What to Do with Your "Sexual Needs" as a Christian | Authentic Sexual Freedom | THEOLOGY OF THE BODY

[@TheologyoftheBodyInstitute]

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[@emiliomilian369]

“If you cannot control your own sexual desires, you will inevitably seek to control others, to gratify them.” Spectacular

[@robin0540]

Interesting thought. I think that is right.

[@tamarajohll5735]

But we can't ignore them...

[@zxberdiusxz8112]

@@tamarajohll5735 very very true, but the key word is control the urge. But not a slave.

[@stonemaze9925]

Bullshit. Stop spreading guilt

[@a-sheepof-christ9027]

Sounds great, is complete nonsense. In a maritial relationship the wife MUST comply to the need of the husband: 1 Corinthians 7:5 Paul wrote: "Do not deny yourselves to each other, unless you first agree to do so for a while in order to spend your time in prayer; but then resume normal marital relations. In this way you will be kept from giving in to Satan's temptation because of your lack of self-control." Here Paul does not referr to the "lack of control" as something unnatural, but as a natural consequence of being human and being denied: Sexually.

[@caseymckee6856]

Please pray for me brothers and sisters, I struggle with an addiction

[@DR-nw3jn]

Brother, pray the full rosary (20 mysteries) every day. Mary is powerful we don’t understand or realize just how powerful she is. God has given her all the graces to crush the head of the serpent. She never forsakes anyone who calls her.

[@thethreefriends3002]

Definitely start small and build up from there! Maybe 1 decade each day and build up you're prayer life little by little each week. I would also highly recommend going to confession and going to mass to help. I will be keeping you in my prayers

[@lilibertnyasunu3564]

Wear The Holy Rosary round your neck when temptation comes, under your clothes or the Brown Scapula. And pray The Rosary. Very powerful anti addiction. 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@dea9n]

Devoutly recite and meditate on the traditional 15 decade mysteries of the Most Holy Rosary. Use a Rosary blessed by a Catholic priest. Go for a thorough General Confession. Read about the Sacrament from a book to better understand it. Have fewer meals, fast and pray on bread and water.

[@mxrider4764]

@@DR-nw3jn mary will never set you free only the power of the cross of Jesus can set people free .stop spreading lies and

[@SliderFury1]

"Sexual freedom is liberation from the compulsion to induldge." I'm taking this one to the bank.

[@sitka49]

I had the compulsion to reading the Bible everyday, and I kicked the habit. I guess in goes for multitude of thing?

[@DIBBY40]

And if it was true freedom surely it would also be freedom from the impulse not to indulge too?

[@MirandaSinistra]

Have you know anyone to 'suffer' from the impulse to not indulge? I don't even think that makes sense.

[@DIBBY40]

@@MirandaSinistra Yes. People have starved to death because of the compulsion not to eat.

[@MirandaSinistra]

@DIBBY40 You have a fundamental misunderstanding of anorexia. Anorexics don't have a compulsion to not eat. They want to eat. In fact, many will confess that they love food but choose to ignore those desires for fear of gaining weight. What they're seeking, like the video alludes to, is control. The food and starving of their body is merely a mechanism of obtaining that control.

[@thebeeft1p419]

Porn free for almost 6 months now and I struggled since I was 8. Sad stuff. Im almost 21 and been fighting it since I was 14. Keep praying to God constantly 10-15 times no matter how “unworthy” you feel. He sees you and hears you and he can change you. Fight it off, go to the gym, work, kick it with your homies, put yourself away from a space of temptation. Next girl/guy you talk to, live in the present with them and love the non sexual aspect and activities with them! Use this with any addiction. I used it for my weed addiction too and Im now 30 days weedless! God can do anything!

[@danielbanovic511]

Needed to hear this from someone similar to me

[@NH-en6et]

Lets goooooooo

[@BornAgainBride]

Amen, hallelujah! Not sure if you ever read the Bible. But you might try reading, rereading, and studying it. It has lots of answers for us. For example, fear of God can be quite helpful. The fear of God is the beginning of wisdom. Proverbs 9:10. Bible says that if we have lustful thoughts, it is akin to "adultery". Matt. 5:28. Christ said it. He also said that adulterers/promiscuous folks will be in the lake of fire. Rev. 21:8. Apostle Paul says that folks involved in fornication and adultery will not inherit the Kingdom. Galatians 5:19-21; 1 Corinthians 6:9-10. And yes, this includes church folks. See Matthew 7:13-27. "Many are called, few are chosen". Matthew 20:16. BUT... the GREAT NEWS is that IF we know the Word of God, and continue in it, and believe it, we will realize that Jesus SAID HE came to save us OUT of slavery to sin. Read John 8:31-36 and Romans chapter 6 sometime. It's all in there. So, we are NOT slaves to sin anymore. So we CAN conquer lusts etc... And if we don't, we simply don't care enough to overcome all this, and probably don't really know or care about God all that much. Thus, we will not be in the Kingdom of God. Jesus said several times to the 7 churches of Revelation chapters 2 and 3, that they all need to overcome sin. Jesus' prescription for overcoming sin is in Matthew 16:24-27: He said we have to DENY SELF, pick up our cross (i.e., die to self, die to sin, die to satan), and follow Him. He said we have to "lose OUR lives" for Him, and also to "forsake all that we have" for Him to be His. See Luke 14:26-33 and Mark 10>28-30. So this walk is not a cakewalk. Jesus describes it as a "cross", and Paul said it will involve "tribulation" and trials. See Acts 14:22, 2 Tim. 1:8. Jesus said that those who love Him keep His commandments. The New Testament is reportedly loaded with about 1050 "commandments", so we had better get busy and find out what they are. And always remember, we have the power to overcome sin/lust/whatever within us, if we are His. Christ sends His Holy Spirit to us to help us and empower us. Hence, sin does NOT have any power over us anymore. See John 14:14-21, 17:17, and Romans 6:14. See also John 6:63. Please at least consider getting into your Bible.

[@C726-w3p]

God Bless You🤍 keep letting Him be your strength

[@JohnnyWalkerBlack142]

“With God all things are possible” -Matthew 19:26

[@Christina_320]

I’m a Christian woman and I struggle with this so much, I pray and fast and just waiting and praying for a husband so I don’t burn with lust. 😞😔🙏🏼🙏🏼❤️ It sucks so bad to put it bluntly. Thanks for speaking on a topic that is swept under the rug in most churches. Worded brilliantly.

[@unkameatgoodbar2315]

I’m in the same position..I totally understand

[@NzRazor]

Everyone has a desire to be loved and have their sexual needs met. I suggest you find a decent man to explore with. Does God want you to suffer?? Lot of the things in the Bible is man-made, religion is a form of control. As long as you have a good heart, good morals. Stick with a man who desires you and enjoy what comes along with it

[@Shaara1]

@@NzRazor No point to suggest something that is not in her control. She is already praying and hoping for a decent man. If there is none, then it's not much help to say: get one.

[@Lucas-gm3bv]

I’m surprised that a woman struggles with this. It goes against everything else everyone online says. As a fellow human being, I wish you well and I hope you find what you’re seeking.

[@Lucas-gm3bv]

@Danny Dolan that’s Paul, isn’t it?

[@Cerebhk]

I relapsed with my sexual desires. Earlier, I asked God for forgiveness and minutes later I came across this video. To me this is God speaking in his way. Listening to Christopher's story opened my eyes with what "true" freedom actually is. It is being liberated from our compulsion and having it under control is only when we truely taste freedom.

[@sarahbahr857]

Same exact thing just happened to me! God is good. ❤❤❤

[@normalbuerger]

Or it's Google spying on you and suggesting content accordingly

[@smokingcrab2290]

What sucks is that our desires will never actually be fulfilled. Not even in marriage. We just have to suffer with them for our entire lives. Theres no real freedom either way.

[@fernandofuerte4786]

The freedom comes when you are satisfied by righteousness, and no longer even feel the need to indulge sexually. Imagine an obese person who loses 50 lbs and feels healthy and strong. They can now find satisfaction in eating food how it’s supposed to be enjoyed, by giving life. Just like sex, which is meant to give life and unity to a God fearing marriage. The once-obese person wouldn’t find the same satisfaction from over indulging in junk food once they’ve tasted the freedom

[@davidm4566]

If (when, really) you slip up, get up, dust yoursef off, repent, and forgive yourself. Then keep moving forward. Please don't kick yourself after you ask forgiveness. Jesus says that are sins are as far from us as the East is to the West at that point.

[@oambitiousone7100]

Western, educated, industrialized, rich, democratic (WEIRD) culture says to worship your impulses, and compel others to celebrate them. Christ: discipline is freedom.

[@techtonic9100]

Are you seriously attempting to say that the idea of practicing sex freely and without regrets is a democratic western idea? Are you dull? Hundreds of eastern cultures have practiced sexual freedom and promoted acting on desires and impulses for millennia. Also why do you say educated, industrialized, rich like those are bad things? Without those things we’d still be in the dark ages. You’ve embarrassed yourself..

