When He's TRULY SERIOUS About You, He'll Ask You THESE QUESTIONS

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

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[@Somashi481]

Asking the Lord for the spirit of discernment can definitely help with knowing a difference

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

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[@that2bffsmckeandabby883]

@@MeetStephanSpeaks is uolpo

[@krystallee3611]

💯👏💖✨

[@autumnakins7640]

Yes. Agreed.

[@Deesprop.shop-Kedesha]

Amen 🙏🏾

[@ljht94]

2 weeks into dating my now partner, I asked him what his views were when it comes to sex and he said he would rather build a solid foundation first, and then when we do decide to have sex it will be more intimate and special. I was on the same page but definitely had some “too good to be true” thoughts in my head lol but told myself to trust in him. Safe to say 10months down the track, we still haven’t slept together and have had the most happiest and healthiest relationship thus far. Communication is on point, we talk about kids, marriage etc. after a couple bad relationships, that did heavily revolve around sex, it’s super refreshing to have finally found someone who speaks long term into our relationship, even though there is no sex involved. Waiting is worthwhile!

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing. I appreciate that!

[@tanyatanya9492]

Definitely.So happy for you😊

[@user-mb9jx5tx9y]

Wow that’s great. How did you meet this person

[@destinixshakur]

This was me and my dude . We went 7 months but ended up having sex and it became too intense 🥺 now we’re in separation but I know we will be back

[@ljht94]

We met at some drinks I held with some friends. He came with our mutual friend. We talked all night, shared great conversation, then didn’t speak at all after that night. Went on with our lives and then he reached out to me online 3 months later. We grew a friendship first, then started dating about 7months later and now here we are. Almost about to celebrate our one year(:

[@tanitrarobinson7477]

LISTEN!!!!! Stephan is 100% correct! Just ended talking on the phone for 3months to a guy and noticed he wasn't asking questions to give him insight on the core of me....when I ask specific questions he would reply with vague answers, told him what I need, he got mad .God revealed, I removed! LISTEN!!!!LISTEN!!!LISTEN!!!! Also Abstinence has provided clarity and allows me to make an sound, informed decision regarding a mate!

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing. I appreciate that!

[@shellyannstewart4160]

Im about to end a relationship as well don't see us going down that direction to a long term the guy im with did the exact same thing got mad when i told him what i wanted.

[@Holistretch]

Interesting. My man is super vague as well and not really talkative, but he is an amazing listener and definitely doesn’t get mad, he gets curious, so I’m sticking w him, haha. I agree though that sex can blind us.

[@tamarabryant9830]

I'm so sick of men asking for money.. They are so bold. It's easier to talk about your finances and never speaking about his.

[@destinixshakur]

Hello!

[@simplylala3400]

My guy told me no sex until marriage. 😂 felt strange at first but so proud of him. And we are abstaining

[@amp1984]

Thats amazing! I am currently introducing this concept to a man im dating. Hes never done this b4 but hes willing to try it out for me. When guys r intentional, they will wait.

[@amp1984]

@@simplylala3400 i wish the best! God bless💕

[@hannaholaniyan9576]

When is marriage? It shouldn't be too long.....

[@simplylala3400]

@@hannaholaniyan9576 soonest

[@hannaholaniyan9576]

@@simplylala3400 Congratulations in advance. Wish you all the best 🎉

[@Fluffieee]

Allowing a man to do for me is my struggle.. I’ve never experienced this and always did it myself. When he said “ don’t be afraid to ask me for things, you’re mine and I just wanna make you happy “.. I was lost for words .. I’m still lost for words .

[@tiffanyyisrael7989]

🙌🏾

[@bernitapennick5930]

I feel you never got that reply in my life

[@adriannepaul9224]

Sex is too serious to get involved into so lightly. Spirits transfer during this act🤗🙏🏾

[@beefaye6861]

Who you telling.....it clouds your judgement for sure !!!

[@helena1055]

what kind of spirits are you referring to?

[@helena1055]

@@trtamrtatv3368 but how do they transfer....through energy?

[@sweetcapricorn]

@@helena1055 yes. Energy transfer. Have you been with someone and felt like you can take on the world after or felt sad bad regretful after 🤔. Its energy or the guy changes up doesn't contact you, they took your energy and used for their gain. Then they come back out of the blue for more... yes its a energy thing, soul ties and trauma bonds are real.

[@repentjesusiscomingsoon1529]

This is absolutely true!!!! Yes, spirits DO transfer during sex, two people are "becoming one", think about it!! This is one of MANY REASONS THE BIBLE SAYS NO SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE!!!!!!!!!!!! IT IS A SIN!!! Not worth going to hellfire forever over, ladies!

[@vashtikelly6837]

WHEN HE IS REALLY SERIOUS ABOUT YOU HE WILL ASK YOU........":DO YOU WATCH THAT DUDE STEPHAN'S VIDEOS??"........OUR ANSWER:::::..HELL YES!!!!!

[@MsSunrize81]

😂😂😂

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

❤🙂 Thank you very much I appreciate that!

[@vashtikelly6837]

@@MeetStephanSpeaks STEPH THANK YOU.....

[@spetrenko7149]

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[@vernita0216]

🤣🤣🤣🤣❤

[@agnieszkapotas1856]

Like You said: honest conversation is the key to unlocking all doors in a relationship Thank You ...

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

My pleasure ❤

[@micheleprice9771]

AMEN! SO TRULY RIGHT! YES INDEED! ENOUGH SAID! THATS IT! JULY2021

[@Thatgirl_Gee]

I have learned that a man who is serious is intentional in asking questions about me. Not just to create a "intellectual conversation", but to really get to know me. I've noticed that when I like someone, I wonder a lot of things about him and that would create the interest to know more about him. In the same way he will wonder and ask questions.

[@blackgira7056]

Bingo !!! It bothers me when someone doesn’t want to know about me.

[@lorealdrayton6164]

absentince=seed retention=clarity,focus........a great thing for discipline!

