When He Doesn't Love You Back - Surviving A Painful Breakup

[@bethfromva6375]

Looking forward to this video but I want to ask how is Hal?

[@ireneturner2944]

Me too ? How is Hal ?

[@LittlePoet]

Hal and I are spending Valentines Day together!!!! And we are filming!!! I can't wait!!!

[@bethfromva6375]

@@LittlePoetI am so glad! I’ve missed seeing him on your videos :-) I definitely need a Hal in my life😂 You are blessed but you already know that🙂🙂🙂

[@lorriegasses6865]

I'm so glad we get to see Hal soon! Enjoy your time together! I look forward to seeing the two of you. Take care Susan and Desi!

[@junehawks4666]

Next. I like that. I believe the guy is a pastor if I'm remembering right.

[@robynpomnitz4483]

It's much easier to be alone than to be with someone and feel alone...

[@vallang4832]

That is the truth.

[@deezahm9143]

…. I always wondered why sitting right next to him, I was the loneliest person in the room …

[@ronniehalfacre-tellerman5817]

Amen!

[@ronniehalfacre-tellerman5817]

The last time I was badly hurt, it changed me. I will never be in that situation again! I don’t date nor want a relationship. I was taught how to be alone and I’ll never go back!

[@Katrn30]

So very true!!!

[@robynetaylor6605]

Since my painful divorce in 2022, I’ve lost 250 lbs.; 30 of my own and 220 of my abusive, arrogant narcissistic Ex of 30 years. I’m about to turn 63, I moved far away, I have a new, happy and drama free home and I’m too busy finding myself to make room for someone else. 😊

[@pamsmith7369]

Love this!

[@kevinsytsma]

Yea! That’s the spirit ,funny shit right there

[@marilynmontgomery4579]

Good on you!

[@constancemurphy6230]

I can tell you have a great sense of humor. So glad you dropped those 220 pounds of baggage and the extra 30 as a bonus. Bravo .

[@booklover6963]

Excellent

[@analyzingmylife2492]

In 2020 I was batteling lung cancer when my fiancee told me he didn't love me anymore. This was the man I thought I was going to spend my life with. I was devastated. Four years later, I am cancer free. And though my heart was broken, I came out stronger. I love my quiet,positive, peaceful life.

[@ME-sp9yr]

I'm so sorry that happened to you. I didn't realize that that was a thing until recently, medical abandonment. I know of somebody, a young mother with kids, who was battling breast cancer that had this happen to her. She lost her battle with cancer a few months ago, but she had persevered through all of that, and was stronger and better than she had ever been. She strengthened the bond with her family and her faith, and was at peace with living her best life with the time she had left. You are, and she is, a great inspiration!

[@dorisporis8]

Amazing!!

[@allkindsamusicchick]

🤗

[@ronniehalfacre-tellerman5817]

In my humble opinion, any man who could do that to someone they said they loved, or even cared about to a degree, is a cowardly little weasel and you are fortunate to be rid of that!

[@Goldencitygirl]

Hugs…and God bless you with a healthy life…♥️ 🙏

[@pamsmith7369]

Same. I took care of my husband before he died and I’m not doing that again. Most men I meet want nurses and purses. If they have no self-respect to stay in shape and have some savings, what makes them think I’d be interested in them! They basically have nothing to offer and just want someone to take care of them! They’ve actually said or implied that! I want to travel, stay in shape, do things, enjoy my life; not take care of an overweight, smoking, snoring, alcoholic mess! NOT INTERESTED!!

[@cathyandresiak]

An alcoholic, snoring mess, That made me laugh out loud!

[@doloreslujansalvador2644]

ohhhh, that is so powergul, yesssss. I wish I had said it first. so good. many of them think women should accept them only because they are male. oh, nooo. they have no theeth and don't care. It has happend to me. no, thank thank you. no theeth, no me.😅

[@doloreslujansalvador2644]

sorry: powerfull teeth

[@lucytavares707]

I agree. A lot of men are like little boys and want to marry so we can be maids and cooks for them. Not everyone but there many of them

[@kelleyrancher]

After I got divorced that is one reason that I won't get married again as I won't be a caretaker to somebody that is seriously ill where I have to give up the remainder of my days staying home and being a nurse maid maybe that's selfish but I haven't met anybody yet but I would have to do that for so I don't feel mean about it

[@robinbaker7735]

In June of 2022 I packed up and sold my home and left a dead marriage of 43 years to a narcissist. I love the peace I live in now.

[@dorisdaylight8415]

Enjoy your freedom that you deserve and have a wonderful life

[@sandys408]

It's a major life accomplishment when a woman can get up in the morning and look in her mirror and say to herself " I'm free of narcisstic abuse! ".

[@deezahm9143]

🎉YES!!!!!! So happy for you! I hope to achieve your success one day ❤❤❤❤❤

[@sandys408]

@@deezahm9143 God helped me ,saved me.

[@smiley9872]

@@deezahm9143 ❤

[@RamonaL909]

Ladies, there are much worse things than being “alone”.

[@PaulaSuprenant]

Being abused by them is one of them😊

[@barbarawhite3217]

My feeling on the guy asking you if you loved him- seems like an ego thing. Then tell you his plan for Valentine Day. You are so giving and kind hearted. You are beautiful inside and outside. I don’t think he sounds like he is worthy of your love and affection.

[@sandys408]

Next

[@dorisdaylight8415]

Agree with you. She deserves someone so much better.

[@onerose3614]

He sounds like a narcissist to me. Just my thoughts after hearing how he ignored you for Valentine’s Day to be with his daughter? If he’s calling you everyday why would he be spending VD with his daughter for dinner? Somethings fishy here? You should ask him where he’s going for dinner? Then maybe you go see if he’s telling you the truth? Looks like I’m about to start a new movie here! 😂

[@lindavernon8051]

Yes. That guy wants/loves your attention. He knows how you feel about him and boy oh boy he’s enjoying it. But he’s more into someone else . . .still he figures it doesn’t hurt (him) to keep his options open- on the off chance that he might . . .just might- at some point -in the future -perhaps-want to take you down off the shelf. No matter how charming a man can be, I’m always shocked when I realize how utterly cold their hearts can run.

[@pamsmith7369]

Yea, what a jerk! Sort of baits you with plans for Valentine’s Day, then drops the bomb that you’re not his Valentine! Sounds like he just wants a fuck buddy. What a jerk!

[@soni05131]

Yesterday Feb 9, marked the 12y to the day that my then husband told me he didn't love me and wanted a divorce. We were married 23 years. Two months later, we were divorced. I didnt want a man who didnt love me. Never begged him. His choice was made. 😢stay strong ladies.

[@LittlePoet]

You are wonderful and so strong...I appracite you being here and sharing...xxoo Much Love, Susan & Dez

[@shawnalLovesJesus]

There is one who will never leave you. He will always love you and be there for you. You will not regret loving Him, accepting Him, or surrendering to Him. His name is Jesus! Jesus is coming. April 9, 2021, my vision went black for a quick moment, then I saw in gold letters - Thus saith the Lord. About four hours later, April 10,in my sleep I heard - Prophet. Tell them I am coming soon. Maybe 3-5 min after that, at 1235 AM, our area had a 3.1 eq.

[@c-p1976]

I've had five dreams that Jesus is coming back. Talk about shocking! They are, hands down, the most real and urgent dreams I have ever had in my life. Ironically, I never remember dreams - I can only remember two dreams from when I was very young. The five I had were undeniably real. He's definitely coming back soon. @@shawnalLovesJesus

[@Jkaye13]

"You didn't want a man that didn't love you".. and what's more, we CAN'T MAKE someone love us, so it's game over..

