What to do When Your Teenager Doesn’t Clean-up Before Rushing Out the Door! Viewer Question

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I received this viewer question over the weekend and it’s a great introduction to training for teenagers. Today’s video advice could be adapted to many situations with teens!
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[@mocheen4837]

My kids never clean up. I have been trying to get my daughter to clean her room for almost two years. I even offered to pay people to clean it for her. It is hopeless at this point. I keep a pretty clean house spending upwards of 20 hrs per week cleaning. My daughter’s room looks like an episode of hoarders. Her excuse is that she is too busy studying. She does get good grades but always has time to go out with friends to eat and shop. She just does not have time to help clean. Same thing goes for my son who actually has a clean room but leaves items all over the house.

[@teresaelling-peacefulhome]

Hi! Thanks so much for watching! I know this is such a difficult thing to manage. You sound like an amazing mom who wants the best for her kids. I think it’s great that your daughter gets good grades, but being able to have a clean room is a part of a healthy, balanced life and will help her in her future. You have to be the one to put your foot down and not allow her to go out with friends until she has cleaned her room. At this point, she probably needs help - I would suggest getting a professional organizer or a really organized friend who could help her go through everything and get a clean start. I’m going to send a few links. The first one should be some additional help for your daughter in the second one should be helpful for your son. The third can really help your daughter to maintain her room once it gets completely clean. All the best to you! 😊 How to Encourage Responsibility - What do do when your kids won’t do chores! kzbin.info/www/bejne/lXO9fWhmp8aad80 Part 5 - The Magic of the Buy-Back Box- How to Get Your Kids to Pick up After Themselves! kzbin.info/www/bejne/fGO8i52fdsqjjtU Part 6 - Teaching Kids to Clean their Rooms - 3 Mistakes Parents Make - Organizing w/ Kids Series kzbin.info/www/bejne/faGxf6qunamAnK8

[@laurabonillahidalgo9301]

what if you can't afford to pay him to cooperating in their own home??? he doesn't work because that's not part of the culture where I live. He is great in school but at home, he only plays video games. I'm single mother of 3.

[@teresaelling-peacefulhome]

Hi, Laura! Thanks so much for watching. This is such a great question that I plan on addressing it in a future video. I will let you know when I post it. Blessings to you!

[@teresaelling-peacefulhome]

Laura, here is my answer. I hope it helps! 😊 kzbin.info/www/bejne/lXO9fWhmp8aad80

[@mocheen4837]

I have been trying to get my kids to clean up for years. I always end up doing it. I have tried many options but now seem to work. My kids are just lazy.

[@teresaelling-peacefulhome]

@@mocheen4837 I just found your comment. I’m so sorry - I don’t know how I missed it! That must be so frustrating! Below, you will find a playlist for my series “Raising kids to be responsible with money”. It’s about much more than money. It’s mainly about chores and teaching them to be responsible in general. Don’t pass over the first video - although it says it’s for toddlers and young children, the principal is very important, even for teens. I guarantee that if you watch these videos and put the suggestions in place with some tough love, you will see a difference! kzbin.info/aero/PLLHIc9oZBZ4-MzQRAMzr6lU-hQpkJ1bzE&si=RnYMfFEJwyKJFw9U Thanks so much for watching and for commenting! 😊

[@crestinagonzales1699]

Very lazy kids these days. Now the pets are mine and why do they have to feed MY pets. Or why should I clean your house😮

[@teresaelling-peacefulhome]

That must be so frustrating! Below, you will find a playlist for my series “Raising kids to be responsible with money”. It’s about much more than money. It’s mainly about chores and teaching them to be responsible in general. Don’t pass over the first video - although it says it’s for toddlers and young children, the principal is very important, even for teens. I guarantee that if you watch these videos and put the suggestions in place with some tough love, you will see a difference! I really appreciate your comment. Thanks for watching! 😁 kzbin.info/aero/PLLHIc9oZBZ4-MzQRAMzr6lU-hQpkJ1bzE&si=RnYMfFEJwyKJFw9U

[@kimwilliams8868]

Amen! Following through is so important. It is really scary how children are being brought up lately. Parents need to parent! I have enjoyed your videos.

[@teresaelling-peacefulhome]

Thanks for watching, Kim!! 💛

[@deepquake9]

Bingo

[@teresaelling-peacefulhome]

Thanks for watching! 😁

[@Crowski]

Need this with my husband…😂

[@teresaelling-peacefulhome]

@@Crowski 😂 Thanks for watching!!

[@Dontbeanidiot123]

I have 3 ! Uhg

[@teresaelling-peacefulhome]

You can do this! (Be on the lookout for part 2.) Thanks for watching, Jessica!

[@danvitale923]

they don’t want structure, they procrastinate as habit..could apply from 10’s to 20’s?…shortcuts in their life is priority number one…about the money, could work …

[@teresaelling-peacefulhome]

Hi Dan! You are so right. It’s definitely an issue that carries into adulthood, causing issues at work and home. Thanks for watching and for your comment!

[@HeatherB81]

Oh wow, when you were talking about common responses to our kids not doing what we asked, I felt so seen 🤣 Thank you for such valuable advice!!

[@teresaelling-peacefulhome]

I am so glad! I hope it was helpful. Thanks for watching! 😊

[@sweetiepie4328]

I follow through and follow through and she still pulls out the milk and leaves it, still makes messes here and there

[@teresaelling-peacefulhome]

Hi there! Thanks for your comment. Every kid is different which is why consequences have to be customized. If the consequence isn't enough to cause her to try to change, you need to change the consequence to something that she values. You could also sit down with her and discuss what her struggles are and how you can help. Help her to set up reminders or whatever she needs but also change what will happen if she can't follow through. I hope this helps. Thanks for watching!!

[@judithhermosillo1268]

Yeah I don’t give my son money but I do give him money for the movies or food and pay his phone bill. Should I take that away

[@teresaelling-peacefulhome]

Judith, great question! I would strongly recommend that you give him a small amount towards those things and set up chores for him to earn the rest. If he just goes to you if he wants something, he never has to budget or learn how money works in the real world. Here is a Playlist for raising financially responsible kids: kzbin.info/aero/PLLHIc9oZBZ4-MzQRAMzr6lU-hQpkJ1bzE&si=c1GsI38UAc8tGgtT I go into detail about this topic as well as other things I did with my six kids, who are all now extremely financially, independent and responsible. Thank you so much for watching and for commenting !! 😁

[@frankiehols8838]

I'm loving your channel! So glad I found it. Ps. The link in the description for how to get kids to pick up stuff isn't working.

[@teresaelling-peacefulhome]

Thanks, Frankie! Try the link again. I think I got it fixed. I’m really grateful you told me about it - thank you!! 😊

[@JMA1982]

Helped so much thank you. 🙏🏽

[@teresaelling-peacefulhome]

I am so glad. I appreciate your comment, John. Thanks for watching!

[@teresaelling-peacefulhome]

How would you advise this parent? Any questions?

[@stacythomas1157]

Thank you so much once again my dear & wise friend ❤️

[@teresaelling-peacefulhome]

@@stacythomas1157 Absolutely!! 💛