When Everything Was, Is & Will Be Shameful, Embarrassing & A Fail

One of the cruelest things about shame, low self-esteem and depression is that they twist every new experience into more of the same - shame, low self esteem and depression. That’s what can make it difficult to move on from low self esteem. In this video you'll learn to understand this dynamic more deeply.
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00:00 Introduction
00:20 Shame Vs. Guilt
01:12 A Shame-based Identity Distorts Events
01:51 The Shame Collage In Your Memory
02:53 Example 1: Annie
03:52 Example 2: Robert
06:18 Example 3: Martin
08:09 Example 4: Cathrin
09:50 How Your Shame Collage Affects You
10:23 Deconstruct Your Shame Collage
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[@portableportal]

The shame collage are like energy's stored in the body that get activated everytime it gets triggered. thank you for teaching us Doc!

[@JeffEmmersonSocialWork]

*This one landed immediately within me. Thank you for addressing the shame collage. *

[@riverflora6142]

This is exactly what im dealing with in my life. Thank you for helping me understand whats going on.

[@SaarLeestMee]

Thank you ❤

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please keep doing what ur doing ur helping me

[@rolapiepse2383]

Thank you, that is very interesting

[@ahmadhosam7966]

I've just started to watch your videos few days ago and your content really affects my way of thinking & feeling towards myself positively.. thanks a lot!

[@douglasmclean3723]

this is the main emotion i have felt all my life and have always found it difficut to validate myself alot of it was to do with relationships and all the different diagnoses i had even though i reflect on my blueprint of past acheivementrs i was pleased with which do not inspire me any more. i use flower essences and oils to keep me and mood stabile so i do not compare myself to others this is becasue anything i attempted in the past i was overwhemed with and gave up on so i lacked consistency. i always put it down to the fact i was never validated by my parents then i got lost in the mental health system and never developed a strong identity. any way i understand schizoid; attention defict disorder; and insccure attachement and i have all three so i keep myself to myself