[@deezahm9143]

Yes, ‘grey divorce’ is real. It happened to me in 2018, I was 62. With the malignant narcissist for nearly 35 years. I have my son, DIL, and three beautiful grandsons … and now, I’m happy …. “I can buy myself flowers”!!!! ❤❤❤❤❤

[@smiley9872]

[@sallyjaynes2433]

"Covert" Narcissist is really 'bad' -- baffled me in the later years 😐😶

[@mihaelae8704]

i agree....so true. @@sallyjaynes2433

[@keepingitreal618]

Me too 59 he met someone else but it has been the best thing ever for me. Love being on my own why does it take so long to feel this comfortable being alone. Would love a Hal for occasional dinner, where do you find one?

[@Vibrantlifestyle]

Could tell us what book you’re quoting from? ❤🎉❤

[@situzen185]

I'm thankful to be the 70 year old bride of my husband of 51 years. Relationships have bumps along the way. We learned a long time ago that God/Jesus is to always be first in our marriage, giving us the bond and strength of a 3-stranded cord. I love and adore my husband, and he loves and adores me. Thank God!

[@dawndemet3331]

This is wonderful to read.

[@LittlePoet]

You are so kind..I appreciate you being here so much! Happy weekend! Much Love always, Susan & Dez

[@simplecountryliving7555]

Wow!! Very thought provoking. I like that winner of a privacy fence. I can’t wait to see your new fence once it’s installed.

[@marabolin566]

What a blessing. I pray God may still have a good Christian man for me 🙏🏼

[@shawnalLovesJesus]

Jesus is coming. April 9, 2021, my vision went black for a quick moment, then I saw in gold letters - Thus saith the Lord. About four hours later, April 10,in my sleep I heard - Prophet. Tell them I am coming soon. Maybe 3-5 min after that, at 1235 AM, our area had a 3.1 eq.

[@vickylee5579]

I was married once before to my high school sweetheart. He went in the Navy after high school. We’d been married a little over a year I caught him cheating on me. He done it right in front of me. It was like a cold slap in the face. I’d stayed faithful to him. I knew right then there wasn’t going to be a 2nd anniversary. I moved back home to my moms. He kept tearing up the divorce papers. I told him I was going to file like he was a missing person. He finally signed them. It was hard getting over it. But I did. I met my husband 2 years later. We’ve been married for 43 years now.❤ I enjoy Desi’s singing 🎤

[@MillieSoto-b8m]

God had a better plan/future for you!

[@vickylee5579]

Yes

[@wandajohnson1505]

Im in So California and 64 yrs young. After 40 yrs of marriage I walked away from my marriage on the brink of becoming verbally abused and unhappy. I’ve lived without him for almost a year now and I realized that I really do like my own company, on my own terms and not having the responsibility of taken care of someone else’s needs. I’m looking forward to being Fabulous - Freedom and my New Future 🎉. I love 💕 Me 😊

[@LuisaLoren]

I've been single for over 30 years. I'm 72 and loved it in my 40s, 50s and even 60s. I could not let him cheat on me one more time or beat me and even poison me. So I've never trusted anyone since then😢😢😢😢😢😢. But I have my children and grandchildrens love. And that is the truest love of all.❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@BronteBlu2]

I'm right there with you...terrible abusive relationships, alone for about 30+ years, also 72. For me, once I was free of any emotional bondage...basically empty...and I tasted life with no pain, no abuse, no tears, no fear...I realized how I deserved so much better than what I'd been willing to accept. I like to say, my last relationship beat the love out of me. I have no desire to let anyone into my life. I don't know what being loved feels like; and I'm no longer willing to take the risk of having my heart shattered ever again. Trust? That died decades ago.

[@marilynmontgomery4579]

It all starts with loving & trusting yourself. You've done that! Then you can set healthy boudaries. Know how far you'll go & how far you'll let others go with you. Trust can then be yours again. Find some friends & trust your gut.

[@LuisaLoren]

@@marilynmontgomery4579 thank you...the only One I trust is Jesus 🙏✝️. I'm a very sensitive person and try never to hurt anyone. Happy Valentine's Day 🌹🌹🌹🌹

[@marilynmontgomery4579]

I believe Jesus teaches love. I ask for his guidance & willingness all the time. I think he wants us to spread that love. Start with baby steps. Smiling at Srangers in the grocery store. See how tat feels even though they may not smile back. Build from there. Friends are a wonderful thing to have. Even if it's just one. Ask for the courage to do that. You seem like a kind, caring person. What a gift to give to someone!. Trust in the Lord & yourself. I would like a friend like you!

[@wildhorses6817]

​@@BronteBlu2 Yes, same for me. Various types of abuse and after 35 years, infidelity, stealing my inheritance money. I have a chronic illness and cannot work. I had money and nice home when I met him. Big Mistake. He Lied his way into my life. Before internet searches were available. Now, it is peaceful and I am grateful for this. Financially the Stress is challenging.

[@debbiesday8270]

Going through a divorce after forty years of marriage. I've been with him since I was fifteen. I was a stay at home mom and now at 65 I'm starting over. I have to find a job and find a way to support myself. I've never been more afraid, but one day at a time, I am seeing that being free is so much better than being lied to and cheated on. I thought I could trust him. Our sons and I thought he was a loving caring husband and father until we found out he had a secret life that he was very good at concealing. My head says stay strong and don't look back, but my heart is broken and every memory of the life we shared haunts me even in my dreams. I thought he was my best friend and soulmate. Turns out he was my worst enemy. I will move on and make a life that I love and can feel proud of and safe in . Thanks Susan fro sharing your life experiences . It helps to see that it's possible to build an amazing life all on your own at any age.

[@elizabethann8228]

I will pray for you. I’m so sorry this is happening and is so incredibly painful and scary. But you DO deserve better and have better days ahead without him. ( I went through similar) 🙏❌⭕️🤗❤️

[@debbiesday8270]

@@elizabethann8228 Thank you. ❤️

[@melisherwood5300]

bless you and take care. move toward light and love.

[@daphne5179]

You can still get his social security bc he was the head of household while you took care of the house. It’s food for thought sorry this happened to you. Wishing you the best.

[@mrs.h7171]

​@@daphne5179I believe she can get half his social security. All you have to do is apply

[@JenJean1234]

I was widowed 15 years ago. I never wanted to date or remarry. I had the love of my life. I don't trust easily and couldn't deal with someone who may not love me in return or deceive me. I'm OK with being single.

[@jeanneewaseck6635]

Completely agree! Also, love your screen name - its part of mine ;)

[@aleciawebb5662]

Ditto. I had the best and none could possibly compare. I’m alone but not lonely.

[@babettephillips3261]

Same. My husband of 35 years died 8 years ago when I was 54. I am very content on my own. I have never given the first thought to dating. I am leery of all the weirdos out there and I don’t want to deal with another man’s children and grandchildren.

[@shawnalLovesJesus]

There is one who will never leave you. He will always love you and be there for you. You will not regret loving Him, accepting Him, or surrendering to Him. His name is Jesus! Jesus is coming. April 9, 2021, my vision went black for a quick moment, then I saw in gold letters - Thus saith the Lord. About four hours later, April 10,in my sleep I heard - Prophet. Tell them I am coming soon. Maybe 3-5 min after that, at 1235 AM, our area had a 3.1 eq.

[@bettyblalock298]

I feel the same. Lost my husband of 53 years in April of 2023. He was my soul mate and another man could not measure up to him.

[@beverlycrabtree9889]

I’m 65 going thru a divorce. He can’t be faithful. I decided I can’t live with a man I don’t trust or respect. I’m looking forward to MY life. No more deception.