[@SunnyWithNoChanceOfRain]

@@techtonic9100 No, you’re the ignorant one!!!. I moved to the states from the eastern side of the world. Boy, I can relate to everything the other guy said. My first thoughts of the western world was how strange the people, their way of doing things, their form of humor and entertainment was. Everyone & everything is backwards! And yeah, it’s like totally anti-Christ. Wish I could go back to the East

[@DFSLJC]

@@techtonic9100mUh EaStErN PrACtiCeS is the answer to everything you can’t cope with as an atheist. Just like billions and billions and billions of years is the only answer to the secular religious “theories” explaining the origin of the world. It takes much more faith to believe in mUh BiG bANg than to believe a wholly awesome and perfectly intelligent being created the world as an artist does than to hang on to a 19th century Freemason racist that says we came from frogs. 🤦‍♂️

[@chad1682]

@@DFSLJC no

[@DonNado101]

I’ve been struggling with lust, pornography, sexual desires for a very long time. It seems like no matter how much I try to stop, I always relapse into it again. I pray the Lord gives me the strength to turn away from lust one and for all

[@vinyl_hug795]

i can say, me too. i tried so hard to get free of my addiction of pornographie until i realized, its not about getting free of this but about letting God show me his Image of Men and Women.. How he created Sexuality, not how destructive it is when we live it like animals. I think since i dont chase freedom so hard, but chase the Original of Gods Idea of Sexuality, thats what sets me free of pornographie. I hope you understand, my english ;) I'm from Switzerland.. May bless you God on your way with new Hope and Graditude for his Gift of Sexuality! Michael

[@JohnnyWalkerBlack142]

You have to be desperate. Fast and pray for a week

[@eutimiolongoria4696]

Take it one step at a time. The Lord will acknowledge your efforts. Start with 3 days, then one week, and progressively work from there. When you relapse, repent and pray for forgiveness. The Lord understands our struggle. Even great men like King David and Samson struggled with this. God bless your journey to freedom 🙏

[@danilaroche1156]

The Lord has heard you and you will overcome it. Porn is fornication and it also objectifies and perverts the sacred sex act. You should pray about marrying. You need a wife.

[@travonpatton6353]

This is good. The flesh yet has to become weaker for sexual desire to become weaker. The spiritual now has to be fed and made strong, while the flesh starves, becoming unable to compel you as a slave because it is not strong. God will meet you down the road as you come back home to your divine nature.

[@callmesketchy7525]

If you struggle with porn addiction, what helps me most is in that moment when temptation is mounting, and you begin to WANT to give in, say a prayer for relief, direction, peace, and strength. You may need to do it more than once per day, but it works. God saves.

[@HypnoChode74]

I’ve been considering just reading random scripture to keep me from doin it…. I mean if my hands are busy doin something else.

[@yaroslavmantsevich]

Fasting and keeping the flesh under your spirit before temptation is better than relying on your strength once tempted. Build your strength before your tempted so to say.

[@jasonm444]

Something that has helped me is thinking of 1 Corinthians 6. There is a verse that says something along the lines of “flee from sexual immorality.” When you begin to experience temptation… FLEE! Move your physical body and try not to fight it. Go for a walk or run, go and talk to a family member, or call a friend. We are more apt to lose against temptation when we fight it in seclusion rather than flee and seek help or leave the physical setting. I hope this is helpful to someone. God bless everyone ❤

[@BillBiggs1]

@@jasonm444Thank you. Good advice, most of us don’t take it in the literal sense but you literally have to flee.

[@randybyers4885]

I overcame sexual needs through my cinsciebce, cannot be overcome in the flesh, the word keeps us straight, sexual temptation is a good comparison to finding money, will you try to finds the rightful owner or keep it for yiuemm my self, a matter of self denial, no t to be controlled by our bodies but our mind , Gis was nice enough to create sex , , why woukd he withdraw anting good thing from you, marriage is lawful, outside is wrong

[@HighShepherdLopes]

"allowing God's love into our sexual desires" actually game changing. Im 23 as of now, been struggling with impulsive sexuality and bisexuality (gay lite [lol]) and I always prayed for God to either take it away or change me and give me a new heart but NOWWW I know that i need to "let him into my sexuality" to not keep Him separate, not to remain in shame, but to bask in His victory and become engulfed in His perfect and unchanging love.

[@Plans4YouJer2911]

Amen 🙏 🙏 🙏 You are not alone my friend Keep moving forward in Holy Spirit Power

[@AvgGuy3512]

The further we step into sexual impurity, the more twisted our desires become. It is right to ask God to reform your desires, both sexual and nonsexual so that our hearts learn to adopt God's perfect ways. When I was in high school, I was confused about my sexuality until I gave myself to God and allowed Him to rework my mind. Pray and seek the Lord's face and He will transform you into something good for His purpose and for your (spiritual) benefit

[@sabinchacko3]

🙏🏽

[@Plans4YouJer2911]

Romans 12 starts with renewing our minds The heart and mind are tied together The Bible also talks about the eyes and ears What we see and hear For men we have 4 basic needs Food, Water, Sex, Sleep I encourage you to start each day praying and committing all of your life and day to Him Then if you so choose or wish too, the issues or struggles you face daily Detail in prayer a recognition and commitment to God for help over that struggle Some people work thru it on their own Other's do counseling Whatever works for you I have my own personal detailed prayer I use when overwhelmed at times If you are a Christian, the daily walk is a life of progress towards God We are encouraged to a life of perfection and holiness However, we are human and make mistakes When we fall down, get back up Don't stay down You know your making progress in your life when you get back up or come back to God sooner than you used too And I know this thread is about sexual struggles However we can apply this to all areas of life "I struggle with __________ ......." Allowing you to fill in the blank of your personal problem With all this said and shared, I would be wrong to not include this information as well If you are not a born again Christian, then you need to start there Pray to God and ask Him to forgive you of all your sins To wash and cleanse you and make you right with Him If you ask "what is sin" ??? Sin is anything that you have done wrong according to the Bible and God standard Once you have prayed to God and asked forgiveness of your sins That starts a whole new life for you If you read this far and want to know more, please feel free to contact me Steve

[@friedfish4415]

We will pray for you

[@maggiecraigcatholicspeaker]

“Not bound by urge but invited by love.” Oh man. This hits home. Thank you Christopher!

[@estebanbaezs]

That only works for people who don't have an urge and just get married because they want to.. Not because they have struggles with sexual desire..

[@JayRedding12_12]

I've always been saying this. Coming from a former practicing Alcoholic, the way people talk about sex sounded like Addiction.

[@alejandrasuarez1202]

"Love can't wait to give. Lust can't wait to get." - Jason Evert Thank you so much Christopher for explaining this amazing mystery to us and expand our knowledge in God 🥰

[@craighenry9512]

Man is that one incredible quote.

[@Grokford]

False dichotomy

[@alexanderv7702]

A pure sound bite!

[@powerjolt7215]

That quote is beautiful. Remarkable!

[@Grokford]

@@powerjolt7215 The quote is a misrepresentation of the issue.

[@lisabinkley592]

I just keep searching for a single man that’s NOT MARRIED, to speak on this topic! So far everyone I’ve found that does, is married. I too, could speak easily on resisting if I were indulging in the benefits of marriage

[@kelkabot]

Right??!!

[@shadiafadulzarur3931]

Even within a marriage there are rules of chastity, so it doesn’t mean that these men are indulging. Also if you speak other languages you might find what you’re looking for, I know several LATAM Catholics who speak about TOB and are single.

[@CowboyQuan]

After a year u don't think the same way anymore . u hope it still works down there , u still have the same thoughts but they hit different, when ur alone doing nothing those feelings down there do kinda return but it's not that feeling like u have to do it . ur free from that feeling like u must do it now. that's probably what self control is lol. I've read the Bible and can't find it saying anything on masterbating being a sin .

[@mfawls9624]

Well, I'm a married man and on my birthday this January it will be ten years since I have been indulged by my wife. So marriage ain't the answer you think it is. At least not for many men, and from comments on KZbin for a decent number of women. Ten years of an 18 year marriage. No reason given and at year 5 found out she was in month 4 of an affair. I remain married, I struggle to love her every day...I can succeed in that only as far as loving her as a child of God. Not as a beloved wife.

[@musclehamster7]

WOW. Absolutely incredible.. I prayed and I was lead to this video. Today, I was also lead to Psalm 55:22 "Cast your burdens upon the Lord and He will sustain you." I'm a single male, 25 yrs old and I live alone with my cat Meeka. I have a deep passion and love for the Lord and I am trying to continue in spiritual disciplines. I've been dealing with the issue of masturbation and pornography for the past few years and it stings every time I stumble and fall back into it and I feel so weak and weary from it. My spirit wants it to end and the Holy Spirit that lives within me and around me convicts me, but THIS is what I needed to hear. Instead of giving into my flesh and sinful nature, the sexual urges and sexual needs NEED to be reoriented and redirected to inviting God {through prayer} to bring HIS love into this and allow Him to take control and CONTINUE to renew my mind. Praise The Most High!!! The Lord uses you, Chris. Please keep this up in doing the Father's will.

