What to Expect When Kids Leave Your Home

[@teresayates332]

Sawyer has gotten so big. He’s absolutely adorable.

[@itsalex8520]

Not to be dramatic but you could talk about literally anything for two hours and I’d still enjoy the video. Very interesting video yet again👍🏼

[@BeTheVillageCommunity]

That’s a huge compliment 💛

[@Michelle-rc6el]

Totally agree.

[@clw87]

Totally agree.

[@coralrose5754]

Agreed lol

[@qtpieb2588]

Perfectly said! To me this shows how genuine you and your family are! Much love and respect for you! May many blessings come your way and flow to those you encounter!

[@sarahmccullough1100]

I can’t believe how much sawyer has grown up and how much weight John has lost x

[@stephanieburgess8217]

And how much Sawyer looks like John.

[@dancinginthepsychward6381]

It says you uploaded 9 seconds ago, so my life is complete now. It's so good to have you guys back, and I'm so sorry for what's going on.

[@timgordon4853]

DOROTHY,My neighbor had 13 in her 1400 square space home,so happy I was in their journey,if one left she brought another one home,was a first to fight to have a child of color adopted,and won in the court,children need LOVE hats off you all are very inspiring loved your video 👆👌✌️🤌💯🛼💕

[@katie6384]

As painful as it sounds like it is for you, it's so wonderful to know that these kids are experiencing so much love and attachment. I imagine going into foster care is hard enough, if the adults are trying not to get attached it must be even worse :(

[@treasureseeker2738]

Hello there, I just love how John's face lights up when he looks at Whitney while she is talking. So much love there. ❤❤

[@BeTheVillageCommunity]

Awww 🥰

[@celeneb2140]

I know you are hurting and my heart goes out to your family. I hope peace and healing comes quickly. You've got a big community backing you and loving you. Prayers are with you all. And yes please more Crosley.

[@shaylavale8540]

I love you guys as a wonderfully positive foster family. I have sadly had to have 7 of my grandchildren be placed in foster care. I would definitely pray that they found families like yours... Please keep trying...

[@janelord3061]

I can't believe how much Sawyer has grown! Def not a baby anymore. As a busy mom, where both my husband and I worked outside the home, I did not have the time or patience to make a bunch of different meals for dinner. I tried to plan meals around things everyone liked. If 4/5 of liked corn, the 1/5 would get the leftover peas or whatever. I couldn't be a shortorder cook. I tried my best to make things everyone could eat and it usually worked out.

[@louisemclean2973]

Love from Scotland! Might be cool to do a video comparing the UK foster system to the US. What the main differences are and what we could learn from each other! 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿 ❤️

[@BeTheVillageCommunity]

That would be SUPER interesting for sure!

[@meschahayes1003]

It is SO GOOD to see y'all's smiling faces! The last two or so videos had us all upset right along with yall.

[@stephaniejackson9089]

Darcy will adjust to the kids being gone but may mention them for years. One of my foster families fostered an infant boy who left their home more than 5 years ago. Their 8 year old son still mentions him at times. Their older kids don't mention kids who have left very often but that son feels the connections deeply. I'm glad you are doing a grief and loss video, for two reasons. 1. Grief and loss is a part of foster care. It sucks and it's hard. It is often full of worry, anger, sadness and an emptiness thst is hard to explain. 2. It seems like that research is part of how you heal. If I am counting correctly this is your third placement, so you are still pretty new to this . A foster mom I work with has been fostering for 40 years. They adopted 1 child in that time so she knows they will always leave. She knew me before I worked for the county and my first professional visit she said the day they leave is often the best and the worst day for her. It is a weird dichotomy. Especially hard when you disagree with the outcome.

[@ciarajuly14]

So great to your lovely faces on here again. I have missed your content so much. Our family's began the foster journey at the same time so your channel has been a great resource ❤️

[@waffles3629]

Not being able to grant a wish cause there's no wishes to grant is the best kind of problem.

[@BeTheVillageCommunity]

It really is!!

