Feeling Unmotivated? This Is For You. | Therapist’s Tips

[@CalmlyCoping]

What helps you when you're feeling unmotivated?

[@mydirtylittlehands4389]

I invite people over so I get anxiety about them seeing my mess or my lack of motivation. I'll clean before and while they are there.

[@carlaespen491]

Me too... 😢

[@trishferrer8209]

Distractions. I am super interested in your video, but very distracted by the hiccups in it. Not sure what else to call them. I see this often on youtube vids, so you are not the only content creator, but why does this happen? It's like someone has pieced together the video to maybe cut out a few seconds here and there. I looked this up on Google, but there is no information on this style of recording.

[@marlacasack4806]

This video was very helpful... ❤

[@bandaribharathmohan9612]

This is my first listening to you. Two min into the video... I felt like you are genuinely interested in helping people. It is a great quality that you should be proud of. Hope you hit 100k within 6 months and really wish you all the best 😊.

[@節穴の目をした人]

Sometimes I get unmotivated and can’t stop watching random videos forever. I am in the middle of it today and I’m here to get inspired to stop it.

[@agoogolofgeese]

This is almost every day for me. It’s a constant battle against a deficit in motivation. I’m always late for work even though I spent at least two or three hours beforehand watching videos on KZbin. Sigh

[@kristinyaekelnegley3978]

Same here! It’s so addicting. It’s like the new alcohol or something. A way to drink away (or scroll away) our problems.

[@rosemariediorio5431]

Does anyone know how to stop ? I can’t for a day

[@Minamisswhy]

You should use an app that blocks your phone ... detox apps are easy to find...

[@garrett4121]

Sounds like you need a technology fast. Like you're watching video after video to get enough dopamine hits to start your day? Same thing happens in the brain of a drug abuser. Gonna have to detox and find other sources.

[@ruparekhi8297]

1. Self compassion - even if things don’t work out it’s still going to be ok . 2. Rest and recharge - going for a walk , taking a Power Nap . 3. Prioritize - what will help you feel most accomplished . 4. Assess your emotions - why you are feeling this way ? Focus on doing the best you can . 5. Focus on your progress and what you have done well . 6 . Don’t wait for motivation as it comes with action . Take baby steps and get started . 7. Watching inspiring and motivational videos on KZbin . 8. Accountability - set intention for the week . 9. Try and make chores fun and more exciting. Reward yourself at the end . 10. Remember your why . Be kind to yourself and take one step at a time . ❤

[@TampaCatGirl]

Thank you for doing this!

[@ruparekhi8297]

Glad you liked it 🤗🤗

[@michaell8835]

Number 6 was just what I needed 😊

[@tuesday409]

11. Just know things will get better and we will have a new president soon.

[@neveo9428]

​@@tuesday409government lies, robs and kills no matter qho is in power.

[@DWBJosh]

I can rest and sleep literally 8-10 hrs and wake up and feel like I haven't even been asleep.

[@edu.33]

Don't sleep 9-10 hours, it's oversleeping and it will indeed make you feel like you haven't slept. I hope and I know for sure you will accomplish what you want in the end

[@rosezimmerman3821]

Do you get REM sleep?

[@CL-mn1yq]

Get a sleep study.

[@chriskraut2547]

I can sleep longer-12 to 15 and still be tired. True, age is a factor, but I've had this chronic fatigue for 8 yrs and I think the cause is something different. I live a healthy life style-diet, exercise, etc. but, the fatigue is always there.

[@Todiisms]

Me too. My dream life is so draining, I feel like I haven’t slept at all. Like I have two lives 😢

[@chambersjc85]

I’ve done nothing for the past week. Sleep, wake up, watch tv, go back to sleep. Meanwhile my space is so messy. I can’t get myself to get up and clean.

[@paulacorso7954]

Start in a small room like the bathroom. And give yourself a good bath/spa after you clean the bathroom! Maybe make a list one pile of laundry, one drawer, one thing at a time, over a period of days or even weeks. Making your bed and doing dishes helps declutter fast. Take out the trash so it can smell fresh. Find a new scent to clean with, let in fresh air. Baby steps til you kick in!

[@chambersjc85]

@@paulacorso7954 Thank you so much for this…. You literally did not have to take time out of your day, to be helpful and kind. I like the idea of rewarding myself with a spa like bath after cleaning! Sending you love and light 🤍✨

[@paulacorso7954]

@@chambersjc85 👍👍❤

[@valeriekehrt7566]

​@@paulacorso7954This good advice. I'm somewhat of a clean freak but at times hard to get started. Once I accomplish some things I feel satisfied. I have burn out as well.

[@sandrabentley8111]

Do you have a job? That might help.

[@empea3837]

I rest. I spend a day doing absolutely ‘nothing’- I don’t leave the house, no housekeeping, I move slowly ….❤

[@ladygirl6105]

Yup that’s exactly what I do! By the next day I feel so energized!! Ready to conquer the world! lol

[@Judith-b3t]

A long time ago God told us to take one day a week off, it's called the Sabbath. He made this day off just for us. He knows what we need.

[@suzannakoizumi8605]

​@@Judith-b3t Yes! Sabbath!

[@empea3837]

@@Judith-b3t Yes 🙌🏼

[@rosiichute4669]

Sounds like me 😂

[@Life_With_Lady]

You talk about getting help from a professional but many cant afford to do so. Thats why channels like yours is so important.

[@KingaGorski]

Exactly, and luckily that's what these channels are here for 🤍

[@maelstrom200018]

"Motivation doesn't start sometimes until you take action " love it!

[@zezezep]

@@maelstrom200018 may I reiterate? DOING helps create Motivation

[@KingaGorski]

*Actions precede emotions.* 💯 & not just the other way around!

[@PeggyStewart-rv5ff]

I just want to sleep...and be better when I wake up.😢

[@marialaboyalvarado1406]

OMG 😯 me too

[@PeggyStewart-rv5ff]

@@marialaboyalvarado1406 😔🥀🙏

[@robinhargrove5314]

Same, but I never am.

[@CrystalEpps]

Don’t we all 😢

[@bandaribharathmohan9612]

I'm having too many issues with my brain. This was my solution: Resigned my job and worked on myself for 4 weeks. 1. Nootropics suppliments. 2. After that it gave me motivation to do stuff physically. So I worked on improving my testosterone like cold shower, nitric oxide supplements and gym 3. After that included meditation, improved my observational skills being present, working on sleep routine, improving my communication skills lole body language and confidence. 4. Made my full time job to look for a good job and full-time job to look for good friends.

[@laramauss1968]

treat yourself like you were your child, with love and compassion.