[@kevinsytsma]

I’m so proud of you

[@kevinsytsma]

You’re getting the chance of your life,high school love,i promise will never end

[@rrhines3151]

⁠

[@annahayes1007]

You will find so many unexpected benefits of being single. Betrayal and deception is the worst, and in my view. "Once a cheater. always a cheater." I was with a man I adored, in my first marriage, unaware but suspecting his infidelity. When he finally left me for an older, wealthy woman, I was broken hearted for several years. I questioned my own value. Then, he cheated openly on his second wife. The had a third marriage and fourth. The fourth seems to have worked. In the meantime, I remained single for years, just go remarried at the age of 65, celebrating our 8th anniversary on the 13TH.

[@shawnalLovesJesus]

There is one who will never leave you. He will always love you and be there for you. You will not regret loving Him, accepting Him, or surrendering to Him. His name is Jesus! Jesus is coming. April 9, 2021, my vision went black for a quick moment, then I saw in gold letters - Thus saith the Lord. About four hours later, April 10,in my sleep I heard - Prophet. Tell them I am coming soon. Maybe 3-5 min after that, at 1235 AM, our area had a 3.1 eq.

[@luvlytxchicpr445]

"I don't want to be part of your story." Hard words to take but a powerful way to put everything into perspective.

[@alwaysromancatholic]

I thought the same thing!

[@constancemurphy6230]

Yes, I agree. when he said I don't want to be part of your story, that says it all.

[@sengen2]

I literally think I gasped out loud when she she said that he responded that way. How shameful of him 😢 I'm good enough to want to be in the sack with....but the story ends there?? What horsesh!t..... I think I'd drop him like a bad habit. At 26, I may have played it out just a bit more.....at 56, NO WAY am I tolerating that kind of disrespect.

[@virgierutledge3004]

@@constancemurphy6230 Cold and calculating.

[@wildhorses6817]

​@@sengen2 Yes, totally agree. Done.

[@paulasmith3590]

I got divorced after one year of marriage, 53 years ago. The longer I have been divorced, each year, the more I realized I did not want to be married ever again. I love my single life. My joy is my two dogs and two cats.

[@shirleypoplo-ej7lz]

A very big AMEN

[@suzettecooper382]

I'm also happy with my pets.

[@danilaroche1156]

Don't you miss sex? I know I do. It's difficult because I don't believe in premarital sex.

[@taliabraver]

Isnt it time to move on?

[@minigirl6839]

​@@danilaroche1156I don't miss it all. Not one bit.

[@nancyciampa3485]

This is so true, the older I get the more I realize how precious my freedom really is.

[@pamsmith7369]

I’m glad you DID NOT tell this guy you loved him. I had a good friend 50 years ago that told me ’don’t wear your heart on your sleeve’! Good advice. Also, ‘if anyone does anything to make you feel bad about yourself for any reason; turn tail and RUN!

[@suzettecooper382]

Well said

[@nancyciampa3485]

Susan, the best relationship I have ever had was with myself. I don't look for a relationship. I asked him to leave 34 years ago and at the time I thought it was the worst day of my life, but then realized it was the best day of my life. I found the right person ... me!

[@daniellem5175]

@nancyciampa "I found the right person...me!" I love this statement so much!! Thank you!!

[@keepingitreal618]

Absolutely agree.

[@pamsmith7369]

I can’t tell you how comforting it is to come home after my day and close the door and be QUIET! No TV on, no loud music, no games on, no arguments, nobody staring at the TV screen and never looking a me or wanting to talk to me! (This is better than therapy!)

[@terrifromm5085]

My husband didn't physically leave, but he emotionally "checked out" and he couldn't understand why I wanted to end our marriage. He was physically present and wanted to stay married and that always puzzled me. He didn't want to work on the marriage. He felt everything was just fine but it wasn't. To this day, he feels he gave 1000% and I "took the easy way out." He will never forgive me for abandoning our marriage. What choice did I have? I was miserable. That was 17 years ago and we were only married for 10 years. I was his second wife. Our divorce remains the best decision I ever made.

[@lorrilewis2178]

Oh, men will always say they were "blindsided" when a woman leaves them.

[@collyf6010]

Same happened with me many years ago. I think he just like showing his kids and wife off to people but he didn't really care about us. I finally said I want a divorce and suddenly he wanted to change....too late! After 5 yrs of being single I met a man who I e been with for 17 yrs. We aren't married and still have our own houses and spend 4 days together each week. He is still so caring physically and emotionally...I'm very lucky to have him and he is lucky to have me!!

[@ginawhittaker2585]

This is exactly what I’ve been going through. I think he’s depressed but he doesn’t want to get help.

[@daisy7141]

When you have to force a marriage, it's not a marriage.

[@Jkaye13]

@@collyf6010 Not sure what you really 'have'.. you're not married and both still maintain your own life three days a week..? So whether you have a lover or great friend.. there is no real commitment when you both have your own lives apart from one another fifty per cent of the time

[@marthajones586]

I decided and chose to no longer do ROMANTIC relationships because I am no longer willing to invest and be responsible for a man that wants you to make him priority, but is not interested in making you his priority. I don't mind spending time with a guy that is willing to be just plain friends without benefits(sex,etc). Unfortunately, it doesn't seem that they are interested in having a woman with a working brain and who VALUES and RESPECTS herself. I am very comfortable being single, but it would be quite nice to share time with a man that values/respect me and himself. At 71 years of age I am not willing to waste my time. Enjoy your life and enjoy being YOU.😍😍

[@pamsmith7369]

Oh, I SO agree! You’ve said it perfectly! Who has that kind of time? It always seems that men want women to drop everything for them! Not anymore for me!

[@Wishpool]

I love the saying, "Don't make someone a priority who treats you like an option." YEP!

[@sassypat1199]

I fill the same👍👍💪🙏🏼

[@wildhorses6817]

​@@WishpoolYes, EXACTLY.

[@PaulaSuprenant]

It's much better to be alone than with a man or woman that is abusive.😊❤

[@vickygdillon]

It's a good thing we all weren't around when he was being a jerk about Valentine's Day! It was cruel and insensitive. I think you dodged a bullet!

[@PattiRahn-o5d]

Maybe he said that because you didn't answer his question when he asked if you loved him.

[@lisahall9226]

Not just anyone IS worthy of a Valentines Day or WORTHY to be a part of your story. How do I know this ??? 33 years married to the wrong man. His rejection of me was GODs protection over me. 65 and living out the JOY of Jesus with a loving and faithful Christian husband of 10 years. Blessings to you.

[@sharonholiday-jr8kk]

Yes I have put up walls so I wouldn't be hurt anymore. When we go out to eat and he's always looking at everyone walking by our table or looking at others at other tables. I could just imagine what others must think of us sitting and eating and a man not talking to his wife. The numbness that's between us. And yes not afraid the be alone because I live alone every day with this man I'm married to. I love thrifting and going for drives. So be strong women, because life is beautiful. Moving on down the road. 🎈

[@sharondoan1447]

I hope you have learned the hard life lesson that teaches us how to flourish when living alone with another person. A person to whom you are married. The necessity is to accept that there is no “ we”; there is only you and the other person. Stop having expectations that will only bring you pain. You cannot be his/ her ideal. It’s not going to happen, so be you. If that doesn’t result in the closeness, fun, shared interests, aims and goals you dreamed of, accept the truth. Let him/ her go. Or stop imagining anything will improve, it will not. Live within the scope of what is and stop complaining, or leave the relationship and be free of it.

[@sharonholiday-jr8kk]

@@sharondoan1447 Thank you 🎈

[@Mphscat]

Such great advice but all to often, women stuck in those long term dead marriages do so from financial fear and insecurity of being alone even though, in fact, they are alone and have been for years.@@sharondoan1447

[@sharonrynne2242]

My ex-husband always flirted with other women. My family said that he was a perv. He was Bi-polar.

