What Triggers Mood swings in Borderline Personality

Today’s video answers the question: what triggers the mood swings that you can see and borderline personality disorder?
One of the features of borderline personality disorder that make it look like bipolar disorder is having wide mood swings. I compared borderline personality disorder to bipolar disorder in this video.
But this gist of it is, with borderline personality disorder, you get quick shifts in mood that can last hours or even a day. Whereas with bipolar disorder, you get shifts in mood states that last for a minimum of four days for hypomania and two weeks for depression.
With borderline personality disorder, the shifts in personality are triggered by something, it just may not obvious what the trigger is at the time.
Here are some of things that can trigger your mood shifts:
Relationship problems
Feeling empty
Dissociative symptoms
Memories of trauma
Therapy is something that can help you make these connections so that you don't have to be as overwhelmed by the emotions that seem like they're coming out of nowhere. If you start by understanding that the intense emotions come from somewhere, then you can learn to accept the emotions, process them and let them pass without them overwhelming you. In dialectical behavior therapy you learn to do this with lessons on distress tolerance and emotion regulation.
There are a lot of strategies that are taught in dialectical behavior therapy. Take a look at this video I did on managing negative emotions. Thanks for watching. See you next time.
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[@vickythecat1741]

I hate how one word, one scent, one noise, one second of any memory can bring me back to that rollercoaster. It is so tiring, so exhausting. I wish people had more understanding of the horrific effect of constant mood swings and how easily they can triggered. I don't have a life - no friends, no relationships, no intimacy, no job (also due to physical disability), no hobbies outside of home, no social media - because I'm constantly afraid of triggering a bad emotion. If it weren't for animals, I don't see the point of living like this.

[@lauragadille3384]

I totally agree

[@bertzerker747]

It might be a matter of desensitising before functionally recouperating. With dialectic therapy. If the term is spelt right, I think alot more therapists will develop to accommodated these needs. 🙏

[@No_Show94]

I understand 😩🙏🏽

[@angelabarrera24]

I understand how you feel. I have borderline and bipolar with a couple of more things on top. It's exhausting trying to keep everything balanced.

[@mosely25]

God i felt all of this

[@sgillman16]

This disorder ruined every relation in my teenage years and early 20s

[@faith119]

Omg same I literally have 0 friends at this point and am 21

[@j.e.m8506]

Same I'm 28 now and also have no friends what so ever

[@tessakrumpeltree9563]

OMG. I’m 71, I have ruined my whole life and I want it over ASAP.

[@alexisross4442]

Same 23 :/

[@imeim8015]

Same💔

[@dreamingofnaomi]

Rage is definitely one of the symptoms that are so unpleasant about suffering from BPD. I'm angry and irritable all the time. And rage episodes seem to be triggered by the smallest things. It's painful for those around me and painful for me to be that person losing control on others.

[@shyaaammeneen63]

@@jessglam ​To feel better reduce negative thoughts with a simple practice. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety. For a healthier life sit on a chair, back straight, eyes closed and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight your thoughts. Slowly the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Day or night, when taking a walk, when reading, on the phone, before sleep etc sit or lie down and observe your breath. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.

[@drinkmorewater5341]

@@jessglam hello I'm not the original commenter but I also have BPD & struggle with anger outbursts. Sometimes it's triggered by just a slightly off tone from other people, or it can be triggered when an unpleasant memory pops out of nowhere & upsets my day like Dr Marks pointed out, & it makes me angry & on edge with everyone for the next hour or 2. I am learning to manage my anger because I don't want to hurt the people around me, & I want to be in control of my emotions so that I'll have more mental peace.

[@lillygustin7322]

yea i feel bad , i’m not even sure if i actually have bpd but there’s some days where it’s like everything pisses me off for no reason and it just sucks bc my family obviosuly is affected by it but idk how to explain to them why i’m like that

[@rezolution4340]

How soon after the rage do you realize what you just did and try to make ammends, Naomi?

[@thejordanchronicles6715]

@@jessglam I’d say my biggest BPD trigger is someone speaking to me with a tone that seems ‘off’ from how they normally are (even though it could be nothing to do with me- but it makes me on high alert and REALLY triggers me)- the irony is I’ll then lose my cool and get MUCH more irate than I perceived THEM to be in the first place! Sorry I know I’m not the person who posted the comment but hopes this helps- I also cannot deal with criticism unless delivered in a very sensitive way as I feel I’m ‘useless’ otherwise 💚

[@NoMind93]

When I feel empty, it is literally like a deep bottomless pit. Its genuinely the most emotionally painful thing I deal with

[@pedridemperi9872]

Go into the emptiness or the void and realise it is the base line of life energy. The emptiness is you and you can observe your human form a lot better. Do not see empty as bad. It is the place of eternal bliss.

[@snoox27]

Feeling dead inside is how I describe it

[@aksbs3700]

2:00 the really painfull things is when your paranoia end up being true :) and realize you really got no one

[@jenynz5334]

I always imagine the worst in case it's true. When it's not, hubby says I'm too negative and paranoid. When it is, we fight because he doesn't want to admit I'm right. 😔🥺🙄

[@vivianolah1966]

ouch. hurts so bad.

[@lovea1717]

So true

[@shyaaammeneen63]

@@jenynz5334 Reduce negative thoughts with a strong determination. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety. For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, eyes closed, be still and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight with your thoughts. Slowly they will reduce and relax the mind. No deep inhalation-exhalation or breath counting needed. Anytime of the day or night before sleep sit or lie down on your back and observe your breath. Be as still as possible as it reduces negative thoughts. Make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.

[@zhei4007]

reality is your paranoia isnt right at first. by acting on your paranoia you create that situation yourself.

[@potterlover96]

Disappointment is definitely one of my biggest triggers, mainly linked with the rejection sensitivity. If I've made plans with someone and they've had to cancel for very legitimate reasons (illness, emergencies etc) even though I know they didn't have a choice but to cancel, the disappointment really gets to me and I often start spiraling because of it :/

[@fy4729]

This is so relatable. This only really happens with my FP but often I was looking forward to it so damn much. And the disappointment and rejection just hurts so bad.

