What TO DO When You Are Feeling JEALOUS and INSECURE in Your Relationship | Relationship Theory

[@RelationshipTheory]

Shout out a moment when you experienced jealously and how you would handle it!

[@lizbethbustamante5273]

In the moments I get insecure I fo resear h and listen to videos like this so I have healthier thoughts instead of spiraling in the negative ones.

[@thatsstraightenergy3673]

I go break something 💀

[@sahraomar2309]

@@thatsstraightenergy3673😂

[@leen1q84]

*Jealousy

[@Tobnosh]

I suffer for somthing like feeling of bloodlust jealousy for one coworker of here. just wanted comfirm there is nothing but only defence and no reassurens and reminder of friend suggest just point out they are friends on facebook now its just ended up so cold that she do not realy wanna see or talk to me if there is no imidiate need of help

[@heyleighmikaila]

If anyone else searched for this video, I have great news: being aware of the problem is half the battle. Even asking yourself how to overcome your own jealousy and insecruity means you've recognized this in yourself and *want* to change. Go, you! Go, us! Thanks for this video, over a year ago.

[@beverlyannvalle9104]

Go 🥺

[@MandisaVXuba]

Thank you for your kind words

[@abiiigail333]

Thank you for this reminder ❤

[@Chattyrizki]

Love it! ❤ just in relationship again after 4 years just dating around and get dumped many times

[@natpearson5819]

Sorry its not jealousy. If your partner is looking enough that you can tell and knows its something that hurts you then they are being disrespectful and you are allowed to feel hurt or 'jealous' you are not psycho or crazy, if you have boundaries and they continue to be broken then it's not you with the problem. Remember that ladies!

[@ZhenyaKechina]

Agree 100%

[@joyleslie2537]

Valuable !!!

[@frankieperna1053]

Preach!

[@bmforliffee6755]

What I have seen with jealousy It is when your pride kicks in and your pride is hurt What really happens is you think at that moment that he or she is preferring that other over you And that is an idea that you can't bear or stand Because now you feel as if you just got bumped from the position of Queen. And how dare this happened to me

[@Kirra713]

That’s true

[@Crzycalikiwi]

“You may break my heart but you won’t break me!” Lisa that is gold right there! Preach!!!

[@johnsonrichard2777]

Hi friend do you really need help to get your ex back

[@johnsonrichard2777]

Let me recommend you to a herbalist(DR edobor) that help me get my ex back he can definitely help you also

[@johnsonrichard2777]

You can reach him through WhatsApp

[@johnsonrichard2777]

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[@laurenschultz9781]

Yes but what if he is really being an asshole and disrespectfully looking at other women in front of me. How is that MY problem? Why do I have to go through all kinds of mental gymnastics comparing younger women to myself and then feeling bad about it. In other words, why do I have to do all the work inside my head when he’s actually being disrespectful? It’s not always a core wound that’s triggering the jealousy. Sometimes, he’s just a plain jerk

[@jennaweiss6019]

Lauren, I've been there. I left that kind of guy 4 years ago. He ended up cheating. Those are his problems, not yours. No reflection of you, you deserve better, believe that!!

[@cozinha8945]

Lauren, yours were exactly my thoughts.

[@laurenschultz9781]

@@jennaweiss6019 thank you my friend you deserve the best as well 🙏

[@jennaweiss6019]

@@laurenschultz9781 Thank you! Be Well 🦋🙏💗

[@courtneymurphy1023]

Yes! Amen

[@kmold0033]

Does anyone else just feel like they’re labeled as “jealous” in a relationship but it’s just that it’s a SYMPTOM of something else? Especially when you’re not inhibiting someone from doing something. But legit it’s that a need isn’t being met

[@bellakim9404]

When i feel triggered, I have to remind myself, 'I am original and noone is like me. I will never Go BatShit Crazy over a man or anyone.' The repercussions are not worth it.