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️

[@jenniferheinke1354]

Ja, that's it - we need to listen to our intuition and feelings precisely and discern the difference between LUKEWARM and WHOLE-HEARTED - the players will not meet our needs and keep us hooked with unfulfilled promises...and "will try to get more for less". That's another great video, Stephan, thanks a lot!

[@jenniferheinke1354]

@@MeetStephanSpeaks , thank youu! ❤️🙌🏼

[@jayc5756]

EXACTLY

[@irlandaise5631]

yes at the moment I have this new male friend and we meet once a week for 2 hours or so..he is nice but its like what you said..he doesn't want to pay attention but he has a gf abroad though..so he is just a friend but I noticed he is not really interested if I try to talk about my feelings., I It kind of makes you feel insecure..I would not like a man like that..it feels like I have to listen to them but then again they dont share their feelings really..its only a subject..so its like they dont try to connect with you..it is a weird feeling..and yes maybe a player once tried to connect with me and showed interest in what I was saying..but he did nothing because Im closed until marriage ..lol for example too that guy above I have an intuition that he may cheat..as he brought that up..when we talked about marriage once as he is pro marriage and agree that its good for women and I said men who marry know they could be held accountable if they cheat and that could result in a divorce..so they may be less likely to cheat and he said 'he could still cheat and hide it' and I asked him 'why would he cheat though?' and he said 'some men do it' I got the intuition he d cheat..something off..but anyways he is simply a friend ..

[@jayc5756]

@@irlandaise5631 Sounds like you are falling for that attached "friend". SMH! You need to get it together ma. IJS

[@irlandaise5631]

@@jayc5756 im not hahah..we just discuss..he is way younger than me..I can only hang out with guys right now..I had Male friends who d be interested to hear me is what im saying..

[@kiad.2552]

The list of questions is idealistic. I was married for almost decade and even my ex husband never verbalized his intentions until shortly before he proposed. Many men simply fall in love when the chemistry is right and start making plans afterwards.

[@yolondalogan3309]

Kia D. If you don't mind me saying and if you are receptive a suggestion, once WE as women know that we are interested in the possibility of a future, ie marriage to a man, WE should begin the thorough questions that move the process along, if he hasn't approached us with these questions first. Personally, I've learned not to waist my own time. It's not being foolish or taking the lead ahead of a man to just begin your selection process...right away. Rather than waiting for him to begin his before you begin yours. Personally, I don't think it's wise to assume that a man isn't interested in a serious relationship just because he didn't start the selection process first. If he expresses an interest first...you know he interested. If you start you're selection process first...you're going to find out FOR SURE one way or the other if he's interested in a serious relationship with you. Keep in mind, since this is your initial selection process questioning and or offering of information about yourself that you are presenting, you may find out that he eliminates himself. Even if you are attracted physically but he doesn't fear God's consequences, for example, he's eliminated from the prayed over selection process that prevents wild rides, lack of health, infidelity and poverty, divorce and a host of other detrimental experiences. I believe it's understandable to move through the initial selection process as quickly as possible. No excuses for elimination. That's the purpose. Elimination isn't judgement. We ourselves might be eliminated from a man's selection process. We're still amazing and so are they, just not together. Now, as Stephan has said many times, we can move on without the emotional baggage associated with investing too much time and effort into a man who isn't the 1 God has for us. In all transparency, I'm initially interested in a man right now. He's very inspiring and helpful Spiritually and verbally. I have already begun my prayed over selection process. I actually sent him my 'resume'. In the past, I have never done this. But because this man doesn't know me and because I highly value my time, I prayed over it and sent my information. The next step is his. In prayer I release it to God. If he's interested in me and chooses to take me through his prayed over selection process as well, then we both are on the same page..but this is still initial. We are both determined to be wise about it though. This way you know where you stand. If either of us is eliminated from the other's prayed over selection process, we can choose to go forward as friends, brother and sister in Christ or either of us can choose that it's best to just to leave each other alone. This way you know where you stand. The Bible says be anxious for nothing. So I'm not even truly waiting for this man's response. I actually truly trust God that HE controls this. If it is meant to be then God will see to it that it happens. This is new territory for me. But it feels amazing! If the man I'm interested in is the 1 God has for me, then that means I'm the 1 God has for him and we both win. If we're not the 1 for each other, then we both still win because we now know this, and can move on confidently in the process to find the 1 that God does have for each of us. May God bless and keep you.Amen.

[@kiad.2552]

@@yolondalogan3309 I think you missed my point. Having been a wife for years and dating intentionally with remarriage in mind now, men and women have different approaches to the vetting process. Your faith aside, if a man doesn’t see you as his potential wife your questions won’t elicit the responses you desire. I suggest critically listening when a man speaks rather than posing a list of questions. If you hear coded language and uncertain/ambiguous responses to basic questions about his future, then you have your answers. No need to interrogate or interview further. Just listen critically and watch how he moves.

[@yolondalogan3309]

Understood..Have a blessed day!

[@Averyr91]

He’s your ex husband for a reason though…

[@Mamijae__]

All in honesty I left a “man” that only wanted me for sex but was kinda saying the right things but actions didn’t match so I got tired of it and blocked him… a couple of weeks later I met this man that is actually what your stating… we talked about almost all of these questions/concerns… and it feels more right ❤️ most definitely hoping he is the one.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

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[@minervag6777]

I‘m happy for you! ☺️

[@Mamijae__]

@@minervag6777 thank you 💜

[@user-zx5xw4yw2e]

A wise skilled player knows to ask those questions to deceive u into thinking he's really serious about you. Time will tell... Actions.. Keep legs closed! no sexual favors!

[@abbykendrick5748]

This is good .. and something I wish I knew years ago. Now i know to value myself enough to keep this in mind. That being said.. it is rare to find a man who is attentive, truly able to listen, has faced his own issues, is stable financially and emotionally, and does not have substance abuse or anger issues.

