when an introvert feels social

[@ajsujit]

As an introvert, I'd be slightly more comfortable entering a battlefield than such a social gathering.

[@leahandphillip]

That’s a tough choice but, I think we’re right there with you! 😂

[@MM_Legacy]

What's the difference? 😅

[@Cybercastersunplugged]

haha..agree

[@leospencer2077]

​@@MM_Legacyin the battlefield have a sword?😂😂😂

[@BillyBobJoe14]

I often take a nap or fake sleep to avoid interacting with people

[@epixentertainmentinc5963]

haha! Good thing you saved her from that nightmare.

[@leahandphillip]

It’s scary outside…

[@En1Gm4A]

The questions at the end really got me 😂😂 especially - how are you

[@leahandphillip]

The scariest question of all! 😂

[@Reincarnation-IsReal]

Hanging.........

[@Dragon_warriors481]

I can’t answer that without there being awkward silence afterwards 🫠

[@solace001]

*ugh* I think I just threw up a little just reading that.

[@dealwolfstriked272]

When couples introvert together

[@Meirstein]

"What are your hobbies?" "PLEASE JUST PULL OUT MY FINGERNAILS INSTEAD!"

[@Vandel212]

That could be your hobby

[@RayBo]

As a 60-year-old introvert, I have realized that if I want to meet someone new, I should just read a new book. 😁The people I meet in my mind are far more interesting than the ones I meet in person.

[@TTFerdinand]

Well there are exceptions. As an introverted space geek I would love to meet Neil deGrasse Tyson, ask him just one question and let him talk non-stop until dawn.

[@mogytamas2]

@@TTFerdinand :D i mean....yeah, who wouldn't? :D

[@princetbz1102]

Well I only talk to interesting people

[@atomsofstardust]

O.m.g. this is sooo true, it’s nauseating :) Or even invent the characters (in my case), since I have a bit of affinity for writing my own stuff :)

[@atomsofstardust]

@@TTFerdinandWhat one question would you ask him?

[@XanderCrease]

He's that side of her brain that rationalizes solitude! 😄Her guardian against uncomfortable silences, fake smiles and social interrogation⚔

[@leahandphillip]

Social interrogation! That’s exactly what it is! And you ought to be a poet!

[@EnglishBH]

As an introvert, I've learned to enjoy most awkward silences, because I know extroverts are far more uncomfortable with uncomfortable silences than I am haha. I enjoy that they are also uncomfortable with the socializing at that point, so I win.

[@lovelovelove789]

The closest thing to me going out on a Friday night is going out of my bedroom and into the kitchen for snacks. Yeah, i went out.

[@leahandphillip]

Accomplishment! 😂

[@michaelandtiffani327]

Don't forget afterward when you overthink worrying if you asked them enough questions back, or if they just think you're self-centered for talking about yourself all night. Social events are rarely worth it 😂

[@leahandphillip]

All you need is one person. That’s enough! 😂

[@TTFerdinand]

I always forget asking them back, but I don't worry about it too much. If they need to talk about themselves, trust me, they will sooner rather than later, and I will happily "listen" so I won't have to talk about my crappy life.

[@rebeltrooper4044]

"Is it Lee-a or Lay-a"? Brilliant! Love your videos.

[@leahandphillip]

😂 it’s one she gets ALL THE TIME!

[@filipinosonicfan]

Yeah my "social instincts" turn off when there's small talk. And I barely even get social

[@RialVestro]

I HATE the "How are you?" question so much... You don't actually want a real answer to that so I'm just going to lie and say I'm fine but I'm not fine, I just know that no one cares.

[@leahandphillip]

Totally! It’s seriously a lazy question. If they cared, they might as what you did today, or “how has it been with (fill in the blank with something specific).”

[@TTFerdinand]

"I'm fine" would be the easiest answer to get them off your back, but trying to be an honest person I usually go with the other option: the truth. That prompts the follow-up question:"What's wrong?", to which I usually answer:"If you're really interested, you'll have to call in sick at work, it's gonna take a while." The result is the same, telling the truth takes just five seconds more, but with the possible benefit of not hearing "How are you?" from the same person ever again. 😉

[@jaspermooren5883]

I just give a genuinely honest answer. Either you actually get a good conversation, or it is over very quickly. Win win in my book. However I do live in the Netherlands, and we are quite famous for being increadibly straight forward, so that helps I guess.