[@SHerit-q3v]

Some people don’t like their kids

[@upstatenewyork]

👍

[@karinaslin2034]

That's a good advice - thank you so much 😍

[@sanjanagrover7436]

Okkk

[@intignia]

When I'm feeling unmotivated I picture the task I want to do as completed. This gives me a sense of how I'm going to feel when it is actually done, which is usually a happy light feeling. This gives me the spark I need to get going.

[@diancason4769]

Great advice!

[@zezezep]

It's hard for me to visualise

[@moniquefletcher2186]

This is awesome 👌🏽

[@gohawks3571]

Wish that worked for me. I just feel guilty that it wasn't done yesterday 😒

[@agoogolofgeese]

I feel like I’ve been burnt out for nearly 10 years and it’s only gotten worse in the last 5. In the restaurant industry, it’s virtually inescapable. But in addition to a restaurant job, I’ve had to pick up two other jobs just to pay the bills as everything becomes more and more expensive. Taking rest is impossible because rest/vacation = loss of money. Even if I do get a vacation I can’t relax because I’m constantly worried about bills. Life in the modern service industry is a prison. It sucks, man. I don’t know what to do anymore.

[@agoogolofgeese]

That is, in the U.S. at least. 10+ years ago I worked as a part time dishwasher and I had my own apartment, a social life, money in the bank, and time to spend my money or have some fun. I’ve lost most of those things in the years since and as time marches on they seem less and less attainable. It seems like they’ve been replaced by pain in my back, my ankles, and my mental state. It feels like a curse, but I know I’m not alone. Most of my coworkers at every job are in the same situation. Something needs to change in this country.

[@nccrchurchunusual]

It is so frustrating, defeating, exhausting. I so hear what you are saying. I hope you find a solution- and some True Rest thru Jesus Christ, friend of sinners & Savior to all who believe! Take care.

[@cteegs6893]

I hear ya. Life is so hard these days. Don’t beat yourself up over it. I can’t tell you how many people feel the same way

[@danutat9915]

Bless you, hang in there. There is hope coming in November. Please vote for change. It can really make all the difference. ❤Peace

[@ŁeChíí-Diné]

I lost my wife last year to addiction, so now I raise two teens by myself. I felt more energy back then, now I procrastinate, and feel I haven't done enough. I work and at home also, but it's not the same. Through the good book, I feel the compassion to continue though. I hope that others find what they're looking for no matter what inspires them, make it day by day, and I remind myself I am not alone. ❤

[@ElizabethYuen-rx9xo]

Maybe you could try getting involved or starting in a nonprofit group to help others who struggle with addictions.

[@zezezep]

​@@ElizabethYuen-rx9xo if he can find the time

[@danutat9915]

❤🙏

[@almaosiris152]

I've had the toughest year mentally and emotionally. My mom died of stomach cancer on May 20 and had been sick and in and out of the hospital since Nov, and all the worrying and uncertainty was so draining, and now the heartbreak. Watching your video makes me feel somewhat understood, so thank you so so much 🙏🩷

[@CalmlyCoping]

I'm so sorry for your loss and your health issues. I'm glad my video was helpful for you. ❤

[@Mayschops]

I can relate. I lost my mom and lost my Zeal for life.. I've finding my life back by going for walks in the morning..meeting new friends n going out more

[@delicatemoves123]

So sorry for your loss and the other bad things you have gone through.

[@nikkolyn1122]

That is the absolute worst; I just came out of a week long cancer scare. I cannot imagine going through that for six months. The drain is so real. ❤💔❤️‍🩹❤️💔❤️‍🩹💔💔💔💔 I am so so so sorry for your loss

[@moniquesbeautylifeover50]

🙏❤️🙏

[@DreamingCatStudio]

Great tips. I use the tiny steps technique often. Also recently I allowed myself to just give up. I’ve been so overwhelmed that I finally said, screw it. Dishes piled up, laundry piled up, dust piled up. Plants died. I’m retired, 70 and on a fixed income. Taking care of my house and yards seems impossible. It doesn’t help that we’ve been going through a heatwave, which is utterly debilitating. The interesting thing is that almost covertly I still did little things to clean up, take care of the cats, and make sure that even though I’d given up, I hadn’t given up completely! The weather is cooler today and I feel better and I’ve already gotten a fair amount done this morning. I think waiting it out can help if people can afford to do that, it’s so unpleasant though… I’d much rather be functioning and productive.

[@heatherjay8802]

I know what you mean! I’m retired too and some days all I manage is the basics, (VERY basics sometimes!), but I think that’s okay. Tomorrow is another day and sometimes waiting it out, as you wrote, does help. All the best.

[@sandrahelder]

Cleanup party with friends. Make it fun

[@zezezep]

I'm in the same boat. But thankfully it's not hot (Sthn Aust) because that is the worst for me.

[@DreamingCatStudio]

@@sandrahelder That’s easier said than done. Many of my friends live hours away, and my nearest family members are physically handicapped.

[@heatherjay8802]

@@zezezep thank goodness for the cooler weather, though it’s too cold here, (Adelaide), at the moment if you don’t have adequate housing! Meanwhile, keep on keeping on, day by day.

[@clairevandenberg8204]

When I’m unmotivated because of depression, I do small tasks. I have worked hard to make it a habit to do small tasks. It helps me get through it. It helps if those things are physical. Make the bed, wash the dishes, take a walk. If I find those things too overwhelming, I read. I’m a high achiever and feel hugely guilty if I don’t accomplish something. So changing my thought process with meditation and DBT was really helpful. When anxiety makes it so overwhelming to do anything, I get help from a counsellor. It is a good technique for me to make lists so I can identify the priorities. That way, I’m not so overwhelmed.

[@zezezep]

But I'm drowning in my lists

[@clairevandenberg8204]

I’m a quilter. It can make a real mess. A friend suggested I use pizza boxes to organize my cut out projects and blocks. The boxes are free for the asking. I am determined to quilt my house clean. I have far less clutter and lots of gorgeous quilts! I donate some for mental health causes in my community and others for autism research. It’s truly motivating and the mathematical part of the process helps the brain kick depression.

[@neveo9428]

I thought you had written 'I am a quitter..! Crafts such as yours and knitting etc are getting rarer it seems so well done.

[@giovanna722]

​@@neveo9428 Quilts are terrific. In days gone by, many women sewed, knit, etc. It's too bad that a lot of those skills are forgotten today. Good for you!

[@gohawks3571]

​@@giovanna722You'd be surprised! There are amazingly skilled people out there😊

[@ellensoeclectic]

Wow! Where were you when I had to figure this all out for myself!?! It took me years of self loathing, crying my eyes out, sleeping thru my day/days off and isolating to realize that it was burnout, exhaustion, perfectionism, fear of failing, and being totally overwhelmed. It was a lot of work... I was at the point of giving up. I didn't want to exist anymore, it wasn't worth it to me. Now, I'm much better, and I figured it out by myself! This lady is right! It's not you! You work too hard! You care too much!