[@smiley9872]

hey, don't assume because he is looking at the mantle piece that he does not adore you, he hasn't stoked the fire, has he? Sometimes we get ideas in our heads that are not real, we build on those ideas and create something that can destroy our world, please rethink, take another look at this man and see the pros rather than the cons of this relationship. Our minds are not always our best friends Perhaps you, starting a conversation about the garden even, will take his focus back to the table, Sending every good wish to you.

[@nenameza2982]

I am 82 and have been married for 56 years, however, my husband is 90 and we have nothing in common. I am kind of happy the way things are. I go anywhere I want to go, and he never goes anywhere, other than the yard to do whatever work he likes to do. I have traveled quite a bit in the last 30 years and he always stays home with his cats. He never had friends to visit, only the people we know from Church on Sundays that we attended service. God bless every one of you and don’t be afraid to be alone. We have God, we never alone. 🇺🇸🙏❤️❤️🙏🙏🙏🌹🌹🌹

[@tinasmith7630]

ARENT married couples meant 2 included 1 another in their lives. Not b selfish n make a husband feel unloved because u jettin all ova the world with yah friends on holidays. And sayin he dosent hav any friends except 4 the ones at Church, sounds like u put u friends b4 u hubby n puff urself up with pride because u hav mor friends thsn him. NOT a MARRIAGE, or a kind wife.

[@ruthbrendon7221]

Lovely comment, however I think that you and your husband actually have some things in common like each other, the same residence, God and the Church, your kitties, the fact that you are both here at the same time on planet earth which is something we all have in common. What I'm hearing is that you are each others' soft place to land. Yeah, you're doing okay and God bless both of you too.

[@capercat9785]

Sounds like advice you’ve never took.

[@Lauren-i8i]

⁠​⁠Tina, The way this comment is interpreted is surprising . The Poster never said anything ‘with pride’ - she just stated the fact that her Husband doesn’t have friends - (just like mine doesn’t.) Also if he doesn’t want to travel that is his prerogative - but it shouldn’t stop her from enjoying her interests. Tell me where it says in the Bible that any of these things are wrong. You can be a loyal, loving Wife & still have friends & interests apart from your Husband. Did God ever say we must sacrifice our friendships & interests for our Spouse? It’s not her responsibility to truncate her life so that he doesn’t feel bad. She can be a good, loyal, loving Wife and still enjoy her life resplendent with friends & interests. He is invited to come along side her but if he doesn’t, that’s his choice. She can love him while also loving herself. God loves them both & wants them to enjoy their lives. It’s her Husband’s choice if he wants to sit at home all day & not reach out to make friends. When she takes care to fill her cup ‘til it’s overflowing she honors her own life. But it also gives her MORE ability to give back to him. What would be wrong in my opinion would be to leave him if he was sick & vulnerable and needed her support at that particular juncture. But recharging our batteries with friends & interests is often necessary for us to stay healthy so that we can continue to give back. ❤

[@dragonfly9209]

@@tinasmith7630 It sounds like she is an extrovert---and he is an introvert. They both prefer their lifestyle choices, based on their personalities. It has worked for them for decades. Her husband would RATHER be home with the cats--classic introvert. Sad that you don't understand much about human nature.

[@WendysHere]

It’s amazing that we are growing up our whole life.

[@lynnarmbruster4353]

Warning signs of a one-sided relationship. Lack of peace. Confusion - healthy relationships should inspire a woman spiritually and emotionally. Bad company corrupts good character. When this man said "I don't want to be a part of your story", this is a warning of a selfish partner. Healthy relationships should always look to what can I give to this relationship rather than what can I get. There is nothing better than for a woman to feel and be treated as a precious jewel, more valuable than gold or silver.

[@wildhorses6817]

Absolutely True. Not even friend quality. No Empathy. Red Flags even in friendship category. Bye Bye....

[@DeviousKnitter70]

I've had a lot of not being loved back. You definitely are not alone on this one! A lot of us quit looking, and found joy in our single lives! I was lucky, because as a professional, I bought, and paid for my home, and I live a nice life, not a flashy one! I am OK!!

[@janefriel6895]

Being single is the most powerful, content,joyous place.

[@Jkaye13]

Being married can bring the same feelings.. if you have the right mate.

[@reneebk1999]

I’ve been widowed for four years, I wanted so desperately to meet a new man. I’ve dated but began to realize, the best partner I can have is myself. My heart has been broken a few times over the last four years. I realize that I was blessed to have a 35 year marriage to a wonderful man who loved me and who I loved. I think I was very lucky.

[@maryzajac1136]

I've been widowed 5 years and consider myself blessed to have found the love of my life at an early age and had 35 amazing years with him. We honestly loved each other and there will never be anyone else that could even come close to the man who chose me to spend the rest of his life with.

[@lindajackson2382]

I had this TOO but I was only married for only two and a half years but had a PERFECT MARRIAGE!

[@carmenn5609]

That is a nice way of saying the "best partner is myself"

[@shawnalLovesJesus]

There is one who will never leave you. He will always love you and be there for you. You will not regret loving Him, accepting Him, or surrendering to Him. His name is Jesus! Jesus is coming. April 9, 2021, my vision went black for a quick moment, then I saw in gold letters - Thus saith the Lord. About four hours later, April 10,in my sleep I heard - Prophet. Tell them I am coming soon. Maybe 3-5 min after that, at 1235 AM, our area had a 3.1 eq.

[@marialeach8960]

@@shawnalLovesJesus Are you a mormon? LOL

[@tarpleyk9352]

I’ve been single for eight years after divorce from a 23 year marriage. I’m finally fine with it ( no dating and nothing ) I’m 51 years old now, but a hug would be nice. It’s been rough , but I’m surviving

[@OpiePeppercorn]

You deserve someone who wants to be part of your story. Who is proud to be part of your story.

[@alwaysromancatholic]

Only when a man loves a woman does he value a woman. This is how they are hard-wired.

[@wildhorses6817]

Absolutely.

[@elizabethann8228]

Amen!!❤

[@godzillamanstreb524]

❤this

[@terrilabeth]

Learning to be alone and be happy when alone is one of the most difficult things to learn….and yet once you do it is the most free you will ever feel. 💕

[@alwaysromancatholic]

How beautifully you put that! It is so poetic!

[@marilynmontgomery4579]

Yes. I used to feel so alone in a room full of people. Now I need alot of alone time.

[@Jkaye13]

It would seem that one would learn this as a youth, when growing up before having a mate, when living for yourself and learning who you are and what makes you happy.. Too many people go into a relationship expecting the other person to make them happy, and put that burden on them to be their only source of happiness.. and no one can fulfill that because happiness comes from within, not another person.

[@RebeccaShanks-ch9ku]

We were high school sweethearts. It was the 70's and we felt as if it was "us against the world"! My mother did not like him from the beginning. Said he was too self-centered. She was right but that just pushed me to love him more. We married a year after high school, I gave birth to 2 beautiful babies and we kind of settled in to life. He turned into the kind of husband who wanted everything his way and thought it was his "right" because he had a job and I stayed home with the kids. I got a job at the school when my youngest was in preschool so I would have the same hours and same days off. And I began to change... I became independent, self-reliant, and confident. I no longer had to come to him for money, I had my own. Well, he didn't like the new me and didn't come home from work one day. Said he didn't love me anymore. Found some one else. It hurt so much. I was scared. I didn't have a "real job", but I got one! You know what? My 2 kids and I turned out fine. When our daughter was in labor with her first child my ex-husband and I talked and agreed that we would need to find a way to get along now that we were going to be grandparents. And we do. We talk and sometimes we manage to laugh at some of the old days. I have found the love of my life, we have been married 31 years and he treats me fabulously. I do the same for him. If I had not married my first husband, I wouldn't have my wonderful (now grown) children and I wouldn't have met my now husband because we met at that "real job" I had to get :).

