What to Wear to a Wedding (with NO Dress Code!)

[@dandiehm8414]

I can't even imagine not wearing a tie to a wedding. If the invitation said "beach casual" I think i would still wear trousers, shirt, tie and jacket (not a suit or a tux). I think a wedding deserves that much respect. And "it is better to be inconspicuously overdressed than conspicuously underdressed" was the best advice in the whole video! Well done Gentlemn's Gazette.

[@whatwelearned]

Whilst I like formality, I would say the couple get to discern how much 'respect' it deserves.

[@dandiehm8414]

@@whatwelearnedThere is also a certain amount of self respect involved. If I am going to a wedding I am wearing a jacket, tie, and dress shoes. Or else I am not going. That is my personal code.

[@gentlemansgazette]

@@whatwelearned Ultimately, this is very true - the best respect you can pay as an invited guest is to honor the host's wishes to the best of your ability if you intend to be a part of the day.

[@TheUberSchattenjager]

LOVE the beard!! Very classy! As a wedding photographer, I have seen the pain of people showing up in jeans and tennis shoes when they should have worn slacks and a nice collared shirt, at minimum. I 100% agree it is best to play it safe and show up slightly 'over' dressed than under. It shows respect and effort.

[@nomedocanal8496]

Improved him a lot

[@TheUberSchattenjager]

@@nomedocanal8496 not an improvement, but rather a flourish

[@regsantotomas]

Assuming the wedding isn’t a picnic, bbq or beach setting, when in doubt, a classic navy or grey suit has always served me well. I bring a tie and then leave it in the car if I find the formality falls towards the more casual side.

[@ahwhite2022]

This. The video's commercials aren't even over yet for this video but can't fathom a better answer. You just have to be able to downgrade relative to the groom. You also don't have to worry about being underdressed.

[@Manuel421]

Obviously it depends also on the season but you can't go wrong with a Blue sport coat, White shirt, and Grey trousers for more casual weddings perhaps adding a sweater whenever it's cold. Excellent content as always.

[@Michael_R1957]

Another Preston Grand Slam. Thanks for posting this excellent video.

[@schw0373]

The guy at 15:42 in the pink hat and light fur coat is my new hero

[@omarcortes5754]

I'm divored and I wasn't thinking about getting married again untill you mentioned a Batman themed wedding.

[@gentlemansgazette]

🦇

[@stevenwalters3639]

I’ve worn a medium grey suit with a bottle green tie and white shirt with black derby’s to an evening wedding. I’ve worn a kilt with a tweed lapelled waistcoat to a day tie out door wedding in the Catskills.

[@Adrian-qt2nj]

I'm attending a wedding in June and I've been wondering what to wear for a long time. The wedding will take place during the day, so black tie and white tie are out of the question. I don't want to come in a morning coat because I don't want to be better dressed than the groom. In the end, I decided to dress up in a stroller suit. The invitation says formal day wear. This video will surely help many! You have the full support of another classic menswear enthusiast!😊

[@dandiehm8414]

Excellent. I am very sad to say that, for most people, "formal day wear" simply means a shirt with a collar on it. And maybe a jacket.

[@DefaultFlame]

The only wedding I've been to was my Mom's second wedding. (The first was before I was born.) It was completely casual, everyday dress, because the guests didn't know that they were at a wedding. It was her 50th birthday dinner, held in a rented space, and the cards at all the place settings welcomed them to her 50th birthday. At one point the guests were asked to flip the cards over, and the other side welcomed them to the wedding. That's when the priest came into the room and she married the man she'd been together with for half a decade. I was wearing jeans and a t-shirt, because that's my everyday casual. Maybe I should mention that "formal" is a poor descriptor for my Mom. "Laid-back," "chill," and "full of good humor" is more accurate.

[@dandiehm8414]

Very good video Preston, and the the Watch segment was not too intrusive as you clearly stated it was the sponsor of the video. The watch also enhances the outfit.