[@kathleenharris8824]

I had to clean out my classroom at the end of the year. I had to change rooms and I didn’t have the chance to declutter it. I put on upbeat 80’s music and that helped. I’m going to a movie today. Later on I will put on the music to motivate me to declutter at home.😅

[@caracaplinger1860]

I feel ya, that was meb6 weeks ago!

[@maryjacobs7046]

This is my life. Years ago, I was suffering total burnout. I asked my doctor for help, and he laughed at me. I told my husband I needed a break (we literally NEVER did anything as a couple, or I as an individual,) and he replied, "You're a mother. Mothers don't need breaks!" So I spent several years harming my children by not being the mother they needed. Now my husband realizes that my physical problems are real, and the extreme fatigue and depression they cause is real. He has learned to appreciate what I do accomplish, and either ignore or help with what I don't. That support would have been enough to prevent a lot of sorrow and pain. Better late than never. Your video and tips would have been pretty good, too. Thanks for helping today's burnouts put out the flame!

[@Karinloulou]

I hope you're having a better day today, and from know on. I started meditation, praying going to sleep with God words. Also hz frequencies, please try. Much blessings.

[@kristi9712]

F*** that doctor. I slept too many hours due to a serious undiagnosed physical illness. When I told the doctor I needed much more sleep than normal and didn't know why, he said: Oh I wish I had that luxury.

[@afoxcatartvideos4877]

I lost motivation in life, people, school. I am trying to take care of myself

[@garrett4121]

People suck! Have had such a hard, intense year and really been struggling with burn out but was somewhat coping and functioning. Then I'd go to work and my co workers would absolutely pick me apart and point out so many petty things and flaws (meanwhile they are incompetent jerks). Now I am just paralyzed and totally burned out. There's no rewards in trying. Someone always has criticism and I am already my own harshest critic.

[@wontonboop]

​@@garrett4121I honestly feel the exact same way. I feel like everyone hates me, family, partner(they do, they tell me) I have no friends bc I don't go out. No job no car no money it's just me and my son at my mom's house. I'm consumed by negative thoughts I feel stagnant, so stressed everyday that waking up and realizing that this is my life just makes it worse I want to lay down and stay down and just live in my dreams bc in there atleast im free from this wicked world. I believe in God and I do have faith in a better future I know he will change it for the better but as for the time being I've never felt so low in my life it's been 3 years and 6 months since I've actually had any will to continue. But in the midst of it all there's always that hope so I pray that you and everyone that feels burnt out or damaged or useless that one day you'll wake up with a change of mind and heart and fight for what you deserve.

[@bandaribharathmohan9612]

I'm having too many issues with my brain. This was my solution: Resigned my job and worked on myself for 4 weeks. 1. Nootropics suppliments. 2. After that it gave me motivation to do stuff physically. So I worked on improving my testosterone like cold shower, nitric oxide supplements and gym 3. After that included meditation, improved my observational skills being present, working on sleep routine, improving my communication skills lole body language and confidence. 4. Made my full time job to look for a good job and full-time job to look for good friends.

[@faizalmusa7462]

​@@bandaribharathmohan9612me too.. feel no purpose of life😢

[@clairevandenberg8204]

If you haven’t talked to a councilor, you might find it helpful. Paralysis is not something you can get over alone. Try to think of three things you’re grateful for every day. Listening to upbeat positive music may help change your mood. And meditation really helps. Eat some chocolate! It contains a naturally occurring chemical that mimics beta endorphin. It will improve your mood. ALDIs has several great Dark chocolates between 49 and 81% Cocoa. Consider your diet. Certain nutrients elevate your mood. And try to stay away from depressants like alcohol. I hope it helps!

[@Mmmmchocolate]

Yep, I’m completely burnt out, on life, and have been for quite some time. I feel like I’ve given up, I’m done. I feel no motivation because I worked so hard for so long for very average results. The payoff did not materialize. I feel used and lied to, like a fool. And I’ve had a mental issue for decades, ocd, that I feel very angry about. Been to professionals, give us a drug. And now I’m stuck in the drug because trying to get off of it is extremely difficult and dangerous even. What a world.

[@morganchastain5113]

I can relate to this...I feel the same way.

[@masayowolf]

I’m in the same boat

[@dotcassilles1488]

I think many of us are in the same boat.

[@klanderkal]

I feel the same way. I have depression, and anxiety. living is very difficult. Unable to do anything.. is very scary. I've too.. tried talking to everyone possible,.. but still I don't feel any better. 😢

[@nalou6933]

And the frightening world and at-home events don't help.

[@gracehall9199]

The first 23 seconds described me to a T. So much to do and feeling overwhelmed I just freeze and do nothing.

[@skipper523]

Ditto. There’s so much to do, I don’t know where to start, so I end up not starting….its frustrating.

[@camilledickerson9560]

I did what I was supposed to do and it got me nowhere. Now I don't even know what I want to do. I can't even force myself to do the things that I loved.

[@Jimmy-g9l]

Oh yes, nothing matters.things I used to love are zero joy,,I just want to walk away from all things -n-- people into the sunset disappear

[@dwlsn93]

“I did what I was supposed to do and it got me nowhere.” That totally resonated with me. I enjoy not doing a damned thing, so I do the bare minimum to get by. I am happier. I remember the days/years/decades where everyone got pieces of me to the point where nothing was left. Now it’s all mine, everyday! I friggin’ love not being “beholden” to any other person on the planet 🌎 ahhhh!! ☀️🏖️😎

[@winecrimesfoodandtime7119]

Same for me

[@Jimmy-g9l]

Thanks,

[@susanmercurio1060]

You are the kind of person that I feel sorry for: you did everything "right" and it didn't pay off. I had a very unconventional life and by society's standards, I "deserve" that my life didn't work out.

[@halflazy1441]

WHAT TO DO: 1. Practice self-compassion 2. Rest and Recharge (naps, walking) 3. Prioritize a task 4. Assess your emotions 5. Focus on your progress 6. Don't wait for motivation 7. Watch inspirational videos 8. Set a goal for the week 9. Try making it fun 10. Remember your why

[@zezezep]

Thankyou

[@IceDodger-v3n]

❤🎉🎉

[@empea3837]

I feed my soul by reading something spiritual or religious. This actually strengthens me from the inside out. ❤

[@Tshokibetty]

True

[@agoogolofgeese]

10+ years ago I worked as a part time dishwasher and I had my own apartment, a social life, money in the bank, and time to spend my money or have some fun. I’ve lost most of those things in the years since and as time marches on they seem less and less attainable. It seems like they’ve been replaced by pain in my back, my ankles, and my mental state. It feels like a curse, but I know I’m not alone. Most of my coworkers at every job are in the same situation. Something needs to change in this country (the U.S.).

