When Did You Realize That You Weren't a Kid Anymore?

[@josepherhardt164]

14:35 You know you're getting old when your doctor retires on you, your handyman retires on you, your plumber retires on you, your MECHANIC retires on you! ARRRRGGGHGHGH! 17:58 That's a singularity-inducing realization.

[@youraftermyrobotbee]

When you're disappointed in yourself for sleeping in on the weekend because you had things you want/need to get done... That's when your childhood is over tbh.

[@figgusriggs6462]

Amen dude. My buddy accidentally slept in until 11 am and I was like, "ah crap, I'm sorry."

[@johannasweet1120]

Realizing that the times I celebrated holidays were just because of the obligation of visiting family (and that other young adults don’t really care either). I was working a traveling job and until someone texted me “happy Easter” I totally never even realized that it was Easter. If I was home, I would have constantly heard my mother talking about going to grandma’s house weeks in advance. I then told a coworker “happy Easter” and he thought it was odd that I cared lol

[@fjLKA]

It was the first time someone called me a man. I was in line at a waterslide and I overheard a stranger. He was just talking to his daughter, going "line up behind that man" and he meant me.

[@millersam07]

These posters definitely did not come from poor or abusive households. It's really just making me realize I didn't get to be a child when i was growing up. Bills were a constant worry, as was food, and being parentified at age 5. I don't think i had any of these securities listed in this post. I did grow up and escape, and i re-raised myself, giving my inner child all the love they deserved, but i don't think any video has highlighted the stark difference between those who were privileged enough to have a childhood, and those of us who really didn't.

[@BIG_CHEESE_MAKE_ME]

Dw theres plenty of people who understand. 19 and in the Air Force and I can confidently say being an adult is so much better than being a kid

[@p.i.m.6008]

2020 I finally recognized my parents pattern of abuse. Realizing what i allowed to be done to me, i ended up breaking 7 different times, that year, alone. Final straw was when i was told to listen to my father, about a decision i made for myself. I knew the side effects and what could possibly happen, but i was suicidal and was prescribed anti depressants and anti psychotics. Parents told me to not waste my time. Even threatened to sue the psychiatrist. They were unhappy

[@Demonetization_Symbol]

I don't think you ever lose your childhood completely

[@christine-kht]

HOPEFULLY. Being grown up doesn't mean you can't be foolish once a while and have some innocent stupid fun. Being an adult is not about being miserable and stuck up x.x Preserve the inner child at least a bit :D It's fun.

[@Tim85-y2q]

When I was excited to get a drain snake for Christmas.

[@davidpumpkinsjr.5108]

It's that point in your life when going to bed early stops being something you *have to* do and starts being something you *get to* do.

[@esmooth919]

Apparently, I'm still a kid then, because going to bed early is still something I have to do. Otherwise, I'll be a zombie for work in the morning. #nightowl

[@devonte1342]

listening these while studying>>>>>

[@figgusriggs6462]

3 things: When I was 16, my dad left and my mom lost it. I told her, it's going to be okay" and she said, "no, nothing will ever be okay again." It was the first time she didnt comfort me. I ended up having to take care of her homeless as a teenagee. And then this year- age 29. I'm a recovered drug addict who works in IT like my dad. My girlfriend works in marketing. I have a ton of friends, rock climb, do math for fun, I'm an avid hiker. I'm buying a house this year and I spend a lot of time reading about finance and investing. My mom said once when I was describing my plans for the day that she "loves the life I created for myself." I genuinely love it too. Yesterday, I left work for the day, grabbed an early lunch and ate at a park. I had to leave because I have a lot of chores to complete. I just had a moment of peace. I have a lot of days where I just breathe and remember that I don't live the dramatic and painful existence of an abandoned child anymore. I'm an adult that people look to for inspiration. It's weird and I'm super into it. I'm getting off work in a few hours, I'm going to clean my house/car, nap, and then I'm going to diamond paint and watch a horror movie and maybe get a drink with my girlfriend. It's our anniversary. People told me that being an adult was hard and to enjoy being a child. I always knew they were wrong. Adulthood just keeps getting better and better and better.