[@Wishpool]

Wonderful story how it turned out! Thanks for sharing that.

[@shawnalLovesJesus]

There is one who will never leave you. He will always love you and be there for you. You will not regret loving Him, accepting Him, or surrendering to Him. His name is Jesus! Jesus is coming. April 9, 2021, my vision went black for a quick moment, then I saw in gold letters - Thus saith the Lord. About four hours later, April 10,in my sleep I heard - Prophet. Tell them I am coming soon. Maybe 3-5 min after that, at 1235 AM, our area had a 3.1 eq.

[@Jkaye13]

You didn't really need your first husband and going through a divorce to find the 'love of your life'.. you could have just met the love of your life at your 'real job' and had children with him..

[@nancybrower8608]

After 34 years of working to pay the bills because my ex always had get rich schemes, he had another woman in his life that he loved. I look back at where i was (in major debt to everyone) to where i am today, out of debt, and a happy woman. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and enjoy your freedom. ❤❤

[@LittlePoet]

Oh dear, what a dirt bag! Congratulations on living a great life free!!!!

[@hortensemason4073]

I didn't want to be part of your story. That spoke volumes.

[@buffycat4641]

To me that said everything about him. A very selfish, cruel person.

[@sherribaker9135]

@@buffycat4641 I would have quietly gotten up and left him there.

[@LFetterman7903]

Very, very telling! I think he meant EXACTLY WHAT HE SAID!

[@rebeccaskibicki633]

What he said to you..didnt want to be part of your story. Im so sorry Susan, that had to of hurt. Well, screw him then! HE DOES NOT DESERVE YOU! YOU DESERVE BETTER. So glad you ended it. I always believed "Actions speak louder than words" Take care of yourself!❤

[@lose999]

Ouch. He didn't want to be part of your story? His loss. I'm sorry. 💕 Desi is your forever love.

[@marisolcourtney-walker5480]

Amen!! ❤

[@rkoleda]

We were happily married & faithful for 44 years. Then cancer, after battling it 5 years, took her life 2 years ago. Your video, and viewer comments, make me appreciate how lucky & blessed my life has been. I never imagined that so many others struggle. Now I search for a new purpose in life, and try to appreciate and life every day to the fullest. I wish you all happiness, health, & love.

[@kcampbell867]

Thank you💝

[@MinkaSchlossberger4ever]

Kindest regards to You!!!

[@tamaralerette3669]

I’m proud of you Susan. Never settle for being second best. It will break your heart, little by little everyday. You deserve to be loved with his whole heart and one day you will find the right one who gives you his all. Tell Desi to keep on singing! It makes me smile every time!

[@jeanneewaseck6635]

One of the (many!) breakups I had in my 20s - ok, he called me and he just wanted to give me back all the stuff I gave him. I said - a public place! so we agreed on the 7-11 parking lot. I'm sitting there in my Cutlass, all snug and safe, lots of people. He pulls up across the street - angry man, gets out of his car with a pile of stuff in his hands - slams his door - and - the door falls right off his car. 😛😝🤪😜

[@dclaet1135]

Karma

[@sueprice4082]

😂😂😂

[@doloreslujansalvador2644]

serves him good. what an idiot😅

[@marilynmontgomery4579]

That is hilarious! Karma! Thanks for sharing!!

[@brendamccoy1650]

Hahahaha

[@mkbrown3902]

"FLOWERS" BY MILEY CYRUS is my Valentine's song. ❤

[@LuisaLoren]

Mine too ❤️

[@ireneturner2944]

Mine too!!🎉

[@ireneturner2944]

Do you ever get to talk or see Hal, Susan??

[@jacquimg2469]

Great song!

[@LynsAlteredArts]

@@ireneturner2944 she said in a previous comment that they’re going to spend Valentine’s Day together and they’re filming.

[@neysarodriguez9622]

I’m 64, and I’ve been alone for so many years, I really don’t care anymore. I’m so used to living alone for so long I don’t miss it. I think I’ve become selfish I don’t want to share my home with anyone.

[@lisabradford8180]

I've been alone/single most of my life, all of it, that I don't know if I could get used to living with someone or being a part of a steady couple. It's a foreign concept to me.

[@corgan0759]

Same including the age ! My life is full of good people who love me without a man in my life. Im so happy being free.

[@cathyandresiak]

I was so devastated when my 15 year relationship ended that I couldn’t move or think or listen to music or anything! I was in shock , I think! After I had time to think about it I realized how toxic it had been for too many years, but love can be blind ! I could never be treated like that again and have for the most part remained single for the last 15 years. I don’t find that most men understand women or how to treat them. Basically I think there are a lot of little boys out there! Just my opinion. I like my freedom now!

[@LittlePoet]

You are so kind..I appreciate you being here so much! Happy weekend! Much Love always, Susan & Dez

[@pamsmith7369]

Great opinion! I say the same thing! Most men are scared little boys! They still want a mommy! I say that they are 8-year-olds in a man’s body!

[@danilaroche1156]

Your so beautiful, soft spoken and feminine. My boyfriend actually said he wished we could marry me but he suffered so much from depression/anxiety. What do u think? He says he's battled for years with this. He was SEVERELY abused by his parents. Lots of trauma .

[@denisestafford1891]

Women raise children. Why are boys and girls so emotionally intellectually different!?

[@LS-um3zq]

When you told us he said " I don't want to be part of your story", I audibly gasped.

[@Wishpool]

So did I (gasped). In all fairness, the guy might've just been camera shy and meant "your videos" instead of "your story," but along with the Valentine's Day comment he made, Susan's gut was right. Next! ;)

[@constancemurphy6230]

Me too.

[@wildhorses6817]

NOT even a Friend . Done.

[@Charlene725]

Same here!

[@V_Araya]

Men can say things they don’t really mean. He might have been feeling some kind of way. I notice women can become so cruel after being hurt. I think we just need to soften up allow them to express themselves but also guard and take care of our own hearts.

[@melanieluh2516]

Divorced at 63 after 30 year marriage. He was verbally and emotiinally abusive. And was planning to leave me for 2 years. Im so much happier now and have found my true self. I was the major financial earner and he took advantage. Im on my own and love every day! I enjoy my dogs!

[@kevinsytsma]

What kind of food do you feed your dog,m.

[@kevinsytsma]

It must’ve just been your birthday, it kills me to tell you I don’t remember your birthday. Hey Mel, you know where I’m at at the moment don’t you? see you soon. Love you.

[@daisy7141]

I realized I was my husband's meal ticket and nothing more. His S.S. was only $465 mo. I was the bread winner, now retired with two retirements..gov and S.S.

[@malibu90265]

Dogs are the best. We are so lucky to have them in our lives. Be well.

[@carolynratliff1380]

My husband left me for a much younger girl…..that girl married him…..and then murdered him…..but I have a husband who tells me every day how pretty I am and he is good to me and my grown kids…AND HE WOULD NEVER EVER HIT ME LIKE MY FIRST ONE DID…..LOVE IS NOT SUPPOSE TO HURT AND LEAVE BRUISES……I just was scared and young…..just keep praying…GOD will send you that special person…..keep your heart open and just be happy with your self first…..hugs carolyn

[@paulettemcglothan1386]

Someone said: it's better to be alone, than to be married, and wish you were alone. Thank you for the many kind, true, and encouraging words. Tell Dssi hi. He's so cute. A true friend. Thank You.

[@beverlycowan6025]

They say women over sixty and who are single like it,they don’t mind dating but to move in with another man has no appeal,there is allot of freedom in being happy with oneself ❤

[@hildawehl3569]

Dearest Susan. Hope you doing well? Never give yourself "physically" to a man if you are not already in a committed relationship with him. Go coffee, have dinner, kiss, hold hands. But Don't go further as that if he did not asked you to be in a relationship with him. no man is worth your tears. You have come to far... dust yourself off... fix your crown and give Desi a hug. Greetings. Hilda

[@danilaroche1156]

My boyfriend loved but he wasn't ready to marry. He did, however want sex but I said no. No marriage..no sex. Your dog is too cute for words and I'm not afraid to be alone. I'm 66. I love me. I love the Lord.