[@clairevandenberg8204]

I was in the same situation. I’m 64 and had to quit working because of chronic pain. I was also in a difficult relationship and I struggle with BPD. Don’t give up! After trying everything for pain, including morphine, I tried yoga. You can start small and see great results pretty quickly. Also cinnamon, ginger and Tumeric are natural anti inflammatories. I was clinically obese and could barely move. Nothing fit me. Now a year later I weigh 140. I can walk 5 miles. I started with chair yoga on you tube and dragging myself around the block. Within a month I could walk a mile and a half. And I graduated to lifting light weights. My pain decreased by about 50% and became manageable. The exercise also boosted my mood. By the end of month 2 I was walking 1 1/2 miles everyday and doing yoga for 45 minutes, lifting weights for 20 min. For me this is a miracle. And I achieved it through my own determination. A year ago I was headed for a wheel chair and I had had a heart attack. If I can do it, you can too! Try to find people who encourage you. If you can, find a support group and make it a commitment to go. BYW: I HATED exercise. My doctor ordered physical therapy and it was an excellent place to start. Good luck!

[@michelefitzmaurice4610]

Wow, that’s so awesome, great to hear!!!😎👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

[@michelefitzmaurice4610]

Things have to change; we cannot keep going on like this.🙏🏻

[@amg9163]

@clairevandenberg8204 Wow, the results you achieved are awesome!! Great work!! Could you let me know if before you started your health journey, did you have low energy levels and did they improve once you became more active? I have terrible arthritis pain, was prescribed Humira years ago (decided against taking it due to the side effects). I was very active until about the age of 35. In about 10 years, I gained 50 lbs, still am in pain and even feel like my brain is sluggish. Not good for someone who is not yet 60. ☹️

[@katie4667]

Trump 2024

[@monikamarsollek3493]

Hi, Tatjana, your words came just in time to me, thank you. For some years I feel easily overwhelmed, I enjoy doing creative things, but I always need a 'day in between', if a lot of people are involved. If I respect my abilities, everything goes smoothly. At the age of almost 70 I have to accept less power, NOT EASY for a multi interested creative person. Now I enjoy a nap during the day. I try to FINISH projects before starting new ones. And I prepare healthy and tasty food BEFORE I start my hobbies. A soup, a salad, a dessert, simple things. These 3 things help me to have a better rhythm. Greetings from Germany, Monika❣

[@CalmlyCoping]

Thank you for watching, Monika!

[@dotcassilles1488]

Hi Monika, thankyou for putting how I feel into words.. I desperately need the "day in between" or day of rest in between doing anything physical or social interaction with people. I'm 42 with a list of chronic health challenges and people just don't understand my need for a day to myself. I'm basically house bound so I'm home without people around most of the time but I have two family members who get very cranky if I don't answer them or if I don't call them daily. Because I'm recovering from being bed bound I haven't had a holiday or vacation away from the house in more than 10 years, I've tried to tell them I just need 2 days where I don't have to talk to anyone but myself. They got upset and made my dad come to check on me.... I just wish for 2 days of peace. Blessings, Dot

[@MGW2610]

I can relate with every single sentence you're saying. I'm stuck in a cycle of feeling guilty for not taking action to improve my situation and also just not having the motivation to take action. This space of inaction is eating me up. Last year, I was hitting the gym every single day and worked hard to get in shape, get healthy and be strong. This year, I can barely move. Although I've experienced the benefits of exercising, I'm just not able to be consistent anymore. I start off on a Monday and then stop right there... This is constantly happening. I'm definitely overwhelmed for sure. The constant stress at work (this is the thing I have to do, I like my job, but not the people around), this drains me. Being in survival mode for all these years, I just want to stop being that way completely... I want to just live a slow life. I don't know what a slow life would look like either. Watching this video has helped me acknowledge a few things that I may be putting aside... For now, I'm just taking it one step at a time.

[@TheDreamer1980]

Same, when I was younger I could snap myself out of destructive cycles and at least get back on track for enough time to progress, if I'm honest it never lasts but least I tried, now I'm 40s I swear for the last 10 years I've been in a cycle of desperately wanting to change but constantly procrastinating then feeling more depressed and unmotivated each time, I've even got out the country twice in the last 5 years for 6 months camping with all these great plans then even in nature by the sea I eat junk food, never exercise and actually started smoking weed again while over there (Tenerife) when I had already gone through hell to quit a 25 year addiction, I quit all harder party drugs nearly 10 years ago and thought doing so would make massive progression but it hasn't, I can't stop drinking sugar drinks like coke or eating fast food and at this point I don't feel like I have free will and I'm being driven by demons😂 I'm only half joking really, feels feel my life is, slipping away, times speeding up like everyone agrees, I actually got into running while abroad "healing" And started to feel great running in the heat and could feel my life force returning but then covid hit and I had to return to England then we was stuck to the house and it set me right back like a lot of people but in all honestly even when I had a great chance to fast, exercise and meditate during covid I started smoking weed and eating junk again.... I think fear is my main factor, scared to move forward become a proper adult, also got a lot of musical talent I could def make a decent living off but ultimately I'm a very reserved, shy person who doesn't like a lot of attention and fear being judged that I'm still single at 40 ... Anyone relate?

[@tiTABAba792]

I know I didn't see this video by accident. Thank you. I really needed this right now.

[@dianasasina9328]

When I feel like I DON'T MATTER Then Neither Does ANYTHING Else .....

[@CJ-jq4lv]

Yes!

[@ellenh278]

Bingo

[@Lisa-eo9gd]

You DO matter! You matter to God for sure and probably to people too.

[@maggielarson5472]

Good one!

[@ruthcopely7695]

I count back from 5 and get up to start. I learned this tip from Mel Robbins. 🥰

[@Poweredbyloveee]

I Wish many employers adapt compassionate and understanding mindset to allow their employees small breaks or just a pause. But no, they treat us like robots.😊

[@michelefitzmaurice4610]

Become a fake-smoker! 😂 they take a lot of breaks!

[@dhannamangroo3865]

That's correct.. they are so heartless .

[@neveo9428]

​@@michelefitzmaurice4610You are right - very unfair I always found. Maybe less people smoke now? Vaping though is popular- do they get vape breaks?