[@loglounge.de.podcast]

Remove the word "issue" with "opportunity" 😂😂😂😂😂 For real when you m then youre brain is trying to detraumatise you and its only a problem when you keep trying with the people and systems that then try to traumatise you again. They dont wanna hear that they are the trauma so they blame sexuality. Youre brain is programmed to be sexual. Youre literally saying god was doing wrong with building youre brain. Youre literally saying god is wrong. His evolution is wrong. Thats anti

[@dan69052]

knowledge If you are gay or transgender and know someone who is, this is important information! Sexual orientation is determined in the womb during fetus development. Various hormones are introduced at specific times to accomplish this. The fetus plays no part in this process. A person is born with predetermined physical, biological & psychologic features. It is, therefore, not a choice & consequently not a sin & not immoral. It is a natural path of our evolution & found commonplace in nature. Medical research in this area clearly explains this process. Those who believe it is an abomination do so based not on facts but on religious authority. It is their right to believe this and I understand them. It must be made clear however, it is based on religion not science. If you are truly interested in the truth based on knowledge, the book Gay, Straight & the Reason Why by Dr. Simon Levay explains this with numerous research articles. If you want to understand the truth & have respect for others & yourself, this book will help. It also has, unlike the bible written over 2000 years ago by men that had no understanding of science, an extensive bibliography. I strongly recommend the book. If you chose to respond to me, please read this book &/or the numerous articles referred to in the reference section before hand. The public must be exposed to facts & knowledge. It is an obligation for those who know the truth & must defend it. Don’t let the religious pull you down to their level of ignorance. Peace

[@IAMness222]

You can try letting go method, or by use mind over matter technic, for example if your addicted to cola or anything, whenever you see it or think about it, you tell yourself I don’t do that anymore! But the issue is resistance you shouldn’t resist but love and acceptance, self love is important, you keep reframing your thoughts bse there’s nothing your dealing with except your thoughts! If you change your thoughts about anything you will change the outcome!

[@Plans4YouJer2911]

Musclehamster You are on the right track Continue to move forward and commit to God Holy Spirit lives within you Paul encourages us to renew our minds which should lead to renew our lives Satan wants to beat you down with failure Failure that you did it again Commit to God Cast out thoughts and desires that are ungodly and not spiritual If they don't leave, keep praying or speaking out loud for them to leave Bible says resist the devil and he will leave Problem is he will come back unexpectedly Always keep that in the back of your mind I have not arrived yet But much further along than even a year ago Blessings to you in your journey my friend

[@S.M.Jean-Mahmoud_Ier]

Be aware, brother in Chist : I've been in such a situation too, yet the devil know how to tempt even the most solid in the Spirit, and eventually make them fall. If you have sexual urges, MARRY. Do not stay alone for too long, it's a trap to take you down under and eventually you will relapse again.

[@MindandQiR1]

I'm not even Christian and I'm so touched by this video.

[@Jesusisallandiamnothing]

Maybe you should become one if you feel a calling from this. Welcome to the family, God Bless you.

[@danielfeliciano9840]

Yeah, honestly, you can give it try❤

[@MeisterEck]

thank you for your comment, that's quite astounding! you know... there are from the beginning children of god and not his children. you gotta find out which one you are

[@ashleyspurling5701]

​@memyselfiallthings maybe you shouldn't force your beliefs on others

[@Julianrocker200]

@@ashleyspurling5701 that’s not forcing

[@avb20540]

I've experienced this freedom after a long time of being enslaved. It is incredible. No need to stay up late at night and try to get something. I can just save my energy and sleep early and have a good day the next day.

[@BornAgainBride]

Not sure if you ever read the Bible. But you might try reading, rereading, and studying it. It has lots of answers for us. For example, fear of God can be quite helpful. The fear of God is the beginning of wisdom. Proverbs 9:10. Bible says that if we have lustful thoughts, it is akin to "adultery". Matt. 5:28. Christ said it. He also said that adulterers/promiscuous folks will be in the lake of fire. Rev. 21:8. Apostle Paul says that folks involved in fornication and adultery will not inherit the Kingdom. Galatians 5:19-21; 1 Corinthians 6:9-10. And yes, this includes church folks. See Matthew 7:13-27. "Many are called, few are chosen". Matthew 20:16. BUT... the GREAT NEWS is that IF we know the Word of God, and continue in it, and believe it, we will realize that Jesus SAID HE came to save us OUT of slavery to sin. Read John 8:31-36 and Romans chapter 6 sometime. It's all in there. So, we are NOT slaves to sin anymore. So we CAN conquer lusts etc... And if we don't, we simply don't care enough to overcome all this, and probably don't really know or care about God all that much. Thus, we will not be in the Kingdom of God. Jesus said several times to the 7 churches of Revelation chapters 2 and 3, that they all need to overcome sin. Jesus' prescription for overcoming sin is in Matthew 16:24-27: He said we have to DENY SELF, pick up our cross (i.e., die to self, die to sin, die to satan), and follow Him. He said we have to "lose OUR lives" for Him, and also to "forsake all that we have" for Him to be His. See Luke 14:26-33 and Mark 10>28-30. So this walk is not a cakewalk. Jesus describes it as a "cross", and Paul said it will involve "tribulation" and trials. See Acts 14:22, 2 Tim. 1:8. Jesus said that those who love Him keep His commandments. The New Testament is reportedly loaded with about 1050 "commandments", so we had better get busy and find out what they are. And always remember, we have the power to overcome sin/lust/whatever within us, if we are His. Christ sends His Holy Spirit to us to help us and empower us. Hence, sin does NOT have any power over us anymore. See John 14:14-21, 17:17, and Romans 6:14. See also John 6:63. Please at least consider getting into your Bible.

[@arbretree5463]

True!

[@andrewjjahn]

“You’re not an animal” that got me.

Animalia - Chordata - Mammalia - Primates - Haplorhini - Simiiformes - Hominidae - Homininae - Hominini - Homo - Homo Sapiens.

[@bruceburkhart7813]

@stephen hancock Believe it or not, you're better than that

[@Tyler_W]

@stephen hancock i think a better way to put it is that man is not merely an animal. Our animal biology isn't the sum total of what makes us who we are. We're one of them, but not just like them. We're beyond the mere animal of our nature.

[@donnalambs9578]

Then why do I live in a barn?

[@bittersweet7014]

5:24 "Sexual freedom is liberation from the compulsion to indulge." Incredible take! I'd never heard anyone explain this in such a way. I have always known this, but seeing it put into words is amazing. Living in this lust-filled narcissistic society, it's such a refreshing take to hear.

[@michaelodonnell9589]

“Whenever I could get my girlfriend to cooperate.” Great line and so accurate in revealing a lot of men’s experiences.

[@eoinMB3949]

I had almost the exact same experience. Sex became my master and I was its slave. Only by coming to know God was I able to see the truth about sexuality. The world says we're free to do whatever we want and it's all good, but that's a lie, its not all good. The consequences of sexual sin are devastating. When I saw the truth or to be more accurate, when the holy spirit showed me the truth, I could see that so long as I was in bondage to my sexual "needs" I could never love a woman properly. Because I'd always have a secret agenda, to use her for my own gratification. And I think this is why so many marriages fail, because each one is trying to get something from the other. Women use men aswell, not for sex though, but for attention and resources. Both men and women have been equally corrupted by sin. Women have to be careful that a man isnt just using her for his own gratification and men have to be careful that a woman isn't using him for attention and resources, she should love you the same if you're broke as if you were doing well.

[@stonemaze9925]

god does not exist

[@ButtsandFarts]

Amen 🙏

[@christianhenry4173]

Exactly. Sadly today this message is not preached in pull pits. Most preaching is only for marriages and families already established but little to no knowledge for singles. And the sad part is that churches are encouraging singleness too much 😢 somewhere along the line people need to connect to the holy spirit instead of purging their own flesh through rituals like Paul warned some of the churches in the new testament

[@ashleyspurling5701]

Funny...my experience is the exact opposite. Growing up in purity culture and abstinence til marriage beliefs left me feeling nothing but shame for my natural human longing. It left me depressed and lonely. Years later, I'm still dealing with physical mental and emotional effects on my health this way of thinking had over me.

[@pyercz5224]

golden wisdom

[@adamduarte895]

I needed this, I struggled (and still do to a lesser extent) with the exact situations you described, as a man. I may not be a Catholic (Baptist myself) but the Holy Spirit spoke to me through you. Thank you so much brother and pray our Lord continues to bless you with an even further reach as time progresses.

[@TheologyoftheBodyInstitute]

I'm so glad to hear it, brother. God bless!

[@karinacg8118]

Me too

[@AndersonOliveira-kh6kk]

are u brasilian?

[@adamduarte895]

@@AndersonOliveira-kh6kk no but I know my last is Portuguese

[@pintswithaquinas]

Love you, Christopher. Such great advice.