[@Rcaneneophyte8906]

This video is lifesaver....Thank you gentleman's gazette..I've got to attend a wedding ceremony to attend soon

[@dianevanderlinden3480]

I'll take a Bavarian pretzel! Thanks for the video.

[@denniswhite166]

That put me in the mood for one. 🥨

[@TheoTheTimeTravelingMagician]

Thank you so much for this!!! Very useful and informative, and will definitely come in hand up for me in the future!

[@donny5314]

Preston is looking great with his beard!

[@Simeon-Ricecakes]

The last wedding I went to was my sisters. I wore kakis with a light gray jacket and a blue bow tie. It was a brighter, less formal wedding so I think I did pretty well.

[@cyankirkpatrick5194]

There's always a hint of code.

[@DefaultFlame]

Shorts and crocs are a no-no, except sometimes in Florida.

[@Avallachgrey]

​@DefaultFlame yeah but crocs in Florida night not mean the footwear.

[@Linusgump]

@@Avallachgrey😂😂😂

[@sonnysantana5454]

wrong the reason why so many things have gone to s%$t is because their are no more codes to much flexibility and it's ok it's not a big deal going on 40'plus years ago the idea of a come as you like wedding was unheard off

[@oz_jones]

@@Avallachgrey They might if you're brave enough.

[@reinholdmaximilian214]

I'm german. I love your Channel.❤

[@w4447]

I see a how to keep your and maintain your beard video in the future Preston. Your rockin it. My first wedding was in a park and attire was wear your best bad Hawaiian shirt. It went off without a hitch and everyone had a good time. No pressure on anyone. People even liked telling the other people how bad there shirt was, all in good fun of course.

[@gentlemansgazette]

We're one step ahead of you with the beard video! 😉www.gentlemansgazette.com/how-to-grow-facial-hair-beards/?

[@jessebechtold2973]

Sadly, every wedding I’ve been to involves the wedding party in rented tuxes and everyone else in everything from business suits to their “nice” jeans. Generally I find myself nearly overdressed when I show up in slacks, tie and sweater. Had the same experience at baptisms. Feels sad it must be said.

[@dandiehm8414]

Agreed! Most people don't seem to care much about their appearance anymore.

[@Jwellsuhhuh]

@@dandiehm8414 it’s not that, it’s called an evolving fashion landscape. Formality is not an objective measurement. The range between formal and informal is dictated by the range of items that people wear in a given time period and culture. Nowadays, suits are falling out of favour, mainly because of comfort and price. But that does not mean that people are becoming “less formal”. The meaning of formality has changed, and that is a concept that conservatives find hard to grasp.

[@dandiehm8414]

@@Jwellsuhhuh No - its that most people don't care about their appearance anymore. Absolute comfort has taken the place of pride of appearance. 50 years ago you would never see someone in their pajamas. Now they go shopping in them.

[@Jwellsuhhuh]

@@dandiehm8414 as I just said, trends change. Did you ask people to confirm that “they don’t care about their appearance”?

[@dandiehm8414]

@@Jwellsuhhuh You can tell by looking at them. Hoodies, sweats, baseball caps, and sneakers do not scream "I care about my appearance".

[@davidwilliams1060]

Our wedding, some years ago, was formal. However, a lot of guests were weekend partyers, usually on their boats. I don't remember what anyone wore and I'm glad they all came no matter what. Appreciate the video for future reference. A minor note, it's religious rite instead of right. No idea why. Thanks.

[@donpalomon]

So elegant

[@larrywave]

Stresemann 👌

[@thelegendofdarius]

A long time ago I went to a wedding where I wasn’t sure what specific dress code they’re giving (didn’t own a proper tuxedo yet) so I figured I would wear a black suit, white dress shirt with black buttons, pre-tie bow tie (although I didn’t own a black self tie bowtie at the time) black cummerbund, white pocket square, and of course, a black cap toe oxfords. To make it look like I was wearing a tuxedo or black tie ensemble. and I was all set.