[@neveo9428]

A lot of unhappiness, depression and other illnesses are due to the workplace for most people it seems- eg often very boring work, low pay, very strict rules. no union etc Most jobs I realise are helping the already v v rich corporations get richer at the expense of the millions of people doing their best their while lives for peanuts. People were forced off the land a century ir 2 ago whete they were In dependent, healthy, happy mainly, I to cities to work in factories and for tge rich eg as servants. Most if the land worldwide stolen and privately owned so people trapped in these lives they often would love to leave. No wonder people need a holiday although not everyone can afford them. And for the unemployed life is not great often either of course - little or no money, loneliness etc. Take back the land and grow outer food etc so we fonymg eat the poisonous rubbish the rich want to kill people with ( Gates etc Depopulation agenda)

[@ellyrenee]

Only 2 minutes into the video and I feel so understood🥹

[@CalmlyCoping]

I'm so glad this resonated with you, Elisa!

[@crankycrafts]

It’s nice to have free materials like this in youtube. “Im not lazy for feeling unmotivated! “ Thank you for sharing, this is very helpful! ❤

[@michelefitzmaurice4610]

Yes, thank you so much for helping everyone!!!! 👼🏻

[@marjorieestrada8328]

I finally feel like someone understands me. I was putting myself down for not feeling motivated. I could not understand or explain it. Now I feel free, because suddenly I will be able to see through what I was feeling.

[@brownet83]

Have been wanting to clean my place the past two weeks. Didn’t do any school work all week. Dragged my feet to work…but was forced to clean cos my nephew came over and broke some glassware. So in order for him to not hurt himself I had to clean up so I kinda just cleaned the whole place…tomorrow I WILL GO SIT AT A CAFE AND DO SCHOOL WORK! 😅 also…I’ve been giving myself pep talks in the mirror about getting out this rut. Slowly but surely. Don’t think about doing just DO!

[@soniyasilwal9775]

I feel lost every morning I wake up and feel so drained

[@swordsnorchids1997]

Same 😔

[@Grungefan2018]

Same here with the added massive anxiety and dread.

[@danalarose846]

One of the biggest issues is not breathing through the nose properly. If someone's had a tooth extraction or straightening, the jaw could be misaligned. Even if it's a little, can't notice a difference, it can make for issues.

[@godisgoodalways4357]

Same here

[@AlexCombes]

Damn i know that

[@roudwana7843]

I feel unmotivated because of no support at all. But the good news I put God first in my daily life

[@edie4321]

Me too. I never feel lonely.

[@intignia]

Mortal help I have none; Immortal help, all I need. God is wonderful : D

[@valeriekehrt7566]

I understand. I'm alone too. Zero support. ❤

[@deborahhouseknecht8756]

God is first! My daily date, never stood up!

[@marcussosa9474]

I listen to my favorite music or music that's upbeat and full of energy or very positive music gets me motivated!

[@Lillylim1]

I have low energy, feeling fatigue. I have menopause, lower chronic back pain, diabetes type 2, sleep apnea and feeling exhausted. But now since I start working out helps me build up energy. I have worked so hard, no help from no one. I feel burnout and overwhelmed. I am a perfectionist. I have ADHD, anxiety and a little of depression.

[@jofrances3296]

Hi i truly hope things get better for you. I have menopause too and know how debilitating it can be on the mind and body.

[@jofrances3296]

I’ve stopped taking antidepressants last October 2023 after 17 years of being on this medicine. I hurt my back several months ago I have lost my full mobility which has lowers my mood and my body is exhausted with the discomfort I tell myself this too shall pass. Compounded with lists of other factors I can’t write on here. It’s taking everything of me not to look for tablets to relieve anxiety and go back where I was. I know I won’t because I feel my mind is so much better. I will continue what I have started. It’s good to see us others that understand here in the comments. Also to find your channel thank you. I wish everyone on here all the best, on their life journey

[@SharonDrummond-by6of]

You have hit the nail on the head fear and failure holds me back don't feel that I'm good enough. People being critical telling you that you need to take one good luck at yourself makes me just want to isolate. It's like good compassionate teachers caring understanding can work better than a teacher who tells you that you need to pull yourself together

[@KingaGorski]

So true that, no matter how much you've accomplished, when you're in this unmotivated mood, your mind can play tricks on you and make you feel like you haven't accomplished anything-even when you've achieved *a ton.* It's important for us to learn how the sneaky, self-preserving brain can sabotage our efforts, even though it's well-intentioned to protect our energy stores and keep us "safe".

[@angelacacace3705]

This entire video definitely hits home for me..All of it is me.... I get extremely perfectionistic and it can be paralyzing.. I will inadvertently go into negative self-talk and hit a kind of depression and have a sense of failure.... I can also hit a rebellious moment where I don't want to do what I told myself to do like I'm defying my own parent within myself... The only thing that seems to be helpful in these moments for me is getting myself to do one tiny task...it could be to just put a load of laundry in the machine, and then let myself watch a KZbin video....Then I tell myself well let's just unload the dishwasher and then sit down for a while again.... I guess once I get myself moving "sometimes" I'm able to get a lot more done than I would have if I had just stayed completely shut down in my defeated day... Sometimes for me just doing a few little things can completely pull me out of a day that's destined for nothingness and escapism... I genuinely appreciate finding this video... I wasn't sure if I was the only one that struggled with all of these things in these way...

[@VK-kc3ob]

I hope you keep taking the small steps and it gets easier day by day ❤

[@oak6677]

1. rest and recharge- power nap 2. prioritize. what is time sensitive and most important? 3. access your emotions- how do you feel? why am i feeling this? => action 4. do not wait for motivation. Motivation is often related to you actually doing the work. 5. you can watch someone do something to build momentum/ accountability (external) 6. make things fun......reward yourself 7. REMEMBER YOUR WHY (..long term goals) be kind to yourself and take just ONE step

[@NurseCat_AnarchyforAlchemy]

My lack of motivation comes from feeling like all of my work is shifting sand or missing a row in a counted-cross stich piece. I've poured my heart and soul into my work only to have it overturned or ripped out or made invisible. Than you for the clarity on this. It's been a real struggle.

[@elizabethharvey150]

Man..... everything you said applies to me. Uhg. I've been stuck in this state of mind for over 2 years now. Feeling overwhelmed is the biggest issue. I do baby steps every day. That used to help me a lot more than it has been lately. I beat myself up daily. I definitely have burnout, more than anyone I know. The depression and anxiety issues are spot on. I describe it as feeling caught in a riptide. I'm so jealous of everyone else's jobs and attitudes toward tasks. It's very paralyzing. The most minor of things outside of work are challenging. I can't describe how debilitating it is. You really nailed it with the video. Thyroid and anemia issues don't help much either. There's a lot to sort out. Just saying that puts me right where I started. Like that movie ground hogs day. Rinse and repeat.