[@rialove6943]

This is so true. Just let bf go had anger issues and emotionally unstable. Would get angry for just about everything and every question I ask 😔. They play the game good too you start asking yourself if you are the one who is wrong.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I feel you it definitely isn't an easy situation but we need to focus on doing what is truly best!

[@victoriaallen604]

He asked me to married him and I said yes but he got caught cheating I'm tired of the b's. God is the new man in my life. If it meant to be the right man will come alone

[@jayc5756]

WOW!

[@aliciamoncada4810]

Wow. 😳

[@anethamoore6114]

Amen!

[@pervil737]

@Victoria Norman did you ask why he did that?Did he beg for you to stay? Did he promise he won't do it again? Man are really different from us.They are weak to temptation. They are not perfect. Overall is he a good man to you? Did he do everything he can just to show how much he loves and care for you throughout your relationship? If he never fail to show a consistent effort on how much he loves u, care for u and want u to be his wife and mother of his kids, you might want to give him another chance as long as he is willing to do everything just to gain your trust again.

[@Amatullah.574]

God is not a man but ok.

[@ericajoy1]

Stephan, my guy does all of these things. From day one we expressed our intentions. We're both over 40 in a long distance relationship. Our plan is for me to move with him. I'm unable to have children but will be honored to be stepmom to his kids. I love him ❤❤

[@user-zx5xw4yw2e]

Long distance relationships are not real.. Who is he spending his time with

[@luckyluckylucky2261]

Don’t move unless you get married first! Hard lesson learned from exactly your situation.

[@dawnwiltshire8847]

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[@kareeshasimonebenjamin5706]

He will protect your purity as well as his own by respecting boundaries. He will know that sex is sacred and is to be enjoyed only in marriage

[@repentjesusiscomingsoon1529]

AMEN, WELL SAID!!!

[@GodHelpMe369]

1) Never EVER be afraid of losing him. You are the Divine feminine. Let him fear losing YOU! 2) Have an EXTREMELY low tolerance level for bad behavior... AVOIDANT or NARCISSIST? Let's be real. It's irrelevant. They behave the same. The damage they do is the same. The trauma they cause is the same. FUCK THEM BOTH. So, When there’s a disagreement, an argument, a conflict, some bullying, disrespect, boundaries being crossed etc... someone will inevitably, most likely, be disappointed in me... So, I engage in each and every situation in a way that ensures, that the person disappointed in me, NEVER ENDS UP BEING ME! I aim to never repress, never suppress. I aim to never lose parts of myself. Radical honesty only: 100% of the time. Always, all ways. AND REMEMBER: to test if ANY relationship is healthy - you've got to judge the relationship on its bad days, not on its good days!

[@empressdawnsomerville1101]

I’m ambivalent about some of the info in this video. Experience has taught me to not EVER give that personal information to a man early on. Because there are absolutely a plethora of narcissists who WILL go through that effort to get that information just to infiltrate your life to destroy it. These are conversations to have after having dated for at least 3 months. Because honestly, you will see red flags very early on….without having to give up information about your dreams and desires. That’s very risky. They will be that man for 3 days and then these narcissists will have their hooks in you. Nope. Wait. Keep it surface level for a few months….

[@empressdawnsomerville1101]

With that said…I agree with this video. I just don’t agree with telling intimate information early on. I appreciate your work very much. Thank you for it. 🙏🏿

[@Sylviesongbird]

I agree. My last boyfriend asked all the right questions. Wanted to know my core but once we were really heavily involved he used the info to hurt me, twisted my vulnerabilities to justify his behaviour and didn't want to listen to me talk about my day, my work, my kids. Would only pay attention for sex. Some people are fake until they have you then the real them comes out. I need to know how to spot those. They're the ones I keep attracting.

[@empressdawnsomerville1101]

@@Sylviesongbird Absolutely. I’m so sorry. I experienced the same. I’ve learned from it. Grew from it. Much love to you. ❤️

[@jdashlovela]

I agree 100 percent coming out of a narcissistic relationship

[@shalalala868]

Yup. That's exactly what my estranged husband did.

[@Holistretch]

Wow Stephan speaks TRUTH!!!!!!! My partner and I have been together a year and he hasn’t asked me any of these questions, but every time I have something I need to discuss with him, he listens deeply and changes his ways! So I wouldn’t say your man HAS to ask these questions- as long as he listens to you and loves you in the way you need, and you have similar plans for the future, the relationship can be serious. 🙏🏼💓

[@maryVO6]

My BF and I are catholic, and we both already had the chastity talk and he was totally on board, it wasn't even a question. We just had to be explicit about it. Mind you, our relationship has been long distance (we met in the same city and were friends before him moving) so all we have is our communication...but he has been a total CHAMP about meeting my needs and being super consistent with me about communication. Things didn't change when we had the waiting for marriage talk, he continued being consistent and intentional, even more deeply actually. We already even had a conversation about staying in separate places when he comes to visit me in a couple of months. Men who wait ARE OUT THERE if that's what you desire.

[@flowerlife9347]

Dear Stephan, recently I found your channel. I am already over 50 🙈and honestly you have opened a door. I am so grateful. I recognise so much. I didn' t know all that. I felt that a lot was not ok in my life but know after listening everything falls into his place. Thank you so much. Namaste

[@jenniferhanson6467]

Very intelligent and straightforward insight.. I will recommend this channel to others.

[@thelovemanual]

Absolutely correct. You must ask questions in order to see if there is a positive connection between the two. When that starts to happen you know that there is some interest. Like Stephan said be truthful about the things you want and need. Happiness in a relationship is very Important. Mel

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

You're absolutely right happiness in relationship is very important, thank you for sharing!

[@Didi-fr5ic]

Ok after listening to so many men on KZbin.. I will only listen to this man..he is a high value man and I respect you, very open and honest..I'm going to tell this man I'm seeing that I like him :)

[@therefurbishedlife]

I’ve wondered how to work around that, telling them what you need and they just act that way until they get you. Makes you nervous to even say, because you don’t want fake. Thanks for explaining that a bit.