[@adrose1588]

✋🏼 disappointments & trust issues triggers me.. so tiring . Gets bored & mad, raging randomly, coping with it, restraining the mood swings, are very tiring..

[@minkorrh]

Get help. It's not society's or your SO's problem to deal with.

[@littlemissgroove]

God me too. It's torture

[@NeighborhoodFatty]

Here I am crying now because this is me and this isn’t what I wanted

[@healand8866]

Same

[@mlivelostmcs]

😥😞

[@chelseagirl278]

Hugs

[@helena1151]

Here, I’m not crying because this sounds like 100% me and of knowing that will help me deal with things better then it’s a good thing

[@NeighborhoodFatty]

@@helena1151 just a gentle reminder that because you do something doesn’t mean everyone else can do the same. I wrote that 8 months ago, even with meds and therapy I still struggle.

[@alf8569]

I have borderline traits and from years of therapy and getting older with more life experience I have been a lot better. To anyone suffering just know that it can & does get better. The mind can be so powerful and when you start healing you realize the lies that your mind has been feeding you all along.

[@DrTraceyMarks]

You are so right Alf! Thanks for sharing this. It’s an encouragement for others. 😊👍🏽

[@AyeshaKhan-sn1ds]

Thank you for sharing this ALF, gives me hope! ​

[@jazminemccoy7991]

When does it get better 🙁😞

[@muthaluva]

@@jazminemccoy7991 I know . I just spent an hour in jail cause of an episode. 🤯😑😔😓

[@ginasalinas7892]

This is exactly what I'm coming to realize right now. I've been misdiagnosed with bipolar and treated to no avail. I was diagnosed 36 years ago and only now have the way my life is gone has proven that and borderline is the main aggregator in my life. I started looking inside for the basis of my anger. I've been to prison twice I've seriously hurt family members. But I'm starting to get better it feels like for the first time. I love you just because we're going through the same things. And thank you for going through them first so I could get this piece of advice from you

[@Lidia.Bella.Italiana]

I tell people it's not out of no where. That all the switches of moods comes from my emotions and that something happens to me for them to change so fast. No one gets it at all. It's so difficult being so severely emotionally liable. I cry a lot, am scared, panic and am angry/hurt a lot.... Since I was a kid and I'm 36 now.

[@tessakrumpeltree9563]

DO YOU CRY WHEN YOU DONT WANT TO. Crying is a huge problem of mine now (I’m elderly) and in my environment, I get scolded, punished, and berated for crying, guaranteeing complete abandonment. Any other criers? It didn’t used to happen, but now I’m in a nursing Home ruled over by people who do not believe mental illness is illness and they go out of their way to abandon, neglect, isolate, ignore, HURT me. I have no family and now no home to go to. I’m stuck here getting worse with wrong meds, wrong treatment, all my money taken by this establishment.....no hope. I got Covid but unfortunately got over it.

[@tessakrumpeltree9563]

So sorry. Try to change it while you’re young enough to do it.

[@magicalindigoadult3838]

Me to Im 36 I think this is normal because when someone says something to hurt me it’s logical to get angry.

[@belindabrewer5271]

Hey it’s not just you , many of us feel the same way ! I am 61 & BPD diagnosed as a 9 yr old with ADD & then at 24 diagnosed as Bi Polar & put on very strong meds & then one day I started crying & did so for a week before my husband put me in a mental hospital & I was diagnosed as BPD .... life sucks & no matter how many times I am managing my BPD well something will trigger my BPD causing me to loose ground & I’ve learned be trial& much error to educate myself on how BPD effects my life , I’ve learned many of my triggers & I’ve learned to keep trying each day can be a new start over ... for myself I’ve noticed if I can find why I’m being triggered I can avoid the situation or I can confront it with help from my husband ! That man deserves a huge Medal because after 38yrs he is still hanging on & with help I’ve learned you can survive BPD & have a good life ! Just never give up fighting to control it all !!

[@sweetascandyxoxo]

Ask for seroquel but not higher than 200mg. 150mg seems to be the sweet spot for myself. Without it it is just devastating and soooo debilitating

[@drinkmorewater5341]

The lunch example resonated with me so much because it's so easy for me to go from being fine one minute to feeling alone & unloved the next, but I'm glad you pointed out that it's just distorted thinking. I need that reminder sometimes to not believe everything my BPD makes me think.

[@fy4729]

It’s hard though sometimes, because I feel like I’m constantly gaslighting myself. Especially in relationships, like why will my partner do all this with and for other people but I can’t ask him to do the same for me?

[@LpsKittyPower]

I wish my family didn't automatically forget i have BPD once I have an episode, I feel trapped in this triggering loop, no support, nothing.

[@morgannights76]

Whenever I’m talking to people and they yawn, instantly I’m frantically trying to regain their attention before they dub me as boring and leave my life. I hate the instability of being alive

[@bionicle9336]

As someone who was recently diagnosed with BPD just this year, it's helped me connect the dots. I struggle with EXTREME thought transitions all the time, and i truly needed someone to sit down and explain to me why I think this way. I feel like this explanation really hits home for me, as I'll go from really happy, content and proud-- to all of a sudden ravenous, spiteful and enraged... People tell me it can be controlled when I simply cannot do so. I'll look more into Dialectical Behavior Therapy for my own sake and mental health. Thanks Dr. M!

[@tessakrumpeltree9563]

Good luck friend. I should have done the same 50 years ago.take your best shot. A life is a terrible thing to waste.

[@SavingWithTee]

@@tessakrumpeltree9563 never too late, thank you for sharing 🖤

[@JeremyRemele]

Go get your hormones checked, trace and macro minerals, and pickup a hardcore, incredibly strenuous exercise training program to force your brain to go. Your BPD is all in your head MOST likely due to an underlying problem with your physiology stemming from negative lifestyle factors

[@sunrae1337]

I was diagnosed this year at 42 and wow do I feel like a light bulb went off. Good luck! I’m in my cbt and Dbt now too.