[@ge7454]

Christopher West's video appeared in my feed right after watching you and Cameron at Scott Hann's library 🤓 Would it be possible to have Christopher again in the new studio?

[@TheologyoftheBodyInstitute]

Back at you brother.

[@raphaelapologetics4499]

Wowy it's Matt Fradd!!

[@maryzupo7176]

@@TheologyoftheBodyInstitute I am thankful for your advice. I struggle greatly of late, I'm tired of waiting for the one. I'm beyond an old maid, in my mid 50s. Having had uterine cancer, and radiation treatments that caused narrowing of the vagina making it impossible for sexual intercourse. I've been with only one man, one time for all the wrong reasons. I understand God's will and not my own. I've lived a life serving others joyfully. It was difficult at times, and joyful, caring for my elderly parents full time 24/7 the last 7 yrs. I will be like Ruth, but I don't want to be Sarah's age of 90 when I find the man for me. It isn't the sex. It's about love, love between a man and a woman. Like you have with your wife. With love the rest will follow, what ever that will be for me. It just gets so hard at times. 😢. I pray everyday and to keep God first in my life. Thanks for listening.

[@abelovedchildofgod7383]

Then you are going to love Libido Dominandi: Sexual Liberation and Political Control by E. Michael Jones

[@carlinmccormick1105]

I have wanted to know this since puberty until today at 65 years old. Thanks for being brave enough to talk about sexual impulses within our Christian walk.

[@ez-g3090]

You probably can't even get pregnant anymore. Your sexual purpose is gone.

[@skle2300]

I have been struggling with my sexual indulgences for most of my life, which has been made so easily accessible with the internet. I met a woman that reminded me of how far I've run from my faith and encouraged to me to come back. She bought a copy of your book for me and I'm working my way through it. Some days are easier than others, but I struggle often with differentiating between what you describe as "suppression" in your book and how I can "embrace my sexual desires" as God intended them to be without straying towards lust. I pray on it quite a bit, but I find myself sliding back down every couple of days. I'm going to take away "If you cannot control your own sexual desires, you will inevitably seek to control others, to gratify them," because I know she deserves better as someone I would like to call my wife some day.

[@josephbrandenburg4373]

I think I often fall into the temptation to pretend that I'm not nearly as interested in sex as I actually am. I end up "repressing" it by telling myself I've "improved" or "matured"... but it's not an improvement to want it less or to enjoy it less. It's an improvement to be able to feel it more fully without being controlled by it!

[@smokingcrab2290]

Make sure you marry a woman who has the same level. Of sexual desires as you otherwise there will be serious issues.

[@melstarr1864]

@@smokingcrab2290But how will you know this before you are married?

[@jonathankoch2803]

Talk about it while you're courting.

[@JohnnyWalkerBlack142]

Brother I am in the same boat. I met an amazing godly woman. She is everything I prayed for, but I am worried my lust might ruin it. I just put my faith in God that he will take this animalistic desire of mine and replace it with a spirit of discipline and love. I want to save myself for marriage. But it is very hard for me. I just trust in God.

[@br1ghtraven578]

Funny enough, I'm an atheist who made it my new year's resolution to kick the habit of indulging in pornography. And this video happens across my feed. Great upload, Mr. West. Cheers🍻

[@TheologyoftheBodyInstitute]

Good on you, my friend. Freedom is worth it

[@eoinMB3949]

Bro you're on the right path, I've been Freed from porn and if I can do it then you lost definitely can. My only advice to you is no matter how many times you fail and fall off the wagon, dont give up, dont make a compromise with porn. Get back up and go again even if you fall 10000 times, get up 10001 times.

[@ynzmadeleine]

Synchronicity... ❤

[@stephenking4170]

your God given conscience is at work. We are all made in the image of God. With a conscience, the power of abstract thought, great (compared to animals, not God) level of creativity. Think Paganini Violin concerto, mathematical equations to explore physics etc.

[@BoazsCrown222]

Look up the Novena Prayer called The Efficacious Novena to The Sacred Heart of Jesus ❤️‍🔥 He will heal you 🙏🏻❤️‍🔥

[@lilibertnyasunu3564]

Thank God this is being articulated by a MAN. Normally they protect each other when it comes to this "animalistic need". How refreshing. Thank you St Joseph. Somehow I knew something miraculous will happen in this Consecration of The Year of St Joseph. Thank you again St Joseph. ST JOSEPH pray for us.

[@KB-eb1lc]

"If you can't control yourself, you'll try to manipulate the people around you to indulge your own desires" (I paraphrased. This was my ex husband, 110%, whether it was about sex, alcohol, or drugs. He makes so much more sensenow, I wish I'd heard this 5 years ago.

[@myafrb4196]

Don’t go back though, take it to God

[@Notme811_you]

let god handle him. He had a responsibility to fix that and he failed to do so.

[@riverasamuel911]

“If you cannot control your own sexual desires, you will inevitably seek to control others, to gratify them.” Jesus, that's exactly what I have done in the past. I needed to hear this

[@Zuzezno]

I'm not a catholic, and let me tell you that from my perspective as a Christian, I loved your advice and how candid you got. God bless you.

[@steven3837]

Catholicism is a denomination of Christianity friend.

[@Zuzezno]

​@@steven3837I don't worship the Eucharist, nor I pray to dead people. The only object I deem holy is the Bible, but not the book itself, but what's written in it. I bow to no man or woman (except that one time I went to Korea, but that wasn't a religious thing). Nor I worship anyone or anything that isn't the Father, the Son or the Holy Spirit. I only get to God through Jesus, and Jesus alone. I don't think we believe the same stuff.

[@filippiat9151]

@@Zuzezno Cathlolics also believe that Jesus is the only way to salvation “I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me” (John 14:6). But since you're a christian, you probably pray for other people and sometimes ask someone to pray for you. Or at least you do not see a problem with that. Well, this is exactly what catholics do when they "pray" to saints or Mary. We don't ask them for strength, blessings etc. we ask them to pray to God for us, that's it.

[@Zuzezno]

@@filippiat9151Jesus said that he is the only way, but not just for salvation. For everything. Furthermore, we are prohibited to talk to dead people, as seen in Saul's story. Samuel was a great man of God, but it was nonetheless forbidden to try to contact him after death.

[@steven3837]

@@jojotoosmooth8913 I don't deny they're different, every denomination is

[@samvimes9510]

One thing that helped me a lot is to just distract myself. If you feel the urge to look at pornography, do something else. Video games, photography, gardening, exercising, etc. Whatever it is just needs to be engrossing enough to pull your focus away from your sexual urges. Of course, that method probably works better if you're single. It's probably harder if you're dating someone, but I don't really have any advice for that sorta thing. It's been like a decade since I've been with anyone.

[@reubenkriegel7639]

This was a problem I had in my marriage, too. I have finally learned how to surrender it to God now, and I'm finally free in Christ!

[@solstice1681]

Thank you so much for this video, God brought me here. I'm a married woman with great "needs" that go completely unmet and ignored by my husband, I honestly don't know why, after four children my weight 8s the same as it was in college, I work out, I keep myself attractive, enough! This video makes me see that I've been making this all about me! I gave up on going to my husband, rejection hurts after all, so I started taking matters into my own hands, I take cold showers every day but when the need strikes nothing seems to help, this video sheds light, I will pray, I will surrender my needs to God, I will stop thinking of myself, me, me, me. THANK YOU.

[@leekflower1]

You are on the right track. In addition, have you talked to him about seeing a doctor? There's probably something health wise that should be looked at if his desire is that low. (I personally prefer naturopaths or clinical nutritionist) While you should seek to conquer selfishness, God also intended sex to be shared in marriage as a good thing. And if that's not happening then he has an obligation to see a doctor as well. In the mean time do all you can to draw close to Jesus and Mary, since we know that no matter the deficiency in a relationship we must take our needs to our Lord, no matter what they are.

[@krissyhall2838]

He might have a spirit spouse.

[@sitka49]

@@leekflower1 Maybe he's gay ? it wouldn't be the first time some one got married that was gay thinking they might cure them or diverge the fact they are gay by getting married ?

[@Plans4YouJer2911]

Thank You for Your honesty Glad You are faithful and taking care of yourself as that is your only honest option Sorry he is ignoring you Yes, as the others shared ... maybe he needs medical check up Blessings to You on Your journey

[@Brobiwan-Shinobi]

If he's gay, he has given himself to that lifestyle. No one is born gay, just people give themselves to gross sexual practices.

[@oliverwilson5957]

I recently had a sexual awakening of my own I also felt the compulsion to please myself. But every time I did, the desire to just went away. I only kept releasing my urges just to relieve built up stress and my climaxes felt less impactful It wasn't until I realized that I wasn't in tune with the emotional aspect and was only relying on primal urges. When you have sex with someone, they aren't just an object to release your desires upon. I realized that they feel just as you do, so if you ignore their wellbeing and feelings it numbs the connection you normally would feel together. Like a vampire draining energy from another person instead of creating energy and sharing it together After realizing that, I felt the desire to honor my partner and their body just as I would expect them to do the same for me Changed my whole outlook on intimacy and sex overall

[@dustinryan9671]

Wait so your still having sex and not married and when you say partner are you indicating your a homosexual?