[@Jkaye13]

@@danilaroche1156 And the Lord calls sex before marriage fornication.. and sin. So many that claim to be Christians don't heed or live by that.. and then are heartbroken when their 'relationship' ends..

[@danilaroche1156]

It took me some time to understand and obey the Lord with the premarital sex thing. I just couldn't believe that requirement. Why? I was sexually assaulted by my dad at 4 & I thought that was 'normal '.Anyway, God healed that and now I'm chaste till marriage. I don't think this beautiful lady is saved. Let's pray for her..

[@fayebelew1620]

No matter your age, breaking up hurts. You always get over that person...God is good..He will never leave you or forsake you! Hello from Texas ❤

[@jeanetteh.9240]

I respectfully and sadly disagree. You do not always get over that person.

[@shawnalLovesJesus]

​@@jeanetteh.9240 You could be correct. However, with Jesus, you actually don't have to worry about that because He will always tell you the truth and He will never leave you or forsake you. You will not regret loving Him, accepting Him, or surrendering to Him. His name is Jesus! Jesus is coming. April 9, 2021, my vision went black for a quick moment, then I saw in gold letters - Thus saith the Lord. About four hours later, April 10,in my sleep I heard - Prophet. Tell them I am coming soon. Maybe 3-5 min after that, at 1235 AM, our area had a 3.1 eq.

[@PaulaSuprenant]

You will get over them but you won't forget about how terrible they were and how glad you are to be divorced now Finally and permanently!💯❤️😁😇🌈🙏🙏

[@susansmith4749]

Don't let that man waste your precious time! You deserve better!

[@PaulaSuprenant]

😊

[@cincin9543]

My entire marriage my ex would tell me about this woman at his old job..she was this, she was that, blah blah..we got divorced,her husband died, now they're are together He is happy She is happy..Me ? Im happy too!

[@whenyourgone1994]

I don’t think that you chose the wrong person… you just didn’t choose the person that was right for YOU 🙌

[@shawnalLovesJesus]

There is one who will never leave you. He will always love you and be there for you. You will not regret loving Him, accepting Him, or surrendering to Him. His name is Jesus! Jesus is coming. April 9, 2021, my vision went black for a quick moment, then I saw in gold letters - Thus saith the Lord. About four hours later, April 10,in my sleep I heard - Prophet. Tell them I am coming soon. Maybe 3-5 min after that, at 1235 AM, our area had a 3.1 eq.

[@V_Araya]

Jesus is returning but you kind of left us hanging with this Story lol

[@marypucci6814]

A very wise older lady once said “be with someone who loves you more than you love them” . I did not have that in my life. I definitely loved him more than he did me. At 67 years old, not sure what I want or need now. I loved deeply, but also lost deeply.

[@alwaysromancatholic]

Begin exploring what interests you. The you you need to find now is yourself. It's a big world out there full of creative opportunities! You will see, your second blooming will be magnificent!

[@shawnalLovesJesus]

There is one who will never leave you. He will always love you and be there for you. You will not regret loving Him, accepting Him, or surrendering to Him. His name is Jesus! Jesus is coming. April 9, 2021, my vision went black for a quick moment, then I saw in gold letters - Thus saith the Lord. About four hours later, April 10,in my sleep I heard - Prophet. Tell them I am coming soon. Maybe 3-5 min after that, at 1235 AM, our area had a 3.1 eq.

[@wannaduckfin]

I agree with that sage advice.

[@virginiae2047]

Better alone than badly accompanied. It took me years to get there, but I can honestly say I believe that wholeheartedly now.

[@dorisporis8]

I have written in the past about my marriage break up. My husband was drinking and not faithful and a bit narcissistic I suppose, and I had two young children. I had a lot of family support thank goodness! And I had already finished my first college degree, And that was good in terms of the job market ahead of me as I was a stay-at-home mom. However, it was heartbreaking, so heartbreaking that my chest actually hurt when I cried. But I think that Susan is so right, that once that person that you loved is out of your life, then the issue becomes what you do with yourself. I also wrote in the past about my maid of honor at my marriage who, when I was left by my husband, sent me a card about crossing a bridge. The card said that I had to cross the bridge and when I got to the other side I might not even be sure how I crossed it. However when I looked back, I would not ever want to go back to where I was before. And I guess what Susan is getting at is that we develop strength through going through the painful emotions, the fear, and all those processes to rebuild ourselves in a better way. And by the way, I absolutely love when Desi sings! Lol!

[@debbiechaney6607]

Yes, yes please let Desi sing whenever he feels in the mood to express himself!! 💕 From Debbie and Dexter-Dog.🐕🐶🐾🙋

[@elainerobertson7329]

Maybe you should just tell him "game over". Dont let anyone play games with your heart. I think he knew what he was doing. He is not very smart though...anyone that doesnt want to be part of your story has got to be messed up. Look how many of us who are part of your story. The best is yet to come for you, Susan...and Desi. Love your duets!❤❤

[@jgator6694]

We are at an age where we don’t need to compromise. We are independent..paying our own bills, nesting in our own homes..enjoying independence, grandchildren, etc. Everyone is different but for me, I am done with men. I have been married, divorced, and had other long term relationships. Now, a good book, a bubble bath, dinner out with friends, traveling far exceeds being with a man. I am free and independent and it is priceless! My last relationship lasted years..because I compromised. He also swore to never marry again and simply wanted a casual thing. He eventually cheated. I eased on out of that relationship and swore off men. Sure, there might be good men out there, but I value my time too much to spend the rest of my years looking for someone to “complete” me. The epiphany I had is that I am whole and complete on my own.😊

[@pamsmith7369]

AMEN sister!

[@lindafolk4598]

That is the real learning - being whole and complete in ourselves!! A lady friend told me men are just from a different planet. I laughed but then I have to agree. Men and women's thinking is so different and often incompatible so why struggle with it? John Gray's book on Men are from Mars Women are from Venus - tells it all!

[@peggyduncanbaggenstoss5380]

In high school I deeply loved a good man … he was 3 years older than me , out of school, had a good paying job, attended church, shared same morals, didn’t smoke or drink…but I “ allowed “ my parents to control my emotions and decisions to eventually I broke up with him. On a rebound in 1972, I met a “ married “ man who was in middle of a divorce. I dated him against my moral compass because I “ thought “ I loved him and he loved me. We married a few days after his divorce. Within a few months I found a motel receipt in his pants pocket for two people at a motel in another town. I wasn’t the other person as I was home alone that night. This and other things continue for 20 years until I finally got the nerve to leave him in 1992 and be on my own. The best decision I’ve ever made. The many freedoms that decision brought has been amazing… financial independence, when and where I travel, what and where I eat, watch on television and the list goes on. I’ll never remarry.

[@ipj4184]

Susan,thank you so much! You've been such inspiration. I got a divorce 3 years ago after finding out that my covert narcissist husband was leaving a double life for many years. Im loving my life now, learning to love myself more and more every day. I'm so peaceful!

[@heidibee501]

What hurt me most about the story of your husband's betrayal was that he left behind his little boy. When people get married they make vows. When they have children those vows are solidified. Love may lessen with time and even morph into a placid friendship but a friendSHIP can steer you through the roughest waters of life. 🐕 And l LOVE WHEN YOU and DESI SING TOGETHER. He makes my heart swell with pride.

