What to Do When You Feel Guilty Relaxing

[@CalmlyCoping]

What helps you relax?

[@andrelucke1436]

Knowing i did all the things that needs to be done. If i dont do my Training, Work or other things i think i dont deserve relaxing. I need 2 earn it.

[@katerinalyras8879]

@@andrelucke1436 speaking to my soullllllll

[@lesliewills9799]

Yoga and practicing mindfully relaxing my muscles…deep breaths…speaking to myself, saying it’s ok to relax…

[@dale116dot7]

Listening to records. I don’t do it often enough. I find that getting up every 15 or 20 minutes to flip the record over and then listening is kind of a meditative process.

[@CalmlyCoping]

@@dale116dot7 I love listening to records!

[@RedeemingLight]

I went from making $150k per year to being homeless, and now I am trying to pick up the pieces of a completely destroyed life. Whenever I take a few days to relax, I am consumed with guilt about it.

[@samsmusichub]

I feel guilty sleeping 5 hours a night, I need to hear this.

[@CalmlyCoping]

You deserve to rest and recharge!

[@momashtilas]

Same here mate. Sleeping teleports me to the next day, which is work. I know I need it (sleep), but want to overcompensate the hours at work so I don't act like a robot, working eating sleeping. I end up sleeping 7hrs tops, usually something like 6. It's a freaking loop.

[@PokemonTrainerDavid93]

Thank you 🙏🏽 I constantly feel like if I don’t keep myself busy, I get consumed by my thoughts.

[@bwnco]

Holy s***I work for sixty years finery retired and I feel guilty as hell. This really hit home

[@Killahpilz]

Thank you so much! This is one of my main topics during therapy. While watching I asked myself a lot of questions like: But what do I do when I relax? Just sit around and stare at a wall? And you answered all of these anxiety ridden questions during the video. Your words really respond with me emotionally. So glad I found your account!

[@CalmlyCoping]

I'm so glad this was helpful for you!

[@Shadowkitty360]

I just switched careers and started working for myself this year. I often don't feel like I deserve to relax until I can financially support myself with this new job. Right now, I am working a part time job and have support from my partner and family, but I still feel guilty like I'm taking advantage them if I'm not working towards financial independence 24/7.

[@Shadowkitty360]

Thank you for this video! I will be implementing this advice.

[@essence____beauty_92]

This is what I needed to hear my goodness sometimes it’s hard for me to sit still even on my day off & I do try my best to go & not do too much responsibilities thank you so much

[@leonardoandresvetencourtp3869]

Thank for putting this out here, now I can finally chill for real without beating myself up!

[@CalmlyCoping]

You're welcome, Leonardo! I'm glad this was helpful for you.

[@lorreinekennedy7674]

I only know how to be productive, so sitting down or seeing friends causes me massive guilt. I’m not giving my husband enough attention (he says it’s fine, as he can see how hard I’m working). I end up working late into the evening to make up any time I have off. I have no boundaries, no matter how many times I tell myself that I’m only going to work x hours, i just have to clear the work in front of me, so i keep going. It doesn’t make me happy (completing the work) I just feel relieved and wait for the next tsunami of work to hit me. I feel on edge when I sit down, and usually end up tidying up. I feel I must do something all the time so I don’t waste time. I’m considering retiring, and could probably afford to do so, but I worry about who I will be without work.

[@CalmlyCoping]

You're not alone, Lorreine! I think you'll find this video I made on how to find your identity outside of work helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/pprGoXVjis19h7c

[@lexief899]

wow this is too spot on for me, so happy I jut found you.

[@CalmlyCoping]

I'm glad this resonated with you!

[@AveMaria1917]

This is so enlightening. Thank you for sharing

[@CalmlyCoping]

Thanks for your comment, I'm so glad you found it helpful!

[@illhauntyou8000]

Im very happy that I found this, thank you for this video^^❤

[@CalmlyCoping]

Thank you, I'm so glad you found it helpful!

[@c7bluerose]

I feel anxiety just signing up for your training and scheduling a time to watch it on my calendar. Soooo weird

[@CalmlyCoping]

Not weird! It can bring up discomfort to take steps to start working on yourself and making changes because oftentimes we tend to avoid these things- that anxiety in this situation can be a good sign!

[@JohnShreve-hw8zm]

Only every time I sit down…

[@bwnco]

Good large girl, 3 minutes in and you still haven't said how to do it.This is killing your viewership.I'll never watch it again