[@wesleybarrett9502]

My wedding was a more casual version of the center for the wedding party and the guests were all more casual. I will say that most everyone hit perfectly where I expected them dress considering my family's aversion to stuffy conservatism and my spouse's expectation to be presentable.

[@annlidslot8212]

Hi, Some curio form my country (and perhaps the countries bordering to mine in Europe, who knows). If there is no dress code on the invitation the presumption used to be full formal. This meant that if the event will end during the daytime, the right clothes to wear would be jaquette. Sorry but I have no word in English for this. It's the gray tailcoat, trousers and cravat, as seen for instance at the Royal Ascot and the royal weddings in the UK. If the event will spill over to after 5 pm, or 17.00 for the some of us, the right clothes to wear would be the white tie and black tails. Black shoes in both instances of course, and if you want to go all out then wear patent leather shoes with your black tails. This is very snazzy piece of kit, and will earn you extra points and a gold star. For the ladies, the implication is that you match your escort (not that kind of escort, silly. Get your mind out of the gutter and think historically). This would be a fancy day dress, possibly tea length (no mini), and a hat for daytime, and formal dress for evening, and you might get to take your family tiara out of storage. As a side note, if you need to wear top tier formal for your Nobel Prize ceremony, you'll be given an information packet, and rehearsal, so just go with that information. In my country that is the most formal event of all formal events, ever. Sadly this part of my cultural tradition is now extinct. Mostly because the generation that taught me, are no longer here (and nobody will l do as I say, so annoyingly😉😊).Most people in my generation of old(ish) folks, no longer know this part of our tradition this either, but I was saddled with a grandmother that married up in society. This meant that she most likely was scared of embarrassing my grandfather, or more likely herself knowing her personality, infront of his family. This meant that my mother and her siblings, were all taught proper etiquette, and so was I. I'm the oldest daughter to an oldest daughter, which means that I know way to much etiquette, than is good for my nearest and dearest. Not that I expect that people follows these things, but to some extent I will let people around me know about them. I've always thought that knowing the right etiquette and not following them as a choice, is better than not knowing and when they don't follow the social cues that are still there, and will be regarded as being rude. For instance, I've had plenty of times in my life, trying to get people to wear black shoes after 5 pm, and with matching socks, no matter what they match them with as long as they aren't the sports variety or white. That was my version of a joke by the way. I've been told that I need to put a sign up when I try to be funny, so this is my sign. Jokes aside, These days people would be better off following your advice than go with my, no defunct, historical etiquette lessons. I hope that the window to history was at least had a bit of entertaining value. I also hope that you, the reader, don't get too aggravated by the long text. I seem incapable to write short comments, so I usually make up for it by not writing as many, hoping that it'll even itself out in the long run. Yours, Ann

[@SuomiPoika098]

Good Video idea

[@kimtoannhan7275]

This semi skinny suit suits Preston so well! It must be his best!

[@teekue]

I was thinking the same. This is the Suitsupply suit from the review video. Gotta say I didn't think it was this great before but now I must admit that it looks great.

[@jasonrichardson0369]

Please bring back the line of pocket squares Preston wears here. I have several of the X stitch ones but these are more subtly elegant.

[@gentlemansgazette]

Stay tuned regarding pocket squares!

[@jasonrichardson0369]

😍

[@italogiardina8183]

Use search generative experience for updates on dress codes like if going to destinations like Raffles in Singapore where a Buttler is of assistance ( Want an impossible-to-reserve Michelin meal with a day’s notice? Done.) can be helpful or a hinderance by token of alerting the attendee of crucial points as this program does but it all happen in real time, so this suggests the future Buttler may be an AI assistant.