[@Rebecca-ld9mu]

1. I really feel for you. I know how hard it has been for you as your emotions still come through clearly in the background. Hugs. 2. I love that you grant a wish if you do a sponsorship in your video!! ❤️ 3. I would love any advice from anyone about fostering with a little one (through international adoption) at home. I want to be very cautious of my daughter's feelings and previous trauma and keep thinking about fostering. I don't want to not do it, but keep thinking that waiting until my daughter is older and understands more would be better.

[@sairapaz3543]

I could feel you holding back your emotions. At first I thought it was just me reading too much into it because I’m going through the same thing but then I realized you probably feel like I do also and I’m kinda wearing my heart on my sleeve right now. Can’t wait for the next video!!! I will definitely stay tuned! ❤️🥰

[@meredithwemhoff9270]

Sending you love, peace, healing and strength. ❤️

[@allisonbaker6919]

We miss Miss A! Tell her hello from the village 💕

[@berfinsagir789]

You guys are such amazing people! I’m so sorry that you are going through this but it will all work out soon. Keep shining on and I’m so glad that you feel ready to share more content.

[@saradevos83]

In Belgium, my experience so far has been that even meeting the Forster child is gradually, I see my foster son every week 1h, and we are building it up to hopefully have him stay with me 1night around Christmas.....that is why I have been shocked about how the kids were taken away in your case. God knows these 3 kids needed you, and maybe the time you had with them will be so much more meaningful to them than you will ever know.

[@gvantassel]

I am happy to see you are doing videos. God Bless you both. My nephew and his wife had a baby from birth as a foster child for over 2 1/2 years and started the papers to adopt. The biological parents also had 4 other older children and never made any attempt to see their young child. My nephew and his wife made planed visits at various "spots" for their convenience and they were NO shows. It was NOT until the paperwork was started for adoption that the parents decided to stop the adoption. I remember how heart broken my family was and they did not have any other children. In time, the biological parents did have the child returned to them along with the other 4 children who were returning to the parents after being in foster care for over 3 years. It is sad but I just pray the biological parents have their life in order for the sake of the children. Thank you so much for your videos.

[@LilMissQuazyQ]

Wow I am the 20,000th to view this amazing video! I have been binge listening to your videos as I have been struggling with finding out one of my bonus children has recently entered the Juvenile Justice Center after a very bad situation once he was sent back to his biological family for the 3rd time. Listening has really helped me cope with my sadness, Thank you John & Whitney.

[@BeTheVillageCommunity]

Thank you for watching and going on our journey 💛 wishing you all the best!

[@countryprincess25]

I absolutely love your family so very much. I love you’re channel and your videos so very much .

[@KM-ye9so]

I meant to watch this last night, but I ended up going to bed and totally forgetting. Woke up this morning and remembered. Starting my day with Be The Village is a great start! You and John are the best team - making whatever situation you are dealt work. Still sending love as your hearts deal with this new normal and missing the kiddos who left. Hopefully you'll eventually find a new county and have more kids who need you in your home. (That sounds like I'm wanting kids to go into care. I'm not saying that. But if kids DO need a place to stay, I hope your home eventually becomes that place again.) Also still thinking of the kids who left and hoping they are well. Loved the Friends reference too.

[@Nocturnal_beauty]

So happy to see y’all back

[@amandac9845]

Sawyer has gotten so big!! 🥰

[@sam04172007]

Btw Changing the pantry was the 1st thing I did too it was therapeutic in a way (although I cried while I did it)

[@stanksinatras]

I wanna see more Crosley content!

[@BeTheVillageCommunity]

I will do my best!! 🐾❤️

[@carlasuannelockett1694]

I agree with you about Crosely

[@carlasuannelockett1694]

I second that! Oh yea and if you don't mind please keep me in thought and prayers the 22 having a surgery and I almost died at this hospital in 2018

[@bh9844]

I’ve missed you guys. Thanks for still posting videos.

[@sharonchambers8570]

Great video! Very good to see your kids looking so very happy and healthy! Tacos can heal the loss of a T-Ball game! Sawyer has grown into a little big boy!