[@Judith-b3t]

I have/had anemia and thyroid issues also. The anemia resolved when I started taking B1 vitamin and B-12 with folate. So I purchase both vitamins at Whole Foods. The vitamins need to be quality but not necessarily expensive. The B1 is 100 mg, 365 brand. The B12 with folate is Jarrow 1000 mcg/400mcg. B12 without folate is supposed to be ineffective. The folate should NOT be folic acid. As for the thyroid dig into it research on on YT. It may be you are deficient in iodine which is any easy fix. Best wishes. PS Pray!

[@NewSpitin]

I was homeless with mental health issues and now I've had an apartment for a year. For 8 months I couldn't move. I felt like Wile e coyote when he fell off the cliff and landed on the ground and you can see the end of his body. That's how it felt when I could finally relax from being in survival mode for 20 years. Then I started getting up and didn't know how to cook, clean, do grocery shopping, etc. but I'm learning it. Then I started schooling. 1. To become a Peer Advocate and 2. To become a Certified Peer Support Specialist Two different schools. I need to work now and can't find the motivation and have fear of letting whoever hires me down. And growing up my mom was diagnosed with schizophrenia and slept the rest of her life away because her medication took away her voices and visions for the most part but made her depressed. I have temptation of just laying around the rest of my life too but I have a favorite quote "On your death bed you'll regret the things you didn't do more than the things you did do." And I'll be doing the work I've always wanted to do. I'm here trying to find motivation to be able to get up and dressed and functional every day. I ask people how they do it to get tips that I can use.

[@showtell6292]

Hi omg i’ve been in the same situation even down to being frozen for months then getting unfrozen get things moving then freezing up again when coming into a new opportunity then feeling like Iost and overwhelmed freezing up again! No motivation no idea where to turn or what it is that I though I would do!!!!!! 😢 its the most dysfunctional way to learn live. I am so sorry that you are going through this. Worse then that I have a little 14 yr old son and have been single for 14 years. By the grace of God, I have managed to at least be a great MOM and ( dad) to my Son. Mine you I am BI POLAR, ADHD, CPTSD also stemming from a constant state of flight or fight all the years of my life till at least 25 because that is just who I became anxiety driven accomplish much of nothing that would position me to become a great success. One thing I found out, its not all our fault nobody taught us how to manage anything!!!! At least for me & I didn’t get treated for ADHD till I was about 40yr old. Anyway I pray to get unstuck and know you are not alone.🙏

[@nancysatkinson1568]

I am one of these! Every day I feel like this and sleep for hours and hours!!

[@JS-fe6kh]

Reading tge comments has been great. Dont feel so alone. I work at the self compassion and remind myself... i have to work and at 66 it takes more put of me, i get home and my husband is disabled so i have to do most of the work, from stress and fatigue ive not been good about my health and i do need to rest sometimes, my back, legs, hip, my job is very active at the chamber so need to keep up. The small steps help too. Just 15 min to clean, or do bills, etc. I also have diagnosed depression and anxiety. So acknowledging that helps me not beat myself up. DBT has helped a lot too. Thank you good podcast.

[@crisalidathomassie1811]

A very good friend of mine recently died. I had mixed feelings, sadness, couldn’t sleep, wasn’t hungry, all the negative stuff. After three days I decided to watch two Tv series back to back day and night until I got sleepy. Then I decided to pick up my oil painting. Going for a walk and taking pictures is another way to cope with all the mixed feelings. Excellent video and thanks so much for the feedback. Looking forward to follow your channel. Great content, helpful and admirable. Blessings and take care. New subscriber!❤❤❤

[@angelbloom3646]

You touched on so many things that affect me! I was telling my teen son my stresses with all that I had to do and he said something I remember to this day “Mom do you need to do it or do you want to do it?” I step back and look at what needs to be done first. That little perfectionist in me wants so much. I’ve been learning to shutdown that perfectionist!

[@susanmeadows627]

Wow. This was like finding gold for me. This is validation I'm not lazy. ❤

[@amberphillips50]

What helps me is going through the motions. Doing the thing whether I feel like it or not. It eventually brings motivation.

[@jennifergraham5615]

I found some guided meditation online useful- picturing yourself in a picture tired and stuff you have to do then a picture of yourself in energetic way where the stuff is done. Focus and direction. It may not work the whole way but it certainly gets things on the go. Watch short videos on what you are doing because it helps zero in on a task and motivates you. Buy a few small stuff to help with the process and move it a long. Don’t go wild- just go with the process as working. I bought some clear plastic sleeves that cost nearly anything to help put away paper that you couldn’t put in a three ring binder. Eventually the big stuff gets smaller. What happened in my case is I worked for months on a project and before I knew it, it was done. During those months though I just knew I was going to be so grateful that I did all this and proud and that was my biggest motivation. Good luck and helpful video because I probably bumped into all these reasons a long the way. Stoism videos helped too because it can make you laugh when you hear some quotes. Thank you and take care.

[@AEk1426NBJLDM]

This video really spoke to me. I get bored with mundane tasks and end up putting stuff off to the last minute. I get very down on myself because I feel like I’m a slacker even though I’m still doing stuff. It’s like I contradict myself because I want to get stuff done, but then if I can’t do it perfectly, I do nothing. I hate it! 😑

[@janetcarbone4213]

That’s me!! My God girl you figured me out in 23 minutes!! Good job❤

[@Nur100etc]

Love this channel (newly subscribed). It’s a godsend. I now feel validated and freed from shame over my chronic lack of motivation, drive and focus. One tip I’ve learned in life is that INERTIA is a very real property of physics. Things in motion tend to stay in motion and things that are stopped tend to stay stopped. So once you DO start on something, it becomes much easier to keep doing that something. If you’re at a point of stasis, it’s much, much harder to get the gears going. So sitting down and scrolling all day can be really hard to break free from. So .. just do anything. Do it without thinking. Get up and just do anything. As quickly as you can, just do something. Take the garbage out. Clear a countertop. Clear another countertop. Just keep going. Keep doing, stop thinking. Clear something out of the fridge. Wash a couple dishes. Just start, without thinking about it. You’ll find yourself automatically doing more and more, because once you start, you’ll find that you get on a roll. You might even begin to feel meditative about it. You might even find it hard to stop, once you get going. Sometimes taking a podcast with you can help too, to get you out of your own head. And sometimes we just want “company” while doing our chores. Accomplish something. ANYTHING. Or … Get outside and take a long walk. Try to avoid distractions like a podcast. Just breathe rhythmically and walk. Or get on the treadmill. It puts you in a meditative state. Repeat a word or mantra over and over, even a nonsensical word. Hope this helps.

[@CalmlyCoping]

So true, those are great tips. Thanks for sharing and subscribing!