[@goggo9]

OMG I love @15:48.....that's brilliant!!! 🤣😂😅🤣

[@prof.m.19]

Yes. @14:11 as well. 😊😊

[@denniswhite166]

That outfit is totally acceptable at the wedding of your ex. 🤪

[@Aurora-bv1ys]

Now that's style

[@Aurora-bv1ys]

Clown's Gazette

[@denniswhite166]

Who can afford all the different and necessary clothes to maintain your reputation as a well dressed man? You can. I shop at Goodwill. Not the one in my neighborhood but rather one that is in the area of town where the richer folks live. You will be surprised at the selection and quality of some of the clothes available there.

[@Love-ex6wx]

My favorite gentleman, I love when he makes this face 😐

[@siddarthrao2627]

I’m digging Preston’s beard

[@dandiehm8414]

Is it OK to wear the Uberto Ugilini "Oxford" fragrance if you attend Harvard? LOL (Sorry, but I tend to find men's fragrance choice to NOT correlate with any particular outfit or event).

[@gentlemansgazette]

Any of the Roberto Ugolini fragrances would fit in nicely at Harvard! Great suggestion, Oxford would certainly be the most traditional scent that would suit the history of the university well

[@toonsoffun5733]

White tie is standard if there’s no dress code. Assuming you surround yourself in the correct circles.

[@dandiehm8414]

Perfect comment!

[@gentlemansgazette]

And assuming the wedding is being held in the evening 😉

[@pastrychefalfred876]

I always go dressy. I also like to find out the wedding colors and coordinate my outfit to match. I usually have a vest made or I match shirt and tie to the colors.

[@dandiehm8414]

Dressy I agree with 100%. But does coordinating with the wedding colors run the risk of being mistaken for one of the wediing party?

[@pastrychefalfred876]

@@dandiehm8414 not at all... unless I get the EXACT same outfit as the groomsmen.

[@dandiehm8414]

@@pastrychefalfred876 Well then, good for you. Its nice that you put the time and effort in. Even if nobody else notices, you know you did your best. 👍

[@aaronspringborn34]

Hi Preston, how are you not used to you with facial hair but that’s OK. On a serious note when you guys talking about locations/daytime and night time because most people in the states don’t talk about that stuff I don’t understand the concept but that’s besides the point, what if have no dress code but specifically you are doing a little bit of both indoor and outdoor and it’s an all day event that might start in a day but it will go into the evening and maybe even into the night then what do you do bring a change of clothes? Obviously people really do, and do not care and most weddings, even with invitations that do State dress codes. some people don’t but you did say it’s better to be overdressed than underdressed that I do more than agree with having said that isn’t it quite an oxymoron to say for example, if you do short at a tuxedo morning dress stroller suit/white tie, everyone’s there is jeans or most combinations there’s nothing wrong with being the sharpest man in the room especially if you do it with class, so where is the line sometimes couples dress down themselves? So if you can clear this up for me, that would be great thank you keep the good videos coming.

[@craigmignone2863]

So graphic t-shirts, cargo shorts, and flips are out I should assume?

[@farshidrahmani6262]

Great watch! 👍🏼 More watch content please.

[@kiltedpatriotatheart]

When in doubt, ask...or wear a kilt!

[@1st1anarkissed]

"Dont stand out at someone else's event." I needed to be told that. Thanks.

[@BloodandIronFan]

can you make a playlist of becoming a gentleman (gentleman 101)

[@TheRefinedGentleman]

When in doubt, smart, conservative business attire is always a good idea. I don't think you could go wrong with a SB two-piece navy, charcoal or mid-grey suit for a more conventional wedding, as that shows respect for the occasion without being overly formal. However, I think asking the hosts for clarification is always a good idea and shows a certain level of respect and consideration. The latter point may be a better choice in some circles, however. I received an invitation to a wedding last year (which I couldn't attend) and the groom wore a white short-sleeved shirt with chinos and brown oxfords. Most of the guests came to the reception in street clothes from what I heard, and anyone in a suit would've looked very out of place.

[@dandiehm8414]

Without trying to appear to show anyone up at that wedding, I would have still worn trousers, a shirt, tie, jacket and dress shoes. But for me that is "street attire".