[@maritzaguadarrama9975]

I realized i was grown when my mom kept asking me for money for bills after I moved out and i had to choose between eating or help keep her from homelessness

[@esmooth919]

I feel some type of way about that

[@whtxombi4955]

In my case, it was the decision not to celebrate my birthday anymore. And when my parents are gone (if I'm still around) my observance of holidays will be over too.

[@josepherhardt164]

More than once I've told people, "If I were dictator, October 30 would be followed by January 2."

[@abbywolf9701]

Can I ask why you don’t want to celebrate holidays?

[@whtxombi4955]

@@abbywolf9701 After thirty years of working retail, they just lost their appeal.

[@abbywolf9701]

@@whtxombi4955 ah gotcha

[@kyarimaresuki]

Even after doing all of the things most people do in adulthood, I still don't feel like an adult at 42. However, I had a moment in my thirties when I had to go to a hospital to talk to my dad and try to mediate between he and my mom. I felt terrible because Dad had almost died and while much better at this point, was looking more pale than I had ever seen him. However he was being a jerk to Mom and the nurses, while Mom overwhelming him (with care) at the same time. I'll never forget the feeling as I came to the stop sign in my neighborhood and thought, "Here that a reversal of roles that some talk about as their parents age." Now that Dad has left this world, Mom is alone and I have to step up more. That is the thing that *can* turn most people into an adult: carrying the weight of oneself and others. I'm still not carrying enough weight, but I'm trying. Similar to someone in this video, though, I also had a big think a few years before all of this stuff with my parents when my Doctor was two years older than me. I saw the contrast between the two of us and it was painful. I still felt like a kid, though. Maybe even like her kid!

[@dustinsmith7259]

For me it was moving across the country, getting married and becoming a stepfather. When you live around the corner from your parents and have no one else to take care of but yourself, and then no longer have that and you’re now the head of a family…I’d say that’s the realization that you can no longer go back to being a kid even if you wanted to. Totally worth it.

[@pxn748]

I'm 65 and I still ask my Mom for advice. I don't always take it, but I ask her.

[@jodyrhoton1878]

I’m 64 and everyday there is something I wish I could tell or ask my parents about. Dad’s been gone 13 years and mom 11.

[@michaelbujaki2462]

Just be glad that you're mom is still alive and lucid. It means that you'll have more time to live than most people. On the flip side, living at 90 is pretty lonely. Someone once told Betty White that she could use Facebook to stay in touch with friends. She replied "to talk to my friends I'd need a Ouija board."

[@pxn748]

@@michaelbujaki2462 I am glad she's alive. She's 96 and still lives in her house by herself and takes care of the house and yard. She doesn't like to go anywhere anymore, but my sister lives real close to her.

[@jordanfehr7749]

When someone younger than me died in a horror movie

[@GhostRider-xi3pb]

I remember playing ball with family's children in my forties. My aunt was watching and when we were done she asked me if I still had some kid left in me. I paused and said "I guess I do." She said "Good don't ever change'"

[@valinsyrcen1673]

That bed in the middle one hit hard.

[@josepherhardt164]

12:58 "The kind of silence that echoes when you sigh." Damn. WRITE A BOOK! I write, and I'm envious about this line. And yeah. First apartment. I moved in, and the next day I went to the complex's apartment manager (Mrs. Yarlett--I still remember you!). I said to her, "Last night was my first night in my own apartment. I went and turned on ALL the lights. Every single last one of them. Then, I sat down in the middle of the living room for several minutes. Do you know what happened?" She said No. I said, "Absolutely nothing!" Mrs. Yarlett and I got along well.