[@verobutterfly3029]

Good luck. Dialectical therapy did not help me but living with a friend or shared house Airbnb etc is the only help for me. I don’t like living on my own I need company

[@katkatkatkat463]

Thanks for talking about what people with BPD go through without demonising them. Great explanation.

[@lopezlily365]

Yes. Sometimes even in relationships we feel so intense in one, people think like we’re “too much” . And the ex can say I was this and that but don’t realize it’s hard with bpd.

[@simev500]

(2:16) “…imagining everybody else having someone to ask them but one one asking you…” Yes. Those imperceptible triggers that emerge out of nowhere can be pretty unnerving. It’s paradoxical that one afflicted with BPD needs others to feel less isolated yet interacting with others bring about unwanted self sabotaging and disorientating thoughts. Is FOMO an emotional projection accompanying the Abandonment anxiety?

[@eleanorabibby]

Thank you so much for making a video about BPD without resorting to "borderlines are so angry and dangerous - they scream/hurt people/say cruel things/etc!" It's so refreshing for someone in the psychiatric field to see us as people and not monsters.

[@Tanya-ez3vn]

I got diagnosed with Quiet BPD and my psychologist told me that because my BPD is ‘quiet’, I tend to act inwards than act out. It would be a great help if you could make a video about how Quiet BPD differs from other types of BPD. 🖤

[@helenagackowska8398]

Me too!

[@brandonpetersen5710]

Same here. Quiet BPD is arguably even more difficult to deal with because one of the "strengths" of quiet BPD is knowing exactly how to present,behave and respond so that you fit in, don't stir the waters up & keep relationships and meet work commitments. But underneath all of that supposed "high functioning" there is a terrified child role playing an adult, but not actually emotionally mature or even feeling like one. It's nuts. Sometimes I just want to say to people "I'm still basically a kid" but then that would be weird as fuck because I'm nearly 30.

[@Ebthehousesitter]

This has helped so much. My sister has BPD and for the longest time we didnt know what was going on. The mood swings were terrible and made me want to completely detach. Now that we know and she knows, it makes her easier to understand. She tries to manage it now and I am more compassionate of her situation.

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Oh that’s great to hear Danni. it makes a huge difference just knowing what’s going on and then being able to recognize the triggers so she can better prepare for them.

[@stephie8978]

My sister also has BPD. Everyone in the family acknowledges this except her. We all walk on eggshells, but her attention seeking outbursts and paranoid rages remain. It has gotten significantly worse through the years (we are now in our 50's). We don't want to cut her out of our family. Our parents are in their 80's and just want "everyone to get along." They cater to her due to their fear of her wrath. We have all analyzed our own words and behavior to ascertain what sets her off, but she just goes off on us and complains about her life and believes we all hate her. This is also affecting our children (she has 2; I have 1). They are young adults now. They are routinely hurt by her bizarre accusations and confrontations. My son can be quite diplomatic and doesn't let it get to him. However, her children are manipulated and miserable around her but don't confront her either. We have all tried limit setting with her, but that just makes it worse. Cutting her out of our lives is not an option, as the rest of the family is quite close. Would love to send her this video or a book, but I value my life.

[@TamagoEgg]

​@@stephie8978Acknowledging that she has BPD is a very scary step because it makes her believes that she is broken and not everyone else. However, both side of the party has the responsibility to act maturely and not resulting into cutting off contact. One's action will trigger the other person's response and we do not want that. It is advisable that you shall also learn not to avoid conflict or problems because you feel insecure to this situation(which you too have to work on yourself). Take it as an extreme case of anxious attachment style, set your boundary(not rigid/harsh), understand where she's coming from and guide her to therapy. Once she feels safe, she will work on herself. Triggering her even more just makes it worse. We all should learn open communication and not avoiding negativity rather than expecting someone else to change which we cannot take control of.

[@Lola_Nico]

I am a older sister to a younger sister. I have BPD and I know it is hard to have us as sisters. But thanks you for gaining compassion for your sister. We really appreciate the effort our loved ones put in.💖

[@Brizzle-xy4dh]

The first example you gave, I go through quite often..what if the thoughts that no one invites you and you’re always the forgotten friend, really are true? What if in reality, you DON’T ever get invited to take trips or go out to eat, or go out in general, etc? What if you always find out AFTER the fact that some get together happened, and when you mention that it would’ve been nice to have been invited, you’re told “you know you’re always welcome!” -_-

[@marijasipovac]

i wonder the same thing, what if they actually don't want me? what I'm right ? 😭

[@katadam2186]

Ask someone out and make it fun

[@libertychannel6620]

This example with restaurant is my whole life!I hate when people say about having a great time with another friend because I quickly remember my mother’s worlds “nobody wants to be with you” so I have different negative thoughts and see it as abandonment .I cried a lot but this video is very helpful thanks

[@Bookjunkie407]

I have been diagnosed with BPD I hate when I watch movies and they make me emotional if something bad happens to like a character in the movies I burst into tears like I am them and I can't stop it. It's awful and embarrassing. Also for example in my relationship if I am having trouble that day my partner is mad at me and I can't control my thoughts or emotions for me if I get stressed and worked up I can start feeling itchy and see bugs. I have to keep my stress and anxiety down or take my aniexty medication.

[@yoshitamaurya5623]

I have been diagonosed with BPD and after taking medicine I haven't had any mood swings, why?

[@MsAliensex]

@@yoshitamaurya5623 you might have bipolar.

[@mizery3331]

See bugs?

[@PickledPixiePie]

In my personal experience, jumping to conclusions mostly: percieved threat, rejection, etc. It's like a mental/social "sacrifice the limb to safe the body", or in this case, the mental state. Trying to pre-empt things being judged or feeling left out like you're being bullied, when you aren't. My friends had to come to my house and DRAG me out of the house as a teen, but I always felt better after I reluctantly let them take me to hang out~

[@nicburke2031]

BPD people don't give up on yourself! Therapy works well and you can be completed cured.