[@TheRefinedGentleman]

@@dandiehm8414 I'm the same to be honest. Classic style is so engrained in my life at this point that it seems weird not wearing dress shoes, shirts, ties, suits, sport coats or smart sweaters. The hosts had said to "come as you usually are" when I asked them which would've meant a suit for me had I gone.

[@jommydavi2197]

Always tops and tails no exceptions

[@Ismam9Muzhar-zq9vy]

I have a question! When you're attending a Wedding ceremony, and the time comes when everyone sits to dine. Is it wise to take off your suit jacket/blazer when you're having your meal?

[@pastrychefalfred876]

Yes! absolutely.

[@dandiehm8414]

I would say absolutely not. There is a reason it is called a "Dinner Jacket". I wouldn't think of removing my jacket during the entile proceedings - wedding and reception.

[@teekue]

You may take off your jacket once the groom takes off his.

[@dandiehm8414]

@@teekueYou may be able to, but I personally wouldn't.

[@denniswhite166]

I was taught that a gentleman never removes his jacket.

[@mandeepbaweja3021]

Beard 👌👌

[@jadenalmeida8592]

From all the world leaders who wears the suit the best

[@bd3199]

Do a video on the M-65 field jacket.

[@newguy8222]

Your Minnesotan heritage is Scandinavian, some friends of mine from there look just like you😮 gotta get the same goatee, now that I shed my full-faced one.

[@LadyVTavora]

💚

[@ghtcastagne]

I am invited to a wedding next saturday............. Thanks..

[@brentdingwall8509]

The guy at 15:49 is my new hero

[@anasmoriya]

I wore my signiture festive event outfit: A black dress shirt and pants, topped with a silver/light grey Hugo Boss Sport Coat from 2011 which has a nice birdseye pattern woven into it. No tie. In Greek culture it´s not frowned upon to wear black to happy events, there are no superstitions about that :) Would love to hear your opinion on that

[@Linusgump]

I wore my Marine dress blues to a wedding once. Sadly, I was the best dressed man there, including the groom. That was embarrassing.

[@dandiehm8414]

You should never be ashamed of your dress uniform. Thank you for your service to our country.

[@user-iu1ru1qz7u]

Love those nomos watches. I wish they made them with croc style straps. The cordovan strap is a bit lacking, looks plain and overly casual, though they get a bit more interesting with wear.

[@_iErik]

Straps are the easiest thing to change on a watch.

[@user-iu1ru1qz7u]

@_iErik it's on my to-do list.

[@michaelostassr.2771]

Itsa wedding. Someone’s going to take your photo. 20 years from now do you want to be “that guy”?

[@gentlemansgazette]

Very true!

[@detritiv0re144]

I'd go to Laura & Lee's wedding.

[@orionspero560]

My instinct for a wedding without a dress code is that this is a perfect place for a say jewel tone dinner jacket ensemble. A friend of mine asked for help. She is wearing a cherry, a red velvet dinner jacket with machong tuxedo shirt and 3/4 length, a line skirt in navy linen. ( She also has a bow tie that matches the dinner jacket) I think she got a pair of wingedtip burgundy oxfords to go with it.

[@moorshound3243]

These days sadly nobody seems to care about clothing at weddings anymore.

[@alfazagato1455]

Last wedding I was at, dress code amounted to 'Billy Joe Armstrong.' I was overdressed by wearing new Chucks. On a side note, Converse offer true wide sizes on Hi Tops now.

[@seansimmons73]

Thanks for the tip on wide sized chucks! It's about time 🙏

[@Nippeltitsch]

At the "Do's and Don'ts" you forgot the generaly Hint. For Women: Don't wear White or the Color, the Bride wear! For Men, the same but opposite: Don't wear Black or the Color, the Bräutigam wear! (sorry, i don't know the english word 🤷‍♂)

[@oz_jones]

Groom is the word in English!

[@larifari_das]

If this is how Preston's barefoot shoe journey begins, I'm all clown for it.

