What to do when you lose your temper with your child

[@Radhaun]

As someone who actually did receive a number of apologies growing up but never really saw the behavior change, I would add (especially for older children) try to set up a plan or something to prevent the outburst from happening again, so, e.g.: "I'm really sorry for yelling earlier. I let myself react instead of respond, I'm going to work on communicating better so I don't get to that point again." This also let's kids know what the mechanics of change look like and how to implement them.

[@harrieth7003]

I don’t often lose my temper but did yesterday before school - wrote him a card and gave him a little pressie which I think was a bit much because later he was like ‘next time you’re going to have to buy me another present too’ 😲😲 he’s a good boy but really struggling with the sass at the mo (almost 7) Loving the book by the way!!

[@pumpkinhead456]

Thanks Sarah, I'm looking forward to the new book which I have on pre order. It's not easy being a calm parent, but I'm learning, and the more I learn the easier it gets!

[@parthenamilona3855]

I’m apologising when I mess up with my almost 4y old boy . Without but and excuses . I tell him when I’m loud means I feel not good with myself it has nothing to do with u and I love u I’m sorry I lost my temper I will do a reset . My question is : as a single mum with no village I loose my cool more than a few times a week . So I’m apologising a lot and I want to avoid the trap : I can be mean and later I will apologise. I’m concerned what messages he is receiving from me … !!

[@tamsinmarkham-david3696]

Lol! No, I never remember an apology...!