[@NoahAvery96]

The times I have felt jealous have been the times I’ve lost the girl. How I deal with it now is 1.) Succeed with someone else 2.) objectify the jealousy, visualize distancing myself from it, don’t identify with it and know that it is my brains way to serve and protect me. Then it’s my opportunity to find the emotional message. 3.) Look at the skills I possess that my partner wishes they had and see that we both bring value to the relationship. Then be grateful for that 4.) Have a mission to work towards and improve at daily Thanks for your videos. Not many people have a healthy relationship role model and you provide a great service

[@daeclipse03]

Thank you for this. And same I've ruined alot of relationships from being insecure. It's all in my head and I want to break that cycle and see the value I bring to someone else.

[@BeccaL2016]

I have to say based on my dating experiences. The right men won’t make you feel jealous because they care about your feelings. When you are triggered of feeling jealousy sure work on yourself but you won’t be happy with this man. So walk away! He is not right person! Find a guy who is truly care about you and bring out the best of You u…I just broke up with a guy because he didn’t make me feel good about myself and he is a narcissist too!

[@allaboardthegravytrain5987]

I’m in my 40s and all my life I wrongly assumed my partners would have the best interest or intentions for me. Not true. People are mostly out for themselves and won’t think twice about saying things to use you. The one who really loves you won’t risk losing you. Those people exist we just need to find them.

[@BeccaL2016]

@@allaboardthegravytrain5987 That's true! I'm already in my mid 40s and haven't found that person yet. I wonder what to take to meet that person who can care about you selflessly, I know it's coming from both sides, meaning, in order for others to truly care about you, you'll need to do the same for them, right?

[@tineshiacooper45]

⁠@@BeccaL2016'd say not necessarily. In a ideal world you'd think it's that simple but sometimes people feelings change. You can't control anyone, you can only control you, which means that you will show up in the relationship you being you but sometimes you can get triggered and need healing so you may not can show up for your significant other how they need you to and visa Versa. But yea communication is important, but sometimes some people may only want to hear themselves talk and not actually listen to comprehend. So I personally always remember that we are all different and will show up differently in Relationships. You can care about them and visa versa but for some reason or another insecurities can overwhelm and kill the relationship.

[@tineshiacooper45]

I'm 35 and haven't found my person yet. I also know I have more work to do as well so I'm reallly just working on me so when he is here I can show up my best self. I also know I need to set boundaries and communicate better as well. I also pray for him to be the same so that he can show up his best self for me. Two whole individuals and not broken

[@BeccaL2016]

@@tineshiacooper45 still young! :) I am 45 and still haven’t found anyone. But I’d think I am in a much better position than many divorced /broken relationships

[@samanthajames8174]

This was such a brilliant episode! It's only through a lot of self work that I've realised that it's never about the other person; it's always about what's going on inside of you...and you both articulated this point SO well Because I grew up in a household where we were discouraged to talk about feelings (esp negative ones), I struggle with opening the bridge with my partner so am curious and would love to learn more about the best way to do this in a loving dialogue. Please would you guys consider doing an episode on "Opening the bridge". Thanks so much for your work!

[@MS-ns4ki]

Everytime I feel jealous there is good reason.

[@Tarotblackcat]

exactly if my partner looking other woman than bye...i think that is disrespectful

[@ZhenyaKechina]

Tom, the society doesn’t value men exclusively for being tall, so you don’t obsess about it. But society does value women only for being young and sexy. So women end up stressing about it at some point in their lives. Not sure if it’s a good example.

[@gigiinfinitespirit]

I believe that 40 y.o man may be cheating on her or desiring to. Any man should not be doing that (watching other women in front of her). She should leave him and heal her selfesteem.

[@johnsonrichard2777]

Hi friend do you really need help to get your ex back

[@johnsonrichard2777]

Let me recommend you to a herbalist(DR edobor) that help me get my ex back he can definitely help you also

[@johnsonrichard2777]

You can reach him through WhatsApp

[@johnsonrichard2777]

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[@YazSalem]

True I hoped they would talk about that more than just the girls insecurities

[@santisanti8386]

Envy reveals to you what you want, but you think you can't have. No wonder Tom doesn't understand envy, because he thinks that he can have anything he wants if he puts effort in it, but boy how many people don't even try to be truthful to themselves and to put any effort in anything.

[@shelby3755]

So true!

[@bomcdowell-kim9194]

Envy and jealousy are two different things: Envy is wanting what the other has, jealousy is a fear of losing ur love object to someone 'better' than u.