[@tessakrumpeltree9563]

Cured? Even a smidgeon of relief wold be welcome. But it’s too late now. I’m 71, broke, and in a nursing home that won’t allow psych treatment or meds.

[@mariewilliams6631]

@@tessakrumpeltree9563 there are loads of videos on KZbin about dbt or cbt or stress management.

[@tessakrumpeltree9563]

Pretty sure the world gave up on me first. If I had money or family or a psychiatrist or psychologist or a home or a future. But I don’t and I dread Christmas Alone. Wish I could wake up in May.

[@mzjoeykins]

@@tessakrumpeltree9563 I hope you can find someone in the nursing home to talk to. Or possibly mend a relationship with a family member, family can often be forgiving and understanding when we reach out. Sending virtual hugs.

[@Mooses98702]

Thank you

[@BroAshley]

Having a panic disorder last night and then waking up to this is like the definition of perfect timing.

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Oh great broAshley. Glad it was helpful for you.

[@ninipurple7168]

You mean *attack* ?

[@maje4120]

@@DrTraceyMarks This question isnt really related... I have BPD however i get a little confused about the expression of anger/rage with BPD. I dont hardly ever lash out loud. All my anger stays inside, i may grunt & groan but not much out. Unless some of my behaviors im not seeing is actually anger instead. Could you possibly talk about how anger in BPD can be shown unconsciously please and thank you!?

[@deonsimms1862]

I have BP disorder and I was feeling empty

[@shyaaammeneen63]

​@@ninipurple7168 To feel better reduce negative thoughts with a simple practice. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety. For a healthier life sit on a chair, back straight, eyes closed and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight your thoughts. Slowly the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Day or night, when taking a walk, when reading, on the phone, before sleep etc sit or lie down and observe your breath. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.

[@oshifish2]

Thank you for posting this topic. I was so happy last night cooking spaghetti with my husband, the sun was out and we had a lovely day together, Out of the blue I was stirring it and flashed back to my very abusive ex that would say I was "stirring it wrong" then it went to where he would debase me saying I did nothing right and many times it got more violent. I had to wipe the tears away and fought soooooo hard to get me centered again as not to ruin my perfect day with my now amazing husband. It is so so hard to find those triggers but when you do, fight them with all you can! xx

[@beatznatwor]

When you started talking about the abandonment and rejection aspects I think it really helped clear things up for me. Love your content! Thank you for all that you do 🙏🏻

[@ray-de-yolisten9934]

This is a lot more complex than most people may think when they hear the term borderline personality disorder. This is definitely something we all should have learned about in elementary school or middle school.

[@imagismus]

thank you so much for explaining this. I was just now feeling really down (seemingly out of the blue) and even cried a bit as you explained

[@genevievebelanger5067]

I relate soooo much right here!! I did the DBT 2 years ago and it helped me a lot, even though I feel like I just went through the tip of the iceberg and I would need wayyyy more sessions to be fully healed from the disorder. I am still very easily triggered when I'm not being listened to when speaking or being cut short, when someone tells me I made a mistake when I am already aware and ashamed of it, which makes me prefer to stay alone and do everything by myself. I luckily have enough good friends who knows I will disappear for some time once in a while and not give any news or ask for some because I just need to be by myself, while in the meantime feeling like shit because I am not bonding with anyone while everyone else does. Yup, complicated!

[@whimsicallymad7580]

I wish more people could watch this video and understand that we folks with BPD don’t want to have these mood swings and we don’t want to “over react”, we just feel everything so intensely, and instead people label us crazy.

[@knightabraxas]

I love the way you say "thanks for watching" - it's so warm, it feels like a hug ♡

[@imchef17]

You wouldn't believe the amount of times I come back to this video to help myself get regulated again. I love your no nonsense, straight shooting way you describe what is going. For the millionth time, thank you.

[@carleighmiller542]

This describes me almost to a T! I’ve been to so many psychologists and they have never mentioned BPD, I’m always labeled with anxiety and depression. But this is exactly how my emotions work!! Thank you for helping me not feel so alone!

[@MrJames1994UK]

I was recently diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder, with the help of videos like this one. Thank you for shedding light on BDP.

[@aspenmitchelle1648]

Your video on bps and bipolar was amazing. I have both of them and I’m all over the place. But I have all 9 of the bpd criteria. Thank you for helping to sort that out

[@bruiserbrodie9018]

I don't have BPD, but this really gave me a window on understanding it with the ppl that do have it around me.... Thanks for your great work.

[@jinjin5804]

I value these videos so much. I have BPD and this one just nailed my experiences. I grow and learn with you. THANKS SO MUCH FOR YOUR WORK!

[@remaininganonymous4129]

Hi Tracey, your videos are really helping me. Thank you so much for taking the time to make them. I like that the videos are short and to the point. I have BPD, it's truly exhausting, I'm 28. I have finally started being able to recognise when I am over thinking and losing control and able to focus on my breathing or use a distraction technique. Your videos have helped a great deal, thanks again x I forgot to add that I've found telling myself that I'm just experiencing emotions, I'm a believer that constant distraction from emotions isn't necessarily a good thing. I'd rather accept my emotions, telling myself it's just how I feel right now helps. The coping strategies for bpd are fantastic. However the part of bpd I find hard is the relationship aspect. I can go from love to hate in a heartbeat, it's quite scary. Bpd really is a terrible illness, I often ask myself will I ever have a relationship that doesn't cause me so much distress. I find it so hard to trust people.

[@LoriJMarshall]

Thank you for sharing this information. I know someone with BPD and I was confused as to what it was. It makes so much sense now, and I understand her better because of this video. 🙏

[@ciarosemuniz5898]

Amazing 👏!! I noticed depersonalization and didn't know where it was coming from. Practicing emotional regulation really helped with the mood swings. Thank you so much for the video.