[@danilaroche1156]

Do u think it's sin to masturbate, say once or twice a month? I find praying about this, the strong urge doesn't always leave. Any thoughts?

[@zion367]

Well explained. Now I do wonder... I am 37 yrs od and have not have a partner or sex since 2019 and one 5 min slip up in 2020 where I stoppen mid act. However, I do have a need for physical intimacy and it does not feel aligned to condem myself for the need to help myself every now and then. Would it mean that it is sinful to love and pleasure my own body? Why would that be wrong? (Unless it becomes an obsession ofcourse)

[@larahamilton2273]

Great message! So powerful - if you cannot control your sexual desires, and you will control others around you to fulfill them. This is part of the reason why I don’t want to be in a relationship with a man. I’m so exhausted around being hounded for sex! Honestly, I believe that demonic influence and something close to possession can often be the problem even for “Christians”. I recently came back to Christ and went through several deliverances. I’m single, and loving it and not dominated by my desires 🕊️✝️ Don’t discount the need for spiritual warfare!!

[@danilaroche1156]

I'm abstinent too. I've been delivered from many things. I still don't think if a person masturbates on OCCASION. I don't think that's sin. Any thoughts?

[@Keepsearchinwontfindnothin]

⁠​⁠​⁠@@danilaroche1156it still is even if it isn’t all the time it still is Self control is one of the fruits of The Holy Spirit friend :) “not gratify the desires of the flesh. For the flesh desires what is contrary to the Spirit, and the Spirit what is contrary to the flesh. They are in conflict with each other, so that you are not to do whatever you want” (Galatians 5:16-17).

[@BornAgainBride]

Not sure if you ever read the Bible. But you might try reading, rereading, and studying it. It has lots of answers for us. For example, fear of God can be quite helpful. The fear of God is the beginning of wisdom. Proverbs 9:10. Bible says that if we have lustful thoughts, it is akin to "adultery". Matt. 5:28. Christ said it. He also said that adulterers/promiscuous folks will be in the lake of fire. Rev. 21:8. Apostle Paul says that folks involved in fornication and adultery will not inherit the Kingdom. Galatians 5:19-21; 1 Corinthians 6:9-10. And yes, this includes church folks. See Matthew 7:13-27. "Many are called, few are chosen". Matthew 20:16. BUT... the GREAT NEWS is that IF we know the Word of God, and continue in it, and believe it, we will realize that Jesus SAID HE came to save us OUT of slavery to sin. Read John 8:31-36 and Romans chapter 6 sometime. It's all in there. So, we are NOT slaves to sin anymore. So we CAN conquer lusts etc... And if we don't, we simply don't care enough to overcome all this, and probably don't really know or care about God all that much. Thus, we will not be in the Kingdom of God. Jesus said several times to the 7 churches of Revelation chapters 2 and 3, that they all need to overcome sin. Jesus' prescription for overcoming sin is in Matthew 16:24-27: He said we have to DENY SELF, pick up our cross (i.e., die to self, die to sin, die to satan), and follow Him. He said we have to "lose OUR lives" for Him, and also to "forsake all that we have" for Him to be His. See Luke 14:26-33 and Mark 10>28-30. So this walk is not a cakewalk. Jesus describes it as a "cross", and Paul said it will involve "tribulation" and trials. See Acts 14:22, 2 Tim. 1:8. Jesus said that those who love Him keep His commandments. The New Testament is reportedly loaded with about 1050 "commandments", so we had better get busy and find out what they are. And always remember, we have the power to overcome sin/lust/whatever within us, if we are His. Christ sends His Holy Spirit to us to help us and empower us. Hence, sin does NOT have any power over us anymore. See John 14:14-21, 17:17, and Romans 6:14. See also John 6:63. Please at least consider getting into your Bible.

[@TexasAmericaUSA]

And the Bible specifically says "... not by power, not by might, but by God's Spirit. We speak to the mountain and shout GRACE! GRACE! " So don't try in your own will power-- you'll fail. Instead, humble yourself to God in your weakness and He'll make a way through. I pray His best for everyone!! 🙏

[@SunnyWithNoChanceOfRain]

The best comment 👏💯

[@lauratorres6039]

Thank you for clarifying what I had suspected for so long. Very sound advice. Sex is not gratifying without love and understanding with God at the center of the relationship.

[@tinalettieri]

That was beautiful. You had me in tears. I'm widowed, all alone and not young but I am hoping the right man is still out there. I need someone to love.

[@manusouth8352]

❤

[@MrJaundice18]

This is so true... "They promise freedom when they themselves are slaves of corruption" - II Peter 2:19

[@paulduprez7217]

You just saved me by making me change my mindset… thank you so much! “You don’t have sexual desires for yourself but for loving the one” 🤯 Mind changing

[@TheologyoftheBodyInstitute]

That's awesome @paulduprez7217 ! Keep going deeper into the Theology of the Body. It will give you answers to the deepest questions of the human heart. kzbin.info/www/bejne/aWjHknt4os55g5Y

[@ChrisGBaker]

Sir, you are a brave man. Thank you for sharing these gifts of logic and compassion.

[@JenniferWilliams-jy7rz]

St Francis of Assisi would roll in the snow, true story.

[@toompyfloyd4074]

St Benedict hopped nude into a thorn bush!

[@enriquetaborda8521]

St. Bernard would dive into a freezing lake

[@mikedevita5558]

Well. That's out.

[@cryosteam3944]

@@mikedevita5558 🤣🤣🤣

[@Ihathnotscene]

Angels tied a cord tightly about St. Aquinas' waist.

[@zlatkoiliev8927]

I personally think that my wife is really attractive and when I am around her I have desires for her! But I always respect when she is not in a mood. Does not feel ok, but I know some times it happens and I try to understand her. But also showing that you have desire to your wife should not be considered as a bad thing.

[@narsil9100]

Thank you Christopher! I have been a Christian for almost 20 years and, as far as I am concerned, been devout yet the mystery of sexuality and th reason why we should refrain from it has always eluded me- until Christopher break it down so succinctly and spelled it out for me: any kind of presupposed approach to sex is biased ,judgemental, prejudiced and therefore detrimental to both body and mind. Don't let the burning in your loins deceive you. At the end of the day, what we really need is love❤. 9:43

[@MA-mh1vs]

When I was called to celibacy I prayed for deliverance from sexual desire so I would not be tempted. The Holy Spirit instructed me on what I had to do to be freed from that nature. It was a six month process of rebuking every thought or impulse and immediately turning to God. The final phase was the hardest, there was something very primal that rose up in me, enraged and this awareness that if I just yielded the rage would go away. I resisted it for weeks and then one morning I woke and it was gone and I was free from such desires. God is so faithful!

[@cryosteam3944]

well damn my mind has been blown and I think I have unlocked a new level of necessary comprehension of this particular topic... we are not animals!! amen!!

[@Digganob590]

I have recently finished a 60 hour fast, broken by communion, which has shed much light on my lusts. I had found, then, that fasting all but eliminated the power of sexual temptation. I was tempted many times in the same ways I was before, but each time, the temptations had no weight, no draw on my attention. But of course, fasting cannot be done at all times, and once I had a hearty meal, the temptations descended once more with renewed fury. I soon gave in, then. However, in my disappointment, and in my struggle against these temptations, I came across this video. I have listened to many instructions on how to deal with sexual temptation, and pornography especially. But this one struck a cord. For the past several hours, I have been left alone, no responsibilities or company, and so have been assailed by temptation constantly. And so I struggled. I would constantly consider the temptations, toy with them, admonish myself, pray for a moment, all while I was trying my best to distract myself with a personal project of mine. When I came across this video, I was just about on the verge of giving in. The excuses whispered to me were nearly deafening, for why tonight would not be a failure if I succumbed. But something you said clicked. What are my sexual desires for? I have seen one purpose tonight, as I was battling temptations. I was, in my struggle, working. Creating. Channeling my energy. The desire was put towards something, diverted, if only a little, from the dam of sin and damnation that was about to burst. And at the same time, I was strengthening my will, painfully aware of every crack The Enemy was grasping and prying at. And when I inevitably am tempted again, I will remember what I have learned, and put it to use once again. And when I inevitably fail, in big ways and small, I will learn yet more. The road to salvation is a hard one, fraught with miseries and distractions, the road agents of the Devil, ready to take advantage of the suffering traveler. But if I don't give them my soul, no matter how they may beat me down, and weary me to collapse, the Lord will pick me up once again, to press forward, and continue the pilgrimage. I will be doubtless tempted again, very soon. Pray for me, please. I will certainly need it. A revelation does not save a man, no matter how profound, not alone, and not immediately. But I am better equipped, now. The gate is stronger, the tower taller. The armor of God is reforged, and replaced upon me. I have been granted a hopeful repast. But now, I must go to face my enemy, once again.

