ask and decide for yourself or else you'll be stuck in a guessing box

[@mrfaisal6666]

Make a video on the best summer floral shirt dresses for look maxing ❤

[@krolltheknight]

I smile and ask them how they are today Works everytime

[@dextermorgan327]

Dude don't be a simp

[@phouzor]

What if I never get any signal to approach?

[@v2xerxes580]

Than you live in the real world...these KZbinrs just make videos to capitalize on you .. dating and family is destroyed ... No women has any worth in the modern world just box...good luck

[@zephyrekansh]

Just look away and do your best to not make eye contact again by mistake👍

[@DeadBoY-z8s]

You are a total heartthrob dude!😉

[@geekyHarsh50698]

Thanks brother ,really helped alot

[@kushalparekh1017]

Alex is it okay if the guy smiles first ?

[@greyofficial1]

nah bro

[@jcransome5616]

Speed dating is a joke

[@kossibwaya]

Fr tho

[@BallariRaja_]

First thumbnail was better alex❤

[@alexcosta]

changed it back for you

[@adrenalinevision3106]

Where’d you get that sweater my man?

[@alonbiran2011]

Great one !