[@melissagreen1117]

Luv and hugz to you guys. Hope everything get tied up soon for Yas so you have the answers you are needing. Hav a good nite guys 🌛

[@skiperdog]

Love your perspective, endurance, compassion and your persona!

[@taneishahoward-gullett2524]

Sending you guys love! Love watching your videos and seeing your journey with foster care. ❤️

[@KSalmon74]

Look at Sawyer! He’s growing up!! ❤️

[@rebeccaturner4988]

Your cool foster parents. I hope u can foster again. Breaks are good too. I hope Jon’s reselling is good too.

[@traceyrenfro2937]

You two are awesome. Just ordered your sticker to go next to CP. Thank you for the vlogs

[@BeTheVillageCommunity]

Oh thank you!!

[@kaylaromero3250]

I remember when I first started watching y'all! Sawyer was a little baby! (when y'all were first getting miss A)

[@kaylaromero3250]

Like the night before Miss A’s arrival!

[@nyxynoo7438]

Thanks for the explanation of audible. I’m Australian and not a sports fan so I had no idea what it meant.

[@crapolacrayons4622]

Sending lots of 💜💜💜 - you are awesome people!

[@BeTheVillageCommunity]

💛

[@djmastervolume9785]

Yay love you guys so so much. Such big hearts xo

[@alilewis4593]

I Love the way those cleaning bottles look! I need bottles like that.

[@BeTheVillageCommunity]

Grove collaborative! They are glass and use concentrated cleaners. I think I have a link in my link tree.

[@amymenjivar3489]

Grove has a really cool Mrs. Meyer's tin with free supplies periodically! Their stainless steel cleaner is awesome. At Christmas, I LOVE their limited Peppermint scent...room freshener and all purpose cleaner. I stock up for the year. I'm scent sensitive and it's light and not bothersome. Peppermint makes me happy :) They have hand soap, too...but I haven't tried it (not a fan of scents on hands).

[@grandma_d]

I have only experience with having been granted custody of my 4 grandchildren a few years back, after they were placed in Foster by CPS. Sadly the case was not handled well, the children were together initially w/ the same Foster family, then one child ( with autism) was separated from his siblings and subsequently placed in 2 different foster homes, while the other 3 were placed in a 2 nd foster home. All this transpired in 27 days time. After the 27th day the children were united with me. During their time in foster , i believe there were only 2 phone calls to family from the foster families, and there were once wkly supervised visits w/ parents. I say that to say, to hear your compassion and adjustments over your foster kiddos reunification or alternate placement is a new concept. I had the impression that my grandchildren’s foster families were relieved when the children left, idk of course, and i have not asked the children about their experiences. What has be shared by the oldest is not pleasant. There were allegations made, and children removed, but to date, we never heard the outcome of the investigation. I hope if the allegations against the orig foster family were unsubstantiated that they still are fostering, regardless, the bottom line, as you consistently and honestly state it is all about what is best for the kiddos, as the foster experience is very tough on them, and as children, they are less emotionally able to manage these changes. I say that to say thank you both for being so diligent, caring and committed to the children who have been and may be in your care in days to come. You all are a blessing.

[@wall_to_wall]

We had that exact recipe in our box last week. It was really yummy!!!

[@BeTheVillageCommunity]

One of my faves!

[@nicole42999]

I live for more Crosley content! 🥰🥰

[@megmartin3237]

I really wish my parents had a support system like this when I was a kid because I went to my grandparents house one summer and that is when my foster sisters left my house and it hurt me bad because I was close to one of the sisters and when I got home to find her not there was so hard.

[@Myraisins1]

Wow look how big Sawyer is!!!

[@BeTheVillageCommunity]

I know!! And he’s either super goofy like in the video or super cranky lol

[@claremaguire9915]

I love your. videos!!

[@BeTheVillageCommunity]

Well thanks 🥰

[@Michelle-rc6el]

We love Miss A ❤

[@sam04172007]

We took in 3 changed everything around but now that they’ve reunited it’s been a huge loss How do you know when to take down extra bed abs re arrange back to you family of 4

[@lesliesheppard6112]

Do you still have the Guinea pigs?

[@BeTheVillageCommunity]

We sure do!