[@tineshiacooper45]

I have been doing a lot of self reflection lately. I had to get real with myself and the part I played and lack of boundaries I had. I'd always blame the person for their behavior so I was in Victim mode looking back. I now own this and now I feel I can truly heal. I don't need to hide/mask myself anymore and it feels so freeing. For the first time in my life I am actually single! Meaning I'm not in a situationship or going with flow and trying to prove that to someone that they should be with me while waiting. Which I realized that this was all insecurities of not feeling good enough. Now I KNOW I am good enough but if I am with someone and the relationship is not working for me then I know that person is not for me. Getting this new way of thinking sets my soul on fire in the most positive way! 😊

[@unigirl123]

I am so thankful that I came across this. I cried because it touched me so deeply. I've struggled with insecurities and it really heightens when I am in a relationship. Thank you for having this conversation and express it so clearly!

[@samanthajames8174]

Totally relate to this

[@Joseph-xf2me]

How can you unintentionally stare at someone ?

[@charlsgaard]

Found this: I believe that every person has areas of enduring vulnerability. For a marriage to succeed, these vulnerabilities need to be understood and honored. This flips jealousy on its head. Instead of something to avoid in relationships, jealousy becomes an opportunity to connect. In her book “Daring Greatly” Brene Brown writes, “Vulnerability is the birthplace of love, belonging, joy, courage, empathy, and creativity. It is the source of hope, empathy, accountability, and authenticity.” The Gottmann Institute

[@foreignlovedreams]

From my point of view it’s not easy to live with jealousy, even though it’s an emotion everyone has felt at least once in their life. While jealousy can fuel you to go after your dreams, it can also cause a downward spiral, take over your life, and wreak havoc on your life and current relationship. So be grateful, accept your jealousy, find out why you feel jealous if you don't know (but dive deeper to get to the root cause so you can start healing), and stop comparing yourself to your partner or ex.

[@denitarae]

Relationship Goals! Thank you both for your raw transparency and inspiration.

[@Screenplaywriter]

She is so lucky to have a husband who values a shared life. I value the same but haven’t had someone to value it with me.

[@theweirdsider]

I wish I could sit down and talk with them both. I’m feeling so broken.

[@santisanti8386]

Can you talk to anyone?

[@johnsonrichard2777]

Hi friend do you really need help to get your ex back

[@johnsonrichard2777]

Let me recommend you to a herbalist(DR edobor) that help me get my ex back he can definitely help you also

[@johnsonrichard2777]

You can reach him through WhatsApp

[@johnsonrichard2777]

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[@melpurple21]

I’m so happy that I found your channel! I have been with my husband for 6 years, and married over a year. Many of your videos have just hit home for me. It’s become so eye opening. Thank you for sharing your knowledge, and experiences.

[@kikipaxton2078]

“You know how much I love you, but I don’t wanna give you my power! I shouldn’t give you my power!” Yes, Lisa. 👏🏾👏🏾

[@vickyderricks4659]

This video and providing the tips you guys have has really actually helped me understand my jealousy and insecurities. I really appreciate you guys

[@queenofclubs]

I love that ‘shared life’ value ❤ I love that the amount of effort you put in yourself worth and it’s about you ❤

[@rachelthedogmum]

"He can't give you confidence nor take it away. He can trigger that something's already inside of you." I legit cried.

[@soulventrus]

Thank you this was excellent. It’s such a critical topic that doesn’t get much attention and is often viewed as a weakness. You two explored this issue beautifully. Thank you and hopefully more couples will have the courage to explore this together with love and understanding.

[@lydiaj19]

7:25 WOW!! May anyone going through any of these emotions at least teach the next generation this important lesson please. 12:00 this is a good lesson to NOT react off insecurities.

[@doseofsuccess3522]

I’m only 10 minutes in but I don’t feel that they answered her question. We’re looking at her insecurities as an option only…What if the guy is actually being disrespectful in looking at other women so long that she catches him…. And what if she brought this up to him and her last resort is asking for advice on a public platform

[@joesephknoettgen3551]

What You just said was REAL big time.