[@charlottewilliams9949]

I was laughing so much when she was re enacting a person with bpd's thoughts after that phone call so relatable! Not as funny when it's in my own head...but now I understand how hilarious it is I think like that !!! Thank you again for an eye opening video.

[@jessiszk4676]

I unexpectedly got overly emotional and choked up when you were giving the restaurant example. That example was perfect because thats is EXACTLY what I think when stuff like that happens. It’s like, why am I not worthy enough to be able to have a fun time with someone I thought was my friend. Are they embarrassed to be seen with me? Am I just a secret friend that they don’t want anyone else to know about? Why can’t I be invited to anything? And so on...and I get extremely angry and obsess about why the hell am I not worth it but other people are? Where did I go wrong? What’s wrong with me? Am I too ugly to be seen with someone? Why are they ashamed of me? Etc. I have a very hard time not obsessing about those thoughts. So, ya that example about the restaurant reaction was spot on.

[@taylorbew1854]

I'm the same. This last holiday was terrible because it's impossible to escape with everyone out and about. As the country reopens, it's been coming back in full force and I feel like I'm going to spiral down a hole

[@jessiszk4676]

Taylor Bew I’m sorry you’re dealing with that. I felt ashamed last night that I relapsed (thats what i call it when i have an out of control episode and take it out on myself physically) but I was proud i fought it for as long as i did. I spent over an hour telling myself to calm down. Breath. You may be reading into this wrong. And other positive things to myself. But then I couldn’t stay strong anymore and i felt ashamed that i gave into it. But as I said I am extremely proud of myself to have been able to catch myself in time and hesitate and even say anything positive to myself for even an hour. I don’t have any advice obviously, but I can at least say that even something as small as not losing your shit for even just a minute. Not acting out and reacting instantly, but even just a small pause before you react...is SUCH and AMAZING feeling! And to feel genuinely proud of yourself for something as what other people may consider small or insignificant...is indescribable but in a great way. It may not happen twice in a row but at least there can be a little bit of proof for yourself that BPD doesn’t control who you are completely. Hope that made sense. And I shared that knowing that even that is easier said than done. And the fact that you and I are still here, being able to leave a comment on a youtube video...and not in a psych ward, hospital, or 6ft underground ...says something too and we should be proud of ourselves for even that too! Sorry I just made the realization as I was finishing up this long comment! 🥰

[@julesmpc1314]

She always explains so much better than others

[@ichangedmynameforyoutube]

Omg. Yes...yes...yes...yes.. and YES!! Thank you for your videos. I have BPD, ADD and Bipolar disorder With PTSD and complex trauma. Sometimes just understanding some of these feelings and behaviors is soooo helpful

[@moncheri2300]

Tracey I hope you know you're amazing. I've been watching your videos for about a year now and you've helped me understand my BPD so much more than any therapist ever has, thank you for continuously putting these videos out!

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Awesome I’m so glad they’ve been helpful for you and thanks for continuing to watch all this time. 😊

[@alverict]

Thank you, doctor!! Keep doing what you're doing please! ❤

[@DrTraceyMarks]

I certainly will. Thank you 😊

[@user-oh4zi3rr2i]

Not to the theme, but I like your avatar!

[@louiserecovery]

@@DrTraceyMarks hey I was wondering if you could make a video on "quiet borderline" I have bpd and was wondering what the difference is between quit bpd and just regular bpd and if quiet bpd is a real thing? thanks!

[@blacklightboy3671]

Hi 👋

[@alverict]

@@blacklightboy3671 Hello!

[@todalio9238]

I'm finally meeting a psychiatrist in the weeks to come after 5 years of being concerned about myself. Thanks a lot for the description Dr! It made things a lot more clear than the basic vanilla-website list of symptoms most google search will send you to. Substance abuse has blinded me but I'm finally able to take a bit of distance with myself to see when and where things went bad. I'm not looking for any excuses, but knowing if my mind is ok or not will relieve me of a huge burden.

[@hellos4540]

I have a friend who was recently diagnosed with bpd, so watching these videos are a great help to understanding how it works and how I can properly support my friend. Thankyou it’s very insightful ❤

[@linnyxmaria]

I have been in psychotherapy for 5 years and I have improved a lot since then. Once you become aware of your thoughts and triggers you can take more control of it. Sadly for me, it doesn’t go away completely and sometimes the emotions caused by triggers are so heavy that eventhough I know it’s not appropriate for the situation, I can’t stop my mind from the negative spiral. My career is doing really well but I still feel lonely and still don’t have many friends. I am still scared for rejection and disappointment and also scared I will hurt anyone in a way. It’s not easy but at least therapy, my strength and determination have saved me from attempting suicide. I still think about it weekly but am more open about it to people who are close to me. Thank you for educating people about BPD. I hope people without BPD will see us as humans just like them who just struggle mentally on a daily basis because of childhood traumas. We long for the things just as every human being: happiness, safety and companionship.

[@sarahnahinudicks]

I feel like I have had BPD all my life, I have always had mood swings. I was finally diagnosed by a psychiatrist last month. I can identify some of the triggers but I recently had a panic attack, I wasn’t thinking about anything just cutting strawberries for a dessert. Came out of nowhere, two fingers on my right hand started shaking violently. I was horrified and thought I had to put rushed to the hospital. Glad my boyfriend was able to help me through it. BPD can be so scary 🥺

[@brushstroke7190]

Excellent video. Clear and to the point. No pandering, no fluff, no tangents. Only quick references to supplemental/relative content. Didn’t lose my patience at all while listening. Much, much better than others’ content. Thank you 🙏

[@kieran867]

Watching this through a mood swing calmed me down. I haven't been officially diagnosed, but I'm about 90% sure I have BPD. The signs are all there. I currently don't have the resources to get diagnosed and even though I know that knowing whether or not I have this disorder would help me out in the long wrong I'm scared of being ridiculed, looked down upon, or thought of as dramatic; it's happened before by psychiatrists, friends, family. My mood swings are sometimes excruciating, seeming to last for hours, when it's only been 30 minutes. I can't tell if I want to punch something, cry, or hurt. Thank you for the video.