[@carlasamuels479]

🥰she has a nice calming voice im listening while trying to get my chores do,ne ..its helping to keep me motivated

[@user-ys1jr3et9i]

When I was young it gave me lots of joy to help people,,,,now because ingratitude is off the charts. I stay home by myself keep to myself and eat popcorn watching the world in to heck in a hand basket ....why work hard to leave a fine legacy to a bunch of ingrats....no thanks

[@cynthiamarston2208]

That’s a lesson. It’s to help you see there are other ways to seek validation. I’m not sure what it is but it’s definitely within. So I think for me it’s raising my self esteem so that I am enough? I’ve heard it said and I’ve done subliminals with a small amount of success.

[@gardeniagorgeous4232]

To do good deeds in this world should only be done for the sake of goodness. Let people be ingrates. We should never give expecting something back or thankfulness. I personally think of helping others as something I do to show I’m grateful to God. Also, you may need to change your circle cause if you help people who are supposed to be your friends and they aren’t gracious, find new friends!

[@Anshii1233]

Self compassion Prioritize things Assess your emotion 15:33 Focus on your progress Don't wait for motivation 18:00

[@KittenlessLadyCat]

I remember it started in my early 30's. It was a combo of burnout, anxiety and seeking relief. I remember the day I told my husband. "I feel disenchanted with life." Like nothing mattered or that nothing was exciting enough to do. I'm a bit better now but I still go through it. I have bouts of bed rot still but I try to seek things that I'm really interested in and keep moving.

[@briantowner4285]

I lost my wife in 2011 to cancer and then my mom a couple years ago and then my dad just recently, There's so many things that have gone on when they were alive and i feel terrible for the things that have happened!!

[@CalmlyCoping]

I'm so sorry for your losses. ❤

[@bandaribharathmohan9612]

I'm having too many issues with my brain. This was my solution: Resigned my job and worked on myself for 4 weeks. 1. Nootropics suppliments. 2. After that it gave me motivation to do stuff physically. So I worked on improving my testosterone like cold shower, nitric oxide supplements and gym 3. After that included meditation, improved my observational skills being present, working on sleep routine, improving my communication skills lole body language and confidence. 4. Made my full time job to look for a good job and full-time job to look for good friends.

[@dianethompson6804]

You need time to grieve! Sometimes doing something helps. Get a friend or relative to help you with the things that need to be cleaned up after someone dies. Hugs to you! I've lost these people too and it's really hard if the loss comes close together! I try to live by the Bible verse "This too shall pass"

[@upstatenewyork]

@@dianethompson6804what if no relative is available or she doesn’t have close friends?

[@dianethompson6804]

@@upstatenewyork then reach out to the church community or a neighbor. People like to help, sometimes you just have to ask.

[@holly8117]

I am a nurse and hate my job. You confirmed burnout. I want to lay in bed on my off days, I just want to be left alone, I feel hopeless that I won’t find a job I love. I’ve pushed every one away, my house is cluttered with piles of clothes books papers. Ive started hoarding. In my mind Im thinking I just want to go home …and I am home. WTH

[@Miss_Annlaug]

I don't think we are unmotivated. I think we are in freeze mode in response to pressure and stress. And this just mounts if we don't take action and break the cycle❤❤❤

[@tangodovecamelliasinensis.8235]

Thank You Tati Garcia..❤ Drink Water Everyone..👍 Water Is Our Best Friend. Good Luck!

[@scottrap]

Thank you Tati, this is literally my life story. Self compassion is very difficult for me because my parents had their antiquated beliefs and practiced tough love. They made me feel as though there was something wrong with me. Therefore, to this day I feel like there’s something wrong with me.

[@tamising8999]

OMG 😢 I needed this so bad I'm so overwhelmed I think but I just cannot get outside to do the things that I am supposed to do like go pay the rent and and try to exercise and all this stuff and I know this is a big thing right now in my life that I am happening to care for my little cousin 38Y that's 2 hours away she has PANCREATIC CANCER

[@REDROANNURSERY]

This channel is just the perfect thing - EXACTLY what I need right now, and for all future points in time. Thank you so much for tackling a topic that some of my closest family members refuse to acknowledge. The validation that I am hearing is making me feel so much better!

[@CalmlyCoping]

I'm so glad this was helpful for you. Thanks for watching!

[@SmileyWiley76]

Thank you for your video. I subscribed to you because of this video. I always felt unmotivated and now I know why. I need a I did this today calendar instead of a to do list.

[@RalphTorchio]

Thank you so very much for sharing your experience with us. This is very helpful. I struggle with anxiety because I am a high achieving individual. I feel like no one can do what I do but I actually feel as though I need to handle everything. Very insightful. God bless you

[@nithinn9469]

Glad I found you. I was literally thinking for months what is wrong with me. I wasn't able to figure it out. I was mentally drained with zero motivation even though I know that I have a bunch of work. I got all the answers today in your video. Lots of 💕

[@chasing-mental-clarity]

you see me. i had no idea i was depressed. just got on meds and it’s opening my eyes the past few days. i hated everything. i grew to dislike and not enjoy anything at all. it’s sad, really. i’m someone that’s usually a bright person but these past few years it slowly took over me. the worst part is that i didn’t even know. i just figured it was my emotional state. but i’m realizing now it’s probably MDD

[@LadyAutumn]

I didnt realise the psychology behind it but i do watch cleaning videos when im trying to motivate myself to clean the house. Usually works! The other times,.. Well i just let myself be and do nothing all day as long as i have no where i need to be. Another hack for me, when i was motivated, i set a personal goal for 2024 to learn 2 new skills ive never done before and stick with them for 2 years. So, i signed up for adult ballet and cello lessons (3 months in so far); they work well to reset my stuck/depressed mood and restore harmony -- after the initial dragging of myself to the car, if im lazy lol I look forward to my lessons! Having things to do that put energy back into you, that are fun and maybe build a skill, i think definitely can help some people.

[@Sorilia4]

Wait, focus on only what I can control? You mean I’m limited? Revolutionary! I have never heard so many of my deep down thoughts come out of someone else’s mouth. So much to process, but I feel lighter already. Thank you so much for this! I am looking forward to moving ahead with a new mindset.

[@tapsfan2]

How long is too long? I was with a Narcissist husband for 27 years, and only after he died 6 years ago did I realize what my kids and I lived through was NOT normal. I was so naive, a people pleaser. I still beat myself up about it and go through unmotivated days. My kids are grown now and are everything to me, I feel guilt about what they went through too. They are my angels. During this 27 years, No physical abuse, threats of it though, but real emotional abuse and that Dr Jekyll Mr Hyde act by him. Egg shells every moment. It’s been six years since he died and I’m still dealing with this. trying to accomplish one thing, something each day. How can I break free

[@doloresinkenbrandtanddawnc9212]

Greetings from sunny SW Florida. I sincerely need to stop beating myself up over "low motivation" lack of motivation right now is a symptom of an inability to get affordable dental and medical care, divorcing a person with huge issues and being poisoned by big companies controlled by big government chasing that all mighty dollar.