[@smyrlmitchell7741]

I had to do the hardest thing I have ever had to do, the only woman I truly loved I had to let her go. The jealousy and insecurities just pushed me away. I am truly heartbroken and I really really miss her. But it was driving me crazy I didn't know where I was coming from or going 😔

[@sirenfairyanna]

i can read between the lines of the two talking and i feel really bad for her

[@theredsuitonxflix]

I didn't know you guys were married that is so freaking amazing. You guys are both amazing thank you so much for all the work you've been doing you basically have both saved my life

[@diamondbrightxxx7531]

Damn, really. I thought the girl was lesbo.

[@camiladelavega8779]

I get working on yourself and reach a level of confidence but you can’t ignore the fact the dude is being nasty and disrespectful

[@HannahMickunas]

Wow I so admire how you two can communicate!!

[@matteo1429]

Thank guys, beautiful example of an healthy relationship!

[@charlenelavalle2373]

There’s also appreciate attractive people and staring. Staring is disrespectful.

[@vjcarter4657]

This made me cry because you love eachother so much

[@beckye8799]

You are very fortunate, thank you for spelling it out. Life does have a way of impounding stresses that affect good relationships, also hormones inc. pregnancy (physiological changes) can cause major insecurity. After 29 years it is from these outside/internal forces that weaken us.

[@ralsumaaji]

This one is GOLD, both of you. Thank you for this.

[@kikipaxton2078]

Why is he interrupting her while she is talking? Why is he talking over her?

[@PsycheKahr91]

He does this a lot if you haven’t watched other videos

[@nadialucia9038]

I love this channel, definitely a power couple!

[@carrie_ann5153]

Good listen. Thank you. ❤

[@jacksonlam7897]

You guys are freakin awesome. Love u Tom and Lisa!!

[@Letthetruthspeak7]

This was SO helpful. &comforting... thank you guys so much!

[@IndigoWisdom1]

Thanks for this talk. Such a deep dark topic but one people tend to feel uncomfortable in discussing. 👍🏽☑️👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽

[@johnsonrichard2777]

Hi friend do you really need help to get your ex back

[@johnsonrichard2777]

Let me recommend you to a herbalist(DR edobor) that help me get my ex back he can definitely help you also

[@johnsonrichard2777]

You can reach him through WhatsApp

[@johnsonrichard2777]

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[@beahoshiadesmoniquehendric2256]

Thank you so much. I really needed to hear this today ❤️

[@kcraig9950]

I am so thankful that you share this content with us. You have changed my life for the better!

[@johnsonrichard2777]

Hi friend do you really need help to get your ex back

[@johnsonrichard2777]

Let me recommend you to a herbalist(DR edobor) that help me get my ex back he can definitely help you also

[@johnsonrichard2777]

You can reach him through WhatsApp

[@johnsonrichard2777]

[phone]

[@rcz2023]

Thank you, this is something that I really struggle with, thank you for both of your advice.

[@hdshjs]

Can Tom ever stop interrupting Lisa :/ He is just rude and narcissistic and in love with him self speaking. It's hard to see them intereacting.

[@pcharm3711]

If he is constant looking and he is giving his eyes to other women. Then it sounds like his internal issue.

[@lydiaj19]

18:00 another lesson on how to pause and internally process before going forward to discuss (WITH A LIKE MINDED MIND) An excellent process to allow understanding.

[@diamondbrightxxx7531]

I am having a hard time right now with my relationship. My boyfriend drivers strippers at night. His job goes like this, he pick up one stripper from her home once they get a client call, then he drives her there. He collects the money, and then my boyfriend and the stripper meet up after in the car and wait for more calls. My boyfriend said he would never trade me for any of those girls but it is still so painful in my heart that he is driving all these strippers. I don't know how much of this I can handle. I also feel, maybe I would feel like this at any other job. Because a man can cheat anywhere. He can meet a cute girl at the grocery store and so on. Perhaps it is a me problem. I feel like he won't leave this job because he does make a lot of money. We had a fight last night because I hate his job. I am trying to trust him. But I am scarred.

[@MyTherapyJourney]

Strippers, or hookers?