[@markdrost8458]

my past has me interested in forms of dissociative ordeals, I have probably more the one in which the world about you pulls away and feels increasingly foreign, sounds like you're being closed off from contact, but the episodes that impart you with those types of senses, I mean mostly involvements with post-trauma, also would make you given to an outlet that would be ultimately sensitizing, PTS can have the effect of opening your heart

[@parisadr5142]

Omg thank you so much for answering😍 I can say all of them was so relatable and helpful. Not many Doctors do what you do and we really appreciate it.❤

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Oh you’re welcome Parissa. Thanks so much for the question and I’m glad you were watching. I meant to reply to one of your earlier comments and let you know it was coming but I forgot. So thanks for still being around.

[@parisadr5142]

@@DrTraceyMarks you are so sweet. i always follow your amazing channel and videos

[@RoxanaKristina]

Yes, meditation, witnessing and having compassion to oneself...this helps A Lot

[@yObabeSitSmE]

Thanks so much for this channel. Because of doctors like you, there is people like me who dare to speak openly as patients. Not long ago I"ve also opened my own channel as I have BPD and I am a trained Mental Health Activist. I was misstreated and discriminated by society by most of society but also from some doctos and I just dont get it when you should be all there to help. You are the perfect example of a Doctor who really cares. Thanks for giving us a voice.❤️❤️❤️

[@blahblahblah8427]

One really important thing I learned while in therapy was that every symptom has some sort of trigger. It doesn't just come out of nowhere as it seems. Identifying and understanding your triggers helps to manage your symptoms better in the long-run 😊

[@shyaaammeneen63]

Drunkcherries, ​ To feel better reduce negative thoughts with a simple practice. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety. For a healthier life sit on a chair, back straight, eyes closed and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight your thoughts. Slowly the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Day or night, when taking a walk, when reading, on the phone, before sleep etc sit or lie down and observe your breath. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.

[@annaturquoise7114]

it’s important so socially contextualize yourself

[@eggnbaconnn4919]

I was diagnosed with bpd at 20-21 but all my life since the age of 6 I was diagnosed with adhd my moods are absolutely crazy hypo sad angry...I’m 26 next month I’m still trying to figure who I am as a person :(

[@AlissaZ]

❤️💜💙 you will find yourself eventually

[@akwhit3107]

I love this woman’s videos. She presents the information in a very digestible manner

[@haisesasaki3944]

Your channel should have more subscribers. Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge ❤

[@yuriko189]

I made sure to watch the ads in their entirety so you can make your money. You are doing a good work doctor. We appreciate and love you ♥️

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Oh Thank you so much yuriko. I appreciate hearing that.

[@yuriko189]

@@DrTraceyMarks my real name is actually Tricia Bobb and I'm from Trinidad and Tobago. I have Bipolar Disorder Type 2 and your videos really help me. Thank you :)

[@puffcatco]

Despite me not having a diagnosis, considering my age, plus the fact that they haven't properly worked out the symptoms, this really does seem to help my fear of abandonment. on a sidenote, I also experience mood swings that usually do have a trigger, but they're rather vague. I've had symptoms of borderline a while ago, but They're definetly not as intense as they are recently or now, given that I actually can have a proper attachment to other people, Which I usually couldn't, thinking that it was for the weak and such. everytime someone throws an insult at me, even jokingly, I pretend to mask the fact that I find it insulting. I start overthinking about it, which can result in anger outbursts, feelings of hopelessness and such. I also experience feelings of "Elation", which is usually caused by either feelings of loneliness, irritation or hate. During these periods, I might have less consideration for the feelings of other people. may it be taken into consideration that these symptoms come and go, and might return at certain moments. I've only really started to experience the full package since somewhere around February of 2020, but, I've had childhood trauma at the age of 6, which might also be a reason why I experience and feel this. It shifted from anger Issues, to low moods and slight fear of abandonment, which has gotten worse, when more people started to move away from me. Intense jealousy also comes with this. if, for example, I see two of my friends that I'm close with bonding together, I'll start to think that they'll find me useless. if someone hasn't talked to me in one or two days, I'll also think that people might've found a replacement for me. once, my current partner in my relationship Told me about this very friendly person that helped them with suicidal thoughts. I acted out rather rudely to that, which I realised later was a bad thing. On that same day, I started acting quite hostile towards the people that I love and care for. I also have trouble with being friends with other people, because sometimes It gets rather repetitive, but I'm scared to be honest about it, because of my fear of abandonment. it's only just now in 2020 where it really shifted into this Borderline-Like state. (This is not the entire story.)

[@OhJesseee]

I was just recently diagnosed with bpd & depression and this actually helped. Thank you 😌❤️

[@BBFCCO733]

YES! I just realized this. When I started noticing my thoughts, I saw that a negative mood or darkness overtook me, but when I caught it and turned it around, mood got better. At the same time, when I speak with someone who I feel is not considering me or being dishonest , I get angry and honestly don't know how to avoid that or not let it get to me.

[@Mrs.Banerji]

Is Meladaptive Daydreaming a mental disorder? Completely off topic but if you ever have time and resources to shed some light on it please do. I came across this term recently and I think it ruined my life mixed with IED. Doctors say mood disorder and clinical depression but it just doesn't add up. I'm 31 and really exhausted of this feeling.

[@Tawroset]

Same here. I only heard about Maladaptive Daydreaming a week or two ago but I've been doing it for most of my life, I just never knew it had a name.

[@Kalina_Kitsune]

Can you do a video on BPD vs schizophrenia? Does having an imaginary friend the same thing as delusions? I love all of your videos! I'm considering becoming a psychologist like my younger sister :) You make things so easy to understand!

[@adamwright9150]

I'm speechless. Your example with the restaurant gave me chills. Literally the first person to ever put my thought process into words so..accurately. I don't even know how to react.