[@millersam07]

I too remember that feeling, the first night I was really in my own place. I can't really tell from your post if it was a bad or good first night? For me it was a glorious first night. It was quiet! No one yelling, no stress about someone coming in angry, no fear when you see the headlights. I didn't really have much stuff, but what I did have was MINE, mine that I hauled from the thrift store or curb, mine that I made. No one could kick me out on a whim. There was food in the fridge! Real food and so much of it! The carpet was clean! Clean I tell you! You could still feel the softness! I sat on the living room floor for a bit too, and nothing happened. It was peace, it was freedom, and I would never go back. Being on my own was everything I had ever dreamed it to be. I hope your doing well, and if you're first night wasn't that peaceful nothingness like I felt, then I hope things got better for you!

[@josepherhardt164]

@@millersam07 Your story is much deeper than mine. I was riffing off my dad's incessant "Turn off the lights!" nagging. Even when I was just on my way from my room to the kitchen to get a drink (and would be back in my room a minute later). One time I calculated what it would cost to have my room light on 24 hours a day for a full month. Back then, 1968-ish, I put a dollar bill on the kitchen counter and said "Here. Now stop bugging me about the lights!" Pro-tip to teenagers: Don't do this. Parents hate it when you oppose ridiculousness with facts and math.

[@DominikQuesnel]

Im 19 it was when i realized how screwed the job market was and also the fact that everyone treated me as if i was older than them

[@MewtwoShadowFNaFGirl]

Many of these kinda do make me feel sad and make me miss being a kid cause you have less crap to deal with and you had more free time outside of chores or caring for pets. I kinda do wish to go back to that. While yes you may still have some of your childhood it is not fully the same. I do miss playing out stories I would think of as a kid with friends. Yes many of the stories were ripoffs from Disney Movies but would at least put my own characters and a bit of my own take on the stories. While they do make me cringe sometimes I still remember the fun I had back then.

[@esmooth919]

2:47 this reminds me of when I bought a case of angry orchard, but it took me an entire month to drink it.

[@drrocketman7794]

Holding a live hand grenade in my hand with the pin pulled out, and being ordered by the range instructor: "Now throw your grenade." Boot camp kinda separates the men from the boys. Too bad my dad never realized that.

[@BIG_CHEESE_MAKE_ME]

Same. For me it was “YOU HAVE 30 SECONDS TO GET OFF THIS F****** BUS GO GO GO”

[@KynMites]

I decided I needed to regain a certification for work. I scheduled the class, drove halfway across the state to a place I've never been. Asked directions and navigated to the room, took the class and went home. All without anyone telling me I had to, setting it up for me, or taking me to the location. That night I realized that I was officially a completely independent adult.

[@blisseyran-dom6822]

When I first started working at a school and I saw a kid crying and thought to myself, I should get a teacher. Then it occurred to me, I am a teacher lol

[@nancylynch1609]

Lol! that's rich! Hear you ❤😊

[@michaelbujaki2462]

Reminds me of another rookie story. A paramedic went to his first call. When he arrived he found the victim on the ground dead from a heart attack. Family was doing CPR. He asked "Did anyone call 9-1-1?" They all looked at him. He then thought "Crap, I"M 9-1-1!" The other medic said "It's his first day. I'll take it from here." The victim lived, but the paramedic did not live it down."

[@The-Southern-Dandy]

They year that I went outside, saw it was snowing, and instead of that child-like wonder that snow had always filled me with, I was filled with... something else. Ick. I suddenly grew up and saw snow as another chore to do (aka clearing the walkway and driveway)

[@EleMTroy]

When I had an accident with my electric scooter 🛴 and was alone in the hospital, got checked out for any injuries and nobody was there for me or with me, got a taxi home and cried all the way 🥲🥹💢☠️was calming myself down by saying thankful to be alive, could have ended way worse.

[@Kameron347]

I grew out of Minecraft and Roblox when I was 15 (which really wasn’t that long ago as I’m 16.) I’ve been playing Minecraft since 2018 and Roblox since 2014. But I’ve slowly stopped playing both games as 10th Grade went on and by the end of it, I just stopped. I tried playing them every few weeks only to log off before 10 minutes.