[@AmelciaQ]

Man, I love that you share with us all this wisdom... The part about taking the car to the mechanic... You made my day! Hahaha

[@AmelciaQ]

@@MeetStephanSpeaks I did, I discovered your channel a couple of months back when after over 3 years of being single I finally felt I might be ready for a relationship. And then I listened to a few of your videos and I realized that although I am in a much better place than I used to be, I still have a lot of lessons to learn! I keep on coming back to your videos, listening to the ones that really resonate with me for several days, until they are almost programmed in my subconscious! I really appreciate all your work, please continue what you're doing, because you're doing it really well! 💚

[@katerinakassiotes8983]

Sometimes I get scared to tell a man what I'm after because he may act like the man I want him to be in order to get what he wants....

[@repentjesusiscomingsoon1529]

Exactly! There's a lot of "pretenders" out there, so we need to be careful!

[@sandragreen5146]

Don't get in a relationship for the sake of not being alone.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

You're absolutely right thank you for sharing!

[@bernitapennick5930]

No I’ve been alone all my life

[@alexakearney]

Early morning wisdom with Stephan ❤️

[@cuquisoto4429]

B

[@jachicarn9002]

These are awesome observations on relationships.

[@joylynday4639]

7:36am and I'm listening like 👀🪑📝🤨

[@cherylhunter2775]

This just proved what was in my spirit all along. Wisdom sharpened

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!

[@honeyjazz4147]

I don't really care for a man asking me about my dreams and goals are, that's what I get asked on my job interviews, but yes I like being asked what I look for in a relationship that's more important to me.

[@yolondalogan3309]

Great job Stephan, I like how you manage tangents while you're speaking. When I go on a tangent it takes me longer to get back to the initial point and I'll have to remind myself what the initial point was sometimes and then continue speaking...working on that lol Also this prayer: Dear God, Bless with amazing favor those of us that truly commit ourselves to abstinence. As we wait for YOU to provide us with the 1 YOU have for us to marry, grow and prosper with, Bless us even more. Bless us not to seek, yet all of a sudden discover our soul mate. Pour into us more favor, more productive and lucrative ideas, more heart capacity, more love for our future spouse that is a fraction of our love for YOU. Grant us access for the purpose of progress. Ease our fears. Dry our tears. Remind us that YOU are not only near, but present with us. Make it happen like only YOU can do. Make it clear to us that it was YOU who chose us for each other with YOUR Divine Wisdom, Plan & Purpose, in Jesus's name.Amen & with a resounding, intentional, Amen again. Have a great day! Peace is with you. ~ Yolonda 😊

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Amen 🙏

[@yolondalogan3309]

@@MeetStephanSpeaks 🏆😊🙏

[@amaj_lex]

I literally asked this guy are you looking for a relationship. He didn't answer but instead he said it depends on the woman if he's feeling her it could go somewhere. He also said the reason why he didn't say he was looking for a relationship was because he didn't want me to think (he was looking for a relationship with me). Not to make it seem weird.. I said this isn't going to work. He said can you give me a try. I said sure but prove yourself....and he really hasn't done so. We will meet Tuesday and I'm going to cut him off. I AM looking for a relationship. Awesome video!

[@doretheagaither650]

Well...my husband didn't asked me none of that,but when I was 15 and he was 18 he "TOLD" me I was gonna be his wife and I couldn't STAND HIM😝We will be celebrating our 35 anniversary December 30.and he has never once asked me to pay a bill,he said,a man ain't a man if he have to take money from a woman...his words not mine.❤❤

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤ 🙏

[@LYNI3C3]

He’s done all this. But I’m scared. 😂 I have commitment issues. And he has abandonment issues. But I really like him and wanna commit to him. Soooooo for now I’m committed to being his friend. 😂 until I’m ready. It’s crazy because I wanna dive in but….. I don’t wanna mess up anything by rushing. Ohhhhh and I overthink things lol

[@therapisttalksmindbodysoul9681]

I definitely feel you on this one! I want things so bad but afraid this will be forced.

[@PrincessTiana83]

Girlllll why does this sound exactly like me🥴🥴😂😂😂🤦🏾‍♀️

[@beefaye6861]

INTUITION....

[@rashawntaylor4316]

Good evening real good man will sacrifice too make you happy n also ask what you need with n what ‘s you future goals ! A real good man will put god first in his life n also put you properity , send you roses , keep gas in your car n keep repairs , help with bills , take you work on your off days , communcations is the key . A real man will work too bones make should everything at home is good !

[@Heyu7her3]

If you have commitment issues, then maybe you should work that out through some coaching or therapy. Otherwise you're leading him on/ will eventually hurt him

[@renee167]

Wow these tips are spot on! I’ll definitely keep them in mind for the future. I too struggle with opening up to people in general, however, I do understand that when it comes to dating you definitely have to speak up and say what you want and mean what you say! Thanks as always for your encouragement and advise Stephan 😊😊!

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

My pleasure ❤

[@micheleprice9771]

AMEN! SO TRULY RIGHT! YES INDEED! ENOUGH SAID! THATS IT! JULY2021

[@Caisee]

Stephan, you are very intelligent. This is so true! ❤️ Amen 🙏 I dealt with this in the past. 🙌 We have to pay attention. There are some good men and bad men. I’m currently single right now and focusing on myself. I’m patiently waiting on God to send me the man that is for me. No longer chasing anyone. We gotta stop 🛑 ignoring the red flags 🚩. A real man will listen to, get to know you, and understand you and take action.

[@Caisee]

@@MeetStephanSpeaks Thank you ❤️🙏

[@irlandaise5631]

yes!..I have had quite a few men approaching me who dont want to listen to me or get to know me!!