[@CurseTheDarkness]

Thank God he managed to talk her off the ledge.

[@chrishunter3676]

As an introvert, I understand this on a spiritual level

[@leahwarburton]

"Hi, I'm Leah, and I'm an Introvert with a chronic illness". "How are you?" is a question ever to be dreaded; especially as you know the person asking usually doesn't really care that much. I honestly can't remember the last time I went out on a Friday night. I loved the clip, so relatable. Thankfully, that feeling of wanting to be social usually fades pretty quickly - so you don't usually actually HAVE to DO IT *shudder*. And Yes, my name really is Leah.

[@leahandphillip]

Hey Leah! Welcome to the community! No small talk necessary here. 😂

[@leahwarburton]

@@leahandphillip Thank you.

[@BeauWolfe]

I'm an introvert around people I don't know or feel comfortable around, but then if iiam comfortable around you I act like a complete idiot and have fun and be silly and never shut up, even annoying just to get a rise out of the person to attack me and go crazy!

[@brookslindseyjr]

I love how dramatic this feels :D

[@leahandphillip]

It’s a serious issue! 😂

[@Ts_thoughts]

They have excellent camera work and lighting. You don't see this out of most content creators. They hit home runs on every video. They know how to tell a story even if there's no words. Hollywood's loss is our gain.

[@atomsofstardust]

Guys, this is PURE CINEMA! :)) Subbed :) Thanks YT for recommending me this video :) Also, as an introverted guy - it was almost 100% accurate:)

[@leahandphillip]

Thank you so much! We're happy you're here :)

[@jameshun5431]

These guys don't know what an introvert truly is

[@PirateBob711]

Happy Thanksgiving to you both. - love a fellow introvert. lol

[@leahandphillip]

Happy Thanksgiving to you, too’!

[@PirateBob711]

@@leahandphillip Thank you. :)

[@Nimariel]

You forgot “Have you two thought about having kids?”

[@leahandphillip]

😱😱 you’re SO right! I think we need to make a part 2!

[@Ts_thoughts]

​@@leahandphillipCan't wait for part 2. My brother married an introvert. It completely changed her 🤯. She works from home doing grant proposals. Hates doing anything with "people." She went at least 3 years without hardly saying a word at family functions she was dragged to. To ..."what is she doing? She's... talking?!"...and having conversations. 😮 My brother said it was her allowing them to have A SINGLE child. They have 2 boys and a daughter now. And they all talk at family functions now. She still doesn't like dealing with "people" though. 😂

[@lorifromtemeculaca426]

THIS... WAS... UTTERLY... . . . TERRIFYING!!!

[@leahandphillip]

😂😂 it really is.

[@Haxior5506]

It's not introvert but it's social anxiety. Introvert is just the person who doesn't feel the desire to talk to anyone but to just do his/her thing. Althought it can be combined. I am introvert with social anxiety, I kinda feel stressed around people but also as a music producer I do not care much because I would prefer staying in home studio and doing music.

[@theultimatewarlord69420]

Good thing I am diagnosed an extroverted-introvert. I am in all sense an introvert, but an introvert who can and doesn't hesitate to socialise. I just don't initiate small talk or a conversation with anyone that I don't know (or even know because, like-wise of an introvert, I have no idea what to talk about), and I never walk up to a stranger. I just wait for them to approach me and begin talking, and then I begin socialising with them. But then the chat doesn't last for long because I have nothing more to say. To summarise, I only speak to people when it's necessary to, or to familiar people when I just feel like it, otherwise I just won't even try to at all

[@leahandphillip]

Sounds like a good balance!

[@The_Notorious_N.O.E.]

As an introvert, I like being invited to events, I might even feel insulted if I'm not invited, but deep in my heart I really don't want to go

[@markinipannini]

**sees title** Me: "Oh yea sure, I've been there" - "Have you had anything to drink" - "No, it's no that" Me: "Oh damn, my bad, nevermind"

[@leahandphillip]

😂

[@1castellp]

i can feel the fallout of those last questions.

[@JohnCuddy-c6p]

You are young, intelligent and beautiful. People would line up to talk to you all. Funny too so the icing is on the cake. Wish you well.