[@lesliesheppard6112]

@@BeTheVillageCommunity oh yay! I was kinda worried I hadn’t seen them in an update lately.

[@JessicaNiles]

Time to stock the TP, Monica! 😜

[@BeTheVillageCommunity]

I did 🤣

[@JessicaNiles]

@@BeTheVillageCommunity I'm REALLY big on keeping the TP holder filled to the brim! 😂 😂

[@estefanybaltazar8369]

I have a question!!! As a marriage. How do you keep your marriage going without arguing about parenting?

[@km9cv]

💔 for your family.

[@carlasuannelockett1694]

Hi there from Oklahoma

[@BeTheVillageCommunity]

👋🏼

[@karanbumann9434]

My sister lives near you in Union, KY. She is a new foster. She received her first placement five days ago. Is there a group she can join to talk to other foster parents?

[@BeTheVillageCommunity]

Not sure specifically but she should look at Facebook groups, possibly if she’s with an agency they will have something as well.

[@sonyasmith3940]

There should be a foster parent association where she can meet many of the other parents and get some seasoned advice.

[@beautywearsboots6458]

Whitney... Are you a fly lady? I've picked up on a few things with how you manage your time that make me think you might be a fly lady!

[@pastorwife]

I was wondering the same thing. Lol

[@BeTheVillageCommunity]

I have no idea what that means so I’d say no 🤷🏻‍♀️ but I think I need to look into it now.

[@beautywearsboots6458]

@@BeTheVillageCommunity check out The Secret Slob here on KZbin! She's how I learned about it. It's all about how to keep your home/life/self clean and organized and happy without taking over all of your time

[@lijohnyoutube101]

I miss listening to some of her stuff but I just couldn’t stand her pro trump rally support during the election so I stopped following her on all social media. It’s unfortunate to see people you like show immoral life choices that cause you to need to pull back.

[@BeTheVillageCommunity]

Yeah…. I’m going to pass on all that. Not my cup of tea

[@kumquatmanager5799]

💕💕💕

[@alicegoesnomad8448]

💗

[@sarahmccullough1100]

Hi everyone xox

[@BeTheVillageCommunity]

Hey Sarah!

[@isabellaearnhardt6380]

💙

[@Michelle-rc6el]

Do the agencies take single mom with significant health issues?

[@amymenjivar3489]

Check your local agencies! You have to have health forms when licensing and to re-license (how often depends on your agency). Doctor will have to sign off that you can physically and emotionally care for children. People with physical and mental health issues (treatment/meds etc) shouldn't be disqualified if they can care for the children.

[@victoria-e]

omg Sawyer is like a grown person now I'm so confused hahah

[@laartje24]

There is nothing wrong with being a "traditional family" if you want to be a traditional family. It is only wrong to force it upon others that don't want to. But if you want to be like that, you do you!

[@Cassandra-..-]

Appreciating your breezy reference. Glad you don’t have a smelly cat.

[@BeTheVillageCommunity]

🤣

[@ghents565]

Its not uncommon for them to move kids around. Its hard on the kids but I feel like they dont want the kids to get used to the foster parents. Its said. Workers dont always have feelings for the kids. I was a foster parent i know it can be hard.

[@breet.v8677]

Why did you delete almost all of your videos?

[@ashleecollinsworth5039]

Because the foster placement wanted them to basically and they got the foster kids taken away

[@kelleythenurse3283]

The agency they were working with said something on their channel violated a policy. During the investigation, they deleted everything in hopes that they could keep their status with the agency. The county or agency removed John and Whitney as foster parents anyways. They still have a foster license because it’s issued by the state so they may register with a different county agency since they were fostering with a different county from where they live anyways.

[@kelleythenurse3283]

Whitney is going to review the old videos and edit some of them so she can put some of the content back up.

[@Michelle-rc6el]

I would have loved to look a little like the wife at home making perfect meals and help with all things mama's do like laundry and dishes. And be dressed 👗like Mrs. Clever.

[@Martzee]

There’s nothing wrong with traditional gender roles if that works best for your family at this time in life 🥰