[@Caisee]

@@irlandaise5631 I have been there. Most of my life, I have had guys like that to do me like that, but I’m no longer putting up with that. I will stay single as long as it takes 💃💅🌟🦋

[@Caisee]

@@pakinabdul9726 No thank you! No woman or man can help me...only God can! ❤️🙏

[@irlandaise5631]

@@Caisee same ! or I keep them in the 'friend' category

[@elizabethbabilonia7046]

LETS EDUCATE OURSELVES IN EVERY SUBJECT OF LIFE.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

You're absolutely right!

[@micheleprice9771]

AMEN! SO TRULY RIGHT! YES INDEED! ENOUGH SAID! THATS IT! JULY2021

[@CJ_536]

Definitely listen to the wisdom Stephen speaks. I listen here because I am fascinated with romantic relationships in general, but I don't need his advice. I have been happily married for 23 years to a wonderful man. We can spend hours talking even today. He is interested in who I am and what motivates me. He treats me with respect and tenderness. When we were dating the signs Stephen discusses here and in other videos were evident. No sex till marriage. Time spent getting to know each other. No games... We honestly told each other what we wanted in a relationship. We fell fast.... Married seven months after meeting, but we had spent so many hours together talking, working together, interacting with family, that we knew for sure we were going to work together. We are planning a renewing of the vows ceremony for our 25th. I have listened to dozens of Stephen's videos and haven't heard anything I disagree with yet. God has granted him wisdom to help today's generation of relationship seekers.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing your experience! Hopefully, it will help others learn from it. I appreciate that 🙏

[@nick1luke]

hey stephan this is good stuff to hear as a man, but it should he understood that a lot of great guys wont necessarily want to be the ones to broach these subjects for fear of coming on “too strong” woman should be encouraged to bring these subjects up and see where the guy stands to reveal his intentions as opposed to assuming if the guy isnt saying this stuff hes not considering it great video as always

[@anethamoore6114]

Great point Never Lucky Hawaii! I would probably feel exactly as you're saying depending on the timing of this conversation. Very healthy input🤗🤗🤗

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I feel you man, it could be awesome if women would embrace that. Thank you for sharing I appreciate your response!

[@sandragreen5146]

When you learn to love you, you won't care about what others doing.fulfill yourself and do things that make you happy. Ladies be serious about yourself

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.

[@lindawojtas4491]

BIIIIIIIIINGO...!!!

[@kourtney101]

Perfecting oneself is NOT abt being mistake-proof...it's abt maturity. Many 🙋🏿‍♀️ &🙋🏿‍♂️ have to shed garbage 🗑️ relationships to get a new outcome

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback!

[@hienienguyen6766]

A lot of men can be confusing, and most guys are not going to tell you truth flat out! Unless you are really blunt to you...... kids are in the future type of situation. so true. text messages make relationships harder so that is why i like the real late night phone calls instead of the text messages.

[@cammyTalksLife]

Straight talk no chaser. Thank you for giving us pointers to look out for , for those who are dating . . Have a blessed Monday and thank you .🙏❤️

[@NicoleVivianTV]

He gives such good advice

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Glad to hear that, thank you for your response and may you have a blessed Monday and a great week!

[@ginaburnett3404]

Thank you...Intradependent ...I needed that.. I'm open to receive ..thank you Lord!

[@reneenicole9110]

The last guy I met seemed genuine until he started texting me with sexual innuendos without ever asking me who I am, where I am from, what I am about etc. Delete and BLOCK 🚫 bye.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Sorry to hear about that I pray that you receive the man who is truly best for you, the man God has for you!

[@sacampbr1]

As always, the manner in which you break things down makes it so clear to anyone who has questions or concerns about their situation. God has truly bless you with an amazing gift. Thanks for the breakdown! I will be using this list to see how someone truly feeling about me. Until then I will continue my healing process, so I can be the healthy woman he is praying for.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Glad to hear that, healing is definitely key! Thank you for sharing.

[@sacampbr1]

@@MeetStephanSpeaks Yes, healing is key in order to see the light at the end of the tunnel…. Thanks again for the list.

[@moniquebode1655]

Yes same

[@tashajones7864]

Wise Man. Deliverer of knowledge with purpose 🙏🏽.. Blessings to you

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I appreciate that ❤🙂 Thank you very much!

[@geegeegarcia]

I definitely needed this one...thank you for your continued wisdom and transparency. I am definitely becoming more vulnerable and being open with a man I'm interested in.

[@jayc5756]

That's good. Hope everything is receptive though

[@geegeegarcia]

@@jayc5756 absolutely. Matching his effort and in the process it shows how he feels and if we are connecting (and vice versa)

[@geegeegarcia]

@@pakinabdul9726 that has always been the goal my friend

[@farihamohamedhilmy4700]

Noted. Will keep that in mind. Especially if he asks about the future together

[@CharlesettaAde]

I learned a lot form this video! Thank you Stephan! I do know what I am not looking for, but I have not really concentrated on what I’m actually looking for in a relationship. I guess that’s because I have been so busy building my own personal life. I’ve already started to make my list, I’ll ask God for guidance, and keep it short and relevant💃🏽.

[@faithmoraa4443]

❤️ all the way from Kenya🤞🏾

[@kortiniamartin9682]

You never realize the things you have done wrong in life until someone gives you an explanation of your faults. I found where I need to be more vulnerable! In accepting help from a man and passing no judgement. I always tell a man I got it. I never wanted to deal with the after math of the situation. So I make sure that I always have held my own... so they cant ask me for sex. Thats why I work so much... So this is going to be very hard for me but I am willing to try it, in order to see change...

[@NicoleVivianTV]

It so hard to be more feminine and allow a ourselves to be more vulnerable isn't it?

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Indeed, it really helps when you embrace that. I know it's not an easy task, but you need to focus on doing what is truly best!

[@ZZ-qw6el]

I love that you understand toxic individualism 💯

[@JamaicaLove876]

Really great video. Agree, that if he is showing interest in asking these specific questions he must be a man who is invested in the relationship and a potential future. When a man can see you in his long term plans and when he can see you in his future, that is a good way to know that he must be serious. When he is interested in your goals, aspirations and dreams, he is trying to see how you can align in his life and if you have shared common direction. Very insightful video, thank you being informative. Clarity minimizes confusion. Blessing and abundance to you.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

❤🙂 Thank you very much and may you be blessed as well!