[@44EricRH44]

This is so important. In general, what humanity without God pushes for looks like freedom: Doing what you want. If you give in to your impulses and fleshly desires, you become enslaved to them. Addictions, dependency, narcissism, etc. Only God brings true freedom. People who don't know Him and His word think the Bible is restrictive, when all it's doing is instructing us how to live a holy, healthy, FREE life. It keeps us from the ways of the world, which bring woe and ultimately, death. Bless you reading this.

[@GiannaFerrone]

it was no accident i've stumbled over this video. Gods mysterious ways of working. Anyhow, perfect timing & I know God is using your experience and words!!!! seriously so profound and so needed for my spirit to hear to truly walk in freedom !!!

[@TheologyoftheBodyInstitute]

We're so glad it blessed you! Please pray for us.

[@sergesavard636]

@@TheologyoftheBodyInstitute Whats your advice for man stuck in a sexless and loveless marriage.. and dont tell me to pray on it cuz that aint working sport.

[@Openreality]

Very few people are willing to talk about this very important matter. Not even pastors are willing to explain this and how this is being corrupted. Thanks for this i needed to hear it. Thanks for listening to God.

[@a.p5079]

Also, great and accurate message. It is so true how lack of sacredness in sexual acts leads to an emptiness in relationships and one’s self respect/dignity.

[@stonemaze9925]

Crap

[@ashleyspurling5701]

Funny being in purity culture and Christianity's abstinence til marriage beliefs are what left me with no self-respect or dignity.

[@IramCoercere]

@@ashleyspurling5701 Abstinence is not your problem and never was. You have probably different problems and abstinence was not the trigger for this

[@ashleyspurling5701]

@No mercy yes. It was. The fact that you can't comprehend that just shows that your username is accurate. And it also shows how brainwashed you are and never truly met anyone who doesn't conform with your harmful backwards ideas. Abstaining from sex for so long caused vaginismus and to this day I still can't physically have sex long after marriage.

[@spaceowl5957]

I am atheist and my friend always calls me a “wannabe slut” because I would probably be quite promiscuous if it wasn’t for me having severe social and emotional issues from a shitty childhood. I only had real sex for the first time recently with said friend. And it’s nice and fun and pretty intimate, too. If it’s really good it can definitely make me a little bit happier for a few days. If it’s bad it can also make me unhappier for a few days. But I also become happier for a few days if I masturbate and it’s really good. If I don’t have sex or masturbate I don’t become depressed either, I just get more horny. Sometimes you can redirect the energy of horniness into work. And sometimes the idea of having sex can be very motivating and help you work or take care of yourself and try harder. It can also bond two ppl together because it’s quite intimate and vulnerable and you share good feelings. And it can also make your mind slightly obsessed with a person in a sexual way if you had rlly hot sex. So sex is very useful and powerful and has many different powerful effects on you which can be very positive but can also be negative under the wrong circumstances. But for me it’s really not a “need”. I don’t become sad if I don’t have sex at all. I crave sex. But in the same way I crave a bag of chips. This bag of chips isn’t inherently meaningful to me. It’s not going to bring me fulfillment. But I just really *crave* it right now. But that doesn’t mean it’s a biological *need* to eat the bag of chips. In the same way sex isn’t really a need for me. However what are real needs are intimacy, affection, companionship the care of another human and so on. Without those things our spirit withers away and we become depressed. Those things are meaningful. At least to me. The bag of chips isn’t meaningful by itself but if you share it with a friend and afterwards you cuddle it might be. But maybe I his also differs from person to person or between genders. I’m a man and I crave sex but I don’t need it. It’s not *important* to me or my life. But I’ve heard from several women that they do think it’s important and meaningful in their lives. I also think many people in the modern world are starved for intimacy and affection and the only way they can get it is by entering into a sexual relationship with someone. Maybe that’s why people value it so much. But for me it’s really not easy hat important. But my body is programmed to be horny and so I’m trying to make the best of it and use it to further my happiness.

[@Cpripri85]

NEEDED THIS. Thank you Brother. 38 and single, no kids......with the desire to GIVE LOVE. Needed this. Deo Gracias ❤️‍🔥

[@TheologyoftheBodyInstitute]

Glory to God! We're so glad it blessed you. Please pray for us.

[@MichaelJohnson-oj4oj]

I think you just saved my life. Jesus did of course, but as a young man, this area of life and its relationship with our faith in Christ has been horrifically missing. I don't understand pre-martial sex and my desires, Scripture doesn't really give a great insight into daily conduct or management other than absolutes with sexuality completely. In other words, everyone can claim Christ and repeat Scripture front to back, but who's out there no having sex outside of marriage? That's the biggest core issue that I've seen and experienced, and without any discussion thereof, has broken me tremendously. However, your video has been the first video, if ever, that has discussed this and helped me. I feel it. Even if its a small help, it's what I needed. Thank you in Christ beyond words. YHWH be with you all

[@pedroviana6150]

Your advice is so necessary. We're experiencing an 'animalization' tremendously, especially in the midst of youth. It's really important to reset ourselves to allow God to teach us how to be better men and women, freely experiencing real love. I'm so glad I discovered your channel. I've been hooked since the first video. Greetings from Brazil.

[@DrBahiruLegesse-SCIsurvivor]

Sexual freedom is liberation from compulsion to indulge.....well said.

[@tinahatmi5773]

Im struggling with sexual sin and as you said"sexual needs" and its so hard... Please pray for me 🙏🏻

[@Plans4YouJer2911]

Tina Your on the right track Acknowledge your struggles and needs Honest true born again Christian will reach out and pray with and for you Both men and women have been there or are going through the same problem as you I have not arrived yet However am further along even a year later Blessings to You my friend ❤️

[@stephanvillavicencio5679]

me too. ill pray 🙏 for you. please pray 🙏 for me

[@tinahatmi5773]

@@stephanvillavicencio5679 thank you my friend 🙏🏻God bless you 🙌🏻 And i prayed for you 🤍

[@pnovotar]

Thank you for addressing such a sensitive and tender subject with truth and compassion! As a widow, I appreciate that someone has taken the time and love to speak openly, compassionately and truthfully. May God bless you, my brother.

[@jasonbeckstrand5553]

"If you cannot control your own sexual desires, you will inevitably seek to control others to gratify them." WOW

[@dernevalsantos3619]

This is bullshit.

[@greatoutdoors6318]

I agree with this guy. I’ve found so much freedom in having kids, because I’ve started to see that sex is only the first step in a journey of love. It starts as a couple and gives birth to a new life.

[@ErikPehrsson]

One of the major things I’ve learned to do is to put on the armor of God (found in Ephesians 6). My spiritual life changed after that.

[@averylayne558]

My goodness, you hit the nail on the head. I was having flashbacks to my previous relationship as I watched this. I couldn’t help but smile oddly enough as I said “yep, I was the same way!” Not that me being that way was good, but what’s good is that God showed me who I was and freed me from it. That’s the good part. For anyone watching, listening, etc., my hope is that you grow more to realize that the freedom Christ brings us is exactly as outlined in the video: “freedom FROM”, not “freedom TO”. And if you feel like you don’t have that freedom, then pray and don’t stop. If you desire it, God CAN and WILL bring it.

[@patrickkozak9490]

You said it right, If we cannot control our own "needs" and desires, we will seek to control others to gratify them. This is true in all areas of life . Now the world pushes aetheism and will to power more and more, the opposite of love. So often especially in regards to advice in romantic relationships , it is popular now to focus on what you are getting from the other person. It is often recommended that of someone doesn't "SERVE" you, walk away from them, married or not.

[@thoranpernia]

I came across your channel a couple weeks ago. This video showed up in my feed ... and what good timing. Thank you Lord for directing me here to hear this - this is exactly what has and is happenìng to me. I see it clearly now. What really hit home for me was where you said in that moment of urge, instead of giving into it, take it to our Lord and pray. I believe this is what our Lord is directing me to do. ... thank you & God bless you!

[@robert1293]

Several years ago I read Pope John Paul’s Theology of the Body, or summarized parts in a short book and ten CDs. It impressed me as the first Christian leader who seemed to have an honest and accurate grasp on Christian sexuality, especially as it pertains to young people. Too many Christian leaders like Focus on the Family and Pastor James Dobson get lost in I think a misinterpretation on this subject by peddling an “old-person” philosophy that many ignore as seemingly out of touch. Pope John Paul did not lose this audience. Aged Pope John Paul (I am not a Catholic) captured the essence of sexuality in the Lord’s name for ordinary people, the young included, a vision to be understood and practiced. You captured an expression of those writings in your podcast. God keeps leading me to these sources in my quest for answers. I am trying to take Matthew 5:27 and the first half of Song of Solomon before the wedding, and understand the male desire as God would see it. Christian leaders constantly point to Matt 5:27 and ignoring the real life fact than men see women with adoration and I believe that vision can be explained Scripturally. There must be something short of lust in beauty. I do not understand, but one can see that desire in the Old Testament in the numbers of concubines and wives held by many Godly and ungodly men alike. The book by Joshua Harris, Sex is not the problem, Lust Is may offer some answers. I believe I am open-minded and willing to think about your perspective of liberation for the compulsion to indulge. Did God intend us to hide from desire, or use it responsibility to explain human feelings. God gave us desire, and we believe his creation is perfect, so would we want to run from desire altogether? Thank you.