[@stillaboveground2470]

The last time I played sandlot ball and the next day, I couldn't get out of bed.

[@birdgod5584]

4:32 is just depressing, man 😢

[@esmooth919]

I realized wasn't a kid anymore when I found myself apprehensive about asking my parents to borrow money, cuz I knew that they needed it more than I do... Despite the fact that I was damn near broke until payday

[@Drippticon]

“Your uncle made a fort. Maybe he’ll let you in” “No”

[@hapichampagne5916]

When I had to get an mri. I had to go into that big scary machine, and I didn’t have anyone with me, no parents- and I really wanted my mom there- and I was just like, damn I’m really an adult and I have to go through this in my own. 😢

[@Aw3someOpZ]

Never had that moment. Dad had a stroke and mom barely held in till i turned 18 and started working………

[@visceralmoss5086]

When I had to plan my own birthday party, It made me happy but it was a strange feeling

[@balther10]

Man can’t they change the damn background music more consistently

[@birdgod5584]

And learn how to pronounce extended letters, like wayyyyyyyyy. It sounds like a robot

[@nicholasharvey1232]

0:36 Gonna guess that this is one of my fellow Americans relating this story.

[@4FYTfa8EjYHNXjChe8xs7xmC5pNEtz]

When I see a woman with kids, and still feel attracted to the woman.

[@heartroll8719]

When you can make your own decisions.

[@Kirjava88]

When it was my idea to put a bucket next to my bed for when I had migraines.

[@dragonBishop99]

I have the opposite problem. Had to grow up quickly in order to take care of my siblings , on top of a lot of other responsibilities while i was a child , including getting jobs. Im 25 now and still feel like ive not become an adult, despite having gotten married and starting my own business. I guess a few suicide attempts on top of it all does that to you?

[@LAG09]

Watching pornography, happening upon the actress' bio, seeing what year she was born and realizing "Whoa?! She's five years younger than I am?!"

[@birdgod5584]

In a few months, we will probably see some born in 2007 holy moly

[@valthenvega2434]

The first time I wanted something and I had money to buy it, but I needed to find a work so I get more money to keep affording it.

[@algofire]

As a European, having to be completely knocked out for a dental procedure just boggles the mind. Also, your dentists are screwing you over. I got two wisdom teeth removed in the same session for the equivalent of $200 (and no, dental insurance isn't a thing here).

[@MewtwoShadowFNaFGirl]

God damn. I think I remember the shock I had when I was told that stuff like Healthcare including dentist care is not free. It is still baffling that a dentist visit can cost so much and I used to wonder why some people neglect to care and thought maybe they were just scared or didn't care. No. They do care. It is cause they can't afford it. I think I remember yes I was covered to be knocked out for my Wisdom Teeth removal but I think my dad had to pay out of pocket for 2 all cause I wanted all 4 to be removed at once to avoid to go through with it again. Life is not so black and white like we used to think.

[@Touhou20246]

In my case it was when I first started actually wanting to sleep longer then when I was a kid.

[@April_2007]

When the children at Young Leading shouted get an adult and came to me

[@CharlesNauck]

Still waiting for that moment… I am 38 with a wife and a home.

[@Liz-cq3rm]

When I wasn't being carded at casinos anymore (I'll be 26 in November)

[@drkinferno72]

Being called sir

[@caffeinated_RP]

Voting and college

[@TYKZY.BRANX._TEEK.SEE.BRANCH.]

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[@jesussilva3345]

When I started paying bills.

[@miguelmedina1991]

When I stepped in the yellow footprints

[@excrono]

One only suddenly realize you are an adult only after they have survived by their own hands for a long time and it suddenly sinks in at a random moment of peace in a coffee shop, and you just want to cry in public but have to keep up appearances. Else someone summons the authorities and your life suddenly unravels like a deck of cards in instrumentality. But when you make the same comment to the community, people ignore you and it feels fairer.

[@DLCedits15]

:(