[@tynaedwards8452]

"How long does it take to get over heartbreak? As long as it takes to forgive yourself for choosing the wrong person." That is so very wise. So important to love yourself and hold yourself in high esteem and so hard to do when someone betrays your trust and love.

[@rositayoung2725]

Thank you for that very wise statement! Not only was I missing him and trying to remember when it was good. I just remembered how very wrong he was for me. He left after us being together for 18 years! Married another woman. Left the wife n now is with someone else. He is a loser. But, I'm great. Love God and yourself more. Thank you

[@sherrymiller2302]

I wish I could have seen it this way when it happened to me. I would have healed so much faster!

[@heidi5452]

What?! He said "I dont want to be apart of your story" He would be SO blessed to be even a small part of your story. You dodged a bullet my friend❤

[@ooolalakatchuli9873]

I'll be 81 this month and lost my husband at age 46 to a massive heart attack at work.We had just celebrated our 25th wedding anniversary. I was devastated and in so much grief and pain that I decided never to get married again. Therefore I decided to put my life into my work, and I just retired 3 years ago. Life today is wonderful being single, visit and have dinner with my children and grandchildren. Working in my vegetable garden and artwork and enoying my cats and kittens I woulnt have time for a man if I wanted to...lol Luv u Susan and Desi, have a wonderful Valentine's Day 💖 9:37 9:37

[@susiepatterson5383]

When I love I’m all in, 100% But I’ve my heart broken 2 times in my life to the point I swore I’d never love someone 100% again. I’m a professional woman who had a job that was very demanding and stressful in a hospital. I put it first and both other relationships. Second, then, 10 years later, I met a man a physician, who worked just as hard as I did, and we fell in love, and for the first time in my life, I realized, he was my first priority. I decided that he was more important than my job. I’d never put any man first until him. We’re both retired now and realize that I love this man 100%. I also realized the other two relationships were one-sided they wanted me to quit my job stay home and I realize now that that was so selfish. They didn’t care about me or my goals in life so in the end I can say I love my husband 100%. I am blessed.

[@marilynmontgomery4579]

Yes. Thank you. It's nice to know some of us are happy in our marriages. There have been bumps over the years, but love was never the issue. We worked thru it. I am blessed, too. He still brings me flowers, treats me like a gem. We always say "I love you" before we go to bed. We've been married 45 years. He had to travel for a living so I learned to cherish my alone time. But I was always glad when he got home. My sons & I always had fun together when he was on the road! I still need my alone time. He respects that.

[@beautifulbuds]

Let that man go on his way.....

[@FaithyandOtis..Massachusetts]

I have no desire to date and not interested at all. My husband Tommy died in 2014 after being sick for eight years and there is no way I am going to go to the heartache and pain if I have to take care of somebody else. Also he was the only man that I trusted since I was 15 years old., I am 73 years old fiercely independent. My three daughters always tell me how strong I am ❤I am very happy and very content with my children and my grown grandchildren, my Church family, and of course, the love of my life Otis Ray.🐶 what else can a girl need?

[@shirlynb148]

I remember the “feeling” the heartbreak and despair when what I thought was the love of my life left me for another. Looking back it was for the best. He was not for me, we were not on the same level spiritually, emotionally, politically, etc. BUT he was a stepping stone to finding the man who was.

[@ruthpattillo8740]

I had a dear friend that I took care of. I was worried because she stayed by herself most of the time. She told don’t worry about me being alone because I really like myself and my life. She did have a abusive marriage and her her husband passed 20 years before . I will never forget this precious woman. I miss her everyday.

[@jadedelarge8929]

Beautiful video. Thank you❤, but a little disappointed that Desi didn't sing😊 I am close to 70 and my husband of 30 years left me for someone else. I wasn't the wife he wanted, but I loved him dearly. It has been very painful, but I am doing alright.

[@nancybrace1233]

I really needed this tonight. I’ve been struggling for a little while again. I’m trying so hard to be strong and happy with my life being alone. Sometimes the thought of my husband leaving me ways heavy on me. But you are right, there are new adventures out there waiting for me-and I can either sit and mope, or I can go out and live. I don’t think I can ever be with anyone again and that will be ok.

[@sassypat1199]

You will be ok I promise you.. 👍👍💪🙏🏼

[@loisdunn7286]

When someone shows you who they are believe them. I agree with the person who said that you dodged a bullet. Have a Happy Valentines Day!

[@daisy7141]

Abuse is not worth being married and it was a great day when I realized that. To us women, cheating is never acceptable, love dies beyond repair. Susan once again you are very wise. ❤

[@claudialeger3208]

Desi looks especially handsome with his bow! Love~the great mystery of life.

[@JulieNick28]

after 2 divorces, I'm very happy being single and focusing on my own happiness. Not sure if I will ever want to be in a relationship again. It's been 2 years of being single again and I have no desire.......

[@pamsmith7369]

I’m with you except I’m pretty sure I don’t!

[@dlh7167]

Same with me, but it's been 5 years. I'm good. I can do what I want, when I want. Without considering anyone or their needs. Yes, sometimes it would be great to be held, but that longing passes. I would never go back to any of it.

[@marilynmontgomery4579]

I've had this happen twice in my life. With my father & my sister after my mother died when I was 15. That night he came home from the hospital hours later drunk. The house was filled with family & friends but I only wanted my Dad. I ran to hug him & he pushed me away. My sister was 12 & I had to tell her Mom was dead. She must have been in shock or something because she just went back to what she was doing. He became an alcoholic overnight! No longer cared about us. A month later he took up with a woman. There was talk in the family that he knew her before my mother's death. She had been very ill for a long time. Several months later he married her. She came with 2 sons & a married daughter. The day the older son tried to kill my father I was screaming "" What are you doing?" over & over when I finally said "What am I doing?" I ran out the door & 3 towns away to my mother's people. They believed me about everything that was going on in that house! Told me I could stay with them. Like my mother, they were all about unconditional love. My father came to the school administration to sign me over to them. Never said one word. I begged my sister to come with me but she wouldn't. The step brothers got her on drugs. At 12! She died an early death from an overdose. These are the Cliff notes. People in an addiction can't love you. They don't love themselves! I had to let them go for my own freedom, faith & future. You are so right!! 💜🌻📸 Much love to you & Desi!

[@sunnytime1472]

Oh yes Susan I've had my share of heartbreak, and what I've discovered every time is that later I realized I dodged a bullet! I've been Divorced since 2011, and 1 relationship after that. These days I'm so happy being alone. I take top-notch care of myself with love and appreciation for me and my loving kind spirit. We can't know the secret future. So enjoy all my moments in the present

[@kathyabeauty]

So much better without a bad man. I love men, but not going to ruin my life for one. 2 marriages that I quit. I left them. I know there is a good man out there for me. I was the one who left, so different perspective. Money fears mostly, but thats no reason to stay with a jerk. Love you Susan!❤

[@BlondeGranny70]

I loved this vlog. You were so real and vulnerable. I can’t imagine any man not loving you. What a jerk. I’m a year older than you and have lost many relationships, either by their doing or mine. But like you said it makes us who we are today. Hang in there, you are beautiful !

[@queenie1947]

I’ve been in a marriage for 36 years. Then 3 bad relationships. I really loved the last one but he didn’t love me. He left me twice. And shacked up with other women while living with me. I am 77 years old now. I don’t want to be hurt anymore. I live alone. But spend time with my children, grandchildren and a new great grandchild. They give me much happiness! I serve the Lord faithfully now. And He fulfills my every need! I’m so sorry this man you were seeing hurt you. I pray for will continue to be the happy soul you are. He wasn’t worth the tears you have shed!! Move on and just say next! If you want a relationship with someone. You are truly beautiful with a good heart. May the Lord fulfill your every need! Call on Him, He loves you and will never forsake you!✝️🙏🏼🤗❤️. Happy Valentine’s Day!❤️❤️

[@Cheri-Calif]

Beautiful story.