[@get_spanked240]

In my personal journey battling with sexual sin/desires, putting Christ first has been a hill of disbelief i needed to overcome. I use to hear “God is the answer to your lust” and i would deep down think “well yes, but i need a more practical solution.” The truth is is that Jesus wasnt front and center in my life apart from my mouth. I can say now that the most important motivator that i have gained in the last few years is wanting to honor Christ. In previous battles, while there was conviction, i didnt love Christ enough to obey Him. Now when i am tempted, there is a much greater desire to obey and to honor Him. Doesnt mean i dont give in, but the battle has changed. I can tell you, when you are in the moment of giving in/about to and you think in your mind thoughts like “am i really gonna do this to Christ?” and flee sin, Its really empowering after so many years of giving in. Im not against practical plans/motivators as those are needed too, but if you arent a matured Christian who doesnt read even monthly consistently, how can you expect to win the battle?

[@nathanniyazov4526]

As a Jew by faith, this is still enlightening. Thank you for the knowledge you share

[@jakealbohn6226]

We aren't so different. Almost ironically the Jews are God's chosen people and thus Jesus's chosen people. We worship the same God, but different aspects of the nature of that one God.

[@CatholicHusband]

All who die as Jews are damned. Please repent and convert to the Traditional Catholic Faith in order to save your soul. The Messiah has come, read Isaiah 53, you must accept Him now.

[@SheilaSchwartz-t6c]

​@@CatholicHusbandno true. They are not doomed. Happy and peace to Israel.

[@CatholicHusband]

@@SheilaSchwartz-t6c - all who do not gather with Christ are certainly doomed. The Truth has come into the world. You must accept Him, or you will perish just as all who did not enter the Ark of Noe perished.

[@a.p5079]

Not just a struggle for men! Thanks for the video.

[@mytruepower2]

"Freedom from Compulsion" is a good way to put it, because while self-control is not the only virtue that can be correctly described as a form of power, it certainly does yield new abilities and freedoms in a more direct way than most of the others. Nothing has benefited me so much as being able to look at someone beautiful (by my definition, at least,) and know that no matter what I feel as a result of that, I can handle it, and prevent myself from saying or doing something I'll later regret. It really is an incredible power to be able to master your own actions. Still, even after all the practice I've had in the virtue of self-control over the last 20 years, none of my feelings or impulses are any different now than they were in my teenage years, and I have absolutely no influence over them, apart from blocking them from reaching the "words" or "actions" phase. It's still a source of terrible agony for me, and I long for my Heavenly home, so I will finally have relief from this constant tension, which is always tearing me apart on the inside. I started to go gray at 32, and as people and relationships in my area of the world have grown worse and worse, I'm struck by both how hopeless it feels; knowing that I will never find love until Heaven welcomes me home, and yet, by the firm conviction that no choice could have been wiser or more beneficial for me personally. To sacrifice the power to make that choice for myself is something I don't want to do. But I don't want to live like this anymore either. The burden is too great, and I've born it for much too long. I want mercy. I want to go home.

[@zeromagnum2811]

The truth about Christ is that the same way he saves us is the same way he gives us freedom from bondages what ever that bondage might be. You will never overcome it by your own will power or effort. Pray to the lord and seek him for deliverance from it. Give him the burden because we can't. He Can. It may not happen over night. It could take some time, or it might happen quickly. But if you Seek the lord for that freedom from bondages in your life. The Lord will answer in his time and give it. But as long as we try to overcome in our own efforts we will always fall short or outright fail. Salvation and Sanctification are in Jesus and what he did on the cross.

[@mytruepower2]

@@zeromagnum2811 I think some people get this backwards, and assume that God doesn't help those who make an effort of their own. That's completely false. The very fact that we are *able* to make an effort of our own *shows* that God has helped us. I'm just sick of having to struggle so hard.

[@zeromagnum2811]

@@mytruepower2 What i meant was by our own effort we cannot overcome sin. That is why you struggle so hard as you are tying to overcome sin by your own will power. And at times there will be days we can but we will always fail in the end trying to do it by our own will power because nobody is strong enough to do it on their own. I know from experience and you do as well based on your own words of struggling so hard. Our freedom is in the Blood of the lamb. We can never overcome the world the flesh or the devil of our own efforts. All of that was defeated on the Cross. So it is through Christ and submitting our efforts and will to him that we are given the victory he won. That is for Salvation and victory over our bondages and struggles. Should we do good things that we can do and strive to be better. Yes. But we will never fully succeed on our own. It is through what Christ did on the Cross that delivers us. We cannot help God make us better. But it is human instinct to want to do something to get what we seek. Either trying to do it ourselves, or fighting ourselves to beat a sin in our lives. No man or woman is strong enough to overcome everything that weighs on us. If we have 8 sins and can overcome 6 of them by will power somehow. There will always be the other two we never stop on our own. The key is Faith in the lord and what he did for us. Keep your eyes on what he did and ask him to help you overcome and realize that no matter the failures you have God is there and will never leave you if you seek him for help. One of the Devils favorite things to do is make all of us beat ourselves up and put our struggles and failures on our mind to make us depressed or attempt to crush our faith if he can. The Devil will always highlight our failures. But Christ overcame our failures. And in him we are delivered. Remember that and look to him to help you overcome the things that trouble you. Let him handle it submit the struggle to him. And i know that isnt the easiest thing to do because again our first instinct is to fight our issues ourselves because we tell ourselves I will beat this. But the truth is we are all weak to the sin nature. its stronger than we are. But Christ defeated all things of the Devil and Sin. All the answers are found in what Christ did on the Cross.

[@mytruepower2]

@@zeromagnum2811 I suppose it doesn't hurt to be reminded of that. Eternal Life is a free gift from God. Our role is in accepting that gift through faith (read; faithfulness,) but it's certainly true that none of us can overcome evil completely. Everything I've been saying about virtue being power is about the end goal we have. Perfect happiness and fulfillment. Hints of this come to different people in different ways, but if there's one thing I've learned from movies and TV, it's that just watching someone else do everything is not enough to make a person happy, and if trusting God with my fate will make me happier, that's only because God's will and mine don't substantially conflict with regard to my end goals; my kind of happiness, by my own judgment. This is because God wants me to be happy. He wants that for everyone, but it can never happen here, because this world isn't meant for that. Jesus made his sacrifice on the Cross to save people, but to save them from what? It wasn't sadness, or pain, or death. Those things still exist. Jesus saved people from hopelessness and futility, by offering them a way to Salvation and eternal happiness. But that doesn't mean the road isn't full of thumb tacks and broken glass along the way, and it doesn't keep people from getting tired of the stress between their desperate longing for satisfaction and their need for eternity.

[@renesedonio3340]

​@@mytruepower2Suffering and pain are the kiss of Jesus. St. Mother Teresa

[@tobb2293]

My 4 year relationship ended for the same reason! Damm this video hit hard, felt the Holy Spirit with me all trough it! Amen 🙏

[@CD-ct6fc]

It is hard. My husband had sexual problems and it created a rift in the marriage, but we stuck it out. He passed away. Since his passing I have declined multiple offers, because I was not attracted to the men who liked me either physically or mentally/spiritually. I prefer to live alone and redirect my desires into volunteering or studying, but it’s still hard. I have not been with anyone in two years.

[@josephbrandenburg4373]

😢 sorry for your loss

[@brotherdamien1804]

Our world has been infected with the immorality of a Sexual Revolution that defines enslavement to sexual desires as freedom. This is one of those videos that if everyone on earth viewed, would go so far in reversing the damage. I can only imagine how many people, if they would heed your words (St. JPII's words), would actually fulfill their vocations to God rather than trade them for lives of sin. Great job. I mean to share this. Pax.

[@ashleyspurling5701]

You see it as enslavement to sexual desires while they look at you as enslavement to celibacy and anything anti-sex. Same opinion and beliefs, just on opposite sides.

[@brotherdamien1804]

@@ashleyspurling5701 I agree with you Ashley. They see me as not being free, but why? At the root of it all is the question of whether God exists or not. If He doesn't, then no one has an eternal soul that can be enslaved to sexual sin. But if God does exist then an eternal soul can be enslaved to sexual sin (according to Jesus, Scripture, and the teachings of the Catholic Church). True freedom (we are taught by the above) comes when one is free from sin. So, what do you think--does God exist or not?