[@CharlesjNWH]

I am going to a wedding on a beach on 4/20. Yes the bride chose the date for that reason. Many of the guest will be riding their Harleys to the beach so they will be in their riding gear. I am planning on wearing my purple suit with white dress shoes and a cravat. Am I out of line?

[@sonnysantana5454]

funny a wedding with no dress is not worth going to , sadly in the last 30' years funerals have taken the same way in the no dress code required

[@FredrikBergelv]

I am attending a wedding this summer, where there is no dress code. However I received the information that the groom will wear a linen suit (probably without a tie). Is it okay for me to also wear a linen suit? And is it okay for me to wear a tie if the groom won't wear one?

[@faith-manages]

A Batman-themed wedding sounds amazing...formal Batman: dress like the Penguin...

[@gentlemansgazette]

🐧

[@jakecavendish3470]

No dress code is an open invitation to get the yayas out

[@holdenmahlers4294]

hello, when you will have a shop in germany, it is hard to get your products here in germany without paying tons fro delivery and taxes and waiting a week or two in custom clearance

[@robinthorntonsingersongwriter]

A kilt. Simples.

[@jonclassical2024]

I would never; go to, be in or preside at a wedding....so my Birddogs shorts, Allbirds Tree Loungers and Cooltan muscle tee work perfect...I am 70....please get your Fort B. XL cotton socks ALL COLORS back in Stock!!!!!!!!!

[@matthewjohnson6360]

Go commando.

[@chrisk5651]

I’m sorry but the outfits - sport coats/blazers/suits look a tad bit too small on Rafael and the opposite on the skinny guy

[@chrisk5651]

Not every time but there was a montage where I noticed it

[@cyankirkpatrick5194]

A dress I'm female and it was acceptable I was a kid and over time I did attend a few weddings but I haven't been to a wedding in a while because I always had to go with the single women to catch the bouquet nope that's a suicide mission its as Jeff foxworthy describes it one pork chop for a pit of hungry dogs I go the opposite direction

[@Paco0parla]

I love watching your videos, but I know I could NEVER apply these kind of advices. In the weddings I've been I would have never wore a boutonniere, french cuffs or a pocket square. Wearing any of those things would have led people to assume I was the best man or even the godfather of the wedding. Also, I love the mention of white and black tie like it's something anybody would do. 99 % of people I know (I left the 1 % just because "never say never") would get laughed at by their family and friends if they asked the guests to their wedding to wear black or white tie, and many people would decline the invitation right away to save the money (and the hassle) of renting a tuxedo or morning wear. In the event you can gather people, you'd get a party of people with rented tuxs or morning coats that consequently wont' fit very well. The advice about shoewear... you can get away with wearing sneakers to most weddings around here as long as they're somewhat dressy. You could also get away with jeans, a casual shirt and a blazer, to be honest.

[@dandiehm8414]

I'm sorry for your experience. I wear french cuffs and and a pocketsquare Monday through Friday and out on the Weekends, but that does not look overly formal. You can definitely make it not look like the Godfather or Best Man.

[@barnastil591]

Just make sure it's not a tux.

[@scoobydoo5447]

Unless you simply enjoy parties, skip it. Statistically speaking, the marriage isn’t going to last anyway.

[@dandiehm8414]

That's a terrible vote of confidence to give someone who cared enough about you to invite you to share their special day.

[@c16621]

A more progressive and creative interpretation of white collar career interview attire will work most of the time.

[@faustopadilla3226]

NOMOS! ooook I get it shameful how they gave in $$$$$

[@dandiehm8414]

??? I'm confused by your statement. Do you not like the watch, the price of the watch, or the fact that it was included in the segment? They clearly stated that today's video was sponsored by NOMOS. That is much better than subtly tring to sneak in a "message for a product" without disclosing sposorship. I thought the watch segment was well done.

[@oz_jones]

@@dandiehm8414 And if you dislike sponsorship reads, you can easily skip it, since the the video is clearly labeled. People are weird.