[@angelinpdx2297]

Love this so much! Thank you! In moments when my boyfriend looks at other women … we women are so high on oxytocin while the men are high on testosterone that we women can’t comprehend why the guy would look at anyone else while in our presence. If we women can 1) intellectually understand that men are visual and get distracted by beauty easily as well as 2) do that inner work to boost your own confidence consistently (I love the “shoring-up” idea; investing in your self love and self worth is a daily process), we can hold our frame. Can let it roll off our feathers without if ruffling our feathers. Hold your frame confidently while understanding his perspective and intentions. 💜

[@violettabicycletta331]

Work on yourself! Easier said than done ... where is the magic wand ! . You may know where your insecurities come from ...doesn't t mean it will be the end of your problems!.

[@AvaIva7]

Thats what I'm struggling with exactly and still don't understand, even if you find the trigger, the problem, you know the insecurities it doesn't mean it's fixed as I still feel it and don't know what to do with it still ..

[@tineshiacooper45]

@@AvaIva7 feel like if you just sit with it, it's okay! Feel it and then challenge it with affirmations! I believe knowing that this is a problem for you is the first step of healing that trauma. So then you can let those feelings come in, feel them, and then challenge the feelings with the positive ones. And be kind to yourself.

[@kafiwoody776]

This was really good thank you for the insight

[@jgibson7374]

Can I ask for advice when it comes to long distance and feeling insecure with social media? This is something I struggle with and would really appreciate the advice.

[@justinereynolds4261]

Come off social media . Simples 👌

[@donnaferolie4388]

WHAT A BUNCH OF BULLSHIT!!!! Gawking at young women in front of her face is downright rude and disrespectful. At any age this would be troublesome. Why is the problem placed on the woman's shoulders? These two are assuming the older woman is looking her stated years. There is NO EXCUSE FOR DISRESPECT! '

[@Joseph-xf2me]

Yes I agree

[@amyli092]

What I find to be ridiculous is that I have a best friend who gets jealous easily, and yet, my romantic partner of 9 years doesn't. He knows that I wouldn't take advantage of him because of how open and honest with each other. It just feels as if she has these unrealistic expectations of what she wants our friendship to be like, whereas with me, I want some room and space for us to do our own thing and not be so joined at the hip.

[@kar3n35]

I have become a extremly jeloue person for no reason. My boyfriend doesnt do nothing wrong and i imagine things.

[@stephanieneal]

I go through this except it's the opposite for me...

[@FitnessSweets]

If he doesn’t keep his eyes forward, then you have a right to be mad.

[@magdalenamm216]

I love U guys ❤ sent it to my guy :))) to show amazing couple u are xx

[@millyroberts1523]

I keep explaining this to my boyfriend and yet he just hears me shitting on him. I tell him it’s not anything that he’s necessarily doing it’s a faze of my life I’m going through but then he feel hurt and depressed after I wanna just have a positive open conversation about it. I’m not sure what to do? At this point I think it’s pointless to even bring it up to him at all. It’s a “me” problem anyway I guess. I suppose I was just hoping to some more love and depth come from it. As I’m not putting blame on him and taking ownership of my insecurities. Please help! Should I continue to have these hard conversations with him or just deal with it on my own. Knowing how I deal with things also makes him very uncomfortable because I go silent. I can’t pretend that everything is okay with me when I feel broken.

[@jamiesimmons7050]

I'm so glad I found this 😪

[@paulinabernard21]

Hi! Thank you for this video! Minute 9.01 which comes from what? I would say self love. That’s where everything starts. Just wanted to share ❤

[@jairogemetchu2]

Soulmates 💕

[@betsysimpson318]

So what to do if you’re dating an narcissist who told you early in the relationship they will leave you for someone else and tell you that girls are better then you and cheated on you multiple times? And who changes their mind a lot and look at more skinny females? 😭

[@karleyj9706]

Don't be with that person. You HAVE to end it.. it will never be worth it and he's only hurting your self-esteem. You deserve better than that!!

[@Delshayy]

Miss girl...read yo comment again you'll find the answer

[@tineshiacooper45]

Sounds like emotional abuse! Which is worse than physical abuse. Take your power back and run for the hills. I know easier said than done but trust you will be glad you did cause you will always find someone better. Promise you that. You will get to that breaking point.

[@kristinetank3959]

thank you so much for this 💗

[@realtalk675]

Amazing !