[@ashleyspurling5701]

@Brother Damien I do. Just not the God in the Bible. A Bible that's been rewritten multiple times throughout history and has had stuff added and removed depending on the religion or historical time period. A book full of inaccuracies and contradictions, that to a normal logical person who has not been indoctrinated at a young age to blindly follow it, depicts a God who is cruel, selfish, sadistic, egotistical, misogynistic, and genocidal. And I'd rather not believe that about the Creator of the Universe. You speak of truth and God's will, but if we are being completely honest, you don't truly know whether it's "God's will" or not. You just want to believe it's true cause your religion tells you it is. Every religion tells its followers that they alone are following what God truly wants and that all others are lost.

[@brotherdamien1804]

@@ashleyspurling5701 Ashley, if you do believe in "a God," then you had to get info about this God from somewhere. Do you mind if I ask where you did?

[@ashleyspurling5701]

@Brother Damien I was raised (and basically forced) at a young age into Christianity by my family. Long story short, religion, along with abstinence/purity culture, left me empty depressed and damaged physically mentally and emotionally as an adult. Years later, I'm still trying to heal from the mental prison I was in that left me feeling worthless and alone. And like I said, there was no logical sense that I could see that God could be that cruel and sadistic as the Bible shows. The Bible, like all religious books, was not written by God but by men who claim its from God. And men are corrupt. History has shown time and time again that those in power can manipulate the masses by keeping them uneducated and living in fear that they will be punished by a vengeful authoritarianistic God.

[@anabelenwong5766]

Hi, my name is Belen Wong and I'm from Mexico, we love to watch your videos on KZbin and we would like to help to spread the message of the theology of the body to people who speaks Spanish because there's not a lot of information in Spanish regarding that and also we love the way you explain things. My husband and my sister could help adding subtitles to your videos in KZbin if you like the idea.

[@TheologyoftheBodyInstitute]

Thank you for the offer, Belen. My team and I will consider it!

[@emiblux98]

Hello Ana Belen! I would love to help! There is so much quality content in english that is not available in spanish! I reached some youtubers with the same offering but didnt hear back...

[@Aescobar87]

We have the same name

[@tonygville2969]

Our Lady of Good Success please pray for Us All 🙏

[@edybrown9402]

And who is this lady of good success? Again, who is she praying to?

[@tonygville2969]

@@edybrown9402 I would suggest if you are serious, look her up for yourself. I have found it is the only way you will learn. She is the Kings Holy Mother and We believe in Eternal Life.

[@ScientificLee]

Praise the Lord for giving men such wisdom.

[@chrisbarker601]

Thank you for your ministry! I struggled all of my life since 3 years old, feeling my situation with lust was unique... and your name is Christopher too 🤯 Lord God, I am an unworthy servant, Your Love, Your Patience, Your Timing do I absolutely recognize as unfathomable. You know me better than I know me, I trust in You when I exclaim: a perfect conspiracy of One in Three!!!

[@heinmolenaar6750]

Masturbation is not a sin. Enjoy it sweetie.

[@87PenguinsInBlack87]

Christopher, your videos and podcasts never cease to teach me something new. I am currently discerning a life of celibacy and this video has been very helpful. Thank you.

[@joeytavez7055]

I hope you become a celibate. It's worth it.

[@sormag]

Praise the Lord for this wonderful teaching!

[@teluvv66]

What a powerful word of truth! Excellent delivery! For thise burning with sexual desire, Gods answer is marriage 1 Corinthians 7:1-9. It is better to marry than to be tormented and aflame with ungratified sexual desire. I married in 40 days because of this. That was 10 years ago!

[@AdrianR.374]

Coming out of a relationship pretty much just as you described, I am finally achieving freedom as well. And I too shudder at the old way I used to think and act. I feel horrible about it too. But not being stuck in that pit anymore has given me such a light and free feeling. Keep fighting brothers and sisters, I have faith in all of you.

[@TheologyoftheBodyInstitute]

Amazing! Praise God for the gift of freedom!

[@AdrianR.374]

@@TheologyoftheBodyInstitute Amen!

[@Sldoficn]

Wow this is a great video even for married couples! ❤ God bless all men and women trying to do the right thing and get married with another Christian. Marriage is duty and raising a family, creating a loving bond together that reflects how Christ loves his bride the church. Thank you all brothers and sisters in faith, no greater love than a friend dying for another as Christ did! ❤

[@PsychoBible]

Someone's up'd his editing game!

[@itscardo4x173]

I think Jesus just used you to break this chain in my life. I feel like I just had a complete breakthrough

[@TheologyoftheBodyInstitute]

Glory to God. Keep fighting the good fight! Praying for you.

[@jesusisking1704]

I believe this video can also be applied to the sin of gluttony. Thank you, it was lit as well as the editing :)

[@giorgiosopko4626]

When you were explaining your life andwhat you were going through at the age of 23 to 24, it was like i was being shown my own life right now. Im currently 23 and im struggling so much with constant gratification of my sexual compulsions. It was like you were describing exactly what im going through right now, as if a warning for my path ahead, especially with my relationship, which we are celebrating our third anniversary in two days. I cant explain how remarkable this was to hear you explain what to do about my sexual desires, opening that area of my life to God. And that is exactly what Im struggling to do aswell, it feels emberassing and wrong to open that part of myself, but after hearing you explain that its good to do so, I realized that this fear i have is actually an attack by the enemy. Thank you so much for this video, you just opened a pathway to freedom for me!

[@adambentley8384]

Your testimony struck my deep in my heart because I went through the exact same situation in my early twenties and had never heard my feelings articulated so well. Thank God for leading me to this video. I long to love my wife one day with true sexual freedom as you described.

[@samlammers7602]

Glad to be a part of this youtube channel before it blows up. 😄

[@kevinmcbeuks]

“Sexual freedom is liberation from the compulsion to indulge.” - Love that quote!

[@paulvillarreal4855]

Wow! This is so beautiful and is so desperately needed in our society! Thank you!

[@moriahmorgan5983]

Thank you for the channel. The videos are very helpful. I know about myself, that when I hit very low points in my life that the temptation to impurity is extremely strong. Certain events can trigger this impulse, and then I’m reminded of past wounds and rejections that bring up painful memories and turning to impurity in the past had been an outlet for the pain. When I am in a better state, I am content on my walk with Our Lord as a single celibate woman, but in the low times when the sexual tension is strong, then I wonder if I should get married. Saint Ignatius says to not make major life choices in times of desolation. Granted you don’t get married overnight as there’s a process, but I know that having strong sexual urges doesn’t mean a call to marriage. However, in times of darkness and temptation nothing is really clear. As for me, I continue to be faithful to the Sacraments and remain open to what God’s Will is for my life. Praying for everyone who is struggling. Stay close to Jesus and ask Our Blessed Mother’s intercession.

[@TheologyoftheBodyInstitute]

Thank you for your honest and vulnerable comment! We're praying for you, sister!

[@gmatt3329]

"Addiction" is the right word, and I'm glad you used it to describe the problem. I find that reading the word of God (not just as a routine), or rather "immersing" myself in the Word keeps the "naturalistic presuppositions" away, so that even the urge ("impulse") does not arise.

[@catmations5631]

This is one of the most beautiful and truth packed commentaries on sexuality as God intended it that I have ever heard. Thank you so much! This is life-changing and truth to set free!

[@nsoreviews]

I needed to hear that today Christopher West, thank you very much.

[@maycamilleri8308]

These lessons are my saving grace.

[@Smoke---]

I don’t think it’s a coincidence that I stumbled across this today, the same day I halfway relapsed after weeks of progress, the longest streak in years. Thank you for this, genuinely

[@TheologyoftheBodyInstitute]

We're glad it blessed you!

[@josephjoestar953]

I'm not Christian, however it's admirable to be able to take control of your life. The thing about Christians because whether they're right or wrong, they almost always have the best approach to life. Have a good day, all of you.

[@TheologyoftheBodyInstitute]

Thank you for being open to the message regardless of your background! Praying for you @josephjoestar953

[@HUMAN-VERSION4]

I have a small penis.. my self embarrassment . Keeps me from engaging in sex what the hellmam i going to do with 4 inches 😢 the lords curse of a smallmpenis might just save me 😢😢

[@jgunde]

Amazing video! Great backdrop. Looks good with the white light in the front and the warm yellow in the background. Awesome editing! (Loved the little JPII translate graphic) And of course... terrific content!

[@BindingTheYoke]

How beautiful. I hope you reach many men with this message. 💯

[@ronnynijimbere1090]

and many women as well.....Especially the manipulation part.

[@BindingTheYoke]

@@ronnynijimbere1090 last time I checked God usually calls men to task first /:)

[@ronnynijimbere1090]

@@BindingTheYoke lol.... You got me there

[@LadyK007]

We ALL need this good news. Men AND women alike!!!!!!!!

[@jeffertron3973]

What a true and beautiful message about sexual liberation and pure love! Thank you for speaking from your past and your heart. Thank you for inspiring me to continue running the good race. Have a blessed day!

[@pnovotar]

Thank you for addressing a sensitive subject with truth. As a widow, your message is the first I have heard on the subject. May God bless you for sharing with love and truth!