[@natasaperun3242]

When I back to my house, I'm sitting in my armchair and listening a sound of silence. In that moment I am thinking of is this a solitude or is it a freedom. I choose to be a freedom, and I am feeling peaceful now. Thank you Susan, you made my Saturday/Sunday nights beautiful, I'm waiting for your video every weekend even if it's beginning after midnight. Kisse and hugs to you and sweet little Desi! Greetings from Serbia 🇷🇸❤️

[@LittlePoet]

You are so kind..I appreciate you being here so much! Happy weekend! Much Love always, Susan & Dez

[@natasaperun3242]

@@LittlePoet Have a great evening Susan and Desi ❤️💙

[@tammysummerswoodbeck1353]

My loneliest days were in my 37 year marriage. I was trauma bonded and a shell of a person when I left. I’m so much stronger now.

[@wildhorses6817]

Yes, I was also trauma bonded. So relieved to be away from someone harming me without any remorse. Happy to cause Harm.

[@cindy_lou_loves_to_stitch]

One day a time. Allow yourself to cry and each day gets better. Being alone is very rewarding!! Enjoy your freedom and love yourself! 💞 🌞 It's the best part of getting older, our wisdom!!

[@cherlgolja5402]

I agree , since my wonderful passed 12 years ago, I miss him but I LOVE MY FREEDOM 😊😊😊I’m 72 and very athletic and a gym rat🧘🏻‍♀️🏋🏼‍♂️🏊🏻😅

[@alwaysromancatholic]

I have copied and pasted your words. They are so true and so encouraging!

[@erikanunez4621]

Thank you for your kind words. 2 months ago, I left my partner, and I'm starting a new life with my kids. I'm learning to love myself, to do things for me. The best part is that I'm not sharing the closet and my bed 😊

[@malexander1519]

Of course he wanted a physical relationship 😅. Men! When I was 16 and when I was 60 nothing has changed. They are such predictable creatures it's a wonder men and women are never on the same page. Was married for 40 years. Some good; some bad. I have no desire to marry again or even date. Now is my time. I'm healthy, independent and have no desire to compromise. Perhaps in time I'll get myself a dog. 😊

[@TESSINE]

I hear ya!! I love the way you have been so honest and transparent about your emotions, your stance.....everything you say resonates with me....I respect and admire the person it all seems to have made you in to.... The older I grow the more I consider men to be either good appetizers or desserts but seldom feel anyone is the main course!! I dont know if this is part of aging (I am going to be 70 in December) or just the way relationships are evolving today....I l live alone, love my job, laugh alot, play alot, dance alot, go for long exploring walks, entertain alot, and my romance is within the crucibles of my lifestyle, myself, and the pain and joy in being alive....there is so much to love out there that my cup runneth over anyways...I for myself found limiting my happiness to just a man loving me or not as tragic (or was it my defiance).....I enjoy the company of men and have enjoyed being flirted with and romanced, but for some reason I have learnt to enjoy men more as good friends if I can find that in them, or nothing else and I dont take what they say after a couple of drinks too seriously with all due respect....I dont feel they can contribute much as part of my growth as I seem to find an acceleration in my growth all on my own and it would be difficult for a man to find a place for himself as an equal in my life...I hope I dont sound arrogant, narcistic or egotistical....I have just learnt to enjoy owning myself after devastating heartbreak and manage my circumstances on my own, see the world and men with a different lens now, loving those around me full heartedly without expecting anything in return bc just feeling love is a self fulfilling reward in itself to me which luckily did not get destroyed in me....I wake up feeling love everyday and it is a larger experience than any relationship with a man can give me...

[@debbiem4255]

You’re 💯per cent right about loving our freedom. Just turned 70 years old in December and I live alone with my little dog and I love my freedom to come and go as I please. ♥️🐾

[@patdinning5686]

Yup, October 23, I packed up and left. 69 years old and don't regret a day. Never right and one can't compete with alcohol.

[@LittlePoet]

Congratulations!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! You sound like you are living your best life!!!

[@maureenleclair8773]

Now there's a young man to love, He wears that green plaid bowtie so jauntily and sings so beautifully, Yes, Desi, ❤

[@rosepelzel4244]

I've been on my own for nearly 50 years. Valentine's day has become a day to celebrate the people I do love and are friends or family. It's not just for romantic love. Happy Valentine's day to you and Desi from me and my rescue, Carlton! We'll all be just fine ... !! ❤💗🌞💖❣️

[@LittlePoet]

Love that!

[@kelleyrancher]

I'm with my dogs I love them and I have my friends too I don't get out that much cuz I have a back injury but when I do get out I just enjoy being out and come back home and rest up a bit

[@deezahm9143]

Just have to add how much I admire the younger women in today’s world, taking control of their destinies, not being controlled by someone else, or looking to someone else to make them whole … if I were only 40 years younger - but instead, I support all women, all ages, to be all they want to be, and love themselves, first. ❤

[@marilynmontgomery4579]

Two halfs do not make a whole in a relationship. It takes 2 whole people.

[@sabrinaliu66]

I am in my 40’s, single and alone. I am scared of dying alone but your video gave me so much courage thank you!

[@LittlePoet]

I am almost 70 and I am not afraid of being alone. I am happy. But i used to feel just like you do! A magical thing happens as you age...you grow peaceful and one day is a lifetime...I am so happy...when you are my age, you will be so happy! I promise. You have nothing to fear!

[@HilahSpaethe]

YES YES YES LOVE Desi singing!

[@LittlePoet]

Alright!!! I swear, didn't it look like he wanted to sing?!

[@HilahSpaethe]

Yes he did! I relate to Sharon's commentary. 50 years of marriage. Go out and he is watching the tv in the restaurant and not talking to me. I'm fighting breast cancer for the 2nd time. I have learned to be strong and rely on myself. I hope other women will open up also.

[@dorisdaylight8415]

@@LittlePoet I think he was waiting for your lead into a tune. Can't wait for his next recital.....

[@dorisdaylight8415]

@@HilahSpaethe Bless you, you keep fighting and I pray for your full recovery. Take care, love and hugs to you.

[@rosemarymoore9825]

Hi Susan although lve been subscribed to your channel for sometime but never left a comment,l enjoy all of your videos and always learn something 😊 l divorced my husband when l was fifty five,the day he moved out was the day l found such a profound peace that is still with me fifteen years later👏👏 Sending Many Blessings to you and Desi🙏

[@GeorgeMoore55]

Hi Rosemary🌹🌹 How are you doing?

[@ljones98391]

Awesome video. I decided after choosing men who abandoned me emotionally or by other means that living without someone who loved me was preferable to living with someone who wanted to be somewhere else. I do not enjoy casual s*x and believe for me it clouded my ability to make logical decisions. I have been firm in my boundaries around that for a long time. Those long ago indiscretions were my only regrets and I try my best to live regret free now. The past year has been a valuable one for me and I have learned such important things about myself: how to finally cry, how to express my anger, how important it is to notice red flags and follow my gut whether I can explain it or not. Thought I'd never get this far. Thank you for your honesty, vulnerability, and insights.

[@anniegolden1304]

What father goes out on VD with his daughter and SIL. Wouldn't they want to be together by themselves? Third wheel? Doesn't sound right to me.

[@tcm3097]

“I don’t want to be part of your story.” We have all been rejected like that at one time or another. Sometimes we hear those blatant truths yet we don’t want to accept it. Best we believe them the first time and spare ourselves what will be never ending disappointment. Cry, be sad, then move forwards. We are better than that to give the best of ourselves to those who don’t honor us. Susan, to that man that told you that, surely, it was his great loss. You stay fabulous!

[@comfortcreekranch4948]

Amen!!!