[@thegreatcolossus7500]

*My girlfriend is simping to this dud a singer, have a good fashion sense, and yeah a good looking guy long hair good voice he love that dud so much "A local artist here in oir country" and that slowly i can't stop but to compare myself to that dud she explains to me it's different etc i said OK a year later now she had another dud that she simping another good looking guy that can sing ang yeah another "long hair plus good voice combo and also local artist here in our country" I can't stop but to be sad about. When ur partner admiring someone? like really down bad even if its just an artist you can't stop comparing yourself. her excuses was "well I'll never get that chance to see them or atleast be close to them anyway so that's ok" but the anxiety in me what if she found someone nearby that have all the same features that she love its the long hair dud with a great voice I feel like i can be done or out anytime lol 😆 I really need your POV here guys thanks*

[@siiNke]

Imagine having girlfriend to speak to you like this.. everything would be easier

[@kikipaxton2078]

He is like abusing her on camera. Can we talk about that? Can we talk about this?

[@hdshjs]

I know its hard to watch how Tom monopolizes the screen time and interrupts Lisa and offends her and forces his own interpretation of her struggle, which is making her look shallow, worring about looks when you cant eat, seriously???? Wtf is wrong with this guy...

[@ngceboace4722]

Is it gut or insecurity?

[@charlenelavalle2373]

Sounds like it’s the age gap and insecurities. Bottom line, the behavior is disrespectful. He doesn’t value what he has. I’m 57 and know I’m a catch and I did go through this. My boundary was explained up front that I felt that is disrespectful. He did it and I’ve called him out and said I won’t tolerate and now he has worked on that for me and I appreciate him for that.

[@Thelasvegaspromoter]

“Because of your body” when he said that I thought a fight was about to happen 😂

[@PetrECRice]

I need that crane and harness!

[@anaguzman3410]

My husband has crooked teeth and isn't great looking... I fell in love with his personality. Then I found out how he add and follows , also messages many women who don't ever reply. However, his action gives me anxiety, insecurity. I've spoken to him about it and things don't change. He messages his ex saying he cares for her but tells me they've been friends for 10 years and won't cut it off. Even though I've seen (compromising pictures) from some time back. I try to get him to leave but he never does and doesn't want to let me go. I just want to have some peace. He gives me much love when we're together but still keeps doing things that hurt me. He cries not wanting to leave. I've told him he can go and do as he likes and wants but WON'T LET ME ALONE. I don't know what to do. I'm hurting every day

[@BummerSmith]

OK so here mine is very unique. My wife’s brother tried to take care of Virginia a long time ago when she was just a youngster now he didn’t get it so that’s great but ever since I found out about it there are times I go through jealous bout possessivegrudging is this normal?

[@ThatNiravGuy]

Brilliant

[@ikr2377]

If one feels he is a good catch may trigger insecurity in a woman especially if he don't asure her..

[@tineshiacooper45]

I agree 100%. But I had to get real as a woman to know I am just as good of a catch as he is. Especially cause some people just out here to use you. You have to know that you are worthy cause money doesn't assure quality character

[@danielleelia5434]

but how do you look so deep inside yourself of jealousy and insecurity and how do you make it better? i'm not in a relationship but i've sure been jealous and feel not good enough compared to this other girl or even the guy i like... cause of the dynamic and insecurity of what i look like..., my weight etc, how i come across personality wise etc... even if people tell me i'm so pretty, kind, thoughtful, sweet, beautiful etc.. i guess it's that self love to believe in myself?...

[@damarismoulterie4349]

Thank you 🙏

[@damarismoulterie4349]

Thanks

[@MarinaM-o6p]

YOUR JELOSY AND INSECURITY COMES FROM YOUR INTUITION …TELLING YOU THAT YOUR SPOSE HAS AN AFFAIR THAT YOU HAVE NO IDEEA OF ….DO YOUR OWN INVESTIGATION …BE SMART .

[@willowkai5]

I want her arms

[@xbabyyb]

I loved this!