[@melinadistrict9428]

I completely agree that the trigger comes from somewhere! I'm very self aware that all my triggers come from something that is going on or happened or I think will happen due to events in my current life! I just overreact! It is normal to sometimes worry abt your relationships w/ others, but what isn't is getting angry at that person due to assumptions made up in my head triggered by words or actions!

[@daisies667]

I have a lot of borderline symptoms but I've never dissociated before

[@amicamio2435]

Hallo doc! Thanks for the video. I have a question regarding BPD and psychotic like symptoms. Some people with BPD have some psychotic symptoms especially when under stress. I know i tend to hear voices or/and have paranoia this usually resolve pretty quickly after the stress is resolved. What’s the difference between psychotic symptoms experienced with BPD and psychotic symptoms in bipolar or schizophrenia. What is happening in the brain? Is it different or just shorter ? Thanks !

[@dontneednobody]

This was spot on, so helpful and described in a perfect way that I could understand.

[@lolopcallulu3082]

Not diagnosed but thank you. I really needed to hear this. Saved me for sure. Eternally greatful

[@addysaw]

Can you possibly make a video addressing insomnia? Its very common for me to get literally 0 sleep, and I am not allowed to take sleeping medication anymore (especially benzodiazepines, had to do a 2 week medical detox from that) Thanks a lot! I've followed every tip you said in previous videos and notice an 80% improvement of all symptoms and without medication. Sleep still remains poor though

[@nickjohn2051]

My advice. Go see a neurologist. Not a psychatrist. A neurologist can use EEG scan. EEG scan is useful for identifying insomnia. If your insomnia can be detected by the EEG scan, most of them would use fMRI to idenfity the part of brain that is disregulated. If this happened, most neurologist would prescribe proper drugs for you. If that dont work, they can use surgery like deep brain simulation (brain pacemaker). A psychiatry cannot do surgery (brain surgery) even though they have medical degree. Psychiatry is a sham. Most of them make diagnosis even not on solid science. If you want someone that truly expert in brain, go see a neurologist. Dont believe me? Google Project Mkultra by CIA that experimented without consent the use of LSD to mentally ill patient. Google Soviet Union psychiatry corruption, where almost all people that against or outspoken to Communist regime are labelled as schizophrenic and their work even as scientist are redacted from public. A psychiatry is the only branch that have legacy treatment that dont have Randomized Controlled Trial. That treatment is called Electroconvulsive Theraphy. It is literal zapping our brain to induce seizure. Its like turn off and turn on your brain again.

[@yObabeSitSmE]

Hello darling how was it with the benzos detox? X

[@addysaw]

@@yObabeSitSmE it went much much easier than what people say online. However, I still use benzos to sleep now and then

[@shyaaammeneen63]

@@addysaw Benzos are habit forming. Try to reduce to the lowest mg. ​ To feel better reduce negative thoughts with a simple practice. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety. For a healthier life sit on a chair, back straight, eyes closed and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight your thoughts. Slowly the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Day or night, when taking a walk, when reading, on the phone, before sleep etc sit or lie down and observe your breath. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.

[@shyaaammeneen63]

@@yObabeSitSmE Benzos are habit forming. ​ To feel better reduce negative thoughts with a simple practice. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety. For a healthier life sit on a chair, back straight, eyes closed and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight your thoughts. Slowly the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Day or night, when taking a walk, when reading, on the phone, before sleep etc sit or lie down and observe your breath. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.

[@beautifulsoultress3078]

I experienced symptoms of disacciative disorder. Many times when I was employed at this stressful job. But everything was stressful during that time my home life and the job. I felt like I was going crazy. over 10 years later I get diagnosed with BPD2. Ive been needed help

[@bertzerker747]

Who tells you you are not allowed to feel the way you do?

[@bertzerker747]

Who can help you manage better by the way you feel?

[@bertzerker747]

It's grasped in an every day process. High feeling people don't want that to be made ordinary or atleast to become mundane. They choose to go on feeling. Narcissism is reducing the connection with inner emotional thought... 🙏

[@bertzerker747]

@BPD World no reason to complain. Less reason to suffer. We accept ourselves, fate can await. Take up the knowledge, grandeur is reason within itself.

[@bertzerker747]

@BPD World moving is on...

[@r.mitchcullins1299]

Finest thing on KZbin. Love your wisdom. Thank you

[@Savannah1990]

As someone who puts a ton of effort into overcoming my mental illness, I read a lot of self development books that talk about how you create your own reality through your thoughts. A future video on this topic would be helpful for those who struggle with this concept as it makes it challenging to accept/beleive in mental illness disorders, and creates guilt/confusion around symptoms & diagnosis (thinking you could have prevented it had you just used "The Secret" or mediated more in your life). Mental illness starts to feel like an excuse or cop out for behavior related to both treated & untreated mental illness. I often spend hours researching and trying to understand at a scientific level if what I am experience is proven though science (ie something beyond my control) while also practicing mindfulness mediation, visualization, positive thinking, etc. As soon as an episode or symptom occurs, an enormous amount of guilt and anger toward myself follows becuase of the contradicting beliefs I see on creating your own reality/its all in your head messaging. Any insight and perspective on this topic would be so helpful.

[@suzannekalkstein7411]

I really appreciate your videos. Could you possibly cover C-PTSD and photographic memory?

[@dstudios3334]

it’s there really a direct relation between eating disorder and borderline personality ? Thanks for this video, it’s explain a lot about what i feel everyday 😣

[@DrTraceyMarks]

I really don’t know if there’s a direct relationship between eating disorder and BPD. Not everyone with BPD has an eating disorder and vice versa. Thanks for the question 😊

[@jenniferelisa4937]

I think it could be a way of self-harm just like self-mutilation.

[@zianaravine6479]

I feel really enlightened by your video, thank you so much for helping me in finding myself. Today I went for my first counselling session with a Psychologist. She finds out I have some of the traits but it was too soon for a diagnosis especially when I am on my way to early adulthood age. But my psychologist finds that my mood swings are ofter highly aggressive (self-damaging behaviour) and impulsive. I am at the beginning of my own journey for healthy mental health status. Wish me luck! Please do not give up guys

[@davidmacphee3549]

You are the very best! I have seen negative comments you have seen too but as a professional, head doc, You are the very best!