[@micheleprice9771]

AMEN! SO TRULY RIGHT! GREAT INSPIRING AMAZING STRONG POWERFUL POSITIVE STRONG INSPIRING WORDS OF WISDOM! YES INDEED! ENOUGH SAID! THATS IT! NOV2021

[@JamaicaLove876]

@@micheleprice9771 Thank you for kind words. I would also add that when the woman has as much interest in the man's dreams & aspirations as he does in her plans, then that is a win-win. The woman has to make sure that she align's with the man's purpose & vice versa. Otherwise, they will not have a shared goal.

[@micheleprice9771]

@@JamaicaLove876 AMEN! THANK U! FOR THOSE HEARTFELT POWERFUL POSITIVE STRONG INSPIRING WORDS OF WISDOM! GOD BLESS US ALL! GOD LOVES US ALL! SELF LOVE! BELOVED! LET YR LIGHT 4EVER SHINE BRIGHT! SMILE ALWAYS!( EVEN IN STORMS THAT U GO THRU!) HOLD ON TO GOD ALWAYS! GOD IS ALWAYS WITH US! PRAY OFTEN AND DAILY TO GOD ALWAYS! GOD IS WORKIN IT OUT! ON HIS GOD GIVEN RIGHT TIME! GLORY TO GOD ALWAYS! GOD WILL SEE US THRU ALL THINGS IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW AND ALWAYS! GOD WILL NEVER LEAVE U NOR FORSAKE U! TELL THE LORD THANK U FOR THIS BLESSED TODAY! AND FOR EVERYONE IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW AND ALWAYS! BE GRATEFUL AND THANKFUL FOR ALL THINGS! AND FOR EVERYONE IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW AND ALWAYS! GOD WILL SEE US THRU ALL THINGS IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW AND ALWAYS! GOD WILL NEVER LEAVE U NOR FORSAKE U! PEACE AND HARMONY TO EVERYONE IN THE WORLD RIGHT NOW! YES INDEED! ENOUGH SAID! THATS IT! NOV2021

[@sandragreen5146]

Yess so true!! It doesn't take years to know if someone is your wife/ husband

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.

[@rachelwilliams8463]

We need to hear this Brother Stephan Blessings to you 💪🏾💪🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@michelejackson9505]

I wished I had been introduced to your forums when I was younger. You are so on point, and it helps me to be more aware. Thank you.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

My pleasure ❤ and don't forget to share so that others can receive love and healing!

[@michelejackson9505]

@@MeetStephanSpeaks yes, I most certainly will

[@spirituallyshellz8856]

Thank you so much Stephan for this video! May God continue to bless you for all that you do for everyone.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

❤ 🙂 thank you very much I appreciate that and may God continue to bless you as well!

[@staceyv2683]

It's that last one for me. I've asked those questions and I m feeling dodged. However, was in chat not phone so I'll be making sure this is a Convo he can't escape from.

[@annarebeccaschell6184]

I love that idea of inter-dependent love that word and life of it God has sent that man as our coverings/and yes in our relationship

[@mariazapata5064]

The more I hear and listen to your honest videos, the more I remember how my ex was just as you explain. I don’t think I’ll ever have a second chance with a man as my ex that’s exactly as you say in this video 😔

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I pray that you heal from all that you have been through and receive the man who is truly best for you, the man God has for you!

[@mariazapata5064]

@@MeetStephanSpeaks Awww ☺️,… thanks!

[@k.ky.kyraaa]

I was with a guy who asked me all of these questions I mean every single one you mentioned in this video but his communication with me wasn’t good.. his mask started to slip he tried to keep on. I wasn’t happy by the way things were going and I finally followed my intuition and told him I don’t feel like he’s the right guy for me. But like you said in the video a guy will lock in on a few things a woman wants just to keep her in his life I feel that was happening but it wasn’t enough for me to stay

[@anethamoore6114]

K. Bella, good for you! Blessings

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

It's always important to listen to your intuition. Thank you for sharing I appreciate that!

[@lyndapeoples8127]

@@MeetStephanSpeaks guess no one must be serious about me bc no one asks me those questions. I'm usually the one to ask those questions. I can't be with someone who has no vision for his life and I never seem to meet a man who does. I have actually received a reply stating, "I just want us to be happy. "

[@k.ky.kyraaa]

@@anethamoore6114 thank you. Blessings to you as well

[@k.ky.kyraaa]

@@anethamoore6114 thank you. Blessings to you as well

[@blondieb.harris1330]

I believe you can only fake for so long and it's not something you do on a regular your true colors will begin to show.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Most definitely!

[@barbaracanterbury8533]

I am going to remain single/ time waits on no one. I simply love and respect your guidance.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

❤🙂 Thank you! I appreciate your support

[@alisaben1]

Just went through this....I thought we were vibing until I realized the laziness on his end. It wasn't lazy, he just wasn't into me, and that's cool. I moved on....expeditiously...lmbao! Stephan your coaching taught me that.🤌🏾🎯

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing I appreciate your feedback and I pray that you receive the man who is truly best for you the man God has for you!

[@alisaben1]

@@MeetStephanSpeaks Amen...

[@patricedean4977]

I tell him from the break what I'm all about. Less time wasted. My standard and moral should speak for itself .And I have to also sense and discern those qualities of us being on the same page.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.

[@patricedean4977]

Thank u sir also for your informative video's...they're always on point and timely👍...I pray for your prosperity. Amen!!

[@gretaunderwood4320]

I'm blessed my husband is about all of this thank you

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Glad to hear that, thank you for sharing!

[@elie8887]

Evaluation....one of most valuable honest speach I hear ever.... How deep a man can be...and give a wise heed ladies...there is men who marry just because is time to have children...wife can be any..love and relationship may not be there...🙏💛 Make sure to be independent..