[@dankslug]

Brilliant as usual

[@ArthurSouz4]

"what do you do for living" is the most boring question of all omg

[@benjaminestep0327]

You guys are hilarious as you are talented! 😂 Keep ‘em comin’

[@Vandel212]

I was fully expecting them to get ready to go, then last minute she changes her mind.

[@Punakivilabor]

It was good how you made that smile at the end like that one German guy

[@sorarockss93]

Phillip looks like Cliff Bleszinski (creator of Gears of War). It's like doppelganger situation.

[@nataliemorales5471]

As a introvert i sometimes get that feeling. I work at a haunted house and have a group i play dnd with in person to make up for it

[@christopherparkin7162]

I could relate to her up until "meet new people" then I checked out

[@MemphiStig]

At least he's looking out for her. He knows what's best. I'm sure it's fine.

[@joshphillips2383]

I have autism and I struggle with the small talk especially the 'In the broadest sense, how are you?', I need that narrowed down *not* broadened and anything where I have to discuss my work life gets very draining FAST

[@leahandphillip]

It can be SO draining! If they don’t specify what they’re talking about, it’s like they’re leaving it up to us to decide. How am I… physically? Emotionally? Professionally? Spiritually? I guess I’ll pick one 🤷‍♂️🤷‍♀️

[@leahfillmorecreates]

The "Leah" or "Leia" hits hard. 😂

[@leahandphillip]

It’s obviously LEAH, am I right, Leah?

[@raversmiracle2]

I don't know what I am. I hate people and I have anxiety attacks when I spend too much time shopping, and yet a part of my brain is fascinated with how people's minds work. I want to observe them, but like, from behind glass so I don't have to interact with them.

[@leahandphillip]

Sounds like you have a great perspective on things!

[@OutdoorsWithChad]

Ok, introverts are not hermits. Introverts do enjoy being social with other people and going out. The difference is that we mentally recharge in solitude, whereas extroverts mentally recharge by being with other people. Anyone who never wants to leave the house or be social is not an introvert, they are possibly depressed, or suffer from some other mental illness, and should seek help. There is a difference.

[@leahandphillip]

Is that true?! 😳

[@OutdoorsWithChad]

@leahandphillip Clinically speaking yes. It gets confused a lot because many people with social anxiety or mild depression may identify as just introverted, which they may also be, but the anti-social tendencies are not due to the introversion, but due to the other mental health issues they may have in addition to the personality trait. Again, if you or someone else is avoiding social gatherings entirely, you should get to the root of why, rather than just write it off as being introverted. We all need socialization and real, in-person community to stay healthy and well-adjusted. I am 100% an introvert -- but I love social gatherings, just in limited doses because I refresh myself in solitude.

[@Minotyr]

No, this skit is completely accurate of an introvert. What you said is a exception not the general rule. Introverts of course like being social, but mainly with people they already know. This skit reflects more of talking to strangers.

[@imonymous]

Absolutely correct.

[@cookisfamily78]

That is why I have no friends.I hate leaving my house.😅😂

[@leahandphillip]

You can be our friends!

[@cookisfamily78]

@leahandphillip as long as the friendship only includes texting, that is mostly funny KZbin videos like yours and memes.

[@cihs88]

In Turkish there is a question which translates as "What are the news?" I always struggled to answer that. Until my dad told me to stop thinking for a geunie answer and say "I am fine, how are you" I still get confused when someone asks how I am because no one really seems interested when I start answering :)

[@leahandphillip]

It’s better to never put yourself in that situation to have the question asked! 😂

[@joehynes2964]

LOL. Perfectly executed.

[@leahandphillip]

Thank you (bows)

[@Ts_thoughts]

​@@leahandphillipForgot the flowers 💐 👏🏻🎬

[@Dlnqntt]

This feeling is terrifying when it occurs.

[@leahandphillip]

Right? Thank God it passed... 😅

[@SmoothSkySailin]

"You should totally do that.." Hahahahah! The number of times I've (introvert) have said that to my introvert wife when she gets that feeling to be social...

[@leahandphillip]

You want to go out? You’re on your own… 😂

[@DragoonZell]

Love hanging out with people playing games and such but man it drains me something awful lol.