[@Brian15]

Dr. Marks, when one has a very hazy, or poor memory of their childhood (before puberty), what is that indicative of?

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Often it’s related to having unpleasant experiences in childhood. Some people handle unpleasant experiences by forgetting them. Poor attention can also make you forget a lot of details. There’s other things like having depersonalization episodes, dissociative fuque states - there’s really not one thing. Someone really answering that question would want to talk with you in more depth about what you actually remember

[@Brian15]

@@DrTraceyMarks Thanks so much

[@mariamaican2013]

Hi Dr Marks ❤️ Can a depressed person have lots of ups and downs in one day ? When im alone i tend to be sad and have a lot of intrusive thoughts but then if im with someone or im doing something fun I tend to feel a lot better . Even if im not doing something i can still have better moods and then ill fall back into a sad mood . Is this possible for a “depression” ? I am on a TCA and have been on it for about 2 months. Thank you!! Love your videos

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Yes you can Maria. What you’re describing sounds a little like a typical depression. Did you see that video? If not take a look kzbin.info/www/bejne/apOraXhpjMtgjaM

[@ladybaabaa3294]

I find with my depression, even if I don't feel particularly social, when I spend a bit of time with someone I enjoy being with, it lifts my mood. It's fun, it's a distraction and it brings me out of my own head for a while.

[@borges1016]

Makes so much sense and hits home. You are easy to listen to and right to the point explaining everything with examples. Nice delivery. You have the best videos!

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Thanks so much Eddie. I really appreciate that. Its important to me to keep things succinct and to the point.

[@okotek-jt1hh]

Dr Tracey spitting facts as always...

[@Flo-cy4xc]

Hello! Can someone have bpd without having impulsive acts, like buying compulsively, drugs, addictions... Or without having outbursts of anger?

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Yes there are other symptoms. I go through the symptoms and this video kzbin.info/www/bejne/g33PZZVvbJdpraM. Also people can have aspects or features of personalities without having a full disorder.

[@marib.52380]

How I cope? Stay single 😉

[@MR-qw5wb]

Are you for real. Because this is literally me.

[@marib.52380]

M R 100%

[@MR-qw5wb]

Mari B. 💯

[@zentient8840]

Forced to be single again 😔

[@valarmorghulis364]

You described me.....i have tears in my eyes..I can’t explain how this runs my life..and I have absolutely no idea what to do,,

[@cynergyyy]

Right as you said Abandoned or Rejected A light bulb went off in my mind and have discovered my deepest and root fear comes forth as being afraid that “I won’t be accepted or loved” or “nobody likes me” and that’s a profound belief, more like a programming that I’m not a likeable person - I’m not a loveable person. And this programming has ruled my life for a very long time (23 years!) and I just turned 24 and I accept myself and nurture myself to see the lies that have hung heavy over my mind heart and soul. I pray and hope that anyone with similar experiences may overcome their destructive self beliefs, patterns and poor programming. May we all overcome this💚💜

[@g.r.2985]

Wow!! This is SO real for me in my life, thanks so much. Just the title is worth a like, subscription and comment 😢

[@Bitt60]

Thank you Dr Mark's for making these informative videos and have an awesome day .🙂

[@a.p5079]

Very helpful and informative video, your presentation calmed me down thank you. I was doing well and hadn’t had an outburst in a while at least not directed at my family. Happened today and I regretted it. I hate acting out like an angry child. I often spiral inwards with self loathing to stop myself - which isn’t a healthy long term tactic. Now on to the next video.

[@sparsesalamander]

Very well stated and explained, thank you.

[@heatherdoesvoices9048]

Cannot stress how much your videos have helped. I've been living with these symptoms and never cared to look up what I might have, but every single description or scenario for borderline personality disorder is me to a T. I now know ways to cope and also work on bettering not only my life, but my partner and friends. Cannot thank you enough. ❤️

[@samirah4423]

my partner just broke up with me yesterday because i snapped at him, and it hurt him because i've snapped/gotten angry for the smallest reasons. i love him so much, and i dont think he realizes the love i have for him because he only sees the negatives. What coping mechanisms do you use , if i may ask?

[@samirah4423]

i would tell my partner that i would work on myself and managing my emotions, but this time i couldn't control it, and he said he was done with me because i said that multiple times to him, that i would change and act right. i blamed myself of course, but also blamed my medication because it caused me to have brain fog all day, and i couldn't control my emotions as well as when im not on medication, but i still would snap at him over dumb things before starting medication for my adhd and ocd. i did some research on the meds i took, and it says when taken together, it can cause more irritability, ect. ;-; i am so heartbroken, i go from crying, to being distracted, to crying again.

[@briansalzano9771]

It was a great question. Thanks Dr. Tracey; as I've been doing mindfulness I've noticed my emotions are a bit of a fog. I wasn't sure if my emotions would just oscillate and cause negative emotions or if there was a trigger. You were very unambiguous and that's the part I liked the most :)

[@TheMillash]

Glad I'm not the only one. I just got diagnosed and I'm glad to know I'm not the only one that feels this way would love to talk to people like minded

[@victorianature4091]

Thank you so much for this video, it really help me during a boderline crisis

[@smritiid3697]

Learning so much from you,keep up the good work .

[@ViktorHristovvv]

Thank you for this video 🙏🏻

[@jennjohnson6694]

Oh my goodness- thank you for this video. It’s helpful

[@aditij6671]

Such videos makes perspective so clear and cohesive. I go through such episodes and never am able to figure what the hell is it. But these videos make it a little better, atleast i know what is it and why it is

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Very good Kiaara. The more you understand the better it can be for you.

[@aditij6671]

Dr. Tracey Marks thankyou for creating these videos, please don’t stop. If i could i would come to you for therapy in person, but i live here in India and here we don’t have any relevant help for bpd or bipolarity. That’s why your videos are a lot of help