[@kareeshasimonebenjamin5706]

And you will know them by their fruit Matthew 7:18

[@garliegarlie7982]

True!! Always be honest is the biggest thing

[@steph_steph876]

😥Mann...women have gone through so much with men and what some of 'em do that our guard always has to be up....its so sad.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I feel you, it definitely isn't an easy situation but we need to focus on doing what is truly best!

[@micheleprice9771]

AMEN! SO TRULY RIGHT! GOD LOVES US ALL! SELF LOVE! BELOVED! LET YR LIGHT 4EVER SHINE BRIGHT AND! HOLD ON TO GOD ALWAYS! GOD IS ALWAYS WITH US! GOD WILL SEE US THRU ALL THINGS IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW AND ALWAYS! TELL THE LORD THANK U FOR THIS BLESSED TODAY! TELL THE LORD THANK U FOR EVERYONE IN YR LIFE RIGHT NOW! PEACE AND HARMONY TO EVERYONE IN THE WORLD RIGHT NOW! YES INDEED! ENOUGH SAID! THATS IT! JULY2021

[@rashawntaylor4316]

Goodevening real good man will sacrifice too make you happy n also ask what ‘s you need help with n what ‘s your future goals . A real good man will put god first in his life n put you properity , send you roses , keep gas in your car n repairs , help with the bills , take you work on your off days , communcations is the key . A real good man will work too bones make should everything at home is good

[@rashawntaylor4316]

I keep it real n honest

[@jpetty2935]

I just met a guy and he’s doing all the things on this list

[@abigalestoll]

I agree 💯. I respect men who embrace abstinence until marriage. I'm abstinent over 7 years now. It's the right thing to do.

[@marilynjonesjasper9864]

Good Morning Stephan! Intradependent & Flow of Love.. Aha moment. I got it. Putting these things into practice. Again thank you for sharing your God given talent and insight. Enjoy your day! Blessings! 🙌

[@karenlynch8348]

I did that pushed away a guy who is one of the very few who’s been like this to me. Kind, caring & he’s crazy handsome. I’m way older than him so I held him at arms length

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.

[@delk2959]

Stephan, I don‘t know how you do it, but your videos come at the right time and are so fitting to my situation 😂😄👌🏻 Thank you so much! Greetings from Germany 🇩🇪

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you very much for your response I'm happy to hear that 🙌 thank you for watching!

[@mercybadoe3086]

This is great content. Ladies be encouraged that there a amazing, straightforward men who care about your dreams & goals!

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Absolutely, there are a lot of good men out there!

[@karlatriminio3618]

I was waiting for THISSSSS …. PREACH and open my eyes please with your wisdom ♥️♥️

[@joyrealitytvshow1039]

Me too 🥰❤

[@jayc5756]

❤

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Glad to hear that, thank you for your feedback!

[@zubieM]

This is really insightful. I think a lot of the problems I have come to have, have stemmed from my lack of letting him know what I need from the relationship and his lack of communication. I walked away and he has come forward and wants to communicate. We are planning on talking soon. He has asked a lot of these questions. But now we both need clarity! I hope we can make it x Ladies work on exuding your beautiful feminine energy ❤️✨

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.

[@Ohkeh640]

Good to know. I hate superficial convos that won’t even last with me

[@RhondaR4]

GOD BLESS YOUR HEART STEPHAN!🙏🏽❤️

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you very much I'm happy to hear that 🙌 and may God bless your heart as well!

[@prayalways]

I must tell you. You woke me up to alot. I was engulfed in lust and want and being blinded by these I couldn't see. NOW, But and however as that song says " I can see clearly now the rain is gone. Its gonna be a bright, sunshiny Day". Bless you and keep on speaking

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Glad to hear that, thank you for your feedback, and don't forget to share so that others can receive love and healing!

[@angelinasamson6996]

I was the one that actually told him that I want more we both play for keeps, I don’t think the man in question has actually had a deep meaningful relationship because he thought after opening his heart in text was being emotionally connected 🤔 It’s like I’m having to teach him and show him how to have a proper relationship with a woman ,

[@chaseback5102]

I’ve never had a man I’ve dated ask what he could do for me. I’ve either had to ask for his help ( for which he made me feel bad for asking) or if I ask for help he will instruct me on what I need to do instead of stepping in and helping to make things easier for me. Also, Thank you for bringing up how some men think that a woman’s body is a form of payment for a favor given. It has a prostitute feel and is very embarrassing. That’s why I don’t ask for favors… this is something I have to get past and deal with it as it comes, like you said, I don’t want to turn away the right man.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.

[@dashaspeaks]

Stephan you really be speaking some truth. I just blocked a nigga that was not serious and found out he had a girlfriend.

[@jacquelinekleips]

Thank you again. You are an answer to my prayer in giving me the tools to navigate my personal relationship. So blessed to have found you!

[@v.ndeadd]

Thank you Stephan for existing. Thank you.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

My pleasure ❤️

[@nicolew5526]

Thanks Stephan for all of your informational videos and for your consistency! You’re amazing ❤️

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

❤🙂 Thank you very much and don't forget to share so that others can receive love and healing!

[@azudeeporres1132]

Intradependent relationship is important. Accept his help always! Every woman needs a champion/hero! We lean on each other.

[@2GBDGY]

🦋….. true.. I should learn to accept help. I’m so used to doing everything. This resonated…deep. Thank you and God Bless!🦋🙏🏻

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

My pleasure ❤ and may God bless you as well!

[@davinacarrell2427]

Ima ask my boo for $100 tomorrow. I been thinking about it but this video changed my perspective. He asked a week ago if I need help with anything and I did but I said I got it.

[@tresjolie9419]

THIS!!! Iwas talking to a guy and i would be asking HIM the questions and he was acting like I was interrogating him. I was like "im just trying to learn about you! Dont you want to learn about me?? Because you sure let it be known you want to sleep with me!" Abd he NEVER asked me if i needed anything.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Sorry to hear about that I pray that you heal from all you have been through and receive the man God has for you!