[@martydespot]

That was intense, I'm having nightmares tonight for certain 😂😂😂

[@leahandphillip]

Oh no! Be sure to lock your door…. Who am I kidding - it’s probably still locked from when you locked it a couple days ago, right?? 😂

[@TheVileOne]

Omg, game night! With small talk!

[@TTFerdinand]

My way of feeling social would be looking at that unopened wine bottle, thinking: hmm, maybe I should invite some friends over? But then remembering that my wife doesn't like my friends ("They're a bunch of drunks!") and covertly helping myself to that wine hoping she doesn't notice (she always does).

[@Dudewhoisthere17]

Whew, just in time.

[@ExtremeTeddy]

Smalltalk, who needs smalltalk? I can sit together with friends for hours, playing games or watching something without ever talking to each other 😅...

[@markmuller7962]

1:29 With the perfect fake smile 🤣

[@leahandphillip]

😂😏

[@mumenrider2481]

Is it bad that I want to be invited to the party, but I don't want to go to the party?

[@leahandphillip]

That is the standard index of an introvert.

[@Gigusx]

If I ever met you, you can add "are you related to Natalie Portman?" to the list of questions :D

[@leahandphillip]

That’s a question that is warmly welcomed! 🤗

[@mogytamas2]

I never understood how people would just want to meet strangers, like out of the blue...Why? most people suck :D but anyways. Good on them i guess if that fills a need for them.

[@chopdogrulz1337]

People suck. Stay away from those things whenever ya can! 😆😆

[@leahandphillip]

Haha exactly! 😂

[@MetalGuitarGuy]

I feel personally attacked right now… 🤔

[@TheBlackToedOne]

On the one hand he's a good husband who was able to talk her back off that ledge. On the other hand - anyone else catch that little smirk at the end? Thinking maybe he's an introvert's introvert and doesn't want to go either but lets his wife take the lead so it looks like it's HER that doesn't want to go when HE really doesn't want to go either. This is his revenge for the Christmas elf/sister's girl's trip. IYKYK 😂

[@leahandphillip]

You nailed it! He has his ways of getting back.

[@LairdErnst]

Villain origin story….

[@mr.brownstone5716]

Hysterical!

[@planetm1069]

I can relate 😅

[@leahandphillip]

It’s a scary world out there. 😂

[@brandonmcclain9988]

Introversion does not equate to being antisocial, it means when you are social as introvert versus an extrovert, you just get drained quicker. While overall, an extrovert gets energised by being around people, and an introvert doesn’t, this doesn't mean that extroverts never require alone time to recharge, and an introvert never requires socialisation to recharge. Socialisation and solitude are fundamentally human needs, people just fall on different ends of the spectrum of how much of each they require to function optimally. That’s all.

[@Haki145]

Not going outside and not wanting to meet new people also does not equate being antisocial.

[@savasyn]

Yup!

[@kaylex44]

LOL, much relate! 💚

[@leahandphillip]

I know, right?!

[@kaylex44]

@leahandphillip it's like you were inside my head

[@eric_moore-6126]

Now that you mention it: how do you pronounce Leah?

[@ISRA228]

It would be cool if Talitha appeared in one of these videos, I haven't seen her act in a long time, it would be cool for Talitha to appear with you 3 one day, please 🙏😁🥹

[@leahandphillip]

OMG that WOULD be fun! Such a good idea.

[@ISRA228]

@leahandphillip thanks! 🥹🙏

[@robertnendel1993]

Just an FYI, from this extreme introvert - the husband comes off as manipulative and selfish. How easy it is to prey upon the social insecurities of introverts.

[@lonesurvivor8828]

This skit is bizarre and strange. When people ask me those questions i always seek to subvert their expectation then ask them deep questions about thier life and happiness. Sorry i don't do shallow conversations. I'm also not an introvert... I probably should have lead with that.

[@iraf.official]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@fredmonroe6042]

Fun this is so me and my wife.

[@qbi-wan]

Blasphemy!! 💥

[@Callmebutters]

Haha. Perfection. (Also, first to like. :) )

[@leahandphillip]

Oh nice! Good timing! 😂

[@МихайлоМатвєєв-у3й]

Oh come on, its not that bad........ its much worse😅

[@Ecniv8891]

Facts. 😂😂😂