[@johnsonrichard2777]

Hi friend do you really need help to get your ex back

[@johnsonrichard2777]

Let me recommend you to a herbalist(DR edobor) that help me get my ex back he can definitely help you also

[@johnsonrichard2777]

You can reach him through WhatsApp

[@johnsonrichard2777]

[phone]

[@ethercept]

Here here... or is it hear hear... **applesauce**

[@maryfraraccio2572]

A legendary romance is built and rebuilt on jealousy or working the jealousy out? I still think couples with the best relationships, perfect ones, or relationships everyone should be jealous of, and are, or aren't? SENSE, make sense out of jealousey or relation ship's , forget it, it's not going to happen. Coples fight so they can make up because making up is always the best part of differences. Isn't it? Now, what about the partners who never get jealous, ever, especially when they by all means should be jealous? Perhaps the one that shouldn't be a relationship at all? Iost my mind and at that, AMAZING CONFUSION. I think everybody should just kiss and make up, or out? Oh yeah, PEACE OUT. Chow

[@stephenclarke6347]

If you quit having relationships, this won't be a problem. You haven't learned how to be happy or satisfied with you. You have no business being in a relationship. Besides, relationships are really not worth putting up with someone else's BS. You don't need a relationship to have a very happy life.

[@joesephknoettgen3551]

I thought about what You said,,,I've decided that everyone in a relationship puts up with some amount of BS. I guess it's how much You let it get to oneself, just a thought ok.

[@notinvogue4287]

Okay. I'll will just tell myself it's me every time I'm completely invisible all of a sudden whenever another hot chick comes around. Every time. Every guy. Without fail. It's totally me messed up in the head.

[@karansnow600]

Sounds like the relationship does very little to meet your needs for security...maybe u need to be with someone who actually spends time with you...i think any woman would experience insecurity in a situation like the one u have described. Can u identify what u need and ask him to meet your emotional need? This is how u find out if he is someone who can give u the care u need... You r allowed to have needs!

[@janny474]

This speaker is a mansplainer if there ever was one. Lisa has been so patient! BTW, he says men's sexual value goes up as they age. That was funny 😅

[@pcharm3711]

If you start thinking of being insecure when youre with your boyfriend think about his all his flaws and his crooked teeth, his tonsil stones, his bad breathe, his hairy fat belly and then just workout like a sexy goddess 😉 men will definitely eye hard work if you arent young.

[@anaguzman3410]

My husband has crooked teeth and isn't great looking... I fell in love with his personality. Then I found out how he add and follows , also messages many women who don't ever reply. However, his action gives me anxiety, insecurity. I've spoken to him about it and things don't change. He messages his ex saying he cares for her but tells me they've been friends for 10 years and won't cut it off. Even though I've seen (compromising pictures) from some time back. I try to get him to leave but he never does and doesn't want to let me go. I just want to have some peace. He gives me much love when we're together but still keeps doing things that hurt me. He cries not wanting to leave. I've told him he can go and do as he likes and wants but WON'T LET ME ALONE. I don't know what to do. I'm hurting every day

[@hdshjs]

Its hard to watch how Tom monopolizes the screen time and interrupts Lisa and offends her and "offers" his own interpretation of her struggle, which is making her look shallow, he thought she was worring mostly about her looks when she literally couldn't eat, seriously? Wtf is wrong with this guy...

[@ncrollberg360]

One clue here might be 'boyfriend'. Marriage, on the other hand is a covenant relationship where a man and woman are commited to each other in love, with God's guidance.

[@kristinetank3959]

Can you PLEASE talk about what is acceptable Ina relationship....such as.....porn watching.....socail media....etc????

[@lindorina792]

you need to define with your partner...but dont accept something that cross your boundaries and hurts u.

[@zachkedcc3299]

Wtf is this panning of audio

[@Srishtiiiiiiiiiii]

Great .mindbloeinhg

[@asemkinchen5572]

Form a tighter bond with your mate...🙄 I.e sexual favors , shopping, long walks, more hugs, more attention...😑 lazyness looses your spot...🤷🏼‍♀️

[@BugsyBalone]

She didnt get it what her own guy was saying at all 😂

[@JoJoJa-w2n]

Wow 😂. There is a lot of bad takes here. Weak boundaries and disrespect breed jealousy. Have some self-respect and move on.

[@SethBuckler]

Chances are that he doesn’t take her seriously. She is older, been there and I feel like it’s very egotistical for a woman to believe she can posses a younger man. Granted he is 40. For me I liked older women for sex. And always assumed that she would understand that’s all t could be. No long term intentions.