[@tresjolie9419]

Thank you 🙏🏾

[@anethamoore6114]

I recently met a guy that told me the same thing. I hope you showed him the way out. I never let the guy I'm talking about in! Red Flag!

[@abbykendrick5748]

Own your desires.. best advice ever! 💗

[@humbleM571]

Stephen your always on point 👏🏾 this is one of the very reasons why I had to let go of my boyfriend cuz he Lack entrance now that it's over he acknowledged me now I'm not going for it I'm glad I made my decision.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you for sharing and I pray that you heal from all that you have been through and receive the man God has for you!

[@humbleM571]

@@MeetStephanSpeaks you're a light open to the people, that can't see and I really appreciate you for all you do, in for that I'm a new Subscriber.

[@rohanaubak960]

I have been together with my man for a years and he really taking care of me at first.As times goes by,he is no longer want to bothered about me anymore.We always fighting and sometimes physical abuse involved.so,i step away from that kind of relationship.now i feel freely but the pain is remain until now.

[@taisgleice7815]

I'm speechless with this

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

🙂 ❤

[@kinshonrichards9359]

Amen I need people to come into my life to help me and take the burden off me that would be a huge blessing to me I need it.❤️💋😊🤗

[@Puglover4life1]

This is an awesome video! So true all of what you said Stephan 🥰 a man will definitely ask you about your dreams, goals, and aspirations. One time I remember having a conversation where a guy would share his dreams, and goals with me, then stop with excitement and ask me if I could have any job in the world 🌎 what would it be, and then he went back to sharing more of what he loved, then came back to me and was like “oh, wait, you haven’t answered me yet!” I told him “it’s okay I know you are excited and I love seeing that!”. I did share when he was finished, and he was full attention listening to me, it was cute how it played out, so yes men will do this! Desires, needs, boundaries, etc should be sprinkled in from day one ✨ which I feel a good man will absorb, accommodate/process, and apply because he truly wants to honor you. Good men want to stand tall next to you and they do that by learning about you in this way! The ones that don’t WILL fall out, and we shall let them 🥳 Wanting kids question does expose a lot of what is on the mind of a man, and woman too. I remember a man finding me on a dating profile, and saw my children status. He privately, excitedly messaged me, asking if I wanted children because my status said “has child at home doesn’t want more” and he wanted to make sure I felt that way I realized. My answer to him was “I didn’t want to raise anymore children on my own” (my daughter’s Dad does right by her and me both, which he learned after spending time with us down the road). Later I learned he wanted 8 daughter’s and to live in Wyoming on a ranch. Beautiful idea, but for that reason I’m of the mind that that was one of the reasons we did not work out beyond almost a year of dating. So, a man will inquire, get clarification on, seek your position because every genuinely wants to know, yes! Absolutely!! 🥰 a man will offer to help you, support you in some kind of way, which to me is such a tender way of caring for a woman. In my life, I’ve had man friends (even as far back as high school…and military men can be like such a brother to you too it’s very comforting ☺️) and work colleagues stand up for me when I’ve needed it in a variety of circumstances, and even when I haven’t needed it too just because they want to show you care, and love you like a good friend would. It is such a beautiful thing to have the effort of a man, we are so lucky 🍀 ladies that there are plenty of men who genuinely love women, will provide for, protect if necessary, be your blind spot, and who have your back. I remember one time, I was out one night with a man I was seeing, and some of our close friends. I was drinking a little bit, and I remember bumping into someone on the way to the dance floor and the next thing I know I turn around to see if he was behind me to dance 💃🏼 and apparently there was a woman/man who was coming towards me not with good intentions (can’t remember if it was a man or woman) and in that moment I turned around he stepped in between us because I didn’t see what was happening!! He shut it down quick I saw and I was so grateful 🙏🏻 If I ever bump into someone by accident anyone who knows me knows it is never on purpose and my intentions are good, and to have a good time with everyone. So yes, a man will offer you support, financial help or advice, emotional support, sometimes just a hug or to be held, play a game together, go for a drive together, be your stand in date to a function, or just say I’ve got you too and you know it’s true. A guy I worked with years ago, we went to a get together once. A guy there we both knew was there and at one point this guy was approaching me and because my friend knew me he stepped in and motioned for him to not approach, which he did back off. If that happens ladies, this man is really looking out for you and cares for you deeply. Sometimes a man doesn’t need a reason to be there for you he just is, and I was thankful in that moment because sometimes you just never know people or their intentions. I feel like men are not given enough credit sometimes for the ways they show up for women. It could be a stranger on the street that will stand up for you too!! Random acts of kindness and I’m so grateful 🥲 sometimes it will save your life 🙏🏻 A man willing to wait for marriage is so beautiful, and it means so many things, gosh, my heart 💜 (hand on my heart) And a woman wanting to give herself only to him in return? Saving that moment between both of them just for them, at the right time, I’m speechless ♥️ Checking on your family and friends does happen too, yes. A man with good intentions who values you will want to bring you around his family, and inquired about your family too. He will even check in to say “does your pops have any projects he needs help with?” I remember, a friend from tech school wanted me to come out to a family/friend party at his house in Louisiana (bragging rights for a minute there 🥰) and so he flew me out there just so I could be there, he missed me from tech school (we were at our duty stations already…all of these men now are married, but I haven’t forgotten their kindness after all these years…thank you all so much I’m truly grateful for your friendship 🙏🏻) And yes, a man will reference future events with you. He will project out adventures or places to go together and you will go. He wants to spend time with you, be alone with you so he can hold your hand or kiss you, play with your hair, walk with you, talk with you, etc. ♥️ “young love is from the earth, and late love is from hEaVeN” ♥️ - anonymous Thank you Lord for your gifts 🎁 the blessings you give from your heart of love for us all. We should be so grateful, everyday 🙏🏻