[@susanyee1]

Reading the comments is as helpful as the video.

[@michellereeves5281]

When I get frozen, I tell myself to "Just do it ugly." It helps with the self-criticism and perfectionism. When I'm finished it usually turns out better than I thought.

[@DIonilitaPaje-br7pn]

This vlog is an inspiration. I just told my friend that I am unmotivated and to help me decipher why. This is more than an answer! Thank you!

[@lisawilson7549]

Thank you so much - very helpful. I am a high functioning sort of perfectionist (typically), but after a long illness, my husband died 7 months ago. It's been very slow going with healing and I am definitely unmotivated. Not completely though. Your recommendations I will put into practice and see how I do. Again, thank you.

[@Hejejevhejes]

This is how I’ve been feeling 😢it’s horrible

[@laceyrushworth9823]

I had a tragic thing happen to me that put me in the hospital for 12 days. I'm on meds now for depression, but the only thing it helps me with is not to cry everyday. I still am depressed and extremely unmotivated to the point where I don't take care of myself and only do the bare minimum on important daily tasks.... I think it's the depression, but it's been two years now and I'm still going through it

[@justynapl.7947]

Nie wiem czy mam adhd , bo po 50 nadal nie ogarniam chaty i dlatego tu trafiłam . Zostaje na dłużej .

[@maggielarson5472]

I was looking at all the news about the election and was starting to feel down, then I was thinking of all the thing I have to do, then I am getting over a accident I was in and never left the house for ten days. As I was looking for news and came across your channel thank the lord talking about being at the right place and at the right time you were it. Your last advise was to write down all my accomplishment in the past weeks rather then failures and my that really, really, helped . I mean even this one thing was a great accomplishment I gave up smoking, I didn't smoke a lot so it was easier then some other people. I subscribed to you channel and am looking forward to you next broadcast. Thank you so much👏

[@katiemobley5882]

Thank you, I got 3 days of dishes out of the sink listening to your video. The information was very helpful esp the part about acknowledging and asking questions instead of talking down to yourself. 🙏

[@JerrymichaelGreen-qy6tj]

I went back too housekeeping. Domestic engineering. Cooking. Hobbies

[@pamelalavender8813]

I’ve been here for a long time now. I can’t seem to get going.

[@mirnabonilla7488]

I would start by thanking God It helps for sure Something happens when I just continously do and he helps me

[@TryniaMerin]

I just stumbled across this in my recommended. It is extremely timely because today I was having an anxiety tailspin about making mistakes at work and feeling as if I don't want to to anything else in the house.

[@bcreed9348]

What I love is out of reach. I either don't have the time or $. Ì looked to the future, now its here and just an extension of my day dreaming past.

[@amvallejr5]

Thank you! Timing is perfect. I needed to hear this today. God bless you and I wish you much success in your profession. 😊

[@CalmlyCoping]

Thank you! I'm glad this was helpful for you.

[@annsolko2186]

I love & appreciate everyone’s comments! I think the same boat we’re on is way too small-we had better move to a cruise ship…or two. When I’m totally unmotivated (which is occurring more & more) I start to feel guilty about it, which continues the downward spiral. Some days I think poor nutrition is a factor. Some counselors/therapists/doctors don’t even include that possibility. Another is lack of sunlight. The days I feel the laziest are the days I don’t force myself outside to breath in some fresh air. Then I feel REALLY down & guilty for missing a beautiful day that I’ll never get back, especially now that I turned 71. My husband is 7 years younger than I, a born & raised workaholic farm boy, and there’s absolutely no way I have ever been able to do a quarter of what he gets done in just one morning! I gave up & give up. But then sometimes I think back to my childhood. I had a dear & precious cousin who was 4 years younger than I. Her family would come out to visit most Sundays & she would want to do what I was doing-mainly climbing trees & up a pole onto a horse shed. She’d say, “I can’t,” and I’d say, “yes, you can!” I would give her a leg up or whatever it took to help her, and she would always succeed. My beautiful cousin died of acute alcoholism at the age of 38, so now I think, “I can” in memory of her and it ends up helping me force myself to get something accomplished. Then I feel so much better!

[@lorettawolfe6274]

Everything has been great for me, although out of know where I just felt empty.. like I need to be doing more. I'm lost on what I need to be doing. I keep praying 🙏

[@dsmith9103]

Just doing nothing for a day then getting stuck in the next day, especially with work

[@BugsyB1979]

Some days you need to stop, guilt free!!

[@amg9163]

@dsmith9103 I was like this when. I worked for my previous job. I would call it a "throwaway day" and promise myself that I would do better the next day. That usually did not happen. What I realized is that at jobs where this pattern continued to happen (like at my previous job), I absolutely *hated the job,* or hated some aspects of the job that were too significant to ignore. So I listened to my gut and moved onto a job at a different company. The different environment, different manager, different co-workers were enough to renew my energy and confidence, so I cared enough to put energy into doing good work again. Just my experience.

[@dsmith9103]

@@amg9163 I'm planning on leaving this role, the workplace has become toxic and its just not worth me staying

[@southernyankee2300]

I lost my husband 2 years ago and I had to sell the house and now I live in a campground in a 5th wheel. I have no motivation to do anything, including talking to anyone or even taking a walk. Ugg!

[@klanderkal]

I'm feeling the dread, grief of loss... it really is unexplainable. I can't put into words how horrible I feel. I also lost everything else, including my career job. When you said, no motivation to even walk... that's me. I feel into severe depression. How are you today...?

[@eternalfortune3572]

Thank you for this beautiful video.. I have struggled for years with this very thing.. I started my own business 3years ago and whoaw.. Taking care of self totally independant with no back up is sometimes quite daunting. What helps me best is when I wake up I choose 3 most important things that must get done today.. And those are what i focus on.. One thing at a time.. I also started jumping in icy cold water.. Its winter here in South Africa.. So I go swim in the ocean for 15min or in the pool and swim laps till i cant anymore .. Thay for me is my biggest accomplishment and sets me up for the day.. Some days I only drag myself out of bed at 10am, it use to be 2pm.. One day.. One task.. One step at a time.. You got this.. Be gentle with your beautiful self

[@anantgamer8952]

I appreciate your work, It's really helpful in life.

[@CalmlyCoping]

Thanks so much!

[@thepopes4466]

This video is a God send for me. 4 minutes in, tears of joy and hope flooded my face. I use to juggle SO many things successfully. EVERY contributer has been or is a stumbling block. Where do i begin???? My first step is the recommended step with prayer. Thank you for this video. I had a sense that you truly care.

[@CalmlyCoping]

Thank you for your kind words, I'm so glad this was helpful for you!